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Treva Brandon Scharf is an ICF-certified life/dating/relationship coach, former fitness pro, marriage first-timer at 51, and author of the book, "Done Being Single: A Late Bloomer's Guide to Love" With 40+ years in the fitness business, and many more in the singles world, Treva helps people achieve their personal best in life and love. Treva blogs about surviving singledom and finding love, and contributes dating advice to Newsweek, Huffington Post, Thrive Global, Bustle, and more. Treva is an advocate for strong, independent women, a voice for empowered singles, and a champion of late bloomers everywhere. When she's not delivering tough love to readers, followers, and private clients, Treva volunteers as a Special Olympics coach. She is passionate about politics, policy, and people of all ages and abilities.
Treva Brandon Scharf is an ICF-certified life/dating/relationship coach, former fitness pro, marriage first-timer at 51, and author of the book, "Done Being Single: A Late Bloomer's Guide to Love" With 40+ years in the fitness business, and many more in the singles world, Treva helps people achieve their personal best in life and love. Treva blogs about surviving singledom and finding love, and contributes dating advice to Newsweek, Huffington Post, Thrive Global, Bustle, and more. Treva is an advocate for strong, independent women, a voice for empowered singles, and a champion of late bloomers everywhere. When she's not delivering tough love to readers, followers, and private clients, Treva volunteers as a Special Olympics coach. She is passionate about politics, policy, and people of all ages and abilities.
Conversation with Treva Brandon Scharf - Subject: Done Being Single Part 2Let us know what you think in the comments below.
Conversation with Treva Brandon Scharf Subject: Done Being SingleLet us know what you think in the comments below.
Episode 2474 - On this Friday's show Vinnie Tortorich welcomes author and life coach Treva Brandon Scharf and they discuss careers in fitness, being a late bloomer in life, dating, and more. https://vinnietortorich.com/2024/04/being-late-bloomer-with-treva-brandon-scharf-epsiode-2474 PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS YOU CAN WATCH THIS EPISODE ON YOUTUBE - Being A Late Bloomer Treva and Vinnie have a history in their early days of Los Angeles. (3:00) She shares what she did in those days as well, also as a fitness trainer. Fitness training can be difficult and can create a high level of burnout. Both of them love Napoleon Hill's “Think and Grow Rich”. (26:00) They discuss “transmutation”. She explains how her life evolved around the age of 50. (32:00) Life Coaching is a way to help others reach their goals. Everyone is on their own timeline in addition to having false stories about themselves, which can make things more challenging. (44:00) She didn't get married until age 50 and the timing was unexpected. (46:00) Vinnie shares a story about seeing young men and women on dates, yet they were looking down at their phones. (50:00) Treva doesn't love apps as much as meeting people in real life. They discuss the challenges of approaching women today and all the qualifiers. (53:00) She gives suggestions for today's dating environment. Treva's book is called “Done Being Single.” (1:05:00) It's a type of self-help memoir which has a variety of stories and learning experiences. Her goal is to help people become their personal best, but there is a certain “acceptance” that needs to be done. They talk about a growth mindset vs. a fixed mindset. You can find Treva at @trevabme on Instagram. Look for Vinnie's NSNG® VIP Community and sign up for the waitlist! Go to to sign up! [the_ad id="20253"] PURCHASE BEYOND IMPOSSIBLE (2022) The documentary launched on January 11! Order it TODAY! This is Vinnie's third documentary in just over three years. Get it now on Apple TV (iTunes) and/or Amazon Video! Link to the film on Apple TV (iTunes): Then, Share this link with friends, too! It's also now available on Amazon (the USA only for now)! Visit my new Documentaries HQ to find my films everywhere: REVIEWS: Please submit your REVIEW after you watch my films. Your positive REVIEW does matter! FAT: A DOCUMENTARY 2 (2021) Visit my new Documentaries HQ to find my films everywhere: Then, please share my fact-based, health-focused documentary series with your friends and family. The more views, the better it ranks, so please watch it again with a new friend! REVIEWS: Please submit your REVIEW after you watch my films. Your positive REVIEW does matter! FAT: A DOCUMENTARY (2019) Visit my new Documentaries HQ to find my films everywhere: Then, please share my fact-based, health-focused documentary series with your friends and family. The more views, the better it ranks, so please watch it again with a new friend! REVIEWS: Please submit your REVIEW after you watch my films. Your positive REVIEW does matter!
