The Loving Truth

Sometimes our partner can't see that we've changed, and keeps bracing for the backlash that used to come.One woman shared how her husband still expects to be punished when he goes out with friends, even though she's no longer upset about it.Another is doing all the work to reconnect, but still feels no desire for her partner.And she's wondering if that's a sign.But desire isn't just emotional—it's hormonal.And it doesn't magically reappear. It needs care. It needs attention. It needs to be fed.But if the foundation is strong, there are ways to reconnect that go far beyond just “trying harder.”Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Financial stress can add a lot of tension in relationships.If you're already struggling with communication issues, resentment, or emotional distance, money problems can make everything feel worse.Whether you're staying for financial reasons or struggling to see a way forward, there are always options available to you.You don't have to suffer.With the right tools and support, you can take action, no matter whether you decide to stay or leave.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this episode, I walk through how to navigate a trial separation from the emotional prep to the practical logistics.Whether you're considering physical separation or an in-house one, this is about more than just space, it's about clarity.I talk about how to communicate the decision, how to set clear ground rules around kids, money, and how you'll interact, and why this kind of shift—while hard—can be a catalyst for growth.I also cover why most in-house separations don't work long-term, and how honesty with your children matters more than pretending things are fine.A separation doesn't always mean the end. It just might be the space you need to get unstuck.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this episode, I'm answering a big question I hear often: “If I change how I think about my partner's hurtful behavior… am I just letting him off the hook?”We unpack that idea starting with how our thoughts create our feelings, and how learning to shift those thoughts is not about pretending things are okay.It's about reclaiming your emotional power.Whether it's something small, like not replacing the Q-tip jar lid, or something big, like lying and broken trust, I'll show you how curiosity and understanding are much more effective than control or criticism.Because you don't change your life—or your relationship—by staying stuck in blame.You change it by seeing clearly, responding differently, and choosing what feels better for you.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

"If you don't know how to manage your mind, all you have is the ancient instinctual wiring from centuries ago. It's playing out in your life in a modern world." - Sharon PopeOur hormones shape so much of how we react to each other.Women, driven by estrogen, are wired for connection and emotional harmony, while men, influenced by testosterone, tend to react to conflict with more aggression or defensiveness.I'm diving into the biological differences between men and women and how those differences affect our relationships.Understanding these natural differences is key to improving communication and reducing unnecessary blame.When we manage our reactions and recognize our instinctual wiring, we can navigate relationships with more clarity and less emotional upheaval.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this episode, I unpack the subtle but powerful ways resistance shows up in our relationships, both in our partner and in ourselves.Whether it's denial, blame, or even sarcasm, these are just avoidance tactics we've learned to protect ourselves from feeling hurt or rejected.But when every hard conversation is met with pushback, we stop having them. And when we stop having them, we stop repairing the relationship.I'll walk you through the 12 most common forms of resistance.You'll know how to recognize them and what to do instead: stay present, hold the hard moments with compassion, and keep connection alive even in the messiest conversations.This isn't about being perfect. It's about being aware and doing better when we know better.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

You did the best you could to love one another, and you made some mistakes along the way, and that's what brought us here. It doesn't mean you're bad people.What happens when one partner finally makes changes after years of disconnection and neglect, only for the other partner to feel too far gone to trust those changes?We often wait for our partner to change, but the reality is, change comes too late for some relationships.When you're finally ready to make your decision, whether to stay or go, it's important to assess if the changes being made are genuine or just a response to fear of losing everything.While the effort to change can feel like progress, it might not be enough to bridge the emotional distance that's developed over time.Sometimes, it's about knowing when to accept things for what they are and make the best decision for yourself, regardless of the outcome.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this conversation, I talk about navigating the emotional turmoil of financial betrayal in a marriage and how to maintain your integrity while making tough decisions.It's important to choose how you feel in any situation, especially when faced with emotions like grief, anger, and betrayal.Setting boundaries, standing up for yourself, and letting go of the “shoulds” that don't serve you are key to healing.I also highlight the power of compassion—not only for yourself but eventually for the person who hurt you—without compromising your self-respect or well-being.*Audio shared with permission.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Your husband isn't like you.I'm sharing insights on how differences in a marriage can actually enhance the relationship, rather than cause friction.I dive into the dynamics of one partner always reaching for more while the other stays steady and how these contrasting approaches can balance each other.We also explore how understanding and appreciating these differences can lead to greater connection and intimacy.In this episode, I use real examples from my own marriage to show how embracing the uniqueness of your partner can strengthen your bond.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

