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Send us a textIs the Church silent where it should be healing?In this powerful episode of the Covenant Eyes Podcast, Dr. Carol Tanksley—physician, minister, and intimacy coach—dives into the deep waters of sexual brokenness, healing, intimacy, and the role of the Church. Joined by host Karen Potter, Dr. Carol shares her personal story, the transformative journey of her ministry, and why real healing requires honesty, community, and God's redemptive love.
Pastor Charles Choe preaches on Sexual Wholeness from 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8
Today we welcome Dr. Lee Long and Dr. Debra Atkisson as they discuss Gods design for sexual wholeness.
Sex sells, but the narrative we are sold these days is a broken one. Even though it’s broken, it’s the one many have accepted as the best option afforded to us. Why settle for a broken paradigm when God wants to exchange the broken for the whole? As disciples, we want to be reformed in the way of Jesus when it comes to our sexual wholeness. The post Sexual Wholeness appeared first on Pine Lake Covenant Church.
*DISCLAIMER* This episode is intended for adults 252. Maximizing Sexual Connection as Newlyweds to Long Term Marriages and Recovering from a Sexless Marriage with Dr. Clifford & Joyce Penner Ephesians 5:21 (NIV) Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Questions and Topics We Cover: What are a couple of your most important tips for newlyweds? What are your favorite recommendations to share with couples who want to be proactive and enhance their sexual intimacy, even if things are currently going pretty well? Will you define what constitutes a sexless marriage and share any trends you've seen over the years? Thank You to Our Sponsor: Sam Leman Eureka Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner are best known for their pioneer work in encouraging people of all faiths to connect their sexuality with their belief system ─ helping them embrace sex as good and of God. Dr. Clifford is a licensed clinical psychologist and Joyce is a registered nurse and clinical nurse specialist. They are highly respected authors and speakers, in addition to being parents and grandparents. Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner's Website At The Savvy Sauce, we will only recommend resources we believe in! We want you to be aware: We are a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for us to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites. Books By Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner: Enjoy! The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women The Married Guy's Guide to Great Sex Restoring the Pleasure The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment Sex FAQ We Didn't Have Time to Cover Today Information on Pelvic Pain Previous Savvy Sauce Episodes with Dr. Clifford & Joyce Penner: Easy Changes to Enhance Your Sexual Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner Maximizing Sexual Intimacy During the Three Most Challenging Phases of Marriage with Christian Sex Therapist Pioneers, Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner Additional Previous Episodes on Sexual Intimacy on The Savvy Sauce: Fostering a Fun, Healthy Sex Life with your Spouse with Dr. Jennifer Konzen Ways to Deepen Your Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Douglas Rosenau Ten Common Questions About Sex, Shared Through a Biblical Worldview with Dr. Michael Sytsma Hope For Treating Pelvic Pain with Tracey LeGrand Treatment for Sexual Issues with Certified Sex Therapist, Emma Schmidt Talking With Your Kids About Sex with Brian and Alison Sutter Natural Aphrodisiacs with Christian Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Douglas Rosenau Healthy Sexuality, Emotional Intelligence, and Parenting Children with Autism with Counselor, Lauren Dack Pain and Joy in Sexual Intimacy with Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese Identifying and Fighting Human Trafficking with Dr. Jeff Waibel Bridging the Gap Between Military and Civilian Families with Licensed Professional Counselor, Cuthor, Podcaster, and 2015 Military Spouse of the Year, Corie Weathers Enjoying a God-Honoring, Healthy Sex Life with Your Spouse with Certified Sex Therapist and Ordained Minister, Dr. Michael Sytsma Enjoying Parenting and Managing Conversations About Sex with Certified Sex Therapist and Author, Dr. Jennifer Konzen Conflict Resolution, Infidelity, and Infertility with Licensed Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese Hormones and Body Image with Certified Sex Therapist, Vickie George Passion Pursuit with Dr. Juli Slattery Female Orgasm with Sue Goldstein Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation, and Treatments Available with Dr. Irwin Goldstein Turn Ons, Turn Offs, and Savoring Sex in Marriage with Dr. Jennifer Konzen Desire Discrepancy in Marriage with Dr. Michael Sytsma Answering Listener's Questions About Sex with Kelli Willard Anatomy of an Affair with Dave Carder Supernatural Restoration Story with Bob and Audrey Meisner Healthy Minds, Marriages, and Sex Lives with Drs. Scott and Melissa Symington Female Pornography Addiction and Meaningful Recovery with Crystal Renaud Day Building Lasting Relationships with Clarence and Brenda Shuler Healthy Ways for Females to Increase Sexual Enjoyment with Tracey LeGrand Pornography Healing for Spouses with Geremy Keeton Sexual Sin Recovery for You and Your Spouse (Part Two) Personal Development and Sexual Wholeness with Dr. Sibylle Georgianna Our Brain's Role in Sexual Intimacy with Angie Landry Discovering God's Design for Romance with Sharon Jaynes Sex in Marriage and Its Positive Effects with Francie Winslow, Part 1 Science and Art of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage, Part 2 Making Love in Marriage with Debra Fileta Mutually Pleasing Sex in Marriage with Gary Thomas Sex Series: God's Design and Warnings for Sex: An Interview with Mike Novotny Sex Series: Enhancing Female Pleasure and Enjoyment of Sex: An Interview with Dr. Jennifer Degler Sex Series Orgasmic Potential, Pleasure, and Friendship: An Interview with Bonny Burns Sex Series: Sex Series: Healthy Self, Healthy Sex: An Interview with Gaye Christmus Sex Series: Higher Sexual Desire Wife: An Interview with J Parker Sex Series: Six Pillars of Intimacy with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo 215 Enriching Women's Sexual Function, Part One with Dr. Kris Christiansen 216 Enriching Women's Sexual Function, Part Two with Dr. Kris Christiansen 217 Tween/Teen Females: How to Navigate Changes during Puberty with Dr. Jennifer Degler 218 Secrets of Sex and Marriage: Interview with Dr. Michael Sytsma 222 Pornography: Protecting Children and Personal Healing, Victory, and Recovery in Christ with Sam Black Special Patreon Release: Holy Sex: An Interview with Dr. Juli Slattery Special Patreon Release: His Desires and Her Desires in the Bedroom with Dr. Jennifer Konzen 224 Surprising Discoveries of Sex in Marriage: An Interview with Shaunti Feldhahn 227 Resolving Conflict in Marriage with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo Patreon 28 Re-Release: Protecting Your Marriage Against Unfaithfulness with Dave Carder Patreon 23 Her Desires and His Desires in the Bedroom with Dr. Jennifer Konzen Patreon 26 Holy Sex with Dr. Juli Slattery Patreon 28 Protecting Your Marriage Against Unfaithfulness with Dave Carder Patreon 29 Remaining Sexually Engaged Through The Years with Dr. Michael Sytsma Patreon 49: Story of Healing from Sexual Betrayal in Marriage: An Interview with Bonny Burns Patreon 52 God, Sex, and Your Marriage with Dr. Juli Slattery Connect with The Savvy Sauce Our Website, Instagram or Facebook Please help us out by sharing this episode with a friend, leaving a 5-star rating and review, and subscribing to this podcast! Gospel Scripture: (all NIV) Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,” Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.” Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.” Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.” Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.” John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.” Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.” Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“ Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“ Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”
This week, Jesus addresses the issues of lust, sex and adultery.
