The OWN IT Podcast with Nicole Hollar

Today's episode examines the profound psychological impact of losing a defining identity, such as a professional career, athletic status, or a long-held personal role. Author Nicole Hollar wrote about this in her article, "Who Am I When the Spotlight Fades?" (www.nicolehollar.com/blog). In it, she explains that these transitions often trigger a genuine grief process because individuals frequently anchor their entire self-worth to external achievements and public validation. Ultimately, it serves as a guide for navigating the void left behind when the scaffolding of a highly visible or demanding role is removed. By viewing these life phases as individual chapters rather than a completed story, people can move past the feeling of disappearance that follows a major ending. Nicole's article emphasizes that true resilience requires acknowledging this loss and intentionally building a new sense of self based on current values rather than past applause and validation.

Integrative life coach, Nicole Hollar, outlines a transformative approach to communication called active listening, which prioritizes genuine comprehension over the common urge to provide unsolicited solutions. In this episode we discuss four specific techniques from her article, "Why Listening Often Beats Problem-Solving," (www.nicolehollar.com/blog): paraphrasing, reflecting feelings, connecting emotions to facts, and clarifying—designed to make others feel truly understood. By moving away from a problem-solving mindset, individuals can allow speakers to retain their own agency and decision-making power. This method distinguishes itself from mere silence by requiring the listener to reflect the speaker's experience back to them without necessarily agreeing or offering judgment. Ultimately, mastering these skills fosters deeper connections in both professional environments and personal relationships. Such a behavioral shift ensures that conversations become a space for authentic validation rather than just a wait for one's turn to speak.

In this episode we are discussing integrative life coach Nicole Hollar's article, "You Learned to Say, 'I Can't'," (www.nicolehollar.com/blog) where she examines why competent adults often abandon the adventurous spirit of their childhood to adopt a mindset of perceived helplessness. Nicole argues that the common refrain of "I don't know how" is rarely about a lack of intelligence, but rather a fear of vulnerability and a refusal to be seen as a beginner. This transition from active problem-solving to passive outsourcing creates a "lid" on one's personal potential, driven by the social pressure to avoid failure. In her article, she suggests that individuals can reclaim their confidence by differentiating between a genuine lack of interest and a self-imposed story of inability. By tackling small, low-stakes tasks, people can systematically rebuild the belief that they are still capable of navigating the unknown. Ultimately, Nicole write a call-to-action to stop avoiding discomfort and start reconnecting with the self-reliance of one's youth.

Our discussion explores how habitual conflict avoidance functions as a damaging coping mechanism rather than a true peacemaking skill. According to behavior change expert Nicole Hollar, suppressing grievances causes issues to accumulate interest, eventually leading to unspoken resentment, passive-aggressive behavior, and the silent tracking of others' perceived failures. By failing to set clear boundaries early on, individuals inadvertently train others to overlook their needs, which eventually results in disproportionate emotional outbursts. She emphasizes that real peace requires the courage to address problems while they are small and manageable. Ultimately, the source of this discussion, her article, "Why Avoiding Conflict Creates More Conflict," from www.nicolehollar.com/blog serves as a guide for reclaiming personal agency by choosing short-term discomfort over long-term relational decay.

In this episode, we discuss Nicole Hollar's emphasis on the critical importance of proactive health management rather than waiting for a medical emergency to force a decision. She explores the psychological reasons why individuals often minimize symptoms and delay care, highlighting that such avoidance actually results in a loss of personal power. By shifting from a passive passenger to an active partner in their own wellness, patients can better advocate for themselves through research and assertive questioning. Nicole argues that ignoring persistent issues creates a compounding cost to one's physical, mental, and emotional well-being over time. Ultimately, the article from her blog (www.nicolehollar.com/blog) that we are discussing, “Taking Control of Your Health Before the Other Shoe Drops,” serves as a guide for reclaiming personal agency by addressing health concerns before they escalate into unmanageable crises.

