REAL LIFE TALK WITH BLESSING

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Why do single mothers who remarry behave like their life depends on the marriage, they don't want their children in quote spoil their marriage or break their marriage.. I don't understand how you will turn your back on your child because you are with a new man .. So there is this young girl someone brought to live with me .. she is about 17yrs . She told me her mother was married to another man and the man didn't want to see her.. and the mom already has children for him.. There is one thing I need to let a lot of you parents know!! When you love a child , it's hard to influence that child outside, because the love you have given to that child will bring trust and confidence and if anyone tries to influence them , you will be the first to hear because they trust you.. But when you push a child away, the wickedness of the world is waiting to show the child other options.. Do you know why I say this? Because I want you to understand from this story .. Some months after she resumed she said she was going for her grandpa's burial.. I said no problem, gave her transport and she left.. She stayed one week in the village and came back.. I travelled to Italy for a while and while I was away I had a neighbor who I actually begged to help me look over my apartment. When she called me she told me the girl who works for me said she wanted to leave.. I was shocked , so I called her mr told her to be patient I will soon return Me she said ok I returned about a week later and immediately I saw her I noticed her face was chubby and she was bloated .. so I asked her if she had her period she said yes… I didn't say anything the next morning immediately I woke up I went to her room and told her to dress up that we needed to pick something, she did and I took her straight to the lab. They did a pregnancy test and this little girl was pregnant.. so she wanted to leave before I returned so I won't know she was pregnant Anyway I took her back home and called her family that brought her to me, so we can find out how she got pregnant.. and who was responsible So I got the mothers number from her so I cal talk to her woman to woman, but I got the shock of my life .. I put a call through to the mother of the pregnant young girl, I introduce myself and told her the situation her daughter is in.. And all this woman would say is MADAM PLEASE my husband must not hear about something like this he is a pastor ..

My parents are bullies !!!! Is this how you will be described? So here is the story !!! A woman is beside me in the salon I went to some days ago, a child walked up to her and angrily she said WHAT IS IT? The child was quiet , and the next thing she said is , stop disgracing yourself, The child went closer and this woman slapped her I was furious and said madam what is it , why will you bring up a child the way you were raised, then I said “you can't even ask the child what is the issues was or why was she looking sad” I had to intervene… I asked the child her name she said Sophia , oh what a lovely name, come my dear I pulled her close and told her to sit beside me.. I asked the almighty question… WHAT IS WRONG MY DEAR.. and she said the hair is too tight , omg I checked the place she complained about and it was looking like the strands were about to cut … I immediately called the stylist to loose the part she was complaining about.. this is how toxic some parents are, bullies !! And they groom their children to become one.. hope you enjoyed this and put it to practice.. see you soon.

Today's episode is dedicated to my mother-in-law who passed away in 2017.. today it struck me with so much memories and I wonder what if someone somewhere actually need some encouragement right now … I know exactly how it feels , I know how you feel.. but trust me when I say YOU WILL BE FINE .. you are not gonna forget but you will heal and you will carry the memories of them for life .. be strong you will pull through .. much love KingB .

A lot of marriages struggle, a lot of people are living in relationships where they regret daily .. why do you want to be married and single at the same time.. why aren't couples doing things together anymore? So many sad stories of toxic marriage.. someone said to me KingB how do I deal with my mistakes.. my response is some of us still live with our mistakes… build a relationship with love..

Look before you leap..

A woman contacted me She is in her late 40s almost 50 She is doing her masters program in one of the nigerian universities.. she is married with 4 kids ... 3 boys and a girl So she said she was on her way to get some groceries and her car suddenly started jerking and before you know it the car had stopped... We all know alot of women dont know much about automobile... She had to dail her husband's number, he wasn't picking and unfortunately it started raining so there was no way to come down and start ask6for help, but she kept calling her husband, eventually he picked. And in her words she said the first thing he said was WHAT IS IT ? She now explained to him that she was stranded and its raining heavily... and the man's response was Ehen what should I do about that, madam pls dont disturb me I am busy.. when this woman was sharing her story it took me down memory lane on the day I had an accident, and I messaged my husband, guess what he read the message and never replied.. I really don't know if some of us married humans ... Anyway back to the story, she said she called him HONEY!! to be sure she is talking to the right person... the man response was like someone sliced her into two.. she said he hung up and in that car she wept , she said blessing I cried liked I was at my own funeral... Guys when this woman spoke to me I cried so much that I had emotional eruptions for days.... The things women go through in toxic relationships and marriages will shock even the devil, I am still asking DO MEN HATE THEIR WIVES? Why make her suffer emotionally.. Anyway she said she called one of her classmates and told him she was stranded as her car stopped on the road . This was his response, oh so sorry about that, hope you are safe where the car stopped? And she told him it was safe, the guy now asked her to send her location, and in 30 minutes the guy arrived under the rain with his mechanic... he stood under the rain with the mechanic, it took them some hrs to get the car fix. The guy left and got her food and drinks cos she said she cant follow him .... Ladies and gentlemen the man who wasn't married to this woman became her prince in shining armor ... She got home and the husband didnt even ask her what happened and how she got back.. she said all he asked was this one u are coming this time Hope the food will be ready on time, so she said the guy that helped her called to ask if she was home and she Yes and thanked him for his help.... She said but from that day she feel in love with the guy, and the guy was also very caring.. and gradually they became close and glam they became lovers.. she said blessing the guy is HEAVEN ON EARTH, she was happy , she was always smiling and she said her son's were like mummy u are so cheerful these days. And she told them she found JOY.. so now here is the problem the husband died of liver cancer he was a heavy drinker (a delta man) if you know nigerian delta men majority are really heavy drinkers ... so that her prince charming wants them to get married, so she was asking me is it too soon to get married ? This woman shared her story with trust that she will remain anonymous... and she shared so many bad memories and I have to tell you this LEAVE HER ALONE SHE DESERVES THIS... So my humble audience drop your thoughts on this matter Should she marry the man who she feels came to her rescue... or stay as a widow or she should give the dead some time to chill

Questions to ask before marriage What does marriage mean to you? What does love mean to you What do you think is most needed loyalty or respect What does family mean to you What do you see as a team

Gratitude is contentment

We all are aware of how cosmetic surgery has taken over the industry especially Nollywood… in 2015 I posted on Facebook and said very soon women will lose themselves to cosmetic surgery because of inferiority complex. But really, all these surgery and ways of being artificially beautiful is really getting out of hand with girls. I blame all this their celebrities pictures …showing ass, showing boobies. Some girls feel inferior if they don' have those assets, so they go all out to get them Even at the risk of their lives. Let me educate a lot of you, especially young girls, fat transfer is one of the most dangerous procedures… Why will you put your life on the line just because you want big yansh and breast..? A lot of these girls have inferiority complex, they go on social media and see their celebrities and want to be like that. As a person you need to love YOU!! You need to appreciate the body you were created in. Now this young girl, whose mother sells fufu here in port harcourt, took 3m naira to do plastic surgery, you mean that was priority to her? Instead of taking her family out of trenches. Unfortunately she lost her life in the process. And you know the funny part? Most of all this is because a lot of them wants to catch rich married men. It's so unfortunate I hope some other girls will learn from this.. but if they still go ahead with it, anything they see they should take it like that. Now listen to khloe of bbnaija tell you her experience when she had plastic surgery, and she said even if she is given 100m she will never do it again….

