Bringing Wellbeing to Life

S4-E1 - Dr Lucy Hone - Join Dr Lucy Hone and Dr Denise Quinlan, co-Founders of NZIWR in conversation about what collective resilience is, why it matters, and what we can do to build it. Resilience is not a solo game. We are each other's environment. How we humans are with each other at work, school, or home shapes our resilience. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin - oar.org.nz

Join Denise as she talks with Rob Baker about job crafting – a way to adapt our jobs to better fit our strengths and skills. Rob shares how even 15 minutes of job crafting in your day made work more meaningful and satisfying for call centre workers. Living through lockdowns and working from home have meant that jobcrafting for resilience has never been more important to us all! Listen to why everyone of us can job craft wherever we work, and how it can buffer stress and build resilience and wellbeing. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin - oar.org.nz

‘Forgiveness can be important in order to re-build our sense of who we are after a significant loss.’ Tayyab explains that loss is universal and most people recover from those losses over time. When a grieving person blames themselves or someone else for the loss and is unable to forgive, or is unable to forgive a person who has died for something they did or didn’t do - this can get in the way of healing and recovery. Tayyab discusses strategies for helping people come to forgiveness. He shares the strengths he has seen people draw upon after loss – including perspective, persistence and courage. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin - oar.org.nz

‘The ultimate act of gratitude is to live the wisdom they have given us from that moment forward.’ Dr Kerry Howells explains gratitude as a process that connects us to the world through giver, receiver, and gift. She encourages us to notice what we have received and the importance of expressing our thanks – in some way - so that gratitude can flow in the world. Listen as Kerry explains how building gratitude in some areas of life can protect us going through adversity like grief. Kerry says it’s not about trying to cover grief with gratitude, ‘it’s respectfully accepting that grief is there, and that gratitude can help us move through the grief’. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin - oar.org.nz

“I wasn’t running away from grief, I was running with my grief”. Denise talks to Julie Zarifeh, clinical psychologist about life after the heart-breaking loss of her husband and son in 2017. Julie shares her experience of active grieving which she says was not running away from grief, but running with her grief. She shares the strategies that worked for her including: deep emotional connection, helping others, learning, and focusing on the good. Listen to how Julie ran with her grief through a marathon, a 1000km hike and a country-wide bike trip. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin - oar.org.nz

‘Surrender is not giving up, rather it is opening up to the emergent to what is unfolding’. Denise talks to Dr Neena Verma about the learning and growth that can occur when we are able to accept what is unfolding in our lives, even when that’s hard. Neena talks about her own challenges and personal loss and how she has learned to ‘be present to what life is presenting’. A long-standing practitioner of Appreciative Inquiry, she has been a pioneer of turning this appreciative focus to the shadow side of our lives and using it to find acceptance and growth through challenge. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin - oar.org.nz

Denise talks to Mairie Cregan, co-founder of the Feileacain, the Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Association of Ireland about the silence around the loss of her two babies that led to her setting up the organisation. Determined to provide acknowledgement and support to bereaved parents, Feileacain now offers rituals including hand and footprints of the baby, memory boxes for parents to fill, and remembrance services where every parent says their baby’s name out loud. Listen to Mairie describe why hearing their baby’s name may bring a tear to the eye of a bereaved parent, but also brings music to their heart. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin - oar.org.nz

Denise talks to Rob Fazio, founder of Hold the Door, a not-for-profit that helps people coping with significant loss or adversity. Learn how Hold the Door is Rob’s way of honouring his father’s memory and keeping his legacy alive. Committed to the idea of helping people grow and grieve, Hold the Door’s strategy is one of connecting and caring with those involved, and then offering challenge to grow – in whatever way is appropriate. Rob says we all need ‘hope and a plan’ and this is what they offer through their service. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin - oar.org.nz

Denise shares part 2 of her discussion with renowned grief expert Dr Bob Neimeyer. Bob explains why grief is so personal and why we each need to find our own GPS (Grief Positioning System!) to help us live in the world again. He shares strategies that many people have found helpful when rebuilding their lives after difficult losses. Anyone who has found themselves at a loss for what to say to the bereaved will appreciate the simple but beautiful questions Bob uses to help the grieving open up and share stories of their loved ones. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin - oar.org.nz

After great loss, the grieving have to re-define who they are, make sense of what’s happened, and find meaning and connection in a world that is significantly changed for them. Dr Robert Neimeyer, grief researcher and therapist, discusses with Denise the important role that meaning plays in helping us adapt to and cope with significant loss and change. Listen as Bob explains why grief is such an individual experience: ‘it matters who we are, who we lose, and how we lose them’. This episode is part 1 of a 2-part conversation with Bob Neimeyer. Join us again for part 2. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin - oar.org.nz

