Podcasts about inner bully

Podcast 417 Bullying Featuring Manuel Sierra, MD (pictured above) Today, we welcome an old friend, Manuel Sierra, MD, who practices pediatric psychiatry in Idaho, and Dr. Matt May, a familiar and beloved colleague, to discuss bullying. Below you'll find a great list of questions Dr. Matt May submitted just prior to today's podcast, along with some links you may wish to explore for more information. We addressed some of the questions, but certainly not all, during the podcast! Manuel described bullying, and said the ¼ of children and adults have experienced bullying. The consequences can be severe, including suicidal urges or completed suicides, along with shame and a severe loss of self-esteem, and more. He pointed out that bullies are good at zeroing in on aspects of ourselves that we feel insecure about, including how we look, our ethnicity, our aptitudes, and more. He provided links to resources on bullying. The bully picks on someone who is weak, so there is a power imbalance, and does the bullying to gain popularity and power, at the expense of the victim. David and Manuel emphasized that the bullying per se cannot cause the depression, shame, and so forth, but rather the victim must buy into the bully's mean-spirited statements, like “you're weak,” or “you have an ugly zit on your nose,” “your mother is a dirty whore,” and more. Then, the inner dialogue of the victim often goes like this: I must be a terrible and horrible person to get bullied like this. I'm worthless. All the kids are looking down on me. Everybody hates me! Everyone is laughing at me. I'm just a loser. And that, of course, is the voice of the “inner bully” who does all the emotional damage. Manuel and David both emphasized that the goal of treatment is to help the victim see that the “badness” is not with them, but rather with the kid (or adult) who's doing the bullying. Because the victims nearly always feel ashamed, they will often suffer in silence, keeping the bullying a secret. David described what he calls the “abuse contract” that many, and perhaps most, humans buy into when being hurt or exploited. It's really a contract between the abuser and the abused, and there are there parts to the agreement. I get to hurt you for my own pleasure. This might include sexual, physical, financial, or psychological torture or abuse. You, the victim are entirely to blame for this. You are the bad one. I am superior and totally innocent. You deserve what's happening to you. We have to keep this a secret, even from ourselves. You cannot even hint that I am doing something wrong. If you try that, I will REALLY hurt you. David emphasized that the tendency to “accept” this type of horrible contract is not limited to children, but includes adults as well. He emphasized that sometimes the child who is being bullied will tell parents, who then tell the teacher or school officials, who will tell the bully to stop. This is rarely effective, and often makes the situation worse, since the bully tells the victim that they are a snitch and now they will REALLY get what  they “deserve.” Matt described many types of bullying, including physical, psychological, and cyber bullying. Manuel described some of the signs to look for if you suspect a problem with your child, including: Not wanting to go to school. Saying things like “everyone thinks I'm terrible.” Changes in sleep, eating habits, and energy. Somatic symptoms such as stomach aches and headaches. Manuel emphasized that the goal is not to eliminate negative feelings entirely, but rather to reduce the time you spend feeling anxious, humiliated and upset after being bullied. He also emphasized that ongoing practice talking back to your own negative thoughts is an important key to change, in exactly the same way that athletes must commit to ongoing daily practice to boost their physical skills and stamina. Manuel emphasized the importance of empathy and support, as well as asking victims if they'd want some help combatting their automatic negative thoughts and feelings. He shared that he endured considerable bullying as a kid, and was bullied because he was poor, of Mexican heritage, short, wearing glasses (“four eyes”), and young, and sometimes called “a fag” and other hurtful things. He said that reattribution is one useful strategy, among many, for combatting automatic thoughts and negative feelings. Instead of automatically blaming yourself for the bullying, you can ask questions like this: “What is it in their life that makes them want to do things like this.?” And “They are trying to hurt and embarrass me. Why are they doing that.” The goal is to help the victim see that the “badness” and shame really reside within the bully, and not with them. The bully is trying to tear you down. Ask yourself why? The bully thinks that this is the best way for them to gain popularity, power, and importance. Toward the end of the podcast, I, David, again emphasized that the Outer Bully can hurt us physically, by hitting for example, but only the Inner Bully can make us suffer emotionally. And if you've used the Externalization of Voices to crush the inner bully, and you no longer feel intimidated or ashamed when some tries to bully you, it becomes infinitely easier to respond effectively to the Outer Bully, using the Five Secrets, including Disarming and Stroking, as well as humor. To demonstrate this, I invited the other guests to try to bully me as an old person (I'm about to turn 82), and urged them to say the cruelest things they could think of. This is called the Feared Fantasy Technique. I was surprised and pleased at how incredibly easy it was to get “the edge on them. “ I hope you enjoy that aspect of the podcast. We will likely approach this topic again, with a focus on cyber bullying, and will restrict our focus to children and teens. How to Help! Matt once worked with a child who encountered their own 'inner bully' in the form of negative thoughts that would occur when they were unable to assemble LEGO's. The child could express certain thoughts, but was too young to write, so Matt wrote these down: I'll never be able to do it It's impossible I'm not good at anything There is something wrong with me Matt asked the child if they would like to learn a trick for how to feel better and the child agreed. Matt wrote down some new thoughts for the child to choose from to describe the situation that was upsetting to them. Multiple Choice Positive Thoughts: I really, really want to do this! It's ok if I can't do it, yet Some things take lots and lots of practice I may be able to do it later I can do lots of things really well already I can probably get better with practice People love me and like to help Nobody's good at everything all the time Everybody messes up sometimes It might help to take a break   I can always choose to like myself The child said they really liked #11 and felt better right away and during future 'relapses'! Thanks, Matt Thanks for listening today. Below you'll find the email Matt sent prior to the show. Manuel, Rhonda, Matt, and David Matt wrote: Just to stir up trouble and make you all sweat, I'm sending a few questions we might address: What is bullying? How are we defining this term? Is it Liberal Propaganda? How dare I say that? What's the difference between bullying and micro-aggressions / gaslighting? Am I crazy, if I think I'm being gaslighted? If I avoid bullying, in-person, including physical, emotional and verbal abuse...am I safe, on the Internet, at least? Is there such a thing as 'Safety'? Isn't that the thing we need, the most? Whose job is it, to make me feel safe? Why do some people think that safety doesn't exist? What is the significance of bullying? Does it matter or have any tangible effects on individuals or society? Link: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK390414/ What are some common misconceptions when it comes to bullying? Here are some that Matt has seen on DML's: It was all my fault / I deserved it / This happened because I am (insert label: bad/weak/defective, etc.) Bullying is normal, nothing can be done about it. Everyone gets bullied. It builds character. I should just get over it. I shouldn't *still* feel upset. That was a long time ago and I've done a lot of therapy. I can't speak up or talk about it, it's just too disturbing and upsetting. People would judge me and reject me, if they knew what happened to me All conflict is dangerous and must be avoided, at all costs I'm just a loser, a born victim, worthless in every way. This will always happen to me and people who believe #2 are correct I should be more accepting of bullies, they're people, too. Bullies shouldn't be bullies and should be hunted to the ends of the earth, and destroyed. What is the *cause* of bullying behaviors? Why would anyone choose to be cruel, manipulative and selfish? What is the 'Dark Triad'? Which feature of the 'Dark Triad' is most closely associated with bullying? Link: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bullying What can be done about bullying? How can TEAM therapy help someone who is being bullied? Can TEAM therapy help a bully? What can parents do, if their child is being bullied? Can TEAM help? What can parents do, if their child is bullying? Can TEAM help? What can society do? Other Questions: What is the “Internal Bully”? How does the “Internal Bully” relate to depression? What is the greatest predictor of bullying behavior and thinking? Who's to blame, anyway, here?

