Elite State of Mind Podcast

Elite State of Mind - Episode 51 - What is a Gentlemen The official YouTube channel of Elite State of Mind Podcast. Subscribe for the latest Podcast, Live Events, and more. This podcast will be centered around the personal development of oneself. We will consistently grow mentally spiritually financially and physically. We will dive into some of today's issues as well as the past. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast

Elite State of Mind - Episode 51 - Editor's Top 5 Picks The official YouTube channel of Elite State of Mind Podcast. Subscribe for the latest Podcast, Live Events, and more. This podcast will be centered around the personal development of oneself. We will consistently grow mentally spiritually financially and physically. We will dive into some of today's issues as well as the past. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast

Elite State of Mind - Episode 50 - The Pursuit Of Love The official YouTube channel of Elite State of Mind Podcast. Subscribe for the latest Podcast, Live Events, and more. This podcast will be centered around the personal development of oneself. We will consistently grow mentally spiritually financially and physically. We will dive into some of today's issues as well as the past. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast

EliteStateofMind - Top 10 Highlight Show The official YouTube channel of Elite State of Mind Podcast. Subscribe for the latest Podcast, Live Events, and more. This podcast will be centered around the personal development of oneself. We will consistently grow mentally spiritually financially and physically. We will dive into some of today's issues as well as the past. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast

Elite State of Mind - Episode 49 - The Study Of Love   The official YouTube channel of Elite State of Mind Podcast. Subscribe for the latest Podcast, Live Events, and more. This podcast will be centered around the personal development of oneself. We will consistently grow mentally spiritually financially and physically. We will dive into some of today's issues as well as the past. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow.   Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast    

Elite State of Mind - Episode 48 - Are You Ready For What You Ask For?   Sit down with Jesse and Kevin as they discus being ready for what you ask for. They about preparing for the things you want and how you should treat them. They also get into husbands and wives being what the other truly wants. Sit down at the table and tune in.Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast

Elite State of Mind - Episode 47 - The Drifter The official YouTube channel of Elite State of Mind Podcast. Subscribe for the latest Podcast, Live Events, and more. This podcast will be centered around the personal development of oneself. We will consistently grow mentally spiritually financially and physically. We will dive into some of today's issues as well as the past. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast

Elite State of Mind - Episode 46 - The Non-Drifter Sit down with Jesse and Kevin and Mia as they discuss the non-drifter.This topic was taken from the book "Outwitting the Devil" by Napoleon Hill. Where All claims to claims to have a conversation with the devil himself. During the the devil confesses to creating drifters to atcomplis his goals and hating the non-drifter. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast

Elite State of Mind - Episode 45 - The Power Of I AM Sit down with Jesse and Kevin as they talk about the power of I AM. Did you know you have the power to speak who you want to be into existence. What ever you said at the end of the sentence I am is what you will be. Do not let others keep you bound. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website : https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support. Episode 45 Chapters [00:00] - Intro [03:56] - An Agreement With Yourself [08:53] - Disruptive Drifters [10:54] - Unwavering Belief [16:43] - Final thought #LiveEvents,#iam ,#ExplorePage,#Explore,#Motivational,#iamacreator ,#Podcast,#Elitestateofmind,#Subscriptions,#powerofawareness ,#budlight ,#seasons,#Purpose,#spells ,#Applepodcast,#greenscreen,#universe ,#manifest ,#manifestation ,#Spotify,

Elite State of Mind - Episode 44 - Prisoner of Your Pain PT2 Sit down with Jesse and Kevin as they dive back into being a prisoner of your pain. This time they talk about dealing with everyone else pain but your own. They also talk about not being able to save everybody from their pain and why do we equate pain with love so often. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website : https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support. Episode 44 Chapters [00:00] - Intro [01:52] - Beware of recipient pain [04:38] - Wounds on your heart [19:57] - Chain ourselves to fear [23:57] - The danger of connecting pain to love [37:30] - Final though t#LiveEvents,#selfcare,#ExplorePage,#Explore,#Motivational,#pain,#Podcast,#Elitestateofmind,#Subscriptions,#prision,#painistemporary ,#love#superman,#prisioner ,#Applepodcast,#greenscreen,#fear,#apostlepaul ,#superbrain ,#Spotify,    

Elite State of Mind - Episode 43 - Black to School ft Anthony Crawford Jr Sit down with Jesse and Kevin as they welcome Anthony to the table. This conversations takes a dive into how the public education system affects black students and educators. The talk about the opposition from parents and the lack of representation of African American heroes taught and shown to black students. Also they talk about the discipline and accountability that is not taught by parents. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website: https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for being so supportive. Episode 43 Chapters [00:00] - Intro [04:19] - Freethinking Children [06:23] - Empower Black Children  [16:18] - You need discipline not motivation [17:53] - Parents need to heal too [34:00] - Final thought #LiveEvents,#blackstudents,#blackteachers,#ExplorePage,#Explore,#education ,#ESOM,#Podcast,#Elitestateofmind,#Subscriptions,#educational ,#blackeducation ,#blackeducators ,#Purpose,#representationmatters ,#Applepodcast,#greenscreen,#bts ,#school ,#discipline ,#Spotify  

Elite State of Mind - Episode 42 - Prisoner of your pain Sit down with Jesse and Kevin as they discuss being a prisoner of your pain. They raise the question of who is the one that put you in this prison. Who is the warden of this prison and who has the keys to your freedom. Also they speak on parents talking to their kids. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website : https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support. Episode 42 Chapters [00:00] - Intro  [05:13] - Inherited  Trauma [07:21] - No Tuff Love from god [12:30] - choosing mental shackles [19:23] - emotional state vs work ethic [28:45] - Final thought #LiveEvents,#selfcare,#ExplorePage,#Explore,#Motivational,#ESOM,#Podcast,#Elitestateofmind,#mindfulness ,#pain,#elitestateofmind,#prisoner,#jail,#emotionalpain,#Applepodcast,#greenscreen,#mindset ,#setfree ,#learning ,#Spotify,

ESOM - Episode 41 - Unwanted Opinions and Irrelevant Data Sit down with Jesse and Kevin as they discuss unwanted opinions and irrelevant data.They talk about why people feel the need to give them out and how you should deal with them. Make sure you tune in make sure you aren't giving out unwanted opinions. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website : https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support. Episode 41 Chapters [00:00] - Intro [06:00] - opinion with no defense [10:59] - different definitions of success [15:27] - put actions behind your title [24:10] - Final thoughts #LiveEvents,#opinion ,#ExplorePage,#Explore,#data,#ESOM,#Podcast,#Elitestateofmind,#Subscriptions,#longevity,#unwanted ,#seasons,#irrelevant ,#Lifetimefriendship,#Applepodcast,#greenscreen,#napoleonhill ,#thelanguageofthought,#winnersbrain,#Spotify,  

ESOM -Episode 40 - Valuing the right relationships Sit down with Jesse Kevin and Jay as they take about valuing the right relationships. They dive into what value can you bring and how society devalues men and women. They also get into letting go when the relationship value changes. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website : https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support. Episode 40 Chapters [00:00] - Intro [03:09] - Not Devaluing Who You Are [12:13] - Self-Proclaimed Goat [18:57] - Study Your Partner [21:19] - Value Each Other [50:00]-Final thought #LiveEvents,#value#ExplorePage,#Explore,#relationships,#ESOM,#Podcast,#Elitestateofmind,#Subscriptions,#men,#women,#selfworth,#bts,#study,#Applepodcast,#greenscreen,#thegoat,#love,#selflove,#Spotify,  

ESOM -Episode 39 - Do You Know Your Plan Sit down with Jesse and Kevin as they discuss the importance of have a plan for your life and the dangers of living with out intentions. Fellas do not become a danger to others and yourself by not planing for life. Ladies don't entertain a man with no plan for himself. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website : https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support. Episode 39 Chapters [00:00] - Intro [06:01] - No Plan Equal Failure [09:11] - Not a Man without a Plan [12:18] - Planning Stop Distractions [23:43] - Consistency to the Responsibility of the Plan [26:13]-FinalThoughts #LiveEvents,#lifeplan,#ExplorePage,#Explore,#Motivational,#ESOM,#Podcast,#Elitestateofmind,#Subscriptions,#lifeplanner,#danger,#dangerous ,#Purpose,#planningforsuccess ,#Applepodcast,#greenscreen,#men,#successful,#knowledge ,#Spotify,#objective,#goal  

Elite State of Mind - Episode 38 - Red Flags and Safe Spaces pt2 Sit down with Jesse and Kevin as they are joined by Jay and Mia. This conversation will revisit red flags and safe spaces. This discussion covers speaking about your past creating safe spaces in your parenting and relationships also they discus submission. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website: https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for being so supportive. Episode 38 Chapters [00:00] - Intro [16:19] - Communicate About Your Past [20:14] - Actions Must Be Limited [24:35] - Your Goal Is To Make It [26:05] - Submission to a plan [40:24] - Trust Is Givin  [44:00] - Final Thoughts #redflags,#safespaces,#safespace,#relationshipissues,#submission,#emotions,#actions,#trust,#past ,#emotionaldamage ,#parenting #LiveEvents,#selfcare,#ExplorePage,#Explore,#Motivational,#ESOM,#Podcast,#Elitestateofmind,#Subscriptions,#longevity,#elitestateofmind,#esom,#Purpose,#Lifetimefriendship,#Applepodcast,#greenscreen,,#Spotify,  

ESOM - Episode 37 - The Freedom of Fitness - PT3: Are You In The Fight Sit down with Jesse,Kevin, and Jay as they warp up their conversation on the freedom of fitness. Are you in the fight. They talk about body positivity, being lazy, and clocking in for your self. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website : https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com   #blackhealthmatters ,#selfcare,#ExplorePage,#Explore,#Motivational,#ESOM,#Podcast,#Elitestateofmind,#blackwomenshealth ,#blackmenshealth,#elitestateofmind,#blackhealth,#fitness,#menshealth ,#Applepodcast,#greenscreen,#fight ,#blackwellness,#womensfitness ,#Spotify,#youvsyou ,#learn,#personaltrainer ,#listenlearngrow,#freedom       Thank you for your support.

Elite State of Mind - Episode 36- The Freedom of Fitness - PT2: What Is The Cost Sit down with Jesse and Kevin and they talk about the cost of your freedom of fitness.They talk about what it will cost us in how we can optimize the time in our day. Also how much money we will spend on our health. Lastly what will the cost if fitness be on our quality of life.Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website : https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com #blackhealthmatters ,#selfcare,#ExplorePage,#Explore,#Motivational,#ESOM,#Podcast,#Elitestateofmind,#Subscriptions,#longevity,#elitestateofmind,#blackhealth,#fitness,#life,#Applepodcast,#greenscreen,#cost ,#blackwellness ,#money,#Spotify,#listen,#learn,#grow,#listenlearngrow,#freedom     Thank you for your support.

