The Elite Competitor - A Podcast for Moms & Coaches

Trying to make varsity next season? Want coaches to actually notice you this summer?In this episode, I'm breaking down what high-performing athletes are really doing in the off-season to level up, based on what I've seen work as a 4x state championship coach. And no, it's not just about showing up to practice. Hint: it's more than just showing up to practice.We're breaking down 4 simple but powerful ways you can stand out this summer (without burning out).Plus, a quick story about a softball player who gained confidence, leveled up her game, and got noticed, all from doing one thing differently.Here's what you'll get:

Struggling to help your athletes eat better without crossing boundaries? Here's a simple way to support their nutrition and boost performance! Grab more coaching tips → https://coachfreetraining.com Coaches, you don't need to be a nutrition expert to make a huge difference in your athletes' performance. In this video, I'm joined by sports nutritionist Amy Dirks, who's breaking down how to help your athletes fuel their bodies for better energy, recovery, and focus—without micromanaging every bite. Whether it's post-practice snacks or educating parents on healthier options, we've got you covered. In this session, you'll learn: ✔️ How to guide athletes in making better food choices ✔️ Simple snack ideas that work for busy athletes ✔️ How to incorporate healthy habits into your coaching without overstepping ✔️ How fueling impacts both physical AND mental performance 

“Why is my daughter starving an hour after practice?”“How do I teach her to cook when we're always rushing to games?”“What should she actually be eating to perform her best?”If these questions sound familiar, you're in the right place. This episode is your game plan for turning food from an afterthought into your athlete's secret weapon, while teaching her life skills that go way beyond the kitchen.What You'll Learn:

Are you feeling the pressure to have your daughter specialize in one sport or position too early? You're not alone. In this powerful episode, I sit down with Carrie Dever Boaz – a D1 softball coach, sports parenting expert, and leader at Extra Inning Softball – to unpack the truth about early specialization and how to navigate it without sacrificing your child's love for the game.What You'll Learn:✅ The hidden risks of early specialization. Why pushing kids into one sport too soon can backfire.✅ When (and if!) specialization actually makes sense. Carrie's surprising take on the right age.✅ High school vs. travel ball. Why BOTH experiences matter more than you think.✅ How to handle pressure from coaches, without becoming "that parent".✅ The power of failure. Why letting your athlete struggle is the best thing you can do.✅ Real talk on burnout and how to know if it's time to push through or walk away.✅ Carrie's top parenting advice and what she wishes she knew sooner about raising athletes.

Athletes, does your brain ever hijack you with “What if I choke?” or “What if I let everyone down?” before a big moment? This episode is your playbook to crush those mental spirals and unlock your confidence. Let's GO.What's Covered✅ Why your brain LOVES negativity (and how to rewire it).✅ The #1 exercise to flip fear into fuel (spoiler: all you need is a pen!).✅ Why worst-case scenarios are WAY less likely than you think.✅ How to create a “positive snowball effect” (hint: focus is everything).✅ Real-life proof: Hear how athlete Isabelle smashed her mental blocks and scored 6 personal bests in one competition.Ready to ditch the overthinking and play with fearless focus? Tap into the full episode for my step-by-step strategy – plus the exact phrases to say to yourself when your brain starts spiraling. Hit play now and let's get you out of your head and into your greatness.P.S. Share this with a teammate who needs it!

Mental blocks are frustrating, for both you and your athlete. She has the skill. She's done it before. But now? She's hesitating, freezing, or shutting down. If you've ever thought, “Just do it!” but your daughter can't seem to push past it, this episode is for you. I'm breaking down what's really happening in her brain, and sharing 3 tools you can use today to help her move forward. Here's what you'll learn in this episode:✅ What a mental block actually is and what it's not.✅ The role of fear and pressure in holding your daughter back.✅ How to tell the difference between a slump and a block.✅ The power of normalizing her experience (and what not to say).✅ How to build a “bridge” instead of pushing for a leap.✅ A real story from a mom who saw her daughter come out stronger on the other side.✅ My go-to mental training strategies inside Elite Mental Game.

Replay of our live Q&A today where I also interviewed EMG parents!We covered:-Why these parents joined EMG in the first place (everything from experiencing nerves before games, new sports teams, and lacking confidence)-Biggest wins they've noticed since joining-Favorite parts of the program (ease of use, coach on call texting, live calls, & simple tools!)-How to bring up the "mental game" without causing her to shut downThe What to Say Challenge Discount on EMG expires today at 11pm ET!Grab 50% off the program + bonuses here

Does your partner think mindset work is “extra” or “unnecessary”?You're all in. You see how much confidence coaching helps your daughter and you're ready to invest in her growth. But your partner? Not so sure. Maybe they think she's too young. Maybe they see it as just another expense. Maybe they just don't get it.In this episode, I'm walking you through how to handle it when your partner's not on the same page – and how to keep showing up anyway.Here's what we talk about:✅ Why mindset work isn't just another “nice-to-have”✅ How to talk to a skeptical partner (without starting a fight)✅ Real-life stories that help it all make sense✅ The difference mental training makes beyond sports✅ How moms often carry the emotional load and what to do with that✅ Why waiting for a crisis isn't the move✅ What to say when your spouse just doesn't see the value (yet)✅ Encouragement if you're doing this solo (you're not alone)✅ Simple next steps you can take right now

Hey athletes, have you ever walked off the field/court after playing a “should-be-easy” game feeling frustrated with YOURSELF? You didn't lose... but you didn't play like YOU either.This episode is your wake-up call. I'm breaking down:✅ The #1 mistake athletes make (that turns you into a “rollercoaster player”)✅ How to set UNBREAKABLE standards (so you dominate EVERY game)✅ Why the scoreboard LIES (and what to focus on instead)✅ Pro mindset tricks (used by Olympians and D1 athletes)✅ The 30-second brain hack that makes sloppy play IMPOSSIBLE

What if the secret to your daughter's confidence isn't more practice… but a mental game shift?Two sports moms (one with a 9-year-old gymnast, another with a 12-year-old softball catcher) spill exactly how they transformed meltdowns into comebacks and rebuilt their own parenting playbooks along the way.

This is a replay of the recent training we hosted for Sports Moms "The Do's and Don'ts of Strengthening Your Athlete's Mental Game"! Spring enrollment special (50% off the program + bonuses) expires Friday, April 4th! Grab the program with the discount hereShe's talented, she's dedicated, but something's holding her back… and it's not her skills. If you've ever watched your daughter struggle with confidence, perfectionism, or bouncing back from mistakes on the field, this episode is for you. As a parent, it's heartbreaking to see your girl spiral after a setback, or hear her talk herself down after a game. You've told her she's good enough, she's strong enough, but how can you actually help her believe it?This episode will give you the tools to help her break free from self-doubt and start playing with the confidence she deserves!Here's what we cover in this episode:How to help your athlete bounce back from mistakes using the “Bounce Back in a Snap” method.Why perfectionism is holding her back, and how to help her release the pressure.The power of flipping negative self-talk into productive, confidence-building thoughts.Real-life Q&A with sports moms like you, plus expert advice.A special, limited-time offer for the Elite Mental Game program that's designed to quickly strengthen your daughter's mental game and confidence.Don't wait – this episode is only up for 48 hours! Listen now to learn how you can support your athlete's mental game, and unlock a 50% discount on the Elite Mental Game program before the offer ends this Friday, January 31st!Listen to the full episode now and empower your girl to play with confidence – both in sports and in life.Episode Highlights: [00:00] Raising Confident and Mentally Strong Girl Athletes. This is a 48-hour special, featuring a live training session on strengthening an athlete's mental game.[03:20] Common Challenges Faced by Athletes. Discussing the common concerns of parents about their daughters' handling of sports and life challenges.[05:14] Misconceptions About Building Confidence. Debunking common misconceptions about building confidence in athletes, such as relying on coaches or expecting confidence to develop naturally.[07:56] The Unstoppable Athlete Method. Introducing the Unstoppable Athlete Method, a solution used to coach high school volleyball teams.[10:38] Bounce Back in a Snap. The Bounce Back in a Snap method, which helps athletes recover from mistakes quickly.[23:05] Releasing the Pressure Athletes Feel. Discussing the pressure athletes feel, including perfectionism, comparison, and pregame anxiety and understanding the concept of noticing and shifting thoughts to release the pressure.[34:13] Flipping Negative Mindset. The challenge of athletes turning positive feedback into negative self-talk. Understanding negativity bias and the importance of self-trust in building confidence.[42:40] The Role of Parents in Mental Training. The importance of parents in shaping their children's environment and providing opportunities for mental training. And tips for parents to improve their own self-talk and support their children's mental training.[42:50] The Elite Mental Game Program. Introducing the Elite Mental Game program, a self-paced mental training system for girl athletes.[01:08:27] Live Support and Bonuses. Introducing the live support and bonuses included in the Elite Mental Game program.[01:08:07] Enrollment and Special Offers. Details on how to enroll in the Elite Mental Game program, including the enrollment checkout process. Grab the Spring Enrollment Discount + Bonuses on EMG until April 4th here!

