Done Being Single

If you've ever overstayed your welcome in a bad relationship, or struggled with when to call it quits, therapist and author Crystal Jackson knows why: Childhood trauma, low self-esteem, abandonment issues, anxious attachment, even love addiction, could be to blame.  Should you stay or should you go? Should you hang in and work things out, or pack it up and get the hell out? When it comes to ditching bad relationships for healthy love, don't struggle, don't settle, and don't wait. Tune in and find out how.   Click Here To View This Episode On Our YouTube Channel!

If you have a need to be liked, a fear of being unloved, or if you're a people-pleaser or approval seeker, then you might be struggling with boundaries. Boundaries are protective and empowering for both singles and couples, and we're going to show you how to set boundaries and keep them.  With guest Bex Burton, dating & relationship expert.      Click Here To View This Episode On Our YouTube Channel!

Are you swiping more left than right or using pickiness as an excuse not to date? "I'm too picky" could be another way of saying "I'm not good enough." Dig a little deeper and you'll find that pickiness is fear-based. It signals insecurity, not selectivity, finding fault, not finding love.  Join Treva and intimacy expert Allana Pratt as they discuss the perils of pickiness and how to overcome it with self-acceptance and compassion.   Click Here To View This Episode On Our YouTube Channel!

Modern feminism, MeToo, and changing gender dynamics have put masculinity at a crossroads. Is our current idea of masculinity toxic or progressive? Are men expected to step up or back down? And what does this mean for the current dating culture? On this episode, Simon T. Bailey, author of “Ignite the Power of Women,” discusses how to ignite the power of men to be better men.   Click Here To View This Episode On Our YouTube Channel!

We're giving dating apps a piece of our mind. From bad behavior to no accountability and consequences, there's a supply chain issue of basic kindness in dating that must be called out!  Author, podcaster (and empowered single) Shani Silver, is just the person to do it. She reminds us that there are options to dating apps--it's called finding a happy singlehood. Tune in and learn how to get there.    Click Here To View This Episode On Our YouTube Channel!

When you say "YES," you activate your internal guidance, you connect with your Inner Authority, and you power out of your comfort zone. You don't find your "YES" in your head, you feel it in your heart, and it's not random.  Don't get stuck in "NO." Let relationship coach Ken Bechtel author of the new book "Follow Your YES" show you how to do just that.      Click Here To View This Episode On Our YouTube Channel!

World renown psychic-medium Matthew Stapley gives us the lowdown on love, loss, and divine timing, the way the spirits intended. Learn how to trust your intuition, process grief, distinguish between gut feelings and fear, break old cycles, and open yourself up to new possibilities. All you have to do is read the signs, listen to the messages, and tune in.   

If you have a fear of abandonment, avoid intimacy, or struggle with relationship anxiety, you've come to the right podcast. This week, Behavioral Relationship expert Tracy Crossley comes to the rescue with her profound insights on attachment theory, and on how knowing your attachment style can help you feel secure, get close, and find love. 

On this episode of Done Being Single, we're connecting heart to c*ck by turning outdated male conditioning & culture into healthy templates for love. Men, it's time to breathe new life into your relationships (and your other parts too!)     Click Here To View This Episode On Our YouTube Channel!

45,000 years of evolutionary psychology confirms it: humans are hardwired to date a certain way. In this episode of Done Being Single, Dr. Duana Welch shares her insights and data on human dating rituals. From playing hard to get, to the prerogative of pursuit, to waiting for sex, Dr. Welch proves that evolution doesn't have an off switch, and that's good news for dating.    Click Here To View This Episode On Our YouTube Channel!

After a year plus of pandemic stress eating and drinking, we're finally getting back to normal, and back into action. But what about those extra pounds and bad habits we picked up along the way? How do we lose the weight and get fit? What kind of diet should we be on, and where do we find the motivation if we've turned into lazy sloths? Look no further than fitness guru and nutritional expert, Jill Brown, our guest this week on Done Being Single. She's got all the tips and tools you need to get yourself into post-pandemic shape.  Click Here To View This Episode On Our YouTube Channel!

Science geeks and horny bastards, this episode is for you! Sexpert and sexy brainiac Susan Bratton bares it all with her newest techniques, hottest tips, latest science, and reveals her own struggles and recovery from COVID. From cock rings to hyperbaric oxygen therapy, Susan knows all.  Whether you're looking to spice things up, enhance your intimacy, or are curious about COVID treatments and ways to stay healthy and sexually active during the pandemic, there are takeaways for everybody.  So light some candles, slip into something more comfortable, and tune in!   Click Here To View This Episode On Our YouTube Channel!

