Change My Relationship

This video provides various considerations for low contact vs no contact boundaries with toxic people such as narcissists and abusers. #limitcontact #setboundaries #dysfunctionalrelationship #healthyboundaries   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/8LD1nLMxXjo

Dysfunctional people are often defensive when you try to talk to them about their problems. An alternative is to approach them by owning the problem. Watch this video to learn how to communicate with defensive people in a way that decreases their defensiveness. #DysfunctionalRelationship #ToxicRelationships #DefensiveResponses #OwningTheProblem   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/gHi3XE13kdU

Unhealthy families have similar dynamics regardless of what their specific problems are. They are complicated and hard to untangle. There are common unspoken rules that everyone knows they have to abide by, even though doing so ensures that the dysfunctional drama continues.  Yet there is a way to change dysfunctional family rules to healthy rules and decrease the family drama. You may not be able to do it with everyone, but you can start with one dysfunctional relationship and make healthy relationship changes by how you act and react.  If you want to change dysfunctional family rules to healthy rules, watch this video to find out how.  #dysfunctionalfamily  #healthyrelationship #dysfunctionalrelationship #familydrama     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/2aJ0dcB6of0

You cannot keep someone from gaslighting you, but you can choose how to respond to gaslighting. Learn effective responses by watching this video. #gaslighting #dysfunctionalrelationship #gaslighter #respondingtogaslighting     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Trv3nKQRJBc

In your dysfunctional relationships, it is important to ask yourself: "Why am I talking?" before you open your mouth. This is because most of the reasons will cause more problems for you. These complex relationships aren't easy to navigate. The dynamics are confusing. Emotions are up and down and hard to control. One of the most helpful things you can learn to do is to WAIT before you speak and ask yourself, "Why am I talking?" Watch this video to learn more about this helpful tool with the acronym "WAIT."    #dysfunctionalrelationship #christiancodependency #dysfunctionaldynamics   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/8BIum1mH5GE

When you disagree with how your grandchild is parented, what do you do? Do you offer parenting tips? Do you speak up? Do you confront child abuse? Do you point out the dysfunctional relationship dynamics? If you do, what do you think will happen? If you need answers to these questions, watch this video. You will receive helpful suggestions that will help you avoid making mistakes. #grandparenting #dysfunctionalrelationship #childabuse #parentingtips    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/YYvrIXf7-4g

People in dysfunctional relationships make change-back moves when you set boundaries, which are designed to get you to back down. They do this because they don't want to change their behavior. They don't want to be accountable and take responsibility for their actions. They don't want to respect your limits and needs. They consider their own needs and desires more important than yours.  Because of all these things, they manipulatively do whatever it takes to make you back down when you set boundaries.  This scripture-supported video will help you set Christian boundaries. Watch this video to learn how to recognize these change-back moves.  #setboundaries #dysfunctionalfamilies #christianboundaries    Boundaries - Setting Healthy Relationship Limits Zoom Study: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/boundaries-setting-healthy-relationships-limits-zoom-study/     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/FM03Z1dIif4

Codependents have slips just like addicts do. Codependent slips aren't good for you or your relationships. You need to learn how to recognize when you are slipping back into unhealthy behavior so you can stop before you do things you regret. #codependency #toxicrelationship #dysfunctionalrelationship     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/2sVGqgkTh3A

Toxic relationships are dysfunctional relationships. Narcissistic and manipulative people don't want to hear your concerns. They won't take responsibility for their part in the problems. They use strategies to keep from being accountable, and one of those is the subject of this video.  What is DARVO? Something people do to prevent you from being heard. Find out what it is so you can recognize when it is being used against you. You need to know so it doesn't work.  Watch the video to learn about DARVO.  #toxicrelationships   #dysfunctionalrelationship  #darvo  #manipulation #narcissist     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/vdtLglURN8Y

Navigating old age estranged from your children is a scary thought for some. One of my subscribers asked me to make a video on this topic. Watch it for some ideas on how to prepare for old age estranged from your children or if you don't have children. #healthyrelationship #planing #oldage   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/6x3sfTuikGo  

Relationship safety involves both people being trustworthy, honest, dependable, and emotionally healthy. A safe person doesn't cause harm, but an unsafe person causes harm by their words and actions.   When you are in an abusive, toxic, and/or dysfunctional relationship, you aren't safe. You can set boundaries to try to get changes you need to feel safe, but you cannot depend on the other person. Relationship safety ultimately comes down to you.   #toxicrelationships  #PersonalSafety #AbusiveRelationships #dysfunctionalrelationship       Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/uZf7RC9zWcc

