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Top 5 Ways to Regulate Your Nervous System for Better Sleep & Stress Relief | Podcast #478

We always promise to pull back the curtain on real relational work, but this week, we are right in the thick of it. In this raw and deeply transparent episode, Trey and Lauren unpack a real-time relational rift that occurred just days ago. What started as a seemingly "small" lie via text message; Trey claiming he was playing in a golf tournament just to avoid an event, became the catalyst for a profound exploration of trauma responses, defensive coping mechanisms, and the long road of generational healing.They break down exactly what happened when the truth came out, how old wounds from past marriages and family histories immediately flooded the bedroom, and the exact step-by-step tools they used to intervene at the level of physical sensation to find their way back to connection.Key Takeaways:• Trey confesses to bending the truth to escape an obligation, acknowledging his dislike for lying but falling into a childish trap of "jazzing up" reality. Lauren shares the immediate somatic impact of the confession; feeling her body drop into a free-falling vortex due to past trauma with a lying father and a gaslighting first husband.• Lauren breaks down the clinical anatomy of a trigger. When a threat enters the relationship, it creates overwhelming physical sensations, which drive us toward old safety-seeking behaviors. These behaviors inevitably impact and trigger our partner, spinning the couple into a reactive loop.• Trey and Lauren map out their respective morning-after coping mechanisms. Lauren recognizes her body wanting to flee to the "separation bus" and slipping into an over-functioning "child maid" archetype. Meanwhile, Trey unpacks his "Soldier of Fortune" shadow side; the urge to isolate, run away, and believe it's just easier to be Peter Pan on his own than to pay a massive emotional toll for a mistake.If you want to learn how to map your own attachment cycles, identify your safety-seeking behaviors, and build a relationship container strong enough to hold your shadows and your triggers, let's do the work together.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

After pulling back the curtain on the brutal stomach virus that hit the final leg of their European tour last week, Lauren and Trey are back to talk about the good stuff. In this episode, they recount Trey's first-ever trip overseas; a three-country whirlwind through Paris, Amsterdam, and Barcelona (with a final stop in the quiet beach town of Sitges) in April and May of 2026.Moving past the sickness, they unpack the deep relational gold found on the road: why making adult friendships is a secret weapon for a thriving sex life, how to perfectly balance relationship logistics based on individual strengths, and what happened when they stepped into a historic Parisian erotic theater that completely shattered their American-bred biases.If you and your partner are trying to navigate your own travel triggers, step out of isolating relationship bubbles, or unpack your old scripts around pleasure, intimacy, and control, you don't have to do it alone.Ready to start building a resilient, well-defined partnership?Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.Key Takeaways & Dynamic Frameworks

Why Your Immune System May Be Attacking Its Own Tissue (The Gut Connection) | Podcast #477

In this quieter, beautifully raw episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey are back from their three-week trip to Europe, but they didn't exactly get the fairytale ending they planned. Instead, the final leg of their journey was hit by a severe stomach virus and otherworldly fevers that completely upended their vacation.Moving away from their usual high-octane discussions on sex and desire, they sit down to explore the other side of relationship reality: the somatic vulnerability of getting sick, the profound difficulty of receiving care, and what it truly means to step into the sacred space of partnership privilege.Lauren and Trey unpack the messy reality of traveling through multiple countries and climates: Trey describes the physical intensity of a day-six stomach bug and a shivering, chattering fever that forced him into deep physical vulnerability. Trey opens up about the emotional toll of getting sick on vacation and wrestling with the feeling that he was holding Lauren back from exploratory pleasure.Trey identifies his deepest fear around receiving nurturance; the underlying, irrational belief that he is "too much," taking up too much space, or becoming a burden to tolerate. Why the fear isn't necessarily about abandonment, but rather the terror that a partner will stay out of obligation while harboring residual "ugh" or resentment.Lauren and Trey address a common question from their listeners. If "there is no caretaking in desire," how do couples handle real-world ailments, accidents, and chronic issues?Lauren dies on a relational hill regarding the Wheel of Consent and the value of choosing to serve your partner: Why a relationship built entirely on the continuous chase of lust and pleasure ultimately becomes hollow.Lauren explains why stepping into caretaking for a chosen partner isn't a lower-tier "obligation," but a profound, full-hearted choice rooted in a deep desire to hold them through the hard parts of the human experience. If you're navigating a season where old childhood scripts make it terrifying to receive help, or if you're struggling to balance real-life caretaking with relational desire, you don't have to figure it out in isolation. Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