Does your inner critic stop you from being who you truly are? Are you finding it hard to get out of your own way? You're not alone. Our inner critic can really derail things… but it doesn't have to. Today's podcast is a solo episode focusing on the what, the why and the how to overcome it, of the inner critic.Access EXCLUSIVE & AD FREE EPISODES here: apple.co/iamJoin our FB groupchat I AM Podcast group chatBe part of the inner circle on Sunroom @kylielatelyFollow me on IG @kylielately & TikTok @kylielatelyFor 20% off my courses The Blueprint & Surviving Separation use the code IAM  over at thefrae.com and check out my new website kylielately.com where you can sign up to receive texts from me! For more from the I am. with Kylie Lately podcast - more personal reflections, more conversations with guests, & more juicy self-development inspiration, you can join our members only platform here... https://plus.acast.com/s/the-kylie-camps-podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever hear that nagging voice? The one that keeps saying you're not good enough, no matter what you achieve? It can be deafening at times, drowning out our successes with a constant feeling of inadequacy.   Join Whitney and Dr. Anna Marie Frank, traditional naturopath and author of "Stop Bullying Yourself," as they tackle the inner bully we all battle. They dive into recognizing and befriending this internal critic so it can no longer hold us back from stepping into our potential.   Dr. Frank sheds light on how healing our inner selves can bring balance and authenticity to our lives. Tune in and learn how to take power away from the nagging voice within that keeps you playing small.   Here's what to look forward to in today's episode: Anna Marie shares that no matter how many successes you've had, nothing you do will ever be enough for your inner bully The importance of filling your cup before you can add abundance to your life Various things that can happen when we go outside ourselves to make us feel okay inside Anna Marie reiterates that we each have a choice even if we don't feel like we do What you can do and questions you can ask when someone you're close to complains about things in their life Anna Marie shares the reason she believes we have a memory You can't focus on improving just one thing in your life Anna Marie shares two things she does routinely to support her own brain and mental health ‌ Anna Marie and I would love to know what resonated with you from today's episode. Share today's episode on Instagram and be sure to tag us - @‌HappyWholeYou and @‌whitneywoman ‌ Connect with Whitney: Instagram | Website | Free 5-Minute Guided Meditation | Electric Ideas Podcast ‌ Connect with Dr. Anna Marie Frank: Instagram | Website | Stop Bullying Yourself Book

This episode is for everyone that wants to quiet their negative self-talk. Lisa Pepper-Satkin, a licensed psychotherapist and executive therapeutic coach for over 25 years, provides actionable steps you can take today to fire that inner bully. The link to her FREE 6-step plan to fire your inner bully: https://www.lisapeppersatkin.com/tools-resources Learn more about Lisa: https://www.lisapeppersatkin.com/ 0:00 Introduction and Background 3:33 Recognizing your Inner Bully 5:20 Reprogramming Negative Self-Talk 8:36 Your Comparison Bully 16:55 Trusting Your Inner Wisdom 18:55 Knowing When You're Ready for the Next Step 21:17 Conclusion

As a March baby myself, there's an extra spring in my step when this month rolls around, not just for the promise of longer days but for celebrating the indomitable spirit of women throughout history. But what about our own stories of triumph and the quiet impact we've made? That's the heart of our latest chat, where we turn the spotlight inward and take a deep dive into the importance of the words we use and choose and the thoughts and worries that determine our day. I got real about the inner battles we all face, like stress, self-doubt, and that nagging inner critic that's all too familiar. I share my journey of overcoming these hurdles with insights into neuroscience, and discuss how changing our mindset can dramatically alter our relationship with stress. Plus, a giveaway for one lucky listener and a bonus meditation to close our conversation.⁣ ⁣ In honor of Women's History Month, I'm giving one woman that chance to work with me for free. Just schedule your session and mention you heard about it on the podcast.⁣ https://hilaryrusso.as.me/hugitout⁣ ⁣⁣ Connect with Hilary:⁣ https://www.instagram.com/hilaryrusso⁣ ⁣https://www.youtube.com/hilaryrusso⁣ https://www.facebook.com/hilisticallyspeaking⁣ https://twitter.com/HilaryRusso⁣ https://www.tiktok.com/@hilisticallyspeaking⁣ https://www.hilaryrusso.com/podcast⁣ ⁣ ⁣Music by Lipbone Redding https://lipbone.com/⁣ ⁣ ----- EPISODE CHAPTERS WITH SHORT KEY POINTS ------⁣ ⁣ CHAPTERS  ⁣ 0:00  Intro⁣ about March and Honoring the Divine Feminine⁣ 0:45   Confronting the inner bully, worries and self-doubt⁣ 1:06  Hilary shares her personal story and the If/Then Game    ⁣ 3:33  Relate. React. Respond.⁣ 4:48  Hilary's giveaway to HUG it Out⁣ 5:45 Bonus Guided Meditation with music by Lipbone Redding⁣ ⁣ --------- EPISODE TRANSCRIPT ---------⁣ ⁣ HILARY RUSSO⁣ 00:00 - Hilary Russo (Host)⁣ I am all kinds of giddy because March is my favorite month. It marks the beginning of spring. Daylight Savings is just around the corner. It's the month when I was born Shout out to you if you're a March baby too. And it's Women's History Month. What a great time to be empowered and inspired by what other women have accomplished over the years. Who's your favorite? Who inspires you? Actually, I have a better question for you. What about your own accomplishments, and who have you touched, moved, and inspired in your life? ⁣ ⁣ 00:35⁣ Now, if you're struggling with that thought, if you have a hard time thinking that you've made a difference in someone's life and you're hard on yourself, wondering why someone else is getting more done in their lives, or you're overwhelmed and you're feeling stuck, that inner bully is definitely showing up in the moment. How many times do you let that doubt creep in? You allow the inner dialogue to take over and enter stress? I get it. I've dealt with it too. ⁣ ⁣ 01:05⁣ Here's a little story for you. My dad used to call me a worry wart, because if I could worry about something, I would find it, and I would definitely worry about it to the end of time. In fact, I had this ridiculous game that I used to play. I called it the if-then game. Yeah, I even gave it a name. It made no sense at all. It would go something like this If I can toss that little piece of paper into the wastebasket, then I'm going to get an A on my test. Yeah, like I said, it makes no sense. Here's another one If I can make that light before it turns red, I'm totally going to get asked to prom. So, spoiler alert, I got asked to prom, but it really had nothing to do with me making the red light. It's ridiculous, right? How the hell did any of this benefit me? What was the value in that kind of game? Reality check, it had no positive impact on my life. If anything, it made me more stressed and I was putting way too much pressure on myself. ⁣ ⁣ 02:11⁣ You see, stress consumed me as a kid and it didn't stop there. The smallest things would worry me. I was anxious, I would have panic attacks about things I couldn't control, but the one thing I actually could control was my thoughts about the thing I was stressing about. Imagine that it was a vicious cycle, but I didn't have the tools and I felt the overwhelm and I felt it often and it sucked. And it wasn't just Hillary as a kid, it was also the adult, me as well. Man, adulting, it can be hard, and it comes with its fair share of responsibility, doesn't it? But the bigger responsibility is not the task at hand, it's what I'm about to share with you right now. ⁣ ⁣ 03:01⁣ I figured something out you can control much of what you're feeling by changing your mindset, your energy, your thoughts. This isn't woo-woo, this is neuroscience. And when I started to really do the inner work, when I found others who could guide me and support me on my journey, something really changed. I changed, and guess what? It's something I work at every day, because stress doesn't go away, turns up in life daily. The difference is this it's not that you are void of it, you just learn to relate, react, and respond to it differently. That's the gold, right there. Let me say it again Relate, react, respond. ⁣ ⁣ 03:55⁣ The moment you get that in check, you open yourself up to a whole lot of goodness in life. But how? Yeah, I ask myself that question a lot, and it is pretty common to have doubt. After all, that's where our brain loves to go Fight, flight, or freeze. Right, Amy the amygdala is like a scared animal running for shelter, and when that happens, you spend a lot of time visiting skeptical city, questioning yourself, your actions, feeling stuck. ⁣ ⁣ 04:31⁣ The big shift is deciding how long you want a vacation there. Stress central, please. There are plenty of other stops on this train I would rather get off at, so let's make that happen. And here's the good news. Like I said, march is the Wonder Month, my month, your month, women's month. So the best gift I could receive to celebrate another trip around the sun is to give you the gift of healing.  HUG it Out going to together. That is why I am giving one lucky woman the opportunity to work with me one-on-one, for free, to work through the stress that is consuming you, keeping you stuck, stopping you from shining like that bright star that you are. Whatever is holding you back and weighing you down will work through it and we'll HUG it out. All you have to do is take that first step and tell me why you would like to work with me, and then just click the link on the podcast page to give it a shot. The cool thing is we get to have a conversation either way, so it's really a win-win. ⁣ ⁣ 05:43⁣ So while I have you for the next few minutes, let's do a moment of mindfulness with my dear friend Lipbone, who shares his music on every episode to accompany us on the journey. ⁣ ⁣ 05:59⁣ Let the music guide you as you close your eyes and take a deep breath and ask yourself this question what is stressing me out that I want to work through? How do I want to feel? Joy, peace, calm, whatever it is. Let it show up for you, honor, it be okay, accepting this part of you, and then ask yourself this when is now the right time to step into the tension and know I am being handed the gift of guidance and support? Sit with that for a moment and take a deep breath and, when you're ready, open your eyes and know whatever it is you are feeling, it is valid and you are loved. HIListically Speaking, it's a beautiful possibility, isn't it, to see what is on the horizon and know that I am in your corner the entire way. So, on that note, give yourself the gift of healing and take a chance, a chance on yourself. Book the call and we will continue with a new conversation next week and until then, be kind to your mind and don't forget to laugh. ⁣ ⁣

