Podcasts about It Gets Better Project

A woman discovers her recently deceased father had a foot-tickling fetish and doesn't know how to process this new view of her dad. Speaking of kinks, a man with a diaper fetish is feeling resentful that his kink so severely limits his dating prospects. On the Magnum, Dan chats with hunky clinical psychologist Dr. Thomas Whitfield about dating closet cases, sex education, masc for masc and why the common use of therapy terms like "narcissist" and "avoidant" is so annoying. And, a man and his girlfriend need a comfortable but effective gag option. But you! You must not be quiet. Open your mouth and ask your question: Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Mack Weldon: timeless, innovative menswear to help you move throughthe day with confidence. Get 20% off your first order of $125 or more, with promo code SAVAGE at MackWeldon.com This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Beducated brings pleasure-based sex education right to your bedroom. Kick off your best sex life with Beducated's awesome, five-minute quiz at https://beduc.at/pd2626-savage Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

A woman who enjoys multiple orgasms doesn't understand why, physiologically, all woman can't come over and over and over. Like she can. A gay man wants a new word for the practice of rubbing dicks together, other than "frotting." On the Magnum, Dan interviews Tracy Clark-Flory whose memoir ⁠My Mother's Daughter ⁠, brought Dan to tears. It encompasses feminism, racism, parenting, adoption and so much more. They also take a call from a teacher who is grappling with teaching little kids about consent. And, a woman was horrified to hear about straight women groping men at gay bars, because they thought the guys there were fair use. A gay male friend countered that groping in gay bars was permissible because it's just their culture. Is it? Or is some consent required? Say what you need to say to us: Call 206-302-2064 Or Record your question and send it to Q@Savage.Love Or, click HERE. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at ⁠Squarespace.com/Savage⁠ and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.  This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off site wide, 25% off Luxe mattresses and 30% off Elite mattresses. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. Answering relationship questions from everyone in the LGBTQIA rainbow (and even straight people,) along with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

A trans woman's friend is married to a Russian-born MAGA creep-o. But, plot twist! The Trump/Putin-lover is transitioning! It's hard for the caller to gin up sympathy for someone who supports anti-gay/trans autocrats. How should she interact with these bizarre people? A gay man's new boyfriend wants to get dominated. But the caller has always been vanilla. Dan welcomes Master R, who specializes in shibari bondage to offer this newbie some tips. On the Magnum, Dan once asked if there were ANY poly-under-duress memoirs written by men. There is, and we got him! Adam Darrow, author of Seek the Risk: One Man's Journey into Non-Monogamy is on to talk about his initial reluctance in dating a woman with a various sexual appetite. He compares his experience to participating in extreme sports. Listen in. A woman is about to meet a new paramour, who will be visiting her for the first time. In their remote conversations, he has made it crystal clear that he enjoys jizzing all over his ladies. She hates the taste of come. It makes her wretch. How can they square their opposing desires? YOU KNOW YOU HAVE A QUESTION. Here's how to ask it. Record it and send it to Q@Savage.Love Or call 206-302-2064 and leave us a message. Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠ForiaWellness.com/Savage⁠ This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

A woman who really wants a long term partner has gotten a "tantric opportunity" she may not be able to refuse. Hours and hours of hot sex? But the dude isn't boyfriend material. Should take this once in a lifetime opportunity anyway? A woman's friend only dates women much younger than himself. He insists he's being respectful and mindful of power imbalance. But it still gives her the creeps- should it? On the Magnum, a man asks if hypnotism as a means to control someone sexually is a bunch of nonsense. Dan brings on science journalist Sadie Dingfelder to look into the matter. And, a man dated a woman, broke up, came out, and remains very good friends with his ex. She feels like his platonic but important partner. He had a boyfriend for a while, but the guy was a bit of a dullard and couldn't hold a candle intellectually to his female bestie. Can he find a partner who will accept his gal pal as a part of his emotional life? Record your question and send it here: Q@Savage.Love Or call 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Quince, high quality essential clothing, at radically low prices. Refresh your everyday with luxury you'll actually use. Head to Quince.com/SAVAGE for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From throuples to tantric sex, orgies to orgasm control and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

This show is a roller coaster...of love. We start out with a heartbreaking question from a woman whose fiancé broke up with her after she had bought the dress and sent out the invites. Their lives and friends are intertwined. How can she bounce back from something like this? Then, a gay man has observed trans men at sex clubs getting it on with lots of guys. If they aren't on birth control, can they get pregnant? Is it polite to ask, and should cis men wear condoms in this situation? On the Magnum, strap in- it's Eric Andre! Dan and the master prankster answer a straight man's question about whether gathering with other men to masturbate together constitutes cheating. They also talk about some of the personal advice Dan gave Eric a little while ago. Want to get up close and personal with Eric Andre? Listen in... And, meet a rare woman who likes receiving dick pics. 6 months into their relationship, she started sending him nudes. When he asked if he should reciprocate, she expected some shirtless photos, and was surprised to see much, much more. She grew to really like it, but worries she's training him to send dick pics to other women after they break up. Should she explain to him that she's not like the other girls? Oh, I would NEVER! Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Mack Weldon: timeless, innovative menswear to help you move throughthe day with confidence. Get 20% off your first order of $125 or more, with promo code SAVAGE at MackWeldon.com This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now,  get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. Verse tops? Polyamory? Dick pics? Multiple orgasms? He covers it all, and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since September 21, 1991.

This just in! Man thinks he's special because he has a Madonna/whore complex! When a woman first started dating her boyfriend, he had a drinking problem, and made some bad moves. The caller told her friends and family about this. But now that he is better and truly working on himself, no one but the caller will forgive him. How can she convince them that he's a good guy? On the Magnum, Dan chats with NYC-based comedian Jamie Wolf on why it's good for men to sleep with women who have a lot of experience, how to stick up for yourself when your roommates are loudly fucking, and how incels could get laid more if only they were nice people. Jamie Wolf rules! And, a gay man asks what is up with sloppy BJs. Why would anyone want to end up with a puddle of spit in your lap, this perplexed man wonders. What are you wondering about? Call us and ask. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at ⁠Squarespace.com/Savage⁠ and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to ⁠HelixSleep.com/Savage⁠. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From chatbots to incels, daddies to dommes and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

When he was a young homo, he was expected to rim his tops. Kids today want the top to rim the bottom! What gives? A straight man and his girlfriend keep taking "breaks" from the relationship, at her behest. They always end up getting back together, but each time he thinks it's the end. Should he continue to tolerate this exhausting cycle? Our guest is the thoroughly delightful Midwestern comedian Jackie Kashian. She and Dan tackle a question from a man who wants to hit on a woman 30 years his junior at the Passover seder. They talk about age gap relationships in general, on sleeping with many people whilst blotto drunk, and they dish out some actionable advice on how to succeed as a stand-up comedian. A little is on the Micro, and the whole thing is on the Magnum. And, a very female presenting non-binary person has the hots for gay bears. Are any of them bisexual enough to want to date this person? Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠ForiaWellness.com/Savage⁠ This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. This episode  is brought to you by Feeld- the dating app that so many Lovecast listeners are already using. Try Feeld's new feature “Reflections” now by visiting ⁠feeld.co/reflections⁠ or by downloading Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From faking orgasms (which you mustn't do) to freysexuality, erectile dysfunction to ethical non-monogamy and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, in these dark times.

