Silence Your Inner Mean Girl

Schedule a complimentary session with Sandra: https://calendly.com/sandra-jarvis-coaching/complimentary-session Silence Your Inner Mean Girl host, Sandra Jarvis, is back! But this time, she's focused on healing your inner mean girl, not silencing her! Join Sandra in this first episode of Heal Your Inner Mean Girl to learn what she's been up to for the past few months, and why the switch is taking place. In this episode: Find out how to get support on your religious recovery journey Why silencing your inner mean girl is no longer an option What it means if your brain is in chaos Your responsibility in your religious recovery RESOURCES: "Religious Refugees" by Mark Gregory Karris --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/healyourinnermeangirl/message

In the post-Mormon world, I often hear women say that they wonder if they did the right thing by leaving the church. They knew it was going to be hard, but they didn't know it would be THIS hard. The truth is, our brains love the familiar, even if the familiar is hard. So it makes total sense that it's tempting to go back to church when things feel hard and unfamiliar. In this episode, Sandra discusses 3 areas to focus on after leaving the church: Embracing your worth. Claiming your freedom. And living your truth. Because the truth is, it's all about you--the whole you. And once you realize that you are the most important person in your life and your most important stewardship is to take care of you, you'll start to feel better. Tune in today!

Religious programming is the aftereffect of teachings and indoctrination of religion that defined your worldview, your behaviors, and how you see yourself. In this episode, Sandra talks about religious programming and how it is still affecting your life today. Because the truth is, just because you walk away from the church, doesn't mean your religious programming is suddenly gone. Lifelong indoctrination sinks deep into your soul and can be difficult to identify if you don't know what you're looking for. Tune in today. Grab this free resource: Filling the Void - A Checklist to Jumpstart Your Religious Recovery Join the Facebook Group: Silence Your Inner Mean Girl

If you grew up in a strict religious system, you probably struggle with setting and enforcing boundaries. It's not surprising considering the fact that high-demand religions like the LDS church literally train you not to have boundaries. Now that you've left, however, you get to choose what feels right for you and how you want to create safety for yourself. In this episode, Sandra discusses ways in which religion trains you not to have boundaries and how those can affect you as an adult. She also talks about tips for setting boundaries and specific boundaries you may want to consider in order to create peace for yourself this holiday season. And remember--NO ONE WILL EVER THANK YOU FOR SETTING BOUNDARIES, NO ONE BUT YOU, THAT IS! Grab this free resource: Filling the Void - A Checklist to Jumpstart Your Religious Recovery Join the Facebook Group: Silence Your Inner Mean Girl

If your religion taught that you should doubt your doubts, rely on authorities who know more than you for how you should live your life, and that--by nature--you're weak and sinful, then it created a total mistrust in yourself. And unfortunately, trust is not an easy thing to rebuild, even after you've left religion. It takes time and purposeful intention, and it may feel totally foreign because you were conditioned to think focusing on yourself was wrong and selfish. In this episode, Sandra discusses 5 ways to start building self-trust after leaving religion. It's not an exhaustive list, but it's a place to start. Tune in to learn what values, commitment, goal-setting, and inner wisdom have to do with rebuilding trust in yourself. Tune in to the Silence Your Inner Mean Girl Webinar every Wednesday at noon. Register to join us at this link: https://us06web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_Jycu-tVRQlOcg3zvOOT9ug

Join Sandra as she shares more of her personal story and shares three key elements of her healing journey. Healing is not just possible, its' probable when you're willing to show up and do the work for yourself. To learn more about religious trauma and adverse religious experiences, grab the FREE Religious Trauma Checklist. If you're ready to take this work to the next level, schedule a COMPLIMENTARY Self-Talk Assessment Call to learn more about how coaching can help you silence your inner mean girl, embrace your worth, and finally heal from religious trauma.

