Dating Unsettled

New Year, So I Redownloaded the Dating Apps: What Changed? Dating in 2025: how to use these features to find love in the New Year! I redownloaded the dating apps—Tinder, Bumble, Hinge—you know, the usual suspects. In this episode, I dive into what's changed, what hasn't, and whether the swipe scene is any less chaotic than before. Spoiler alert: it's probably still a lil weird and VERY full of hope! If you've ever wondered whether dating apps are worth the hassle in 2025, this one's for you. Along the way, I share some hard-earned dating advice from my time swiping on over 3,000 profiles and making 160+ matches. Looking for love, something casual, or just bored scrolling, this episode has plenty of insights (and a few laughs) to tell you what's been going on since you last opened the Big Apps! Be sure to like & subscribe to my newsletter! You can visit my website and join my mailing list at enjoymentendeavor.com Shot by Town Futurist Media at 823 Grand Luxe  https://www.823grandluxe.com/ Production Asst - Mojola Epps, Donnita Shaw Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com  IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu Threads: joyofodu  Facebook: joyofodu Bluesky: joyofodu

In this episode of Dating Unsettled, we're (yes, you and me) diving BACK LIKE WE NEVA LEFT into the chaos of summer relationships. I'll be reading your submissions and offering some no-nonsense advice—sprinkled with just the right amount of sarcasm. Whether you're navigating summer flings or long-term love, tune in for a reality check you probably didn't ask for, but definitely need. Follow the show and DM or email me your requests for bonus episodes! datingunsettled@gmail.com www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

In this episode, I respond to an Unsettler's DM about abeing divorced and not finding the folks she's looking for in her area (South Florida). Tips for distance and going the distance!  + I will be meeting and greeting in Florida at the Miami Beach Convention Center June 14 in the early afternoon! Follow me for more details. Follow the show and DM or email me your requests for bonus episodes! datingunsettled@gmail.com www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Joy interviews Vasavi Kuymar (@_Daniellevates) about her experiences as a Brown girl, divorcee, dater in her 40s and voice actor/author! The two really get into what it's like to grow up as immigrant kids in the U.S. with a media landscape that makes them feel Othered, with blonde white girls as the mold and parental criticism as the fire under their feet. They react to Joy's video about her voices in her head and self-talk, and chat about how you can re-frame dating woes. Say It Out Loud Using the Power of Your Voice to Listen to Your Deepest Thoughts and Courageously Pursue Your Dreams https://vasavikumar.com/orderthebook Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Joy interviews Danielle Connolly (@_Daniellevates) about her experiences as a hotgirllll who just takes a lil bit more time getting out of chairs on dates! The two talk infantilization, common misconceptions, whether or not she discloses her disability and MORE! Yes, more. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Fun this week: DU has been featured by Apple Podcasts on TikTok and in curation with a new series! https://www.instagram.com/p/C4RXAGjPDM5/ Ride through the latest Love Is Blind Season 6 drama with your favorite dating podcast host, Joy!  In this episode, Joy spills the tea on all the jaw-dropping moments that have left us questioning both the concept of love and the sanity of the contestants.  But hold on to your heartstrings, because Joy takes a deep dive into the not-so-romantic side of the show, character by character. She discusses the abusive behaviors she's witnessed, too. For reference - https://www.thehotline.org/identify-abuse/power-and-control/ Don't worry, it's not all gloom and doom! Joy also highlights the sweet, heartwarming moments that make us believe in the power of love. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Join Joy in this episode as she delves into her thoughts after the film "Players" on Netflix, exploring the complex themes it unravels about love, relationships, and the challenges that come with being an adult looking for grown folks love. First, Joy reflects on the societal pressure of feeling like time is running out. As she watches the characters grapple with their own timelines, she shares personal insights and experiences, discussing the expectations placed on individuals in their 30s and the quest for fulfillment. Internet stalking takes center stage as Joy explores the impact of online presence on modern dating. From oversharing on social media to finding out everything about someone before the first date, she discusses the fine line between curiosity and crossing boundaries in the digital age. The conversation then shifts to the art of manipulating people when dating—putting on a persona or feigning interests to create a favorable impression. Joy explores the ethical implications of such behavior and shares her thoughts on authenticity in relationships. Dating your best friend or coworkers can be a tricky endeavor, and Joy unpacks the dynamics at play. Drawing from personal experiences and the film's narrative, she examines the blurred lines between friendship and romance, shedding light on the potential rewards and risks involved. Players: https://www.netflix.com/title/81034895 Finally, Joy explores the desire for the "finished product" guy—a partner who meets all the criteria on the checklist. She discusses the pitfalls of setting unrealistic standards and the importance of embracing imperfections in the pursuit of genuine connections. Recommended read: The Skin Deep 12 Questions for Love Challenge. They believe in the transformative power of human connection: "We've been creating the space for couples around the globe to explore their connection and deepen their relationships. You might have seen the magic unfold on {THE AND} videos, or played our card games before." I hope you get the chance to ask these Qs of your partner or date to go deeper. FREE: https://shop.theskindeep.com/products/12-questions-for-love-challenge-free-download Follow the pod/the host! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Good Morning America recently recognized me as a Dating Expert and featured my advice from this beloved pod! Here's my full appearance on GMA and dating tips to help you build a real relationships from the apps this year Seeing myself Good Morning America was a surreal experience, one that I never imagined would happen so soon in my podcasting journey or journey as an entertainer! As host of my own original dating podcast called “Dating Unsettled”, the opportunity to share my tips for 2024 on the most watched morning show in the nation was a dream come true. The theme of the segment, “Give your dating life a fresh start in 2024,” was perfect for ya girl! I was super pumped talking about ways to shake up your love life, bounce back from heartbreaks which are GOOD, and make room for those dreamy relationships some of us are chasing. The vibe in the virtual interview was go great, and knowing that millions of folks were tuning in, including past colleagues, fellow creator, friends, neighbors, parishioners — i just couldn't contain my heart this AM!! In the clip you'll see from the interview, I shared some human to human advice on how I want to feel in a relationship, how possible it is to find love online (I did after 3,00 swipes), and getting into the right mindset for finding your ideal partner in 2024. More than just soaking up the spotlight for my little pod and for me, it was a chance to light a fire under people to explore new things and grow in their love lives. I understand that when I speak, other daters are motivated to action. With the whole country awake & watching, I felt privielged to help everyone dive into 2024 with a fresh take on love. It's out there. It's possible. It's YOURS! But you gotta get up and go get it. Thank you everyone and thank you GMA. No better way to start the year! Joy

