Maintaining The Me In Marriage And Motherhood

Just a quick end of year check-in. The title pretty much sums it up. Whether it's unresolved issues with family, friends, work or the combination. There are some things that are ready to reset by the new year, but the truth is some things take more than a year to resolve. In this episode, there are a few tips and words of encouragement for the new year. 

It's been a very busy couple months so I had to submit to the times but I'm back! I have had an avalanche of thoughts since my last podcast! So much to unpack lol but mainly self reflection and so many thoughts about midlife and middle age more recently! Midlife people are ranging from married empty nesting… single starting families… single moms to married having more babies.. Divorced and empty nesting…getting remarried having more babies… Starting new careers.. going into entrepreneurship etc. Even the age ranges have been updated in the last couple months since 2021. In this episode.. I'm talking about the new look of middle age… midlife age changes… what is mid life crisis in recent years? How midlife impacts relationships and career?… and suggestions I found of what can be done if it does turn into a crisis! Tune in!

First Day of Mental Health Awareness Month… I'm talking hearts and head space..In this episode.. I'm challenging you to prioritize your mental health EVERYDAY at home and at work! The importance of genuine connection for mental wellness! Learning more than just your love languages…. Nurturing safe spaces… Keeping your heart soft and head space uncluttered! So many gems and tips dropped! Tap in!

Mom guilt goes from pregnancy… “Did I eat enough nutritious food today for the baby?” to childhood “Am I working too much...are they on their Ipad or phone too much?” to adult children “Did I teach them enough to be able to be independent?  It can be a rabbit hole of things to worry about if you don't get ahold of it! LOL!On this week's episode… we are back with special guest… Extreme Execution Coach Crystaliz Green... wife… mom of 2…. mompreneur.. and non profit leader talking about the different phases of mom guilt… embracing your mom style…. gentle parenting styles and the role of self care in keeping things more balanced!!Such a great conversation!! Tune IN!!!!!!

Feeling seen and supported by a few trusted individuals goes a long way. But the quality of support makes the difference in the direction you go.When you're not getting along with your spouse and/or can't seem to get on the same page and the kids are off the chain… you probably do what most people do… Call somebody to vent or get advice.In this episode Im talking about the problem with getting advice from people who aren't qualified, the benefit of getting professional support and 5 questions to consider when you're looking for support. TUNE IN!

Being open to repairing the marriage while considering divorce can sound confusing. But this is a common situation that alot couples go through…. and often times.....Alone. Not having a support system or the right guidance can take things from bad to worse.In this episode.. Im sharing my own insight.. common mistakes and assumptions couples and outsiders make… the kind of support needed during this time… suggestions on how to navigate this awkward, confusing and most of the time painful process.

In this episode... Im breaking down some barriers to productivity…sharing the importance of checking in with yourself and the road to getting your spark back! It only takes one spark to light a fire so get light up!There's no new pictures or avatar changes.. no visuals… no follow up series yet… still no mic. Just me in my same closet/studio sharing my opinion! LOL! After many months of procrastination….Here's the first episode after almost 2 years on hiatus!! Just checking in with you guys and breaking the ice! Enjoy!

It's not that moms don't want to have a self care routine. A lot of times it's just difficult to find a routine that works for us and time to maintain it. There's so much information out there it can be overwhelming and out of reach depending on how full your schedule might be. You may also have a hard time finding qualified support. Tune in to find out a few tips on what support you may need, what some of the barriers are to self care and some ways to overcome them.

Don't ignore the stress in your life... manage it! These last few weeks have been off the chain! Where much is given.. much is required was the mantra! Done is better than perfect... was the other one. Lol. Tune in to hear how basic self care, proper mentorship, and a few other tools can help you manage stress rather than ignore it!

It's the first week in Women's History Month and this has been an ongoing topic this week that started in the Modern Mommie Mogul Clubhouse Room. What do you appreciate about yourself? In this episode I am talking about self appreciation, barriers women have from accessing it, and how it aligns with self care. Tune in!

We can be on a roll getting things done and staying focused... then take a couple of days off and boom off track. You can be eating clean.. drinking your water.. then one celebration and boom you're eating out three times this week! It happens that fast! So on this week's episode I'm sharing a few tips on how to get back on track when you get sidetracked! Tune in!

However you choose to celebrate this year... I'm here to take the pressure of with a few timeless Valentines Day tips for married and single moms! Tune in!

