20s Convos with Wolé and Tobi

After four amazing years and 100+ unforgettable episodes, The Yellow Pill journey comes to an end

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e19 You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on Youtube using this link here - http://bit.ly/typauas10 . . . Season 10, Episode 10, our 100th topic-episode This will be the most important episode to emerge from our podcast. There's a chance it will also be the last. We're closing the curtain with an episode we believe will be an abiding formula for hope and sustenance. We're bowing out with a hymn of encouragement. We believe your life has meaning. Despite all the unfathomable and overwhelming chaos that may exist (in reality or perception) on a global, societal, and personal level, we believe your journey is meaningful, we believe you matter. Young adults are rarely taught how to realise that their existence has a justification. And from this podcast seat, convincing one of these truths is the most difficult of tasks. Due to this difficulty, we ended up with a 2-hour episode. But it's an episode where each sentence, response, and message maturely represents what we've learnt in the last 4 years, inside and outside the podcast. We hope this episode helps to confirm that your life has meaning. . . . Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast! Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod Leave us a review where you're listening right now!

To listen to this episode in its entirety, join us on Patreon for more exclusive content from Wolé and Tobi! - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod   To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e18 . . . As the title suggests, this episode serves as a follow-up to our previous "cinematherapy" episode, where we invited all of you to "eavesdrop" on our conversation about the future of the podcast. In this episode, we make our best effort to address a detailed comment about the original episode and also take the opportunity to share a few more thoughts about what lies ahead for The Yellow Pill. We hope you enjoy listening to it! . . . Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast! Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod Leave us a review where you're listening right now!

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e17 You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on YouTube using this link here - http://bit.ly/typauas10 . . . From the days of Display Pictures (DPs) on Blackberry Messenger to the present day with Instagram and others, many social media users have chosen to share and post about their love lives online. This activity of public displays of affection (PDA) online is not new, but it is certainly pervasive. With obvious reasons aside, why do we do it? Why do some people share a lot more about their partners and relationships with the world than others? In this episode, our intention is not to categorize this behaviour as good or bad, right or wrong. After all, to each their own

To listen to this episode in its entirety and for more exclusive content from Wolé and Tobi, join us on Patreon! - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e16 . . . With Season 10 nearing its end, we chose to bring one of our off-air conversations into this on-air cinematherapy episode: what does the future hold for this podcast? While this may or may not sound existential lol, it's actually a normal behind-the-scenes exercise for us to re-evaluate our podcast, our responsibility, and frankly, ‘why we (continue to) do this'. We haven't yet figured out what the future holds, but we hope we can do that together by inviting you into our thoughts. . . . Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast! Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod Leave us a review where you're listening right now!

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e15-9 You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on YouTube using this link here - http://bit.ly/typauas10 . . . What's in store for you this new year? Did you make any new resolutions focused on 2024? Goals? Paradigm shifts? Or is it business as usual because the ‘new year change' is often overstated? In this episode, we exchange our feelings and thoughts about the new year, most of which centre around gratitude, love, health, & money! . . . Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast! Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod Leave us a review where you're listening right now!

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e15-5 You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on Youtube using this link here - http://bit.ly/typauas10 . . . In their usual fashion, Wole and Tobi take a "break" from their regular programming to reflect on Christmas and its significance to them. They discuss their Christmas traditions, or the lack thereof, as well as how their backgrounds and cultures influence the celebration of the season among their families. The conversation also includes Tobi's “recurring complaint” about capitalism and its impact on various aspects of life. Enjoy the conversation and Merry Christmas! . . . Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast! Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod Leave us a review where you're listening right now!

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e15 You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on YouTube using this link here - http://bit.ly/typauas10 . . . What are your hobbies? Depending on the context, we've struggled/cringed at answering this question at some point. When we talk about hobbies colloquially, we are describing an aspect of a broader idea of ‘serious leisure'. Hobbies, or serious leisure, have typically been associated with activities undertaken for play or pleasure during free time. But there's a growing concern that nowadays, everyone's free time activities always have to be ‘productive' or ‘profitable', and therefore we are witnessing the death of hobbies. We try to tackle this in this episode by answering some of these questions: What is the function of hobbies? How do they differ from leisure? Are hobbies truly dying? What role has capitalism and social media played in modern hobbies? What hobbies are attractive, and why? By tackling this, we realised that understanding the role of hobbies is of huge importance to our humanity and why hobbies matter! Not sure if this caption does justice but this was one of our favourite episodes to record so far!