Jan Tamble is a leader of the Orange County, California, chapter of Umbrella Ministries, whose purpose is reaching out to the hurts and hearts of mothers who have experienced the loss of a child. Jan shares her story of losing her daughter, Megan, twelve years ago. Along with sharing her grief journey, she discusses the things that people do that hurt and help. When they don't understand how to respond to a person's grief, they do things that cause pain, even though their intentions are to help.    This emotional and touching podcast will impact listeners who have lost a loved one by validating their pain, and those who know them by providing insight into how to help.       Umbrella Ministries: https://www.umbrellaministries.com/   Umbrella Ministries Facebook: Umbrella Ministries Grief Support   Orange County Chapter: https://umbrellaministriesocla.blogspot.com/   GriefShare: GriefShare.org   Don't Letter: Click HERE to download a copy of the letter with suggestions of what to do and not do. https://karladowningresources.wordpress.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/dont-letter.pdf   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Zo0TKTsXJL8

This video shows you how to stop manipulating people. It is possible to change when you are motivated to do it. Watch this video to learn how to stop manipulating people. #manipulation #StopManipulation #ManipulationMotives #HealthyRelationship   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/9QlFo-h15bw

Why do you manipulate people? You need to know if you want to stop doing it. Wanting to change is the first step to being able to stop manipulating people but you also need to know why so you understand what drives the behavior. This video will show you why you manipulate people. #manipulation #ManipulationMotives #HealthyRelationship   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/9-Xa1fRlCGU

What is the goal of conflict resolution? Most people would answer, "To resolve conflict." That is one of the goals, but it isn't the most important one. There is one that is more important, and if people keep it at the forefront of their minds, it will change the way they interact. Dysfunctional relationships don't do this, but healthy relationships do. Watch this video to find out what it is so you can improve your skills. #conflictresolution  #dysfunctionalrelationship  #healthyrelationship   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/AHFxUZO5AhE

Rose Larson has been through things none of us want to go through: betrayal, divorce, a son's suicide, and another son's addiction and incarceration. She describes what she encountered and how God enabled her to rise above the pain and forgive the unforgivable. Forgiveness, especially for the big life-changing things, isn't easy to do, and yet, it is possible.        Hearing others' stories gives us a new perspective of our own. We learn from others experience, strength, and hope. One of the places Rose found support was through Alcoholics Anonymous and Al-Anon. You will also hear how those programs helped her and the tools they offer. Listen to Rose's unbelievable journey where she forgave the unforgivable.   Helpful Links:    Alcoholics Anonymous:https://www.aa.org/ Al-Anon Family Groups:https://al-anon.org/ Celebrate Recovery: https://celebraterecovery.com/   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/hFjJDNziWjI

Zero tolerance for boundary violations is the only way to ensure that you won't continue to encounter the same problems in the future.  When you don't enforce consequences when your line is crossed, you go through a predictable process that requires you to start all over again. Watch this video to understand what you have to do to get strong enough to have a zero tolerance for boundary violations. #christianboundaries  #zerotolerance  #setboundaries    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/KbLL79WbPyw

Is it okay to want a good life as a Christian? Is it okay to want to provide a good life for your family? Or, is a Christian supposed to be poor and only care about spiritual matters? Watch this video to hear the answer I gave to a subscriber when she sent me this question. #GoodLife #Christianity #ComfortableLife #ComfortsInChristianity   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/f6ODoKna2UM

Dealing with difficult and dysfunctional people isn't easy. Doing the things you would do with healthy people doesn't work. This video offers an easy-to-remember acronym in "Don't JADE."  This reminds you not to justify, argue, defend or explain because it only makes things worse. #dysfunctionalrelationship #difficultpeople #detaching #detachment #JADE   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/PQArqm6OSrU