In this high-energy episode, Lauren and Trey dive deep into the carnal mechanics of desire. Picking up from their previous discussion on David Schnarch's work, they explore the concept of "f*cking" as a specific, functional, and necessary category of sex that is often the hardest to maintain in a long-term marriage.They pull back the curtain on how they negotiate "taking" and "allowing" in their own relationship, moving from the psychological theory of differentiation to the literal "socks on, blankets nearby" logistics of a five-minute encounter.Lauren and Trey discuss the difficulty of prioritizing one's own pleasure within the "nurturing" container of a long-term partnership. They break down:Why it is your job—not your partner's—to schedule and ask for the specific sexual experiences you want.Defining sex that is time-bound, goal-oriented, and centered on one person's pleasure (and why being "used" for a partner's delight can be a high-level erotic experience for both).Lauren shares the importance of "tents and balloons" (arousal) even in fast, penetrative encounters and how to communicate physical needs mid-act.The duo demonstrates a powerful communication tool used with Lauren's coaching clients. By stating exactly what they would want in a perfect world, without the pressure of an obligation, they create a "third domain" for negotiation.Watch (and listen) as Trey and Lauren literally negotiate the terms of a "f*ck," including timeframes, boundaries, "tingle times," and specific kinks.Recognizing that sex (and recording podcasts!) can be an act of service or a "willing" gift rather than a "giving to get" transaction.Lauren and Trey reflect on their different energy types; how Lauren's "Projector" energy thrives on the "roll" of communication while Trey's "Generator" energy reaches a clear cutoff point. They discuss how respecting these energetic limits is key to maintaining a "calm heart and calm mind" in the relationship.If you are ready to stop mind-reading and start negotiating for the pleasure you actually want, Lauren offers a trauma-informed, biopsychosocial approach to reclaiming your erotic voice.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive deep into a topic that often gets "cleaned up" or ignored in long-term relationships: the difference between standard intercourse and the raw, self-focused act of f*cking. Inspired by David Schnarch's book, Intimacy and Desire, they explore why the hardest person to "f*ck" is often the person you love the most and why reclaiming that "take" energy is vital for a thriving relationship.Lauren and Trey break down the mechanics of pleasure through the lens of the "Take" quadrant:Defining the "Take": Taking is the healthy pursuit of your own pleasure within the boundaries and consent of the giver.The Celebration of Desire: Instead of getting what you want in roundabout ways, taking is about explicitly asking for your desires and having them celebrated by your partner.Penetrative Intercourse as a Tool: They discuss how thrusting can be a beautiful example of taking, where one partner does the action for their pleasure while the other is in "allowing".A common question in Lauren's work is why casual sex often feels more titillating than sex with a spouse. In long-term partnerships, we become highly invested in the other's wellbeing. When you are worried about your partner's sleep, health, or ego, it becomes difficult to be "self-focused" or "devouring".Schnarch argues that in casual sex, we are more self-defined because the other person's life is not our domain. Lauren explains the biological "yuck" that occurs when one partner falls into a caretaking or mothering role, which naturally kills sexual attraction.Reclaiming fire in a seven-year (or seventy-year) marriage requires differentiation and individuation. To want someone, you have to see them as separate from you. Moving out of "smushy symbiosis" allows you to re-meet and re-discover each other.If you've lost the "f*cking" in your partnership and find yourselves stuck in caretaking or boredom, it's not too late to re-up the attraction.Ready to uproot the old scripts and reclaim your desire?Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey take us to a busy train in New York City for a real-time breakdown of a relational misstep. What started as a simple gesture to find seating for Lauren's baby sister turned into a clash of tones, intentions, and deep-seated childhood triggers.They deconstruct how a single word, "bossy", can carry decades of weight, and how they used the "Intent vs. Impact" framework to close the loop before a small moment became a long-term wound.Lauren and Trey recount a moment of tension in front of family. Lauren describes an open-handed suggestion for seating; Trey hears a pointed-finger command. Trey explains his abrupt, defensive reaction and why he felt the need to stand up for his autonomy in the moment. Lauren shares the vulnerability of being labeled "bossy"; a tag she's carried since childhood when she was tasked with parenting her siblings.The duo dives into the complexity of leadership vs. control, especially for women: Lauren reflects on being a "second-string parent" at age 11 and the confusing double standard of being demanded to lead, then shamed for it. Trey observes that Lauren is currently in a season of finding her voice and setting boundaries, and he discusses why "grace for the fuck-ups" is necessary when filling a "dry pond" of self-expression. How the quest to be "perfect" and "holy" makes it difficult to acknowledge when we've been abrupt or defensive.Lauren and Trey demonstrate how they moved past the "He Said/She Said" semantics to find resolution:Why trying to prove "what really happened" is a dead end in relationship repair.How a walk back to the hotel and a "highlights and booboos" check-in led to a dual apology.Trey explains the power of leading with, "I apologize for the impact of my words; that was not my intent," and how that simple phrase allowed Lauren to drop her own defenses.Are you tired of getting stuck in the weeds of "who said what"?If you are ready to learn tools like Intent vs. Impact and move toward a messy, authentic, and highly connected partnership, Lauren offers a trauma-informed approach to relational coaching.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

The Selenium Deficiency Nobody's Talking About (And Why It Affects Your Brain) ft. Dr. Jeff Moss

In this vulnerable and raw episode of The Partnership Podcast, Trey shares his experience with a recent panic attack . While traveling home from New York City, Trey experienced a sudden, debilitating panic attack in the middle of a crowded Amtrak station.Up until recently, Trey had only ever experienced a panic attack once in his life. Now, having navigated two, he and Lauren deconstruct what a panic attack is, the physiological shutdown of the body, and how a partner can provide a safe container when everything feels like it's collapsing.Trey describes the terrifying sensation of a "standing fetal position" in a crowded train car. They discuss:How a simple moment of disorganized leadership triggered a "vortex of panic."Physical Manifestations of a panic attack: The sensation of falling in a dream, muffled hearing, narrowed focus, and the body's instinct to protect its vital organs.The "Rational Mind" Paradox: Why logic fails when the nervous system takes over, and why "snapping out of it" isn't an option.Lauren draws on her background in birth work to explain how to co-regulate a partner in crisis. She shares her observation of the event and her strategy for support:Providing Physical Safety FirstUsing breathwork to anchor a partner without being intrusive.Why she chose not to make the moment about her own needs or ask "What do you need?" when Trey had no capacity to answer.Trey gets honest about the shame hangover that follows a public breakdown. They explore:The heartbreaking similarity between Trey's experience and their friend Jay's experience, how the "protector" script makes men feel like failures when their bodies seek safety.Trey's honest reflection on intimacy the following morning: "Why would she want to have sex with me if she just had to take care of me?"The importance of Trey completing the cycle and how he regained his confidence through small winsIs your partnership equipped for the unforeseen moments of life?If you are navigating the complexities of mental health, nervous system regulation, or deconstructing the scripts of what a "strong" partner looks like, Lauren offers a trauma-informed, biopsychosocial approach to relational health.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

In this candid and high-energy episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into a listener-requested topic: the "Slut Era." They explore how a season of recreational sex can actually serve as a vital foundation for long-term relational health, especially for those deconstructing from Purity Culture.Drawing on the work of David Schnarch (Intimacy and Desire), they tackle the provocative idea that "fucking" is a distinct and necessary biological and psychological experience that often gets lost in the "nurturing" context of marriage.Lauren and Trey reflect on their own seasons of recreational sex and what those experiences provided them. They discuss:- How casual sex allows you to discover your own preferences and "erotic imagination" without the weight of a partner's expectations.- Why "fucking for fucking's sake" can be a powerful tool for reclaiming bodily agency after years of religious indoctrination.- The danger of entering long-term partnership before you've established a solid, flexible self-identity.Following Schnarch's definitions, the duo explores the psychological difference between "nurturing" sex and "fucking." They discuss:- Why the person you love most can often be the hardest person to have raw, uninhibited sex with.- How maintaining your own sense of self-worth (and not relying on your spouse to validate it) is the key to maintaining erotic fire.- Why trying to be a "good" or "service-oriented" spouse often kills the very desire you're trying to cultivate.Lauren and Trey get real about the effort required to keep a sexual connection vibrant after years together. They share:- The importance of knowing what you actually like, versus what you think you should like.- Why a healthy level of individuation, staying two separate people, is required for true sexual chemistry.- How to move away from "transactional" sex and back into a space of playful, embodied exploration.Is your long-term partnership feeling more like a "roommate" situation?If you are ready to reclaim your erotic sovereignty and move past the scripts of "good spouse" behavior, Lauren offers a trauma-informed approach to sexual and relational growth.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

What 8 Out of 10 People Have in Their Gut (And Don't Know It) | Podcast #474

In this deeply personal and transparent episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey pull back the curtain on a recent challenging season to show exactly how the work of relationship repair actually functions in real-time.They break down a multi-day journey that started with a "shadow story", an internal narrative that felt like an "ugly" courtroom defense, and ended in what Trey describes as "next-level" intimacy that can only be forged through years of seeing each other's "ugly".Lauren and Trey share their essential daily practice: landing at the end of the day by asking for "highlights" and "booboos". Lauren recounts the moment she realized she was spinning in a "shadow story" that was causing her to internally distance and avoid touch.The episode details the tools used to navigate this "uncomfy" tension without falling into old patterns:Trey and Lauren explain why spontaneous amazing connection isn't actually spontaneous at all, it's built on a foundation of saying the scary, vulnerable things. They discuss how resolving this conflict restored the flow of communication, leading to a level of intimacy that Trey notes "one cannot get anywhere else in the world".Is your relationship stuck in shadow boxing?If you are ready to move past transactional arguments and into a space of true self-determination and informed decision-making, Lauren offers a trauma-informed, biopsychosocial approach to intimacy.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

