Deeper Sex - A Sex Positive Podcast Exploring Fantasies And Boundaries

Download our free guide: “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”   Changing gears with Season 2, love and intimacy coaches Will and Chiara explain in very simple terms the concept of relationship Polarity, and the importance of balancing the masculine and feminine energies that you input in a relationship - regardless of your gender. They show how a polarity imbalance often leads to conflict, blaming, and general relationship unhappiness and unease. In this episode, they offer insights and provide practical tips for how couples can bring harmony back to their relationships. By stepping back, showing vulnerability, and understanding each other's perspectives, couples can navigate their differences and bring back the “Lover's Energy” that initially brought them together. == TIME STAMPS 00:34 What We Prepared For You In Season 2 01:38 Let's Talk About Polarity in Relationships 02:31 What Women Blame Men For 03:38 What Men Blame Women For 06:27 Often Men Feel Powerless 10:36 Do We Both Have Masculine and Feminine Traits? 13:41 Both Partners Need To Contribute To The Masculine/Feminine Balance In The Couple 15:25 How Do We (Re)establish Polarity? 17:55 Restore The "Lover's" Energy 24:20 Why It's So Important To Show Vulnerability To Your Partner 25:06 What Goes Wrong In Relationships When You Hide Your Vulnerable Side 28:31 What He Needs To Do To Make Her Feel Safe 32:38 What Is Real Masculinity Today? 36:40 It's Difficult To "Just Receive" 38:13 Connect With Your Feminine Side (regardless of your gender) 43:00 How Do We Connect Deeper? 43:17 1. It's A Dance For Two 43:37 2. Listen To This With Your Partner 44:47 4. Acknowledge That All Emotions Are Valid 45:17 5. Temporarily Suspend Your Belief 45:38 6. Ask Yourself: What Am I Really Yearning For? 46:00 7. Make Space To Receive From Your Partner 46:44 8. Don't Apologise For Your Emotions == Link to Alexa Vartman's book that we recommend on the show - “50 Misconceptions Of Sex” == Send us any questions here == Book a free chemistry session with us here

Guess what! We've been live for 6 months already, and we have a big surprise coming up for you! We are closing out Season 1 of the Deeper Sex Podcast to come back with Season 2 and offer something even more exciting and useful to you and your lover, in and out of the bedroom. We believe that sex should not be the driver of arguments and unhappiness for a couple. Nor should it be taboo.  We have witnessed, tried and tested on our own skin how it can be used to heal from trauma, fears, and to grow.  What's coming: We are taking the intimacy and sacred sexuality practices that have completely revolutionised our way of loving, and are putting them into very simple practical terms for you so, that everyone can apply and practice them in their own bedroom. If this is calling you, sign up for our waitlist to join our upcoming workshops. == Meanwhile, don't miss:   >> Our fav books “50 Misconceptions Of Sex” by Alexa Vartman “Wild Nights” by David Deida (this podcast is entirely supported by our listeners, so if you buy through this link we may earn a commission, at no extra cost to you)   >> Catch up on these episodes   13: How To Be Sexually “Open” Even If You're Monogamous Learn more about what we mean by “Openness” at 360 degrees and how that can 10x the relationship with your partner. Listen on Apple or Spotify.   6: There's No Shame In “Dirty” Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Can Transform Your Taboos into Passion Learn about how to share sexual fantasies with your lover, overcoming fear, shame and taboos. Listen on Apple or Spotify   5: How Did We Do It?? From Failed-Marriage Misery to Cosmic Sex, Hot-Tub Orgies and Play Parties in a Castle Learn more about the hosts' conservative backgrounds and how they “fell” into the amazing, sexually liberated world of Consensual Non Monogamy. Listen on Apple or Spotify == Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” == TIME STAMPS 01:54 You Helped Us Grow 03:25 Deeper Sex Content In Season 2 04:16 Sex At the Intersection Between Sexuality, Curiosity, Healing And Personal Growth 05:25 A Surprise For You: Get It Here! 07:52 10 Prompts To Start Deeper Conversations With Your Partner 08:15 Your Reading List to Get Ready For Season 2 == Questions? DM us or email us == Sign up for our workshops waitlist here

