Sex Stories

Adam (53 non-monogamous het recently single cis male from NYC) comes on to share how he was pulled into wild and kinky New York City culture by the woman he fell in love with. We learn what it's like to be a dude who's a threesome magnet, about his high sex drive, love of being objectified, and how he's learned to discover each new partner's personal pleasure patterns. Adam shares lessons from his experiences with adult parties, non-monogamy, anal play, prostate massage, how he has developed a good relationship with his own nurturing masculinity, and he introduces Wyoh steam showers.

Dr. Amber Hull (44 cis queer F physician in private practice who is a solo-polyamorous free agent) returns to share how she's revamping sex ed, cultivating honest conversations about healthy human sexuality with clients, and supporting them wherever they are in their journey through her Confidential Consults. She shares stories of teaching fellow doctors and adults the latest in sexual health and safety practices in her Sex Ed Reboot online class, DoxyPEP details, tells us what a joy friend is, normalizing ethical non-monogamy, equipping kids to enforce their boundaries and negotiate what they want, and why you should get vaccinated against HPV. Original Episode from August 2023 | Erotic Audacity, Wellness & Luxury: Dr Amber's Stories

Wyoh shares updates and answers listener emails & questions. 01:01 Wyoh's January Recap + Podcast Updates 17:25 February Bucket List Wishes 29:37 Lovely Listener Messages 29:46 Camera shy—how do I get comfy in front of the camera? 47:08 My partner shoots me down, what do I do? 58:27 Am I really straight? 1:04:55 Why doesn't Wyoh talk about her work more? 1:09:17 Anti-vacuum sex ed 1:12:39 Listener celebrations!!! ⚡️WORK WITH WYOH | Explore (y)our creativity wyohlee.com/links 

Amy Baldwin—half the duo behind the awesome Shameless Sex podcast—joins Wyoh to talk about: How she always wins as a subby brat Topping from the bottom A moment of erotic epiphany  Being straight is real  The cool and hard parts of ENM partnership Successfully navigating dating apps, group sex and sex parties,  The process of co-writing the Shameless Sex book with her co-host April spank bank fantasies

Amy (30's white cis F straight non-monogamous, partnered, submissive brat) comes on to share about her love of receiving, oral, sensual Domination, and her tried-and-true method of drive-by-Daddying. We learn through stories of how she always wins in a power dynamic, bratty topping from the bottom, a moment of erotic epiphany, how being straight is real, the cool and hard parts of ENM partnership, successfully navigating dating apps, group sex and sex parties, the process of co-writing the Shameless Sex book with her co-host April, and her go-to fantasies, and what it's like to be a sex & relationship coach, educator, pleasure boutique owner, and podcaster.

Mercedes (19 white nonbinary queer partnered switch) returns to discuss D/s dynamics, strap-ons, exhibitionism, and oviposition. We learn through stories of their gender journey, favorite parts of partners to play with, navigating discomfort and jealousy in an open relationship, literotica sessions, favorite new toys with straps and vibrations, kink, car sex and mattress dreams. Original Episode: 202 | Three-Way Switch Play & Forest Fun: Mercedes' Stories ⚡️WORK WITH WYOH | Explore (y)our creativity wyohlee.com/links 

Mercedes returns to share about their gender journey, favorite ways to play with balls, navigating discomfort and jealousy in an open relationship, literotica sessions with their girlfriend, favorite new toys with straps and vibrations, mattress dreams, kink, and car sex. Original Episode: 202 | Three-Way Switch & Forest Play: Mercedes' Sex Stories

Fancy Feast joins Wyoh to celebrate the nuances of dialogue that her book is inspiring. She shares about teaching masturbation to fellow campers as a teen, helping a friend give a handjob, instructing blowjob workshops, burlesque and how she crafts performances, phone sex, diving into the world of robot fetishists, nun and religious play, cucks, subs, power play, candle wax, rope play, and biting.