What does business and dating have in common? The highly desirable, very elusive "It Factor." It's more than charm, looks, and charisma, it's about having conviction and passion about what you do, and who you are. Our guest this week, author and professor Suneel Gupta, cracks the code on how to pick a winner, how to stand out, and how to get someone to take a chance on you. In other words, how to be "Backable," the name of his forthcoming new book.    Click Here To View This Episode On Our YouTube Channel!

This episode is like Xanax for dating jitters. Get rid of nerves and performance anxiety by understanding your attachment style, honoring your needs, and practicing science backed coping mechanisms. With Chris Rackliffe's expert guidance and insights, you'll recognize your core gifts, and get the love and affection you deserve--all without a doctor's prescription!  Click Here To View This Episode On Our YouTube Page!

We've all chased love at one time or another, some of us still do. We do it when we're lonely or insecure, when we're seeking approval or need connection. We chase love because we don't trust it will come on its own. And the harder we try to catch it, the further it stays away. Not even a pandemic will stop people from chasing!On this episode, Dasha Schindler, author of the new book "Don't Chase Love, Cut To The Chase: Or, How To Google Your Way To A Happy Relationship," shares her story of childhood trauma, her lifelong pursuit to heal her heart, and her secrets to finding love without having to chase it.  Click Here To View This Episode On Our YouTube Channel!

Robby and Treva aren't parents, but they're tipping their hats to the (single) parents doing the heavy lifting. Managing home, work, life, kids AND a love life is never easy, but doing it in a pandemic takes mad skills and patience.This week's guest, licensed marriage and family therapist Kristin MacDermott, shares her tips, tools, and strategies for successful pandemic parenting.From knowing your roles, to managing expectations and setting healthy boundaries, to instilling respect, creating structure, and building coping skills, we're helping parents of all kinds to get a grip and level-up during the pandemic and beyond.   Click Here To View This Episode On Our YouTube Channel!

In an election year that's more contentious than ever, is it possible to hate someone's politics but still love them?According to our guests Jeanne Safer and Richard Brookhiser, it is. Jeanne is a Liberal, and the author of the book, "I Love You, But I Hate Your Politics." Richard is a Conservative, and the Sr. Editor of the National Review, the leading conservative journal of opinion. Despite being on opposite sides of the aisle, they've been happily married for 40 years!There's a secret key to politics and love, but you'll have to put your political differences aside to find out in this episode!Click Here To View This Episode On Our YouTube Channel!

Cougars are having a moment. Not that midlife women dating and marrying younger men is anything new, it's just that midlife isn't what it used to be. Gone are the rules, parameters, restrictions, and judgement. Today's post-50 women are free to be who they want, date who they want, and be equal partner with the ones they love.Older women/younger men, your time has come. Joining the discussion is Vicki Larson, award-winning journalist, and co-author of the book "The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels." Click Here To View This Episode On Our YouTube Channel!

When you slay your anxiety, you slay your need for control. Dealing with the unknowns and tolerating the uncertainty of a pandemic are skills that need learned and practiced. On this week's episode, we've got the perfect teacher, Lisa Gornall.  A spiritual medium, healer, mindset & energy coach, and author, Lisa has the tools to help you slay anxiety, and connect with your power. Because when it comes to beating back any monster, you're stronger than you think. Click Here To See Video Of This Podcast! 

Who knew dating and real estate had so much in common! Whether it's a looking for a spouse or buying/selling a house, you need to assess the property, stage it properly, be ready to show, make the necessary repairs, and know the worth. The same rules apply for picking the right partner. In fact, there are 99 rules to be exact.  Not only a funny episode, you'll learn a lot about real estate at the same time! With top-selling real estate agent, Brian Belefant, author of the new book "Spouse Hunting: Using The Rules Of Real Estate To Find The Love Of Your Life" Brian Belefant began his career in Hollywood where he quickly rose in the production ranks as a top director shooting hundreds television commercials for household name brands, and dozens of award-winning art films. Realizing he was looking at a major life change when his child was born with special needs, he relocated to Portland, OR and became one of the top-selling real estate agents in the Pacific Northwest. Following an unexpected divorce, he wondered if he could use the set of 99 Rules of Real Estate he’d developed to re-enter the dating world with the goal of finding a new spouse. As luck would have it, he could – and now readers everywhere can do the same. Click Here To See This Episode On Our YouTube Channel!