Will and Chiara are interviewed by Human Design coach Adriana to explore how they transformed their lives through sexual exploration and liberation.  They've made intimacy coaching their life's purpose, because there's so much fun and sex to be had in life, that everyone should be able to experience it!  They talk about their journey of following their hearts and intuition, instead of conforming to what others expected. They highlight how their union is always of the utmost priority, above and beyond anything and anyone else. On a spontaneous trip, they discovered the world of New Tantra and realized that that was “the code” - the language - for how they had been connecting all along. They found themselves into deeper and deeper sexual connections and an incredibly fulfilling sex life that massively influenced their business and their daily life… from miserable to super fun and exciting. The secret to all this? Curiosity and… well, tune into the episode to find out! Whether you're a man or a woman wondering if there's more to coupledom, or maybe bored in a sexless marriage, you too can go from an average relationship and a “middle-aged” sex life to an incredible connection with your partner, having mind-blowing, hours-long orgasmic marathons. == To learn more about what we mean by “Openness” at 360 degrees and how that can 10x the relationship with your partner, check out our episode on Apple or on Spotify. And… don't miss this book on the topic! “Wild Nights” by David Deida  (this podcast is entirely supported by our listeners, so if you buy through this link we may earn a commission, at no extra cost to you) == To learn more about how you can work with and accept your body image, check out this episode on Apple or on Spotify == TIME STAMPS 01:18 Meet Adriana, our Human Design Coach 02:26 Download Our Free Guide 03:02 How Will and Chiara Help Clients Have Better Romantic Relationships 06:22 How The Power of Intuition Got Chiara The Amazing Husband She Has 09:55 Why Intimacy Coaching 14:32 Why We Decided To Explore Ethical Non-Monogamy 18:59 This Could Be Your Community Too 21:29 The Deeper Sex Podcast In The Making 22:42 We Explored The Swinging Community But It Was Not For Us 24:04 From Swinging to New Tantra 25:26 Fantasy vs. Reality 25:50 Are You One Of The People We Can Help? 26:13 Who We Want To Help: Meet Our Friends John And Jane 34:45 Accepting Yourself And Your Body Image 40:43 How To Use Curiosity To Overcome Fear == WHO IS WILL Will is a psychologist,  journalist, entrepreneur, spin doctor, executive advisor and father. Today, Will works as a coach and retreat facilitator, following his vocation to help others unblock their lives and find meaning and happiness. Will is married to Chiara and could not possibly be happier.   WHO IS CHIARA Chiara is an ICF certified professional Intimacy Coach with a masters in business communication. She was a director for a tech pioneer where she led sales teams for 15 years. Today Chiara guides men and women to discover the power of their sexuality, reconnect with their bodies and become truly "comfortable" rather than just "confident", so they can embark on more intimate and sensual adventures.   WHO IS ALLIE Allie is an experienced meditation coach, sound healer and yoga teacher. She works with individuals and couples to help them reduce stress, find emotional balance and foster self-awareness. Inspired by science and personal experience, she's on a mission to discover and share the best modalities to maintain an exciting sexual life. For more info about the hosts, and to book a call, CLICK HERE. === Do you have a question? DM us on Instagram ===  >> FREE BONUS CONTENT: Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”

In this episode, intimacy coaches Will and Chiara share their transformative experiences at a festival (OZORA) in Europe, where Chiara's boobs in particular had many adventures :).  They discuss the concept of Openness, the importance of curiosity, and what it means to feel comfortable in your own body, opening the doors to a profound sense of freedom and connection. They highlight the contrast between people who are “open” and willing to share (their stories and themselves), vs. those who are more reserved, as a way to learn how to overcome fears, setting boundaries, and building trust in relationships.  The whole conversation is an amazing metaphor for how life can be lived. As all our episodes, this one too is filled with personal anecdotes and insights into how openness can lead to deeper connections and a more fulfilling life. !! Don't miss our book recommendation at the end !! === Our fav summer reading: “Wild Nights” by David Deida  (this podcast is entirely supported by our listeners, so if you buy through this link we may earn a commission, at no extra cost to you - thank you in advance for your support!) === Want to watch the video we mentioned? Request it here  === TIME STAMPS 01:36 We Are On A Mission To Help People Open Up 03:08 OZORA: Our Psytrance Festival Experience in Europe 03:55 Lesson #1: Openness + Nakedness = Freedom 07:19 Lesson #2: The Purity Of Being Naked 08:59 Goodbye Boobs! 09:29 Feeling Comfortable vs. Feeling Confident 10:27 It's Not About You, It's About Them 11:43 A Triangle Of Love And Bodies In A Fairy Tale 13:43 Dancing Topless On Your Shoulders 15:12 Naked Does Not Equal P0rnographic 16:20 Fun Fact: Unexpected Car Mayhem And How Will Kept His Cool 20:19 5,000 Heart Stickers To Spread Love 21:45 You Gotta Overcome The Fear To Love 22:41 Our Fav Summer Reading: Wild Nights === WHO IS WILL Will is a psychologist,  journalist, entrepreneur, spin doctor, executive advisor and father. Today, Will works as a coach and retreat facilitator, following his vocation to help others unblock their lives and find meaning and happiness. Will is married to Chiara and could not possibly be happier.   WHO IS CHIARA Chiara is an ICF certified professional Intimacy Coach with a masters in business communication. She was a director for a tech pioneer where she led sales teams for 15 years. Today Chiara guides men and women to discover the power of their sexuality, reconnect with their bodies and become truly "comfortable" rather than just "confident", so they can embark on more intimate and sensual adventures.   WHO IS ALLIE Allie is an experienced meditation coach, sound healer and yoga teacher. She works with individuals and couples to help them reduce stress, find emotional balance and foster self-awareness. Inspired by science and personal experience, she's on a mission to discover and share the best modalities to maintain an exciting sexual life. For more info about the hosts, and to book a call, CLICK HERE. === Do you have a question? DM us on Instagram ===  >> FREE BONUS CONTENT: Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” === Join us on Patreon for exclusive content! 