How can we move from sexual destruction to sexual wholeness? Today's guest Justin Smith, Founder of Beyond the Line Ministries, is walking alongside men who have been caught up in sexual addiction, which is also feeding the exploitative and massively pervasive porn industry, and incidentally generates MORE than the NFL, NBA, and MLB combined Justin, who understands the pain and challenges of this journey, explains how he goes to the heart of these addictions by focusing on three areas in a mans healing. Repentance, The Brain, and The Wounds. Beyond The Line Ministries offers intimate small group settings and 1-1 mentoring for men to cross a new line to freedom that they have so desperately wanted. If you'd like to get started towards sexual wholeness - visit https://beyondthelineministries.com/ If you'd like to check out Justin's full testimony, check that out here: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ovDili2m_d4
We are taking the month of December to highlight the top podcasts since the beginning of our podcast journey. Today our CFL team sits down with ordained minister, licensed professional counselor rectified sex therapist, professor, and national speaker Dr. Michael Sytsma. Dr. Sytsma has over 30 years of clinical experience in sex therapy and he founded Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. He is also co-founder of Sexual Wholeness, Inc. and co-author of the book we are discussing today, “Secrets of Sex & Marriage: 8 Surprises that make all the difference. Part 2
We are taking the month of December to highlight the top podcasts since the beginning of our podcast journey. Today our CFL team sits down with ordained minister, licensed professional counselor rectified sex therapist, professor, and national speaker Dr. Michael Sytsma. Dr. Sytsma has over 30 years of clinical experience in sex therapy and he founded Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. He is also co-founder of Sexual Wholeness, Inc. and co-author of the book we are discussing today, “Secrets of Sex & Marriage: 8 Surprises that make all the difference.
Share your thoughts Dr. Todd Bowman discusses his unique approach to treating sexual addiction, blending faith and science. A notable figure in the realm of Christian psychology, Dr. Bowman joins us to unpack the complex and often concealed issue of sexual addiction within faith communities. Are you aware that over 60% of Christian men and a striking number of women are affected by pornography addiction? In our conversation, Dr. Bowman, with insights drawn from his book "Reclaiming Sexual Wholeness," shares his nuanced understanding of the root causes of sexual addiction, including trauma, abuse, and unhealthy communication patterns. We dissect the distinction between addiction and occasional temptations, emphasizing the need for open dialogue both in families and faith communities. Dr. Todd Bowman's website: https://www.allelonintensives.com/Support the showThanks for listening! Visit our website rfwma.org and follow us on Facebook :https://www.facebook.com/limitlessspiritpodcast/and Instagram: @limitlessspiritpodcastHelp us make more inspiring episodes: https://rfwma.org/give-support-the-podcast/
If you grew up in the church, you may have experienced purity culture, which often misrepresented God's view of sex. In this episode, Dr. Juli Slattery, a clinical psychologist and co-founder of Authentic Intimacy, discusses sexual wholeness and the difference between sexual purity and sexual integrity. She provides practical tools for having these important conversations with your children. This insightful discussion comes from the 2024 Unapologetic Women's Conference and is too valuable not to share.Discover more and connect with Dr. Juli Slattery: https://www.authenticintimacy.com/
We continue our conversation with Dave Wiedis and explore further how to find freedom in your heart and your life through understanding the hidden motives of the heart. Dave's book available for pre-order on Amazon: The Spiritually Healthy Leader
Join us in a conversation with Dave Wiedis as we take a deeper dive into the heart of sexual wholeness. In this episode we explore how the motives and idols of the heart intersect and drive our sexual brokenness and how to begin to find freedom.Pre-Order Dave's book on Amazon here.
In this episode, Jon Sovocool and Carl Kishbaugh take on our listener questions. Resources:Harvest USA: https://harvestusa.org/The Sexual Attachment Conference: https://sexualattachment.com/The Samson Society: https://samsonsociety.com/Wired for Intimacy book: find on amazonThe ReWired Brain book: find on amazon
Christian women, young and old, often struggle with a disconnect between what their intellect may know is "right" about sexuality, God, and relationships, and what their own experience has been. Pornography or other ungodly sexual behaviors only add to their sexual shame and feeling of being stuck. On this episode Dr. Carol talks with Dr. Joy Skarka, director of discipleship for Authentic Intimacy, about the journey God invites every woman into of discovering the full love of God, how to grow into freedom from sexual shame regardless of your story, and the experience of true intimacy as God originally intended. Connect with Joy Skarka on her website, Facebook, X, or Instagram. Find Joy's book Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy Get your free download from Dr. Carol: Your Prescription for Sexual Healing – God's Way My book and related resources: Sexpectations: Reframing Your Good and Not-So-Good Stories Around God, Love, and Relationships Dr. Carol enjoys hearing from you. You can leave a confidential message here.
For the next 4 weeks we will look at the church in Corinth as a significant case study in the New Testament, revealing both the challenges and triumphs of early Christian communities. As we explore the social context and practical applications of Paul's letters to the Corinthians, we will discover timeless wisdom for navigating the complexities of our own culture. This series will explore what God was saying to them then and what He is saying to us now.