A trans woman enjoys chastity play. But most cock cages use the testicles to keep the device in place. She had an orchiectomy for her gender affirming care, so what is she to do? A gay man has a pattern of losing attraction to the people he's seeing. The instant they break up he gets hot for them again. And now, it's happening with his husband. On the Magnum Dan chats with super bad-ass journalist, lawyer and author Jill Filipovic about the horrifying "Rape Academy" and how feminism is on the ropes right now. She is also our guest on Sex Politics this week. Join us for a deep dive into what women are up against. She and her husband went to an orgy with friends for her husband's birthday. But you know what nobody gave him? An orgasm. I mean, it's an ORGY and his BIRTHDAY. Put it together people! Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now,  get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From cock cages, to closet cases, feminism to freysexuality and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

A gay man's female friend is planning her wedding. But the relationship is already a disaster, and the caller does NOT approve of this union. Should he still help her choose a wedding dress? A bi man got into a cat fight with a guy on one of the hook-up apps when he wasn't polite enough about ending a conversation. Is there a social contract on gay hook-up apps? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Jennie Young, author of Burn the Haystack: Decode Dating, Torch the Duds, and Make Room for Men Who Matter. Her feminist, pragmatic approach to dating for straight women is blunt and hilarious. She talks about her method for brutally winnowing down the list of men, how dating apps are addictive by design, and (counterintuitively,) why the man should plan the first date. Don't miss this one! And, a man asks for logistical advice on how to plan the abduction scene his wife desires. What could possibly go wrong? Maybe she'll call and tell us how it went! 206-302-2064 Q@Savage.Love And remember: Every sperm is sacred. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. This episode is brought to you by Mack Weldon: timeless, innovative menswear to help you move throughthe day with confidence. Get 20% off your first order of $125 or more, with promo code SAVAGE at ⁠MackWeldon.com⁠ Beducated brings pleasure-based sex education right to your bedroom. Kick off your best sex life with Beducated's awesome, five-minute quiz at ⁠https://beduc.at/pd2618-savage⁠ Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

Sometimes the questions we get here at Savage Lovecast Industries™ are nothing but pragmatic. A man with a moldy home asks how he can properly dry his Fleshlight. Seems important. A woman fell off a trapeze 15 years ago and has suffered sexual dysfunction ever since. Dan brings on pelvic floor therapist Dr. Rachel Gelman to discuss her case and to call out doctors who belittle sexual concerns. When a unicorn is unhappy, the universe seizes up for a second. This woman made it crystal clear that she was NOT interested in any of that butt stuff. But what did the man in the couple do? Can you guess? He tried to poke her in her butt! She plans to berate him in a public place. But what exactly should she say, and can she ever trust him again? On the Magnum, Dan brings on comedian Conor Janda to discuss the old "fag hag" relationship that has drifted away with queer acceptance and inclusion. What's the difference between a "girl's gay" and a "gay's gay" and who would you rather be? They also advise a middle-aged widower who is dropping everything, moving to NYC to become a stand-up comic and diving headlong into gay sex. And here's the kind of call that gives monogamy a bad reputation. He loves his wife so much. But she is done with sex, and does not approve of open relationships. So what is he to do? He did the right thing! He recorded his question and sent it in to Q@Savage.Love He also could have called 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

A happily married lesbian is super turned-on by a male acquaintance's cologne. She barely knows the guy. So how can she ask him "What are you WEARING?" Here's a conundrum: a sub serves two different masters. So what should she do when they give her conflicting orders? On the Magnum, everybody loves Doc Chocolate! The former pastor turned porn star, adult educator and content creator is back to help Dan answer a question about use of the potentially problematic term "BBC." (Look it up.) Is it a positive stereotype? Or negative? They also talk about the rigorous STI health protocols Las Vegas sex workers must adhere to. And, a listener challenges Dan's stance on how much responsibility the blow job giver has once the lucky receiver is "over the falls." Your only duty...is to call us. 206-302-2064 Q@Savage.Love This episode  is brought to you by Feeld- the dating app that so many Lovecast listeners are already using. Try Feeld's new feature “Reflections” now by visiting feeld.co/reflections or by downloading Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ForiaWellness.com/Savage This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From cuckolding to crossdressing, polyamory to asexuality and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

A woman was invited to the bachelorette party for her co-worker's wedding, which required costly travel. She was presented with a bill to cover all of the expenses of the bride to be. The caller was just laid off her job and simply cannot afford this. Now the bride is miffed, and the friendship is strained. It's an outrage! Oopsie daisy! A woman came across porn featuring an old estranged friend.The sketchy video looks like the ex-friend wasn't aware that she was being filmed. Should the caller reach out and let her know it's out there? On the Magnum: Meet the man who enraged Mitt Romney! Humor writer Eli McCann is a wholesome, married, monogamous, gay humor writer from Salt Lake City. Hear how he drew the ire of the failed Presidential candidate in an online kerfuffle. And, bottom-feeders rejoice! They discuss the differences between Real Housewives of Salt Lake City and Secret Lives of Mormon Wives. Apparently, one makes you sad and the other makes you cackle. Also, did you know that Salt Lake City is actually liberal? It is! Listen to this super-fun convo. A woman has started seeing a younger man who has no experience with toys. His wee weeny isn't big enough for her, so he'd better learn. But he's too intimidated by her and worries he'll never satisfy her. Time to throw in the towel? Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at ⁠Squarespace.com/Savage⁠ and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off site wide. Go to ⁠HelixSleep.com/Savage⁠. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now,  get 15% off your first order by going to ⁠Blueland.com/Savage⁠ Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

On the Intro, a public service announcement regarding Log Cabin Republicans and MAGA gays: Don't Breed Em, Don't Feed 'Em. An Australian woman would like advice on pegging a military man. Our guest is NYT writer Christine Emba. Her book Rethinking Sex: A Provocation made a big splash, and added to a cultural conversation about feminism and female desire. She and Dan talk about "looks maxers," the emotional intelligence gap between men and women, and why Gen Z folks aren't dating. A bit of this great convo is on the Micro and the whole thing is on the Magnum. And, a woman reconnected with an old high school classmate that she had a crush on back in the day. It turns out she still does! But he's married. The question is, is he happily married? And are they open? Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ⁠ForiaWellness.com/Savage⁠ This episode is sponsored by Sundays for Dogs- Dog food using the same ingredients and care you'd use to cook for yourself and your family. Go to ⁠sundaysfordogs.com/SAVAGE50⁠ and get 50% off your first order. Or, you can use code SAVAGE50 at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Carafem, an abortion and reproductive healthcare provider that offers both in person care in Atlanta, Chicago, Washington DC and telehealth options for abortion pills by mail in 21 states. Carafem's team of licensed medical professionals provide personalized abortion care options focused on your needs, preferences, and values. Visit ⁠Carafem.org⁠ to learn more. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

