Podcasts about something that may shock

What would it happen if I allowed my thoughts about my gender become known to me?Today we meet Dr. Christina Neuwirth and we're talking about the queer book that saved their life: Something That May Shock and Discredit You by Daniel M. Lavery. And Daniel joins us for the conversation!Dr. Christina Neuwirth is a writer, researcher and bookseller based in Edinburgh. Their 2018 novella Amphibian was shortlisted for Scotland's National Book Awards. Their writing has been published in Gutter Magazine and The Skinny. At Lighthouse Bookshop, Christina runs the Bread & Roses Prize for Radical Publishing.Daniel M. Lavery is the “Dear Prudence” advice columnist at Slate, the cofounder of The Toast, and the New York Times bestselling author of Texts From Jane Eyre and The Merry Spinster. In 2024, he published his debut novel Women's Hotel.From a thoughtful analysis of the beauty of William Shatner to a sinister reimagining of HGTV's House Hunters, and featuring figures as varied as Anne of Green Gables, Columbo, and the cast of Mean Girls, Something That May Shock and Discredit You is a hilarious and emotionally exhilarating compendium that combines personal history with cultural history to make you see yourself and those around you entirely anew.Special Limited SeriesThis episode is part of a special limited series of episodes featuring only guests who are owners or staff at LGBTQ bookstores. Airing April-June 2025, these episodes will feature six bookstores across the United States and United Kingdom.Today's guest is a bookseller at Lighthouse Bookshop, a queer-owned and woman-led independent community bookshop. It is an unapologetically activist, intersectional, feminist, antiracist, lgbtq+ community space. In 2020 it was nominated Scotland's Best Independent Bookshop.Connect with Christina and Danielwebsite: christinaneuwirth.comwebsite: danielmlavery.cominstagram: @daniel_m_laveryBecome an Associate Producer!Become an Associate Producer of our podcast through a $20/month sponsorship on Patreon! A professionally recognized credit, you can gain access to Associate Producer meetings to help guide our podcast into the future! Get started today: patreon.com/thisqueerbookCreditsHost/Founder: John Parker (learn more about my name change)Executive Producer: Jim PoundsAssociate Producers: Archie Arnold, K Jason Bryan and David Rephan, Bob Bush, Natalie Cruz, Jonathan Fried, Paul Kaefer, Joe Perazzo, Bill Shay, and Sean SmithPatreon Subscribers: Stephen D., Terry D., Stephen Flamm, Ida Göteburg, Thomas Michna, and Gary Nygaard.Creative and Accounting support provided by: Gordy EricksonQuatrefoil LibraryQuatrefoil has created a curated lending library made up of the books featured on our podcast! If you can't buy these books, then borrow them! Link: https://libbyapp.com/library/quatrefoil/curated-1404336/page-1Join us in helping Lambda Literary raise $20k for The Writers Retreat for Emerging LGBTQ Voices to ensure all writers can attend. Donate here: http://bit.ly/3RjW51aSupport the show

This week Jo greets the universal subject in Rebecca Renner's Gator Country and Charlotte attacks and is attacked by Jane Eyre. Then they're joined by matchless prose stylist and beloved genius Daniel M. Lavery to discuss Anthony Hope's 1894 swashbuckler, The Prisoner of Zenda.Daniel Lavery is the author of Something That May Shock and Discredit You and The Chatner newsletter. His forthcoming debut novel Women's Hotel is available to preorder!Send questions, requests, recommendations, and your own thoughts about any of the books discussed today to readingwriterspod at gmail dot com. Charlotte is on Instagram and Twitter as @Charoshane. She writes semi-regularly in newsletter form, with additional work linked on charoshane.comJo co-edits The Stopgap and their writing lives at jolivingstone.comLearn more about our producer Alex at https://www.alexsugiura.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Daniel recounts the meaningful form of lying.Daniel Lavery is the cofounder of The Toast, served as Slate's Dear Prudence from 2016–2021, and the author of Something That May Shock and Discredit You. He performed this story at Sydney Writers Festival.Queerstories an award-winning LGBTQI+ storytelling project directed by Maeve Marsden, with regular events around Australia. For more information, visit www.queerstories.com.au and follow Queerstories on Facebook.The Queerstories book is published by Hachette Australia, and can be purchased from your favourite independent bookseller or on Booktopia.To support Queerstories, become a patron at www.patreon.com/ladysingsitbetter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Our new "Too Fab For Florida" series celebrates the gifts and wisdom of people in the queer, trans and drag community as a counter-narrative to the relentless assault on their community. To kick things off, our resident expert for this conversation is Daniel M. Lavery, author of Something That May Shock and Discredit You, he also wrote the "Dear Prudence" advice column at Slate.com from 2016 to 2021. Daniel also hosts the Slate podcast, Big Mood, Little Mood for Slate.com, and writes The Chatner newsletter on Substack.Daniel's Links:BOOK: https://a.co/d/23KbTUDPODCAST: https://slate.com/podcasts/big-mood-little-moodTHE CHATNER NEWSLETTER: https://www.thechatner.com/Check out all the QuoirCast podcasts at: https://www.patheos.com/editorial/podcasts

