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Micki Zada is an author and an enthusiastic participant in life. Not re-tired but RE-Fired after 40 years in the golf industry, into living her best Cool Retired authentic life of building community, writing, and being. Check out her Facebook group: Facebook Group Cool Retired Women Grouphttps://coolretiredwomensclub.com/ bit.ly/RenaTEDx and bit.ly/thrivewithrena

Come on a short journey into the past with me:  Imagine sitting in meditation, calm, relaxed, listening; it was about five in the morning, my quiet time.  It was also about two years after leaving my marriage, and I was working on discovering Me.  At this point I was 55 years old. My primary focus in life, at that time, was to figure out who I was. Sounds silly and unbelievable that, at 55 years of age, I didn’t know that.  I was working on discovering Me, and had been for about two years. So, there I was sitting in meditation. I’ve always said prayer is when I talk with God. Meditation is when God talks with me. On this day, God spoke!  I was told that I had changed my life and embarked on a strong, solid path.  I was told that choosing my own name would be a very good thing.  Not my maiden name.  Not my married name.  My very own name! I know.  It sounds crazy.   This story is about how I learned to proudly exclaim, “I Am Mickie Zada.” For more information about Cool Retired Women’s Club go to our web site www.CoolRetiredWomensClub.com To join Cool Retired Women’s Club Facebook group http://bit.ly/2kmBNIy

Please join our coffee and conversation with my Guest Mickie Zada. Mickie Zada shares her triumph over Domestic Abuse and how she overcame this and is Thriving to help women overcome their adversities and challenges they face in their lives.

Because of life choices, lack of confidence in myself, and a poor grasp of the parameters of healthy relationships, at the age of 53, I discovered I did not know who I was. Suddenly, I discovered that I could not say what I liked, what I wanted in life, what I thought, which opinions were mine and which were those of others. I was shocked and frustrated, and angry, and my foundation felt like quicksand.  Suddenly, I panicked…I wondered if I was crazy, if I’d lost my self forever. I was 53!!  I was 53 and felt like a child…a lost child. A frightened child. I began reading personal growth books, I hired a counselor and a coach. I took classes online and in real life, joined women’s groups online and in real life.   Eventually, everything fell back into place.  Within a few months, I was feeling better, stronger, more like myself. Eventually, I started recognizing ME again. I embraced letting go of a lot of negativity and frustration. Along the way, no matter what is going on, I learned that I am in control.  No one can take advantage of me without my permission.  No one can control me without me having some responsibility in the process. At 53 I discovered that new beginnings are wonderful things! One of my coaches suggested doing one new thing a week…something I had never done before.  Some of the things were easy like wearing toe rings and trying thong underwear.  Some were hard and required budgeting, like fly fishing lessons and writing a book. Want to know more?  Listen to this episode of Cool Retired Women’s Club Podcast! Learn more about Mickie Zada and the Cool Retired Women’s Club at www.CoolRetiredWomensClub.com.  Join the private Facebook group at www.facebook.com/coolretiredwomen

This week’s episode is about trauma bonding. I’ve been doing a lot of research on trauma bonding recently because it comes up with so many of my clients and members of my groups. In doing the research I realized that I had a trauma bond in a relationship that ended only five and a half years ago. What this means is that a good five years into my coaching career, fifteen years into my codependency recovery, and well into my divorce, I slipped down this rabbit-hole myself.  According to Shahida Arabi, author of the amazing book, Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare, a trauma bond is: “A bond that forms due to intense, emotional experiences, usually with a toxic person. Similar to Stockholm Syndrome, it holds us emotionally captive to a manipulator who keeps us “hostage” – whether that be through physical or emotional abuse.”  Trauma bonding can happen to anyone, especially those of us who are pre-conditioned to be drawn to relationships that are abusive or in some way reflective of past or childhood traumas. And let me be absolutely clear: There’s no shame in this, but there is great power in seeing the trauma bond for what it is, because only then can we begin to break free of it.  Here are just a few of the topics I touch on in this episode: How to recognize a trauma bond: I share the story of my own trauma bonded relationship, which, surprisingly, was NOT with my ex-husband. How to heal from a trauma bond: To break free of a trauma bond, professional help in the form of psychotherapy and life coaching is always highly recommended. How to co-parent when healing from a trauma bond: when parallel parenting is better than co-parenting.  This is a deep, dense, and intense topic. Please be gentle with yourself as you process this, and be sure to let me know if you need help breaking a trauma bond. Resources & Links: Private Coaching Consult with MeShould I Stay or Should I Go Facebook Group Becoming the Narcissist’s NightmareThe High-Conflict Co-Parenting Survival GuideBIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email, and Social Media MeltdownsHigh-Conflict Divorce for WomenMagic Words: How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist  DSG Episode: Surviving Abuse with Mickie Zada