A woman in a new relationship isn't sure this one's going to work out. He's a great guy, but the sex is lacking because his penis is too small for her. Is there a way to learn to enjoy the sex eventually? Here's a question for you: "How long til anal?" After seeing Heated Rivalry, a married man and his wife are exploring anal sex. They are taking their sweet time, but he wonders how long they should expect it to take before it becomes comfortable for them both. (Who's doing whom? He never says!)  On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Natalie Davis. She is the author "Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory" and the editor of the online publication "Polyamory Today." They talk about her journey from PUD to enthusiastic advocate for open relationships. Last week, a woman wondered how many *other* women could experience 60-70 orgasms, like she does. This week, we close with a man who "worries" that he's having SO MUCH SEX that he's coming too much. Should he call 911? People. Really? Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at ⁠Squarespace.com/Savage⁠ and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. This episode is brought to you by Carafem, an abortion and reproductive healthcare provider that offers both in person care in Atlanta, Chicago, Washington DC and telehealth options for abortion pills by mail in 21 states. Carafem's team of licensed medical professionals provide personalized abortion care options focused on your needs, preferences, and values. Visit ⁠Carafem.org⁠ to learn more. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, a-poly-gist (get it?) author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bisexuality to butt sex, sexting to S&M and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

A kinky, submissive woman's last relationship went down in flames when her dom insisted on a power exchange, all-the-damn-time lifestyle. She is raising kids and caring for her sick father. She doesn't have time for this kind of commitment. How can she set reasonable boundaries in the future? A married man despairs that he'll never kiss his wife again. Smooching is central to his experience of sexual pleasure, and the wife is repulsed by it. Sounds grim. Speaking of kissing, on the Magnum, it's a "What You Got?" with Dr. Matilda Brindle. The evolutionary biologist recently published a paper looking at whether early primates or even Neanderthals kissed. They also talk about kink in the animal kingdom, which leads to the story of one very freaky monkey. Do not miss this. Pay attention. And, a woman humble-braggingly wonders if OTHER women come 60-70 times per session she like does. 72,73, 74... Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode  is brought to you by Feeld- the dating app that so many Lovecast listeners are already using. Try Feeld's new feature “Reflections” now by visiting feeld.co/reflections or by downloading Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. This episode is sponsored by Sundays for Dogs- Dog food using the same ingredients and care you'd use to cook for yourself and your family. Go to sundaysfordogs.com/SAVAGE50 and get 50% off your first order. Or, you can use code SAVAGE50 at checkout. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to multiple orgasms, trans rights to asexuality and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since Neanderthals were kissing up on peeps.

Naturally, on this sex and relationship podcast, many of you are thinking about the Epstein files. One caller used to be a dom/daddy for younger women who sought him out and enjoyed themselves. Still he feels guilty. And another caller is having their libido crash when they read the news. Meanwhile a straight man has discovered a bizarre and rare disorder: he goes limp when he has to put a condom on. Somebody make a documentary about this guy! On the Magnum, a trans woman is grappling with the anger she feels at cis and non-binary people. Dan brings on trans, queer comedian and writer Hayden Johnson, to offer advice and to commiserate. They talk about how being a trans woman forces you to confront misogyny, the jarring difference in how people treat you when you present as a man vs. a woman, and how fun it is to mess with people's heads onstage as a trans comic. And, a 34 year-old woman is leaving her abusive husband. She knows it's the right thing to do, but worries she won't get another shot at marriage and family. She asks for a pep talk from Dan Savage, and from YOU. Leave her an inspiring comment! Q@savage.love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Mill, odorless, effortless, fully automated food recycler. Try Mill risk-free for 90 days and get $75 off at Mill.com/Savage and use code Savage at checkout. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

When does subbing morph into self-harm? The relationship between a man and his much younger trans woman lover involves intense physical abuse. The girl has a wretched history, and engages in self harm. Although she gives consent, there's also a language barrier that makes everything they do seem out of control and destructive. A bisexual woman took the plunge and came out to her conservative Catholic mother. Although her mother didn't completely melt down, she has a ways to go before she reaches acceptance. What will it take to move her mother into the light? Our guest this week is Intimacy Coordinator Yehuda Duenyas. He and Dan talk about what an Intimacy Coordinator does, and whether they should be required on a movie set. How a director's prompt can sometimes be as vague as "They Have Sex" and it's up to the IC to flesh out how that should look to the audience. How portraying scenes of abuse can be wrenching for sensitive male actors. And of course, Dan has Yehuda answer a couple of sex questions too. A little of this conversation is on the Micro and the whole thing is on the Magnum. Finally, is it possible for a man to both come and pee at the same time...in his girlfriend's mouth? Sadly, this is not a theoretical question. Ask Dan ANY kind of question. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now,  get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, media darling and creator of the It Gets Better Project. A tireless advocate for ethical conduct within relationships, queer rights, and sexual freedom with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

A 60 year old woman wonders where she can score some poppers. A lesbian would like to score a queer dominatrix to work her over. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Rich Juzwiak of Slate's love and sex advice column, "How to Do It." They talk about how to make anal sex pleasurable when your partner is very, very, (some might even say "too") well endowed. How too many sex partners can be dangerous. And they discuss age gap relationships: are we are in an age of peak daddy? And, a woman's boyfriend complains that his wiener slips out during sex because she is "too wet." Q@savage.love 206-302-2064 This episode is sponsored by Sundays for Dogs- Dog food using the same ingredients and care you'd use to cook for yourself and your family. Go to sundaysfordogs.com/SAVAGE50 and get 50% off your first order. Or, you can use code SAVAGE50 at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

A concerned listener asks "Where's the lube?"-specifically about movie scenes showing gay sex. A woman in a red state makes it clear in her dating profiles that she is a leftie. She attracts men who claim to be moderate, but are really stealth MAGA creeps. Why do they do this? Why?! Our Magnum guest is the effervescent internationally renowned human sexuality professor, author, and speaker Dr. Nicole McNichols. In her very popular Diversity of Sexuality class, she gets tied up and whipped as part of a lecture on communication and consent. So. She and Dan talk about the difference between bad sex and traumatic sex. They also dig into the data on why young people are having less sex these days. And, hear the sad tale of a man who was dumped by both his wife AND his goddess. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Mill, odorless, effortless, fully automated food recycler. Try Mill risk-free for 90 days and get $75 off at Mill.com/Savage and use code Savage at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, beard-hater and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