How to Get Your 6 Human Needs Met Without Self-Sabotage with Daniel Hill | Podcast #473 Schedule with Daniel Hill: https://calendly.com/danielhill21/30min https://www.danielhill.biz Schedule a FREE Consult: https://www.justinhealth.com/free-consultation Dr. J's New Thyroid Book: https://www.thyroidreboot.com Most people do not self-sabotage because they are lazy or broken. They self-sabotage because they are trying to meet deep emotional needs in unhealthy, unconscious ways. In this video, we break down the 6 human needs and show you how unmet needs can quietly drive patterns like procrastination, toxic relationships, emotional eating, people-pleasing, burnout, and fear of success. Once you understand what you are really chasing, you can start meeting those needs in a way that creates growth, peace, confidence, and real momentum. What You'll Learn: ✅ How the 6 human needs shape your behavior, decisions, and emotional patterns. ✅ Why self-sabotage is often an unconscious attempt to meet a real need. ✅ How to identify which needs are driving your stress, overwhelm, or stuck patterns. ✅ Better ways to meet needs like certainty, significance, love, and variety without destructive habits. ✅ How growth and contribution help create deeper fulfillment and long-term change. ✅ Practical mindset shifts to break self-sabotage and create healthier patterns. #6HumanNeeds #SelfSabotage #TonyRobbins #PersonalGrowth #MindsetShift #EmotionalHealth #SelfAwareness #BreakThePattern Related Health Resources: Gluten Video Series: http://www.justinhealth.com/gluten-video-series Thyroid Hormone Balance Video Series: http://www.justinhealth.com/thyroid-hormone-balance Female Hormone Balance Video Series: http://www.justinhealth.com/female-hormone-balance Subscribe for More Videos: http://www.justinhealth.com/subscribe Dr. Justin Marchegiani's Links: http://www.justinhealth.com/links References: Disclaimer: Some of the products featured in our videos may earn us affiliate commissions. Rest assured, we only endorse products that we personally use and trust.

In this raw and timely episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey move beyond their usual "how-they" dynamic to tackle a growing digital crisis: the "Manosphere." After watching the Louis Theroux documentary on Netflix, Trey requested a total redo of their original recording. Why? Because viewing this content through the lens of a 41-year-old man is one thing, but viewing it through the eyes of a 12-year-old boy is another entirely.Trey opens up about his initial reaction; dismissing influencers like Andrew Tate, Myron, and HS Ticky Tocky as "shock jocks" or a "farce" designed to sell trading platforms and casino codes. However, after Lauren challenged him to consider his 12-year-old brother and the youth basketball players he coaches, Trey's perspective shifted from professional skepticism to a protector mode fueled by anger.The couple deconstructs the Red Pill ideology, exposing it as a dangerous blend of "new" Purity Culture and financial exploitation. They discuss:As an Embodied Intimacy Coach, Lauren points out the wild nightmare of seeing religious indoctrination rebranded for a digital age. They explore the dangerous rhetoric of "claiming" women and the "shock value" tactics used to monetize misogyny. Lauren shares her alarm at the real-world danger this poses to female bodies and why it is vital for men like Trey to find their voice and speak up against it.While they reject the Manosphere's solutions, Lauren and Trey acknowledge the very real hunger for belonging that drives young men to these spaces.Is your value system being defined by an algorithm?Whether you are deconstructing your own religious past or trying to navigate these conversations with the teenagers in your life, Lauren offers a trauma-informed, relational approach to building a life of integrity.Request a free 15-minute consult or ask for resource recommendations at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

Today, I get to talk with someone whose story has stayed with me for years. Shirlee Draper grew up in a polygamist community that became more controlling and unsafe as time went on. With no money, no work history, and no support outside her community, she made the difficult decision to leave everything behind and start over. We discuss the tension between staying and knowing something isn't right, and what it takes to start trusting yourself again. This conversation is not just about Shirlee's journey—it's about what can happen when women find their voice and their autonomy. Here's what we cover:How Shirlee spent years saving money and quietly planning before she could leaveWhat it means to choose the “least harmful option” when every choice feels like a betrayalWhy we can't understand other people's choices without their experiences and contextWhy decision-making is something you have to learn after being told what to do your whole lifeWhat it looks like to help women build their own inner voice instead of replacing it with another authorityShirlee Draper was born and raised in “Short Creek.” After leaving the community, she obtained a Bachelor of Social Work and a Master of Public Administration. She has served in many capacities in the rebirth of her hometown, including facilitating the election of the first female mayor in 2017; opening a community health clinic in 2019; serving on the board of the UEP Trust and Short Creek Community Center; and part of the Collective Impact project aimed at community revitalization.She is employed as Deputy Director for Cherish Families, a social service nonprofit which helps people from polygamous backgrounds move from crisis to thriving. She specializes in bridging the population with mainstream society and provides education for outside service providers and government agencies She also serves on several state and civic committees. Shirlee lives in St. George with her special needs children and loves to play the piano, read and travel.Find Shirlee here:cherishfamilies.org instagram.com/shirlee_jd facebook.com/shirlee.draperlinkedin.com/in/shirlee-draper lostandfound.club/events Support Cherish Families' workFind Sara here:sarafisk.coachpages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationsinstagram.com/sarafiskcoachfacebook.com/SaraFiskCoachingtiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachyoutube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

If you grew up in a broken or divorced family, struggling with confidence isn't random.Research has consistently shown that children of divorce are more likely to experience lower self-esteem, higher anxiety, and greater insecurity in relationships. When love feels unstable or conditional early on, it shapes how you handle pressure later in life.You might:Overthink conversationsFreeze in high-pressure momentsFeel like you have to perform to be lovedOr believe everyone else is just naturally more confidentIn this episode, licensed psychologist and Certified Mental Performance Consultant Dr. Nicole Gabana Chiesa breaks down what confidence actually is — and why it's not personality.We explore:The subtle belief that makes confidence collapse when you failWhat's happening in your brain when anxiety spikesWhy hyper-focusing on yourself increases insecurityHow to stop just listening to your thoughts — and start talking backAnd why confidence is built through imperfect reps, not feelingsIf your family didn't model emotional stability, healthy conflict, or secure love… this episode gives you a roadmap.Confidence isn't something you're born with. It's something you build. And you can build it.Visit Dr. Nicole's WebsiteBook a FREE Consult: (904) 624-1331 or paxperform@gmail.comGet the Book or FREE chapters: It's Not Your FaultGet Dakota's FREE Guide, The Biggest Fitness Mistakes to AvoidWatch the Documentary: KennyWatch the Trailer: Kenny (3:31 min)Shownotes