We all have an inner bully inside our brain. It's insecure and scared and ironically, also trying to keep us safe. The Book of Mormon - 1 Nephi, if you haven't read it, start here. The Drama Triangle Episode 64 - apple link The Drama Triangle Episode 64- Spotify Link Instagram SabrinaPerspectiveDetective Book a free call to start living like a creator

In this episode, I talk about what your inner bully is and why it is boring and what you can do about it so it stops leading your life and you can become in charge. Listen on to learn more. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ronza-potter-coaching/message

As an entrepreneur, wife and a mother of two, Jennifer cannot stop thinking about all the ways she falls short in her personal and professional life. Stevon and Juleyka discuss toxic self-criticism, and Stevon helps us interrogate our irrational demand for perfection.Stevon Lewis is a licensed psychotherapist and coach. Learn more about his work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to When Your Job is Killing You and Feeling Inadequate Because Her Clients Aren't Making Progress.We'd love to hear your stories of triumph and what's ahead as you grow. Send us an email or detailed voice memo to hello@talktoachievers.com, You might be on a future episode! Let's connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToAchievers and email us at hello@talktoachievers.com. And subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts. 

www.arastasia.com/blogwww.arastasia.com/thecreativeremedywww.instagram.com/arastasiaEpisode Overview: "Embrace Self-Compassion: Overcoming Self-Criticism"In this episode of "Your Artsy Friend," we delve into the concept of self-compassion and its significance in navigating self-criticism during challenging times. Join me as we explore practical tips and personal experiences to help you develop a more compassionate relationship with yourself.Section 1: The Inner Bully and Self-CompassionUnderstanding the inner critic and its impact on self-esteem.Five actionable tips for practicing self-compassion:Tip #1: Acknowledging your inner critic.Tip #2: Journaling to confront unkind thoughts.Tip #3: Treating yourself with the love you'd offer a loved one.Tip #4: Replacing self-criticism with compassion and affirmations.Tip #5: Focusing on solutions rather than self-shame.Section 2: A Personal Journey to Self-CompassionA personal story of a beloved pet's disappearance triggering self-blame.The transition from worry to harsh self-talk and questioning self-worth.Relating to moments of self-criticism in various life situations.ConclusionEmphasizing the importance of recognizing and embracing self-compassion during self-critical moments.Encouragement to treat oneself with kindness and understanding.A reminder that self-compassion is a valuable tool for personal growth and self-improvement.Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Your Artsy Friend." Stay inspired and uplifted as we explore the art of self-compassion on our creative journey.

Most of us have an inner voice that is constantly telling us that we should be doing better. This has been called “the inner bully”. There is an answer in Matthew 11 (Matt 11:25-30)

In this episode, we focus on how to find freedom from perfectionism. It is with the incredible Michaela Thomas. Michaela specialises in perfectionism and its ties with stress, anxiety, depression, productivity, procrastination, burnout and overall wellbeing. Throughout August I have a break from recording new episodes to reset, take a breath, and reconnect with the family. During this period, we re-release the most downloaded episodes from the past 6 months. Michaela helps ambitious working mothers burn bright without burning out, using her Pause Purpose Play framework in group coaching and 1:1 therapy. She is also a senior Clinical Psychologist, CBT psychotherapist and author of The Lasting Connection – develop love and compassion for yourself and your partner. She is also a friend of Motherkind. In this episode you are going to learn about: • how to not be so hard on ourselves • how to avoid burnout • how to develop a better relationship with our inner critic One thing I know for sure is that we need this episode. Please share it if it resonated with you. And, you can also hear Zoe on Michaela's podcast here: Perfectionism and Generational Trauma, with Zoe Blaskey - The Thomas Connection Thank you to this weeks sponsors: Find your favorite mushroom powder @dirteaworld and get 10% off your first order with promo code MOTHERKIND at dirteaworld.com/MOTHERKIND Continue the Conversation Come engage with Zoe and our community over on Instagram for inspiration, tips, and sometimes a bit of humor to get us through our day - @zoeblaskey Join our mailing list to receive news, updates and new episode releases: https://mailchi.mp/motherkind/motherkind-mailing-list

Hey Ready Babes! Today we are talking about your inner bully, your inner mean girl, the hater... whatever you call the voice in your head that always says you're not doing good enough or that you've 'ruined everything'. That inner bully is the main reason I see women giving up or quitting their weightloss journey! So today I'm breaking down 3 steps that will help you silence that inner bully so you can stop beating yourself up and start losing weight!  Make sure to:  Grab your EASY START GUIDE (& 7 day planner) by clicking here  Get daily mindset and weightloss tips by following me on instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/readytolosecoach/ Email: billierisboskin@gmail.com 

In this powerful episode, join Elaine Starling as she interviews Theresa Byrne, a transformational coach and expert in empowering individuals to tap into their inner power. Theresa shares her personal journey of feeling powerless as a child and how she discovered her own strength through self-help resources. Motivated by her own experience, Theresa embarked on a mission to provide others with the resources and support she wished she had. She introduces the concept of "Inpower," the inherent, innate, inner, intuitive power within each of us, and highlights the importance of accessing it to overcome challenges and create abundance.Key Takeaways:1. Recognize Your Contrast: Learn to identify when you are in or out of your power by paying attention to your emotions, energy levels, and intuitive abilities. Understanding your contrast empowers you to make conscious choices that align with your true power and helps you navigate challenges more effectively.2. Embrace Abundance: Abundance is not limited to material possessions; it encompasses more love, prosperity, impact, and personal growth. By redefining abundance and focusing on positive impact, you can shift your perspective and experience a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction in all areas of your life.3. Expand Your Boundaries: Challenge yourself to step outside your comfort zone and explore new possibilities. Be open to seeking resources, such as coaching, workshops, or podcasts that can provide experiential learning and support your growth. Embrace new frameworks and approaches that enable you to set empowering boundaries and take ownership of your life.Join Elaine and Theresa on this enlightening episode to discover how accessing your inner power and embracing abundance can transform your life and help you create a positive impact on yourself and others.About the Guest:Theresa Byrne is an award-winning mindset insight coach, author, and TED.com/keynote speaker who helps people break through challenges like negativity and stress, self-sabotage, and find peace and inspiration in their lives. She is a natural-born protector, empowerment authority, brain geek, and martial arts/self-defense expert who has worked directly with over 45,000 clients (and millions more in her work on television) to build their mental/emotional/physical skills, change their thinking, and live confidently. No matter what. Theresa has first-hand knowledge of applying neuroscience and neuroplasticity as a survivor of a devastating brain injury. Her TED talk “The Dangers of Your Inner Bully” (over 400k views) struck a nerve and was voted one of the Top Ten Most Meaningful TED Talks by Thrive Global Magazine. Being the first woman to earn the rank of Master Instructor in her system of martial arts, she uses her skills to help others get unstuck, find balance, and use boundaries positively. The founder of a successful martial arts/fitness studio since the late 1990s, Theresa created an entirely new way of teaching and coaching using human development principles, positive psychology, and sustainable learning which she trademarked called InPower©.Free Gift Link: Mental Fitness Assessment to identify your internal saboteurs: https://www.theresabyrne.com/mental-fitness-assessment Social Media Links:https://www.linkedin.com/in/theresa-byrne/ http://instagram.com/theresa_byrne1theresabyrne.taplink.wshttps://www.tiktok.com/@theresa.byrnehttps://www.facebook.com/theresatkd/ About the Host, Elaine Starling: (bio, personal links, resource links)An international TEDx speaker, bestselling author, coach and mentor, Elaine Starling is recognized for her video show and podcast, The Abundance Journey.After a...

So you know the mean voice inside your head that makes you believe all the nasty, shameful and blame-y things it says? When the thoughts inside your head are constantly telling you how bad, unworthy and such a failure you are? If you have a super loud, intrusive inner bully inside of you who will not quiet down or go away, this episode will teach you how to turn down the volume on this voice and discern it from your voice. So I want to start off by asking you, who are you listening to?brittanyallisonrd.comWork with Britt

Today's episode of The Daily Energize is all about reflecting. Let's take a little bit of time and reflect, because many times we don't we don't take that time to reflect. Or if we do, it's a little bit here and there. And it's usually when our inner critic, our inner bully, as Shawn Douglas says, beats us up. We reflect that way and we just let it sink us down. But oftentimes we just don't reflect and go, all right, what were some successes? 