You never know the influence you have on someone’s life.  As you deal with your reality, feeling like you are drowning in emotions and responsibility, someone else’s view of you is that of inspiration, strength, and success. My cousin died last week.  She was a favorite cousin, my big sister by proxy.   She was the one I ran to when I left my abuser for the very first time. At that time, she was recently divorced, had emotional and financial responsibility for two young sons; she was a full-time Master’s Program student and worked full time.  Her life was on overload.  I’m sure she felt like she was at the end of her rope. Then I showed up. In crisis. To me, she was a savior.  A strong woman in charge of her life, moving forward on her dreams, dealing with responsibilities, and creating a safe, healthy life for herself and her sons. No matter how shattered your life may feel to you, to someone else you may be the exact inspiration another woman needs.  That’s what my cousin was for me.

Mickie Zada is a content creator, catalyst, advocate and coach. Her mission is to support, inspire, and encourage women over 50 who have left domestic abuse. In this interview, Kim asks Mickie: You were 53 when you realized she had to get out of domestic abuse. How did you decide to leave? Is it likely that an abuser will change? How does a woman know if she's living in abuse? What are some different types of abuse to watch out for in a relationship? What should one look for when dating? Are there any signs to watch out for? To get Mickie's checklist "Was I really abused?" go here: https://survivingabusenetwork.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/12/List-Was-I-really-abused-v2-11.28.17.pdf To learn more about Mickie, including her podcast "Shatterproof: Thriving After Domestic Abuse," go here: https://survivingabusenetwork.com/

Three Survivors discuss what it has been like to go through and become survivors of Domestic Violence, Child Abuse and rape from a family member and a co-worker. The panelists are: Mickie Zada, Rena Romano and Bonnie Frank.Mickie ZadaWebsite:   https://survivingabusenetwork.com/Linkedin:   https://www.linkedin.com/in/mickiezada/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mickie.zadaPodcast:   https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/shatterproof-thriving-after-domestic-abuse/id1016695524?mt=2Book: https://www.amazon.com/Looking-Behind-Closed-Doors-Domestic-ebook/dp/B07FP69DRF/ref=sr_1_fkmrnull_1?keywords=Mickie+zada&qid=1553709871&s=gateway&sr=8-1-fkmrnull Rena RomanoWebsite:   https://renaromano.com/Linkedin:   https://www.linkedin.com/in/renaromano/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/renaromanoTedx:        https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rQ4RoldUzHcBook:       https://www.amazon.com/His-Puppet-More-Rena-Romano-ebook/dp/B005NCLQ6C/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=rena+romano&qid=1553709686&s=digital-text&sr=1-1Bonnie FrankFacebook:  https://www.facebook.com/BonnieFrankSuccessCoach Website:    https://www.bonnielfrank.comLinkedin:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/bonnie-frank/ Instagram: Instagram.com/Bonnie.frankInstagram: Instagram.com/thevisibilityexpert

