The Loving Truth

In this episode, I unpack “monkey barring,” which is reaching for the next relationship before you've let go of the last. It often looks like cheating, but it's really about fear, codependency, and avoiding hard conversations. We use an affair like an emotional safety net because being alone feels scary. I name how affairs distract us from the real problems at home and how easy it is to get hooked on external validation. I also show you what it can sound like to tell your partner you felt a tinge of attraction and use that as a doorway back to each other. A lot of us were never taught how to do this.  But these skills are learnable. And you're capable of them. Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

I'm breaking down how to know when your marriage is in real trouble, using a TV moment that felt all too real: a late‑night “We need to talk,” an “I'm not happy,” and a packed bag by the door. By the time someone says I'm not happy, things are already serious. That phrase is vague, blaming, and usually too late. Many partners brush it off, not because they don't care, but because they don't know what to do.  Then years pass, nothing changes, and we hear, “You should have said it louder.” I walk through the subtle red flags most people ignore at first. The small shifts in connection, the growing irritations, the distance that sneaks up on you. If part of you knows something is off but you've been afraid to name it, this conversation will speak to you. If any of this sounds familiar, roll up your sleeves and address it now. It won't fix itself, and waiting only makes the next conversation harder. Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

I'm unpacking emotional adulthood through a client's story. I challenge the idea of “make it work.” We can aim higher than a marriage that doesn't suck.  I walk you through naming your unspoken rules, keeping only the few that matter, and actually saying them out loud. Your thoughts create your feelings, not your partner. The thing that once made you laugh only became annoying when your thought about it changed. We all slip into blame because change is hard. But long-term love asks more of us. “Much like bread needs yeast, relationships need emotional adulthood.” - Sharon Pope Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Your coach isn't your bestie. And that's a good thing. When you admit your marriage is in trouble, you need love that sees your blind spots, challenges your excuses, and won't let you settle. I share a Q&A moment where a woman wanted a pep talk about reconciling while still in an affair. I paused and chose the truth: “I could make you feel better, but I kind of don't want to.” I called her higher, named the avoidance, and laid out her real choices: end the affair and give the marriage your all release the marriage and see where the affair goes keep lying until it blows up That's the love I offer as a coach: I hold up the mirror and walk beside you while you do the hard, honest work. Because “when someone pushes you to be better, it's not criticism. It's an act of love.” Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this episode, I share a client story where her husband secretly put a tracker on her car, and how tempting it was to tell him off or file a restraining order. We walked through what those reactions would actually accomplish. Not much. They don't change the past and they can harm co-parenting and her peace. She chose a different path. She chose to protect her peace and stay steady toward a peaceful divorce. “If telling someone off worked, I'd tell you to do it.” It doesn't. So I give you three steps that do work: get clear on your goal, decide how you want to feel, and choose the strategy that gets you there. Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this final episode of the Us Unfiltered: Behind the Beautiful Life series, I explore what “having it all” really means — and why a beautiful life on the outside can still feel empty when your marriage isn't getting the care it deserves. We talk about the difference between success, happiness, and true fulfillment, and how easy it is to give our best to work and our kids while offering only crumbs to our relationship. I share why emotional connection is real wealth, why numbing keeps us stuck, and why we need to stop saying “I'm unhappy” without offering a path forward. We're whole humans. What happens at home affects everything else. I walk you through how to evolve your marriage as life changes, and two questions every couple should ask to create a next chapter that feels as good as it looks. The life you've built is beautiful. Now it's time to make it feel beautiful. If you're serious about healing the disconnect in your marriage, there is a path forward. Apply for a Private Couples Weekend. We'll talk about what's happening between you, what you want to rebuild, and whether this private, two-day experience is the right container to help you create lasting change—together.  Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this episode, I talk about why desire fades — and why it's not gone, just buried. Buried under busyness, emotional distance, resentment, and the weight of responsibilities. A lack of sex isn't the problem; it's the symptom. I break down what desire really needs (safety and aliveness), how routine and predictability smother intimacy, and why familiarity dampens passion over time. You'll learn the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, why emotional closeness has to come first, and how sex becomes a standoff when no one wants to go first. I offer simple ways to reconnect: eye contact, non-sexual touch, curiosity, small moments of presence, and adding bits of novelty back into your lives. Desire doesn't magically return — it grows again through connection. In the next episode, we'll wrap the series with what “having it all” actually means when it comes to love, success, and fulfillment. Rebuild desire and closeness in a real way: join us for the Couples Weekend. Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In part three of Us Unfiltered, I explore how power dynamics quietly shape a marriage: who leads, who decides, who sets the tone. These patterns usually come from what we saw growing up, and without realizing it, they create a one-up/one-down dynamic that erodes trust and connection. Too much independence can turn partners into high-functioning roommates instead of a true team. I talk about why every contribution counts, why control blocks intimacy, and how “keeping the boardroom out of the bedroom” matters more than most couples realize. I share a moment in my own marriage where choosing presence over defensiveness shifted everything. You'll learn simple ways to restore balance: notice without blame, make space for your partner to lead, value emotional work, step out of the one-up stance, and reconnect around a shared vision. If you're serious about healing the disconnect in your marriage, there is a path forward. Apply for a Private Couples Weekend. We'll talk about what's happening between you, what you want to rebuild, and whether this private, two-day experience is the right container to help you create lasting change—together.  Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In part two of Us, Unfiltered, I talk about what silence really costs inside a marriage. Avoiding hard conversations feels easier in the moment, but over time it erodes your voice, your connection, and the safety between you. The space between you fills with assumptions, resentments, and quiet loneliness. Avoidance hides in busyness, sarcasm, over-functioning, or shutting down—and underneath all of it is fear. Fear of conflict, fear of being misunderstood, fear of what honesty might change. I walk you through simple, doable ways to re-engage: choose calmer moments, speak from your own experience, lead with empathy, take one issue at a time. I share scripts like “I miss us” and “Are you open to talking about this?” so you know exactly how to begin. Because you can't heal what you won't face. Reflection: What's one truth you've been avoiding—and what might open up if you spoke it? If you're serious about healing the disconnect in your marriage, there is a path forward. Apply for a Private Couples Weekend. We'll talk about what's happening between you, what you want to rebuild, and whether this private, two-day experience is the right container to help you create lasting change—together.  Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this first episode of Us, Unfiltered: Behind the Beautiful Life, I speak to high-achieving couples who appear successful on the outside yet feel disconnected at home. Life is full, you're doing everything “right,” but the closeness you want has faded behind the busyness. Achievement builds strong skills, but connection requires different ones. And the habits that help you excel — control, efficiency, staying in motion — can quietly block intimacy. I name the early warning signs: staying late at work to avoid the tension, talking only about schedules, and avoiding conversations about how you really feel. Nothing is wrong with you. You simply haven't learned the skills that create true closeness. It doesn't take hours. It takes intention. Ten to twenty minutes of real presence can shift everything. My invitation: put distractions aside, sit together, and ask, “How's your heart?” or “How are you really doing?” Then listen. In the next episode, we'll look at how avoidance creates distance and how silence slowly replaces intimacy. If you're serious about healing the disconnect in your marriage, there is a path forward. Apply for a Private Couples Weekend. We'll talk about what's happening between you, what you want to rebuild, and whether this private, two-day experience is the right container to help you create lasting change—together.  Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

I'm challenging the question, Am I a terrible person? I explain why that question keeps you stuck in shame and judgment.I offer better questions: How is this serving me, and how is it not?I walk through real examples, like not wanting to stop an affair and withholding love from a good man.We look at the short-term hits and the real costs, including risk, stress, kids, family, and how avoiding vulnerability blocks connection.I'm not here to judge. I'm here to help you make conscious choices that align with who you want to be.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

I share the story of a woman who followed my work for 10 years before she reached out, hoping the next blog or podcast might fix her 20-year marriage.Once we finally worked together, she and her husband became more connected than ever.I talk about why we wait: saying it out loud makes it real.The unknown feels scary. We hope things change on their own. We want a guarantee. We worry. We don't know what we want. We don't want to do the work, and doing nothing feels easier.But that wait creates distance and piles on resentment, and our behavior gets worse.Our problems don't age well.If you're stuck, you don't need a decade. Sometimes you have to leap before you can see the ground.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