Content warning: The Wheeler Centre wishes to advise this recording includes occasional coarse language.“I want to be responsible towards the person asking the question to the best of my ability, but the good news is I have no real power over them. And so, when we separate, I don't feel like, 'Oh man, I might have just ruined someone's life' or decided whether or not they're going to have a child. Ultimately the decision is very much theirs” – Daniel M Lavery. Every week, millions of people visit Slate to read ‘Dear Prudence,' an advice column offering indispensable life lessons with equal doses of humour and practicality. For five years, American writer Daniel M Lavery provided guidance as the titular Prudence, helping thousands of readers navigate tricky social situations and modern etiquette dilemmas. After developing a loyal readership with his books Texts From Jane Eyre, The Merry Spinster and Something That May Shock and Discredit You, Lavery's latest work recounts his time at ‘Dear Prudence', collecting some of the most illuminating and provocative questions and their answers during his tenure. In this episode recorded as part of the Wheeler Centre's World of Words, Lavery brings his much-loved, and often much-needed, advice down under for a conversation with writer and broadcaster Jess McGuire. He speaks about his era as ‘Prudie', revisiting and revising guidance over time, and some of the life lessons he has learnt in the process. He also doles out advice to members of the audience who were given the chance to ask about their own sticky questions. This event was supported by the Melbourne City Revitalisation Fund, a Victorian Government and City of Melbourne partnership.It was recorded on Tuesday 23 May at the Wheeler Centre as part of World of Words. Featured music is Golden Hour by Sarah, the Illstrumentalist.Support the Wheeler Centre: https://www.wheelercentre.com/support-us/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

From a Jewish Pope to a woman Pope, we are hearing all about the legendary popes from author Daniel Lavery. We talk about “The Rule of Harlots”, Dan Brown novels, and we pitch a production of a Young Pope Sheldon TV show.    Content Warning: This episode contains conversations about or mentions of religious persecution, antisemitism, homophobia, kidnapping, death, childbirth, misogyny, hanging, suicide, gore/body horror, illness, genitalia, transphobia,    Guest Daniel Lavery is the cofounder of The Toast and the author of Something That May Shock and Discredit You.   Housekeeping - Recommendation: This week, Amanda recommends Small Game by Blair Braverman. - Books: Check out our previous book recommendations, guests' books, and more at spiritspodcast.com/books - Call to Action: Check out the MultiCrew! This is our membership program that lets you help us invest in Multitude as we try weird new stuff. Plus, you get a members-only weekly podcast: Head Heart Gut, our weekly friendly debate show. Join for as little as $5 a month at multicrew.club and get access to Head Heart Gut!   Sponsors - ThirdLove is on a mission to find a perfect bra for everyone. Get 20% off your first order at thirdlove.com/spirits. - BetterHelp is a secure online counseling service. Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/spirits - Tab for a Cause, where you can raise money for charity while browsing the web! Join team Spirits at tabforacause.org/spirits   Find Us Online If you like Spirits, help us grow by spreading the word! Follow us @SpiritsPodcast on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Goodreads. You can support us on Patreon (http://patreon.com/spiritspodcast) to unlock bonus Your Urban Legends episodes, director's commentaries, custom recipe cards, and so much more. We also have lists of our book recommendations and previous guests' books at http://spiritspodcast.com/books. Transcripts are available at http://spiritspodcast.com/episodes. To buy merch, hear us on other podcasts, contact us, find our mailing address, or download our press kit, head on over to http://spiritspodcast.com.   About Us Spirits was created by Julia Schifini, Amanda McLoughlin and Eric Schneider. We are founding members of Multitude, an independent podcast collective and production studio. Our music is "Danger Storm" by Kevin MacLeod (http://incompetech.com), licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0.