This episode discusses Nicole Hollar's article, “Who told you that wasn't your job?” from her blog (www.nicolehollar.com/blog), which explores the psychological and behavioral reasons why individuals often avoid responsibility at work by claiming a task is not their job. While corporate silos are frequently blamed for poor collaboration, Nicole argues that these barriers are actually constructed through individual choices and a desire for personal comfort over professional influence. By choosing silence or disengagement, employees trade their personal agency for a lack of friction, which eventually solidifies into a stagnant company culture. She emphasizes that true ownership is a recurring decision to stay involved in the broader success of a project rather than just completing isolated tasks. Ultimately, Nicole encourages listeners to identify where they have relinquished their power and to distinguish between healthy professional boundaries and habits of avoidance. This perspective shifts the focus from structural organizational flaws to the internal mindset and daily actions of the individual worker.

In this last episode of Season 1 of The OWN IT Podcast, I dive into the life-changing effects of keeping a gratitude journal, backed by a powerful study on how gratitude impacts happiness and well-being. I'll show you how focusing on the positives can make you more optimistic, improve your relationships, and even boost your physical health. I'm challenging you to try a 30-day gratitude journal to see how this simple habit can amplify positivity in your life. Join me as we explore how noticing the good around you can transform your outlook and deepen your connections. - Find out more about me and my coaching programs at NicoleHollar.com, and follow me on social media @NicoleHollarCoaching. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

In this episode of The OWN IT Podcast, I'll show you why self-care isn't just a luxury—it's essential for boosting your productivity and well-being. I'll explain how prioritizing self-care can make you 30% more productive and reduce your stress by 25%, backed by real research. From getting enough sleep to taking short breaks, I'll share ways to integrate self-care into your routine and show you how it can transform both your work and personal life. Let me help you stay energized and avoid burnout by making time for yourself. - Find out more about Nicole and her coaching programs at NicoleHollar.com, and follow her on social media @NicoleHollarCoaching. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

In this episode of The OWN IT Podcast, you'll discover just how resourceful and capable you truly are, even in the face of life's unexpected challenges. Using hurricane season as an example, I discuss how fear and panic can cloud judgment, and share how planning and preparation can help you regain control. Whether it's a natural disaster or personal crisis, this episode will remind you that you have the inner strength to handle anything life throws at you. -- Find out more about Nicole and her coaching programs at NicoleHollar.com, and follow her on social media @NicoleHollarCoaching. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

In this episode of The OWN IT Podcast, you'll learn how to break free from bad habits by understanding and changing your triggers. I explain the habit loop — trigger, behavior, and reward — and how small adjustments in your environment or routine can help you reshape habits. Whether you're trying to quit smoking or stop procrastinating, this episode provides practical advice on how to consciously create lasting change in your life. -- Find out more about Nicole and her coaching programs at NicoleHollar.com, and follow her on social media @NicoleHollarCoaching. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

In this episode of The OWN IT Podcast, Nicole tackles the issue of how sitting for long periods is negatively impacting your body. You'll learn about the crucial role the iliopsoas muscle plays and how extended sitting can lead to tightness, back pain, and even emotional drain. Nicole shares simple, actionable tips like using a standing desk, moving every 50 minutes, and stretching key muscle groups to counteract the effects of sitting all day. If you're working in an office or spending too much time sitting, this episode is packed with advice to help you restore balance and energy. Find out more about Nicole and her coaching programs at NicoleHollar.com, and follow her on social media @NicoleHollarCoaching. -- Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

In this episode of The OWN IT Podcast, you'll explore the fascinating science of generational trauma. Nicole dives into how trauma can be passed down through generations, even when you haven't directly experienced it. Drawing on real-life client stories and research studies, including an experiment with rats that reveals how fear responses can transcend generations, Nicole explains how unresolved emotions like anxiety or guilt can affect your life today. Learn how to break free from inherited trauma and create lasting change in your life. Find out more about Nicole and her coaching programs at NicoleHollar.com, and follow her on social media @NicoleHollarCoaching. -- Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

In this episode of The OWN IT Podcast, you'll learn the best ways to recover from Delayed Onset Muscle Soreness (DOMS) after a workout. Nicole explains the science behind DOMS, why your muscles feel sore 24-48 hours after exercising, and how it helps build strength. She shares practical tips like progressing slowly with weights, staying hydrated, getting enough sleep, and using tools like foam rollers, yoga balls, and ice baths to aid in recovery. If you're looking for effective ways to manage post-workout soreness and boost muscle growth, this episode is for you. Find out more about Nicole and her coaching programs at NicoleHollar.com, and follow her on social media @NicoleHollarCoaching. -- Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