Fancy Feast (35 queer poly white Jewish cis F) comes on to share what it's like being a burlesque performer, sex educator, and the writer of Naked: On Sex, Work, and Other Burlesques. We learn through stories of being a phone sex operator, working in a sex shop, the nuances of robot fetishes, nun and religious play, experiences with candle wax, rope play, and biting, and what she finds interesting about cuckolds, submission and power exchange.

Casey tells Wyoh all about nude camping, her OnlyFans adventures, and what it's like co-hosting a podcast with her husband while rediscovering hot details from her past relationships. Original Episode from November 2022 | Hotwife with a Double Vaginal Creampie Fantasy: Casey Donatello's Sex Stories

Casey (41 straight cis F Hotwife in a Stag-Vixen marriage) returns to share how she has been educating people about the mental and emotional aspects of being in the Lifestyle, and we learn through stories of the evolution of her online offerings, the difference between nudist and swinger camping, how co-hosting a podcast her husband is bringing them closer than ever, and she and Wyoh discuss what and how to share sex-related work things with family members.

Jupiter (30's white cis F non-monogamous bisexual pansexual kinky switch sw) comes on to share about being a legal courtesan and adult performer, and we learn through stories of stripping, being trained by Dungeon ProDommes, industry-standard STI practices, the health-and-safety procedures at the legal brothel where she works, what it was like to grow up up in an almost-cult, half-naked fundraising, plus thoughts on impact play, whips, stranger sex, what it was like to have personal firsts captured on camera, the magic of scissoring, being mean for money, her outrageous natural talent, what it's like to meet fans in person at Sheri's Ranch and expos, and the art of fantasy fulfillment.

Jupiter Jetson joins Wyoh to share about being trained by other Dominants at BDSM dungeons, STI testing practices in the sex industry, dick checks at the brothel, growing up in an almost-cult, her half-naked fundraising, impact play, single-tail whipping, European singing adventures, stranger sex, acting in professional porn, working at a legal brothel, her first DP on camera, the magic of scissoring, being mean for money, being outrageously wet, meeting fans at the brothel, and fulfilling first-time fantasies.

Wyoh and Kimberly do updates, listener emails and reflect on FIVE YEARS OF SEX STORIES!!! 04:29 Wyoh's December Recap 08:28 OnlyFans & Patreon Updates 10:21 Sexy Book Club 13:05 Five Years of Sex Stories: Learnings & Noodles 22:49 January Bucket List Targets 26:11 Lovely Listener Messages 26:21 Vacuum Kink followup with details + favorite brands for vacuum jobs 30:49 Where can a masochistic bratty sub leaning switch find community? 36:37 Stag or cuck and how do I come out as kinky? 51:52 Geke (from Episode 172) writes in about sexy arthritis and a calendar of homemade pictures 53:57 Listener celebrations!!! 59:31 From Terrible to Irresistible Invitations: Wyoh deep dives on how to get a YES

Wyoh and Kimberly do updates, listener emails and reflect on FIVE YEARS OF SEX STORIES!!! 04:29 Wyoh's December Recap 08:28 OF & Patreon Updates 10:21 Sexy Learnings Book Club 13:05 Five Years of Sex Stories: Learnings & Noodles 22:49 January Bucket List Targets 26:11 Lovely Listener Messages 26:21 Vacuum Kink followup + favorite brands for vacuum jobs 30:49 Where can a masochistic bratty sub leaning switch find community? 36:37 Stag or cuck and how do I come out as kinky? 51:52 Geke (from Episode 171) writes in about sexy arthritis and a calendar of homemade pictures 53:57 Listener celebrations!!! 59:31 From Terrible to Irresistible Invitations: Wyoh deep dives on how to get a YES ⚡️WORK WITH WYOH | Explore (y)our creativity wyohlee.com/links 

Alex (29 single gay cis male) returns to discuss taking a break from Grindr to look for love, new explorations with anal play, and noodles with Wyoh on being our full selves with our parents and what satisfying connection in a love relationship might look like. Original Episode from July 2021 | Bite-Loving Bisexual: Alex's Sex Stories ⚡️WORK WITH WYOH | Explore (y)our creativity wyohlee.com/links 