Being in a public relationship isn't just the joys of ambitious4ambitious. There's also the matter of boundaries and privacy. Drew and her girlfriend only have a small amount of fame so this week we've brought on someone in an even more gaymous power couple: Grace Lavery. You may know Grace from her memoir Please Miss, from her various writings on the internet, or, if you're really niche, as your former professor at Berkeley. And you may know Grace's husband Danny Lavery from his books such as Something That May Shock and Discredit You and co-founding a little website called The Toast. We talked to Grace about her relationship with Danny, how she navigates public opinion, and being a young trans elder. And first! We play a game called Second Moves where Christina has to respond to theoretical opening lines on Raya — yeah, that's right, she's on Raya. Follow us on Instagram and Twitter at @waitisthisadate SUPPORT INDEPENDENT QUEER MEDIA! Follow @autostraddle and join our membership program, A+! Follow Grace Lavery on Instagram @grace.lavery.pangolin Follow Drew Gregory @draw_gregory Follow Christina Tucker on Twitter @C_GraceT and Instagram @christina_gracet Theme song: Lauren Klein @laurentaylorklein Logo: Maanya Dhar @maanya_dhar Episode Produced, Edited, Mixed: Lauren Klein @laurentaylorklein

Something That May Shock and Discredit You Daniel M Lavery is clear about one thing, he does not owe an explanation about himself or his gender to anyone. His new book, Something That May Shock and Discredit You,takes direct aim at the cultural canon, spanning everything from the cast of Mean Girls to the beauty of William Shatner, while exploring how the experience of coming to know and affirm his gender has impacted how Daniel sees the world.    Join UNSW social researcher Christy Newman in conversation with Daniel to explore how this combination of courage and humour might teach us how to become more honest about the awkwardness and ambiguities in our intimate lives.  Presented by the UNSW Centre for Ideas. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

On today's episode Meghan and Cortland sit down with Daniel M. Lavery on today's episode of the podcast. Daniel Lavery is the author of Something That May Shock and Discredit You, The Merry Spinster, and Texts From Jane Eyre. He is the co-founder of The Toast and the proprietor of the Chatner newsletter; formerly the Dear Prudence advice columnist at Slate. Daniel talks about his experience growing up in an evangelical mega church, attending a Christian college, understanding his own sexuality, and his gender transition. We hope you go get a copy of Daniel's latest book, Something That May Shock and Discredit You. You can also find Daniel on Twitter @daniel_m_lavery and Instagram @daniel_m_lavery. You can subscribe to the Chatner newsletter here https://www.thechatner.com/ As always, if you want to skip the #twitbits and head straight to the guest interview, jump to 25:20. We mention the recently released memoir by Daniel's wife Grace Lavery, go pick up a copy of Please Miss today! If you're enjoying the show, please consider rating and reviewing us on Apple podcasts. We also love hearing from our listeners. Also, come find us on social media! Twitter: Thereafter, Cortland, Meghan Instagram: Thereafter, Cortland, Meghan

Host Luke Burbank and announcer Elena Passarello share some financial advice penned by listeners to their younger selves; writer and Slate advice columnist Daniel Lavery explains how his latest book, Something That May Shock and Discredit You, revisits the media and myths of his past through the lens of his transition; New York Times bestselling author Michael Arceneaux unpacks the hard truths of student loan debt in his newest essay collection I Don't Want to Die Poor; and Jonathan Russell from indie folk group The Head and the Heart performs "Glory of Music."