Johnny Depp and Amber divorce I always say this , going through divorce is a lot of stress , I guess that is why my African people just pack their bags quietly and leave.. Are you guys following on the divorce case between Johnny Depp and his wife. Johnny Depp acted pirates of the Caribbean in case you are not familiar with the name. The woman is saying he was abusive to her both emotionally and physically and the man is saying she was abusive to him … So here we have two people who were so in love with each other, who slept on the same bed, who made sweet love and today they are at each other's throats .. What happened? Meeting Amber heard he thought he has found true love and a friend. He never thought he would be in an abusive marriage. Amber abused him Physically, Emotionally, and Mentally. So this is for my single men and women who are planning to get married, please don't ignore the RED FLAGS..

A lot of people make the same mistake I made, of starting a business without getting the proper knowledge and coaching in business.. so a young man met with me and said he needed funds and will appreciate the support to start his business. So I asked him what's the returns monthly on the business, with the capital he is asking for was about over 5m .. and he told me he will ask his friend, his friend gave him. Business ideas and he wants funds to start a business someone told him about.. and I shared my experience with him about how I failed in a business a friend suggested, and without proper knowledge and research, I started a business I didn't know anything about. And I lost the money and the business collapsed like a business.. that's what happens when you bypass the process.. so as you listen to this podcast I hope you learn from this.. see you again on real life talk with Blessing..

In a world filled with jealousy and envy, a world where people betray their friends for money and fame. So guys let me share this short story that happened to me Salome years ago. You see being too open minded is also not a good attribute. Listen to this podcast and I hope you learnt something very important

Ghost husband (The best revenge is success) Wahala be like jingle bell ooo. Oh boy I saw a post on Facebook of a lady who called of her wedding on the morning of her wedding, because she found out her supposed groom was a married man with children , who had lied to her all the years of their courtship Seriously it's so painful, all the years she has wasted on a relationship that was full of lies Seriously port harcourt men you guys can do better and stop all this lies, this has become so rampant, that was how a close friend told me a married man asked her to marry him and they will move to another city, as in why will you ghost your wife, the babe was like sorry I can't be a part of such evil, she was telling me and in my head I was like this is one of so many men out there who is planning to run away with another woman, when they kept one with children . I find it quite despicable that a man won't be bold enough to divorce one before going with another, A lot of men are ghosting their wives and children! Why is that becoming a norm , Today I will share a story of a dear friend who I would rather keep anonymous even though she called her name in the interview. Hello sir before you ghost your family, I will like to let you know that it is traumatic when such things happen, you do not only leave them physically you also rip their hearts because it makes your family feel like you died.. This lady attempted suicide 2 times, she became a shadow of herself, she became a mental, emotional reck. Please as you listen to her learn something because thee is a lot happening out there This interview is quite a long one so it's gonna be in two episodes. You will hear ‘The husband vanish' and then he goes to another place and gets married it's becoming a trend which is absolutely ridiculous because for me it is a weakling that will do something like that. And to every woman or man who has being ghosted by their partner, I want to say be strong, for the sake of yourself and your children. And soon I will talk about ghosting especially in the single folks , I will talk about the signs and what to do .. I love you all so much for taking out time to listen to this show, talk to you soon on real life talk with Blessing.

Don't force a child Guess who went to an event at the Catholic Church So I got invited for an event called confirmation at the Catholic Churches, a friend said her child was getting confirmed and she will love me to come . So I went and it was a different experience on its own , you know the Catholics have their own doctrine which is amazing by the way So it was time for the events and parents were getting their wards ready , and while this was going on a woman was shouting at her child and I quote “are you stupid? What do you mean by that? You must be crazy “ she lost sight of where she was and the child was crying , I couldn't take it I had to stand up and go meet her .. madam what is the problem, and she said can you imagine this stupid child said she doesn't want to get confirmed.. I turned to the child who was crying seriously and I said hello sweetie why did you change your mind, you know your mother has being planing for this day, then I realizes she was only confused and needed explanation which the parent didn't give I said to her , my darling what you are doing here today isn't for your mother or your father you are doing it as an acknowledgment to God your creator, I told her she was only doing what has being a catholic doctrine so she shouldn't feel forced. Now she cleaned her eyes , I asked her do you like being a catholic she said yes Aunty and I said then this act here today is you confirming you are proud of being a catholic. She said Aunty can you walk with me to the front , I turned to the mother and she said pls help me madam , I told her to smile and be happy because it's a special day for her , you need to see this child she became so excited and smiling (lol) I felt so good solving that problem. But now to the real gist , parents and guardians don't always feel because you are the parent then the child has no say in the decisions you make in their lives . Please always carry the child along, talk to them about the cause for the things you are about to do which I voles them. If not a child will feel you are forcing them to do what they don't understand and it doesn't end well cos eventually it will lead to resentment..

It all starts from you telling your son to beat his sister if he annoys him It all starts from you saying to your daughter after the brother beats her up WHAT DID YOU DO.. this should stop, we are talking about grooming the male child to understand love differently, You hear some mothers say , if your sister disrespect you beat her let her shut her mouth and today we have full blown monsters Who don't only beat but murder their wives and husbands The mentality has to change, parenting patter. Has to stop. Some of grand parents got it wrong Some of our parents got it wrong We don't have to make the same mistakes. A message from pastor paul eneche on the death of the popular ekueme singer that died over the week. This is a big blow on alot of us It is a big blow most especially on her family. I saw a video of the mother crying bitterly. My pain is all this could have been avoided if she left that marriage . Pls stop stigmatizing women who come out of abusive relationships, a friend of mine told me BLESSING I have lost all my friends because to them I am single, so that I wont snatxh their husband, they dont even allow me visit unlike when I was with my husband.. imagine the mentally of some people.. This particular lady had to leave the marriage when this man almost took her life by throwing her from upstairs. She kept praying and saying maybe he will change . Instead it got worst. But today she is single and happy, in her own words Blessing I dont wake up with fear anymore. If you are an abusive husband I need to let you know you failed as a person, how can't you see you are doing alot of damage to a human being Get help get help, Madam please tou dont have to die in an abusive marriage to show you are a virtuous woman, I know alot of women are held ransom because the man knows he holds the money the funds so where can she go, when she cant even pay for her a bowl of food in a restaurant. That is why we have come up with a team to get support for women who are in abusive relationships. We have free accommodations until the lady settles down. We are a team of builders who are building.g a better world to live in. Alot of these men have mental issues, bipolar, narcissism and lots more But because those mental disorders doesn't show on faces , you see a cute looking guy smiling, but when u end up with him he will drive you to a point of suicide or depression. Alot of abused women feel weak, vulnerable, not only their body is abused their mind is also abused , listen to this ways a person can be abused mentally, because some women sent messages and said they dont know if they are being abused, I am glad I saw some pastors condemning this wicked act. The worst part is this domestic violence does not stop with the wife , it extends to the children because alot grow to be like their fathers , some dont but it's more of the majority. Alot of people has lunacy tendencies, if you check their family history you see they had mad people and all that. Mothers protect your children from future damage, if you need help you can reach out to me on my Instagram, Facebook, tiktok even on my website www.purposefulvoice.com . Please don't die in silence.