To listen to this episode in its entirety, join us on Patreon for more exclusive content from Wolé and Tobi! - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod  To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e14 . . . Coming up next on Cinematherapy is a rather strange movie called "Ingrid Goes West," a dark comedy that tells the story of Ingrid Thorburn, who becomes fascinated with Taylor Sloane, a popular social media influencer. Motivated by a series of unexpected events, Ingrid decides to relocate to Los Angeles to befriend Taylor and immerse herself in the glamorous and seemingly flawless world showcased on Taylor's Instagram feed. However, as Ingrid's fascination intensifies, the boundaries between reality and the carefully crafted online personas start to blur. Following our main episode on parasocial relationships, we unpacked the theme a bit further, trying to answer questions like: at what point does admiration for someone popular become a problem? Are parasocial relationships 100% bad? Are there leading indicators for folks who build up parasocial ties? . . . Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast! Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod Leave us a review where you're listening right now!

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e13 . . . Ever heard of parasocial relationships? Regardless of your answer, the odds that you're in one are quite high. Parasocial relationships are those one-sided relationships where one person extends emotional energy, interest, and time, and the other party, the persona, is completely unaware of the other's existence. This is very common with celebrities, sports teams, influencers, and many famous media personalities. While PSRs can be a natural part of human development, these relationships can easily become self-destructive for many reasons. When deciding on this episode, we were lucky that one of our friends, @aanjola, also focused on this concept in her master's thesis, and having her join this conversation was definitely more enlightening for us! We posit that PSRs are okay but require more attention as we get older, as the negative impacts can loom even more. Even for us creators, we also have a responsibility to foster healthy PSR connections with all of you! It's a great episode not to miss! We learned a lot. . . . Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast! Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod Leave us a review where you're listening right now!

To listen to this episode in its entirety, join us on Patreon for more exclusive content from Wolé and Tobi! - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod   To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e12 . . . In this latest cinematherapy episode, we deep-dive into the intricate world of ethics, aiming to dissect the perplexing film, "The Killing of a Sacred Deer (2017)." We follow the journey of Steven, a charismatic surgeon, whose life spirals into darkness when a mysterious teenage boy introduces a chilling ethical dilemma. As we untangle the plot, it beckons us to ponder the haunting question, "to kill one or save none?" . . . Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast! Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod Leave us a review where you're listening right now!

(There was a slight issue with the original upload that has now been corrected. If you close and reopen your podcast player, it should load the new version.) To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e11 You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on YouTube using this link here - http://bit.ly/typauas10 . . . There is one rule about conversations and debates on ethics: they never ever end ♾️. However, this conversation had to end because we needed to sleep

To listen to this episode in its entirety, join us on Patreon for more exclusive content from Wolé and Tobi! - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod  To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e10 . . . Navigating long-distance relationships can be challenging. In this cinematherapy episode, we explored the complexities of love, distance, and pursuing dreams through the romantic comedy "Going the Distance." While the movie added humor to the narrative and prompted reflection on commitment, sacrifice, and striking a balance between personal aspirations and shared goals, our discussion delved even deeper into the real-life implications and emotional complexities of long-distance connections We examined factors that influence the stability of geographically close relationships (GCRs), including socioeconomic contexts, age dynamics, relational quality, and reasons for the move. By dissecting these elements, we unravel the intricate webs that shape a long-distance relationship. We also explored the impact of career prospects and future intentions on the move, and how they can introduce complexities like resentment or guilt. Additionally, we addressed gender differences and cultural nuances, investigating how the "mover" and the direction of the move can affect relationship dynamics. Whether you are in a long-distance relationship, considering one, or intrigued by human connection, this episode offers a thought-provoking exploration of the elements that contribute to the success or challenges of love and geography. . . . Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast! Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod Leave us a review where you're listening right now!