In this episode of The OWN IT Podcast, you'll learn about the fascinating connection between the gut and the brain. Nicole breaks down the powerful communication happening between these two systems and how it affects not just your digestion, but also your mood, energy, sleep, and overall well-being. Your gut's microbiome can influence cravings, emotional states, and even your brain's serotonin and dopamine production. What you eat can dramatically impact how you feel, and small dietary changes can lead to big improvements in your mental and physical health. If you've ever wondered how the food you consume affects your mind and body, this is an episode you don't want to miss. Find out more about Nicole and her coaching programs at NicoleHollar.com, and follow her on social media @NicoleHollarCoaching. -- Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Science has proven that people with a sense of purpose are better able to manage stress, and recover from stressful events easier. Plus, it lowers cardiovascular risk, rates of depression, and slows the effects of aging, including loss of mobility & cognition. In this episode I talk about the eight steps to finding your purpose. 1. Self-Awareness and Acceptance 2. Attitude of Gratitude 3. Growth Mindset 4. Self-Care 5. Purpose Statement 6. Stay Inspired 7. Volunteer 8. Pay it Forward Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Stop trying to make huge unsustainable changes when shifting to a healthier mindset and lifestyle. In this episode I will share simple ways to incorporate moderate changes to your life that are easy to achieve, and long-lasting. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

We all have boundaries. From the less significant like not wanting to eat a certain food, to others that are more profound like values. In life, sometimes boundaries are called rules or laws. In this episode you will learn about how confidence impacts your boundaries and the importance of adhering to the four steps of boundary setting. 4 Steps of Boundary Setting 1. Define Your Boundaries 2. Set Your Boundaries 3. Enforce Your Boundaries 4. Respect the Boundaries of Other People Considerations when creating boundaries: How is it going to affect you? Are you willing to lose a relationship? Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

What does confidence look like to you? In 20+ years of coaching I have narrowed down 10 traits that most confident people share. In this episode, learn how to adopt those same traits and pull yourself into the most confident version of you. Traits of Confident People 1. They share their opinions, wants, and needs. 2. They accept their mistakes and are open to vulnerability. 3. They are supportive and lift people up. 4. They are genuinely interested in listening. 5. They are open-minded. 6. They believe in themselves and take appropriate risks. 7. They are not arrogant. 8. They do not personalize everything. 9. They take responsibility for their lives. 10. They have and accept personal boundaries. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

There are six main areas of life that we need in alignment to feel grounded and in control. The reality is that most people are not on-point in all six areas all the time, however understanding how they impact each other helps know where to start focusing when making change. In Breakthrough Coaching we always start by ensuring the two foundation sectors are grounded and stable before moving onto the other areas. In this episode, learn how to determine which of the six areas to focus on first, and why getting foundation sectors in order is so important. Six Sectors of Self: Health & Fitness, Career & Finances, Friends & Family, Spirituality, Personal Growth & Development, and Relationships Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Obstacles throw us off, cars breakdown, jobs and relationships end. And it is tough. Much like you I've learned through experience how to navigate those tough times, and I am here to tell you that there is something good in the shitty if you can step out of the bad experience for just a moment to realize it. It doesn't take away the tough, but sometimes it leaves you a gift you may not have known you needed. Listen in to learn how to flip the narrative. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

On the road to success obstacles are inevitable. They will challenge you to stop, change, and test your resolve. Listen in as I discuss these eight principles to help you navigate challenges and crush your goals. Look beyond your goal. Get out of your own way. Take action. Know where you are. Be flexible. Seek quality feedback. Stay determined. Operational excellence. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Have you even KNOWN you were being judged for something, often a physical element? Listen in to hear about the Scar Experiment that validates that we run a predictive processing program in our minds to perceive an experience and act according to what we predict. Life is often defined by what you expect to see, and then you look for it. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Have you ever found yourself blaming some part of your for your failure to get a job, make a friend, get chosen for a team and so on? What "card" do you hide behind that has become such a part of your identity that you believe the world judges you for it? These cards lie to you, they disempower you, and they let you stay in your safe box even if you claim you want more. So long as you hide behind them you will not be able to see the real reasons holding you back, allowing you to better yourself for positive change. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Becoming a mentor or mentee is a terrific, rewarding experience for both people. It sharpens skills, gives a sounding board, develops long-lasting relationships and more. Listen in to find out more. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