Loyalty can be beautiful and even an example of sacrificial love. But don't allow stupidity to creep in, so a lady and her friends are being charged in court for the murder of a lady they beat to death in some past episodes, I talked about a young man who ended up in prison because of 50 nairas, so today I am sharing the story of a lady who brought her friends to fight with her neighbor she had a disagreement.  I guess out of loyalty these ladies actually followed her to go fight someone else, or should we call it stupidity.  the eventually killed the lady and today they are going to face the wrath of the law, and you know they could have advised their friend instead of agreeing to the fight (lack of wisdom) please don't be that one who lacks wisdom, don't let anger control you be in control of your emotion. I hope we all learned from that story,  if you enjoy my podcast, do well to share it with friends and families.  Thanks

Mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and act. It also helps determine how we handle . It's important to take care of yourself and get the most from life. Talk about your feelings Talking about your feelings can help you stay in good mental health and deal with times when you feel troubled. Keep active Regular exercise can boost your self-esteem and can help you concentrate, sleep, and feel better. Eat well Your brain needs a mix of nutrients in order to stay healthy and function well. Ask for help None of us are superhuman. We all sometimes get tired or overwhelmed by how we feel or when things don't go to plan. Take a break A change of scene or a change of pace is good for your mental health. Do something you're good at What do you love doing? What activities can you lose yourself in? Accept who you are We're all different. It's much healthier to accept that you're unique

Hello everyone!! We always look for things to help us get better. This podcast today is a story of two men who fought till death. Why will two grown men end their lives like that, Ego, lack of emotional control. Anger is an expression of emotion. U have to put it under control to avoid catastrophic damage. Below is how the story was sent to me, after review I did this podcast to share my thoughts on it. “

A lot time when we lose a family member the grief seems unbearable. But I have to say this to you, you will heal and u will be better. Don't be too hard on yourself. So in the podcast I share a personal experience and it gave me a glimpse of reflection on life. Life they say is unpredictable, nobody knows when exactly will be the last, that is why I say DO RIGHT, BE NICE , LEAVE A GOOD IMPACT in someone's life.. and also it's an opportunity to be grateful to God foe life

Can You Marry A Man Who Lives In His Family House ? Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be clinged to his wife..... Does that ring a bell, A real man would prefer to acquire his apartment, even if it is a room, than living with his wife and children in the family house.

Do you have what it takes to make your woman CUM, this podcast is about how important sex is in a relationship/ marriage. It is obvious with the increase in cheating and infidelity, a lot of women I have talked to , always talk about how they are starved. Use this methods and build a better relationship and marriage with your partner.. COMMUNICATION, GOOD HYGIENE, LEARNING, BE CREATIVE.. A successful relationship isn't about being picture-perfect or adorable all the time, but it is about patience and understanding. There are many common mindsets, behaviors, and habits of truly healthy relationships that the movies simply don't show. Whether you're in a relationship looking to improve it or single wondering about successful relationships, here are a few signs you will have a successful relationship

Should men pay school fees for their girlfriends? We hear too many stories of heartbreak, about how guys sponsored their girlfriends in school and after graduation the girl will refuse their marriage proposal or break up with them after school. This is my conversation with some men, trying to get it from a man's prospective. So do you think men should pay school fees for their girlfriends.. a guy recently proposed to his girlfriend who he has being sponsoring in school, and the girl turned him down, and he was crying and telling the girl remember I paid your school fees, so a lot of times the stories end like that. So what's your talk on that topic should men pay should fees for their girlfriends….. these are the response from different men on this topic. Why are you bearing unnecessary responsibilities? In this life, wisdom is applicable to everything. She is just your girlfriend and not your wife. What steps is she taking to support herself? What about your own family? Don't they need help? You are an applicant and already you are bearing silly responsibilities. You better wise up DEFFINITELY NOT until you have plans of marrying a girl, that is when you can finance for her studies (or whatever she needs the money for). If you have the money and you are willing to help, just do it (like Nike), cos NOBODY knows tomorrow! She might turn out to be som1 that could help you in the nearest future, who knows? What kind of men is Nigeria breeding? are they so poor that before they can help out a gal they prolly do as they like they must open a thread and ask the world if it is right knowing the facts that the girl is "poor". These men are so poor mentally trying to be sharp at every turn they cannot have a normal rship because from the inception of the rship all they are out for is what they will gain. These kind of men if they buy a gal a bottle of coke they want to press her breast if rice mistakenly accompany the coke they expect an all nighter sadly these same men demand respect from the girls as "men" when in a relationship. calculating, making estimates, looking checking if they are getting back their money's worth from every action. I am always i mean always shocked when i see the debates about buying even sweet for a girl. Afraid that they will fall mugu. Men with a small heart are really small men even if they are 6 footers they are midgets in truth. No wonder this society does not believe in charity. its a take take take society and these are the kind of people that mistakenly get into positions of authority and turn our universities to brothels thinking its payback time for all the gals that ate their money and went free. Small minded men are on the loose.

“I learnt how to do money rituals through Facebook” 18 year old who killed his lover in Ogun confesses. This is why we keep saying that parents should be watchful of pages and sites their Children visits on Facebook and Social Media generally. I listened to the Interview of those Boys that killed their Girl Friend for money rituals, they said they learnt the Money Rituall from a group on Facebook "Ogun Owo Ati Osolé todaju'. After a search on Facebook, it's true that the group exist and it has more than 27500 members, Imagine how many of those members will be practicing what they learnt on that Evil groups. I blame the society that celebrate success without knowing the source and track record. I blame the society that respect only the rich. I blame the society that doesn't celebrate or encourage hard-work and productivity. I blame the society that tells you Life is all about the money. I blame the society that keep on producing children in poverty. I blame the society that gives you any position and Title once you've made money. I blame a society that teach their children to be dedicated to their religion instead of teaching them humanity. I blame a society where an hard-working, intelligent and truthful ones can't have a voice without money. I blame a society that pray for miracle money everyday even in working hours, instead of being diligence in their duty. I blame the society where mother is Dancing that she is eating the fruit of her labour because her 20 year old child just bought a vehicle for her. Finally, I blame the society that calls you Jealous Man, Envious, Bad belle and all sort of names because you question the source of someone's wealth and flambuoyant life style. My Dear People, stop wasting your Time to pray about all these menace, Prayer won't solve anything change your mentality..

