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Show hosts Ryan and Selena Frederick discuss modern marriage issues with their trademark transparency, humor, and gospel-centered teaching. Join them for honest conversations, light-hearted hilarity, and more than enough grace to go around...

Ryan and Selena Frederick


    • Oct 12, 2021 LATEST EPISODE
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    • 249 EPISODES

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    The 5 Modes of Sex (Sex Talks, 2 of 4)

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 12, 2021 39:27

    What if one of you is in the mood and the other isn't? And what could "modes" have to do with solving your frustrations in that moment? In this episode we elaborate on our previous talks about "the spectrum of sex" by introducing 5 modes of sex. We hope it helps you! Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Use promo code: SEXYTIME to save 25% on your enrollment at GospelCenteredMarriage.com Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    "Married Sex" (Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta)

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 7, 2021 37:40


    This months "Sex Talks" series continues with a bonus interview with Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta about their new book Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life. This is a tricky topic, and we so appreciate Gary and Debra's willingness to come on and talk with us and our listeners so candidly. We pray it blesses you. To get a copy of their book, find it wherever books are sold or visit https://amzn.to/3abTa50. Also, as mentioned at the end of the episode, we did a full second Zoom video with Gary and Debra, it it's ONLY available on our learning platform for marriages, https://GospelCenteredMarriage.com. Sign up and save 25% with promo code: SEXYTIME. You'll also get access to our growing suite of marriage enrichment material, including our 6-Week Marriage Core course. Here's the description of their book: A great sex life is something you make, not something you find. If you feel confused or frustrated about your sex life--or simply wonder, Is there more to it than this?--Married Sex is exactly what you need to make your marriage stronger, in and out of the bedroom.


    The 7 Reasons for Sex (Sex Talks, 1 of 4)

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 5, 2021 40:47

    Sex talks! This episode begins our series that's all about sex. Today we talked about the 7 (Biblical) Reasons for Sex in order to set the stage for more granular—and perhaps tougher—talks in coming weeks. We hope that as you listen, we're able to put words to feelings you've felt and give you tools to begin building a healthier, more Christ-centered sex life in your marriage.Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.Use promo code: SEXYTIME to save 25% on your enrollment at GospelCenteredMarriage.comThanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Skill #4: Making Sex Better (Back to Basics, 4 of 4)

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 28, 2021 38:25

    As we finish out this series on marital basics and skills, we're discussing the topics of sex and intimacy. The trouble most couples face in this area stems from a misunderstanding of the very nature of their sex life as a couple and the fact that it is, in fact, an area where you're meant to grow and explore and figure out over your lifetimes together. If you've ever felt frustration or disappointment in this area, you're in the right place. Listen and be encouraged!Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.Use promo code: BASICS to save 20% on your enrollment at GospelCenteredMarriage.comThanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Skill #3: Fighting Well (Back to Basics, 3 of 4)

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 21, 2021 27194640:39

    If a couple can't fight productively, things will be very difficult for them. In today's episode we discuss practical ways to build the essential skill of arguing well as a couple. We hope it helps and blesses you, enjoy!Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.Use promo code: BASICS to save 20% on your enrollment at GospelCenteredMarriage.comThanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Skill #2: Teamwork (Back to Basics, 2 of 4)

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 14, 2021 41:10

    A constant reminder that floats throughout the Frederick household is "we're on the same team(!!)." There is no replacement for truly being in unity, advocating for one another, making memories, and valuing one another as equally important parts of the marital team. The best part? Teamwork in marriage is a habit you can cultivate and if you do, it will revolutionize your relationship. We hope this episode challenges and blesses you.Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment!It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more.Use promo code: BASICS to save 20% on your enrollment at GospelCenteredMarriage.comThanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Skill #1: Self Control (Back to Basics, 1 of 4)

