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Episode 98 - SHATTER THE MYTH - Thrive Beyond the ‘Wounded Child' Illusion, explained by Wolfgang Sonnenburg. Disclaimer: Please note that all information and content on the UK Health Radio Network, all its radio broadcasts and podcasts are provided by the authors, producers, presenters and companies themselves and is only intended as additional information to your general knowledge. As a service to our listeners/readers our programs/content are for general information and entertainment only.  The UK Health Radio Network does not recommend, endorse, or object to the views, products or topics expressed or discussed by show hosts or their guests, authors and interviewees.  We suggest you always consult with your own professional – personal, medical, financial or legal advisor. So please do not delay or disregard any professional – personal, medical, financial or legal advice received due to something you have heard or read on the UK Health Radio Network.

Welcome back to the podcast! Today, we're diving into *Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship* by Terrence Real. This book has left a deep impact on all three of us, Amanda, Laura, and Kendra, and we're excited to share key insights on how to foster deeper connections in relationships. 1. The Three Selves in Relationships Terrence Real introduces the concepts of the "Wounded Child," "Adaptive Child," and "Wise Adult" within us. Each part can impact our interactions, especially in times of stress. For example, when stress triggers the Adaptive Child, we might revert to defensive, perfectionistic, or rigid responses, limiting our ability to connect. 2. Moving Toward the Wise Adult The Wise Adult is the part of us capable of emotional regulation, grounded in the present moment, and focused on the “us” in relationships rather than just "me versus you." Practicing "relational mindfulness," as Real describes it, helps us move from reactionary behavior to thoughtful responses that prioritize the relationship. 3. Relational Mindfulness and Power Dynamics Real's approach encourages moving from a "power-over" to a "power-with" perspective. Relational mindfulness is about becoming aware of our own impulses and prioritizing the relationship ecosystem over individual needs. This doesn't mean neglecting personal needs but rather not letting those needs dominate interactions. 4. Relational Heroism Real's wife, Belinda, coined the term "relational heroism" for moments when, instead of defaulting to old habits, we choose connection and insight. This shift from automatic, defensive reactions to thoughtful, relational actions requires self-awareness and discipline. 5. Self-Responsibility and Maturity Maturity in relationships involves taking full responsibility for our actions and emotional triggers. This means acknowledging when we're operating from an adaptive, defensive place rather than our wise, grounded self. Understanding our reactions and managing triggers is essential for healthier connections. 6. Interpersonal Neurobiology Real touches on the science of how our central nervous system and relationships are deeply intertwined. Our early life experiences shape how we perceive intimacy and connection in adult relationships. Relationships are meant to be a source of co-regulation, enhancing our physical and emotional well-being. 7. The Importance of Connection Real discusses “Social Baseline Theory,” which emphasizes the evolutionary benefits of social connections. These connections help us conserve energy, regulate emotions, and mitigate risk. This need for connection is evident in research on loneliness and isolation, underscoring the importance of close, supportive relationships. 8. Understanding Subjective Reality Real emphasizes that subjective experience is often more important than objective facts. Accepting your partner's perception of reality can improve understanding and reduce conflict, shifting from a “me versus you” mentality to an “us” mindset. 9. The Framework of Connection True intimacy is built through awareness of each other's needs, emotions, and triggers. Individuality has its place, but lasting relationships thrive on mutual understanding, shared values, and a focus on connection over competition. Additional Resources and Final Thoughts As we continue our journey through this book, we invite you to explore Real's work, available in his books, online resources, and YouTube videos. Thank you for joining us today—be sure to check out our new free video linked in the show notes. Remember, you are whole, your gift to medicine is unique, and the work you do matters. https://www.amazon.com/Us-Getting-Build-Loving-Relationship/dp/0593233670 https://terryreal.com/ https://www.youtube.com/@realterryreal Check out our new video, "How to Crush Physician Burnout for Good, without Quitting Medicine, Cutting Back Hours, or Sucking it Up in Silence"-click here!

Discover the powerful communication path between your spirit and your body.  I this amazing livestream recording, I sit down with Christine Lang, a former attorney now medical intuitive, to share her remarkable journey from law to holistic healing. Christine reveals how she overcame chronic allergies through alternative medicine and meditation, showcasing the deep connection between stress and physical symptoms. Discover insights into energy healing, spiritual communication, and managing stress to enhance well-being. Learn about the innate ability everyone has for personal and familial healing, the importance of setting boundaries, and the role of beliefs in health. Christine spotlights her gifts for many participants on the call, listening to their Higher Self to gain insights on the root of physical problems being experienced - from my own stomach bug to multiple sclerosis. Christine discusses maintaining energetic boundaries for therapists, practical self-care techniques, and provides details on how to stay updated with her latest offerings. This engaging discussion is filled with personal stories, practical advice, and inspirational messages for anyone on a healing journey. 00:00 Welcome and Introduction 01:30 Christine Lang's Journey to Becoming a Medical Intuitive 04:16 Understanding the Connection Between Stress and Physical Symptoms 09:53 The Role of Spirit in Healing and Guidance 25:24 Interactive Q&A Session Begins 31:29 Messages for Moving Forward 32:06 Understanding Soul Purpose 34:51 Right and Left Side Body Symptoms 36:51 Energetic Boundaries and Therapy 44:06 Energetic Hygiene Practices 45:27 Influencing Gene Expressions 50:28 Healing the Wounded Child 53:22 Connecting with Christine Lang Resources:  Explore all of Christine's offerings: https://www.christinelang.org Register for future livestreams with guests just as amazing as Christine! And these are free! https://www.karagoodwin.com/livestream-events2

Are you struggling to figure out if what you're feeling is anxiety or depression? It can be tricky to tell the difference, but don't worry. That's exactly what this episode is here to help with. I'm joined by Laura Rhodes-Levin, LMFT, a licensed therapist who specializes in the treatment of anxiety, depression and trauma. Laura is also the founder of The Missing Peace Center for Anxiety, a facility that offers a range of therapies designed to calm the nervous system and bring the mind and body back to a state of peace. Plus, she's recently released her book The Missing Peace: Rewire Your Brain, Reduce Anxiety, and Recreate Your Life—and let me tell you, it's a must-read. In this episode, Laura and I dive into how to recognize whether you're dealing with anxiety, key takeaways from her book, and how anxiety can actually be a superpower. We also explore the concepts of our “Wounded Child” and “Capable Adult” selves, how to change that negative inner dialogue, how to choose peace without guilt in midlife, and what tools we need to keep anxiety in check. We even cover how to support others during their most anxious times. You won't want to miss this insightful conversation! Show Notes: Book: The Missing Peace: Rewire Your Brain, Reduce Anxiety, and Recreate Your Life by Laura Rhodes-Levin Website: missingpeace4anxiety.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/laura.rhodes.311/    

Much attention is given to the wounds inflicted on children raised by a wounded mother; less focus is placed on understanding the pains of the wounded mother and how she came to parent in the ways she did. Tamala Floyd, a certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) psychotherapist, teaches about the wounded child and the wounded mother, and how to heal both. Tamala guides listeners through a meditation designed to connect with the experiences, memories, and pains of the mother's own wounded child self. Through this connection, the mother can listen to, learn from, and offer support and comfort to her younger self. If you enjoy this meditation, we think you'll love Tamala's brand-new audiobook, Listening When Parts Speak. Don't miss your chance to listen to the full audiobook FREE with a trial of Empower You Unlimited Audio. Visit hayhouse.com/empower to start listening today!