Wrapping up our conversations with Jon Sovocool and Carl Kishbaugh, we explore how to grow in maturity in relationships, leadership, and community. Gain some practical insights for you as a leader in your communities. Please share your questions with us! You can submit your questions anonymously using the link below and we will be answering them in a listener Q&A episode.Questions Here
In this episode we return with Jon Sovocool and Carl Kishbaugh to tackle what healthy sexuality in marriage and singleness looks like, what gets in the way of it, and some of the unique challenges here for those in ministry. Please share your questions with us! We'd love to hear from you and will be dedicating an episode to listener Q&A in just a few episodes. Use the form here to submit your questions. Note that all questions will be anonymous. Questions Here
New Series: Sexual Wholeness - We open our series on sexual wholeness with two guests: ServingLeaders Clinical Director Jon Sovocool and missionary and counselor Carl Kishbaugh. In this episode we begin the conversation around sexual wholeness and explore both the challenges of these issues and key aspects to consider as we are leading people toward wholeness. Please share your questions with us so we can answer them on a listener Q&A episode coming up! You can submit your questions using the link below. Note that all questions will be anonymous. Questions Here
Noah interviews Dr. Carol Tanksley on her new book Sexpectations: Reframing Your Good and Not-So-Good Stories About God, Love, and Relationships. The conversation covers a broad spectrum of topics relating to sexuality for singles and married couples and how each of us are looking for sexual wholeness. Noah and Dr. Carol talk at length about when a husband and wife have different levels of sex drive within a marriage, the problems this can cause, and what can be done about it. Carol Tanksley, M.D., D.Min., is an author, speaker, podcaster, personal coach, licensed OB-Gyn physician, and ordained Doctor of Ministry. Known to some of her friends as Doctor-Doctor, and dubbed by her seminary dean as Doctor of Souls, Dr. Carol currently spends her time leading Dr. Carol Ministries, a parachurch ministry focused on helping people here and around the world find the Fully Alive life Jesus came to bring us especially in the areas of relationships, sexuality, mental wellbeing, and relationship with God. You can also watch the podcast episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/XF1i6-FHf3g Flip Side Notes: Join an upcoming Beyond the Battle online group at www.beyondthebattle.net Support Flip Side sponsor Angry Brew by using promo code FLIP at angrybrew.com or fivelakes.com to pick up some Angry Brew or Chris' Blend coffee at 10% off. Get a free month of Covenant Eyes at www.covenanteyes.com using promo code BEYOND Get a free month of Accountable2You keyword accountability: a2u.app/beyond (do not use “www”) Support the show and get some sweet swag by becoming a patron at www.patreon.com/noahfilipiak – includes exclusive access to email the show and request topics. Purchase Beyond the Battle and Needed Navigation by Noah Filipiak.
In this episode of Becoming Whole Audio, host Josh Glaser discusses the importance of holding onto hope in the journey toward sexual integrity. He explores the questions of whether our hopes will be realized and if the journey will be worth it. By anchoring our hope in Christ and his kingdom, we can navigate the challenges with sobriety and trust in God's faithfulness. Join us in placing our hope in the secure promise of the kingdom to come, as we are cheered on by a great cloud of witnesses. Remember, it is worth it, and He is faithful. Want us to talk about a specific topic? Change up the format, or just tell us the podcast rocks! We want your feedback on Becoming Whole. You can leave your feedback hereIf you are in the Baltimore Area, Regeneration is happy to invite you to our 2024 Dessert Fundraiser, Spark: One Small Thing Leads to So Much More. This annual gathering is a highlight for so many as we gather for tasty desserts, heartfelt worship, vulnerable and powerful stories, and an opportunity to partner with what Jesus is doing through Regeneration. Click Here for more info or to register.
In this compelling continuation of Family Vision, Dr. Rob Rienow, alongside guest Dave Howe, delves deeper into the critical discussion surrounding sexual purity and the daunting struggle against pornography. This episode unravels the intricate layers of sexual addiction, emphasizing the necessity for Christian men to confront these challenges head-on with the steadfast support of God's grace, accountability partnerships, and a relentless pursuit of sexual wholeness. Rob and Dave openly share their personal battles and victories over pornography, offering insights into the transformative journey from secrecy and shame to liberation and grace. They underscore the significance of taking decisive, even if daunting, steps towards recovery, highlighting the indispensable role of community, the strategic use of tools like Covenant Eyes, and the paramount importance of honesty within marital relationships. Listeners are invited to a frank conversation that not only seeks to address the issue but also to illuminate the path to redemption and purity through Christ. With practical advice, heartfelt testimonies, and invaluable resources, this episode is a beacon of hope for those yearning to pursue their sexual integrity. Featured Resources: For more help achieving sexual purity and healing, visit www.davehowe.org Discover the book "Live Pure and Free" by Dave Howe, available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1939881161 — This 90-day devotional workbook offers a guided journey towards liberation from pornography and sexual struggles, rooted in the transformative power of the gospel. Watch or Listen & Subscribe on your favorite podcasting service: YouTube: http://youtube.visionaryfam.com Rumble: http://rumble.visionaryfam.com Apple Podcasts: http://apple.visionaryfam.com Website: http://podcast.visionaryfam.com More Resources to Help Your Family: Website: http://visionaryfam.com Parenting: http://parenting.visionaryfam.com Marriage: http://marriage.visionaryfam.com Family: http://family.visionaryfam.com Family Ministry: http://churches.visionaryfam.com Books & Resources: http://shop.visionaryfam.com
*DISCLAIMER* This episode is intended for adults 224 Surprising Discoveries of Sex in Marriage: An Interview with Shaunti Feldhahn Deuteronomy 29:29a (NKJV) "The secret things belong to the LORD our God, but those things which are revealed belong to us" Questions and Topics We Cover: Are there any specific questions you recommend we ask our spouse periodically? Will you elaborate on your finding that "men and women tend to have different insecurities that the process of sex can help heal or hurt"? You write "Having a comfortable way to signal (and receive) openness or interest will create connection and prevent much pain." So, how can couples begin to develop their own private language or signals to communicate effectively in a healthy manner? Thank you to Our Sponsor: Leman Property Management Company Shaunti Feldhahn received her graduate degree from Harvard University and was an analyst on Wall Street before unexpectedly becoming a social researcher, best-selling author, and popular speaker. Today, Shaunti applies her analytical skills to investigate eye-opening, life-changing truths about relationships, both at home and in the workplace. Her groundbreaking research-based books, such as For Women Only, The Kindness Challenge, and Thriving in Love & Money, have sold more than 3 million copies in 25 languages. Her books and studies are popular in homes, counseling centers, and corporations worldwide. Shaunti (often with her husband, Jeff) has spoken around the world, sharing her findings with audiences ranging from churches to women's and marriage conferences to arena events to youth camps and cruises (yes, those are particularly painful…). Her research and commentary are regularly featured in media as diverse as The Today Show, Focus on the Family, The New York Times and MomLife Today. Shaunti, Jeff, and their two children live in Atlanta and enjoy every minute of