Elite State of Mind - Episode 35 - The Freedom of Fitness   Sit down with Jesse and Kevin as they discuss your freedom in fitness. They will take about why the dad bod has become acceptable and the psychology of fitness. Also they speak on the plantation plate that many black people still eat today. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow   Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website : https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support. Episode 35 Chapters [00:00] - Intro [03:18] - Psychology of Fitness [04:31] - Is Normal Acceptable [14:17] -Earning More Time  [24:24] - Change the Routine [28:58] - Final thought #blackhealthmatters ,#selfcare,#ExplorePage,#Explore,#Motivational,#ESOM,#Podcast,#Elitestateofmind,#Subscriptions,#longevity,#elitestateofmind,#blackhealth,#Purpose,#Lifetimefriendship,#Applepodcast,#greenscreen,#dadbod ,#blackwellness ,#badhealth,#Spotify,#listen,#learn,#grow,#listenlearngrow

Elite State of Mind - Episode 34 - Fatherhood PT4 Sit down with Jesse and Kevin as they wrap up their discussion on fatherhood. They dive into accepting the discipline pf fatherhood. Setting a championship standard and the danger of being addicted to average. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow.  Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website : https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support. Episode 33 Chapters [00:00] - Intro [07:04] - Sphere of Influence [14:10] - Celebrating all wins [18:18] - Giver and Sustainer  [23:22] - Addicted to being average [41:12] - Final thoughts #LiveEvents,#selfcare,#ExplorePage,#Explore,#Motivational,#ESOM,#Podcast,#Elitestateofmind,#Subscriptions,#daddy,#elitestateofmind,#dad,#fatherslove,#fathersday,#Applepodcast,#greenscreen,#fatherhood,#father,#baby,#daddies,#blackfathers,#blackdads  

Elite State of Mind - Episode 33 - Fatherhood PT3 Sit with Jesse and Kevin for part 3 of the fatherhood series. They discuss what fatherhood means to them and others and what is has taught them. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website : https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support. Episode 33 Chapters [00:00] - Intro [04:25] - Pull From Others [10:40] - Men are door openers [21:55] - Look for the opportunity [38:09] - conversations eliminate mistrust [42:00] - Final thought   #LiveEvents,#girldad ,#ExplorePage,#Explore,#Motivational,#ESOM,#Podcast,#Elitestateofmind,#Subscriptions,#boydad,#elitestateofmind,#fathersdad,#Purpose,#Lovingfather,#Applepodcast,#greenscreen,#fatherslove,#fatherhood,#father,#Spotify,#blackfathers

Elite State of Mind - Episode 32 -  Fatherhood PT2 Sit down with Jesse and Kevin as they continue their dive into fatherhood. This time they talk about the prophetic ability fathers have. They discuss giving children grace and teaching before beating. it is also discussed that children are for more than entertaining the masses.Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website: https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support. #LiveEvents,#girldad ,#ExplorePage,#Explore,#Motivational,#ESOM,#Podcast,#Elitestateofmind,#Subscriptions,#boydad,#elitestateofmind,#fathersdad,#Purpose,#Lovingfather,#Applepodcast,#greenscreen,#fatherslove,#fatherhood,#father,#Spotify,#blackfathers  

Elite State of Mind - Episode 31 -  Fatherhood PT1 Sit down with Jesse and Kevin as they talk about fatherhood. What were your first emotions? Were you scared nervous or ready to take the challenge? What are you teaching your children? Are you storing up wisdom and knowledge for them? Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *Stream/Download: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/user-368375027 Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com #LiveEvents,#selfcare,#ExplorePage,#Explore,#Motivational,#ESOM,#Podcast,#Elitestateofmind,#Subscriptions,#daddy,#elitestateofmind,#dad,#fatherslove,#fathersday,#Applepodcast,#greenscreen,#fatherhood,#father,#baby,#daddies  

Elite State of Mind - Episode 30 - Mental Health Awareness Jesse and Kevin sit down and discuss what has changed about mental health and what we can do to raise awareness! Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website: https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support.

Elite State of Mind - Episode 29 - The Losers plate and The Winners plate There is a big difference in what winners and losers eat. Winners eat to energize, heal, and make the body stronger. The Loser eats junk. Which plate are you eating from? Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website : https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support.

Elite State of Mind - Episode 28 - Winning With Words Its simple start winning with the words you speak. Turn your can't into can your won't into will your struggle into success. Stop using the word no because it will keep you closed off. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website: https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support.

Elite State of Mind - Episode 27 - Language of a Loser  What is your language? Do you talk like a loser? Are your words no, stop, can't, struggle, fear, scared? If so its time for a change. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website : https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support. Episode 27 Chapters [00:00] - Intro [03:13] - Language of Surviving [09:18] - Normalizing Losing [12:40] - Accountability [21:30] - Definite Purpose [29:54] - Final thought

Elite State of Mind - Episode 25 - The Ring Effect: part two Part 2!!! Sit down with us as we talk about some of the things we need to do before we get to the ring. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website : https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support. Episode 26 Chapters [00:00] - Intro [04:24] - Have A Plan [12:00] - Operating In Your Dominion [17:27] - Leadership Preference With Service [30:35] - You Are Created to work [00:00] - Final Thoughts

Elite State of Mind - Episode 25 - The Ring Effect What is the ring effect? So often after we say I do we start doing less than we did during the dating phase. Why is this? It should be the other way around and we should pursue our person even more. Sit down as we discuss the ring effect. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website: https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support.

Elite State of Mind - Episode 24 - The Perfect Pour Family we have to make sure that we pour into our selves and then apply the knowledge. You are just as important as the people you pour into. Sit down and talk with us as we discuss the perfect pour. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website: https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support.

Elite State of Mind - Episode 23 - The Young and The Restless Are you young and restless? Are you searching for a real love and authentic realationship? In this episode we talk about the pressure young people have today and how they can began to work through them successfully. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok: http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website: https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support. Episode 23 Chapters [00:00] - Intro [07:02] - self esteem [11:28] - self sabotaging [13:11] - pursue peace [29:28] - picking a mentor [37:10] - Final thought

ESOM Episode 22 - Finding New Roads Sit down with Jesse and Kevin as they talk about getting over the fear of taking a new path. Are you ready to find new roads, people, and opportunities? Its time to plot a new course and visit new places. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website: https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support. Episode 22 Chapters [00:00] - Intro [01:17] - The excitement of new roads [03:41] - The danger of one-way streets [07:19] - Don't be afraid to ask for directions [20:02] - Why won't we pick a road [26:46] - Put your best car on the road [38:46] - Final thought

Elite State of Mind - Episode 21 - Strong Successful Women Sit down with us today and we celebrate strong and successful women.We talk about some women that have impacted us in our personal lives as well many of the barriers women have overcame.It is a great time to celebrate women for all they have done and will do. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website : https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support.

Elite State of Mind - Episode 20 - What's New With You? Whats new with you in 2022? have you been taking better care of yourself? It is time to take our health and wellness serious. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website : https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking:Gmail:Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com #LiveEvents,#selfcare,#ExplorePage,#Explore,#Motivational,#ESOM,#Podcast,#Elitestateofmind,#greenfood ,#fitnessmotivation ,#elitestateofmind,#healthyfood ,#wellness,#whatsnew,#Applepodcast,#greenscreen,#new,#healthy,#health,#Spotify,  

Elite State of Mind - Episode 19 - Soul Ties Have you ever had a soul tie? Do you know what they are or what they do to you? Sit down with Jesse and Kevin as they discuss soul ties what they are and how to untie them. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok: http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website: https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support. Episode 19 Chapters [00:00] - Intro [01:00] - Types of soul ties [14:54] - 7 signs of soul ties [29:57] - Creating false soul ties [35:11] - Untying yourself [41:44] - Final thought

Elite State of Mind - Episode 18 - Have You given up on You The official YouTube channel of Elite State of Mind Podcast. Subscribe for the latest Podcast, Live Events, and more. This podcast will be centered around the personal development of oneself. We will consistently grow mentally spiritually financially and physically. We will dive into some of today's issues as well as the past. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website : https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com

Elite State of Mind - Episode 17 -  Conflict The official YouTube channel of Elite State of Mind Podcast. Subscribe for the latest Podcast, Live Events, and more. This podcast will be centered around the personal development of oneself. We will consistently grow mentally spiritually financially and physically. We will dive into some of today's issues as well as the past. Our main goal is to Listen Learn and Grow. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 TikTok : http://Tiktok.com//eliteStateofmind Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Website : https://esompodcast.podbean.com/ Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com