In this episode of Deeper Sex, we delve into the importance of communication in enhancing sexual relationships. Drawing from our personal and professional experiences, we share practical tips on initiating open dialogues about desires, needs, and fantasies with partners. As always we want to emphasise on creating a safe space for vulnerability, avoiding blame, and using various methods like scheduled talks, emails, and listening to shared content. We also discuss overcoming fears and the transformative power that honest and empathetic communication can bring to relationships. This is super useful, don't skip this episode! === Do you have a question? Follow and DM Us on Instagram! === Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” === 02:37 Who we are and why we are telling you this 04:05 What you will learn today 04:45 This is for you if... 08:20 Deconditioning 09:52 Who has this fantasy?! 13:00 Tip 1: Let it flow 14:31 Tip 2: Don't blame 16:10 Creating a safe space to talk with your partner 18:07 It's sexy to shamelessly ask for what you need  19:14 Tip 3: Choose the "right" time for a conversation 20:23 Tip 4: Listen to content together 21:36 Ever talked about your partner's cervix?! 24:52 Tip 5: "Please can you help me to understand..." 26:48 Tip 6: Show that you're listening 28:21 Tip 7: Have an "exploratory" vs. a "decision-oriented" conversation 29:36 Tip 8: Write sexy emails to each other 34:37 Sexy time or no sexy time? 36:47 When in doubt, say what's on your mind! === WHO IS WILL Will is a psychologist,  journalist, entrepreneur, spin doctor, executive advisor and father. Today, Will works as a coach and retreat facilitator, following his vocation to help others unblock their lives and find meaning and happiness. Will is married to Chiara and could not possibly be happier.   WHO IS CHIARA Chiara is an ICF-certified professional Co-Active Coach® with a masters in business communication. She was a director for a tech pioneer where she led sales teams for 15 years. Today Chiara guides men and women to discover the power of their sexuality, reconnect with their bodies and embark on beautiful adventures in sensuality.   WHO IS ALLIE Allie is an experienced meditation coach, sound healer and yoga teacher. She works with individuals and couples to help them reduce stress, find emotional balance and foster self-awareness. Inspired by science and personal experience, she's on a mission to discover and share the best modalities to maintain an exciting sexual life. For more info about the hosts, and to book a call, CLICK HERE. === NEW!! Join us on Patreon for exclusive content!  ===  >> FREE BONUS CONTENT: Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”

In this episode, intimacy coaches Will and Chiara answer some of the most common questions they get form clients and listeners about improving their sex life and intimacy.  We go from dealing with lack of sexual desire to the risks of opening a relationship, tackling jealousy, trust, male/female dynamics, same sex and group play. All the answers provided are based on real life personal experiences as well as patterns observed when coaching clients.  Do you have a question too? DM us on Instagram! Or Book A Call With Us === >> Mentioned Link to episode 02:  Listen on Apple or Listen on Spotify to learn how exploring sex with others has strengthened our relationship   >> Mentioned Link to episode 10: Listen on Apple or Listen on Spotify to learn more about Chiara's first and only experience as a Unicorn ===  >> FREE BONUS CONTENT: Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” === 01:42 Let's Answer Your Questions Live: Relationship Dynamics 02:54 Q1. My Partner Does Not Feel Like Having Sex With Me: Should I Open My Relationship? 04:06 The Risks of Opening a Relationship 05:53 You Gotta Build Trust and Communication 07:54 How To Explore Non-Monogamy Safely 09:18 Q2. How Do I Know If My Partner Is Into Kink? 12:47 Q3. I am So Jealous! How Do I Deal With Jealousy?  16:56 "Can I Kiss Him...?" - Play This Game 25:23 How To Navigate Relationship Insecurities 26:36 Embracing Jealousy Can Keep You Safe 27:48 Your Body Knows and We Have All The Answers Inside 28:53 The Importance of Respect and Boundaries in Non-Monogamy... and in Monogamy Too! 30:41 How To Communicate Clearly and Gain/Give Trust in Relationships 33:51 Q4. Am I Bi-Curious? 40:35 Q5. How Can A Man Have Sex When Another Man is Present?  42:22 Let's Explore Male Energy and Group Play Dynamics 45:25 Sexual Conditioning: What It Is (Not) Doing For You 46:41 Open Conversations Lead To Heavenly Bliss 47:31 Get In Touch === WHO IS WILL Will is a psychologist,  journalist, entrepreneur, spin doctor, executive advisor and father. Today, Will works as a coach and retreat facilitator, following his vocation to help others unblock their lives and find meaning and happiness. Will is married to Chiara and could not possibly be happier.   WHO IS CHIARA Chiara is an ICF-certified professional Co-Active Coach® with a masters in business communication. She was a director for a tech pioneer where she led sales teams for 15 years. Today Chiara guides men and women to discover the power of their sexuality, reconnect with their bodies and embark on beautiful adventures in sensuality.   WHO IS ALLIE Allie is an experienced meditation coach, sound healer and yoga teacher. She works with individuals and couples to help them reduce stress, find emotional balance and foster self-awareness. Inspired by science and personal experience, she's on a mission to discover and share the best modalities to maintain an exciting sexual life. For more info about the hosts, and to book a call, CLICK HERE. === NEW!! Join us on Patreon for exclusive content! 