I want to share with you what I've learned about the emotional ups and downs of navigating divorce.It's normal to think that once you've made the decision to leave, the journey will feel easier.In reality, it's often filled with doubt, fear, and uncertainty.The journey can often mirror the stages of grief and you might bounce between these stages, even within the same day.As you process these emotions, you'll need the right support to help guide you through the tough times and to move toward clarity.I share insights on how to navigate these phases, and the importance of finding meaning in the loss, which can ultimately help you heal and move forward.*Audio shared with permission.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this episode I break down the three essential phases of healing after an affair: Stop the Bleeding, Rehabilitation, and Healing.These stages are crucial for rebuilding trust and healing the pain of betrayal.The first phase is about managing the initial shock and emotional impact.In phase two, you'll do the deeper work of understanding what led to the affair and healing both individually and together.Phase three is where you begin to envision and create a new future, even if it looks different from what you expected.I'll explain why each phase is essential, how to avoid getting stuck, and why having the right support is key to moving forward.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

"The person who most needs to hear your words is you."Have you ever wished you could just see your situation clearly and finally hear exactly what you most need to know?I'm sharing one of my favorite self-coaching exercises, inspired by Martha Beck, to help you do just that.We begin by exploring someone else's stuck patterns and hidden courage — because sometimes it feels safer to look outward first.Then, step by step, I guide you to turn those insights inward, revealing the truths and guidance you most need to tell yourself.This simple but powerful practice can help you drop old ways of thinking, see your life with fresh eyes, and feel more at peace with the decisions ahead of you.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What do you do when you and your partner feel like you've run out of things to say?You'll hear the story of my client Patty, who sat through an awkward, silent dinner with her husband and went home feeling deeply alone.If you relate, know this: you haven't lost your connection… you've just forgotten how to talk to each other.I walk you through practical, open-ended questions you can use to spark deeper, more meaningful conversations. Questions like “What are you working toward right now?” or “When have you felt most loved by me?” These are simple but powerful ways to break out of the small talk rut and rediscover each other. Start with one question at a time, stay curious, and watch how you remember how to truly connect.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

You can have a hard no and a beautiful yes, and when you know the difference, you'll stop abandoning yourself just to keep the peace.One of the things I teach women inside my membership is how to hold healthy, loving boundaries, especially when emotions are running high.We talk through six types of boundaries (physical, emotional, sexual, intellectual, time, and material) and how to honor them without guilt or resentment.You'll also hear some powerful boundary-setting phrases you can borrow and practice - because the more we build that muscle in our day-to-day lives, the easier it is to protect our peace when it matters most.Setting boundaries isn't about pushing people away.It's about letting them see who you really are, and deciding what you're no longer willing to carry.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Whatever you're looking for, you're going to find. So the real question is: what are you choosing to look for?So many of the women I work with can rattle off what's not working in their marriage. But when I ask what is working, they have to pause. Not because there's nothing good, but because they haven't been focused on it.In this episode, I explore the quiet but powerful truth that whatever you're looking for, you will find. And whatever you focus on becomes bigger in your experience.If you keep searching for what's wrong, your brain will gladly serve that up on repeat.But if you can hold space for both what's painful and what's beautiful, and choose to focus - just for today - on something you genuinely value in your partner, your entire experience can begin to shift.It's not about ignoring the hard stuff. It's about giving the good stuff a chance to grow.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

I've had so many women come to me feeling powerless in their lives, like everything is happening to them, and they're stuck just reacting.But what if there's another way to see it? In this episode, I unpack what it really means to believe that life is happening through you, not to you.We'll explore the difference between victim mindset and empowered thinking, how your perspective shapes your experience, and why reclaiming your role in how life unfolds is the key to freedom.This isn't about blame - it's about recognizing your agency, your power, and your ability to create the life and relationships you truly want."What you think, you become. What you feel, you attract. What you imagine, you create."Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