In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive deep into the transformative power of The Wheel of Consent® following Trey's recent experience at the "Like a Pro" workshop. They move beyond the basics of "no means no" to explore the nuanced artistry of giving and receiving, and how understanding these four quadrants can dismantle years of sexual obligation and shadow dynamics.Fresh off his second workshop, Trey shares the profound shifts that occur when we separate who is doing from who it is for. They discuss the common struggle many face, especially those raised in restrictive environments, with the "Shadow of Service" and the "Shadow of Taking." Lauren reflects on how her own "Warrior Queen" energy and professional drive sometimes clash with the need for true receptivity, while Trey explores the vulnerability required to make a "True Request" without an agenda.The conversation gets raw as they explore how Purity Culture and incomplete sexual education plant "weeds" in our sexual gardens. They discuss:Integrating the work of David Schnarch, Lauren and Trey model what it looks like to stand in a Solid Flexible Self. They discuss the importance of staying in your own skin during intimacy, ensuring that pleasure is a restoration of agency rather than a performance. Trey shares how his growth in relational intelligence has shifted their dynamic from one of "keeping up" to one of genuine curiosity and "trustworthy touch."Lauren, as an Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach, emphasizes that better sex heals the world because it requires us to be fully present and accountable. They discuss the "Alphabet Rule" (Arousal before Desire) and why understanding Responsive Desire is key for partners who feel like they are "stumbling through" their physical connection.Whether you're a purity culture survivor or simply looking to deepen your connection, Lauren offers a trauma-informed, biopsychosocial approach to intimacy. Move past the "caveman theory" of routine and into a partnership defined by mutual pleasure and radical honesty.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

I'm bringing back an episode that explores something I care about deeply: the healing that happens when women gather in community. We live in a culture that conditions women to believe something is wrong with them—that we're too emotional, our thoughts don't make sense, and we can't trust ourselves. But when women share their real experiences with each other, that belief begins to unravel. In this re-release, I discuss the communities I've been part of that have shaped my life and why support from other women can drive powerful change. Here's what I cover:How patriarchal conditioning teaches women to believe they constantly need fixingWhy witnessing other women's stories helps us see that we are not “extra special super broken”How being witnessed by other women can completely change the way we see ourselvesTwo common obstacles that keep women from seeking community and how to move through themWhy learning with and from other women creates powerful momentum for growth and changeFind Sara here:sarafisk.coachpages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationswww.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachwww.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey delve into the complexities of sexual desire, the nuances of arousal non-concordance, and the power of radical accountability in relationship repair. Moving beyond the clinical definitions of High Desire Partners (HDP) and Low Desire Partners (LDP), they share personal stories; from bucket-list moments in an Amtrak bathroom to the restorative power of gentle, non-genital touch.Lauren, a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator, breaks down a fundamental biological difference that often causes friction in partnerships: the order of arousal and desire. While many people with penises experience spontaneous desire (the sudden "want" for sex) most people with vulvas experience responsive desire, where physiological arousal must happen before the mental desire to pursue sex kicks in. Understanding this "A before D" sequence (Arousal before Desire) is a game-changer for couples navigating mismatched sex drives.Following their exploration of David Schnarch's Intimacy & Desire, the duo discusses how these roles are not fixed and often flip depending on the context, whether it's travel, professional ambition, or the need for spaciousness. They tackle the "lonely feeling" of the LDP and the importance of the HDP "wooing" rather than demanding. By standing in the Four Points of Balance, Lauren and Trey demonstrate how to maintain a Solid Flexible Self while negotiating intimacy.The conversation shifts to a vulnerable look at desire smuggling and brinksmanship. They explore how to make requests that are "true wants" rather than hidden agendas for sex. Trey shares his experience of providing "trustworthy touch"; exploring erogenous zones without the obligation of penetrative sex, and how that safety allowed Lauren's body to "come online" naturally.Is your relationship feeling like a "checklist item"? Whether you are navigating mismatched desire or looking to deepen your relational intelligence, Lauren offers embodied coaching to help you restore pleasure and respect in your partnership.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

To what degree do you feel capable of saying what you want to say in your life and in your relationships? In this episode, I'm revisiting one of my favorite episodes about the powerful combination of choice and voice. A revolution happens when women say what they want to say. When you can express how you really feel, it becomes easier to stand up for yourself and set expectations. Your relationships shift, your choices become clearer, and you stop performing and start actually living. Here's what I cover:One of the key skills I teach my clients: how to articulate themselves during difficult conversationsHow reconnecting to your own wants and needs is a process that takes timeWhy we are capable of updating the relationships in our lives to match our current wants and needsWhy authenticity removes the pressure to perform in order to feel acceptedHow learning to handle the stress of advocating for yourself leads to deeper integrity and lasting comfortFind Sara here:sarafisk.coachpages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationswww.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachwww.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

Case acceptance is one of the biggest challenges for dentists—especially early in your career. In this episode of The Dental Download Podcast, Dr. Haley Schultz breaks down the patient psychology and communication strategies that help patients move from hesitation to confident treatment decisions.You'll learn how patient mindset, trust, and clear communication play a critical role in treatment planning and case acceptance. In part one of this series, Dr. Haley shares practical ways dentists can build confidence with patients, explain treatment effectively, and overcome common objections without feeling pushy or sales-focused.Whether you're a new dentist or an experienced clinician, improving your patient communication skills can dramatically increase treatment acceptance while strengthening patient relationships and improving overall dental health outcomes.In this episode, we discuss:How patient psychology impacts treatment decisionsBuilding trust and confidence during treatment planningCommunication strategies that improve case acceptance in dentistryHow to navigate patient resistance and objectionsSimple ways to make patients feel comfortable saying “yes” to treatmentIf you want to improve dental case acceptance and patient trust through your treatment communication, this episode will give you actionable strategies you can start using in your practice immediately.** Get Started with a Free Consult with Twinleaf Financial Advisors: ⁠https://www.twinleafadv.com/⁠ or text 321-521-3133

In this episode, Lauren and Trey dive deep into the clinical and practical applications of David Schnarch's Intimacy & Desire. Moving beyond the bedroom, they explore how the concepts of the High Desire Partner (HDP) and Low Desire Partner (LDP) manifest in every corner of a partnership; from travel and hosting to professional ambition and the pace of daily life.While these terms are often used to describe sexual frequency, Lauren and Trey chop it up to see how these roles flip depending on the context. They explore how Trey often moderates the pace of adventure while Lauren pushes for the next big trip, and the inherent toll of being the HDP for community and hosting. They take a raw look at the intersection of urgency and spaciousness, examining how Trey's desire for a slower, more generative pace interacts with Lauren's high-capacity professional drive.Lauren and Trey tackle the "heavy burden" of being the Low Desire Partner in a sexual dynamic. Lauren deconstructs the cultural shame often directed at women who are HDPs, as well as the pressure felt by LDPs who feel they are keeping their partner from what they want. They explain why they don't actually have a sex problem despite their differing levels of desire, pointing instead to the importance of a Solid Flexible Self. By having a well-defined sense of self that doesn't depend on a partner's constant validation, they are able to use requests and offers in the "third domain" to negotiate intimacy without one person feeling controlled by the other.Coming off a season of repair, they share a vulnerable moment of "slam poetry" eroticism and the importance of receiving a partner's desire even when capacity is low. They model how to stand in the Four Points of Balance, ensuring that neither partner feels silenced or pressured. By understanding that the initial honeymoon phase is a temporary chemical state, they demonstrate how moving into a differentiated, long-term partnership requires intentional tools and a commitment to separate self-responsibility.Lauren offers embodied coaching to help you and your partner navigate these dynamics with clarity and grace.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