Today we are exploring more fantasies…  Have you dreamt of joining a threesome but never dared ask your partner? It's a universal fantasy, and one that can become reality with trust and good communication. In this episode, we share another intimate experience where we pushed our sexual boundaries further than ever before: Will is away on an expedition, but agrees to “lend” Chiara for the night as a Unicorn to Allie and her husband…  He talks vulnerably about his internal struggle between a positively erotic idea and the negative social conditioning around masculinity and ownership that would mark this as “wrong”.  He also explains the strong bond he created with Allie's man, the complete trust and clear communication that they have, highlighting the significance of male, brotherly energy and trust. Our goal in sharing this story is to show you what's possible when the bond in a couple is so strong, and complete trust has been achieved: we would have not been able to do this before our sexual deconditioning journey began!  We want to inspire others to embrace sexual liberation by learning communication, vulnerability and fun in a relationship.  Want to learn how? Click on Subscribe to our Show now, and DM us on Instagram. === 00:00 A Charged Night on a Cold Mountain 01:32 A Our Goal For Today's Episode 02:44 The Unicorn Experience 02:57 What Is A Unicorn 04:29 A Bold Experiment: Lending My Girl for a Night 04:29 The Caving Expedition 05:05 An Unforgettable Night 06:02 The Sexy Shenanigans Begin 08:28 No Panties Date! 10:11 A Buffet Of Toys 12:03 A Wild Night On Top Of A Mountain 13:01 Reflections and Revelations: The Aftermath of an Erotic Adventure 14:06 Allie's Experience 14:23 What The Depth Of A Strong Bond Can Bring 15:12 The Potential Risks Of Damaging Relationships 15:56 Chiara's Side: What It Feels Like To Be A Unicorn 16:32 Your Husband Made Me Feel So Safe I Could Relax 17:22 The Mind Battling With Conditioning 18:36 Don't Fuck It Up 21:10 Will's Takeaways 22:43 You Need A Healthy Balance  24:05 Testing Boundaries: Now We Know What We CAN do 24:58 Why We Do This 27:15 Your Husband Is A Honorable Man === WHO IS WILL Will is a psychologist,  journalist, entrepreneur, spin doctor, executive advisor and father. Today, Will works as a coach and retreat facilitator, following his vocation to help others unblock their lives and find meaning and happiness. Will is married to Chiara and could not possibly be happier. WHO IS CHIARA Chiara is an ICF-certified professional Co-Active Coach® with a masters in business communication. She was a director for a tech pioneer where she led sales teams for 15 years. Today Chiara guides men and women to discover the power of their sexuality, reconnect with their bodies and embark on beautiful adventures in sensuality. WHO IS ALLIE Allie is an experienced meditation coach, sound healer and yoga teacher. She works with individuals and couples to help them reduce stress, find emotional balance and foster self-awareness. Inspired by science and personal experience, she's on a mission to discover and share the best modalities to maintain an exciting sexual life. For more info about the hosts, and to book a call, CLICK HERE. === SENSUALITY SIGNATURE WORKSHOP >>: Join The Waitlist ===  >> FREE BONUS CONTENT: Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” ===  >> NEW!! Join us on Patreon for exclusive content! 

What is “The Lifestyle” with capital L? Who are “Vanilla Friends”? Should you tell them that you are curious and “Spicy”? We discuss all this and more in this very raw, honest and heartfelt episode of Deeper Sex.  While we could not wish for deeper connections and the personal growth that we gained from diving into Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM), we have also discovered how many common misconceptions most people (including our old selves) have about it, and we address the careful communication that is required to avoid fu**ing up friendships and relationships.  The hosts Allie, Will and Chiara share personal anecdotes about assessing friends' readiness to hear about alternative sexual experiences, emphasizing the importance of respecting friends' boundaries. They also discuss the delicate balance between potential risks and rewards of dragging vanilla friends into their s*x play.  Our objective is, as always, to demystify society's misconceptions, promote open mindedness and sexual liberation: this is the secret recipe to a great sex life! If you're looking for practical advice on how to navigate conversations about your curiosity, interest and/or participation in non-monogamy, this is it! === Follow & Chat with Us on Instagram === >> Link to Episode 05 to know more about Allie', Will' and Chiara's conservative backgrounds and how they “fell” into the amazing, s*xually liberated world of Consensual Non Monogamy: Listen on Apple or Listen on Spotify === Join The Waitlist for our Signature Sensuality Workshop === 01:12 Let's Explore Alternative S*xual Lifestyles 03:45 Being Open: The Struggle Is Real! 05:52 Maintaining Friendships While Being Your Authentic True Self 07:14 A Journey to Acceptance + Finding Like-Minded Friends 08:01 The Challenges of Mixing Vanilla and Spicy Worlds 08:40 Ethical Non Monogamy (ENM) and Swinging: A Liberating Experience  18:43 Deep Emotional Bonds and Deeper Trust 20:55 When "Coming Out" Can Be a Challenge 25:58 Is the Lifestyle and ENM Superficial? 27:26 What “Normal” People Think Of the Lifestyle: The Misconceptions We Didn't Expect 29:06 Our Podcast's Mission 29:50 Aren't You Jealous...? 32:52 Trusting Yourself and Your Partner  37:03 Should I Drag Friends Into This? 38:43 Have S*x With Friends: The Good, The Bad and The Ugly  === WHO IS WILL Will is a psychologist,  journalist, entrepreneur, spin doctor, executive advisor and father. Today, Will works as a coach and retreat facilitator, following his vocation to help others unblock their lives and find meaning and happiness. Will is married to Chiara and could not possibly be happier.   WHO IS CHIARA Chiara is an ICF-certified professional Co-Active Coach® with a masters in business communication. She was a director for a tech pioneer where she led sales teams for 15 years. Today Chiara guides men and women to discover the power of their sexuality, reconnect with their bodies and embark on beautiful adventures in sensuality.   WHO IS ALLIE Allie is an experienced meditation coach, sound healer and yoga teacher. She works with individuals and couples to help them reduce stress, find emotional balance and foster self-awareness. Inspired by science and personal experience, she's on a mission to discover and share the best modalities to maintain an exciting sexual life. For more info about the hosts, and to book a call, CLICK HERE. ===  >> FREE BONUS CONTENT: Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” === NEW!! Join us on Patreon for exclusive content! 