Son behead his own biological mother, who would know we will ever get to that time, when a child will say I need mother and I will sacrifice my mother. Greed has become the order of the day, little children that are supposed to be focused with school are thinking about owning cars and house at 15, Parents can't even tell their child the truth because they will stop giving them from the money. Crazy things are happening, a teacher/principal connived and kidnapped a child in his school, when the innocent child of about 5yrs recognized him he put rat poison in a drink and gave to her, as in that is not enough he cut her in pieces, put on a bag and buried her.. please tell me is that not devilish.? May God not let our path cross with evil men . Parents make it your duty to put your child in the right path. The level of greed in people now adays is something else, a lot of people have thrown away their conscience, they don't care about peoples lives.. quite unfortunate because all this greed is because they want to use iPhone or drive Benz, how can you take someone's life over material things? How can you cause so much pain to someone's family and loved ones because of material things.. let's be prayerful and watchful of the people around us. Hope you enjoyed this podcast, kindly drop a comment it will be appreciated. Listen to other topics on my podcast I am sure you won't regret it.

Today all day series I will take this to my grave as we all know it has become common for spouses to keep important information from their partners , so story for today as a wife found out her husband has HIV. It's quite unfortunate to find one's self in such predicament.. There is a case of a wife who found out her husband had contacted the deadly disease called HIV , the man never told her he got infected or how he got infected The only thing is the man stopped being intimidate with her and it has being a big problem in the marriage.. She went snooping to see if he is cheating. Behold he got infected from one of his rendezvous Now she is asking what should she do.. I will take this to my grave episode 2

What has become of marriage and commitment, how do judge a case like this? I will take 'THIS' to my GRAVE!!! I will take this to my grave , is a series of different stories of people who had died and something they hid came up after their death. A man secretly built a house and his wife didn't know till he died , now the question is why will a man hide his possession from his wife and family? Why will a man who has children now disclose it to even his children We see stories like this every day when a man dies and the family finds out a life the man was living that they didn't know about Imagine this man eats the food his wife cooks at home and probably have sexual pleasure with his wife and still hides something like this from his wife. Like Ese said the relationship was flawed in all ramification and if you dig deeper you might see what will shock you . So now this boils down to the younger generation, there is more to marriage than just the wedding day , there are things to look out for before you say I DO . If something like this happened to you how would you handle it? Would you be glad he is even dead or wished he was alive to explain why he would do something like that. May we not fall victim of such relationship of lies , a relationship where a man will hide his progress from his household, such a man can kill .

They are watching you Hello everyone, welcome to yet another episode of real life talk with blessing So some days ago I went shopping and ran into a lady I use to know from the days I was learning tailoring And if you remember from one of my episodes I said there was a lady who told me last yr why am I doing YouTube channel when I am not paid .. So she said to me blessing I have being watching you and I see you have being consistent.. then the next word shocked me she said blessing I was just waiting to see how far you will go … This is it guys , everyone is watching you in that relationship, in that marriage in that career in that business in that path and decision you decided to take .. That's the world for you, if you are waiting for people to applaud you, believe me you will be disappointed because a lot of time I always say BE YOUR OWN CHEERLEADER.. I didn't feel upset or angry rather I felt good for disappointing her by being consistent, because if I give up 1000 and one of them will say shebi we said it before all this one she dey do she go give up soon Yes some years back I tried a lot of things , oh my goodness, a lot of things, what I didn't know was I was trying to discover myself like Uncle Tunde said . And once u find that line that was made for you there is no going back on it So my lovely audience, are u beginning to give up? Are u struggling to be motivated I am here to tell you today don't give up on your passion and dream.. don't give up Don't be like the old me that gives up at every storm .. there are plenty ppl waiting to laugh and say shebi we talk am .. Don't lose focus on the finish line , if nobody praise you my brother my sister praise yourself And I have this last word to say An unsupportive friend shouldn't be your friend at all

As this year draws to a close, you may finally get a chance to reflect on what a wild ride it has been there were silver linings and powerful lessons worth carrying forth. As you prepare to leave 2021 behind, here are a few gentle reminders to carry with you. What are you releasing as we move into 2022? Wow it's amazing to see the new year despite all the challenges. A lot of people already started the new year grumbling, that is not the right move 2022 I have a great expectations and I want you to have great expectations too. Being a podcaster has exposed me to amazing intelligent people and I want to say thank you to everyone, for listening to different episodes of my podcast. 2022 is filled with testimonies no matter what it looks like around us, we are not giving up. Build around you the best support system, everyone actually needs that (lol).. You have a duty to fulfill this year, the duty is to make yourself better at what you do 2022 should be a year to show the world you are the best. Despite everything that has being going on with the Covid omicron and all the commotion in the world, it can actually be overwhelming for some people. My job is to bring out the best version of yourself so the world can see you. Do have an amazing year ahead filled with Gods blessings, and to all my fellow podcasters I say thank you for all your help. To my children may God Bless you guys for lifting me up when ever I feel down. You guys are a gift to my life and I love you guys so much.

An appreciation from a friend who is also a podcaster. Thanks Michele

Why is thanksgiving so important? Thanksgiving in the Bible means to respond to God's goodness and grace with gratitude. The word for giving thanks in the Old Testament means to raise hands to God in gratitude. The New Testament word for thanks has the root idea of grace. Why is thanksgiving so important? Thanksgiving is important because it's a positive and secular holiday where we celebrate gratitude, something that we don't do enough of these days. One of the benefits of praising God is bringing Him into your life. When you thank and praise the Lord, you invite His glory and presence into your heart and soul. When your thanksgiving message reaches God, He can reach down and bring light to your life with his mere presence. Thanksgiving Bible Verses About Gratitude• "Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever." 1 Chronicles 16:34 Benefits of Giving Thanks • . Gratitude helps us see God. . Gratitude puts us squarely in God's will. . Gratitude brings peace. . Gratitude draws us to *Thanksgiving gives you access to God's presence for the way out of your predicament, the way forward from your stagnation and the way upward from everything that is holding you down. For His faithfulness in our lives. We serve a faithful God, we must acknowledge His faithfulness with thanksgiving. Don't feel overwhelmed with the situation of life, Bible is filled with verses about gratitude that can encourage you to have Thanksgiving in your heart all year-round, not just on Thanksgiving Day, some of our favorite Thanksgiving Bible verses that will help you realize how you express Thanksgiving to God. Thanksgiving Bible Verses "Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good: his love endures forever." 1 Chronicles 16:34 "Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful." Colossians 3:15 "Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful." Colossians 4:2 "I always thank my God for you because of his grace given you in Christ Jesus." 1 Corinthians 1:4 "You will be enriched in every way so that you can be generous on every occasion, and through us your generosity will result in thanksgiving to God." 2 Corinthians 9:11 "For everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving, because it is consecrated by the word of God and prayer." 1 Timothy 4:4-5.