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e9 You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on Youtube using this link here - http://bit.ly/typauas10 . . . In this episode, we examine the findings from a dozen top scientific publications on LDRs & combine this with the contextual touch of personal experiences to present a guide on what makes long-distance relationships successful. By success here, we simply mean satisfaction and stability, and not necessarily “going all the way”. This episode will form part 1 of 2 on this topic! It's one not to miss. . . . Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast! Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod Leave us a review where you're listening right now!

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e8-9 You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on YouTube using this link here - http://bit.ly/typauas10 . . . After a 2-week break, Wole and Tobi are back on the mic with updates from their trip. Wole talks about his experience of coming back to Nigeria after being away for a while, while Tobi, being a bit mysterious, drops a few hints about his trip to the U.S., leaving us all curious about what he was really up to. . . . Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast! Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod Leave us a review where you're listening right now!

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e8-5 You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on YouTube using this link:  http://bit.ly/typauas10 . . . We're hitting you with a brief mid-season break as we're both away on holiday missions at different locations

To listen to this episode in its entirety, join us on Patreon for more exclusive content from Wolé and Tobi! - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod   To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e8   . . . The highly rated documentary “Bigger, stronger, faster” sets the scene for our latest cinematherapy! It's a provocative but unfocused documentary that unpacks the physical and mental consequences of America's love of exaggerated physiques and take-no-prisoners competitiveness. What we do learn is that there are costs of constantly trying to be bigger, stronger and doing it faster - and it's also one hell of a reality check for how we aspire to the ideal male body image! . . . Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast! Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod Leave us a review where you're listening right now!

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e7 You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on YouTube using this link here - http://bit.ly/typauas10 . . . Many men can be preoccupied with the perceived flaws in their appearance, but it's not a common conversation. Male body image and shapes come with one or two ironies. Skinny men can be looked at with concern, and even seen as less appealing most times. Obsession with the gym could be a cry for help, but the outcome of that gym bod is rewarded and commended by society. Ah, but there's more. Men also face pressures to lose weight and reduce their gut size, but at the same time face pressures to gain weight to acquire muscles. In this episode with @alec.hewstone, we raised the volume on these silent conversations, focusing on male body image, muscle dysmorphia, our physical insecurities, fitness, male body representation, and so much more! We loved doing this episode because it was so genuine and honest, and because we hoped it would make us men feel much more comfortable in these conversations. . . . Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast! Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod Leave us a review where you're listening right now!

To listen to the full episode, check out our Patreon Page - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod   To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e6 . . . As always, this cinematherapy episode was an attempt to reflect on our previous episode on hospitableness. Finding a movie that teaches solely about hospitality/hospitableness was almost impossible. Even though this movie was not centred on hospitality, we took other lessons from how unexpected relationships can catch us off guard when people around us less with hospitality

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e5 You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on YouTube using this link: - http://bit.ly/typauas10 . . . When was the last time you found yourself having to be a host to a stranger, acquaintance, or friend? Do you pay attention to the thoughts, behaviours, and actions you exhibit when you need to or could be a host? The thing is hospitableness, a component of hospitality, is probably one of those things you don't sit down to think about, probably because it originated with the very foundations of our societies, regardless of where you're from. But here we are, in TYP fashion, putting a spotlight on a virtue (arguably) that we take for granted. It's only due to several developments over time that we have become more concerned with fear of and the need to be hospitable to others. In this episode, we unpack what it means to be hospitable and why it matters to our wholeness and essence as human beings. We also highlight the huge role of culture and the challenges to being hospitable for young adults especially. Our conversation showed that while the direction of modern society is indirectly shredding the fabrics of hospitableness, it remains a benefit on the individual level, that is, you and I. Finally and most importantly, this episode will reveal to you that our understanding of hospitableness should not be limited to the provision of food and drinks as hosts, but is key to the development and practice of our selflessness, benevolence, & compassion. . . . Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast! Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod Leave us a review where you're listening right now!

To listen to the full episode, check out our Patreon Page - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e4 # About the episode  In continuation with the theme of our previous episode and in recognition of Sickle Cell Awareness Month, this episode explores the complex issue of medical ethics and family responsibilities through "My Sister's Keeper (2000)".   Inherited or congenital illnesses can often be a source of difficulty and turmoil for families, as this movie portrays.   However, the deeper lesson for us as young adults is about the tough choices we may have to make in life, many of which we may be unprepared for and undeserving of.   When faced with decisions relating to life and death, we never truly know who we will become. . . . Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast! Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod Leave us a review where you're listening right now!