To learn more about religious trauma and adverse religious experiences, grab the FREE Religious Trauma Checklist. If you're ready to take this work to the next level, schedule a COMPLIMENTARY Self-Talk Assessment Call to learn more about how coaching can help you silence your inner mean girl, embrace your worth, and finally heal from religious trauma. What is religious trauma, anyway? In this episode, Sandra defines religious trauma and gives examples of what women with religious trauma might experience. She also discusses a powerful tool for healing from religious harm and shares part of her own experience with healing. Tune in to better understand where religious trauma comes from, how it manifests, and what you can do if you are suffering from religious harm.

To learn more about religious trauma and adverse religious experiences, grab the FREE Religious Trauma Checklist. If you're ready to take this work to the next level, schedule a COMPLIMENTARY Self-Talk Assessment Call to learn more about how coaching can help you silence your inner mean girl, embrace your worth, and finally heal from religious trauma. The butterfly goes through 4 different stages on it's journey to becoming a beautiful creature that can fly. In today's episode of Silence Your Inner Mean Girl, we talk about each of these stages and how they parallel the stages of healing from trauma. Tune in to learn more about the transformation that takes place on your healing journey, and how eventually, every trauma survivor can get to a place where they open their wings and fly! Come join us in the new Facebook Group, Unmasked After Leaving Mormonism, and become part of a kaleidoscope of women who are healing together.

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Schedule your FREE Self-Talk Assessment Call HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. This episode is based on a question that was submitted by one of our listeners. She said: "Hi Sandra…I have also left the LDS church in the past year and have had a hard time sharing my feelings with other people. I've found that in the “Ex-Mormon” world, there are a lot of people who just don't believe in God at all. I'm struggling to decide what I believe. I was taught that God was an omnipotent, omniscient, omnipresent being who knows everything about me and is intimately involved in my daily existence…and I don't believe that at all. But I do believe in some sort of higher power. I feel a lot of pressure from other people who have left the church to give that up, however, and I think that's part of the reason I'm hesitant to tell people I'm no longer a member—because I don't really know what I believe anymore. My inner mean girl tells me that I should have this all figured out already. So how do I figure it out? And how do I find peace with my own beliefs when there are so many people out there telling me how I “SHOULD” believe?" Join Sandra as she answers this question and introduces a concept called The God Project. If you've ever questioned your views about God, this episode is for you!

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Schedule your FREE Self-Talk Assessment Call HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. In this episode, Sandra shares more details about her journey out of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Schedule your FREE Self-Talk Assessment Call HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. What are the masks that you're wearing? And how much connection are you sacrificing so you can stay safe behind your masks? The truth is, vulnerability is essential to healing from trauma and abuse…and it's also essential for creating connection. When you're not vulnerable, you simply can't grow. You can't grow personally…you can't grow in your relationships…you can't grow in your career. Vulnerability—or the lack thereof—has a huge impact on the life you lead. Without vulnerability, there is no growth. Join Sandra in this powerful episode where she shares her personal experience with removing emotional masks and being willing to show up with authenticity and vulnerability. You won't want to miss the powerful Halloween episode! Resources mentioned in this episode: Rhonda Monson -www.yourjourneyservices.com/couples-retreat

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Schedule your FREE Self-Talk Assessment Call HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. In this episode, Sandra discusses the freeze and fawn responses to danger, and specifically how these show up for survivors of trauma or abuse. Like the fight and flight responses, freeze and fawn are almost opposites. Tune in to see how these emergency responses might be showing up in your life.

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Schedule your FREE Self-Talk Assessment Call HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. Stress responses turned trauma responses don't always show up in obvious ways. In this episode, Sandra discusses the fight and flight responses of the nervous system, and how they might show up as trauma responses. You might be surprised at some of the ways these manifest in survivors of trauma or abuse! Tune in to see if you have any of these symptoms...because there's no need to constantly feel like you have to be on high alert.

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Schedule your FREE Self-Talk Assessment Call HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. The stress response system is the emergency reaction system of the body and it's there to keep you safe in emergencies. It includes physical AND thought responses to your perception of various situations that show up in your life. When the stress response is turned on, your body releases stress hormones, like adrenaline and cortisol, which causes specific things to happen inside of you. It can make your heart pound, your blood pressure increase, and your breathing get faster. Your stress response system is a completely normal part of life...unless it is constantly getting activated because of past trauma or abuse. In this episode, Sandra discusses the body's response to stress and how you can tell whether or not these responses are normal and healthy, or creating problems in your daily life.