How do positive emotions help us cope with our most challenging moments including caregiving for people facing life-threatening illness or bereavement? In this podcast, Prof. Judith Mokowitz, social and health psychologist, shares how activities that generate positive emotions can help people respond to significant life stress in a healthier way. Her ground-breaking work has shown the difference simple activities like re-framing, mindfulness, kindness, practising and benefit finding can make to the bereaved, people living with stroke, dementia, HIV-Aids, Stage IV breast cancer, and their carers. Importantly, Judith’s work shows that we can all learn these strategies and reap the benefits. Listen to how talking about the positives, even in the most challenging times, can help psychologically and physically. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin - oar.org.nz

Denise shares part 2 of Dr Lucy Hone’s conversation with renowned grief expert Dr Tom Attig. Tom offers advice on what to say to the bereaved, the value of rituals for grieving, and the difference between a grief reaction and a grief response. Tom encourages us to develop what he calls ‘sorrow friendly’ practices, so that our cultures can be more supportive of grieving. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin - oar.org.nz

Denise shares Part 1 of a conversation between Dr Lucy Hone and renowned grief expert, Dr Tom Attig, who explains the flaws in the stages model of grief. He shares how significant loss shatters our world and requires us to re-learn how to live in the work, and to rebuild our connections in new ways. He encourages us to pay attention to the resilience most people still display even at their lowest ebb. Listen as Tom discusses ‘loving in separation’: keeping bonds and connections with loved ones who have died. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin - oar.org.nz

‘Choose life – don’t lose what you have to what you’ve lost’ – Dr Lucy Hone Denise talks with Dr Lucy Hone on how she chose life and resilience after the tragic death of her beloved 12-year-old daughter. Lucy shares how she learned to navigate her own grief in a resilient way, and is now sharing the tools she has successfully used and adapted with others around the world. Listen to learn how people can make sense of even devastating loss and rebuild their lives while keeping loving bonds with those they have lost. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin - oar.org.nz

Denise talks to Dr Melinda Webber who believes that a lot of cultural responsiveness comes down to manaakitanga – kindness and caring for people as they are. For those who feel intimidated by this challenge, she reminds us that we just need to take small steps and take time to bed them in – so that they become genuinely part of our culture. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin oar.org.nz

09 - Staying Strong On The Frontline Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin oar.org.nz

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Show 06 - Schools back - This week was a start back to online school for students around the country. We know teachers will have been feeling more nervous than students so Adrienne Buckingham talked to Rowan Taigel, experienced educator and wellbeing facilitator with NZIWR and WhatifPLD, about advice for teachers this week. Her focus on high tolerance and low expectations, establishing the basics, practising self-compassion and being willing to get it wrong are just as helpful for the adults of students going back to school. In this new territory, we all need to lower expectations, be kind to ourselves and each other, and even have some fun. This show was broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin - oar.org.nz

Show 05 - Sparklers at Home - This week, Denise spoke with Anna Mowat, content creator for Sparklers and they discussed strategies for people looking after young children including: Look after yourself Emotions may run high Learn together What strengths will help you? Let go of screentime battles. Create a DIY Planner. This show was broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin - oar.org.nz

04 - Cut Me Some Slack - Dr Denise Quinlan talks with Dr Emma Woodward (NZ Child Psychology Service) about helping parents cope with this strange new normal of the ‘staycation’ that is the Level 4 Alert of the COVID-19 period. This show was broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin - oar.org.nz

03 - WFH in Challenging Times - Any person “conducting a business or undertaking” has a duty to manage the health and safety of workers performing remote or isolated work. At NZIWR we have decades of experience of WFH, much of it while dealing with tough stuff. The result? We have unique insights that are proving useful now. Here are our tips to help you lead your teams with empathy, making them feel supported. Doing so is more likely to foster their long term commitment than coming down hard. In this podcast Dr Denise Quinlan and Dr Lucy Hone discuss working from home during challenging times. This show was broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin - oar.org.nz

02 - Not Killing Nigel - Denise talks with Lucy about the strategies she is using to avoid losing the plot with the people in her bubble. Not Killing Nigel also comes as a downloadable PDF so you can make a plan for the people in your bubble. We’ve also included a download of Alex Fulton’s Door Hang ‘I’m just isolating from isolating’ for you to print and decorate. This show was broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin - oar.org.nz