Goodness is never wasted is nothing but pure optimism. It's self care. Do you ever regret time you've spent on something that didn't work out? Have you ever given advice or helped someone and didn't get paid or a tangible return right away? Don't let that turn in to a form of goodness fatigue. Tune in to hear my response to these questions, more about how goodness is never wasted and a bonus of tips from our clubhouse room.. what men are doing in 2021 for self care! Download now!

Hey guys! First podcast of the new year! I'm back and it's finally feeling like a new year! I switched it up a little and decided... Instead of going into the new year subtracting and focusing on what we're cutting out.. how about just adding more good things? Tune in to hear more about the good things I've added to my schedule and self care.. and what I've learned in the last few weeks that set the tone for my 2021. Download now and listen!

Last podcast of the year! Thankful for the lessons and the blessings.... Tune in to hear what's next for moms in 2021! Happy New year!

2021 is around the corner! There have been many ups and downs in 2020... and things are looking unpredictable across the world! 2021 can still be YOURS! Start where you are and with who you are! My FREE E-Book is ready for download on my website! www.modernmommiemogul.com "How to Discover your Mogul Mom Style" A guide to help moms discover how to take your motherhood to the next level by learning your strengths and limitations. We will not be getting ran by our motherhood we will be running our motherhood! Tune in to hear more about setting our intentions to have a better new year!

Don't feel pressure to quit your day job for your hustle! Do both until you feel like the time is right to leave that stable paycheck. The look of entrepreneurship got people twisted. There's still a need for jobs and employees to properly run a business! Owning a business is not for everybody and when you have a family, you have to be strategic on how you move! Just a tiny rant on pretentious people and the importance on getting a job in the field that matches your natural talents! TUNE IN!

We gotta make sure we are checking in with our teens. If 2020 has been heavy for us... it may be even heavier for them! High School graduations on Zoom... sports on hold... distance learning... family conflict... over scheduled.. under rested... excessive screen time... minimal social contact and the list goes on! Suicide rates amongst teens have gone up in the last 10 years even before the pandemic! Unrealistic standards of happiness, too much pressure on achievement, etc. Tune in to hear more about the importance of open dialogue with your teens, the shocking info I got from my training and having those hard conversations with your pre-teens/teens! If you know anyone who may need this info: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (8255) suicidepreventionlifeline.org CRISIS TEXT LINE: Text HELLO to 741741 Free and Confidential

Mom and Confidence is Momfidence. We need it! There are people everywhere constantly judging your every move. We are all guilty of it and it's not always from a bad a place. But if you're not sure of yourself, even in your mistakes, people will always be able to control how you operate. There are too many uncertainties when you have a family to get caught up in the opinions of others, so your momfidence has to be strong. Tune in to hear more about momfidence, the 4 seasons of marriage, raising teens and the importance of prioritizing your family's needs!

Understanding we can have the same goals and different avenues, allowing others the space to give their perspective, and not assuming people share your views because they're your friends or family... is the real bag. How much more could we accomplish if we were willing to listen to understand rather than just respond or argue! Tune in to hear my two cents about this topic and more!

On this episode... Just a couple of quick reminders and encouragement...Whistle.... Breathe.... and Relax! So much uncertainty is causing people to freak out these days and for good reason! Feel your feelings but understand that feelings are constantly changing and any decisions that are made out of emotion can come with a lot of regret! Tune in to hear a few suggestions to get through it!

Taking time for self care does not come naturally and for most of us moms.... it’s a journey to get there! Moms wearing many hats... being married, having children, working, owning a business/businesses, community work, social life, working out, and the list goes on! Mom guilt, postpartum, social pressure, lack of self awareness, lack of resources, being misinformed, unstructured schedules, cultural biases etc. So many reasons why it’s such a struggle to get to a place where self care is a priority! On this week’s episode... Special guest LaToya Stewart... who also wears several hats... wife... mom of 3... First Lady... mompreneur... and director of a mentorship program is here to share her journey and experiences with learning about balancing her roles, peace and self care! She also will be sharing how she feels since taking the assessment and learning more about her strengths and areas of growth from our coaching session and her plans for the future!!! Don’t miss this!! TUNE IN! She’s dropping major gems!