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Schedule your FREE Self-Talk Assessment Call HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. In the world of mental health, there's a lot of debate regarding coaching vs. counseling. But really, there's no debate because the focus of coaching is entirely different than the focus of counseling. In this episode, Sandra discusses the job of a coach and how it differs from a counselor's job. She answers the question, "Who hires life coaches, anyway?" And specifically, who the ideal client is for Sandra's coaching.

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club Waitlist HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. Self-care is not a bunch of things that you do for yourself…not physical things anyway. Self-care is creating something inside yourself that you love. So, what does that mean? When you look at the things inside of you, they include your thoughts, your feelings, the things you choose to do with your time, the results you create for yourself, and the energy you generate. Self-care looks different for everyone…because each of us has unique thoughts, feelings, actions, and energy But the key is to choose whatever you allow inside with great intention and care. That's what self-care is really all about! Choosing consciously the life you want to live. Join Sandra as she discusses 5 benefits of self-care and gives a few ideas of what self-care might actually look like.

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club Waitlist HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. As a victim of trauma or abuse, you probably struggle with trusting other people. But you may also struggle with trusting yourself--and that might be an even more significant issue. Join Sandra in this episode as she discusses how to take back the power and authority over your own life by learning to trust yourself again. Because the truth is, when you own the authority over your own life, when you start choosing to trust yourself on a regular basis, when you stop caring about what other people think, when decide to silence your inner mean girl so that she no longer has control over you…that's when you become free.

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club Waitlist HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form Abuse affects every area of life. As a child, it affects your self-esteem, your ability to make friends, your grades, your capacity for learning, your health, your stress levels, your personality, and more. And even when the abuse ends, the problems continue. This episode is to make people aware. Aware of the prevalence of abuse. Aware of the long-lasting effects it has on people. Aware that there is a problem--a big one! And the problem isn't over there--it's here. At home. In our neighborhoods and communities. Join Sandra as she discusses statistics about abuse as well as some of the ways you can become part of the solution.

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club Waitlist HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. Have you ever asked the question, "Why me?" If so, you've probably also experienced the feeling of complete and total victimhood that it brings with it. So why not try asking, "Why not me?" instead. Join Sandra in this episode as she explores the benefits to this simple shift in this common question. Because you get to choose whether you see yourself as a victim--or as a badass woman. And one will give you power where the other, will rob you of it. Which would you prefer?

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club Waitlist HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. Self-compassion is a powerful tool in healing from trauma and abuse. But it's also a powerful tool for simply developing self-love. However, many people fight against it because they think that if they are compassionate with themselves, then they'll be weak. Nothing could be further from the truth. Join Sandra as she discusses 5 myths she often hears from her clients about self-compassion. To be clear, these are not true! And they usually keep people from being able to develop the qualities of self that are essential in healing from the difficulties and challenges of life.

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club Waitlist HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. Human beings were designed to thrive when we are nurtured. Think about it. Everything about our species screams of the importance of nurturing. We are literally created through what is meant to be a loving and nurturing connection. As babies, we have to be nurtured by our caregivers in order to survive. As children—and even as adults—we derive our worth from the amount of nurturing we receive. If we are well nurtured, we grow up believing that we're worthy of love and life and connection and all the things. If we're not, we grow up with an entirely different set of beliefs about ourselves. And that can cause lifelong issues. But one of the biggest problems we have is that we don't know how to nurture ourselves. In this episode of Silence Your Inner Mean Girl, Sandra discusses ideas of how to increase your self-compassion and become more nurturing. Because nurturing is literally how we win this game we call life.

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club Waitlist HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. Patience, persistence, and perseverance--the trifecta of success. Join Sandra in this episode as she introduces you to the most persistent spider around...and how this little creature taught her about becoming more persistent when striving to reach for your dreams.