This episode is a reminder of how prejudice can soften when we look beyond policies to see real people, and it feels especially important to bring it back now. In this re-release of a past conversation, I'm joined by my dear friend Alex Regan, a trans man, interfaith minister, speaker, author, and transformative spiritual coach. Meeting Alex changed my life because it replaced my experience of an abstract label with a real human being with a nervous system, a story, hopes, and fears just like me. Once you see someone clearly like that, it becomes much harder to ignore how they are being treated. My hope is that hearing Alex's story will create that same kind of shift for you. Here's what I cover:How stories reduce prejudice by turning a “group” into a real person you actually care aboutHow good girl conditioning trains us to abandon ourselves and why that wiring shows up everywhereAlex's journey of unlearning evangelical rules and building trust in his own inner knowingWhat it looks like to stop fighting for approval and let people be wrong about youHow community changes everything when you stop performing and start living as your real selfFind Alex here:www.alexreegan.comwww.instagram.com/revreegs Find Sara here:sarafisk.coachpages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationswww.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachwww.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

In this final installment on relational wounding, Lauren and Trey explore the unspoken journey of returning to sex after conflict. They discuss navigating the transition from protective isolation to physical connection, proving that repair is as physiological as it is emotional.Lauren introduces Betty Martin's "Base Camp" framework; the internal state required for pleasure after trauma. Facing a "two-choice dilemma," she reflects on choosing restoration over the righteousness of suffering and identifies the three requirements needed to move forward.The couple details their slow road back, starting with non-sexual, comforting touch. Using the Three Minute Game and "May I?" requests, they re-established a flow of energy. Lauren shares the raw reality of their first kiss post-wounding, describing it as a "drawbridge" moment that triggered a vital emotional release.They dive into their first sexual encounter, which Lauren intentionally centered on her own pleasure. She describes her "crying orgasm"; a somatic cleanse of rage and grief. By asking Trey to withhold his orgasm, she protected herself from the "shadow side of taking," ensuring the experience restored her agency rather than deepening the wound.Repair is rarely linear. From Lauren testing Trey's defensiveness to his commitment to over-communication, they model staying present when things feel abrasive. They stress not "brushing things under the rug" just because sex has returned, keeping accountability firm.Lauren reflects on her forged "warrior queen" energy, viewing pleasure as the ultimate antidote to pain. This episode is a testament to how partnerships can emerge more differentiated and authentically connected after facing the fire.Are you navigating the journey back to intimacy after a hurt?Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

Have you ever caught yourself eating when not hungry and wondered, Why did I just do that? In this episode, Dara Tomasson breaks down what's really happening during emotional eating, especially when it feels automatic or out of your control. If you've ever found yourself eating when full, reaching for food on autopilot, or stuck in patterns of compulsive eating, this conversation will help you understand why. Your brain is wired for survival through something called the motivational triad: stay safe, seek pleasure, avoid pain. When stress, boredom, loneliness, or fear show up, your nervous system may turn to food before you're even consciously aware of it. That doesn't mean something is wrong with you — it means your brain is doing its job. In this episode, you'll learn: ✔️Why eating on autopilot is a safety response ✔️How fear of failure, visibility, abandonment, or rejection can drive emotional eating ✔️The connection between tribal belonging and food  ✔️How to separate your actions from your identity ✔️Dara's 5-step "I don't know why I'm eating" protocol This is not about shame. It's about awareness. When you pause, name the feeling, and consciously choose your next step, you move from autopilot into leadership over your own life. If you're ready to go deeper, Dara is hosting a live Emotional Eating Masterclass where you'll practice these tools together and build the emotional intelligence needed to create lasting change. Sign up here - https://dara-tomasson-coaching.mykajabi.com/emotional-eating-class You are not broken. You are wired for survival. And you can learn how to work with your brain instead of against it. Connect with Dara: Website: https://daratomasson.com Instagram: @dara_tomasson Book a Free Consult: https://dara-tomasson-coaching.mykajabi.com/contact Join Love Yourself Thin: https://dara-tomasson-coaching.mykajabi.com/love-yourself-thin 

It's so easy to feel stuck and overwhelmed when we haven't figured something out yet. But what if you looked for the evidence in your life that you can solve the problem? In this episode, I share how I'm borrowing belief from my past self to help me make a decision I'm wrestling with now. Instead of demanding certainty or shaming myself for not knowing the answer, I'm using real proof from my own history to help me relax while I take the time to figure it out. Here's what I cover:How leaving the church one step at a time taught me how to untangle my beliefsWhy your brain relaxes when you offer it real evidence from your pastHow to copy and paste a past growth process onto the problem you're facing todayThe self-judgment that creeps in when you think you should have it figured out by nowA powerful visualization to help you imagine the future version of you who already solved the problemFind Sara here:sarafisk.coachpages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationswww.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachwww.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

In this follow-up to one of their most difficult episode to date, Lauren and Trey sit back down in the chairs just 48 hours later. Often in the world of relationship content, we see the "before" and the "after," but we rarely get to witness the messy, fragile middle. This conversation is a raw demonstration of what it looks like to navigate a major wounding in real-time, without rushing the healing process or demanding a premature return to normal.Trey shares the deep work he has been doing with his professional support, identifying the shadow side that led to his recent dysregulation. He explores the archetypes of the martyr and the victim, and how his fear of being trapped triggered a hostile takeover of his behavior. He discusses the importance of installing early warning systems and taking full ownership of his own mind, rather than expecting his partner to be his therapist.Lauren reflects on the physiological toll of relational trauma and the "horrified clarity" of the past few days. She shares the reality of moving through the world with a "shook" nervous system, experiencing; nausea, poor sleep, and a total lack of sexual desire as her body prioritizes its own safety. She discusses the power of being allowed to take up space in her rage and grief, resisting the patriarchal script that tells women they must hurry up and heal to keep their partners comfortable. Even while continuing her professional work with clients, she is navigating the challenge of remembering her own values and making her own healing a priority.This conversation is a demonstration of how trust is regained through play, structure, and clear limits. They experiment with slow, intentional touch, like a back scratch or laying on a chest, while maintaining a strict timer to protect Lauren's sense of safety. They navigate the reality that sexual desire belongs on the back burner during a season of repair, honoring the first principle of pleasure: the freedom of personal choice. This is an invitation to witness two people choosing to stay in the discomfort of a "critical mass" moment, valuing the slow, honest process of rebuilding over a quick fix.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