John Dunton started the first advice column in 1690. He called it the Athenian Mercury. John, a bookseller, and his four "experts" wanted to answer "all the most Nice and Curious Questions proposed by the Ingenious of Either Sex." One person wondered why they would trouble themselves "and the world with answering so many silly questions." But it was a hit. People have always been drawn to advice columns. They're a public forum for private thoughts; they're communal, yet anonymous; they reveal human strength, yet vulnerability. Despite their popularity, until recently, most readers in the recent decades have been white women. That's changing. Are you an advice junkie? Join us. GUESTS: Jamie Fisher - A writer and researcher with The New York Times Danny M. Lavery - Slate's Dear Prudence, co-founder of The Toast, and the author of Texts From Jane Eyre, The Merry Spinster, and Something That May Shock and Discredit You Christine Pride - A writer, book editor, and content consultant; her advice column, Race Matters, is on A Cup of Jo, and her debut novel, We Are Not Like Them, is available for preorder Join the conversation on Facebook and Twitter. Colin McEnroe and Cat Pastor contributed to this show.Support the show: http://www.wnpr.org/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Prudence is joined this week by Isaac Fellman, a writer and an archivist at the GLBT Historical Society, where he gets to tell the story of San Francisco's queer history. His fantasy novel about traumatized mountain climbers, The Breath of the Sun, won a 2019 Lambda Literary Award. Prudie and Fellman dig into letters about what to do when your ex-husband spoils your daughters with lavish gifts, how much should you conceal your “sugar daddy” arrangement at home, how to tell your sister to stop talking to you like one of her sixth grade students, what to do when you feel like people are dismissing your identity as “not gay enough”, what to consider when your new live in partner wants to display his trinkets from childhood all over the house. Get $5 off Danny’s latest book, Something That May Shock and Discredit You, at slate.com/danny. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Amanda McLoughlin, a podcaster and businesslady who runs Multitude, a podcast collective and production studio located in Greenpoint, Brooklyn. She co-hosts Spirits, a boozy dive into mythology and folklore, and Join the Party, a collaborative storytelling podcast powered by the rules of Dungeons & Dragons. Prudie and McLoughlin tackle letters about what to do when you can’t find anyone to date who meets your standards, should you and your husband keep ignoring his biological child who lives across the country, how to extricate yourself from helping your sister hide her relationship from your parents, what to do with a husband who does not accept that his son is bisexual, what to do with a partner who never eats the leftovers they insist they’re going to eat. Get $5 off Danny’s latest book, Something That May Shock and Discredit You, at slate.com/danny. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Amanda McLoughlin, a podcaster and businesslady who runs Multitude, a podcast collective and production studio located in Greenpoint, Brooklyn. She co-hosts Spirits, a boozy dive into mythology and folklore, and Join the Party, a collaborative storytelling podcast powered by the rules of Dungeons & Dragons. Prudie and McLoughlin tackle letters about what to do when you can’t find anyone to date who meets your standards, should you and your husband keep ignoring his biological child who lives across the country, how to extricate yourself from helping your sister hide her relationship from your parents, what to do with a husband who does not accept that his son is bisexual, what to do with a partner who never eats the leftovers they insist they’re going to eat. Get $5 off Danny’s latest book, Something That May Shock and Discredit You, at slate.com/danny. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Austin Channing Brown, an author, speaker and media producer providing inspired leadership on racial justice in America. She is the New York Times Bestselling author of I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in a World Made for Whiteness and the Executive Producer of The Next Question: a web series imagining how expansive racial justice can be. Prudie and Channing Brown dig into letters about what to do when you can’t stand spending time with your kids, what to consider when your wife is ready to have a baby and you’re not, how to have a relationship with your half-siblings without having one with the father you share, should you sell your deceased roommate's graphic novel collection to make up for the rent he owed to you. Get $5 off Danny’s latest book, Something That May Shock and Discredit You, at slate.com/danny. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Austin Channing Brown, an author, speaker and media producer providing inspired leadership on racial justice in America. She is the New York Times Bestselling author of I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in a World Made for Whiteness and the Executive Producer of The Next Question: a web series imagining how expansive racial justice can be. Prudie and Channing Brown dig into letters about what to do when you can’t stand spending time with your kids, what to consider when your wife is ready to have a baby and you’re not, how to have a relationship with your half-siblings without having one with the father you share, should you sell your deceased roommate's graphic novel collection to make up for the rent he owed to you. Get $5 off Danny’s latest book, Something That May Shock and Discredit You, at slate.com/danny. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Dr. Jennifer M. Buck, an Assistant Professor of Practical Theology at Azusa Pacific University. Her books and research explore themes of global Christianity, Quakerism, gender, race and popular culture. She also is a licensed minister and helps pastor a church in Pasadena, CA where she lives with her husband and foster son.  Prudie and Buck tackle letters about what to do when your husband reveals that he’s competitive with you about weight loss, should you feel guilty about thinking about future partners while taking care of your wife who has cancer, what to do when your partner's mom furnishes your home with lots of homemade quilts, how to protect your grand-niece from her abusive father, what to consider when your boyfriend refuses to marry you, even for the purpose of sharing health care. Get $5 off Danny’s latest book, Something That May Shock and Discredit You, at slate.com/danny. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Dr. Jennifer M. Buck, an Assistant Professor of Practical Theology at Azusa Pacific University. Her books and research explore themes of global Christianity, Quakerism, gender, race and popular culture. She also is a licensed minister and helps pastor a church in Pasadena, CA where she lives with her husband and foster son.  Prudie and Buck tackle letters about what to do when your husband reveals that he’s competitive with you about weight loss, should you feel guilty about thinking about future partners while taking care of your wife who has cancer, what to do when your partner's mom furnishes your home with lots of homemade quilts, how to protect your grand-niece from her abusive father, what to consider when your boyfriend refuses to marry you, even for the purpose of sharing health care. Get $5 off Danny’s latest book, Something That May Shock and Discredit You, at slate.com/danny. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Charlie Markbreiter, who is an editor at The New Inquiry, cohost of the Art is Easy gathering, mod prince at the Death Panel discord, and a PhD student at the CUNY Graduate Center.  Prudie and Markbreiter tackle letters that ask if it’s unethical to apply to a job you don’t really need when unemployment is so high, what to consider after cheating on your live-in partner with someone in your new apartment complex, should you worry about enabling internalized racism because you’re dating a Black man, what to do when you constantly think about abandoning your disabled spouse.  Get $5 off Danny’s latest book, Something That May Shock and Discredit You, at slate.com/danny. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Charlie Markbreiter, who is an editor at The New Inquiry, cohost of the Art is Easy gathering, mod prince at the Death Panel discord, and a PhD student at the CUNY Graduate Center.  Prudie and Markbreiter tackle letters that ask if it’s unethical to apply to a job you don’t really need when unemployment is so high, what to consider after cheating on your live-in partner with someone in your new apartment complex, should you worry about enabling internalized racism because you’re dating a Black man, what to do when you constantly think about abandoning your disabled spouse.  Get $5 off Danny’s latest book, Something That May Shock and Discredit You, at slate.com/danny. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In addition to his advice-giving role as Slate's Dear Prudence, Danny M. Lavery is a co-founder of the Toast and the author of Texts From Jane Eyre, The Merry Spinster, and Something That May Shock and Discredit You. Danny talks to Laura and Adrian about giving advice, about respect and respectability, and above all about biological and chosen families. [NOTE: This episode contains material that may be disturbing to some listeners.]

