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Can heterosexual men and women truly be "just friends" if attraction is in the room or is cutting off the relationship the only safe option? In this episode, Lauren and Trey unpack the messy, nuanced topic of cross-gender friendships, attraction outside a primary partnership, and the lost art of self-containment.Starting with a candid look at how traditional boundaries can unintentionally isolate attractive women from professional and personal opportunities, they explore what it looks like to honor attraction without acting on it, boundary crossing, or desire-smuggling. From navigating erotic fantasy vs. reality to breaking down how guilt and shame fuel relational dysfunction, Lauren and Trey offer a fresh, sex-positive framework for holding attraction with dignity, self-control, and adult accountability.Key Takeaways & Concepts ExploredHow cutting off friendships purely due to mutual attraction creates artificial limitations and isolates people from generative, life-affirming connections.Developing clear, consensual boundaries within partnerships and friendships so attraction can exist without becoming a threat.Differentiating between primal attraction and physical action and why true maturity requires celebrating someone's existence without requiring them to be "yours for the taking."Navigating whether it's healthy to include real-world acquaintances in your private erotic fantasy life, and how to hold that container without letting it spill into real-world interactions.Channeling the natural vitality of feeling attractive or noticing beauty out in the world back into your primary relationship or self-pleasure practice.Recognizing guilt and shame as the primary drivers of sexual dysfunction and learning how to deconstruct inherited religious or societal scripts.Work With LaurenReady to build relational scaffolding, process sexual guilt, and navigate nuanced intimacy in your partnership?Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

What happens when a man drops the performance of strength and allows his body to feel fear, panic, and vulnerability? In this episode, Lauren and Trey dive deep into Bell Hooks' concept of psychological patriarchy; the cultural scripts that restrict men to a narrow menu of emotions (mainly anger and dominance) while framing any sign of weakness or neediness as unacceptable.Opening up about a real-life moment when Trey experienced a public panic attack, they dissect the societal lie that men must always be "in control" to be desirable. Lauren shares why emotional regulation, not aggression or intimidation, is what actually builds deep, erotic trust in a partnership. Together, they explore how women often subconsciously uphold patriarchal standards, how outdated gender roles stifle emotional intimacy, and why building new neural pathways for vulnerability is the ultimate act of relational strength.Key Takeaways:• How societal scripts force men into a rigid box of battle, winning, providing, and aggression, erasing their right to a full emotional spectrum.• Women's Role in Upholding Patriarchy: Lauren discusses Bell Hooks' perspective that women can inadvertently perpetuate patriarchy when they react with disgust or turn-off to a partner's softness, neediness, or vulnerability.• Trey shares his experience with panic attacks in his 40s, while Lauren frames them as a sign of the body finally accessing stored emotions after a lifetime of suppressing them.• Why using anger to regain control makes a partner feel unsafe, and why navigating vulnerability together actually deepens desire and sexual connection.• How the pressure to "never fail" ruins intimacy and why mastering the tools for repair and accountability is far more crucial than avoiding mistakes.• Healing the "Boys Don't Cry" Narrative: Recognizing that childhood emotional suppression forces adults to learn co-regulation and emotional literacy later in life.Work With LaurenReady to rewrite outdated gender scripts, build psychological safety, and cultivate deeper erotic connection in your relationship? Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coac

What is the difference between intimacy and eroticism? While many people use the two words interchangeably, Lauren and Trey open this episode by separating them completely. Grounding their definitions in both basic research and clinical framework, they define intimacy as the realm of safety, emotional closeness, and deep trust, while eroticism belongs to the world of sexual arousal, play, fantasy, and vibrant vitality.Through an unfiltered look into their own marriage, Lauren and Trey reveal how true intimacy thrives on holistic acceptance, from sharing vulnerable moments like being taken care of while sick to letting go of the false need for "secrecy" in long-term relationships. They explore the psychology behind why some partners push intimacy away to maintain a false sense of "mystery" or projection, and they dive into the Jungian concept of Shadow Contracts, the rigid, childhood rules we subconsciously write that dictate how we love, protect, and defend ourselves in adult partnerships.Key Takeaways & Concepts Explored:• Intimacy vs. Eroticism: Intimacy equals safety, emotional vulnerability, and deep trust; eroticism equals arousal, play, passion, fantasy, and aliveness.• Referencing Esther Perel's work with Holocaust survivors, Lauren explains how harnessing play, sex, and vitality serves as a profound tool for thriving after trauma.• Privacy vs. Secrecy: Understanding the critical distinction in partnership. Privacy honors sacred individual space (like solo practice or processing ideas), whereas secrecy relies on withholding information that causes detriment or deprives a partner of informed consent.• Childhood Shadow Contracts: Exploring the subconscious "I will never..." promises made in youth. Lauren and Trey break down how these outdated contracts show up as perfectionism, self-directed rage, or defensiveness in primary partnerships.• Rewriting Gender Scripts: A preview into breaking down patriarchal expectations so men can feel safe being cared for and women can be fully championed in their eroticism.Ready to rewrite outdated scripts, build authentic intimacy, and cultivate high-heat eroticism in your relationship?Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

In this episode, Lauren and Trey dive deep into a conversation that makes many couples freeze up: how to navigate past sexual experiences and erotic imagination without triggering insecurity, competition, or defensive walls. Prompted by a listener's honest question about male insecurity regarding a partner's past peak sexual encounters, Lauren and Trey unpack Dr. Jack Morin's Four Cornerstones of Eroticism and explore how long-term partners can build a shared erotic language instead of policing each other's pleasure.Lauren shares one of her own past erotic encounters from her time of separation, demonstrating how couples can use past experiences as a "springboard" to co-create deeper intimacy rather than viewing past lovers as threat or competition. Trey offers a grounded, compassionate male perspective on breaking down the "must-be-her-everything" trap, dismantling internalized misogyny, and learning to do the inner work required to stay securely attached, curious, and aroused in long-term partnership.Key Takeaways & Tools Explored:• Jack Morin's Erotic Equation: Understanding the formula Attraction + Obstacle = Excitement. Lauren explains why peak sexual encounters often depend on context, fantasy, or brief obstacles, and why a peak encounter rarely reflects who someone wants to actually be with in daily partnership.• Dismantling the "Must Be Her Everything" Trap: Trey breaks down why men often feel crushed by hearing about a partner's past, explaining how societal scripts pressure men to be the ultimate sexual champion instead of remaining curious lovers.• How to Request an Erotic Gift (May I / Will You): Trey models a clinical communication tool for requesting erotic details while setting boundaries that keep both partners feeling safe and within their emotional limits.• David Schnarch's Solid, Flexible Self: Standing in your own self-definition so that your partner's past or fantasies don't cause you to collapse into anxiety or defensiveness.Work With LaurenIf you and your partner are ready to build a secure base, step past sexual comparison, and integrate deep erotic curiosity into your marriage, let's work together.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

In this episode, Lauren and Trey return to the studio for an intimate, vulnerable conversation about a topic men rarely process publicly: friend breakups. Trey shares the story of his recent exit from a 18-year-old fantasy football league that he founded, a space he refers to as a personal "tree house", after years of escalating conflict and defensiveness with a longtime member.Together, Lauren and Trey explore the messy mechanics of relational termination, examining how old survival strategies, the "good boy" archetype, and the martyr mindset keep us tied to dynamics we are merely tolerating. They unpack why longevity in relationships shouldn't be worshiped at the expense of mutual respect, how to step out of the "wanting to be right" trap, and the profound grief and freedom that come with choosing self-definition over relational obligation.Key Takeaways & Tools Explored• Trey and Lauren discuss why adult male friendships often reach a point where differentiation is required. They unpack the cultural myth that long-term relationships must endure at all costs, emphasizing that prioritizing longevity over health inevitably creates resentment.• Analyzing Trey's dynamic within the league, Lauren highlights the shadow side of service. She breaks down how staying in a relationship out of obligation, hoping others will notice and praise your effort, leads to martyrdom and how setting a firm boundary is a crucial act of self-definition.• Trey reflects on his initial reaction during the dispute, identifying how easily we fall into the trap of wanting to be right rather than getting curious. Lauren re-anchors the conversation in staying open during misunderstandings instead of defaulting to defense mechanisms.• While grieving the loss of connection, Trey highlights how ending a toxic dynamic clears a pathway for new forms of community and deeper, more authentic alignment in his 40s.If you are navigating relational shifts, processing a breakup, or ready to build authentic intimacy and communication in your primary partnership, let's connect.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

Lisa Rusczyk and Dona Murphy interview Christine, The Expert Authority Coach, about a variety of topics, as well as how she helps people working in the spiritual field market themselves.She offers listeners free 30-minute consultations on her website.This is a video podcast on Spotify and YouTube.Want to know more about Christine?Christine Blosdale: Expert Authority CoachWebsite - http://www.ExpertAuthorityCoach.com/FREE Consult - http://www.ChatWithChristineB.com/Support the podcast! Subscribe, Follow, Comment, Love Yourself A Lot!, Tell Your Friend How Cool They Are, and Then Tell Them to Listen, Have a Nice Day!Thank you for watching and listening.

