Christian Family Life

Your spirit sets the thermostat of your home, and your words move the needle. In this episode we uncover the toxic attitudes that quietly rot the roof of your relationship - jealousy, bitterness, suspicion, fear, pride, and despair. Learn how the spiritual currents sabotage intimacy, trust, and peace, and discover biblical ways to reset your heart toward healing and unity. Through practical reflection and faith-based insight, you'll be guided to replace destructive thought with life-giving ones: thanking God for your spouse, recognizing Christ's character in them, and speaking blessings of peace, strength, and wisdom over your marriage.

Before we talk about communication techniques or conflict strategies, we must start with what's inside. What fills your heart will inevitably flavor your words. In this episode, we explore the positive spiritual currents that bring life and protection to your marriage - being refreshing toward your spouse, maintaining a right spirit, engaging with gentleness, and pursuing unity, peace, and gratitude. Discover how a joyful, thankful heart can transform the tone of your home and create a marriage that truly reflects God's love.

Is marriage just a collection of better communication techniques, love languages, and clever hacks? Or is there a deeper spiritual foundation that truly sets the tone for every conversation? Whether you are dating, newly married, or have been together for decades, this episode dives into communication as a vital part of the covenant protection of your home. We will explore how moving beyond surface skills to a spirit-shaped atmosphere can safeguard your marriage. Join us as we unpack the power of being quick to listen, speaking truth in love, extending gracious words, mastering timing and tone, embracing forgiveness, and blessing your spouse. This conversation will help you transform everyday interactions into a sacred space of connection and protection.

What does it look like to practice covenant love in the everyday ups and downs of marriage? In this episode, we'll move from theory to practice - exploring how covenant thinking transforms conflict, shapes the words we speak, deepens our sacrifices, and roots us in community. Togetherwe will challenge the cultural lie that marriage is only about happiness and rediscover God's design: a covenant that makes us holy and teaches us to love like Jesus. Whether you are navigating disagreements, learning new ways to communicate, or seeking to strengthen your bond, this conversation will ehlp you move from performance - driven love to faith - filled covenant living.

Is marriage just about love, feelings, and personal happiness -- or is there something deeper holding it all together? In this episode, we uncover the biblical vision of marriage as a covenant, not just a contract. From ancient traditions for today's shifting cultural views, we'll explore how covenant shapes lasting commitment, protects relationships, and reflects Christ's love for His Church. Whether you're dating, newly married, or decades into your journey, this conversation will challenge and encourage you to see marriage not as fragile or conditional, but as a sacred, unbreakable promise before God.

Marriage is one of the biggest commitments you will ever make - but how do you know if you are truly ready? In this episode, we unpack the other five key things every couple should explore in premarital conversations, from faith foundations to family backgrounds to finances, conflict resolution, and future dreams. Whether you are engaged, dating seriously, or mentoring couples, this conversation will help you build a strong foundation for a covenant marriage that lasts.

Marriage is one of the biggest commitments you'll every make - but how do you know if you're truly ready? In this episode, we unpack 5 of 10 key things every couple should explore in premarital conversations, from faith foundations and family backgrounds to finances, conflict resolution, and future dreams. Whether you're engaged, dating seriously, or mentoring couples, this conversations will help you build a strong foundation for a covenant marriage that lasts.

Marriage isn't just a contract—it's a covenant. In this episode, we explore why premarital counseling is more than just a box to check before the wedding day. From uncovering values and expectations to preparing for lifelong commitment, we'll talk about the spiritual and practical benefits premarital brings to a relationship. You'll also hear personal reflections on how premarital shaped our own journey and why it can be one of the most valuable investments you make in your marriage.

In this episode, we explore the profound metaphor of gardening as it relates to maintaining a healthy marriage. Just as a garden requires consistent care and attention, so too does our marital relationship. We delve into the importance of recognizing areas of neglect and provide practical steps for couples to cultivate a flourishing partnership. Tune in to learn how to invest time and effort into your marital garden, ensuring it remains a vibrant space for love and growth.

Motherhood is a beautiful journey that can deepen your marriage and transform your faith. In this episode, we explore how becoming a mother can sometimes lead to losing yourself, grieving that loss, and facing identity confusion. We'll discuss the importance of reclaiming your true identity as a child of God - adopted, forgiven, loved, and empowered by His Spirit. Learn how embracing your divine identity can strengthen your marriage, renew your faith, and help you thrive as a fulfilled, confident woman. Join us for encouragement, biblical insight, and practical steps to navigate motherhood with purpose and grace.