When you discover that your partner has had an affair, it's common to be overwhelmed by a rush of emotions… fear, anger, confusion, and shame.The questions you ask in the heat of the moment, like "Did you love her?" or "Did you have sex with him?" reflect deep pain, but some questions can only make things worse by creating images that are impossible to unsee.Healing after an affair requires more than just support from friends and family. You need a structured approach with someone who can help you process the pain and guide you through the difficult steps ahead.The journey to healing is complex. The key is to find a safe space to process the pain, whether it's with a coach, therapist, or support group.Don't carry this burden alone.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Many of us wrestle with that uneasy feeling in a “good enough” marriage, stable and secure but missing real connection and wonder if the problem lies within ourselves or the relationship.The truth is, it takes two people growing and learning together to make love work, and often we simply haven't been equipped with the right tools.At the same time, it's common to struggle with people-pleasing and chronic worry that drain our energy and joy.Healing means recognizing these patterns, setting healthy boundaries without guilt, and learning to ride the waves of uncertainty with courage.“Worrying is like praying for what you don't want. When you focus on what could go wrong, you make it bigger—and rob yourself of the joy right in front of you.”Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

If you've lost the energy and enthusiasm to keep investing in your marriage, I want you to know you're not alone… and there's nothing wrong with you.We all start relationships with a full tank, but when things get hard (and they do), that tank can run dry.In this episode, I'm sharing how the “hard” in marriage is often misunderstood, why the fantasy of ease with someone new won't save you, and how to create a spark again! Not by forcing something fake, but by reconnecting to your own growth, intention, and choice.The truth is, it's not about finding the perfect person. It's about how you choose to show up when things get hard… because that's when transformation happens.“No one has ever beat themselves up for trying. But sometimes we regret when we haven't given it our best.”Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

When trust breaks down in a relationship - whether through gaslighting or financial secrecy - it leaves us feeling unsteady, unheard, and stuck.I'm coaching through two painful but common dynamics: what to do when your partner denies your reality, and how to move forward when you're being kept in the dark about finances that impact you both. I walk through what it looks like to reclaim your power: setting real boundaries, challenging the belief that we have to suffer to justify leaving, and choosing love or clarity, not because someone finally changes, but because you do. You're not powerless and you deserve more than suffering in silence.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

If you've been feeling disconnected from your partner, you're not alone—and it didn't happen overnight.In this episode, I'm walking you through the subtle ways closeness fades over time and how to get it back.I'm sharing 15 specific, actionable ideas that will help you and your partner feel more emotionally connected again.Whether you pick one or try several, this is about creating moments of real intimacy, not just physical proximity. You don't have to overhaul everything, just begin. Because when you shift how you show up, everything can change.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Does it feel like you're doing it all - managing the home, the kids, the emotional labor - and your partner is just along for the ride?I'm sharing real coaching from inside my membership where one woman asks whether she can ever regain respect for her husband after years of doing everything herself.We talk about what happens when we over-function in our marriages, how that invites our partners to under-function, and why judging them never gets us the connection we truly want.You can't judge someone and love them at the same time—and there's no path to a happy marriage from that place.I'll walk you through the mindset shifts that can change the dynamic entirely, starting with getting back into your business.“He gets to choose what kind of man, husband, and father he wants to be—and I'm going to stop trying to control that.”Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

One of the most common frustrations I hear from women: “Why do I have to lead this?”If your marriage is struggling and you're the one noticing the disconnect, it can feel unfair to also be the one doing the emotional heavy lifting.But someone has to take the lead—and that someone might need to be you."If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem."I'm sharing five clear reasons why leadership in your relationship is an act of self-respect, not self-sacrifice.Whether your partner is unaware, in denial, or just ill-equipped to lead, this episode is a powerful call to step into your agency, not just for your marriage - but for your own peace of mind.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Have you ever wondered why the spark seems to fade over time?Desire doesn't disappear because something's wrong. It fades because everything is the same.I explain the science behind why familiarity suppresses desire and how we mistakenly attribute pleasure to the person (like a number three) rather than the physiological reaction in our own body.I also share what we can do to bring desire back in a long-term relationship… without waiting on our partner to figure it out.Desire isn't magic. But with a little effort and intention, it can be reawakened.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