Welcome to Part 3 of our deep-dive mini series on A24's hit film The Invite. (If you haven't caught parts 1 and 2 yet, go back and listen, and major spoiler alert!) In this episode, Lauren and Trey unpack the aftermath of the movie's failed sexual encounter, dissecting the precise moment Penélope Cruz's character looks at the central couple and delivers a devastating truth: "This isn't loving."Lauren, a certified holistic sexuality educator and intimacy coach, shares her personal history with Esther Perel's groundbreaking text Mating in Captivity and connects the film's climax to bell hooks' philosophy that what many couples call "love" is actually mutual abuse and safety-seeking behavior.Trey and Lauren explore the exact signs that indicate it's more loving to consciously uncouple than to stay in a harmful relational container. Plus, they debate the film's ending: Did Seth Rogen and Olivia Wilde's characters blow up their lives for the better, or can a single moment of radical curiosity save a dying dynamic?Key TakeawaysDrawing on Katherine Woodward Thomas's Conscious Uncoupling and the writings of bell hooks, Lauren explains why staying in a mean-spirited, destructive relationship isn't "love." Cutting each other down or slamming doors is rarely about pure malice; it is usually an automated, childhood survival mechanism triggered by a somatic sense of threat.Lauren introduces Robert Sternberg's research on how human beings navigate romance. She explains how couples often plug their partners into pre-written narrative scripts (treating them like props or pawns) instead of relating to the living, breathing human in front of them.Referencing Esther Perel, Lauren breaks down the three specific scenarios where people feel most drawn to their long-term partner: when they are apart, when they see their partner in their element, and when their partner genuinely surprises them.If you and your partner are ready to stop operating out of old childhood survival scripts and learn how to communicate with radical curiosity, let's connect.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

Your brand is already speaking — is it saying the right thing?Your brand isn't your logo. It's the impression someone forms in the three seconds before they decide whether you're the practitioner who can help them — and it's forming whether you're intentional about it or not.In this episode, I'm joined by my own rebrand strategist, Jasmine Haitalani of HighFlier Powerhouse. We're pulling back the curtain on branding and content creation for wellness entrepreneurs — whether you're just getting started or scaling past six figures.If you've ever felt paralyzed by imposter syndrome, stared at your phone with no idea what to post, or told yourself everything has to be perfect before you can show up — this one is your permission slip to start exactly where you are.What we cover:What a brand actually is (hint: it's not your logo)When to rebrand — and when to waitHow organic content does your market research for youHow to stand out in a saturated wellness spaceWhy your story is the one thing AI can never replicateThe "gag and go" mindset shift that changed everythingHow to post consistently without the time drainConnect with Jasmine:Instagram: @HighFlierPowerhousePodcast: Brand Your Way to a MillionWebsite: https://highflierpowerhouse.comGet the Free Guide to to Create Your Online Program and Use IG to Fill itLearn more about working with Alison and Book a Free Consult here

The Invite Part 2: Why Caretaking Kills Sexual DesireWelcome to Part 2 of our multi-part deep dive into A24's film The Invite. (If you haven't listened to Part 1 or seen the movie yet, major spoiler alert!) In this continuation, Lauren and Trey take an honest, unflinching look at the four lead characters to ask the ultimate psychosexual questions: Would you date them? Would you sleep with them? And what do their dynamic flaws reveal about modern long-term relationships?Lauren and Trey dismantle the hidden poisons that quietly destroy intimacy inside monogamous marriages. They explore why "caretaking" acts as a massive anti-aphrodisiac and how women's "erotic self-focus" gets shamed in long-term dynamics.From confronting the toxic "supposed tos" of marital sex to analyzing Esther Perel's famous framework; we will have many marriages in our lives, whether with the same partner or new ones. This episode is a masterclass in stepping out of "poor me" victim triangles and choosing true relational flourishing.Key TakeawaysAnalyzing Seth Rogen's miserable, back-pain-riddled character, Lauren explains why stepping into a "sweet mommy" or caretaker role completely kills erotic charge. Drawing on Esther Perel's work, she breaks down why primal sexual desire cannot exist where maternal or paternal caretaking takes over.The Male Isolation Epidemic: Trey reflects on his own male friendships, prompting Lauren to address the tragedy of male social conditioning. They dissect how culture discourages emotional vulnerability between straight men, forcing husbands to rely on their wives as their sole source of emotional anchor, connection, and touch.Lauren unpacks Esther Perel's cornerstone philosophy. As humans evolve over decades, relationship containers must either be consciously rebuilt from the inside or uncoupled. Assuming a partnership will stay the exact same through parenthood, career shifts, and perimenopause is a recipe for resentment.If you and your partner are caught in a loop of rejection, caretaking, or living on relational crumbs, it's time to rewrite your agreement. Let's work together to build a relationship container based on mutual desire and authentic agency.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

We are recording from a brand-new space, and we have a very specific, mandatory homework assignment for you: Go watch the film The Invite.In this episode—part one of a multi-part deep dive—Lauren and Trey break down a cinematic masterpiece that had them squeezing each other's legs, cackling out loud, and talking straight through dinner on one of their top ten date nights of all time. With renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel serving as the film's consultant, The Invite is a masterclass in tension, long-term marital fatigue, and the boundary lines of modern desire.Key Takeaways:The Trope of the Therapist-Patient Romance: Penélope Cruz's character is a therapist dating her former patient (Edward Norton). Lauren unpacks why this highly eroticized trope is actually a massive clinical, ethical violation, discussing hierarchies of power, projection, and why AASECT enforces strict timeframes of up to 10 years before any such crossover can occur.The Liar vs. The Lie Invitee: Trey maps out how the married couple in the film operates entirely on "honesty when convenient." Lauren breaks down how partners routinely tell white lies to remain chosen, proving that the liar hides the truth because they can't handle their partner's reaction, while the "lie invitee" secretly plays along because they can't handle their own emotional response to the truth.Secrecy vs. Privacy: Where is the boundary line? Lauren defines a secret as the willful withholding of information that your partner has a direct right to in order to make informed decisions. Privacy, however, is a healthy boundary, like your personal fantasy life, solo sex practice, or your pin code, which does not affect the physical or emotional well-being of your spouse."Would You F*ck Yourself?": Directly addressing Esther Perel's famous clinical question, Lauren discusses why cultivating your own individual desirability, self-worth, and "fuckability" is entirely your job, not your partner's.If you are tired of surviving on relational crumbs and are ready to dismantle the "liar/lie invitee" patterns in your dynamic, let's build a stronger, more honest relational container together.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

