My Life My Choice

In our lives, to varying degrees, we will experience states of utter confusion, total lack of organization and general order. When this occurs in your life, you’ve experienced chaos.  Chaos can show up in minor ways, like the small junk draw in the back of your garage.  It can also show up in larger ways, like your closets that a filled to overflowing with outdated clothing.  And then it can present itself in epic ways, where you have become paralyzed, you’re literally frozen in place and unable to have a meaningful and coherent inner conversation with self.  This results in you being unable to make a choice in the best interest of self; and the cycle just keeps getting bigger and bigger.  Chaos has the ability to undermine you in many ways.  The obvious is not achieving your desired manifestation.  But the unobvious is far more sinister and detrimental to your overall wellbeing. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert, Clarity and Laws of Attraction In Action Coach as we look at the role chaos plays in our lives.

Finding you, that’s who, and what you are, shouldn’t be an ah ha moment experienced on your death bed.  Although, it could be argued, better late than never.   Finding yourself is to know yourself at a conscious authentic level, and then choosing an authentic life even if it goes against the grain of what everybody believes you must do.  You’re lost because you are not doing what is authentically right for you. You are not living your truth.  And the TRUTH will always come out, because that is what truth is created to do…find its perfect expression…through you.  Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert, Clarity and Laws of Attraction Coach as we look at feeling lost and what to do about it. Click here to download your contrasts and paralell worksheet To visit website click here Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Thelawsofattractioninaction/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Drwendydearbornecc Vimeo: https://vimeo.com/drwendydearborne Twitter: https://twitter.com/wendydearborne Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drwendydearborne/?hl=en #thelawsofattractioninaction #attractioners  #drwendydearborne  #choices #itsmylifemychoice #foodbeyonditsnutrition

In order for you to have something new come into your life, what has gone before must die.  This is one of the biggest challenges that many people face because they don’t want to let go.  Letting go is key in your ability to manifest what you want for your life.  From health to wealth and everything in between. When you look at the life cycles of a butterfly, you can witness from conception to birth what has to take place to make that happen...for the butterfly to be born.  It goes through changes.  Change literally means to make the form of something different for what it would be if left alone.  Metamorphosis is needed for you to manifest anything in life. Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Clarity and Laws of Attraction Coach as we look at some of the challenges we face when consciously manifesting our lives. Visit The Laws of Attraction In Action for more information

Many people have a hard time justifying why they have taken a certain action, especially when it goes against the grain of their moral fiber.  Reconciling the action is a confusing challenge because it doesn’t mesh with their ethics, nor is it a part of their intrinsic belief.  It doesn’t belong in their culture, up bringing or religious or spiritual doctrines.  And this is not who they are showing up in the world as, and yet still, they have done the deed.  You see this exhibited as addictions of all types from food, to sex to drugs to shopping and everything in between.  It demonstrates itself as abuse to self and others, anti-social behaviors, even culminating in murder.  What is it that can have this action on people?  In a word, “DESIRE!” It is a powerful medium that can compel anyone including you to do things that you can’t believe you are doing.  Many people have fallen into the trap of desire only to realize that their lives have been irrevocably changed...and usually not for the better.  The Universal Law of Desire is a powerful mesmeric energetic force that rivals any Law out there including the Law of Love. Desire temporarily amplifies a thought process turning it into something that becomes a must have, or die, type of situation.   How is desire playing out in your life?  And how can this compelling feeling be used to consciously manifest what you want? Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert, Clarity and Laws of Attraction Coach, as we explore the Universal Law of Desire and how you can use it to manifest what you want for your life.

Your ability to choose, is without a doubt, the most powerful energy that you will ever control.  Choice, much like DNA, are the building blocks that give physicality to everything created inside and outside of your life. Choice is the power upon which the Universe is created. The first law in the Universal Laws of Attraction is choice.  It’s a natural law, a spiritual law, manmade law and it IS God’s Law.  Nothing can and will happen in your life, good or bad, without you first making a choice.  More often than not our choices appear to be circuitous, but the reality is, they are not.  You’ve experienced and are experiencing what you are going through, because of choices you have made in the past or in the present.   Don’t get this confused with the feelings of rightness or wrongness of the results experienced.  Attractioners, right or wrong is an emotional call – and that too is a choice!   The Universal Law of Choice the creative force that set into motion all things.  This energy isn’t a respecter of your feelings, it respects the action you decide upon. Genesis 1-4 “Now the earth was formless and void, and darkness was over the surface of the deep. And the Spirit of God was hovering over the surface of the waters.  And God said, “Let there be light,” and there was light. And seeing that the light was good, God separated the light from the darkness.… Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Clarity Coach as we rekindle our relationship and understanding with the role choice plays in our lives.