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club Waitlist HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. Remember those kaleidoscopes we used to play with as kids? The ones with the pretty colored beads inside that made amazing patterns? Life is kind of like a kaleidoscope. And in this episode, Sandra introduces the Kaleidoscope Effect. You'll never look at life's challenges in the same way again.

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. Mastering self-love is essential to reach your full potential in this life. Making space to prioritize ourselves and embrace who we are wholly and completely allows us to stop hustling for our worthiness and start focusing on what we want out of life. Join Sandra in this episode as she discusses what self-love is, what it isn't, and why it's so important for women to develop the skill of self-love.

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. What do you really want for your future? And where will you be in five years if you continue living the way you are today? Will you be in exactly the same place? Or are you actively working toward making your dreams a reality? No matter how old you are, you will always have incredible potential to tap into...and at the end of your life, you still won't have reached it all. So why not make your goal to die trying? That's what Sandra discusses on the podcast today. Tune in for some thought-provoking ideas on how to make the most of this one life you've been given...and how to leave the past in the past where it belongs!

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. What's the difference between confidence and self-confidence? Confidence is based on ability. Self-confidence is based on belief. In today's episode of Silence Your Inner Mean Girl, Sandra discusses self-confidence--what it is, how it's different from arrogance, and why most of us don't have it. If you've ever struggled to believe in yourself, this one's for you!

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club Waitlist HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. What is self-concept and why does it matter? Is it possible to change it and if so, why would you want to? These are the questions Sandra answers in today's episode of Silence Your Inner Mean Girl. Self-concept is the fourth pillar for The Self Love Club, a new small group coaching program. Tune in to this episode to learn everything you need to know about developing a self-concept that will help you live the life of your dreams.

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club Waitlist HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. R.A.I.N. is a way of working with challenging emotions that was developed by Tara Brach, a clinical psychologist and an expert in using meditation to treat trauma. In this episode of Silence Your Inner Mean Girl, Sandra talks about each of the steps of rain and describes how to use this tool in your daily life. If you're a survivor of trauma or abuse, this is an episode you won't want to miss!

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club Waitlist HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. Self-Acceptance is the ability to embrace all facets of yourself, not just the positive parts, but the things you see as your weaknesses and limitations, too. If you really want to improve your self-love, you're going to have to explore the parts of you that you have not yet been able to accept, because ultimately, loving yourself has everything to do with self-acceptance. Join Sandra in this episode to learn all about self-acceptance--what it is, why it's important, and how to start accepting all the parts of you.

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club Waitlist HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. Self-awareness is literally the ability to focus attention on ourselves and then to self-evaluate. It allows us to understand ourselves and to connect to the world around us. All of us could benefit from getting to know ourselves a little better, even when we think we know all there is to know. Because the truth is, we are designed to develop more and more self-awareness throughout our entire lifetime. People who are self-aware tend to be better employees, have better communication skills, enjoy healthier relationships, and have an overall sense of well-being. So there are some pretty good reasons for becoming self-aware. Join Sandra in this episode for 5 tips for becoming more self-aware--as well as some great information to help you decide if you might be suffering from being unself-aware.

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club Waitlist HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. Everyone experiences trauma at some point in their lives. It happens when something is too much, too fast, too soon, or too little, too late for your development. In the majority of cases, the natural healing cycle of the body clears up the trauma in your system and it doesn't affect you all that much. But occasionally, you come across events that are so overwhelming, the natural recovery doesn't take place. That's when you get stuck in trauma. In today's episode of Silence Your Inner Mean Girl, Sandra discusses what trauma is, how it affects you on a spiritual level, some of the research around healing from trauma, and the concept of post-traumatic growth. Tune in to gain a greater understanding of how trauma affects all of us...and what is possible in terms of healing.

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club Waitlist HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. Thirty-five years of marriage will teach you a few things about relationships. In this episode, Sandra shares her thoughts on how to create a strong, lasting relationship with your spouse.