Sign up for our next SENSUALITY SIGNATURE WORKSHOP >>: Join The Waitlist === Follow & Chat with Us on Instagram === Join Will and Chiara live from the podcast bed this weekend in Berlin, the latest stop on their sexy European tour 2024. We check out some new kinky corners of the city's vibrant underground scene – from a sophisticated penthouse swingers party to wild nights making new friends in sex-positive clubs for beautiful, soft connections.  We reflect on how mood and atmosphere can make or break a night – and how pausing to set intentions can be a total game changer. Whether you're in a monogamous or ENM relationship, or venturing into this world as a single dude/dudette, you'll get plenty of useful tips on how you can get curious and push your sexy boundaries in a safe space. === >> Link to episode on Body Image (04) and how to become “comfortable in your own body”: Listen on Apple or Listen on Spotify   >> Link to episode on Sensuality and Soft Touch as a way to connect deeper with your partner (07): Listen on Apple or Listen on Spotify ===  >> FREE BONUS CONTENT: Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” === 01:21 Live Streaming From Berlin 02:02 An Unexpected Penthouse Swingers Party 05:38 Night N. 1: Our First Visit To Insomnia - A Hedonistic Lifestyle Club 12:41 How To Safely Connect With A Woman Without Being Intrusive 19:01 Night N. 2: KitKat Club 19:59 How You Perceive Your Own Body Heavily Impacts Your Experience 20:32 Choosing the Perfect Outfit 21:00 KitKat Club: Getting In 22:10 People Watching at KitKat 23:45 How Setting An Intentions Can 100x Your Night 24:29 More Female Energy Please! 25:45 Dancing and Making Connections 26:23 A Sensual Experience 27:15 Holding Hands and Making Friends 32:02 Exploring Boundaries 33:27 A Blowjob On The Dancefloor's Podium 34:45 Unexpected Scenes === WHO IS WILL Will is a psychologist,  journalist, entrepreneur, spin doctor, executive advisor and father. Today, Will works as a coach and retreat facilitator, following his vocation to help others unblock their lives and find meaning and happiness. Will is married to Chiara and could not possibly be happier.   WHO IS CHIARA Chiara is an ICF-certified professional Co-Active Coach® with a masters in business communication. She was a director for a tech pioneer where she led sales teams for 15 years. Today Chiara guides men and women to discover the power of their sexuality, reconnect with their bodies and embark on beautiful adventures in sensuality. For more info about the hosts, and to book a call, CLICK HERE. === NEW!! Join us on Patreon for exclusive content!  === >> SENSUALITY SIGNATURE WORKSHOP: Join The Waitlist

Join The Waitlist now for our Sensuality & Soft Touch Signature Workshop In this episode we discuss the transformative power of sensuality and soft touch to enhance sexual experiences.  Will describes his birthday surprise, when he was blindfolded and treated to an erotic experience, not knowing who or how many women were touching him… We explore how to be present with sensations, how to drop into receiving touch, and what happens when we remove goal-oriented thinking from intimate situations.  We also give you a glimpse behind the scenes at our signature Sensuality Workshop, where couples and individuals learn to connect more deeply using intentional touch and presence.  === Follow and Chat with Us on Instagram === Have you listened to our episode about SEXUAL FANTASIES - how to share them and overcome taboos?  Listen on Apple  Listen on Spotify  === 01:42 Beyond Sex As “The Goal” 02:36 Introducing Our Signature Sensuality Workshop 03:42 Will's Sensual Birthday Surprise 11:56 The Dom/Sub Relationship Parallel 14:05 Mindfulness in Sex and Sensuality 16:23 Learning To Receive Touch as a Man: Vulnerability and Masculinity 20:58 Exploring Sensuality Beyond the Bedroom 21:29 Inside Our Sensuality & Soft Touch Signature Workshop: What to Expect 21:51 Sensuality versus Sexuality 23:17 “Eye Candy”: Sensual Energy Beyond Touch 25:45 “Mind Candy”: Fantasies and Sexy Talk === WHO IS WILL Will is a psychologist,  journalist, entrepreneur, spin doctor, executive advisor and father. Today, Will works as a coach and retreat facilitator, following his vocation to help others unblock their lives and find meaning and happiness. Will is married to Chiara and could not possibly be happier.   WHO IS CHIARA Chiara is an ICF-certified professional Co-Active Coach® with a masters in business communication. She was a director for a tech pioneer where she led sales teams for 15 years. Today Chiara guides men and women to discover the power of their sexuality, reconnect with their bodies and embark on beautiful adventures in sensuality.   WHO IS ALLIE Allie is an experienced meditation coach, sound healer and yoga teacher. She works with individuals and couples to help them reduce stress, find emotional balance and foster self-awareness. Inspired by science and personal experience, she's on a mission to discover and share the best modalities to maintain an exciting sexual life.   For more info about the hosts, and to book a call, CLICK HERE. ===  >> FREE BONUS CONTENT: Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” === NEW!! You can now support us on Patreon === >> Sensuality & Soft Touch Signature Workshop: Join The Waitlist here