What happens when the chaos of your partner's professional world begins to bleed into the sanctuary of your marriage? In this ultra-fast, raw episode, Lauren and Trey pull back the curtain on a massive new challenge they are navigating in real time: handling viral internet toxicity, online critics, and the public backlash that comes with having a loud, necessary female voice in the relationship space.Trey opens up about the visceral stress, protective instincts, and anxiety he feels watching people attack his wife online. Instead of letting the outside noise create a fracture between them, they hit record to brainstorm a real-time solution for dealing with professional pressure at home.From introducing the genius framework of the "Tomato Day" to unpacking how public criticism accidentally triggers original father and mother wounds, this episode is a brilliant blueprint for any couple trying to manage heavy outside stressors without stepping on each other's toes or bulldozing each other's domains.Lauren and Trey map out a clear communication strategy for when one partner has a rough day in the public eye. Instead of carrying unspoken tension, they introduce a system where Lauren can flag a bad day by simply saying, "I had some tomatoes thrown at me today," giving Trey the option to offer a pure listening turn rather than jumping into "fix-it" mode.Fixing vs. Witnessing: Trey vulnerably addresses his urge to go to battle, "fight the dragons," or aggressively step into Lauren's business domain to protect her. Lauren models how to gently decline unasked-for rescue attempts, reminding him that all she needs is to be looked in the eyes, reassured, and held.Lauren wraps up with a powerful reminder that every couple faces external pressure, whether it's demanding careers, parenting struggles, or financial weight. The secret to long-term relational survival isn't avoiding these hardships; it's preventing the mismanagement of these "third things" from dictating the peace of your home.If outside stressors, demanding careers, or family friction are beginning to mismanage the peace inside your relationship, let's build a stronger, more resilient playbook together.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

The show must go on! Despite a massive headache and being on the verge of tears from the sheer exhaustion of prepping for a five-week move, Lauren sits down with Trey to tackle a raw, urgent conversation sparked by the dark side of the internet.A recent clip from the show, unpacking why pity sex and obligation sex destroy intimacy, went viral, landing squarely in a toxic corner of the international "manosphere." Lauren pulls back the curtain on the thousands of aggressive comments demanding that married women simply "give" their husbands bodies on demand.Trey and Lauren don't shy away from the noise. Instead, they use it to break down the sheer laziness of marital entitlement.Key Takeaways:Lauren addresses the intense pushback from a specific subset of online critics attacking her professional work. She breaks down why these negative comments are actually a gift, propelling the vital message of mutual desire and female erotic sovereignty right into the hands of the couples who need it most.Trey directly challenges the patriarchal script that states marriage equals unconditional bodily access. He introduces a sobering truth: in a conscious, modern partnership, you aren't entitled to your partner's body or labor; you are only ever entitled to leave if the dynamic no longer serves you.Lauren clears the air by pointing out that entitlement isn't gender-exclusive. She calls out the "honey-do list" phenomenon and the shadow side of straight dynamics where women feel entitled to a man's physical or financial labor simply because of a marital title.When your relationship feels lacking or stuck in a transactional slump, how do you fix it? Lauren reveals the ultimate relational tool: Radical Curiosity. She issues a challenge to the audience to ask their partner a deep question about their contentment, and then force themselves to ask two more curious questions before formatting a response.If your relationship has devolved into transactional demands, scorekeeping, or quiet resentment, it is time to throw out the old playbook.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

If you listened to our last episode, you know things got incredibly real, incredibly fast. We hit a massive, unexpected friction point on-air, original source wounds were triggered, and we awkwardly cut the episode short. But because we practice the relational intimacy we preach, we didn't edit it out, and we didn't sweep it under the rug. We sat right back down, hit record, and picked up exactly where the "ouch" happened.Lauren takes immediate accountability for the impact of her communication style, inviting Trey to narrate his internal state of shutdown, fear, and closing the safety doors. You'll hear exactly how to hold space for a partner's "ouch" without getting defensive.Trey pushes back on whether 50-year-old societal changes matter to couples in their 40s today. Lauren breaks down how macro patriarchal norms directly dictate their modern dynamic; from the invisible "privilege of the male body" (not needing keys between your fingers to walk safely through a dark parking lot) to the exhausting feminine trap of over-functioning.Lauren shares insights from her current clinical work with clients in their early 20s who are already buckling under inherited, artificial gender burdens. She examines the toxic Mad Menera scripts that dictate what a man "should" provide, proving that none of us were handed a healthy relational playbook from the start.Trey shares a vulnerable analogy about his childhood history, describing how minor disagreements or mistakes in his past were met with massive, disproportionate relational punishments. The emotional equivalent of getting slammed on the pavement by a cop for jaywalking. They look at why it often feels safer to lie or hide rather than voice a dissenting opinion.When Lauren asks Trey why he chooses to stay in the relationship despite the hard stuff, he gives a beautiful mathematical breakdown of partnership. He explains that navigating the tiny percentage of relational friction is precisely what makes the remaining 99% of their joy, laughter, and erotic connection so rich.If you are ready to expand your window of tolerance and build an indestructible relational container, let's talk.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

Sales conversations fall apart when you make it about your gym instead of the person in front of you. Focus on their story, their problems, and a clear plan, so the close feels natural instead of forced.Episode Summary:Selling gets a lot easier when you stop hoping friends and family will support your gym and start treating every consult like a real problem-solving conversation. In today's episode, Sherman reads from his book on gym sales and walks through the mindset shift that took him from giving free workouts and “promising the world” to running a process that actually closes.You'll hear the story of launching a small CrossFit gym, getting humbled when nobody joined, and learning to approach sales like a surgeon: diagnose first, then prescribe. The focus is on sales psychology, follow-up, and using simple tools like body composition data and clear prescriptions so people understand exactly how you can help them reach their goals.Key takeaways:You'll learn:A “no” is usually about timing or offer, not your worth as an owner or coachWhy talking about how “awesome” your gym is turns the consult away from the client's real problemsHow to think like a professional: listen, diagnose, and give a clear “treatment plan” instead of a casual pitchPractical steps to work through fear of sales: identify your fears, create a plan, practice one weakness at a timeHow projecting your own beliefs about money and price onto prospects holds them back from committingWhy most people need 7–10 follow-ups before they're ready to join, and what happens when you stop at twoHow to use tools like an InBody scan or body fat scale to give objective data and track progressWhy you must make a firm prescription instead of letting people default to the cheapest optionHow top-down pricing and staying quiet after presenting prices lets the client make a real decisionA simple consultation flow that starts with rapport, digs into their main problem, and moves into a clear recommendationEpisode Chapters:00:00 Rejection and why “no” isn't personal00:08 Encouragement and praise for the team00:11 Gym Marketing Made Simple podcast intro00:38 Grand opening story and friends not joining03:30 Surgeon's lesson: make it about the client05:22 Sales psychology 101 and mindset around selling08:00 Facing fear, rejection, and building confidence09:30 Projecting price fears and hurting the client11:30 Follow-up, 7–10 touch points, and “not yet”13:00 Case study: Courage Fitness Durham systems vs talent15:00 Three layers of a prospect's problem16:10 Reflection questions on your own mindset18:10 How to sell in a free consultation19:30 Using data, prescriptions, and top-down pricing21:23 Sample sales script for a new clientResources MentionedLasso Framework – Marketing and sales help for gyms: https://www.lassoframework.com/InBody 270 – Body composition tool for weight, body fat, and muscle massOmron Fit / body fat scale – Alternative for basic weight and body fat trackingAbout the PodcastWelcome to Gym Marketing Made Simple, the show focused on cutting through the noise around gym growth. Each episode centers on practical marketing, sales, and leadership systems that help boutique gyms build steady momentum without guesswork or constant outreach.Listen & Subscribe