Yip! Yap! Bite! A woman's little, nasty, needy dogs are anything but "comfort animals" and her girlfriend isn't having it. She refuses to move in with the caller while those tiny beasts are around. Are they fundamentally incompatible? A British woman learned that her husband had sexual experiences with other boys at his British boarding school. She never knew this and finds it shocking. Dan brings on the sexiest survivor of boarding schools that we know- porn star John Thomas. Let John's amazing voice take you on a journey examining situational homosexuality at British boarding schools. And on the Magnum, a man with blood cancer has an enlarged spleen. He's worried that anal sex might cause him harm. Dan brings on anal surgeon Dr. Evan Goldstein to talk about risks, and how sex toys can rearrange your guts...safely. And a woman who is learning about gay intimacy for the first time through "Heated Rivalry" wonders if homo sex goes as fast as it does on the tee-vee. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now,  get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

Have we reached peak poly drama? A queer woman has been open with her male live-in partner, having lots of great sex with him and others. The problem? His cat won't pay any attention to her. She doesn't feel jealous of the humans in their lives, but this cat! A widowed 81 year-old woman has taken up with her 56 year-old gardener. But he went and confessed to his priest who told him to cut it out. Should she try to convince him to keep loving her up? On the Magnum, enter Eric Williams, comedian and host of That's A Gay Ass Podcast. Dan torments his very homosexual guest by asking him to answer a question about cunnilingus. Also discussed: What made them gay? And here's a PSA: Please leave the actors of Heated Rivalry alone. And, ethical dilemma ahoy! A divorced woman with kids is enjoying her Cumspringa- hooking up with lots of men and having a great time. She makes up personae for herself, withholding her real name, her job, or that she has kids. Her friend thinks this is immoral and that she should come clean about who she is to her lovers. What do you think? What do you think Dan will say? What Dan says...may shock you. Q@Savage.Love. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Mill, odorless, effortless, fully automated food recycler. Try Mill risk-free for 90 days and get $75 off at Mill.com/Savage and use code Savage at checkout. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

Our story tonight is called In For the Night, which is a special story I wrote for my first book many years ago, and it's never been heard on the podcast before. It's a story about a trip to a special shop in downtown Nothing Much. It's also about glass jars filled with special ingredients, snowflakes landing on your eyelashes and mittened hands, the layered scents of aromatic spices, and having the space and time to calmly make and enjoy something warming and delicious. Subscribe to our ⁠Premium channel⁠. The first month is on us.

What is the polite way to ask someone to clean their teeth and deal with their neglected oral hygiene? A man's girlfriend wants him to ignore her sexually, and focus exclusively on himself. But he wants to give her pleasure. How can they reconcile this? On the Magnum, have humans always been kinky? If the history of the Middle Ages is any indication, the answer has to be "Oh hell yeah!" Or so says our guest: Eleanor Janega- a medieval historian specializing in gender and sexuality, apocalypticism, and propaganda. Accounts of religious life from that period are riddled with perversion. So people have been freaky for a long, long time. Dan and Dr. Janega have a cheerful conversation about it. A gay man wonders if he should be miffed when some other dude gives his boyfriend a sexy thong. NOT. OKAY. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, baker and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

This episode, Eamon & Merlin talk two new episodes of The Traitors, where Colton attempts to be Pilot Pete go down in flames, but not as much as New York's most annoying human. Then, they talk the newest episode of RuPaul's Drag Race, where RDR Live returns and the judges discover comedy for the very first time apparently. 4:42 - The Traitors: Season 4: Episodes 04-05 1:16:59 - RuPaul's Drag Race: Season 18: Episode 03 We are Eamon and Merlin, a queer married couple from Texas living in Pittsburgh, PA. We love reality television, wrestling, drag queens, and pretty much anything that can be called even kinda gay. A Gay & His Enby is a podcast where we talk about everything we love in terms of media and pop culture; everything thats gay and gay adjacent; basically all the conversations we have in our living room we are now putting in front of a microphone and on the internet for you. We have launched our MERCH STORE! We are so excited to bring you these designs, all made by Merlin, commemorating some of our favorite iconic moments! Shop now at https://AGayAndHisEnby.Threadless.com Every week, we have the pleasure and privilege of recording from Sorgatron Media Studios in Pittsburgh. The theme song for our main show is Pulsar by Shane Ivers, and the theme song for Binge Watch is Higher Up by Shane Ivers, both of which you can find at https://www.silvermansound.com All of our social media can be found at our linktree: https://linktr.ee/agayandhisenby We want to take a moment to uplift a powerful resource:

This episode, Eamon & Merlin talk Real Housewives of Potomac, where Angel's Colorado getaway is making the ladies want to get away from this lackluster home. Then, a new episode of Married to Medicine, that sees Heavenly host a family reunion, as Quad learns her chance of expanding hers may be out of reach. Also, Part One of the Real Housewives of Salt Lake City, that sees Lisa go on offense, yet gets defensive when it comes to what she does for a living. And finally, a new episode of Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, where Amanda gets caught in Sutton's vortex, leading to Jennifer Tilly finally speaking her mind. 5:37 - Real Housewives of Potomac: Season 10: Episode 14 49:33 - Married to Medicine: Season 12: Episode 06 1:30:54 - Real Housewives of Salt Lake City: Season 06: Episode 17 2:29:32 - Real Housewives of Beverly Hills: Season 15: Episode 05 We are Eamon and Merlin, a queer married couple from Texas living in Pittsburgh, PA. We love reality television, wrestling, drag queens, and pretty much anything that can be called even kinda gay. A Gay & His Enby is a podcast where we talk about everything we love in terms of media and pop culture; everything thats gay and gay adjacent; basically all the conversations we have in our living room we are now putting in front of a microphone and on the internet for you. We have launched our MERCH STORE! We are so excited to bring you these designs, all made by Merlin, commemorating some of our favorite iconic moments! Shop now at https://AGayAndHisEnby.Threadless.com Every week, we have the pleasure and privilege of recording from Sorgatron Media Studios in Pittsburgh. The theme song for our main show is Pulsar by Shane Ivers, and the theme song for Binge Watch is Higher Up by Shane Ivers, both of which you can find at https://www.silvermansound.com All of our social media can be found at our linktree: https://linktr.ee/agayandhisenby We want to take a moment to uplift a powerful resource:

Happy New Year, and a very happy Feast of the Ass to you and yours.  In honor of the holiday, our first caller asks if he should keep a cup of mouthwash handy for when he moves from ass-eating to pussy-eating.  A man wants strategies on how to talk his sister out of circumcising her newborn son.  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Ellen Huet, a plucky, investigative journalist who uncovered an exploitative sex cult that revolves around female orgasm. Her book EMPIRE OF ORGASM about OneTaste, a sexual wellness company is amazing, and she and Dan had a LOT to talk about.  And, a poly woman wonders if when making introductions, she should reveal the poly status of two friends, so they know they are all “in the lifestyle.” Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Beducated, the leading platform for pleasure-based sex education for adults. Go to Beducated.com and use the code SAVAGE for 50% a yearly pass.  This episode is brought to you by Bubs Naturals: Collagen peptides for joint health & mobility, healthy hair skin and nails, and gym recovery. Right now, to get 20% off, go BubsNaturals.com and use code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From ethical non-monogamy to unethical non-monogamy, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

This episode, Eamon & Merlin talk the first three episodes of The Traitors Season 4, where murders are abound, just not to the one contestant that needs it the most. Then, they talk the newest episode of RuPaul's Drag Race, where the queens form Q-Pop Groups and let their body talk on the runway. 4:42 - The Traitors: Season 4: Episodes 01-03 1:16:59 - RuPaul's Drag Race: Season 18: Episode 02 We are Eamon and Merlin, a queer married couple from Texas living in Pittsburgh, PA. We love reality television, wrestling, drag queens, and pretty much anything that can be called even kinda gay. A Gay & His Enby is a podcast where we talk about everything we love in terms of media and pop culture; everything thats gay and gay adjacent; basically all the conversations we have in our living room we are now putting in front of a microphone and on the internet for you. We have launched our MERCH STORE! We are so excited to bring you these designs, all made by Merlin, commemorating some of our favorite iconic moments! Shop now at https://AGayAndHisEnby.Threadless.com Every week, we have the pleasure and privilege of recording from Sorgatron Media Studios in Pittsburgh. The theme song for our main show is Pulsar by Shane Ivers, and the theme song for Binge Watch is Higher Up by Shane Ivers, both of which you can find at https://www.silvermansound.com All of our social media can be found at our linktree: https://linktr.ee/agayandhisenby We want to take a moment to uplift a powerful resource:

This episode, Eamon & Merlin talk Real Housewives of Potomac, that sees the cast do some bindering before heading to Colorado to do some bickering. Then, a new episode of Married to Medicine, where a battle over a bag gets personal between Heavenly and Toya, as Cecil's brother David tries to bring him back off the cliff. Also, the season finale of Real Housewives of Salt Lake City, that sees a conclusion produced by theatre kids in more ways than one. And finally, a new episode of Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, where the ladies venture to Sedona as Amanda talks too much and Erika barely talks at all about her new man. 5:42 - Real Housewives of Potomac: Season 10: Episode 13 41:16 - Married to Medicine: Season 12: Episode 05 1:16:16 - Real Housewives of Salt Lake City: Season 06: Episode 16 2:16:53 - Real Housewives of Beverly Hills: Season 15: Episode 04 We are Eamon and Merlin, a queer married couple from Texas living in Pittsburgh, PA. We love reality television, wrestling, drag queens, and pretty much anything that can be called even kinda gay. A Gay & His Enby is a podcast where we talk about everything we love in terms of media and pop culture; everything thats gay and gay adjacent; basically all the conversations we have in our living room we are now putting in front of a microphone and on the internet for you. We have launched our MERCH STORE! We are so excited to bring you these designs, all made by Merlin, commemorating some of our favorite iconic moments! Shop now at https://AGayAndHisEnby.Threadless.com Every week, we have the pleasure and privilege of recording from Sorgatron Media Studios in Pittsburgh. The theme song for our main show is Pulsar by Shane Ivers, and the theme song for Binge Watch is Higher Up by Shane Ivers, both of which you can find at https://www.silvermansound.com All of our social media can be found at our linktree: https://linktr.ee/agayandhisenby We want to take a moment to uplift a powerful resource:

It's the 1000th episode of the Savage Lovecast. We started in 2006, when George W. Bush was President. And look at us now! We packed this show with as many quick questions as we could. (One minute or less.) And Dan answered as quickly as he could. And! We invited long time friends of the show to pop on and answer some questions as well: Ezra Klein, Esther Perel, Mistress Matisse, Mike Pesca, Therapy Jeff, Doc Barak, Joan Price, Dan's Producer Nancy, and Dan's husband Terry. The gang's all here! You'll get an inside look at how the show is made, and how Dan has evolved over these many years. Some of the questions asked and answered: What is up with "Yahtzee?" Does "pegging" come from pirates? Does blood make for good lube? Who listens to all the calls that come in? Do you get a weird feeling when you dig in your bellybutton? Happy New Year and thanks for listening everyone! Your resolution? Get on the show. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now,  get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. Have we mentioned that we've been doing this for 20 years?

On this 200th episode, Eamon & Merlin talk goes retro and talks the Scary Island episodes of Real Housewives of New York City with Executive Producer and first time Real Housewives watcher Sorg. Then, they talk the Season 18 premiere of RuPaul's Drag Race, where the light shines bright on the 14 new queens, mainly because half are from the Sunshine state. And finally, the newest episode of Real Housewives of Salt Lake City, when Meredith isn't the only one with accusations of substance abuse as new ones get splashed in Britani's direction. 4:25 - Real Housewives of New York: Scary Island 53:54 - RuPaul's Drag Race: Season 18: Episode 01 1:58:58 - Real Housewives of Salt Lake City: Season 06: Episode 13 We are Eamon and Merlin, a queer married couple from Texas living in Pittsburgh, PA. We love reality television, wrestling, drag queens, and pretty much anything that can be called even kinda gay. A Gay & His Enby is a podcast where we talk about everything we love in terms of media and pop culture; everything thats gay and gay adjacent; basically all the conversations we have in our living room we are now putting in front of a microphone and on the internet for you. We have launched our MERCH STORE! We are so excited to bring you these designs, all made by Merlin, commemorating some of our favorite iconic moments! Shop now at https://AGayAndHisEnby.Threadless.com Every week, we have the pleasure and privilege of recording from Sorgatron Media Studios in Pittsburgh. The theme song for our main show is Pulsar by Shane Ivers, and the theme song for Binge Watch is Higher Up by Shane Ivers, both of which you can find at https://www.silvermansound.com All of our social media can be found at our linktree: https://linktr.ee/agayandhisenby We want to take a moment to uplift a powerful resource:

