Podcast appearances and mentions of lauren selfridge

When you're overwhelmed, are you able to tell others what you need? In this episode, I talk with Lauren Selfridge, LMFT about creating emotionally safe, deep connections and navigating conflict and: • Translating and communicating our sensitive needs to others  • Creating emotionally safe, deep connections with HSPs and non-HSPs alike  • The value of taking breaks during conflicts to soothe your nervous system and create stronger connections in the process  • Reclaiming sensitivity as resiliency, not a sign of fragility  Lauren is an extroverted HSP and a licensed psychotherapist living with multiple sclerosis. Through her video therapy practice, she supports clients with chronic illness as well as individuals and couples wanting to build extraordinary relationships - using Imago Dialogue Developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt. Lauren also hosts This Is Not What I Ordered: a podcast on finding our way with chronic illness, loss, and change. She loves helping people create meaningful, deep, and joyful connections with themselves and the people they care about. Keep in touch with Lauren: • Website: https://laurenselfridge.com  • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/helloselfridge    Resources Mentioned: • Lauren's Free Guide: 3 Practices for Full Hearted Living with Chronic Illness: https://laurenselfridge.com/listen• Lauren's This Is Not What I Ordered Podcast: https://laurenselfridge.com/listen• Imago Relationship Therapy: https://imagorelationships.orgThanks for listening! You can read the full show notes and sign up for my email list to get new episode announcements and other resources at: https://www.sensitivestories.comYou can also follow "SensitiveStrengths" for behind-the-scenes content plus more educational and inspirational HSP resources: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sensitivestrengths TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sensitivestrengths Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@sensitivestrengths If you have a moment, please rate and review the podcast, it helps Sensitive Stories reach more HSPs! This episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment with a mental health or medical professional. Some links are affiliate links. You are under no obligation to purchase any book, product or service. I am not responsible for the quality or satisfaction of any purchase.

We're on location under the 72-foot tower of Hillside Winery, unmissable to anyone driving along the Naramata Bench. President Duncan McCowan, and winemaker Kathy Malone bring us up-to-date on the winery, the vineyards and their new releases. Marketing manager Lauren Selfridge and Wineshop manager Lesley Buxton talk about the tasting room and the wine club offerings, then Chef Evan Robertson is joined by Kathy Malone to share pairings from The Bistro's menu, while highlighting the hyper-local sourcing that is the hallmark of the winery and its wines.

How do you tell people you have a chronic illness? Lauren Selfridge is San Fransisco based therapist who lives with remitting multiple sclerosis. In this episode of The Pyjama Interviews podcast she shares with Michelle Irving who to tell what, at work about your chronic illness, especially the tricky disclosures about an invisible illness.⁠ Plus how to manage your spoons and set up your day in ways that work for you and your body. And the insider tips on what are the qualities spoonies should look for in a great therapist & why.⁠ Plus in this episode all the details of how to book a complimentary consultation with Michelle in October 2021. Connect with Lauren Instagram: @laurenselfridgeofficial Website: laurenselfridge.com/ Podcast: This is not what I ordered Connect with Michelle Complimentary Consult: bit.ly/michellecall Instagram: @michelleirvingofficial Queen of the Underworld Program Music by Avy Summerlind avysummerlind.com/