Get to Know Me as a Dater with Skin Deep + GMA and Apple Podcasts Features! Thanks for listening to this podcast, and entering a space that proves dating can be a comedy goldmine, full of love and mistakes and healing and not just the he-said-she-said the Internet is making it out to be. Also - stay tuned or visit the @datingunsettled IG for the podcast's features on Good Morning America and Apple Podcasts this Jan and Feb! We made it y'all! New episodes coming this weekend and next week. GMA https://youtu.be/jqmMpNGZFt8 Apple Podcasts Valentine's Day https://apple.co/whensparksfly Website/Contact https://datingunsettled.com/ In this episode -- Get ready for a hilarious dive into the world of dating as your favorite podcast host, Joy, takes on "The Skin Deep Dating Edition" in this candid and puke worthy lovey dover episodes. Join us as Joy spills the beans on her datingpreferences, and the unexpected moments that make dating an unpredictable rollercoaster. In this unfiltered and unscripted episode, Joy plays the dating game, baring it all for our entertainment.   

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In this episode, I respond to an Unsettler's DM about a man who dumped her and blamed it on his medical condition..Should she believe what he shared, or is he using it as an excuse? I go off with loving affirmation and evaluation! Follow the show and DM or email me your requests for bonus episodes! datingunsettled@gmail.com www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

In this episode, I respond to an Unsettler's DM about the Ghost of Bumble's past -- a man who insists on being a recurring character. Should she date him or drop him? I also spill tea on where my own relationship with self/Ivan/podcast is this holiday season. Follow the show and DM or email me your requests for bonus episodes! datingunsettled@gmail.com www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