This episode, Eamon & Merlin talk Real Housewives of Potomac, where an attempt at reconciliation between Wendy and her dad leads to a blow up of epic proportions from her mother. Then, a new episode of Married to Medicine, that see's Toya put Eugene on blast, and yet somehow it's all Heavenly's fault. And finally, they dive into the steamy romance of Heated Rivalry Season 1, as a new queer love story takes the nation by storm and puts hockey into the zeitgeist once again. 4:54 - Real Housewives of Potomac: Season 10: Episode 12 52:09 - Married to Medicine: Season 12: Episode 04 1:32:27 - Heated Rivalry: Season 01 We are Eamon and Merlin, a queer married couple from Texas living in Pittsburgh, PA. We love reality television, wrestling, drag queens, and pretty much anything that can be called even kinda gay. A Gay & His Enby is a podcast where we talk about everything we love in terms of media and pop culture; everything thats gay and gay adjacent; basically all the conversations we have in our living room we are now putting in front of a microphone and on the internet for you. We have launched our MERCH STORE! We are so excited to bring you these designs, all made by Merlin, commemorating some of our favorite iconic moments! Shop now at https://AGayAndHisEnby.Threadless.com Every week, we have the pleasure and privilege of recording from Sorgatron Media Studios in Pittsburgh. The theme song for our main show is Pulsar by Shane Ivers, and the theme song for Binge Watch is Higher Up by Shane Ivers, both of which you can find at https://www.silvermansound.com All of our social media can be found at our linktree: https://linktr.ee/agayandhisenby We want to take a moment to uplift a powerful resource:

"Who will buy my smelly panties?" A woman realizes that it would be a waste to just wash them. A married man in an open relationship wishes his wife would be as affectionate as his lovers. On the Magnum, it's everybody's favorite guy who knows things about sports...Mike Pesca! (Host and creator of The Gist, the longest running daily news and analysis podcast, and the author of Upon Further Review: The Greatest What-Ifs In Sports History.) Dan and Mike go over the particulars of the steamy Canadian show "Heated Rivalry" to determine how closely it hews to the sport called "hockey." And, a gay man is tempted to sleep with guys who are in monogamous relationships. He wants to be a "gay's gay"- a good upstanding gay. Not some home-wrecking gay. But he also would very much like to sleep with these lads...will Dan advise him to listen to the angel or the devil on his shoulder? This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Feeld, a dating app where the open-minded can meet the like-minded. Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. This episode is brought to you by Mars Men- supplements that support healthy levels of testosterone. For a limited time, Lovecast listeners get 60% off for life AND 2 free gifts when you use the code Savage at MenGoToMars.com. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From ethical non-monogamy to unethical non-monogamy, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

A married woman and her husband agreed to open the marriage up, with clear rules and boundaries. Guess what! He flagrantly broke the rules. Now, she is considering sleeping with someone else as a form of revenge. Too toxic? A divorced woman is still very good friends with her husband. She's so close with him, that her boyfriends break up with her over it. Are they just jealous or is she part of the problem? On the Magnum, it's a "What You Got?" with Dr. Alicia Walker who recently published a study about infidelity. She is a sociologist who digs into the sexual lives people keep under wraps: infidelity, kink, secret same-sex behavior, and other closeted practices. She and Dan talk about the stigma against cheating, and the conditions under which it can be the moral choice. And, what is the actual difference between porn and prostitution? Sex work is sex work right? Q@Savage.Love. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Aura Frames, the best digital picture frame, and the best gift EVER. For a limited time, visit AuraFrames.com and get $35 off Aura's best-selling Carver Mat frames by using promo code SAVAGE at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Mars Men- supplements that support healthy levels of testosterone. For a limited time, Lovecast listeners get 60% off for life AND 2 free gifts when you use the code Savage at MenGoToMars.com. Gift a Magnum subscription to a friend or enemy for 1/2 off! That's just $24 from Dec 1-31.  Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, world traveller, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From pegging, to negging, cross-dressing to cuckolding and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

Gift a Magnum subscription to a friend or enemy for 1/2 off! That's just $24 from Dec 1-31.  A recent widow grapples with a surge in her libido. A gay man has been a top for all of his sexual life. Now that's he's a dating a man who wants to top him every now and again, can he learn to like it? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Kelly Foster Lundquist, Author of "Beard." 20 years after her divorce from her closeted gay husband, Lundquist writes about her experience as a "beard." She and Dan discuss how unfair and damaging the closet can be. After 10 glorious days, a straight man got dumped and then ghosted. Which hurts more? Ouch Q@Savage.Love. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Beducated, the leading platform for pleasure-based sex education for adults. Go to Beducated.com and use the code SAVAGE for 65% a yearly pass.  This episode is brought to you by Hims, providing affordable access to ED treatment, online. Start your free online visit today at Hims.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From beards to bondage to bisexuality, and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, in these darkest of dark times.

Hear the harrowing tale of the masochist lad who walked into the dungeon and ended up getting flogged...a lot. Did he like it? Would he do it again? Listen and find out. Do you have a tale to tell? Write it up and send it in: Q@Savage.Love Do you have a comment for this show? Record it and send it in to Q@Savage.Love, or call 206-302-2064 It's the Magnum Gift sale Dec 1–31! Gift a Magnum subscription to a friend or enemy at 50% off, just $24! Savage.love/gift. Who is Dan Savage? Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

Listen in on Dan's conversation with a woman who learned that her husband had an affair early in their relationship. It turns out she's been chatting with the other woman for a year without knowing it was her! She lives up the street! Dan advises her on whether to broach the subject with her husband's ex-lover. A woman loves receiving anal sex so much, that she comes immediately and then needs her husband to get outta there. How can she prolong both of their pleasure? On the Magnum, Mpox cases are on the rise worldwide. Dan brings on queer sexual health teacher Dr. Carleton Thomas to give us the scoop. He was a clear and steady source of information during the first Mpox outbreak, and he's here guide us today. Finally, a middle-aged straight man who "broad"casts his feminist allyship on social media has a gaggle of younger women he's collected from his comments section who all expressed interest in him. He *may* want to try to commit to one of them, but doesn't want to make mistakes from his past. If he chooses just one, how can he "not get bored and fuck it all up?" 206-302-2064 Q@Savage.Love This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now,  get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage This episode is brought to you by Overload by Maxxm: supplements that leave a lasting impression in the bedroom. For a discount go to maxxm.com/savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

Meet Chrissy, a bisexual woman and self-identified pervert, who went to a sex club for the first time. What happened there? Well, let's just say you may feel...shocked. Want to tell your tale? Write us at Q@Savage.Love Want to hear more from Dan Savage? Listen to the Savage Lovecast @Savage.Love. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

She dated her neighbor for a while, until it became clear that she couldn't enjoy sex with him because his giant, massive, gargantuan penis was too big for her. Now that she is starting to date other men, should she tell them the history of her friendly neighbor 5 doors down? A woman has enjoyed friends-with-benefits relationship with a man where all they do is cuddle and have sex. No outings with friends. No movies. No hikes. Now that he is beginning to get serious with another woman, can they maintain this friendship *without* the benefits? On the Magnum, a very miserable woman considers doing sex work after applying for hundreds of jobs with no results. Dan brings on Ashley Bloomberg- a sex researcher who recently published a paper on the reasons sex workers in Las Vegas pursued their careers. The difference between doing sex work under duress vs. doing sex work out of genuine desire is stark. And, it's the nightmare scenario: A queer, polyamorous woman dating a trans woman has a 14 year-old son who has gone full conservative Christian on her. The lad thinks that sex outside of marriage is an unforgivable sin. What is going on with him, and how can the caller bring him to a more kind and reasonable mindset? Call with your questions, or you will be banished to the lake of fire. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Hims, providing affordable access to ED treatment, online. Start your free online visit today at Hims.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Aura Frames, the best digital picture frame, and the best gift EVER. For a limited time, visit AuraFrames.com and get $45 off Aura's best-selling Carver Mat frames by using promo code SAVAGE at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