Motherhood comes with a whole lifestyle change... which can be expected. But what many moms don't expect is the changes in their relationships with their family members. Especially their sisters! Growing up being BFFS, same schools, same outfits, same friends, same plans etc.; then boom marriage & motherhood. Priorities shift! Plans change! Family dynamics change! But how can the sisterhood be saved? Identical twins, Dona Jackson and Sonya Davis are the special guests on this episode to talk about their experience with conflict, separation and trying to balance their sisterhood with marriage, kids, divorce, career, living cross country, friends, other family members, love and basketball. Soooo good and funny! Tune in!!!

In recent months the term "gaslighting" has become more popular and many people may still do not know what it means. When you hear about "Gaslighting" it's usually used in the context of romantic relationships... but on this episode I'm going to be highlighting gaslighting in motherhood. What does it mean? What are the signs? Are you gaslighting your children? I will answering these questions and more! Tune in!!

Managing our emotions, evaluating ourselves objectively, taking constructive feedback and being able to recognize our feelings are very important skills in motherhood! To be able to better connect with your children... being self aware is key. If not, you can get caught up repeating patterns of your own childhood rather than being present in your own parenting. Learning to be more self aware doesn't happen overnight, but it's never too late to start! On this episode, I will be sharing my own experience with learning about self awareness, signs that you may lack self awareness, and a few tips on getting more self-aware! Tune in!

For the inspector gadget ladies... for the navigation download ladies... for the fake page creator ladies... and any other ladies that are knee deep in the rabbit hole of needing more information... I have a message for you today! I want to free some people with some tips on what you may need to do BEFORE checking his phone... You need to hear this!! Tune in!!

I wish I would’ve known more about this episode topic BEFORE I got married and became a mother! The more you know the how, why and what... about yourself the easier it is to understand your spouse and children. It’s never too early or too late to learn more about YOU and strengthen your relationships! Even though you may prefer one style over the other... it’s about balance! That way you’re able to recharge yourself without sucking up all the energy in the house. So I’m dropping a few gems on ways to identify if you and your family members are task-oriented or people oriented... the gift and the curse, and the action steps to finding balance between the two styles! If you’re serious about improving your relationships! You don’t want to miss this!

Prayer is powerful and miracles do happen! But you can’t rely on miracles alone! You gotta do some additional work to really see change on a consistent basis. You gotta take ACTION! A lot of times people will encourage you to pray but that’s it! Then nothing changes and you think prayer doesn’t work. But chances are you were just waiting on a miracle in an area that needs more work!!! On this episode, I’m sharing a few tips and examples on what other elements need to be added along with your prayer life in your relationships! You don’t want to miss this! TUNE IN! SUBSCRIBE AND SHARE!

Welcome back guys! Excited to get back in motion! I'm talking direction over speed, what I learned from fasting social media for the month of August, the process of being under construction but keeping it moving and a few tips about weight management in the pandemic! TUNE IN!

It takes two to have a Black Love experience... so today on the 100TH episode I have my husband, Mr. Stephens as my very special guest! This is his first podcast ever and my first male guest! I think it's time to hear from the men. Why is Black Love important? What is it like to be a black husband and father in today's society? AND.. What is marriage material? He will be answering these questions... giving a male perspective on the roles and responsibilities in marriage and parenting and why some men are afraid to marry! So you don't want to miss this!! Tune in!!!!

Insert serenity prayer... how do we pivot? what are the next steps? how can I improve? These are questions most of us are asking ourselves right now... I am sharing my thoughts on my next steps, pivoting and how the process is coming along. It's important to share more than results. There are a ton of emotions, set backs, lessons and AHA moments in the process and that's how we can learn from each other! Tune in.. I got a few gems in here!

I really debated for the last couple of days on whether I should touch on this topic but.. there were so many layers I felt needed some attention! Layers of accountability and codependency, double standards, women telling their own stories and much more! Download, tune in, share and comment.

Going from single mom to married mom is much more than a name change. It’s a mindset change... which values and life skills do you take with you into your new role? Is there room for any of it? Are you truly being present in your new role? Are you committed to the transition? On this episode I will be sharing the answers to these questions from my personal experience, a recent epiphany I had during this time in quarantine, and why coaches need coaches! Tune in! Share this post and comment!