In our last episode of the season, we hear from Victoria, an archivist who was forced to find answers on her own about her endometriosis. Like many others diagnosed with a chronic illness, she’s faced multiple hurdles while navigating the medical system. Even though she’s learned a lot along the way, she wants to know how to continue to advocate for herself to her doctor—and how she can advocate for others in similar positions as well. Zahra consults Lauren Selfridge, L.M.F.T., a psychotherapist with multiple sclerosis and the host of This Is Not What I Ordered, a podcast about “full-hearted” living with chronic illness. Lauren shares her experience with multiple sclerosis, and how to find empathetic medical professionals who take you seriously, and the power of a good second opinion. You can learn more about Lauren’s work at her website (https://laurenselfridge.com) and you can follow her on Instagram @laurenselfridgeofficical (https://www.instagram.com/laurenselfridgeofficial/?hl=en).  You can listen to her podcast This Is Not What I Ordered wherever you get your podcasts.  Here are some SELF resources and articles about navigating life when you have a chronic illness: Opening Up About Your Chronic Illness (https://www.self.com/story/checking-in-podcast-multiple-sclerosis)  Writing A Chronic Illness Elevator Pitch Has Made My Doctor’s Appointments So Much Easier (https://www.self.com/story/chronic-illness-elevator-pitch) Let’s Talk About Dating and Relationships When You Have a Chronic Illness (https://www.self.com/story/checking-in-podcast-sex-love-sleep-apnea)  For People with Chronic Illness, Social Isolation Is Nothing New (https://www.self.com/story/chronic-illness-social-isolation-coronavirus)  I’m Furious That It Took Almost a Decade to Diagnose My Chronic Pain (https://www.self.com/story/chronic-pain-ankylosing-spondylitis)  If It Isn’t Chronic Lyme, What Is It? (https://www.self.com/story/chronic-lyme) How to Support a Friend Who’s Just Been Diagnosed With a Chronic Illness (https://www.self.com/story/support-friend-chronic-illness) Don’t miss out on new episodes of Checking In on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Apple Podcasts: http://listen.self.com/self-apple Spotify: http://listen.self.com/self-spotify Google Podcasts: http://listen.self.com/self-google Don't forget to sign up for the Checking In newsletter here: https://www.self.com/newsletter/checking-in If you have a health or wellness question of your own and want a chance to be featured on the podcast, you can submit it here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Checking In, we hear from Sophie, a listener who was recently diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. She cares deeply about her career and is worried that her colleagues will make assumptions about her capabilities in light of this diagnosis. She wants to know: How much should she disclose to them? Carolyn consults with Lauren Selfridge, a psychotherapist who lives with multiple sclerosis herself. They discuss the unique challenges of navigating relationships while living with a chronic illness, as well as the ways in which those relationships can sometimes become more meaningful as a result. Lauren Selfridge is a psychotherapist, who also lives with multiple sclerosis. You can follow her @laurenselfridgetherapy or learn more about her practice here. If you think you are at risk for MS, check out this piece on the early warning signs people should watch for. If you’ve recently been diagnosed with MS, there are several great resources you may find helpful.  Here are some questions you may want to ask your doctor about your diagnosis. You can also read about the experiences from others who are living with MS here and here. And if someone you love was recently diagnosed, check out this article on how you can support them. Don’t miss out on new episodes of Checking In on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Sign up for the Checking In newsletter here: https://www.self.com/newsletter/checking-in If you have a health or wellness question of your own and want a chance to be featured on the podcast, you can submit it here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, we’re speaking with Lauren Selfridge, a therapist in private practice, who is going to be talking about what it took for her to raise her fees and why she had to change her schedule.  She actually found out on the verge of her private practice that she had MS, which really impacted how she went into private practice.  We're going to be talking about how Lauren created a private online practice that sustains her, that works for her, and allows her to live her dream life. She is living in two different countries and going back and forth. She can continue to work with the clients that she is passionate about serving and she has been able to creatively build a business. She has a podcast, This Is Not What I Ordered, and also does graphic design work, that allows her to give back. In this episode, Lauren will share: Her private practice journey, especially after being diagnosed with a chronic illness; What led her to increasing her fees and how that journey occurred; How she created a side business that allows her to give back; What she thinks about making sustainable, consistent change in this current political, social and economic climate.  Resources mentioned: Lean In. Make Bank. WellnessFi This Is Not What I Ordered “Living Your Dream As You Build It” Workbook More about Lauren:  Lauren Selfridge is the host of "This Is Not What I Ordered"--a podcast on full-hearted living with chronic illness and health challenges. In her psychotherapy practice, Lauren works with people living with chronic illness and couples. She loves helping clients nurture their spiritual and emotional development through unexpected challenges, and supporting them in building meaningful lives filled with joy, connection, rest, and creativity.