In this episode, Lauren and Trey sit down with a sense of relief and connection, marking their arrival on the "other side" of a major relational crisis. While the proximity to the wound is still close, the air has cleared, and the repair has taken deep root. They reflect on how this journey through conflict differed from their past experiences, moving away from old cycles of defensiveness and into a grounded, shared reality.Lauren shares how impactful it was to be witnessed by her community during the height of the rupture. This external support allowed her to stay anchored in her "queen" energy and maintain her boundaries, rather than collapsing into the role of a victim or feeling the need to nurture Trey through his own growth process.Trey discusses the necessity of updating his internal "software" after recognizing how his shadow side had taken over. He reflects on the power of being held accountable by other men; sharing his struggle with his peers rather than "taking" emotional labor from his partner. This allowed him to hold up a mirror to his own behavior and realize the conflict was a result of his own internal triggers, giving Lauren the necessary space to move through her rage without having to carry his emotional load.They demonstrate how they regained physical intimacy through "May I?" requests, ensuring that every touch, from a kiss on the cheek to holding hands, was a conscious choice and not a relational obligation. They close by celebrating how everyone, including their family and community, benefits from watching a couple work through harm without continuing to wound one another. By modeling this process, they hope to provide the example they never had growing up: two people taking full responsibility for themselves and choosing partnership anew every single day.If you are navigating a difficult season or want to learn how to use tools like the Wheel of Consent to rebuild trust after a rupture, you don't have to do it alone. Lauren offers embodied coaching to help individuals and couples find their way back to a path of agency and connection.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

The overwhelming amount of information, emotion, and terror we are experiencing in the world right now can make it hard to know what to do with ourselves. Last week's episode came from my own experience of feeling like I was going to break and realizing my nervous system was completely overloaded. In this episode, I build on that and talk about what to do—because it's not enough to say you will “just get off social media” or “stop doom scrolling.” If it were that simple, I would have stopped, and maybe you would have too. We'll look at why this is so hard to put down and what it takes to step back in a way that allows you to stay informed without losing yourself in the crush of information. Here's what I cover:Why doom scrolling is not activism and can hinder you from taking thoughtful actionThe good girl rules that make disengaging feel like a moral failingWhy learning to regulate your nervous system can be a powerful form of resistanceWhat happens when your reptile brain takes over and you're stuck in looping thoughtsPractical ways to regulate so you can stay informed and respond in ways that actually helpFind Sara here:sarafisk.coachpages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationswww.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachwww.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

In what may be their most vulnerable and raw conversation to date, Lauren and Trey open the record in the middle of a significant relational storm. Recorded just hours after Lauren returned from a high-stakes work trip to New York, this episode finds their marriage in a fragile place following a major conflict that unfolded while they were apart.Trey leads with extreme candor, identifying how he became highly dysregulated and allowed his shadow side to take over. He shares how he leaned into a distorted internal narrative, leading him to lash out at Lauren just as she was reaching a professional milestone.Lauren reflects on the experience of being on the receiving end of these accusations. She explores the pain of having a partner target the very things she is most afraid of, specifically the fear that pursuing her own dreams might negatively impact her family. She shares the difficult experience of having to maintain a professional exterior for her clients while her personal foundation felt incredibly shaky.This conversation is a real-time demonstration of two people moving through a crisis without a frantic need for immediate repair. They navigate the heavy reality of the distance created by this conflict, discussing the natural loss of physical desire that often follows a breach of trust. They model the difficult work of differentiation; where Lauren stays anchored in her own reality rather than trying to fix Trey's behavior, and Trey takes full responsibility for his mental state without expecting his wife to act as his therapist.This is a raw look at what it looks like to stay present in a relationship when things feel most uncertain. It is an invitation to witness how a partnership can navigate intense pain and disagreement while still maintaining a level of respect and observational distance.If you are navigating your own difficult season or struggling to find your way back to safety after a major conflict, you don't have to navigate it alone. Lauren provides a supportive, trauma-informed space for individuals and couples to find clarity through embodied coaching. Request a free 15-minute consultation for individuals and couples looking to build a more resilient, embodied connection.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & Connect• Learn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠ • Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠ • Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠ • Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

Over the last few weeks, the constant exposure to human suffering, injustice, and horrifying information has felt like an avalanche. If you've been taking this in through social media and the news like I have, you might notice yourself swinging between obsessing and shutting down, or believing that if you look away or take a break, it means you don't care. In this episode, I share what helped me understand what was actually happening in my nervous system and why feeling overwhelmed doesn't mean you're broken. It means your body was never meant to hold all of this. Here's what I cover:An Instagram post that helped me understand how the overwhelm we're living through impacts the bodyHow flooding ourselves with horrific information without containment destabilizes our nervous systemsWhy empathy and good girl conditioning can turn caring into self-sacrificeThree things to pay attention to so we can stay connected to the truth without losing ourselvesWhat it looks like to give yourself permission to decide what level of engagement is right for youFind Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationshttps://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachhttps://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

In this week's episode I have a chat with Sydney about ways to optimize fertility for the Christian couples using nutrition, functional medicine, mineral balancing and more!Sydney is a fertility and pregnancy nutrition practitioner that works with women to improve hormone balance, health and fertility through nutrition counseling, functional lab testing, HTMA (hair tissue mineral analysis) testing and targeted supplementation. She shares here about her own health challenges that lead her to do the work that she is doing now. She also shares about her journey into the Christian faith and how she weaves her faith and prayer into her work with women on a fertility journey as well.Mentioned in this episode:Walking through Infertility, Matthew ArboBody Bio ElectrolytesConnect with Sydney:https://www.instagram.com/playfulplatefulFree ConsultConnect with Holly:https://www.instagram.com/rosebud_wellness/Free Consult

Following on from last week's episode, Lauren and Trey pick up right where they left off; they pull back the curtain on why Lauren, a lifelong people-pleaser, is intentionally practicing standing in her ego rather than collapsing into a martyrdom apology.Trey reflects on the discomfort of watching his partner grow into a version of herself that doesn't immediately move to restore his comfort. He shares the internal dialogue he navigated while Lauren explored her agency, and how he manages the aftershocks of her development.Together, they unpack how Lauren's lateness triggered Trey's childhood wounds regarding his mother, proving that the emotional responses we feel in partnership often have less to do with our partner and everything to do with our primary caregivers.Drawing on the work of David Schnarch, they explore the "two-choice dilemma" and the power of the Third Domain; a space where partners can lay down their anxieties and feedback to observe them from a distance rather than being consumed by them.They close out the conversation with a reminder that while we choose our partners, we also choose their trauma and the rate at which they heal. Expect raw honesty, a few digs about boomer parents, and a deep dive into why developing the capacity to sit in discomfort is a relational superpower.If this conversation resonated, especially around setting boundaries or navigating childhood triggers, you don't have to do the work alone. Request a free 15-minute consultation for individuals and couples looking to build a more resilient, embodied connection.Request your consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & Connect• Learn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠ • Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠ • Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠ • Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