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 8, 2021 49:02

    Welcome to SEASON 5 of the podcast. We can't believe it! This week we're launching a new series that's all about getting back to the basics. Over the next four episodes we'll be talking through four skills, or basics, that are necessary for a marriage that thrives. We hope it blesses and helps you! Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. USE PROMO CODE: BASICS to save 20% on your enrollment at GospelCenteredMarriage.com Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Big Announcement! (Identity, 5 of 5)

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 31, 2021 16:46

    Listen in for a special announcement! It does tie into the series... don't worry. :) Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Heads and Helpers, Part 2 (Identity, 4 of 5)

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 24, 2021 47:04

    Today we continue the conversation about biblical roles for husbands (as heads) and wives (as helpers) in Christian marriage. Before you listen to this episode, make sure you've listened to last week's Part 1 release. Then, make sure you listen to this whole episode before jumping to conclusions. We trust that as we talk through the implications of God's word, it will edify and encourage you in your walk with Christ and your relationship with your spouse. Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Heads and Helpers, Part 1 (Identity, 3 of 5)

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 17, 2021 52:56

    Few topics ruffle feathers like biblical roles, especially when you talk about ideas like headship and submission in marriage. In this episode we began a conversation (that continues into next week's episode) where we unpacked the what the Bible says about roles in marriage. Next week, we'll look at the implications for husbands and wives who are seeking to live in full light of what Scripture says on the matter. We hope our conversation encourages you and helps shed some light on this sometimes murky topic. Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Who Are We as "Us"? (Identity, 2 of 5)

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 10, 2021 42:43

    You may have heard the biblical idea that "two became one flesh" when they get married. But what does that mean functionally? In this episode we talked through the implications of that statement when it comes to aspects of our individual identities as they are retained (or discarded) in a one-flesh marriage. Thanks for listening, we trust you'll learn something and we pray it blesses you! ALSO: Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Marriage Reconstructed (Identity, 1 of 5)

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 3, 2021 40:26

    Identity is everything these days. Ideas, politics, gender expressions, race, and sexual orientation, and countless other variables all have one thing in common in today's culture: they can be your identity if you want... and no one can tell you otherwise. The holy grail of our culture is being able to actualize your most ideal self at any cost and through whatever means necessary. But this ability has come at a staggering cost: truth itself has lost its meaning, and this trend has eroded our understanding of marriage and being married people, even among Christians. This episode is the first in our 5-week series on Identity. Today we talked about the identity of marriage itself, and in the coming weeks we will discuss our identity as "us", biblical gender roles, and more. We hope it blesses you a lot and challenges you as much as necessary. Stay fierce! ALSO: Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    5 Habits to Consistently Feel Joy Together (Joy, 4 of 4)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 27, 2021 33:40

    In past episodes we've looked at why joy is rightfully attached to our emotions. But, we don't have to wait until we feel joy to stir it up in ourselves! In this week's episode we talked about 5 very tangible things couples can do to have consistent joy together. We hope it blesses you! ALSO: Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Dealing with a Persistent Lack of Joy in Marriage (Joy, 3 of 4)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 20, 2021 48:04

    Every couple experiences seasons where things feel joyless. The question is, What do you do to rekindle the joy in your marriage when those times come? In this episode we looked at ways the Bible instructs us to stir our affections for God and why we can expect to experience joy when we do so within the context of marriage. ALSO: Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Truly Enjoying Your Spouse (Joy, 2 of 4)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 13, 2021 46:42

    You love your spouse, but do you *like* them? It was affection that brought you together, but what should you do when affection fades and marriage begins to lack joy? In today's episode we talked about truly enjoying each other by looking at three ingredients necessary for a joy-filled relationship. ALSO: Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    The Roots of Marital Joy (Joy, 1 of 4)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 6, 2021 57:39

    Everyone wants a joy-filled marriage—one that's happy and where you feel love for your spouse and you feel their love reciprocated. Life happens, joy fades, and where does that leave us? As Christians, we have the promise of joy as we walk in step with the Spirit. So, what should do in times when joy feels foreign and impossible to find? In this episode we'll look at the biblical roots of joy in the Christian life as we open up this series on what it takes to build a joy-filled marriage. Make sure to subscribe so you don't miss the upcoming episodes! ALSO: Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation get on the same page once and for all. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    War Story, Part 2 (Steven and Brooke Elliott)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 29, 2021 48:59