Any late bloomers out there when it comes to love, relationships, and dating? Then meet guest Treva Brandon Scharf, author, “Done Being Single, A Late Bloomer's Guide To Love.” Treva was born and raised in Beverly Hills by two Hollywood talent agents who divorced. She admits to having been a commitment-phobe, serial dater who tried marriage for the first time at 51. Did it work out? You'll have to tune in to find out. There's a lot to talk about, like her advice about dating pre and post 40, we'll be talking the best dating apps for any age, simple ways to meet significant your other, and much more. Treva is a gifted blogger and writer, and also talks about her own dating life, which is quite interesting to say the least! This is part self-help/dating advice, part memoir and definitely part research to help you in your search for love. Please join us on #DeborahKobyltLIVE on all video and audio platforms, and invite your friends, too. Have a question for Treva? Leave it in the comments below or DM me and I'll get them to her. Thanks for joining us! #DeborahZaraKobylt
Seeking and finding love has no timeline. At 51, Treva was married for the first time and realised she learned a lot about relationships through dating but is now putting some of those lessons and skills into practice with her husband. No matter how old we are, there is always more to learn about ourselves, relationships and our person. Treva is an ICF-certified life, dating & relationship coach. She is the Author of the new book, "Done Being Single: A Late Bloomer's Guide to Love." Treva got married for the first time at 51, and in this episode she shares her experience and wisdom to create better relationships. We chat Finding love at 50 Three H's - Helped, hugged, heard The challenges of merging lives after being a long term single. Better Relationships We empower couples to create thriving relationships so that they can play all out in life, set big goals and put plans in place to actually achieve them. Better World Many research studies have shown that great relationships are associated with better health, greater happiness, and even a longer life. If more of us had thriving, healthy, happy romantic relationships, we know we would have a better world. That's why, every time someone works with us, via our partnership with Buy1Give1 we also help someone else in the world. Yep a stranger, someone you'll never meet. Connect with Sammi & Nathan Jaeger Instagram - Date Forever - https://www.instagram.com/dateforever/ Instagram - Fuelled Up Life - https://www.instagram.com/fuelled.up.life/ Instagram - Nath - https://www.instagram.com/nathjaeger/ Instagram - Sammi - https://www.instagram.com/sammisomewhere/ Connect with Treva Brandon Scharf Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/trevabme/ Website - www.trevabrandonscharf.com Books mentioned Done Being Single - https://www.amazon.com.au/Done-Being-Single-Bloomers-Guide/dp/B0BDXY23L9
Today my guest is Treva Brandon Shcarf, a life/dating/relationship coach, former fitness professional, midlife marriage first-timer, and author of the book Done Being Single: A Late Bloomer's Guide to Love. This episode is all about the ways we hold ourselves back from experiencing both the love and life that we want for our next chapter. Treva shares that what works for life advice is also solid dating advice. We chat about manifestation and law of attraction, knowing ourselves, how we get in our own way. We also share the dating disasters and mistakes that we have both personally made. This is an honest, no holds barred conversation about finding the love and living the life you want for your next chapter. -------- Treva Brandon Scharf is an ICF-certified life/dating/relationship coach, fitness pro, and author of the new self-help memoir, “Done Being Single: A Late Bloomer's Guide to Love.” With over 40 years in the fitness business, and many more in the singles world, Treva knows how to help people achieve their personal best in life and love. Treva blogs about surviving singledom and finding love later in life and contributes her brand of dating advice to many publications. She currently co-hosts the podcast “Done Being Single” with her husband Robby. Treva is an advocate for strong, independent women, a voice for empowered singles, and a champion for late bloomers everywhere. When she's not delivering tough love to her clients and readers, Treva volunteers as a Special Olympics coach and a Fulfillment Fund mentor to at-risk kids. She is passionate about politics, policy, and people of all ages and abilities. Free test-driven breakup tips at www.trevabrandonscharf.com
Special guest and author, Treva Brandon Scharf will be joining CharVision tonight! Treva will be enlightening us about dating and discussing her new book, Done Being Single! Then, Char will be taking your calls and doing readings as always! Tune in for the LIVE show at 9PM EST/6PM PST. Watch here on Facebook or on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@charcom 323-524-2599Support the show on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/CharMargolis6p/pst 9p Estwww.char.netChar MargolisTwitter- @psychicmedmcharinstagram.com/CharMargolisFor more information on Char visit www.Char.netwww.fb.com/IntuitiveMediumCharMargolis@psychicMedmChar