If you're dating or in a relationship with someone who's sober, what do you need to know? Does loving a sober person require special protocols or understanding? What are the perils? How can you be a better partner to someone who's sober? How do you protect yourself? Answering all your questions about loving with sobriety is Dr. Robert Navarra, PsyD, LMFT, MAC, and Certified Gottman Therapist & Master Trainer in addiction recovery.    

You may be able to mask your depression behind a happy face, a good marriage, or a successful career, but in the middle of a pandemic, it becomes much harder.That's because a crisis like COVID--with the fear, anxiety, and trauma that comes with it--makes Perfectly Hidden Depression more difficult to hide.On this episode of Done Being Single, clinical psychologist Dr. Margaret Rutherford explains the 10 characteristics of Perfectly Hidden Depression (PHD), teaches us the five C's of healing, and inspires us to take action without shame or guilt.Click here to see video of this podcast!

One of the many symptoms of COVID19 is a massive spike in divorce rates. If your marriage was already teetering, and you're in lockdown, chances are, you want out. Since there's no vaccination for a bad marriage, divorce might be the only cure. So what to expect? Famed divorce lawyer and author James Sexton joins us to discuss the down and dirty of divorce during a pandemic. From hardship changes, to alimony and custody, this "courtroom gunslinger" has all the best practices you'll need for you and your spouse to call it quits. Click here to see video of this podcast on our YouTube Channel!      

Acclaimed personal development thought leader Katie Hendricks joins Done Being Single to talk about fear: how to face it and conquer it. In this episode, you'll learn about the five responses to fear: fight, flight, flee, faint, and flee. You’ll learn breathing and movement techniques, plus you’ll get the skills you need to maintain your sense of agency, reclaim your power, and get back into your body. A must-hear/see show for the times we're living in! Click here to see the video of this podcast on our YouTube Channel!

Recorded before the pandemic, but always a relevant issue in life, love, and DATING! You can be your own detective, here's how.Former FBI Special Agent and counterintelligence specialist Robin Dreeke tells you how to catch a liar using his Five Steps to trust and Six Signs of predicting behavior. Learn how to size people up and recognize manipulation, control, subterfuge, and lack of transparency. Don’t be fooled again!HOT TIP: If someone’s overcomplicating their answers, they’re probably lying.

When COVID19 is over, how will your life look? New job? No job? Dating or divorced? If there was ever a time to reinvent your life, and design your future YOU it’s now. This is the time to plan, pivot, and put the pieces into place.     Giving you the skills and tools you need to jumpstart your reinvention, is the mother of reinvention herself, Kathi Sharpe-Ross, brand & lifestyle guru, and author of the new book, "RE: Invent Your Life! What Are You Waiting For?”Her takeaways for reinvention will reinvigorate and inspire.  Click here to see the video of this podcast!

Author of the best-selling relationship book, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, John Gray joins Done Being Single to discuss what happens when Mars & Venus are quarantined.How does the power dynamic change when you're quarantined? Can you find balance? What do men need in time of need? What do women need to feel safe? How do you give each other space? Get great tips and takeaways on keeping your sanity, and your love alive in the time of coronavirus.Click here to see video of our John Gray interview on YouTube!

Even though this episode of Done Being Single was recorded just before the coronavirus hit, its message and lessons are right on time. Building habits, maintaining structure, keeping a sense of normalcy is EVERTHING right now. From dating habits to living habits, your survival depends on how well you adapt, change, and rewire. The question is, can you do it? Our guest, behavioral scientist and New York Times best-selling author BJ Fogg, shares small, actionable and science-backed steps to help you make immediate changes in your life.

Known for his many roles on TV and film, but probably best known for his role as "Jackie Chiles" on "Seinfeld," Phil Morris is way more than a talented actor: he's a martial arts guru, a spiritual seeker, and fountain of wisdom when it comes to mastering a zen attitude in the face of crazy and chaos. He's also Treva & Robby's lifelong friend, and a great guy to talk to when all hell is breaking loose. On this episode, Phil shares his go-to tips and best practices for dealing with panic, fear, being out of work, as well as constructive ways to harness your energy.Click here to see our video interview with Phil Morris!