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club Waitlist HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. Your Inner Mean Girl has some pretty harsh things to say. And reality is that there's probably some truth in her messages...at least in some of them. Understanding how to own all of it--the good, the bad, and the ugly--is one of the most empowering things you can do. Because when you own it all, nothing can hurt you! Join Sandra in this episode as she discusses how to reframe your negative self-talk into something a little bit kinder, without glossing over the truth. You'll walk away with a little more knowledge about how to silence your inner mean girl and unleash the badass woman within.

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club Waitlist HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. Many people see vulnerability as a gateway to victimhood. But the reality is that vulnerability is power. Victimhood happens when we blame other people for our problems. Vulnerability is when we take full responsibility for ourselves and all of our experiences. Tune in to this episode of Silence Your Inner Mean Girl to learn more about why we get stuck in victimhood and how to choose vulnerability instead.

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club Waitlist HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. Have you ever been in the middle of a really difficult challenge and you feel like you just want to give up? Sometimes, it seems like the challenges of life will never end! If you're going through a "messy middle", this episode if for you! Join Sandra as she shares 4 tips to help you get through the "messy middles" of your life. Because the truth is, life can be messy, and it's ALL the middle!

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club Waitlist HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. Today's episode of Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is simply giving you permission to relax. Because once you understand the best-kept secret in the world, you'll know that you don't have to work so hard to be better and do more. You can just embrace yourself and your life as it is right now. Want in on the secret? Tune in today!

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club Waitlist HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. As women, we are subjected to literally hundreds of lies about ourselves every day. You don't even have to leave your house to be exposed to them. Just turn on the T.V. or scroll through social media and you'll be bombarded. All of these lies lead us to believe that somehow, we're not worthy. But today, Sandra calls BS on that idea. Because what does "I'm not worthy" even mean? In this episode, Sandra asks you to take a look at what you've tied your worth to and then helps you unravel that tie. Because the truth is, that just by your very existence, you are worthy. Worthy to live. Worthy to love and be loved. Worthy to just be. Tune in to this powerful episode and walk away with greater clarity about your inherent worth.

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club Waitlist HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. Today's episode was created specifically for one of our listeners who struggles with people-pleasing tendencies. In it, Sandra shares the secret to combatting people-pleasing, as well as five steps you can take to help you make more conscious decisions about the way you want to spend your time. If you're a people pleaser...or a recovering people pleaser, this episode is a must!

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club Waitlist HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. "You either get better or you get bitter." That's the premise of today's episode. Because the truth is, you rarely stay the same, especially when you experience trauma. You either become bitter and angry and go down the path of misery, or you choose to consciously get better by taking control of your mind and allowing your system to heal. You have a choice about the story you tell yourself regarding the circumstances of your life. You have a choice about the feelings that are generated by that story. You have a choice about how your story affects you long-term. And that means you have a choice about how you'll live your life. Join Sandra in this episode as she shares her story of how she decided to get better instead of bitter. Resources mentioned in this episode: Saprea Sexual Abuse Healing and Prevention The Saprea Retreat for Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse

Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Join the Self-Love Club Waitlist HERE Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. Boundaries are all about communicating your needs to other people and being able to explain what will happen if you're needs aren't met. Boundaries are all about you! So why do they cause so much drama in our minds? Why can't we simply let other people know what we need and what we're going to do about it without all the feelings? In this episode, Sandra addresses all of those things. What boundaries are, why setting them feels so hard, and how to go about putting them in place with love and respect for both parties. Tune in today!

Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up Submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast by filling out this form. Did you know that our self-love is something you have to consciously choose to create for yourself, over and over again? It doesn't come naturally. It's a decision you make and a practice you develop...AND...it's one of the most important skills you can learn if you want to create a life filled with confidence, purpose, and joy. In this episode, Sandra shares how her Inner Mean Girl (her name is Connie, BTW) tried to sabotage an opportunity to participate in a 5K race--and how she prevailed, even when it was hard. Actively cultivating self-love allows you to do the things that might normally scare you and helps you live in a way that honors your strengths instead of giving in to your weaknesses. Tune in to Episode #7 of Silence Your Inner Mean Girl to uncover what's possible when you unleash the Badass Woman Within instead of allowing your Inner Mean Girl to take over!