What if I told you there's one thing that can instantly boost your performance, skyrocket your confidence, and make every practice count? Spoiler: it's simpler than you think. In this episode, I dive into the game-changing power of setting intentions and how it can transform your athletic journey. Whether you're on the field, court, or track, this tip will help you get the most out of every moment. Ready to level up? Let's go!What's Covered in This EpisodeThe secret to maximizing your performance (hint: it's all about setting intentions).Why simply showing up to practice isn't enough and how to take control of your growth.A heartfelt shoutout to Alyssia and her daughters, who are crushing it with goal-setting in our Elite Mental Game program.The SMART Goals framework broken down: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Time-Oriented.How setting goals builds confidence and keeps you focused during practices and games.Practical tips to make goal-setting a habit (yes, it's easier than you think!).Why defining success through goals is the key to tracking progress and staying motivated.Your step-by-step action plan to start setting intentions like a pro.If you've ever felt like you're putting in the work but not seeing the results, this episode is for you. I share actionable strategies to help you take ownership of your performance, build unshakable confidence, and make every practice count. Whether you're a seasoned athlete or just starting out, this tip will change the way you approach your sport and your life.Don't just show up, level up. Hit play now to learn the one thing that can take your performance to the next level. Trust me, you don't want to miss this. Let's goEpisode Highlights: [00:00:00] Let's Get Started. What if I told you there's one thing that can instantly boost your performance, skyrocket your confidence, and make every practice count? Spoiler: it's simpler than you think.[00:00:23] The Power of Goals. In this episode, we're talking about why setting goals is the secret sauce to making your practices and games count. Trust me, this is a game-changer.[00:00:45] A Shoutout to Champions. Huge love to Alyssia and her daughters for absolutely crushing it with goal-setting in our Elite Mental Game program. Their progress is inspiring![00:01:33] Why Intentions Matter. Here's the truth. Without setting intentions, you risk showing up to practice and wasting time. Let's take control and make every moment count.[00:02:23] The SMART Goals Blueprint. I'm breaking down the SMART Goals framework, your ultimate guide to setting goals that actually work. Get ready to level up![00:04:19] Keep It Real. Your goals need to be realistic and achievable. Don't set yourself up for frustration, set yourself up for success.[00:05:28] Make It a Habit. Here's how to make goal-setting stick. Write it down, reflect after practice, and stay consistent. You've got this![00:06:37] Confidence Starts Here. Goal-setting builds confidence. Every small win proves you're capable of big things. Let's get those wins rolling![00:07:27] Define Your Success. Goals help you know if you're improving. And if you don't hit your goal? No worries, it's all part of the journey.[00:08:30] Your Action Plan. Set SMART goals, hold yourself accountable, and reflect after every practice or game. Let's make progress happen![00:08:53] Let's Keep Going. Thanks for tuning in! Share this with a teammate or coach, and let's keep raising elite competitors together. See you next time!Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as&

Heartbreaking. Frustrating. Overwhelming.Watching your athlete get cut from a team is one of the hardest things a sports parent can go through. You want to fix it, to make the pain go away, but you don't know how. What do you say? What do you do? And how do you help them bounce back stronger than ever?This episode is inspired by a listener's heartfelt question: “How do I help my daughter after she got cut?” I'll walk you through actionable steps, share inspiring stories, and offer mindset shifts to help your athlete turn this setback into a powerful comeback.What We Cover in This EpisodeWhy getting cut doesn't define your athlete (and how it can actually be a launching pad for growth).A powerful story of an athlete who turned disappointment into triumph – and what you can learn from her journey.Step 1: Give them space to feel. Why rushing to “fix it” can backfire, and how to be their safe space instead.What NOT to do (hint: confronting the coach is a big no-no).Step 2: Reframe the narrative. How to help your athlete shift from victimhood to empowerment.Step 3: Build a comeback plan. Practical steps to help your athlete focus on what's within their control.The role of mental training in building resilience, confidence, and a growth mindset.Encouragement for you; because this is tough for parents, too.If your athlete has been cut, rejected, or feels like they're not good enough, this episode is for you. I'm not just here to offer advice; I'm here to give you a roadmap to help your athlete bounce back stronger, more confident, and ready to take on the next challenge. This isn't the end of their story. It's the start of their comeback.Click play now to get the tools, strategies, and encouragement you need to help your athlete turn this setback into their greatest opportunity yet.Episode Highlights: [00:00:00] The Heartbreak of Rejection. Addressing the tough situation of an athlete getting cut or rejected from a team. This episode is for parents dealing with this challenge right now.[00:01:06] Inspiration from Other Athletes. Reminder that even great athletes like Michael Jordan have experienced being cut. It's not the end of the world and can be a launching pad for growth.[00:01:52] A Success Story. Sharing a success story from a parent in the Elite Mental Game program, highlighting how her daughter turned disappointment into motivation and success.[00:04:00] Step 1: Emotional Space. Give your athlete space to feel and process their emotions. Avoid rushing to fix the situation or pushing a “bright side” message too soon.[00:05:25] Parental Intervention Warning. Caution against parents intervening with coaches. Instead, encourage your athlete to advocate for herself if she has questions.[00:06:25] Step 2: Narrative Shift. Reframe the narrative. Help your athlete see this as a learning opportunity and not a defining moment of her worth as an athlete.[00:08:37] Step 3: Comeback Strategy. Build a comeback plan. Help your athlete identify what's in her control and explore options for moving forward.[00:09:47] Mental Game Importance. Emphasize the importance of mental game training alongside physical skills development.[00:11:00] Recap and Encouragement. Recap of the three main steps: Be a safe space for processing emotions, reframe the narrative, and build a comeback plan.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on