"I'm single but tbh I'm not looking for anything serious. I'm really working on myself right now." UGH! We've all heard it. But have we interrogated it? What can we do when we meet someone we really want to be there for who isn't really into dating? Meet local man Alex Clewis, and goalie for Napa Valley 1839 FC. He's my boyfriend's teammate and a stand up salesman who is recovering from serial monogamy! Our convo opens up a lot of topics men/women don't voice aloud. Enjoy!   Follow the show on all podcast platforms:  https://www.datingunsettled.com/ IG: https://instagram.com/datingunsettled TikTok: tiktok.com/@datingunsettled Twitter: https://twitter.com/datingunsettled Be sure to like & subscribe to my newsletter! You can join my mailing list at https://joyofodu.komi.io/

Is Michael's new app, Cosmic, gon' save the dating scene? We're about to find out... it'll at the very least save people who don't like to write bios about themselves..themselves. Listen and learn more -- or read about it in TechCrunch! Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes www.datingunsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Fanbase: @joyofodu TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled  Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu 

A legendary moment. The reason for my season and to my rhyme. What every dating podcast needs: I get to introduce you to my maaaan, Ivan! We discuss his surprising first impressions of me, why he asked me to be his girlfriend and what it's been like since. RSVP for Dating Unsettled Experience: LA with The Skin Deep on October 10th  We've all heard or said "They not checking for people like me in LA." Let's challenge the scarcity we've developed around dating and healthy partnership and be so bold as to claim "love is local"...even in Los Angeles - in partnership with The Skin Deep, The Song Remedy and Fever Tree. Hosted and Created by Joy Ofodu. Filmed by TownFuturist. Edited by Isaac Deol. Produced by Jazmyn Breana. Production Assisted by Mojola Epps. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Joy gives her thoughts on the Unsettling world of Netflix's hit series, "Love is Blind." Get ready for an engaging recap of all the jaw-dropping moments, unexpected twists, and Joy's personal icks that Season 5 Episodes 1-4 brought to the screen. Contains spoilers for the footage aired in Episodes 1-4, including season preview (what may happen beyond the pods). Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.datingunsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Fanbase: @joyofodu TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled  Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu 

This week, I talk about literally visionboarding the love I wanted for myself and how you can do the same! Here's a link to my actual visionboard (Click the VZN BRD highlight) RSVP for Dating Unsettled Experience: LA with The Skin Deep on October 10th  We've all heard or said "They not checking for people like me in LA." Let's challenge the scarcity we've developed around dating and healthy partnership and be so bold as to claim "love is local"...even in Los Angeles Hosted and Created by Joy Ofodu. Filmed by TownFuturist. Edited by Isaac Deol. Produced by Jazmyn Breana. Production Assisted by Mojola Epps. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

RSVP for Dating Unsettled Experience: LA on October 10th - https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dating-unsettled-experience-los-angeles-tickets-725615003007?aff=oddtdtcreator We've all heard or said "They not checking for people like me in LA." Let's challenge the scarcity we've developed around dating and healthy partnership and be so bold as to claim "love is local"...even in Los Angeles! Join us for an evening of group meditation as we manifest on local love, strengthen connections and enjoy a few rounds of "speed dating" the LA way. We're creating one action-packed, hyper-real night of celebrating and receiving the love you've always dreamed of. www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu

Money is tight, a recession is near, but that doesn't mean you should stop dating! With that being said, I took it upon myself to come up with a fantastic list of free/affordable dates for those that are looking for love while on a budget! Hosted and Created by Joy Ofodu. Filmed by TownFuturist. Edited by Isaac Deol. Produced by Jazmyn Breana. Production Assisted by Mojola Epps. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu  

I break down the Dating Apps I used and which, in my opinion, are worth paying for. I talk features, subscriptions, memberships, swipes and everything I truly believe/invested hundreds of dollars in! Thinking about paying for an app? Listen in! Hosted and Created by Joy Ofodu. Filmed by TownFuturist. Edited by Isaac Deol. Produced by Jazmyn Breana. Production Assisted by Mojola Epps. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu Fanbase: joyofodu IG: datingunsettled  TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: datingunsettled  Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: joyofodu  TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: joyofodu