living life at warp speed. Secrets of Sex and Marriage Website Previous Episodes on Sexual Intimacy on The Savvy Sauce: Fostering a Fun, Healthy Sex Life with your Spouse with Dr. Jennifer Konzen Ways to Deepen Your Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Douglas Rosenau Ten Common Questions About Sex, Shared Through a Biblical Worldview with Dr. Michael Sytsma Easy Changes to Enhance Your Sexual Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner Hope For Treating Pelvic Pain with Tracey LeGrand Treatment for Sexual Issues with Certified Sex Therapist, Emma Schmidt Talking With Your Kids About Sex with Brian and Alison Sutter Natural Aphrodisiacs with Christian Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Douglas Rosenau Healthy Sexuality, Emotional Intelligence, and Parenting Children with Autism with Counselor, Lauren Dack Pain and Joy in Sexual Intimacy with Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese Identifying and Fighting Human Trafficking with Dr. Jeff Waibel Bridging the Gap Between Military and Civilian Families with Licensed Professional Counselor, Cuthor, Podcaster, and 2015 Military Spouse of the Year, Corie Weathers Enjoying a God-Honoring, Healthy Sex Life with Your Spouse with Certified Sex Therapist and Ordained Minister, Dr. Michael Sytsma Enjoying Parenting and Managing Conversations About Sex with Certified Sex Therapist and Author, Dr. Jennifer Konzen 63 Maximizing Sexual Intimacy During the Three Most Challenging Phases of Marriage with Christian Sex Therapist Pioneers, Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner Conflict Resolution, Infidelity, and Infertility with Licensed Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese Hormones and Body Image with Certified Sex Therapist, Vickie George Passion Pursuit with Dr. Juli Slattery Female Orgasm with Sue Goldstein Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation, and Treatments Available with Dr. Irwin Goldstein Turn Ons, Turn Offs, and Savoring Sex in Marriage with Dr. Jennifer Konzen Desire Discrepancy in Marriage with Dr. Michael Sytsma Answering Listener's Questions About Sex with Kelli Willard Anatomy of an Affair with Dave Carder Supernatural Restoration Story with Bob and Audrey Meisner Healthy Minds, Marriages, and Sex Lives with Drs. Scott and Melissa Symington Female Pornography Addiction and Meaningful Recovery with Crystal Renaud Day Building Lasting Relationships with Clarence and Brenda Shuler Healthy Ways for Females to Increase Sexual Enjoyment with Tracey LeGrand Pornography Healing for Spouses with Geremy Keeton Sexual Sin Recovery for You and Your Spouse (Part Two) Personal Development and Sexual Wholeness with Dr. Sibylle Georgianna Our Brain's Role in Sexual Intimacy with Angie Landry Discovering God's Design for Romance with Sharon Jaynes Sex in Marriage and Its Positive Effects with Francie Winslow, Part 1 Science and Art of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage, Part 2 Making Love in Marriage with Debra Fileta Mutually Pleasing Sex in Marriage with Gary Thomas Sex Series: God's Design and Warnings for Sex: An Interview with Mike Novotny Sex Series: Enhancing Female Pleasure and Enjoyment of Sex: An Interview with Dr. Jennifer Degler Sex Series Orgasmic Potential, Pleasure, and Friendship: An Interview with Bonny Burns Sex Series: Sex Series: Healthy Self, Healthy Sex: An Interview with Gaye Christmus Sex Series: Higher Sexual Desire Wife: An Interview with J Parker Sex Series: Six Pillars of Intimacy with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo 215 Enriching Women's Sexual Function, Part One with Dr. Kris Christiansen 216 Enriching Women's Sexual Function, Part Two with Dr. Kris Christiansen 217 Tween/Teen Females: How to Navigate Changes during Puberty with Dr. Jennifer Degler 218 Secrets of Sex and Marriage: Interview with Dr. Michael Sytsma Patreon 23 Her Desires and His Desires in the Bedroom with Dr. Jennifer Konzen Patreon 26 Holy Sex with Dr. Juli Slattery Patreon 28 Protecting Your Marriage Against Unfaithfulness with Dave Carder Patreon 29 Remaining Sexually Engaged Through The Years with Dr. Michael Sytsma Patreon 49: Story of Healing from Sexual Betrayal in Marriage: An Interview with Bonny Burns Patreon 52 God, Sex, and Your Marriage with Dr. Juli Slattery Shaunti's Previous Episode on The Savvy Sauce: Understanding Men and Women Better with Shaunti Feldhahn Shaunti's Co-Author's Most Recent Episode on The Savvy Sauce: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: Interview with Dr. Michael Sytsma Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website Also, check out our Patreon Page to find out how to gain access to additional podcasts and goodies! Please help us out by sharing this episode with a friend, leaving a 5-star rating and review, and subscribing to this podcast! Gospel Scripture: (all NIV) Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,” Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.” Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.” Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.” Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.” John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.” Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.” Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“ Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“ Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”
Dr. Michael Sytsma is a licensed professional counselor, certified sex therapist, ordained minister, professor, and national speaker. With over 30 years of clinical experience and an expert leader in sex therapy, he founded Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. and co-founded Sexual Wholeness, Inc. Learn more at: intimatemarriage.org. Dr. Mike's latest book Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference was co-written with Shaunti Feldhahn and is available on Amazon and everywhere books are sold. Find out more at: https://secretsofsexandmarriage.com/ You can follow Dr. Mike on social media: @drsytsma
Dr. Michael Sytsma is a licensed professional counselor, certified sex therapist, ordained minister, professor, and national speaker. With over 30 years of clinical experience and an expert leader in sex therapy, he founded Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. and co-founded Sexual Wholeness, Inc. Learn more at: intimatemarriage.org. Dr. Mike's latest book Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference was co-written with Shaunti Feldhahn and is available on Amazon and everywhere books are sold. Find out more at: https://secretsofsexandmarriage.com/ You can follow Dr. Mike on social media: @drsytsma
Ever had a journey of pain that led you to a journey of faith?This episode is for you. We sit down with an extraordinary guest who has been through physical and emotional pain due to numerous surgeries and chronic illness.She shares how her pain, instead of pushing her away, actually brought her closer to her faith and revealed a brand new perspective on scriptures. Feeling isolated during her recovery, she turned to journaling which became her intimate conversation with God. You'll hear a raw and unfiltered narrative of how her pain transformed into spiritual growth and deepened her connection with God.We also delve into how her journey through pain has brought the Bible to life for her, offering a unique perspective often overlooked.This episode is a testament to resilience and provides a fresh outlook on embracing pain in our healing journey, not as a roadblock, but as a path leading us to spiritual growth and deeper faith. Have you received our Free 21 day Prayer Journal ? Watch Sacred by Design on YouTube!Want Andrea to talk about a specific topic? Change up the format, or just tell us the podcast rocks! We would love your feedback on Sacred by Design.
Today we are releasing the recording of Dr. Finlayson-Fife's 2022 Restore presentation, "Developing Sexual Wholeness." In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses the integration of spirituality and sexuality from an LDS theological perspective. She also discusses the three stages of development (Egocentric, Social, and Self-Authoring) and how each stage shapes how we think about ourselves, our sexuality, and God.