In this week's episode, I'm speaking with Lauren Selfridge, therapist, creative vision consultant and host of the podcast This is not what I ordered. She talks about everything from how Conan O'Brien and a rowing machine figure into her self-care routine to the silver lining of living with multiple sclerosis. Her version of full-hearted living means meeting herself where she is in each moment, allowing whatever feelings arise and encouraging others to do the same.In addition to being a couple's psychotherapist, Lauren is a Creative Vision Consultant, podcast host, portrait photographer, living-room-dance-partier, watercolor artist, and a big fan laughing so hard that she winds up on the floor.After an MS diagnosis in 2015, she experienced a shift in her priorities and her definition of fulfillment. As a result, she's way more focused on joy and connection, and she's passionate about helping other people live their most fulfilled lives now.INFO AND LINKS:Receive a free copy of Lauren's Creative Joy Workbook at redreamyourlife.comListen to the This Is Not What I Ordered podcast at thisisnotwhatiordered.comTo learn more about DBT group therapy with Rebekah Shackney LCSW, go to https://rebekahshackney.com/groups

Lauren Selfridge, LMFT (www.laurenselfridge.com) is the host of the podcast This Is Not What I Ordered.  In her personal; and professional life she has worked hard to create a positive space for those dealing with Chronic Illness.  Lauren and John discuss what some in the CI community face and ways she recommends for them to cope with their diagnosis.

Interview With Wellness Podcast Host and SF Therapist Lauren Selfridge: Life and Creativity After Diagnosis. Lauren Selfridge run This Is Not What I Ordered which she began after her diagnosis with MS.I was a professional photographer until my diagnosis and unending flair of Ehlers Danlos, PTS, Fibromyalgia, and MCA.After my diagnosis I shuttered my business and began to write and illustrate children’s books. Once my hands could not handle daily drawing I started Invisible Not Broken.If you would like to see what Lauren and I are working on: See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In this episode I talk to Shannon MacFarlane. Shannon remembers suffering from endometriosis from as young as 12 years old. Since then she has been diagnosed with three other chronic illnesses. Shannon is also a mother who’s son also suffers from a chronic illness. Shannon shares her journey and what her day-to-day life is like living with illnesses that others struggle to understand.  About Shannon: Shannon lives, loves, and plays in Tacoma, WA, USA, with her husband, son, and kitties. As much as she wouldn’t wish chronic illness on anyone, she’s grateful for the opportunity to rebuild her life around what feels good from day to day and learn to really listen to her body. In this episode, Shannon shares her day-to-day life and explains how chronic illness can be detriment as well as a blessing. If you enjoyed our intimate conversation then feel free to leave a comment at the bottom of this page or rate us highly over on iTunes! Resources Feel free to connect with Shannon over on her website and Facebook: Website: www.slobberedlens.comFacebook: @slobberedlens This Is Not What I Ordered is a podcast about living with chronic illness. The host, Lauren Selfridge, lives with a chronic illness herself and is a psychotherapist – she brings compassion and insight to her interviews with others. https://laurenselfridge.com/   The Mighty publishes many first-person experiences and resources of many kinds of illness (and different abilities). https://themighty.com/   Got any resources on chronic illness that you’d love to share? Add them to the comments or tweet them to us @uncomfy_podcast and we’ll add them to this page!   