When we want what we want, many people do what they must do, to get it, even if it means cutting corners.  As human beings the desire to have a specific experience within a relationship, with people, places and things creates an interesting dynamic for playing “the discount game.”  If you’ve ever felt that you have been taken for granted, you’ve experienced being discounted.  If you’ve used someone for your own agenda at their expense, you’ve discounted that person.  And if you go back and forth doing the above, you’ve entered into “the discount game.” There is nothing wrong with cutting people a little slack sometimes.  We all need it and we all can give it.  However, discounting is totally different and the ramifications are nothing short of disastrous.  It creates a silent chaos within that erupts into a towering uncontrollable volcano.  Like I said the ramifications are disastrous. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne, Choice and Clarity Expert and Coach as together we explore discounting your feelings and others and what it can create in your life. Visit The Laws of Attraction In Action website of more tutorials on how to make choices, get clarity and consciously Use The Laws of Attraction to manifest. Join The Laws of Attraction In Action Facebook Group for daily inspiration post and live streams

Life is always moving and as a result of that events are continuously unfolding or manifesting.  Some will be to your liking and others will not.  This is the natural order of life with is dualities and polarities that are required for us to consciously and unconsciously manifest.  One of the most powerful positive attributes you can acquire is to always make the choice to find the win-win in every situation.  There is always a “learning” or a takeaway from every situation that you can apply to your life, for the betterment of your life. Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne as I explore this powerful phenomenon and be sure to checkout https://thelawsofattractioninaction.com for blogs, webinar and video tutorials.

I want a divorce.  You’re fired!  You have 8 weeks to live.  Wow, that smoke I saw was my house burning to the ground.  You don’t qualify.  Your too white, too black, too fat, too skinny, too tall, too short, too smart, too dumb, too young, too old.  You’re too critical, too much, too understanding, too negative etc.  You will always be too something for someone.  Life has been likened to a game and in order to play the game of life, you must understand the Universal Laws and the rules of engagement.   But what happens when you’re playing the game of your life and someone changes the rules, conveniently, forgetting to tell you, until you are standing in front of your goalposts, which they have so inconveniently moved.  What happens to your life then.  Are they plotting against you?  Is it a conspiracy? Can you get your old life back?  Are you being given a message?  Did you create this situation? Genesis 50:20 “As for you, what you intended against me for evil, God intended for good, in order to accomplish a day like this—to preserve the lives of many people.”  Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne as I share a recent experience I had when the State moved the goalpost and change my life. Visit me: https://thelawsofattractioninaction.com

Understanding the function of your subconscious mind is a powerful key that helps you get what you want in life.  Your subconscious mind operates just like the hard drive found on your PC or the OS or IOS iPhone Operating System on your mobile phone, tablets and iPads.  Your subconscious mind doesn’t get the punch line of a joke, understand slang, sarcasm, colloquialisms or rhetorical talk.  It only understands what you tell it, verbatim.  It only takes action to manifest what you tell it to do.  There are several ways to communicate directly with your subconscious mind; talking directly to yourself with intention.  Through unchecked self-talk and runaway thoughts and what you believe and or are passionate about. When communicating with your subconscious mind you must be very specific. Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction In Action Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we look at you and the power of your subconscious mind.

Nuance what it is and what does it mean for your life?  Nuance:  It’s a subtle difference and a distinction in the expression of your meaning.  Next to lack of self-discipline, understanding the nuances of your thoughts, speech, actions and deeds is the second reason why people are unable to manifest what they want in life.  What you believe is what you receive.  This is a fundamental Law and it is unchangeable.  Today, we are going to be exploring “nuances” and how using them unintentionally can leave you standing in the rubble of your life.  Your left wondering, how the hell did I get here? Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we explore what this means for you. Visit our website: https://thelawsofattractioninaction.com Join our Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/Thelawsofattractioninaction/

The word negative and negate come from the same Latin root: negativus, which means to deny, refute, refuse and or subtract. In today’s world, negative translates to someone who has a disposition that just brings everything down.  They detract or subtract from any circumstance by not adding anything of value. The irony is negative people, conditions or circumstances that show up in your life, are doing so because you have brought them there. The Universal Law of Negativity is designed to show you contrasts and parallels.  The Law of Negativity plays a key role in your ability to find clarity using your sense of what feels good to you verses what doesn’t.  This is all done so you have an opportunity to make conscious choices that are in the best interest of self.    It also shows you how powerful your thoughts are.    “For the thing which I greatly feared is come upon me, and that which I was afraid of is come unto me. Job 3:25. Your thoughts become tangible things in your life.  Your thoughts become your choices and your choices become things made manifest...how powerful is that? Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we explore the Law of Negativity and the role it plays in your life. Visit TheLawofAttractioninaction.com Join the conversation on our Facebook Group: The Laws of Attraction In Action

When people are asked, are you prepared to pay the price for anything, most think in monetary terms.  Paying the price for what you want in life is really about you, your spirituality and using your spiritual currency.  While he didn’t coin the phrase, Dr. Joseph Murphy states, “there are no free lunches.”  And it’s true.  There is a cost for everything that you do…even breathing!  So, with that in mind are you prepared to pay the spiritual cost using your spiritual coin from your invisible bank for what you want. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we explore what paying the price to get what you want means. Email: drwendy@itsmylifemychoice.com

Wherever you find yourself, whatever your current circumstance is, you have co-created this by the choices you have made. By the words that you have spoken, by the actions that you have taken and the deep-seated feeling you hold within your heart.  This is one of the hardest realities for people to accept; that they are the co-creators of what has, and, is transpiring in their lives.   What makes this hard to accept, is that people look at their circumstances in terms of the end result, then assigning their emotional seal of right, wrong and blame.   Many people feel that to take ownership of their life and the part that they have played in getting to their current circumstance, is to condone behaviors, attitudes and action that have been perpetrated against them.  This is so far from the truth.  You have a part in where you end up in your life on a daily basis.  Your part in the co-creation of your life is driven by your choices, which are your deep-seated subconscious desires, also known as the desires of your heart. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we reacquaint ourselves with the power of conscious and unconscious choice, and the role it plays in us getting what we want in life.

