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Send us a Text Message.I talked to Laurie Gerber, who's a relationship expert for people over 50 and has worked with some of the biggest companies in the world doing love coaching and currently developing The Handel Method® and focusing on LOVE coaching. we talked about what it's like to date in your 50s and beyond, how dating apps might feel like a struggle for people who never used them and used to date very differently, and what it means to focus on love, relationships, and how to be honest in that process.learn more about Laurie hereSupport the Show.

I talked to Zaahirah, who is the founder of Hati, a new dating app that is trying to reinvent the way we connect online by creating a way for more intentional dating. we talked about why she decided to punish and ban people who ghost on the app after several times, why phone calls are a good way to asses a match, and her story that lead to being a founder of a dating app.datewithhati.comSupport the Show.

I talked to Joy Farrow and Laura Frombach about their new book - Street Smart Safety for Women. about their unique backgrounds as a retired Deputy Sheriff and a former army technologist contributed to how they met each other online 15 years ago. we talked about the best safety tips for online dating, how to deal with situations that might go wrong, best practices for keeping yourself safe and healthy, and a lot more!check out their book here: www.streetsmartsafety.orghttps://www.instagram.com/streetsmartsafetycophttps://www.instagram.com/streetsmartsafety/Support the show

I talked to Gabi about how his art group (ArtUp Nation and the Beuys Club) view the online dating world (aka - the flesh market) and his experience with it, why most dating apps are actually the same today, and what the difference they try to provide, how does branding for dating apps affect our choice of it if at all, do dating apps want our wellbeing or is it all just about making money?  and much more!Support the show

I talked to Lizette about what it's like to start using online dating for the first time ever after being in a relationship for 8 years, how to feel confident in knowing what you want (or what you don't), best dating apps to use currently and what it's like dating in Berlin. We also discussed PowerPoint presentations from very confused dates, attraction types, and many other things!Support the show

I talked to Guy Blaise (from Episode 101) about his new book “Love like a man” and what led him to write a new book specifically for men. we also talked about body positivity, marriage & divorce in the states, dating people with grown-up kids and the challenges that bring, why men should mind how they pee, wild dating adventure in North Carolina,  about his book “Negrophobia” and how it's like being a foreign black man in the US especially when it comes to dating and much more!you can find Guy's books hereSupport the show

I Talked to Greg (again) all the way from down under about how he hunt down tinder scammers and also - which app is the hookup app nowadays? Does that actually exist? dating with people who than disappear, how I got stood up by a date twice, when dates are just without any chemistry, dates that refused to have sex with a condom, how the lockdowns affected the dating scene in Melbourne and more!Support the show

Talked to Rachael who's an Irish living in berlin about her experience dating here, the peter pan syndrome that's so common in berlin, how dating is in Ireland and how religion affects our dating culture,  why people invent arbitrary terms for their dating life, a date that accidentally (or not) could not hold his pee, how to deal with people who don't seem to know what they are doing in bed,  how to set expectations for your dates, and much much more!Support the show

I talked to Lulu Johnson about her new book about her berlin dating stories and her experience with online dating that led to writing the book. we talked about peter penning and how to be more mindful when you're trying to find a relationship online, going on a date with a mysterious man and discovering he's still in jail, toxic relationships, and how to read signs and red flags and much more!Find Lulu's book here: linktr.ee/datinginberlinSupport the show

I talked to Nicole about using tinder in Germany and in the US and what are the dating culture differences, also about: a very weird catfishing experience, faking big age differences, body positivity when it comes to height weight, and everything else, a bathroom break during a date that took an awkward turn, a giant with a pile of 3 mattresses and way more!Support the show

During Podfest (@podfest_berlin) 2022 i hijacked the corridor and asked passer-by guests about their online dating experiences: How reading a book while walking makes a big cultural difference, the accidental tinder mismatch, how Tattoos for free can be a gateway to a great relationship @homoswipiens, a Berliner catfish, the attention-seeking trap, how to avoid the assumption that leads to bad dates @lovingagainst, retrospectives on awkward dates and a journey of bad dates told by Podfest own @brookswashere16Support the show

I talked with Kate (host of About Face Podcast, burlesque dancer, and Narrative Therapist),  about her Dating experience in Berlin, San Fransisco and what crazy, creepy, and weird dates she's been on. We also talked about dating and sex addiction, her overcoming alcohol addiction and being married to an addict, how to develop a good gut instinct for safety before going on first dates, and much more!Thank you for Podfest 2022 for hosting us!Support the show