Is your daughter's mindset getting in the way of her athletic dreams? Learn how to introduce mental training without the eye-rolls and resistance!In this episode of Raising Elite Competitors, I'm sharing practical strategies to help your athlete daughter embrace mental training - without you coming across as pushy or critical.Here's what we're covering:Why most coaches overlook crucial mental skills (and how you can bridge this gap)The real difference between good athletes and great ones (it's not what you think!)3 effective ways to get your daughter interested in mindset trainingA quick, fun quiz that will pique your daughter's curiosity about mental trainingSuccess stories from athletes who were skeptical at first but now swear by mental trainingDon't miss these game-changing tips! Listen to the full episode now and help your daughter gain a competitive edge in her sport. Your future college athlete will thank you!Grab our Conversation Guide What's Your Competitor Style QuizEpisode Highlights: [00:00:00] Introduction to the topic of helping daughters work on their mindset without nagging.[00:00:36] Explanation of the podcast's purpose: helping sports moms raise confident, mentally strong girl athletes.[00:00:55] Discussion on the importance of mental training for athletes to deal with common challenges like nerves and pressure.[00:01:46] Sharing of a success story: testimonial from Sheridan, an athlete who found success with the Elite Mental Game program.[00:03:00] Strategy 1: Showing that mental training is what the best athletes do, using examples of professional and college athletes.[00:06:13] Strategy 2: Connecting mental training to the athlete's personal goals and aspirations in their sport.[00:08:30] Strategy 3: Starting small with quick wins, introducing the “What's Your Competitor Style” quiz as an engaging entry point.[00:11:34] Information about the Elite Mental Game program, including a discount for podcast listeners and how the program helps with athlete buy-in.[00:12:35] Recap of the three strategies discussed: showing that the best athletes use mental training, connecting it to her goals, and starting small with quick wins.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

Ever wondered how to turn your passion for sports into a lucrative career? In this episode, I reveal how I went from a struggling volleyball coach to making $4,000 in one night as a mental performance coach. If you've ever dreamed of impacting athletes' lives while creating the lifestyle you've always wanted, this is the episode you can't afford to miss!Join me and Lindsey Wilson, founder of the Mindset Coach Academy, as we explore:The critical element missing from my coaching toolkitCreative ways to fund your certification without breaking the bankConquering fears and landing your first clientsEvolving from local coach to online course creatorNavigating the rollercoaster of entrepreneurshipHow this career shift reshaped my identity as a mom and womanThe untapped potential in the mental performance coaching fieldI'll share the exact steps I took to kickstart my business, even with zero prior experience!Curious if mental performance coaching could be your calling? This episode is your gateway to a potential new career. Listen now and discover the path to turning your passion into profit.Join Lindsey and Coach Bre for: Launch Your Career as a Mental Performance Coach in 2025 March 12th, 12pm PST. Register for free here!Episode Highlights: [00:01:00] Lindsey Wilson's BackgroundLindsey Wilson, founder of Positive Performance and the Mindset Coach Academy, created the certification program I completed to become a mental performance coach.[00:03:00] The Need for Mental Performance CoachingA listener recently told me how much my work has impacted them, which just reinforces how important this field is. If you see a need for mental performance coaching in your community, this might be your calling.[00:05:00] Lindsey's MissionLindsey shares why she's so passionate about mental performance coaching, tracing it back to her own experience as a professional athlete who benefited from mental training at a young age.[00:09:00] Entrepreneurial SparkAt first, I was focused on helping my athletes, but the more I learned, the more I realized this could be a business. I wanted more flexibility and saw an opportunity to make a real impact.[00:14:00] Choosing Certification Over a DegreeI share why I chose Lindsey's certification program instead of going the sports psychology degree route. For me, it came down to practicality, affordability, and being able to start coaching right away.[00:19:00] Finding the Money to InvestI had to get creative when it came to paying for my certification. I used professional development funds, opened a credit card, and figured out a way to make it happen.[00:25:00] Overcoming Imposter SyndromeLike a lot of new coaches, I struggled with imposter syndrome at first. But over time, I built confidence in my ability to help athletes through mental performance coaching.[00:30:00] Moving to Online CoursesI share how I transitioned from in-person coaching to launching an online course, which eventually became my Elite Mental Game program.[00:34:00] Taking the First StepIf you're thinking about becoming a mental performance coach, start exploring. Join the webinar, check out free resources, and take that first step.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to StrengthIf you're a COACH, join us next week for the Secrets of a Championship Program Bootcamp happening March 3-6th! Register (Free) here-> https://elitecompetitor.com/bootcamp-live Grab your exclusive Elite Mental Game discount for being a podcast listener here!

Feel like you're doing all the work but still getting overlooked? Watching teammates get opportunities you know you've earned? It's frustrating, but you don't have to stay stuck. In this episode, Coach Bre breaks down exactly how to handle it so you can take back control, improve your game, and get noticed for the right reasons.Inside this episode: ✅ The #1 mindset shift that stops frustration in its tracks ✅ How to focus on what you can control (and why it matters) ✅ The right way to talk to your coach without sounding like you're complaining ✅ How to turn this situation into fuel instead of a roadblock ✅ The key to making yourself impossible to ignoreThe best athletes don't let setbacks stop them; they use them to get better. Don't miss this episode! Hit play now and take back control.Episode Highlights: [00:00:00] Introduction. Feel like you're putting in the work but not getting the opportunities? In this episode, you'll learn three key strategies to help you take back control and continue growing as an athlete.[00:01:00] Focus on What You Can Control. You can't control your coach's decisions, but you can control your effort, attitude, and response. Shifting your focus to what's in your control will help you grow rather than stay stuck in frustration.[00:02:00] Avoid the Victim Mentality. Complaining, gossiping, or blaming your coach won't change your situation. Instead, ask yourself how you can show up with the right work ethic, body language, and mindset to earn trust.[00:03:00] Communicate the Right Way. Your coach isn't a mind reader, so if you're unsure about your role or playing time, ask for clarity. Use solution-focused questions like, “Coach, how can I contribute more to the team?” instead of comparing yourself to others.[00:04:00] Seek Solutions, Not Just Venting. Coaches respect players who want to improve. Choose the right time to talk (not after a tough game) and approach the conversation with an open mind.[00:05:00] Use This as Fuel, Not a Roadblock. Great athletes use setbacks as motivation to work harder. Instead of dwelling on what's unfair, outwork everyone and make it impossible for your coach to ignore you.[00:06:00] Final Takeaway. You have more control than you think. Keep showing up, taking action, and growing as an athlete. If this episode helped, check out the Elite Mental Game program for more tools to build confidence and mental strength.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

Does your daughter light up on the field, but now, after an injury, she's frozen with fear? Her body's healed, but her mind won't let her move forward. She's nervous, hesitant, and unsure if she'll ever be the same again. This episode is your game plan to help her overcome those mental blocks, rebuild her confidence, and step back onto the field stronger than ever.What's Covered in This EpisodeWhy injuries are more than just physical, they're emotional too.The #1 mistake parents make when supporting their injured athletes (and how to avoid it).How visualization can be her secret weapon for staying mentally sharp during recovery.Powerful ways to help her turn this injury into a competitive advantage.Building the ultimate support team to guide her through the ups and downs of recovery.Key strategies for helping her reenter her sport without fear or comparison.Ready to help your daughter regain her confidence and compete without hesitation? Tune now! Don't miss the actionable tips and tools to support her through this challenging but transformative journey.Episode Highlights: [00:00:26] Q&A Topic Overview. Today's focus: how to support your daughter through injury – whether she's sidelined or on the verge of reentering her sport – and help her regain confidence.[00:01:00] Shoutout to an Athlete's Recovery Journey. A story of an athlete who successfully returned post-injury using visualization and mindset strategies, proving how critical mental training is during recovery.[00:03:00] The Emotional Side of Injury Recovery. The injury process isn't just physical; it's emotional. Bre discusses how parents can stay steady and support their athlete without absorbing all the ups and downs.[00:04:00] Using Downtime to Build Mental Strength. Injury creates a unique opportunity for athletes to sharpen their mental game, including learning visualization techniques and mentally rehearsing key moments.[00:06:00] Turning Injury Into an Advantage. How athletes can use their time off to gain a new perspective, improve skills, and strengthen their mindset. Stories of resilience from elite athletes are shared as inspiration.[00:09:22] Mental Training During Recovery. Why this is the perfect time to focus on mental skills like mantras, reframing limiting beliefs, and preparing for a confident return.[00:11:00] Summary and Resources. Key takeaways and a reminder to check out the free training for sports moms at trainhergame.com to learn more about strengthening your athlete's mental game.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

