Podcast appearances and mentions of tracy crossley

Tired of the endless cycle of self-help promises that never deliver? You consume podcast after podcast, read book after book, seeking that magic formula for perfection. But here's the truth nobody wants to tell you: you're chasing a fantasy. The "fake Candyland bullshit goal" is what's making you feel like crap about yourself. One day you're on top of the world, the next you're spiraling. What changed? You're still you. Stop waiting for external validation to feel okay. You already have everything you need inside you—you just don't know how to access it yet. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why seeking validation instead of actual help keeps you stuck * How victimhood and living in your head sabotage real growth * The difference between knowing something and actually living it * Why beating yourself up over past "mistakes" never brings peace * How to stop giving your power away to the "wishing and hoping farm" "The reality is if someone broke up with you, they broke up with you for their own reasons. That's how it works. If I have a problem with somebody, it's because of me and how I look at something." ~ Tracy Crossley

Do you find yourself saying things like "we can only talk once a week" or "it's too late to make plans now"? You might be disguising control as boundaries without even realizing it. Here's the truth: rigid rules in relationships come from fear. Fear of being taken advantage of. Fear of losing control. Fear of trusting the flow between you and another person. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why rules are really about control, not protection * The difference between boundaries and rigid demands * What you're actually afraid of when you won't compromise * How authenticity creates real connection * Why middle ground doesn't mean losing yourself "Rules are not the path to developing deeper connections with people. When you are authentic and speak your truth, you can compromise without sacrificing yourself or your values." ~ Tracy Crossley

Are you physically avoiding someone in your own home? Running to another room when you hear their footsteps? Your body knows what your mind tries to rationalize away. Sometimes we find ourselves in situations where our nervous system screams "danger" even when logically we know we're safe. Tracy gets brutally honest about living with her narcissistic mother and the physiological response that has her literally hiding in her own house. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why your body reacts before your mind catches up * How childhood patterns show up in adult responses * Living with toxic family members who gaslight * The difference between intellectual awareness and emotional healing "We don't really change unless it's going to benefit us in some way." ~ Tracy Crossley

Are you exhausting yourself chasing dreams that aren't even yours? Twisting yourself into a pretzel trying to become someone you're not? Every year on this planet, you have a choice: become more bitter or grow. But here's the deal—all that trying is actually making you emptier. Stop trying to prove yourself. Start being yourself. In this episode, Tracy explores: * What are you trying to prove and who are you trying to prove it to? * Why "I'll try" is weak energy that keeps you stuck * How to live from your real motivation, not your ego "When you stop trying, you pay attention to the real motivation from your real self—not from your ego, not from your insecurities, not from your state of lack." ~ Tracy Crossley

Caught in a cycle of blaming others for how you feel? You might think self-acceptance comes from others accepting you first. Wrong. That approach builds walls, creates resentment, and slowly kills your relationships. Codependency, anyone? Giving the remote control to your emotions to someone else NEVER leads to self acceptance. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why you feel resentment rather than acceptance * What is a trigger that leads you to a world of hurt? * How to actually accept yourself. "Where there is judgment, love is not happening in those moments ~ Love of yourself or the other person." ~ Tracy Crossley

You keep ignoring your gut to please everyone else. Reacting to what others want instead of tuning into what YOU need. Sound familiar? When was the last time you actually checked in with yourself before jumping through hoops to meet someone else's expectations? We're taught to react to others, to do "the right thing" according to everyone but ourselves. Your worth becomes tied to how well you anticipate and please the people around you. Meanwhile, your true feelings get buried deeper with each fake smile, each time you say "yes" when you mean "no." In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why we abandon our feelings to meet others' expectations * How "doing the right thing" disconnects you from yourself * The myth of mind-reading in relationships * Three ways you dismiss your feelings daily * Recognizing when you're reacting vs. honoring yourself "As long as you don't give a f*** about your feelings, nobody else will. You teach people how to treat you." ~ Tracy Crossley

Do you carry a burden of guilt and responsibility that doesn't belong to you? Feel like something's wrong with you even when everything in your life is going right? That's the lasting impact of growing up with a narcissistic parent—where their stories become your emotional prison. In this raw and revealing episode, Tracy explores her own journey with her narcissistic mother and the breakthrough moment that finally released her from decades of guilt. Ready to drop the weight you've been carrying? In this episode, Tracy explores: * The guilt that follows you everywhere * Why communication attempts always fail * When you realize it was never your fault * Moving from knowledge to emotional freedom * Taking emotionally risky action "There is not one damn thing I could have ever done as a child or as an adult that she could have been a different person or would react differently. I just saw her in her own little bubble." ~ Tracy Crossley

Do you feel safe in a system that wasn't designed for you? When women are an afterthought in political structures, what does that mean for your rights today? As Tracy digs into the history of women in American politics, she uncovers uncomfortable truths about how women have been systematically excluded from foundational documents and political parties. Comfort in this system is an illusion—one that could evaporate faster than you think. In this episode, Tracy explores: Women as property for thousands of years and our absence from the Constitution Pioneering female politicians who fought against exclusion Why women's rights remain vulnerable without Constitutional protection Current threats to female representation and voting rights How women leaders can increase political participation "Wherever you're not speaking out, you feel protected. Wherever you feel that if you take a step in a different direction, that's too scary, that's where you feel protected. But you're not really protected. You aren't because you're not in the Constitution." ~ Tracy Crossley