    In April 2004, Army Ranger Steven Elliott was deployed with the 2nd Ranger Battalion to Afghanistan. The objective of operation “Mountain Storm” was to kill or capture Osama Bin Laden. On April 22, Steven's squad was attacked by enemy combatants which resulted in 4 casualties, one of whom was former NFL safety, Pat Tillman. This is part two of our interview with our good friends Steven and Brooke Elliott. Theirs is a story of tragedy, depression, grace, and redemption. It's our prayer that by hearing their story you can marvel with us at the goodness of God to repair and restore lives, even when all hope seems lost. You can find Steven's' book, War Story, wherever books are sold or by visiting WarStoryBook.com. Additionally, Steven and Brook are the founders of The Elliott fund, which exists to advocate for reform in how the unseen wounds of war are viewed and treated so that the broken places can be made whole. To learn more, visit ElliottFund.org.

    War Story, Part 1 (Steven and Brooke Elliott)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 29, 2021 39:32

    In April 2004, Army Ranger Steven Elliott was deployed with the 2nd Ranger Battalion to Afghanistan. The objective of operation “Mountain Storm” was to kill or capture Osama Bin Laden. On April 22, Steven's squad was attacked by enemy combatants which resulted in 4 casualties, one of whom was former NFL safety, Pat Tillman. This is part one of our interview with our good friends Steven and Brooke Elliott. Theirs is a story of tragedy, depression, grace, and redemption. It's our prayer that by hearing their story you can marvel with us at the goodness of God to repair and restore lives, even when all hope seems lost. Make sure to listen to the next episode for part two of Steven and Brook's story. You can find Steven's' book, War Story, wherever books are sold or by visiting WarStoryBook.com. Additionally, Steven and Brook are the founders of The Elliott fund, which exists to advocate for reform in how the unseen wounds of war are viewed and treated so that the broken places can be made whole. To learn more, visit ElliottFund.org.

    Priorities and Unity Q&A

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 24, 2021 42:20

    Today is all about your questions! Listen in as we seek to address your questions about priorities and unity from a biblical perspective. We hope it blesses and helps you. Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Priorities, Practically Speaking (Priorities, 4 of 4)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 22, 2021 51:17

    In this episode, things get practical. How do we step down the path of reorienting our priorities? How do we overcome the challenges and obstacles that stand between us and the priorities God is convicting us to live by? We'll walk you through our story of writing our first Family Vision statement, and at the end, we'll give you a link to get a free copy of our ebook, "Crafting Your Family Vision Statement". Our marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    The Freedom in Finding Unity (Priorities, 3 of 4)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 15, 2021 51:48

    Finding unity is the first step in functionally living out your priorities. Every couple wants unity, but few manage to get there. Why is that? We'd say it's because they've never taken the time (or had the opportunity) to discuss and seek deep agreement on their priorities. In this episode, we'll discuss the benefits of unity and some of the challenges necessary to get there. We hope it helps you! Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Last Things (Priorities, 2 of 4)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 8, 2021 51:27

    What if we lived in full light of God's eternal promises in Christ? What if we read the book of Revelation as the hope-filled source of joy that it is? And what if we understood the full past, present, and future richness to be lived out as a result of Christ's resurrection? Everything would change. Everything. In this episode we'll explore all of that and more. join us and be encouraged: this life is not the source of our hope, Christ is! Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    First Things (Priorities, 1 of 4)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 1, 2021 52:56

    "If you don’t prioritize your life, someone else will." As Christians, we have the clearest and most compelling reason to live life differently by design. Except, so many of us live just like everyone else: prioritizing this life and the things of this world over eternity and the things above. In this episode we'll kick off our series on priorities by looking at what the Bible says about "First Things" in the Christian life. We hope it helps and blesses you! Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Trust and Betrayal Q&A