Ways to Mess Up Your Kids Don't shut your child Children understands pain more than adults because they feel helpless A lot of children are so use to been shut up, a lot of children are hiding huge truths from their parents because of the fear of being shut up Parents are human, a lot of them didn't know better, but I guess a lot of us know better now A lot of time parents make mistakes and then repeat them. I went to the salon, there was a lady who came with her daughters, one of the girls went to wee in the bathroom , when she got back , she was trying to talk to her mum, She was like mummy, the mother said please keep quiet , the child started again, mummy she was dragging the mum by her too, and the mum was upset and hit her hand and told the child my friend can u keep quiet?? Or I will smack your bombom now, I had to tell her not to do that, that she should find out what the child wants, we are in a public place you never know what happened when she went to wee wee. You see I have to let you understand that, those are some of the things that makes a child keep shut even when something bad had happened to them , a child who was raped or molested .. Please parents don't shut your children down, this can make a child hide things from you , It makes a child see you as unapproachable And that is not a good relationship to build with your child. Parents pay attention to your child's mental, emotional needs, There was a counseling session I had, and the girl of about 12yrs old said, she did not tell her mother that she was raped, because her mother will blame her, that is because she was always blamed for everything that happens in the house, if a cup breaks the mum blames her, if something is not done right the mother blames her , so you see what I am talking about. So please parents, take note, don't shut your child down when they want to tell you something, it might not make sense , but give them the audience, you might just find out something. You should be the first person your child runs to if there is something happening to them, or if they need someone to talk to.. This is one parenting 101

God Loves A Cheerful Giver, It means to be ready to act at a moment's notice, to be prepared. With today's economy, it can be difficult for even the most faithful to give to the needy cheerfully GOD LOOKED AT THE GIVER ACCORDING TO THE ATTITUDE OF THE HEART. GOD LOOKED FOR A PERSON WHO GIVE WHOLEHEARTEDLY A. Who give and does not complain B. Who give and does not expect C. Who give and does not doubt. GOD LOOKED FOR A PERSON WHO GIVE SACRIFICIALLY A. A person Who give even in times of poverty B. Who gave even in cause everything C. Who gave even it hurts. The true giver knows that giving is a tide that raises all ships

This podcast is dedicated to Sylvester Oromoni the young boy that was bullied till death, it is devastating for his parents and everyone because we are still asking how did children became this brutal. Sylvester deserves justice this is what his father has to say about the incident, this is so painful "My son told me he was tortured by senior students who also forced him to drink a substance right inside Dowen College, Lekki, hostel" - father of late #SylvesterOromoni Jnr "They entered his room, switched off the light and threatened to kill the other students who witnessed what they did to my son." Oromoni Jr was 12. Dowen College in Lekki area of Lagos blamed his death on injuries suffered while playing football. Following public outcry, the school announced that it would temporarily shut its doors and reopen next week as exams are scheduled to start soon. But the Lagos State Government has ordered the school to be shut down until the education ministry and relevant authorities conclude a probe into Oromoni Jnr's death.

Prayer For The New Month  Hello everyone pls join me as I welcome pastor Joseph Mukoro of the faith power Christain center here in Port Harcourt  as we all know today is the last day of the month and tomorrow is the beginning of a new month, my goodness December is here already, God is indeed faithful, he has protected us in unimaginable ways pastor Mukoro is here to start our new month with some life-changing, testimony filling prayers, and as you listen may you be blessed be blessed  thank you so much sir God bless you, you know in a time like this when a lot of people are worried, and giving up ,  a lot of people are exhausted in their mind and body  this will really go a long way to lift up their spirit once again I say thank you, sir, thanks for joining me here  and please to you my listeners follow pastor Joseph Mukoro on Instagram, Facebook and TikTok for more inspiring messages talk to again on real-life talk with Blessing 

African woman as I see it African womanhood as I see it The African/ Nigerian women is beautiful, hardworking, talented, industrious but limited, Limited by religion, limited by tradition, limited my upbringing,.. Nigeria as I know it is a very traditional and religious country You know the African girl child was practically groomed for marriage, to respect a man, to take care of a man, she was taught to take care of her kids and protect her home at all cost , but deep down I keep asking myself why isn't anyone teaching the African man to do the same? Aren't they both humans who will grow up and become adults ? a lot of African women weren't groomed for career , they weren't groomed for independence.. a lot grew up to be dependent on a man I have seen a lot of women living with a man who cheats who abuse her , mentally and emotionally and she will still be with him because of financial dependence or what her family will say .. There is a lot A lot of women I have spoken to really want to leave their bad marriages, but when I ask why do you still allow him treat you like this, you will hear her say blessing you know I don't have a job, how will I take cate of my children.. so a lot of times they are in sad marriages One thing we need to know is We have to start teaching our daughters better That mentality of depending on a man should end , A woman should know she can work hard and give herself the good life that she wants A lot of us grew up with the mentality of depending on a man , we were just groomed for marriage, we were not groomed to be career women, You hear worlds like with all your education you will end up in a mans kitchen, A young lady will be taught how to cook how to clean and no one is teaching the men how to do the same , You will see a Pregnat woman standing for hrs making meals for her family while the husband might just be watching a movie or pressing his phone.. when I was pregnant a lot of time I just wanted a little help to make me feel relieved, a lot of women needs that, I think that is why a lot of women now look older than their husbands, just saying. I am happy the women are changing, they are speaking up, a lot are beginning to see their potentials I am a proud African, I am proud of my culture, but a lot of African culture should be dropped, they are not helping..

Tips to save a relationship. Maybe this is why your relationship isn't working How do you save your dying relationship? Is your communication skill bad and you don't know what to do? Are you talking instead of communicating? Are people afraid to talk to you because of your bad attitude? When you hear love what comes to your mind? Listen to this episode and learn something interesting and use it for all kinds of relationship. When people hear relationship, the first thing that comes to mind is man and woman. Relationship isn't only about a man and a woman, there is relationship between father and children, mother and children, brother and sister, relationship between extended family also.. this here is the little I have learnt which I want to share, personally I use this with my children, I communicate with them, and I give them the opportunity to communicate with me also.. in the past I didn't know children should have their own voice. So today I am sharing this with everyone and you should use this in dealing with everyone even ur spouse.

My wife can not cook. How a man should tell his wife if her cooking is bad. Hello everyone welcome to real life talk with blessing , today is gonna be very interesting cos we have a very interesting topic to talk about, if this is your first time joining this show pls don't forget to subscribe and share with your friends So I invited some very experienced married people so we can talk about this because this topic has actually destroyed a lot of marriages, you will hear things like she said , he said So today we need to talk about it and how to handle situations like this I am your humble host KingB my guest: Ese Okey Tari Brenda 1: So today we are asking the men If your wife's cooking is bad will you tell her ? 2: And how will you tell her .. 3: And the woman how would you like to be told if your cooking is bad .. To the men 1: How do you want to be told if your sexual performance no enter ? 2: To the women in the house how should a woman tell her man if he doesn't perform well sexually 3: To the woman if your husband doesn't perform well sexually will you tell him.