Treva Brandon Scharf is an ICF-certified life/dating/relationship coach, fitness pro, and author of the new book, “Done Being Single: A Late Bloomer's Guide to Love.” Treva writes about surviving singledom and finding love later in life. She's been published in Newsweek, Huffington Post, Thrive Global, The Intelligencer, Bustle, UpJourney, BetterAfter50, and others. Treva is an advocate for strong, independent women, a voice for empowered singles, and a champion for late bloomers everywhere. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: How Treva found love and married at 50 Why feminism doesn't have a place in modern dating How online dating is ruining romance How people can meet IRL Treva's Website: www.trevabrandonscharf.com Free breakup tips https://trevabrandonscharf.com/breakup-tips/ ►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio ►If you're feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get Sandy's books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook and Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 ►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching ►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear ►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ ►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ ► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ ►Get Amazon Music Unlimited FREE for 30 days at getamazonmusic.com/lastfirstdate --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/sandy-weiner9/message
Meet my dear friend Treva Brandon Scharf, a certified life/dating/relationship coach, fitness expert, and author of "Done Being Single: A Late Bloomer's Guide to Love." With over four decades in the fitness industry and extensive experience in the dating world, Treva is an expert in helping people reach their personal best in both life and love. She shares her insights and advice on navigating singledom and finding love later in life through her blog and has contributed to several publications, including Huffington Post, Newsweek, and Thrive Global. Together with her husband, Robby, Treva co-hosts the podcast "Done Being Single" and advocates for the empowerment of strong, independent women and the recognition of late bloomers. When she's not delivering tough love to her clients, Treva volunteers as a coach for Special Olympics and mentors at-risk kids through the Fulfillment Fund. She is passionate about politics, policy, and helping people of all ages and abilities achieve their dreams. Some powerful takeaways from today's episode: Embracing being single and detaching from the outcome can lead to positive shifts in energy and mindset. Making tough decisions and embracing change are essential for personal growth and fulfillment. Setting boundaries, practicing acceptance, and knowing when to quit are important in dating and life. Reinvention can be prompted by life events and realizations that challenge the status quo. Relationships can be catalysts for personal and professional growth, but one's story and completeness are not defined by a relationship. Surrendering and relaxing can improve performance and reduce anxiety in various aspects of life. Self-acceptance, self-improvement, and confidence in oneself are crucial for success in dating and other areas of life. Lessons learned in dating can be applied to different situations. Personal growth and self-work are essential in relationships. Finding fulfillment in one's own life and seeking happiness through various avenues is important, not relying solely on a partner. Links: Treva's website: www.trevabrandonscharf.com Treva's Podcast: “Done Being Single” Treva's Book: “Done Being Single: A Late Bloomer's Guide to Love.” Treva Brandon Scharf's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/trevabrandonscharf/ THE RE:INVENTION EXCHANGE - for more Inspired Content, Blogs, Podcasts, Virtual Chats, or to buy a copy of my book RE:INVENT YOUR LIFE! WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR? visit https://www.TheReinventionExchange.com. IG: KathiSR_Chief_Reinventor FB: Kathi Sharpe-Ross or The Reinvention Exchange LinkedIn: Kathi Sharpe-Ross Twitter: KathiSR or The Reinvention Exchange
Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating
Treva and I share great tips for those guys who get no matches online. We also talk about Treva's book, Done Being Single and how she came to be a late blooming bride. We lament the necessary evil that is online dating and offer ways to meet in person as well. If you're single and in your 40s or 50s this story will make you feel like you're not so alone. We also embrace and talk about how open and accepting society has become where you can choose the path that works for you! Come join us! You'll also find out how to get in touch with Treva if you'd like to work with her in hear coaching capacitySupport the showThanks for listening!NEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/supportEmail questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @tamara_schoon_comicTwitter: @tamarapodcast
On this episode of Done Being Single, we're connecting heart to c*ck by turning outdated male conditioning & culture into healthy templates for love. Men, it's time to breathe new life into your relationships (and your other parts too!) Click Here To View This Episode On Our YouTube Channel!