In this sequel podcast to "How You Lose Your Self in Neurodiverse Marriages, Elizabeth and Kathleen share how to restore your sense of self. Both are married to men with Asperger's Syndrome and are the founders of "My Aspie and Me," a private Facebook group for Christian women. They hear women in their group say that they no longer recognize themselves and don't know who they are. Both also experienced a loss of themselves in their marriages. In this group, they provide classes and posts to guide the women on how to respond differently to their marriage challenges by prioritizing their own mental, relational, spiritual, emotional, and physical health. This is a timely topic given the awareness of more women that the problems they have been dealing with in their painful and difficult marriages are Asperger's. Once they realize this, they need to be given the tools and ideas to respond differently to their husbands and to intentionally restore their sense of self to create a better life for themselves. My Aspie and Me private Facebook group is specifically designed for Christian women. It provides relational, marital, personal, and spiritual help for women married to neurodiverse men with Asperger's Syndrome. To join, please send a message to the group admin expressing your interest via Facebook Messenger. You will receive a message via Facebook Messenger.        #AspergersMarriage #NeurodiverseMarriage #ChristianMarriageHelp #ChangeMyRelationship #ChristianSelfHelp #ChristianRelationshipHelp    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube:

There is a predictable pattern that victims go through when trying to figure out what is going on in abusive relationships. Anyone experiencing emotional abuse, verbal abuse or any other type of abuse knows how it feels to be on the hamster wheel of invalidation, second guessing, confusion, and gaslighting. Then something else happens. The victim gets clarity and starts to get strong. Then the abuser pulls out a new card which intensifies the abuse cycle. Watch this video to find out what this crazy cycle is so you can recognize it and end it once and for all.  #abusiverelationships #gaslighting #verbalabuse #emotionalabuse #invalidation   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube:https://youtu.be/TgrqbKMT8-w

Therapists doing therapy with an abuser and the victim together are making a huge mistake that further harms the victim and decreases the chance that the abuser will change. Watch this video to learn why therapists should not do couples therapy with an abuser and the victim together. #couplestherapy #therapyforvictims   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/5ZiqxXG89Pk

Christian codependency means you are a Christian who is codependent at least partially because you hold scriptural misconceptions about what God wants you to do. For everyone who suffers from this, there will be a time if it continues, when you will ask this question: When it's you or me, and I have to choose one or the other, who should I choose? You need to know the answer if you are at that place or if you are heading there. Watch this video to find out what it is. You will be glad you did. #christiancodependency #selfcare   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube:https://youtu.be/iNgdyHWEsA8

Kathleen and Elizabeth discuss how women can lose their sense of self in neurodiverse marriages, both having married men with Asperger's Syndrome. They are the founders of "My Aspie and Me," a private Facebook group for Christian women. They hear women in their group say that they no longer recognize themselves and don't know who they are. Both also experienced a loss of themselves in their marriages.  This is a timely topic given the awareness of more women that the problems they have been dealing with in their painful and difficult marriages are Asperger's. Understanding how and why they experience this loss of self is necessary because they will need to intentionally restore it to create a better life for themselves. My Aspie and Me private Facebook group is specifically designed for Christian women. It provides relational, marital, personal, and spiritual help for women married to neurodiverse men with Asperger's Syndrome. To join, please send a message to the group admin expressing your interest via Facebook Messenger. You will receive a message via Facebook Messenger.   #AspergersMarriage #NeurodiverseMarriage #ChristianMarriageHelp #ChangeMyRelationship #ChristianSelfHelp #ChristianRelationshipHelp    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/kY60RyGTuRE

This video provides therapists and counselors with a list of goals that the abuser needs if there is any hope of change. Most of the therapy provided for abusers misses some key elements that prevent lasting change. If you are in an abusive relationship, please watch to learn what your abuser has to do. #therapygoals #personalgrowth #toxicrelationship   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube:https://youtu.be/-ARbShGEXPs  

Did you know that you can change your thoughts to change your life? You can, and it will have an immediate effect on your feelings and actions. It isn't difficult. If you are struggling with behaviors you cannot change, emotions that are sabotaging your life, or relationships that are stuck in a rut, watch this video to find out how to change your thoughts to change your life. #thoughts #thoughtsfeelings #changeyourlife    Here is the link to download the chart to change your thinking: https://karladowningresources.wordpress.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/rational_thinking_chart.pdf   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/O5fn6qqVh90  

Setting boundaries is difficult when you are confused about what each person is responsible for, but if you know the difference between a burden and a load in Galatians 6:2-5, it gives you a helpful guideline. Because limits are different for each person and all individual factors have to be taken into consideration, it helps to have an objective test. If you struggle with setting Christian boundaries, watch this video to know the difference between a burden and a load. #christianboundaries #settingboundaries #boundaries Here is the link to the Boundaries Zoom Study or to buy the study to do on your own: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/boundaries-setting-healthy-relationships-limits-zoom-study/   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/jZMumA1uKq8  