I talked to Shirin about their experience on tinder as a nonbinary and nonmonogamous person, navigating through the chaos of dating apps and deciphering what means what.We also talked about the cultural differences between dating in Berlin to India, a date at a club that went wrong, an unexpected reaction from a hook-up, and much more!Support the show

I talked to Aurilia about dating as a traditional Jew in Hamburg, using Jswipe and other apps like Tinder and Bumble, integrating as a french swiss in Germany and dating german men, ppl who look you up on Instagram after a match, going to a Jswipe party in new york, uncommunicative dates,  catfish attempts, dating while keeping kosher and how non-Jews react to keeping kosher and other Jewish things and much more!Support the show

I talked to Simona about relationship and dating mindsets in Lithuania and why she moved away, how she had an adventurous date with a soldier in the middle of nowhere, how spontaneous ppl are notoriously hard to date, why the men/women binary dating behavior narratives are more about people and character than gender, a guy that tried to move to her place on a third date and much much more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

Adélaïde told me about her assault / stealthing experience that happened with a man she met online, her journey to try to prosecute him according to the law that is supposed to help her, and the problems with the organizations and entities that were supposed to assist women who've been through an assault in Berlin. We also talked about feeling safe on dates, identifying red flags, and more.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Aspen and Nicole, who hosts a podcast about dating German men called The dating abroadcast, about dating in Germany. we spoke about Nicole's systematic approach to dating apps, dating in the south of Germany, using hinge and tinder and what's the difference, cultural difference between Americans and Germans,  dating ppl while they're on drugs, rock climbing and mountain biking fanatics, meeting a date in the woods at night during a thunderstorm, what men tell aspen after sex, our favorite muppets, discovering your date's family are WWII nazis and much MUCH more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Simone about her online dating experience involving a guy who hates cold pizzas and will not let it go, a guy who was really determined to lecture her about having kids on the tram, guys who see themselves as alpha males and why that's toxic, incels, why we let more things slide for people we find "hot" and where these definitions come from, going with a date to a strip club, toxic self-shame and how to deal with it, threesome proposals, STIs and way more!Simone tells us all about her dating life on stage as well as in her blog 99tinderstories.comSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