00:00:00] Kevin & Jesse: What's going on with family, Kevin and Jesse here with you guys today. Hope you guys are doing creativity. I ain't doing  [00:00:08] I ain't doing amazing. I'm doing amazing. Uh, family. Make sure you guys go ahead, like, uh, follow and subscribe to our YouTube, Facebook and Instagram page. Um, click the bell on YouTube for me, please. Like it. Subscribe and share. Oh man. Uh, also y'all can find us on apple podcasts or Spotify. I'm going to get my life together, family.  [00:00:31] I'll probably, this is my year 22 is my year to get Jesus. I'm going to get him from here this year. I'm promising. Men. Um, but we're going to go ahead and we're going to continue talking about love. Just a quick recap for you guys. A couple of weeks ago, we came to you guys about the filial. Love the brotherly, love what we believe to be the foundation.  [00:00:51] For just about every relationship you're going to have, whether it be, you know, from one person to another, whether it be in business that, that [00:01:00] brotherly love, that friends, that friendship love is such a cornerstone and pillar to those things. And then we moved into the Rolfe law. I hope some of you guys, you know, that might've watched that, uh, when it came out, definitely, uh, ask yourself, do I have an Eros love for me?  [00:01:17] Yeah, I need you guys to excite yourself again and make sure you're given time where it needs to be given. So somebody else doesn't have your time. So today what we're going to get into is that last level of love that, that one, the man it is, I don't know how many of us ever reach or truly experience that a gap, a.  [00:01:43] Um, in layman's terms, it is an unconditional love. It is a man, you know, that love the covers, a multitude of sin. It's a love that, as you said, love being a debt, it paid a debt, and then doesn't come back in a few years, [00:02:00] looking for interest for you to repay, right. It is a love that exchanged the worst of it's the best of itself for the worst, for the worst of you.  [00:02:09] Um, Jesse, what is the gap? I love you. I think you said it best and wet to say it again. Love is a debt that, uh, I'm unable to repay at its highest form and highest level, um, at its deepest depths. It's when I shouldn't and when I don't deserve to be you still bestow the gift of love upon. When you say that that don't deserve.  [00:02:47] Yeah. That don't deserve as man, because nine times out of 10, I don't deserve your love. Listen, to make me think about, you know, I know people familiar, R and B R and B scene [00:03:00] things about tank. Maybe I deserve, he re-released maybe I deserve that. I'm not getting exactly. What is owed to me. Right. Uh, so it, it, it's something that, you know, as we grow, we become aware that, uh, it's something that man I'm unworthy, I've failed.  [00:03:28] I've fallen short of what is needed. And yet it's still in spite of, so the last six months or so the study has been in, in spite of, so the goal is to be able to love in this manner, like you said, the unconditional is, and in spite of, and that's, you know, for us, it's so tough, you know, to deal in that in spite of, to, you know, to [00:04:00] deal with.  [00:04:01] Hey, I know you treat me like some on the bottom of your shoe, but every day I'm still going to wake up and love you. Right. Hey, I know, you know, as, as again, like we said, I'm going to give you the best of me, but what you're going to give me nine times out of 10 is the worst of you. Like you can't tell me the last time we had a string of good days, right?  [00:04:24] Like a solid seven. Oh no, but I still. I need to give you this love and, you know, for most of us, you know, and especially man, you know, when you enter into, you know, being married and then, you know, having children, you got to get that in spite of, oh man. I think now I'm reminded the story of the conversation between, between Jesus and his disciples when they asked him about.  [00:04:55] Marriage. Um, and he [00:05:00] kind of explains the concept that is not just, uh, a human type of situation, but it has to go on to a spiritual place in order for you to operate. And then they're asking like, well, what about this? And what about that? And, you know, he sums it up. I'm like, listen, If you can't be with this individual, in spite of them failing to meet your expectation, then it's best that you stay to yourself because he kind of revealed that, you know, no matter who it is, more than not, they probably are going to fail just like you are very true.  [00:05:41] But if you make this particular decision, you met eight choice. So again, with all the knowledge you still choosing to. Place your love upon this individual and that's what you need to do. Right? And so they go [00:06:00] play who can accept this? This is a hard saying, right? So from that, from that standpoint, when I'm looking at you saying like, Hey everybody is, oh, it's, it's my season.  [00:06:11] Whereas everybody's quick to say it's my time. Well, okay. Okay. You want to say that he just eats your time. We'll let see, because that's what this conversation was when you think. So. Let's see. Don't just love me and assemble when the sun is out and yeah, we can go have great times new. You love me and women.  [00:06:35] Yeah. Do you love me in the fall when it's raining, man, my leaves are falling and ass goes from being green to a little halfway, light brown. And I'm not the best of myself. Do you love me in the store? Yeah. Oh, that's a tough one right there, man. They might stay there for a minute. Do you love me when I'm on tour at night?  [00:06:54] Yeah. What about that? That's tough. Yeah. What about that? Because I think [00:07:00] for, I think for myself, I had to learn. You know, one, what comes along with loving somebody in the storm is you gotta appreciate the stolen because it has a purpose. Hmm. Hmm. Because sometimes if it's a heavy rain, it's going to wash some things away.  [00:07:15] If the winds become, you know, a little catastrophic at times, but some things are gonna blow away and many times you cannot clean something without agitation. And, you know, if you don't give somebody space for chaos, the opportunity for you both to grow one for them to, to grow and come to the knowledge of how do I better deal with myself and you to find a deeper depth of love?  [00:07:44] You're probably never going to reach now. It's easy. No, it's not, it can be some of the suckiest times of your life it's going to be, but I promise you on the other side of that. Yeah. That's when things get special, that's when things that's, [00:08:00] when things get to do that's good. You know, I think it's when we talk about opt-in that just say about the story we're going to the other side, we're going to the other side.  [00:08:11] W it didn't say we might make it possibly. It depends. If we get there by about three 30, then we're going to be good. But if not, I'm not, not sure it's a little shaky. No, we're going to decide. Right. So if you decide to get in the boat with this person or individuals or whatever it is, I understand he, yeah.  [00:08:32] Hold to get to the other side, like you said, you got to go through a little stone. I think one thing you gotta do though, when somebody comes to you and they're like, Hey, let's go to the other side. You either walk up, they bringing in the boat. Yeah. Yeah. Because if you can't deal with what they bring in, whether it's past, whether it's things in that present, whether it's, you know, whatever the case may be.  [00:08:52] Yeah. Whether you're blending the family, whether you're, you know, dealing with somebody coming out of depression, coming to heal from [00:09:00] anxiety, somebody who used to last student chill. So yeah, whatever it is they're bringing in. You got to understand when you say, get in my boat with me? Well, I have now opened up myself to all that you are and all that you will become.  [00:09:17] But then as soon as the boat get Rocky, I want to start tossing your stuff and Brittany go pump the house and you out with it. And we just left the shore. You talking about, hold on. I thought you loved me. I thought I did too. Yeah, I didn't my bed. Not really. Hey, you know, and that's, that's, that's the toughest part, but you know, the, the thing with that OGAP, I love, like you said that in spite of.  [00:09:42] Is it, man, that if you're going to give somebody that unconditional love, it has nothing to do with how they treat. Absolutely not like nothing to do with all absolutely not. So it goes back to that, you know, Hey are [00:10:00] the forethought of what this individual may need before. And before they know they needed that, that care, that anticipation of another's needs, like you said, you know, a couple of episodes ago, you know, one thing that I think is going to be helpful, you know, the older we get, you know, especially if you're dealing in, you know, in, in a relationship with people for, you know, you got to understand that unconditional love.  [00:10:29] There's never going to be fair exchange. You know, one thing, you know, the, we say all the time is fair. She has no robberies, no robbery. Right? That's a good business. Yeah. But in relationships, the exchange is never going to be fair. It's not going to be, even because, you know, on your worst days, if that person chooses to still love you.  [00:10:48] How are you going to repay them? Right. If you have called them outside their name, if you have, you know, made them feel worse than they've ever felt in their life, if you have just blatantly, [00:11:00] you know, foregone all, you know, duties and, and things that you agreed to do right. In your situation. Right. But they still say, okay, tomorrow is going to be a better day.  [00:11:13] Hmm. And then. Do you repay, can you repay, can you repay? No, I don't think so, but this is, this is why, if you are recipient of this, that they then become worthy of the adoration that is going to be due them because when you could not, you didn't have anything to give. They do more to give, like you said, that was your worst day possible.  [00:11:45] They still chose to give that to you. Anyway, that's a tall order though. It's huge. Cause that's a, that's a tall, that's a tall, it's huge. That's a tall order to love somebody at their absolute worst. [00:12:00] Somebody didn't have spin up the mortgage money. Yeah. A couple months in a row. See it. And that, that type of situation is one that, you know, individuals needs really consider before you say I do, because, well, what if this person for like 30 days says I don't.  [00:12:22] And you day spin up that more. I get some money then what? You're still supposed to love it. Yeah. But so often for us, oh, you don't lie, but I tell you who does tell you who does and don't do because you did, but you have the audacity. To tell me mitigated gong. Yeah. And that's the, you know, that, that's just the toughest part about dealing in that, in that unconditional love, you know, I was talking to my sister earlier and you know, I think the thing that, you know, we have to [00:13:00] realize is that so often we will, man, we'll be in prayer.  [00:13:03] We'll be trying to do all types of things. You know, I w I want to manifest this perfect love. You know, for myself, I want to, I want this type of person, however you get there, but then here's what happens. Here's what happens again on the off chance. Yes. You run across this individual. Now. Here's what was told to me, family.  [00:13:24] Again, shout out to my sister level, you know, the death, she said don't fumble to. Don't come up, looking homeless and hungry because you didn't take the time to grow because you didn't want to listen to sound doctrine and understand how to handle. Yeah. You said individual. Cause that's what you said you wanted now you may not have understood everything that came along with it.  [00:13:49] Right. And that's okay. To an extent to, you know, but don't, I don't be out there looking bad and sad at the end because you messed it up. [00:14:00] Right. Right. Like that's the, that's the tough part. That is very, that's tough. That's very tough to know that, Hey, I asked for this and I got it and did not know how to care for it or keep it.  [00:14:18] Go ahead and expound on that for us for a moment. Okay. So most of the time people in, in terms of their, you know, relationship endeavors, especially those of the household of faith, like you said, he was going to say, Hey, I'm going to manifest this. I'm going, I'm going to speak this thing. Um, until it becomes a reality and yes, you can do that.  [00:14:38] But here's the thing, here's the thing you keep saying, you keep saying it and you begin to operate in there. And most of the time. You, you're not going to receive it until you begin to move on it. Very. Okay. So once you begin to, once you begin to walk in and then you can receive these particular gifts and people forget that when [00:15:00] you ask another person you're asking, you're asking God for a gift for him to give you a gift of one of his most beloved, one of his most precious things that he.  [00:15:14] So children are the heritage of the Lord and some of the womb is his reward. You're asking him to give that to you to bring that into your life because I'm so tired. I'm just, I just think. Right. Okay, great. So this happens then what then what are you prepared? Are you prepared? This is for the fellas. Are you prepared to actually, uh, provide.  [00:15:41] And, and to protect, are you prepared to actually cultivate, to serve and to serve. Are these things a part of, have they been a part of your study more than often than not, you know? Cause you know, we say, oh, I want this person. I want to marry this person. And oh yeah. I love like Christ loved the [00:16:00] church and have no earthly idea of whoa, what we're getting into.  [00:16:03] Have no earthly idea what that really means. Like before you even get to get into the cross, you got to go to, oh, let me put the air back on. Cause my homie did your dirty. I think that date, like, it's that deep, you know, I shout out to Peter though. That's my dog, you know? I mean, you think about what Paul said when brother said, man, he counted me faithful.  [00:16:28] Yeah. Somebody who was a blast Famer. Yeah. A persecutor. Yeah, but he entrusted Paul with the gospel still after all the things he did. But then I, as a man have the nerve to say, I'm going to take this woman and love her. Um, a little bit. And the thing, the thing that we don't really understand is when I say that I've set my affection upon you.  [00:16:54] When I say that, now I have that. You're the one that is going to be the queen of my [00:17:00] castle. Oh, well now I have. Let me sit you over here to the side. Okay, God, again, I'm going to take one of your most precious things and I'm going to look after I'm going to be the one that provides and protects. And so then when you hurt this individual's feelings, you know, worry about nobody else comes to knock at your door.  [00:17:21] You getting one of these, Hey dog. You remember when we had that conversation? Like yeah, you do you remember the conversations and the things you told me you were going to do?  [00:17:33] Yeah. Well, what happened? And see what had happened was like, Adam, is that a woman you see ditches over here? You know, um, she's real convincing you trying to make up something when the reality is, man, he ain't tried to hit all that. The only none of that. It's like, if you don't show up to work, [00:18:00] your job don't care.  [00:18:00] Why you didn't show up why you were late. Like Kevin Hart said it was a dear brother, dear bro in the road. Y'all can see that dear brother, like, man, why didn't you leave 10 minutes earlier? Why didn't you clock into work? Yeah. Yeah. The preparation man prior. Preparation prevents poor performance. Very, very true.  [00:18:23] Now you've got to, I don't think many people ask, like, look what we're talking about goes both ways, ladies. You're not off the hook either. There's been much fumbling of the bag once you even receive it. Okay. So you're not off the hook either, but, but more often than not live would not. We're not preparing, we're not preparing properly.  [00:18:46] For that, which we asked for. Right. We don't just hop up and go to just hop up and go to the gym. Nope. work stuff and go to the gym. Shouldn't be in there. We see them. We [00:19:00] do it's travesty, but you shouldn't don't you should probably have a plan. You know, there's some sweats. Yes. Some, some sort of gym shoe, you know, something might be, yeah.  [00:19:11] You know, YouTube was out there and a lot of videos, you know, about working out stuff like that. Like I said, you get your little plan something. Yeah. But now we just get in there and then two weeks in, I tore my rotator cuff. Cause I'm trying to do back, flips off the pull up bar, man. Yeah. And I'd probably ended myself or somebody else for sure.  [00:19:32] A little, because like you said, I haven't first studied myself. I haven't, you know, studied this other individual. So now when I get out of control yeah. I've not only hurt myself, but then as well. Yeah. Yeah. And that's, you know, that's, that's, that's a tough one. Sometimes come back from it is sometimes you can, sometimes you can not because they may not be operating in that unconditional love.  [00:19:59] It's very [00:20:00] true. You know, and that's, and I think, you know, many times. Just because we're operating in that, I feel like you have to be right. That's not what that person is more often than not. It's not where they're going to be more than likely part of the reason that you're able to come together, that they're on the path they're on their way.  [00:20:25] Let's, let's not get it a confused. Don't try that. Don't try to pull somebody along vacuum. That's being stagnated. Don't try to pull them into this ramble glove when the main man, they just want you for your hero. Hey, now you need, you need where to calls you need the way to cost. Is it worth it? If it is.  [00:20:47] I mean, that's what you, whoever you pray to at night. Yeah. If it's not, don't go in that house and don't do it. You don't want to take your heroes into an, a guy paid around. [00:21:00] Cause again, you try to make a what's temporary forever. This is you can't, you can't take this type and, and, and give it to everyone.  [00:21:12] I don't, I don't think so. No like that to me, that unconditional love you are more than likely. You're probably going to have it for one person. Oh, goodness. That's my opinion. Family. Tell me if you agree, or if you disagree, but you are going to have an unconditional love for one person, because most of the time we have.  [00:21:31] Some set limits, you know, I'll, I'll take this much, you know, from you, I take this much from my kids. I'll take this much from the parents. I'll take this much from my coworkers. Yeah. You know, I swear if Johnny come by here one more time and knock this, this desk basket with these reports, um, which left him khakis off of it.  [00:21:53] It's going to be a wrong, you know, I'll, he's going to hear the glass shatter and good old Jr. And I'm [00:22:00] passing out stutters. Yeah. But you know, that, that unconditional, because that takes a lot. It does take a lot of it. It takes, it takes a lot, you know, to try to operate in that because when somebody figures out that they're getting, you know, just a little bit of that, amen.  [00:22:17] They're going to test that thing. Oh yeah. They're going to, who they're going to. As far as they can, let me see how far I can go before I almost get choked. You know, how, how far can I push you in the limits of your peace? Because I'm so used to dealing in, you know, whatever realm I was over here, whether it was my parents, let me do whatever I wanted to do.  [00:22:40] Whether it was when I went to school, I was, you know, the guy and I never got in trouble for my actions. Were there. I was just the smartest cat. So I never had to study, you know, there was always something that allowed me to not, you know, have to have any care or concern for how I treated people in the world.  [00:22:58] Yeah. [00:23:00] And so when I figure out again, oh man, you know, you're just going to love me through everything. Okay. Well, let's see. Look right. When does your everything. See, here's the thing. A lot of people don't understand, like when you get to this particular level, does it stop? You know, they asked the question, well, how many times in the particular day am I supposed to forgive this individual?  [00:23:25] He tells them 70 times. It's that's seven and most people, they, they take that as unlimited, but no question that is a math problem with an answer. So therefore it has a solution. Okay. So because of that, it has an old 2000 rollover minutes, D and D, and then y'all got to happy with the other live on the plan.  [00:23:48] You can call folks before nine o'clock blessing. Listen. But when you got that bill, that first time that you, you can win over and you went home, you didn't beat. Oh my God. [00:24:00] I feel, you know, I, you know, I, I think what we don't, but we don't understand so often is that people with. And I think as people we strive to want to love people through their faults, to want to love people through, you know, some of the muck and mire, because we all have a past, we all have things that have shaped and molded us into who we are, but that doesn't mean that this other individual doesn't have principles.  [00:24:23] Right. And it is an unfair situation for me to ask the love you have for me to supersede the principles you have for yourself. For sure. You know, again, for those of us that are of the household, You know, God has principles. He was a man of principle and you know, we so often on, you know, yeah, it's this unconditional disregard pay love.  [00:24:46] He does. Yeah. But when he said not even an iota, right, it's going to get it right. Not even not older as saying that's what he meant. So I can test them all. I want, I can do whatever I want [00:25:00] to do. Y'all still love yesterday. I'm going to live all kinds of ways and do all kinds of things. I still love you.  [00:25:06] Oh, I didn't die. Okay. I get to get in. No, sorry about that. Be don't look like you're going to the left to the left, you know, and then how, how many of us, you know, just, you know, just, just for the brush, how many of us, you know, treat this woman? Call out a name. Don't do the things that we're supposed to do was men, but then get mad right when she had enough.  [00:25:34] Yeah. When her principals finally meet the principals kick in. Yeah. And okay. Hey, and it's, it's not, you know, I think, you know, the worst part is when somebody leave you in peace. Yeah. And it's not a knockdown drag out and it's not a, they're not cussing and tossing your stuff out in the yard. Yeah. Yeah.  [00:25:53] But when they just, all right, well, Hey, you know what, I'm not saying you can't play in this, in this league, but you just can't play for [00:26:00] this tape. That's a maternity. Right. That's the individual that's matured in love, right? Because they have a love for themselves. It's I'm not, I'm not going to give you that type of energy.  [00:26:09] I'm not going to let you get me a ride up and tell you what stuff. Right.  [00:26:16] If he don't come pick me up up the curve by Thursday, trash is coming to pick it on up. Okay. God bless. You may keep you in college, his face shine upon you. My number no more that you blocked. You're blocked this message at the end of this, this whole mission. Impossible.  [00:26:34] Don't blew up pretty much in this and that's all you got. Right. But then all our feelings are hurt because we missed out on because now that. Right. Like, I always missed the sun when it stopped shining. Oh, I just wish it was warm again. But then in the summertime, y'all cussing out the weatherman. When he talking about it's a 98, he didn't dicks listen.  [00:26:57] And his brother just tried to do his job. Yeah. We [00:27:00] just letting you know it's going to be 102 for the next three weeks. Okay. Prepare yourself. Govern yourself accordingly. Listen, I've got to go back and say this right here. Uh, it's an NHL job. To love everybody through everything. I just, I just want to throw that out there.  [00:27:18] Don't tell me that people want to do that. They feel like because they, you know, are striving for this type of love. That means they have to share it and shower everyone that they meet. With this particular, no, man, if y'all don't stop that. Hey, you know what, and again, if you're a person of faith and you disagree with me, that is just perfectly fine.  [00:27:40] That's your prerogative. I tell you, like, you know, Hey, I need a little bit more holy ghost in here. Maybe that's what I need to give me a little bit less. My, and they say all the time when he lived with my whole Legos left. Cause. No, I don't, I don't have that type of energy and patience for every single individual.  [00:27:57] It would be great if I did, [00:28:00] it would be great if I did, but I ain't got it. I'm not there yet in my walk with Christ. There's only one. I do the mark in the void. There's only one. He didn't do like, Ooh, there's only one that can do that is capable of that. For for everyone. That's not us. That's not our calling the truth.  [00:28:20] It's not. So stop beating your head against the table, trying to make sure you get some and you hit some too. It doesn't. No, because I just don't know if you can truly, truly give that to everybody with the energy and effort that you have to put out, right with the study, the care and concern you have to give to an infant.  [00:28:45] Um, to get to a place where one you, because I, I don't, you know, and again, you know, family comment and tell me if you disagree. I don't think this, this is this level of love. Isn't something that's developed, you know, in three [00:29:00] months, in six months, it takes time. And I think at first starts with, it's going to be a conscious choice that I am striving for you to give you this unconditional love.  [00:29:15] And again, it's a choice. So there may come a day in time when I choose not to the same way you may choose not to because it just man. Yeah. But we have, we have to see if we're going to put in, you know, that amount of work for each other. Yeah. Cause that's that that's a lot for sure. That that's a lot.  [00:29:36] What role does the fellatio and the Eros love play in the got Baylor.  [00:29:45] It plays a small role, but it also depends upon, you know, like you said, Hey, we're talking about potentially the marriage construct, then it's going to play a part. [00:30:00] But I think, I think this is a, because it is the highest level. It doesn't play a major part. Right. It'll feed into it a little bit. Um, especially for married individuals.  [00:30:11] Yes. You're going to need that physical. That keeps you close. These are the instructions there, right? Right. You're going to need to be able to. Have solid conversations as friends do some real conversation, some open ones, so I can get to them that that is the key to intimacy. Man. People, people are understanding intimacy into me.  [00:30:32] I see. Then how do we do this by having an actual conversation about who you really are? So you got to pull your shades down and be vulnerable and be like, you know, every now and again, bro, I just feel like I just want to haul off and slap somebody. I really don't know where this comes from. Maybe it's from my father, possibly from my mother.  [00:30:51] I really don't understand, but I know for a fact, my grandfathers used to get around every now and again, it's not carrying a few people, so maybe it's just a part of the DNA somewhere, but I [00:31:00] feel that way. Let's talk about it. Let's make sure I ain't really around here slapping folks because that's. Right.  [00:31:05] I feel like you used the word vulnerable and for that, that unconditional love, I think that is one of the secret ingredients. Yes. Because if I say that I'm going to give you this. love this unconditional love, then you need to see. Get naked with you. Yes, emotionally, you know, in my mind so that you can see that I'm really trying to get down through this thing with you, because I don't know if you ever really want a hundred percent, believe me.  [00:31:37] If you've never see my own nakedness. Right. And trying to do that for you in terms of you being, you know, um, like you said, I'm, I'm naked emotionally, I'm naked, mentally. What afraid to share those things that you've been asshole spiritually. That's the deepest to me that really kind of seals that thing.  [00:31:55] Right. I can get spiritual with you and [00:32:00] share my particular journey and my growth process and those types of things. But you know, you can't share that with everybody. No, yes. It's not because some people just want to know that to use it against you. Right. Right. And that's, you know, that's unfortunate, but that's what has my sister said, baby?  [00:32:18] You got to have better design though. Yes. You got to be able to deserve that, that he looked through. And see dry land agreed. Evil duals is out there. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, guard your heart with all diligence, right? That's what it's talking about that you gotta know to, to whom you can into them. You cannot, it's not for everybody.  [00:32:39] You, the reality is is you are not for everyone and you gotta be okay with it. And I think sometimes we're just not. Yeah. I don't know if that's the Facebook age in a sense that maybe, you know, I need all the friends. And so then in real life, when I'm not getting likes in real life, when I'm not getting comments in real life, my feelings [00:33:00] get hurt.  [00:33:00] Right. Because somebody disagrees with me, right. Because somebody has a different opinion than me. And now we don't sit the same saddle in, instead of. Trying to grow and listen to these, you know, other opinions or just having the maturity. Okay. Well then we just don't need the rock right on, on any level and that's just fine.  [00:33:20] That's okay. I want to just, no, no. Let me chase after you for 30 more years now, man. Let's let's let's not do those things, family disagree before we go. What joy, what piece do we find that I got bay love, man. Definitely the piece is going to be there because, you know, you're making a conscious decision to give what another can not repay.  [00:33:48] Hmm. Um, and the joy that comes from that is you're operating in a strength that is not your own. Right, right. Because you're making this decision to [00:34:00] say, you know, And in spite of what you made, say, do think, feel in spite of how you may act this gift is for you. I agree, family. The thing that I want to leave you with is that in that a God bay love first, you know, like all the other levels of love, do you have an unconditional love?  [00:34:24] Do you, you know, on days when you weren't, when you weren't your best, do you begin to cuss yourself out? Do you begin to now speak ill of your own life? Um, because you don't want those things. You don't want those seeds to get planted in your subconscious, you know, and then, you know, one thing that I want you guys to take one concept that I want you guys to take from, you know, from the unconditional love, is that in that, in that, uh, God by love, because it covers so many things, is that you're not always going to know what, okay.  [00:34:52] It looks like. But in unconditional love, you're always going to be okay, family. We should do. Thank you guys for tuning in with [00:35:00] us today. Make sure you guys are like follow and subscribe on our YouTube, Facebook and Instagram page. Check us out on apple podcasts and Spotify. Always guys, we hope you were able to listen, learn and grow.  [00:35:10] We will talk to you guys later.