Love, is it what we think it is or is there more to this word?  Throughout the years the word love has somehow morphed into a term that is colloquially used to describe the depth of our feelings.  From, “I love you to I’m not so in love with that,” and everything in between.  Based on where the word love falls within a phrase or sentence, along with intonation, body language and facial expressions it will tell you what the person is really saying.    The Universal Law of Love, isn’t so much about how passionate or compassionate we feel about people places and things, as much as it is about the ability of a certain type of energy being able to transform energy. The Universal Law of Love is what transforms and or transmutes everything.  Love is the energy of change.  It has nothing to do with turning the other cheek or even being nice, dutiful, helpful, caring, kind and all the other phrases we like to attach the word love to.  Besides, being nice, helpful, kind etc. is subjective.  Love is the binding force of change. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction In Action Coach, and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction In Action Coach as we explore The Universal Law of Love and its role in making change.  

We are not alone.  We have never been and never will be.  There is help, support, guidance and wise counsel for everyone.  There is so much more happening in our lives than where we find ourselves at this moment.  Throughout the ages there have been raging debates, that continues to this day, as to whether or not angels and spirit guides are real.  Are these heavenly beings’ figments of our imagination or just the stuff that mythological legends are made of?  Interestingly, all cultures and denomination tell of angels in their spiritual texts. We have all incarnated into this current existence with our own personal posse.  That’s right, our very own celestial entourage that has been picked to support us in fulfilling our destine purpose.   My suggestion is before you categorically say no, do your own due diligence.  Do this by examining, with detached objectivity magical or miraculous events or feats that have occurred in your life.  Things that you know that have happened to you that defy reason, logic and analysis.   I’m not speaking of your intuition, that’s a totally different ball of wax.  I’m speaking of physically seeing and or touching someone who has helped you and then you blinked, literally you blinked, and in a blink of an eye they disappeared. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction In Action Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction In Action Coach as we explore the reality of Angels and Spirit Guides.

In today’s show we are going to be talking about changing our dialog and creating the perfect scenario for hearing your inner voice. One of the most important things you do in life is talk to yourself.  You talk to yourself 24 hours a day, 365 days a year, and believe it or not, from before you enter into this life and after you leave it. Talk, talk, talk!  You are always talking to yourself.  If you stop to think about this fact, and it is a fact, it will tell you how important your self-talk is.  The internal conversations you have create the reality that you live in.  You want a different reality, then change your self-talk.  Only you can do this.  No one can do this for you. In this high-tech world we live in, it can be hard to hear your inner voice.  But that doesn’t mean your inner voice isn’t speaking to you.  What this means is that you need to create the optimal scenario to silence the outer world and go within. Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne, Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction In Action Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction In Action Coach as we look at changing your life. Click here to download your Simple Breathing Technique PDF

In life, we want our loved ones to be happy, whole, capable and complete.  We want to see them healthy, wealthy and wise, living a life that's a pure joy to behold and inspiring to be a part of.  However, in the real world it can be gut wrenching watching as their lives unfold one crisis after another.  Wanting what you want for them and trying to make them do your bidding, no matter how forcefully or gently it’s put across, usually leads to the dissolution of relationships and friendships.  The bottom line is this, I can’t want something that I deem best for you to happen in your life, and expect it to happen, if you don’t want the same thing too.  You, must want it too.  Ask any parent or guardian if this is not a bonified fact. We spend an enormous amount of time coaxing, cajoling, pleading, blackmailing, bargaining etc., people we love to do our so called, “right-thinking” bidding.  Why?  Because we feel, based on our personal experiences and our knowledge of them that we know what’s best for them.  The sad reality is we don’t.  We don’t know what’s best for someone, even our loved ones.  Even if we think we do and ironically it turns out that what we thought actually came to pass.   Even then, we don’t really know, as each of us is on a unique journey.  It’s our individual journey, because this page in the book of life belongs to you, and only you.  This page has been allocated for you by you.  And as such, you are the creative writer of the text.   The key to helping someone, isn’t so much about telling them what to do, as it is how you choose to show up. Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction In Action Coach and Olivia Lashley, Expression and Laws of Attraction In Action Coach as we talk frankly about helping the people we love.