Alexander and I talked for the second time after recording the last episode with him (E98) to catch up on how the online dating life in Greece is coping with the pandemic life. we also talked about STI's, consent, understanding your partner's body language, what changed with his online dating preferences, and much more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Alexandra (@alexborntobewild) - who hosts a podcast about consent - about why we should be more contentful in our dating life (and generally) and how does that come into play, asking for consent before kissing someone, how she go catfished, how she Krav Maga'd a guy who violated her consent and assaulted her during a date, unsolicited dick pics and how to deal with them legally, consent in everyday life in non-dating situations and more!check out her podcast here: conversationsonconsent.comSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Maria about her experience using OKC and other apps and the horrible things people told her on her dates. we also talked about dating in Berlin versus dating in Spain, how cultural differences take place in dating, why you should not order a tea on a date, why everything is 5050 statistically and how to say what you think and confront people.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Sai, who wrote an article about her experience using tinder as a blind woman, we also talked about how she met Jack - her partner,  how they met through tinder, how Sai navigate some people's reactions on tinder, and what it was like for both of them to use online dating and dating together on their first dates. We also talked about how we need to increase the accessibility and awareness to people with disabilities and a lot more!Please check out Sai's article here:https://www.youthkiawaaz.com/2019/06/a-blind-womans-tinder-success-casting-wicked-anecdotal-wisdom/Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Tina and Tobi (@tobiasherrmann) from Not Less But Better (@notlessbutbetter) about how they developed an online course to help people with the struggles of online dating, digital addictions, and digital life. We discussed what makes people unhappy while using online dating, how Tobi found his first BF on a dating app, using dating apps as tools and not to overwhelm ourselves, ghosting and how to deal with it, and way way more stuff!you can check out Not Less But Better app here:https://notlessbutbetter.app.link/9KFBi03efjbSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Merav about her online dating experience, how the app gamification can be addictive, how Bumble is different in different cultures, shallowness when it comes to dating, expectancies in more macho cultures when it comes to dating, violent date experience, doing 3 dates in one night, disappointed slaves and why it's important to communicate about kinks beforehand, starting conversations and gender roles, how she did a reverse “how I met your mother” sort of thing, and more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Shira about her online dating experience in Jerusalem during the first and second wave of the pandemic, how she got gaslighted by a Catfishes, how her date reacted very dramatically to being rejected, kissing without consent, cumming too fast or too slow, and how sex can be not oriented about orgasms, and much more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Connell Barrett, who's a dating coach for men, about why he became a dating coach and what was his journey to write his new book “dating sucks but you don't”, why authenticity is very important in order to connect to people, why he thinks we need to work on ourselves to become our best selves and believe in our own worth. Also about how men perceive themselves in the dating world, pick up artists, how men can reshape their dating life, and much more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Yuval about her blog Loving Against My Instincts and why shed decided to start writing about her attempt to hack her dating life and how she uses online dating for that. also about Sapiosexuality, what define a spark and what is attraction, how the pandemic might have changed the way we date and what we're after, date with a potential relative, GIFs as first messages and more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Marly (@diedichtende) about the horrible date she and I had a couple of years ago and our own perspectives of what happened, how the events took place from each of ours perspectives, what led to this situation and how to perhaps avoid this kind of dates. We also talked about over-tindering, how comedy can be a great tool to deal with hard topics, internalized misogyny, and much more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Babs from Over/ underrated music podcast about music and online dating and how it's like going to concerts on a first Tinder date, how different people discover chemistry with their dates, why we need to deconstruct dating expectations and dating roles between genders, how is it like going back to dating after 10 years, the unofficial rule about how fast you should meet people after matching, what is bad sex? Communication and sex, how porn affects us? a very racist date and why we both think Oasis is overrated and much more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Caroline from the "At least you didn’t" podcast about how she met her husband on match dot com 13 years ago and the online dating journey that led to that. also about: who are wise guys and how is it like to date them, dating shady blokes that do shady deals in the middle of the date, dates who are rude to the service staff, how she got stood up on a live radio date, getting ghosted by companies while looking for a job and much much more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Devon from Devvvtalks Podcast about anxiety before dates and expectations, things we’re “supposed” to do, dating in the US as a black man, and how people change their attitude towards him just cause his ethnicity, the wild tindering at quidditch competition, trying out nonmonogamy for the first time, cheating partners that lead to STI’s, funky flight attendance, why my tinder profile is more funny than serious and how people react to it, why we train algorithms to be racist, the effort to reduce racial bias, and why you should not eat spicy cheetos before cunnilingus.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Alena about how it’s like being fetishized as ginger and the type of messages she gets regarding her hair color. Also:  her date with a drug dealer German rapper that ended awkwardly, getting stood up, one night stands, one horrible vacation date that led to an almost strip search in Israel a year after, why people are on online dating apps these days,  unsolicited dick pics and more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Guy Blaise about his book “love like the French” where he gives his perspectives as a Frenchmen on love, dating, and everything in between. We talked about dick pics, online dating in your 50s, how it’s like being Afro-French in the US and some racist dates he encountered, how some people ask for nudes before meeting and how this can be harassment, body shaming, how his grandmother influenced the way he values love and affection, and much more!check out his book at www.thefrenchperspective.com/Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