ESOM Episode 15 - Eros love [00:00:00] What's going on with family, Kevin and Jesse here with you guys today. Uh, the elite state of mind podcast. That's how you doing today? Great, man. How are you? I am doing wonderful today. Uh, family, make sure that you guys go ahead and like follow and subscribe to our YouTube, Facebook and Instagram page.  [00:00:16] You can also find us on apple podcasts and Spotify as well. Family. Our goal is always is to listen, to learn and grow. So what we're going to do today, family, we're going to continue talking about the levels of love last time. You know, we had a really great conversation about that for Leo love and what that love is, make sure you tune into that episode and tell us what you think about it, family.  [00:00:39] What I want you guys to share your thoughts and knowledge with us about today is that, you know, the second level of love that, that Eero flow, maybe this is the love that decorates the house. That sets up, you know, the nice things, the things that are appealing to the eye, but [00:01:00] sometimes you got to watch those houses.  [00:01:01] You go in  [00:01:08] very true, very true is every house to go in angel house. What is that? He rolls love, man. Arrow's love is the love that has to do with the physical. Attributes in nature, uh, the appreciation of the physical round. I like how you said the appreciation of and what I want to say, fam. You need to have an heroes love for yourself, man.  [00:01:38] Yes. You build to appreciate yourself. Yeah. In the physical, I'm not talking about vanity, right. But I'm talking about an appreciation of the body that was granted to you. Yes. And you need to be doing something. That makes sure that body is operating at peak efficiency. Yes. That it is, you know, all the things that it is designed to [00:02:00] be and do, whether that is you need to be taking walks, going to your gym.  [00:02:05] Uh, you need to, if you love yourself, you need to make sure that you're consuming good fuel all of that, man, this and that. There, there are so many of us and we've all been guilty of. Not showing ourselves the love that is actually required, uh, for this body to operate well, like you said, we'll start off with the walking.  [00:02:33] The body has the ability to walk 200 miles a day, purchase set up of, you know, the biomechanics of it. You can walk 200 miles per hour. Well, you just need to put your Nethery in three though, right? so the reality is you have much more capacity. To [00:03:00] do the work necessary to make sure the body as well. Then you think you do right?  [00:03:06] Understanding that, you know, from a 30 minute walk that the body releases, you know, free fatty acids for at least the next 12 hours after that particular walk. So if we're carrying a little more body fat than what we should, then we need to begin with the walk. Because it's efficient as turning a fat into fuel.  [00:03:28] That's just, that's just the beginning aspects of that I was talking about, like you said, what we're actually putting into our body. That's the biggest form of hate that we show ourselves. Oh. Especially in, you know, the American culture, the biggest form of hate that we show ourselves to. Completely read our plates of the vegetables and to take these GMOs, these foods that are, you know, hyper preserved into our body.  [00:03:59] Like when [00:04:00] we ingest that, the reason why, excuse me, many times that, you know, our body fat actually gets out of control is because whenever we take in these particular preservatives, Our stomach, our, our, our gut bacteria really can not recognize, uh, these particular foods or what to do with them. So the only thing that they're going to do with.  [00:04:20] It's going to be a spillage, but nobody really wants to hear that because it tastes so good to me. It looks so good and it tastes so good that toxic love that the toxic love break over that toxic look, burst open Glades. And now I can now family. Now, when y'all do see me out here with a pine just live there is ice cream.  [00:04:39] Don't, y'all say nothing to me because I just saw it at the Walmart number. Get me get me one, but just know the Lord is working on me in my ratio. In moderation. And the thing that we don't, we don't know how to be moderate about anything. No. Zero to a hundred. Yeah. Either not eating it all on my plate is full [00:05:00] of things that doesn't need to have on it.  [00:05:03] Why have we got so engulfed in, you know, in, you know, dealing with that Eros, love of not looking at ourselves or wanting ourselves to be appealing or desirable to. I think we bought into. Just again, the wrong, the wrong language, the wrong language gives you the wrong idea. The wrong idea, use the wrong perception and the wrong perception that's going to cause you to take the wrong actions, right?  [00:05:34] It's going to change the habits that you know, that you should be doing into what you think you should be doing. So we have instruction as to what it is. We need to be doing how we are to care for ourselves. Uh, but we choose to take a different route because. We're looking outward for an answer that was already given to us internally getting into the [00:06:00] bad doctorates.  [00:06:00] Yes. Yeah. That's what it is. All right. It's a, for lack of better term, it's a piss-poor doctrine. That's going to allow you to, uh, tell you that, Hey, you don't need any realm in any type of self-discipline whatsoever, as it pertains to. You know, self-discipline and that he rolls low, but everything needs to go hand in hand.  [00:06:25] Yeah. Cause sometimes we just let that thing spill on over everywhere and you're giving out love everywhere pretty much. Or what you deem to be. Oh, no. Right. What you deem to be low passing out around, like it's killing you. You.  [00:06:44] Oh,  [00:06:49] no. And I think, you know, the, the purpose of the Eros love, again, this is my opinion, family telling me if you, if you disagree, or if you agree [00:07:00] well, so that, yeah. The, the chemicals that are released from seeing something that you desire from something that you know is appealing to you, did that is one of the purposes of that erodes love.  [00:07:12] When you see something or someone that now makes your heart rate elevate, it makes your blood flow. It makes you begin to think, you know, certain things and in the right situation, there's nothing wrong with that. That's key. Right? But like you said, you just passing the plate out to everybody. And everybody don't even be eating off your plate.  [00:07:34] Nah, they don't need to see the Joe type. They shouldn't home. Everybody can't come in your house when we're dealing, when we're dealing with this. And there are, there are such, you know, especially today we don't put enough. We, we all go, you know, so much, you know, straight to that erodes love without understanding what its, what its purpose really is.  [00:07:59] You know, in [00:08:00] the confines, if you, if you are a person of faith, you know, to keep you and this individual close to the, this person that you have set your affection. It's always going to be the apple of your eye. Right. So then when you think about this person being bone of your bone, flex of your flesh, right?  [00:08:18] It has a meaning to you, opposed to, it was, you got me into to me on Tuesday. Right. But on Thursday, Hey, whatever, when you ain't got the same thing. Yeah. How, how do we stay in a place where we use the rose level of love for this purpose? I like you said it has to be, uh, maintained in the right confines again, because we've misconstrued the language.  [00:08:52] We feel like it's for everybody. Uh, and the reality is, like we said, we have to obtain. [00:09:00] More self-discipline because it's not for everyone. Everyone can handle, uh, you know, who you are and what you have to give true. It could be too much. Um, and that's, that's, that's when we see the, the overreacting and you know, all of this.  [00:09:18] We're getting connected, uh, to no individual or individuals who cannot really deal with the power source, that issue we're dealing in. Whenever that connection is made, you're dealing in, um, vibration and you're also dealing in energy for, so, you know, just like any stock. Some stars have more energies than others.  [00:09:47] So if they combined from time to time, what will they do either? They're going to burn. Because the energies are equal or one's going to overtake another, till they burn out, [00:10:00] you become a falling star. Oh, don't burn up. Right. So it's one of those things that you've gotta be aware of the, of the energy level, the vibration and the, you know, the frequencies that, that in which a person operates right on an ad.  [00:10:17] And it's not, it's not for everybody. Very, very, not very much true. And, you know, in, in dealing with, in dealing with this, this erodes love, and as you said with the star, you know, at sometimes they may burn out when somebody who you did set your affection upon who you had, this, this erodes love for when they then tell you, Hey man, you know, I just don't have that for you anymore.  [00:10:46] Or I don't have it. X Y Z reason sometime, you know, we, we take it super personal and I understand cause those things can be hurtful. Right, right. But when do we take it as, you know, either [00:11:00] one, maybe me and this person have just grown apart or two, if I'm no longer in the state of which this erodes love was founded.  [00:11:12] Maybe I should work on getting back there. Yeah. But that, you know, that goes where we said, you know, prior episode, like if we're building only on E rose that you have a very shaky foundation, so there's, there's nothing really to really hold you all, you know, together. And like you say, you shouldn't take it personally, you know, that's, that's a decision that, you know, the other individual has made.  [00:11:35] Um, you respect that decision. Whether you agree or disagree, but if it's your goal to actually, you know, work towards bringing it back, then you have to make sure that one, this person actually wants to do that because more often than not, we'll see town with one person wants to hold on and you're going to bring it back.  [00:11:54] And the other person's back. I want to, I just don't feel that way. [00:12:00] And so, uh, like you said, the expression of hurt feelings and, um, there's going to be a lack of really, uh, of mental awareness that is that's there because the individual is telling you exactly. You know, where they are. Uh, listen, I don't want to do this thing any more.  [00:12:17] The way I. Express myself about you and to you. I no longer feel it's beneficial for me to do so now. So I'm going to be, they a lot of times by themselves, or maybe they got somebody else, whatever. Um, what you got to take at face value throughout too is can you get back on the same page? It's doable. It's going to take some work, but they have to be also open, willing to that.  [00:12:41] You know, you can't force, you can't force them, um, to show that particular expression towards you and nor should you true. I mean, we had the old Bishop when you sat at a time like this, and if you all are in this, in this marriage relationship, neither one of you should have [00:13:00] to beg for physical attention time of the year.  [00:13:05] Stop buying into the, oh, I'm going to teach you this. Or, you know, you didn't do this way. Or, you know, I didn't get the gifts that I wanted, so he's not getting any like, Come on, look out seven, understand, you know what works again. This reciprocity thing keeps bringing its itself to the forefront. Right?  [00:13:30] People have to understand, okay. Hopefully this helps. Okay, listen, this man. You're married to a man. This man is going to need. That particular physical touch is to it's like gasoline to the fire, to the fire. You know, if he's able to receive this particular form of love inside the right context, there is nothing that he won't be able to do or want to do to make sure that relationship is up and [00:14:00] going.  [00:14:00] Right. If we just look at the physiology of it this after some time, if a man is not receiving this particular type of love, His testosterone levels are going down, right? His health, the what I'm talking about, markers of, you know, heart rate and all these things are falling down. Right? You can literally kill a man.  [00:14:24] You can literally kill amen by if they're in that type of long-term relationship. And they're not getting this particular type of love. His health is going to decline, right? Just like in the reverse, if you're not showing that you're married to a woman and you're not showing her the attention and affection, which is the gasoline for her to do the thing that you would like for her to do that you can't be surprised.  [00:14:53] Well, she's not doing those things. When she say you remember that time where you didn't have no time, somebody else,[00:15:00]   [00:15:04] we pretty much Martin was not lying when he said that. I mean, you gotta, you gotta rub defeat. You gotta give out the massages. At least try. You gotta make an, the till, at least try, you know, at least try to do it to do something. Cause it was. Somebody else rubbing him  [00:15:26] stop.  [00:15:30] Don't don't be upset because you were given, you were given the opportunity by this individual to do and be all the things that they need to do to do and be. And if, either through your own, just lack of want to your ignorance, to the attention, to their needs, or, you know, your own selfish. Um, again, how long do you expect somebody to stay somewhere and they're not getting their needs met?  [00:15:58] Yeah, [00:16:00] not long. I mean, if I was to be honest, it's like, not long if I walk into the store. Okay. I walk in Walmart, you know, they're supposed to have, you know, XYZ, but I ain't found X. Right. Okay. I'm going to be a little irritated pretty much. Now I go to the Y. And they ain't got why I'm going to Chris.  [00:16:22] Right? Cause I know Chris got it. And Walmart don't be mad at me. Right. Cause when I came in here and gave you the opportunity first, you didn't take care of my needs. You weren't ready for the opportunity presented itself. Gotta be ready for these opportunities. The question I do want to ask you is what part does the filet of friendship love?  [00:16:44] And either sustaining or propelling that erodes love, it plays a, plays a major part. So if you, if you want your heroes love, uh, to elevate to a higher level focused [00:17:00] on friendship, right? If you focus on the friendship aspect, go on and give a demo. If you focus on the friendship aspect, like what did we say last time?  [00:17:12] Hey, anticipating care is anticipating the needs of others, of others. So that puts you in a serving mindset. So if you're in a serving mindset, then your actions are going to be. Of that looking at, what do you need? Do you need some more water? Hey, I saw these clothes to be washed. I wasn't quite sure if they could be tried, but I went ahead and wash them.  [00:17:37] Thanks. I just, I knew you didn't have the time you knew you're looking for the opportunity. Uh, to serve. So it makes it easy when it's time to serve again in a physical round, that'd be, it makes it that opportunity. You've created an atmosphere to where that is going to be the natural progression. That's going to take place, right?[00:18:00]   [00:18:00] Because now you've done some things. And to my eye, when I think back on what you've done without me having to ask, but I'll be having to prod the bag. There you go. And now I look at you with a certain desire. My level of affection has changed because you have, without me saying anything to you showed me this affection.  [00:18:19] And like you said, now the fire just burns even more. Now it's a, it's a 12 o'clock text. What'd you up to. Wait till I get home, that, that guy, you know, it's one of them, but then on the, you know, on the other, on the other hand, why so often do you know, we just, you know, we forego that, that filet old love and in, oh, Hey, I laid your clothes out for you.  [00:18:43] Oh, Hey. You know, I, I went ahead and made bottles for you. Oh, go ahead. I went ahead and, you know, vacuum today for you. Yeah, no, I didn't do none of that. But I need you to do what I need you to do, right. It's going to difficult. Right? I [00:19:00] think a key tool is, you know, we have the book here, um, in front of us.  [00:19:04] Five love languages. You know, Gary Chapman, it's a, it's a bestseller for a reason, for a reason. It's a best seller because, you know, Hey, is there a lot more to it than that? Yeah. But it's going to give you a good starting point of, you know, person you're dealing with is going to, you're going to find what they need inside of these five areas.  [00:19:26] Right. You're going to find, oh, they respond to this acts of service. They do. You know, we gifts. So like you said earlier, what's important to me. It may not be as important to another person, but I got to study to know what I need to do in that, from my, from my friendship, love, I should be taking my action because off of that, they like to ask of servers.  [00:19:52] Let me make yourself. You know what I'm saying? That's important. Oh my gosh. Yes. They gone off to work or [00:20:00] something, man. They made that sandwich. Now, let me see what I can do for them. I never forget when I was at UCO, man, my best friend, I call him the chief. For some reason, you know, we was sitting there hungry, bro.  [00:20:12] And he was, he was people he was talking about. We were talking about sandwiches. He looked at me say, man, you ever had a sandwich made with love. He said, just a sandwich made with love. And you know, now it'd be an old you're like, I know their brother will say it when somebody does something for you. Yeah.  [00:20:31] Just, just out of love, as simple as making the sandwich as simple as. Bring your cup of coffee. Yes. As simple as getting your gym bag, ready, whatever these things are. But when they do them in love, yes, there's a totally different response. And normally you're going to have, because of the act and the thought that this person put into your wellbeing, like you say, into your care, into again, [00:21:00] you know, seeing you succeed and that, you know, that's, when I believe that he Rose Love goals.  [00:21:07] You know, the next level that passes through the, the Monday. It's no longer. Okay. Well, every Saturday at six 30, you know, we got there, we got this weekly appointment. Yeah. It didn't become spontaneous. Right. Then it would come to just, you know, stoking that fire by the ax. I asked him service or just the thoughtfulness that's there.  [00:21:31] Yeah. Before we get out of here, what are, what. You know, some of the pitfalls of one, you know, letting your arrows love, you know, go out. But then, well, first let's go with only having an Eros love. And then let's say you have established your, for Leo love, but then letting the erodes love burnout. Okay. Uh, if you only have an Eagle's lab, then you don't have much of a foundation, right.  [00:21:59] Because it's [00:22:00] merely on, you know, the outwards, the. And if that's the case, you know, that's going to change at some point in time, um, that can change this just through time. It's going to change. Um, God forbid there's any injuries or anything of that nature then? Yeah. It's not much to actually stand on. Not much.  [00:22:22] 'cause it's, it's predicated on, um, you know, what you see. And so the next time you see something that looks a little better to you, that's what you're going to jump to. So there's problematic there. It's not a good foundation to be on. And so, secondly, if you have a good foundation, I brotherly love and you've allowed, you know, your physical love to wane, uh, do whatever you can.  [00:22:47] So hit the reset button to restart. And th the main thing we can do is begin to study again, right? Because when you really, when you really, really have, uh, a good friendship with [00:23:00] somebody, right, you pay, you're paying attention, you're paying attention. So I say, go back to that particular part where you begin to pay attention again, and you, you know, you watch, you just assume, what things are you doing?  [00:23:12] How do you do that? I really liked the way you folded that shirt. You know what I'm saying? Even though you doing simple things like that to begin to say, oh, so everybody knows that we're paying attention to another year, the reset button, I become a tentative to you and your needs. Definitely. I just want to let you know, I'm in the game.  [00:23:31] I'm back in the game when I'm paying attention. Cause I don't want, you know, Johnny to pay more attention to you than I'm paying. Right. I know that means something to you, right? So no, no, no, no, no. See, she here, I'm going to make sure that I'm paying attention. It came, nobody see you the way I see you.  [00:23:47] Right. So kinda know that it's important to let that be known. That's not always, you know, from the gift and that, and the other that that builds upon itself. But, but they're fully aware [00:24:00] that yeah. You on my radar. Yeah. Oh yeah. Oh yeah. I see. I see you and let's go, and it's a thing. So, you know, taking it from there and building from that issues, uh, family, what I, what I want to leave you guys with today is if you have.  [00:24:19] Falling into the trap that your erodes love. Isn't where it needs to be. Man. Let's first go look at ourselves and do we excite ourselves? Ooh, do I, do I look at myself? Hey Ben, how you doing? Oh, oh, that shirt fit. Nice on me. Like, like you said earlier. Yeah. He has my language to myself. Yeah. One that will excite me because then my boss.  [00:24:45] Yeah, it has no choice, but to excite somebody else raised. So whatever it is you need to do to get that he Rose Love back for you. Sometimes I need to cut some people off. Sometimes you need to cut some plates off. Sometimes you need to, you [00:25:00] know, you need to cut some Shoals off. Yes. And you need to take in some positive things and get around people that are encouraging you.  [00:25:05] But king, nobody encourage you. Like you like yourself, who talks to you more than you do nobody. And if somebody. You might need to reevaluate that thing, kind of you evaluate their language. So make, make sure, you know, you have looked at yourself and you were doing the things and be very intentional about how you feel about you.  [00:25:25] So you can get back to a place of excitement for yourself. Make sure you guys go ahead and drop us a comment about what to thought about what we talked about today. We would love to hear from you guys and your thoughts about. You know, all the levels of love. And we thank you guys for tuning in with us today.  [00:25:39] We know it would not have been what it was had you not taken time out to give us a listen to make sure you guys liked following subscribed to our Facebook, YouTube, and Instagram. You can also find us on apple podcast and Spotify. You'll have a great day. We'll talk to you later.