Show 30 - Rowan Taigel - Turning Wellbeing onto Its Head - How can we make learning engaging and meaningful for students? This was the challenge Rowan Taigel took on when she turned the curriculum, and the traditional approach to NCEA, upside down - focusing first on the problems students wanted to solve, then the skills they needed to do that, and engaging them to find their own solutions. Rowan explains to Denise why building relationships and students learning about their strengths and values were at the heart of this programme’s success. Listen as Rowan describes how students, parents, and teachers appreciated this approach where students got to drive their own learning, with one student describing the course as “the reason I come to school”. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin www.oar.org.nz

Real-time Resilience: Supporting Young People during COVID-19 with Dr Denise Quinlan and Dr Emma Woodward Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin www.oar.org.nz

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Show 29 - Jillian Coppley-Darwish - Thriving Communities - How can we build thriving learning communities by focusing on what’s strong and not what’s wrong? Denise talks to Jillian Coppley-Darwish, about Thriving Learning Communities – a programme that works by helping educators to focus on ‘what’s strong not what’s wrong’ in their students. Listen as Jillian explains how Thriving Learning Communities helps build self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, relationship-building and responsible decision-making. Jillian talked to us from Cinncinnati Ohio during a huge storm outside so apologies for occasional sounds of thunder and alarms. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin www.oar.org.nz

S2 - Show 28 - Tayyab Rashid - Tayyab explains to Denise how his experience of living in other cultures has taught him to notice variation within each culture. He encourages us to notice that variation rather than stereotyping, and to always pay attention to our shared humanity. After working with people from many and varied cultures he believes there is good in all of us. Listen as Tayyab explains how open-mindedness, respect and curiosity can help us learn about other cultures, and why faith, resilience and flexibility are strengths he is proud of in his fellow Muslims. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin www.oar.org.nz

Leading Change for Wellbeing - How can we remind people that they are part of a collective and that a collective can solve anything? In this podcast Denise talks with Dr Chris Jansen about leading change. In contrast to old models of the heroic leader dashing in to save us all, Chris emphasises the need for everyone to be involved in finding the solutions to solve the problems we face. Listen to Chris’ experience of supporting change in education and why he believes that if we can come together and respect and learn from each other, we can solve any problem. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin www.oar.org.nz

S2 - Show 26 - Wellbeing learning for students and parents with Dr Ase Fagerlund - How can we help parents – as well as children - to learn about wellbeing? In this interview, Dr Ase Fagerlund shares the story of a multi-year, multi-school project she has led in Finland. As well as working with schools to support teaching of wellbeing to students, Ase also worked with groups of parents to help them find engagement, meaning, hope and flow. Listen to Ase share her insights from these projects (and find out how a Swedish scientist living in Finland came to speak Te Reo Māori!) Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin www.oar.org.nz

Show 25 - Coaching for Whole-school Wellbeing - with Professor Christian van Niewerburgh - Can coaching be about whole-system change as well as individual support? In this interview with Denise Quinlan, Christian van Niewerburgh explains why coaching is not an indulgence – at its heart, coaching is about being able to support the wellbeing of others. Christian values the range of ways coaching can support wellbeing in education: teachers offering wellbeing coaching to each other, students coaching their peers, and coaching being used to develop and strengthen teacher professional practice. When a school is doing all of this work, the school social climate also improves. Listen to Christian explain why coaching skills are vital life skills for educators and students alike. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin www.oar.org.nz

Show 24 - Teaching Health - an Essential Part of Whole-school Wellbeing - with Dr Katie Fitzpatrick and Kat Wells - How can we use the Health Curriculum in schools to teach students about individual and collective wellbeing? Dr Katie Fitzpatrick and HPE leader Kat Wells talk to Denise about Mental Health Education and Hauora - their HPE curriculum resource for NZ schools. They explain how important HPE is for building wellbeing literacy and why ‘educative’ rather than ‘interventionist approaches’ are essential in schools. They are advocates for more curriculum time for this area and more PD to build teachers’ expertise in mental health and wellbeing. Listen to find out why Katie and Kat believe that whole-school wellbeing must include curriculum time for mental health and wellbeing education. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin www.oar.org.nz

Show 23 - Wellbeing in Education - How can we help schools coordinate and evaluate the work they are doing on wellbeing? In this interview, Lea Waters explains how her work has culminated in a model that helps school do just that. She outlines the progress she has seen in wellbeing in education and stresses the importance of taking a big picture view of our wellbeing work – what we’re doing and how it’s working. Listen to this interview to learn more about the SEARCH model of wellbeing and how you can use it in your school or organisation. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin www.oar.org.nz