Do you trust yourself? Down to the core of your soul, relentlessly? DO YOU TRUST YOURSELF. I can bet - you do not fully trust yourself. 99% of humans are subjected to a “power over and power under” structure throughout their lives, “THINKING they are in control.” ENTER STAGE LEFT….Fate and Destiny. How do we activate our Destiny's path and Rite of Passage?HOLOGRAPHICALLY. Today, I am sharing a very personal, deep video of a past client's transformation, and you will start to see the results of “my life's body of work.”

As children raised by imperfect parents, we all have “core wounds” that inform much of our life. We may have had experiences we did not know how to process, and therefore made up stories of what those things meant that we still carry with us today. As we get older, we adapt and learn to navigate those painful stories through our various adaptations. Then as adults, we have an opportunity to look at some of our adaptations, and evaluate if they are still serving us, or if we can let them go. In this episode, I explore 3 roles children are often “cast” in that can create issues later in life if not evaluated and healed. You will likely see yourself and those you love most in some of these roles, and gain some insight into your own behavior, as well as the behaviors of your partner/loved ones. You will also leave with some tangible ideas of how to navigate next steps in healing those parts that need gentle love and nurturing. Register for my free class, “How to Get Your Life Back After Infidelity” here: https://andrea-giles.mykajabi.com/webinar-may8-confirmed To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ To learn more from me, be sure to join my email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2024 Andrea Giles

The Healing Journey of Your Inner Wounded Child In this powerful video, we delve into the profound healing journey of your inner wounded child. Many of us carry deep emotional wounds from our past that affect us in our present lives. By acknowledging, nurturing, and healing our inner wounded child, we can unlock a new level of healing and self-discovery. It's time to embrace your inner wounded child with love and compassion and start your journey toward healing and wholeness. Watch this video to learn more about the transformative power of healing your inner wounded child. #InnerWoundedChild #HealingJourney #InnerChildWork #SelfHealing #EmotionalHealing #selfdiscovery

Feeling overwhelmed by anxiety? You're not alone. In this podcast, we'll be diving deep into what makes anxiety tick, but ditch the stuffy lectures. We'll chat about how stuff from our childhood can show up in our grown-up worries, and how our bodies can get stuck in a bit of an alarm state. But hey, there's good news! We'll explore ways to connect with that inner part of us that feels scared (think inner child) and learn to deal with those uncomfortable feelings head-on. No more just trying to white-knuckle our way through – we'll be talking about healing that deep-seated anxiety, not just covering it up. So, if you're ready to ditch the anxiety and find some peace, come hang out with me! Thank you for listening and you can find me on IG: @theanxietymd if you have any questions. PS. If you would like to join the MBRX family of 3300+ anxiety WARRIORS who are shifting from coping with their anxiety to actually HEALING it, click the link below: https://www.theanxietymd.com/MBRX ------------------------- Recognizing Anxiety in Childhood (00:00:01) Neurological Reward System of Worry (00:01:11) Shame and Alarm in Childhood (00:03:27) Connecting with the Wounded Child (00:06:03) Anxiety as a Separation (00:09:11) Background Alarm and Coping Strategies (00:11:17) Acclimatizing to Alarm (00:17:32) Healing through Integration (00:20:37) Processing the Alarm (00:21:51) Metabolizing the Alarm (00:23:13)

Paulette's upbringing was fraught with challenges, shaped by the specter of her father's alcoholism and her mother's inability to provide the love and support she desperately needed. Growing up in such an environment left scars that lingered long into adulthood, setting the stage for her own battles with addiction and emotional turmoil. Despite the adversity she faced, Paulette exhibited remarkable resilience, determined to forge her own path despite the odds stacked against her.Paulette's Website:https://www.spiritledsobriety.com/Support the show

In late November I wrote this song, about an acronym that had been written on the bodies of many children across Gaza, back before all the hospitals had been bombed into oblivion.  This is the newly-remixed version that will be part of the upcoming album.  The rest of the songs in the series are at davidrovics.com/palestine.

Have you ever felt like you're just not enough? This feeling, believe it or not, often stems from our childhood. It's all about the love we did or didn't get – from our parents, friends, siblings. Think about those times when attention, nurturing, and even simple conversations were rare. And how often were you told, “Be quiet. Speak only when you're spoken to”? It's like we were packed into an invisible box and told to stay there, silent. This absence of love and voice leaves us feeling insecure. We end up craving validation from others, almost like a seal of approval that says, 'Yes, you're good enough!' It's as if every 'thanks' or 'good job' from someone else is a tiny band-aid on a much deeper wound. But here's the catch – true transformation starts with looking back at your childhood. It's hard but necessary. In one of the previous episodes, I said, 'You're an adult, but inside, you might still be that child.' Yes, we grow up, our bodies get bigger, but what about our emotions, our confidence, our inner power? If these don't mature, we're just grown-ups with unhealed childhood scars. Ignoring our past, thinking it's just 'the past,' doesn't cut it. It's there, in your head, living rent-free. To truly move forward, you need to face it, show it some love. When you start to love yourself, really fight for it, that's when the healing starts. So, are you ready to step out of that invisible box? Join me in this week's episode, where I'll explore how healing from within helps you live in greatness, not fear. Let's unpack those childhood boxes together and find our true selves. It's going to be a journey, but trust me – it's one worth taking. Let's dive in! Key Takeaways: Intro (00:00) Unlock Your Greatness Conference (00:48) Hey, take care of you (03:33) You are enough just the way you are (08:13) You might still be a child inside (11:47) The power of self-reflection (17:46) Recap (19:14) Additional Resources: ➡️ Live Event Sydney 4th Jan 2024 “Unlock Your Greatness Conference”  - - -  ➡️ Subscribe to Sunshine Amberzena – Click here for Amber jewelry and fashion accessories live auctions on YouTube - - -  