Prudence is joined this week by Rachel Fershleiser, who works in book publishing, is the co-creator of the Six-Word Memoir project, and once made a zine about soup. Prudie and Fershleiser dig into letters about what to consider when you discover that your mom secretly lives in a nudist colony, should you tell your pregnant girlfriend that it’s medically impossible that it’s your baby and you know she cheated on you, how to tell your friend that you think she may have dementia, what to do about a neighbor who keeps a racist statute on their front lawn, what to do when your ex-cop boyfriend sides with the police after watching an indefensible video of police violence, what to consider about starting a family with a wife who you think does not eat healthy.  Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Read Daniel Lavery's latest book, a memoir/essay collection about pop culture, religion, and transition called “Something That May Shock and Discredit You,” available through Bookshop or Amazon. Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Rachel Fershleiser, who works in book publishing, is the co-creator of the Six-Word Memoir project, and once made a zine about soup. Prudie and Fershleiser dig into letters about what to consider when you discover that your mom secretly lives in a nudist colony, should you tell your pregnant girlfriend that it’s medically impossible that it’s your baby and you know she cheated on you, how to tell your friend that you think she may have dementia, what to do about a neighbor who keeps a racist statute on their front lawn, what to do when your ex-cop boyfriend sides with the police after watching an indefensible video of police violence, what to consider about starting a family with a wife who you think does not eat healthy.  Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Read Daniel Lavery's latest book, a memoir/essay collection about pop culture, religion, and transition called “Something That May Shock and Discredit You,” available through Bookshop or Amazon. Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Milisa Burke, a Brooklyn based tech worker, and part of the program committee for New York’s Asian American International Film Festival.  Prudie and Burke tackle letters about what to do when you accidentally screen share erotic fan fiction during a zoom business meeting, how to tell your friend to stop pretending to be Black in an online group about Black women’s hair, should you try to lose weight even though you think it’ll make your spouse feel bad, should you send a birthday card to your estranged mom, what to consider with an abusive, drinking husband who occasionally tries to get help. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Read Daniel Lavery's latest book, a memoir/essay collection about pop culture, religion, and transition called “Something That May Shock and Discredit You,” available through Bookshop or Amazon. Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Milisa Burke, a Brooklyn based tech worker, and part of the program committee for New York’s Asian American International Film Festival.  Prudie and Burke tackle letters about what to do when you accidentally screen share erotic fan fiction during a zoom business meeting, how to tell your friend to stop pretending to be Black in an online group about Black women’s hair, should you try to lose weight even though you think it’ll make your spouse feel bad, should you send a birthday card to your estranged mom, what to consider with an abusive, drinking husband who occasionally tries to get help. Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Read Daniel Lavery's latest book, a memoir/essay collection about pop culture, religion, and transition called “Something That May Shock and Discredit You,” available through Bookshop or Amazon. Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Christina Tucker, a contributing writer for Autostraddle, and a rotating fourth chair on NPR’s Pop Culture Happy Hour.  Prudie and Tucker dig into letters about how to deal with a friend’s request for money to hire an expensive divorce lawyer, what to do when your husband’s quarantine beard is turns you off, how to avoid taking off your shoes in friend’s homes without explaining your medical condition that requires you wear them, how to shut down your mother’s plans to throw you a Disney-themed wedding, what you can do to support your best friends who are moving away. Plus, Prudie and Tucker respond to a voicemail from a listener whose aunt won’t stop sending her articles about The Holocaust.  Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Read Daniel Lavery's latest book, a memoir/essay collection about pop culture, religion, and transition called “Something That May Shock and Discredit You,” available through Bookshop or Amazon. Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Christina Tucker, a contributing writer for Autostraddle, and a rotating fourth chair on NPR’s Pop Culture Happy Hour.  Prudie and Tucker dig into letters about how to deal with a friend’s request for money to hire an expensive divorce lawyer, what to do when your husband’s quarantine beard is turns you off, how to avoid taking off your shoes in friend’s homes without explaining your medical condition that requires you wear them, how to shut down your mother’s plans to throw you a Disney-themed wedding, what you can do to support your best friends who are moving away. Plus, Prudie and Tucker respond to a voicemail from a listener whose aunt won’t stop sending her articles about The Holocaust.  Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Read Daniel Lavery's latest book, a memoir/essay collection about pop culture, religion, and transition called “Something That May Shock and Discredit You,” available through Bookshop or Amazon. Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Peter Labuza, an incoming Postdoctoral Fellow at the University of Southern California, where he just defended his dissertation “When A Handshake Meant Something: Lawyers, Deal Making, and the Emergence of New Hollywood.”  Prudie and Labuza tackle letters about how to take a week “off the grid” from your family that likes to talk often, should you allow your nephew to use his education trust fund to support his soon to arrive baby, what to do when you find out that your friend makes military weapons for a living, should you to offer to make weekly meals for your colleague and his family who are isolating, how to handle a mom who keeps mentioning your recently deceased dog, how to allocate kitchen time in a four-roommate household during quarantine.  Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Read Daniel Lavery's latest book, a memoir/essay collection about pop culture, religion, and transition called “Something That May Shock and Discredit You,” available through Bookshop or Amazon. Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Peter Labuza, an incoming Postdoctoral Fellow at the University of Southern California, where he just defended his dissertation “When A Handshake Meant Something: Lawyers, Deal Making, and the Emergence of New Hollywood.”  Prudie and Labuza tackle letters about how to take a week “off the grid” from your family that likes to talk often, should you allow your nephew to use his education trust fund to support his soon to arrive baby, what to do when you find out that your friend makes military weapons for a living, should you to offer to make weekly meals for your colleague and his family who are isolating, how to handle a mom who keeps mentioning your recently deceased dog, how to allocate kitchen time in a four-roommate household during quarantine.  Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Read Daniel Lavery's latest book, a memoir/essay collection about pop culture, religion, and transition called “Something That May Shock and Discredit You,” available through Bookshop or Amazon. Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Nastia Voynovskaya, a Russian-born, Oakland-based journalist and one of the arts and culture editors at KQED, San Francisco's NPR station. She covers the intersections of the arts, activism, labor, pop culture, the Bay Area and more.  Prudie and Voynovskaya dig into letters about how to plan for your mothers funeral during a pandemic, what to consider when your wife seems less and less interested in sex, should you marry someone who doesn’t match your high sex drive, what to do when your wife insists that you sleep on the couch after hearing your work phone ring in the middle of the night, what to consider when your husband doesn’t get along with one of the family dogs.  Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Read Daniel Lavery's latest book, a memoir/essay collection about pop culture, religion, and transition called “Something That May Shock and Discredit You,” available through Bookshop or Amazon. Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Nastia Voynovskaya, a Russian-born, Oakland-based journalist and one of the arts and culture editors at KQED, San Francisco's NPR station. She covers the intersections of the arts, activism, labor, pop culture, the Bay Area and more.  Prudie and Voynovskaya dig into letters about how to plan for your mothers funeral during a pandemic, what to consider when your wife seems less and less interested in sex, should you marry someone who doesn’t match your high sex drive, what to do when your wife insists that you sleep on the couch after hearing your work phone ring in the middle of the night, what to consider when your husband doesn’t get along with one of the family dogs.  Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Read Daniel Lavery's latest book, a memoir/essay collection about pop culture, religion, and transition called “Something That May Shock and Discredit You,” available through Bookshop or Amazon. Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Host Luke Burbank and announcer Elena Passarello reveal how their self-improvement goals have progressed; writer and Dear Prudence advice columnist Daniel M. Ortberg explains how his new book, "Something That May Shock and Discredit You," revisits the media and myths of his past through the lens of his transition; New York Times best-selling author Michael Arceneaux unpacks the hard truths of student loan debt; and doom-wop singer Prom Queen performs "End of the World."