In 2017, Christine's husband John died suddenly following what should have been a routine operation. They had been married 24 years, and their daughter was 18 at the time. Less than three years after her husband's death, both of Christine's parents died, adding more layers to her grief. In this interview, she describes her intentional grieving process and the things that helped her to survive and thrive, or "surthrive" as she called it. Christine is a licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in helping clients navigate the grief journey, enabling her to share helpful insights from her professional and personal experience.   The psychological-emotional-spiritual journey of recovery from the loss of significant family members led Christine to relocate from California to Tennessee three years ago. Christine's relationship with Jesus Christ has been a cornerstone to her ability to thrive in what might be considered devastating circumstances. She writes in detail about her process of grief in her new book called Falling Is Part of the Journey: How I Found Life While Grieving Losses.   Christine Lister is licensed to do marriage and family therapy in Tennessee and California. Her practice is physically located in the central time zone in East Tennessee where she offers both in person and video sessions. Her specialties include recovery from grief and loss, especially loss of a spouse, and anxiety management from a Christ-focused approach.   Christine Lister's website: ListerCounseling.com. Christine's Book - Falling Is Part of the Journey: How I Found Life While Grieving Losses Griefshare.org is a faith-based program available online and in person at various churches. TheraTapper™ was mentioned as a method of processing trauma associated with EMDR. Here is the link for more information on it: https://theratapperinc.com/.  Here is more information on EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/.   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/5AmptkxWFyU      

If you have addicts and alcoholics in your life, you need to learn how to detach. If you don't, you may find yourself trying to force them to get sober and losing yourself in the process. Without the ability to separate yourself from their addiction and alcoholism, you can become obsessed with fixing them. You may find yourself feeling afraid and angry and wondering why you are not capable of convincing the person you care about to make better choices. If this sounds like you, watch this video to learn how to detach from the addicts and alcoholics in your life. #detachment  #detaching #dysfunctionalrelationship #addictionstruggles    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/9WYTfD8ZNCc  

If you fear abandonment, you probably don't know how to detach. Detaching is about separating yourself from other people's opinions, emotions, reactions, choices, blame, threats, and more. That's hard to do when you need to be attached to people to feel okay. The problem is that you will be even more dependent on what they do, feel, and think, so you desperately need to be able to separate yourself. Watch this video to learn how you can detach even though you struggle with the fear of abandonment. #fearofabandonment #detaching #detachment #dysfunctionalrelationship    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/5AmptkxWFyU  

Detaching from enablers is necessary when they are providing the means for people you care about to continue in their addiction and irresponsible behavior. It is hard enough to set your own boundaries with your loved one doing things you cannot support but when other people enable, you need to figure out how to respond to them too. Watch this video to help you to respond the right way. #addiction #detaching #irresponsible #enablers     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/VS4QcThlGgw

Do you find yourself unable to detach and unable to function well in your own life when someone close to you is not okay? You don't have to live that way. This video will show you how to detach with love so you can say, "I'm okay when you're not okay." #detachment #difficultrelationship #dysfunctionalrelationship #beingok #healthyrelationships   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/QK4djkViqa0

Letitia Iona's first marriage was dysfunctional. When it was obvious that her children were negatively impacted, she knew she had to divorce. After moving to Tennessee to relocate as a single mom, she met her second husband and was excited about their new life together. Shortly after the honeymoon, he was angry, verbally abusive, and avoidant.    Letitia shares her journey through divorce, single motherhood, a verbally abusive marriage, and family relocation. Through each trial, she uncovered God's deeper purpose prompting her to write the book, "There Is Purpose In Your Pain." Letitia and Karla discuss what she discovered about the purpose of pain in her life and the interviews she did for the book. Join us and you will be thinking deeply about the purpose of your pain and thrilled to discover that it isn't hard to figure out.    Letitia Iona is a multifaceted professional singer, worship leader, elementary music school teacher, life coach, voice and piano instructor, and the author of “There is Purpose in Your Pain: Embracing Adversity and Finding God's Purpose in the Midst of Life's Challenges.” Her work aims to inspire and guide others toward Christ, offering hope and triumph amidst life's challenges. Letitia Iona is passionate about coaching, teaching, and supporting single mamas & women in difficult marriages. In 2021, she self-published an eBook “A Guidebook to Living a Wonder Woman Lifestyle: Written by a Single Mama for Single Mamas.” Following the sudden passing of a close friend, Letitia Iona was reminded that “life is short” and pursued her dream of relocating her family from California to Tennessee. She now resides in Clarksville with her daughter.  Letitia's book: There is Purpose in Your Pain: Embracing Adversity and Finding God's Purpose in the Midst of Life's Challenges      https://www.amazon.com/There-Purpose-Your-Pain-Challenges/dp/B0DT9GW8RK Letitia's Website:  https://letitiaionastudios.com/ Letitia's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/letitia.ugwueke #purposeinpain #toxicrelationships #findingpurpose #personalgrowth   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/FsOIl1wCAN4  