This driver is a kidnapper Please this is more like a public announcement Please as a parent or guardian before you employ a domestic staff make sure you do a proper background check on them Recently I went shopping and a lady caught her driver go through her phone that she left in the back seat of her car while she went into the supermarket to shop. This lady was so mad because she said she was kidnapped and she paid millions to gain her freedom So in such situations what would you do to such driver ? And also listen to a man share his story about his sisters driver that planned the kidnap of her 3 kids , despite how good the last was to the driver and his family, So please whatever you do make sure you get the right information about your domestic staff I want to be happy to see anybody I know be a victim of such wicked deed My advice to you is please do a proper background check and get a police report if possible.. Thank you for joining me on this episode of real life talk with Blessing

A bad attitude can spoil the image of your business So I was going to drop my son off at school and we drove pass a furniture store and I was giving him gist of how I was treated the day I went to the shop for furniture I left in anger because of the bad attitude of the sales person This is why I say a bad attitude can spoil the image of your business mind the kind of people you employ another thing is them trainings You know this is one thing that the westerners will always use in their business they don't care who you are so far you entered their business premises they treat you with the courtesy you see them smile , they greet you politely ask you what you want , even if you don't want to buy they still treat you well It is so heartbreaking that you enter a business place and the sales person is giving you attitude, weighing you by your looks to see if you can afford what they sell or not , some will sit down and be looking at you going around and round and and will not even bother to ask you what you need So as a business owner you should invest in giving your staff trainings let them know what Customer Service means remember you won't be there all the time, you won't know how they treat your customers, you won't know how they treat the people who come in contact with your business You see the reception is the face of the business so please give your staff trainings talk to them about how their attitude can spoil your business Let me give you an instant I once worked with a company M and B in this company they have different sections , they have paints and they have furniture section so I was the business development manager for the clothing section so one day a guy got down from a taxi all this alone taxi , walked into the premises As there's a cctv so we normally see everyone who comes and goes So when this guy got to the door my junior workers were like ma don't open the door, this one that drop from along he can't buy anything here .. see how he is Well I won't blame them the place is a high brand shop for only designers collection. But me being an experienced business developer I know we don't judge by the looks .. billionaires sometimes look like a regular person So I went ahead and opened the door , and gave him a big smile , in my words hello sir how may I be of help to you This guy took a deep breath and replied MADAM PLS DRESS ME UP I swear I wasn't expecting that at all , so I took him round asked what was the occasion and behold our guy that got down from alone taxi spent 475k naira.. he paid and he said madam because of you I will be coming here all the time You see the attitude is what gives the business an image .. imagine if I was rude or saucy that guy will spread his experience A happy customer tells 10 people And unhappy customer tells 100 people I hope you all learnt something and use it to improve your businesses and career. Cause a lot of people are not getting promoted because of their attitude to their job Change this and thank me later Anyway thanks again and again for always turning on real life talk with blessing Don't forget to share this for everyone to learn .. have a nice day

Life is in stages, we leave one particular phase to the other In life we grow. My daughter just graduated from primary school and got admitted into secondary school, and we got talking about how great it has being and I used it to analyze life and how the stages of growth You know in life we grow Stage by stage you know a lot of times people want to skip the stages but it doesn't work that way because at every category there is something to learn To every parents I want to say a big thank you for being there for your children for providing for them for making out time to be with them I know every child is grateful even though some of them can't express how they feel what you're really grateful and please matter how the child is doing academically support the child To every child out there we are proud of you, You are doing an amazing job and I know u will do better. In life we all must go through a process and the process is to grow. In life you go through stages for growth Thanks for listening I am really grateful to all my listener I appreciate everyone of my listener all over the globe.

Is your child ? You need to listen to this Welcome to another episode with me on real like with talk with Blessing Let me share this with you based on request from a listener in Kenya , he said he lost his son to cerebral palsy, it's a kind of cancer , He said he wants me to share his story and use it to talk to other people who are probably going through a hard time with a sick child or a child with disability.. to encourage them because it is not an easy journey, he said to there is still hope of you have faith So I asked him how he coped , and he said truthfully the stigmatization alone can push a person into depression , he said when he went out out with child, ppl use to look at him like he wore cancer on his body, I actually can relate to that , This man in question was a single father to a sick child , I can't imagine how he had to deal with that phase of his life , well life is a teacher he said you know how it is cancer is an expensive sickness , and nobody to help He lost the child eventually and said pls he would love to encourage someone through this platform, pls don't give up God didn't leave you, your faith will speak testimony for u I told him my my story too son had a health challenge which was scoliosis, (which is a topic I am going to teach about soon on this podcast) you know nothing as painful as seeing a child who you gave birth to, who was very ok, physically and suddenly something comes up and the doctors tell you it's this is the issue It destabilizes you, it puts you in a state of confusion , because you don't know how this happened , you will start asking god why me? At first I was confused, I was scattered, I was depressed # When I came to realize god was for me I realize it was a lesson , it was a story , it was a life god wanted me to use to talk to others who would go thru that situation or something similar in life like a child who is sick Like a child who is autistic A child who is blind A child who has Down syndrome A child who is disabled A child who is handicapped A child who is going through phase and the parents are somewhere saying oh god I am confused The truth is every child has their story , every child has its life I know it's painful , I know it's devastating to see a child who you have birth to , a child that was looking so fine , so healthy and everyone was saying wow this child is gonna do good and big things , I know the feeling I know the trauma when you have a child who has a health challenge, I know exactly how it feels , I remember sometimes I am driving and I see young boys who are tall and straight walking on the road , sometimes I just bust out crying and say to myself God why do I have to go thru this, because at that time my son was bending to one side , which was as a result of the scoliosis so I know what I am saying when i tell you I know how it feels when ur child is having a challenge. someone, I really want to use my platform to speak to ppl To give them hope to encourage them I might not have money all the time do help ppl , but there is nothing as good as words of encouragement Pls if you have a friend whose child is going through a health challenge, reach out to them, encourage them, pray for them it's not easy .. They might look like that are not going through anything, but trust me a lot of time they need encouragement for that child , Instead of gossiping about the child , or spreading rumor about the child, or some ppl will start announcing to other like this (do you know that my friend pikin get this kind sickness?) call them tell them my friend god will give you strength, god is there for you , it is well with you , don't worry god will take care of this child.