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It's finally over! Join host Joy and special guest keke-ing friend Brittany in this exciting episode as they dive deep into the thrilling world of Netflix's hit series, "The Ultimatum." Get ready for an engaging recap of all the jaw-dropping moments, unexpected twists, and character developments that Season 2 Episodes 9-10 brought to the screen. Contains spoilers for Episodes 1-10. Aww :( VANESSA AND NICK I LOVE YOU! Camp. TW: Relationship abuse is responsibly discussed. Episode is not explicit but contains mature topics. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.datingunsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Fanbase: @joyofodu TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled  Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu 

Join host Joy and special guest keke-ing friend Brittany in this exciting episode as they dive deep into the thrilling world of Netflix's hit series, "The Ultimatum." Get ready for an engaging recap of all the jaw-dropping moments, unexpected twists, and character developments that Season 2 Episodes 1-8 brought to the screen. Contains spoilers for Episodes 1-8. TW: Relationship abuse, addiction and self harm are responsibly discussed. Episode is still OK for kids-in-car listeners. With only three days of the experiment left, the couples consult friends and family; romantic gestures and deep talks may ease lingering doubts. S2 Episode 9 and 10 drop Aug 30, 2023 Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.datingunsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Fanbase: @joyofodu TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled  Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu 

Dating Unsettled emerges out of summer break with a thanks for New York Experience attendees and reminders for optimistic online dating! Listen for more inspiration. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.datingunsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Fanbase: @joyofodu TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled  Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu 

Joy is live in London with special guest Gigi Engle for an 18+ episode about the body and reclaiming pleasure while dating! The podcast ventures where it hasn't before and won't stay, but is so happy to be right now. This episode was recorded live in front of an audience of real Unsettlers at The Nest (Missionworks UK) at Joy's Dating Unsettled Experience tour stop; follow us for the next event in the U.S. Follow Gigi @gigiengle Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.datingunsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Fanbase: @joyofodu TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled  Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu 

Dating Unsettled takes a summer break and may be coming to your city! Listen for more and find out tf going on with Joy and the show. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.datingunsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Fanbase: @joyofodu TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled  Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu 

Has it been a while since your eager behind graced the streets? Look no further than this episode with special guest and Disney High School Musical plus Disney High School Musical the Musical the Series star Monique Coleman! Monique offers her perspectives on vulnerability and following your hearts desires while dating in her 40s. Joy offers absolute Gen Z foolery and warns Monique about what to expect on each of the apps. Joy and Monique are co-stars in upcoming animated film ASALI: Power of the Pollinators. Follow Monique @_moniquecoleman Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.datingunsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Fanbase: @joyofodu TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled  Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu 

Joy is coming to LONDON on June 17 to meet you and your mama or your ex or whoever you decide to show up with; Listen for a special announcement about the next Dating Unsettled Experience and DM me to make sure you get the invite! Join Joy and childhood friend/Amazon Prime "Panic" actor Camron Jones for a refreshing story about a sensible young black man in his 20's who found a woman he loved and proposed to her! HE DID IT! THEY EXIST! Cam proposes to his fianceé in the most romantic way; celebrate their Black love and dream along with yours! Follow Camron @camronjones Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.datingunsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Fanbase: @joyofodu TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled  Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu 

Joy is coming to LONDON on June 17 to meet you and your mama or your ex or whoever you decide to show up with; Listen for a special announcement about the next Dating Unsettled Experience. But this episode isn't just about London! Nooooo silly! It's about a London boy turned LA actor Benjamin Abiola, and how he's finding dating in LA! Follow Ben @sirabiola Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.datingunsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Fanbase: @joyofodu TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled  Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu 

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In this new visually stunning and wow they are finally on a set episode, Joy sits down with Nimay Ndolo, a bombastic Internet creator with a squeaky clean dating history. Nimay shares her experiences and insights about dating Nigerian and not, what New York has to offer, and why she her favorite heterosexual conspiracy theories. Follow Nimay  @nimayndolo   Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.datingunsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Fanbase: @joyofodu TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled  Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu 