We live our lives based on our version of our truth…and that’s all we can do.  People live their lives base upon their version of their truth…and that’s all they can do.  However, we spend an inordinate amount of time everyday trying to make someone else’s truth ours or trying to make someone believe and take on the mantel of our truth.  There is no right or wrong to this, it just is.  But as a result, we spend far too much time on things that don’t matter, verses living a purpose filled life.  The Universal Law of Truth:  Speaks to the real essence of who you are and what your belief system is foundered on.  Truth is an immutable fact that cannot be changed, yet it can, and is built upon. Your truth is your self-authentication and will always be looking for expression. Life will continue to create situations that encourage you to express your authentic truth.  By expressing your authentic truth, you inadvertently, give others permission to show up and express their authentic truth too. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Universal Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Universal Laws of Attraction Coach as we look at raw truth and what this means and how it impacts your life.

When you are playing your game of life the ideal way to play it is with no limits! The life that you are living today, is the back bone of the future that you will experience tomorrow.  Whatever limits you impose on your life today will manifest in your life tomorrow.  It's really as simple as that.  We have a tendency to over complicate our lives and get caught up with the "emotions" of the game instead of how we are playing the game.  So how do you live a limitless life within the limitations of the life that you are living?  Is that even possible? Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction In Action coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we explore the limitlessness of limits.  Click here for more on the Laws of Attraction In Action and how to use it to manifest what you want in life.

  Most people are striving to live the life that they say they want, and yet, for many this proves to be illusive. And for others wanting to live their dream life is downright unattainable.   Most people don’t understand the Universal Laws, God’s Laws, Spiritual Laws and the nuances associated with them.  And as a result, they’re imagining things, thinking things, saying things and doing things that disrupt their ability to manifest what they want.  They are still working in DOS when new and innovative platforms have been created.  So, why aren’t you living your dream life with your dream man or woman, dream kids, house, dream cat or dog, dream purpose, career, car, friends, health, body etc.?  If the answer to my question is “you don’t know, and you really don’t know, verses you don’t want to know,” perhaps it’s a spiritual nuance, a simple little nuance within the Laws of Attraction that you’ve overlooked or didn’t know about that needs to be addressed.  The Universal Creator, known to me as God has given you everything you need to live the “DREAM” life that you want to live.  But like playing a game of cards, you must choose what you lead with.  You have to be the one to choose how you play your game. Visit The Laws of Attraction In Action for more information on how you can use the laws to support you in changing your life

There are a few things you need to be consciously aware of when using the law of attraction.  The Universal or Spiritual Laws have individual, collaborative and collective functions within the manifestation and creation process.  It’s important to note that whether the action of the law is collaborative or collective each law retains its individuality or specific function.  What I mean by this is a cardboard box will carry things, yet, it still remains a cardboard box.   Within the last two decades there has been an oversimplification of how the law of attraction works.  Somehow, it seems to have been relegated to the same status of abracadabra that we read about in the Middle Eastern folk tales called Arabian Nights.  Abracadabra, if taken at face value has mysterious powers and is part of a wonderful fairy tale.  However, the folk etymology associated with the phrase in Hebrew, suggests that abracadabra literally translates to "I will create as I speak" or in Aramaic "I create like the word." That’s some powerful stuff!  The law of attraction is no different.  Telling people they will get what they want using the LOA by repeat affirmations, thinking rich or skinny and or see what they want is ludicrous.  That’s like not telling people what the word abracadabra really means. That law of attraction, LOA  is simply a magnetic force.   The function of this law is to bind or magnetize together other laws, that create a magnetic intentional force, that draws to you, that which you have chosen to experience in your life.Understanding the law of attraction and the role it plays within the Laws of Attraction is crucial to you manifesting health, wealth, money, abundance, love etc.  Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we look at the law of attraction.

Many people don’t realize that their ability to consciously manifest what they want in life is being hampered by their inability to receive and accept praise.  You know the “attaboy or attagirl,” that people give when you have accomplished something.   This underlying issue with the inability to do this for self is a serious one.  It has the atomic potential to undermine everything that you want, and wreck everything that you have.  The Universal Law of Acceptance speaks to the energy of whether you believe you are worthy and deserving of the thing you have asked the Universe to bring into creation for you.   You see, Attractioners, to the Universal Creator, acceptance or non-acceptance is still, acceptance.   Once again, you get to choose how you use the universal Law of Acceptance.  There is an irony here, because, many people can give accolades and the highest of praise, but are self-conscious and downright uncomfortable receiving it.  And therefore, don’t want it, and articulate this in many ways.  As a result of this limited thinking many people derail in all aspects of life and are left wondering, “what the hell’s happening to me?” Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction in Action Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction in Action Coach as we look at the strategic and powerful role acceptance plays in our lives.

To everything in life there really is a season, including the starting and ending of relationships.  Our lives are built upon relationships not only with people, but with places and things too.   We never really think of ourselves as being in a working or active relationship with our homes, cars, pens, papers, food, plants or the location where we live.  More often than not, when people speak in terms of relationships they are speaking of a dynamic between two or more people.  It can also be a relationship with an institution that’s representative of an emotionally held ideal.  However, a relationship is all about how you relate to people, places and things.  Based on how you feel about something you are in a relationship with will determine the choices you make.   When you change how you feel about a person, place or thing, you set into motion The Universal Law of Disintegration. Once set into motion it cannot be stopped.   When change needs to take place, based on the change a of heart, the disintegration of that relationship held will happen.   It’s important not to confuse disintegration of a relationship with dissolution of a relationship.  Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we look at the Universal Law of Disintegration and relationships.