Prudence is joined this week by Sarah Jones, a Tony- and Obie Award-winning performer and writer known for her multi-character, one-person shows, including her current, critically acclaimed show Sell/Buy/Date. Prudie and Jones tackle letters about how to find peace while your family argues about your stepson's wedding, what to do when you are in quarantine away from your boyfriend and his roommates flirt with him, what to consider when your brother-in-law starts dating someone who looks like you, should you reach out to long-lost friends during quarantine, what to consider when it seems like your boyfriend will never propose, and how to handle discovering that your husband is a real jerk to his work colleagues.  Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Read Daniel Lavery's latest book, a memoir/essay collection about pop culture, religion, and transition called “Something That May Shock and Discredit You,” available through Bookshop or Amazon. Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prudence is joined this week by Sarah Jones, a Tony and Obie Award-winning performer and writer known for her multi-character, one-person shows, including her current, critically-acclaimed show Sell/Buy/Date. Prudie and Jones tackle letters about how to find peace while your family argues about your step-sons wedding, what to do when you are in quarantine away from your boyfriend and his roommates flirt with him, what to consider when your brother-in-law starts dating someone who looks like you, should you reach out to long lost friends during quarantine, what to consider when it seems like your boyfriend will never propose, how to handle discovering that your husband is a real jerk to his work colleagues.  Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen.  Read Daniel Lavery's latest book, a memoir/essay collection about pop culture, religion, and transition called “Something That May Shock and Discredit You,” available through Bookshop or Amazon Email: prudence@slate.com  Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Molly speaks with writer Daniel M. Lavery (he/him) of Dear Prudence, the Toast, and Something That May Shock and Discredit You. Topics include: Gaining courage to transition by speaking with detransitioners “The overnight boy switch” and other fears of starting T Where’s all the forced-masc content? (Hint: She’s The Man) Transitioning in a different direction than your trans partner Plus: What will trans people do if society collapses? This Week in Gender: Request emergency financial support at bit.ly/GRsurvivalfund. Donate to the fund by contacting Molly directly, or via PayPal or Cash App. Call or support Trans Lifeline at translifeline.org. Read Something That May Shock and Discredit You and join Danny’s robust newsletter at shatnerchatner.com. Join the Gender Detectives Slack at bit.ly/genderslack2. Support Molly’s full-time gender detective gig!  Pledge any amount at patreon.com/gender to receive our weekly newsletter. We also appreciate donations via PayPal or Cash App. -- Questions? Comments? Feelings? You can reach at genderpodcast.com or on Twitter or Instagram. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s Theymail message is from the Heart. Do you have gender questions that you’d like answered on the show? Submit questions anonymously via this Google form. Learn more about Molly’s trans-focused equity consulting company at Sylveon.co. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Additional Music: “Silent Flock” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