EPISODE 011 TITLE I’ve been high achieving, and I’ve been reinforced for that; to be moderately achieving felt like I’d lost a piece of my identity GUEST Allison Puryear, EPISODE OVERVIEW Allison talks about having to slow down for health reasons and how this impacted her sense of worth and value.  What do you do when you’re a striver and you’re used to pushing through?  How to set up structure to support having more balance. We talk about being in the sandwich (or panini) generation, where you’re getting “pressed” from both generations.  How to manage caring for, and attending to parents and children and managing medical appointments, disappointing news, and taking care of yourself. Allison utilizes her DBT, ACT, CBT skills to manage high stress levels. We talk about how to see if you’re a Highly Sensitive Person, and we talk about that 30% of HSPs are extroverts and 70% are introverts.  Jaquelyn Strickland has written an article on being an HS Extrovert. We review the 4 traits of Highly Sensitive People (DOES)—Depth of Processing, Overarousal/overstimulation, Emotional responsiveness/empathy and Sensory Sensitivity.  WE talk about courage and vulnerability and Brene Brown’s work.  We also talk about Allison’s guest appearance on Lauren Selfridge’s podcast This Is Not What I Ordered. BIO Allison Puryear is an LCSW with a nearly diagnosable obsession with business development. She has started practices in three different states and wants you to know that building a private practice is shockingly doable when you have a plan and support. She teaches everything you need to know about building a private practice in the Abundance Party, where you can get practice-building help for the cost of a copay. You can download a free private practice checklist to make sure you have your ducks in a row, listen in on consultations and interviews on the Abundant Practice Podcast, and hop into the free Facebook Group full of over 13,000 other clinicians in private practice. Allison is all about helping you gain the confidence and tools you need to succeed. HIGHLIGHTS 4 Characteristics of Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) D-O-E-S Depth of processing Overarousability /Overstimulation Emotional Responsiveness/Empathy Sensory Sensitivity Monthly check-in asking What is important to me? My health Managing stress levels (which is a trigger for poor health) Making sleep a priority Family Business It’s easy to use scheduling as a way to avoid feelings Feel the feeling, AND look at the schedule What are the things that are important (paper and action) Does your schedule reflect your values? Leave computer at home No work apps on phone   QUOTES My worth doesn’t lie in what I create I had to sit with the feeling that people are disappointed that I’m only putting out one piece of content now instead of four. What if people are let down by the shift? What does that mean about me? It doesn’t mean anything, what somebody else thinks about me. For my whole life I’ve been high achieving and I’ve been reinforced for that To be moderately achieving felt like I’d lost a piece of my identity I was driving myself too hard for something people weren’t even asking for I would love to be one of those people who learns from others’ mistakes, but most of the time I have to fail on my own I have this rule—If it’s not a hell yes, then it’s a no You can have frustration tolerance and be tough and handle what’s thrown at you, AND be highly sensitive LINKS https://abundancepracticebuilding.com/ https://abundanceparty.com/join-now   Allison’s guest appearance on the podcast This Is Not What I Ordered with Lauren Selfridge-- http://thisisnotwhatiordered.libsyn.com/27-entrepreneurship-chronic-illness-with-allison-puryear   Dr. Elaine Aron’s website—https://hsperson.com   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail--info@unapologeticallysensitive.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

The days are getting shorter, sunlight is scarce, and the end of the year is rapidly approaching. That’s why I want to use this episode to check in with all of you before we wrap up 2018. I also want to share a very important (and surprisingly controversial) topic that’s been on my mind: happiness. We all enjoy being happy, especially during the holidays, but the darkest time of the year can also bring some difficult emotions with it. I want to shed some light on why we feel so much pressure to be happy all the time, offer some advice on connecting with your spiritual shepherd, and really dig into our ever-changing emotions for an honest discussion on giving ourselves permission to not be “okay.” There’s something sacred about allowing ourselves to embrace those challenging emotions and truly feel them, even if it means falling apart. I’m so glad that we can use this episode as a reminder that you don’t need to be happy all of the time to embody full-hearted living. I hope you enjoy, and I hope it gives you the permission you need to feel whatever you’re feeling in each moment.