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e3 You can also ask us anything for the TYP Corner on YouTube using this link - http://bit.ly/typauas10  ## Episode 3 is already one of our favourite recordings, as we got nerdy with Cambridge researcher, @seuninscience to chat about stem cells, human biology, organ transplants, sickle cell disease, consumer products, and finding a spark! We don't typically cover technical topics like this, but our curiosity and desire to learn brought us to this very important conversation. Stem cells are the building blocks of life, so it was crucial to fill our knowledge deficit in that area!

To listen to the full episode, check out our Patreon Page - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod # To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e2 # About the episode  The reasons why everyone says your 20s are consequential aren't arbitrary. For a simple fact, your 30s will be full of many more responsibilities that make changes in life directions complicated. "Frances Ha" is a movie that preaches the idea of being at peace with not having things figured out in your 20s. Our cinematherapy episode shows it's not that simple. We tell you why, and we demonstrate an example of how not to live in your twenties. For our introspective 20-somethings, this is for you! Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast! Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod Leave us a review where you're listening right now!

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e1   You can also Ask us Anything! : http://bit.ly/typauas10 ###   NEW EPISODE! NEW SEASON! The stars are definitely aligning. Here's why. We'd just turned 27 when we launched the first season of this podcast (if my maths are correct lol) The original name of this podcast was “20s Convos”. The very first episode in Season 1 was titled “What might our 30s look like”. And now, in perhaps poetic fashion, the year we both turned 30 marks the 10th season of this podcast. So as we approach a new season, not only of the podcast but in life, it's only right that we look back, and take an audit, before going forward! In this episode, we reflect on our 20s to highlight and make sense of all the significant events, people, and environments that have shaped our 30-year-old self so far. Turning 30 comes with different emotions for different people. But as Kierkegaard said, “Life can only be understood backwards: but it must be lived forward”. Ageing is inevitable, it's what you do with it that counts. And for us, turning 30 begins with a pursuit of understanding the last decade backwards. . . . Before you go, here are a few ways to support the podcast! Become a TYP Patreon ♥️ - http://patreon.com/theyellowpillpod Leave us a rating & review where you're listening right now!

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs10e0 ## Your favourite podcasters are back for the 10th season of The Yellow Pill Podcast!

It's time for your weekly dose of the pill that does the most...

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e21 ### We can't believe it's already the "final-final" episode of the season! Looking back on the amazing ninth season of the Yellow Pill podcast, we couldn't be more pleased with how everything turned out. On this recap episode, we spoke about some of the new things we tried this season, like changing up the format and experimenting with different narrative structures. We also shared some insights from our Yellow Pill Junkies campaign in the first half of the season, and we were thrilled to announce the two winners of the Amazon voucher prizes for those who took part in the survey! Thank you so much for participating, and we can't wait to bring your suggestions and recommendations to life in the best way possible. We're super thankful for all the love and support you've shown us this season, and we'd be totally stoked if you could do us a solid and share our podcast with at least one friend this week! Oh, and before we go, here are the links to the different projects we mentioned during the episode: The Nigerian Constitution Project on Instagram - https://instagram.com/thenigerianconstitution1999 The Yellow Pill Podcast on Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@theyellowpillpod

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e20 . . Our final episode of the season for cinematherapy aimed to shed light on frameworks for self-awareness. It was quite a challenge finding a movie that could express this concept, as it seems rare to produce a work of fiction with self-awareness as the primary theme. So, we decided to focus on not one, but two different movies! One of them was recommended by our TYP fam (Nocturnal Animals [2016]), and the other was something we had in mind (The Perks of Being a Wallflower [2012]). Despite having different messages, both movies share a cryptic ending that we're still trying to decipher. In this episode, you'll gain a better understanding of self-awareness and its potential dangers in excess. You'll also experience our frustration as we try to unpack how self-awareness can both alleviate and aggravate negative emotions. Thank you for joining us this season! It has been an absolute blast, and we still have one more episode after this to recap what has been a five-month season. See you soon! x

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e19 ## Have you ever thought about the complicated dance of understanding yourself from the inside and also knowing how others perceive you? In this penultimate episode of the season, we took a look at the intricate interplay between self-awareness within and how you come across to others. It's a big deal for personal growth and relationships, so we threw some light on its importance. Throughout the episode, we explored how these two aspects of self-awareness are connected and how they affect the choices we make and the way we interact with the world. In the end, self-awareness is a pretty big idea that can mean a lot or a little depending on who you ask. So, what does it mean to you?