“It's not always about what's missing in the marriage—it's sometimes about what's missing in the person.”In this deeply insightful episode of The Loving Truth, a listener asks why her husband betrayed her despite what seemed like a happy marriage.I explore why infidelity happens even in relationships that appear strong on the outside, uncover the emotional complexities, subconscious fears, and unspoken desires that often go unnoticed.I'll help you begin to understand what happened—and more importantly, ask yourself what healing could look like from here.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this episode of Ask Sharon, I'm sharing real questions from women inside my membership program and the unfiltered coaching that followed.We talk candidly about the overuse of labels like "narcissist," what it's really like to be married to someone on the spectrum, and how to communicate with partners who default to defensiveness.Whether you're feeling stuck in diagnosis-mode, trying to be understood, or wrestling with someone who simply refuses to change, this conversation is about breaking the cycle, reclaiming your voice, and realizing—you already know more than you think.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What does it mean to ‘quietly quit' your marriage? What are the implications of grieving a relationship without having the hard conversation(s) first? And why do we do it? In this episode, I'll explain ‘The Quiet Quit' as it pertains to long-term relationships. I'll define the hard conversation(s) necessary for a marriage on the rocks—and the reasons we avoid themI'll explain ‘The Quiet Quit' and why we do itI'll detail the reasons we need to address this problem a.s.a.p. (before it gets harder to solve)‘The Quiet Quit' is the precursor to the end of a marriage: This is often what happens 1-2 years before a typical divorce. So pay attention to this episode! It's an important one.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Real questions, real coaching, and real breakthroughs. In this episode of Ask Sharon, I invite you inside my membership program for a deep-dive into transformational relationship coaching that happened on a previously recorded live coaching call.In this episode, one of my members details all the fear that's coming up as she prepares to tell her husband that she's ready for divorce. I walk her through her next move one step at a time, and we begin to list some positive intentions for the outcome of this hard conversation… and beyond. *Audio shared with permission.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

“My spouse is not going to allow for a peaceful divorce—no matter how much I want that.”Karen McMahon joins me for this special episode of the podcast to answer an important question: “How do I navigate divorce with a high-conflict partner?” Karen is the Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce and the Host of The Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast. She has 14+ years of coaching experience guiding 650+ clients through the legal and emotional battles of high-conflict divorce. In this episode, Karen shares her personal story of high-conflict marriage, divorce, and co-parenting through it all to help you navigate your own struggle. Listen in to our conversation about how to prepare for an UNpeaceful divorce (even if you're trying for peace). We also talk about how even one peaceful person can break generational dysfunction and the oft-overlooked impact of divorce on our adult children (and our relationships with them).aStruggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

“How do I know if I'm staying for the wrong reasons?” This episode gives you an exclusive peek inside my membership program and a real-life coaching session with a client who says, “I love him, and we're incredible roomates… but how can we possibly reconnect with all this resentment between us? How do I know if I'm staying for the wrong reasons?”The thing about resentments is: We carry them with us (whether we decide to stay or leave). So we'll start by dissecting the very significant resentments this client shares, and then we'll move into questioning whether her marriage is ‘worth' fighting for… or not.I'll also explain - How to reconnect as partners (not parents) How to ensure one or both of you tends to the marriage regularlyHow to move past resentment… whether it's for the ‘wrong' reasons or not*Audio shared with permission.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

When it's time to have a difficult conversation with your partner (or frankly, with anyone you love) you can't just ‘wing' it. There must be conscious intentionality behind your words and your actions. In this episode, I'll give you 4 important reasons why you might need to have a difficult conversation, plus the most common reasons these conversations fail and what's required for them to succeed. I'll also share an example of a difficult conversation I had with my family—because it's simpler than you might think.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

“I don't want to let go of something that's so important to me. But it's not working anymore.”This is an emotional episode (because this is an emotional topic). Welcome to a recorded coaching session* with one of the members inside The Decision.This client has been married to her partner for more than a decade. They have two children together. Right now, they're struggling with a circular argument that envelops deep criticism and hurt feelings.In this coaching session, we explore some very important questions as she grapples with her decision to stay or leave: What if we're too different? How to work with your partner who has a completely different perspective from youHave we tried enough? How to create a practice to identify your intuition and inner wisdomHave you shown him your fear? How to soften into vulnerability when you're hurtingListen in for an emotional conversation with a client who's ready to make a change.*Shared with permission.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