Got a strong-willed, fiercely independent kid who's equal parts exhausting and amazing? You're not alone – and this episode is for you. Learn how to parent your ‘spicy one' without losing your mind, and help them thrive in sports and life!What's Covered in This EpisodeWhat is a “spicy one”? Strong-willed, independent, and fiercely competitive kids who march to their own beat.Why spicy ones make great athletes (and challenging kids). Their intensity and drive set them apart.How to handle resistance to feedback. Why stepping back and cheering them on works better than pushing.The power of the pause. Why taking a breath before reacting can change everything.Staying calm as a parent. How your calm demeanor helps regulate your child's emotions.Balancing independence and respect. Teaching your spicy one to advocate for themselves while respecting authority.Letting the world teach lessons. Why natural consequences are sometimes the best teachers.Mary's best advice for parents: “Your main job is to delight in them.”Ready to learn more? Check out Mary Van Geffen's resources at maryvangeffen.com and explore her programs like Moms of Spicy Ones and Kind Class. And if your athlete needs mental training, head to EliteCompetitor.com/EMG to learn more about The Elite Mental Game.Parenting a spicy one isn't easy, but it's worth it. Let's do this together!Episode Highlights: [00:01:15] What Is a “Spicy One”? A “spicy one” is a strong-willed, independent, and fiercely competitive kid who marches to the beat of their own drum. These traits make them incredible athletes but can also be challenging to parent.[00:02:09] Meet Mary Van Geffen. Mary is an international parenting coach who helps moms of spicy ones cultivate warmth, tenderness, and self-compassion. Her mission is to help parents thrive while raising these fiery future leaders.[00:05:26] Traits of a Spicy One. Spicy ones are intense, fiercely independent, and often resist feedback or authority. They're not afraid to take up space, which makes them great athletes but also challenging to parent.[00:11:09] Understanding Adolescent Brains. Teens experience adult-sized emotions without the rational thinking to match, which can lead to big ups and downs. Their brains are still under construction, so patience is key.[00:18:47] The Power of the Pause. Mary's top tip: pause before reacting to your child's behavior. Taking a moment to breathe helps you respond thoughtfully instead of reacting impulsively.[00:24:37] Balancing Independence and Respect. Encourage your spicy athlete's independence while teaching them to respect authority figures like coaches and referees. It's a delicate but important balance.[00:30:50] Mary's Best Advice for Parents. Mary's top advice: “Other people can teach them life skills, but your main job is to delight in them.” Your unconditional love is what they need most.[00:34:58] Closing Thoughts. Parenting a spicy one is challenging but incredibly rewarding – let's keep supporting each other and our amazing kids.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Grab your exclusive Elite Mental Game discount for being a podcast listener here!

What would you do if your child said they wanted to quit their sport? Would you panic, push them harder, or pause and listen? In this episode, I sit down with Asia Mape, founder of I Love to Watch You Play, to discuss the delicate balance of supporting our young athletes through the highs and lows of their sports journey. Asia brings her experience as a three-time Emmy-winning sports journalist, a former D1 athlete, and a mom of three daughters, two of whom are D1 athletes themselves.We talk all about the challenges that sports parents face, from preventing burnout to knowing when it's time to let go, all while creating an environment where our kids feel confident, supported, and excited to play. If you've ever questioned how to navigate this complex journey, this episode is for you!What You'll Learn in This Episode:The power of the phrase “I love to watch you play” and why it matters more than you thinkHow to handle moments when your child feels disappointed with their performanceAsia's personal story about her daughter quitting water polo and the lessons it taught herHow to recognize signs of burnout and unhappiness in your childPractical ways to prepare yourself as a sports parent before a gameWhy your energy on the sidelines can directly impact your child's confidence and performanceActionable tips for balancing sports, family, and long-term goalsReady to learn how to be the calm, supportive, and empowering sports parent your child needs? Tune in now to hear Asia's invaluable advice and discover strategies that will transform your family's sports journey. Listen to the full episode today!Episode Highlights: [00:00:00] Introduction. I introduce today's episode and our special guest, Asia Mape, founder of I Love to Watch You Play. If you're a sports parent – whether you're just starting or have been through multiple seasons – this episode is for you![00:02:42] Meet Asia Mape. Asia's impressive background as a three-time Emmy-winning journalist, former D1 athlete, and mom of three daughters sets the stage for her expertise in improving the youth sports experience.[00:07:39] Balancing Support and Critique. Asia shares personal struggles as a mom and emphasizes the importance of saying, “I love to watch you play,” even when it's hard to feel that way inside.[00:13:07] The Story of Quitting Sports. Asia gets real about her daughter's decision to quit water polo and the lessons it taught her about listening, adapting, and supporting her child's changing interests.[00:19:00] Preventing Burnout. Taking breaks, listening to your child, and thinking long-term are essential steps to keeping kids engaged in sports without overtraining or pushing too hard.[00:25:16] Preparing Yourself Before the Game. I love Asia's concept of the “drive to the game”, both literal and metaphorical. It's all about getting yourself mentally ready as a parent to show up calm, present, and supportive.[00:32:16] Parenting Is a Practice. Asia reminds us that no parent is perfect, but the goal is to keep trying, learning, and showing up better each time.[00:33:26] Resources from Asia. Asia shares how parents can access her blog, social media content, and newsletter for more tools and insights on navigating the youth sports journey.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advanc Grab your exclusive Elite Mental Game discount for being a podcast listener here!

In this special episode, we're pulling back the curtain on The Elite Mental Game (EMG) with a candid conversation featuring two incredible moms—Samarra, mom to a 12 (soon to be 13)-year-old softball player, and Allegra, mom to a 9-year-old gymnast. They share their firsthand experiences of watching their daughters grow in confidence, handle pressure, and navigate the mental side of their sports with the help of EMG.Even though their athletes are on the younger end of the spectrum, we dive into why ages 11-18 is the ideal time to develop strong mental game skills—and how the foundation they're building now is setting them up for long-term success.Inside This Episode:✅ Why they joined EMG – What struggles led them to seek mental training for their daughters?✅ The biggest mindset shifts – How their daughters have changed in confidence, resilience, and handling mistakes.✅ Handling pressure & expectations – How EMG has helped their athletes navigate tough moments in competition.✅ What surprised them most – Insights they didn't expect from the program that made the biggest difference.✅ The mom's role in mental training – How they've supported their daughters and what they've learned along the way.✅ Live Q&A! – We answer common questions from moms considering EMG, including:How do I know if my daughter is ready for mental training?Will she actually want to do the program?What if I've tried to help her before and nothing has worked?How do we balance this with an already busy sports schedule?This episode is a must-listen for any mom wondering if EMG is the right fit for their daughter. Whether she's struggling with confidence, perfectionism, or performance pressure, these real stories will give you insight into how mental training can be a game-changer. EMG Winter Enrollment is happening NOW! -50% off the program-Ditch the Drama training bundle for FREE-FREE ticket to our Peak Performance Clinic "How to Stay Motivated Through the Grind"Https://elitecompetitor.com/emgspecialDiscount + Bonuses Expire January 31st!