Lauren talks about the power of mirroring in relationships, and how it positively impacts her work as an interviewer and a therapist--mirroring is reflecting back what the other person has shared in order to improve communication. Lauren beautifully describes how she intentionally feel into emotions before and during sessions/interviews as a way to be an even more effective practitioner practitioner/interviewer. We also talk about friendships, and Lauren talks about specific exercises and tools that can be sued with a partner or friend to get closer and learn more about each other. QUOTES-- This emotion is perfect for this moment My goal is to feel everything that arises in me Feeling are superpowers Another name for HSP--A person who gets the texture of life BIO-- Lauren is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist in San Francisco, California. She works with couples, individuals and people living with chronic illness. Lauren was diagnosed with Relapsing Multiple Sclerosis in 2015, and has found that although living with an autoimmune disease is not an easy path, it's brought more joy and fulfillment into her life than before. This January (2018) she launched the podcast "This is Not What I Ordered;" a weekly interview show about full-hearted living with chronic illness and health challenges. She believes that the biggest difficulties in our lives are often invitations into a deeper, richer, more conscious relationship with ourselves. HIGHLIGHTS-- Imago Couple's Dialogue Sender (no blaming, shaming or criticizing) Receiver mirrors word for word (provides summary and validating Validation--why it makes sense based on who the sender is (not based on the receiver) Two styles of conflict Minimizer Maximizer Both partners are needed to maintain the ecosystem (the balance in the relationship) Reflections to do weekly with your partner Something you did to support our relationship this week What was it like when you did that? Something I did this week to support the relationship How was it helpful to me If I could have a do-over this week, this is what I would do differently LINKS www.thisisnotwhatiordered.com www.laurenselfridgetherapy.com www.laurenselfridgephotography.com Twitter: @NWIOpodcast and @HelloSelfridge Instagram: @NWIOpodcast @LaurenSelfridgeOfficial Facebook: www.facebook.com/thisisnotwhatiordered Show hashtag: #NWIOpodcast Website-- www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast-- www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Youtube-- www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6foodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Show hashtag-- #unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC--Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive!gmail.com    

Hello and welcome to this episode of The Couples Expert podcast with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This is episode 162 of our show. This week Stuart welcomes Lauren Selfridge to the podcast. Lauren became interested in becoming a therapist after being a lifelong client of therapy. She wanted to be a couple's therapist. While in school she began to have symptoms of what she later learned was Multiple Sclerosis. Lauren is joining us to talk about a topic that is important to a lot of people, that of having a loved one with a chronic illness. She had to learn to live with this illness while training to be a therapist. Stuart has a personal connection with this topic as his daughter has had medical issues throughout her life and he's been very open about talking about what living with someone who has medical issues and the impact on family and relationships. Poem: Welcome to Holland http://www.our-kids.org/Archives/Holland.html   What you'll learn about in today's podcast: Lauren's journey has helped her to be a better therapist 10:56 How talking about chronic illness is important in a couple's relationship 14:07 When one of you is ill and you can't participate in activities you love 16:09 It's about the attitude and the experience 18:17 Chronic illness will show you who you really are  22:24 You are not your disease 23:44 Navigating emotions and illness in a relationship is tricky 24:22 Doing the work early in the relationship makes it better when the challenges come 26:12 Suggestions for couples dealing with health challenges 32:27   It's so important to separate the person from the illness and for each partner in the relationship to realize that there's a lot of guilt and shame that comes if they're feeling like they brought the illness into the relationship vs. both partners are united in battling the challenges together as a unified team. This distinction helps for couples to remain close and connected and allow them to give each other space to talk about how they're feeling about the challenge. Each person should be able to express how the changes affect them , the fears and concerns they have and hopefully through doing this gain a deeper insight into how each of them are feeling about what both are going through. We want to extend our thanks to Lauren Selfridge for being on the podcast this week. You can learn more about Lauren and listen to her podcast “This is Not What I Ordered” here : https://laurenselfridge.com/   Getting The Love You Want book and workshop recommended by Lauren Selfridge https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Love-You-Want-Anniversary/dp/0805087001     The Couples Expert is sponsored by: The Annual Relationship Check up! There's a way for you to do an evaluation on just where you are in your relationship right now. https://www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com/annual-relationship-check-up/   Next Week: Join Stuart next week when he tackles another health-related topic of genuine concern for couples: That of sexuality as we age. We hope you'll listen in.   Email Stuart at:  podcast@thecouplesexperts.com   Until next time, stay connected!

Hi and welcome back to The Couples Expert Podcast with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This week's topic is “One foot out the door and how to fix it.”  This is episode 161 of our show. The meaning behind the title, as you will soon see, is more about being fully invested in your relationship. When you're all in as in poker, you don't leave yourself an “out.” That's what Stuart will be discussing in this very important podcast episode today. See Stuart's Facebook Live on the gratitude he has for all of you that listen to the podcast. Thank you for taking the time to listen in. He recorded the Live on April 18, 2018. Stuart talks about how he has recommitted to his faith since his Dad passed away and has joined a men's group through the temple. He had an opportunity to honor his Dad's memory by reading from the Torah at a service in the synagogue. Stuart and Debbie were invited to a Kentucky Derby party at a friend's on Cinco de Mayo, which is the same Saturday as the service in the temple.  He thought hard about the conflict and prayed about it and decided that it was more important to him and his relationship with his wife to spend that Saturday with Debbie and their friends, making the relationship more important than anything else. After all, he'd already bought the hat!   Stuart will continue to honor his Dad in his religious practice, but felt that Dad's emphasis on the importance of family and relationships warranted his staying with Debbie for this social event that means so much to them. Stuart made the choice to devote the time to his relationship with Debbie and choosing love. What you'll learn from today's episode: Nothing matters more than your relationship 8:46 Feeling alone in a struggling relationship is a terrible place 11:09 The foundation has to be built to move forward 15:56 Begin to talk about the things you need to do to feel the connection you've lost 20:02 Be invested, be romantic, take it one day at a time. Show that commitment every day. 22:24 It's so important to set aside time that's special just for the two of you. Start courting your partner, call or text them during the day. Think about them when you're apart. Begin to do things together like you did when you were dating.  Go along and don't complain. Make it about sharing fun times with your partner and making it a good experience for them. Ask more frequent questions about how they're doing and feeling.  Take a look at yourself and work on those things that might be causing problems for the two of you. Those things you can change within yourself. If you're overcommitting time with kid activities, back off a little and schedule couples time as a priority. Date, flirt and play together and make it romantic. Get away together and just have fun and be sweet to each other, make it about having an emotional connection together. Special time together is so important. Have you gone all in? This podcast is sponsored by: The 2 Days and 7 Conversations workshop presented by The Couples Expert. Learn more here: http://www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com/hold-me-tight/   Email: podcast@thecouplesexperts.com Stuart would love to hear from you with reviews, comments and suggestions for future podcasts. Next week: Lauren Selfridge will be Stuart's guest on The Couples Expert. They will be discussing, love, relationships and chronic illness. We hope you'll listen in. Until next time -  Go all in with each other and stay connected!

For this Radical Short, we time travel all the way back to February, when my colleague Lauren Selfridge, host and creator of the podcast This Is Not What I Ordered, joined me in the studio and we answered a listener question about why feeling is important - even if it does hurt sometimes. Produced by Lily Sloane Find This Is Not What I Ordered at www.thisisnotwhatiordered.com and all the podcast listening places. Radical Advice is live Tuesdays from 10am-noon pacific time on www.BFF.fm and you can find past broadcasts archived on the website or by subscribing to radical advice in your favorite podcast listening place. If you want your life questions answered on Radical Advice, please visit radicaladviceshow.com. You can submit your question anonymously right there on the site. Or you can record a voice memo and email it to me at lilysloane@gmail.com. Become a patron of the show by visiting www.patreon.com/atherapistwalksintoabar Find the show on Twitter @atwiabpod; Radical Advice @radical_advice; and Lily @lilyrosesloane

Today I'd like to chat with you about why everything about you is worthy of love. I'll share some of the recent difficult and beautiful moments in my health journey, and the steps I took to transform a challenging experience by practicing acceptance and kindness towards myself. This episode was recorded live from a Facebook broadcast in The Podcast Cafe: an online community where "This Is Not What I Ordered" listeners gather and connect. I spend time thinking with listeners who submitted comments while tuned in to the broadcast, some of which came courtesy of one of our earliest guests, Tara Cameron (Episode 4). Together, let's reflect on treating every part of yourself kindly—even the parts you may not be a fan of—and bringing a welcoming spirit to all that arises in you. You can read the full show notes at www.thisisnotwhatiordered.com

“I am an extrovert. My body is an Introvert” — Lauren Selfridge Show notes from Remitting MS and Interview With Lauren Selfridge from This Is Not What I Ordered A Chronic Illness PodcastLauren Selfridge had remitting MS is a therapist in the SF Bay Area and runs a wonderful chronic illness podcast called This Is Not What I Ordered.To be VERY clear Lauren is on the calmer side of the spectrum of MS that though has bad days at this time she is still able to continue to work and run a GREAT Podcast This Is Not What I Ordered Great tech explanation of MSSome VERY good information about MS diagnosis and testsStress is the doctors new go to instead of “hysteria”Don’t be afraid to DEMAND a test that you know you needSpinal Tap is much more fun as a movie than as a medical test, click here to see what I mean. HERESorry real life barking pug decided to be a “helper dog” and be a part of the interviewThe amazing kryptonite of the white coat that can turn the feistiest of us into terrified childrenCall to Drs. for interviewees I would love to see the other side of sick world.Yes, Monica is a complete Neil Gaiman. There is no denying it. Someday Dr. Who will sponsor this podcast when they know how many of us spoonies watch obsessively on our stay in bed days.All about taking advantage of the good low symptom times. The ups and the fears of positive low symptom times.What is it like when you are different than most of the people who have your disorder, hint it makes it difficult to make long-term choices.Changing your views of what a successful fulfilling life to redefine not around what the body will do.Some really awesome advice Monica’s dad gave her maybe a tad too young. Yay, my dad!Some great career choices for the chronic spoonieMonica’s mom is awesome and might be a future guest to talk about being a caregiver for an adult disabled child.Spoonie decisions for one’s work and social life, hint a bit like Sophie's ChoiceChronic illness and the kick in the tail for life experiencesPublic transportation and chronic illness Thank you Uber and LyftUber’s new medical serviceThe epic fight with a Benadryl IV trust me it is chronic illness gallows humor hilarious Google Image search is not always your friend when you have a chronic illnessThe calming effects of watching aquariums or paint on YouTubeWhat it is like to hope on horizons with a well-funded disorderTherapy and chronic illness some of the up and downsides of group therapy and online support groups Lauren's Facebook Group This Is Not What I OrderedThe importance of social media and access to others for chronic illness and for teens.The physical and social isolation of chronic illness The body perfection model as the body is a reflection of who you are as a person and what happens when your body goes rogueLoving What Is Byron Katie. My new favorite quote, "It’s not your job to like me it’s mine.”"You don’t have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body." CS. Lewis. This is the real quote I mangled. Til We Have Faces Chronic illness is transformative and not always in a bad way. Enjoy the show? Subscribe Sign up with your email address to receive news and updates. Email Address Sign Up We respect your privacy. Thank you! Grieving your health and living a full heart at the same time. A real talk about grieving, grieving a lifestyle, a person, or a healthy body. Till We Have Faces: A Myth Retold Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Welcome to Beyond the Couch, a show devoted to celebrating you in your amazing life. Thank you for tuning in. You can also Subscribe to auto-download new podcast episodes to your Apple or Android device. After you listen to a few episodes, please consider leaving an honest rating and review of how the podcast has helped your transformation journey. This helps the information reach more of the people who are going through the same journey. Be sure to get an intro to Mindfulness with my cheat sheet and bonus audio sample here: http://www.subscribepage.com/w6h6i6 Overview: Lauren Selfridge joins me to discuss the ways that we can more easily navigate health struggles so that we can not only heal ourselves, but to find greater strength and resilience so that we can shine in a life that we celebrate! Lauren Selfridge is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist in San Francisco, California. She works with couples, individuals, and people living with chronic illness. Lauren was diagnosed with Relapsing Remitting Multiple Sclerosis in 2015 and has found that, although living with an autoimmune disease is not an easy path, it's brought more joy and fulfillment into her life than before. This January, she launched the podcast, "This Is Not What I Ordered:" a weekly interview show about full-hearted living with chronic illness and health challenges. She believes that the biggest difficulties in our lives are often invitations into a deeper, richer, more conscious relationship with ourselves.  She offers us these tips for getting started in navigating chronic health conditions:    1. Find a therapist or coach who is a good fit for you, and use that relationship to foster your emotional wellbeing alongside your physical care. 2. Allow yourself to feel it all (joy, fear, boredom, delight, loneliness, excitement, hopelessness, and more). Your emotions need to be felt, and they rarely last when we really let ourselves feel them.  3. Give yourself time and space to take breaks from the intensity of what you're going through. Spend time with friends, watch movies, and remember that you don't always have to be putting forth effort in order to make progress. Resources Mentioned: Beyond the Couch Podcast: http://www.drsallynazari.com/Podcast.en.html  Lauren Selfridge Psychotherapy: www.laurenselfridgetherapy.com   This Is Not What I Ordered: The Podcast  www.thisisnotwhatiordered.com   "Therapists + Coaches Who Get It" Directory (practitioners specializing in working with health challenges) www.thisisnotwhatiordered.com/directory   Sacred Psychology with Tamara Powell: https://aryatherapy.com/podcast/ I would love to hear the ways that you started shin gin through your health struggles and celebrated your magnificent life! Be sure to share with us in our social media communities listed below so we can celebrate with you! Facebook: www.facebook.com/drsallynazari Twitter: www.twitter.com/chrysalisdoc  

In the spirit of vulnerability and trust, I cannot think of a better way to kick off This Is Not What I Ordered than with my own story of chronic illness. That’s right—I’m the first interviewee on the podcast. My dear friend and fellow therapist Jessica is joining me in my living room in San Francisco to ask questions and share memories. Along the way, I want to open up my life a bit and share what I have experienced and where I have grown. For your ears today is my ongoing journey with Multiple Sclerosis, just so you and I can get to know each other better.    You can read the full show notes at www.thisisnotwhatiordered.com.

What’s it like for a therapist to live with a chronic illness or other health issues? Lauren talks about training to become a therapist while learning that she had Multiple Sclerosis about three years ago. She shares the deep changes she went through in how she sees herself, her business, and therapy. Whether you’re dealing with health issues or not, you’ll find tons of great ideas and wisdom from this conversation.   Topics Discussed In This Episode:   Learning how to be a therapist while learning to live with chronic illness Changing her original business goals to fit what works for her body Allowing her symptoms to show up during sessions rather than pushing them away Focusing on working with people who have chronic illness and health issues Leaning on her superpower of staying emotionally present Permission for her clients to be whoever and wherever they are Giving a talk that brought in referrals from doctors Plans to create offerings outside of therapy Using FB live to grow her audience Fees, with real numbers as usual Her advice for a therapist who needs to work less due to health issues       Show notes at http://coachingwithannie.com/podcast/lauren-selfridge