In this episode, I sit down with erotic wholeness guide Darshana Avila to talk about embodiment, authenticity, and coming home to the body. Darshana was featured on Netflix's Sex, Love & Goop, which was one of my early introductions to a broader idea of eroticism as I began to unravel my good girl conditioning. We explore what happens when women don't know what they want or don't trust their bodies—a disconnection shaped by the systems we were raised in, not personal failure. Darshana offers a different path forward, rooted in compassion, nervous-system safety, and learning to listen to the body. Here's what we cover:How Darshana defines erotic wholeness and why it's not limited to sexWhy “I don't know what I want” is a common and understandable starting pointWhat compartmentalization looks like in real life and how conditioning keeps it in placeHow authenticity begins with sensing what is and isn't for youSimple ways to begin reconnecting through your senses and the four allies of erotic embodimentDarshana Avila is a trauma-informed somatic educator, practitioner and international speaker who helps people reconnect with the most essential aspects of themselves — their truth, their desires, and their capacity for profound pleasure and power. Her work has been featured on Netflix's Sex, Love & Goop, The Guardian, The New Yorker, and numerous leading podcasts.Find Darshana here:darshanaavila.com instagram.com/darshana_avila youtube.com/@darshana-avilalinkedin.com/in/darshana-avilahttps://darshanaavila.com/podcast/ Find Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationshttps://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachhttps://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

Why This Natural Compound Can Reduce Pain Like Ibuprofen (Without the Gut Damage) | Podcast #470

What happens when your partner's behavior doesn't just impact you, but someone you deeply care about too?In this Part One conversation, Lauren and Trey unpack a real-life moment that sparked tension around time, respect, and loyalty. When Lauren runs late, Trey finds himself worried about how it will land with his best friend, J, and names his fear that Lauren's ego may be driving the moment rather than care or accountability.Trey shares how his deep sensitivity to lateness is rooted in childhood experiences with his mom, where chronic lateness felt dismissive and disrespectful. Lauren reflects on what it means to stand in your domain, receive feedback from a trusted partner, and resist her long-standing pattern of collapsing into shame or the story of “I am a failure.”For perhaps the first time, Lauren explores what it looks like to remain anchored in her sense of self, even when others may feel disappointed, and to allow the natural consequences of that choice without self-abandonment. Together, they explore boundaries, projection, relational triggers, and the vulnerable work of deciding when to adjust and when to stand firm.This is Part One of a two-part series. Tune in next week for the follow-up conversation as Lauren and Trey reflect on what unfolded next.Want support navigating these exact dynamics in your own partnership?Request a free consult with Lauren at www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsultAbout ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & Connect• Learn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠ • Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠ • Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠ • Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

For a long time, codependency has been framed as weakness or passivity—that's why so many strong, capable, high-functioning women hear that word and immediately think, that is absolutely not me. In this episode, I explore where the concept of codependency actually came from and why that original definition often doesn't fit. When we widen the lens, codependency starts to look a lot more like over-functioning and organizing your time, energy, and identity around other people. When we can understand it in that way, it opens up a much more honest and hopeful path forward. Here's what I cover:Why the original addiction-based definition of codependency misses how it shows up for high-functioning womenHow control can turn into codependency and start to replace your self-connectionWhat it looks like when your identity is built around being needed or emotionally steadyHow codependency costs you your time, energy, and brain space, whether it feels like over-functioning or under-functioningQuestions to help you notice where you're managing others in order to feel okayFind Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationshttps://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachhttps://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

The Great Mimicker: Is It Lyme Disease or Something Else? | Podcast #469

Lauren and Trey pick up right where they left off, starting with a candid apology tour as they own a few mistakes listeners lovingly (and correctly) pointed out from the first two HEATED RIVALRY episodes, including a spirited mini-debate about whether the Hays Code is still “a thing.”Quick history moment: the Hays Code, officially enforced from the 1930s through the late 1960s, strictly limited what could be shown on screen, explicitly banning the depiction of homosexuality. As a result, queer stories were erased, coded, or forced into tragic endings, shaping generations of viewers' understanding of masculinity, desire, and love in ways we're still unraveling today.From there, a moving comment from a new subscriber opens the door to a rich conversation about masculinity, sexual orientation, and why HEATED RIVALRY feels so deeply resonant for so many people. Lauren reiterates (with feeling) that this is a show everyone should see, not just hockey fans or romance readers.The episode then turns toward Shane and Ilya's family dynamics, exploring how a lack of choice in childhood often shows up as difficulty with choice in adulthood. Whether it's subconsciously entering relationships where autonomy is limited or avoiding choice-making altogether, Lauren and Trey unpack this through a relational lens, drawing on David Schnarch's work around differentiation, self-definition, and the courage it takes to choose oneself.They close by tackling a question so many people quietly hold: Do I need to be fully healed before I'm ready for a relationship? Lauren compares relational readiness to being an athlete, reminding us that while training happens in the off-season, real growth requires coaching alongside teammates. Trey adds that nothing compares to the intensity of a live game, offering compassion for how much relationships can stir us, no matter how much work we've done.If this conversation resonates and you're longing for support navigating intimacy, desire, or relational growth, you don't have to do it alone. Learn more about sex and relationship coaching and book a free consultation at www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment. Learn More & Connect• Learn more about Sex Ed for You: https://www.sexedforyou.com• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult• Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/• Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcastImportant RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

Improving your conflict skills isn't about finding the perfect words—it's about understanding why conflict feels so hard in the first place. When your body believes that speaking up could cost you connection, of course it freezes, softens, or stays quiet. In this episode, I talk about how our nervous systems learned early on that conflict wasn't safe, and why that doesn't mean something is wrong with you. When we slow down and get curious about our conflict response rather than judging it, that's when real change becomes possible, and you can actually get good at conflict. Here's what I cover:How shifting from “what's wrong with me?” to “why does this make sense?” helps eliminate the self-criticism spiralThe early lessons your body learned about conflict, compliance, and staying connectedHow people-pleasing and staying small function as intelligent survival strategiesThe questions I offer to help you look backward and make sense of your conflict responseHow attachment patterns shape what your body expects will happen when conflict threatens connectionRegister for my upcoming workshop HERE!Find Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationshttps://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachhttps://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

