Show Up and Love

Sometimes, the most powerful move you can make is to stop. In this episode, I'm sharing what I learned during a months-long pause from my usual routines, including how letting go of the old ways of working revealed a new, more aligned path forward. I'll take you behind the scenes of why I had to cancel everything—except 1:1 client work—and how that shift transformed not only my business but also how I live and coach. This episode is an invitation to pause, recalibrate, and step into a new era of intentional, powerful living. Join the waitlist for Mastering Calm AF: Click Here Apply for 1:1 Coaching: Click Here Follow me on Instagram: @kristenfinch10 Learn more on my website: www.kristenfinch.com/podcast

As we move forward, I want you to imagine how it feels to take everything we've learned from these 300 episodes and let it integrate within you. You don't need to carry the weight of constantly seeking more information. You are ready. You are equipped with all the tools and knowledge needed to move freely and lightly. Get ready for a big shift.   Tap here to subscribe and stay tuned.   Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply click here to set up a 30 minute call.

Mood swings. Brain fog. Isolation, procrastination, hopelessness, anxiety. And those are just a few (more) of the ways chronic dysregulation is fucking up your life. Send me your questions here.   ~ To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here.   Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply click here to set up a 30 minute call.

I spent more time than normal in a state of dysregulation last week – and holy hell, do I feel it. Here are 5 ways frequent or chronic dysregulation physically manifests in our bodies.   Send me your questions here.   ~ To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here.    Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply click here to set up a 30 minute call.  

Nothing changes without doing things that feel hard. Whether it's setting a boundary, saying NO to someone, learning how to not let the fear of GUILT stop you from every freaking thing you want to try, or not letting the fear of other people's opinions dictate how you live your life. So, you have a choice to make when it comes to creating the life you want: hard now, or hard forever?   ~ Take the Nervous System Pattern Quiz here!   Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply click here to set up a 30 minute call.   ~ To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here. 

Life hands us “opportunities to grow” (yuck) when we least want them, when we feel least prepared for them, when we just don't have room or time or energy for them. Here are 3 big lessons from this week's unwanted “opportunity for growth.”   ~ Take the Nervous System Pattern Quiz here!   Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply click here to set up a 30 minute call.   ~ To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here. 

I will go into the whole story but the MESSAGE for today is this: You ALWAYS have two choices when it comes to stressful situations. You can be PANICKED AF. ANXIOUS AF. AFRAID AF. OR Calm AF. In this episode I'm going to share with you why it's ALWAYS worth it to choose calm AF. ~ Take the Nervous System Pattern Quiz here!   Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply click here to set up a 30 minute call.   ~ To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here.

The second you embrace who you are, instead of telling yourself you can't feel better or calmer or free until your external circumstances change – the instant you realize that your happiness can ONLY come from you – you will feel better. Calmer. Free.   ~ Take the Nervous System Pattern Quiz here!   Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply click here to set up a 30 minute call.   ~ To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here. 

Hoarding useful and helpful information is not moving the needle. It is only creating brain clutter.   ~ Take the Nervous System Pattern Quiz here!   Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply click here to set up a 30 minute call.   ~ To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here. 

The golden rule of calm AF is Nervous System First because your life is curated based on the state of your nervous system. The state of your relationships, the state of your home, the state of your overall wellbeing is absolutely shaped by the state of your nervous system. ~ Take the Nervous System Pattern Quiz here!   Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply click here to set up a 30 minute call.   ~ To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here. 

You need to learn how to manage your OWN feelings of discomfort instead of thinking you have to manage everyone else's. This is how you will take your power back.   ~ Take the Nervous System Pattern Quiz here!   Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply click here to set up a 30 minute call.   ~ To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here. 

This episode is absolutely essential learning because until you have a different understanding of your own nervous system, you will always be chasing the next tool that might help you calm down.   ~ Take the Nervous System Pattern Quiz here!   ~ Access the FREE Nervous System Course here! Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply click here to set up a 30 minute call.   ~ To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here. 

There are 3 main dysregulation patterns: Hypervigilance, hypovigilance and vacillators. This episode is all about Vacillators, of which I number. And if you didn't take your quiz yet, to find out which pattern you use the most, check the show notes, take the quiz.   ~ Take the Nervous System Pattern Quiz here!   Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply click here to set up a 30 minute call.   ~ To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here. 