Join Bethany as she welcomes listeners into a top three countdown for the next three weeks. Welcome back to the kitchen table. As mothers, one of our most challenging experiences is watching our children navigate difficult seasons. The pain of seeing them struggle with loss, loneliness, and emotional hurt can be overwhelming, and so often, we find ourselves entrenched in their pain. In today's episode, Bethany guides listeners through the process of letting go and walking alongside our children without becoming entangled in their pain.   The challenges our children face, whether bullying, shattered dreams, or the turmoil of friendships, deeply affect us. As parents, our hearts ache when they hurt. But it's important to remember that we aren't meant to fix every situation. Perfection isn't the goal of parenting; instead, it's about being a steadfast presence that embodies trust and faith rooted in scripture.   While we can't remove all obstacles from our children's paths, we can equip them with truth from scripture and remind them of God's commitment to navigate these challenges. These reminders keep us grounded in our faith, providing guidance and wisdom when navigating difficult situations. Bethany shares word pictures and scriptures to share with your children to strengthen their spiritual foundation and support them in their struggles.   Remember, your role isn't to create a perfect childhood but to provide unwavering support as they follow their path, guided by the Holy Spirit. Anchoring Scriptures: 1 Corinthians 15 Genesis 16 Genesis 21 Isaiah 43 Hebrews 4:16 Romans 15:13 Isaiah 61 Are you seeking guidance in the art of letting go and embracing a Gospel-centered perspective? Pre-order The Warrior Mama Prayer Journal, designed to help you navigate the challenges of life's transitions and find solace in the promises of God. https://bethanykimsey.co/products/a-warrior-mamas-prayer-journal   Connect with Bethany: Website Instagram Facebook  

When there were still hospitals functioning in the Gaza Strip, before they were intentionally destroyed in an ongoing, genocidal bombing campaign, the surviving doctors wrote on the bodies of the surviving children, over and over again, the acronym, WCNSF -- Wounded Child, No Surviving Family. 

When did ‘ceasefire' become a dirty word?In the second podcast this week on the destruction of Gaza, Dion and Joe look at how language has been weaponised during the conflict. How did a desire for a ceasefire come to mean that you are, at best, hopelessly naive and, at worst, a Hamas sympathiser? The barbarity of what has been inflicted on the people of Gaza by the Israeli government is changing that view but too slowly. Is this why those like Barack Obama who speak in riddles prosper. Joe offers his own version of a Barack Obama speech, even if Dion is now ready to embrace Michelle Obama's solution for world peace.Free State with Joe Brolly and Dion Fanning is a Gold Hat Production in association with SwanMcG.For more on Free State: https://freestatepodcast.com/To get in touch with the podcast: info@freestatepodcast.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Around the world people are marching in their millions for peace and calling for a ceasefire in Gaza. On Free State, Joe and Dion have a difficult conversation about war, peace and propaganda which reflects the difficult conversations people are having everywhere.They ask why are these conversations so difficult and how did calling for peace become such a risky thing to do?Free State with Joe Brolly and Dion Fanning is a Gold Hat Production in association with SwanMcG.For more on Free State: https://freestatepodcast.com/To get in touch with the podcast: info@freestatepodcast.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week Lara and Michael cover the genocide being perpetrated against the Palestinian people by the Israelis. Lara shares gruesome updates from her family on the ground. We bring you the news the corporate media won't. 

In the woo community, we hear much about healing our past traumas, or healing our inner child. I'm no different. I've been doing the work to look back and face, then make peace with my past. It's been a journey of forgiving, both myself and others. I truly thought to meet my inner child would be a delightful, relaxing experience. We'd hug in my mind's eye, reunited. I've meditated to send love and comfort to who I'll call little Jenn many times. Those painful memories no longer hurt like they used to, so our reunion in the hypnosis session would be sweet? Right?The short answer is kind of. But it was important. Hang with me and I'll share the journey. You'll hear snippets of the session, the bulk of what was revealed to me and how it has continued to heal and purge toxins inside my spiritual and physical body ever since.Special Guest Links:(Monique's details here - Innerstandings Hypnosis - blog and book a session!)Liked the episode? Listen to one of these NEXT!Comfort Your Inner Child with this Quick MeditationA Full Episode with Monique (and you can play an audio game of guessing which voice is hers and which is Jennifer's!:)Fantastic Lesson about Lilith and Black Moon from Timothy of Rasa Lila Healing!Show Sources/Materials:https://www.derby.ac.uk/blog/the-history-of-hypnosis/*********************************************************************Curious Cat is lacing up their hiking boots to explore the rumor riddled Cascade Mountain Range, a land of fire and ice. Sasquatch, UFOs, remote viewing, bottomless pits, unexplained missing persons, and more, if you have any supernatural experiences from CASCADIA, drop us an email at Curious_Cat_Podcast@icloud.com and YOU might be featured on a future episode! Look for CASCADIA episodes on your regular Curious Cat feed. Original art by @norasunnamedphotos find the artist on Instagram and look for their newest designs on Society6. Curious Cat is a proud member of the Ethereal Network. We endeavor to raise the vibration of the planet one positive post at a time!Curious Cat Crew on Socials:Curious Cat on TwitterCurious Cat on InstagramCurious Cat on TikTokArt Director: NorasUnnamedPhotos (on Insta)

The first Libra Solar Eclipse since 2005 occurs at 21 degrees Libra in your chart and is a Ring of Fire eclipse with the solar power of the Sun revealing what has been in the shadows and subconscious energy fields of the dark Moon. As the Sun and Moon conjoin, a reset is underway with Libra themes as this eclipse works with the South Node, highlighting what you are completing and moving away from in order to go higher in your standards, relations, and communication skills. Mercury is conjunct the Sun and Moon, but directly opposing Chiron in Aries that asks you to take a beat to be logical and level-headed with what you express so it is not from the Wounded Child perspective. A very powerful stream of consciousness is coming through as this rare eclipse lasts 5 minutes and 17 seconds, signaling that the energies will unfold over the next 5+ years. Much more to share in this podcast episode.   New! The Nodes of Fate move through Aries and Libra from July 2023 to January 2025, bringing energy and focus to where you are ready to grow into more of your true self. Let's dive into what this means for you personally as we explore the energies of Aries and Libra in your natal chart by expression, house placement, and previous cycles of growth. Please bring your astrology chart to this course. https://www.mollymccord.online/store/HxG5JyDy   ~ New! 2024 Soul Growth Astrology Webinars ~ The major astrology of 2024 and how the energies will show up in your natal chart, including the 4 Mercury retrogrades, powerful Venus energy in June, 4 eclipse points, a Galactic Grand Trine, Sedna in Gemini, Pluto in Aquarius, Jupiter in Gemini, and more. Wow! Check it out:  https://www.mollymccord.online/2024-astrology .