A mother's challenge: her 12 year-old son's lesbian friend (who isn't out to her parents,) said that she was into gooning. Right in front of her! The mom wants to be an ally, but also would like them to back off on the oversharing. Sometimes on a sex advice podcast, you have to call a veterinarian. A man's new girlfriend, (a professed "animal lover,") lets the cat hump her leg to completion. He thinks this is kind of gross. Dan brings on a veterinarian from Seattle's Urban Animal to confirm if it is indeed "gross." On the Magnum, we all know that LENGTH DOES NOT MATTER. But what about... girth? Sex researcher Dr. Debby Herbenick is on to talk about the physiology of female pleasure. Also, she and Dan discuss the continuing bewildering popularity of choking. A woman has a fantastic, indulgent, skilled lover. She is loud but non-verbal when she comes. He wants to know exactly when she is going over the falls. How can she let him know without having to say "NOW!" You should ask Dan a question NOW! Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Erika Lust.com -the world's leading platform for ethical, cinematic adult films. Right now, my listeners get 45% off your subscription when you enter the code SAVAGE45 at erikalust.com. That's Erika Lust with a k! Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ForiaWellness.com/Savage This episode is brought to you by Carafem, an abortion and reproductive healthcare provider that offers both in person care in Atlanta, Chicago, Washington DC and telehealth options for abortion pills by mail in 20 states. Carafem's team of licensed medical professionals provide personalized abortion care options focused on your needs, preferences, and values. Visit Carafem.org to learn more. Subscribe to the Magnum⁠ for the full interviews, chats with Dan, and more! Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to pegging, gay rights to gooning and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

A woman's bisexual husband has been getting "gayer and gayer" to the point where he is only interested in her if she acts like a dude. Her friend is worried about her. How can this marriage work? Are there any straight leather daddies out there who aren't misogynistic creeps? This caller is NOT HAPPY. On the Magnum, it's a "What You Got" with psychology professor Dr. Justin Mogilski. His study on people who maintain friendships with their exes was misinterpreted and misused. He and Dan talk about why the myths persist, and about his new study looking at the ingredients that make open relationships work. And, a newly out femme lesbian loves her long, detailed, luscious nails. But for obvious reasons, she thinks she should probably trim a couple of them. Will people notice? Rrrrwwwworrrr! Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now,  get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage Subscribe to Magnum⁠ for the full interviews, chats with Dan, and more! Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to pegging and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

A woman's lefty friend berated her for enjoying drag, saying it's like blackface for trans women. The caller loves drag and had never thought about this before. Is it true? A straight man loves the idea of seeing a naked woman walking around her house. He wonders if others would love to see him naked, you know, just kickin' it at home. On the Magnum, let the swooning begin! Actor Ben Palacios from Palm Royale is charming, talented and easy on the eyes. He relays his tales of kissing Ricky Martin, and making a fool of himself in front of Carol Burnett. Dan and Ben share their first boyfriend experiences, and advise a straight couple who are arguing over the man's ball scratching habit. Also, should a straight man take poppers before his proctology exam? And dating new divorcees: Bad idea, or not a problem? Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Hims, providing affordable access to ED treatment, online. Start your free online visit today at ⁠Hims.com/Savage⁠. This episode is brought to you by Feeld, a dating app where the open-minded can meet the like-minded. Download Feeld on the⁠ App Store⁠ or ⁠Google Play⁠. This episode is brought to you by Erika Lust.com -the world's leading platform for ethical, cinematic adult films. Right now, my listeners get 45% off your subscription when you enter the code SAVAGE45 at ⁠erikalust.com⁠. That's Erika Lust with a k! Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project as well as the ⁠Hump! Film Festival⁠. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

Welcome to our first stand-alone After-Action Report! He got in a full body spiderman suit. And then the action began. Hear Dan chat with the man who took cos-play to a whole new level. If YOU recently had a new sexual experience (good or bad,) write it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love with the subject line: After Action Report. Ask Dan a question!Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 EVERY TUESDAY: Get more of Dan on Savage Lovecast Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From abortion to adult babies, polyamory to pegging and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is positively a force for sex positivity.

A woman just started a dating a man 12 years her junior. But he doesn't know her age, and has never asked her, even on her birthday. Should she tell him? A couple were approached by a man who initiated a relationship where he is their sex slave. But he is a very demanding slave, sending too many texts, and generally violating their boundaries. He pays them for their attentions. So who's the boss here? Dan welcomes Imani Askew-Shabazz from PlanCPills.org on the show to talk about abortion medication by mail. On the Magnum, Dan loves it when scientists affirm what he's been saying for years. In this "What You Got?" we welcome Dr. Amy Muise, Psychology and Research Chair in Relationships and Sexuality at York University. They talk about spontaneous vs. planned or scheduled sex. Which do you think is more satisfying? And, a woman with fragrance sensitivity has trouble convincing her friends and family to give the stinky cologne a rest. Ask Dan a question! Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Liberator: makers of pillows, shapes and furniture for new exciting sex. Go to Liberator.com/Savage or type “Savage” into the search bar for private VIP access to deals that are too good to announce on this podcast! This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From abortion to adult babies, polyamory to pegging and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is positively a force for sex positivity.

A woman and her boyfriend, (in an open relationship) tried shibari and enjoyed the intimacy of it. She suggested they exclusively practice shibari with each other, unlike all the other sexual activities they do with their other lovers. At first he agreed, but now he's balking. Should she try to make this a rule of their relationship, or cut him free to t ie up other women? Can semen be safely employed as a sexual lubricant? Our guest this week is a true delight. From Season 12 of Ru Paul's Drag Race, it's the Persian Princess of Drag- Jackie Cox! She and Dan talk about getting in the drag head space, being friends with your partner, and did you know that the queens from Drag race have a group chat? They do! A little is on the Micro, and the whole thing is on the Magnum. And, a straight woman loves to process and have drawn out heart-to-heart talks about her relationships with her boyfriends to the point where they are exhausted and can't take it anymore. She is single now and wonders how to make it clear in her profile that she wants a man who can go hard on communication. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Hims, providing affordable access to ED treatment, online. Start your free online visit today at Hims.com/Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From anal sex to asexuality, weddings to webcamming and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