Is there a way to live a stress free life, when all around you it seems that there is nothing, but machiavellianism, mendaciousness, murder and mayhem?  Along with wars! Rumors of wars, social unrest and civil discord.  Man’s inhumanity to man and the list goes on and on.  By consciously choosing to live a drama free life, can you positively impact the world with your “happy” thoughts, righting many of the perceived injustices and imbalances?  Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach, and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach, as we explore the possibility of your thoughts and the power they have to influence your world.  Check out Cancel That! 

People spend far too much time worrying about what other people will think of them, verses what they think about themselves.  As a result of this many people are living lives of quiet desperation, because they are dying to please others so that they will fit in.  They are saying yes, when they really mean no.  They are sucking it up, when they should be letting it rip.  All the time making choices based on what others will think.  We spend an enormous amount of time throughout our lives trying to please other people, primarily, because we feel this action, even though it’s counter to what we want, will make our lives easier.  The ultimate goal of this behavior is to gain the approval of those we are seeking it from.  Approval in this instance, equates to acceptance, which means that someone has chosen to acknowledge you in a way that you need to be acknowledged.  And for a moment this makes you feel good about yourself, until you realize that you don’t even resonate with their core values.   There is a danger with trying to please at the expense of self.  It slowly erodes at the fabric of who you are, until, you don’t remember you anymore.  You move from trying, to dying, because that’s what happens to your soul when you go through life trying to please others, so they will like you and accept you. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we look at what trying to please others can do to your life.

Prayer is consciously thanking The Universal Creator, the Grand Architect, The God Within or whomever your chosen deity is for your desired outcome, before it has manifested into your life.  That’s prayer in a nutshell.   It’s important to understand the structure of prayer and know the distinction between talking with God and praying to God.  Many people don’t understand this nuance and their prayers are structured incorrectly and as a result they feel that their prayers are left unanswered.  Their bodies remain unhealed, their finances remain in shambles, their relationships continue to be contentious and happiness is out of their grasp.   When people don’t receive what they want, they sigh deeply and say in reverent hushed tones that state eloquently that, “God wanted something different for me.” Here’s the cold hard facts, that's simply not true and your prayers are always answered.  Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we look at the structure of prayer.

Has overthinking your next move left you in a state of I don’t know what to do paralysis?  Agonizing over figuring out if the next move is the right move has left many people opting to do nothing.  And that is downright painful.  We have been taught we must find a solution.  Not that there is always a solution, but, we must find the solution.  That nuance is huge.  In fact, it’s the difference between the solution being revealed to you and you trying to unearth it.  There is a simple process when using the Universal Laws to manifest what you are wanting and it doesn’t involve digging for anything.  It’s all about what is revealed to you to by taking inspired action.

When people speak of sacrifices that they have made in their lives for others, they are speaking in terms of what they have given up.  What they have done and what has happened to them as a result of this sacrifice. “I did this all for you so that you could have the experience that you wanted.”  The word sacrifice literally means to give something up or permit something to happen in order for someone to achieve a desired goal. Be under no illusion, no matter how heart wrenching, how disappointing, no matter how painful or soul destroying the sacrifice made, it was a choice.  It was a choice driven by a personal agenda that sacrificer had. They wanted a specific outcome and by giving up or doing _______ you fill in the blank, even when it was counterintuitive, they had their beady little eye on a prize. When the prize materialized, and or not, or people were not suitably grateful or chose to do something else, which flew in the face of the sacrifice etc.  Then the sacrificer regurgitates all that they have done, outlining each supposed selfless act in all its passionate detail in an attempt to bend others to their will. Or at the very least to emotionally blackmail them into feeling contrite and suitably apologetic for putting them through whatever it is they chose to go through. At the end of the day, sacrifice is all about your own personal agenda, nothing more, nothing less...so, don’t get ‘em twisted.  The next time you feel like you have fallen on your sword for someone and they weren’t suitably grateful, remember your sword didn’t stab you, you stabbed your sword. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expressions and Laws of Attraction Coach as we explore sacrifice and what that means.

Upgrading your life can take many forms, and yet, the end result will always be a profound change within self.  The process of upgrading literally means that you have outgrown that which you currently have.  And more importantly, you have the conscious realization that it’s time for something new.  The new maybe similar, yet, it is something new.  Should you want to upgrade your life?  What if you love the life you are living and you don’t want anything to change?  How do I upgrade my life and what do I upgrade it to?  We’ll be exploring these questions and more in this week’s radio show/podcast.  Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expressions Expert , Healer and Law of Attraction Coach as we look at the importance of upgrading and ways in which to start the process.