Unrealistic Expectations are a silent killer in relationships, even contributing to divorce. Join us as we delve into the common unrealistic expectations we bring to our partnerships, how they create conflict and resentment, and actionable steps for fostering better communication and understanding for a healthier, more connected Christ centered bond.

Join us as we explore the profound spiritual discipline of daily crucifixion of the flesh and embracing the Spirit's power for growth. Through scripture and heartfelt reflection, we'll uncover how to align our lives with Christ's, destroying arguments against God's truth, and deepen our relationship with Him. Discover how renewing your mind, understanding the knowledge of God, and walking in daily obedience can transform your marriage, your walk with Christ, and your entire life. Let's journey together toward spiritual maturity and VICTORY in Christ!

In today's episode we confront the honest truth: every marriage is made up of two imperfect people. But that doesn't mean it's without hope. We'll talk about how recognizing our flaws can lead to deeper grace, stronger connection, and a daily commitment to becoming the best spouse we can be. With practical steps and timeless biblical wisdom, this episode sets the foundation for a marriage that grows through God's grace, not human perfection.

Join us on as we explore the sacred union of marriage as a powerful platform for spreading the Gospel. Whether you're engaged, newly married, or celebrating decades together, discover how your marriage can become a vibrant beacon of hope, grace, and the transformative power of the Gospel in a world in need.

In this episode of the Christian Family Life Podcast, we dive deep into the vital importance of pressing pause in your marriage. Life can feel like a relentless current, pulling us in every direction, but often, the best way to regain our footing is to take a step back. Tune in for encouraging insights and a heartfelt challenge to prioritize pauses that rejuvenate your marriage. If you're feeling overwhelmed or distant, this episode is a must-listen! Share your own journey of pressing pause with us and let's support one another on this journey of faith and love.

Join us in us today as we delve into the complexities of marital distress in a world where nearly half of marriages end in divorce. Despite these statistics, around 90% of people still choose to marry, and many find themselves yearning for deeper intimacy and connection. In this podcast, we explore the common pitfalls of poor communication, unrealistic expectations, and the waning of loving feelings that can creep into relationships. Whether you're in a rocky relationship or seeking to enhance your marriage, tune in to discover how to thrive together through life's challenges!

Marriage is one of God's greatest tools for shaping us into the image of Christ. In this episode, Let's dive into what it means to mature in marriage, embracing both the joys and challenges along the way.Staying rooted in Christ helps couples navigate busy seasons and burdensome trials without falling into resentment. Drawing from Romans 5 and James 1, we are remind that trials are opportunities to grow in selflessness, perseverance, and unity.

In today's episode, we'll dive into candid conversations about what it truly takes to nurture friendship within marriage. We'll reflect on the invaluable lessons from scripture, like Isaac and Rebekah's bond, and draw parallels to our own lives. Discover how to prioritize your relationship, cultivate shared passions, and overcome common obstacles that may hinder fun and connection. Whether you're newlyweds navigating the early days or seasoned couples facing the challenges of life changes, we hope to encourage you to rekindle that spark and redefine what it means to be friends in love. Tune in for heartfelt stories and practical tips that we believe will encourage you into a thriving marriage where friendship flourishes!

In today's episode, we'll dive into candid conversations about what it truly takes to nurture friendship within marriage. We'll reflect on the invaluable lessons from scripture, like Isaac and Rebekah's bond, and draw parallels to our own lives. Discover how to prioritize your relationship, cultivate shared passions, and overcome common obstacles that may hinder fun and connection. Whether you're newlyweds navigating the early days or seasoned couples facing the challenges of life changes, we hope to encourage you to rekindle that spark and redefine what it means to be friends in love. Tune in for heartfelt stories and practical tips that we believe will encourage you into a thriving marriage where friendship flourishes!

Has trust been broken in your marriage? Are you struggling to find your way back to a place of connection and understanding? Join us as we explore the path to rebuilding trust, drawing from biblical wisdom and practical insights. We'll delve into the power of honesty, the importance of submitting to God's process, and the role of kindness, forgiveness, and vulnerability. Learn how to navigate the realities of marriage, address issues with grace, and cultivate an environment where both partners feel heard and valued. Discover how to carry each other's burdens, make trustworthy choices, and patiently hope for restoration, even in the face of deep hurt. Rebuilding Trust is a journey, and we're here to guide you through it.