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e18 . . . In this #cinematherapy episode, the movie "Hitch" provided a great example to help us understand the idea of dating outside of one's league. Even though the movie stars Will Smith as Hitch, our attention is drawn to Albert, the underdog of the story, who is in love with a rich, powerful, and beautiful woman named Allegra. If you've seen the movie, you know that Albert eventually wins Allegra's heart. In this episode, we wanted to explore the ups and downs of "punching way up" in the dating world. As we delved deeper into the topic, we uncovered some thought-provoking themes around self-improvement, masculinity, social hierarchies, power dynamics, and overcoming insecurities. Although the discussion had a focus on men, we arrived at a shared understanding of the value of confidence, perseverance, and authenticity in "the chase". We also established a part of a future collection we're calling the "yellow pill frameworks" for anyone who finds themselves in Albert's situation

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e17   ##   Have you ever felt like someone was out of your league? It's a common feeling, but in this podcast episode, we explored the idea that it might not be the best way to think about ourselves and others. We delved into the scientific theories that have contributed to the concept of being "out of one's league." But we also talked about how complex the subjectivity and objectivity of social desirability, self-value, and self-worth can be especially in the search for a partner. We chose to explore this topic because as we've gotten older, it's a wicked problem that tends to sneak up on those who still have to navigate a dating pool. Overall, this episode reminds us to shift our perspective when we get caught up in comparing ourselves to others. Instead, it's important to focus on our own personal growth and celebrate the things that make us unique when going into conversations about dating.

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e16   ### On this edition of #Cinematherapy, Wole and Tobi discuss the iconic movie "The Devil Wears Prada" (2006), which explores the balance between work and personal life. The movie follows aspiring journalist Andrea as she becomes the assistant to the demanding Miranda Priestly in the high fashion industry. It depicts Andrea's transformation as she navigates the challenges of a demanding job that threatens to consume her personal life. Wole and Tobi break down some important scenes and delve into themes of ambition, fulfillment, and the compromises we make for success. They explore questions like: Is it really possible to have everything we want? What are the things we're willing to give up? And how do we stay sane through it all? Finally, they wrap up with some tips on how to set boundaries, take care of ourselves, and find a happy balance between work and personal life.

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e15   ##   Work-Life Balance Do you have a good understanding of what "work-life balance" means? It's a term we hear a lot, but have you ever stopped to think about what the "balance" part really refers to? Let's take a moment to consider some more questions together: Do you think work-life balance is the same for everyone, regardless of age or stage of life? For instance, is the balance needed by a 28-year-old the same as that needed by a 41-year-old? Moreover, do you think it's possible to achieve the ultimate success we all dream of while still maintaining a healthy work-life balance? And finally, how certain are we that our work and personal lives can always be kept separate? The questions surrounding this topic are endless, making it a "wicked problem." Many of us are concerned about achieving a good work-life balance. However, it's essential to recognize that everyone's situation is different, and what works for one person may not work for another. In fact, some people online may push their idealized version of work-life balance onto others, which can create feelings of guilt or inadequacy. Overall, there's a case to be made that the gospel of the pursuit of work-life balance is driven by concerns about our health and well-being, as well as that of our loved ones. However, is there a one-size-fits-all solution, and should the balance look the same for everyone?

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e14 The debate on the conditions of unconditional love continued in this cinematherapy episode. To be honest, we feel this topic was one that was too complex & difficult to arrive at a consensus in 2 hours of conversation. The movie we chose to potentially break this down further was ‘The Spectacular Now” a coming-of-age story that follows the charming and carefree high school senior, Sutter Keely, as he navigates his last year of high school with no regard for the future, until he unexpectedly falls for the sweet and studious Aimee Finicky, forcing him to confront his inner demons. Wole wasn't the biggest fan of our movie choice, but it's a movie that grows on you as it edges on showing how there can be extraordinary in the everyday things with share with a love interest. Perhaps the most important realisation we came away with at the end of this is that without self-love and pure tenderness to ourselves, unconditional love is difficult to give and receive.