There's nothing like a pandemic to cramp your dating style. Should you keep swiping? Get tested before meeting? Can you go on a date and stay 6ft. away? When is it safe to hug, kiss, or get intimate? Physician Dr. Andre Berger and dating expert Sandy Weiner give you the 411 on ways to stay safe AND socially connected in the time of COVID19.Click here to see the video of our show with Dr. Andre Berger & Sandy Weiner!

At a certain age, most of us will find ourselves caring for aging parents or elderly loved ones. How do you do it and still have a life? If you're single, how do you balance caring for a parent with dating and relationships? Even if you’re married, how do you find balance and set proper boundaries? What kind of self-care techniques should you be practicing to save your love life and sanity? On this episode, Treva and Robby open up about their aging parents, the challenges they’re facing, and how they’re protecting their marriage through it all.

Whether you're a Boomer or GenX, the midlife crisis is true, and the struggle is real. Buying fast cars and dating younger women are nothing compared to the existential despair of financial worry, unmet expectations, self-doubt, hormonal changes, aging parents, and the pressures of social media. On this episode, New York Times best-selling journalist and author Ada Calhoun shares her eye-opening, groundbreaking research on the new midlife crisis and how to deal with it.

Your inner bully has been kicking the sh*t out of your self-esteem and confidence for years, convincing you you're not good enough. Now it's time to tell your inner bully (and anyone else who tries to bully you) who's boss. Empowering you with inspiration is our guest Theresa Byrne, global defense expert, business owner, 4th degree Black Belt, and a badass at slaying the inner bully. Her 2019 TEDx talk on "The Dangers of the Inner Bully," was recently listed as one of the "Top Ten Most Meaningful TED Talks" by Thrive Global magazine.

Daters, beware: it can happen if you're not careful. Getting burned out and bitter from being single too long is all too common, especially if you've suffered through repeated disappointments or chronic rejection. If you're going to be in the game, if you want to be a successful dater and find love, you're going to need endurance, staying power, and a better attitude. Coaching you with insight and experience, is psychologist and dating expert, Dr. Karin Anderson Abrell.

On this week's episode, we're proving you don't need to have your shit totally together to find love. We're all a work in progress, and the quest for betterment is noble, but trying to find yourself shouldn't preclude you from finding love. You shouldn't have to wait. As a wellness expert and single woman, guest Debi Carlin Boyle shows you how to do both.

In this very real and raw episode of Done Being Single, we share our stories of losing loved ones: from processing grief and finding healing, to understanding the impact of loss on relationships and dating, to surrendering to the power of love. Joining the conversation with his own inspiring story is midlife dating coach Jonathon Aslay.

Breadcrumbing, benching, gaslighting, and ghosting, are just a few hideous dating behaviors that must go in 2020. So are putting up obstacles and making excuses in your dating life. Whether you're a perpetrator or a victim of bad dating habits, make it your resolution to clean up your act and take back your power. With expert guidance from Behavioral Relationship expert, Tracy Crossley.

You can’t be fully present, free of limiting beliefs, and living your best life unless you take deliberate steps to unshackle yourself from your past. No matter what mistakes you made, or who you were then, there's always a chance to course correct. Your past was then; your potential is now. Don't take your past into your future. Hit the reset button with best-selling author and acclaimed self-realization expert Guy Finley.

When it comes to the gatekeepers of sex and relationships, who has the power, women or men? Who's got control? Is there even such a thing as power dynamics in today's modern world of love? Offering expert insights, keen observations, and smart takeaways, is Love & Life Transformational Coach, Suzanne Oshima.

Hitting midlife is no laughing matter, but it is on this episode of Done Being Single! Allison Cane & Jillian Franklyn, hosts of the hilarious YouTube show “Pretty Over,” are laughing about all things post-50: sex and menopause, aging gracefully (or trying to), hormones (they love them), relationships, and dating age-appropriate people. As Frank & Alli say, there’s nothing sexier than a man who dates a woman his own age! Most of all, they laugh at themselves, because that’s really all you can do. For sheer laughs, honesty, candor, and the truth about what being over 50 can feel and look like, take a listen to these ladies. They’re sexy, sassy, smart, inspirational, aspirational, and hot all over. They make their own rules and tell it like it is. in other words, they’re exactly the kind of women you want to be (or date) in midlife!