Wondering what to wear on a first date? Now you can wonder... while you listen to Joy's very subjective opinion! Play this while you swipe or get ready. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Have you ever developed feelings for your best friend like your PERSON your bestie and wondered if you should take things to the next level? In this episode, we explore the delicate topic of asking your best friend on a date and how to navigate the *potential* transition from friendship to romance. Whether you're considering asking your best friend out or just curious about how to handle this situation, this episode is juuuuust for you. And if it doesn't work I'm just the messenger pls. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

In this episode, Joy responds to an Unsettler's DM about tips for first date confidence. If you don't gas yourself up (and not the image of how you're supposed to perform for this imaginably perfect person opposite you) who will? Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

On this episode, Joy and Lonnie talk about his experiences with the LA dating scene, his thoughts on daters in LA. Joy asks Lonnie if he's ever been guilty of pretending to be someone he's not, if he's open to being matchmade with an Unsettler (he is!!) and finally tips for guys who are looking for love. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

In this episode, Joy responds to an Unsettler's DM about tips for what to put on your body by way of clothing (what else would you be putting on your body????) before your first encounter in a publicly available and mutually agreed upon location with your desired romantic prospect. Or first date. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

SWIPE BABY SWIPE I NEED YOU TO STAY WITH ME! In this episode I discuss how finding love on dating apps is a game of probability, the most common online dating lies, the best time to swipe and how time-consuming and emotionally draining unless you're investing financially or training a few algorithms to date the way you do. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Listen to this episode if you hate "going with the flow." or if the phrase "let's just see what happens" triggers you when dating. Also listen to the sound of Joy's distant chewing/mukbang, lunch was lunching. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

In this ridiculously titled episode, Joy kekes enthusiastically with Renise Alexander (that's that curly girl rae!) from The Black Roses and Married At First Sight "Unmatchables." They discuss the ups and downs of Renise having or seeking to date multiple partners simultaneously while being a booked and busy flight attendant. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

In this episode about Black Men in History, we pay homage to the finest black men who have made a lasting impact on American society. From civil rights leaders, to entrepreneurs --- JK! Hahahah this would be an amazing episode though wouldn't it? Tune in to see what Joy really did, what she really means by fine, the painstaking, bleeding work she did to sort through the crème de la crème of black men in U.S. history. Mmm. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

In this week's episode, Joy sits down with Instagram and TikTok creator and human being Andrew Licout (@andrewlicout) to discuss how to maintain a strong sense of self and hold onto your personal preferences in a romantic partnership. Andrew shares his insights and experiences on how to navigate the ups and downs of dating while keeping your individuality intact. Whether you're single and looking for love or in a relationship, this episode is a must-listen for anyone who wants to understand the delicate balance of being true to yourself and being 1 of 2. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

Where do straight men go looking for love? What do they struggle with? Joy sits down with Shayne, the short form comedy-loving single straight Black and notable Hispanic man who's decided to take his dating game to the next level by studying Joy's comedy. From Repressed Coworker to Tré, Shayn's been watching her characters in the hopes of finding healthy partnership. But is a steady diet of Joy and the Manosphere enough to make him a dating expert?  Tune in to find out as Joy grills Shayne on his dating strategies and the hilarious mishaps that have ensued. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

In this episode of the Dating Unsettled show, host Joy shares her personal experience with hardballing in dating and how it ultimately led to finding a partner. She explains the concept of hardballing, which involves setting strict boundaries and being unapologetically selective in the dating process. Joy also provides listeners with practical tips and strategies for implementing hardballing - what to do and what NOT TO DO GOOD GOD NO AAGH NO PLEASE NO! This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to take control of their dating journey and find a healthy, fulfilling relationship. So tune in and learn from Joy's story and advice for your post-swipe convos. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu

In this episode of the Dating Unsettled show, we speak with Zoya about the coveted culture around Pakistani-American dating. Zoya shares her personal experiences navigating the traditional expectations placed on women in Pakistan when it comes to relationships and courtship. She talks about how the cultural emphasis on family honor and purity can make dating complicated and often shrouded in secrecy. Joy and Zoya touch on the emergence of online dating which can be a viable and safe way for women to meet partners, in addition to arranged marriage and matchmaking. Biodatas available upon request... Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com Follow @zoyathexplorer YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu Mented Cosmetics Shop Blackowned Mented Cosmetics at a discount with Joy's code: JOYOFODU at https://www.mentedcosmetics.com/