There are 3 main dysregulation patterns: Hypervigilance, hypovigilance and vacillators. This episode is all about Hypervigilance. And if you didn't take your quiz yet, to find out which pattern you use the most, check the show notes, take the quiz.   ~ Take the Nervous System Pattern Quiz here!   Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply click here to set up a 30 minute call.   ~ To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here.

There are 3 main dysregulation patterns: Hypervigilance, hypovigilance and vacillators. This episode is all about Hypervigilance. And if you didn't take your quiz yet, to find out which pattern you use the most, take the Nervous System Pattern Quiz here!   Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply click here to set up a 30 minute call.   ~ To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here. 

To learn how to be and stay in calm AF energy, you have to get to know your internal dysregulation patterns. When you get to know your own nervous system and how you behave when you're dysregulated, you can start taking control of your own energy (instead of feeling powerless to everything happening outside of you).   ~ Take the Nervous System Pattern Quiz here!   Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join here to pay in full ~ Join here for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply click here to set up a 30 minute call.   ~ To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here. 

Is the folk wisdom living rent-free in your head ACTUALLY serving you and making your life better? Probably not. Here's to playing now and working later.   To join the Calm AF Life waitlist, click here. To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here. 

If you're not prioritizing FUN in your day-to-day, then you are missing out on major benefits to your health, relationships, career, and even your bank account.   To join the Calm AF Life waitlist, click here. To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here. 

I like to think of Leap Day as a bonus 24 hours and I think about it this way: if I were at the end of my life and I was gifted an extra 24 hours, how would I spend that day?   To join the Calm AF Life waitlist, click here. To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here. 

If you want to change anything, you've got to be willing to feel discomfort. Changing how you feel about your life, deciding to leave a toxic job or a toxic relationship, finding your forever person. Whatever it is, discomfort will accompany change. And if you want to feel better, calmer, happier, more content, more FREE...you have to choose growth over comfort. For a deeper dive, visit kristenfinch.com.   To join the Calm AF Life waitlist, click here. To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here. 

There are so many reasons why we all need to prioritize a healthy, loving relationship with ourselves. It makes life simpler. It makes you feel better. You have more confidence. You set and enforce boundaries easier. It's easier to love other people. It's easier to let other people love you. So, ignore the gimmicky, click-baity, product-pushing headlines about self-love and get busy truly loving on yourself.   To join the Calm AF Life waitlist, click here. To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here.

Life hands us “opportunities to grow” (yuck) when we least want them, when we feel least prepared for them, when we just don't have room or time or energy for them. Here's to keeping what really matters in your mind, heart, and soul when these ass-ortunities come knocking.   To join the Calm AF Life waitlist, click here. To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here. 

When you're in the middle of a thought spin out, your mind's brakes are overridden by the nervous system. Here's how to resume control.   To join the Calm AF Life waitlist, click here. To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here.

Self trust, self belief, self acceptance, and self compassion will get you to the finish line of your goals WAY faster than self berating, self criticism, self sabotaging. So if your inner boss treats you like shit, it's time to fire her and choose a more worthy leader.   To join the Calm AF Life waitlist, click here.   To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here. 

My client Danielle shares how she has transformed from someone who prioritized everyone else before herself to someone who prioritizes herself, her goals, and her life. To get your ticket to the Calm AF Goals Workshop on January 14th (or to get the replay) click here.   To join the Calm AF Life waitlist, click here. To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here.

My client Danielle shares her Calm AF journey in this delightful conversation! To get your ticket to the Calm AF Goals Workshop on January 14th (or to get the replay) click here.   To join the Calm AF Life waitlist, click here. To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here.

If you SET goals like a f*ckin' boss but struggle to ACHIEVE them, these 5 tips will change your life. To get your ticket to the Calm AF Goals Workshop on January 14th (or to get the replay) click here.    To join the Calm AF Life waitlist, click here. To inquire about working with me in 2024, click here. 

What I've found over the years is that this question: WHAT DO YOU WANT? is one of the hardest questions for women to answer. If you are not giving yourself permission to want what you want, these three obstacles are probably the reasons why.   Join my Future Self Course!   Interested in joining Calm AF Life? Tap here to join the waiting list.  Interested in working with me but not sure where to start? Tap here.

I could not be prouder of – or happier for – my clients who recently found themselves not only USING but totally benefitting from the Calm AF Life tools that they've been steadily and consistently adopting in our group and 1:1 coaching. And here's the key: they are reaping major transformations through relentless commitment to the process.   Interested in joining Calm AF Life? Tap here to join the waiting list.  Interested in working with me but not sure where to start? Tap here.