For those of you on the journey of finding self, “it’s not what you know, it’s who you know” is a cold hard fact.  In truth, it’s not who you know, it’s how you apply what you know, to experience the conscious manifestation of what you want for your life.  You can have all the knowledge in the world, yet if it is not applied in the right way, it’s just knowledge. It’s a little like faith without works or inspired action, is dead.    The saying, “It’s not what you know, but it’s who you know” for many is a fact.  A vast majority of people from around the world are living their lives like this and don’t even realize it. And as a result, they continuously experience cyclic detriment.  Life’s good for a while and then kaboom they appear to be back to square one, left standing in the rubble wondering, “what the hell happened?” They are living a life that is one of total dependency and or inequitably interdependent on others for their success.    People have taken and cloaked themselves in this belief that someone can do, what they themselves feel they are unable to do for self, in order for them to realize their dreams.  It’s the preverbal hookup! Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and  Intrinsic Laws of Attraction In Action Coach and Olivia Lashley, Artist and Intrinsic Laws of Attraction In Action Coach as we explore the benefit of who and what you know.

How many times did you hear this as a child from your parents, grandparents, teachers or siblings. or tell a child this as an adult, “don’t run with scissors in your hand.”   As kids, our guardians always instructed us not to run with glass, knives, sharp objects or scissors.  Why?  Because the potential to seriously injure self was a reality.  As adults you are running with a different kind of sharp object, but no less lethal.  Your running with people who don’t give a damn about you and have passed their expiration date.   Your running behind people who love themselves more than you love you, and they are happily using you for their life’s process. Your running with learnt behaviors that are creating planned obsolescence in your life.  Your running with emotional blocks that compromise your personal growth and ability to see what you want. You are running on the fumes of other people’s ignorance, beliefs, ideologies and bull shit that has the same potential to hurt you, just as if you are running with broken glass, knives and scissors. Stop RSVPing to crap that doesn’t even fertilize the mind.  Stop blaming him, her, them, Martians or whoever. It’s time to take a good hard look at you and the choices you have made that have brought you to this point, the point where you find yourself NOW.  It’s time to stand up for yourself taking responsibility, accountability and ownership, so that you can decide what you really want for your life.  Are you ready to stop the running with scissors? Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne, choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we explore what not running with scissors can do for your life.

Letting go of people, places and things, hurts, grudges and feuds is one of the greatest challenges you will ever face.  Why?  Because in some shape or form your needs, wants and desires have been minimized and then trampled into nothingness.  When you think you’re done, and over it, you fill in the blank, along comes a button pusher to check you, letting you know you are still firmly in its grasp.  So why can’t you just get over it?  Why can’t you let it go? The answer to that is simple; you are not done with the situation yet. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we take a candid look at why we are holding on to stuff we need to let go.

The law of Attraction is a magnetic force of intention, which is made up of many, many laws.  The Law of Abundance invokes plenteousness in extremes.  How do you attract into your life money, health, good relationships, fame and all the things that you want? Part I of the process involves having a clearer understand of the Laws and how you can use them.  And part II is understanding how to hold the “space” so that what you desire can come into form. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we take a deeper look into the law of attraction and manifesting abundance.

The word revision might have a tendency to conjure up thoughts of endless homework, looking at CliffsNotes or SparksNotes and or days and nights spent swotting for exams.  However, when used with the Laws of Attraction the art of revision will catapult your desired manifestation toward you.  When consciously revising situations and events that have occurred in your life, puts you in the unique position of being able to decode it, rewrite the script or at the very least not give it any more of your time or energy.  Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression & Laws of Attraction Coach as we explore ways to revise your life and the potential it has to support your conscious manifestation process.

Getting mental clarity for reasons you are making the decisions that you do can sometimes be supported by having the question “Why” answered.  Gaining the knowledge or knowing “why” has the ability to set you up in various ways, so that you can make a choice to move on or let go. Or it can hold you in bondage.  Knowing why, can provide understanding, which may or may not lead to clarity.  Just because you acknowledge something doesn’t mean you have true understanding of it.  In short “your why” can play a pivotal role in your choice making process.    However, it’s been my experience that many people become stuck in their lives because they feel they MUST know the answer to the question “why” before they can make another decision.  Yet, I know that not to be true.  To move forward, regardless of whether you know the answer to why is a choice.  What is most important it’s knowing what you want to do next.  Finding the answer to “why” simply brings, and I use these terms loosely, validation, understanding, closure, more questions why and a vicious cycle of wanting to know and putting you right back where you started from.”  So, is there any real benefit to asking the question why? Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Laws of Attraction Coach and Oliva Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we look at the value of asking the question why.

Figuring out the message that your life’s situations are telling you, no matter how joyous or hurtful, is really a process of decoding.  For you, it will take practice not to continue to fall into a cycle of emotional highs and lows.  Your emotional roller coaster keeps your situations negatively or positively charged, which results in smoking mirrors, uncertainty and confusion.   And that can be a challenge when making choices in the best interest of self or making choices to manifest what you want.  You need objectivity!  Without objectivity it’s virtually impossible to decode your situation.  Your decoding process starts with being able to detach emotionally from your situation, yet remain involved enough to be connected.  As intrinsic coaches, we call this skill detached involvement.  Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert, and Laws of Attraction coach and Olivia Lashley Expression and Laws of Attraction Coach as we explore the benefits of decoding your life’s situation.