Daniel Mallory Ortberg’s narration is undeniably powerful as he combines memoir, Biblical exegesis, and a trans retelling of fiction and myth into a book about gender and transition unlike any other. His narration is multilayered and alive, and even listeners who are unfamiliar with the author’s writing will be drawn in. It is a fresh listen—and odd in the best possible way. Every moment of this audiobook is a joy to listen to. Published by Simon & Schuster Audio. Find more audiobook recommendations at audiofilemagazine.com Support for Behind the Mic for AudioFile Magazine comes from Naxos AudioBooks. Naxos AudioBooks says, celebrate the birth of two authors born on April 2nd: Giacomo Casanova, the infamous libertine who wrote The Story of My Life, an explosive and exhilarating autobiography, read by Peter Wickham, and Émile Zola, whose Nana receives a “beautiful and devastating” performance by Leighton Pugh. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Daniel Mallory Ortberg is the writer behind Slate's Dear Prudence advice column. But now in his new book, Something That May Shock and Discredit You, Ortberg writes about something closer to home: his journey of transition from Mallory to Daniel. He talks to Sam about his relationship with religion, the power of self-knowledge and being able to fully own who you are.Email the show at samsanders@npr.org.

You would think that the horror movie version of a Grimm Fairy Tale would be the scariest version, but you would be wrong. We examine the original story of Hansel & Gretel, talk about the moral quandaries of famine, and dive into the origins of Amanda’s favorite Grimm adaptation: Into the Woods. This week, Amanda recommends Something That May Shock and Discredit You by Daniel M. Lavery. Buy a copy and see our new lists of previous recommendations, guest books, and more at spiritspodcast.com/books! Grab tickets to our Austin TX live show at multitude.productions/live and check out Next Stop in your podcast player or nextstopshow.com! Content Warning: This episode contains conversations about cannibalism, child death/endangerment/abandonment, 9/11, anti-Semitism, starvation, famine, death by fire, fat-shaming, imprisonment, and death.    Sponsors - Skillshare is an online learning community where you can learn—and teach—just about anything. Visit skillshare.com/spirits2 to get two months of Skillshare Premium for free! This week Julia recommends “Art Abroad: How to Create a Travel Sketchbook” by Christine Nishiyama.  - Stitch Fix is an online personal styling service that finds and delivers clothes, shoes, and accessories to fit your body, budget, and lifestyle. Get started at stitchfix.com/spirits for 25% off when you keep your whole box! - EveryPlate is a meal kit with great value. For 6 free meals across your first 3 weeks and free shipping on your first delivery, go to Everyplate.com and enter SPIRITS6.   Find Us Online If you like Spirits, help us grow by spreading the word! Follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Goodreads. You can support us on Patreon to unlock bonus Your Urban Legends episodes, director’s commentaries, custom recipe cards, and so much more. We also have lists of our book recommendations and previous guests’ books at spiritspodcast.com/books. Transcripts are available at spiritspodcast.com/episodes. To buy merch, hear us on other podcasts, contact us, find our mailing address, or download our press kit, head on over to SpiritsPodcast.com.   About Us Spirits was created by Julia Schifini, Amanda McLoughlin and Eric Schneider. We are founding members of Multitude, an independent podcast collective and production studio. Our music is "Danger Storm" by Kevin MacLeod (http://incompetech.com), licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0.