Join us today as we explore the emotional, spiritual, and physical dimensions of love, emphasizing the importance of communication, understanding, and genuine connection. Discover how to create a safe space where both partners feel valued and appreciated, and learn how to approach intimacy not as a checklist but as a beautiful journey of growth together. With insights from scripture and real-life experiences, we'll discuss the transformative power of selfless love and the importance of seeing our spouses through God's lens. Tune in for practical advice on nurturing your relationship and reigniting that spark of desire, leading to a deeper and more fulfilling marriage.

Join us as we unpack the importance of cultivating closeness, overcoming resistance to intimacy, and doing the hard things that lead to lasting bonds. Whether you're seeking to strengthen your marriage, or longing to find that initial spark again, this episode is filled with insights and practical steps to help you rekindle that love and feeling. Tune in and take the first step on your journey to deeper connection!

In this episode, we discuss how the ability to tolerate differences can either lead to debilitating competition or a delightful completion of one another. Discover the power of humility in fostering respect and love within your marriage, and learn how to turn potential conflicts into opportunities for growth and deeper connection. It's a journey of understanding your spouse as God's unique creation and delighting in the ways you complement each other. Tune in as our CFL team shares insights that will help you embrace your differences and strengthen your marriage!

Today our CFL team explores the profound impact that prayer can have on couples. Whether you've been married for years or are just starting your journey together, prayer can be a powerful tool in cultivating unity, peace, and deeper connection.

Join us today as our CFL team helps uncover biblical principles, share heartfelt stories, and provide practical advice on how to embrace forgiveness within our marriages. Whether you're facing challenges with your spouse or seeking to deepen your understanding of grace, this podcast is here to guide and inspire you on your journey towards healing and reconciliation.

As we step into the new year, it's the perfect time to reflect on our marriages and set meaningful goals. Join us on this podcast as our team shares some principles to consider as you pray and seek guidance for your relationship in 2025!

We have taken the month of December to share our most listened to podcasts. Enjoy: Listen in today as Roland and Tammy talk about 7 ways you can be a blessing to your spouse.  The enemy tries to get us to think negatively about our spouses but when your focus is to bless them, you can't help but to think good things about them.

This was one of the top listened to podcast for CFL. In December we are sharing some of our top listened to content! Did you come from a healthy home? A home where mom and dad loved you and truly invested blood, sweat, tears, and money into you as a child? Or did you come from a toxic home? A home that was somewhat distant emotionally and/or physically? Regardless of your upbringing, one of the most challenging conversations you will have as a husband and wife, will be about setting boundaries with your parents. Today we give some practical advice to help you as you navigate these waters.

We are taking the month of December to highlight the top podcasts since the beginning of our podcast journey. Today our CFL team sits down with ordained minister, licensed professional counselor rectified sex therapist, professor, and national speaker Dr. Michael Sytsma. Dr. Sytsma has over 30 years of clinical experience in sex therapy and he founded Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. He is also co-founder of Sexual Wholeness, Inc. and co-author of the book we are discussing today, “Secrets of Sex & Marriage: 8 Surprises that make all the difference. Part 2

We are taking the month of December to highlight the top podcasts since the beginning of our podcast journey. Today our CFL team sits down with ordained minister, licensed professional counselor rectified sex therapist, professor, and national speaker Dr. Michael Sytsma. Dr. Sytsma has over 30 years of clinical experience in sex therapy and he founded Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. He is also co-founder of Sexual Wholeness, Inc. and co-author of the book we are discussing today, “Secrets of Sex & Marriage: 8 Surprises that make all the difference.

How would your marriage improve if you began to be thankful for the Lord for the spouse He has given you. If you by faith approach your spouse with gratefulness that is expressed by loving them with a sacrificial heart, would things look different at home? Today our team talks about being thankful for our spouse because of our relationship with the Lord.

Let's talk about love!!! Today our CFL Team points us toward the Love of Christ as a model for our own marriage. Listen in as you are encouraged to love as Christ loves.

Unity is so important in our marriages. Satan's goal is to steal, kill, and destroy!! When we don't see eye to eye how do we approach the disagreement? Today we spend a few minutes discussing this topic and look to scripture to get a better understanding from God's Word.