We hope you're ready for the ultimate exercise in relational transparency, because this week's episode takes a turn that none of us saw coming. Lauren and Trey sit down after a two-week batching break to look at a pattern plaguing many hetero relationships: the feeling of being "duped" after the wedding ceremony when the lingerie, the dates, and the blowjobs seem to stop, or when a partner lets themselves go.Using Dané Logan's book Sovereign Love as a guide, Lauren opens up a conversation about entitlement, gender norms, and the cycles of caretaking and control. But things quickly shift from theoretical analysis to real-time practice. When Trey pushes back on the framework of "big P Patriarchy," an unexpected on-air conflict erupts over communication styles, interruptions, and hurt feelings. Instead of editing it out, Lauren and Trey leave the microphones running to show you the raw, awkward, and deeply human process of navigating a live trigger inside a long-term partnership.Lauren and Trey unpack the common complaint heard from straight men that the woman they married isn't the easygoing, sexually forward woman they dated. They look at both sides of this coin, from the abrupt halt of spontaneous sexual intimacy to the lack of effort in dating and appearance from men post-marriage.Lauren utilizes Emily Nagoski's framework to help men identify what they actually mean when they say they want more sex. Do they want connection, to feel wanted/desired, physical pleasure, or an adventure/escape?Halfway through the episode, the couple hits an original source wound. Trey shares how Lauren's hand gestures and "expert stage posture" made him feel small and cut off, causing him to mentally pull out of the conversation.Lauren clarifies that examining patriarchal marriage history (like dowries or women lacking bank accounts) isn't about blaming individual men. It's an invitation to wag the finger at historical systems rather than pointing it at your partner.If you and your partner are constantly getting caught in cycles of interruption, defensiveness, or sexual frustration, let's look at the patterns together.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

Your Brain Uses 20% of Its Creatine Just to Think | Podcast #479  

We are back for the second half of our deep-dive review into the straight-sex hockey show that had us laughing, groaning, and hitting pause to jump under the sheets; Amazon Prime's Off-Campus! Lauren and Trey are continuing the conversation by looking past the cringey storyboard edits to examine the surprisingly mature, brave male conversations hidden inside this season.Lauren and Trey use a pivotal plot line from the show to roleplay exactly how to communicate a shift from a casual fling to a deeper romantic craving without violating your partner's boundaries. They tackle the massive cultural myth that finding a partner means your personal growth work is "done" and explore the deep reality of responsive desire, revealing why watching softcore smut together might just be the best erotic life hack for your relationship container.Key Takeaways & Tools ExploredBravery in the "Third Domain": Lauren breaks down a beautiful conversation from Off-Campus where the male characters encourage each other to be vulnerable and state their desires clearly. She explains the therapeutic concept of putting your wants out into the "third domain"; the shared space between two people, without projecting expectations or demands onto the other person's reality.Live Roleplay: Lauren and Trey step into a real-time somatic exercise based on the show's dynamic. They roleplay a scenario where one partner's feelings change during a casual hookup arrangement, demonstrating how to update a partner on internal changes while completely respecting their autonomy and their right to say "no".The Responsive Desire Pleasure Hack: Lauren sheds light on the biological reality of responsive desire, which is incredibly common in female bodies. While some bodies experience spontaneous desire, others require a sexy context to activate. Lauren highly recommends watching shows like Off-Campus or reading smut with your partner as an excellent biological trigger to send attraction-plus-obstacle cues straight to the brain.Are you ready to stop using your partner as a validation machine and step into your sovereign wholeness? Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

Spoiler warning, because this week Trey and Lauren are diving headfirst into the world of televised hockey smut. The duo takes a deep dive into the Amazon Prime series Off-Campus. The series showcased something rarely seen in mainstream media: emotionally mature male characters who prioritize safety and consent over physical technique.Lauren and Trey use the show's plotlines as a springboard for raw, transparent conversations about their own relationship. They unpack the beauty of mutual masturbation as a tool for connection, how to share erotic fantasies without obligation, and the biological and psychological reasons why our brains instinctively default to worst-case scenario thinking when our safety feels threatened.Key Takeaways & Tools Explored• Lauren and Trey discuss the massive cultural phenomenon of hockey smut and compare Off-Campus to their previous favorite, Heated Rivalry. • Lauren celebrates a powerful scene where the main character, Wellsy, opens up about her past sexual trauma and her tendency to get stuck in her head during intimacy. By engaging in mutual masturbation with her partner, Garrett, she is able to luxuriate in being witnessed and achieve pleasure without the performance pressure of giving or receiving touch.• Trey highlights a groundbreaking conversation between the male characters where they explicitly state that helping a partner experience pleasure isn't about physical strategy or technique, it's entirely about presence and being trustworthy so they feel safe.• Lauren puts on her "nerd cap" to explain why the human brain naturally defaults to the worst-case scenario during a conflict. She explains that this is a primitive safety-seeking survival strategy. When our "window of tolerance" shrinks, our options feel limited; but through intentional healing work, we can expand that window to see more life-giving possibilities and learn that emotions are merely options, not directions.Let us know what you thought Off Campus and if you are excited for another season?If you want to expand your own window of tolerance, learn how to communicate your authentic desires, and build an unshakeable team dynamic with your partner, let's connect.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

Top 5 Ways to Regulate Your Nervous System for Better Sleep & Stress Relief | Podcast #478

We always promise to pull back the curtain on real relational work, but this week, we are right in the thick of it. In this raw and deeply transparent episode, Trey and Lauren unpack a real-time relational rift that occurred just days ago. What started as a seemingly "small" lie via text message; Trey claiming he was playing in a golf tournament just to avoid an event, became the catalyst for a profound exploration of trauma responses, defensive coping mechanisms, and the long road of generational healing.They break down exactly what happened when the truth came out, how old wounds from past marriages and family histories immediately flooded the bedroom, and the exact step-by-step tools they used to intervene at the level of physical sensation to find their way back to connection.Key Takeaways:• Trey confesses to bending the truth to escape an obligation, acknowledging his dislike for lying but falling into a childish trap of "jazzing up" reality. Lauren shares the immediate somatic impact of the confession; feeling her body drop into a free-falling vortex due to past trauma with a lying father and a gaslighting first husband.• Lauren breaks down the clinical anatomy of a trigger. When a threat enters the relationship, it creates overwhelming physical sensations, which drive us toward old safety-seeking behaviors. These behaviors inevitably impact and trigger our partner, spinning the couple into a reactive loop.• Trey and Lauren map out their respective morning-after coping mechanisms. Lauren recognizes her body wanting to flee to the "separation bus" and slipping into an over-functioning "child maid" archetype. Meanwhile, Trey unpacks his "Soldier of Fortune" shadow side; the urge to isolate, run away, and believe it's just easier to be Peter Pan on his own than to pay a massive emotional toll for a mistake.If you want to learn how to map your own attachment cycles, identify your safety-seeking behaviors, and build a relationship container strong enough to hold your shadows and your triggers, let's do the work together.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

After pulling back the curtain on the brutal stomach virus that hit the final leg of their European tour last week, Lauren and Trey are back to talk about the good stuff. In this episode, they recount Trey's first-ever trip overseas; a three-country whirlwind through Paris, Amsterdam, and Barcelona (with a final stop in the quiet beach town of Sitges) in April and May of 2026.Moving past the sickness, they unpack the deep relational gold found on the road: why making adult friendships is a secret weapon for a thriving sex life, how to perfectly balance relationship logistics based on individual strengths, and what happened when they stepped into a historic Parisian erotic theater that completely shattered their American-bred biases.If you and your partner are trying to navigate your own travel triggers, step out of isolating relationship bubbles, or unpack your old scripts around pleasure, intimacy, and control, you don't have to do it alone.Ready to start building a resilient, well-defined partnership?Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.Key Takeaways & Dynamic Frameworks

Why Your Immune System May Be Attacking Its Own Tissue (The Gut Connection) | Podcast #477