Almost everyone carries with them a sexual fantasy they don't dare to share. We hesitate to reveal our desires, even to a loving partner, out of shame or fear of judgment. Some fantasies are scenes you might like to live out for real. Others will remain sexy movies that we play just for ourselves. Either way, fantasies are erotic fuel – and their power multiplies if you find courage to voice them. In this super-sexy episode, we made ourselves vulnerable by sharing with each other some fantasies that we had never revealed before. We explore what makes it hard to express desires that our conditioning labels weird or dirty. We reflect on how liberating it feels to take that leap of faith and be rewarded with love (and sexy opportunity!). You'll hear about public sex in kinky clubs, blindfolds and restraints, anonymous touch, and playing with multiple people. Perhaps, listening to us might inspire you or trigger a spicy conversation with your partner... === >> FREE BONUS CONTENT: Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” === Follow us & Contact Us on Instagram === Sign up for our next SENSUALITY SIGNATURE WORKSHOP: Join The Waitlist === 01:17 Exploring The Unspoken Desires 03:25 The Allure and Limits of Fantasies 04:01 The Fantasy Of Being Taken…  05:02 It's Shameful to Express Sexual Fantasies… NOT!  05:51 Conditioning of Female Sexuality: Why Can't I Be A Slut?? 07:28 Embracing and Expressing Fantasies: Playing Within a Group  09:00 70 Virgins or 7 Sluts? 11:35 We All Have A Masculine And Feminine Side 15:44 It's Important For A Woman To Feel Respected And In Control 16:02 Anonymous Sex In A Club Anyone? 16:41 Another Spicy Fantasy: Tying a Woman up to a Pole in a Club 19:03 When Fantasies Become Real: Experience a Sex Positive Club! 24:09 The Power of Eye Contact in Erotic Spaces 25:44 10 Men Watching?? 26:35 Voicing Your Fantasy Will Set You Free 28:10 Recap of Today's Top 4 Learnings === WHO IS WILL Will is a psychologist,  journalist, entrepreneur, spin doctor, executive advisor and father. Today, Will works as a coach and retreat facilitator, following his vocation to help others unblock their lives and find meaning and happiness. Will is married to Chiara and could not possibly be happier.   WHO IS CHIARA Chiara is an ICF-certified professional Co-Active Coach® with a masters in business communication. She was a director for a tech pioneer where she led sales teams for 15 years. Today Chiara guides men and women to discover the power of their sexuality, reconnect with their bodies and embark on beautiful adventures in sensuality.   WHO IS ALLIE Allie is an experienced meditation coach, sound healer and yoga teacher. She works with individuals and couples to help them reduce stress, find emotional balance and foster self-awareness. Inspired by science and personal experience, she's on a mission to discover and share the best modalities to maintain an exciting sexual life.   For more info about the hosts, and to book a call, CLICK HERE. === FREE BONUS CONTENT: Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” === SENSUALITY SIGNATURE WORKSHOP: Join The Waitlist

Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” == It's the Origin Stories episode! Hear about the journeys that brought Allie, Will and Chiara from conservative childhoods, breakdowns, divorces and body shame to happiness and the strongest relationships of our lives. We explain how we “fell” into non-monogamy, survived novice mistakes and navigated the circus.  Hear spicy stories about our first experiences with group sex and how we learned to communicate, trust and stand up for ourselves. Perhaps you can't picture yourself in an Eyes-Wide-Shut sex party, and that's fine – we're not kink evangelists! We use stories from the fruity end of the spectrum to explore ideas that can empower everybody – singles and monogamous folks included. == 01:14 Introduction to The Episode 02:27 You Should Listen If... 02:51 Will's Journey: From Vanilla to Exploration 05:21 Finding Freedom and Rebirth through Love and Exploration 06:04 Chiara's Transformation: from Catholic Roots to Kissing a Woman (!) 08:57 From Fantasy To Reality 10:56 Communicate Clearly Before Swinging! 12:52 “Sexperts” Night 14:40 Fun4Two: Our First Swingers Club 15:39 The Dark Room 18:29 "The Hot Tub Lady" Encounter  21:21 I Kissed A Girl And I Liked It 25:11 Allie's Life Adventure: from Small Town Girl to Adventurous Sex Lover 28:08 If We Cheat We Cheat Together 29:29 The Sexy Castle Adventure... Attempt 33:14 Sorry - I Already Came! 34:30 Swinging CAN Strengthen Relationships 39:59 How Swinging Environments Can Gift Body Confidence 41:24 How to Navigate the Swinging Scene 43:25 Is Swinging for Me?  45:44 Keeping the Spark Alive 51:02 The Hot Tub Story: The Good, The Bad And The Ugly 51:45 No Condom Asked 55:23 What We Learnt From Our Mistakes At Our First Swingers Club 56:19 Be Open! (To Listen AND To Communicate) == WHO IS WILL Will is a psychologist,  journalist, entrepreneur, spin doctor, executive advisor and father. Today, Will works as a coach and retreat facilitator, following his vocation to help others unblock their lives and find meaning and happiness. Will is married to Chiara and could not possibly be happier.   WHO IS CHIARA Chiara is an ICF-certified professional Co-Active Coach® with a masters in business communication. She was a director for a tech pioneer where she led sales teams for 15 years. Today Chiara guides men and women to discover the power of their sexuality, reconnect with their bodies and embark on beautiful adventures in sensuality.   WHO IS ALLIE Allie is an experienced meditation coach, sound healer and yoga teacher. She works with individuals and couples to help them reduce stress, find emotional balance and foster self-awareness. Inspired by science and personal experience, she's on a mission to discover and share the best modalities to maintain an exciting sexual life.   For more info about the hosts, and to book a call, CLICK HERE. == >> Sensuality & Soft Touch Workshop: Join The Waitlist >> Follow us on Instagram