ESOM Episode 14 - Love [00:00:00] What's going on, family, Kevin and Jesse here. What you guys here at least state of mind podcast. This is how you doing today. Great man. I am doing excellent and amazing family makes sure that you guys like follow and subscribe to our Instagram, Facebook, YouTube also, now family, you can find us on apple and apple podcasts and Spotify as always guys, our goal is to listen, learn and grow families.  [00:00:23] Well, we are going to get into is something that I believe we all strive to find in ourselves and in others, we're going to talk about love the different levels of love. What love means to you? What love represents to you over these next few, over these next few times that we meet, we're going to discuss, we're going to discuss love Jessie.  [00:00:45] What is love? Man you will, this, this, this is that there is no, it's not a simple answer. It is what it is. So for me on a personal level, [00:01:00] God is love. Okay. So I'm going to run. Just about everything through that particular fill that prison. Right. Um, so just understanding that, you know, from, from that aspect, uh, love is a debt.  [00:01:19] Hm. Okay. And so that many people believe that love is about what you can receive. The reality is love was more so about what you can give. so from that particular perspective is where we're going to begin to flow. Okay. Okay. I agreed the definition I found of love, love being an intense feeling of deep affection of deep affection.  [00:01:50] Okay. As you said, you know, God being loved, you know, we know I'll go into this just for a moment. The love went to the cross for you. [00:02:00] Love came through 32 generations. Love did some, some man, some great things that, you know, for a lot of us, we couldn't have done half of what love is already done for us before we even stepped foot on this earth.  [00:02:16] The, the, the depth of love, I think, is something that over time, When you really begin to get into it and experience it, it's such an amazing feat. It's such an amazing thing to actually go and do and live every day. If you're trying to live your life, uh, in love, you will find higher Heights and deeper depths.  [00:02:43] Anytime you actually dive into what love really is. Now, as we know there are different level. Of love the phileo, love heroes, love the God love. Yeah. [00:03:00] So today what I want to get into, and I'll let you expound real quick on the different levels of love, but I want to get into that foundational level, that first one, that for Leo love.  [00:03:10] But if you could break down for us, you know, those all three levels of love, just for a moment, I'm going to go back to the definition, right? Because I don't totally. Uh, what's the definition because it's talking about a feeling, right. And that's what I have issue with. Um, as we know, if we're dealing in the science, if we're dealing in, um, the physiology of the body, um, and how it works in concert with the mind that we understand that these emotions.  [00:03:43] That we also know to be feelings, they are chemically driven. Right. And so those change every 15 seconds based upon what you're thinking, what she heard, you know, the atmosphere that you're in, um, if [00:04:00] somebody didn't cuss you out, you know, things of that nature. So the feeling aspect, I feel, I feel the thought he is okay.  [00:04:09] That might be how, you know, little one. begin to interpret, but you know, because we've progressed, love cannot be a feeling because if it is, that means, you know, the ability to fall in and fall out of gives you the, the opportunity to have it as a scapegoat, to no longer, um, do the thing that you said you were going to do.  [00:04:36] Right. So it, in essence, it cannot be a feeling if it's going to be on. Like we said to be true, to be a higher level. Right. So we'll get into a filet real quick. Okay. Love is not a feeling state of deed. Yeah. Yeah, it definitely is. Right. Because [00:05:00] like you said earlier, you know, uh, there's this brother coming down, you know, 42 generations, uh, knowing that.  [00:05:08] Right. You have a conversation with the creative, the entire universe. It says, listen, I've searched high and I've started slow. I've searched inside there. And I couldn't find anybody worthy enough to really repay this debt. That's why we sit in love is that there is no one here. So you're the best that I have.  [00:05:26] And you're the only one capable. Um, you're the only one that's can really get the job done. Do your mind. And so this individual said. I don't mind. Right? So this pronation is for God, so loved the world. Right. But also he was fully aware that, Hey, I got to go down here and a. Go through some stuff, facts.  [00:05:58] Right? I gotta go. I gotta be fully [00:06:00] aware that I'm going through some stuff. So therefore it has to be a state. And, you know, as the story unfolds, there were many twists and turns and there were plots. He had a homie that went ahead, that he knew from the beginning was gonna turn on him, but still we're going to be cool.  [00:06:14] Anyway, I loved it. I got to still love, no matter what happened. I still got to, I know you're going to do it again, you know? Right. It's so, you know, he had to stay in the state of the state of mind. Right. So. Okay. So in, in the, in the different stages of love, what, what are those for people who might, um, for Laos, brotherly love the roles in the most simplistic terms is going to be, you know, that erotic love.  [00:06:48] The more, you know, the one people feel they feel around there. That's the one that's fleeting. That's the one that comes. No, no, it [00:07:00] comes and goes. Um, I think the key to it, I ain't gonna talk too much about today, but you know, the key to it, there is. You know, the, the, the interconnecting with the individual that's there, right.  [00:07:13] That physical aspect of thing that's going to, you know, actually keep you close, man. And we gonna step on some toes. If you go on this road, for a moment, how can you. You can, because of based upon how you feel, right? The thought is, you know, is in, it was on my nerves. They didn't do what I thought that they should do.  [00:07:36] So because of that, I'm going to withhold the thing. That's really going to get them going and really keep them close to me for why? Because again, the physiology says that when you're close to your individual person, there's a pheromone that is exchanged between the two. That what it does. It causes you to relax and it causes you to be connected on a deeper level and [00:08:00] symbiotic state, man, we're going to experience the world as one through  [00:08:09] I got the love is the highest level that, that, that is the one that we are in search of. That's the one that we are, uh, working towards, uh, becoming right. We're we're working towards becoming. I got paid. That's that's that love the couples, a multitude of sin. Yeah. That's the one, you know, for lack of better terms, if you're a person of faith, that's that first.  [00:08:35] 13 where, you know, I'm not keeping any record. I'm not keeping any record of the wrongdoing, right? That's, that's a state of mind. That's an intention, right? That's there that, you know, I'm not self-seeking, self-serving, um, I'm not rude. People overlook that, that when they deal with another individual, they feel entitled because of.  [00:08:58] How you were brought up. That's great [00:09:00] that, you know, your mom and Nan was spoiled you, but the person that you're dealing with, ain't your mama and them. Right. So if they're going to do some things they're going to get on your nerves are going to rub you the wrong way. They might say something in a tone that brings back a memory that man sets you off and you a little boost in they're about to set it off.  [00:09:13] Right. But you can't be rude not to not have you proclaim to be really right. So anybody, anybody that can anger. Right. This is what we tell them. We talk to different people to the young people, whatever we're saying, Hey man, if you're dealing with somebody and they, and they ignore you to the point that where I, you gotta raise your voice and y'all about to have a physical confrontation, y'all just don't need to be together.  [00:09:41] That ain't the one I'm sorry. I'm sorry. You can't say, oh my gosh. That's just how our love. Loving backhand that ain't love. Thank you. I'm sorry. Not at all. Not at all, man. Love is long suffering. Yeah, it is kind, uh, I love [00:10:00] obviously, you know, love does have some, have some, you know, some, some different things to it, but love is love is definitely not like that.  [00:10:06] One love is kind of like you deal with somebody, friend, family, you know, whatever. Do you have the ability to be kind to them and do their recipients? Because if you can't be kind to the individual, even, even if they've done you dirty, done you wrong, call you outside your name. If you know what I know, if you can't be kind to them, You don't love them and that's okay.  [00:10:33] You have to be able to recognize that and be able to say, listen, um, you know, the elements of a higher level of love that I should be expressing. I cannot, I cannot, I don't have it express it to you. So therefore, I can't say that. I love you. I think so often we confuse a very strong light with we confused and lust, like the heck out of sometimes, but man love will.[00:11:00]   [00:11:00] Even if I've done you wrong. Love will cause me to apologize. Yes. Love would cause me to hate man. It is not worth whatever happened in that mode for you to no longer be in my realm of existence. And what do I need to do? Yeah. To make this thing for sure. But Liko right. It doesn't, it doesn't matter. Right?  [00:11:24] Like it's whatever I go find 30 lines. Yeah. Yeah. And then you move on. I love hits a little different because now you have a fear of, oh man, you might need, that'd be around. Like, you don't want that to happen. Right. I don't, I don't want to do this day in call life without, without you. And so even, even if you've wronged me, like you said, I'm going to apologize.  [00:11:47] Quickly and the faster you, as you mature in it, you're going to apologize quickly. We are fast. Whoa. Before this thing, get out of hand, listen, my fault, [00:12:00] my bad. It was, it was, it was. I apologize. And so from that, from that standpoint, if you're dealing, therefore, you know, your love has matured. So then if you're able to do these things and you see someone that you're dealing with can't receive that chances are chances are that, that that's not an individual.  [00:12:27] I can go on the ride with you. Very true. Very true. I agree with that. So now what I really want to dive into is that first level of love that filial love that the one that I believe sets the foundation for these friendships, for, you know, for your love, like you said, to be able to mature and grow as we know, every house needs to be built.  [00:12:53] Yeah, on the solid side, not on the shake, you're saying right. You need to make sure your foundation is solid. [00:13:00] And so often in, you know, relationships, business, you know, with, you know, with family, we forego that for Layla. Yeah, we just wanted to go straight to the road if I'm in a relationship. Oh, okay. The way you look excites me.  [00:13:16] Right. If I'm in business, oh, the money we can make excites. Right. If you know, from, you know, I see a car, oh, the way this car looks, the gadgets that has it excites me, but I don't have a solid foundation in my love. Yeah. And I think in that, in that for Layla. The, to build that friend, that friendship foundation, that thing takes some time.  [00:13:41] That's when I believe you do learn some of the first steps in being kind and long suffering and learning how to control. One's temper learning how to wrap what you say in love, learning how to, like you said, oh man, I would love to keep you as a friend. [00:14:00] Maybe, let me put myself aside for a moment. Yes. So we can, we can get that thing.  [00:14:04] Right. What, what does, what does the filet of love for you? Um, and I think he did a very, very good job of explaining that, you know, when we were building the foundation, that's when I become aware of, you know, the language that has to be used and the actions that coincide with that particular language. So if I need to be kind.  [00:14:28] As we're exchanging because it takes time. So I'm, I'm learning your language, you're learning my language. And then where we have a meeting in the middle of two, what language we're going to use in order to communicate. So if we're talking in, in I'm rude, And I see the expression, right? Cause initially in friendship, you know, you know, you talking to the home, you want to do this and then look at you sideways.  [00:14:54] You're like, oh my bad, my bad. See, that's a step of building a good [00:15:00] foundation, you know, of the friendship. And that takes time to where the individual is comfortable. With being who they really are. And like we said before in the safe spaces, you have to create a space where this person is okay with being who they are, you know, saying how they say things, um, reacting in the manner in which, you know, they would naturally would react.  [00:15:22] And so if you don't do that, they really can't grow. And neither can you, so you're stifling their particular growth because you want them to respond in one way versus. The way in which they just naturally respond. Sure. You have to give them a space and the grace to grow, um, if it's really important to them, to that place.  [00:15:43] Right? So like you said, that that's a building block and it takes time. Like the real question is what's the cornerstone. Of friendship by, like you said, the point of beginning, you know, in all relationships, you know, there [00:16:00] is, you know, from friends to business, there is, like you said, there is a cornerstone, there is a, there is something that is solid, that in the shakiest of times in the, the troublesome storms, you can either in your mind think back or you, you two can sit down and you can reach for this.  [00:16:18] Or you can, like you said, stand on this cornerstone and say, okay, No matter everything else has happened. We're still this, we are still in the confines of this, of this place. We still have this to stand on, to lean on to this support system. We still have this solid foundation. Yeah. And so, okay. Sometimes we may need to tear down the house, but the foundation is still solid.  [00:16:46] Yes. And if we can do that, because this is still here, then we can rebuild it. And it can be better than what it was before. Yes. But boy, if you ain't got no solid foundation, he's just in trouble. [00:17:00] You all the nature of having a shaky foundation, don't be shaky. Don't be, don't be shaking. You know, if you cut some corners in your love of being friends, if you, if you didn't take good mental notes yes.  [00:17:15] In your friendship, if you know that we're gonna definitely get into is the study. You know, uh, once you know, spouse person, you stay there, but if you have not because the test, like we talked about this last night, next Friday, test days, Friday. Yeah. It tests your study as well was told to us that you labor in love with old material to materials.  [00:17:41] Then do you have the proper materials to make sure you can actually stay. Right. What's your base book? Every single course in college has a base material, has a base, a reading material, and then they tell you, listen, um, yeah, I'm, I'm, I'm going to teach from this particular text, but there's some [00:18:00] additional, there's some additional resources that you need to go by the bookstore.  [00:18:04] And I have them laid out there for you. Go ahead and tell them you're taking courses. Uh, 15 or 30 or 45, whatever it may be. And they know what it is. Do you have all of your materials that you need to study, uh, yourself first and then, like you said, the friend or significant other, and what have you, the, the problem, like you said is we have not, you know, grown and matured in our love to understand that how you receive and your love languages nine times out of 10.  [00:18:38] Not how I do that's right. But if I haven't on your best days, if I haven't made the mental notes of how you act on your best day, when you're hitting at a hundred, if I haven't made mental notes of what you're like on your, just your okay. Day, you know, how you respond to certain things that I may say or may not say when's a good time to joke with you.  [00:18:58] When's a good time not to, not to. [00:19:00] And especially if I haven't made and taking these notes of what it's like for you on your worst day. If I, or if I haven't done those things, because in my experience, when you take the time to study an individual nine times out of 10, before they have a bad day or before y'all have a rift and whatever it is you're going through, you're going to feel it in your spirit.  [00:19:22] Something's off. Something's not right. Something is drip vibration. Isn't what it normally is. Right. When you see me, because with love and we're going to get into this and just a moment, there's a certain way. I react when love comes around. There's a certain exuberance there. Your starting place of joy. I reach.  [00:19:42] Yeah. When love is in the midst. Yes. And when something's off with that love. Normally I can, I can tell. Yes. And you're like, Hmm. Something. Okay. But if I haven't taken the time to study, I'm unaware and I think that's the, [00:20:00] probably the worst place to be because then the storm is going to overtake you. Yes.  [00:20:05] Yes. Not being able to, uh, to being well versed in the temperature, um, the atmosphere in which you are in the pressures. Yes. And the next thing, you know, somebody else is spending time, which yeah. Yeah. Whether you love, uh, you know, you love your job, but you're having to study to show yourself approved at your job.  [00:20:32] The next thing you know, somebody's got your job. Right. But like what you said, the particular line is study to show yourself approved it. Didn't it didn't there's no caveat is. Only in this one area, got to study everything you have to study in multiple areas. If you want to be successful. That is that.  [00:20:55] And you know, there's just such a lack of. Because once we get past, [00:21:00] oh, Hey, my favorite color is blue. My favorite man was the Backstreet bullets back in 2006.  [00:21:12] Well, you never get past those things. Right? Right. So now I'm normal. I'm not attentive to your needs. I'm not, I'm always reactive instead of proactive. I can't hear in the spirit when you are hungry. And so. With a sample. That's right. That's right. I can't hear it in the spirit. Yeah. When you just need somebody to out of the blue.  [00:21:33] Hey, I love you. You're amazing. I just want to encourage you. Yeah. Just wanted to let you know, you know, cause some is something's on my heart and mind. Yep. Because you and I, we share a bond it's not extended and care comes inside of that. Right. Care is the anticipation of the needs of another go, go ahead and tell them about that.  [00:21:54] If, if, you know, for a fact that you know, and that, and that's on [00:22:00] this particular level, we haven't, you know, come to the others. Not yet. No, this is just on the friendship, mom, my boy, we really liked this, man. Let me see if everything is all right. I know he was going through it with, you know, his significant other.  [00:22:14] So let me just see the care concern anticipating. I have another, Hey, I just thought you might need this. So, you know, let me go ahead and just hook you up. Yeah. So if you're not trying to anticipate the needs of another, you really don't care, don't care and you're not afraid you don't care and you don't have a lot of love for me.  [00:22:44] because if you're, if you're trying to study that, like you say, you're trying to study that and. You know, get to a place where that grows internally. So you can feel that vibration, you can get that sense, like, oh, I need to check on so-and-so [00:23:00] anticipating the need. I'm going to show my care and through, you know, the action of me showing my care, you are able to perceive that yo, his brother got some love.  [00:23:12] That's. I mean, you know, love is love is an action. It is a deed. Obviously. It's easy for me to say, oh, I love you, bro. Right. But then if you call me at 12 o'clock and I'll come through you going to begin to question your in how much I'm going to love, because love will get you out to bed. Yeah. Love will make you set aside some time in your day.  [00:23:36] Let me check, let me check to make sure. When you call on me and you need me, love will make me clock in. Like I'm okay. I got that. Cause I want to see you do well. Yes. I want to see you, as you said before, being friends, I want you to pull yourself out of this pit out of. And if you need somebody to throw you a rope.  [00:23:58] Okay. But look, you know what love [00:24:00] also do, or you're not ready to get out. Well, let me put this road down here. Let me climb down here and there with you just for a moment so we can do whatever it is we need to do. Do we need to pray? Do we need to sing a song? Maybe I just need to sit here with you for a second and show you the love will meet you right where it's at.  [00:24:17] Right? Where you at the song writer said it to the lowest valley. Yeah, man. No, there's nowhere. We can go. That he can reach where he can reach his, where he can touch us, but often, you know, why do we, why do we at times pushed us a fringe of love or what, because of the work, because of the work, um, the work and the knowledge that I'm going to have to go.  [00:24:54] I'm going to have to give of myself. I'm going to have to open myself up. This [00:25:00] individual might know some things about me that I may not be comfortable, you know, letting them know about me, vulnerability. Yeah. Yeah. It becomes a thing of, if we're really going to be friends, then I have to allow you. Into my experience.  [00:25:20] If you're willing to enter into my experience, I also have to allow you see the law of reciprocity is still at work. It has to be observed. Can cannot, you cannot get around the law of reciprocity, right? It must be observed unless you are going to, you are going to have a debt. You got to pay with your whole grid.  [00:25:40] Yeah. Yep. You gotta, you gotta pay what your, oh, last thing I do want to get into concerning this, this phileo love. How do we react when we recognize, when we see this love, you have to be willing to accept it [00:26:00] more often than not. We aren't, we aren't, we don't want to give no, not at all. Because there are things that come along with it.  [00:26:11] If I accepted that means again, I'm going to have to give it. And Martha not, we're busy, you know, being takers. And so as we grow and we learn about real friendship, I got to give more. It shouldn't be my intent to give more than, you know, what I get is that I always going to be even. But if you're trying that effort, like we say all the time, like your average has to be there a long way.  [00:26:43] I'm trying, but I got XYZ going on. Okay. Yeah, sure. Communicate that. Okay, cool. I understand. Cool. Not a problem, but if it's all one sided. Oh man. We don't know if we can be friends, man. That's the lack of reciprocation. Yeah. There's [00:27:00] one way stream. Yeah. That's that's tough. It's very tough. That's tough because you, you're not, you're not, you're not loving me.  [00:27:08] I always got to come to your house. Like it it's, it's a thing where let's meet let's can we really communicate the why's behind? Why are we doing what we have to do? You gotta be able to communicate that clearly. And that takes some openness, right? Like you said, though, the word being vulnerable and knowing that, you know, you're still safe, it you're still safe because that's going to increase the level of reciprocity that's going to be there.  [00:27:44] Those are, so those are facts that I just want to leave you guys with this, that, in that fellatio love friends or something. And when you find good friends, when you find some solid, some solid folks, I'm not talking about the shaky [00:28:00] individuals. I'm not talking about these people, like you said earlier, that are so busy being takers, but when you find friends, that'll show up late in the midnight hours.  [00:28:09] That will help you move three years in a row to get down to that thing. You, when you're finding friends that will exchange their gift and talent, we can show you this love and only wants you to succeed. Family. You gotta, you gotta hold close to them. Yeah. I heard when you find a friend, you find somebody that sticks closer than a brother and a brother that lets me know the friendship is deep.  [00:28:31] It's deep, man. It's deep because of brothers, you share a biological bond, right? They said, when you find the. Somebody will stay closer to you than your own brother IFM to make sure that you are showing yourself friendly. And when you are out here and you are trying to find good friends, you show that for Layla.  [00:28:51] We sure do appreciate you guys for tuning in with us today. We know today will not have been what it was had. You guys not talked to us and listen to us, go ahead and make sure you guys, you drop us a line. [00:29:00] Following a comment, subscribe to our Facebook, YouTube, Instagram page. You can also find us on apple and Spotify.  [00:29:06] Y'all have a great day. We'll talk to you later.