In this quieter, beautifully raw episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey are back from their three-week trip to Europe, but they didn't exactly get the fairytale ending they planned. Instead, the final leg of their journey was hit by a severe stomach virus and otherworldly fevers that completely upended their vacation.Moving away from their usual high-octane discussions on sex and desire, they sit down to explore the other side of relationship reality: the somatic vulnerability of getting sick, the profound difficulty of receiving care, and what it truly means to step into the sacred space of partnership privilege.Lauren and Trey unpack the messy reality of traveling through multiple countries and climates: Trey describes the physical intensity of a day-six stomach bug and a shivering, chattering fever that forced him into deep physical vulnerability. Trey opens up about the emotional toll of getting sick on vacation and wrestling with the feeling that he was holding Lauren back from exploratory pleasure.Trey identifies his deepest fear around receiving nurturance; the underlying, irrational belief that he is "too much," taking up too much space, or becoming a burden to tolerate. Why the fear isn't necessarily about abandonment, but rather the terror that a partner will stay out of obligation while harboring residual "ugh" or resentment.Lauren and Trey address a common question from their listeners. If "there is no caretaking in desire," how do couples handle real-world ailments, accidents, and chronic issues?Lauren dies on a relational hill regarding the Wheel of Consent and the value of choosing to serve your partner: Why a relationship built entirely on the continuous chase of lust and pleasure ultimately becomes hollow.Lauren explains why stepping into caretaking for a chosen partner isn't a lower-tier "obligation," but a profound, full-hearted choice rooted in a deep desire to hold them through the hard parts of the human experience. If you're navigating a season where old childhood scripts make it terrifying to receive help, or if you're struggling to balance real-life caretaking with relational desire, you don't have to figure it out in isolation. Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

In this high-energy episode, Lauren and Trey dive deep into the carnal mechanics of desire. Picking up from their previous discussion on David Schnarch's work, they explore the concept of "f*cking" as a specific, functional, and necessary category of sex that is often the hardest to maintain in a long-term marriage.They pull back the curtain on how they negotiate "taking" and "allowing" in their own relationship, moving from the psychological theory of differentiation to the literal "socks on, blankets nearby" logistics of a five-minute encounter.Lauren and Trey discuss the difficulty of prioritizing one's own pleasure within the "nurturing" container of a long-term partnership. They break down:Why it is your job—not your partner's—to schedule and ask for the specific sexual experiences you want.Defining sex that is time-bound, goal-oriented, and centered on one person's pleasure (and why being "used" for a partner's delight can be a high-level erotic experience for both).Lauren shares the importance of "tents and balloons" (arousal) even in fast, penetrative encounters and how to communicate physical needs mid-act.The duo demonstrates a powerful communication tool used with Lauren's coaching clients. By stating exactly what they would want in a perfect world, without the pressure of an obligation, they create a "third domain" for negotiation.Watch (and listen) as Trey and Lauren literally negotiate the terms of a "f*ck," including timeframes, boundaries, "tingle times," and specific kinks.Recognizing that sex (and recording podcasts!) can be an act of service or a "willing" gift rather than a "giving to get" transaction.Lauren and Trey reflect on their different energy types; how Lauren's "Projector" energy thrives on the "roll" of communication while Trey's "Generator" energy reaches a clear cutoff point. They discuss how respecting these energetic limits is key to maintaining a "calm heart and calm mind" in the relationship.If you are ready to stop mind-reading and start negotiating for the pleasure you actually want, Lauren offers a trauma-informed, biopsychosocial approach to reclaiming your erotic voice.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive deep into a topic that often gets "cleaned up" or ignored in long-term relationships: the difference between standard intercourse and the raw, self-focused act of f*cking. Inspired by David Schnarch's book, Intimacy and Desire, they explore why the hardest person to "f*ck" is often the person you love the most and why reclaiming that "take" energy is vital for a thriving relationship.Lauren and Trey break down the mechanics of pleasure through the lens of the "Take" quadrant:Defining the "Take": Taking is the healthy pursuit of your own pleasure within the boundaries and consent of the giver.The Celebration of Desire: Instead of getting what you want in roundabout ways, taking is about explicitly asking for your desires and having them celebrated by your partner.Penetrative Intercourse as a Tool: They discuss how thrusting can be a beautiful example of taking, where one partner does the action for their pleasure while the other is in "allowing".A common question in Lauren's work is why casual sex often feels more titillating than sex with a spouse. In long-term partnerships, we become highly invested in the other's wellbeing. When you are worried about your partner's sleep, health, or ego, it becomes difficult to be "self-focused" or "devouring".Schnarch argues that in casual sex, we are more self-defined because the other person's life is not our domain. Lauren explains the biological "yuck" that occurs when one partner falls into a caretaking or mothering role, which naturally kills sexual attraction.Reclaiming fire in a seven-year (or seventy-year) marriage requires differentiation and individuation. To want someone, you have to see them as separate from you. Moving out of "smushy symbiosis" allows you to re-meet and re-discover each other.If you've lost the "f*cking" in your partnership and find yourselves stuck in caretaking or boredom, it's not too late to re-up the attraction.Ready to uproot the old scripts and reclaim your desire?Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey take us to a busy train in New York City for a real-time breakdown of a relational misstep. What started as a simple gesture to find seating for Lauren's baby sister turned into a clash of tones, intentions, and deep-seated childhood triggers.They deconstruct how a single word, "bossy", can carry decades of weight, and how they used the "Intent vs. Impact" framework to close the loop before a small moment became a long-term wound.Lauren and Trey recount a moment of tension in front of family. Lauren describes an open-handed suggestion for seating; Trey hears a pointed-finger command. Trey explains his abrupt, defensive reaction and why he felt the need to stand up for his autonomy in the moment. Lauren shares the vulnerability of being labeled "bossy"; a tag she's carried since childhood when she was tasked with parenting her siblings.The duo dives into the complexity of leadership vs. control, especially for women: Lauren reflects on being a "second-string parent" at age 11 and the confusing double standard of being demanded to lead, then shamed for it. Trey observes that Lauren is currently in a season of finding her voice and setting boundaries, and he discusses why "grace for the fuck-ups" is necessary when filling a "dry pond" of self-expression. How the quest to be "perfect" and "holy" makes it difficult to acknowledge when we've been abrupt or defensive.Lauren and Trey demonstrate how they moved past the "He Said/She Said" semantics to find resolution:Why trying to prove "what really happened" is a dead end in relationship repair.How a walk back to the hotel and a "highlights and booboos" check-in led to a dual apology.Trey explains the power of leading with, "I apologize for the impact of my words; that was not my intent," and how that simple phrase allowed Lauren to drop her own defenses.Are you tired of getting stuck in the weeds of "who said what"?If you are ready to learn tools like Intent vs. Impact and move toward a messy, authentic, and highly connected partnership, Lauren offers a trauma-informed approach to relational coaching.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

The Selenium Deficiency Nobody's Talking About (And Why It Affects Your Brain) ft. Dr. Jeff Moss

In this vulnerable and raw episode of The Partnership Podcast, Trey shares his experience with a recent panic attack . While traveling home from New York City, Trey experienced a sudden, debilitating panic attack in the middle of a crowded Amtrak station.Up until recently, Trey had only ever experienced a panic attack once in his life. Now, having navigated two, he and Lauren deconstruct what a panic attack is, the physiological shutdown of the body, and how a partner can provide a safe container when everything feels like it's collapsing.Trey describes the terrifying sensation of a "standing fetal position" in a crowded train car. They discuss:How a simple moment of disorganized leadership triggered a "vortex of panic."Physical Manifestations of a panic attack: The sensation of falling in a dream, muffled hearing, narrowed focus, and the body's instinct to protect its vital organs.The "Rational Mind" Paradox: Why logic fails when the nervous system takes over, and why "snapping out of it" isn't an option.Lauren draws on her background in birth work to explain how to co-regulate a partner in crisis. She shares her observation of the event and her strategy for support:Providing Physical Safety FirstUsing breathwork to anchor a partner without being intrusive.Why she chose not to make the moment about her own needs or ask "What do you need?" when Trey had no capacity to answer.Trey gets honest about the shame hangover that follows a public breakdown. They explore:The heartbreaking similarity between Trey's experience and their friend Jay's experience, how the "protector" script makes men feel like failures when their bodies seek safety.Trey's honest reflection on intimacy the following morning: "Why would she want to have sex with me if she just had to take care of me?"The importance of Trey completing the cycle and how he regained his confidence through small winsIs your partnership equipped for the unforeseen moments of life?If you are navigating the complexities of mental health, nervous system regulation, or deconstructing the scripts of what a "strong" partner looks like, Lauren offers a trauma-informed, biopsychosocial approach to relational health.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

