CPA- Chanda Pays Attention

Whether it's about calling out a friend who hurt you, addressing a workplace issue, or simply setting boundaries, confrontation is a skill that you must have and it's not a challenge. It's not something that you should run away from. It's a skill that you can learn and it's a skill that you should absolutely have to be a thriving and functional adult. So let's talk about it. Let's talk about how to explore it constructively, what it means

You asked and I delivered. A long time has passed since but I assume you probably only just finished the 6v3 method . Here are a few more tips to help make some solid friends.

In this conversation, Chanda delves into the multifaceted nature of beauty and luxury, exploring its historical roots, societal implications, and the modern economic landscape. The discussion highlights how beauty standards have evolved over time, the privilege associated with them, and the need for inclusivity in the beauty industry. Chanda emphasizes the importance of self-care and personal expression while challenging listeners to reflect on their own relationships with beauty and luxury.

This is a hard argument to make as I do try to advocate to the betterment of the world. But if you bear with me I just want to place the argument that without divine intervention or societal intervention people don't change. Theres this inherent nature we all have, that to some capacity we have to change, we have to change, but there isn't much room to change nature. The concept that people fundamentally do not change over time is a view supported by the idea that core personality traits and behaviors are deeply ingrained and resistant to alteration. Despite life's experiences and external influences, there are compelling reasons to believe that individuals remain fundamentally the same.

Tale as old as time, beaty and the beast or shall we say Belle et la Bête. Beauty and the beast is a fascinating story that tackles, sabotage, arranged marriage, jealousy revenge and the idolization, oh you don't remember any of this from the Disney version, of course you don't I'm talking about the first adaptation by Jeanne-Marie Leprince de Beaumont My main thought is the topic of true love is mistaken for a whirlwind of fluffy feelings but  I think this story shows that love is logical, love is patient and love is sacrificial.

Next time you sit down to a Thanksgiving feast, remember the incredible story of the Pilgrims and the Wampanoag. It's a tale of survival, cooperation, and the spirit of gratitude that continues to inspire us today. Remember Sara Hale who fought for this to be a holiday so we can stop life for a second and be grateful. And remember one thing you can be grateful for is that you are seen and you are loved

Do you ever feel overwhelmed by the constant news cycle, the pressure to achieve, or the general anxieties of daily life? If so, you're not alone. In today's fast-paced world, it's easy to lose sight of what truly matters and get swept away by negativity. That's where Stoicism comes in. This ancient philosophy, founded in Greece around 300 BC, offers a practical framework for living a virtuous and fulfilling life.

Marcus Aurelius and Seneca both encourage us to slow down and just take a walk. Lets try it!!

what you allow into your community matters..lets start the conversation

This is my take of pacifism and the war in Gaza.

This moment I talk about a very true and very real experience about a suicide attempt. Please there is a warning of that and please ta

This is my first attempt at actual life advice

Last in the 4 part series!!!! Please like share and subscribe!!

I know I know you think this is soooooo you. Its not haha. Take a listen and find out why

You know Harry Potter is Avoidant? Me too so tune in to the girl who lived and lets learn something!!

What is it? Do you have it? How can we manage it?

What are they? How are they communicated? Why are they important?

Our first video chat!!! We will give our takes on women's clothing, the Keke Palmer Debate and just give our little fun opinions.

Ever make a deal with yourself to be better? do better? live better? Well here are 4 agreements you can make and live a richer live. I shall be reviewing a book and hopefully you'll give it a read too!

Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde centers upon a conception of humanity as dual in nature,we confront the theory of a dual human nature explicitly only after having witnessed all of the events of the novel, including Hyde's crimes and his ultimate eclipsing of Jekyll. This episode will discuss our need to accept the duality of human nature as its central to being self aware.

In order to understand ourselves we need to put in a lot of hard work. A good way is to find out what other people see when they see us. Perception needs to be multifaceted .

Okay you wanted more chili and here he is welcome back to part 2 on sigma males!

Sigma Males, Cancel Culture and Men are so weird. Join me and my newest consult Chilli Chanda as a real man he's here to give me insight and just have good banter. He's British so forgive his accent. Follow me on Instagram!!