Show 22 - Cultural responsiveness and cultural diversity with Ara Simmons - How can we help teachers build connection with their students and their whānau? In this interview, Ara Simmons shares her own multi-cultural background and experience as a teacher in a multi-cultural setting. She explains how standard practice in some school systems supports getting to know students and building a whānau or family feeling with your class of students. Ara shares some of the practices she has successfully used to learn about her students and their family stories. Listen to why a simple open question may be the important tool in our kete to build culturally responsive practice. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin www.oar.org.nz

How Coaching can Support Wellbeing - Why should we value and endorse a coaching culture in schools? In this interview, Clive and Denise discuss the overlap of organizational coaching and positive psychology. A growing body of research demonstrates that coaching conversations can support performance and wellbeing. Clive believes that giving people are opportunity to consider a preferred future is a power tool for behaviour change. School leaders will be interested to hear how individual tailored coaching programs can help people identify improvement strategies and move forward. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin www.oar.org.nz

S2 - Show 20 - Indigenous wellbeing model - How can we support wellbeing for Māori students and staff? In this episode Wiremu shares his school experiences both as a Māori student and as a school counsellor. He describes a sense of not belonging – that this wasn’t meant for him even though he is tangata whenua, a person of this land. To help young people overcome this alienation and to develop a strong sense of connection to Māori cultural identity, he has developed a model of wellbeing which he calls Te Whare Mauri Ora. Listen to Wiremu describe how this model, based on Te Whare Tapa Whā and incorporating positive psychology practices, is being used to help Māori and Pakeha youth. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin www.oar.org.nz

S2 - Show 19 - Strengths Based Resilience - Dr Tayyab Rashid, developer of the Strengths-Based Resilience program for school and university students, and author of the Positive Psychotherapy Clinical Handbook talks to Denise about implementing wellbeing work in schools. He emphasises the importance of schools adapting programmes to their context – of adapting and interpreting the work for their students. His respect for the teachers and students that work with his programmes means that he always encourages people to try out elements of the programme, and to keep using them if they find them helpful. Listen to why Tayyab believes loneliness is one of our most pernicious problems, and why connection to self in nature will help. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin www.oar.org.nz

Show 18 - Why does paying attention to culture matter to Wellbeing? - In this episode Denise and Brenda discuss how families and schools can work together to build a resilient context for community members. Internal resources are only part of the equation for strengthening wellbeing and resilience. According to Brenda, indigenous cultural adaptation requires mainstream narrative to be story. Shifting wellbeing using a contextual model is crucial for trauma-informed practice. Learn how Brenda adapted middle class, white American psychology research to work an aboriginal context. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin www.oar.org.nz

Show 17 - Where has PodEd been and where are we going? - In this epsoode, Denise speaks to Mathew White who has been involved in PosEd since its inceptions. Mathew was a teacher at Geelong Grammar was first trained in Positive Psychology by Martin Seligman and his team (including Denise) and now teaches teachers. Mathew suggest the first wave of PosEd was characterized zest and enthusiasm. Engagement of students and families in the science of wellbeing in pertiment, according to Matthew. Listen to the journey of this ground-breaking field and learn about how the experts suggest we move forward. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin www.oar.org.nz

Show 16 - What does PsychCap look like in schools? - In this episode, Denise and Mike discuss the value of using the Psychological Capital framework in an educational environment. The acronym H.E.R.O. represents the four pillars of this model: Hope, Self-Efficacy, Resilience, Optimism. Mike believes HERO overlaps significantly with John Hattie’s work, particularly in regards to teacher and student efficacy. Academic self-efficacy predicts engagement and achievement. Mike’s school views Psychological Capital is a resource to be grown to help weather challenges. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin www.oar.org.nz

Show 15 - What can schools do to help staff and students engage with learning about wellbeing? - Rhiannon McGee is charged with overseeing how wellbeing is supported throughout Geelong Grammar School and how it is taught to students from early years to high school. She explains the range of strategies they use to work with staff and students including a 3-day initial training for staff followed by optional ‘top ups’ and ‘deep dives’. This learning is augmented and supported by a school-wide coaching approach for both staff and students. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin www.oar.org.nz

Show 14 - What can we do to help children and adolescents develop secure attachments? - Nathan Wallis, long time child advocate, started as a young teacher who realised that “scared kids don’t learn”. He realised he had to act like a nurturer before he could be a teacher and retrained as a child therapist. Nathan knows social and emotional wellbeing impact IQ and performance significantly. He believes the 3 Rs of teaching and growing children are: relationship, relationship, relationship. His advice to schools and parents is to invest in high quality one-on-one relationships to improve outcomes for children. Broadcast on OAR 105.4FM Dunedin www.oar.org.nz