Today Bob and Dannah Gresh bring you more advice from their sex therapist, Joyce Penner. You'll get practical encouragement for how to rebuild your intimacy along with a book recommendation that'll help you feel like you're not alone if you're experiencing barriers in the bedroom.Buy the Happily Even After book by Dannah GreshUse the coupon code “HEA” to get a free month of Covenant Eyes screen accountability.LISTEN:Shaunti Feldhahn talks with Erin Davis about “Why we still need sexual integrity” on Grounded Chelsea and Layton Boeve on the Liberator podcastCONTACT:Joyce Penner at Passionate Commitment for sex therapyFind a Christian sex therapist near you at Dr. Michael Sytsma's Sexual Wholeness, Inc.READ:Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises that Make All the Difference by Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr. Michael SytsmaEnjoy: The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women by Clifford and Joyce PennerThe Married Guys Guide to Great Sex by Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner
Do you find yourself fleeing or distracting yourself when faced with temptation?This approach may actually be doing more harm than good in your journey towards sexual integrity, wholeness, and maturity.In today's episode, we explore the importance of acknowledging the underlying distress that often accompanies temptation and offer three steps to navigate through it more effectively.Listen in as we discuss strategies for feeling the distress, seeking help from friends and family, and moving towards sexual wholeness.By becoming more aware of our thoughts and feelings when experiencing temptation, we can better understand our struggles and address them head-on.Don't miss this insightful and practical conversation on managing temptation and fostering sexual wholeness in our lives.Ready? Let's dive in!-- What We Discuss: 00:04 - How to deal with temptation? 02:25 - How to deal with temptation and distress. 04:09 - Learn different ways to deal with temptation. 05:54 - Flee sexual immorality and temptation. 07:48 - Where do you feel distress in your body? 09:14 - How to invite the holy spirit into your distress.Transcription: Facing Temptation: Fostering Sexual Wholeness and GrowthEpisode Resources: Regen on YouTube What We DoWant us to talk about a specific topic? Change up the format, or just tell us the podcast rocks! We want your feedback on Becoming Whole. You can leave your feedback here
My friend Dr. Chelom Leavitt (JD from BYU Law School; Masters in Marriage, Family and Human Development BYU; PhD in Human Development and Family Studies Penn State) joins us to talk about research in sexual function, sexual mindfulness and the connection between sex and relationship well-being. Dr Leavitt—who teaches on this subject in the BYU School of Family Life and is a married mother of nine—talks about the research and this subject and how to teach it to improve sexual mindfullness in marriage—resulting in stronger marriages. She also talks about how it is Satan (not our Heavenly Father) that introduces shame into this subject and how/why talking about it is important in our marriages and talking about sex with our children. I learned so much listening to Dr. Leavitt—principles and insights I wish I had heard earlier in my life which would have given me better tools as a husband, father, and in my YSA service. Dr. Leavitt is doing groundbreaking work in our community and beyond and I encourage everyone to check out her podcast and her work. Thank you, Dr. Leavitt, for being on the podcast and your needed work. Links: Bio: chelomleavitt.com/ Podcast: chelomleavitt.com/podcasts/ BYU Page: fhssfaculty.byu.edu/directory/chelom-leavitt Sexual Wholeness in Marriage: amazon.com//dp/B00IIE0UR8/ A Better Way to Teach Your Kids about Sex: amazon.com/dp/B07FT7BNRV Psychology Today Page: psychologytoday.com/us/contributors/chelom-e-leavitt-jd-phd
"He said at 74, I am having the best sex of my life. At 74, my penis only occasionally shows up for the party. But I am still having the best sex of my life. I wish I had known in my thirties how to have this kind of sex."What is sex ultimately about? How can married couples enjoy sex more? How do you deal with differences in sexual desire? In this episode, Dr. Michael Sytsma offers a robust theology of sexuality AND clinical wisdom on how to unlock arousal, increase intimacy, and have fun in the bedroom.Dr. Michael Sytsma is a licensed professional counselor, certified sex therapist, ordained minister, professor, and national speaker. He has over 30 years of clinical experience in sex therapy and is the founder of Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. and co-founder of Sexual Wholeness, Inc.Buy Mike's new book: Secrets of Sex & Marriage: 8 Surprises that Make all the Difference (this is a paid link).Learn more at secretsofsexandmarriage.com***Join HMA this week only @ joinhma.com!*** Take the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy (open this week only) Thanks for listening!
Dr. Mike is back to talk about his new book Secrets of Sex & Marriage that he co-wrote with marriage research expert Shaunti Feldhan. Dr. Michael Sytsma is a licensed professional counselor, certified sex therapist, ordained minister, professor, and national speaker. With a pastoral heart, a gift in teaching, and a passion for helping couples grow in marriage, Dr. Systma uses his skills to teach couples important truths about marriage in a fun and interesting way, helping them to grow into healthier, transformative relationships with their spouses. He has over 30 years of clinical experience in sex therapy and is the founder of Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. and co-founder of Sexual Wholeness, Inc. He is coauthor of Secrets of Sex & Marriage: 8 Surprises that Make all the Difference, with Shaunti Feldhahn and contributor to several other works. Learn more about Dr. Sytsma by visiting https://intimatemarriage.org/bim-team/mike-sytsma/ Looking for more episodes on Affair Recovery? Here are additional conversations, including more with Dr. Mike. Looking for more episodes on marriage enrichment? Check out this page for more.