Mickie lived in abuse for 34 years.  One day, she decided she was done and that this was not OK. Mickie educated herself, made a plan, executed on that plan and created an authentic life of her own.  As a survivor of domestic abuse, she founded the Surviving Abuse Network, which includes podcasts, videos and articles that are meant to inspire and encourage women that have experienced domestic abuse and to give them hope. Mickie shares these nuggets of life wisdom: - you are a good person - if we don't change, nothing changes - change your perspective - invest in your personal growth - read books on self help - gather information - take seminars - watch webinars - decide what works for you and what doesn't - make a plan - apply what you learn - create a safe, authentic life Mickie Zada, author of "Looking Behind Closed Doors" is an enthusiastic participant in Life. That was not always the case. At the age of 53, having lived in domestic abuse for 34 years, she realized she had lost herself. Creating and embracing a self imposed Repair Shop, Mickie knew that if she didn’t change herself, nothing would change; she’d return to her abuser or attract another one. Her business, Surviving Abuse Network, is founded on two basic principles; (1) if we dont change, nothing changes and (2) when we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change. https://survivingabusenetwork.com/  https://www.amazon.com/Looking-Behind-Closed-Doors-Domestic/dp/172384280X/ref=sr_1_fkmrnull_1?keywords=looking+behind+closed+doors+mickie+zada&qid=1552246661&s=gateway&sr=8-1-fkmrnull  https://www.thehotline.org/  tags:  Mickie, Zada, Surviving, Abuse, Network, survivingabusenetwork.com, thriving, after, domestic, abuse, Looking, Behind, Closed, Doors, looking behind closed doors, Shatterproof, storiesthatempower.com, stories that empower, empowering stories, empowerment stories, stories of empowerment, stories of empowering others, self empowerment stories, stories empower, inspire, inspiring, inspiration, uplift, uplifting, upliftment, hope, light, Sean

In today's episode Aimee and co-host Dr. Nikolov talk with Mickie Zada an abuse survivor and coach about the challenges and triumphs of surviving abuse. THE CURE Live streamed podcast is hosted by Aimee Cabo and offers a platform of hope to anyone who has experienced domestic violence, abuse, mental illness, any trauma or is experiencing problems now in their lives. It's a place to find comfort, knowledge, strategies, answers, hope and love while healing the wounds and 'affirming' that you are not alone.  Join Aimee and her professional guests on The Cure with Aimee Cabo podcast  every Saturday at 1 PM EST as it is recorded during the live radio show. You can find information about the show and past guests by visiting the RADIO SHOW PAGE. You can also view the weekly Video podcasts on Apple Podcasts.  Aimee hopes that anyone who has suffered abuse of any kind, or walked a moment in similar shoes, will find inspiration in these pages, and hope that love and truth will ultimately prevail. Please subscribe and share this podcast. HOSTS: Aimee Cabo Nikolov is a Cuban American who has lived most of her life in Miami. After many years of healing, finding love, raising a family and evolving her relationship with God, Aimee's true grit and courage led her to pen an honest, thought-provoking memoir. Years of abuse became overshadowed with years of happiness and unconditional love. Now Aimee is the president of IMIC Research, a medical research company, a speaker, radio host and focused on helping others. You can read more about Aimee by visiting her website. Dr. Boris Nikolov is the CEO of Neuroscience Clinic. You can read more about Dr. Nikolov and the work he is doing by visiting his website. GUESTS: You can read more about coach, author and abuse survivor Mickie Zada @ https://survivingabusenetwork.com/  

When I decided to create my own name, I apprehensively told my grown, very conservative, son.  His response on the phone, when I invited he and his wife to dinner to talk about me choosing a new name:  “OH, this is gonna be good!” At dinner his response was “Mickie Zada?!  That sounds like a hippie name.” My answer to his concern: “Well, you know me as your Mom, as your Dad’s wife.  You don’t know “Me”… and I AM an old hippie!” Listen to this podcast to learn more about my motivation and reasoning. Go to my website to learn more about Mickie Zada, listen to other podcasts, watch live videos and read articles.  All this content is to inspire, educate, and encourage thrivers of domestic abuse to stay on their Paths, to create their own authentic lives…whether that includes changing your name, or not!  www.SurvivingAbuseNetwork.com Looking for your own personal coach?  I’m available and I offer various programs, from 3 months to a full year.  Contact me to schedule a complimentary 15-minute introductory session.  Messenger me on FaceBook or contact me through my website www.SurvivingAbuseNetwork.com