    Play Episode Listen Later May 27, 2021 52:12

    Today is all about your questions! Listen in as we seek to address your questions on trust/betrayal biblically. We hope it blesses and helps you. Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Maintaining Trust After Rebuilding It

    Play Episode Listen Later May 25, 2021 49:51

    Over the past few weeks we've discussed what biblical trust looks like, what to do in the wake of broken trust, and how to get started on the path toward healing. Today we covered how to maintain trust in your marriage through four tangible steps: observe, inspect, assess, and maintain/repair. You'll have to listen for the details, since those words may not mean what you first think! We hope it blesses you. Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates. --- As promised in the episode, here's the list of "one-anothers" in Scripture. Enjoy! Accept One Another (Romans 15:7) Agree with One Another (1 Corinthians 1:10) Be Devoted to One Another (Romans 12:10) Be Humble Toward One Another (1 Peter 5:5) Be Kind and Compassionate to One Another (Ephesians 4:32) Be Patient with One Another (Ephesians 4:2) Build Up One Another (1 Thessalonians 5:11) Confess to One Another (James 5:16) Don’t Grumble Against One Another (James 5:9) Don’t Provoke One Another (Galatians 5:26) Do Not Slander One Another (James 4:11) Encourage One Another Daily (Hebrews 13:3) Equal Concern for One Another (1 Corinthians 12:25-27) Fellowship with One Another (1 John 1:7) Forgive One Another (Ephesians 4:32) Greet One Another (Romans 16:16) Honor One Another (Romans 5:10) Instruct One Another (Romans 15:14) Live in Harmony with One Another (Romans 12:16) Live in Peace with One Another (1 Thessalonians 5:13) Love One Another (John 13:34) Love One Another Deeply (1 Peter 1:22) Offer Hospitality to One Another (1 Peter 4:9) Pray for One Another (James 5:16) Serve One Another (Galatians 5:13) Spur One Another On (Hebrews 10:24) Stop Judging One Another (Romans 13:14) Submit to One Another (Ephesians 5:21)

    The Path to Rebuilding Broken Trust

    Play Episode Listen Later May 18, 2021 53:56

    The path toward repairing and rebuilding trust is neither easy to find nor quick to travel. Your heart hurts and your relationship seems like it will never be the same again. Could it be that God wants to use this difficult time to show you more of his mercy, goodness, and grace? Could it be, that this could make your marriage better than ever before? In this week's' episode we discuss ways to trust God while you rebuild trust with your spouse, and we outline tangible ways to set your feet on a path toward true, lasting healing after experiencing betrayal or broken trust. We pray it helps you. Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    The Moment Your Trust is Broken

    Play Episode Listen Later May 11, 2021 44:23

    Experiencing broken trust can leave you disoriented, in denial, or in a panic. The first key to stepping down the path toward healing is to get your bearings, look at God's Word, and take tangible steps of faith toward rebuke (not easy), repentance (must have), and reconciliation (worth it). In this week's episode we looked closely at God's model for reconciliation and shared candidly about some trust issues we've been working through recently. Thanks for joining us! Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    When Your Trust is Broken

    Play Episode Listen Later May 11, 2021 44:23

    Experiencing broken trust can leave you disoriented, in denial, or in a panic. The first key to stepping down the path toward healing is to get your bearings, look at God's Word, and take tangible steps of faith toward rebuke (not easy), repentance (must have), and reconciliation (worth it). In this week's episode we looked closely at God's model for reconciliation and shared candidly about some trust issues we've been working through recently. Thanks for joining us! Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Trust, Trustworthiness, and Betrayal

    Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2021 41:58

    Trust and betrayal are among the most important topics couples will face. Can you trust one another to... listen well, be supportive, handle your heart and vulnerability with care, remain faithful, love your children well, and help around the house (to name a few)? In this episode we start our series on trust, exploring what "Cruciform trust" looks like and why some versions of trust in marriage actually aren't biblical... you'll have to listen to get the full explanation! We hope it blesses you. Announcement! Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly! Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Boundaries Q&A

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 29, 2021 77:19

    We asked our listeners to submit questions about boundaries and the response was overwhelming. In this special release episode, we addressed many of those questions which centered around a few common themes: in-laws, opposite sex friendships, phones, and life as a married couple. We hope you find it helpful! Announcement! Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly! Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Boundaries and In-Laws

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 27, 2021 52:09

    This is a struggle every couple understands. How do we maintain healthy boundaries with relatives, especially when those relatives (though well-meaning oftentimes) are difficult to be around? How do we graciously communicate when boundaries have been breached? And what do we do to "hold the line" when they refuse to respect healthy boundaries? In this episode we dove deep into what the Bible has to say about family relationships and looked at ways we can love honor our parents (and other family members) without compromising our convictions or values in the process. Announcement! Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly! Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Boundaries and Sex

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 20, 2021 53:03

    Boundaries are an inherent part of every married couple's sex life. The question is, are your sexual boundaries clear? Are they communicated? And are they actively enforced? In today's episode we'll walk through two critical passages of Scripture that teach us about boundaries and discuss examples of how they can be applied in marital life. Enjoy! Announcement! Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and/or finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and those who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly! Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Boundaries and Your Children

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 13, 2021 60:30

    Children are awesome, but having kids at home (particularly young ones) can have some not-so-awesome effects on a marriage. Today is the second in our series on Boundaries, and we discuss how and what boundaries are necessary between you and your kids for the good of your union. It was a lively discussion and we hope it blesses you! HEY! Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is now open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and couples who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly! Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    All About Boundaries

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 6, 2021 50:04

    Boundaries are biblical. Boundaries are also intuitive: we all know we need them. Still, why do we feel that our boundaries in and around our marriage are constantly in flux or non-existent? In this episode we looked at three main reasons why we lack clear boundaries in marriage, and talked through some of the underlying principles that help us live with stronger boundaries in marriage. We hope it blesses you! Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is now open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and couples who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly! Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Identifying *and* Explaining How You Actually Feel

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 30, 2021 51:49

    Talking is a skill, and not everyone has it. In fact, most don't! This is usually a result of being obscured—or unseeable—to ourselves. A skilled communicator knows how to identify and explain how they feel, and that usually starts with knowing how to examine your own heart and mind. In this episode we talked through the biblical foundation for knowing yourself for the purpose of glorifying God and being more completely known by your spouse in marriage. Then, we talk through some very tangible tools to help you put words to your emotions so you can connect more deeply and fight alongside one another more effectively. We covered a lot of ground, so buckle in and enjoy! The specific resources mentioned in this episode are available on our website, FierceMarriage.com. Just search for this episode title there!

    The Art of Active Listening

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 23, 2021 50:37

    Most people rarely experience being *deeply* listened to; you can give your spouse that gift! Last week we talked about Selective Hearing, which is all about catching every drop of what your spouse communicates. This episode puts that conversation on steroids: learning how to seek out and gain insight into each other and internalize it in healthier ways. If you ACTIVELY listen to this episode, you'll hear us share three distinct incentives for learning and applying this valuable skill in your own marriage. :) Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is now open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and couples who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly! Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Dealing with Selective Hearing

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 16, 2021 51:32

    There are three types of selective hearing, all of which have the same result: poor communication. Today we talked through the common ways couples fall into selective hearing habits and cover tangible ways to break the habits in their relationship. We hope this episode helps you! Our new marriage learning project ~~Gospel Centered Marriage~~ is now open for enrollment! It's a great way to build a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. It's built for all couples—newlyweds, nearly weds, and couples who have been married for years. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being added to the enrichment library monthly! Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    How to Talk About Sex

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 9, 2021 60:57

    Every healthy married couple should not only prioritize sex but also communicating on the topic of sex. None would likely disagree (at least, not in most modern contexts), because what can a couple lose by talking about their sex life together? This a peculiar topic because it’s one area where we’ll heartily agree with the culture’s message: it’s right, good, and healthy to talk about sex in marriage! Where we do differ, however, has to do with why and how we believe couples should discuss their sex life. Our brand new marriage learning project, Gospel Centered Marriage is now LIVE. It's a great way to get a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being released monthly! Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Talking about talking

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 2, 2021 54:26

    Healthy communication is like breathing: you take it for granted until you can't do it. This week we're starting a series on communication by laying some groundwork and dissecting the Bible's most common verse about communication (hint, it's not actually about communication). Finally, we cover 5 basic habits every couple needs to talk and listen with greater skill and intentionality. We hope it blesses you! Our brand new marriage learning project, Gospel Centered Marriage is now LIVE. It's a great way to get a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being released monthly! Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Be Romantic or... Repent??

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 23, 2021 57:39

    What if someone told you that you needed to repent for a lack of romance in your marriage? You'd probably respond like us: bewildered, defensive, and with nervous laughter. In today's podcast episode we'll dig beneath the surface understanding of romance and talk about how how it's connected—in more ways than one—to the states of our hearts. It was a fun, challenging talk but our pain is your gain. Enjoy! Our brand new marriage learning project, Gospel Centered Marriage is now LIVE. It's a great way to get a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. New mini-courses are being released monthly! Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Out of the Dust (Chris and Stephanie Teague) (Replay)

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 16, 2021 62:04

    Chris and Stephanie lived the ideal romantic story. They were highschool sweethearts, they loved each other, and they shared a love and devotion for God. Everything changed when Chris lost his faith, left Stephanie, and filed for divorce. They thought they had reached the end of their story, but God had other plans. To learn more about Chris and Stephanie and Out of the Dust, visit outofthedustmusic.com. If their story has encouraged or helped you, you can support them by buying their album on iTunes or on their website (all info can be found on their website). Thanks for listening! Our brand new marriage learning project, Gospel Centered Marriage is now LIVE. It's a great way to get a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    5 Hurtful Phrases to Delete From Your Marriage Vocabulary

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 9, 2021 58:47

    It’s impossible to define everything everyone should or shouldn’t say in every situation. However, there are some phrases that are usually unhelpful for marriage. Join us as we explore each one! Our brand new marriage learning project, Gospel Centered Marriage is now LIVE. It's a great way to get a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    The 5 Biggest Obstacles to Transparency During Lockdown

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 2, 2021 74:26

    We're finding that even though couples are spending more time together than ever, they're still drifting apart. Physical closeness doesn't automatically beget emotional intimacy. In this special episode, we discussed the 5 most common reasons husbands and wives fail to be fully known by each other. This recording is from a special online event hosted by Impactus Ministries (Promise Keepers Canada). Visit Impactus.org to learn more. Our brand new marriage learning project, Gospel Centered Marriage is now LIVE. It's a great way to get a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. Visit GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    All About Attachment Styles

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 26, 2021 52:01

    Attachment styles are all about the way you interact the way you do, particularly around need, affection, and conflict. In this episode we talked through the four common attachment styles for relationships and, as usual, looked at Scripture to see how the gospel informs this area of marriage. We hope it blesses you! Our brand new marriage learning project, Gospel Centered Marriage is now LIVE. It's a great way to get a solid marriage foundation and finally get on the same page. Visit https://GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    What, exactly, is a gospel centered marriage?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 19, 2021 52:45

    If we're not careful, the word "gospel" can become cliche and ineffectual in our hearts, but as the people of God, we must never move beyond the miracle and outworkings of it! In this week's episode, we took a deep dive into what it means to be a truly gospel centered couple. And, as usual, we had some fun along the way! We hope the content we covered blesses and convicts you as it did us. As we mentioned, our brand new marriage learning project, Gospel Centered Marriage is now LIVE. It's a great way to start your year getting trained and on the same page. Visit https://GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    The Wonder of Contentment

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 12, 2021 43:57

    Like a virus, discontentment infects and sickens every healthy aspect life and marriage. It infects our affections, our views of each other, and our very trust in God. Author Nancy Wilson wrote, "Contentment is the result of spiritual strength that comes directly from Christ. Contentment is the ability to stay satisfied with God’s will in all circumstances, whether easy or difficult. Though it is simple to understand, it is certainly not easy to do." In this week's episode, we looked at the wonder of Christian contentment and explored practical ways to nurture attitudes of trust and gratefulness within marriage. We hope you leave this episode with an ambition to rejoice and love Christ wherever you're at. As we mentioned, our brand new marriage learning project, Gospel Centered Marriage is now LIVE. It's a great way to start your year getting trained and on the same page. Visit https://GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more. Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Rhythms > Resolutions

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 5, 2021 48:32

    Rhythms are on of God's graces in this life. Days, seasons, years—all have reliable, consistent, and predictable rhythms. How can we reflect God's faithfulness through our own? And how could our mundane rhythms be more powerful and productive than grand resolutions? In today's episode we discussed our misgivings and excitements around goal setting, and offered some biblical thoughts that (you guessed it) are contrary to those of our culture. Mentioned: Our brand new marriage learning project, Gospel Centered Marriage. It's a great way to start your year getting trained and on the same page. Visit https://GospelCenteredMarriage.com to learn more! Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Coming from a Divorced Home

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 29, 2020 54:48

    Divorce affects the majority of married couples today—some 75% of couples have one or both spouses who come from a divorced or blended family. This week we discussed a few of the unspoken but very common ways that divorce affects individuals and the marriages they occupy. Selena shared some of her personal experience and reflected on recent reading she's done on the subject. ALSO... we made a pretty fun announcement! You'll have to listen to find out... :) Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Lead Me (Matt Hammitt of Sanctus Real)

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 16, 2020 35:41

    Matt Hammitt had performed his hit song, “Lead Me,” almost a thousand times. And every time he sang, the lyrics echoed the voices of his own family. His marriage was strained. His kids were growing up without him. Matt’s good intentions could no longer sustain his family; he needed to be a man of action. Yet even as he told his Sanctus Real bandmates that he was leaving the band to invest in his family, he wondered: Was it really possible to be present at home and still provide financially too? Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    Are opposite-sex friendships appropriate?

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 8, 2020 46:56

    Many find themselves in one of two camps on this topic: "avoid opposite-sex friends like the plague" or "don't be a prude". We think there's a third way—one that's biblical and wise. In this episode, Ryan and Selena will discuss this controversial topic while sharing their own experiences and biblical understanding of how we “can have the wisdom to know and enjoy the blessing of friendship in a way that honors both our marriage and our brothers and sisters in Christ—while ultimately bringing glory to him.” Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

    5 Resources to Help Your Marriage (and a Frederick Family Update)

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 1, 2020 17:58

    Not going to lie, we've been going through it. So this week, we've opted to give our amazing listeners a Frederick family update and point you to some tangible resources to help your marriage. We hope it all makes sense, and we thank you for your patience, prayers, and support. Stay fierce! Here are the links to the episodes we mentioned: An Ethic of Protecting Your Family, Marriage, and Home (The Lovells): https://smarturl.it/fmpod-lovells Out of the Dust (The Teagues): https://smarturl.it/fmpod-teagues Burn the Ships: https://smarturl.it/fmpod-burntheships 5 Keys to a Healthy Perspective on Sex: https://fiercemarriage.com/5-keys-to-a-healthy-perspective-on-sex Are You Obviously Married in Public? https://fiercemarriage.com/are-you-obviously-married-in-public Thanks for listening! If you'd like to support this ministry, please visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage. Our monthly patrons get plenty of perks, including early episode releases, free books & ebooks, silicone wedding rings, and exclusive ministry updates.

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