In life there is always a price to pay.  The question is, ”Are you willing to pay that price for what you want?”  Many people when asked this question assume that payment is in the form of money.  Cold, hot, hard soft cash!  There is another form of currency and it’s called spiritual currency.  It represents the intangible energies that we trade  much like money represents the tangibles we trade in.  You don’t get something for nothing, even if it appears that way.  What are you willing to give to get what you want?   Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach as we take a deeper look at the phenomenon of the Universal Law of Exchange.

Is there such a thing as Divine Intervention and if so what is it, and, better yet, can I have some?  Divine intervention is usually ascribed to a miraculous happening.  Something that defies scientific explanation and logic.  Yet, when witnessed or experienced, we as humans may not understand the mechanics of Divine Intervention, but at an intrinsic level, we get it.  We know it to be true.  So, how do we go about consciously creating Divine Intervention or miracles in our lives? Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Intrinsic Life Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach and artist as we discuss you and Divine Intervention.

At some stage, we will all arrive at this point in our lives.  It’s the point where we are literally crying out to the Universal Creator to “fix it!”  Or for the answer to the question, “What must I do next?”  Very few of us make it through life, without hitting our preverbal emotional “brick” wall, or, spiraling down into our self created abyss.  It matters not whether you believe in God or something greater than self.   You see, whether you are a believer, atheist or agnostic when we are crying out into the ethos for HELP; for guidance, comfort, solace and peace, we are all alike.  We are looking to the Universal Supply for our salvation, or our solution.  We are wanting God or your chosen deity to “Fix It!”  The irony with this is in order for you to receive any help, divine or otherwise, you must have an idea of what you want. Solution and salvation are one in the same they are both found within the question and the problem. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Olivia Lashley Expression Artist as we explore the Universal Creators role in “fixing” our lives.  

It’s important to choose the people who you allow into your life, wisely and with great care.  They have the potential to influence your choices, therefore, influencing how you live your life.  The people who you currently mix and mingle with mirror back aspects of your inner beliefs as to who you are.  This doesn’t apply to friends; it applies to everyone in your life, including your family and nearest and dearest.  Do you like what you see when you look at the people in your life?  Is the relationship symbiotic?  Are your life stories filled with dramatic parallels and similarities?  Is this the adhesive that holds the relationship together?  The people in your life can show you four things, Where you’ve been.Where you are now.Where you don’t want to go.Where you can go. What are the people in your life showing you?    Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice and Laws of Attraction Coach & Expert  and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach & Artist as we explore you and the people in your life.

More often than not, we have a tendency to move through life, almost, as if we are flying by the seat of our pants or being dragged along. We find ourselves in situations and places that leave us trying to figure, “how did this happen? Or how did I get here?” In order for your life to manifest  the car, house, relationship, money, career, health etc., the way in which you want it to, you must first figure out what you want and then ask for it.  In life we don’t get what we want, we get what we believe.  This understanding is crucial for us to use our abilities  to consciously manifest what we want. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne as we explore consciously getting what you want.

If your past is holding you back, you are haunting yourself.  If you are living in your past, you are haunting yourself.  If you are trying to change your past you are haunting yourself. If you are doing anything that doesn’t serve you and support you living at your highest potential you are living inside your head in a haunted house. To haunt means: to visit habitually or regularly. Is this you? Are you habitually visiting your past…on a regular basis? Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Intrinsic Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach and Artist as we look at the ghosts that maybe holding you back.

This is a question that many people ask themselves, “Can my life be more abundant?” Typically, when people speak of abundance, they associate it with money and the things that money can bring.  In fact, most metaphysical/spiritual teachers teach from that perspective, for you to experience abundance you must have money.  Affluence is the monetary segment of the Abundance wheel, but by no means is it the greatest portion.  And this is where many people become stuck.  Not realizing that abundance is all things that matter to us and things we don’t even realize matter.  Dictionary.com states that the word abundance means extremely plentiful, copious amounts. It also is an infinite energetic supply to which we all have an account, debit card and checkbook.  Do you know what to do so your life can be more abundant?  Do you know how to use your debit card or how to write a Universal check?  Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne, Choice Expert and Intrinsic Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach and Artist as we take our first look at abundance and how it shows up in our lives. Join our Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/Thelawsofattractioninaction/    Visit our website: https://thelawsofattractioninaction.com Checkout YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCEuMi6r1ORt-0Z2D7St-Z1w

The Universal Law of Judgement invokes your right to make an informed opinion based on your knowledge or passed experiences.  This opinion is used to support you in making decision. However, your opinion is yours and yours alone.  You having an opinion, doesn’t make it right.  Nor does it make it right for me or anyone else even if you think so.  In life, this is where things have gone radically wrong.  People will stand in judgement of others who do not embrace or share the same opinions.  As a result, wars have been fought, lives lost, relationships and families decimated.  Dreams unfulfilled and potential untapped and the greatest tragedy of all people leave this life saying, “if I wouldha, shouldha, couldha.”   It’s everyone’s divine right to judge.  This is how we weigh in and find balance, giving us the internal green light to make a choice. It’s not your right to pass judgement on anyone, but yourself.  Matthew 7 1:2 states this eloquently. “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice and Laws of Attraction Expert and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach and Laws of Attraction Expert as we look at judgement and your life.