Today's episode is all about a very common problem for both men and women: body image. You'll hear how negative perceptions can impact intimacy and relationships, and how healing and personal growth can transform your sex life and deepen your relationship. Women in particular often feel negatively about their appearance due to societal standards, so Chiara vulnerably shares her journey to overcome shame that her boobs were “too big”, and then “scarred”. We explore how the lens of positive self-perception can boost sexual confidence: deeper sexiness comes from feeling confident and comfortable in one's skin, rather than conforming to external beauty standards. For those that might be curious, you'll also hear how non-monogamy and swinging can be platforms for receiving genuine feedback from others that don't necessarily have a vested interest in just giving you a compliment - like a husband or friend would do. === 01:13 Body Confidence for Better Intimacy 01:19 Body Image and Self-Perception: “my boobs are too big!” 02:09 The Impact that Body Image Can Have on Intimacy 02:26 Overcoming Body Image Issues 02:29 The Role of Mindset in Sensuality 03:41 The Influence of Media on Body Image 04:06 The Disconnect Between Appearance and Self-Perception 04:53 The Importance of Self-Acceptance 05:37 Redefining Attractiveness 06:17 “Beautiful” Doesn't Mean “Sexy”: The Impact of Arrogance on Attractiveness 07:12 The Journey to Feeling “Comfortable”, not “Confident” 09:17 How Moderate Physical Activity can Improve Your Body Image Perception 11:04 The Importance of Healthy Eating 12:06 The Power of Positive Self-Perception 12:58 Embracing Your Body is Liberating! 13:51 Chiara's Breast Reduction Experience 13:55 Embrace the Changes in Your Body 19:15 Men's Perspectives on Body Image and Self-Acceptance 21:46 Redefining Sexiness: Beyond the Physical 22:13 The Impact of Confidence and Comfort on Sexiness 28:32 The Importance of Compliments in Relationships 32:11 The Power of Feedback and Self-Acceptance 33:21 The Beauty of Imperfection: Embracing Your Body Post-Childbirth 37:53 The Impact of Physical Appearance on Self-Perception 37:53 The Incredible Impact of Feeling Good on Your Sexual Life 39:13 Practical Tips for Improving Body Image and Confidence 39:59 Positive Self-Talk and Compliments 42:18 Conclusion: Embracing Happiness and Confidence in Your Skin === WHO IS WILL Will is a psychologist,  journalist, entrepreneur, spin doctor, executive advisor and father. Today, Will works as a coach and retreat facilitator, following his vocation to help others unblock their lives and find meaning and happiness. Will is married to Chiara and could not possibly be happier.   WHO IS CHIARA Chiara is an ICF-certified professional Co-Active Coach® with a masters in business communication. She was a director for a tech pioneer where she led sales teams for 15 years. Today Chiara guides men and women to discover the power of their sexuality, reconnect with their bodies and embark on beautiful adventures in sensuality.   WHO IS ALLIE Allie is an experienced meditation coach, sound healer and yoga teacher. She works with individuals and couples to help them reduce stress, find emotional balance and foster self-awareness. Inspired by science and personal experience, she's on a mission to discover and share the best modalities to maintain an exciting sexual life.   For more info about the hosts, and to book a call, CLICK HERE. ===  >> Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” >> Sensuality & Soft Touch Workshop: Join The Waitlist >> Email us your questions and suggestions  >> Follow us on Instagram

Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”   In this special edition which we recorded naked (!!), we cover the differences between transactional sex vs. deeper, more intimate and sensual connections.  We share our personal journey of learning how to shift boundaries in the kinky world that we sometimes play in, and draw lessons for how intimacy and sensuality can supercharge erotic connections in all kinds of relationships.  We talk about how rare it is to find partners who share a similar emphasis on slow, intimate play, and we will provide a few tips on how to communicate  intimacy in your relationship, so that you can harness the power of focusing on the present moment to have mind blowing experiences.   01:56 A bold start: we are recording NAKED today! 02:31 Exploring Intimacy Beyond the Norm 05:16 Personal Boundaries and Evolving Relationships 07:44 The Power of Sensuality  17:55 The Impact of Trust and Respect in Sensual Encounters 22:48 The Essence of Sensuality: Being Present and Connected with Each Other 30:07 Navigating Safety and Comfort  36:56 Is He Worthy Of You? 38:11 Exploring the Paradox of Intimacy in Swinging === WHO IS WILL Will is a psychologist,  journalist, entrepreneur, spin doctor, executive advisor and father. Today, Will works as a coach and retreat facilitator, following his vocation to help others unblock their lives and find meaning and happiness. Will is married to Chiara and could not possibly be happier.   WHO IS CHIARA Chiara is an ICF-certified professional Co-Active Coach® with a masters in business communication. She was a director for a tech pioneer where she led sales teams for 15 years. Today Chiara guides men and women to discover the power of their sexuality, reconnect with their bodies and embark on beautiful adventures in sensuality.   WHO IS ALLIE Allie is an experienced meditation coach, sound healer and yoga teacher. She works with individuals and couples to help them reduce stress, find emotional balance and foster self-awareness. Inspired by science and personal experience, she's on a mission to discover and share the best modalities to maintain an exciting sexual life.   For more info about the hosts, and to book a call, CLICK HERE. === >> Sensuality & Soft Touch Workshop: Join The Waitlist >> Email us your questions and suggestions  >> Follow us on Instagram