The Outer Bully Featuring Matthew May, MD Today we are proud to be joined again by our old pal, Matthew May, MD. This is a special two-part edition of Ask David, focusing on two of the most important problems that trigger emotional and interpersonal suffering. Last week, Matt led our discussion of the Inner Bully that causes the lion's share of internal suffering in the world. Feelings of depression and anxiety always result from the harsh distorted messages we give ourselves, telling ourselves we're “less than,” or “defective,” or “unlovable,” and so forth. However, the world is also filled with Outer Bullies who can be threatening, even violent. Today we describe how you can often deal with the Outer bully with the Five Secrets of Effective Communication (LINK). Today's podcast was inspired by a question submitted by Guillermo, one of our podcast fans: Hello, Dr Burns I've seen some cases of bullying lately in schools. Would the 5 secrets help a kid who is being bullied in school? (Not physical bullying). I have a son who will be going to middle school next year and wonder about this. David's Reply Hi Guillermo, Thanks, I might read question on podcast and address it. Might have two consecutive shows on the "inner bully" and then the "outer bully." I know one thing for sure, although I am not an expert in this area, and haven't worked much with kids. But ultimately, only your thoughts can upset you. The words and criticisms of others will never upset you, unless you buy into them. So, the good old Daily Mood Log is always the first step. Once you no longer find bullying threatening, it becomes much easier to deal with it. The bully relies on getting you all scared and terrified and hurt and so forth. Warmly, david Matt began today's podcast with a real case description working with a violent, involuntarily hospitalized, 6'6” patient weighing 300 pounds snuck into his office while Matt was dictating his notes, locked the door, and announced that he was going to kill Matt because the involuntary hospitalization was “illegal.” The man had been brought to the hospital by the police in a psychotic manic state because of bizarre behavior at his home that troubled the neighbors. Matt was terrified and said, “That was just one occasion when the Five Secrets of Effective Communication saved my life!” Link to Five Secrets Here's what Matt said to the man. I will indicate the communication technique(s) in each sentence in parentheses at the end of each sentence: “You're right! (Disarming Technique) You served your country and fought for our freedom (Stroking) and now we're taking away your freedom. (Disarming Technique) I feel the same way you do, (I Feel Statement). Can you tell me more about what you've been going through?  (Inquiry)” The man was taken aback and immediately sat down and began to open up. Matt continued to empathize, using the Five Secrets, and after a few minutes the patient fell asleep in his chair. He was then transferred to a higher security hospital ward. Essentially, Matt sided with him, rather than getting defensive or arguing, and saw the truth in what the man was saying, in spite of the fact that he was floridly psychotic, and treated the man with respect. David summarized the case of a colleague of his who was kidnapped by a violent serial rapist. She also used the Five Secrets, which transformed the entire nature of the interaction, and the rapist gave himself up to the police. He also described being bullied by two violent teenagers in a gigantic jeep when he was driving home from the drugstore, where he'd rented an enormous carpet cleaner. David's use of the Five Secrets in response to violent threats prevented violence, but also turned a potentially hostile and abusive interaction into a joyous and warm one. We concluded with Bullying Practice, saying the worst imaginable things to each other, like “David, you're a terrible person,” or “Matt, you're a bad therapist,” or “Rhonda, you're an insignificant person,” and then responding with the Five Secrets. It was an unexpectedly fun exercise, and the Five Secrets triumphed big time every time! The Outer Bully had no chance at all! However, this level of skill requires that you've mastered your own inner Bully, so you're not buying into what the bully says to you. This gives you a sense of peace and confidence that makes the Five Secrets a piece of cake, so to speak! David, Rhonda, and Matt want to emphasize that we make the Five Secrets look really easy and almost magical. Nothing can be further from the truth. We do hope to inspire you with examples of what's possible, but mastering these powerful tools takes an enormous amount of dedication, determination, and practice. If you'd like to learn more, I would strongly recommend reading David's book, Feeling Good Together, and doing the written exercises while reading. This would be an excellent first step! (Include book cover with link to Amazon.) Here, by the way, is an interesting link to a Ted Talk on bullying that you might enjoy. One of our colleagues, Dr. Daniele Leavy, found it and shared the link with our Tuesday group. Link to Ted Talk on Bullying Daniele explains: The speaker does a good job of differentiating what is commonly referred to as bullying from assault or criminal behavior, and demonstrates how to playfully use Disarming and Stroking to deflect the bullying. Thanks for joining us today! Matt, Rhonda, and David

Featuring Matthew May, MD Today, Part 1. The Inner Bully Next week, Part 2. The Outer Bully There are two types of dialogues that can get us in trouble. The first is your “Inner Dialogue.” Your Inner Dialogue sometimes consists of negative thoughts and perceptions of yourself and the world, which are often dominated by the familiar cognitive distortions that trigger internal mood problems, like depression, anxiety, guilt, shame, inadequacy, loneliness, hopelessness, and more. Examples would be “I'm a failure because . . . “ or “I should be better than I am,” or “I'm really going to blow it when I give my talk, and a myriad of variations on these themes. Your Inner Dialogue often consists of mean-spirited things you say to yourself, much like the schoolyard bully who intimidates younger, weaker children. The only difference is that you are doing this to yourself, often without noticing or realizing  what that voice inside your brain is up to. When you challenge and crush these distorted perceptions, you can CHANGE the way you FEEL. Your Outer Dialogue consists of the things you say when you have with interactions with other people, and this can be especially important when you're dealing with others who are critical of you, or even threatening you with violence.  The strategies are quite different from the strategies you might use to challenge and defeat your Inner bully. Today, Rhonda, Matt and I will demonstrate various strategies for defeating the Inner Bully. Next week, in Part 2, we will demonstrate strategies for defeating the Outer Bully! Those strategies, in extreme cases, might even save your life one day, as you'll see next week. Rhonda starts the podcast by reading an awesome comment by certified TEAM-CBT therapist Dan Prine, who commented in a kindly way on podcast 334, where we interviewed Michael Yapko on hypnosis. Then we focus on multiple techniques to challenge two negative thoughts with a variety of strategies. The first negative thought is one we've seen on a number of occasions from women who had abortions as teenagers, and then experienced extreme depression and guilt later in life because of their thought, “I'm a bad person because I murdered my baby.” Using role-playing, we illustrated E = Empathy, using the Five Secrets of Effective Communication, followed by A = the Assessment of Resistance, using the Magic Button, Positive Reframing, and Magic Dial, followed by M = Methods. Methods included Examine the Evidence, the Double Standard Technique, the Externalization of Voices (with Self-Defense, the Acceptance Paradox, and the CAT, or Counter-/Attack Technique, along with the Socratic Technique, and more. Then we focused on a thought familiar to Rhonda during moments of insecurity and self-doubt: “I don't matter!” This thought has plagued Rhonda since she was a child. She recalled her father often saying, “c"Who are you? You don't matter!" She told herself, “he's saying that because I don't matter.” Even the memory causes great pain and agitation. Of course, on some level, her father's comments never had any effect on her. Only your thoughts can cause you to feel one way or another. But this was devastating to Rhonda because she believed what her father said, which is understandable, and those thoughts caused the pain. We again illustrated many approaches to challenging this thought, but one of the techniques that was most helpful was the CAT. During the Externalization of Voices, the Positive Rhonda said this to her Inner Bully: “I'm not going to listen to you anymore! I've had enough of your BS!” Thank you for listening today. Remember to tune in to the Outer Bully next week! Rhonda, Matt, and David

In this episode, we focus on how to find freedom from perfectionism. It is with the incredible Michaela Thomas. Michaela specialises in perfectionism and its ties with stress, anxiety, depression, productivity, procrastination, burnout and overall wellbeing. Michaela helps ambitious working mothers burn bright without burning out, using her Pause Purpose Play framework in group coaching and 1:1 therapy. She is also a senior Clinical Psychologist, CBT psychotherapist and author of The Lasting Connection – develop love and compassion for yourself and your partner. She is also a friend of Motherkind. In this episode you are going to learn about: how to not be so hard on ourselves how to avoid burnout how to develop a better relationship with our inner critic One thing I know for sure is that we need this episode. Please share it if it resonated with you. And, you can also hear Zoe on Michaela's podcast here: Perfectionism and Generational Trauma, with Zoe Blaskey - The Thomas Connection SPECIAL THANKS TO THIS WEEK'S SPONSORS My sponsor this week is Athletic Greens. I love AG1. I take it every morning when I'm making the girls breakfast. AG1 has over 7k 5* reviews and I can see why. It's a supplement with 75 ingredients and its special blend is designed to support gut health, nervous and immune system, energy, recovery, focus and even aging. It's one of my non-negotiables. It tastes quite nice and while I'm drinking it I'm reminding myself I'm worth looking after and that I can only be the mother and person I want to be in the world when I look after myself. We are grateful to Athletic Greens for sponsoring this episode of the Motherkind podcast. Visit https://athleticgreens.com/motherkind to get a FREE year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Thanks to Explore Learning. Explore Learning are the leaders in personalised learning. They help children learn at a pace and level that is unique to them using an adaptive curriculum. Tuition is available in 95 Ofsted-registered, vibrant learning centres throughout the uk or online at Explore Learning. If you want to help your child unlock the joy of learning then you can save £50 at Explore Learning from 14th - 25th of February. Go to Explore Learning @zoeblaskey - come engage with Zoe and our community over on Instagram for inspiration, tips, and sometimes a bit of humour to get us through our day.