At Living Wholehearted, we are passionate about helping people, particularly leaders, grow in integrity. We define integrity as bringing all of who we are before God and others - living a more integrated life, rather than a compartmentalized life. This includes our sexuality. Most of what we learn about sex is from our younger years - it's what is said - and what is left unsaid. The rest of our life is spent trying to figure it out. What if we set our kids up for health and wholeness in this area? Whether you are a parent trying to navigate the stream of confusing messages coming at your children, or a leader who is trying to heal and mend your journey, I think this conversation will be helpful for you. Kristen Miele has been educating youth on the topic of sex for the last 12 years. She's taught in hundreds of diverse settings, including 2 different countries, and she has experience teaching kids (ages 3 and older) content related to sex and sexuality. She started Sex Ed Reclaimed in 2022. Sex Ed Reclaimed is a resource for parents, whether your kids are in homeschool, private or public school, or anyone who has a passion for helping youth of today. If you are interested in learning more, go to www.sexedreclaimed.com and use the code LIVING WHOLEHEARTED to get your discount today! To connect with Kristen Miele, visit the following: WEBSITE - www.sexedreclaimed.com SOCIAL - Facebook - @SEdReclaimed Tik tok - @sexedreclaimed Instagram - @sexedreclaimed CURRICULUM - https://www.sexedreclaimed.com/curriculums ======================== We LOVE that you have decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community. Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter. And, if you are a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com. Until next time, be the leader you would follow! Grateful for you, Jeff & Terra To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to: INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com MyCourageousGirls.com RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/ https://a.co/d/dRiP4Ii Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace Dear Mattsons https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters http://cpguides.org
We are finishing up our Sexual Wholeness series and if you haven't been listening, make sure you go back and tune it to some of the fantastic interviews with Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr. Michael Sytsma. We are bringing Jay Stinger back on the podcast to help us talk about how to develop healthy sexuality in our children. We have a lot of kindred connections with Jay and we so appreciate his work. Jay Stringer is a licensed mental health counselor, ordained minister, researcher and speaker on the subject of sexual desire. Jay is the author of the award-winning book Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing. Unwanted is based on a multi-year research project with over 3,800 men and women to understand the key drivers of unwanted sexual behavior; pornography, infidelity, or buying sex. Jay is based in New York City where he lives with his wife, Heather, and their two children. Resources Jay recommends are listed on his Instagram bio. Next week we will be talking with one of the experts he mentions, Kristen Miele, who developed Sex Ed Reclaimed! Don't miss it. To connect with Jay, visit the following: WEBSITE - jay-stringer.com SOCIAL - Instagram: jay_stringer_ Facebook: @JayStringerUnwanted Twitter: @_jaystringer BOOK - Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing, by Jay Stringer ======================== We LOVE that you have decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community. Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter. And, if you are a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com. Until next time, be the leader you would follow! Grateful for you, Jeff & Terra To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to: INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com MyCourageousGirls.com RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/ https://a.co/d/dRiP4Ii Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace Dear Mattsons https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters http://cpguides.org
We are in the middle of a sexual wholeness series. Last week, I spoke with Dr. Ryan Hosley about sex addiction, what it is and how someone can find healing. Dr. Ryan spoke about the spouse in several situations and the necessity to bring them into the healing process. This is where I spent most of my role as a marriage and trauma therapist for close to twenty years, helping leaders who found themselves in a sexual betrayal marriage and wanting to find healing and restoration. I learned so much along the way, from the PTSD that spouses carry due to betrayal to the practical steps needed for all parties to heal. Whether you are in this situation, walking with someone here, or are leading those who are or may end up here, today's conversation is for you. Our guest today, Stephanie Broersma, is a living example of how God brings beauty from ashes in the lives of His children. Married since 2002, she and her husband, Tim, have walked through the valley of marital betrayal and come out the other side stronger, more in love as they continue to pursue recovery, and fully devoted to Christ. She now heads Reclaimed Ministry, an organization that seeks to help other broken brides recover from the pain and devastation of marital infidelity. Stephanie and her husband have four children, and when she finds spare time, enjoys trail running, gardening and spending time with friends and family. She lives in the Northwest pocket of Washington state. Reclaimed Small Groups are small, confidential, multi-church groups that meet to walk through the topics found in the Reclaimed: Finding Your Identity After Marital Betrayal book. These intimate groups provide close accountability with other women in similar situations. The groups offer support, understanding, and encouragement as they work through the twelve-week course. Much like Reclaimed: Finding Your Identity After Marital Betrayal, the focus is always on the vertical relationship with Jesus Christ. Visit www.reclaimedministry.com for more information and to purchase Reclaimed resources. Other resources include the Made New Conference coming September 2023. You might also want to listen to Dr. Sheri Keffer, author of Intimate Deceptions, in episode #34. Jay Stringer also speaks in episode #33, but will be with us again next week in episode #179 as he helps us raise kids with a healthy sexuality. To connect with Stephanie, visit: ONLINE - www.reclaimedministry.com SOCIAL - Follow Reclaimed on the socials: Instagram: @reclaimedministry Facebook: Reclaimed Ministry Join the Facebook private community: Reclaimed Ministry Community BOOK - Reclaimed: Finding Your Identity After Marital Betrayal, by Stephanie Broersma ======================== We LOVE that you have decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community. Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter. And, if you are a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com. Until next time, be the leader you would follow! Grateful for you, Jeff & Terra To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to: INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com MyCourageousGirls.com RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/ https://a.co/d/dRiP4Ii Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace Dear Mattsons https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters http://cpguides.org Living Wholehearted is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
We are in the middle of a Sexual Wholeness series. At Living Wholehearted we are helping leaders live and lead with integrity - from our professional counseling team (serving clients in Oregon) to our executive coaching, organizational development teams, and wholehearted leadership cohorts (serving leaders nationwide). And regardless of where we are walking with leaders - in the home, work, or community - sexuality is a part of our clients' stories. Today, we are focusing on the assessment and treatment of sex addiction, a topic that will not be for younger ears. If you have sexual trauma in your story, I also want to warn you that this episode might cause triggers, but if you can hang with us, as we talk in a manner of grace, hope, and practical steps, those triggers might be helpful cues for you in your own journey or in the journey of someone you are walking with today in your leadership. Many don't know this, but before I transitioned into the executive coaching space, I worked as a marriage and family therapist with leaders. Most of my marriage counseling consists of helping clients recover from sexual betrayal. Now, no one ever came to my office admitting there was a sex addiction. They came because they needed to work on communication. Maybe distance was growing or they wanted to work on their sex life but were unsure where to start. And then…over time, we would discover a hole in the boat—sex addiction. Today, I want to have this conversation with someone I've worked with over the years as a co-laborer in the field. Dr. Hosley and I have spent many years helping husbands and wives either heal their marriages or transition out of their marriages, depending on the level of severity of the addiction and willingness of both partners to work toward healing. Dr. Ryan Hosley, PsyD, is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, CSAT (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist), and Addiction Specialist in the Portland, Oregon area. He has been helping men and women and their families find freedom and healing from sex addiction for seventeen years. To connect with Ryan, visit: ONLINE https://www.drryanhosley.com/ https://www.overcomersway.com/ RECOMMENDED RESOURCES Help Her Heal: An Empathy Workbook for Sex Addicts to Help their Partners Heal, by Carol Juergensen Sheets, Allan J. Katz (https://a.co/d/9fKzPcT) The Overcomer's Edge: Strategies for Victorious Living in 13 Key Areas of Life, by Paul Tsika, Dr. Ryan Hosley, Kameo Hosley (https://a.co/d/enWZ1Oo) Pure Desire Ministries, https://puredesire.org/ ======================== We LOVE that you have decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community. Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter. And, if you are a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com. Until next time, be the leader you would follow! Grateful for you, Jeff & Terra To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to: INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com MyCourageousGirls.com RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/ https://a.co/d/dRiP4Ii Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace Dear Mattsons https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters http://cpguides.org Living Wholehearted Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