She's talented, she's dedicated, but something's holding her back… and it's not her skills. If you've ever watched your daughter struggle with confidence, perfectionism, or bouncing back from mistakes on the field, this episode is for you. As a parent, it's heartbreaking to see your girl spiral after a setback, or hear her talk herself down after a game. You've told her she's good enough, she's strong enough, but how can you actually help her believe it?This episode will give you the tools to help her break free from self-doubt and start playing with the confidence she deserves!Here's what we cover in this episode:How to help your athlete bounce back from mistakes using the “Bounce Back in a Snap” method.Why perfectionism is holding her back, and how to help her release the pressure.The power of flipping negative self-talk into productive, confidence-building thoughts.Real-life Q&A with sports moms like you, plus expert advice.A special, limited-time offer for the Elite Mental Game program that's designed to quickly strengthen your daughter's mental game and confidence.Don't wait – this episode is only up for 48 hours! Listen now to learn how you can support your athlete's mental game, and unlock a 50% discount on the Elite Mental Game program before the offer ends this Friday, January 31st!Listen to the full episode now and empower your girl to play with confidence – both in sports and in life.Episode Highlights: [00:00] Raising Confident and Mentally Strong Girl Athletes. This is a 48-hour special, featuring a live training session on strengthening an athlete's mental game.[03:20] Common Challenges Faced by Athletes. Discussing the common concerns of parents about their daughters' handling of sports and life challenges.[05:14] Misconceptions About Building Confidence. Debunking common misconceptions about building confidence in athletes, such as relying on coaches or expecting confidence to develop naturally.[07:56] The Unstoppable Athlete Method. Introducing the Unstoppable Athlete Method, a solution used to coach high school volleyball teams.[10:38] Bounce Back in a Snap. The Bounce Back in a Snap method, which helps athletes recover from mistakes quickly.[23:05] Releasing the Pressure Athletes Feel. Discussing the pressure athletes feel, including perfectionism, comparison, and pregame anxiety and understanding the concept of noticing and shifting thoughts to release the pressure.[34:13] Flipping Negative Mindset. The challenge of athletes turning positive feedback into negative self-talk. Understanding negativity bias and the importance of self-trust in building confidence.[42:40] The Role of Parents in Mental Training. The importance of parents in shaping their children's environment and providing opportunities for mental training. And tips for parents to improve their own self-talk and support their children's mental training.[42:50] The Elite Mental Game Program. Introducing the Elite Mental Game program, a self-paced mental training system for girl athletes.[01:08:27] Live Support and Bonuses. Introducing the live support and bonuses included in the Elite Mental Game program.[01:08:07] Enrollment and Special Offers. Details on how to enroll in the Elite Mental Game program, including the enrollment checkout process.Next Steps: EMG Winter Enrollment is happening NOW! -50% off the program-Ditch the Drama training bundle for FREE-FREE ticket to our Peak Performance Clinic "How to Stay Motivated Through the Grind"Https://elitecompetitor.com/emgspecialDiscount + Bonuses Expire January 31st!

Have you ever felt like no matter how hard you work, everyone else is just as good… or even better? At some point, hard work doesn't feel like it's cutting it anymore. You're showing up to practice, putting in the hours, but so is everyone else. What's the secret to actually standing out? Spoiler: it's not just about your physical skills.In this episode, we get into what truly separates good athletes from great ones – and it's probably not what you think.

Feeling stuck between wanting the best for your athlete and navigating their eye rolls and closed-off responses? You're not alone. This episode is for every mom who's been in the trenches, wondering if what they're doing is even working. Get ready to hear from three real moms who've walked that road and are sharing their unfiltered experiences with The Elite Mental Game. From the early struggles of getting their daughters to buy in to the game-changing moments that made it all worth it – you're about to get the real talk you've been craving. What You'll Learn in This Episode:Early Wins: The first shifts moms noticed in their daughters' confidence and resilience.Snapback Success: How one simple routine helped athletes bounce back from mistakes in seconds.Parent Perspectives: The biggest mindset shifts moms made to support their athletes.Team Dynamics: Strategies for helping athletes navigate new teams and relationships.Navigating Feedback: How EMG tools help athletes handle constructive criticism and grow from it.Live Coaching Benefits: Why athletes love connecting with coaches during live calls and text support.Flexible Training: How EMG fits seamlessly into even the busiest schedules.Why It's Worth It: Hear firsthand why these moms believe the program has been life-changing – not just for their athletes but for their entire families.Ready to hear the raw, unfiltered truth about what it's like inside The Elite Mental Game? Grab your headphones and listen now. Your perspective as a sports mom might just shift forever.Episode Highlights: [00:00:00] Introducing today's focus: hearing directly from three moms with daughters in the Elite Mental Game (EMG). These moms are at different stages of the program, giving you an inside look at how EMG supports athletes and their families.[00:02:00] Shoutout to Jamie: One of our moms shares how her daughter, an equestrian athlete, used EMG tools to maintain her poise during a challenging horse show, earning praise from her coach for staying calm under pressure.[00:05:00] When to Start: I share why starting mental training between ages 11 and 12 is ideal but emphasize that it's never too late for athletes to build confidence and mental strength.[00:09:30] Answering Common Questions: I address questions I frequently get, like how to help athletes stay consistent with mental training and ways to encourage buy-in.[00:25:00] Why They Joined EMG: Each mom shares what brought them to EMG – whether it was to help their daughters overcome self-doubt, navigate team dynamics, or strengthen their own communication as sports parents.[00:38:00] Long-Term Growth: Kim shares how her daughter, now a senior and team captain, revisits EMG tools to manage feedback, lead her team, and maintain confidence as she transitions to college basketball.[00:45:00] Favorite Parts of EMG: The moms highlight their favorite features, including the flexibility to work at their own pace, the supportive community, and practical tools that empower both athletes and parents.[00:55:00] Watching Game Film: I share how to review post-game recordings constructively, focusing on identifying strengths and actionable goals to guide practice without overwhelming athletes.[01:07:00] Final Reflections: Each mom reflects on the program's impact, from helping their daughters grow as athletes and individuals to strengthening their relationships as families.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website

What if your daughter's biggest breakthrough isn't about more practice or better coaching – but mastering her mindset?In this episode, I'm answering the questions I get all the time from sports moms just like you: How do I know if my daughter is ready for mental training? What's the right age to start? And how do I get her to buy in? If you've ever felt unsure about how to help your athlete grow her confidence and mental toughness, this episode is for you.Here's What We'll Cover:The surprising signs your daughter might need mental training (and it's not just for athletes who are struggling).Why 11-12 is the sweet spot to start mental training and what to do if your athlete is older (or younger).How to get your daughter excited about mental training without making her feel like something's “wrong.”The power of quick wins like the Snapback Routine to build confidence fast.Real stories from athletes and moms who've seen life-changing results.Why mental training goes far beyond sports – it's a lifelong skill every girl needs.This episode is packed with stories, tips, and strategies to help your daughter build unshakable confidence and tackle challenges on and off the field.

Have you ever wondered if the words you say to your daughter could help boost her confidence as an athlete? In this episode, I share practical, go-to phrases you can use to support your daughter in her sport and life. Whether she's preparing for a big game, processing a tough loss, or just navigating day-to-day challenges, these tips will help you build her confidence and strengthen her mental game.What's Covered in This Episode:How your words can shape your daughter's confidence on and off the field.Simple phrases to boost confidence during:Day-to-Day: Highlighting her positive qualities beyond her sport.Pre-Game: Encouraging focus with short, impactful phrases.Post-Game: Supporting her through wins and losses with the LOVE framework.How to validate your daughter's feelings without reinforcing negativity.The importance of combining parental support with your athlete's mental skills training.Practical examples like the “snapback routine” to help her bounce back from mistakes.Ready to Learn More? Listen to this episode for actionable strategies that will make a real difference in your athlete's confidence and resilience. Plus, find out how you can get access to a free training and a cheat sheet with 25 confidence-boosting phrases!Episode Highlights: [0:00] Introduction to boosting athletes' confidence through simple phrases[01:00] Shoutout to Renata and her success using mental training tools.[02:00] Importance of combining verbal communication with athlete mental skills.[03:00] Overview of the key focus: day-to-day, pre-game, and post-game confidence strategies.[04:00] Encouraging athletes to develop self-trust and skills for overcoming setbacks.[05:00] Highlighting positive qualities outside of sports to build confidence.[06:00] Simple strategies like sticky notes and verbal affirmations for day-to-day encouragement.[07:00] Using the phrase "I believe you" to validate athletes' feelings.[08:00] Adjusting responses to support athletes without reinforcing negative self-talk.[09:00] Playful ways to engage teens and tweens in positive conversations.[10:00] Pre-game strategies: keeping phrases short and focused on what's in their control.[11:00] Examples of pre-game taglines and humor to ease nerves.[12:00] Post-game reflections: emphasizing effort and controllable factors over outcomes.[13:00] Supporting athletes' emotional processing after wins or losses.[14:00] LOVE framework for post-game confidence building: Let her lead, Open the space, Validate feelings, Encourage inward.[15:00] Examples of post-game questions to foster self-reflection and learning.[16:00] Athletes' post-competition routines to build confidence objectively.[17:00] Recap of day-to-day, pre-game, and post-game strategies with key takeaways.[18:00] Reminder to download the free PDF with 25 key phrases at trainhergame.com.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