In this candid and high-energy episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into a listener-requested topic: the "Slut Era." They explore how a season of recreational sex can actually serve as a vital foundation for long-term relational health, especially for those deconstructing from Purity Culture.Drawing on the work of David Schnarch (Intimacy and Desire), they tackle the provocative idea that "fucking" is a distinct and necessary biological and psychological experience that often gets lost in the "nurturing" context of marriage.Lauren and Trey reflect on their own seasons of recreational sex and what those experiences provided them. They discuss:- How casual sex allows you to discover your own preferences and "erotic imagination" without the weight of a partner's expectations.- Why "fucking for fucking's sake" can be a powerful tool for reclaiming bodily agency after years of religious indoctrination.- The danger of entering long-term partnership before you've established a solid, flexible self-identity.Following Schnarch's definitions, the duo explores the psychological difference between "nurturing" sex and "fucking." They discuss:- Why the person you love most can often be the hardest person to have raw, uninhibited sex with.- How maintaining your own sense of self-worth (and not relying on your spouse to validate it) is the key to maintaining erotic fire.- Why trying to be a "good" or "service-oriented" spouse often kills the very desire you're trying to cultivate.Lauren and Trey get real about the effort required to keep a sexual connection vibrant after years together. They share:- The importance of knowing what you actually like, versus what you think you should like.- Why a healthy level of individuation, staying two separate people, is required for true sexual chemistry.- How to move away from "transactional" sex and back into a space of playful, embodied exploration.Is your long-term partnership feeling more like a "roommate" situation?If you are ready to reclaim your erotic sovereignty and move past the scripts of "good spouse" behavior, Lauren offers a trauma-informed approach to sexual and relational growth.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

What 8 Out of 10 People Have in Their Gut (And Don't Know It) | Podcast #474

In this deeply personal and transparent episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey pull back the curtain on a recent challenging season to show exactly how the work of relationship repair actually functions in real-time.They break down a multi-day journey that started with a "shadow story", an internal narrative that felt like an "ugly" courtroom defense, and ended in what Trey describes as "next-level" intimacy that can only be forged through years of seeing each other's "ugly".Lauren and Trey share their essential daily practice: landing at the end of the day by asking for "highlights" and "booboos". Lauren recounts the moment she realized she was spinning in a "shadow story" that was causing her to internally distance and avoid touch.The episode details the tools used to navigate this "uncomfy" tension without falling into old patterns:Trey and Lauren explain why spontaneous amazing connection isn't actually spontaneous at all, it's built on a foundation of saying the scary, vulnerable things. They discuss how resolving this conflict restored the flow of communication, leading to a level of intimacy that Trey notes "one cannot get anywhere else in the world".Is your relationship stuck in shadow boxing?If you are ready to move past transactional arguments and into a space of true self-determination and informed decision-making, Lauren offers a trauma-informed, biopsychosocial approach to intimacy.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

How to Get Your 6 Human Needs Met Without Self-Sabotage with Daniel Hill | Podcast #473 Schedule with Daniel Hill: https://calendly.com/danielhill21/30min https://www.danielhill.biz Schedule a FREE Consult: https://www.justinhealth.com/free-consultation Dr. J's New Thyroid Book: https://www.thyroidreboot.com Most people do not self-sabotage because they are lazy or broken. They self-sabotage because they are trying to meet deep emotional needs in unhealthy, unconscious ways. In this video, we break down the 6 human needs and show you how unmet needs can quietly drive patterns like procrastination, toxic relationships, emotional eating, people-pleasing, burnout, and fear of success. Once you understand what you are really chasing, you can start meeting those needs in a way that creates growth, peace, confidence, and real momentum. What You'll Learn: ✅ How the 6 human needs shape your behavior, decisions, and emotional patterns. ✅ Why self-sabotage is often an unconscious attempt to meet a real need. ✅ How to identify which needs are driving your stress, overwhelm, or stuck patterns. ✅ Better ways to meet needs like certainty, significance, love, and variety without destructive habits. ✅ How growth and contribution help create deeper fulfillment and long-term change. ✅ Practical mindset shifts to break self-sabotage and create healthier patterns. #6HumanNeeds #SelfSabotage #TonyRobbins #PersonalGrowth #MindsetShift #EmotionalHealth #SelfAwareness #BreakThePattern Related Health Resources: Gluten Video Series: http://www.justinhealth.com/gluten-video-series Thyroid Hormone Balance Video Series: http://www.justinhealth.com/thyroid-hormone-balance Female Hormone Balance Video Series: http://www.justinhealth.com/female-hormone-balance Subscribe for More Videos: http://www.justinhealth.com/subscribe Dr. Justin Marchegiani's Links: http://www.justinhealth.com/links References: Disclaimer: Some of the products featured in our videos may earn us affiliate commissions. Rest assured, we only endorse products that we personally use and trust.

In this raw and timely episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey move beyond their usual "how-they" dynamic to tackle a growing digital crisis: the "Manosphere." After watching the Louis Theroux documentary on Netflix, Trey requested a total redo of their original recording. Why? Because viewing this content through the lens of a 41-year-old man is one thing, but viewing it through the eyes of a 12-year-old boy is another entirely.Trey opens up about his initial reaction; dismissing influencers like Andrew Tate, Myron, and HS Ticky Tocky as "shock jocks" or a "farce" designed to sell trading platforms and casino codes. However, after Lauren challenged him to consider his 12-year-old brother and the youth basketball players he coaches, Trey's perspective shifted from professional skepticism to a protector mode fueled by anger.The couple deconstructs the Red Pill ideology, exposing it as a dangerous blend of "new" Purity Culture and financial exploitation. They discuss:As an Embodied Intimacy Coach, Lauren points out the wild nightmare of seeing religious indoctrination rebranded for a digital age. They explore the dangerous rhetoric of "claiming" women and the "shock value" tactics used to monetize misogyny. Lauren shares her alarm at the real-world danger this poses to female bodies and why it is vital for men like Trey to find their voice and speak up against it.While they reject the Manosphere's solutions, Lauren and Trey acknowledge the very real hunger for belonging that drives young men to these spaces.Is your value system being defined by an algorithm?Whether you are deconstructing your own religious past or trying to navigate these conversations with the teenagers in your life, Lauren offers a trauma-informed, relational approach to building a life of integrity.Request a free 15-minute consult or ask for resource recommendations at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

Today, I get to talk with someone whose story has stayed with me for years. Shirlee Draper grew up in a polygamist community that became more controlling and unsafe as time went on. With no money, no work history, and no support outside her community, she made the difficult decision to leave everything behind and start over. We discuss the tension between staying and knowing something isn't right, and what it takes to start trusting yourself again. This conversation is not just about Shirlee's journey—it's about what can happen when women find their voice and their autonomy. Here's what we cover:How Shirlee spent years saving money and quietly planning before she could leaveWhat it means to choose the “least harmful option” when every choice feels like a betrayalWhy we can't understand other people's choices without their experiences and contextWhy decision-making is something you have to learn after being told what to do your whole lifeWhat it looks like to help women build their own inner voice instead of replacing it with another authorityShirlee Draper was born and raised in “Short Creek.” After leaving the community, she obtained a Bachelor of Social Work and a Master of Public Administration. She has served in many capacities in the rebirth of her hometown, including facilitating the election of the first female mayor in 2017; opening a community health clinic in 2019; serving on the board of the UEP Trust and Short Creek Community Center; and part of the Collective Impact project aimed at community revitalization.She is employed as Deputy Director for Cherish Families, a social service nonprofit which helps people from polygamous backgrounds move from crisis to thriving. She specializes in bridging the population with mainstream society and provides education for outside service providers and government agencies She also serves on several state and civic committees. Shirlee lives in St. George with her special needs children and loves to play the piano, read and travel.Find Shirlee here:cherishfamilies.org instagram.com/shirlee_jd facebook.com/shirlee.draperlinkedin.com/in/shirlee-draper lostandfound.club/events Support Cherish Families' workFind Sara here:sarafisk.coachpages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationsinstagram.com/sarafiskcoachfacebook.com/SaraFiskCoachingtiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachyoutube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