Inner Child work has become a more broadly recognized terms in recent years due to the increased awareness around the importance of addressing and healing trauma. More specifically, trauma experienced in childhood. The majority of our long-standing core false beliefs stem from messages we received and understandings we developed in the first few years of our lives. These understandings often came from things that happened to us including abuse, neglect, rejection, and other hurtful experiences. When the traumatic events occurred the energy is stored in our bodies, unresolved, and evermore impacting our decisions, actions, and lives. Hence the importance and benefits of inner child work to identify and release these painful, damaging emotions.  In this Identify and Heal Solo episode, I offer an overview of what Inner Child work actually means and entails, how the wounding comes about, and the ways to begin to begin addressing and healing it. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel A. Van Der Kolk, https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-scoreJoin the Women Waken Community on Instagram Here: https://tinyurl.com/522duz2c Feel free to reach out to me to see how we can work together and send your questions, feedback, and requests for future solo episodes here: Whitney Walker, LMFTLicense # 107082www.WomenWaken.comhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/profi...Whitney@WomenWaken.comIG: @WomenwakenYoutube: @womenwaken

Welcome back to the kitchen table. As mothers, one of our most challenging experiences is watching our children navigate difficult seasons. The pain of seeing them struggle with loss, loneliness, and emotional hurt can be overwhelming, and so often, we find ourselves entrenched in their pain. In today's episode, Bethany guides listeners through the process of letting go and walking alongside our children without becoming entangled in their pain.   The challenges our children face, whether bullying, shattered dreams, or the turmoil of friendships, deeply affect us. As parents, our hearts ache when they hurt. But it's important to remember that we aren't meant to fix every situation. Perfection isn't the goal of parenting; instead, it's about being a steadfast presence that embodies trust and faith rooted in scripture.   While we can't remove all obstacles from our children's paths, we can equip them with truth from scripture and remind them of God's commitment to navigate these challenges. These reminders keep us grounded in our faith, providing guidance and wisdom when navigating difficult situations. Bethany shares word pictures and scriptures to share with your children to strengthen their spiritual foundation and support them in their struggles.   Remember, your role isn't to create a perfect childhood but to provide unwavering support as they follow their path, guided by the Holy Spirit. Anchoring Scriptures: 1 Corinthians 15 Genesis 16 Genesis 21 Isaiah 43 Hebrews 4:16 Romans 15:13 Isaiah 61 Are you seeking guidance in the art of letting go and embracing a Gospel-centered perspective? Pre-order The Warrior Mama Prayer Journal, designed to help you navigate the challenges of life's transitions and find solace in the promises of God. https://bethanykimsey.co/products/a-warrior-mamas-prayer-journal   Connect with Bethany: Website Instagram Facebook  

What kind of father did you grow up with? Was he kind or abusive? Do you have a great relationship with your father or are you still carrying the pain from your past. It is amazing how much time I spend coaching people about how to release the hurts and past traumas from their childhood. […] The post Embracing The Wounded Child Within appeared first on LillianMcDermott.com.

The “Inner Child” is a concept developed by CG Jung and further developed over the years by both pop psychologists and analytical psychology. It represents the childlike aspects of each of us. Ideally, we are connected with the wonder, joy and excitement of our inner child. However, if we have experienced childhood trauma, our inner child can become a wounded child, resulting in feelings in adulthood of shame, guilt, anxiety and other negative emotions. In this episode, Ted discusses signs that your inner child may be a wounded child, and more importantly, how to heal that part of you. TedinYourHead.com

In this episode, we explore four simple yet transformative teachings that can be used to empower our lives in a deeper and more meaningful way.For each teaching, I share a quote or insight that captures the essence of the idea and then dive deeper into the heart of the wisdom that's held within each.The four main topics we cover are: Satisfying needs (and how to differentiate between real and imagined needs).How to say 'no' and a quick and easy way to determine which opportunities to say 'no' to.Why our most sensitive triggers are the keys that unlock our deepest healing.The quickest and easiest way to soften the voice of fear.Sources + Resources@the_ocdproject (Instagram account)Continued Reading + ResourcesArticle: Give Yourself the Permission to Be OrdinaryDisclaimer: This podcast is intended for entertainment and informational purposes only and does not substitute individual psychological advice.*This is an affiliate link. Purchasing through affiliate links supports The Soul Horizon at no extra cost to you. Thanks for your support!