Did you know it's completely normal to not feel ready before a big competition? But what do you do when those feelings creep in? In this episode, “When You Don't Feel ‘Ready' to Compete,” we'll get into how to overcome doubt and perform your best no matter what.Here's what we cover:Why “feeling ready” doesn't determine your success.A mindset trick to move from self-doubt to confidence.How to focus on what you can control before game day.Practical tips to compete like a pro, even on tough days.Key strategies from the Elite Mental Game program to sharpen your routine. Tune in now to learn how to step up, stay focused, and thrive – even when readiness feels out of reach!

Too many girls never get the chance to experience the life-changing benefits of sports because of barriers like cost, lack of access, and representation. What if there was a way to break those barriers and set them up for lifelong success? In this episode, Steph and Amy of Section Z share how they're using sports to empower young women, build confidence, and open doors to opportunities they never imagined.This is the conversation you need to hear to see how a simple game can break barriers, build confidence, and change girls' lives.In this episode:Steph's personal story and the accident that inspired her to create Section Z.The biggest barriers holding girls back and how Section Z is addressing them.Eye-opening research on the connection between sports, mental health, and leadership.How attending live sports events can inspire confidence and a sense of belonging.Powerful success stories from girls who found their spark through Section Z.Why brands are investing in women's sports and the measurable ROI they're seeing.Ways you can support Section Z and make a difference for young girls. Don't miss this episode! This isn't just a conversation about sports – it's about changing lives. Tune in to hear how Steph and Amy are redefining opportunities for girls everywhere.Come hang out with Stef on social @‌thesectionZ and learn more about Section Z!Episode Highlights: [04:19] What is Section Z? Steph explains Section Z's mission: leveraging live sports to empower girls with exposure, workshops, and representation.[08:00] Steph's Personal Story. Steph shares how a life-changing accident inspired her to create something meaningful and impactful for young girls.[11:30] Why Sports Matter. Amy highlights the benefits of sports participation, including improved mental health, confidence, and sense of belonging.[17:00] Addressing Barriers. Amy and Steph discuss socioeconomic challenges that prevent many girls from accessing sports opportunities.[19:00] The ROI of Women's Sports. Steph outlines how investing in women's sports provides long-term benefits for brands and communities.[28:00] Success Stories. Steph shares impactful moments, including a girl taping a Section Z poster above her bed and another inspired by diverse athletes on the field.[34:00] Sports as a Unifier. Steph discusses how sports foster community and build connections, transcending differences like race or socioeconomic status.[38:00] How to Get Involved. Steph and Amy share how listeners can support Section Z through donations, partnerships, or sharing their mission.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

Is your daughter's skincare routine harming her more than helping? We all know puberty is tough. But what if some of the products marketed to our daughters are actually making it even harder for them? In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with Kimberly Grustas, founder of Good For You Girls, to talk about the hidden dangers lurking in everyday skincare products and how they can affect your daughter's health – especially during the crucial years of puberty.“Puberty is a superpower.” Kimberly reminds us that our daughters' bodies are amazing and deserve care that empowers them, not tears them down. But how can we ensure that the products they're using support their growth without introducing harmful chemicals? Get the lowdown on what to avoid and how to help your daughter embrace self-love from the inside out.Here's what we talk about:The shocking truth about estrogenic chemicals in products marketed to girls.Why the average age of puberty is dropping – and what you can do about it.How to guide your daughter through puberty with empathy, confidence, and non-toxic products.Practical tips on creating a simple, effective skincare routine for your tween.Whether you've got a daughter just starting to navigate puberty or you're in the thick of it, this episode is packed with tips to help you guide her through with love, care, and confidence.Love this episode? Don't forget to share it with other moms who need to hear this! And if you're feeling the love, take a moment to rate and review the show. Your support helps more parents find this valuable content.Also, make sure you don't miss out on Kimberly's amazing offer! She's giving our listeners a special discount on her clean skincare line. Grab a 20% discount on any Good For You Girls products by using the code: ELITE20 at checkout!Come hang out with Kimberly on social: @‌goodforyougirlsGuest Interview Email: Kim@goodforyougirls.com Episode Highlights: [00:00] Introduction to the Podcast and Guest. A discussion on encouraging self-love during puberty and introduces Kimberly Grustas, founder of Good For You Girls, highlighting the significance of non-toxic skincare for young girls.[06:39] The Turning Point: A Shocking Discovery, Kimberly recounts a pivotal moment when her daughter asked for a Hannah Montana bath set, and she realized the harmful ingredients inside – sparking her commitment to creating non-toxic skincare for tweens.[11:00] Puberty's Shifting Timeline. Kimberly discusses the significant drop in the average age of puberty – from 14 to 11 – and the importance of recognizing these shifts while protecting girls from harmful chemicals.[15:02] How Hormones Affect the Body During Puberty. Kimberly delves into how puberty hormones help growth, and how harmful chemicals mimic estrogen, affecting development in both boys and girls.[36:55] A Call to Moms: Reclaiming Self-Care. Kimberly encourages moms to prioritize their own self-care, setting an example for their daughters and creating bonding opportunities around health and wellness.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

We just wrapped up an incredible challenge week with you all!! Here are some next steps moving forward:-The What to Say Challenge discount on EMG expires on Monday! Grab 50% off the program + bonuses using this link.-Chatting with your daughter about EMG? Use this conversation guide to help!-Join us Monday at 1pm ET (12pm CT / 10am PT) for our LIVE Q&A + Tips from successful sports moms! Add the event to your calendar here-The challenge episodes will come down on Monday, Dec 16th, so make sure to listen before then! You can also grab lifetime access to the replays to listen whenever you want here.-If you didn't register for the challenge, but want the blueprint & other bonuses we included, register here.