If life sucks, and you're mad as hell, depressed as shit, or confused AF, and it’s not getting any better, you may need some therapy. For pros who’ve been on the couch before, you know the drill, but for those who’ve never unloaded in front of a therapist, the next hour is for you. Guiding you through the process is Gottman Institute psychotherapist, and Clinical Trauma Professional, Jenny TeGrotenhuis.

Are you a love junkie? Do you need a fix of drama or a hit of psycho to make you feel alive? Does danger turn you on? Are you jonsing for crazy, or attracted to people who drive you insane? HEALTHY love isn't always about the thrill, chase, or buzz. You may need to seek treatment, but this week, the treatment comes to you. Our guest, Dr. Jud Brewer MD, will help you break your love addiction & craving for unstable relationships once and for all. Tune in and get your sanity back!

Looking to improve your marriage, friendships, or business partnerships? Look no further. Your keys to relationship success are right here, and their names are Dr. Andrea & Jon Taylor-Cummings. Dr. Andrea & Jon are the foremost voices in building great relationships. Their 4-Habits is a simple, yet brilliant method that fosters better understanding, communication, emotional wellbeing, and it works for every kind of relationship. Tune in and get the keys to relationship success right now.

To swipe or not to swipe, that is the question. What are the Dos and Don'ts of online dating? What should you look for in a profile? What are some red flags to watch out for? How can you design a profile that will get you maximum attention and traction? Answering all your digital dating questions with awesome cyber-insights is digital dating expert, Julie Spira. She's got everything you need to get a right swipe on the right person!

There's no one better to speak on the topic of married sex and keeping it alive than our guest, Susan Bratton--sex guru, goddess, and trusted sex advisor to millions. She and husband Tim (who joined us for the interview) are a wealth of information, insight, and ideas. From the 30-minute orgasm to clit massage to old-fashioned collaboration and communication, Susan and Tim offer their tips and tools to keeping married sex hot. Tune in! (your husband or wife will thank you)

David Snyder, a world renown expert on hypnosis and neurolinguistic programming says, “Confidence is relentless determination combined with expectations of a positive result.” This was put to the test when Treva, who’s been recovering from bronchial pneumonia, experienced a little coughing fit, which enabled David to do a live on-air hypnosis with her. With guidance and visualization, Treva was able to calm down and regain her confidence. As David says, “Confidence happens in the absence of fear.” When you stop being afraid, you find your confidence. Tune in and get all the relentless determination you need to become a confident MF’er.

"Doing the work" means everything and anything you need to do in order to heal, grow, change, evolve, and get stronger. It can include therapy, journaling, exercise, meditation, self-help books, blogs, coaching, even 12-step programs. This week, life coach Bex Burton expertly guides a client through the pain of divorce. As she shares her story, we witness first-hand what "doing the work" really means. A truly profound and personal episode you won't want to miss.

If your current path isn't getting you anywhere, if you keep grinding it out without joy, if you keep hitting walls, or fail to get the results you want, it's time to quit. That’s right. QUIT. Contrary to popular belief, quitting isn’t only for losers. It actually can be a winning move, and used properly, it could be one of the strongest weapons in your arsenal. Giving you the expert tools and strategies to quit smart is "goal disengagement" expert Dr. Stanley Robertson, aka "The Quit Doctor."

I'm Doing Everything Right, So What's Going Wrong? Episode Description This episode is dedicated to those of us who despite all our good intentions, desire, and hard work, still come up empty. Many things can be blocking us or holding us back: unconscious beliefs, lack of self-worth, negative mindset, old patterns, But this week, we're going to breakthrough. With life coach/entrepreneurial coach, relationship expert, Survivor contestant, and all-around inspiration, Francesca Hogi.

Getting triggered by things/people/events is debilitating and defeating, and it keeps happening. You might get triggered because of an old wound that hasn't healed, a memory that keeps replaying, or buttons that keep getting pushed. You also get triggered by the stories you tell yourself, and the unprocessed emotions you still carry. But there's hope and help on the way, and her name is Veronica Grant, a love coach who specializes in reparenting techniques and healing the inner child.

Anybody can be a master of seduction, you don't need sex appeal, a ton of money, or movie star looks. You just need to meet the unmet need in someone. A really good seduction is invisible, and it's everywhere. Life is a seduction, love is a seduction, even sales is a seduction. It happens on micro levels throughout your day. You can be a master of seduction. Tune in this week to hear our guest psychiatrist Dr. Raj Persaud tell you how.