I'm breaking down what no-fault divorce is, why it's more recent than most people realize, and why it isn't the villain.Laws don't destroy marriages. People do.What really ends marriages:NeglectShutting downAvoiding hard conversationsBlaming instead of owning our partGetting defensiveInvalidating each otherTurning love into a transactionNot listeningAnd finally, indifference.A no-fault divorce gives you the freedom to choose your reasons, and the only person who has to make peace with those reasons is you.If you're even thinking about ending your marriage, set a Google alert for “no fault divorce” plus your state so you know if that freedom is at risk where you live.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this episode, I break down the difference between therapy and coaching without making one better than the other.Therapy helps you understand how you got here.Coaching helps you decide where you want to go and how to get there.We talk about timing, momentum, and why most couples wait too long to ask for help.I share when to choose individual or couples work, and why one person showing up differently can still spark change.We also look at quick fixes that don't heal deeper issues and the importance of addressing what's really driving the disconnection.Sometimes the best path is both therapy and coaching—the key is choosing what fits your goals, your timeline, and your readiness for change.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

I know it's easy to get caught up in life and forget to prioritize your marriage.But the truth is, nothing thrives when you turn your back on it.We'll invest in Botox, hair appointments, and our businesses—but expect our marriages to somehow take care of themselves.A healthy, connected relationship takes time, attention, and consistent effort.It's not about perfection; it's about showing up and learning the skills that help you grow together.If you want your marriage to feel good again, it has to make the list of what truly matters.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Sometimes you have to be the one to step forward in your marriage—even if it doesn't feel fair. Many women ask, “Why should I be the one to do the work when he's the one with the problem?”But someone has to nudge the relationship into motion.If you're the one uncomfortable or ready for change, it may have to be you.I also talk about the role of the victim and how staying passive keeps you stuck.Using real stories, including an example from Simon Sinek about creating understanding where it seems impossible, I show why initiating change—even alone—can create fertile ground for real growth in your marriage.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

This week, I want to share an experience from a couples' weekend immersion I led.Watching a marriage transform over just a few days reminded me why I do this work.One person can absolutely create change in a relationship.When you show up differently, your partner responds differently, and a new dynamic emerges. This couple came in scared, angry, and on the brink of divorce.By the end of day one, they began seeing each other's differences as strengths.By day three, they had a connected, loving marriage and a plan to maintain it.It's amazing what happens when both people commit, use the tools consistently, and make an intentional investment in their relationship.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

All progress begins from telling yourself the truth.It's easy to fall into confusion when faced with tough decisions, especially in relationships.But sometimes, the confusion we feel isn't real.We pretend not to know the answers because we fear the work it will take to face them.It's much easier to stay in the comfortable discomfort of not knowing, even when deep down, we do.The truth is, our brains don't like uncertainty, and they'll try to keep us stuck in fear.However, when you're willing to face the truth about what you're avoiding, you can begin creating real changeIt starts with being honest with yourself, so you can move forward with clarity and confidence.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