How to silence your inner critic and live a more fulfilling life. In this episode you will learn: 1. How the inner critic or inner bully can touch nearly every waking and sleeping moment of our lives. 2. How suicide is often suggested by the inner critic, and how this can be prevented. 3. How authenticity is everything, and how it is available for everyone.

Risa is a therapist and writer who starts book projects with gumption and enthusiasm, but struggles to reach the finish line as self-doubt sets in. Stevon offers advice for standing up to our inner bully by building in down time and celebrating our accomplishments.Lisa Williams is a writer and therapist. Learn more about her self-help book series, The Ultimate Toolkit Books  and her other projects here.Stevon Lewis is a licensed psychotherapist and coach. Learn more about his work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to When Self-Doubt Creeps Up and Feelinge Pressure to "Catch Up."We'd love to hear your stories of triumph and what's ahead as you grow. Send us an email or detailed voice memo to hello@talktoachievers.com, You might be on a future episode! Let's connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToAchievers and email us at hello@talktoachievers.com. And subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.

Introduction: Anna Pinkerton is a trauma specialist, therapeutic Coach and founder of My Kinda Life Methodology. She is a leading expert in stress awareness, chronic stress and trauma. She is a clinician, with 28 years' experience working with Leaders, athletes, organisations and people in the public eye. Anna is an author of two books; The first is called My Kinda Life in Leadership: Live & Lead with Kindness for better relationship, be respected, create impact. The second book is called Smile Again: Your recovery from Burnout, breakdown and overwhelming stress.    Podcast Episode Summary This episode explores the pervasiveness of Inner Brutality, a phenomenon or entity that we have lived as a property of us rather than a narrative we have built to survive. Anna shares how we can employ a Methodology to shift our relationship to self and expand our emotional palette for a fuller and more content life.    Points made over the episode The red thread that weaves throughout this podcast is the idea that we can take back the power of the Inner Bully and expand our emotional competence to live through life's experiences good and bad with greater kindness and companionability to self and others.  Anna experienced Trauma 11 years ago. Initially she succumbed to her inner bully and found it difficult to forgive herself for choosing an ill-suited partner.  She then saw the experience as a privilege to understand how as humans we can be so out of control of our own neurological system.  It took Anna 3/4 years to recover and in that time she fashioned an alternative methodology called “My Kinda Life”  She describes the ways the inner bully works and how it creates a personal cul-de-sac.  The methodology surfaced from Anna's personal analysis and questioning to wonder what an alternative could be to the ferocious and pernicious inner bullying.  The idea of Kindness to self and companionability to self-emerged. Kindness was the generic term for compassion and caring that Anna chose. She also wanted something more dynamic than compassion can be and chose the word companionability.  Inner Brutality can best be described as the words used by self to stay stuck in a self-imposed prison or cul-de-sac. A person who refuses to allow themselves to move through their emotions and move on.  The conversations in the minds eye include statements like; you are an idiot, useless person, stupid and much more profane language than can be repeated here.  We have assimilated this kind of inner talking as normal and not as a thing and Anna wanted to surface this practice as a thing, a thing we do not have to live with.  The power source of the Inner Bully is the pain of an emotional experience that has been aligned with lack of safety, so it is thwarted.  We are primed now to show inner strength, to be resilient and that brings with it its own pressure. We tend to demonise certain emotions such as anger, grief and jealousy. Simply put we have aligned pain with being bad.  To expand and accept all of these emotions for their purpose to help us feel as humans means that we get to move through life.  Two reasons in particular help Leaders she the veracity of Anna's work.  1. There is a sense that something is happening internally that is scuppering someone's success and 2. On paper someone might have achieved considerable success but they feel empty.  Inner Brutality is so pervasive that people can see themselves reflected in the two reasons above.  Why employ this methodology on Teams is a question that gets answered by way of the loss in understanding, communication and energy consumed by team members who have different emotional palettes and ways of narrating. Conflict often ensues.  Inner Brutality is conveyed and projected onto others.  If every member of a team can take responsibility for dialling down their inner bully and increasing their emotional palette things get easier on teams, conflict melts, communication is easier and the energy made available can be used for productive purposes.  Inner Brutality sits on a spectrum between being very loud and domineering to a whisperer.  Imposter Syndrome, Self-Saboteur, Perfectionism are all manifestations of the Inner Bully at work.  Start by seeing the Inner Bully as an entity and build a relationship with it, it arrived for a very purposeful reason and in all likelihood has out grown its usefulness.  Kindness does not have to be seen as paradoxical to Leadership. Kindness means empathy, means communicating in way that other can understand etc.. Selling Kindness is often made simpler by selling unkindness. The Methodology is exquisitely simple but intoxicatingly difficult because it is being levelled against a complex system that is a human.  Anna's methodology comprises 8 steps:  Step One: Visualising -The Companionable life.  Can you envisage a time when you will not brutalise you? Find out how it hurts you, how it hinders you and how the inner bully affects you. Can you imagine the fluidity of acknowledging if you have done something, feeling the pain of that and moving on to do differently next time.  Step Two: Your Inner Brutality-how it reveals itself and how it controls your reality. Your inner brutality is pushing you from behind saying come on hurry up be better be faster be something you are not. The Companionable way comes along side you and says “Hey, I do not feel fully ok with me now, but I am going to re-learn how to be”  Step Three: Recognise the power source of the Inner Brutality-The decisions made about yourself based upon your experiences. It is rarely someone's experience alone that causes long term suffering but a value judgement against self. Ask what are the value judgements made against self that are true and false?   Step Four: Being fully human with a full emotional palette.  10 Main emotions: Fear, Love, Happiness, Sadness, Envy, Pride, Disgust, Surprise, Grief & Anger.  Step Five: Determine your own objections to lifelong companionability- look inside of you, look without judgement. What does your head struggle to accept about living in a kind and companionable manner with self? Look for reasons not blame.  Step Six: The Vow-vowing to yourself from this day forward- you will struggle to make lasting change unless you make a decision to do so.  Step Seven: Your companionable alternative to Inner Brutality of Thought. Your brain has it favourite put down. It is habituated and like any habit it takes commitment until companionability is wired in and brutality is wired out.  Step Eight: Installing your Vow and living companionably forever.  30% more energy is available to a person by working through the methodology.  We are born with 10 globally accepted emotions. Our familial system and societal norms washes many out. We are left with a reduced palette.  We are born to feel and move through our experiences in life. Our inner brutality thwarts this natural phenomena. We create objections that the Inner Brutality convinces us are necessary. It convinces us that by suffering and hurting we are taking responsibility but this only keeps us stuck, in a cul-de-sac The Vow is underpinned by the foundational work of Anna's methodology.  A companionable alternative looks like someone who appreciates that they have a full emotional palette, gives space and time to process emotions, uses companionable words like “what a shame you did that and you do not feel proud of what you have done” allowing the pain of that realisation and moving on.  Anna is a testament that the methodology works. We have to be able to overcome the stigma of looking after self. Remember Kindness and Companionability is contagious just as Inner Brutality is -you chose for a better leadership    Resources shared    www.annapinkerton.com  My Kinda Life In Leadership- Anna Pinkerton  Smile Again : Your recovery from burnout, breakdown & overwhelming stress-Anna Pinkerton   

Remington talks with the village about our Inner Bully, and how our thoughts about things, people, and situations grow into actions. We will examine how our judgments in others are what gives light onto our own imperfections. Remington relates “The Butterfly Affect”, in judging others, is consistent and relentless judgment of ourselves (our Inner Bully). We just fail to connect the dots. To sum it all up, if you see good in others, it's easier to see good in ourselves. If you see bad in others it's easier to see bad in ourselves. Our Inner Bully has a weak spot y'all! Listen to hear what it is! Find us on social media We Are The Village - Teen Moms | Facebook @we_are_the_v1llage is on Instagram @WeAretheV1llage on Twitter. Talk to y'all soon!