Alex and Wyoh talk about being their full selves with their parents, taking a break from Grindr to look for love, new anal explorations, and noodle on what satisfying connection in a love relationship might look like. Original Episode from July 2021 | Bite-Loving Bisexual: Alex's Sex Stories

Tom (56 white male bisexual, mental Dom) comes on to share how he facilitates deep subspace for his submissive and what he's learned about cross-dressing, swinging, floggers, and anal play. We learn through stories of how he builds gentle sensuality with his Dominant practices, the difference between having sex vs making love, the divide between a submissive and a lover–and when that line blurs, and he talks about auto fellatio (not to be confused with auto-fellatio). ⚡️WORK WITH WYOH | Explore (y)our creativity wyohlee.com/links 

Tom joins Wyoh and tells her about building gentle sensuality, the difference between fucking and making love, his knack for spanking, road head, swinging, his first submissive, floggers, his Dom practices, exploring different subspaces, wearing stockings and panties and schoolgirl skirts, and butt stuff. He also gives details about the divide between a submissive and a lover and when that line blurs.

How can I be a statistic? A data analyst in all aspects of life, Veronica can orgasm from pretty much anything. She tells Wyoh about a bar to kitchen to couch threesome, making out with multiple people at the same time, watching people getting fucked, exploring kink, being a switch in threesomes, fucking herself with her toys, and hooking up with someone 40+ years older than her. Veronica enjoys shame, experimenting, being fingered, squirting, being touched and touching at the same time, nipple orgasms, flogging, edging, and aftercare. She looks forward to exploring solo with ladies and indulging in her exhibitionism.

Veronica (21 pansexual woman, non-monogamous, partnered for 3 years long distance, kinky data analyst in the midwest) comes on to discuss threesomes (& more-somes), voyeurism, anal play, and giving cunnilingus. We learn through stories of simultaneous multiple makeout partners, exploring her voyeuristic curiosity, kinky switching, three-ways, her favorite toys, and real-life age play with a partner over four decades her senior. Veronica shares insights and opinions on shame, experimenting, touch and being touched, nipple sensitivity, orgasms, impact play, edging, and aftercare. She plans to explore her curiosity experimenting solo with ladies and practicing some exhibitionism. ⚡️WORK WITH WYOH | Explore (y)our creativity wyohlee.com/links 

Neptune updates Wyoh on how their self-love journey has led to getting back into dating and sex: embracing being sexy, kinky fucking two days after connecting on apps and all the hot sexting and voice memos involved, cumming on top, dirty talking, edging, and more orgasms than he can count. Original Episode from December 2022 | Sucking, Begging & Everything Inside Me: Neptune's Sex Stories

Neptune (24 transmasc queer latino, partnered and dating separately, tattoo apprentice) returns to share how their self-love journey has led to getting back into dating and sex. We learn through stories of embracing self-confidence, kinky connection two days after meeting on apps, hot communication, being on top, verbal foreplay, edging, and new heights of pleasure.

Nova (21 kinky genderfluid polysexual person, in a partnered poly relationship for 2 years) comes on to share what they've learned about BDSM, breeding kinks, puppy and anal play.  We learn through their stories of being a twitter Dom, making a Dungeon's & Dragons personal adult film, six inch heels that inspired their Domination journey, being a bratty submissive and getting teased for an hour, anal education, hentai inspirations, and Locktober. Nova is excited to explore exhibitionism, group play with their partner, and expanding their polycule.