Join the Elite Mental Game with our What to Say Challenge pricing discount + bonuses, good until Monday December 16th!https://elitecompetitor.com/emgspecial====Tired of watching your child struggle with self-doubt and underperform on the field? It's time to unlock their true potential with the Elite Mental Game program.In this episode, we get into the world of youth sports and explore the often-overlooked aspect of mental training. Discover how a strong mental game can transform your child's performance and boost their confidence!The Importance of Mental Training. It's crucial for athletes to develop mental skills, such as resilience, focus, and self-belief.The Role of The Parent. Parents play a significant role in shaping their child's mindset.The “Downward Spiral”. Understanding how negative thoughts and emotions can lead to poor performance.The Power of A “Snapback Routine”. A technique to quickly recover from mistakes and regain composure.The Impact of Self-Talk. Negative self-talk can limit an athlete's potential, while positive self-talk can boost confidence.The Importance of Mindset Shifts. Learning to recognize and reframe negative thoughts.The Elite Mental Game Program. Discover the secrets behind this transformative program and how it can benefit your child.Practical Tips. Implement actionable strategies to help your child overcome challenges and achieve their goals.Join the Elite Mental Game with our What to Say Challenge pricing discount + bonuses, good until Monday December 16th!https://elitecompetitor.com/emgspecial

Can you imagine sitting in the stands, watching your daughter play – only for her to make one mistake, and suddenly, her entire game falls apart? Her shoulders slump, her confidence crumbles, and you can see the frustration burning in her eyes. Heartbreaking, right?Been there. So. Many. Times.As a sports mom who's coached hundreds of athletes, I know exactly how heartbreaking it is to watch talented kids doubt themselves. That's why I'm pulling back the curtain on The Elite Mental Game – our game-changing mental training program that's helping girl athletes unlock their true potential.What You'll Learn:The 3 biggest struggles sports parents are facing right now.How mental training goes WAY beyond just sports performance.Why confidence is the secret sauce to your daughter's success.What's included in our step-by-step mental game training system.How we're offering a MASSIVE 50% discount (stay tuned!).Want the inside scoop on transforming your athlete's mindset? Hit play on the full episode RIGHT NOW and discover how we're helping girls build confidence that lasts a lifetime!Your daughter's mental game starts here. Don't miss out!Next Steps:Register for the What to Say Challenge happening Dec 9-12th! Get reminders to your inbox when episodes drop, plus fun prizes and giveaways all week!Register for free: https://elitecompetitor.com/say

Imagine this: Your daughter just finished her game. Emotions are high, tension is thick, and you're walking a conversational tightrope. One wrong word could crush her spirit or push her away. Sound familiar?The car ride home doesn't have to be a minefield of awkward conversations and crushed spirits. Today, I'm pulling back the curtain on EXACTLY how to support your young athlete during and after competition – without saying the wrong thing or accidentally destroying her confidence.What You'll Learn in this Episode: How to support your daughter DURING competition without being THAT embarrassing parent.The game-changing "LOVE" framework for post-game conversations.Exactly what to say (and what to AVOID) after a tough match.Why your presence matters MORE than your words.Simple techniques to help your athlete process performance without losing confidence.BONUS: We're revealing how to get a FREE spot in the Elite Mental Game program!Want the full mental game breakthrough?Head to https://elitecompetitor.com/say and join the challenge NOW!See you in the next episode, sports parents!Next Steps:Register for the What to Say Challenge happening Dec 9-12th! Get reminders to your inbox when episodes drop, plus fun prizes and giveaways all week!Register for free: https://elitecompetitor.com/say

Day 2 of the What to Say Challenge!Pre-game Pep Talks that WORK!Here's what we cover:How your role as a parent during the pre-game phase directly shapes your athlete's mindset.The most effective ways to encourage your child while keeping her calm and focused.Why your calm presence matters more than finding the perfect words.Quick, encouraging phrases to keep the focus on the process – not the outcome.Real insights from athletes on what works and what doesn't before a competition.

Day 1 of the What to Say Challenge!Day to Day Confidence BoostersWhat's covered in this episode:Understanding the true meaning of confidence.Why focusing on achievements can damage confidence.How to recognize and praise what's in her control.The importance of highlighting her positive innate qualities.Practical scripts for day-to-day confidence building.Why her sport is what she does, not who she is.Remember: Your daughter's sport is something she DOES, not who she IS.

Our What to Say Challenge kicks off on Monday December 9th! Join us for 4 days of scripts and strategies straight to your podcast player designed to build confidence in your athlete daughter. Register for FREE here: https://elitecompetitor.com/sayJoin the What to Say Challenge for FREE before December 8th!https://elitecompetitor.com/say Join the What to Say Challenge for FREE before December 8th!https://elitecompetitor.com/say

Our What to Say Challenge kicks off on Monday December 9th! Join us for 4 days of scripts and strategies straight to your podcast player designed to build confidence in your athlete daughter. Register for FREE here: https://elitecompetitor.com/sayJoin the What to Say Challenge for FREE before December 8th!https://elitecompetitor.com/say Join the What to Say Challenge for FREE before December 8th!https://elitecompetitor.com/say

Our What to Say Challenge kicks off on Monday December 9th! Join us for 4 days of scripts and strategies straight to your podcast player designed to build confidence in your athlete daughter. Register for FREE here: https://elitecompetitor.com/sayJoin the What to Say Challenge for FREE before December 8th!https://elitecompetitor.com/say Join the What to Say Challenge for FREE before December 8th!https://elitecompetitor.com/say

In this special bonus episode leading up to our What to Say Challenge Dec 9th-12th, we're covering the keys to raising a mentally strong athlete (things you can be doing now!)Join the What to Say Challenge happening Dec 9-12th! Learn what to say (and not say) to build confidence in your athlete daughter pre, during, and post-game. Register for FREE through December 8th hereJoin the What to Say Challenge for FREE before December 8th!https://elitecompetitor.com/say Join the What to Say Challenge for FREE before December 8th!https://elitecompetitor.com/say

In this special bonus episode leading up to our What to Say Challenge Dec 9th-12th, learn how your words and your athlete daughter's confidence are connected - it's more than you might think!Join the What to Say Challenge happening Dec 9-12th! Learn what to say (and not say) to build confidence in your athlete daughter pre, during, and post-game. Register for FREE through December 8th hereJoin the What to Say Challenge for FREE before December 8th!https://elitecompetitor.com/say Join the What to Say Challenge for FREE before December 8th!https://elitecompetitor.com/say

In this special bonus episode leading up to our What to Say Challenge Dec 9th-12th, learn the essential first steps all sports parents can take to build confidence in their athlete! Join the What to Say Challenge happening Dec 9-12th! Learn what to say (and not say) to build confidence in your athlete daughter pre, during, and post-game. Register for FREE through December 8th hereJoin the What to Say Challenge for FREE before December 8th!https://elitecompetitor.com/say Join the What to Say Challenge for FREE before December 8th!https://elitecompetitor.com/say

Parents -> Check out The Elite Mental Game, our self-paced mental training system for girl athletes.Coaches -> Check out Plug & Play Elite Mental Game for Teams. Designed to simply implement mental training in your program in as little as 30 mins a week!===What does it take to win four consecutive state championships? In this episode, I share the story behind an unforgettable season, from overcoming challenges with a new team lineup to the mental strategies that made all the difference. Perfect for parents, coaches, and athletes looking to elevate their game.What's covered in this episode:Building a Championship Mindset. How a young, inexperienced team thrived under the pressure of defending a title.Mental Training Essentials. Visualization, reset routines, and other strategies that helped athletes perform in the most critical moments.Practice Like a Champion. The importance of game-like scenarios, competitive drills, and structured planning in daily practice.Thriving Under Pressure. Stories from the state championship match where mental tools turned nerves into confidence.Lessons in Leadership and Teamwork. The role of culture, support, and communication in overcoming adversity.This episode is packed with practical tips, inspiring stories, and actionable insights for anyone who wants to learn what it takes to succeed at the highest level. Whether you're a parent supporting your athlete, a coach shaping a team, or an athlete aiming for greatness, this episode will leave you inspired and prepared.