In today's episode, I give you some new perspectives--and effective words to say--when people treat you in ways you do not appreciate. For many listeners, "ways I do not appreciate" usually come from one particular person, a #Hijackal®. Whether that is true for you or not, you want to feel and be confident that you can trust yourself to speak up when someone says something rude, wrong, or abusive, without concern that you will turn into a blaming, shaming, or abusive person yourself. That's the goal of my segment today.Learning to respond from your best self rather than lose it and react is a skill! The ideas I've shared here really work. I hope you find them useful immediately for dealing with unexpected hostility, rudeness, and the desire of a Hijackal to squish you like a gnat!(If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShow )GUEST: MICKIE ZADA, Advocate for women who have escaped emotional abuse. Mickie Zada, lived in domestic abuse for thirty-four years. In spite of enduring emotional, financial, and physical abuse, for twenty-three years she pretended her life was "normal." Even after admitting her reality, it took eleven more years to leave.Mickie got help from both an experienced counselor, and a psychologist who understood the issues and depth of domestic abuse, who realized and recognized the verbal abuse, emotional abuse, AND the domestic abuse she lived with. She wisely gave herself five years of time to gather, embrace, and apply personal growth insights, understanding that, if she didn't change, she would return to her abuser or attract another abuser.Sixteen years later, Mickie is now a content creator, catalyst, and advocate for women who have escaped domestic abuse. Her business, Surviving Abuse Network, includes weekly podcasts, live videos, and articles created to support and inspire women who have escaped.Mickie's first book, Looking Behind Closed Doors: Domestic Abuse - If You Don't Change, Nothing Changes, is available on Kindle through AmazonHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why it took so long to believe it was abuseWhat to do when the thought that you've allowed this to happen paralyzes youThe important of a "getaway" planHow Mickie created that "getaway" planWhat to do when you're so afraid of your abuserWhy it's not a good idea to broadcast the idea that you're leaving to your abuser, or to anyone who will tell him or herCONNECT WITH MICKIE ZADAWebsite: SurvivingAbuseNetwork.comTwitter: https://twitter.com/mickie_ZadaFacebook: Facebook.com/SurvivingAbuseNetworkLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/mickiezadaInstagram: https://instagram.com/mickie.survivingabusenetworkCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®NEW! FINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.Patreon.com/RhobertaShalerIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #narcissisticabuse #healingtrauma #survivingabusenetwork #speakingupEdit See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today's episode, I give you some new perspectives--and effective words to say--when people treat you in ways you do not appreciate. For many listeners, "ways I do not appreciate" usually come from one particular person, a #Hijackal®. Whether that is true for you or not, you want to feel and be confident that you can trust yourself to speak up when someone says something rude, wrong, or abusive, without concern that you will turn into a blaming, shaming, or abusive person yourself. That's the goal of my segment today.Learning to respond from your best self rather than lose it and react is a skill! The ideas I've shared here really work. I hope you find them useful immediately for dealing with unexpected hostility, rudeness, and the desire of a Hijackal to squish you like a gnat!(If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShow )GUEST: MICKIE ZADA, Advocate for women who have escaped emotional abuse. Mickie Zada, lived in domestic abuse for thirty-four years. In spite of enduring emotional, financial, and physical abuse, for twenty-three years she pretended her life was "normal." Even after admitting her reality, it took eleven more years to leave.Mickie got help from both an experienced counselor, and a psychologist who understood the issues and depth of domestic abuse, who realized and recognized the verbal abuse, emotional abuse, AND the domestic abuse she lived with. She wisely gave herself five years of time to gather, embrace, and apply personal growth insights, understanding that, if she didn't change, she would return to her abuser or attract another abuser.Sixteen years later, Mickie is now a content creator, catalyst, and advocate for women who have escaped domestic abuse. Her business, Surviving Abuse Network, includes weekly podcasts, live videos, and articles created to support and inspire women who have escaped.Mickie's first book, Looking Behind Closed Doors: Domestic Abuse - If You Don't Change, Nothing Changes, is available on Kindle through AmazonHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why it took so long to believe it was abuseWhat to do when the thought that you've allowed this to happen paralyzes youThe important of a "getaway" planHow Mickie created that "getaway" planWhat to do when you're so afraid of your abuserWhy it's not a good idea to broadcast the idea that you're leaving to your abuser, or to anyone who will tell him or herCONNECT WITH MICKIE ZADAWebsite: SurvivingAbuseNetwork.comTwitter: https://twitter.com/mickie_ZadaFacebook: Facebook.com/SurvivingAbuseNetworkLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/mickiezadaInstagram: https://instagram.com/mickie.survivingabusenetworkCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®NEW! FINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.Patreon.com/RhobertaShalerIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #narcissisticabuse #healingtrauma #survivingabusenetwork #speakingupEdit See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Mickie Zada is a domestic abuse survivor, content creator, catalyst and advocate for women who have experienced domestic abuse. Having lived in domestic abuse for 34 years, at age 53 Mickie chose to re-invent her life, to discover who she is and to create and live her authentic life. Her business Surviving Abuse Network includes a popular weekly podcast, frequent live Facebook videos, & articles all created in support & inspires survivors of domestic abuse. Website: www.SurvivingAbuseNetwork.com Book: https://amzn.to/2xmTJ9d Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/Surviving-Abuse-Network-137284130241322/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mickiezada/ You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQe0ZTWTFLym9l-HIEFIOrw?view_as=subscriber The Gold Lining by BrokeFor Free. is licensed under a Attribution-Noncommercial-Share Alike 3.0 USA Licensed --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jamiquan/support

Who is Mickie Zada?  What is Surviving Abuse Network?   We are part of a growing wave of change…Join us in refusing to accept status quo! Women are not equal in lots of places…but especially not in many of our homes and, certainly, not in the court system.  Do you know that 70% of abusers manage to come out ahead in our court system today?!? The goal of Surviving Abuse Network is to bring the reality of domestic abuse out of the closet and on to center stage. Equally as important is making it clear to those of us attracted to abusers, if we don’t change, nothing changes. I am not victim blaming.  I lived in domestic abuse for 34 years.  I don’t blame myself for that.   Our attraction to abusers is the result of a lesson, a pattern that was programed into my brain when we were kids.  The programmed pattern controls our thought process, our emotions.  It tells us that abuse is normal. When I identified that programmed pattern in my own mind, I was able to deal with it and eliminate my attraction to abusers.  You are able to do that, too. Learn more about programed patterns, hard wired lessons that affect our lives and we don’t even know they are there.    Why I do not accept status quo and how Surviving Abuse Network challenges the current norm?  I am traveling to the beat of a different drum, just like you!  Here’s the fact:  Domestic abuse affects 1 in 3 women in the United States.  1 in 3!   Domestic abuse is real, and we don’t have to live with it!

Join Polly as she interview's Mickie Zada, host of the "Surviving Abuse Network" Podcast.  Listen as they provide tips for how people in abusive relationships can help extricate themselves with their credit intact. 

There are two statements I make that some people take personally…statements that they feel are demeaning and insensitive to women who have live in domestic abuse. I disagree. The statements are:  “If we don’t change, nothing changes” and “When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change.”  A third one attracted the ire of a couple of my community members, too: “You don’t attract who you want.  You attract who you are.” Each of those statements addresses victims of domestic abuse.  The people who attack those statements feel that they are blaming victims, saying they are responsible for being in abusive situations, want to be abuse, or somehow deserving. Absolutely Not! I use my own experience in this podcast to explain my position and opinion.  Like most victims of domestic abuse, I was conditioned as a kid to accept negative behavior by males as acceptable, OK, my lot in life.  Not because an adult was abusive.  Because my brothers were dyslexic and were allowed to behave unacceptably.  My sisters and I were taught to accept the boy’s negative behavior.  That led to abusive marriages…for me and every one of my sisters. Sound far fetched to you?  Listen and tell me what you think. I am Mickie Zada, the CEO of Surviving Abuse Network.  Please check out my web site at www.SurvivingAbuseNetwork.com