How does one “count” a squirt? What's the most Canadian way to meet a partner? Is a foursome a good Christmas gift? Nova is a nerdy OnlyFans muse and creator who is kinky, polysexual, and genderfluid. Nova and Wyoh deep dive on shame and have a brief discussion of sexual assault (18:05-21:53). They share about being a dom on twitter, making a sexy Dungeon's & Dragons sex tape, how awesome it is to fuck a big person, their sexuality, how six inch heels inspired their domination journey, being a bratty submissive and getting teased for an hour, anal dildo explorations and hentai inspirations, key holding for their partner's chastity, and Locktober. Nova is excited to explore exhibitionism (hello more OnlyFans content!), group sex with their partner, and expanding their polycule.

Milla was born to talk about sexual health–she spent her adolescence figuring out how and now her dreams are coming true as the Marketing & Communications director for ONE Condoms. She tells Wyoh about being the first person people talk openly with about sex, helping people overcome penis anxiety, condom fashion shows, her dreams for a new-age glory hole, and gets nerdy about condom manufacturing, sustainability, and the newest in condom technology. Milla introduces Wyoh to how she can measure a penis for the perfect fitting condom with MyONE® Custom Fit™, the best way to celebrate Measure A Penis Day, and how hot (literally) the ONE® Flex™ condom is.

Milla (Marketing & Communications director for the sponsor of this episode: ONE Condoms) comes on to share about MyONE Custom Fit and FLEX One Condoms and being in the sex industry for 14 years. She shares how she's learned through open conversations about sex, how she's helping people overcome penis anxiety, talks about condom fashion shows, her dreams for a new-age glory hole, and she gets nerdy about condom manufacturing, sustainability, and the newest in condom technology. Milla educates Wyoh on how she can measure a penis for the perfect fitting condom with MyONE® Custom Fit™, the best way to celebrate Measure A Penis Day, and how hot (literally) the ONE® Flex™ condom is.

Jenna shares how she's been helping people find rope joy by educating in her local kink scene: teaching rope classes, body education, and chaotic topping. Recently she came out as gay and she gives us an update on her forthcoming book–Anthology of a Slut–and how it's now morphed into two separate works. Jenna also shares juicy details about a cathartic blasphemy party. Original Episode from August 2022 | Anthology of a Switch: Jenna's Sex Stories

Jenna (29 gay Jewish solo-poly top-leaning switch) returns to share how she's been helping people find rope joy by educating in her local kink scene: teaching rope classes, body education, and chaotic topping. Jenna gives an update on her forthcoming book—Anthology of a Slut—and its evolution into two separate projectss, and shares juicy details about a cathartic blasphemy party. Original Episode from August 2022 | Anthology of a Switch: Jenna's Stories

It's a November of unexpected bucket list triumphs for Wyoh: fisting, cock-slapping, reiki, a hottie on the street, a longed-for threesome, and some exciting announcements + December goals. Kimberly joins for listener shares & questions. 00:00 Intro 00:53 Wyoh's November of Bucket List Surprises 04:11 Wyoh's Going to Grad School! 07:11 Celebration! Possible Sponsor 08:39 A Guide to Irresistible Invitations 09:40 December Bucket List Targets 10:53 Strap-On Sex 12:12 Sex Stories Retreats! 15:05 Reorganizing the Bucket List 15:54 Foot Fetish Date 17:01 Sex Shop Toy Roulette 17:50 Wyoh's Wishlist 18:38 Playboy Playsploration 19:24 Slutty Holiday Roleplay 22:42 Photo Voyeur 27:37 December Offerings & a Domestic Submissive 30:20 Renaming Sex Stories? 34:29 December Targets Wrap-Up + Invitation Application 36:06 Email Time! Listener Stories 36:27 Closeted Sissy: a mutual masturbation with ass plugs and a gay question! 41:37 Lacy Thong Ass Fucking: Matt from Episode 93 | A Unicorn with an Actual Horn writes in about a secret rendezvous with a borrowed thong, lots of lube, and a vigorous dicking down! 53:29 Earmuff Fetish Details 1:02:01 What *is* healing erotic art? How exactly does Wyoh work with creative clients?