I was recently a guest on Suzi Dafnis' HerBusiness podcast, and we had an amazing conversation about the challenges women entrepreneurs face.I share why it's so important to prioritize yourself.As business owners, we're often pouring from an empty cup.The solution? Start with a daily practice that tells yourself, “Me first, then everyone else.”I explain how doing so not only boosts your well-being but also improves what you give to your business and relationships.We also talk about the challenges when one partner grows in business and the other doesn't. It's important to communicate and support each other through it.Relationships need growth, and so do businesses.They're both powerful teachers in our lives, but we have to do the work to keep both thriving.Learn more about Suzi and the HerBusiness Network by following https://www.instagram.com/herbusiness/Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Divorce isn't just the end of a marriage, it's the loss of a dream, a role, and often a piece of who we thought we were.Healing means allowing yourself to grieve fully without rushing, then noticing when grief has shifted from fuel to a crutch.It's about asking yourself honest questions, moving your body, and resisting the urge to fill loneliness with another relationship too soon.Getting your soul back is really about rediscovering who you are now, trying new things, saying yes more often, nurturing your relationship with yourself, and allowing a fresh start to unfold.Your relationship with yourself is the most important one you'll ever have, because it impacts every other relationship in your life.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Guilt is something so many of us wrestle with, especially in our relationships.For a long time, I thought guilt was useless because it's tied to the past.But now I see it differently.There's healthy guilt—the kind that nudges us to make amends, apologize, or do better next time—and that can help us grow.Then there's unhealthy guilt, the kind that has us taking responsibility for things we can't control, beating ourselves up, or carrying shame for decades.Healthy guilt reminds us our moral compass still works.Unhealthy guilt keeps us stuck and robs us of peace.The real work is learning the difference, setting boundaries, and remembering that we're human—always learning, always doing the best we can.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Relationships are rarely simple and binary thinking—believing things are either right or wrong—can harm your marriage.Human beings are complex, and so are our needs, desires, and perspectives.You can love your partner deeply and still recognize that the relationship isn't meeting your needs.You can set boundaries and still be a kind, loving person.You can enjoy your sexuality, assert yourself, and hold yourself in high regard even when mistakes happen.Embracing nuance helps you make clearer decisions, connect more authentically, and stop falling into the trap of “good guy stay, bad guy leave.”Two truths can coexist, and understanding that opens the door to healthier, more fulfilling relationships.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Deciding what to do in a marriage is never simple, especially when you're questioning whether your partner's “all in” effort is real or just words.I walk a member through how to recognize that personal growth starts inside, and real change isn't just mental—it shows up in consistent action.We also tackle the challenge of delivering a separation or divorce decision when your partner reacts with tears, promises, or attempts to debate the past.I teach how to stay grounded, honor your own needs, communicate clearly, and avoid being pulled into endless arguments.Love and clarity begin with you, and you don't have to navigate these conversations alone.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Heartbreak is hard, even when the relationship you leave behind wasn't healthy.We hold onto stories about the person and the relationship, but those stories keep us stuck.To heal, you have to see what is real.Look at the facts and be honest with yourself about why the relationship ended.Write it down, reflect, and ask yourself what worked, what didn't, and what this is teaching you. Heartbreak is painful, but it's also an opportunity to grow.If you step into the grief with awareness, you can move forward stronger and more conscious of what you truly need.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

When your partner gives you advice on how to love or live, it can sometimes feel like an invitation to grow.But it can also mask manipulation.One listener shares how her spiritually focused husband tells her she doesn't know how to love and is not living in her true self.I explain how these comments often reflect his own projections, not her reality.I talk about how we can learn to trust our inner wisdom instead of being swayed by criticism, and how to create healthier conversations in our relationships.The key takeaway: separate your ego from the truth and learn to listen to your body for guidance.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

“Healing after an affair is possible. It's just really hard work. But so are most things that are really important to us.”I'm sharing my two-step process for healing after an affair.I want you to know that while healing can be incredibly difficult, it's absolutely possible.The first step is what I call “stopping the bleeding.”This is when we focus on addressing the immediate trauma and the deep pain of the betrayal. The second step is all about understanding how the affair happened, what made the marriage vulnerable, and then beginning to rebuild trust.I won't lie, this is hard work, but with the right support and a clear process, you can heal and move forward—whether that means healing your marriage or making the decision to move on.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this episode, I share real coaching moments where we tackle some of the toughest relationship questions.One member is struggling with her husband's ongoing friendship with his ex, even after an affair. She questions whether this connection is manipulation or emotional abuse.Another member shares her frustration with her husband's porn use, and how it makes her feel inadequate.The truth is, both situations require deep introspection and boundaries.It's not about changing your partner—it's about being clear on your own needs and feelings.Desire, trust, and emotional boundaries need attention, and you're allowed to set them in your relationship.These issues don't just affect the marriage, they affect your own self-worth and well-being.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