Typically when we would hear about infertility and conversations about freezing eggs it’s centered around women with no children. But what about the mothers who may have gotten side tracked with their careers and other goals and haven’t been able to invest time in meeting Mr. Right but would like to expand their family in the future? On today’s episode, special guest Shay Love who is one of 13 children, a mom to her 6 year old daughter, Director of Human Resources at Steve Harvey Global, Black Lives Matter Advocate and is now following her call to ministry and is here to share her story! We discussed everything from her early challenges with infertility, experience with fibroids, freezing her eggs, getting ready for marriage, expanding her family, children and protesting, saying Black vs. African American, and much more!!! TUNE IN!!!

For most ppl.. the Pandemic has forced us to look at work in a new way... layoffs/work from home orders and kids out of school... has brought a lot of moms to a creative space and even for those who had never thought of entrepreneurship.. are giving it a second glance. People go into entrepreneurship for many reasons but moms typically go into MOM-prenuership for many additional reasons that the average single person doesn’t have to consider. On this episode... I brought in my Atlanta moms friends Shekayla Williams, Ebony Brown and Shadonna Johnson to share their experiences and some of the highs and lows of being a Momprenuer.... and how the Pandemic has affected their jobs and businesses... and plans for moving forward! TUNE IN..SHARE & COMMMENT!

All women empowerment movements are not the same! It’s important to recognize that the influencers and various social media brands are not all speaking to the same audience... nor do they all have the same engagement tactics or goals.... and that’s okay. Social media has gotten so popular and people have gotten so used to people over sharing and giving away information that it’s easy to forget that people are human and most of the time... trying to find balance with their private vs public life. There are some women empowerment brands who are all about the ppl....that will cry with you, want to cuddle and spend time conversing back and forth in their DMs... then there are other women empowerment brands that want to stick to the task of giving you empowering information for your life and business and won’t even respond to a DM... Etc. Tune in to hear more about the different styles, where I land on the spectrum and how to manage your own expectations when faced with trying to find a network that suits you!

These times we are in will go down in history! There will be no Black Lives Matter Bandwagoning, we got questions, praying for discernment, staying committed, remembering God is our source and staying 10 Toes Down! Tune in!

We all love a positive vibe... it feels good to be out here living in our light.. Feel good music playing... champagne sipping... clearing out the negative energy... Good vibes only in the bio... date nights.. black love... surrounded by friends and family with honey on their lips speaking nothing but sweetness... happy marriages... marble floors.. granite countertops.. It’s like a movie... don’t kill my vibe! TOXIC POSITIVITY! There’s no room for reality, dissatisfaction, disappointment, infertility, infidelity, broken hearts, death, messy houses, job loss, postpartum, anxiety, depression, confusion... NOONE wants to see the battles and struggles.... that goes under the rug... But why if we all know it's there! Tune in to the conversation with Special Guest.. LMFT Bree Jenkins and I discussing the toxic positivity trend, false narratives, the power of having a balance of affirmation and accountability, growth in dark places, love, more room for error, freedom, empathy and more.

When you’re cooking 2,3,4, 5 times a day.. but trying not to gain too much weight.. doing your own nails and hair.. which can take 3-5 business days depending on your skill level... whether you have 4C or 3A hair... and which nail top coat you have access to that may never fully dry... going to the store for the 50leventh time, Zoom calling on overload, working from home and homeschooling. Turning the garage or living room into a gym...but you need a leg press and not a thick rubberband for your thighs.. trying not to get pregnant

Heyyyy! It's another group chat! Joining in the fun are today's guests, Candice Yau, Jennifer Bell Cornelius, and Yasmine Parrish! We are having a candid conversation and Q & A about relationship expectations from 2 single women and 2 married women's perspective. Everything from motherhood, being a ride or die, young lust and love, securing the mom-bag, modern day submission, empty nesting, to childhood experiences are all on the table on this episode! Listen!!!

Ambitious women have a work ethic that is unmatched.. working towards goals.. achieving goals... rinse and repeat! Never give up is a motto that transcends and can keep you awake at night! But when you have a family.. you can burn the candle on both ends! Finding that rhythm may require taking your foot off the gas completely, putting yourself in park and re-evaluate! Special guest Kimberly Wright will be sharing her experience with toxic productivity, burning out,transitioning from owning a successful salon to pursue her passion and how the pandemic has sprung her into an overnight stay at home mom, teacher and housewife! Tune in!!!