In this episode I break down the essential elements of effective team communication as I run through the elements from my chapter in the recent anthology, When Work Works. Along with 14 other authors we discuss solutions to creating a quality workplace. Listen in to hear a synopsis from my chapter, "Playing Nice in the Sandbox." I cover topics from understanding and creating respectful and purposeful communication, to the essentials of making a meeting most effective. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Are you like most people whose lives are filled with an endless task list? In this episode we'll talk about the importance of establishing positive boundaries and habits for your wellbeing so that you can continue to check off everything on the list and feel good. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

How do you choose to focus your energy? On what you like and support, or on what you don't care for? In this episode we'll explore the importance of creating a mindset of support rather than a focus on things your don't like, or against people or groups that dislike your interests. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Have you heard yourself say "I'm a people pleaser" or know people who are? It's time to stop. Relationships are about creating harmony and collaboration. People pleasers allow their own values and beleifs to get overlooked while attempting to make others happy. Likewise, if people pleasing comes from the desire to be liked, then people are not getting to know the real you anyway. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

When you say "I'm sorry" too much it robs you of your self-esteem and gives your unconscious mind the belief that you are often at fault. "I'm sorry" implies some form of transgression. So, why are you sorry because someone made an observation about you or because someone had a loss? Do you keep apologizing for the same behavior but don't make effort to correct it? If so, it is empty anyway. In this episode learn how overusing that phrase affects your personal perception and those of others, and what you can do to change your language, and better connect with people, too. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

The ability to have joy for someone who has what you might desire is a transformative mindset. In this episode I talk about shifting your mindset from a place of envy to one of appreciation and possibility. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Learning to say what you need rather than being bitter you didn't is so much better. Pro-you is not anti-them, so it is important to learn that and how to communicate it. Living in a state of "I feel bad" helps no one. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Have you ever known someone who lashes out a lot, pushes buttons, is overly critical, and sometimes downright mean? If you do, there is a good change that those behaviors are a form of protection, rather than an indicator that they are not a good person at heart. It does mean you need to condone the behaviors, however. Unfortunately, the behaviors generally hurt the person who lashes out and the people closest to them, plus, it severs connection, leaving the person in the place they unconsciously fear most - alone. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Have you ever had a good retail therapy day? It's so common it has a name. There is nothing wrong with having a moment of purchased joy. We do it with food, too. But do you find yourself chasing happiness? Like nothing you do or buy fills that space for very long. I've seen this conflcit with couples where one person wants to have a bunch of things to feel happy while the other doesn't care about the stuff, they just want to be happy. It often causes disagreements because HOW they feel joy is misaligned. In this episode I will explain how to find inner peace and joy from the inside rather than trying to create it with things. It is called the Path of Mastery. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

While making stew for my dogs I was inspired to remind everyone of how important it is to get all of your food facts in order. Stop reading headlines, diet highlights and listening to the often misinformed information from your bestie. I'm giving you free access to my Nutrition Essentials Course, too, listen in. I even made it easy to find on my Podcast page. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Have you even been so focused on what you thought you wanted, but realized you were off? Maybe it is because you were looking for the wrong thing. In this episode, I will explain how to make sure you are crystal clear about what you are really searching for rather than how you think it may look. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Feeling mobile makes us feel young, capable, physically motivated, and less vulnerable to injury. In this episode of OWN IT you will learn how muscle and joint pain don't always mean tight, sometimes it means weak. I will explain the basics of what I call "a bar fight" among muscles and give you suggestions about how to become more mobile, flexible and have less pain. Click to learn → Exercises for better mobility from my blog Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

You have so much to do but so little gets done sometimes. What is distracting you and how can you navigate all of that. In this episode you will discover the importance of: Distraction Awareness Time Blocking TEVS (Thought & Emotion Value Scale) Location Anchoring Reminders Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Starting something new is uncomfortable and sometimes scary. How many times have you talked yourself out of doing something because you were uncertain? I have plenty. How many times have you been successful at something new? In this episode I will share the 5 Most Important Things you must do to Get Out of Your Way and start moving into the unknown. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

I thought I'd give you a brief intro about why I am even doing this podcast. Connect with Nicole: Nicole's Free 4-Step Plan to More Joy This Year (downloadable to print or fill in online) Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Nicole on Instagram Find Nicole Hollar | Focus Studio on Facebook Nicole's TikTok Sign up for Nicole's newsletter Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.