A Single mother's struggle Hello everyone welcome to another episode with me on real life talk with blessing Today I am talking to single mothers, and maybe my next edition I will talk to single fathers There seems to be this stigma that goes with being a single mother, some people make it look like a plaque, OH SHE DIDNT MARRY, na wa ooo, are you sure she even knows the father of the child? Can the society stop this ? Can people stop this Being a single mother is a choice , a choice she had to make for herself and her child or children Some of this women were raped and they ended up pregnant and still decided not to abort the child despite the pain they had to go through, they saw something good in their situation and embraced it. I have to say this , There is a lady I know who is a single mother, she was married and the husband left her immediately she had a child who had Down syndrome, and she always complains to me me BLESSING PEOPLE BLAME ME FOR BEING A SINGLE MOM, and she said sometimes she wonders how is this my fault.. Please we all as humans need to do better and stop this castigating, stop the discrimination. Especially our fellow women na we do am pass Stop it . So today I am talking to single mothers and I want them to give us an insight to how the world see being a single mother Welcome to the show my dear , first I am gonna say how did you become a single mother? Do you get any emotional support from family and friends? What's your biggest struggle about being a single mother? What do you think is some of the misconception people have about being a mother, a young single mom for that matter What are the things you think people should stop saying about single mothers? What advice do you have single mothers who are struggling to make ends meet ? Single mothers pls take care of yourself, stay positive always , don't feel guilty for anything Remember to praise your child and help your child know what to expect on the journey of life Give the single mother or father a break, mind ur own life and mind ur business, how they got to that point isn't your business.. and to every single mother I applaud you, I know it's not easy doing the job of two parents, may God keep you to enjoy the fruit of your labour What a single parent want to hear is You are doing great Your kids will be fine You will be ok You are enough Single moms are often faced with tough challenges, specific to raising a child on their own But study has shown that single moms are just as happy and married women or even better than married woman , that's after research was done , no be me talk am ooo

This took a lot of emotion from me to say this But I call a spade a spade because a lot of marriages are still damaging their child/children mentally and emotionally I had to take some self development courses to realize how much damage I would have done to my children at the end of the day, in life we all face challenges, but every one has their limit to pain and anguish Growing up I didn't experience love n affection as a family and I really wanted that badly for my children, and not getting it made me frustrated like I was living in my past.. You as a parent going through a bad time in your marriage or career and it's pushing you to the level where you pour it on your child? Take a deep breath and relax, I speak today because I know a lot of marriages that still do this to their children, please stop it and work with your partner, let's stop the circle of abused adults.. a circle of men and women who were abused verbally and emotionally because of what their father did or what their mother did .. People say hide what you are going through, that is how depression started.. please parents we can help our children to be better adults Are you a single mother who is going through the pain of abandonment ? Or are u a single father going through the pain of caring for the child alone? Please think of the innocence of the child and help them grow up without the violence and abuse .. the truth is a child never forgets and how you treat them mold them for the future God bless you

Hello my amazing llisteners this is real life talk the show of reality Do you or your family have a spine or brain problem ? We have a lot to learn about our health , from this interview Today we have a medical icon on the show , a man whose passion for his work is so intriguing I call him the magic hand of God he is a neurologist The md brain and spine specialist Abuja here in Nigeria Dr Biodun Ogungbo Welcome to the show sir I personally want to know and I am sure my listeners too would be interested to know What made you choose brain and spine and not other kinds of medicine.. because I know that is your specialty What was ur passion to become a brain and spine surgeon , When do you think people should seek help for their brain, because I had a friend who died from brain hemorrhage , is that something that can be operated on? Now let's talk about the one that interest me the most. SCOLIOSIS!!! a lot of people especially Nigerians don't know anything about this please can you educate us on scoliosis because now a lot of children seem to be having the symptoms and some people don't know what to do and a lot of them don't know where to go to , you know I have always been an ambassador for your work because I have had firsthand experience Do you think scoliosis could affect a child's mental health ? I mean do you think it could affect them psychologically ? Does scoliosis affects the internal organs ? like the lungs the kidneys the hearts I know it actually curves the rib cage you know cause from my son own I noticed his rib bones were almost changing shapes before you did his surgery What about people with stroke? Is there hope for them at BASS ? you know my dad actually has stroke so I have always been thinking is this something he can recover from does he need any kind of surgery is that something you can educate us about And I am sure our young listeners would love to know how the journey to being a brain and spine dr was .. was it fun all the way ? Did you ever have any challenges in your choice of career ? what motivated you to come back to Nigeria What are your ultimate goals for Dr Ogunbo I heard you have a new place now in port harcourt where you can meet with patients who might not want to travel to abuja , can you pls give us an insight about the new place So some of my audience sent in different questions for you because I had to let them know I was expecting you on the show .. 1: Does the brain have a part to play in insomnia 2: What are natural way to exercise the brain for optimum performance 3: How can we adjust our sitting position for the health of the spine 4: Does lower back pain indicate undue pressure to the spine 5: How can we strengthen our spine as we age 6: What healthy habits can we begin as we age to protect the vitality of our brain in all sincerity I had a first-hand experience with this doctor , he was the one who operated my son that I've been talking about you know, the hospital is one of the best I've never seen , it was like a visit to a hotel

This thing called marriage Man want's his wife back after he divorced her, This thing called marriage If you don't do anything in this life Always pray to marry right, marriage now seem like the weapon of destruction for a lot of men and women, families torn apart , children's life destroyed, hearts broken .. and you will ask your self how did we get to this , how did we get to this level.. you will wonder how a man who was doting over you and was trying to win your attention and love when you were single now doesn't give a damn about you.. It still surprises me how marriages get to that level, did the love die? Did he stop seeing the things that used to be there? Was there really love in the first place? How will a man marry a woman and decide to torture her emotionally and make her go thru so much pain… I know people say men suffer emotionally in marriages too, but I can categorically say it is more for women.. is marriage ever gonna be a joyful thing like a lot of ppl dream it should be? I say this because I went to see my friend who is a barrister, I went to do an affidavit and she took me round the secretariat , and we talked and I realized more and more marriages are breaking daily Do you know when she took me to the screen where they displayed cases , out of 10 cases 6 were divorce cases.. my heart broke.. this took me to a friend whose husband woke up after more than 20yrs of marriage with 4 kids he said he wanted a divorce cos he met a young girl of 22yrs … oh how my friend cried and wept , she was heart broken, she said blessing this man took my youth where do I start from.. but I am so grateful because the court ruled in her favor and she was handsomely rewarded for the wasted years… And after years the man has spent with his new young wife he is begging my friend to accept him back, that it was a mistake ! who does that ? She went through hell to get her heart back in one Piece and now u want to come and destroy the one she has put together because now she looks better than she was when he left her Listen a woman is not a dumping ground for badly behaved men.. Hello woman have you be heart broken, are u still putting the pieces of your heart together from the betrayal and lies , from the emotional torture and the cheating and disappointment he put you thru.. In all sincerity I know how heartbreaking it is for the one who promised to be there for you, to love you and treat you right to be the one who stabbed you the most .. trust me you will heal just give yourself time, you are stronger than you think and believe me it is not the end of the world .. I know the years you wasted is never gonna come back but remember it was for a lesson and experience of life .. be strong my queen .. And to the men, you can't be married and single at the same time, if you can't be a husband please leave the woman alone for the right man to see her and treat her like the queen that she is , don't go into someone's life with the intention to damage them.. Thanks for your time with me here do have an amazing week ahead Talk to you again on real life talk with blessing The voice with a purpose, you can check out more of my podcast on purposefulvoice.com and listen to many more interesting stories..