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e13 ### A mysterious concept, a romantic ideal, and a taken-for-granted understanding. These are three things that we feel characterize the concept of unconditional love, and in typical Yellow pill fashion, we don't take things for granted. In the context of emerging and sustaining relationships, unconditional love is often seen as the epitome of the romantic ideal. From wedding vows to movies to "advice consultants," we all hear people say that to love unconditionally is to declare an intention to love someone come what may. But what does this mean in a world where conditions are set upon us by default, merely because we exist within certain forms and structures? Because the truth is, the very moment we consider the type of relationship we desire with another, we will always be in the realm of "conditions" (be it values, likes, dislikes, temperaments, etc.). So, what then is unconditional love in a default world where conditions cannot be escaped? This episode was inspired by the desire to learn to love more fully and to bring to light a complex understanding that we take for granted as young adults. Save, turn on those bells, you don't want to miss this

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e12 ### On the latest episode of the podcast, Wole and Tobi tried to use the Ikigai framework to figure out a part of their lives connected with purpose. But, honestly, they just ended up with more questions than answers about how practical the framework was. It was like they were in a constant state of tension - almost like the main character in Soul, a Pixar flick about a middle-school band teacher who's feeling pretty lost. He's a jazz musician at heart, but things haven't quite gone his way. When he travels to another dimension to help someone find their purpose, he starts to understand what it means to have soul. After breaking down the plot of the movie, Wole and Tobi took some time to reflect on some of the stuff they didn't quite figure out from the last episode. But, this time, they were able to come to a better understanding of what they think is really at the heart of Ikigai - the *reason for being*. They also talked about some of the scenes from the movie that really stood out, as the main character went on his journey of self-discovery, trying to figure out his purpose, passion, and what it really means to live a fulfilling life.

To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e11 ### You've probably stumbled upon a bunch of frameworks and popular guidelines on how to find purpose in life or discover your reason for existence. One such concept is Ikigai, a Japanese term that translates to "the reason for being". The idea is simple: each person finds their reason for being at the intersection of what they love, what they are good at, what they can be paid for, and what the world needs. Sounds great, doesn't it?  In this episode, we tried to apply this concept to our own lives and see if it's a useful framework. To be honest, we're not sure if we nailed it. We tried to make sense of it from a realistic perspective, taking into account cultural and economic realities, but Ikigai proved to be a tough sell

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✨NEW✨: To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - http://bit.ly/typs9e9 . . . About this episode: The way life works is that the people who give us life, raise us, support us, and care for us will eventually reach a point where they need our help and support too. Watching our parents grow old can sneak up on us, and we may only realize it in moments of epiphany. In this episode, the Yellow Pill Men explore the reciprocity and filial responsibility involved in supporting ageing parents. They attempt to think about their role in providing support to their elderly parents, although whether they figured it out is still up for debate. One cannot deny the complexity involved in navigating the changing responsibilities adult children face as their parents begin to age. This episode delves into the various reasons why humans provide support to parents as they age, and how factors such as gender, socioeconomic conditions, and culture might interact with these reasons. It's a scary conversation to have, but it's also inevitable. The reality is that many of us have already spent more time with our parents than we ever will again. . . . The Yellow Pill Junkies Campaign ENDS next week! Here's your chance to win a £25 Amazon voucher

✨NEW✨: To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - https://bit.ly/typs9e8 . . . Picking a movie for this week's cinematherapy episode was a tough call, man

✨NEW✨: To leave a comment at any point during your listen, here's a link you can use - http://bit.ly/typs9e7 . . The Yellow Pill Junkies Campaign ENDS soon. Here's your chance to win a £25 Amazon voucher