⚠️ Major Spoiler Alert ⚠️This episode contains full spoilers for Heated Rivalry, Episode 6 (the finale).In Part Two of their Heated Rivalry conversation, Lauren and Trey sit with the emotional aftermath of the finale and reflect on why this episode felt so deeply moving, tender, and necessary. What unfolds is less about rivalry and more about safety, repair, and what it means to finally come home to oneself through love.Lauren is openly emotional as she reflects on the profound softening we witness in Ilya's character. She shares how beautiful it is to see Shane become a true safe haven and secure base for him, allowing Ilya to relax into play, tenderness, and childlike joy. Together, they explore how the series honors difference rather than erasing it, and how intimacy deepens when partners make space for one another's unique rhythms and needs.Trey names the maturity and care shown in Shane's coming out conversation with his parents, especially the moment outside with Shane's mother and her apology. Lauren shares that this moment represents her hope for every human, that when harm or misunderstanding happens, repair and accountability can still follow.This opens a larger conversation about the importance of safe adults. Lauren and Trey reflect on the relationship between Scott Hunter and Kip, and how Scott's bravery and integrity created permission and possibility for Shane and Ilya to pursue their love more openly. They widen the lens again to talk about the ongoing reality of homophobia in sport. Trey wonders aloud whether things have truly changed, while Lauren reflects on how prevalent slurs and casual language still shape culture. They close the episode honoring how rare and beautiful this show is, and sharing their sadness that it has come to an end, while also expressing gratitude for a story that treats queer love with depth, dignity, eroticism, and care.If you are struggling to live fully in your queerness, or if you are learning how to celebrate and support your child's queerness with more confidence and compassion, Lauren invites you to request a free consult at www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsultThis is Part Two of a two-part series on Heated Rivalry. If you haven't listened to Part One yet, we recommend starting there before diving into the finale.About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment. • Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You's Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It's all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

Lauren and Trey dive into the global sensation that is Heated Rivalry, HBO's hit hockey romance that has captured hearts and sparked important cultural conversations. The series follows rival pro hockey players Shane Hollander and Ilya Rozanov whose public feud masks a deeply charged, secret romance. It is a story that brilliantly captures the tension between attraction and obstacle that fuels desire.Lauren shares why this show resonates so deeply with her, especially through the lens of Jack Morin's EROTIC EQUATION: Attraction + Obstacle = Excitement, and his Four Cornerstones of Eroticism: Longing & Anticipation, Violating Prohibitions, the Search for Power, and Overcoming Ambivalence. Together, they explore how episodes 1 through 5 vividly dramatize these elements in ways that feel both erotic and emotionally honest.They also discuss the continued tragedy of homophobia in sport and how the obstacle of being gay, while deeply unjust, remains a powerful and very real tension shaping the story. Rather than romanticizing this pain, Lauren and Trey name the cost of secrecy while honoring the truth of the world these characters are navigating.The conversation celebrates the role of female friendships in the series, not simply as allies, but as muses and positive influences in the lives of both Ilya and Shane. Lauren also highlights the presence of supportive, loving parenting through the character Kip's father and why representations of unconditional love matter so deeply for queer people and families alike.If you are struggling to live fully in your queerness, or if you are learning how to better celebrate and support your child's queerness, Lauren invites you to request a free consult at www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsultStay tuned for part two of this conversation when Lauren and Trey finish the series and return to explore how the story unfolds.About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment. • Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You's Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠⁠Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It's all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

We are living through an incredibly intense political, social, and cultural moment, and it's easy to fall into the despair and overwhelm of it all. In this episode, I'm sharing a framework that helps me make sense of what's happening and hold onto hope. Spiral dynamics explains how humans organize around shared value systems, and what happens when those systems collide and begin to collapse. While these transitions are often destabilizing and painful, what we're living through is not random–and understanding the pattern offers the reminder that how we choose to show up, care for ourselves, and embody the values we want to see matters. Here's what I cover:The origin of spiral dynamics and how the framework can show up in everyday lifeWhy systems resist evolution with the same fear and violence they were established withHow the framework of spiral dynamics relates to good girl rules and people-pleasing tendenciesWhy nervous system safety and connection matter alongside protest, organizing, and action during times of changeHow rest, pleasure, joy, and community are not distractions, but essential tools for surviving times of massive transitionFind Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationshttps://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachhttps://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

You might be “over” your parents' divorce.But your body might not be.If you grew up in a divorced or dysfunctional home, chronic stress can get stored in your nervous system — quietly shaping your sleep, energy, digestion, hormones, and mental health years later.In this episode, I talk with Dakota Lane about how stress doesn't just affect your emotions. It can literally rewire your body and keep you stuck in survival mode long after the chaos ends.In this conversation, we cover:Why your body remembers what your mind moved pastHow chronic stress disrupts sleep, gut health, hormones, and energyThe link between family dysfunction, inflammation, and burnoutWhy doing “more” can make stress and health issues worsePractical ways to calm your nervous system and restore your bodyIf you're exhausted, anxious, on edge, or wondering why your body feels stuck — especially if you grew up in a broken family — this episode is for you.Contact or Schedule a FREE Consult with DakotaGet Dakota's FREE Guide, The Biggest Fitness Mistakes to AvoidGet the Book or FREE chapters: It's Not Your FaultWatch the Documentary: KennyWatch the Trailer: Kenny (3:31 min)Shownotes

Learning to have my own back is the most powerful thing I've ever done for myself, which is why I'm bringing back this essential episode as we head into the new year. Many women internalize their mistakes, leading to a spiral of shameful thoughts that can be very draining. But how can we shut that down? If we bully ourselves, then we're not safe with ourselves, and we're not safe anywhere. You deserve that essential safety. In this episode, I'll help you identify the bullying voice in your head and shut it down. Here's what I cover:How to recognize the internal bully in your own voice and why certain “questions” are actually accusationsWhy being unsafe with yourself creates shame spirals that drain hours of your time and energyA powerful reframe using your younger self to stop self-bullying before it takes overTwo practical ways to shut down the brain bully: the hard pass and loving engagementHow having your own back makes it possible to take risks, try new things, and live with more freedomFind Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationshttps://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachhttps://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

Top Causes of Chronic Inflammation You Need to Know | Podcast #468

This week, I'm bringing back one of the most meaningful and widely listened-to episodes of the podcast. The patriarchal, capitalist, Western way of life imposes certain values and expectations on the way women think, feel, and choose to live. When we fail to meet these expectations, we can often feel lackluster or unsatisfied. Even if we do attain these expectations, there is always another critique looming about the deficit in our lives. In this episode, we will discuss how perfectionism is a manifestation of these societal pressures, and explore ways to shift our mindset to focus on being better, rather than perfect. Here's what I cover:The importance of celebrating our daily small wins rather than fixating on what we could do betterHow the word “better” becomes an invisible authority that keeps women stuck and self-doubtingWhy women are taught not to let emotional labor, grief, or inner work count as real successHow it's possible to feel accomplished in this society by doing things that bring us joy and make us feel wholeA simple practice for letting accomplishments land in the body instead of dismissing themFind Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationshttps://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachhttps://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

A lot of the women I work with are carrying the same fear: the fear of disappointing other people. We were taught that being good means being nice, low-maintenance, and emotionally contained–even when it costs us. But staying silent doesn't just strain our relationships; it takes a real toll on our bodies and our health. In this episode, I explore how self-silencing is making women sick, why it quietly creates resentment and loneliness, and simple ways to start speaking up and building more health, honesty, and real connection in your life. Here's what I cover:A Time article that dives into the statistics and psychology behind women and self-silencingHow staying quiet to keep the peace actually prevents real closenessThe cultural conditioning that causes self-silencing and why it's not your fault Why your emotions are a rich source of information about your needs and well-beingThree core skills that will help you be more honest without abandoning yourselfFind Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationshttps://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachhttps://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult