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Are you an athlete who doesn't like mistakes, needs everything to be perfect, and is hyper-focused on outcomes like stats and scores? If this is you, you might struggle with perfectionism. But don't worry, you're in good company. Almost every girl athlete struggles with perfectionism on some level! In today's episode, we're talking about how perfectionism holds you back from achieving your goals, and how to move past it. How to Know If You're Dealing With PerfectionismIf you make a mistake, it really throws off your game and your mood.You're super focused on wins and losses, your stats, scores, percentages, etc. If you don't play perfectly, you feel like a failure.You're constantly worried about what others think.Most athletes struggle with perfectionism because the drive to be “perfect” actually exists to help us in a lot of ways. Striving to be perfect can motivate you, give you high standards for yourself, and drive you to be a better athlete. But it's the negative parts of perfectionism that we want to change. The bad side of perfectionism comes in the form of negative self-talk, feeling terrible about yourself, and being in a really bad mood after a mistake. In the long term, the negative side of perfectionism will hurt your performance and hold you back from your goals.Don't Be Scared to Make MistakesIn the process of learning, it's actually required that you make mistakes. Therefore, perfectionism is in conflict with you trying to achieve your goals.The athletes that go the furthest and do the most aren't perfect athletes. Instead, they're the athletes that go outside their comfort zone, make mistakes, and see their mistakes as learning opportunities. It's a requirement to make mistakes in the process of learning, because we learn so much from the mistakes we make.How to Overcome PerfectionismPerfectionism is not all of you, but instead, it's only one part of you.We experience the drive to be “perfect” in some situations more than others. Think of perfectionism as a little “voice” inside your head. Ask yourself, when is this voice the loudest?Homework:Think of all the moments you experience where the voice of perfectionism inside your head is the loudest. Is it when you're training? Competing? After the game? Specifically identify when you hear the voice the most.In those moments, think about this voice being a person inside of you, and practice telling them, “I see you, thank you for being here to help me, but you can quiet down now. I've got this.”**********Helpful Links:Visit our podcast website for more on this episode.Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoThe BEST way to help us spread the word and get this information into the hands of millions of parents, coaches, and female athletes is by leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts. Thank you in advance for joining us on our mission.
Homework: Think about the men and women of history… we tend to put ourselves in a different category… but think of what they did and it might connect to a next step for you.
We push the What to Charge series one level further with the Journeyman level of charging for your reading, being a Journeyman. What does this mean? Well, at this level, you're 3 years or more off book and should be charging between $50-$100 depending on where you live. This level is about experimentation with your readings or learning what works, including dropping prices. It's also about looking deeper at the cards or finding your niche in this niche market. At this point, you have confidence as a reader and now look at what you do as a real business dealing with all the areas a real business takes. Homework: Think about your brand/career and who you are as a reader. People we mentioned Pamela Chen https://www.magicalpam.com Do you like what you're hearing? Send feedback to us at cardslingerscc@gmail.com. Follow us on Twitter at https://twitter.com/cardslingerscc and now on Instagram at www.instagram.com/cardslingerscc. Reminder, we would NEVER DM YOU for a reading on any social media site. We schedule all readings and conversations through our personal websites.
Key Points: We must have the faith of little children, in the sense that little children instinctively know they must depend on others, just as we must depend on and trust God. Do an examination of conscience-Who have I been a bad example to recently? Go to Confession if necessary. Jesus would have died for you if you were the only person on earth! He loves you that much!! Mt 18:17-20 is another example of how Jesus intended that there be ONE authoritative Church. We must forgive others principally because God has forgiven us. (We don't DESERVE forgiveness, and sometimes the person that offends us doesn't DESERVE our forgiveness either. But, we must!) Homework: Think of someone that you hold a grudge against, pray for them each day for a week, and forgive them, at least in your own heart. Let it go!(Depending on circumstances, you may or may not decide to communicate with the person directly— if there has been physical abuse towards you in the past, as an example.) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/catholicbiblestudy/support
Rewind to a time in your past that was full of hurt, pain, wounding. Release, if you can, any feelings of shame and grief. As hard as it may be to believe; there is more to be found in your past wounding.In this episode of “Becoming Whole,” Josh and Kit explore the practice of rewinding to reveal the glory waiting in the wounding. This is not a practice of glossing over our pasts looking for the positives. We are loved by a God of redemption who has, yes, written glory even in your wounding. We hope you’ll accept this as an invitation to begin exploring the glory that is yours to claim, to take notice of the elements you never noticed before. Satan wants you to stay stuck, to be lost in rejection and shame. But God is waiting to give you more through the little version of you who endured so much. That version of you, who was hurt so long ago, deserves another look back to discover the way forward in healing and strength and God-given glory.Highlights:We’re opening ourselves to the glory that was ours in our past including in our wound stories.We need to see the glory and the strength of who we are, who we were, even in those moments.God is present in all the good and the negative. And the enemy wants us just to focus on, even in our healing, he wants us to focus on just the bad things that happened.Homework:Think back to a painful memory: What was the enemy going after in that moment? What does it say about you that you were able to endure all you walked through?Consider the story of The Woman at the well John 4:1-42. Who was the woman? What was her sin? How must she have felt getting water everyday apart from everyone else? Why would Jesus choose her? What did Jesus see in her? Where was the glory in her story?Extras:Find Jay Stringer OnlineTranscription:Full Transcription Available hereOriginal music by Shannon Smith. Audio engineering by Gabriel @ DelMar Sound Recording.Support Becoming Whole
Research from the Adverse Childhood Experiences Study demonstrates that the true causes of diabetes, cancer, heart disease, and other chronic diseases may be related to your childhood. Getting thin(ner) won't fix your childhood experiences. But healing from these experiences can give you help with food addiction, freedom from emotional eating and less food obsessions from food addiction. HOMEWORK: Think of how much of your time and energy you spend on thoughts about your body, negative self-talk, self -judgment, body hatred. Now think of what you could do with that time and energy if you no longer obsessed about your food and body image issues. Mentioned on the show: (links) Poodle Science Video: https://youtu.be/H89QQfXtc-k Schedule free Anchor Program consult: https://findingyouranchor.as.me/consult
Committing to a regular exercise routine can be daunting if exercise isn’t something you’ve prioritized your whole life. You might feel like you cannot stick to any routines you set. I’m here today to tell you that you can. The Chief Complaint: I Cannot Stick to an Exercise Routine Did you exercise when you were a child? Teen? Young Adult? If you didn’t have any kind of regular movement during these formative years, it’s probably difficult for you to set and stick to a routine now. But that doesn’t mean you can’t. In fact, I encourage you to think about why you exercise. If your sole reason for working out is to look good, I can nearly guarantee you’re not going to stick to it. Instead, try approaching exercise from a health point of view. Exercise is vital for our body’s longevity and health. It’s important for you. Please, ladies, don’t ignore the role exercise has in your life. Think again about why you exercise: it’s that ‘why’ that you need to focus on. Once you’ve figured out why you’re working out, you can set realistic expectations for yourself. I want you to create an exercise action plan. What does that look like for you? It could be as little as committing to exercise three times a week for ten minutes. However you approach your new plan, make sure it’s something manageable that you know you can do each week. When you settle into your new routine, you’ll start to see how your body feels - notice I didn’t say looks! Exercise improves our health and our body’s functions. I guarantee that you’ll start to notice these changes and more after your workouts! Homework Think about why you exercise. Was exercise an important part of childhood for you? Is exercise something you can commit to doing? What makes you excited to get out for a walk? Let me know in the comments on the episode page how that was for you! In This Episode Your unconscious thoughts about exercise started in your early years What happens when we approach exercise from a health point of view How to create an exercise action plan What exercise can do for our health and our function How to set realistic expectations based on your why What happens after a workout Quotes “[Exercise] is very necessary for your health. I’m pulling out the card today to tell you that exercise is important for you. Please don’t ignore it.” (7:10) “If you’re not getting a certain result, it’s because the thought you’re having to get you to that result is not the right thought.” (11:58) “I’d rather you have the honest conversation and say, ‘I have the tools and resources, I know I could take action, but I’m not ready to take action.’ Because if you’re in that space, the best thing you can do for yourself is just giving yourself compassion and acceptance.” (21:46) “Exercise doesn’t have to be to change your body. Exercise can be something that brings peace in your life, it makes you feel connected.” (27:05) Resources Mentioned Learn how to Become Brave Enough to Love Yourself - Use Promo Code BE100 for $100 off Join the Waitlist for the Life Coaching Society! Which Body Type are You? Find out with this free quiz! Find Life Coaching for Women Physicians Online Follow Dr. Ali Novitsky on Facebook | Instagram Subscribe to Life Coaching for Women Physicians on Apple Podcasts Podcast production by the team at Counterweight Creative
Homework: Think of one goal you have and take 10 minutes to break it down into smaller chunks!A lot of times, when people are learning something new, they feel, "Oh, I have to learn this fast and my manager's counting on me to learn this," and everything's super stressful. As software engineers, we continually have to learn new things, and carrying that stress is tough on our mental health, so we must learn how to mitigate it. Don't worry about being an expert. Try to be okay with being a beginner at something. You shouldn't expect more than that from yourself when you start learning something new.It's essential to break your goal down into multiple steps so that it's not this vast, daunting leap that you have to take. Smaller steps of minor discomfort are a lot easier to cope with.Transcript"Eve Porcello Chats With Kent About Sustainably Expanding Skills" TranscriptResourcesReact Rally 2018: Everything You Need to Know About GraphQL in 3 Components; Eve ProcelloMoon HighwayEve PorcelloTwitterGithubDev.toMediumLinkedInegghead.ioKent C. DoddsWebsiteTwitterGithubYoutubeTesting JavaScript
Bubble baths and spa visits are nice, but let's talk about caring for the heart and soul. In this episode, Miss Jaye is giving it to you straight, no chaser. She talks about her journey in forgiving both her parents for the hurt and pain they caused in her life and gives us the spiritual kick we need to remember that forgiving is not optional, it's an order from God. Plus, how can we truly adult successfully is we don't take care of ourselves FIRST? Teachable Moment: Don't define who you are by how you feel. Feelings lie. Check out Bishop T.D. Jakes' "I Didn't Know I Was Me" for the full teachable moment. Homework: Think about who you need to forgive, and forgive them. Completely and truly, for YOU! Resources: "Crazy Faith" series by Pastor Mike Todd "Release" series by Pastor Mike Todd Show and Tell: Goddessess Beauty Supply, owned by De'Angela Threatt. Facebook: Goddessess Beauty Supply Instagram: Goddessess Beauty Supply
In this episode we discuss how you can get smarter in a complex and complicated world. How do you deal with confusing and difficult situations? How do you work through some of your life’s most complex problems? In a world of accelerating change, how do you accelerate the quest for wisdom and creativity? We share simple, powerful, solutions you can use to handle complexity in this interview with our guests David Komlos and David Benjamin.David Komlos and David Benjamin - they are the CEO and CTO respectively of the company Syntegrity. Mr. Komlos is an expert coach for leaders on solving their issues. He advises top leaders and enterprises on how to dramatically accelerate solutions and execution on their defining challenges. Mr. Benjamin leads Syntegrity’s lab and client delivery organization. He has been recognized internationally for his work on global strategic planning with top executives in Fortune 500 companies.What is complexity? Why is it so important to be able to handle complexity in today’s world?How is complex different than complicated? Experts can help solve complicated challenges, but not necessarily complex challenges Complex challenges are multi-dimensional and human.What are some basic mental models for sorting complex challenges vs complicated challenges?Ask yourself:Has this been solved before? And how was it solved? Would this problem have been the same 5 years ago or 5 years from now?Complex challenges don’t have a recipe or a discreet playbook to be solvedPlanning a wedding is complicated, having a happy marriage is complex Building a fence is complicated, being a good neighbor is complex The Law of Requisite Variety / Ashby’s Law "Only variety can destroy variety"You can only solve complex challenges by bringing an equal amount of variety to a challenge When we are facing tough complex challenges - we need a variety of experience and expertise “A Lion In Your Office"Often a BIG chunk of the challenge is just SEEING the problem in its entirety An ounce of information is worth a pound of data. An ounce of knowledge is worth a pound of information. An ounce of understanding is worth a pound of knowledge. An ounce of wisdom is worth a pound of understanding. Shared understanding is essential - but we often rush to action before we get there We need FAST Wisdom and CREATIVE Judgement to solve our biggest challenges in today’s world - but wisdom takes a lifetime How do you accelerate the quest for wisdom and solve the world’s toughest and most complex challenges?Complexity is the defining challenge we face in todays’ worldHow do you engineer Fast Wisdom?The framework you can use to engineer “fast wisdom” and solve tough, complex challenges N*N-1 Mental Model and how to create “collaborative collisions” The ideal number of a group of people to work in a group is 5-8 people - you can have very creative and effective collisions How you can create groups to crunch through tough, complex challenges - by using this specific formulaObserversCriticsMembersHow do you ask good questions when looking to solve tough challenges?Homework: Think about a dinner party. What question will guide the conversation in the right way? Who would you invite to create variety? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode we discuss several seemingly good ideas that are actually quite dangerous. We start with a look at how the immune system can teach us about the vital importance of being “anti-fragile.” We look at lessons from ancient cultural traditions all the way up to modern psychology research to peel back the layers of our current social dialogue and look at many notions that have permeated our current thinking. What are the best ways to promote growth and development? How can we help heal people who have suffered from trauma? How can we create a framework that allows for our society to seek the truth and solve our toughest challenges? We take a hard look at the answers to these questions and much more with our guest Dr. Jonathan Haidt. Dr. Jonathan Haidt is a social psychologist and professor of ethical leadership at New York University’s Stern School of Business. He is the author of multiple books including most recently The Coddling of The American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas are Setting Up a Generation for Failure. He is also the author of over 90 academic articles and his work has been featured across the globe.What can the immune system teach us about vital importance of anti-fragility?The reason peanut allergies are rising is because America started protecting kids from peanuts in the early 90sKids need to get sick and be exposed to dirt and germs so that they can be healthier - that’s the cornerstone of the immune systemComfort zones are most often expanded through discomfort - we must be uncomfortable to growOur extreme culture of overprotection has really harmed childrenYou don’t grow in a threatening world - you hunker down and get defensiveChildren need to be in the zone of exploration and excitementWhat happens when students themselves ask for protection from ideas and think that ideas will traumatize them?A desire to protect those who are emotionally fragile is wrong - exposure is how you solve fear and emotional fragilityIf the goal is actually to help people - the entire culture of safetyism - that people are fragile and need to be protected - is directly opposed to the scientific research around what actually helps peopleAre the phenomena of Safe space, trigger warnings, micro aggressions and the morality of “safetyism” that arose in the last few years healthy for individuals and society?If you goal is healing trauma and helping people improve - embracing discomfort is the best solutionIf your goal is to seek truth - then you must expose yourself to ideas you disagree with and have others challenge your ideas as well If you goal is ideological victory then you try to silence your opponents ideas If people don’t share ideas because they’re afraid of being attacked - then the entire goal of truth seeking cannot be achieved. Today people are afraid of speaking up and afraid of challenging many ideasThis is a pragmatic argument - its not moral or political - and yet the dialogue today prevents the discussion of truth from even happeningThe “Chicago Principles” for freedom of thinking - an open platform to speak, discuss, and debate ideas - so that you can make your case with evidence and good arguments. If you don’t have diversity of ideas when you’re searching for truth you often come to erroneous conclusions. When we lose viewpoint diversity the science itself is at risk. If you don’t have diversity you’re likely to have bad thinking. Homework: Spread these ideas to others.Homework: Think about the context and system you can to improve and think about how these principles can be appleid to keep healthy debate and productive disagreement Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
What’s on Ms. Jeffries’s Desk: Joy on Demand by Chade-Meng Tan The Four Spiritual Laws of Prosperity by Edwene Gaines You2 by Price Pritchett The Courage to Teach by Parker J Palmer In this episode, I discuss the connection between Becoming a Joyful Teacher and how we show up in the classroom. I also reflect on the journey to stepping more fully into my power as an educator, black woman, mother, military spouse, and joyful person. Homework: Think about who you are as a person and how you would like to show up in your life. To take your learning further check out the Creating Calm Classrooms - Kick the Chaos Blueprint training at: http://www.laqueshiajeffries.com/training. To schedule a Discovery Call to learn how I can support you in Becoming a Joyful Teacher email me at: support@laqueshiajeffries.com. Connect with me! Becoming a Joyful Teacher Group http://www.facebook.com/groups/BecomingaJoyfulTeacher Twitter http://www.twitter.com/MsJeffriesDesk Facebook http://www.facebook.com/MsJeffriesDesk Thank you for Rating, Sharing, and Reviewing!
Scripture: Esther 9:1-32 Homework: Think about how you think about justice. When that gets challenging or frustrating, practice Givin' It Up through prayer. Have a great week!