Something's missing in your life. You feel it. You know it. But you keep telling yourself everything's fine. That gnawing emptiness? The one you try to fill with advice from friends about your dating life or career choices? It's not going away until you face what's really happening. You're trapped in patterns YOU created. In this raw conversation, Tracy digs into why you keep hitting the same walls in relationships and life. It's not about getting more advice—it's about finally seeing the truth about yourself. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why your emotions keep you stuck in destructive patterns * How self-deception blocks authentic connections * The uncomfortable work of real self-awareness * Breaking through fear to build genuine relationships * Using soul plan readings to uncover your true purpose "Your patterns aren't happening TO you. They're happening THROUGH you." ~ Tracy Crossley

Those past relationships that seem to have a special place in your heart, anyone come to mind? I know putting someone who's no longer in your life into a special place can feel warm and fuzzy, but is it just an escape? When we aren't finding meaning in the present, we often escape—imagining an ex was "the one who got away" or reminiscing about "better times" that weren't actually better. Who were you back then? In reality, yes reality. What was the meaning of the relationship that ended at the time? Believe me, you're not missing out on some magical connection—you're feeling a void in the present. Meaning can be found here in the present, real meaning not a fantasized version of the past. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Glorifying past relationships–why do we do it? * What is truth vs reality? * Why do you want to detach from idealized memories? The importance of fulfilling meaning for yourself. "It feels so much better to be yourself and to be here in the moment and creating the life that you actually want, than it does to be in the past." ~ Tracy Crossley

In this episode of Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life, Tracy sits down with Eitan Koter, co-founder and CEO of VIMMI, to unpack the real story behind building a successful company from the ground up—without outside funding and without a clear roadmap. Eitan shares how childhood confidence, a few powerful words from his mother, and a relentless commitment to listening shaped his path from corporate leadership to entrepreneurial freedom. This is not just about business—it's about grit, reinvention, and learning to lead with empathy and intention. In this episode, you'll learn: * How confidence and clarity often come from small but defining moments * Why being lost can lead to the most aligned career shifts * The mindset shift from employee to entrepreneur * What it takes to grow something real—without chasing the noise "Authenticity is non-negotiable." ~ Tracy Crossley

Women have been fighting for equality for centuries—so why are we still battling for basic rights? In this episode, Tracy dives into the hard truth about systemic patriarchy, the barriers that keep women from true equity, and why the fight is far from over. From the Seneca Falls Convention to today's stalled Equal Rights Amendment, we break down what's really standing in the way of progress.   The system thrives on division, but real change happens when we come together. If you're tired of playing by the old rules, this conversation will challenge you to rethink power, privilege, and what it takes to create lasting change.   Key Takeaways: Why the system is designed to keep women in a fight they shouldn't have to wage The overlooked history of women's rights and what's still at stake How pay gaps, representation, and autonomy are deliberately controlled Why unity—not division—is the key to shifting the system The actions you can take to push for real change "The fight for equality was never about asking for permission—it's about taking back what should have never been denied." ~ Tracy Crossley

Feeling trapped? Whether it's your relationship, job, or just life in general, the real prison isn't outside of you—it's inside. Avoidance, fear, and old wounds keep you stuck, convincing you that escaping is the answer. But what if the only way out is to stop running? In this episode, we break down the hidden patterns that keep you feeling stuck and how to finally break free. No more avoiding. No more excuses. It's time to reclaim your power. What You'll Learn in This Episode: * Why feeling trapped is really a trauma response * How avoidance keeps you stuck in self-sabotage * The hidden fears blocking emotional risks * A simple exercise to stop running and start choosing "We try so hard not to get trapped, and yet we trap ourselves in the very act of avoiding it. The real prison isn't out there—it's inside of you." ~ Tracy Crossley

What keeps us divided? In this deeply personal episode, Tracy reflects on her childhood, systemic inequality, and the invisible forces that pit us against one another. From racism and privilege to patriarchy's grip on society, she explores how these systems create division and how true leadership means confronting them head-on. This isn't about blame—it's about understanding. What happens when we stop accepting the status quo and start questioning the narratives we've been taught? Tracy unpacks the ways power structures are designed to keep us separate and the courage it takes to dismantle them. What You'll Learn: How patriarchy thrives on division and hierarchy The connection between privilege, racism, and gender inequality Why unity is the biggest threat to oppressive systems How personal empowerment leads to collective change “Prejudice doesn't come from confidence—it comes from insecurity. People who feel whole don't need to diminish others.” — Tracy Crossley