Today we're continuing our series on the Wild Mind by diving into a different facet: the South. The South is about our wilderness, our emotions, our sensuality, and sense of belonging in the world - the natural world. I love talking about the South because I feel like it has been a strength in my life, especially at times like when I was at UC Santa Cruz (a clothing-optional University at the time), living amongst the ancient redwoods, dancing wildly to drum circles on the beach, and riding my bike to sit under my favorite acacia tree and watch the sunset; or when I was a climbing guide and slept under the stars over 250 nights each year, and having playful meetups with lovers all over the world. The energy of the South is returning to me as I intentionally create more time in the wilderness and to connect with my place in this world in this new iteration as mom and online biz gal. You know, we seem to forget as humans that we are also animals. And we tend to default to human exceptionalism, an idea that we're better than other species, or that we hold more value. Even in Buddhism it's said that because of the type of sentience we have and the capacities of our brain, that humans can achieve enlightenment more efficiently and make greater progress on the path, helping more beings along the way. But the flip side is that we can also cause more harm than other species, right? And the disconnect from nature and the resulting harm gets even more out of control the more we forget that we are also animals - we have had, and continue to have, a symbiotic relationship with other beings, plants, and the Earth.  This is where the South comes in. The South (for those in the Northern hemisphere - if you're in the Southern hemisphere, flip the North and South in this series) is the place with the most sun, the most warmth. Humans are outside more, exploring more, watching the sunsets and sunrises, connecting to the natural world. And with it, there's a more playful, relaxed, warm energy in our hearts. These qualities of the South are so important to Soul work because the type of adventures and explorations that we often encounter on the path and during altered state journeys often contain symbols, messages from our subconscious minds, aspects of our collective consciousness, and more. To navigate all this, we need to cultivate our instinct - our ability to trust and respond even without thinking. This is the domain of the South. The South also allows us to tap into the deep knowing that we belong here, just as we are. It helps us mitigate fears that may arise about being untethered to any sense of home. It allows us to trust that what arises is for our greatest good, because it IS. We become intimate with our Inner Healing Wisdom. Bill Plotkin calls the healthy facet of the South the “Wild Indigenous One.” It's not an invitation to cultural appropriation, but rather a reminder that we all descend from a lineage of indigenous people, and that when we are in touch with that and how it is alive in us now, we are fully and passionately at home in our bodies and in the natural world... How do we know we're in the South? If you've ever connected with another species, like having a silent moment with a wild animal while hiking or running, or having your pet come lick your tears, knowing what you need, or appreciating the gentle cradling from a favorite tree as you sit in its branches - that's the South. If you've fully appreciated being born in a human body and all the sensual pleasures and experiences it allows - sunsets, wild uninhibited sex, hot chocolate, trail runs, massages. Yum!  Or enjoyed what it's like to fully feel an emotion as it moves through your body, feeling alive and present in the world - even when the emotion is a challenging one… Then you have felt and connected with your Wild Indigenous One. I remember once, after a breakup, I was thinking about all the great times I had with this lover and the things we created together. As I reflected on how we were moving on and felt the sadness, I started to cry… but I was surprised when I noticed I was also in deep gratitude for the beauty of being alive, for ALL the complexity of emotions available to me.  How beautiful it was that I was alive and that I had the capacity to feel the entire range of emotions, from love and passion and bliss and pure joy to grief and loss. How this pain was 100% worth it. You might start to realize that the South has been actively suppressed in most modern industrialized societies. This makes sense, because the South helps us tap into our unconditional worth and belonging, while capitalism and consumerist culture thrive on having us believe that those things come from the outside, from things we can buy and that we “need” to be whole…and consequently, also things that can be lost or taken away. This is why actively cultivating the qualities of the South is essential - now more than ever. When we are in our South, we recognize the Buddhist concept of interconnectedness - that everything in the Universe and on this planet has come into being due to its relationship to - and dependence upon - everything else. We fell this more intuitively when we're in nature. We also open to full emotional expression. While the balanced South doesn't see emotions as toxic and doesn't suppress them, our South subpersonalities have a very different experience of our emotions. When we react to events through the filter of our woundedness, our emotions often seem unpleasant, and we may then end up acting on our emotions in ways that harm ourselves or others; acting in toxic ways, even towards ourselves. These subpersonalities are unbalanced or uncultivated parts of ourselves. They're generally thought of as the Wounded Children, as they often have the common theme of fear of being abandoned again. When they are activated, it feels as if the world is going to end - even as adults. I think of a temper tantrum of a toddler that feels all is lost because of a lost toy, and throws themselves onto the floor thrashing about. This is what we do when our Wounded Child arises when we're grown-ass adults - an adult version of this (and for some of us it might still look similar to this;). There are several subpersonality types that exist in the South, and I go into them in a lot more depth in the full episode, but one I'd like to highlight here is The Rebel. The Rebel is generally “against it,” no matter what “it” is. They may have had opportunities to make more money but refuse to do so, because they don't want to “give into the man.” Even if it's not compromising deep values and even if they can't pay their bills and end up with infinite money stress. They often don't trust anyone in “the establishment” (or in life), usually because of an abandonment they've experienced before. Despite the tough outer shell, there's this underlying belief that they aren't worthy or qualified for the rewards of mainstream society in more traditional ways (like money and success). So they rebel against almost everything: religion, teachers, parents, anything from dominant culture. This subpersonality is common in those of us from the poverty classes and oppressed people (myself included!), and for good reason, as these groups are traditionally marginalized in white-supremacist capitalist culture and feed this rebel tendency. However, this sub is also quite prevalent in other groups. Of course, being a rebel isn't all bad. It's actually pretty awesome, right? We tend to have more freedom and know how to have a great time. A popular saying in Camp 4 between us dirtbags was from economist Thorstein Veblen: “At either end of the social spectrum there lies a leisure class.”  But when this rebellion comes from a wounded place, we're often causing ourselves - or others - unnecessary harm. When I was living in my car as a climbing guide, I felt so much pride in needing so little to feel free and alive. To not “need” to work excessively. But I also had a better-than-thou attitude and had no qualms about ripping off those I considered to be privileged and “better off.” I remember once a Walmart cashier didn't scan one of my larger items, and I didn't mention anything. Stick it to the man! But still… stealing. I checked these less healthy parts of me once I started to heal that wounded child in me. But I still like to get away with shit;) Just as the North's Loyal Soldiers can be called Protectors, the South's Wounded Children can be called Orphans. Most of us weren't literally orphaned, but all of us experienced, at some point of another, and kind of loneliness of our psyche, an abandonment in that sense - key moments in our life when we realized holy shit, no one is watching out for me right now and I have to fend for myself. Even if our family was fairly supportive, at some point we felt…alone. The wounded emotional basis of the Southern subs arises because while we, as adults, may have learned to manage our emotions to some extent - repress them. Managed emotions aren't fully processed emotions, and fully processing them is what we need in order to continue developing in a healthy way.  What's happening here is really a disconnect from our authenticity in order to gain some degree of safety - physical or emotional. But when we do this, we forget who we really are, what we really want, and why we're really here. We forget that we're not here to DO more and more and more. We're here to BE who we authentically are, because that is why we were born. The discovery of who we authentically are and what we truly desire is the journey of the South, and one that's very common on the Adventure Mastermind. Because of this disconnect from our authenticity, the wounded South often shows up as emotional reactivity, impulsive behavior that takes us by surprise, feeling as if our emotions and reactions arose out of nowhere, out of our control. How can we start to process our emotions and integrate them back into us? There are 4 essential steps: // Understand and identify what emotion(s) our Wounded Child is feeling.// What happened (or what do they think happened) that elicited the emotion?// Understand that it makes perfect sense that they'd be feeling exactly those emotions under those circumstances. “Anyone in that same situation would have done the same thing.” This is truer than many of us would like to admit.// Understand what this tells you about them (aka YOU). After this, the most important piece is that we take action, because our challenging emotions arise when we aren't having basic needs met. But the problem is when our South isn't healthy, we believe others need to fit it and that we aren't capable of doing it (or shouldn't have to). Therefore, taking action is key so that we bring this sovereignty back into ourselves. We can figure out how we can act on our emotions and the information they give us. Maybe we need to create better boundaries and stick to them. Perhaps we need to take more time for self-care - pr leave a toxic job or relationship. We can listen and do things differently...  What's one thing you can do today to more fully cultivate and integrate your South? Something that will help it grow, like time in nature or dancing naked in your kitchen. Or perhaps something that will help you get to know your wounded child better, and learn to care for them? Pick one small thing to do today to get closer to the Wild One in you.  In this episode, you'll learn:// What the sensuous, embodied, and emotive energy of the South means to our Wild Mind and why it's so important for Soul work// How we can connect deeply with our Wild Indigenous One, despite society's attempts to repress it// What the South's subpersonalities are, and 4 steps we can take to assimilate them in a healthy way Resources:// Episode 128: Bearing Witness - Who Did You Tell?  // Episode 135: Reclaiming Parts of Ourselves // Episode 142: Your Wild Mind - The North + Protectors // Wild Mind, by Bill Plotkin  // If you're new to the squad, grab the Rebel Buddhist Toolkit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You'll also get access to the Rebel Buddhist private group, and tune in every Wednesday as I go live with new inspiration and topics.   // Cultivating our connection to our true selves and finding wholeness within us and in nature is a key part of the Adventure Mastermind. If you want to dive into this work in this container, learn more and apply at AdventureMastermind.com. There's ONE SPOT LEFT, and our next cohort starts at the end of February!   // Want something more self-paced with access to weekly group support? Check out Freedom School – the community for ALL things related to freedom, inside and out. Learn more at JoinFreedomSchool.com. I can't wait to see you there! 