Welcome to The Couples Expert Podcast with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This is episode number 170 of our show. This week, Stuart is joined by guest Mickie Zada, who runs the Surviving Abuse Network. Mickie left her abusive marriage 16 years ago after over 30 years of abuse. She helps women get out of abusive situations and begin to heal.   What you'll learn from today's podcast:   We can live in denial of  abuse for a very long time 1:41   There's so much trauma that women in abuse hold onto 3:48   It can all look perfect from the outside. It's a facade 7:54   Emotional abuse is dramatically worse than physical abuse 9:20   Be open with your kids about the abusive behavior to educate them what is right and wrong 11:19   Shame and guilt are a part of the cycle and why victims don't talk about abuse in their lives 13:38   Fear of walking away with nothing can keep women from fighting back 16:40   Financial abuse - When the abuser is controlling access to the money is a big red flag 17:47   Men are also being abused, there's so much shame that goes with that. This is not Mickie's area of expertise, as she deals primarily with women. Perhaps that is a discussion for another time? Write Stuart with your comments and questions to: podcast@thecouplesexperts.com   Recovery is possible with a great deal of personal work and personal growth. “If we don't change, nothing changes” - Your outlook and perspective have to change so your choices can change. Resist going back to your abuser! Free support, free information and education is available to learn how to make healthy choices in future relationships. Professionals can help us see who we are. We need the perspective of counselors and coaches to help us see beyond our own experiences.   Thank you so much to Mickie Zada for taking the time to share with our listeners and to all of you for spending part of your day with The Couples Expert. Contact Mickie at www.survivingabusenetwork.com   Next Week: Join Stuart next week on The Couples Expert for a discussion about truth and lies. The impact of deceit on your love relationship is huge. Listen in as Stuart discusses what it means to live in an authentic relationship with your partner.

Hello and welcome to The Couples Expert Podcast. Stuart is talking today about a subject you don't hear much about. It's an adult subject, so please use discretion when listening or use your headphones! This is episode 169 of our podcast. Listen as Stuart talks about using sex as a weapon or for leverage in the relationship. Have you ever done that? You'd be surprised how many couples do. Summer is here and we're all spending more time with our partners and families. Stuart recommends taking couples vacations to spend time and connect with your partner. Work on your relationships and get closer and more connected. Remember how important your intimate life is, and cultivate that.     What you'll learn from today's podcast: The impact on couples who can't be in the same space together 3:44 You need to examine your commitment if you feel like leaving your shared space  8:03 Sex is an essential ingredient to a happy and satisfying relationship 9:20 If you can be satisfied with having an unhappy partner that's the beginning of a problem 10:54 Helping you feel loved should be your partner's passion 13:15 We all need to be touched and loved; it's a part of our emotional connection 15:55 When you're taking away your partner's access to you, your relationship is in trouble 17:27   If you are using sex as a weapon it's a symptom of a far greater problem. The commitment you make in your relationship is to stay together, stay exclusively sexual with your partner and to keep yourself for them only. If you begin to use that aspect of your relationship as leverage to manipulate the relationship, you're taking something far more important than sex away from your partner. The feeling that your partner can't be trusted or you don't have them to rely on is one of the most painful and lonely places to be in a relationship. Both of you need to be fully committed to working through your struggles and challenges together- Tough it out. Stay in the same room, keep your physical connection and continue to touch and be intimate with each other so you don't lose that feeling of emotional security and connection to one another.   This podcast is sponsored by: The annual relationship check up! Learn more here about how to evaluate where you and your partner are in terms of satisfaction with your partnership.  https://www.thecouplesexpertscottsdale.com/annual-relationship-check-up/   Next Week: Please listen next week as Stuart is joined by Mickie Zada from Surviving Abuse Network. They will be discussing the warning signs of abuse in a relationship. Please listen in to this important topic.   Email Stuart at: podcast@thecouplesexperts.com   Thank you for spending part of your day with Stuart Fensterheim, The Couples Expert. We hope that you stay close and stay connected.