We've started a series on sexual wholeness and today we are going to continue our conversation about Secrets of Sex & Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All The Difference. If you missed last week, make sure you check out our initial interview with Shaunti Feldhahn. Today, in our conversation with Dr. Michael Sytsma we dive deeper into the practical reality of the data and how it can inform, and maybe transform, our thinking and our attitudes about sex and our spouses. Warning, when you talk with a sex therapist, nothing is off the table! Our guest unpacks the myths and the misunderstandings around our sex lives, even debunking one of the most widely held beliefs about sex. You'll have to tune in to hear what he says! We hope these conversations will bring some healthy doses of biblical, clinical and relational truth your way as we talk about all things sex. Dr. Michael Sytsma is an ordained minister, licensed professional counselor, certified sex therapist, professor, and national speaker. With over 30 years of clinical experience in sex therapy, he founded Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. and co-founded Sexual Wholeness, Inc. He just co-authored the book, Secrets of Sex & Marriage, with Shaunti Feldhahn (who was featured in last week's episode, #175). To connect with Dr. Sytsma, visit: Book Website - https://secretsofsexandmarriage.com/ Twitter - https://twitter.com/drsytsma Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/buildingintimatemarriages/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/intimatemarriage/ Website - https://intimatemarriage.org/ ======================== If you've got kids, join us for the Perfectly Imperfect parenting conference, Every Parent Wants to Know, hosted by Christian Parenting. We (Jeff & Terra Mattson) will be sharing biblical and clinical wisdom as we answer the question, "How do we help our children develop healthy sexuality?". This online conference launches on April 14, but you can watch and rewatch all the videos through the end of 2023. Get your tickets here: https://www.perfectlyimperfect.org/a/2147529418/DJui8Bf6 We LOVE that you have decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community. You can always subscribe to our monthly newsletters at livingwholehearted.com. And, if you are a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com. Until next time, be the leader you would follow! Grateful for you, Jeff & Terra To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to: INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com MyCourageousGirls.com RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/ https://a.co/d/dRiP4Ii Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace Dear Mattsons https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters http://cpguides.org
Sexual intimacy is more deeply connected to emotional and spiritual intimacy than most of us realize. Maybe you've wondered why you don't talk with your spouse about sexual intimacy? Maybe you feel like the years are full of too much hurt. Maybe you're a newlywed and want to build health in this area. Wherever you are today, we hope the conversation with our guest will be a catalyst to more wholeness in your sex life. Whether you're pastoring or counseling couples, engaged or newly married and ready to get your sex life off to a great start, or you've been married for decades, this episode will bring some helpful insights for you and those you lead. Over the next two episodes we are speaking with Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr. Michael Systma about their latest book, Secrets of Sex & Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All The Difference. This is the first episode in our series on sexual wholeness and we just had to bring Dr. Sytsma and Shaunti on the podcast to share the latest research. They each view this topic through a unique lens and we think you will not only be encouraged and resourced in what healthy sexuality can look like, but you might find a starting point for a journey toward health and wholeness in this area of your life. Today we have the privilege of speaking with Shaunti Feldhahn. You might know Shaunti from her research on relationships and her many many books such as; For Men Only, For Women Only, or The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. Shaunti Feldhahn is a bestselling author, social researcher, speaker, and podcaster. With a graduate degree from Harvard, Shaunti uses her analytical background to help relationships thrive. She and her husband, Jeff, have co-authored groundbreaking relationship books with nearly 3 million copies sold. As a popular media commentator, Shaunti's findings are regularly featured in both secular and faith-based media, including The TODAY Show, FamilyLife Radio, Focus on the Family, The New York Times and Cosmopolitan. To connect with Shaunti Feldhahn, visit: Book website - https://secretsofsexandmarriage.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/shauntifeldhahn/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ShauntiFeldhahnOfficial Website - https://shaunti.com/about-shaunti/ ======================== If you've got kids, join us for the Perfectly Imperfect parenting conference, Every Parent Wants to Know, hosted by Christian Parenting. We (Jeff & Terra Mattson) will be sharing biblical and clinical wisdom as we answer the question, "How do we help our children develop healthy sexuality?". This online conference launches on April 14, but you can watch and rewatch all the videos through the end of 2023. Get your tickets here: https://www.perfectlyimperfect.org/a/2147529418/DJui8Bf6 We LOVE that you have decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community. You can always subscribe to our monthly newsletters at livingwholehearted.com. And, if you are a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com. Until next time, be the leader you would follow! Grateful for you, Jeff & Terra To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to: INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com MyCourageousGirls.com RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/ https://a.co/d/dRiP4Ii Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course https://www.livingwholeheartedstore.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace https://mycourageousgirls.com/shop/p/book-courageous-being-daughters-rooted-in-grace Dear Mattsons https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdPzQ_cUwCbRc-MQ40KL3a6ze06CiY38l Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters http://cpguides.org
Last week we discovered the overall heart-cry of many couples today. We've learned that we are not alone in our struggle, and that there is more opportunity to engage in intimacy than we give credit to! This week, we have the co-author of "Secrets of Sex and Marriage" Dr. Michael Sytsma detailing the many ways we can engage with our spouse that produces a deeper knowing of each other's soul - which results in a better sex life! Take the next 30 minutes and invest in your relationship and marriage! Book - https://secretsofsexandmarriage.com/ ABOUT DR. MICHAEL SYTSMA: Dr. Michael Sytsma has been working with couples in a variety of capacities since 1987. He is a licensed professional counselor in the state of Georgia, a Certified Sex Therapist and a Certified Professional Counseling Supervisor. He is also an ordained minister with The Wesleyan Church and has served as a staff pastor for churches with attendance from 30 to over 1000. He is currently appointed to Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. by The Wesleyan Church where he provides marriage and sex therapy and training to other professionals. Michael also cofounded Sexual Wholeness, Inc., a Christian non-profit dedicated to training, equipping, and certifying professionals in human sexuality. Michael has been married to his wife Karen since 1985. They have two sons and a daughter- in-law, Josiah, Caleb and Dinah. To learn more about Dr. Michael Sytsma, visit his website: https://intimatemarriage.org/bim-team/mike-sytsma/. Follow Dr. Shannan Crawford: https://drshannancrawford.com/ https://crawfordclinics.com/
Power of Purity | Helping Men to Honor God with their Sexual Gift
Dr. Michael Sytsma is a licensed professional counselor and certified sex therapist. He earned a Ph.D. from the University of Georgia in Marriage and Family Therapy, and his dissertation topic was "Sexual Desire Discrepancy in Married Couples". Dr. Sytsma has over 30 years of clinical experience in sex therapy and founded Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. and co-founded Sexual Wholeness, Inc. Dr. Sytsma is the co-author of a new book, along with Shaunti Feldhahn, entitled "Secrets of Sex & Marriage - 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference". In the research for this book Dr. Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn did the largest nationally representative survey ever conducted with married couples about sex. This research, entitled "The Marriage Intimacy Project" (MIP) was conducted over the span of three years, involving a large research team, professional survery companies and several partner organiazatons to gather, analyze and organize input from more than 5,300 individuals using anonymous surveys and interviews. Through this research the authors identified eight simple, transformational factors to help move couples from disconnection to delight. This book reveals the most importat sex-related issues for the average couple - offering workable solutions and lasting hope. The book is not a "sex manual:, but it is a fascinating and practical field guide that will help couples more intimately understand one anohter and create the marriage they've always wanted. Please note - Tony interviewd Shaunt Feldhahm in episodes 108 & 109 of The Power of Purity Podcast is you'd like to check it out! Visit intimatemarriage.org
Today, the DTC staff recap the recently concluded "Sexual Wholeness" series, and discuss how Christians can engage with the world regarding sex and sexuality.