Think your happiness depends on someone else changing? Think again. In this episode, we're tackling the hard truth: no one—not your partner, boss, friends, or family—can make you feel better. The only way to break free from frustration, attachment, and control is by looking inward. Because until you deal with yourself, the same patterns will keep repeating. If you're tired of waiting for others to change, this episode is your wake-up call. Let's shift the focus back where it belongs—on you. What You'll Learn: * Why controlling others never leads to happiness * How to break free from attachment and insecurity * The real reason you feel stuck in toxic cycles * A mindset shift that will change all your relationships "No one is coming to save you. If you're waiting for someone to change so you can finally be happy, you're giving away the one thing that's actually yours: your power." ~ Tracy Crossley

What will make you feel good even when life is delivering thorny roses? Crisis is everywhere these days. Many of you might be stuck in survival mode, clinging to external situations that must change before you feel okay. The real solution? Learning to create your own sense of feeling good—no matter what is going on! These toxic cycles can keep you struggling to feel truly happy or free of anxiety. It's time to stop outsourcing your well-being, especially to people who struggle with their own and start feeling less anxious, and trusting your choices—on your terms. What You'll Learn: * Chasing relationships, success, or control is not the way to abundance * Toxic cycles control you, let's stop it! * Misconceptions about happiness * The mindset that changes everything “You don't ‘find' happiness—you just need to know how to create it. Waiting for something to make you feel good,is giving away control of your emotional state. It makes you powerless.” how ~ Tracy Crossley

Tracy Crossley is a behavioral expert, relationship coach, and the author of Overcoming Insecure Attachment. With over 17 years of experience, she specializes in helping individuals break free from toxic patterns, overcome fear-based relationships, and develop the confidence to create lasting, fulfilling connections. Episode Overview Are you stuck in a relationship loop, constantly questioning whether to stay or leave? Do you find yourself repeating the same painful patterns, feeling like you're always the one fighting for love? In this powerful conversation, we break down the hidden forces that keep people trapped in unsatisfying relationships and, more importantly, how to shift out of them. Tracy Crossley reveals the real reason relationships in crisis feel so impossible to escape—and why traditional advice often falls short. If you're ready to stop settling and start creating a relationship that truly aligns with you, this episode is a must-listen.    

Patriarchy gets tossed around a lot. The system was made by men for men who wanted to hold onto their possessions. It has been this way for thousands of years.  We've been conditioned to believe success means fitting into a structure that wasn't made for women.  If it actually worked, why are so many people burned out, stressed, and still fighting for a seat at the table? In this episode of Earned Wisdom, Tracy Crossley breaks down how the patriarchal system keeps women stuck and how to change it. It's not about fighting harder—it's about seeing the game for what it is and choosing a different way. You don't need permission to redefine success, leadership, or power. You just need to stop believing in a system that will never work for you. What You'll Learn: Does anyone really benefit from the system? Patriarchal structures fuel burnout, competition, and emotional suppression Women are the way forward applying new meaning to success and leadership  Your power to create a movement for yourself and generations to come. "The system doesn't hold you back—believing in it does." ~ Tracy Crossley

You know that person in your life who bugs the crap out of you? The one you keep a list of things they should do differently from your perspective. Well, do you know yourself to that degree too? Here's the deal. How well you know yourself and your operating system can make a difference in the quality of your life. From relationships to work, you are the common denominator. So if you aren't happy with the status quo, listen in. Let's get to the core of identity. Not the labels, not the roles, but who you are. It is when everything shifts—your happiness, relationships, and confidence. Break the cycle of attachment to what doesn't serve you. It's time to stop performing and start being. What You'll Learn: * Why looking for emotional shelter keeps you stuck—let's break free * Beliefs shaping your reality (let's change them) * Feeling at home in your own skin *How to create more joy and meaning Ready to live your life? Hit play. "You're not a label. You're not your job, your relationship, or anyone's expectations. You are an experience. And until you stop chasing validation and start owning who you actually are, you'll keep feeling stuck. So, who are you—really?" ~ Tracy Crossley

Women make up more than half the population, yet we're still not in the U.S. Constitution, and power remains out of reach for many. In this episode, Tracy Crossley and Leisa Peterson, a financial expert, author, and advocate for economic empowerment, expose the hidden forces keeping women from true equality—systemic barriers, cultural conditioning, and the illusion of progress. This isn't about blame; it's about action. If we want real change, we have to see the system for what it is and decide what we're going to do about it. Key Takeaways: Why women still don't have full constitutional rights How internalized patriarchy keeps women competing, not uniting The real reason power remains male-dominated What it takes to drive real, lasting change “Unless we keep speaking up, keep showing up, and keep doing things that actually make a difference, nothing will change."  Tracy Crossley

What happens when unchecked power is handed to a select few without oversight? In this special episode, Tracy Crossley and Leisa Peterson, financial expert and founder of WealthClinic, expose how billionaires are gaining unprecedented control over financial systems and personal data—without public consent.  The question isn't left or right—it's about power, secrecy, and who really benefits. Tracy and Leisa break down the hidden risks of billionaires “fixing” the system. It's time to stop waiting for a savior and start asking the hard questions. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How billionaires are quietly reshaping finance, privacy, and government. Why trusting the ultra-rich to “fix the system” is a dangerous illusion. The deeper impact of financial control on social programs and daily life. How to reclaim awareness and stop handing over your power. "The highest form of ignorance is rejecting what you don't know." – Tracy Crossley

