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When you're overwhelmed, are you able to tell others what you need? In this episode, I talk with Lauren Selfridge, LMFT about creating emotionally safe, deep connections and navigating conflict and: • Translating and communicating our sensitive needs to others  • Creating emotionally safe, deep connections with HSPs and non-HSPs alike  • The value of taking breaks during conflicts to soothe your nervous system and create stronger connections in the process  • Reclaiming sensitivity as resiliency, not a sign of fragility  Lauren is an extroverted HSP and a licensed psychotherapist living with multiple sclerosis. Through her video therapy practice, she supports clients with chronic illness as well as individuals and couples wanting to build extraordinary relationships - using Imago Dialogue Developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt. Lauren also hosts This Is Not What I Ordered: a podcast on finding our way with chronic illness, loss, and change. She loves helping people create meaningful, deep, and joyful connections with themselves and the people they care about. Keep in touch with Lauren: • Website: https://laurenselfridge.com  • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/helloselfridge    Resources Mentioned: • Lauren's Free Guide: 3 Practices for Full Hearted Living with Chronic Illness: https://laurenselfridge.com/listen• Lauren's This Is Not What I Ordered Podcast: https://laurenselfridge.com/listen• Imago Relationship Therapy: https://imagorelationships.orgThanks for listening! You can read the full show notes and sign up for my email list to get new episode announcements and other resources at: https://www.sensitivestories.comYou can also follow "SensitiveStrengths" for behind-the-scenes content plus more educational and inspirational HSP resources: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sensitivestrengths TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sensitivestrengths Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@sensitivestrengths If you have a moment, please rate and review the podcast, it helps Sensitive Stories reach more HSPs! This episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment with a mental health or medical professional. Some links are affiliate links. You are under no obligation to purchase any book, product or service. I am not responsible for the quality or satisfaction of any purchase.

This week playwright Steve Fife sat in-studio in the Playwright's Spotlight. It was a reflective conversation of his experience in New York and on Broadway in the seventies, his dislike of eighties, and the joyous return in the nineties. We discuss rewriting and updating past works, getting back to theatre's roots, directing your own work (of course) and The Greats, the current acceptance of dark subject matter, and audience feedback at staged readings. We also touch on theatre in L.A., cast conflicts and obligations, Playwrights vs Directors interpretation, lessons from workshop participation vs running workshops as well as lessons as a literary manager which led into stories of David Ives and fame in the bubble of theatre and being a big fish in a small pond. Our conversation ends in writing natural dialogue. It's a fascinating conversation through a window of where theatre was and where it is now and Steve's connection with personas we've all come to know throughout our time in this wondrous arena. I'm sure you'll find something to connect with. Enjoy!Steve Fife is an author, poet, and playwright and former reporter and literary manager. His plays SAVAGE WORLD, BREAK OF DAY and THIS IS NOT WHAT I ORDERED have been published by Samuel French/Concord Theatricals.  Other plays include In The Mood, Sizzle Sizzle, Blue Kiss, The Kitchen Girl, Fun With Freud, Scattered Blossoms, Vincent in the Asylum, Van Gogh's Zombie Movie, The Transformation Center, Bring Your Own and The Blessing. His adaptation of Sholem Asch's God of Vengeance was produced Off-Broadway and The American Wife had its World Premiere at the Park Theatre in London. He was 2019-20 writer-in-residence at the Ark Theatre in North Hollywood. He has also penned book & lyrics for four musicals. He is a graduate the National Theatre Institute, Sarah Lawrence College and received his MFA from Columbia University's School of the Arts. To view the video format of this episode, visit -https://youtu.be/RZmBvAMPM3ELinks mentioned in this episode -Interact Theatre Company -https://www.interactla.org/"Hurricane" Carter -https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rubin_CarterMatrix Theatre -http://www.matrixtheatre.comNew Dramatists -https://newdramatists.orgConcord Theatricals -https://www.concordtheatricals.comWebsites and socials for Steve Fife -Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/steve.fife.94X - @twistedhipster8IG - @steve.fife.94Websites and socials for James Elden, PMP, and Playwright's Spotlight -Punk Monkey Productions - www.punkmonkeyproductions.comPLAY Noir -www.playnoir.comPLAY Noir Anthology –www.punkmonkeyproductions.com/contact.htmlJames Elden -Twitter - @jameseldensauerIG - @alakardrakeFB - fb.com/jameseldensauerPunk Monkey Productions and PLAY Noir - Twitter - @punkmonkeyprods                  - @playnoirla IG - @punkmonkeyprods       - @playnoir_la FB - fb.com/playnoir        - fb.com/punkmonkeyproductionsPlaywright's Spotlight -Twitter - @wrightlightpod IG - @playwrights_spotlightPlaywriting services through Los Angeles Collegiate Playwrights Festivalwww.losangelescollegiateplaywrightsfestival.com/services.htmlSupport the show

Melissa and Sherry are so excited to welcome you to the very first episode of Senseless, a podcast that explores chronic health conditions, vision loss, and hearing loss with humor, wisdom, and friendship. They begin by telling the story of how their friendship began, how they bonded over their respective sensory loss experiences, and their individual journeys with chronic health conditions. Melissa shares her experience of progressive hearing loss beginning with an incident after a loud party at age 21, and the simultaneous devastation and relief she felt after being diagnosed with only 50% of her hearing in her early 30s. Sherry talks about being diagnosed with an eye condition called Panuveitis at just 19 years old, as well as Reiter's Syndrome, a severe form of arthritis, then Multiple Sclerosis 14 years ago, and Lyme Disease just last year.  Sherry describes the “Spiritual Renovation” she underwent after ignoring her body's signals for too long, finding the joy in everyday life despite inevitable ups and downs, and making peace with pain instead of trying to escape it. Melissa and Sherry discuss the healing power of their friendship and connecting with someone on the same wavelength, even though they navigate the world in different ways. They discuss reframing sensory loss to focus on the positive aspects it brings, learning to receive help, not just give it, and the importance of leaving your pieces on the ground, being vulnerable, and living without walls or barriers. This podcast is not psychotherapy and does not contain medical advice, but is simply a recording of two friends talking. Episode Highlights: Melissa and Sherry bonded over their chronic health conditions almost two years ago They met when they were both listening to a podcast about living with chronic health conditions called https://laurenselfridge.com/listen (This Is Not What I Ordered), hosted by Lauren Selfridge Sherry has extensive vision loss, and Melissa has extensive hearing loss Melissa began experiencing progressive hearing loss during a Spring Break trip at age 21 She also had chronic ear infections as a baby Went out dancing to loud music and her ears rang so loudly the next day, she couldn't hear what people were saying Finally had her hearing checked in her early 30s and found that she only had 50% of her hearing She felt simultaneously devastated and relieved to now understand why she had to work so hard to get through the day She eventually got hearing aids and realized she had not been hearing birds It was overwhelming and jarring to finally hear the world around her for the first time Probable diagnosis was Endolymphatic Hydrops, an imbalance of fluid in the inner ear that gets triggered by inflammation Anti-inflammation diet, and how certain foods cause a flare-up Sherry's story of being diagnosed with an eye condition called Panuveitis at 19 years old She had to start having injections into her eyeball immediately, to try to save her vision She had surgery to have her right eye removed She was also diagnosed with Reiter's Syndrome, and later Ankylosing Spondylitis, a form of arthritis, and had severe joint pain She has been on countless medications over the years Fourteen years ago she was also diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis She did not truly acknowledge what her body was going through for a long time - she just kept going and didn't ask for any help She became bedridden for two years, and had to come to terms with her illness Sherry's positive outlook and “Spiritual Renovation” that her health issues have brought her It has also strengthened her faith and allowed her to find safety in silence Last year she was also diagnosed with Lyme Disease, which she feels confident she had all along, since her first eye issues at 19 She lives with debilitating chronic fatigue But she is still happy and joyous through it all Hearing loss can be reframed as “Deaf Gain” Reading the initial show notes for today's

In our last episode of the season, we hear from Victoria, an archivist who was forced to find answers on her own about her endometriosis. Like many others diagnosed with a chronic illness, she’s faced multiple hurdles while navigating the medical system. Even though she’s learned a lot along the way, she wants to know how to continue to advocate for herself to her doctor—and how she can advocate for others in similar positions as well. Zahra consults Lauren Selfridge, L.M.F.T., a psychotherapist with multiple sclerosis and the host of This Is Not What I Ordered, a podcast about “full-hearted” living with chronic illness. Lauren shares her experience with multiple sclerosis, and how to find empathetic medical professionals who take you seriously, and the power of a good second opinion. You can learn more about Lauren’s work at her website (https://laurenselfridge.com) and you can follow her on Instagram @laurenselfridgeofficical (https://www.instagram.com/laurenselfridgeofficial/?hl=en).  You can listen to her podcast This Is Not What I Ordered wherever you get your podcasts.  Here are some SELF resources and articles about navigating life when you have a chronic illness: Opening Up About Your Chronic Illness (https://www.self.com/story/checking-in-podcast-multiple-sclerosis)  Writing A Chronic Illness Elevator Pitch Has Made My Doctor’s Appointments So Much Easier (https://www.self.com/story/chronic-illness-elevator-pitch) Let’s Talk About Dating and Relationships When You Have a Chronic Illness (https://www.self.com/story/checking-in-podcast-sex-love-sleep-apnea)  For People with Chronic Illness, Social Isolation Is Nothing New (https://www.self.com/story/chronic-illness-social-isolation-coronavirus)  I’m Furious That It Took Almost a Decade to Diagnose My Chronic Pain (https://www.self.com/story/chronic-pain-ankylosing-spondylitis)  If It Isn’t Chronic Lyme, What Is It? (https://www.self.com/story/chronic-lyme) How to Support a Friend Who’s Just Been Diagnosed With a Chronic Illness (https://www.self.com/story/support-friend-chronic-illness) Don’t miss out on new episodes of Checking In on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Apple Podcasts: http://listen.self.com/self-apple Spotify: http://listen.self.com/self-spotify Google Podcasts: http://listen.self.com/self-google Don't forget to sign up for the Checking In newsletter here: https://www.self.com/newsletter/checking-in If you have a health or wellness question of your own and want a chance to be featured on the podcast, you can submit it here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Living with Long Haul COVID-19 (or PASC as it is now clinically known) is a reality more and more people are living with every day. While new details emerge about symptoms of post- viral COVID- 19, it’s important to support loved ones, friends, or colleagues who are learning to live with this debilitating, new normal. In this episode, we sit down with a very special guest to discuss the ways that we can support a COVID-19 Long Hauler with empathy, dignity, and authenticity.Put Your Money Where Your Mouth Is:1.Briogeo (@briogeo)- Bringing you clean and conscious haircare for all. https://briogeohair.com/2.Julia Vaughn (@juliavaughn)- Contemporary costume jewelry brand in the heart of Orange County. https://juliavaughn.com/Keep Up With Lauren SelfridgeConnect with Lauren: http://www.laurenselfridge.com/workwithlaurenGet a free copy of Lauren's Joy Workbook: www.redreamyourlife.com Listen to the "This Is Not What I Ordered" podcast: http://www.thisisnotwhatiordered.com"When Scars Connect Us" (thyroidectomy episode of my podcast with Romina Pacheco) http://www.thisisnotwhatiordered.com/episode6Hedy Schleifer (Crossing the bridge!) www.hedyschleifer.com Harville Hendrix ("Getting The Love You Want" book) www.harvilleandhelen.com Rachel Rodgers (We Should All Be Millionaires book) www.helloseven.co Bread Baking Book/Video Course www.lifeasastrawberry.com Find me on Social Media:@blackandyellowpodcastAlana J. Webster: @renegadeoffun See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

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In this episode, we’re speaking with Lauren Selfridge, a therapist in private practice, who is going to be talking about what it took for her to raise her fees and why she had to change her schedule.  She actually found out on the verge of her private practice that she had MS, which really impacted how she went into private practice.  We're going to be talking about how Lauren created a private online practice that sustains her, that works for her, and allows her to live her dream life. She is living in two different countries and going back and forth. She can continue to work with the clients that she is passionate about serving and she has been able to creatively build a business. She has a podcast, This Is Not What I Ordered, and also does graphic design work, that allows her to give back. In this episode, Lauren will share: Her private practice journey, especially after being diagnosed with a chronic illness; What led her to increasing her fees and how that journey occurred; How she created a side business that allows her to give back; What she thinks about making sustainable, consistent change in this current political, social and economic climate.  Resources mentioned: Lean In. Make Bank. WellnessFi This Is Not What I Ordered “Living Your Dream As You Build It” Workbook More about Lauren:  Lauren Selfridge is the host of "This Is Not What I Ordered"--a podcast on full-hearted living with chronic illness and health challenges. In her psychotherapy practice, Lauren works with people living with chronic illness and couples. She loves helping clients nurture their spiritual and emotional development through unexpected challenges, and supporting them in building meaningful lives filled with joy, connection, rest, and creativity.

In this week's episode, I'm speaking with Lauren Selfridge, therapist, creative vision consultant and host of the podcast This is not what I ordered. She talks about everything from how Conan O'Brien and a rowing machine figure into her self-care routine to the silver lining of living with multiple sclerosis. Her version of full-hearted living means meeting herself where she is in each moment, allowing whatever feelings arise and encouraging others to do the same.In addition to being a couple's psychotherapist, Lauren is a Creative Vision Consultant, podcast host, portrait photographer, living-room-dance-partier, watercolor artist, and a big fan laughing so hard that she winds up on the floor.After an MS diagnosis in 2015, she experienced a shift in her priorities and her definition of fulfillment. As a result, she's way more focused on joy and connection, and she's passionate about helping other people live their most fulfilled lives now.INFO AND LINKS:Receive a free copy of Lauren's Creative Joy Workbook at redreamyourlife.comListen to the This Is Not What I Ordered podcast at thisisnotwhatiordered.comTo learn more about DBT group therapy with Rebekah Shackney LCSW, go to https://rebekahshackney.com/groups

Lauren Selfridge, LMFT (www.laurenselfridge.com) is the host of the podcast This Is Not What I Ordered.  In her personal; and professional life she has worked hard to create a positive space for those dealing with Chronic Illness.  Lauren and John discuss what some in the CI community face and ways she recommends for them to cope with their diagnosis.

In this episode of This Is Not What I Ordered, I’m joined by Sheryl Chan — a web developer, writer, and travel enthusiast living with multiple chronic illnesses. Suffering from a mild stroke at the age of 14, Sheryl was diagnosed with a rare blood clotting syndrome that set off a chain reaction of other autoimmune disorders including lupus, epilepsy, Sjögren’s syndrome, and a heart rhythm disorder. In the midst of her health challenges, Sheryl embraced her love of writing and started using blogs as a cathartic outlet. This eventually led to the creation of A Chronic Voice, where she’s able to raise awareness of silent disabilities and give other people with chronic illness a space to share their perspectives.By accepting her health challenges and freely sharing them with the world, Sheryl has taken the power away from her illness and reclaimed it as her own. She reminds us that acceptance doesn’t mean you’re giving up — it can be a powerful opportunity for transformation and inner growth.During our time together, Sheryl offers up her thoughts on why it’s so important to normalize chronic illness and gain different perspectives. She also opens up about the identity struggles that accompany chronic illness, how it taught her to respect her body, and how having a sense of wonder about the body has helped her cope.

On the Season Three premiere of This Is Not What I Ordered, I sit down with April Snow as she shares how her life-long health journey with eczema and high sensitivity has taught her how to live an authentic life without guilt. April is a psychotherapist and Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) who encourages others to embrace their own sensitive superpowers through mindfulness, self-reflection, and self-care strategies. Her experiences with chronic illness and sensitivity helped create the foundation for her psychotherapy practice, Expansive Heart, where she’s able to support other highly sensitive people as they learn to let go of self-doubt and prioritize themselves. April’s passion for self-advocacy and her ability to see the unique blessings of her health challenges is inspiring. During this episode, she opens up about how being highly sensitive has helped her understand her illness, the importance of self-acceptance in the healing process, and how she’s learned to create boundaries along the way.

Interview With Wellness Podcast Host and SF Therapist Lauren Selfridge: Life and Creativity After Diagnosis. Lauren Selfridge run This Is Not What I Ordered which she began after her diagnosis with MS.I was a professional photographer until my diagnosis and unending flair of Ehlers Danlos, PTS, Fibromyalgia, and MCA.After my diagnosis I shuttered my business and began to write and illustrate children’s books. Once my hands could not handle daily drawing I started Invisible Not Broken.If you would like to see what Lauren and I are working on: See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

For the season finale of This Is Not What I Ordered, I’d like to take a look back at the amazing guests of Season Two, share some updates from the guests on how they’re doing now, and give my State of the Podcast address as we head into the New Year. I’m also very excited to share a couple of offerings that I’ve created so we can connect on a more personal level during the show’s break.This season had so many beautifully vulnerable conversations and I’m incredibly grateful to have had the opportunity to not only interview these awe-inspiring guests but also to have made so many new friends in the process. As I reflect on this season, I want to take the time to really remember what each guest offered during their episode, share some of my favorite moments and quotes, and give my thanks and appreciation to the wonderful people (like you!) who make this show possible.I’m touched by the support, feedback, and community that has grown since the beginning of this podcast. We truly are making a difference and it all starts with these honest conversations about health challenges and embracing full-hearted living.

EPISODE 011 TITLE I’ve been high achieving, and I’ve been reinforced for that; to be moderately achieving felt like I’d lost a piece of my identity GUEST Allison Puryear, EPISODE OVERVIEW Allison talks about having to slow down for health reasons and how this impacted her sense of worth and value.  What do you do when you’re a striver and you’re used to pushing through?  How to set up structure to support having more balance. We talk about being in the sandwich (or panini) generation, where you’re getting “pressed” from both generations.  How to manage caring for, and attending to parents and children and managing medical appointments, disappointing news, and taking care of yourself. Allison utilizes her DBT, ACT, CBT skills to manage high stress levels. We talk about how to see if you’re a Highly Sensitive Person, and we talk about that 30% of HSPs are extroverts and 70% are introverts.  Jaquelyn Strickland has written an article on being an HS Extrovert. We review the 4 traits of Highly Sensitive People (DOES)—Depth of Processing, Overarousal/overstimulation, Emotional responsiveness/empathy and Sensory Sensitivity.  WE talk about courage and vulnerability and Brene Brown’s work.  We also talk about Allison’s guest appearance on Lauren Selfridge’s podcast This Is Not What I Ordered. BIO Allison Puryear is an LCSW with a nearly diagnosable obsession with business development. She has started practices in three different states and wants you to know that building a private practice is shockingly doable when you have a plan and support. She teaches everything you need to know about building a private practice in the Abundance Party, where you can get practice-building help for the cost of a copay. You can download a free private practice checklist to make sure you have your ducks in a row, listen in on consultations and interviews on the Abundant Practice Podcast, and hop into the free Facebook Group full of over 13,000 other clinicians in private practice. Allison is all about helping you gain the confidence and tools you need to succeed. HIGHLIGHTS 4 Characteristics of Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) D-O-E-S Depth of processing Overarousability /Overstimulation Emotional Responsiveness/Empathy Sensory Sensitivity Monthly check-in asking What is important to me? My health Managing stress levels (which is a trigger for poor health) Making sleep a priority Family Business It’s easy to use scheduling as a way to avoid feelings Feel the feeling, AND look at the schedule What are the things that are important (paper and action) Does your schedule reflect your values? Leave computer at home No work apps on phone   QUOTES My worth doesn’t lie in what I create I had to sit with the feeling that people are disappointed that I’m only putting out one piece of content now instead of four. What if people are let down by the shift? What does that mean about me? It doesn’t mean anything, what somebody else thinks about me. For my whole life I’ve been high achieving and I’ve been reinforced for that To be moderately achieving felt like I’d lost a piece of my identity I was driving myself too hard for something people weren’t even asking for I would love to be one of those people who learns from others’ mistakes, but most of the time I have to fail on my own I have this rule—If it’s not a hell yes, then it’s a no You can have frustration tolerance and be tough and handle what’s thrown at you, AND be highly sensitive LINKS https://abundancepracticebuilding.com/ https://abundanceparty.com/join-now   Allison’s guest appearance on the podcast This Is Not What I Ordered with Lauren Selfridge-- http://thisisnotwhatiordered.libsyn.com/27-entrepreneurship-chronic-illness-with-allison-puryear   Dr. Elaine Aron’s website—https://hsperson.com   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail--info@unapologeticallysensitive.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

In this episode of This Is Not What I Ordered, I had the opportunity to sit down with Ned Buskirk. Ned embodies the definition of renaissance man -- he’s an artist, writer, educator, and founder of the “You’re Going To Die” movement. He’s integrated a distinctive way of confronting loss with compassion to organize events where he invites others to share their experiences with mortality creatively and in whatever way they can. His experiences with chronic illness, grieving, and loss have shaped him into a mouthpiece for acceptance and trusting the unknown. Ned’s dedication to speaking so candidly about death and giving a voice to the fear and anxiety that we have in our bodies and in our lives is empowering. During our chat, he discusses the different meanings behind the saying “It’s okay,” the catharsis of letting go and the relief it brings into your life, and how showing up for his mother’s passing helped him to understand the humility in death. I cannot thank Ned enough for opening up about the impact of his mother’s death, as well as his profound readiness to discuss his own anxiety and struggles with chronic pain and inexplicable illness. This episode is filled with inspiration and a genuine understanding of what it means to show up for life.   You can read the full show notes at www.thisisnotwhatiordered.com

For this Radical Short, we time travel all the way back to February, when my colleague Lauren Selfridge, host and creator of the podcast This Is Not What I Ordered, joined me in the studio and we answered a listener question about why feeling is important - even if it does hurt sometimes. Produced by Lily Sloane Find This Is Not What I Ordered at www.thisisnotwhatiordered.com and all the podcast listening places. Radical Advice is live Tuesdays from 10am-noon pacific time on www.BFF.fm and you can find past broadcasts archived on the website or by subscribing to radical advice in your favorite podcast listening place. If you want your life questions answered on Radical Advice, please visit radicaladviceshow.com. You can submit your question anonymously right there on the site. Or you can record a voice memo and email it to me at lilysloane@gmail.com. Become a patron of the show by visiting www.patreon.com/atherapistwalksintoabar Find the show on Twitter @atwiabpod; Radical Advice @radical_advice; and Lily @lilyrosesloane

Today I'd like to chat with you about why everything about you is worthy of love. I'll share some of the recent difficult and beautiful moments in my health journey, and the steps I took to transform a challenging experience by practicing acceptance and kindness towards myself. This episode was recorded live from a Facebook broadcast in The Podcast Cafe: an online community where "This Is Not What I Ordered" listeners gather and connect. I spend time thinking with listeners who submitted comments while tuned in to the broadcast, some of which came courtesy of one of our earliest guests, Tara Cameron (Episode 4). Together, let's reflect on treating every part of yourself kindly—even the parts you may not be a fan of—and bringing a welcoming spirit to all that arises in you. You can read the full show notes at www.thisisnotwhatiordered.com

“I am an extrovert. My body is an Introvert” — Lauren Selfridge Show notes from Remitting MS and Interview With Lauren Selfridge from This Is Not What I Ordered A Chronic Illness PodcastLauren Selfridge had remitting MS is a therapist in the SF Bay Area and runs a wonderful chronic illness podcast called This Is Not What I Ordered.To be VERY clear Lauren is on the calmer side of the spectrum of MS that though has bad days at this time she is still able to continue to work and run a GREAT Podcast This Is Not What I Ordered Great tech explanation of MSSome VERY good information about MS diagnosis and testsStress is the doctors new go to instead of “hysteria”Don’t be afraid to DEMAND a test that you know you needSpinal Tap is much more fun as a movie than as a medical test, click here to see what I mean. HERESorry real life barking pug decided to be a “helper dog” and be a part of the interviewThe amazing kryptonite of the white coat that can turn the feistiest of us into terrified childrenCall to Drs. for interviewees I would love to see the other side of sick world.Yes, Monica is a complete Neil Gaiman. There is no denying it. Someday Dr. Who will sponsor this podcast when they know how many of us spoonies watch obsessively on our stay in bed days.All about taking advantage of the good low symptom times. The ups and the fears of positive low symptom times.What is it like when you are different than most of the people who have your disorder, hint it makes it difficult to make long-term choices.Changing your views of what a successful fulfilling life to redefine not around what the body will do.Some really awesome advice Monica’s dad gave her maybe a tad too young. Yay, my dad!Some great career choices for the chronic spoonieMonica’s mom is awesome and might be a future guest to talk about being a caregiver for an adult disabled child.Spoonie decisions for one’s work and social life, hint a bit like Sophie's ChoiceChronic illness and the kick in the tail for life experiencesPublic transportation and chronic illness Thank you Uber and LyftUber’s new medical serviceThe epic fight with a Benadryl IV trust me it is chronic illness gallows humor hilarious Google Image search is not always your friend when you have a chronic illnessThe calming effects of watching aquariums or paint on YouTubeWhat it is like to hope on horizons with a well-funded disorderTherapy and chronic illness some of the up and downsides of group therapy and online support groups Lauren's Facebook Group This Is Not What I OrderedThe importance of social media and access to others for chronic illness and for teens.The physical and social isolation of chronic illness The body perfection model as the body is a reflection of who you are as a person and what happens when your body goes rogueLoving What Is Byron Katie. My new favorite quote, "It’s not your job to like me it’s mine.”"You don’t have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body." CS. Lewis. This is the real quote I mangled. Til We Have Faces Chronic illness is transformative and not always in a bad way. Enjoy the show? Subscribe Sign up with your email address to receive news and updates. Email Address Sign Up We respect your privacy. Thank you! Grieving your health and living a full heart at the same time. A real talk about grieving, grieving a lifestyle, a person, or a healthy body. Till We Have Faces: A Myth Retold Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Welcome to Beyond the Couch, a show devoted to celebrating you in your amazing life. Thank you for tuning in. You can also Subscribe to auto-download new podcast episodes to your Apple or Android device. After you listen to a few episodes, please consider leaving an honest rating and review of how the podcast has helped your transformation journey. This helps the information reach more of the people who are going through the same journey. Be sure to get an intro to Mindfulness with my cheat sheet and bonus audio sample here: http://www.subscribepage.com/w6h6i6 Overview: Lauren Selfridge joins me to discuss the ways that we can more easily navigate health struggles so that we can not only heal ourselves, but to find greater strength and resilience so that we can shine in a life that we celebrate! Lauren Selfridge is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist in San Francisco, California. She works with couples, individuals, and people living with chronic illness. Lauren was diagnosed with Relapsing Remitting Multiple Sclerosis in 2015 and has found that, although living with an autoimmune disease is not an easy path, it's brought more joy and fulfillment into her life than before. This January, she launched the podcast, "This Is Not What I Ordered:" a weekly interview show about full-hearted living with chronic illness and health challenges. She believes that the biggest difficulties in our lives are often invitations into a deeper, richer, more conscious relationship with ourselves.  She offers us these tips for getting started in navigating chronic health conditions:    1. Find a therapist or coach who is a good fit for you, and use that relationship to foster your emotional wellbeing alongside your physical care. 2. Allow yourself to feel it all (joy, fear, boredom, delight, loneliness, excitement, hopelessness, and more). Your emotions need to be felt, and they rarely last when we really let ourselves feel them.  3. Give yourself time and space to take breaks from the intensity of what you're going through. Spend time with friends, watch movies, and remember that you don't always have to be putting forth effort in order to make progress. Resources Mentioned: Beyond the Couch Podcast: http://www.drsallynazari.com/Podcast.en.html  Lauren Selfridge Psychotherapy: www.laurenselfridgetherapy.com   This Is Not What I Ordered: The Podcast  www.thisisnotwhatiordered.com   "Therapists + Coaches Who Get It" Directory (practitioners specializing in working with health challenges) www.thisisnotwhatiordered.com/directory   Sacred Psychology with Tamara Powell: https://aryatherapy.com/podcast/ I would love to hear the ways that you started shin gin through your health struggles and celebrated your magnificent life! Be sure to share with us in our social media communities listed below so we can celebrate with you! Facebook: www.facebook.com/drsallynazari Twitter: www.twitter.com/chrysalisdoc  

In the spirit of vulnerability and trust, I cannot think of a better way to kick off This Is Not What I Ordered than with my own story of chronic illness. That’s right—I’m the first interviewee on the podcast. My dear friend and fellow therapist Jessica is joining me in my living room in San Francisco to ask questions and share memories. Along the way, I want to open up my life a bit and share what I have experienced and where I have grown. For your ears today is my ongoing journey with Multiple Sclerosis, just so you and I can get to know each other better.    You can read the full show notes at www.thisisnotwhatiordered.com.