As all things should go in sequence I thought I would talk about love bombing. I hinted at it in the last episode but I decided to go into it. You see the toxic side of it really well in Frozen and we end up with an exciting conversation. Love bombing is an emotional manipulation technique. It's not great. You basically love someone so much they are unable to see your more toxic traits. You are emotionally gaslit usually early in a relationship so you can manipulate them later. While an overflow of love sounds idyllic, this behavior can be a huge red flag as it is a pattern that can be associated with underlying abuse and a potentially toxic relationship.  --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

So Andrew Tate got taken down by Greta Thumberg  twice in one week and y'all thought I was just gonna stay quiet. Nope!! More importantly guys we really need to stop and start thinking about who we are following we are starting to look very blind. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

“Breadcrumbing” literally refers to leaving bread crumbs so that someone can follow the trail. Are you being led on a trail that leads nowhere? How to spot the signs and how to protect yourself! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

This week took me to a kind of low place but with friends and help from people around me I felt lifted up. I would also like to explore a fun new phenomenon. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Radical self focus forbids us from being one with the community. Denying ourselves communal input as well as our own ability to pour out. Walk with me on this journey and get some juicy tea too!! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

The tale of Icarus is one repeated often as a warning against hubris but what if there's a lot more to the story?....Here in lies my poddy --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In a world begging to be more tolerant we have gone to far extremes to make sure no one is offended. But we will offend people, constantly so why soften words or hold back distinct meanings. We will be touching on the Euphemism treadmill and the evolution of language. 

I got Covid and came to a life reckoning. This episode may be a little scattered but it is so important to me, I may not be spitting hot facts but I am telling my life's truths so take that as you will. More resources for COVID-19 below www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/more/index.html www.benefits.gov/help/faq/Coronavirus-resources www.usa.gov/coronavirus www.who.int/emergencies/diseases/novel-coronavirus-2019

It's always dangerous to the collective group when you are ready to pursue individual gains at the expense of the collective. The "pick-me" person seeks acceptance from another group and often their individual actions are used to demonize the collective. I am taking on the challenge of discussing the bizarre and possibly the more complicated conversation of the "pick-me" trope.

This is a grinds my gears episode, for the treatment of Castor Semenya. There are so many harmful stereotypes perpetrated against Black women and Black sexuality. I face them all the time I live in constant fear of voicing rage for example as I know that there's rage stereotypes. Often black women are treated with less gentleness for the assumption of strength. In this episode we see how terribly a beautiful woman was treated and why it was wrong.

The primary role of dominance hierarchies, is the formation of order and stability within those groups. So where does the Beta male stand? There is a perception over the actual definition I would like to explore that and see what's going on there. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Just wanted to share a life experience. Nothing profound. Just kindness. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

What does it mean to be an Alpha Male? Are you a healthy Alpha? Am I an Alpha? Journey on with me as we try and solve this puzzle. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

I am making the argument that Cinderella is actually a feminist tale. This episode is me explaining my journey to understanding feminism. https://www.humanrightscareers.com/issues/types-of-feminism-the-four-waves/ https://thelifeofscience.com/2019/05/14/4-reasons-anti-feminist-women-hate-feminism-and-what-theyre-missing/ Wikipedia https://dailytitan.com/opinion/cinderella-embodies-feminism-through-kindness-and-strength/article_092b0733-250d-5d3c-9882-7db9175dfeb8.html#:~:text=Modern%20Disney%20princesses%20are%20considered,a%20man%20to%20rescue%20them.&text=Cinderella%20challenges%20that%20by%20embodying,means%20to%20be%20a%20feminist. https://sites.pitt.edu/~dash/perrault06.html --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Second Deep dive into the dark parts of the dating world and how people can be so misguided. Hopefully thing gains you some good conversations or at least an awareness to what others are going through --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Dating Series: What is the red pill movement? why is it good? Why is it bad? What can be done --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Often the why behind our mannerisms is lost on us as a modern culture. We take things that seem cute and apply them to our lifestyles without a moments thought to their origin. I was recently wound up about the idea of people doing things I have always known to have strong meaning haphazardly. Here's my take on all this. Sources: https://archives.history.ac.uk/makinghistory/resources/articles/why_history_matters.html https://madpipe.medium.com/what-we-mean-by-traditional-values-c2cded99c584 https://bento.cdn.pbs.org/hostedbento-prod/filer_public/whatihear/9-Cultural_Approp-Viewing_Guide.pdf https://www.ceeceesclosetnyc.com/blogs/news/the-history-behind-african-waistbeads-and-their-colorful-meanings --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

According to wikipedia lol. Knowledge sharing is an activity through which knowledge is exchanged among people, friends, peers, families, communities, or within or between organizations. Knowledge sharing is so important. I want to dive into it and see what we can learn over the next few weeks. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

I have touched on this idea before that the more selfish you are the more you actually act in the interest of other. We talked about this in the episode Kindness is not natural. I believe acting in your self interest is participating in the voting process. Here's my pitch hope you love it!! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

After every Kanye album comes out we wonder what is art lol. I think many things are art and what isn't. I have a lot of artsy friends but this does not make them artists. I think this was a fun one but probably a silly question to ask because the grey area is sooo big. Hope you enjoy let me know what you think is art!! Sources: Avital. T. (2003). Art versus Nonart : Art out of Mind. Cambridge University Press, Cambridge. https://christopherwillardauthor.medium.com/distinguishing-art-from-non-art-discussion-2-part-1-fec2feaa36b4 https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/art_vs_non-art#:~:text=When%20we%20talk%20about%20intention,produce%20some%20specific%20emotional%20response.&text=But%20in%20art%2C%20the%20intention,their%20own%20thoughts%20and%20emotions. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

BLM is now a popular movement. But though it makes perfect sense to me it may not to others. So I want to make a case for the cause and break down why saying all lives matter doesn't make sense

#BeThe1To is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline's message for National Suicide Prevention Month and beyond, which helps spread the word about actions we can all take to prevent suicide. The Lifeline network and its partners are working to change the conversation from suicide to suicide prevention, to actions that can promote healing, help and give hope. I hope these tools can be helpful to you!! If you're concerned about yourself or someone else, please call the Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. They're available 24/7, they're free and confidential. https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/promote-national-suicide-prevention-month/ https://www.bethe1to.com/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

I decided to continue my kindness motif.  I asked what is kindness and use more of a scientific basis . I consider circumstances as a reason for the genetic or innate idea of human kindness. Deeper I shall Dive. So to google I go and there Kindness is defined as the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. https://www.accountingtools.com/articles/basic-accounting-concepts.html https://neurosciencenews.com/negative-emotion-help-6777/ https://rekenekt.org/uncategorized/character-no-one-watching/ https://www.academia.edu/5423479/Breaking_Bad_and_the_Moral_Limits_of_Human_Nature

Are we becoming increasingly cruel because the very meaning of kindness is lost on us? Why on  earth should we be kind? Where does the whole concept come from? this is the question that haunts me today. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

My Journey on Finding out more about this topic that i have run away from and not had a firm opinion on. So I played devil's advocate and I think I'll have to revisit this one but I wanted the conversation out there. https://www.self.com/story/14-abortion-facts https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/abortion/risks/ https://www.amnesty.org/en/what-we-do/sexual-and-reproductive-rights/abortion-facts/ https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/abortion/considering-abortion/what-facts-about-abortion-do-i-need-know#:~:text=Abortion%20is%20safe.,depression%20or%20mental%20health%20issues. https://medlineplus.gov/abortion.html#:~:text=An%20abortion%20is%20a%20procedure,and%20placenta%20from%20the%20uterus. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Often what is important to us is only a thread in the grand tapestry that is life and community. How do we navigate the discrepancy between the big picture and the minutia? Materiality, we need to know how to treat what is immaterial in the grand scheme o things but is still important to us. These are my thoughts. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

This episode is my opinion and findings on the personality test the enneagram. I'm just starting a conversation rather than spitting straight facts. Enjoy and let me know your thoughts. https://www.truity.com/enneagram/what-is-enneagram https://youtu.be/ziiblW0Sv8g. https://youtu.be/aerFihalHxs --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In school I remember getting in trouble for my clothes and sometimes they were even taken away. So I'm looking at why we are so fixated on women and the trouble it's gotten us into. Here are some helpful links too. https://www.insider.com/school-dress-code-rules-controversy-2018-8#a-seventh-grade-girl-was-allegedly-asked-to-cover-up-a-t-shirt-that-a-teacher-found-offensive-her-parents-say-the-shirt-sends-an-anti-discriminatory-message-1 https://scholarship.law.umn.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1412&context=lawineq https://www.marieclaire.co.uk/reports/timeline-of-dress-codes-men-telling-women-what-to-wear-295043 http://www.lynnettesheppard.com/reasons-for-dressing-modestly/#:~:text=Researchers%20discovered%20that%20feelings%20of,opposed%20to%20more%20modest%20dress.&text=Some%20well%2Dmeaning%20individuals%20say,or%20boys%20in%20their%20lives. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app