Think a healthy relationship is all about effortless love and constant happiness? Think again. Real, fulfilling partnerships aren't built on fairy tales—they require self-awareness, emotional clarity, and letting go of the idea that someone else will "fix" you. Most of us unknowingly carry baggage from childhood, shaping our expectations and reactions in relationships. When drama disappears, old wounds surface. Instead of looking to a partner for rescue, true connection begins when you take responsibility for your emotional world. Key Insights You'll Gain: * Why your partner can't fix you—and why that's freeing. * The unexpected discomfort that comes with emotional stability. * How to stop using blame as a shield and build real intimacy. * Why winning an argument often means losing in the long run. "Healthy grows you into a happier version of yourself." ~ Tracy Crossley

Attachment means you live in an itsy bitsy world, regardless of what it looks like on the outside. You are after a feeling that comes once in a while or never. The feeling of safety or security. This started in childhood. Unknowingly it has limited your relationships, self-worth, and personal growth. Let's scrap these behaviors, pain and feeling like no matter what you are back at it again. You can do it! Key Insights: * Childhood experiences are in the middle of your adult relationships. * Avoidant attachment wants a hot fudge sundae, but leaves the hot fudge off. * Believing in yourself that it can be different is possible. * How to know if you are growing will be answered too. "Only if it affects the inside, and it's how it affects the inside, does it really change your perception of yourself and how you see the world." ~ Tracy Crossley

It's what you know. It's a system that may take you years to see how it is set up for a small group. You, me and every other woman no matter the race, religion or creed doesn't operate at the top of the system no matter how fantastic of a leader you happen to be.   I know if you are listening, you are not a victim to the system, because being a victim means helpless to change. That's not what we are going for, understanding how it currently hobbles along doesn't work for many. Today, I am sharing from a historical and present day perspective. From wealth disparities to the “in your face” societal norms, nod your head along to how it perpetuates inequality and has us feeling guilty or ashamed while trying to chase down the feeling of success. It isn't about blame—it's about clarity. You'll gain insight into the unseen forces shaping your beliefs, relationships, and self-worth to change the balance of power. Key Takeaways: How the patriarchal system is a cycle.  If it works so well, why the fear, inequality, and mental health struggles? Who are the societal metrics of success for? Chip away the generational bias on wealth, politics, and education.. "The highest form of ignorance is rejecting what you don't know." ~ Tracy Crossley

Are you stuck in a tug-of-war between two versions of yourself? In this episode, Tracy explores the inner conflict between your "Dr. Jekyll" self—the love-driven, positive you—and your "Mr. Hyde" self—the fear-driven, avoidant you. These two sides shape how you approach relationships, responsibilities, and emotional growth, often without you even realizing it.

Are you your own worst enemy in relationships? Whether it's anxious clinging or avoidant distancing, attachment issues often create cycles of fear and emotional avoidance that sabotage the love and intimacy you crave. In this episode, Tracy dives deep into the hidden forces driving these patterns and shares how stepping into self-responsibility can transform your connections from the inside out.

How easy it is to live a separate life, until you actually realize that's what you've been doing. No one sets out in a relationship to do this, most people start off with the best intentions. Conditioning is responsible for hidden patterns that lead to emotional distance. It doesn't have to stay this way. Whether you want to stay in the relationship or go, there is a better way to live. Let's address what truly matters—how you feel and what is possible!

You may not realize you were born into a system. One that doesn't look at you as an individual. Taught from a young age values that may not work for you. Join me as we talk about the pressures of a mother in a patriarchal society, how does she lead or is she only a follower? Many get a mixed message leaving them overwhelmed and disconnected. The expectations placed on women erode personal identity, create loneliness, and a cycle of helplessness (even if you cannot see it)—women are leaders, it's time to reclaim your power, set boundaries, and redefine what it means to thrive in motherhood and beyond. Key Insights from this Episode: The unrealistic expectations and approval-seeking behaviors mothers face. How patriarchal norms lead to a loss of identity and isolation. The invisible rules that dictate behavior and breaking free from them. Learn to trust yourself, build genuine connections, and prioritize self-care. Take the first step toward rewriting your story and embracing your authentic self. Listen now! "Where are you giving your power away? Stop doing it, but don't stop it and blame others—instead, recognize you haven't been taking care of yourself and start respecting your own space." ~ Tracy Crossley

Do you blame your partner for everything—or do they blame you? Either way, the blame game is not helping. Join Tracy as she explores the toxic cycles of blame, insecure avoidance, and intellectualizing feelings that keep you trapped in crisis. You'll uncover why blame creates distance, blocks intimacy, and leaves you feeling anxious. If you're ready to have uplevel, tune in!