45,000 years of evolutionary psychology confirms it: humans are hardwired to date a certain way. In this episode of Done Being Single, Dr. Duana Welch shares her insights and data on human dating rituals. From playing hard to get, to the prerogative of pursuit, to waiting for sex, Dr. Welch proves that evolution doesn't have an off switch, and that's good news for dating. Click Here To View This Episode On Our YouTube Channel!
Leroy said he's done with being single, and the crew has something to say about it.
This week we're joined by two incredible musicians, our brother John Cowsil and Robby Scharf the bass-player on our last album called "Global".Strap in -- It's a crazy story that begins in the offices of Dick Clark and ends with Bob, Paul, Susan, and John sitting in a hotel room in Marina Del Rey across from two FBI agents who have tracked them down.We also hear Paul's gripe with Bob's selection of Global tracks. Song of the Week: "What About Love?" play the whole songCheck out Robby's podcast, Done Being Single. Keep your eyes out for John's new music coming soon!
After a year plus of pandemic stress eating and drinking, we're finally getting back to normal, and back into action. But what about those extra pounds and bad habits we picked up along the way? How do we lose the weight and get fit? What kind of diet should we be on, and where do we find the motivation if we've turned into lazy sloths? Look no further than fitness guru and nutritional expert, Jill Brown, our guest this week on Done Being Single. She's got all the tips and tools you need to get yourself into post-pandemic shape. Click Here To View This Episode On Our YouTube Channel!
When you find yourself single in your 50’s you may begin to question whether love is still possible for you. Dating seems like a hassle and you might honestly believe that there are no good men left. In today's episode, I talk to Treva Brandon Scharf dating coach and creator of The Late Blooming Bride (a fantastic and very real blog btw) about her experience of finding love in midlife and becoming a first-time bride at 51. Treva shares how to build dating resilience, overcome limiting beliefs, and eliminate the obstacles to finding love. We talk about the biggest things working against us as midlife women and shares her dating secrets and mistakes with us. This is a great listen if you have ever found yourself wondering if there are any good men left out there. Treva shares all the secrets to finding your one. Learn more about Treva Treva Brandon Scharf is an International Coaching Federation certified life coach, fitness professional, writer, and first-time bride at 51. Treva started as a copywriter at BBDO New York, where she created campaigns for Pepsi, Pizza Hut, and Visa, Gillette, among others. Her writing repertoire includes screenwriting, TV programming, web content, and blogging. As a lifelong athlete, Treva turned her passion into a profession, first as a fitness coach, then as a life coach. She gets clients fit from the inside out by first building resilience, confidence, and self-worth. As a post-50 influencer, Treva writes about surviving singledom and finding love later in life at her blog, “The Late Blooming Bride” - trevabrandonscharf.com/blog. She’s also a dating advice contributor to Huffington Post, Hollywood Progressive, Relationship Development & Transformation, Thrive Global, Midlife Boulevard, Medium, BetterAfter50, Medium, Bustle, Romper, and the Intelligencer. Treva co-hosts the podcast “Done Being Single” - donebeingsingle.com - with her husband Robby Scharf, a musician, production executive, and fellow late bloomer. Together, they deliver dating intervention and relationship advice to thousands of listeners all over the world. Website: trevabrandonscharf.com Facebook: facebook.com/treva.brandonscharf Instagram: @trevabme Twitter: twitter.com/trevabme LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/trevabrandonscharf
akaRadioRed welcomes in-demand creative influencers. Treva Brandon Scharf is an ICF-certified life coach, dating expert, fitness pro, blogger, and marriage first-timer at 51. She writes about empowerment, surviving singledom, and finding love at her blog, The Late Blooming Bride. As a post-50s influencer and a voice for strong, independent women, Treva hosts the podcast Done Being Single with husband Robby. www.donebeingsingle.com Brian Fried is a serial inventor whose inventions reach consumers through mass retail, infomercials, home shopping channels, catalogs, and online retailers through licensing and manufacturing. The author of Inventing Secrets Revealed and You & Your Big Idea, Brian mentors and represents inventors and celebrities throughout the process. On his Got Invention Radio show, he has interviewed the U.S. Patent & Trademark Office and Lori Greiner from ABC's Shark Tank. www.brianfried.com Join akaRadioRed for Read My Lips: Serial Creatives Paying It Forward!