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Dating Coach and Hurricane Katrina survivor Bree Jenkins is here as our special guest to discuss the human side of therapists, holding your plans light, how Covid 19 affected her business, trending concerns, Toxic Productivity, wellness mindset, coping skills suggestions to manage stress and anxiety, pushing through uncertainty , and of course.... relationship advice during the Pandemic for Couples who live together/ Couples who live apart and Quarantine dating tips! Tune in!! We didn’t miss a beat!

Being your authentic selves in a relationship will allow you and your person an opportunity to thrive as unit. It’s really not about having the “right approach” or the “right personality” or the “right moves”. People have their natural style of communication.. it’s how they prefer to communicate and be communicated with! There’s not a certain “type” of person that is marriage material. As long as the two people in the relationship have an understanding and are making an effort to see and hear each other... it doesn’t matter what others have to say about it. Tune in to hear more about how outside opinions can influence your judgement about your relationships, the dangers of #relationshipgoals, my thoughts on expanding my show guests to include men and couples and why I chose this title! Be safe out there in those streets if you have to go outside and have a great weekend!

Moms everywhere are adjusting to the recent and abrupt changes in our households and businesses. Due to social distancing.... I had my first Zoom interview with my good friend and special guest Candice Yau who joined in to chop it up about being raised by her grandparents... and like most of us.. “Don’t bring no babies home” was the extent of the discussion surrounding sex and relationships growing up! Not having that open dialogue leaves many women left to figure things out on on their own! Tune in to hear how a near death experience and fasting sex for Lent led to 2 years of celibacy, wanting marriage for the first time, choosing to break up with her boyfriend of 4 years after the first year of celibacy and the whole journey it took to get there!! LISTEN!!

You have to be intentional about creating a peaceful environment for you and your family! What are some things you are doing to prioritize peace in your house? When you're so used to being on the go and having school routes, practices, rehearsals, meetings, fitness goals, brunches, etc... home can feel more like a landing pad rather than a preferred place filled with activities and good times because we are not there long enough to enjoy it!! We are all learning how to turn our homes into schools, gyms, restaurants, and offices literally overnight... which can be very overwhelming for your housemates! So I'm sharing ways to make peace a priority in navigating this new way of living, simple "me time" tips and a few other random deets on how to stay sane and control the things you can! Tune in!

Quarantine and chill is not like Netflix and Chill... Quarantining for parents is still a whole full schedule and if you have multiple children... forget about it

Mom life is off the chain right now! We are used to wearing many hats but we are at hat capacity right now! LOL! Group chats have been going up with quarantine chronicles! I have been attacked and debated by multiple Virgos this week. We are in need of prayer and a plan! Just wanted to check in and remind everyone that we have been trained for this! This is what moms do! We make a dollar out of 15 cents and God is still in control! Tune in to hear a few simple tips to decompress and pull it together right quick in the middle of the chaos!

This has been a heck of a week for everyone but God is still in control! Sending good vibes and quarantining tips! Sharing and finding ways to serve! Also a reminder that it is important to be accountable to the commitments you have made to yourself.. regardless of what life brings... DO IT ANYWAY!

What happens when you get three strong willed opinionated women in the room? Knowledge, wisdom and straight comedy

SHOUT OUT TO ALL THE PARENTS OUT THERE DOING THEIR BEST! Trying to praise the Lord, set boundaries, keep our heads above water, raise children, level up, make money, keep it cute, get married, stay married, budget, celebrate, balance, work out, get up early, and keep a clean house...etc. EVERYDAY! Keeping it 100%... it's so tiring! To keep it all together.. there has to be order. Social media and other outside influences cannot take the lead in your household! I am opening up the conversation about the importance of parents having hard conversations, an open heart, a listening ear but also a firm no and not right now! Tune in!

There’s a natural life cycle filled with communities... In all of these cycles, experiences and stages there’s a gang, tribe and/or community that you’re in or attached to! To name a few, you have the education community models of grade school, middle school, most high school, some college, and some entrepreneurship... there’s also the corporate community model of employees, managers, executives and the board of directors.. Then there’s the relationship community models... Singles, single mothers, married, married moms, divorced, and divorced moms.. In all of these cycles, stages and experiences there’s a community transition period to get to the next cycle, stage, and experience. All women are not the same... so are you aware of the communities /tribes or gangs you are in right now? On a scale from 1-10... How well are you handling your transitions? On this episode, I will be sharing how to identify the differences in the groups, how to identify where you might fit, ways to handle the community transitions and the approaches you can take to avoid getting stuck in any transitional phase! TUNE IN!