Relationships take work, right? Uhhhhh, not really. But if you grew up believing that phrase, you will create the issue you don't want. Chasing perfection—saying the right thing, doing the right thing—only to end up feeling worse. In this episode, Tracy takes a raw and honest look at how the perfectionism you may deny, sabotages your relationship. You'll uncover why striving for perfection creates pain instead of connection. More importantly, you'll get tips on changing that make a difference, What You'll Learn: * Perfectionism is a mask for deeper fears. * Blaming your partner for struggles keeps you stuck. * Taking responsibility for your own triggers. * Becoming more emotionally available and having it all. "Perfectionism doesn't come from love or confidence—it comes from pain, and if you're bringing it into your relationship, it's only creating more of the same." ~ Tracy Crossley

Ever feel like relationships are more drama than connection? That's because we've been conditioned to focus on roles, labels, and being “right” instead of learning how to truly relate. In this episode, Tracy uncovers the real essence of relationships and explores how to create meaningful connections, especially if you're grappling with attachment issues or stuck in toxic patterns. Get ready for practical insights, real-life examples, and a no-BS approach to breaking free from the shame, blame, and emotional barriers holding you back. This is your guide to honest communication, embracing vulnerability, and building relationships that actually feel good. Key Takeaways: *Stop playing the right vs. wrong game and learn to connect without judgment. *Understand how shame impacts your relationships and take steps to overcome it. *Discover the power of honest, blame-free communication. *Break unhealthy patterns by focusing on your own emotional growth. "Relating is about sharing where we're at. It doesn't mean it has to be fixed or that somebody's right and somebody's wrong—it's just about being honest." ~ Tracy Crossley

Ever feel like you're searching for meaning in all the wrong places? “Oh he texted me!” or “ “she said she sometimes thinks of us in the future.” In this episode, Tracy explores how we often give significance to things which really aren't meaningful , especially in relationships, and why it leaves us feeling empty and unfulfilled. Tracy brings some historical anecdote about President Lyndon B. Johnson to illustrate how we can find true meaning.. It's about the connections we create and the values we uphold. Key takeaways from this episode: * Seeking meaning from others' actions or words is a recipe for disappointment * What genuine meaning is within yourself * The difference between superficial and deep, fulfilling meaning. * Gain insights on how to feel good throughmeaning and purpose "You break patterns by getting uncomfortable—real growth happens when you stop avoiding yourself, connect deeply, and take emotionally risky actions." ~ Tracy Crossley

Are you an accomplished female leader who feels like you're constantly swimming against the tide? You're not alone. In this episode, we're peeling back the layers of societal conditioning that have shaped our experiences as women in a patriarchal world. I'm tackling the often-overlooked impact of patriarchy on females raised in this system. It's time to shine a light on the unconscious indoctrination that's been passed down through generations, affecting how we view ourselves and our capabilities. Unraveling the Patriarchal Tapestry The subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways girls are taught to prioritize men's needs How societal expectations shape our self-esteem and decision-making The lingering effects of historical gender roles on modern women The challenges of breaking free from ingrained beliefs Pay attention to what you say, what you do, and what it feels like in your body. When you feel it in your body, you're going to know, am I standing for myself or am I against myself? ~ Tracy Crossley

I used to feel this is it–”this is as good as it gets,” feeling empty and unfulfilled in my relationships. Even bored at times [when not feeling anxious]. Do you find yourself constantly trying to be the happiness fairy?, Only to end up feeling lifeless and disconnected? Let's look at the hidden causes behind these patterns and how to be your own happiness fairy. Pay attention to the silent energy drains you allow in your life. It's not your circumstances, it's all in your assumptions. They keep you stuck, believing it'll never change (whatever it is you want to change). Tune in to get some tools to help you set your wings free so you can fly! In this episode, you'll learn: How attachment styles shape people-pleasing behaviors. *Ways people-pleasing sucks you dry. *Why assumptions destroy everything. *Tiny steps to set boundaries and build self-love. "You want to feel full. You want to be filled up. You want to feel a sense of personal power. So it means you're going to get uncomfortable." ~ Tracy Crossley

Are you tired of feeling like an accidental jerk in your relationships? Do you find yourself oscillating between anxious attachment and avoidant behaviors? You're not alone. In this episode, Tracy candidly shares her personal journey as an anxious-avoidant, exploring the complex push-pull dynamic that many experience in relationships. Struggling between the desire for connection and the fear of vulnerability, she dives deep into the root causes of anxious-avoidant behavior, offering relatable insights and practical advice to help listeners break free from these self-sabotaging patterns. Tracy also provides a roadmap for those navigating this challenging attachment style, highlighting strategies for healthier relationships. Whether you're single, dating, or committed, this episode equips you with tools to stop pushing people away and start building the connections you truly desire. Key Insights from this episode: * How childhood experiences shape adult relationships * The role of guilt and shame in fueling attachment patterns * Strategies for challenging emotional unavailability and self-sabotage * Techniques for practicing radical honesty and staying present * Building genuine self-acceptance and lasting relationship change "The most freeing thing you can do as an anxious avoidant is to be honest about your emotional space right at this moment. Stop telling stories and start telling the truth about yourself." ~ Tracy Crossley