Download the FREE training: How to Get Your Inner Mean Girl to Shut-the-Hell Up If you'd like to submit your Inner Mean Girl Message to be featured on the podcast, fill out this form. In this episode, Sandra dives into affirmations and answers the question, "Why are affirmations so powerful for some people, while seeming like a waste of time and energy for others?" You'll learn what an affirmation actually is, why they work, and how to create them. You'll also learn the formula Sandra uses with her clients called the "Half-ass Affirmation", a powerful way to create laddering thoughts that will uplevel your thinking and your energy in tiny, digestible increments. Grab a notebook and follow along through the 5 steps of creating a powerful affirmation that can start to silence your Inner Mean Girl today! Schedule a FREE Self-Talk Assessment Call with Sandra here.

Schedule A Complimentary Consult with Sandra Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! Episode 5 is all about THRIVING! Uncovering your thriving emotions so you can leave your Survival Story and Coping Strategies in the past is a powerful part of the healing journey, and that's what Sandra focuses on today. That's also the result you can expect when you hire her as a coach. If you're interested in pursuing this work in a more formal way, I've just opened space for 10 one-on-one clients to go through a new program I've designed. The program is all about silencing your inner mean girl and unleashing the badass woman within. I've been busy creating some specific coaching tools to help you raise your awareness so you can take back your personal power and start creating a beautiful future for yourself. If you're interested in learning more, click the link below to schedule a free consult where we can discuss exactly what's going on in your head and how coaching can help you silence your negative self-talk and replace it with self-confidence and a sense of self-worth! It's the greatest gift I can offer you! Schedule A Complimentary Consult with Sandra

Schedule A Complimentary Consult with Sandra Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! In episode 4, Sandra talks about the Coping Zone. The Coping Zone is an energy that's focused on strategy. It's easy to get stuck in the coping zone because it feels really comfortable. It's full of emotions like forgiveness, tolerance, and peace. The problem with getting stuck here is that there's so much you're missing out on! Join Professional Certified Coach, Sandra Jarvis, as she talks about getting stuck in the Coping Zone and why it's important to understand what that feels like. If you're interested in pursuing this work in a more formal way, I've just opened space for 10 one-on-one clients to go through a new program I've designed. The program is all about silencing your inner mean girl and unleashing the badass woman within. I've been busy creating some specific coaching tools to help you raise your awareness so you can take back your personal power and start creating a beautiful future for yourself. If you're interested in learning more, click the link below to schedule a free consult where we can discuss exactly what's going on in your head and how coaching can help you silence your negative self-talk and replace it with self-confidence and a sense of self-worth! It's the greatest gift I can offer you! Schedule A Complimentary Consult with Sandra

Schedule A Complimentary Consult with Sandra Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! In episode 3, Sandra talks about the Survival Zone, that energy you feel when you're stuck in victimhood and don't know how to get out. Many survivors don't even understand that they have a choice about how their trauma or abuse will affect them as an adult. That lack of understanding causes many of us to remain stuck in this heavy, negative energy and keeps us feeling like we're carrying the weight of the world on our shoulders. BUT--you don't have to remain in the Survive Zone. Join Professional Certified Coach, Sandra Jarvis, as she discusses what you can do to start moving out of Survival Mode and toward the Thrive Zone. Don't miss out on this powerful episode! If you're interested in pursuing this work in a more formal way, I've just opened space for 10 one-on-one clients to go through a new program I've designed. The program is all about silencing your inner mean girl and unleashing the badass woman within. I've been busy creating some specific coaching tools to help you raise your awareness so you can take back your personal power and start creating a beautiful future for yourself. If you're interested in learning more, click the link below to schedule a free consult where we can discuss exactly what's going on in your head and how coaching can help you silence your negative self-talk and replace it with self-confidence and a sense of self-worth! It's the greatest gift I can offer you! Schedule A Complimentary Consult with Sandra