It's the 100th episode! and for the occasion, I talked to Anna, who is a bio-ethicist, about the ethics of online dating, the social effect of dating apps, is it hard to find love? how do we communicate and why it needs to change, where does the "real life" begins and "online life" ends? how she had a date that drove 100km to meet her, is online dating an effective way to meet people? and much much more!Have any comments? questions? find me on Instagram  @unmatchmenowSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Stef about Tindering in your 40s, how she started an illustration project creating postcards about crazy tinder profiles, the business of online dating, dating preferences, defining boundaries, why I dislike IG accounts that make fun of how people look on tinder and shame them, performance pressure, porn & social stereotypes, what I realized after using the "seeking arrangement" website for a month, how doing the podcast affected me personally and much more!check out her project at:http://fortheonesthatgotaway.com/Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Alexander about how he uses social media for dating and how it’s like tindering in Greece and about his interesting dating experience. Also about how tinder’s public perception changed through the years, consent when it comes to men - and how it’s like if somewhat exposes themselves to you without consent, when women should ask for consent from men and some dating experiences that were somewhat not consentful, my garlic breath date story, FetLife in Greece, body shaming and how men experience body-shaming when it comes to sexual performance, dating as a bisexual, body positivity and how society affects our “type”, and how we need to work redefine our attraction patterns, indicators on when and how we want to go down on someone, shibari, an encounter with a dominatrix, and much more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Alex about his experience using dating apps after moving to Europe from Australia and how it's like getting back to dating after being in a relationship for 8 years. we also talked about feminism, the ethics of sending nudes and how to ask consent for that, the times he was the horrible date, and lots more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Morgan about how it’s like being poly for over 30 years in the Bay Area & LA, how was it like to “online” date during the ’80s before the internet with personal ads, phone calls, and answering machines, and later on with craigslist and other dating websites. Also about dating while having a child, the challenges with being poly throughout the years, and much more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Marielena (@marielenalsrx) who's an adult filmmaker and producer, about her experience using Tinder in Mexico and how it's like being a pornographer on dating apps, dating during the pandemic, the issues with dating apps in Mexico, safety, catfishing, how she almost got married after 1 date, why Instagram is the new dating app, and much much more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Lex about how it's like to use tinder while working in one of Berlin's most famous clubs - from dates that match only for the guest list to banning bad dates from entering the club again. we also talked about this year has been regarding dating apps, finding dates during a pandemic year, and cuffing season that lasted longer than usual, ghosting, should you try to hit on service workers? drug dealers, having sex while working, and much more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Marta about her online dating experience in Georgia, using FetLife, Bumble BFF, couch surfing, and Tinder. Why Middle Eastern people think she’s a spy, how it’s like being poly on tinder in a conservative culture and what reactions she gets from guys, how a guy canceled his flight to see her after a very stale first date having grand expectations about her, why it’s perfectly ok to not answer everyone on online dating apps and unmatch, marriage proposals on a tram, dates on a roof with a criminal, a guy going on FB live in the middle of a date and so much more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Lea about her first tinder experiences in South America after a breakup, why she suddenly cried on a first date, a guy that tried to pimp her for happy end massages, dating in shopping malls, how she had to escape a date that took her to his NYE party with friends in a new town cause of an altitude sickness emergency, getting catfished, and so much more crazy stories and advice on how to navigate the tinder universe.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

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I talked to Oscar about his online dating experience after moving to Berlin from Spain, about how it’s like to meet and chat with people on Bumble Biz & BFF, why it’s harder to make friends than finding dates, a very tinder date full of coincidences, why it’s harder to date in Majorca, my schmoozy almost date story, why women are deterred from mentioning ONS on their profiles and more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Alkyoni (@poisoner_art), a photographer and erotica illustrator based in Athens, about tinder and Facebook for dating, People’s reactions to her erotic art on tinder, When does it count as ghosting after a date? People who don’t want to use condoms and sexual education, bad chemistry, what it’s like to date in Greece and social norms embedded society about sex, and how she was someone else’s horrible date, and much more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Donya about her dating experience in Berlin, receiving dick pics, Dating a spati drug dealer, being Iranian in Berlin and why Iranian are too polite, Disappearing dates at house parties, Why people are afraid of commitment. Intimacy, drinking on dates - yay or nay, and much more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Nikol about how she almost joined a Berlin artists sex cult and about her thoughts on tinder, bumble, and feeld and what it's like being asexualgraysexual using online dating apps, how should non-asexual people approach asexuality in general, and also about how to define what you want from your dating life and much much more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Isabel, who is a dating coach who used to work for some big casual dating websites in the past, about her weird dates in Israel, how her date was interrupted by a dog, eye contact meditation on the first date, what she thinks are the best pics you should use for your tinder profiles, why she decided to start being a dating coach and much more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I talked to Jonah from South Africa about his first tinder experiences and how it was interrupted by a disturbed flatmate, STI shaming and safe sex, how to unlearn what we think about sex and relationships, how he was someone's worse date and generally dating in South Africa and how it's like, and much more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

After 100 dates Marcus decided to write a book about his erotic tinder experiences, focusing on the good dates and smutty stories we also talked about how is it like using tinder in Romania, why we hate the tinder algorithm, why I think there are no people out of your league & why everyone is attractive to someone, black magic dates, a date that wanted him to never ejaculate, why he is all up for video calls before meeting and more!his book is available at Amazon in print and digital versionsSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)

I had a chat with Greg from Melbourn about his journey using different dating services and websites since the early 90's such as - alt.com, FetLife, adult matchmaker, etc. also about what was it like dating before all of today's tech, what hat to wear so your kinky date can find you in a crowd, tinder scammers, how is it like to work as a pro dom sex worker, how I got a free desk off tinder and way more!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/unmatchmenow)