Welcome back to Let Rest the Burn. Today I have a special guest - Mike Nelson. He is my former partner and my fantastic co-parent. You have heard me talk about our life together in previous episodes, so I realized he would be the best person to talk to about the wounded child in relationships. We have been together for a long time and have navigated our marriage, our divorce, and co-parenting together, so I wanted you to hear about his side of experience, too. This conversation is for everyone married or going through a marriage struggle or a divorce - you will definitely relate. So keep listening to hear our thoughts on this vulnerable topic and more.Visit this episode's blog post here.Connect with Colleen on Instagram: @nxtleveltherapy Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Guest cohost Karallyn Streit from www.karallynstreit.com helps us develop strategies for soothing our inner wounded child and developing our inner wise woman. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surthrivingdaily/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/surthrivingdaily/support

Hello, and welcome to The Let the Rest Burn. I am starting the year with our first shadow archetype - The Wounded Child. Firstly, we must comprehend how essential it is to deepen our understanding of the Wounded Child's purpose. The Wounded Child wants to recreate childhood patterns to change the ending. She wants to be loved differently, and she wants it now. Healing this piece of your story is crucial to moving through all the other parts of your shadow. Make sure you stick until the end of the episode, as I will cover the stigma around our bodies, eating disorders, physical movement, and pleasure. Visit this blog post here.Instagram: @nxtleveltherapy Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Author of The Bridge, Donna Lancaster, joins Caggie in this episode to explore how our physical body naturally heals our emotional pain. Donna experienced an extreme panic attack which kick-started her to explore the world of mental and physical healing, leading her to create an in-person retreat called The Bridge. Donna went on to write her book, also titled The Bridge, that focuses on tools and mechanisms that we can all adopt to heal and become our most authentic self. Donna and Caggie's conversation touches upon how we can evolve from our anxious state through physical healing processes such as shaking therapy, how our vulnerability can truly set us free, Wounded Child archetypes and viewing grief through a lense of ‘release' and ‘relief'. You can buy Donna's book The Bridge here. Pre-order the Saturn Returns book and buy tickets to the Saturn Returns Live Shows. Book a reading with our Resident Astrologer Noura and join our Saturn Returns community newsletter.

After walking away from a career in the performing arts to focus on guiding individuals into a surprising, new approach to personal transformation, Ron Baker has spent twenty-five years as a bioenergetics therapist, healer, speaker, and now best-selling author. He has nurtured thousands into meaningful empowerment through his School of Self-Mastery and inspired millions to come together for worldwide events that he has led from sacred sites around the globe. Learn more at RonBaker.net.

In todays video I will talk about the inner wounded child and how to understand the two types.

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” I am sitting down for a very special Sessions conversation. During Sessions, I get to talk to real listeners just like you and give them personalized, real-time advice to help address all of their questions about sex, love, and relationships. Today I am speaking with Mary. Mary reached out to me after seeing a post I made on social media about the wounded child that can often lives within many of us. If you have trauma in your past (who doesn't?) and you haven't fully addressed and processed that trauma, you might too have an inner wounded child who is crying out for attention and healing. Mary shares with me some of the things that deeply traumatized her as a child, including how her mother would prioritize men over raising her children. Mary still carries that trauma with her into her own romantic life and beyond. I help her to understand how she can meet her inner wounded child and help that child heal. If the concept of an inner wounded child sounds familiar, here are some signs that you might have an inner wounded child: ⧿ Fear of abandonment and/or the belief that no one will ever stay with you if they see the ‘real' you ⧿ Problematic boundaries: You let people walk all over you and reveal all your deepest secrets and vulnerabilities right away…or the flip side, you never truly let people in, even those who have known you for years ⧿ You are ashamed of expressing your own emotions: People with a traumatic or troubled childhood may have learned that it was important to hide their fear or sadness or anger from the adults in their lives, and this behavior can carry on into your own adulthood ⧿ You never trust anyone. You have a subconscious (or conscious) suspicion of everyone, even you: You struggle to trust your own judgement or believe your own recollections of events. ⧿ Conflict avoidant: You run from conflict and bury your head in the sand when people mistreat you or those you love. You want to stand up for yourself but you don't have the tools or resources to do so. Listen to this episode and let me know your thoughts!

In todays video I am going to talk about the inner wounded child and specifically help you discover which type of inner wounded child you are.

Keep Learning Books John Bradshaw, Homecoming: Reclaiming and Healing Your Inner Child Margaret Paul, Inner Bonding: Becoming a Loving Adult to Your Inner Child   Ellen Vora, The Anatomy of Anxiety: Understanding and Overcoming the Body's Fear Response Barry McDonagh, Dare: The New Way to End Anxiety and Stop Panic Attacks David A. Clark and Aaron T. Beck, The Anxiety and Worry Workbook: The Cognitive Behavioral Solution Search for the following speakers on YouTube: John Bradshaw (esp. his videos on the Wounded Child) Tim Fletcher (esp. his two videos: Re-Parenting - Part 12 - Inner Child - Part 1 and Part 2) Patrick Teahan (esp. his videos on the Wounded Child)

In this episode I speak to Patti Henry, who draws from her personal experience of surviving an abusive alcoholic father, experiences with her own children, and cases with her many patients, offering stories and anecdotes that will hit home. Her loving, amusing, yet no-nonsense voice will be in your head when you start asking, "Is my self-protective, wounded, demanding child or my adult in charge here right now?"