Anxiety, bridges burnt, and an existential tipping point. These are some of the words that best describe the upcoming Nigerian elections and the state of the nation. Whether we like it or not, the outcomes of this upcoming Nigerian elections matter to the world. Why? For starters, Nigeria is the most populous black country on earth, and one out of every five persons of African origin is Nigerian. In addition, even though the word ‘elections' should suggest Nigeria is a democratic state, in reality however, Nigeria is a hybrid regime that is closer to an authoritarian regime than it is to a flawed or full democracy (The Economist, 2023). So, back to the elections. We decided to create this ‘out-of-schedule' episode that contains stories and anecdotes from a dozen Nigerians who share their fears and hopes about the upcoming elections. Some expressed hope for positive change and development, many expressed concern about violence and aftermath, while a few emphasised an unwilling acceptance of whatever outcome. Regardless, it is clear that upcoming elections scheduled for February 25, 2023 (as of the time of writing this) will have both threats and opportunities of an unquantifiable scale for our country and our people.  We'll see what happens during the weekend and release another episode after. Please give this a listen, share, and stay tuned. God bless

We wanted to find a useful cinematherapy resource for the theme of love and Valentine's Day, so that meant we stayed away from the cheesy classics

As February 14th draws near, Wole and Tobi take a different approach to discuss Valentine's Day. Instead of focusing on the good, romantic aspects of the holiday, they delve into the darker side of it, exploring the taken-for-granted expectations and experiences that can lead to negative outcomes for couples and singles. They ask if and how Valentine's Day can *do more harm than good* for all involved. They question the importance of this love holiday to society, share their own past experiences, and offer some considerations for those looking to make the most of their Valentine's Day plans. Surprisingly, they make some very interesting points that you might not expect to hear on an episode like this one. Lots of love ♥️ . . .

Link to the TYP Junkies campaign: https://lkh8vm25tg2.typeform.com/to/M1deAAPd . . For a while now, Wolé and Tobi have been reflecting on the importance they attach to material possessions. Wolé's thoughts on materialism began recently when a life transition made him question the number of clothes he needs. Tobi's thoughts have been more mature, stemming from his longstanding view that he places little importance on material things that don't serve a functional purpose. They sit down to discuss the origin of their materialistic tendencies, albeit to varying degrees. They question the reasons behind our consumption habits and why we are likely to own more than we use. They debate whether materialism can be good or bad, and explore how it extends beyond objects. Of course, much of their conversation also highlights their hypocrisy. After all, they both own material objects that are only "nice to have" and are not essential for their survival. So, can we truly escape materialism? We'll let you answer that.

This episode contains explicit language from clips we included from the film. ## In our first-ever #cinematherapy episode, we dive into “Marriage Story”, an amazing movie starring Adam Driver and Scarlett Johansson. We dissect scenes and themes in the film that reflect our current topic of discussion about premarital fears and the apprehension of divorce. We picked and loved this story because it touches on the real-life struggles of managing a marriage that is falling apart and the personal costs associated with it. Enjoy the listen! . . . The TYP Junkies Campaign is still on! If you haven't already, please fill out our survey - https://lkh8vm25tg2.typeform.com/to/M1deAAPd  

Link to the TYP Junkies campaign: https://lkh8vm25tg2.typeform.com/to/M1deAAPd In this episode, Wolé and Tobi sit down to really talk about some premarital fears they have. While they both share the same desire to settle down one day

Are you ready for another season of familiar dilemmas and wicked problems? Join us as we try to make sense of the world we find ourselves in through intimate conversations, piercing thoughts, and provocative questions. We've also got a couple of new experiences lined up this season, including a new campaign we're launching which we talk more about in the episode. Tune in for a preview of what's coming on the Yellow Pill!  

Happy New Year everyone!

First, we would love to know how your 2022 went, as well as your outlook for 2023! So please tell us two things here. First, how was your 2022? Second, what are you optimistic about going into in 2023: https://ngl.link/theyellowpillpod92164 In this episode, Wole and Tobi catch up after a minute. Wole talks through the life transitions he's had to deal with since finishing his PhD, including moving to a new city and a new job. Tobi reflects on 2022 and his journey so far in building a business. The conversation moved forward and they discussed relationships, the recent “pressure” to settle down from friends and family, what the future holds in that department and the sudden appeal of an “arranged” marriage.   . . . If you love listening to the podcast, here's how you can show us some love! Please leave us a review on the platform you're listening to us on right now!