When you are dealing with chronic liars, it is infuriating and hard to believe that despite the many promises to never lie again, they do. You probably ask why and how it could happen. But more importantly for you to figure out is "Why do you believe their lies?" #chronicliars #dysfunctionalrelationship #healthyrelationshipsteps #toxicrelationships #boundaries #dysfunctionaldynamics     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/csi7Bfh7z8U

Setting boundaries isn't easy because a relationship has so many variables. Because of that, it is helpful to have specific components to focus on. One of those is to determine who is responsible for what. Once you know those things, it is easier to figure out what your limits should be. Watch this video on setting boundaries to learn how to determine who is responsible. #responsibilty #settingboundaries #Christianboundaries   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/A_qrIagECJs

What is the difference between forcing a solution where you are trying to control someone's behavior and setting a boundary where you are drawing a limit for yourself? Watch this video to get the answer to that question. #difficultrelationship #boundaries #controlling   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/iGUGfs-WAsw

Abigail did not submit to her husband Nabal when he refused to help David and his men. This biblical story provides submission principles women can use to confidently say no to things that violate their consciences. #difficultrelationships #toxicrelationship #dysfunctionalrelationship #scripturalmisunderstandings   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/KBfuIJPna8Y

It isn't easy to listen to someone saying things you disagree with. It is hard to hear someone is upset with you, and even harder to not receive it as an attack and defend yourself. It takes self-restraint to focus on what is being said when your emotions are out of control.  Defensiveness and reactivity are primary reasons that conflict escalates and isn't resolved. There is an approach that can make it easier for you to listen, and that is to be curious about the other person. Watch this video to find out how to do that and why it works. #reactivity #becurious #listen    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/tcs_PBK0vcc

People are often out of touch with what is going on with themselves. This leads to problems in their lives and relationships. Whether it is feeling an emotion, problem-solving a situation, making a decision, or resolving a conflict, it helps to be self-aware. Not knowing what and why you are acting and reacting the way you are means you lack valuable insight.  The alternative is to be curious about yourself. Watch this video to find out how you can do that to improve your life and relationships...  #selfawareness #becurious      Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/R9Yaou0KeoM

Dysfunctional people do all kinds of hurtful things and rarely ask for forgiveness. It is common to struggle with forgiveness because there are so many hurtful things done. The Bible tells us that God doesn't forgive us when we don't forgive our offenders, but does this really mean you aren't forgiven? #forgiveness #boundaries #toxicrelationships #dysfunctionalrelationship #emotionalhealing      Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/drli7oMIR2g

Greg and Edie describe their son's eight-year journey through heroin addiction which impacts the family in profound ways. They describe how it disrupted their lives and how they grappled with the difficult and scary decisions of how much to help. They share the tools they learned that gave them wisdom, health, and peace.    According to the National Institute on Drug Abuse, 40.3 million people in the United States had a substance abuse disorder in 2020. This means that at least two family members were impacted for a minimum of 80.6 million people whose lives were disrupted. It is more likely a minimum of four people making it a total of 161.2 million people who have been affected by a family member's drug use. Of those 40.3 million people with substance use disorder, only 6.5 percent received treatment.   Their son got clean after many rehabs and 127 changes in where he lived over eight years after finally hitting his bottom. If you have a loved one who is imprisoned by addiction, listen to this story. It will give you experience, strength, and hope for your journey. #addictionrecovery #boundaries #truthinlove #toxicrelationships   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/0ErlNczUBU0

Abuse victims often experience a lack of support and mistreatment when they describe what is happening to them. This lack of support is labeled as "Double Abuse" by Annette Oltmans of The Mend Project.  Find out what Double Abuse is and why it is harmful to the victim. #dysfunctionalrelationship #abusevictims #doubleabuse #toxicrelationshiprecovery      Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/DWlTrMeq9AM