After more than a decade of coaching women through marriage struggles, I've learned that desire in long-term relationships is widely misunderstood.We think it's a magical feeling that appears when we're with the “right” person, that it should always be spontaneous, and that focusing on our own pleasure is selfish.The truth is, desire takes effort, intention, and a willingness to be an active participant in creating it.Familiarity, daily responsibilities, and unresolved hurts can all drain desire.But we can bring it back by making space for spontaneity and adventure, planning intimacy so we can be present for it, and giving ourselves permission to care about our own pleasure.Desire doesn't just happen—it's something we can nurture if we choose.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Sometimes the ache in a marriage isn't about the big betrayals or blowout fights. It's about not feeling emotionally comforted by your partner.In this coaching conversation, I explore how our upbringing shapes what we expect from comfort and why our partner may not naturally offer it in the way we long for.I walk through how to express those needs clearly, without criticism, so they can be heard and received.I also share why it's okay to build a “board of directors” of trusted people who can support you in different ways, instead of expecting one person to meet every need.It's not about lowering your expectations… it's about learning how to ask for what you need and giving your partner the chance to grow into it.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

“If I can't communicate with my partner without asking a computer what I should say, I'm in trouble.” - Sharon PopeAI is changing every part of our lives, including our relationships.That might sound helpful, but I believe it comes with serious risks.Relationships aren't about getting the right answer or saying the perfect thing.They're about learning how to connect, how to repair after conflict, and how to grow alongside another person.If we turn to AI to do that work for us, we stop building the emotional muscles that make real love possible.Skills like empathy, communication, and forgiveness will fade if we don't keep practicing them. And the idea of an AI partner who never gets upset and always says what you want to hear might seem comforting, but it doesn't help you grow or become a better partner.If we want meaningful relationships, we have to keep doing the human work of showing up, staying present, and staying connected.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this session, I coached two women who were in very different places but wrestling with the same kind of emotional weight.One had left an abusive marriage and found herself in a new relationship with someone who shows up for her in all the ways she used to crave.And yet, the rage is still there. The grief is still there.The other is still in her marriage with a good man, but the spark is gone.She's trying to force herself to feel something that just isn't there anymore.What I shared with both of them is this: healing doesn't come from finally getting what you always wanted.It comes from doing the work to come home to yourself. That's the only place your power lives.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Healing your marriage after an affair is possible, even when your partner doesn't know.But pretending nothing happened isn't the answer.The guilt you feel may push you to come clean, but sharing the truth can shatter your partner's world, leaving you with even more guilt.Instead, start by getting honest with yourself.Why did you cheat? What were you running from or seeking?Once you understand your motivations, invest in your marriage in real ways.Be intentional, use relationship tools, meet their needs, and reintroduce fun and affection.It's about creating a relationship you both won't want to leave. No secrets, no pretending.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Sometimes our partner can't see that we've changed, and keeps bracing for the backlash that used to come.One woman shared how her husband still expects to be punished when he goes out with friends, even though she's no longer upset about it.Another is doing all the work to reconnect, but still feels no desire for her partner.And she's wondering if that's a sign.But desire isn't just emotional—it's hormonal.And it doesn't magically reappear. It needs care. It needs attention. It needs to be fed.But if the foundation is strong, there are ways to reconnect that go far beyond just “trying harder.”Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Financial stress can add a lot of tension in relationships.If you're already struggling with communication issues, resentment, or emotional distance, money problems can make everything feel worse.Whether you're staying for financial reasons or struggling to see a way forward, there are always options available to you.You don't have to suffer.With the right tools and support, you can take action, no matter whether you decide to stay or leave.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this episode, I walk through how to navigate a trial separation from the emotional prep to the practical logistics.Whether you're considering physical separation or an in-house one, this is about more than just space, it's about clarity.I talk about how to communicate the decision, how to set clear ground rules around kids, money, and how you'll interact, and why this kind of shift—while hard—can be a catalyst for growth.I also cover why most in-house separations don't work long-term, and how honesty with your children matters more than pretending things are fine.A separation doesn't always mean the end. It just might be the space you need to get unstuck.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this episode, I'm answering a big question I hear often: “If I change how I think about my partner's hurtful behavior… am I just letting him off the hook?”We unpack that idea starting with how our thoughts create our feelings, and how learning to shift those thoughts is not about pretending things are okay.It's about reclaiming your emotional power.Whether it's something small, like not replacing the Q-tip jar lid, or something big, like lying and broken trust, I'll show you how curiosity and understanding are much more effective than control or criticism.Because you don't change your life—or your relationship—by staying stuck in blame.You change it by seeing clearly, responding differently, and choosing what feels better for you.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