This podcast will make you want to take a deeper look at what you are holding deep within your core. Nikki discusses how her journey brought her to where she is today and accepting and loving her Inner Witch. She breaks down and brings light and her personal definition of what Shadow work, Dark Knight of the Soul, Wounded Child, Ego are and how they can play out within your mind, body and spirit. We speak about Past Lives and how your past life may be playing out in your present moment. Nikki speaks about her coven and all the blessings she witnesses as women open up to living their life of truth and purpose, as they unpack their Inner Empowered Witch. Leave us your comment and share this podcast with your family, friends and community. About the Host, Zak LioutasJoin Zak for 21 days of Intentional Meditation Practice Connect with Zak on her SocialsJoin her in the Private Facebook Group Join her on Instagram This podcast has been sponsored by BFU Soul Activation Program. BFU Soul Activation Information About the Guest, Nikki ColmoneNikki's Website Check out the Coven Instagram Listen to Nikki's Podcast Witchcraft & Wellness on any podcast platform Nikki's Book The Nature MindF*ck: Unearthing a Woman's Warrior Within 

This podcast episode discusses how being long-distance affects your relationship.  It includes: -separation can be an advantage for your relationship satisfaction -identify your needs -have your own life -improve communication -build trust and create shared boundaries and expectations -make plans and have regular points of contact -know each other's Love Language -acknowledge your partner's daily events & successes -have video dates, sexting, etc for intimacy -Determine levels of commitment- long and short-term -Comfort your Wounded Child re loneliness -Do virtual holidays, especially during COVID And more! If you want to do relationship coaching with Dr. Sherman, check out her website To learn about the film, 'Going the Distance' To read Dr. Sherman's dating book, 'Dating from the Inside Out,' click here  

A community prayer service in response to the shooting at the King Soopers in Boulder on March 22, 2021. Photo: "Christ with the Wounded Child" by Bob Perrin.

In this episode, I dive into how I've created a fulfilling relationship the essence of Wonder and Curiosity. I share my interpretation of the difference between the Wonder Child and the Wounded Child, how to soften and develop trust with the wounded child, and some of my favorite ways to ignite the essence of the Wonder Child!

We discuss and share resources on depression, 2020 effects on depression, and what you can do to move forward. (which is probably the exact opposite of what either of us did...) Show notes: 04:42 - ADHD & Depression 06:02 - Chronic vs Acute Depression 12:38 - Not Being Social Can Lead to Depression 18:02 - Past Traumas Can Enforce Current Depressions 19:10 - Detaching from Parental Identity to Individual Identity 20:58 - Wounded Child to Adolescent Emotional Trauma 25:22 - Avoiding sexual trauma 26:30 - 2020 gave opportunity or enablement into substance, emotional, and trauma addictions 30:02 - Removing distractions can lead to the ability to identify what you really want and don't want 32:42 - How alcohol feels like it helps, but it is really messy for the body 34:12 - How extensive working out can be a coping method or anything “productive” for that matter 37:42 - Leveraging your depression to get through a trauma 39:37 - The Walking Dead 40:12 - Finding the language to help understand what you are feeling What's this Podcast About: We dive deep into business and life topics for entrepreneurs through deep discussions and grilling successful business owners about their IDK WTF stories. This podcast is to help normalize uncertainty so that you can keep "crushing it" anyway! Hear from special guests, learn incredible tips and tricks, and let all of us help you avoid some of the inevitable setbacks that lay ahead on your adventure of life. IDK WTF I'm doing, and it's okay if you don't either. Listen to us on Spotify and Apple Podcast. Find them here: https://Anchor.fm/idkwtfpodcast Follow Us on Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IDKWTFpodcast Instagram: http://instagram.com/idkwtfpodcast/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@idkwtfpodcast Twitter: https://twitter.com/idkwtfpodcast Website: https://idkwtfpodcast.com #business #entrepreneur #entrepreneurlife #businessideas #idkwtf #wtf #podcast #businesspodcast #marketing #sales #businessmotivation #entrepreneurmotivation #motivation #businessbuilding #interview --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/idkwtfpodcast/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/idkwtfpodcast/support

One of the best things about rollin' around in this DHC landscape is the fact that Bria and I have a really joyful, playful relationship. So we started thinking about the role PLAY has in the practice of vulnerability. Because, as we discuss in this episode, play isn't easy for everyone. It's not at all uncommon to feel confronted by how difficult it can be to access these more radiant aspects of self-belonging and self-expression. Self-consciousness and fear of being judged or shut down is a real thing — and plenty of us have had the experience of it not being safe to be our own version of playful, goofy and curious. In this episode, we're talking about what bridges we've built from self-consciousness into a more open kind of self-expression, how it's a constantly-evolving process, and how play shows up in our individual lives. This is a thoughtful exploration of how levity and joy might actually be our innate, foundational state of being — and how our inner Wounded Child can help us access our inner Wonder Child — that part of us that is authentic, creative, trusting and spontaneous.   RESOURCES + MENTIONS: + The hilarious game Bria and I played one night that had us in stitches + The new Disney movie, Soul, and how personalities / dispositions are assigned + Bria and her #100daysofplay experiment + A call to our listeners to tell us your stories of play and how you relate with it Listen and subscibe on Apple podcasts, Spotify and Stitcher. We loooooove your reviews! Take 90 seconds to leave us one, or shoot us a message about the episodes that impact you. We'll share your stories and messages that kill us in a good way. DM us on Instagram @deadhearts.club, or send us a good ol' fashioned email (deadheartsclubpodcast@gmail.com) or click CONTACT.