Have you ever felt like you're stuck in an endless cycle of personal growth, constantly facing new challenges? You're not alone. In this episode, I share my recent experiences with multiple "dark nights of the soul" and how they've shaped my understanding of attachment and personal development. I know that spiritual awakening isn't a one-time event, but a continuous journey. It's like progressing through levels in a video game, with each new stage presenting tougher obstacles. By sharing my own vulnerabilities, I hope to inspire you to embrace your journey, no matter how difficult it may seem. Remember, no one is coming to save you - and that's a good thing. Your journey is uniquely yours, and every challenge is an opportunity for growth. Are you ready to face your own dark night of the soul? Key Insights from this episode: *Understand that multiple "dark nights" are normal and part of growth *Recognize attachments to outcomes and ideas of "arriving" *Learn to be present with uncomfortable emotions *Take emotionally risky actions and what it means for success “Nobody is coming to save you, and that's a damn good thing.” ~ Tracy Crossley

Ever feel like you're caught in a never-ending cycle of caring too much about things that don't really matter? You're not alone. In this episode, we're going to explore the fascinating world of attachment and how it impacts our relationships, self-worth, and overall happiness. I'll share my personal journey from being consumed by attachment to finding true freedom. We'll discuss why caring about attachment is a waste of time and how to shift your focus towards self-love and compassion. Key Insights You'll Gain: * The root cause of attachment and its impact on your “entire” life * What is self-responsibility and how it helps you break free from attachment * How to stop giving others control over your emotions * Do you know how to sit with your feelings without judgment? Listen in. * Ways to build true confidence and attract healthier relationships "Attachment is a distraction from the lack of love you have for yourself." ~ Tracy Crossley

Freak out mode, ever experienced it? Emotional outbursts or shut downs, the ol' silent treatment sound familiar? I know for years when things didn't go my way–I was great at being a stone wall and ignoring. Just like most conditioning, the way we react when triggered may not have changed too much in those moments of stress or conflict. I know the feeling of fight, flight or freeze mode would automatically without thought propel me into a reaction. And then I'd feel bad afterwards or even while acting in this way, wanting to control the situation (yes, control). In this episode, Tracy Crossley explains why emotional maturity often lags behind intellectual maturity, tracing these reactions to early attachment patterns and unmet needs. She shares her own journey and offers a three-step process for emotional growth: awareness, feeling your feelings, and taking emotionally risky actions. By embracing discomfort, you can respond from a grounded, adult state instead of a triggered, childlike one. Tune into this episode to: • Learn why you still react like you are five when upset and the root causes • Gain actionable advice to grow up emotionally through self-work • Hear Tracy's personal examples of her emotional immaturity and growth • Understand how to show up emotionally mature with difficult people • Get the 3 steps to end relationship intensity and anxious/avoidant patterns

You can do it all! But how hard do you make it for yourself? Moving from scarcity to an abundance mindset can bring prosperity, but you know what else? It makes you less angry, tired and resentful.   Even with career success, many struggle with an inner voice saying they don't deserve it or things have to be hard. Tracy shares her personal journey working through money fears and limiting beliefs. Though accomplishments stacked up, an underlying feeling of "when will I lose this?" persisted. Realizing your relationship with scarcity is important, it can expand what's possible. There's enough for us all. Dig deeper into abundance mindset shifts - tune in today.   In this episode, listeners will:  It's not just law of attraction; get the difference  of scarcity vs. abundance  Identify childhood roots of scarcity  Learn to move from survival to growth mode  Gain tools to align conscious desires and subconscious beliefs Discover how to stop self-sabotage for good "When I became able to respect myself and have that level of confidence because I'm alive, it really did change things." ~ Tracy Crossley  

Sometimes we don't realize our only issue is our patterns. We fight to stay where we are, even while saying, “nooooo I want out or to change.” You can break free and feel totally different in the process. In this podcast, listen to the familiar trap of avoidance and emotional neglect that we are used to but may not be aware we are creating. Not only is it about drilling deep but what to do with your feelings as signposts for change. This episode is not just a listening experience but an opportunity to surrender and stop fighting to stay. In this episode, listeners will: * See how you cling unconsciously to situations that don't serve you * Pay attention to what an avoidance pattern looks like * Yes, your wisdom is tied into your feelings, so don't suppress them * Why courage aligned with your highest self matters Feelings are not just emotions; they're signposts, guiding you to what's buried deep within. ~ Tracy Crossley

Everyone talks about how to value yourself. So how do you do it when it matters? Explore the liberating journey as Tracy breaks down your barriers of expectations and needing validations. Are you ready to dig into your feelings, wrangle deep-seated beliefs, and learn self-importance that doesn't rely on others? Then listen in today. In this episode, you will be able to: *Embrace fulfilling relationships (first with yourself). *Breakthrough barriers to love and for growth. *Attract and maintain healthy relationships. *Elevating self-importance for personal growth “You want to get to the point of feeling important because you breathe” ~ Tracy Crossley