I recently had the pleasure of spending quality time this past November at The Biz Women Rock Retreat with Mickie, as well as Podfest in Orlando. Mickie is a firecracker, and fills me up just talking to her. Her passion for life, and helping others live a passionate life is truly inspiring. Mickie lived a life of abuse for 34 years, and now is telling her story in the hope that others can get out and live their life safely. I am honored to have her on the series, Trouble To Triumph and as a friend. Please share this episode with anyone that may be experiencing abuse, or may be out of abuse but looking for a supportive community. I have added links to Mickie's information. Mickie does have a secret FaceBook group, but due to the nature please contact her directly to be included. Here is the application: http://survivingabusenetwork.com/application-for-secret-facebook-group/ For more support subscribe to Mickie's Podcast: http://survivingabusenetwork.com/blog/podcasts/ I am grateful you are part of my community. Thank you for listening~Tina www.Tinaconroy.com

Mickie Zada is a change-agent, a content creator and an advocate for women who have escaped domestic abuse.  Her passion is to inspire and empower survivors in their transition to safe, healthy lives.   Mickie speaks openly and honestly about living in domestic abuse for 34 years (she says she stayed waaay tooo long at the dance!), the reality of her mind-set during that time (most of the time she was married, she didn't recognize that she was an abused spouse) and her belief that we create our reality.  She says that there are as many excuses for remaining in abuse as there are women who stay.  She chose to believe it was her Calling to help her ex-husband stay between the lines.  Now she recognizes that she was not responsible for his life, the only person she could change was herself.  She always had the option to leave; she chose to stay. Finances, false security, personal insecurities, potential loneliness, responsibility for children, fear for safety... these are all reasons to stay.  Once we leave, we see that none of those excuses were valid.  As victims we bond with our excuses, we accept them as real.  They are not. Mickie is a strong believer in Dr. Wayne Dyer's statement, "When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change."  She teaches that the only way to change the cycle of abuse is through personal growth.   Abuse victims become survivors when we accept the reality of our past experiences and use those lessons to continue growing and sharing with others. Changing the way we look at our past creates the opportunity to change our lives.  And, to inspire others. Where to find Mickie: Website Facebook LinkedIn iTunes Additional Resources Mentioned in the episode: Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder by Paul Mason MS and Randi Kreger Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

Mickie Zada  chose to stay in a damaging relationship for 34 years because she thought it was her Calling.  She believed it was her responsibility to keep her husband between the lines. While living in abuse, for decades she didn’t recognize herself as an abused spouse. She was not threatened with weapons, was not hospitalized, never called law enforcement and did not file a restraining order against her husband. She was the strong one, the grounded one, the dedicated wife. She was in love. When she left, she wondered (like nearly every abuse survivor) whether she was really abused. So many years were invested in protecting her abuser that she felt guilty defending herself by leaving. Are you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence?    SUPPORT THE AUTHENTIC PARENTING PODCAST ON PATREON!!! Has the show been of value to you? Do you find the show helpful? Have you gained from the show? Do you want the show to remain strong and bring more excellent content to you? Consider supporting your favorite podcast on Patreon. A small token of appreciation goes a long way.   Become a Patron of the Authentic Parenting by clicking here. Select your level and get awesome rewards!!!   FULL SHOW NOTES; pictures, links, resources, about my guest and anything mentioned in the show, visit my website: www.authenticparenting.com   YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general?   USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com   ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline.   WORK WITH ME I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only)   WAYS TO SUBSCRIBE TO THE AUTHENTIC PARENTING PODCAST: Click here subscribe on Apple Podcasts Click here to subscribe on Stitcher Click here to subscribe on Spotify   RATE & WRITE REVIEW FOR THE SHOW Watch this quick video tutorial on YouTube to how rate and write a review for the podcast on Apple Podcasts.   SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com   CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram   NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Schedule 30 min. FREE session by phone Get the HOW TO STOP YELLING class now   Thanks for listening!   With gratitude, Anna Seewald, ME.d, MPsy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com  