Wyoh and Kimberly share updates and answer listener emails & questions. 00:53 Wyoh's November of Bucket List Surprises 07:11 Celebration! Possible Sponsor 08:39 Irresistible Invitations: A Tease 09:40 December Bucket List Targets: Strap-Ons, Retreats, Organizing the Bucket List, Foot Fetish Date, Toy Roulette, Wyoh's Wishlist, Vintage Playboy-Inspired Shoot, Holiday Roleplay, Photo Voyeur 27:37 December Offerings 30:20 Renaming the Podcast? You can help! 36:27 Question: a closeted sissy with a gay question 41:37 Story: Matt from Episode 93 | A Unicorn with a Horn writes in about a secret rendezvous 53:29 Story: My Earmuff Fetish 1:02:01 Question: What's Wyoh's work with creative clients like? ⚡️WORK WITH WYOH | Explore (y)our creativity wyohlee.com/links 

What's feeling good right now? What needs to feel different? What can change? Noa Elan's combined her favorite hobby (sex) with her talents (tech) into a space for kinky and sexy people to form community. She tells Wyoh about getting sexual and kink enlightenment on AOL, opening her relationship with her husband, Bay Area sex parties, being a trophy wife for a night, finding her community, NYC vs Bay Area vs San Diego kink and meetup cultures, and acknowledging her own power and growing in sometimes uncomfy ways. Noa shares how to use the Bloom Community app and what going to an event can look like and fantasizes about a Victorian home with sexy surprises behind every door.

Noa (CEO of Bloom Community) comes on to share how she's combined her favorite hobby (sex) with her talents (tech) into a space for open-minded people to build relationships and form kinky community. We learn through her stories of early enlightenment on AOL, opening her relationship, Bay Area adult parties, being a trophy wife for a night, finding her community, the distinct personalities of each city when it comes to play gatherings, and occasional discomfort in pursuit of personal growth.

From producing improv at Second City to co-owning a feminist sex shop to being brand director at überlube, Cheryl Sloane wants *you* to have great sex. She tells Wyoh about learning about sex from the neighborhood kids, knowing she wasn't attracted to people based on their scent, being turned on by thunderstorms and hands, getting gynecologists and sex stores into überlube, talking about love and sex all day for 30+ years, the various uses of lube, hearing from strangers on a train how much sex they have weekly, going to a dungeon with her business partner, how the sex shop industry has changed, explicit adult education, anal sex trends, inclusivity, stretching her limits, and how her improv training has helped her in the bedroom and in workshops. Cheryl wants gender neutral, age appropriate sex education about respecting your own body and is excited to get her lube in more people's hands (literally).

Cheryl (63 white partnered cis woman, brand director for Überlube) 

What's the best way to give a foot job? How useful is an abstinence event after you've had sex? Is there a right way to come out to your mom as a sex worker? Isabella Bloom is a generous and healing lover who adores everything about sex. She tells Wyoh about under the table teasing and playing with her feet in laps, getting turned on by generosity, harnessing her libido, how she likes to receive, her favorite ways to give foot jobs, barbie orgies, being playful, the lost art of dry humping, discovering orgasms, sex furniture in her formative experiences, foot worship, latex, being attracted to sex work, camming, stripping, apprenticing at a dungeon, fetish parties, favorite gifts clients have given her, OnlyFans collabs, nipple clamps on nipple piercings, and the ways she loves to be touched. Isabella shares how sex work has opened her eyes to how relationships work and function in our society and looks forward indulging her creativity by having the threesome of her dreams and expanding her offerings on OnlyFans. She shares a fantasy of a fairytale cottage and connecting with nature.

Isabella (20's white F monogamous single pansexual sw from Chicago)

Is there a truck stop where you can get picked up and taken to a brothel? Madam Bella prides herself on connecting with and uplifting both her clients and her ladies–and loves that everyone remembers their visits to her courtesan-focused house. She walks through what an experience at Bella's would be from start to finish, down to how to get there, and shares how she interviews prospective ladies. She tells Wyoh about couples and singles coming in, the girlfriend experience, client preferences, experimentation, early origins in selling herself and becoming a madam, the changes she's seen in the sex work industry, long haul truckers and the resurgence of CB radios, and a hot domme with black stilettos. Bella loves spending time with her horse Beauty and celebrates her ongoing efforts to advocate and support sex workers.