In this episode we talk about how non-monogomy can strengthen relationships, contrary to what many people fear. You'll learn something seemingly counterintuitive: how can adding more “bodies'' into a relationship strengthen a bond?  We unpack concepts like open communication, trust, honest conversations, respecting boundaries, and navigating complex emotions together.  Allie shares how she made her man's fantasy come true by organizing a surprise birthday party, where he got to play with a bunch of naughty secretaries in his office… While you might get excited by the hot details, this story is actually a great example of how communication and trust made the whole experience even stronger. We'll give you the ins and outs of how to prioritize the couple's intimacy, desire, and mutual pleasure while maintaining a strong emotional connection with each other. We also talk about: personal growth, how sharing fantasies can help you increase trust, how to communicate that there is something wrong by processing information before making a scene, and how to ask for what you need. === 02:49 Exploring Swinging: Strengthening Relationships Through Shared Experiences 04:18 Allie's POV 04:18 The Power of Communication and Boundaries in Swinging 04:48 Unleashing Fantasies: The Journey of Sharing and Exploring Together 05:11 Chiara's POV 06:48 The Best Birthday Present: A Naughty Fantasy Come True  15:56 Will's POV 21:06 Chiara's View On Respect 21:13 Navigating Challenges and Emotions in Swinging 26:31 The Importance of Confidence and Teamwork in Swinging 28:59 Reflecting on Personal Growth and Relationship Dynamics 40:36 “We Don't Need This”  42:59 A Magical Connection When Sharing Pleasure and Intimacy === WHO IS WILL Will is a psychologist,  journalist, entrepreneur, spin doctor, executive advisor and father. Today, Will works as a coach and retreat facilitator, following his vocation to help others unblock their lives and find meaning and happiness. Will is married to Chiara and could not possibly be happier.   WHO IS CHIARA Chiara is an ICF-certified professional Co-Active Coach® with a masters in business communication. She was a director for a tech pioneer where she led sales teams for 15 years. Today Chiara guides men and women to discover the power of their sexuality, reconnect with their bodies and embark on beautiful adventures in sensuality.   WHO IS ALLIE Allie is an experienced meditation coach, sound healer and yoga teacher. She works with individuals and couples to help them reduce stress, find emotional balance and foster self-awareness. Inspired by science and personal experience, she's on a mission to discover and share the best modalities to maintain an exciting sexual life.   For more info about the hosts, and to book a call, CLICK HERE. ===  >> Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” >> Sensuality & Soft Touch Workshop: Join The Waitlist >> Email us your questions and suggestions   >> Follow us on Instagram

In this first episode we dive deep into the challenges that couples face in maintaining a fulfilling sex life, especially as responsibilities grow and the initial spark fades. We have a very open and honest discussion about the importance of creating time for intimacy and sensuality - which is not just having “sexual intercourse” as your main goal. We share our own experiences and learnings, such as how we communicated in tricky situations, how we made ourselves vulnerable and how to create a safe space for each other. We also discuss how non-monogamy might be an option for some, as a catalyst for deeper connection and exploration beyond what traditional society teaches us. === 02:16 Welcome to Our Sensual Journey 03:07 Reflecting on Past Relationships and Sexual Fulfillment 04:50 The Common Struggle of Maintaining Intimacy 06:46 Prioritizing Your Relationship Amidst a Busy Life 10:50 The Importance of Quality Over Quantity in Sexual Relationships 15:43 Exploring Non-Monogamy and Its Impact on Our Relationship 22:18 The Role of Inner Work in Enhancing Sexual Connection 37:38 Advice for Couples Struggling with Intimacy 39:25 What Actually Worked for Us === WHO IS WILL Will is a psychologist,  journalist, entrepreneur, spin doctor, executive advisor and father. Today, Will works as a coach and retreat facilitator, following his vocation to help others unblock their lives and find meaning and happiness. Will is married to Chiara and could not possibly be happier.   WHO IS CHIARA Chiara is an ICF-certified professional Co-Active Coach® with a masters in business communication. She was a director for a tech pioneer where she led sales teams for 15 years. Today Chiara guides men and women to discover the power of their sexuality, reconnect with their bodies and embark on beautiful adventures in sensuality.   WHO IS ALLIE Allie is an experienced meditation coach, sound healer and yoga teacher. She works with individuals and couples to help them reduce stress, find emotional balance and foster self-awareness. Inspired by science and personal experience, she's on a mission to discover and share the best modalities to maintain an exciting sexual life.   For more info about the hosts, and to book a call, CLICK HERE. ===  >> Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” >> Sensuality & Soft Touch Workshop: Join The Waitlist >> Send us your questions and suggestions   >> Follow us on Instagram

This is a podcast about sex where three sex positive friends - who also happen to be globally accredited coaches - share their own journey through  super sexy adventures and incredibly fulfilling sex lives. By learning how to effectively communicate needs and desires to partners, we unlocked our own sexual energy, and our erotic lives have been completely transformed. We have seen it all: we have been through marriages, kids, divorces, affairs, heartache, frustration, resentment… So we do know how it feels to be stuck and unfulfilled in a relationship. But we've discovered an amazing new world of possibilities, where you can actually feel safe to fully express yourself sexually, guilt- and shame- free. No matter if you're single or coupled up, vanilla or spicy, this is where you'll find the fuel for your sexy fire. We believe we've found our holy grail. And we hope to inspire you to find yours too.   >> Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” >> Sensuality & Soft Touch Workshop: Join The Waitlist >> Email us your questions and suggestions:   >> Follow us on Instagram