Elite State of Mind - Episode 13 - Do Nice Guys Finish Last In this episode Jesse and Kevin talk about the age old question "Do nice guys finish last?" They get into the definition of what a nice guy is and who was the ultimate nice guy. Give it is listen and see which side of the debate you stand on.   Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support.

Elite State of Mind - Episode 12 - Reason, Season, Lifetime Do you have the people and things in your life in their proper place? Or are you reason season and lifetime people out of order? Kevin and Jesse will tell you some of the dangers of having these things out of place and the danger of not recognizing what season you are in. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support.

Elite State of Mind - Episode 11 - Just Show Up Consistence is one of the most important keys to your success. Why are you having a problem just showing up for your self? Are you place the correct level of importance on yourself and your dreams and goals? Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support.

Elite State of Mind - Episode 10 - Serial Starter Do you ever find yourself starting project after project and never seeing anything through to completion? If this is you then maybe you are a serial stater. Do not worry Jesse and Kevin are here to help you. Press play and learn how to finish! Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support.

Elite State of Mind - Episode 9 - Doing It For You Its 2022 and time to do it for you. Jesse is going to share his motto for the new year with you and we want you to do it with us. We want this year to be the best year yet! Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com

Elite State of Mind - Episode 8 - Red Flags and Safe Spaces We all know red flags but are you in a safe space? Are you a safe space for others or are you only learning people triggers to use against them to cause pain? Sit down with Kevin and Jesse as they discuss red flags and safe spaces. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support.

Elite State of Mind - Episode 7 - The 2% Percent Principal Are you worth 2%? Really stop and think about what percent of value do you place on yourself. Do you carve out 2% of your day for your self or are you allowing others to dictate your value? Press play and let Kevin and Jesse tell you about the 2% principle. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support.

Elite State of Mind - Episode 6 - Situationship,Entanglement & Happiness What more do we need to say. Go ahead and listen and hear Jesse and Kevins take on situationships, entanglements and happiness  Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support.

Elite State of Mind - Episode 5 -  Poverty Christianity Its time out for only half of the story. It is time we start operating in our abundance. We will no longer accept just enough Jesus.   Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support.

Elite State of Mind - Episode 4 -  What is a friend You've got a friend in me at least that's what the song says. How do you define a friend? One of the most important questions in this episode is are you a friend to yourself? Press play and lets find out what a friend is. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support.

Elite State of Mind - Episode 3 -  Do You Have The Right Keys In life we will all have many doors to walk through and some to lock. What you need to find out is if you have the right key for the job. Jesse and Kevin discus who cuts the master key as well as some of the dangers of leaving doors unlocked. Subscribe for more official content from ESOM Podcast Official Music | - Sims ft J Silk - "Sound Like" *PodcastVideoLink: https://youtu.be/ZVp2P56wnoA  (Stream Links) Follow ESOM Podcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/EliteStateofmind2 Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/elitestateofmind Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/elite-state-of-mind-podcast/id1607185245 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7DgnBmmi2SENbUvDfXGHMY Booking: Gmail: Elitestateofmind2@gmail.com Thank you for your support.