"What if you were a man, sort of?" In his new memoir, author Daniel M. Lavery remembers how, in the early days of his transition, he would say it was as if a demon ambushed him in the night, whispered this question into his ear, and then disappeared without another word. It was an immediate and instantaneous revelation, but also exceptionally vague on what was supposed to happen next. "Something That May Shock and Discredit You" (published under Daniel Mallory Ortberg - he got married!) is a sprawling collection of essays, pop culture pulls, comedic historical re-tellings, and personal reflections on Lavery's life as a transgender man. It is equal parts hilarious, poignant, weird and beautiful, jumping from the Rapture to transition to Mean Girls to sobriety and then over to Marcus Aurelius, for good measure. Together they form an evocative and personal look at Lavery's own journey, and what happens when you stop letting "I dare not" wait upon "I dare".RELATED READING:Something That May Shock and Discredit You

This week, Liberty and Kelly discuss Untamed Shore, Yes No Maybe So, The Unwilling, and more great books. This episode was sponsored by Book Marks, Book Riot’s customizable journal; Doubleday, publishers of The Illness Lesson by Clare Beams; and ThirdLove. Pick up an All the Books! 200th episode commemorative item here. Subscribe to All the Books! using RSS, iTunes, or Spotify and never miss a beat book. Sign up for the weekly New Books! newsletter for even more new book news. BOOKS DISCUSSED ON THE SHOW: The Unwilling by Kelly Braffet Yes No Maybe So by Becky Albertalli and Aisha Saeed And I Do Not Forgive You: Stories and Other Revenges by Amber Sparks The Falcon Thief: A True Tale of Adventure, Treachery, and the Hunt for the Perfect Bird by Joshua Hammer Untamed Shore by Silvia Moreno-Garcia The Rise and Fall of Charles Lindbergh by Candace Fleming Weather: A Novel by Jenny Offill Turtle Under Ice by Juleah del Rosario WHAT WE’RE READING: Not So Pure and Simple by Lamar Giles The Great Offshore Grounds by Vanessa Veselka MORE BOOKS OUT THIS WEEK: The Unspoken Name by A. K. Larkwood An Embarrassment of Witches by Sophie Goldstein and Jenn Jordan If Men, Then: Poems by Eliza Griswold Freaky in Fresno by Laurie Boyle Crompton If Only You Knew by Prerna Pickett Ready or Not: Preparing Our Kids to Thrive in an Uncertain and Rapidly Changing World by Madeline Levine PhD Ceremonials by Katharine Coldiron Adequate Yearly Progress: A Novel by Roxanna Elden Romance in Marseille by Claude McKay Nobody Does it Better: The Complete, Uncensored, Unauthorized Oral History of James Bond by Edward Gross and Mark A. Altman The Absurd Man: Poems by Major Jackson Harleen by Stjepan Sejic Hold On, but Don’t Hold Still: Hope and Humor from My Seriously Flawed Life by Kristina Kuzmic Chanel’s Riviera: Glamour, Decadence, and Survival in Peace and War, 1930-1944 by Anne de Courcy Slouching Towards Los Angeles: Living and Writing by Joan Didion’s Light by Steffie Nelson (Editor) Damages: Selected Stories 1982-2012 (reSet Series) by Keath Fraser The Light Years by R.W.W. 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Daniel talks about the “Untitled Goose Game” he's playing on Nintendo Switch (1:30) Origin: Daniel's upbringing and origin story (2:40) On fame: Is it difficult to be well-known? (10:00) Daniel talks about his transition and how it's influenced his work (11:20) Technique: Daniel discusses his technique in comedy and writing (18:20) Drawing unexpected but feasible associations/comparisons for comedic effect (23:48) Comedy as natural talent vs. learned skill/technique (26:06) Daniel's upcoming book (29:25) Random personal question time: “Where do you go after you die?” (31:50) Ezra's happiest moment and the movie Melancholia (33:30) Pre-order Daniel's upcoming book Something That May Shock and Discredit You  here.   See Daniel's Instagram here!You can also subscribe to Daniel's hilarious and fun newsletter The Shatner Chatner and/or check out The Toast  (which Daniel co-founded).