Mickie Zada found her calling helping women escape abusive relationships so they can Maximize Excellence in their life. Mickie's mission is "Enjoying confidence to align with Divine intent to be of service and a beacon to others." She is Becoming A Beacon Of Excellence. Mickie lived the first 53 years of her life for everyone else and now she's on a personal crusade to live her second 53 years for herself. Living her dream and fulfilling her mission. She helps women "Move from Where they are to WHO they are". Listen to this episode of the Maximize Excellence Show and how the 7 forces helped her attract BIGGER & BETTER opportunities to her life. In this episode, you’ll discover: The Twin Sister of Generosity Shocking advice from John Maxwell that changed her life Tweaking Ideas To Create Excellence How To Rekindle Passion The Single Ingredient That Must Be Mixed with Vision To Create Excellence   Join the Conversation One of the things I like best about interviewing successful people is learning what you took away from it to help you Maximize Excellence in your life: Here's a Question: What is it that makes you feel trapped in a situation (like a relationship or a job as if you have no choice but to put up with it)? You can leave a COMMENT by clicking here. Explore Additional Resources In this episode we mentioned the following resources: Wednesday, Wine Day with Mickie (fb Live) Surviving Abuse Network Surviving Abuse Podcast The Second 53 Years Podcast Connect With Mickie and see the next Big Opportunity She's working on Mickiezada7@gmail.com About Us Joe Hicks is an experienced business leader, working entrepreneur, adjunct professor of business. More importantly, Joe is a Husband, Father, Grandfather (his grandkids call him PawPaw) and a guy that loves helping his friends.  Read more about him here. Follow him on Facebook, Twitter, or his blog. Ask Us a Question If you have a question, comment, thought or concern, you'd like to ask, You can do so by clicking here. We’d love to hear from you.

For a little more than two years Mickie Zada consistently created weekly podcasts titled “The Second 53 Years” and “Figuring It Out After 50”.  Since deciding to take her podcasts and business in the direction of addressing domestic abuse, “it’s been a while” since she’s consistently recorded podcasts. In this episode of “Surviving Abuse” Mickie addresses the fear that has held her back.  She admits that she talked-around her abuse in previous podcast shows and clarifies her intention to step through the fires of fear, speak her Truth and get back to creating weekly recordings.  

At the young age of 18, Mickie Zada married a golf pro and during the years that followed, she and her husband became entrepreneurs. Together they owned golf courses and a marketing analysis and feasibility company that worked with municipalities and developers. She had a lot of fun then, in those early years, as she learned how to be an entrepreneur. After 34 years of marriage, Mickie and her husband divorced. That's when her solopreneurial adventures began. She became a network marketer selling jewelry. She became a certified Life Coach. And finally (her favorite so far...!), she became a podcaster! The mission of Mickie's podcast, The Second 53 Years, is to inspire women over 50 to move from where they are to who they are. The podcast shares both Mickie's own stories and the stories of other women who are on the Path of Discovery. Mickie is a go-getter who wouldn't be deterred by the fact that she had never even heard of podcasting until a few months before she launched her own. She is not afraid of taking risks, she is willing to learn and she can easily adapt and try new things. This is all a part of her Second 53 Years. Mickie believes that life is an amazing journey and we must remain open to opportunities. She wants all of us to expect magic in our lives, too!

Mark Twain said “The older I get the more clearly I remember things that never happened.”  We always remember life experiences a little differently than the way they originally happened.  Mickie explores the possibility of remembering our stories in ways that empowers us!

It's a realization that can take awhile to sink in. We are all aging. However, in this episode, Mickie Zada turns the tables on her age and learns to celebrate all the years and the wonderful things that have come into her life!

If you're looking to create joy in your life, you really don't have to look very far or spend a ton of money. Today, Mickie Zada shares 5 easy ways to create more joy in your life, and the good news is that you can get started today.

Mickie Zada comes to realize the power of the beads in her life and along the way discovers they have been used for thousands of years to calm our minds and focus our attention.

In this episode, Mickie Zada shares some ways to embrace change and them importance role it can play in determining whether we are growing into all that we are supposed to become.