Madam Bella (Owner and operator of Bella's Hacienda Ranch, founder of the Onesta Foundation)

What's your fantasy? With fantasy rooms ranging from coeds and professors all the way to King Arthur land, an S&M room and many more, Dena is helping to create singular experiences and fulfill sexual fantasies as madam at Sheri's Ranch, a legal brothel just outside of Las Vegas, Nevada. Starting out in politics in Vegas, it was a whirlwind when she became madam within one year of working at Sheri's–fast forward 19 years and she's encountered SO many sexy things that she never would have imagined existed. Dena tells Wyoh about sweet regulars, what you can expect when you come to Sheri's the first time, threesome explorations, specific bodily fetishes, prostate milking, humiliation parties, foot fetishes, catering to disabled clients, locals and virgins, maintaining compassion in her life, the brothel being the best neighbor to a church, a divorcee using the brothel as a tool to get comfortable with women again, and learning communication skills through being a madam. She's excited to educate the public about safe environments to explore sex and looks forward to upcoming renovations at Sheri's Ranch and giving back to the community.

Dena (Madam of Sheri's Ranch, the premiere legal brothel closest to Las Vegas located in Pahrump, Nevada)

How *do* you have a threesome? Luna Matatas is a pleasure teacher extraordinaire–and isn't above breaking her own rule to play in a hot threesome with her workshop attendees. She tells Wyoh about her sexual cup overflowing, getting banned from OkCupid and double banned from Tinder, being a touch slut and all the juicy delicious places on her body, moving into community retreat spaces for her workshops, preparing people with skills for self-compassion, thigh harnesses, designing her dream pegging dildo, her butt plug display wall, and exploring *all* the erogenous parts of a partner. Luna also shares where she sees gaps in sex-ed, her desire to create more sex toys for so many sensations and accessibility, and how she's creating a censorship free space for her online community to gather and be erotically liberated. 

Luna (43 single pansexual woman, Sex and Pleasure Educator)

How can I put it in my ass? How do I tell a partner how kinky I am? What is it like to be around 7500 naked people? John has small dick energy in the best way—he's a kinky horny pervert in the loveliest of ways, but it took buckets of wine for him to tell his partner he wanted to be fucked with a strap-on. Formative stories included growing up in wartime and the resulting porn-based sex ed, beautiful teenage experiences that seemed to last forever, learning about his submissive parts, using toys, being in chastity, meeting a German couple, being fucked by the husband and watched by the wife, ass juice in mouths, shame, vanilla fiancée and finding a Dominant play partner in a nearby building.

John (35 bisexual M, partnered in a monogamous relationship of 3 years) ⚡️WORK WITH WYOH | Explore (y)our creativity wyohlee.com/links 

Mariah founded the world's largest online platform for sex education that offers a vast library of resources for inclusive, comprehensive, medically accurate and pleasure-based sex education for adults, and shares the details of what she, personally, is exploring and loves, and the parts of her own sexual life cycle that led her to Beducated. She and her husband are living out Wyoh's greatest fantasy, a sexy dream team who share a mission to make the world a sexier, more loving place—and Mariah talks about how they balance their work and personal lives, exploring kink, ecstasy, and cherished kid-free moments where she can scream as loud as needed. She talks about her James Bond-like nudist Grandpa, how partnered connection fuels her, her sexy mom, boss and lover sides, a throatgasm, inspiring sessions of content review, breaking sex taboo barriers, and Beducated's brand new AI sex coach designed to offer practical tips, tricks and tools or facts in an effort to offer an alternative to censored AI. Mariah shares stories of tantra workshops, a g spot orgasm and squirting, learning about her own body, discovering western sex-positive communities, open relationships, swinging, and sex parties, becoming a sex nerd, classes on spanking, classes on communication that have saved multiple community members' marriages, finding and working with teachers and sex workers, making teachings accessible in different languages, navigating what teachers work for different cultures, and how sex positivity and sexual wellness is growing around the world.