Are our leaders for us or against us in Nigeria Which way Nigeria I was born over 40yrs ago in Nigeria I experienced going to Sch with slates and chalks , I experienced sitting on the bare floor in a class room without tables or chairs And just yesterday I saw a picture online of a school in rivers state where some children were in school without a roof and they sat on the bare floor , I remember those when I use to say in the nearest years Nigeria will be like London .. I was just angry, as in wtf , how can something that happen led over 40yrs ago still happen that means the country is undeveloped , A country so rich and yet so poor A country with all the good resources that God has blessed us with has suddenly become our greatest nightmare A country that lacks good education is heading for destruction because the minds of the illiterate will be manipulated, Lack of good education is heading for doom And this politicians know this that is why they want that side of the development dead.. they send their children abroad and kill the system here .. Let me tell you something sins and satan isn't the problem of us humans , what God hates most is ignorance The other day I read in the news osibanjo said Nigerians should be praying , that the dark cloud will soon give way for a new Nigeria , is it prayer we came to do on earth ? If someone is praying not for things that we a know shouldn't be there in the first place Look at the level of insecurity Look at the killings Look at the kidnapping Look at the education sector, the hostels look like open prisons Look at our hospitals university we call federal university, See the level of poverty and hunger A place where the police is now ur biggest fear cos you don't know if they are for u or against you… God when will all this end !!! I remember my husband said something and In my head I was like abi this guy dey kolo , he said the north was the best place to go to Sch that if he had his way he would have sent our kids there , in my head I was like abi this guy no dey live for this naija ? Abi him get amnesia

A woman's friend Is a woman's enemy This world is deep story loading soon on my podcast this life how can a friend poison her friend that accommodated her, how can you be that wicked to let jealousy make you go that far? someone who open door make you enter her house. So this is for all my young ladies out there all my young ladies especially why am I saying all my young ladies because a lot of times your enemy is your friend So I went to one estate here in port harcourt to sell some of my hair care products so when I got there, I met one lady whose sister is in the hospital because her sister was poisoned by her friend who she tried to help after a breakup. A woman's friend Is a woman's enemy You see this life, just be very careful with the people you surround yourself with , imagine out of jealousy a friend made her friend trend with the tag that the babe ha HIV This life one has to be careful What if that girl committed suicide because of that viral gist about her having HIV? If na death na so the girl for don die Thank God the girl is strong enough to face it, some people who are not emotionally strong would break down , some people were scared that she might even commit suicide.. I was so worried until a friend sent me her video when she went to the hospital to do test that she was HIV negative

CONFIDE IN A FEW I said because God is the source of my testimony not the church Someone once said, "Even a fish wouldn't get caught if it kept its mouth shut." Confidentiality is a gift to be shared in the privacy of prayer or with an intercessor, mentor or counselor that God has assigned to your life. Never share your troubles, your dreams, ideas and your plans with anyone unqualified to help you. Don't consult with anyone from the circle of people that God is trying to pull you out of. Confide only in people who are living or once lived the life you desire to live. Anyone who doesn't know where you're going cannot give you credible directions to get you there. Do not feed the shallow minds of the curious common who are incapable of adding value to your life. Elevate or deepen your conversations to a level that is beyond the comprehension of the itching ears of the curious common. Sharing big ideas with small mind-minded people is a sure way to invite unnecessary discouragement. A deep conversation with a shallow-minded person is a sheer waste of time. Dreams, just like eggs, incubate in silent and solitude places. Don't be fooled, dreams and ideas can be stolen. That is why no egg or pregnancy is transparent. People have to keep wondering until the idea is finally hatched and the dream is finally realized. Big dreamers grind in silence and let the results speak for themselves. Behind every overnight success story are countless hours of silent planning, strategizing and brainstorming. " The prudent keep their knowledge to themselves, but a fool's heart blurts out folly." (Proverbs 12:23)

Acid bath /control your temper Such a shame that a girl will go to jail because of boyfriend.. father lord may my children not be useless .. the things some young girls do is shocking. Story story , story once upon a time! Time!! time!!! , so there was a guy who lived three houses away from us The guy's name was Mattew Only child of his parents Very hot tempered Went to jail , because of his temperament He gave someone his bicycle and when he went to collect it the man said his balance was 300 naira that's how Mattew got angry He is a mechanic, and known in that area , one day myself and my younger ones were sitting outside when we say him run pass and the next thing he ran pass again with this small gallon, we live close to the main road those days, so after awhile we saw him running half naked , we were so scared because my mother had gone to the market, we ran inside the house, not more than 1 hour police started looking for Mattew , we heard his mom screaming, Mattew has killed me oo Mattew has killed me ooo Then me cos I am the oldest I came out to find out what was happening, that's when I saw police dragging him by his trousers , they hit him with ballot , I now went there ooo, found out that that gallon Mattew carried when he ran pass our house was acid , he poured acid on the bicycle repairer , Jesus , Jesus was what I was screaming at that my young age ooo. All I could say was this uncle Mattew and his hot temper , we all know him on our street and everyone avoided his wahala because of his temperament.. I ran home to tell my younger ones the gist and that was our bed night story .. Mattew was arrested and jailed , for many years his mother wept , the pain killed his father , the mother was still going to see him in prison, cos those day she will come to my mom for some encouragement and money .. and the woman would say to my mom “my sister because I get only one pikin I fear to tell am the truth” you know he had this devilish temper and because he is the only child and she really suffered before she had him, she didn't want him to feel bad or get angry at all, always petting him , you know how some women can be .. petting children till they rotten Anyway the woman died after some years, by the time brother Mattew came out from jail he was so old , no family no friend because the man he poured acid on died from that incident, so everyone saw him like an outcast.. brother Mattew died two yrs after release from prison, I know it's a sad story , but it it's something I use to relate to the one I saw yesterday where a girl poured acid on another girl because she is talking to her boyfriend, what kind of madness is that, who born all this kind children God of mercy, and the brother Mattew story just flashed through my mind .. why will you jeopardized your life over a boyfriend.. Parents pls talk to your children, their decision can affect their life in a good or bad way so they have to make the right decisions at every point in life… If your child is doing the wrong thing it is your job to correct them, tell them the implications of their habits.. It's so sad, believe me the girl will realize it when it's already too late , inside prison she go cry blood because the boy wey make u pour another girl acid go dey with another girl, make una dey wise abeg… I hope we all learnt something today and control our temperament.. may God help us all Talk to you next week on real life talk with blessing