“I thought if I could just fix myself… my marriage problems would resolve.” –Rachel HollisOn the podcast this week, we have a very special guest… Welcome RACHEL HOLLIS to The Loving Truth podcast!Rachel is a two-time #1 New York Times bestselling author whose work has impacted millions of people worldwide. You probably know her from her wildly popular books: Girl, Wash Your Face and Girl, Stop Apologizing.In this episode of the podcast, Rachel and I have a conversation about intuition, fear, marriage, and divorce. Rachel explains how she's slowly learned to listen to her gut instincts and how she digests her biggest fears through writing. She also tells the relatable story of her first panic attack and how she's re-learning to communicate with her now-husband. It wouldn't be a conversation with Rachel Hollis if she didn't also drop some wisdom, so you'll hear her advice on - How to ask better questions to reconnect with your intuitionThe difference between what we ‘need' and what we ‘want'And the powerful mindset shift to identify your real v. perceived fearRachel's new book What If YOU Are The Answer? is filled with insightful questions to ask as you learn to trust yourself again… and she shares a few of those right here on The Loving Truth! “[My divorce] was so much worse than I could have imagined… and I would do it again.”–Rachel HolisStruggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

“Everything in life changes. Sometimes you grow together. Sometimes you grow apart. This is the nature of life.”  – Sharon Pope on The Loving Truth podcastTake a sneak peek into what happens inside my membership program in this special episode of The Loving Truth podcast. You'll hear a real-life coaching session with one of my clients who asks - Will my kids think I've tried hard enough to save my marriage? How long do I have to try before I can move on? What happens if he makes the changes… and I still don't want to stay?Together we walk through some key answers to these questions (and more!) as she considers her decision to stay and fix her marriage… or leave without regret.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Soooo many women ask me this question: Can I really be married… and free? By now you know what I think about this: Freedom is a requirement for a happy, healthy, loving marriage! But I know it's not so simple when you feel trapped by your relationship and imprisoned by your commitment to another person. In this episode, I want to challenge what you believe about relationships—and the ways you develop trust, deepen love, and (re)commit to each other.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

They were living like roommates. Then she had an affair. Is this marriage salvageable? (Does she want it to be?)In this episode of Ask Sharon, I'm taking you inside my membership program with a real-live conversation with my client, Elsa*.We talk about - How to ask the ‘right' questions to make better decisionsThe difference between money problems… and dramaWhat to do if you're financially dependent on your marriageYou'll also hear an embarrassing secret from me and the first lesson I learned from Martha Beck.If you feel stuck trying to make the ‘impossible' decision to leave your marriage or stay… this episode might illuminate the problem.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

This falls into the category of “Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me” (before I got married!) If you've reached midlife and you're married or divorced: You probably didn't think about any of this either. It's easy to ‘lose' yourself within your relationship—especially if you're a woman. But it doesn't have to be like this! (In fact, it shouldn't be like this.)In this episode, I'll give you the remedy to (re)balance ‘you time' within your marriage—even if you have a busy family life. I'll take-on some well-worn marriage advice I disagree with and explain how women (even mothers!) can prioritize themselves and their desires… for the health of the marriage and the family.“De-prioritizing yourself does not serve your relationship—or the people you're trying to prioritize.” Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Too many women find themselves overfunctioning in relationships—particularly in midlife. You're doing the heavy lifting of the emotional and mental load for your entire household: The logistics of family activities, the caretaking for your kids and spouse… all of it. But while you're busy meeting everyone else's needs, you're also abandoning your own.In today's episode, I'll share 3 powerful coaching insights to help you:Understand how overfunctioning creates imbalance in your relationshipRecognize the emotional cost of putting yourself lastRebuild self-trust by honoring your commitments to youThis episode combines real coaching clips from past episodes—plus conversations from within my membership program—to show you what it looks like to stop quitting on yourself and start showing up differently.If you've ever said, “I'm just so tired of doing it all!” this episode is for you.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

There's one key similarity with all the couples I see in unhappy marriages… In this episode, I'll share the #1 reason people remain dissatisfied and stuck in these relationships, plus the real price you have to pay to build a healthy marriage. “Temporary discomfort is the price of freedom.” - Dr. Joe DispenzaStruggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Building a healthy marriage is not rocket science… so why don't we do it better?   Today's episode is dedicated to the men in our lives: These are the ingredients for a good, healthy marriage!I'll talk about what it means to pay attention to your partner, how to avoid driving your marriage into a ditch, and how to course-correct when things aren't working well in your relationship.Listen in for a light-hearted deep dive into what makes a relationship last.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What will make your marriage feel ‘good' again… beyond comfortable companionship? Women are often MORE unhappy in marriage than men. In this episode, I'll give you 3 reasons why. I'll talk about the different expectations we have, how men and women define ‘success' in life, and why marriage has always been a better deal for men than women.This episode is especially for you if your marriage is ‘good enough' but you want more! Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