All of us had examples of marriage. Perhaps good ones or bad ones, but all were and are affected by marriage. Today we want to encourage you to see your marriage as important to the Lord and also to you kids and sphere of influence. Perhaps, by the way you love, forgive, and sacrifice for each other it may be an example to others to emulate!!

The answer to why God created marriage and why get married provide purpose in your marital relationship. You cannot experience oneness in marriage if you are not unified in your purpose for being together.  Listen in today as our team discusses God's original intent for marriage.  The first purpose is, to reflect the image of God.

What does the Holy Spirit have to do with marriage? Listen in today as we share with you the power that comes from the Holy Spirit that will strengthen your marriage.

Too often we try to change each other to be what we selfishly want each other to be, but God knows best and He has given us His personal perfect provision in our spouse. Let God write the story, it is so much better.

Over time we begin to lose the flame of romance. Things we used to laugh at we no longer laugh at, the joy is gone. Listen in, as we encourage , not only you, but ourselves to strengthen your marriage by the power of the Holy Spirit, so that you can get back to that romance, even in the midst of your reality, and the tensions in the home.

The oneness that you create within your marriage has a direct impact on how you parent the children!! Our team takes the time to share about this topic and what we learned along the way over 30 years of marriage!!

As you and your spouse, look to parent your children, in the ways of the Lord, it is vital that each of you are also learning to love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, strength, and might, and that you are continually growing in your faith.

Loneliness, fear, rejection, and anger are just a few of the emotions that we all navigate as we walk through difficult times. Today we interview Dustin and Rekah and they walk us through the choices they made to look to the Lord and pursue each other as they journey through infertility and the doors of adoption being closed.

Communio is a nonprofit ministry that trains and equips churches to share the Gospel through the renewal of healthy relationships, marriages, and the family. J.P. De Gance is the founder and president of Communio and the co-author of the book, Endgame: The Church's Strategic Move to Save Faith and Family in America. JP is also the author of the Nationwide Study on Faith and Relationships. 

Parenting is ordained by God and part of God's design. It is also a privilege and is rewarding! Today as we dig into this podcast we will focus on our mission as parents and also being reminded of our Heavenly Father and His love for us and how we can use our relationship with Him as an example with our children.

In marriage, we often vision cast and set goals. What does the next year look like? How about five years from now? Ten, Twenty, etc.?  But, have we ever thought about trial casting?  Preparing ourselves for the realities that come with life. Listen in as our CFL Team gives some good, practical, and Biblical advice on this topic!

Remember, your spouse is not your enemy. Take up the shield of Faith and quench those fiery darts of division that the enemy is hurling at your marriage. It may look like you' surrounded on every side, but if you submitvyourself to God, resist the devil, he has to flee (James 4:7). You'll find you are surrounded, by God's presence! His presence allows us to Reign in spiritual warfare. Our team digs into this faith principal today!

Is regular prayer a part of your marital routine? Do you and your spouse passionately pursue the Lord through prayer to keep you focused on what He wants you to focus on? Prayer allows us to humble ourselves and let the Lord step in! Today our team challenges us to make time on the regular to pray together.

Whether you are navigating healthy or unhealthy conflict in your marriage, today you will hear some practical advice from our CFL team on how you can work through it and honor God and your spouse in the process.  

Where the spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.  If we are walking in the spirit we walk in freedom and we bring freedom to those around us. This brings great joy to your home.  Listen in as we chat about the activities of the Holy Spirit in your marriage. 

Today we have a difficult conversation on the state of divorce in our culture. When we look to scripture we see that was no God's original intent. God desires that when a husband and a wife join together in a covenant relationship that it would produce a bond that reflects the image of God. Because of that very purpose, Satan attacks the very thing that should be pointing toward Him. Join us as we talk through some thoughts on fighting for your marriage and leaning on the power of the Holy Spirit to help you fulfill this high calling!

The Drakes continue sharing the journey that God placed them on. As we walk through this second part, we hear about God's leading and sustaining as they walk through various trials they did not see coming. listen in to this God story and let God use it to encourage you and your spouse on your own personal story!

On todays podcast we interview the Drakes. They share their amazing God story on how He has blessed them both with biological children and then an adopted son. The story is inspiring and provides us with a message of God's calling, dealing with rejection, God's provision, and then the realities of life and keeping their marriage strong. Join us on this first of a two part story.