Are you putting up and shutting up just to make it through another day?  If this is true for you then you need to map out your life.  Do you have a map of your life’s journey? If you don’t, you should.  Without a map you will undoubtedly find yourself in a place where you don’t want to be. Married to someone you shouldn’t be, working in a job you shouldn’t be, living beyond your means when you shouldn’t be, experiencing ill health when you shouldn’t be and generally unhappy with the life that you have lived and are living.  Are you putting up and shutting up? Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Intrinsic Laws of Attraction Coach and Olivia Lashley Personal Expression Expert and Intrinsic Laws of Attraction Coach as we look at why you need a personal inspired map as you journey through life. Visit the https://thelawsofattractioninaction.com

When things happen in our lives good and or bad, but in particular bad or traumatic, we have a tendency to view it from a negative standpoint.  Why me?  How could they?  How dare they? We allow our emotions to dictate how we respond.  And as a result, we perpetuate negativity in all areas of our lives which prevents our conscious expansion or spiritual growth.  When people do things to us with the intent that they are hurtful, mean spirited, cruel, abusive etc. we automatically assume it’s been done to us. Why because it’s an assault on our five senses.  We believe that people are working against us to achieve our end goal.  Using dark arts to hold us in bondage. They’re keeping us down or enslaved not allowing us the thrive.  Everything is not done with our betterment in mind.   Yet, as hard as this may be for you to believe, that simply isn’t true. Deuteronomy 32:29 See now that I, even I, am he, and there is no god with me: I kill, and I make alive; I wound, and I heal: neither is there any that can deliver out of my hand. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Intrinsic Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach and Artist as we explore this sensitive issue.

In the blink of an eye our lives can become very complicated.  One moment everything is fine and the next it appears that everything has exploded into a million fragmented pieces. Many people struggle to create the lives they say they want to live, because, it’s complicated.  As a result of “it” being complicated, many people talk themselves into staying in relationships, marriages, homes, jobs, health protocols you name it.  In fact they talk themselves into doing many things that they really don’t want to do.  All of which are toxic, very toxic to the mind and body.  Your life being complicated has far reaching effects, which are impactful in both good and bad ways.  So how do you go about uncomplicating your life so you can live it to the fullest? Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Intrinsic Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach and Artist as we look at ways to uncomplicate your life. For tutorials and other podcasts visit our website The Laws of Attraction In Action

It’s helpful having an understanding of how the Universal Laws of Attraction work together, whether you are wanting to use them consciously or not. The Laws of Attraction are natural Laws, Spiritual Laws, God’s Laws or your chosen deity’s Laws. These Laws are immutable and exacting by nature.  These two facts, immutable and exacting, say it all when it comes to the Universal Laws and how things unfold in our lives.   They, the Laws, exhibit the true meaning of detached involvement.  You see, the Laws are unemotional, unbiased and detached.  The Laws careless about gender, race, age, finances, good, bad, infirmities, diseases, disorders and believe it or not our spiritual or religious beliefs.  And yet, each Law individually and collectively are very, very much involved in our lives.   The Laws have one function and one function only.

There are usually multiple reasons why manifesting is uncertain. But, in the main it boils down to the violation of four Universal Laws: Polarity, Fixation/focus, Intention and Clarity.   Asking in the right way is the key to receiving what you want. The life that you want to live, the love that you want to experience. The health that you desire, the money that you want to have, the house, the car, family, friends, and anything else, is yours for the asking. Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Intrinsic Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach and Art as we explore manifesting with certainty.

Many people find expressing themselves a challenge.  They don’t want to hurt anyone and they don’t want to be hurt themselves. Usually, what needs to be said is caught up with highly charged emotion and deep seated feelings, which, can prove to be unhelpful.  We have a tendency to wait until a gasket is ready to blow and then purge, venting and expressing in a way that is hurtful to us and the person(s) we are addressing. Expressing yourself doesn’t require you being angry or building anger to give yourself Dutch courage.  It requires that you are clear about what you want to say, and what outcome you want to experience, bearing in mind that the only person you can control is yourself.  Effective communication starts with you. Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach & Artist as we explore expressing yourself.

Time travel as portrayed on the silver screen usually starts out well, but is fraught with problems.  And as the main characters achieve their desired goals of putting something they believe that needs to be put right, and or preventing something from happening, another disaster befalls them.  It’s almost like plugging a leak only to have five more spring up that a bigger and badder than the first one.  Many people spend a tremendous amount of time and energy imagining what they would have done differently.  Most don’t realize that spending their energy and passion in this way is going to manifest things that they don’t want verses what they do want.  Spending time trying to turn back the hands of time creates new situations that are unwanted.  Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne Choice Expert and Intrinsic Life Coach and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach and Artist as we look at turning back the hands of time.