Dr. Sidney Cohen, PHD, has been in full-time private practice as a licensed psychologist for 40 years here in Cherry Hill NJ! He has published two self-help books: one related to the notion of your self-sabotaging inner bully, the other - about psychological issues underlying weight loss. Dr. Cohen, PHD, has developed a short-term, 1-on-1 psychologically-oriented coaching program called “Focused Topic Coaching” (FTC). He is a host of an Internet TV show called “Heading In The Right Direction.” Learn more about Dr. Cohen, PHD: http://www.sidneyjcohenphd.com Instagram: @drsid.c Check out his Focused Topic Coaching (FTC) Program! Dr. Cohen on his program: “Are you struggling with specific, psychological/emotional issues like: angle or stress management, unresolved grief, a pattern of self-sabotage via your "inner bully/critic", or being victimized by a traumatic betrayal? These are some of the topics that can be addressed in my psychologically-oriented coaching program called "Focused-Topic Coaching' (FTC for short). FTC Is a one-on-one, short-term-oriented program, conducted virtually, averaging 3 to 6 sessions. As your coach, I will guide you into better handling and managing of the personal challenges you want to address via FTC. Emphasized in the program are my presenting you the client with various coping tools and strategies, giving homeworks between sessions, and challenging you to hold yourself accountable for doing the work you need to do during sessions and between sessions. De-emphasized (but addressed a bit if truly relevant) are more intense, underlying issues, such as childhood trauma or abuse. This de-emphasis goes with the fact that FTC is a coaching program, and not therapy. Last but not least, in addition to the four topics listed above in the first sentence, FTC can help you address other personal challenges as well, such as: the imposter syndrome, relationship communication challenges, excessive procrastination, and psychological issues complicating the weight-loss process. If you would like to ask any questions and hear more details about FTC (including fees), I would love to hear from you! I am best reached either by email (drsidcohen@gmail.com) or office phone (856-428-1685). I look forward to speaking with you if you touch base!” Check out his 2 books: Your Sabotaging Inner Bully: https://amzn.to/3QHhSgG Inner Blocks to Losing Weight: https://amzn.to/3zPjoqt IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN: 00:02:00 What Dr. Cohen has to say about your self-saboting inner bully 00:12:00 What happens to you if you grew up being neglected 00:15:50 The self-respect  / self-rebellion connection  00:22:00 Why Tara doesn't adhere to the energy of 'accountability' 00:30:30 What betrayal trauma is and why you need to know about it 00:40:00 A simple technique that we can do for ourselves to overcome overwhelm If you loved this episode, please leave a review! Here's how to do it on Apple Podcasts: find Inside Out Health show and scroll down to the ‘Ratings & Reviews' section. Tap ‘Write a Review' (you may be prompted to log in with your Apple ID). Thank you!

The last few weeks have been challenging for me as I notice my inner bully/voice/critic has been relentless and very loud. I've learned so many ways to manage that bully/voice/critic, and self-compassion is a huge part of that process. And I've learned that thoughts are just thoughts and they aren't always true.

Summer is such a fresh time to provide ourselves with Self-Love.  We all have that Inner Bully inside of our heads that likes to beat us up every now and again.  This weeks podcast discusses ways to utilize Mantras, Pictures and you Leisure Time to incorporate Self-Love into your daily routines.  It's time to create a healthy environment inside your brain by utilizing Self-Love.

In today's episode we discuss how to overcome your inner bully so that you can live a life of deep personal joy, success, and greatness. We talk about mindfulness, self-kindness, and shared humanity. We even give you a 4-step approach to dealing with your inner critic. We've spoken about the power of relationships, in this […]

Do you ever hear a little voice in your head telling you that you're not ready for this,  you're not smart enough, and maybe you're not as good as the others? Does your inner ‘mean girl' hold you back from taking the next step that would make an amazing impact on your business?  That, my friend, is Imposter Syndrome and EVERY ADVISOR experiences it… and often. And, it tends to creep up RIGHT when we're about to do something really really big.. Your inner mean girl starts to whisper in your ear at the worst possible moment. When you are right on the edge of your comfort zone about to jump out into that zone of greatness that lies JUST just beyond.Today's podcast is actually a recording of a live workshop that I did for the Twin Cities chapter of Women in Financial Services. I created an actual system to work to eliminate imposter syndrome when it creeps up. You can download the PDF to accompany this episode, the link is here in the show notes. But yes, you heard that right. I created an actual process that you can use to reduce imposter syndrome. And if you claim you've never experienced it… you're either my hero or a dirty liar! I can't tell you how many times when I'm coaching advisors I hear them mention that they struggle with feeling imposter syndrome. It's hard to feel unique, or like you're adding enough value, or if you're worth charging what you charge. I invite you to follow along with this workshop to help you create a few go to strategies to eliminate that inner mean girl once and for all. ------------------------------------------------Grab the worksheet that goes with this episode here!Curious about the Efficient Advisor Group Coaching & Mastermind? Get on the waitlist here for more information on the next session coming this August.   Successful businesses don't get built alone. You need community! You need collaboration! Join us in The Efficient Advisor Community on Facebook.Check out more FREE resources and our FREE video library at http://www.theefficientadvisor.com Looking for all the resources from this episode? Check out this episode's webpage for show notes, transcripts, downloads and more!

In this podcast, I share how my inner bully or negative self-talk causes me to feel defeated and hopeless. I will show you how Catholic Life Coaching has helped me to quiet down the negative self-talk so I can move forward in my life with joy and confidence. About the Host Jennie is the founder of the Catholic Life Coach Academy. The Academy is designed to equip and encourage Catholic women to create strong connections in their faith, within themselves, in their marriages and other important relationships so that they can lead happy, healthy, holy lives. Jennie teaches life coaching concepts through the lens of Scripture, Church teachings and the lives of the saints. The Academy offers group coaching and one-on-one coaching designed to help women create lives that they love. www.catholiclifecoachacademy.com

There's an inner voice in all of us that likes to judge and compare ourselves. It's constantly comparing us with other people.Maybe it started as a way to protect ourselves from the outside world, or maybe we picked up on it from the people around us. Either way, this voice is no longer doing us good, and is only holding us back from achieving more in our lives.Examine that voice! What is it saying when you're beaten down and in pain? Do you feel protected at all, hearing that voice?Wouldn't you think that if you let other people talk to you like how THAT inner bully talks to you, you'd probably throw a punch at them?That's how bad things are in your mind and honestly…this has GOT to GO!It's time to shush that judgmental and condescending inner bully, and rise up to achieve the success that you deserve!Let's hear what Shawn Douglass has to say about transforming that inner bully into a supportive and empowering voice that will lead you to success!Shawn is an Entrepreneur, Mindset Coach, and Co-Founder of The Growth Lab. He has been helping entrepreneurs achieve the business growth and ultimately, business success that they desire by creating a safe space – where exploration and opportunities are realized without being encumbered by judgment – within his clients' minds.Shawn believes that in order to reach our dreams, we have to keep moving forward. In accepting who and where we are in life, we orient ourselves towards the direction of forward and beyond.We have the capacity to change our mind and heart every single day in order to be better versions of ourselves tomorrow than what we are today. This is the self-love that we all need.Self-love need not be selfish! Giving ourselves the love and respect that we need sparks positive changes. And by constantly committing to create these improvements in our lives, we become better suited to serve and impact the world!What are strategies to turn that bully into a productive and supportive part of you? What The Growth Lab have uniquely in store for entrepreneurs?Learn more from the source!Check these out to learn more about Shawn Douglass and his Amazing Programs and Community!Website:The GROWTH Lab LaunchFB:Shawn Douglass Tune in to learn more about building strong businesses and marriages upon the values of Faith, Family, and Freedom.Connect with Cory and Jojo: Strong Business Stronger Marriage Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/221111245753095Cory's Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/coryrankinJojo's Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/jojo.rankin.395Lastly, If you would like to set up a call with us. Click here to schedule: https://www.rfamilystrong.best

Wow, what a revelation this has been for me in therapy, coaching and my own personal development. This week I'm discussing the impact our inner critic (or inner bully) has on us, and how it's formed as an internalised voice from our upbringing. Big, big important stuff! Carry on the conversation over on Instagram - @kat_horrocks Click to find out more about working with me Click to become a member of the Put Yourself First Sisterhood

I share how to see where you're being a victim of your inner bully, and how to start using self-judgment without being unnecessarily critical in the process. And if you've tried this work and you're not seeing the benefits yet, don't worry because I'm also sharing my three-step process for uncovering why you haven't made progress with your inner bully yet.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://daratomasson.com/26

Hey everyone! You know that little voice inside your head telling you you're not good enough? The one that tells you not to bother trying new things because you'll fail? That my friends, is your inner bully, aka your limiting beliefs! In this episode we talk about the power we have allowed that bully to have all these years, and how to finally stand up to it and take what is rightfully ours! Our self confidence!!!If you have stories of how you have overcome your inner bully, lets hear about it! You can contact me at wakeymegzpodcast@gmail.com! If you are loving what you hear please support me by giving me a five star rating on your favorite streaming platform and make sure to follow my social media accounts! If you follow me on a platform that doesn't allow you to rate or comment, you can support me by spreading the word about my show to all your loved ones! Thank you for all your love and support! 

Hey, Energizer!  Hush that inner bully inside you. The person who are constantly judging you, telling you you're not enough or you can't do that. That inner voice or inner person telling you all those negatives. 

The ego is front row, centre for most of us when it comes to our core beliefs, our decision-making, our opinions, and our controlling paradigms. Essentially, the ego is busy protecting our inner child. That inner child is who we identify as “I”. I feel this or that; I believe, I am suffering, I have anxiety, I have internal challenges, I have urges I need to satisfy. You've heard me talk about our Inner Bully here on the show, and that inner bully is what holds us back, what causes us to make poor choices at times, that voice that tells us we're not good enough in whatever way, whether it's I'm not smart enough, I'm not wealthy enough, I'm not fast enough. Our ego is that part of us that controls your value of self. It continues a running narrative based on our beliefs and thoughts about ourselves. These believes come from lived experiences from various places including parents, relatives, friends, teachers, and society. The ego has a lot of power over us and it gets this power by interpreting our belief system and uncovering our deepest fears and sometimes our strongest confidence and courage. Listen & Subscribe on: iTunes / Stitcher / Podbean / Overcast / Spotify Protection From What? As I said, the ego is protecting us from our inner child, and it never stops. It's extremely alert and is always ready to defend itself and act on anything it sees as a threat. Anytime there are threats to the ego, the ego steps up and makes an effort to redirect us. What happens that might be a threat to our ego? For a lot of us the answer can be one or more items on this list: showing a strong display of emotions making confident decisions jumping into extreme competition whatever that looks like for you feeling fear and moving forward anyway being a strong leader Are You On Autopilot? Your ego makes everything about you and what you believe. Anything going against those beliefs is seen by the ego as a threat. The ego's goal is to diminish your worth and power. By doing that, it believes your inner child will remain safe. Remember, the ego is something we all have as humans, and it is a necessary part of who we are. Having said that, it's important to understand a little about how the ego works and how we can keep it in check. As the title says, sometimes we have to tell our ego, “Enough Already”. You can work with the ego so you can improve your life. When we're on autopilot, our ego takes control and does exactly what it wants to do. When we become aware of the ego, it will become less powerful over our thinking and our decisions. What To Do Here's what to do to tell our ego, Enough Already: Become aware of your ego and realize you are not your ego. You and your ego are separate Have a friendly conversation with your ego. Finish this sentence … I am (blank). Notice what words come up for you after those two words, I am. Write down the words that came up for you following I am. Don't judge what you wrote, just look at them with as little emotion as possible. If you do this various times throughout the day, you'll start to identify the contents of your emotions and what's holding you back. You'll also start to identify your strengths. Give your ego a name. Giving it a name will help you have power over it and a better understanding of how it tries to control you. Suggested Resources Book: The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle Book: Start Where You Are by Pema Chodron App: Insight Timer Related Episodes Living A Better Life with Jerzy Gregorek 463 Internationally Recognized Happiness Expert; Patti Montella 278 The Unified Mindfulness Approach with Julianna Raye Special Offer Are you stressed and frustrated? It's not hopeless. You can get through this. I'm Bruce Langford, a practicing hypnotist. I use hypnosis to fast-track people just like you to shed their inner bully and move forward with confidence. Book a Free Coaching Session to get you on the road to a more satisfying life, feeling grounded and focused. See me an email at bruce@mindfulnessmode.com with ‘Ego' in the subject line. That way I'll know you heard this episode. We'll set up a zoom call and talk about how you can move forward to a better life. Send me an email at bruce@mindfulnessmode.com

In this episode, Anna Marie Frank talks about a few different planets like Jupiter ruled as plant, and of course other planets and the plants they rule. "After three days, a plant that get bullied, that plant will die in 30 days." Get Anna Marie's Book(s) here:  “Stop Bullying Yourself,” “Becoming you,” or “Beat your Inner Bully in 14-Days.”  Get a Brain Health Coach or Life Coach here Signup for the Happy Whole You Newsletter here   Stay connected with   Anna Marie Frank: Instagram / Facebook Get in touch:  (661)-337-0216  Info@happywholeyou.com

In this episode, Anna Marie Frank talks about plant energy, and how the sun impact different plants in our planet, also, moon. "Also, the frequency of the full moon, it impacts our sleep pattern, all of that in full moon, it impacts us emotionally."   Get Anna Marie's Book(s) here:  “Stop Bullying Yourself,” “Becoming you,” or “Beat your Inner Bully in 14-Days.”  Get a Brain Health Coach or Life Coach here Signup for the Happy Whole You Newsletter here   Stay connected with   Anna Marie Frank: Instagram / Facebook Get in touch:  (661)-337-0216  Info@happywholeyou.com

In this episode, Anna Marie Frank interviews the founder of Keto Kamp, Ben Azadi. Ben shares how and when he got engage to keto lifestyle. How his situation before became his turning point to actually change. Also reading books helps him a lot to overcome his trials in life. About the Guest:  Ben was a former obese men and now a 3x best selling author. Also a podcast host of the top 15 Keto Kamp Podcast, and a national speaker. He created exclusive programs that are designed to solve the clients' biggest health problems. He helps the people to have be healthy in a faster way that can they imagine. What this episode covers:  The turning point of Ben's life and his journey towards his six pack abs (1:00-3:55) The different kinds of diet that failed me (4:00-4:45) Reading Books are powerful (5:00-6:00) Difference between dirty and clean keto (6:00-9:30) The signs that you're doing your keto wrong (10:00-11:40) Quotes from the episode  "You can have your six pack abs. But if you're not mentally strong and with that six pack mindset. You know, honestly, can exercise all that long, until you can make your brain right." "Using other people's work and that's the best thing about books."   Get Anna Marie's Book(s) here:  “Stop Bullying Yourself,” “Becoming you,” or “Beat your Inner Bully in 14-Days.”  Get a Brain Health Coach or Life Coach here Signup for the Happy Whole You Newsletter here   Stay connected with   Anna Marie Frank: Instagram / Facebook Ben Azadi: https://www.benazadi.com/ Get in touch:  (661)-337-0216  Info@happywholeyou.com

The gals gather round the mic for a fun little season one finale episode and storm eachother's brains. We discuss ghost gal things, getting vaxxed & verified, and battling our inner bully's by unpacking habitual hatred. Shannon also makes the MASH life of Sierra's dreams this week in a Freaky Friday level role reversal. Stay tuned for Season Two!

All of us have an inner bully. Today we bring to you a special guest who reveals the importance of silencing those inner bullies and how to do it so you can have a healthy, happy, and loving family. Karen Abrams is a Master Theta Healer, relationship expert, and an award-winning international bestselling author. She has worked with thousands of clients worldwide who are at a crossroads in their lives— helping them heal the underlying causes of their issues and get clarity and understanding on how to move forward from there. Karen is committed to helping women break free of living in survival mode so that they can live fulfilling, healthy and balanced lives. Connect with Karen Abrams: https://thinktheta.com/ (https://thinktheta.com/) Join us LIVE each week in our Facebook Group … https://www.facebook.com/groups/blissfulparenting (https://www.facebook.com/groups/blissfulparenting) Connect with Blissful Parenting: Free Workshop ► https://www.blissfulparentingworkshop.com (https://www.BlissfulParentingWorkshop.com)  Website ► http://www.theblissfulparent.com/ (http://www.TheBlissfulParent.com/)  Blog ► http://www.theblissfulparent.com/blog (http://www.TheBlissfulParent.com/blog)  Podcast ► http://www.theblissfulparent.com/podcast/ (http://www.TheBlissfulParent.com/podcast/)  Contact ►http://www.blissfulparenting.com/contact (http://www.BlissfulParenting.com/contact)  Follow Us On Social Media: Youtube ► https://www.youtube.com/theblissfulparent (https://www.youtube.com/theblissfulparent)   Facebook ► https://www.facebook.com/theblissfulparent (https://www.facebook.com/theblissfulparent)   Instagram ► https://www.instagram.com/theblissfulparent/ (https://www.instagram.com/theblissfulparent/)   Twitter ►https://twitter.com/blissfulparent (https://twitter.com/blissfulparent)   Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher. You can also subscribe to the podcast app on your mobile device. Leave us an iTunes review Ratings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on iTunes, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review on iTunes.