Schedule A Complimentary Consult with Sandra Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! In episode 2, Sandra continues the discussion on your negative self-talk by introducing the Badass Woman Within, the core part of you that knows what's best and is your most powerful resource when it comes to creating a life you love. Your Badass Woman Within can be identified with 8 C's and 5 P's--character traits that help you know when you're acting from your true self vs. when your Inner Mean Girl has taken charge. When you know how to call forth the Badass Woman Within, amazing changes take place in the way you think and feel about yourself. And when that happens, healing becomes not just possible...but inevitable. If you're interested in pursuing this work in a more formal way, I've just opened space for 10 one-on-one clients to go through a new program I've designed. The program is all about silencing your inner mean girl and unleashing the badass woman within. I've been busy creating some specific coaching tools to help you raise your awareness so you can take back your personal power and start creating a beautiful future for yourself. If you're interested in learning more, click the link below to schedule a free consult where we can discuss exactly what's going on in your head and how coaching can help you silence your negative self-talk and replace it with self-confidence and a sense of self-worth! It's the greatest gift I can offer you! Schedule A Complimentary Consult with Sandra

Schedule A Complimentary Consult with Sandra Silence Your Inner Mean Girl is the podcast where we explore that voice in your head that makes you feel insignificant and keeps you wondering if you'll ever be enough. Each episode focuses on the thoughts that keep you questioning your worth and playing small. If you're ready to Silence your Inner Mean Girl so you can Unleash the Badass Woman Within, you're in the right place! In episode 1, Sandra introduces you to your Inner Mean Girl and helps you understand where she came from in the first place. You'll hear examples of Inner Mean Girl messages to help you start to identify your own. There's no need to be ashamed of your Inner Mean Girl messages--we all have them! But we also have the option to get rid of them. Join Professional Certified Coach, Sandra Jarvis, as she explains the process of how to identify and eradicate your Inner Mean Girl. If you're interested in pursuing this work in a more formal way, I've just opened space for 10 one-on-one clients to go through a new program I've designed. The program is all about silencing your inner mean girl and unleashing the badass woman within. I've been busy creating some specific coaching tools to help you raise your awareness so you can take back your personal power and start creating a beautiful future for yourself. If you're interested in learning more, click the link below to schedule a free consult where we can discuss exactly what's going on in your head and how coaching can help you silence your negative self-talk and replace it with self-confidence and a sense of self-worth! It's the greatest gift I can offer you! Schedule A Complimentary Consult with Sandra

Schedule a Complimentary Consult with Sandra How does coaching fit into the world of trauma recovery? Coaching is NOT therapy...and does not delve into past events to heal the traumatic wounds of your past. Coaches do not diagnose or treat trauma--and coaches are not healers. However, as a trauma-informed coach, I can help you uncover how your past trauma is holding you back and show you why it has kept you from creating a future you love. Coaching is powerful! The tools and techniques I share are the same ones that changed my life and fast-tracked my personal healing. Learn more about trauma-informed coaching and what it can do for you on your healing journey at sandrajarviscoaching.com. Interested in more information? Follow the link above to schedule a free consult. Mention the podcast and get 30% off your 6-month coaching package.

What's at the root of health? It's quite obvious when you think about it. In order to have good health, both mental and physical, you must first focus on healing...because HEAL is the root of HEALTH. Join Sandra in this episode as she discusses how a healthy brain processes the world--and what's different for a brain that's been traumatized. This is a powerful episode if you're one of the millions of people who have suffered some form of trauma in your life. Grab my free training: 3 Tips to Cut the Chaos Schedule a Complimentary Consult with Sandra

The right to choose is a precious gift, a gift that we should protect at all costs. Self-determination is at the root of all things within the mental health community. In this episode, I discuss my feelings about self-determination and how it is currently being threatened in our society. What can you do to take back your personal power? How can you get unstuck and start making decisions that will be beneficial in your life moving forward? Find out in this episode of Cut the Chaos! Grab the free training: 3 Tips to Cut the Chaos Schedule a complimentary consult with Sandra

Happy Mother's Day to all moms…s those who are struggling to feel good about your relationship with a child. This Mother's Day is different for me in many ways…so I'm sharing my thoughts about being without my mom, celebrating without children, and how to give yourself grace when a child refuses to have a relationship. Remember—you are enough, exactly the way you are right now!