If you grew up in a broken or divorced family, struggling with confidence isn't random.Research has consistently shown that children of divorce are more likely to experience lower self-esteem, higher anxiety, and greater insecurity in relationships. When love feels unstable or conditional early on, it shapes how you handle pressure later in life.You might:Overthink conversationsFreeze in high-pressure momentsFeel like you have to perform to be lovedOr believe everyone else is just naturally more confidentIn this episode, licensed psychologist and Certified Mental Performance Consultant Dr. Nicole Gabana Chiesa breaks down what confidence actually is — and why it's not personality.We explore:The subtle belief that makes confidence collapse when you failWhat's happening in your brain when anxiety spikesWhy hyper-focusing on yourself increases insecurityHow to stop just listening to your thoughts — and start talking backAnd why confidence is built through imperfect reps, not feelingsIf your family didn't model emotional stability, healthy conflict, or secure love… this episode gives you a roadmap.Confidence isn't something you're born with. It's something you build. And you can build it.Visit Dr. Nicole's WebsiteBook a FREE Consult: (904) 624-1331 or paxperform@gmail.comGet the Book or FREE chapters: It's Not Your FaultGet Dakota's FREE Guide, The Biggest Fitness Mistakes to AvoidWatch the Documentary: KennyWatch the Trailer: Kenny (3:31 min)Shownotes

In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive deep into the transformative power of The Wheel of Consent® following Trey's recent experience at the "Like a Pro" workshop. They move beyond the basics of "no means no" to explore the nuanced artistry of giving and receiving, and how understanding these four quadrants can dismantle years of sexual obligation and shadow dynamics.Fresh off his second workshop, Trey shares the profound shifts that occur when we separate who is doing from who it is for. They discuss the common struggle many face, especially those raised in restrictive environments, with the "Shadow of Service" and the "Shadow of Taking." Lauren reflects on how her own "Warrior Queen" energy and professional drive sometimes clash with the need for true receptivity, while Trey explores the vulnerability required to make a "True Request" without an agenda.The conversation gets raw as they explore how Purity Culture and incomplete sexual education plant "weeds" in our sexual gardens. They discuss:Integrating the work of David Schnarch, Lauren and Trey model what it looks like to stand in a Solid Flexible Self. They discuss the importance of staying in your own skin during intimacy, ensuring that pleasure is a restoration of agency rather than a performance. Trey shares how his growth in relational intelligence has shifted their dynamic from one of "keeping up" to one of genuine curiosity and "trustworthy touch."Lauren, as an Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach, emphasizes that better sex heals the world because it requires us to be fully present and accountable. They discuss the "Alphabet Rule" (Arousal before Desire) and why understanding Responsive Desire is key for partners who feel like they are "stumbling through" their physical connection.Whether you're a purity culture survivor or simply looking to deepen your connection, Lauren offers a trauma-informed, biopsychosocial approach to intimacy. Move past the "caveman theory" of routine and into a partnership defined by mutual pleasure and radical honesty.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

I'm bringing back an episode that explores something I care about deeply: the healing that happens when women gather in community. We live in a culture that conditions women to believe something is wrong with them—that we're too emotional, our thoughts don't make sense, and we can't trust ourselves. But when women share their real experiences with each other, that belief begins to unravel. In this re-release, I discuss the communities I've been part of that have shaped my life and why support from other women can drive powerful change. Here's what I cover:How patriarchal conditioning teaches women to believe they constantly need fixingWhy witnessing other women's stories helps us see that we are not “extra special super broken”How being witnessed by other women can completely change the way we see ourselvesTwo common obstacles that keep women from seeking community and how to move through themWhy learning with and from other women creates powerful momentum for growth and changeFind Sara here:sarafisk.coachpages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationswww.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachwww.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey delve into the complexities of sexual desire, the nuances of arousal non-concordance, and the power of radical accountability in relationship repair. Moving beyond the clinical definitions of High Desire Partners (HDP) and Low Desire Partners (LDP), they share personal stories; from bucket-list moments in an Amtrak bathroom to the restorative power of gentle, non-genital touch.Lauren, a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator, breaks down a fundamental biological difference that often causes friction in partnerships: the order of arousal and desire. While many people with penises experience spontaneous desire (the sudden "want" for sex) most people with vulvas experience responsive desire, where physiological arousal must happen before the mental desire to pursue sex kicks in. Understanding this "A before D" sequence (Arousal before Desire) is a game-changer for couples navigating mismatched sex drives.Following their exploration of David Schnarch's Intimacy & Desire, the duo discusses how these roles are not fixed and often flip depending on the context, whether it's travel, professional ambition, or the need for spaciousness. They tackle the "lonely feeling" of the LDP and the importance of the HDP "wooing" rather than demanding. By standing in the Four Points of Balance, Lauren and Trey demonstrate how to maintain a Solid Flexible Self while negotiating intimacy.The conversation shifts to a vulnerable look at desire smuggling and brinksmanship. They explore how to make requests that are "true wants" rather than hidden agendas for sex. Trey shares his experience of providing "trustworthy touch"; exploring erogenous zones without the obligation of penetrative sex, and how that safety allowed Lauren's body to "come online" naturally.Is your relationship feeling like a "checklist item"? Whether you are navigating mismatched desire or looking to deepen your relational intelligence, Lauren offers embodied coaching to help you restore pleasure and respect in your partnership.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

To what degree do you feel capable of saying what you want to say in your life and in your relationships? In this episode, I'm revisiting one of my favorite episodes about the powerful combination of choice and voice. A revolution happens when women say what they want to say. When you can express how you really feel, it becomes easier to stand up for yourself and set expectations. Your relationships shift, your choices become clearer, and you stop performing and start actually living. Here's what I cover:One of the key skills I teach my clients: how to articulate themselves during difficult conversationsHow reconnecting to your own wants and needs is a process that takes timeWhy we are capable of updating the relationships in our lives to match our current wants and needsWhy authenticity removes the pressure to perform in order to feel acceptedHow learning to handle the stress of advocating for yourself leads to deeper integrity and lasting comfortFind Sara here:sarafisk.coachpages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationswww.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachwww.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

Case acceptance is one of the biggest challenges for dentists—especially early in your career. In this episode of The Dental Download Podcast, Dr. Haley Schultz breaks down the patient psychology and communication strategies that help patients move from hesitation to confident treatment decisions.You'll learn how patient mindset, trust, and clear communication play a critical role in treatment planning and case acceptance. In part one of this series, Dr. Haley shares practical ways dentists can build confidence with patients, explain treatment effectively, and overcome common objections without feeling pushy or sales-focused.Whether you're a new dentist or an experienced clinician, improving your patient communication skills can dramatically increase treatment acceptance while strengthening patient relationships and improving overall dental health outcomes.In this episode, we discuss:How patient psychology impacts treatment decisionsBuilding trust and confidence during treatment planningCommunication strategies that improve case acceptance in dentistryHow to navigate patient resistance and objectionsSimple ways to make patients feel comfortable saying “yes” to treatmentIf you want to improve dental case acceptance and patient trust through your treatment communication, this episode will give you actionable strategies you can start using in your practice immediately.** Get Started with a Free Consult with Twinleaf Financial Advisors: ⁠https://www.twinleafadv.com/⁠ or text 321-521-3133