Attachment theory is connected to relationships and bonds between people, including long-term relationships, short-term relationships, parent-child relationships, and romantic relationships. It is a theory developed by the British psychologist, John Bowlby, who described attachment as “lasting psychological connectedness between human beings.” Listen & Subscribe on: iTunes / Stitcher / Podbean / Overcast / Spotify If you believe your life is unfolding the way it is because of attachment issues, what can you do about it? How can you take control of your life? One of the things you can do is to become more aware of your conscious mind and how it is controlling your actions. Notice your patterns and how they are keeping you in a particular place. Before I understood the difference between the conscious and subconscious mind, I felt like there was a war within myself. Having interviewed over 650 guests for Mindfulness Mode, I've come to believe that a majority of the populations is experiencing this ‘Inner Bully' to a certain degree. Maybe you want to go to the gym or eat healthier and it's just not happening no matter how hard you try. Maybe it's about being more productive or you want to stop self sabotaging your relationships. Have you come to realize that you're falling back into those same ruts or patterns. This is usually a sign that your conscious mind has one intention and your subconscious mind have another. It's the subconscious mind that always wins in the end. Tune into the episode to learn more about attachment theory. Suggested Resources Book: How To Do The Work by Dr. Nicole Lepera App: www.InsightTimer.com Related Episodes Personal Development For Success; Thais Gibson Into The Nothing With Gabriel Cousens 403 Listening To Smile With Composer Ian Morris Special Offer Have you been trying to break through a mind block? Are you discouraged? It's not hopeless. YOU CAN DO IT. I coach people just like you. I'm Bruce Langford, a practicing hypnotist, and I love to help people just like you! Feel good about your life and accomplishments. Regain confidence. Book a Free Consultation to get you on the road to being grounded and centered. Email me: bruce@mindfulnessmode.com with ‘Attachment' in the subject line.

Often times we subconsciously talk so much negative talk to ourselves that it is the same as if a bully was shoving us into a locker. Looking at the classic definition of what a bully is I am sure, just like me, you can see yourself a little in it. How can you begin to stop bullying yourself??? well you teach yourself. While teaching, you must try everything to see what lesson, technique, or word will get you to get it. If you are looking for a facilitator that will guide you along with the teaching then book a consult today, Interview me to see if I am the right fit for you. We all need support in life especially if we are drowning in it. www.coach-tammy.com Until then Keep Loving, Keep Growing, Keep Embracing Life Boldly! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/tammy-ward/message

Boo hoo, Duke and K are having a (rare) bad year. Doesn't mean he has to take it out on student reporters. The Lions' Matt Stafford is now officially "get-able." ANDY POLLIN on Larry King and the WFT's new front office. Plus... here come the Covid "Science" miracles!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We all hold an inner bully inside of us. You know the one. The voice that's telling you that you're not enough or you can't do something. The voice that holds us back. It doesn't serve you. In this episode I chat with Entrepreneur Shawn Douglass on how we can Hush the Inner Bully.

We are our worst critics and our worst bullies in life. If you are a victim of the poor girl mentality and want to learn how to control your inner bully listen to this episode for some tips. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/mindsetgoddess/support

MJ Gordon interviewed me about gratitude. It's one of my favorite subjects. The science behind gratitude shows how powerful a gratitude practice can be when practiced regularly.  One of my favorite parts of the show was how MJ was able to synthesize some of my ramblings and help show the practical benefits of a gratitude practice. It's why I enjoy interviewing other people. There is something special about two people trying to help each other create great content together. 1:25 - How the focus on gratitude changed my life. 2:41 - How the third try at keeping a gratitude journal finally stuck. 4:30 - The importance of taking a moment to enjoy the situation. 6:50 - Making a good choice versus a reactive choice. 8:40 - Why being positive is not about ignoring your feelings. 13:58 - Balance between self-care and being productive. 14:40 - Four levels of gratitude. 16:30 - Looking for positive options. 19:15 - Gratitude stacking. 21:50 - Improving your mindset through the SOAR technique. 23:39 - How I deal with my inner bully. 25:21 - What do you do if you are having a hard time. 27:41 - What can you do to set yourself up for the next day? 29:55 - How gratitude helps you take action when you are feeling fatigued. 32:01 - Digging deep into gratitude helps you expand your mindset. 33:55 - How lucky we are to be in the bodies that we have. 37:15 - The duty to show up. 37:50 - My evening routine with my family. 41:25 - Applying gratitude inside my meditation practice.

Do you have an inner bully? Martial Artist and Personal Power Coach, Master Theresa Byrne explains how you can shift your mindset from listening to defeating self-talk (what she calls your inner bully), to instead discover and be empowered by your inner warrior. Theresa Byrne is self-defense expert and founder of a martial arts center, teaching others how inner power can transform lives. Theresa is the first woman to earn the rank of 4th Degree Black Belt Master Instructor in her system. She has a Bachelor of Arts in Speech Communication with concentrations in Psychology/Business. In this episode of the Woman of Value Podcast Learning how to ask for help and WHO to ask for help How to develop core confidence and take your power back What the Inner Bully is, and why you need to conquer it to live your best life How a devastating car accident taught Theresa a valuable life lesson about her value The antidote to stress How she healed from a traumatic brain injury by trying over 40 healing modalities!

You are not good enough for this job! You suck at this! Everyone else is better than you! Do you ever say these things to yourself? If yes, you are a victim of self-bullying. If not checked, this self-bullying leads to low self-esteem and can cause depression. Three tips on how to tame your inner bully and link to daily Detox Affirmations: https://rashimmogha.com/2018/10/29/positive-affirmations-they-work/. Please consider supporting this podcast so that we can empower women globally: anchor.fm/rashim-mogha/support . --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/rashim-mogha/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/rashim-mogha/support

Read the blog post including references/citations here: http://bit.ly/TOSK7innerbully   Link to list of cognitive distortions: http://bit.ly/TOSKCognitiveDistortionsArticle  Link to thoughts and emotions worksheet: http://bit.ly/TOSKThoughtsandEmotions  Podcasts can't provide professional advice. For help: http://bit.ly/TOSKresources   Trigger Warning: We discuss dogs throwing up in this episode.   Today we are talking about a topic we have been alluding to for quite a while: shutting down your inner bully! This topic is super important and we hope it will be very helpful, because it is a key piece of cognitive behavioral therapy that you can apply to your life on your own time. If you haven't already checked out our thoughts and emotions worksheet, this can be a great way to start to identify some of the things that your inner bully is saying to you. You can access it here: http://bit.ly/TOSKThoughtsandEmotions.    Our bottom line for today's episode: the world can be a mean place, but your mind doesn't have to be. You can take active steps to shut down the inner bully and this will not only help you, it will improve your mental health and self-care so you can be a better friend, family member, parent, fur parent, employee, etc. Self-care doesn't just benefit us, it benefits the world by making us better, and this is no exception.    Tools: Use the thoughts and emotions worksheet to begin to identify some themes among the things that your bully says Give the inner-bully a ridiculous name! The benefits of this are twofold- it can reduce the validity of what the bully is saying. It can also help to prevent you from beating yourself up FOR beating yourself up. Yes, we humans do need therapy for a goddamn good reason, don't we? You can separate the bully from yourself so you don't feel guilty when you aren't thinking of things in the most productive manner. Examine the evidence for and against what the bully is saying Feel how your body responds to the criticism from your mind to determine if it's a bully or a constructive thought. You can also think about how this thought makes you want to respond- do you want to take action, or do you want to crawl into a hole and give up? If it's the latter, it's probably a bully doing the talking. Read the list of cognitive distortions to identify if any of these distortions apply to your thinking. This can help you to begin to identify some patterns the bully is basing the criticisms on. See the link below for a full list. ask yourself “would I allow someone else to talk to me this way”, or, “would I allow someone to talk to a loved one of mine this way”? If you wouldn't allow this bullshit to come out of someone else's mouth in your home, don't allow that shit into your mind either. Your mind is your most sacred space. Clear out your social media of potential triggers that may build up your inner bully. Affirmations! They work, we swear- Rodney and science say so. Base these on the things that you value and things that are your strengths. If the inner bully is right, re-frame the way you are talking to yourself about this issue. What is a productive alternative to what the bully is saying? Keep a running list of things you've accomplished. Plan out future goals for yourself, including some small, easily achievable ones, so you can show yourself that you can be successful!

Kicking your inner bully to the curb. Join Stephanie Richardson and Heather Smith on the Blogtalk Radio show, The Good Girl's Guide to Being Wrong and Happy as they explore the dark side of being a good girl... the inner bully.... is it time to take over the playground of your life?