Are you holding back without even realizing it? Whether you're playing from fear or stepping onto the field with confidence could be the difference between a game-changing performance and playing it safe. In this episode, we're breaking down how to shift your mindset from just trying not to lose to playing full out – and why it matters!Here's what we cover:The hidden dangers of “playing it safe” and why it actually leads to more mistakesHow playing not to lose holds back your potential (and even your team!)Why taking calculated risks will make you a stronger, more confident athletePractical tips to bounce back from mistakes so they don't mess with your headPermission to stop hesitating and start showing up as your best self!Athletes, don't miss this! This mindset shift could change how you approach your next game. Ready to unlock your full potential? Listen to the full episode now!Episode Highlights: [00:00] Playing to Win vs. Playing Not to Lose: Introduction and Shoutout to Madison[02:13] Understanding the Mindset of Playing Not to Lose[04:43] The Impact of Playing Not to Lose on Performance[05:22] The Benefits of Playing to Win[08:17] Embracing the Mindset of Playing to WinNext Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

In this episode, we welcome Rob, the driving force behind the Shoulder Check initiative, which aims to foster mental wellness in youth sports. Rob shares insights on the importance of creating safe spaces for athletes to express their feelings and how parents can effectively support their children in managing the pressures of competition.Key Takeaways:Creating Safe Spaces: Learn how parents can establish an environment where young athletes feel comfortable sharing their emotions.Identifying Distress: Rob discusses the signs parents should look for to identify when their child may be struggling emotionally, even if they don't outwardly express it.Encouraging Open Conversations: Discover practical tips for initiating conversations about feelings during everyday moments, such as car rides or family dinners.Essential Resources: Rob outlines crucial resources available for parents in times of crisis, emphasizing the importance of knowing when to seek professional help.Building Resilience: Understand how to foster emotional resilience in young athletes by allowing them to express disappointment and frustrations in a healthy way.Future of Shoulder Check: Rob shares exciting developments and goals for the Shoulder Check initiative, aiming to integrate its message into sports culture.Episode Highlights: [00:01:10] Rob joins the podcast to share his passion for fostering mental wellness in youth sports through his initiative, Shoulder Check.[00:02:30] He discusses the importance of creating safe spaces for athletes to express their feelings and the role parents play in this process.[00:04:50] Recognising the signs of distress: Rob emphasizes how parents can better identify when their children may be struggling emotionally.[00:07:00] Practical strategies for encouraging open conversations during everyday moments, like car rides or casual chats.[00:10:05] Rob highlights essential resources for parents to access in times of crisis, ensuring they know when to seek professional help.[00:12:20] The significance of building resilience in young athletes through emotional expression and coping strategies.[00:15:35] Rob shares exciting developments for the Shoulder Check initiative, including plans to promote its visibility in sports cultureNext Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

In this episode, Coach Bree shares powerful strategies to help parents support their daughters after a tough performance. Learn how to turn post-game negativity into an opportunity for growth and connection.What You'll Learn:Why the post-game car ride is more important than you think How to create a positive post-game routine Why focusing on effort and mindset reduces performance anxietyThe L.O.V.E. framework for better post-game conversations Episode Highlights: [00:02:35] Understanding what your athlete really needs after a tough game—why emotional support matters more than advice.[00:04:40] The power of a consistent post-game routine to stop the negative spiral and build emotional resilience.[00:06:15] Avoiding common post-game mistakes—how focusing on wins and losses can harm confidence.[00:08:30] Shifting your athlete's mindset to focus on what she can control, like effort and attitude, rather than the outcome.[00:10:15] A deep dive into the LOVE framework—practical steps to guide post-game conversations with empathy and encouragement.[00:13:45] Helping your athlete bounce back from setbacks and learn to separate self-worth from performance outcomes.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

Are you tired of watching your team fall apart under pressure or struggle to bounce back from mistakes? In this bonus episode, I'm sharing the exact mental training system I use with my state championship teams that you can start using today! It takes less than 30 minutes a week and helps your athletes stay calm, focused, and ready to win – even in the toughest moments.What you'll learn:How to quickly help your athletes recover from mistakes and bounce back stronger.Simple techniques to keep your team calm under pressure and focused during critical moments.How to improve team chemistry and reduce drama with better communication skills.Why consistency in mental training leads to more reliable, high-performing athletes.Learn how to help your athletes bounce back quickly, stay calm under pressure, and strengthen team dynamics with consistent mental training by using tools like the Snapback Routine, Team Scenario Planning, and Pre- and Post-Performance Routines.Why bringing in guest speakers or one-off workshops isn't enough; you need consistency to see real results.Listen to the episode for game-changing insights. And if this episode hit home, don't forget to rate, review, and share with fellow coaches! Every review helps spread the word, and I appreciate your support in helping more teams reach their full potential.Want to make mental training easy? My Plug-and-Play Elite Mental Game for Teams is a simple, no-fuss system to get your team mentally tough in just 30 minutes a week. Check it out here for special offers and start leveling up your team today! [hyperlink]Episode Highlights: [00:00] Introduction to Bonus Episode. Starting off the episode by explaining the focus on mental training for coaches, setting the stage for this bonus content. [01:00] Overview of Free Training Session. A quick overview of the episode being a recording of a free training session that covers the Winning Edge method for mental training.[03:00] Introducing Daily Mindset Routines. An introduction to the daily mindset routine, “3, 2, 1 Brave,” and how it fits into pre- and post-competition routines for athletes.[06:27] Discussing Team Inconsistency Issues. Highlighting the common challenges coaches face with team inconsistency and how mental training offers solutions.[08:34] Personal Experience with Losing Games. Sharing a personal story of losing key matches and how it became clear that mental training was essential to success.[10:00] Addressing Common Myths About Mental Training. Breaking down three common misconceptions that hold coaches back from adopting mental training, such as time concerns and the overuse of team bonding.[21:05] Explanation of the Snapback Routine. Discussing the Snapback Routine, which helps athletes recover quickly from mistakes and stay focused during games.[28:18] Pressure-Proofing Athletes. Moving to the second part of the Winning Edge method, focusing on how to help athletes handle pressure and perform consistently.[45:17] Introduction to the Plug-and-Play Elite Mental Game System. Introducing the full Plug-and-Play Elite Mental Game system as a tool for coaches to easily implement mental training in their teams.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

In this episode, we chat with Taylor, a sports psychologist, about the crucial role of mindset in the success of girl athletes. Taylor shares her insights on common challenges faced by young female athletes and provides practical techniques for building mental resilience.Episode Highlights: [00:00:47] Meet Taylor, a dedicated sports psychologist, as she shares her insights on the vital role of mindset for girl athletes. [00:03:15] Taylor discusses common mental hurdles, including body image issues and performance anxiety, that can impact young female athletes.[00:06:42] Learn about the power of a growth mindset and how reframing negative thoughts can lead to improved performance and resilience.[00:10:25] Explore practical strategies for parents to support their daughters, fostering open communication about mental health and performance.[00:13:55] Taylor shares effective techniques to help manage competition anxiety, including breathing exercises and visualization methods.[00:18:40] The conversation shifts to the importance of self-care for young athletes, emphasizing a well-rounded approach to their well-being.[00:21:05] Discover how positive self-talk and affirmations can empower your daughter, enhancing her confidence and focus before competitions.[00:24:30] Taylor addresses the impact of social media on young athletes, offering advice on navigating comparisons and building a healthy online presence.[00:27:15] Wrap up with Taylor's final thoughts on nurturing mental strength and resilience in girl athletes, and the importance of ongoing support from parents.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

In this episode, we dive into the world of sports psychology for girl athletes. Learn how to support your daughter mentally to ensure she performs her best on and off the field. From building confidence to handling pressure, these tips will help moms foster a growth mindset in their young athletes.In This Episode, We Cover:Why mental performance is crucial for girl athletesThe most common mental challenges they face in sportsHow moms can support their daughters in boosting their mental toughnessThe importance of a strong support systemEpisode Highlights: [00:00:30] Learn why mental toughness is just as crucial as physical training for girl athletes.[00:02:15] Dive into the power of visualization and how athletes can mentally rehearse their performance before competitions.[00:04:42] Explore the impact of positive self-talk and how it transforms an athlete's mindset.[00:07:05] Understand the importance of setting both short-term and long-term goals. [00:09:28] Uncover simple breathing exercises that help athletes manage stress during high-stakes moments.[00:12:10] Find out how a growth mindset helps athletes embrace mistakes as learning opportunities.[00:14:35] Get actionable tips on how you, as a mom, can actively support your daughter's mental performance.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.