Get ready to dive into the battle against self-doubt with today's expert guest, Tracy Crossley. We uncover attachment theory's impact on leadership and learn how true self-acceptance can revolutionize your confidence. It's not just a journey; it's an uprising! Key Takeaways Attachment theory and its relation to imposter syndrome The true meaning of self-acceptance Recognizing the pattern of your Beliefs - Rules - Stories - Patterns - Evidence Get out of your conditioning to allow your true self to come to the surface Ready to investigate the stories you've told yourself, examine them for validity, and live a brave new, more confident life? Tune in on your favorite listening app, on the website, or watch it on YouTube! Links & Mentioned Resources Conquer Your Inner Dictator Download About Tracy Crossley Tracy Crossley innovates in a crowded marketplace of coaches, counselors and mentors. She has perfected a method for real change no matter what circumstances are occurring in the life of an individual; personally or in business. With her background in business, marketing, psychology, ontological coaching, emotional intelligence and intuitive abilities, Tracy is the game-changer for women leaders looking to reinvent how they live and lead from the inside out. She has been known to say she can build the perfect leader for the present and the future. Connect with Tracy LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/tracycrossley/ Website: https://tracycrossley.com/ Email: happiness@tracycrossley.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/TransformativeCoach Facebook: www.facebook.com/groups/journeyofattachment Twitter: www.twitter.com/TracyCrossley Instagram: www.instagram.com/tracylcrossley/?hl=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you caught in the relentless pursuit of perfectionism, tirelessly trying to meet others' expectations at the expense of your own well-being? You're not alone. This podcast dives into the common struggle many face: the battle against the compulsion to please everyone but ourselves. It's a struggle that often stems from past traumas and the deep-seated need for external validation, which, in turn, obstructs our path to genuine emotional freedom and self-worth. Tracy offers insight, guidance, and support to those yearning to break free from these restrictive patterns and embrace a life of authenticity and emotional liberation. Let's uncover the challenges of what it is to live authentically with emotional freedom and break free of perfectionism and people-pleasing. In this episode, you will be able to: * Embrace freedom from attachment to unlock your true potential and live a more fulfilling life. * Overcome perfectionism and discover the joy of embracing your authentic self. * Cultivate self-worth and confidence to create positive change in every aspect of your life. * Understand the dynamics of relationships to build healthier and more meaningful connections. * Experience personal growth that empowers you to live a life aligned with your values and aspirations. The more "you" you are, the easier and more profound your whole life becomes. ~ Tracy Crossley

Does it feel like you're constantly striving to be enough but never quite reaching that point? Maybe you've been told that the key to feeling worthy is to keep achieving more and more, but deep down, you still struggle with feelings of inadequacy. The pain of not feeling like you're good enough can impact every aspect of your life, from relationships to work and your overall well-being. If you're tired of constantly chasing validation and want to experience greater self-acceptance and inner peace, then keep listening. In this episode, you will be able to: * Embrace self-acceptance and inner peace for a more fulfilling life. * Explore the impact of not feeling enough and unlock your true potential. * Begin your journey towards self-love and find inner contentment. * Address limiting beliefs for personal transformation and growth. * Discover the importance of emotional exploration and awareness for a more balanced life. "You're here to take up space, meaning to be you, to be with who you are right now in this moment. Why? Because you're opening your future up to be amazing then, because that is how magic happens." ~ Tracy Crossley

It's that time folks! Tracy dives into a deeply personal journey of self-discovery and resilience. From unexpected life events to emotional struggles, Tracy shares her raw and unfiltered experiences, unveiling the surprising impact of stress on her life. While Tracy reveals her stuff around guilt, inner peace, and transforming her business, she will also lead you through an exercise in relieving yourself of stress. Join her for a newfound perspective on personal growth. In this episode, you will be able to: - Explore the depths of emotional well-being and relationships for a more fulfilling life. - Uncover the impact of stress on your well-being and how to effectively manage it. - Learn effective strategies for coping with life's challenges and emerging stronger. - Build resilience through the power of emotional processing for inner strength. - Embark on a journey of self-awareness to foster personal growth and empowerment. I don't need to be married to the stress just because shit is happening doesn't mean I need to be stressed by it. ~ Tracy Crossley

If you're feeling the nagging sense that something is missing in your life, like you're stuck in the same old patterns and stories, then you are not alone! Maybe you're telling yourself that your life is good, but deep down, there's a yearning for something more. You might have been seeking advice from others, asking for their opinions on decisions like dating or career choices, only to find yourself stuck in the same place, unable to break free from the obstacles you've created. It's time to uncover what's holding you back and take the courageous step towards authentic growth and relationships. In this episode, you will be able to: * Explore the complexities of human emotions and relationships for deeper understanding and meaningful connections. * Unlock the importance of self-awareness and personal growth for a more fulfilling life and authentic relationships. * Overcome self-deception to uncover your true potential and live a more authentic and purposeful life. * Cultivate courage and self-love in relationships to foster genuine and lasting connections. * Discover the power of soul plan readings for gaining self-understanding and clarity on life's purpose. So stand up and be in your own two shoes and commit to yourself. Because every time I'm vulnerable, I'm committed to myself. And that means that if I commit to myself, I can commit to other things as well. - Tracy Crossley

Tracy Crossley is an author, entrepreneur, podcast host, and behavioral relationship expert. Her book, Overcoming Insecure Attachment, talks about how to take action and stop fear and anxiety from controlling your life. Her specialty is working with individuals with unhealthy dating and relationship patterns as well as those with behavioral issues like insecure attachment. Listen in as Tracy shares her story. From running a marketing agency to becoming a life coach, from working as a psychic to becoming a behavioral relationship expert–Tracy has had quite the journey! Timestamped show notes:01:51 - Origin story 05:48 - Ontological coaching 06:49 - Insecure attachment 10:53 - Improving emotional intelligence 14:32 - Awareness 16:26 - Impostor syndrome 22:31 - Insecurity 26:07 - Advice for women entrepreneurs 34:36 - Patterns 43:39 - Working with Tracy 49:20 - Finding someone 53:07 - Tracy's podcasts Links: Tracy's Website: https://tracycrossley.com/ Tracy's Podcasts: https://tracycrossley.com/podcast/ Overcoming Insecure Attachment: https://tracycrossley.com/book/  

Episode Summary Tracy Crossley is a Behavioral Relationship Expert and Published Author! Her work centers on busting through patterns of behavior through emotional work—to transform you from the inside out. The purpose is to deliver you the opportunity to up your Emotional Intelligence (EQ) and experience happy healthy relationships. Who's your ideal client and what's the biggest challenge they face? What are the common mistakes people make when trying to solve that problem? What is one valuable free action that our audience can implement that will help with that issue? What is one valuable free resource that you can direct people to that will help with that issue? What's the one question I should have asked you that would be of great value to our audience? When was the last time you experienced Goosebumps with your family and why? Get in touch with Tracy: Website, LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube Learn more about how Uwe helps in-demand professionals and their VIPs to enjoy Unshakeable Two-getherness in their relationship (plus more free time and zero guilt). Or when you feel you'd be interested in working together you can Book A Chat With Uwe

Tracy Crossley is a Behavioral Expert, Author, and Podcast Host of two weekly podcasts. With her background in business, marketing, psychology, ontological coaching, emotional intelligence, and intuitive abilities, Tracy is the gamechanger for women leaders looking to reinvent how they live and lead from the inside out. On today's episode, host, Naketa Ren Thigpen explores the personal and professional journey Tracy has had to navigate through her own issues, confronting fears of loss, and focusing on growing confidence and self-worth. Through sacrifices and self-reflection, Tracy realizes the importance of not sacrificing herself to meet others' expectations. Tune in and hear how her story serves as a powerful reminder that embracing emotions and pursuing holistic well-being are key components of a fulfilling life. What to expect in today's BBP episode:- The power of women founders and entrepreneur focusing on personal leadership- How people reveal their true selves in conversation- Benefits of addressing shame, guilt and difficulties connecting- Alternative methods for personal growth and moving forward- Examining how fear prevents us from addressing internal issuesMore about Tracy CrossleyTracy Crossley innovates in a crowded marketplace of coaches, counselors, and mentors. She has perfected a method for real change no matter what circumstances are occurring in the life of an individual, personally or in business. Host of two weekly podcasts, Freedom from Attachment has over 600 episodes with monologues focusing on leaving insecurities behind and gives a “how to” so they stop standing in the way of how you want to feel, live and love!Tracy's newest show, The Power of Me: Creating Meaningful Success is specifically focused on female leaders and the issues many have with emotional well-being, bias, expectations, self-doubt, always being in the emotional struggle and learning to trust themselves to do it their way all the time.Contact Tracy Crossleyhttps://tracycrossley.com/https://www.facebook.com/TransformativeCoachhttps://www.instagram.com/tracylcrossleyhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/tracycrossley/Subscribe, REVIEW, Share & Balance BoldlyOn the Balance Boldly Podcast, host Naketa Ren Thigpen talks with ambitious women in business (and a few brave men) from a wide array of industries about their pursuit of success, how they face business burnout, navigate relationship hurdles, and what overall work/life balance looks like for them. Not your conventional personal development podcast, Balance Boldly uncovers real solutions to real problems afflicting real people at home and in the workplace, daily.If you enjoyed this episode, head over to Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeart Radio, or your favorite podcast app to subscribe to the show and leave your honest review.Now Go! Enjoy the balance of your day, but remember, do it, BOLDLY!Thank you for listening!

Tracy Crossley is a Behavioral Expert, Author, and Podcast Host, and today she will talk with Hilmon about how to build the best leaders for the future. You will come away from this episode with a better understanding of how to lead without self-doubt; how to lead from a perspective that is not your ‘conditioned self.' You will learn what challenges future leaders face and what they can do to overcome them. Tracy will also explain why intrinsic motivation is so important in the workplace, as well as how to lead with honesty instead of fear. She will also touch on the relational dynamics within a team and how they play into your own characteristics.For more information, visit Tracy's website at tracycrossley.com.Follow Tracy on Twitter: https://twitter.com/TracyCrossleyFollow Tracy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tracylcrossley/?hl=enConect with Tracy on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracycrossley/For more information about CoachCRM: www.coachcrm.comFor more information about ClozeLoop: www.clozeloop.comConnect with Hilmon: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hilmonsorey/Follow Hilmon on IG: @hilmonsorey