WHY do we wait for a wake up call to feel ALIVE in our lives..to stop living a life in survival mode and start living our one life NOW. Today, I'm going to share with you the BIGGEST lies we are believing that are keeping us from reclaiming our lives from survival mode hell.   Interested in joining Calm AF Life? Tap here.  Prefer a payment plan? I got you. Tap here. Interested in working with me but not sure where to start? Tap here.

Thanks to neuroplasticity, the brain's ability to rewire neural connections, you can create any habit you want – especially with these 4 ingredients.   Interested in joining Calm AF Life? Tap here. Prefer a payment plan? I got you. Tap here. Interested in working with me but not sure where to start? Tap here.

Calm AF is an energy state where you know you are in control of your feelings, moods, and thoughts AND knowing you aren't in control of other people's. When you learn to be calm AF, you aren't reliant on other people being in a good mood so you can be in a good mood. If you want to actually feel calm, ease, rest, joy, happiness that is dependent on nothing outside of you, you need to learn to be Calm AF.   Interested in joining Calm AF Life? Tap here. Interested in working with me but not sure where to start? Tap here.

Vulnerability is not just a virtue; it's a lifeline. In the face of struggle, shame, and the overwhelming pressure to prove your worthiness, PLEASE choose vulnerability instead of choosing isolation. Instead of choosing to go it alone, find a person or a community that gets it.   Interested in joining Calm AF Life? Tap here. Join me and other Calm AFers in Mexico! Tap here, spots are limited. Interested in working with me but not sure where to start? Tap here.

Today I want to talk about the TOLL your people pleasing, perfectionism, energy managing, and overachieving behaviors are having on you. These are not so much character traits as they are your nervous system's reactions to perceived dangers. And, because mind-body connection dictates that toxic thoughts are poison in the body, it's important to unlearn these self-defeating habits - and master new ones.   Interested in joining Calm AF Life? Tap here. Join me and other Calm AFers in Mexico! Tap here, spots are limited. Interested in working with me but not sure where to start? Tap here.

Sometimes when you're in a rut, you have to just be in it for a minute while you work your way out. But when you're cycling through a toxic pattern that isn't changing, you have to think about your future self and shake things up.   Join me and other Calm AFers in Mexico! Tap here, spots are limited. Interested in joining Calm AF Life? Tap here. Interested in working with me but not sure where to start? Tap here.

My ride-or-die, BFF, Feng Shui Genius Amanda Gibby Peters – who, unlike me, does not have raging ADHD – joins me for the second part of this conversation about using your neurodivergent skillset to conquer clutter and boost your home's energy.   HELPFUL LINKS: A Conversation About Clutter with Kristen Finch and Amanda Gibby Peters! RSVP here Meet Amanda Gibby Peters and follow her on IG Listen to House Therapy, the podcast by Amanda Gibby Peters on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere else Buy Amanda's book Simple Shui for Every Day: 365 Ways to Feng Shui Your Life Check out our FUN podcast A Life Coach and Feng Shui Expert Walk Into a Bar… Interested in working with me? Click here.

My ride-or-die, BFF, Feng Shui Genius Amanda Gibby Peters – who, unlike me, does not have raging ADHD – joins me for a conversation about using your neurodivergent skillset to conquer clutter and boost your home's energy.   HELPFUL LINKS A Conversation About Clutter with Kristen Finch and Amanda Gibby Peters! RSVP here Meet Amanda Gibby Peters and follow her on IG Listen to House Therapy, the podcast by Amanda Gibby Peters on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere else Buy Amanda's book Simple Shui for Every Day: 365 Ways to Feng Shui Your Life Check out our FUN podcast A Life Coach and Feng Shui Expert Walk Into a Bar… Interested in working with me? Click here.

Because life is short and precious, anytime we consider our future, things can start to feel urgent or even unattainable. Living with intention slows the clock so you can create the future you want.  

The most important work I've done for myself over the years has been getting calm AF - which, as you now know, is not a permanent state of blissful serenity, but a willful insistence on protecting my own energy no matter what's going on around me. Because matching someone's bad energy is not helping me or them or anyone else, it's just making things harder and worse.   Happy Now: Autism, Marriage, and The Journal of Best Practices   Ready for daily Calm AF reminders? Click here to get on the interest list. Want to work with Kristen but you aren't sure the best way? Click here.