Twelve Step recovery includes working Steps One, Two and Three where you admit powerlessness, come to believe God will restore you to sanity and surrender your will and life to God. When life gets overwhelming, you can work Steps One, Two and Three together to get yourself back on track. See how it is done in this video. #dysfunctionalrelationship #complexrelationships #recoveryjourney    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/dzdtYTIz7oo

Toxic relationships with dysfunctional dynamics don't use reparative moves to reconnect after conflict. As a result, they are perpetually disconnected. There are small things that can be done that will move the parties toward each other and increase the possibility that they can open a discussion. Find out what these things are by watching the video.#reparativemoves #openingdiscussion #dysfunctionalrelationship #healthyrelationshipsteps   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/7s5OY6ZxVAY  

John and Ann describe how they navigated his Bipolar Disorder in their marriage. Bipolar disorder is also referred to as manic-depressive disorder because it is characterized by extreme shifts in mood with highs and lows that impact a person's ability to function normally. An estimated 2.8 percent of the population has bipolar disorder. In Part 2, Ann describes the heavy weight of caring for her husband and the family without his help. After finding support, she learned how to care for herself by setting boundaries. John then had to make hard choices about managing his illness. Their journey from almost divorcing to renewing their vows offers couples hope in successfully navigating mental illness together.  #bipolarinmarriage #healthyrelationships #difficultmarriage   Mental Health Strong  https://mentalhealthstrong.com/   National Alliance on Mental Illness  (NAMI)  https://www.nami.org   Re|engage study for strengthening marriages. https://www.reengage.org/   "10 Lifesaving Principles for Women in Difficult Marriages" by Karla Downing https://a.co/d/eSSsUlQ   Karla Downing's classes  https://www.changemyrelationship.com/current-and-upcoming-classes/     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Vmd8qyi359Q    

Triangulation or stepping into a relationship conflict between two people is one of many dysfunctional dynamics. Find out what the Karpman Triangle is and how it sheds light on the pros and cons of triangulating. #karpmantriangle #complexrelationships #relationshipconflict    Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/o6WEcGg22Yc    

John and Ann describe their marriage journey before and after he was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder. Bipolar disorder is also referred to as manic-depressive disorder because it is characterized by extreme shifts in mood with highs and lows that impact a person's ability to function normally. An estimated 2.8 percent of the population has bipolar disorder. John describes his first psychotic episode with hallucinations and delusions. They share how the mental illness impacted their marriage and family. Their story shines light on the impact of mental illness on marriages and why they are twenty to eighty percent more likely to divorce.  #bipolarinmarriage #healthyrelationships #difficultmarriage   Mental Health Strong  https://mentalhealthstrong.com/   National Alliance on Mental Illness  (NAMI)  https://www.nami.org   Re|engage study for strengthening marriages. https://www.reengage.org/   "10 Lifesaving Principles for Women in Difficult Marriages" by Karla Downing https://a.co/d/eSSsUlQ   Karla Downing's classes  https://www.changemyrelationship.com/current-and-upcoming-classes/     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/zL_VJe31S-I

Being gaslit is a horrible invalidating experience typically done by narcissists, abusers, and manipulators in toxic relationships. If you are a recipient of it, there is a question you need to answer: Are you gaslighting yourself? Many victims do because they get to a point where they stop believing in themselves. Watch this video to find out if you are gaslighting yourself and how to stop doing it. #gaslighting #invalidatingyourself #toxicrelationship   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/RWgy3tczkGo

An expectation is the beginning of a resentment. Does that mean you can't have any expectations? Does it mean that people can get away with whatever they want and you can't set boundaries? Resentments can ruin a relationship. It is crucial that you set realistic expectations and let go of your unrealistic expectations. Find out how to do that by watching this video. #resentment #expectations #realisticexpectations #toxicrelationship   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/QMfwhxfVbdk

Difficult relationships have losses. The healthy way to process loss is to work through the grief process. One of those stages is bargaining. Bargaining in relationships occurs as part of the grief process but also occurs during conflict resolution. #bargaining #dysfunctionalrelationship #loss #griefprocess     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/nj_zV26IReA  

This video provides a therapist or counselor with the basic goals that need to be followed to help a victim of abuse. It also helps the victims see what they need to work on to get strong enough to respond to the abuse to protect themselves. #abusevictim #victimgoals #toxicrelationshiprecovery #boundaries     Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/oFDGtd7EGag