Mariah (Founder of Beducated)

Reyna is living with a partner for the first time and they're having so much sex!!! It's easy for her to share her needs with partners, and she's even been molding her own Dom as they research DDLG dynamics and they thrive in both vanilla and kinky sessions, depending on how much time they have. Heavier sessions need the big collar and hopefully include choking, spanking, flogging, paddling, vibrators, fingers and toys for butt stuff, and of course, cuddling. Reyna is super into teasing, a wand on her clit, nipple play, cuddling, face sitting, or if her partner feels too claustrophobic, regular oral. She talks about what it was like being into serious relationships in high school, dating older dudes who served as inspiration for manual masturbation, loving sexting and nudes as a teenager, breaking up with a boyfriend who wasn't bi-supportive, downloading dating apps during COVID to explore with other femmes, exploring with ladies within her current previously mostly monogamous relationship, and even though her shame-o-meter spikes around her family, she has a hot story about sneaky dick sucking. Reyna also shares dreams of threesomes, group play, sex clubs, and her own hidden dungeon, and asks Wyoh about *her* favorite way to feel pleasure.

Reyna (21 F bisexual poly curious bratty sub in a monogamous partnership of almost 3 years) ⚡️WORK WITH WYOH | Explore (y)our creativity wyohlee.com/links 

Just another casual conversation about facilitating deep personal growth that dissolves shame so we can enjoy both the non-traditional desires that arise in our sex lives…along with the rest of our human experience. What is your belief system and how are you living up to that? Cat and Joshua have developed questions like this to help people be their best selves, drawing off their backgrounds in professional Domination to inform their work as counselors as they help people process past fears, flipping “uh-oh” moments into “ah-hah's” and mending hurts instead of applying band-aids. They join Wyoh to share thoughts on how to teach kids to approach sex responsibly and safely, why communication is sexy, how we develop our abilities to connect and trust and identify our desires and boundaries, and the importance of not only feeling seen and heard, but learning to see and hear others.  Joshua reflects on discovering his aunt's nylons as a kid, growing up Latino in NYC (East Harlem) and realizing throughout his military, law enforcement and private protection careers that he was consistently the go-to guy for sex stuff, and following his desire to help people has led him to doula work and non-traditional sexual behavior counseling where one-on-one work is undeniably impactful. He only asks clients to do introspection work he is willing to do himself, and talks about what it was like to work with a Catholic Priest, his own connection to God via BDSM, and why it's important to him to say hi to everyone in a play or kink party or club space. Cat shares wisdom from her past as a professional Dominatrix and club owner, the years of sexual freedom before she realized “reputations” were a thing, becoming sober at 29, falling in love with a woman for the first time, finding parties and places for kink and then creating spaces where people feel comfortable after a gross early experience of eager cocks encroaching on her space. Historically the hammer and enforcer, she outlines the consent overview she used to start each event with, her years of honed ability to notice stress and distress in a person, and ask questions that get people to open up and drop in like, “how long have you been thinking about this?”  They also talk about finding the overlap of agreement in a human interaction, using punching as a teaching tool, how COVID led to an influx of people ready for a new phase of personal exploration, and how the intensive of their Power Exchange Academy is beautifully designed to facilitate deep transformational work, and how the courage to set boundaries and let go can be life changing. They share the difference between the foci of their personal and professional lives, future dreams of a hospice center, the importance of staying grounded in the present moment, and so many good, specific thoughts on what the human experience is all about—and how we can enjoy it, regret-free.

Cat & Joshua (partnered poly couple who has been together five years–she is 59, an educator and minister in training; he is a counselor, consultant, end-of-life Doula, and Professional Dominant, founders of Kink Collective)