"If you don't know how to manage your mind, all you have is the ancient instinctual wiring from centuries ago. It's playing out in your life in a modern world." - Sharon PopeOur hormones shape so much of how we react to each other.Women, driven by estrogen, are wired for connection and emotional harmony, while men, influenced by testosterone, tend to react to conflict with more aggression or defensiveness.I'm diving into the biological differences between men and women and how those differences affect our relationships.Understanding these natural differences is key to improving communication and reducing unnecessary blame.When we manage our reactions and recognize our instinctual wiring, we can navigate relationships with more clarity and less emotional upheaval.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this episode, I unpack the subtle but powerful ways resistance shows up in our relationships, both in our partner and in ourselves.Whether it's denial, blame, or even sarcasm, these are just avoidance tactics we've learned to protect ourselves from feeling hurt or rejected.But when every hard conversation is met with pushback, we stop having them. And when we stop having them, we stop repairing the relationship.I'll walk you through the 12 most common forms of resistance.You'll know how to recognize them and what to do instead: stay present, hold the hard moments with compassion, and keep connection alive even in the messiest conversations.This isn't about being perfect. It's about being aware and doing better when we know better.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

You did the best you could to love one another, and you made some mistakes along the way, and that's what brought us here. It doesn't mean you're bad people.What happens when one partner finally makes changes after years of disconnection and neglect, only for the other partner to feel too far gone to trust those changes?We often wait for our partner to change, but the reality is, change comes too late for some relationships.When you're finally ready to make your decision, whether to stay or go, it's important to assess if the changes being made are genuine or just a response to fear of losing everything.While the effort to change can feel like progress, it might not be enough to bridge the emotional distance that's developed over time.Sometimes, it's about knowing when to accept things for what they are and make the best decision for yourself, regardless of the outcome.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this conversation, I talk about navigating the emotional turmoil of financial betrayal in a marriage and how to maintain your integrity while making tough decisions.It's important to choose how you feel in any situation, especially when faced with emotions like grief, anger, and betrayal.Setting boundaries, standing up for yourself, and letting go of the “shoulds” that don't serve you are key to healing.I also highlight the power of compassion—not only for yourself but eventually for the person who hurt you—without compromising your self-respect or well-being.*Audio shared with permission.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Your husband isn't like you.I'm sharing insights on how differences in a marriage can actually enhance the relationship, rather than cause friction.I dive into the dynamics of one partner always reaching for more while the other stays steady and how these contrasting approaches can balance each other.We also explore how understanding and appreciating these differences can lead to greater connection and intimacy.In this episode, I use real examples from my own marriage to show how embracing the uniqueness of your partner can strengthen your bond.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

I want to share with you what I've learned about the emotional ups and downs of navigating divorce.It's normal to think that once you've made the decision to leave, the journey will feel easier.In reality, it's often filled with doubt, fear, and uncertainty.The journey can often mirror the stages of grief and you might bounce between these stages, even within the same day.As you process these emotions, you'll need the right support to help guide you through the tough times and to move toward clarity.I share insights on how to navigate these phases, and the importance of finding meaning in the loss, which can ultimately help you heal and move forward.*Audio shared with permission.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this episode I break down the three essential phases of healing after an affair: Stop the Bleeding, Rehabilitation, and Healing.These stages are crucial for rebuilding trust and healing the pain of betrayal.The first phase is about managing the initial shock and emotional impact.In phase two, you'll do the deeper work of understanding what led to the affair and healing both individually and together.Phase three is where you begin to envision and create a new future, even if it looks different from what you expected.I'll explain why each phase is essential, how to avoid getting stuck, and why having the right support is key to moving forward.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