In this episode, Lauren and Trey dive deep into the clinical and practical applications of David Schnarch's Intimacy & Desire. Moving beyond the bedroom, they explore how the concepts of the High Desire Partner (HDP) and Low Desire Partner (LDP) manifest in every corner of a partnership; from travel and hosting to professional ambition and the pace of daily life.While these terms are often used to describe sexual frequency, Lauren and Trey chop it up to see how these roles flip depending on the context. They explore how Trey often moderates the pace of adventure while Lauren pushes for the next big trip, and the inherent toll of being the HDP for community and hosting. They take a raw look at the intersection of urgency and spaciousness, examining how Trey's desire for a slower, more generative pace interacts with Lauren's high-capacity professional drive.Lauren and Trey tackle the "heavy burden" of being the Low Desire Partner in a sexual dynamic. Lauren deconstructs the cultural shame often directed at women who are HDPs, as well as the pressure felt by LDPs who feel they are keeping their partner from what they want. They explain why they don't actually have a sex problem despite their differing levels of desire, pointing instead to the importance of a Solid Flexible Self. By having a well-defined sense of self that doesn't depend on a partner's constant validation, they are able to use requests and offers in the "third domain" to negotiate intimacy without one person feeling controlled by the other.Coming off a season of repair, they share a vulnerable moment of "slam poetry" eroticism and the importance of receiving a partner's desire even when capacity is low. They model how to stand in the Four Points of Balance, ensuring that neither partner feels silenced or pressured. By understanding that the initial honeymoon phase is a temporary chemical state, they demonstrate how moving into a differentiated, long-term partnership requires intentional tools and a commitment to separate self-responsibility.Lauren offers embodied coaching to help you and your partner navigate these dynamics with clarity and grace.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

This episode is a reminder of how prejudice can soften when we look beyond policies to see real people, and it feels especially important to bring it back now. In this re-release of a past conversation, I'm joined by my dear friend Alex Regan, a trans man, interfaith minister, speaker, author, and transformative spiritual coach. Meeting Alex changed my life because it replaced my experience of an abstract label with a real human being with a nervous system, a story, hopes, and fears just like me. Once you see someone clearly like that, it becomes much harder to ignore how they are being treated. My hope is that hearing Alex's story will create that same kind of shift for you. Here's what I cover:How stories reduce prejudice by turning a “group” into a real person you actually care aboutHow good girl conditioning trains us to abandon ourselves and why that wiring shows up everywhereAlex's journey of unlearning evangelical rules and building trust in his own inner knowingWhat it looks like to stop fighting for approval and let people be wrong about youHow community changes everything when you stop performing and start living as your real selfFind Alex here:www.alexreegan.comwww.instagram.com/revreegs Find Sara here:sarafisk.coachpages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationswww.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachwww.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

Have you ever caught yourself eating when not hungry and wondered, Why did I just do that? In this episode, Dara Tomasson breaks down what's really happening during emotional eating, especially when it feels automatic or out of your control. If you've ever found yourself eating when full, reaching for food on autopilot, or stuck in patterns of compulsive eating, this conversation will help you understand why. Your brain is wired for survival through something called the motivational triad: stay safe, seek pleasure, avoid pain. When stress, boredom, loneliness, or fear show up, your nervous system may turn to food before you're even consciously aware of it. That doesn't mean something is wrong with you — it means your brain is doing its job. In this episode, you'll learn: ✔️Why eating on autopilot is a safety response ✔️How fear of failure, visibility, abandonment, or rejection can drive emotional eating ✔️The connection between tribal belonging and food  ✔️How to separate your actions from your identity ✔️Dara's 5-step "I don't know why I'm eating" protocol This is not about shame. It's about awareness. When you pause, name the feeling, and consciously choose your next step, you move from autopilot into leadership over your own life. If you're ready to go deeper, Dara is hosting a live Emotional Eating Masterclass where you'll practice these tools together and build the emotional intelligence needed to create lasting change. Sign up here - https://dara-tomasson-coaching.mykajabi.com/emotional-eating-class You are not broken. You are wired for survival. And you can learn how to work with your brain instead of against it. Connect with Dara: Website: https://daratomasson.com Instagram: @dara_tomasson Book a Free Consult: https://dara-tomasson-coaching.mykajabi.com/contact Join Love Yourself Thin: https://dara-tomasson-coaching.mykajabi.com/love-yourself-thin 

It's so easy to feel stuck and overwhelmed when we haven't figured something out yet. But what if you looked for the evidence in your life that you can solve the problem? In this episode, I share how I'm borrowing belief from my past self to help me make a decision I'm wrestling with now. Instead of demanding certainty or shaming myself for not knowing the answer, I'm using real proof from my own history to help me relax while I take the time to figure it out. Here's what I cover:How leaving the church one step at a time taught me how to untangle my beliefsWhy your brain relaxes when you offer it real evidence from your pastHow to copy and paste a past growth process onto the problem you're facing todayThe self-judgment that creeps in when you think you should have it figured out by nowA powerful visualization to help you imagine the future version of you who already solved the problemFind Sara here:sarafisk.coachpages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationswww.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachwww.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

The overwhelming amount of information, emotion, and terror we are experiencing in the world right now can make it hard to know what to do with ourselves. Last week's episode came from my own experience of feeling like I was going to break and realizing my nervous system was completely overloaded. In this episode, I build on that and talk about what to do—because it's not enough to say you will “just get off social media” or “stop doom scrolling.” If it were that simple, I would have stopped, and maybe you would have too. We'll look at why this is so hard to put down and what it takes to step back in a way that allows you to stay informed without losing yourself in the crush of information. Here's what I cover:Why doom scrolling is not activism and can hinder you from taking thoughtful actionThe good girl rules that make disengaging feel like a moral failingWhy learning to regulate your nervous system can be a powerful form of resistanceWhat happens when your reptile brain takes over and you're stuck in looping thoughtsPractical ways to regulate so you can stay informed and respond in ways that actually helpFind Sara here:sarafisk.coachpages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationswww.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachwww.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

Over the last few weeks, the constant exposure to human suffering, injustice, and horrifying information has felt like an avalanche. If you've been taking this in through social media and the news like I have, you might notice yourself swinging between obsessing and shutting down, or believing that if you look away or take a break, it means you don't care. In this episode, I share what helped me understand what was actually happening in my nervous system and why feeling overwhelmed doesn't mean you're broken. It means your body was never meant to hold all of this. Here's what I cover:An Instagram post that helped me understand how the overwhelm we're living through impacts the bodyHow flooding ourselves with horrific information without containment destabilizes our nervous systemsWhy empathy and good girl conditioning can turn caring into self-sacrificeThree things to pay attention to so we can stay connected to the truth without losing ourselvesWhat it looks like to give yourself permission to decide what level of engagement is right for youFind Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationshttps://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachhttps://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

In this episode, I sit down with erotic wholeness guide Darshana Avila to talk about embodiment, authenticity, and coming home to the body. Darshana was featured on Netflix's Sex, Love & Goop, which was one of my early introductions to a broader idea of eroticism as I began to unravel my good girl conditioning. We explore what happens when women don't know what they want or don't trust their bodies—a disconnection shaped by the systems we were raised in, not personal failure. Darshana offers a different path forward, rooted in compassion, nervous-system safety, and learning to listen to the body. Here's what we cover:How Darshana defines erotic wholeness and why it's not limited to sexWhy “I don't know what I want” is a common and understandable starting pointWhat compartmentalization looks like in real life and how conditioning keeps it in placeHow authenticity begins with sensing what is and isn't for youSimple ways to begin reconnecting through your senses and the four allies of erotic embodimentDarshana Avila is a trauma-informed somatic educator, practitioner and international speaker who helps people reconnect with the most essential aspects of themselves — their truth, their desires, and their capacity for profound pleasure and power. Her work has been featured on Netflix's Sex, Love & Goop, The Guardian, The New Yorker, and numerous leading podcasts.Find Darshana here:darshanaavila.com instagram.com/darshana_avila youtube.com/@darshana-avilalinkedin.com/in/darshana-avilahttps://darshanaavila.com/podcast/ Find Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationshttps://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachhttps://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

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