akaRadioRed welcomes in-demand creative influencers. Treva Brandon Scharf is an ICF-certified life coach, dating expert, fitness pro, blogger, and marriage first-timer at 51. She writes about empowerment, surviving singledom, and finding love at her blog, The Late Blooming Bride. As a post-50s influencer and a voice for strong, independent women, Treva hosts the podcast Done Being Single with husband Robby. www.donebeingsingle.com Brian Fried is a serial inventor whose inventions reach consumers through mass retail, infomercials, home shopping channels, catalogs, and online retailers through licensing and manufacturing. The author of Inventing Secrets Revealed and You & Your Big Idea, Brian mentors and represents inventors and celebrities throughout the process. On his Got Invention Radio show, he has interviewed the U.S. Patent & Trademark Office and Lori Greiner from ABC's Shark Tank. www.brianfried.com Join akaRadioRed for Read My Lips: Serial Creatives Paying It Forward!
You may be able to mask your depression behind a happy face, a good marriage, or a successful career, but in the middle of a pandemic, it becomes much harder.That's because a crisis like COVID--with the fear, anxiety, and trauma that comes with it--makes Perfectly Hidden Depression more difficult to hide.On this episode of Done Being Single, clinical psychologist Dr. Margaret Rutherford explains the 10 characteristics of Perfectly Hidden Depression (PHD), teaches us the five C's of healing, and inspires us to take action without shame or guilt.Click here to see video of this podcast!
You may be able to mask your depression behind a happy face, a good marriage, or a successful career, but in the middle of a pandemic, it becomes much harder.That's because a crisis like COVID--with the fear, anxiety, and trauma that comes with it--makes Perfectly Hidden Depression more difficult to hide.On this episode of Done Being Single, clinical psychologist Dr. Margaret Rutherford explains the 10 characteristics of Perfectly Hidden Depression (PHD), teaches us the five C's of healing, and inspires us to take action without shame or guilt.Click here to see video of this podcast!
Here's a glimpse of things you need to check to make sure you're ready for marriage or even to date. If you're not done be single don't look for anything else. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/drew-moore-motivation/support
Acclaimed personal development thought leader Katie Hendricks joins Done Being Single to talk about fear: how to face it and conquer it. In this episode, you'll learn about the five responses to fear: fight, flight, flee, faint, and flee. You’ll learn breathing and movement techniques, plus you’ll get the skills you need to maintain your sense of agency, reclaim your power, and get back into your body. A must-hear/see show for the times we're living in! Click here to see the video of this podcast on our YouTube Channel!
Acclaimed personal development thought leader Katie Hendricks joins Done Being Single to talk about fear: how to face it and conquer it. In this episode, you'll learn about the five responses to fear: fight, flight, flee, faint, and flee. You’ll learn breathing and movement techniques, plus you’ll get the skills you need to maintain your sense of agency, reclaim your power, and get back into your body. A must-hear/see show for the times we're living in! Click here to see the video of this podcast on our YouTube Channel!