How can a woman safely indulge her kink when the thing that turns her on is fear? A man is convinced that his bidet use makes him pee more. Our long suffering, patient and kind medical expert, Doc Barak is back to sigh heavily and pretend to take the question seriously. Also, can we trust the CDC these days? On the Magnum, the concept is simple. A man with a beautiful British accent reads erotica while jacking it to high heaven. Meet Matthew Kane, host and creator of the BigDickBookClub. He and Dan talk about erotica for men vs women, Bluesky vs X and why AI generated erotica is inferior to the real thing. And to prove it, Dan generates some relevant AI smut on the spot and Matthew reads it. For us! Hear the tale of the man with the "scratched up pecker." Q@Savage.Love. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now,  get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at Paired.com/SAVAGE Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, world traveller and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From AI generated porn (bad) to human-generated porn (good,) wife swapping to watersports and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

Enter to win a free Magnum subscription at savage.love/survey A gay man is lucky to be in a throuple relationship. But he worries that he's having too much sex, and thinking about sex so much that it's distracting him at work. Is he a sex addict? What can he do to cool his fevered libido? A strong, confident woman likes casual hook-ups. Her friends joke that she is "a boy on the inside." Her (and our) question is: What is wrong with these people??!! How can she get them to stop, and consider how misogynist this is? Our guest this week is Elise Loehnen, the New York Times bestselling author of "On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to be Good." She is also the host of the podcast, "Pulling the Thread." She and Dan talk about the role that envy plays in the scrutiny of women, slut shaming, lust, and how to work on our relationships with right-wingers. They had a lot to talk about! Some of it is on the Micro, the whole thing is on the Magnum. A woman's new boyfriend was sexually abused by his previous girlfriend. He felt pressured by her to have sex, and it's resulted in his being unable to get hard for the caller. She worries her own excitement will be interpreted as pressure. How can they create safe, loving intimacy as he gets over the previous toxicity? This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Feeld, a dating app where the open-minded can meet the like-minded. Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. Got a Q? Dan's got an A. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project and high-volume producer of cultural neologisms. Santorum, pegging, GGG, tolyamory, monogamish! Dan came up with them and Dan can take them away.

A man in a poly triad has a girlfriend. His girlfriend has a boyfriend, and they all live together, share a dog, and plan to have kids. The caller and the other guy will be at a wedding full of normies who don't know the nature of their relationship. Should he just say they're a gay couple? Or explain the whole poly thing? He can't eat gluten. His boyfriend eats a lot of gluten. Can he eat his boyfriend's come? On the Magnum, we are delighted to welcome back Gianmarco Soresi to the show. The stand-up comedian, shares tales of being a straight man in theater camp as a youth, and a straight man at Fire Island as an adult. He and Dan talk about how to be both a dom AND and a power bottom. And, here's a mind hack for gay actors who have to kiss a lady: pretend she is a watermelon. A man discovered his kinky side with his then-girlfriend. Now that they are broken up, he is sure to see her with her new boyfriend, a pillar in kink scene of their town. How can he learn to go to the munches with his head held high? This episode is brought to you by Hims, providing affordable access to ED treatment, online. Start your free online visit today at Hims.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Erika Lust.com -the world's leading platform for ethical, cinematic adult films. Right now, my listeners get 45% off your subscription when you enter the code SAVAGE45 at erikalust.com. That's Erika Lust with a K! This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. Fearlessly plumbing the depths of anal sex, fighting against the forces of jealousy, a champion for body positivity, and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has had a LOT to say, lo these many years. If only they would listen.

A married mother did some sex work in her younger, wilder days. She's turned on by money, so it seems obvious that she should be a findom. But the typical clientele prefer a younger woman to take their money. How can she get her middle-aged kink on? Meanwhile, a gay man thinks porn is boooor-rrinnng! It's unrealistic, predictable and repetitive. Is there anything good out there? Sometimes you get questions that can only be answered by a porn star. Fortunately, Dan knows some! We are delighted to welcome John Thomas to the show. (You may know him as "Best Bottom of 2021") The extremely charming and visually compelling Thomas, helps answer questions about ethical porn production, the supply and demand differential between tops & bottoms, and the dark art of douching. A little of this gem is on the Micro, and the whole beautiful thing is on the Magnum. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now,  get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

A man's 80 year-old father is getting scammed and extorted by a findom. Should he go to the police? Change his account numbers? See a marriage counselor? A gay man in his 20s looks very young. He worries that the men who are attracted to him may be skeezy because he looks more like a boy than a man. His friends tell him to work it. But how can he safely enjoy New York City's gay dating scene? On the Magnum, a concerned mom wonders how to steer her teenaged kids toward ethical porn. We couldn't think of a better guest to bring on than Erika Lust- she's been making beautifully shot, thoughtful, sexy porn for 20 years. She and Dan talked about dealing with porn as a parent, how much porn is too much porn, and how adult content should NOT be in the hands of tech bros. Finally, is it a consent violation to walk the streets with come visibly on your face? It's a yes or no question. Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Hims, providing affordable access to ED treatment, online. Start your free online visit today at Hims.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Liberator: makers of pillows, shapes and furniture for new exciting sex. Go to Liberator.com/Savage or type “Savage” into the search bar for private VIP access to deals that are too good to announce on this podcast! This episode is brought to you by Radical Relating: A Queer and Polyamory-Informed Guide to Love Beyond the Myth of Monogamy by Mel Cassidy. It's a book on how to do poly better. US-based listeners can get 25% off on www.northatlanticbooks.com through September 2025 with code SAVAGE. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, obituary aficionado and creator of the It Gets Better Project. Bringing you the ups and downs and ins and outs of sex (with a dose of progressive politics,) since the ink dried on the Louisiana Purchase.

A woman's old friend and sometime lover asked her for a beaver shot to ease his stress on an upcoming couples trip. She obliged. Did he thank her? No he did not. She's miffed, and wonders if she's being too sensitive. We love questions like this: What do gay men actually do with vibrators? Our guest is the indomitable E. Jean Carroll. She is a journalist and the author of five books, including a biography of Hunter S. Thompson, and The New York Times bestselling book NOT MY TYPE: One Woman vs. a President. After Donald Trump sexually assaulted her in 1995, she notably beat him in court, twice. She and Dan have a frank, funny convo about the courage it took to face Trump and his legal team, how the assault impacted her sex life, and how most politicians are cowards. Dan and E. Jean clearly love each other, and also divulge an insider advice columnist hack. E. Jean Carroll is a hero and belongs on a votive candle. A little of this interview is on the Micro, and the whole thing is on the Magnum. A woman with mental health challenges can't get off when her partners wear condoms. Now she's pregnant, and plans to get an abortion. She feels like a fool for getting into this situation. What are her options in the future and are there other women out there who have the same problem? Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Skims Men- find super comfortable, super sexy underwear, socks, t-shirts leggings and more at Skims.com. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From age differences to abortion, virgins to vasectomies and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity.