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If you have addicts and alcoholics in your life, you need to learn how to detach. If you don't, you may find yourself trying to force them to get sober and losing yourself in the process. Without the ability to separate yourself from their addiction and alcoholism, you can become obsessed with fixing them. You may find yourself feeling afraid and angry and wondering why you are not capable of convincing the person you care about to make better choices. If this sounds like you, watch this video to learn how to detach from the addicts and alcoholics in your life. #detachment  #detaching #dysfunctionalrelationship #addictionstruggles    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/9WYTfD8ZNCc  

If you fear abandonment, you probably don't know how to detach. Detaching is about separating yourself from other people's opinions, emotions, reactions, choices, blame, threats, and more. That's hard to do when you need to be attached to people to feel okay. The problem is that you will be even more dependent on what they do, feel, and think, so you desperately need to be able to separate yourself. Watch this video to learn how you can detach even though you struggle with the fear of abandonment. #fearofabandonment #detaching #detachment #dysfunctionalrelationship    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/5AmptkxWFyU  

Detaching from enablers is necessary when they are providing the means for people you care about to continue in their addiction and irresponsible behavior. It is hard enough to set your own boundaries with your loved one doing things you cannot support but when other people enable, you need to figure out how to respond to them too. Watch this video to help you to respond the right way. #addiction #detaching #irresponsible #enablers     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/VS4QcThlGgw

Do you find yourself unable to detach and unable to function well in your own life when someone close to you is not okay? You don't have to live that way. This video will show you how to detach with love so you can say, "I'm okay when you're not okay." #detachment #difficultrelationship #dysfunctionalrelationship #beingok #healthyrelationships   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/QK4djkViqa0

Letitia Iona's first marriage was dysfunctional. When it was obvious that her children were negatively impacted, she knew she had to divorce. After moving to Tennessee to relocate as a single mom, she met her second husband and was excited about their new life together. Shortly after the honeymoon, he was angry, verbally abusive, and avoidant.    Letitia shares her journey through divorce, single motherhood, a verbally abusive marriage, and family relocation. Through each trial, she uncovered God's deeper purpose prompting her to write the book, "There Is Purpose In Your Pain." Letitia and Karla discuss what she discovered about the purpose of pain in her life and the interviews she did for the book. Join us and you will be thinking deeply about the purpose of your pain and thrilled to discover that it isn't hard to figure out.    Letitia Iona is a multifaceted professional singer, worship leader, elementary music school teacher, life coach, voice and piano instructor, and the author of “There is Purpose in Your Pain: Embracing Adversity and Finding God's Purpose in the Midst of Life's Challenges.” Her work aims to inspire and guide others toward Christ, offering hope and triumph amidst life's challenges. Letitia Iona is passionate about coaching, teaching, and supporting single mamas & women in difficult marriages. In 2021, she self-published an eBook “A Guidebook to Living a Wonder Woman Lifestyle: Written by a Single Mama for Single Mamas.” Following the sudden passing of a close friend, Letitia Iona was reminded that “life is short” and pursued her dream of relocating her family from California to Tennessee. She now resides in Clarksville with her daughter.  Letitia's book: There is Purpose in Your Pain: Embracing Adversity and Finding God's Purpose in the Midst of Life's Challenges      https://www.amazon.com/There-Purpose-Your-Pain-Challenges/dp/B0DT9GW8RK Letitia's Website:  https://letitiaionastudios.com/ Letitia's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/letitia.ugwueke #purposeinpain #toxicrelationships #findingpurpose #personalgrowth   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/FsOIl1wCAN4  

When you are dealing with chronic liars, it is infuriating and hard to believe that despite the many promises to never lie again, they do. You probably ask why and how it could happen. But more importantly for you to figure out is "Why do you believe their lies?" #chronicliars #dysfunctionalrelationship #healthyrelationshipsteps #toxicrelationships #boundaries #dysfunctionaldynamics     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/csi7Bfh7z8U

Setting boundaries isn't easy because a relationship has so many variables. Because of that, it is helpful to have specific components to focus on. One of those is to determine who is responsible for what. Once you know those things, it is easier to figure out what your limits should be. Watch this video on setting boundaries to learn how to determine who is responsible. #responsibilty #settingboundaries #Christianboundaries   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/A_qrIagECJs

What is the difference between forcing a solution where you are trying to control someone's behavior and setting a boundary where you are drawing a limit for yourself? Watch this video to get the answer to that question. #difficultrelationship #boundaries #controlling   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/iGUGfs-WAsw

Abigail did not submit to her husband Nabal when he refused to help David and his men. This biblical story provides submission principles women can use to confidently say no to things that violate their consciences. #difficultrelationships #toxicrelationship #dysfunctionalrelationship #scripturalmisunderstandings   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/KBfuIJPna8Y

It isn't easy to listen to someone saying things you disagree with. It is hard to hear someone is upset with you, and even harder to not receive it as an attack and defend yourself. It takes self-restraint to focus on what is being said when your emotions are out of control.  Defensiveness and reactivity are primary reasons that conflict escalates and isn't resolved. There is an approach that can make it easier for you to listen, and that is to be curious about the other person. Watch this video to find out how to do that and why it works. #reactivity #becurious #listen    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/tcs_PBK0vcc

People are often out of touch with what is going on with themselves. This leads to problems in their lives and relationships. Whether it is feeling an emotion, problem-solving a situation, making a decision, or resolving a conflict, it helps to be self-aware. Not knowing what and why you are acting and reacting the way you are means you lack valuable insight.  The alternative is to be curious about yourself. Watch this video to find out how you can do that to improve your life and relationships...  #selfawareness #becurious      Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/R9Yaou0KeoM

Dysfunctional people do all kinds of hurtful things and rarely ask for forgiveness. It is common to struggle with forgiveness because there are so many hurtful things done. The Bible tells us that God doesn't forgive us when we don't forgive our offenders, but does this really mean you aren't forgiven? #forgiveness #boundaries #toxicrelationships #dysfunctionalrelationship #emotionalhealing      Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/drli7oMIR2g

Greg and Edie describe their son's eight-year journey through heroin addiction which impacts the family in profound ways. They describe how it disrupted their lives and how they grappled with the difficult and scary decisions of how much to help. They share the tools they learned that gave them wisdom, health, and peace.    According to the National Institute on Drug Abuse, 40.3 million people in the United States had a substance abuse disorder in 2020. This means that at least two family members were impacted for a minimum of 80.6 million people whose lives were disrupted. It is more likely a minimum of four people making it a total of 161.2 million people who have been affected by a family member's drug use. Of those 40.3 million people with substance use disorder, only 6.5 percent received treatment.   Their son got clean after many rehabs and 127 changes in where he lived over eight years after finally hitting his bottom. If you have a loved one who is imprisoned by addiction, listen to this story. It will give you experience, strength, and hope for your journey. #addictionrecovery #boundaries #truthinlove #toxicrelationships   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/0ErlNczUBU0

Abuse victims often experience a lack of support and mistreatment when they describe what is happening to them. This lack of support is labeled as "Double Abuse" by Annette Oltmans of The Mend Project.  Find out what Double Abuse is and why it is harmful to the victim. #dysfunctionalrelationship #abusevictims #doubleabuse #toxicrelationshiprecovery      Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/DWlTrMeq9AM

Twelve Step recovery includes working Steps One, Two and Three where you admit powerlessness, come to believe God will restore you to sanity and surrender your will and life to God. When life gets overwhelming, you can work Steps One, Two and Three together to get yourself back on track. See how it is done in this video. #dysfunctionalrelationship #complexrelationships #recoveryjourney    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/dzdtYTIz7oo

Toxic relationships with dysfunctional dynamics don't use reparative moves to reconnect after conflict. As a result, they are perpetually disconnected. There are small things that can be done that will move the parties toward each other and increase the possibility that they can open a discussion. Find out what these things are by watching the video.#reparativemoves #openingdiscussion #dysfunctionalrelationship #healthyrelationshipsteps   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/7s5OY6ZxVAY  

John and Ann describe how they navigated his Bipolar Disorder in their marriage. Bipolar disorder is also referred to as manic-depressive disorder because it is characterized by extreme shifts in mood with highs and lows that impact a person's ability to function normally. An estimated 2.8 percent of the population has bipolar disorder. In Part 2, Ann describes the heavy weight of caring for her husband and the family without his help. After finding support, she learned how to care for herself by setting boundaries. John then had to make hard choices about managing his illness. Their journey from almost divorcing to renewing their vows offers couples hope in successfully navigating mental illness together.  #bipolarinmarriage #healthyrelationships #difficultmarriage   Mental Health Strong  https://mentalhealthstrong.com/   National Alliance on Mental Illness  (NAMI)  https://www.nami.org   Re|engage study for strengthening marriages. https://www.reengage.org/   "10 Lifesaving Principles for Women in Difficult Marriages" by Karla Downing https://a.co/d/eSSsUlQ   Karla Downing's classes  https://www.changemyrelationship.com/current-and-upcoming-classes/     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Vmd8qyi359Q    

Triangulation or stepping into a relationship conflict between two people is one of many dysfunctional dynamics. Find out what the Karpman Triangle is and how it sheds light on the pros and cons of triangulating. #karpmantriangle #complexrelationships #relationshipconflict    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/o6WEcGg22Yc    

John and Ann describe their marriage journey before and after he was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder. Bipolar disorder is also referred to as manic-depressive disorder because it is characterized by extreme shifts in mood with highs and lows that impact a person's ability to function normally. An estimated 2.8 percent of the population has bipolar disorder. John describes his first psychotic episode with hallucinations and delusions. They share how the mental illness impacted their marriage and family. Their story shines light on the impact of mental illness on marriages and why they are twenty to eighty percent more likely to divorce.  #bipolarinmarriage #healthyrelationships #difficultmarriage   Mental Health Strong  https://mentalhealthstrong.com/   National Alliance on Mental Illness  (NAMI)  https://www.nami.org   Re|engage study for strengthening marriages. https://www.reengage.org/   "10 Lifesaving Principles for Women in Difficult Marriages" by Karla Downing https://a.co/d/eSSsUlQ   Karla Downing's classes  https://www.changemyrelationship.com/current-and-upcoming-classes/     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/zL_VJe31S-I

Being gaslit is a horrible invalidating experience typically done by narcissists, abusers, and manipulators in toxic relationships. If you are a recipient of it, there is a question you need to answer: Are you gaslighting yourself? Many victims do because they get to a point where they stop believing in themselves. Watch this video to find out if you are gaslighting yourself and how to stop doing it. #gaslighting #invalidatingyourself #toxicrelationship   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/RWgy3tczkGo

An expectation is the beginning of a resentment. Does that mean you can't have any expectations? Does it mean that people can get away with whatever they want and you can't set boundaries? Resentments can ruin a relationship. It is crucial that you set realistic expectations and let go of your unrealistic expectations. Find out how to do that by watching this video. #resentment #expectations #realisticexpectations #toxicrelationship   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/QMfwhxfVbdk

Difficult relationships have losses. The healthy way to process loss is to work through the grief process. One of those stages is bargaining. Bargaining in relationships occurs as part of the grief process but also occurs during conflict resolution. #bargaining #dysfunctionalrelationship #loss #griefprocess     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/nj_zV26IReA  

This video provides a therapist or counselor with the basic goals that need to be followed to help a victim of abuse. It also helps the victims see what they need to work on to get strong enough to respond to the abuse to protect themselves. #abusevictim #victimgoals #toxicrelationshiprecovery #boundaries     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/oFDGtd7EGag  

Confronting a toxic vs a healthy person is a completely different experience. Dealing with issues in a toxic relationship is difficult and frustrating but dealing with issues in a healthy relationship is not necessarily easy but is much less frustrating. Healthy conflict resolution is only possible with two healthy people. Find out what the differences will be when confronting a toxic vs a healthy person by watching this video. #toxicrelationships #healthyrelationships #toxicperson #healthyconflictresolution #healthyperson   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/5nGg3IKr438

Making you irrelevant is emotional manipulation because it seeks to send you a message that you don't matter at all to get you to feel a certain way so you will behave a certain way. You need to know how emotional manipulators make you irrelevant and why they do it. Watch this video to find out. #emotionalmanipulation #dysfunctionalrelationship #toxicrelationship   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/VwilNv4GxQs

Manipulation using money is all too common in relationships and it gets even more difficult to manage when it is a family member. Watch this video to recognize the pitfalls of giving in to this manipulation and also learn how to resist giving in. #manipulation #manipulationtecniques #toxicrelationship      Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/y1emQhu892E  

https://youtu.be/w3dv2Le3Ea8Boundaries are necessary in all relationships but even more in toxic relationships with toxic people. There are many ways to set them and one of them is silence. It communicates specific and powerful things without words when it is used the right way. Watch this video to learn how to use silence as a boundary. #silence #boundary #toxicrelationships #toxicpe Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/w3dv2Le3Ea8

Living congruently means that you are living in a way that reflects your values. Your relationships are healthy because you believe healthy relationships are important. You speak your truth. Your actions parallel your words. You feel good about yourself and your life. The opposite is living incongruently which feels bad because there is an internal conflict between what you believe and what you are doing, saying, and tolerating. Dysfunctional relationships feel incongruent because they conflict with what you know is right. Watch this video to learn about living congruently. #livingcongruently #dysfunctionalrelationship #healthyrelationships   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/k8tW2sDlK7I

Toxic relationships present many challenging issues that require making decisions about what you will accept and tolerate. Figuring out those limits is the first step and the next is communicating them. You will also need boundaries in healthy relationships, but the reaction won't be the same in a toxic relationship. Watch this video to find out what the differences will be when setting boundaries with a toxic vs a healthy person. #toxicrelationships #healthyrelationships #toxicperson #healthyconflictresolution #healthyperson   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/hFPq3RlUJLA

What are the manipulative hooks used by emotional manipulators that get you to do what they want? If you don't know, you won't be able to recognize them and resist giving in. Watch this video to find out what the manipulative hooks used by emotional manipulators are that get you to bite. #manipulation #emotionalmanipulators #toxicrelationships   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/EzxRwcnXnn0

Do you know how to live with a painful reality? Most people are doing so without a plan. You can do many things that will improve your life even though chronic stress, chronic illness, toxic relationships, mentally ill loved ones, or any other difficult situation remains unchanged. You must know what they are and begin to implement them. Watch this video to find out how to live with a painful reality. #painfulreality #improvelife #selfcare      Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/qe_fNtI1_Mk

Dysfunctional family dynamics include the role of the family scapegoat typically filled by one of the children. The roles serve different functions for the family. Interestingly, the roles that are played by children may continue through their adult lives and even be passed on to their children. Learn more about dysfunctional family dynamics for the family scapegoat. #dysfunctionalrelationship #toxicrelationship #familyscapegoat   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/M43e4X-6FTE

Who is responsible for your triggers? Is it you or the person who did what made you react? Should your spouse, parent, or friend do everything possible to keep from doing the things that bother you? And when you react in a strong way to that person, is it your fault or theirs? Most triggers are related to past experiences from childhood trauma or previous relationship trauma but they affect your current ones.  Watch this video to find out who is responsible for your triggers so you can understand how to handle them. #personaltriggers #personalresponsibility #dysfunctionalrelationship #triggers    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/vniWWQ8H-Iw

Have you ever wondered if there are character traits toxic people exploit and that is why you have so many of them in your life? The answer is "Yes," there are traits that they are drawn to because it is easier to manipulate and influence you. One of the ways to combat this is to know what those traits are so you can strengthen yourself in those areas when you are dealing with toxic people. Awareness of how they use them to exploit you also makes it easier for you to stand strong. Watch this video to learn what they are. #toxicrelationship #toxictraits #dysfunctionalrelationship Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/wzDXYcrF-Yc

Is it realistic hope or future faking to believe that your dysfunctional relationship will get better? Should you stay or should you go? Normally, the other person uses future faking to keep you expecting change, but you can future fake yourself. Watch this video to figure out if there is realistic hope. #futurefaking #hope #dysfunctionalrelationship #toxicrelationship   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/KMT3hz5y6Ko

This video provides you boundary phrases that work for any boundary situation. If boundaries are hard for you because you don't know how to phrase them, then this video will give you what you need. #boundaries #boundaryphrases #healthyboundaries    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/dpmzAcO0Dpw

Relationship rights affirmations will help you strengthen your boundaries with self-care and with standing up for what you need. Self-doubt and invalidation make it difficult for you to stand up confidently. Affirmations give you the clarity and strength you need. #relationshiprights #relationshipboundaries #selfcare   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/1oQO5v00xdw

Making a decision to take care of yourself is a part of learning how not to be codependent. It is easy to neglect ourselves when we are in dysfunctional relationships where we give too much of ourselves and we can change it only by making the decision to do it. #selfcare #dysfunctionalrelationship     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/oUNuMr372n8

Regardless of the reality of your circumstances, the gift of hope on Christmas is the promise of salvation and eternal life through the birth of Christ. Don't let your imperfect circumstances rob you of that hope. #hope #christmashope #christianrelationship   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/gC04UypdlV8

Detachment for the holidays is a necessary skill when you have dysfunctional family members who bring drama into your life. #holidaydetachment #dysfunctionalfamilies #detachment      Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/qp3o-iW6Uqc

When you are hurting during the holidays because of divorce, separation, death, illness, estrangement, job loss, loneliness, or anything else, you need to intentionally make different choices than you would otherwise. Self-care for painful holidays means carefully choosing what you do from the perspective of how it takes care of yourself rather than how it fulfills others' expectations or your typical way of doing things. #selfcare #healthyholidays #navigatingholidays #painfulholidays     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/P9JiMVG-fQQ

Is depression a sin? Is anger a sin? Is fear a sin? Are all emotions sinful? Unfortunately,  Christians have toxic misbeliefs about emotions that cause problems in their lives and relationships. You must understand the purpose of emotions and the confusion about them. Watch this video for a surprising and insightful explanation of what Christians get wrong. Your emotional and relational health depends on you getting it right.   #emotionalhealth #toxicmisbeliefs #emotionsandfeelings #christianemotions https://www.changemyrelationship.com/christian-relationship-devotional-christian-misbeliefs-about-emotions/   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/U9_Rc9xML6g

Dysfunctional people make lots of bad choices but the people around them are often confused about why and have trouble holding them responsible. One of the ways to hold them responsible is to remember that "not choosing is choosing." Listen to this podcast to find out what this means. #dysfunctionalrelationship #toxicrelationship #toxicrelationshiprecovery    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/XZsoLaiy91A

Some people manipulate, abuse, lie, blame, gaslight, cheat, and betray. Do you wonder why dysfunctional toxic people act that way? It is reasonable to ask because a healthy person wouldn't do these things. There are several reasons, but this video focuses on one that we often forget to mention. Understanding why people do what they do is important because we must respond and what we think will influence our actions. #toxicrelationship #dysfunctionalrelationship #toxicpeople    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/JdcKfyTH7vE

Wendy was married to an emotionally and spiritually abusive husband for thirty-five years before she separated for five years and then finally divorced. She describes the role the grief process is playing in her healing. She also explains how she is discovering who she is, the boundaries she needs with her ex-husband, and the new life open to her. Divorce is a painful experience with many challenges to overcome. Wendy offers hope to anyone contemplating divorce, currently going through a divorce, or divorced but still hurting. #weaponizedscripture #spiritualabuse #toxicrelationship #gaslighting #healingfromdivorce   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/0ctI1J09gRA

If you have a dysfunctional family, then you will have a dysfunctional holiday. You cannot change them, but you can change what you do to make your holiday more functional. Watch this video to see how to do that. #dysfunctionalrelationship #dysfunctionalholidays #healthyholidays #detaching   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/lZOuRVRJJHg

Find out how to deal with your dysfunctional family dynamics during the holidays in a healthy way that takes care of yourself!! #dysfunctionalrelationship #familydysfunction #dysfunctionalholiday #healthyholidays     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/PRALClN5THU

You can be empowered by choice in dysfunctional relationships. It doesn't feel that way. It feels like you are stuck and victimized, but in reality, you are never without the opportunity to take back your power and choose for yourself. Knowing this and acting on it, can change your life. Watch this video to learn how to apply this truth of empowered by choice to your dysfunctional relationship. #attitude #empoweryourself #choices #dysfunctionalrelationship    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/TXsJjrt82so

What is reactive abuse? It is when the abuse victim snaps from the pressure, pain, punishment, control, and crazymaking and does something to the abuser that could be labeled as abusive. The victim feels bad about the reaction and the abuser blames the victim. The victim's reaction does not qualify as abuse. It is a totally different behavior. Watch this video to learn more. #crazymakers #reactiveabuse #dysfunctionalrelationship #toxicrelationship    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/eq0l9YueKEU

It isn't always easy to identify dysfunctional dynamics in a relationship. You can't diagnose people and figure out all the complex behavior that doesn't make sense. You can't always be unbiased in how you view them. There is something you can focus on: how you feel with a toxic vs a healthy person. Unhealthy people negatively impact our bodies, emotions, and spirit. We often ignore these signs but if we want insight, it is important to pay attention. Ask yourself: how do you feel with a toxic vs a healthy person. You will be surprised at what you find out. #dysfunctionalrelationship #toxicrelationship #healthyrelationships #christianrelationships   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/x7vPjdAFa9E

Even though they looked perfect from the outside to everyone who knew them and held a prominent position in the community, life within their home was anything but perfect. Wendy describes her journey in an emotionally and spiritually abusive marriage where her husband weaponized scripture. Truth was mixed with untruth increasing the confusion and self-doubt. Anyone who has been gaslit, manipulated, abused. or controlled will identify with Wendy's experience of doubting herself and feeling confused enough to accept the blame and question her sanity. It took thirty-five years for Wendy to get the necessary clarity to see the dynamics for what they were and the strength to initiate a separation. #weaponizedscripture #spiritualabuse #toxicrelationship #gaslighting   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/x7vPjdAFa9E