Author of the best-selling relationship book, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, John Gray joins Done Being Single to discuss what happens when Mars & Venus are quarantined.How does the power dynamic change when you're quarantined? Can you find balance? What do men need in time of need? What do women need to feel safe? How do you give each other space? Get great tips and takeaways on keeping your sanity, and your love alive in the time of coronavirus.Click here to see video of our John Gray interview on YouTube!
Author of the best-selling relationship book, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, John Gray joins Done Being Single to discuss what happens when Mars & Venus are quarantined.How does the power dynamic change when you're quarantined? Can you find balance? What do men need in time of need? What do women need to feel safe? How do you give each other space? Get great tips and takeaways on keeping your sanity, and your love alive in the time of coronavirus.Click here to see video of our John Gray interview on YouTube!
Even though this episode of Done Being Single was recorded just before the coronavirus hit, its message and lessons are right on time. Building habits, maintaining structure, keeping a sense of normalcy is EVERTHING right now. From dating habits to living habits, your survival depends on how well you adapt, change, and rewire. The question is, can you do it? Our guest, behavioral scientist and New York Times best-selling author BJ Fogg, shares small, actionable and science-backed steps to help you make immediate changes in your life.
Treva Brandon Scharf is a certified life coach, dating expert, fitness professional, and marriage first-timer at 50. With over 35 years in the coaching business, and many more in the singles world, Treva knows first-hand how to achieve peak performance in both life and love. Treva writes about surviving singledom and finding love later in life at her blog, “The Late Blooming Bride” www.thelatebloomingbride.com. She hosts the podcast “Done Being Single,” with her husband Robby, on the VoiceAmerica Talk Radio Network. In this episode of The Woman of Value Podcast you'll hear: - How Treva was finally able to marry for the first time after 50 - How she met her husband and why he became the ‘one' - The internal shifts necessary to let love in - The importance of setting boundaries with family, especially when you're an only child - A powerful exercise to center yourself every day - A deeper understanding of her father's recent death - And much more https://www.thewomanofvalue.com/podcast/ #womensempowerment #womanofvalue #findingloveafter50
In this very real and raw episode of Done Being Single, we share our stories of losing loved ones: from processing grief and finding healing, to understanding the impact of loss on relationships and dating, to surrendering to the power of love. Joining the conversation with his own inspiring story is midlife dating coach Jonathon Aslay.
Hitting midlife is no laughing matter, but it is on this episode of Done Being Single! Allison Cane & Jillian Franklyn, hosts of the hilarious YouTube show “Pretty Over,” are laughing about all things post-50: sex and menopause, aging gracefully (or trying to), hormones (they love them), relationships, and dating age-appropriate people. As Frank & Alli say, there’s nothing sexier than a man who dates a woman his own age! Most of all, they laugh at themselves, because that’s really all you can do. For sheer laughs, honesty, candor, and the truth about what being over 50 can feel and look like, take a listen to these ladies. They’re sexy, sassy, smart, inspirational, aspirational, and hot all over. They make their own rules and tell it like it is. in other words, they’re exactly the kind of women you want to be (or date) in midlife!
Are you looking for ways to enjoy a healthy sex-life well into your 50's, 60's, 70's and beyond? Join the club. Older people today are having more great sex than ever before. Whether it's the advent of Viagra that sparked the explosion of middle-aged sex or the more recent research into sex over 50, the sexologists seem to agree that with the right attitude and a few adjustments, no one is too old for sex no matter how long they live. Join us with Treva and Robby from Done Being Single, as we discuss our own sex lives since we've turned 50 and how sexy has no expiry date.
We all want to be loved. And we all want to be great lovers… every day of the year, but especially on Valentine's Day. Love stories come in all shapes and sizes – at all stages of life. It's the same for sex… Whether you are with a partner or having solo-sex, age doesn't matter. Join us with Treva and Robby from Done Being Single as we take a look at what Valentine's Day means to us, at our stage of life… the love, the sex and all the challenges, surprises and delights that come with it.