You know the ‘right' thing to do. You know the ‘logical' decision. So why is it so hard to end your affair relationship? In this episode, I'll give you 5 reasons why you're struggling to end an affair—and I'll start with a hint… you're not making this decision with logic! That's not how you started the affair, and it's not how you're trying to end it. Listen in for another “loving truth” about this deeply profound and important moment in any relationship that's experienced an affair (on either side). Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

If “decision paralysis” has stalled your next steps forward, this episode is for YOU!I'll explain why an endless loop of “possibilities” keeps you in limbo and how to narrow your pool of options to finally make decisions with a little more ease. I'll introduce you to my client Faith* who feels lost in a cycle of “Should I Stay Or Go?” and give you the only real question you need to ask yourself. Listen in for a healthy dose of clarity—particularly if you feel overwhelmed by making a decision about your marriage.*Confidentiality Notice: This name has been changed to protect my client's privacy.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In my experience working with women in unhappy marriages, the topic of their partner's addiction has become increasingly common. In this episode, I tell the story of my client Shelley* whose partner struggles with an addiction to alcohol—but in fact, that's not the whole story. There's something else going on.You'll hear the possible wounds beneath addictive behavior and how we might take action inside a marriage plagued by addiction—with both kindness and compassion, for ourselves and our partners.*Confidentiality Notice: This name has been changed to protect my client's privacy.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

One of the top fears of women considering divorce is: What if I'm alone forever? In this episode, I'll share the story of one of my clients stuck in limbo because of her fear of being alone. I'll explain why you can't solve this problem logically and offer five benefits of being alone that you probably haven't considered before. (Listen in for my personal experience with the fear of loneliness, too.)Mentioned In This EpisodeStruggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

“Anger gives us courage… but courage is not the same thing as clarity.” – Sharon PopeThe renowned sociologist and life coach Martha Beck taught me to ask a very important question when I'm feeling unclear about my next steps. In this episode, I'll share the question, the brain science, and the first step to take if you feel unclear about a decision in your relationship. I'll also talk about the difference between courage and clarity and explain why the story of my first marriage has nothing to do with your own… Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

You've just told your partner how you're feeling disconnected and unhappy… and they respond, “Oh, we're just fine!” Why do we invalidate our partner's feelings like this? (Why do we accept invalidation as enough?)In this episode, I'll explain how to face this communication challenge head-on.“When one of us isn't fine, we're not fine as a couple.” – Sharon PopeStruggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

How can two opposing viewpoints both remain “true”?We often think in binaries: “Everything is all good or all bad. I'm right, so you're wrong.” But this isn't reality: Human relationships are complex. So how can we allow for the nuance of holding two truths at the same time? In this episode, I use my difficult relationship with my dad as an example for how we might expand our thinking to envelop non-binary perspectives of truth. I'll even give you 10+ examples of “opposing” truths to consider. As ever, it's a deep look into the human psyche and behavior… simplified and put to practice.Mentioned In This EpisodeStruggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Are the men in your life a “life-long project?” In this episode, I'm talking about why it seems your husband is a “man-child” and what you can do to change this. I'll dig into topics of co-dependency, the different expectations we have for men and women, and how this impacts our sons and daughters, too.Mentioned In This EpisodeStruggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Too many women never leave their partners solely because they're afraid of being alone later in life.In this episode, I've invited fellow Relationship Coach and the Chief Love Officer of Last First Date, Sandy Weiner, to break down the myth that “late love” is anything less than True Love. Sandy details both the challenges and opportunities of finding love later in life (or post-divorce) from lived experience and through the stories of her real-life clients.(Maybe you're married and you just want to find love in your current relationship… this episode will speak to you, too!)Mentioned In This EpisodeStruggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

“You can always find your way back to each other… should you both want that.” - Sharon PopeYour marriage will evolve through several important stages of relationship, and this episode we examine each one. You'll learn why you can't think straight before you get married (and why you find your partner annoying soon after), the major neurological change that happens to women who have kids, and which stage people most commonly struggle with affairs. I'll also explain the “ideal” time in your relationship to create structure around building connection and desire with your partner. Mentioned In This EpisodeStruggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.