Today I want to talk about your diet. To be clear, I'm not talking about food or calories or restriction. I'm talking about the Calm AF diet. When you decide that you are going to take your life back, that you are going to prioritize YOUR well being over all other things…When you decide you are ready to let GO of old limiting beliefs, rewire doubts, take the charge away from your fears…Your NEW beliefs are vulnerable. They need constant protection. So you've GOT to be mindful and discerning about what you are taking IN and what you are putting out.   Ready for daily Calm AF reminders? Click here to get on the interest list. Want to work with Kristen but you aren't sure the best way? Click here.

You don't procrastinate because you're lazy, weak, or lacking willpower. You procrastinate because of brain chemistry – neurotransmitters, specifically. Put on your glasses, grab your pocket protectors, and pull up those pants—we're going to get nerdy today, Gorgeous Souls!   Ready for daily Calm AF reminders? Click here to get on the interest list. Want to work with Kristen but you aren't sure the best way? Click here.

We forget sometimes that we aren't anxious by default, we LEARNED anxious. You aren't a people pleaser, you LEARNED people pleasing. You weren't born angry, you LEARNED anger. If being in a state of anxiety, shame, or resentment is a learned habit, that means being calm AF is also a learned habit.   Ready for daily Calm AF reminders? Click here to get on the interest list. Want to work with Kristen but you aren't sure the best way? Click here.

Figuring out what, at the end of your life, will have made it a life well lived – and figuring out how to stay in pursuit of it – is what I'd teach my younger self.   Interested in daily reminders delivered to your inbox? Click here. Want to work with Kristen? Click here.

I would go back as early as I could and start teaching my younger self the TRUTH about optimism: there is nothing wrong with CHOOSING to look at the bright side. There is nothing foolish about choosing to focus on the positive. In fact, choosing optimism is the path to resilience.   Want to work with me? Tap here to schedule a free consultation.

I would go back as early as I could and start teaching my younger self the TRUTH about feelings: they're normal, they're valid, and they're to be felt.   Tap here to join me in Calm AF Life. Got questions about Calm AF Life? Tap here to schedule a free consultation with me.

If I could go back and tell my younger self something that would have saved me the MOST time – I mean years and years of struggling and repeating old patterns – it would be to focus on doing the foundational work of wellbeing before anything else.   Tap here to join me in Calm AF Life. Got questions about Calm AF Life? Tap here to schedule a free consultation with me.

Even when you've prepared, plotted, and planned. Even when you wake up KNOWING that today is the day for big magic. Sometimes shit goes off the rails. The dots don't connect, the plans unravel, the magic vaporizes. It sucks. And it's okay. Lifetime access to my flagship coaching program Calm AF Life will be ending later this year. If you want to enjoy all of the content, calls, and coaching for life, tap here to sign up! Not sure if Calm AF Life is right for you? Schedule a free consult with me and we will discuss it.

There are SO many unwritten, arbitrary not-really-rules rules that are keeping people from their happiness. What “rules” could you question? Which ones would you rewrite?   AND! Lifetime access to my flagship coaching program Calm AF Life will be ending later this year. If you want to enjoy all of the content, calls, and coaching for life, tap here to sign up!   Not sure if Calm AF Life is right for you? Schedule a free consult with me and we can discuss it. Xoxo Kristen

Don't wait until your wake up call. Live the TRUE life you are here to live - not the one you think you're supposed to be living. To book your free consult with me, tap here: https://kristenfinch.as.me/freeconsult  

Nothing changes without doing things that feel hard. Whether it's setting a boundary, saying NO to someone, learning how to not let the fear of GUILT stop you from every freaking thing you want to try, or not letting the fear of other people's opinions dictate how you live your life. So, you have a choice to make when it comes to creating the life you want: hard now, or hard forever?   Helpful Links:   Calm AF Life: The Lifetime Coaching Program Opposite AF: The online course for neurodiverse relationships Subscribe to Calm AF on YouTube

Most of us are starving for real, authentic connections and deep conversations but we prevent these by telling ourselves that we don't belong. If this is you, this episode will help you to drop that habit and start living like you belong -- because you do!   Helpful Links:   Calm AF Life: The Lifetime Coaching Program Opposite AF: The online course for neurodiverse relationships Subscribe to Calm AF on YouTube