This is deeper shadow work. Dealing with the shadow parts of ourselves we created when we were young. Make sure to care for yourself after and I recommend journaling to process. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

#9. Join me for this interview with Ellie Hadsall.  A self-described spiritual mentor and author, the twists and turns of her life have led her on a wildly imaginitive and rewarding journey.  Ellie's most recent book Meditation, a Journey in Self-Fulfillment is a "multi-cultural how-to meditation manual."  The book includes real-life experiences of clients and friends, revealing the profound impact meditation has had on their lives.  Her early career as a Dale Carnegie trainer morphed into a successful HR consulting firm she ran with her husband Ron.  While wildly successful in business, she realized that the spoke of spirituality in her own “Circle of Life” was lacking.  She was led to Kriya Yoga and her teacher Roy Eugene Davis after an encounter with the book “Autobiography of a Yogi,” which moved her in a way she could not have imagined.  Kriya yoga is the “yoga of action.”  Imbibing knowledge without putting it into practice was deemed insufficient.  True to this spirit, she opened a kriya yoga center in Dallas while simultaneously serving as minister of a New Thought church.  Having caught more than a glimpse of the ancient healing system of Ayurveda, Ellie and her husband Ron were drawn to become more deeply connected with its wisdom.  They left their comfortable life in Texas and headed to New Mexico to work with Dr. Vasant Lad at the Ayurvedic Institute.  Ellie served as Director of Education for over ten years, a role that enriched her life in ways she never thought possible.  She introduced the practice of Vedic fire ceremony called agnihotra to the students – bringing them the unique opportunity to restore harmony to their environment.In recent years, Ellie has turned to writing fiction.  She is the author of the successful series “The Cave Time Chronicles.”  Contemplating what her life could be like if she lived totally in accordance with spiritual principles, Ellie received “a download," a series of books that would allow her to explore this question.  The books are chronological.  Each book ends with intimations of where her main character is headed next as she travels through parallel universes.  When writing, Ellie travels with her characters.  Like most journeyers, she encounters many surprises along the way.  She introduces elements of her own spiritual path in the series:  sacred chant, meditation, agnihotra.  To Ellie, these books represent the potential of creativity.  “When you are willing to hold the space for possibilities, possibilities occur.”  The Cave Time Chronicles bring a relevant message to our contemporary world.  “While we may think self-protection is required under some circumstances, we can easily see that fear and anger come from deep wounds, usually experienced in childhood.”  (Ellie views her protagonist in Pathwalker – the first in the series- as a wounded child.)  “We can choose to practice nonjudgment and compassion while setting boundaries and being true to ourselves.  Necessary action can be compassionate.  If we act in this way, we experience a different outcome.” Ellie looks at life as a choice – an opportunity to play, to explore.  “What's it like to be an aggressor, to be young, female, male, old.  Life is an adventure.  Try it out.  See what works and what doesn't.  Play means I am not attached to being perfect – you have to be willing to put your creation out there.  You have to have fun with your creative projects.  Don't be afraid of criticism and most of all, don't define yourself by criticism.”Elliehadsall.com  & Cosmicgathering.com FB:  @EllieHadsallAuthorFiction & Nonfiction Books by Ellie:  amazon.com/Ellie-Hadsall/

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Today's chat with Ira was so good, I could have gone over an hour easily. But for the sake of keeping time for everyone, it's just well under an hour!In this chat, we talked aboutHow as children we wanted the unconditional love from our parents and the facades we wore to receive that love and acceptance.How those facades can be brought over into our adult lives and how it takes away our authenticity.What authenticity is and why it's importantIra's 5 steps to becoming authenticHow our 21st century culture is slowly disconnecting us from who we truly areAnd so much more.TimestampsTimestamps00:57 Get to know Ira04:26 Listening & Answering to a Calling07:03 What Should You Do When You Cannot Hear Your Calling09:55 5 Step Formula to Autenticity15:05 Forgiveness After Holding On to Anger17:20 Forgiving Ourselves When Forgiving Others18:18 Healing Ourselves Towards the Path to Authenticity21:40 The Wounded Child in us24:15 Attachment Theory30:48 Childhood Stories Showing up in Adulthood35:01 How buddhism influenced Ira's Work43:35 The 1 Thing We all need to do right NowResourcesIra's websiteIra's book: How To Survive Your Childhood Now That You're An AdultThank you so much for tuning in. I'm very honoured that you're here and I'd love to hear your thoughts on our conversation. I read all the comments here. If you love this podcast, please give us a 5-Star Rating in iTunes. It would help us HUGELY to spread the message.

Today a friend brought my attention to the fact that newspapers are saying that divorce filings are up by 40 percent as couples spend time together in quarantine. Divorce requests currently can't be processed fast enough in China, as couples come out of quarantine. Trauma and fear can bring out our worst sides and make us defensive.  Old resentments get exacerbated and people don't have space to process things alone and to cool down. As a couples counselor and coach, I am always on the side of that relationship. I'm pulling for it to get stronger or at least to remain in place.  So, here are 12 things to keep in mind that might help: Sometimes Adults Need a Time-Out Too Avoid Doing The 4 Horsemen & What to do Instead Think About Your Kids Don't Make Major Decisions When Upset Look for the Wounded Child in Your Mate Learn How to Self-Soothe Do Something that Raises Your Vibration Spend Some Time Remembering the Good Memories & Good Things about Your Mate Consider Marriage Counseling or Couples coaching online Practice Meditation or Some Sort of Relaxation Increase The Good Take Responsibility for Your Part Remember you can get through this and it is not your baseline.  Be willing to look at the part that you are playing in this dance, instead of just playing ‘the blame game.' You can get a copy of my new book, ‘Marriage and the Law of Attraction: The Secret to Creating Your Perfect Relationship,' on Amazon.  It walks you through how to improve your marriage from the inside-out without expecting your partner to change.  It will help you recognize all the ways you can powerfully create the relationship you want, by creating your marriage from the inside- out.  There's no time like the present. If you liked this episode, please subscribe! If you'd like couples counseling or couples coaching online with Paulette, check out www.DrPauletteSherman.com 

In this episode, you'll learn two more new tools to deal with your negative thoughts, in marriage, dating, and life.  These tools can also be applied to your current coronavirus fears and can help you shift from fear into love.  These tools come from my book, 'The Gremlin: 10 Tools to Shush that Negative Voice In Your Head, 'by Dr. Paulette Sherman, available as a paperback on Amazon.  I hope they will help you quell any anxiety right now and take more control over the thoughts you choose.  You can become a 'Thought Ninja' over time with practice.  Start using these tools in your daily life as fears surface. Today You'll learn: -How to drop the negative thought, or Thought Stopping. -How to expand your limiting beliefs and make them more flexible and positive -How to comfort and parent your Wounded Child and speak kindly to her. If you find what you hear here helpful, please subscribe to this podcast for further tools in this series here: iTunes link: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-psychologist-transforming-your-relationships-from/id1501634319 Stitcher for Android:  https://www.stitcher.com/s?fid=511816&refid=stpr Please leave any comments and rate this podcast. To learn more about life coaching, dating coaching or couples coaching with Paulette, go to her website:  www.DrPauletteSherman.com