"The person who most needs to hear your words is you."Have you ever wished you could just see your situation clearly and finally hear exactly what you most need to know?I'm sharing one of my favorite self-coaching exercises, inspired by Martha Beck, to help you do just that.We begin by exploring someone else's stuck patterns and hidden courage — because sometimes it feels safer to look outward first.Then, step by step, I guide you to turn those insights inward, revealing the truths and guidance you most need to tell yourself.This simple but powerful practice can help you drop old ways of thinking, see your life with fresh eyes, and feel more at peace with the decisions ahead of you.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What do you do when you and your partner feel like you've run out of things to say?You'll hear the story of my client Patty, who sat through an awkward, silent dinner with her husband and went home feeling deeply alone.If you relate, know this: you haven't lost your connection… you've just forgotten how to talk to each other.I walk you through practical, open-ended questions you can use to spark deeper, more meaningful conversations. Questions like “What are you working toward right now?” or “When have you felt most loved by me?” These are simple but powerful ways to break out of the small talk rut and rediscover each other. Start with one question at a time, stay curious, and watch how you remember how to truly connect.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

You can have a hard no and a beautiful yes, and when you know the difference, you'll stop abandoning yourself just to keep the peace.One of the things I teach women inside my membership is how to hold healthy, loving boundaries, especially when emotions are running high.We talk through six types of boundaries (physical, emotional, sexual, intellectual, time, and material) and how to honor them without guilt or resentment.You'll also hear some powerful boundary-setting phrases you can borrow and practice - because the more we build that muscle in our day-to-day lives, the easier it is to protect our peace when it matters most.Setting boundaries isn't about pushing people away.It's about letting them see who you really are, and deciding what you're no longer willing to carry.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Whatever you're looking for, you're going to find. So the real question is: what are you choosing to look for?So many of the women I work with can rattle off what's not working in their marriage. But when I ask what is working, they have to pause. Not because there's nothing good, but because they haven't been focused on it.In this episode, I explore the quiet but powerful truth that whatever you're looking for, you will find. And whatever you focus on becomes bigger in your experience.If you keep searching for what's wrong, your brain will gladly serve that up on repeat.But if you can hold space for both what's painful and what's beautiful, and choose to focus - just for today - on something you genuinely value in your partner, your entire experience can begin to shift.It's not about ignoring the hard stuff. It's about giving the good stuff a chance to grow.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

I've had so many women come to me feeling powerless in their lives, like everything is happening to them, and they're stuck just reacting.But what if there's another way to see it? In this episode, I unpack what it really means to believe that life is happening through you, not to you.We'll explore the difference between victim mindset and empowered thinking, how your perspective shapes your experience, and why reclaiming your role in how life unfolds is the key to freedom.This isn't about blame - it's about recognizing your agency, your power, and your ability to create the life and relationships you truly want."What you think, you become. What you feel, you attract. What you imagine, you create."Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

When you discover that your partner has had an affair, it's common to be overwhelmed by a rush of emotions… fear, anger, confusion, and shame.The questions you ask in the heat of the moment, like "Did you love her?" or "Did you have sex with him?" reflect deep pain, but some questions can only make things worse by creating images that are impossible to unsee.Healing after an affair requires more than just support from friends and family. You need a structured approach with someone who can help you process the pain and guide you through the difficult steps ahead.The journey to healing is complex. The key is to find a safe space to process the pain, whether it's with a coach, therapist, or support group.Don't carry this burden alone.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Many of us wrestle with that uneasy feeling in a “good enough” marriage, stable and secure but missing real connection and wonder if the problem lies within ourselves or the relationship.The truth is, it takes two people growing and learning together to make love work, and often we simply haven't been equipped with the right tools.At the same time, it's common to struggle with people-pleasing and chronic worry that drain our energy and joy.Healing means recognizing these patterns, setting healthy boundaries without guilt, and learning to ride the waves of uncertainty with courage.“Worrying is like praying for what you don't want. When you focus on what could go wrong, you make it bigger—and rob yourself of the joy right in front of you.”Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

If you've lost the energy and enthusiasm to keep investing in your marriage, I want you to know you're not alone… and there's nothing wrong with you.We all start relationships with a full tank, but when things get hard (and they do), that tank can run dry.In this episode, I'm sharing how the “hard” in marriage is often misunderstood, why the fantasy of ease with someone new won't save you, and how to create a spark again! Not by forcing something fake, but by reconnecting to your own growth, intention, and choice.The truth is, it's not about finding the perfect person. It's about how you choose to show up when things get hard… because that's when transformation happens.“No one has ever beat themselves up for trying. But sometimes we regret when we haven't given it our best.”Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.