In this episode, Joy sits down with Jacque to discuss her experience dating in America as a Nigerian immigrant-kid and how it differs from Western dating culture. Jacque opens up about her experience juggling relationships with multiple boyfriends and the societal expectations placed on Nigerian women. They also delve into the challenges of being vulnerable and expressing femininity online. Get unsettled with this eye-opening and candid conversation about love, culture, and the power of authenticity. Follow the Show www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Jacque  https://twitter.com/jacqueaye Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu Mented Cosmetics Get gorgeous Black-owned beauty products from Mented with Joy's code: JOYOFODU at https://www.mentedcosmetics.com/

In this episode, Joy responds to an Unsettler's DM about tips for starting a long distance relationship. Long distance relationships can SUCK, but they can also be rewarding and fulfilling if everyone is in it to win it with an END GOAL in sight. I discuss how we stay connected and maintain intimacy, how we manage communication and expectations, and how you might be able to make the most of your time together when you finally link up. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu Mented Cosmetics Take an additional 15% off the site-wide 25% Holiday Sale with Joy's code: JOYOFODU at https://www.mentedcosmetics.com/

Are you a late bloomer in the dating world? Do you feel like you're constantly playing catch-up with your peers when it comes to finding love and romance? In this episode, we'll be joined by special guest Imani Bashir, a Muslim-American journalist and writer, to discuss the unique challenges and joys of being a late bloomer in the dating world, including her HBCU experience. Imani will share her own experiences as a late bloomer, including the cultural and religious expectations she faced as a Muslim woman navigating the dating scene. We'll also discuss the importance of being true to oneself and finding happiness on one's own terms, no matter where you are in your love journey. Follow the show  www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: /joyofodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu Mented Cosmetics Take an additional 15% off the site-wide 25% Holiday Sale with Joy's code: JOYOFODU at https://www.mentedcosmetics.com/

Making herself a target of the femcels, Joy falls on a sword to wiggle into that tiny cavity of your brain that has convinced you shooting your shot with men is unacceptable. She responds to a letter from an Unsettler (WHAT? Bonus episode within a normal episode!?) and reads an extremely special Hall of Fame. Follow the show  www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: /joyofodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu Mented Cosmetics Take an additional 15% off the site-wide 25% Holiday Sale with Joy's code: JOYOFODU at https://www.mentedcosmetics.com/

Joy interviews @hopelessromanticsociety host and creator Jahad (J.C.) Carter - J.C. has reached over 33 million people with his on-the-street interviews of New Yorkers who may or may not be down bad horribly no good romantics. They chat about J.C.'s love life, cultural background around dating, coming out and being a "baby gay" with a mic and a dream. Follow @hopelessromanticsociety Follow the show  www.DatingUnsettled.com IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu Mented Cosmetics Take an additional 15% off the site-wide 25% Holiday Sale with Joy's code: JOYOFODU at https://www.mentedcosmetics.com/

Joy interviews a friend who experienced infidelity during her engagement and surprisingly wanted to stay. Until she didn't. Meet Brijet Finister (The Faith Filled Femme). She writes in a recent blog post: "..So when I discovered his infidelity, I choked. And when he blamed it on me, I died. The unbridled trust I had placed in him had come back to bite me, and I realized my mistake. Not acknowledging the fact that anyone is capable of anything, period. And nobody is safe from heartbreak." Follow Brijet (Faith Filled Femme) Follow the show  www.DatingUnsettled.com IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu Mented Cosmetics Take an additional 15% off the site-wide 25% Holiday Sale with Joy's code: JOYOFODU at https://www.mentedcosmetics.com/

In this bonus episode, Joy responds to an Unsettler's DM. This Unsettler is concerned about prioritizing someone while studying for a master's degree. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu Mented Cosmetics Take an additional 15% off the site-wide 25% Holiday Sale with Joy's code: JOYOFODU at https://www.mentedcosmetics.com/