Power of Purity | Helping Men to Honor God with their Sexual Gift
Dr. Michael Sytsma is a licensed professional counselor and certified sex therapist. He earned a Ph.D. from the University of Georgia in Marriage and Family Therapy, and his dissertation topic was "Sexual Desire Discrepancy in Married Couples". Dr. Sytsma has over 30 years of clinical experience in sex therapy and founded Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. and co-founded Sexual Wholeness, Inc. Dr. Sytsma is the co-author of a new book, along with Shaunti Feldhahn, entitled "Secrets of Sex & Marriage - 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference". In the research for this book Dr. Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn did the largest nationally representative survey ever conducted with married couples about sex. This research, entitled "The Marriage Intimacy Project" (MIP) was conducted over the span of three years, involving a large research team, professional survery companies and several partner organiazatons to gather, analyze and organize input from more than 5,300 individuals using anonymous surveys and interviews. Through this research the authors identified eight simple, transformational factors to help move couples from disconnection to delight. This book reveals the most importat sex-related issues for the average couple - offering workable solutions and lasting hope. The book is not a "sex manual:, but it is a fascinating and practical field guide that will help couples more intimately understand one anohter and create the marriage they've always wanted. Please note - Tony interviewd Shaunt Feldhahm in episodes 108 & 109 of The Power of Purity Podcast is you'd like to check it out! Visit intimatemarriage.org
This week, we're sharing another one of our favorite presentations from our Restore conference, given by Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and called Developing Sexual Wholeness.In her talk, Jennifer brilliantly laid out human sexuality in terms of development, in the same way we might talk about adult development or spiritual development. Jennifer teaches that in its earliest stages, our sexuality is egocentric and focused on ourselves; eventually, moves into a social stage with deeper awareness of others and concerned with belonging, and finally, into a self-authoring stage, where we both know our own mind and move beyond self-preoccupation and into expansive love.Jennifer is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor with a Ph.D in Counseling Psychology from Boston College, where she wrote her dissertation on LDS women and sexuality. She teaches online courses and live workshops to individuals and couples seeking to develop their capacity for deeper emotional and sexual intimacy. Additionally, she offers limited private and group coaching services to individuals and couples who have benefitted from her podcasts and courses and are looking for more direct input on improving their lives and relationships. She is frequent contributor on the subjects of sexuality, relationships, and spirituality to many Latter-day Saint themed blogs, magazines, and podcasts. You can find her podcast “Conversations with Dr. Jennifer,” on major podcast platforms, and find out more about her work at finlayson-fife.com.
A Much-Needed Sexual Revolution Today's Scripture: 1 Corinthians 6:12 - 7:5 “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” (Jeremiah 17:9) “ 'All things are lawful for me,” and “Food is meant for the stomach and the stomach for food' .” (1 Corinthians 6:12,13) “But not all things are helpful/profitable.” (1 Corinthians 6:12b) “What then, are we to sin because we are not under law but under grace? By no means.” (Romans 6:15) Main idea: Sex, though a source of great blessing, can also be a source of real harm, and only God can be trusted to define the path to flourishing. I. Sexual wholeness and flourishing are rooted in believing God's commands are meant for our good: He is for our bodies! “The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord and the Lord for the body. And God raised the Lord and will also raise us up by his power.” (1 Corinthians 6:13-14) (John 14:15-17a) “The body is not meant for sexual immorality." (1 Corinthians 6:13) “With each viewing of pornography, a person's brain releases a burst of dopamine that strengthens the connection between cells. The more reward released from viewing porn, the stronger the path of communication to repeat that behavior in search of more reward (National Center on Sexual Exploitation, Miller, Ben. 1/7/19).” II. Sexual wholeness and flourishing are rooted in believing we are united, even married to Christ Jesus. (1 Corinthians 6:15-20) “You shall walk after the LORD your God and fear him and keep his commandments and obey his voice, and you shall serve him and hold fast (cleave) to him.” (Deuteronomy 13:4) “The man shall leave his father and mother and be united/cleave to his wife and they shall become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24) “For if we have been united with him in a death like his, we shall certainly be united with him in a resurrection like his.” (Romans 6:5) “Do not present your members to sin as instruments for unrighteousness, but present yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life, and your members to God as instruments for righteousness.” (Romans 6:13) “In a 2011 study, Fisher and her colleagues looked at brain scans of couples who had been married for an average of 21 years and found similar activation in dopamine-rich brain regions associated with intense romantic love.” (How Love Rewires the Brain, Howard, David) III. Sexual wholeness and flourishing are rooted in believing that married sex is more about what you give, not what you get. “It is actually reported that there is sexual immorality among you, and of a kind that is not tolerated even among pagans, for a man has his father's wife.” (1 Corinthians 5:1) “…submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.” (Ephesians 5:21)
Today's Scripture: Psalm 119:97-104 I. There is a Good God, who made me Good and has Good for me. II. Scripture calls us to sexual obedience through Chastity in Community
Hear from the Director of Community Care for Revoice, Art Pereira, who will share his own story, as well as provide the biblical/theological view of sexuality as it pertains to people who are LGBTQ.
Today's Scripture: Genesis 2:19-25 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast (cleave) to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.” (Genesis 2:24-25) I. Achieving Sexual Wholeness demands we restore sex, and sexuality to its rightful place. “Ask a man how he defines success in life, and chances are his answer will include variations on three themes: money, sex, and power. If a man has a job, a woman, and a skill that makes him stand out from the crowd, people consider him successful…But here Christian men face a conundrum: Jesus was poor (Matthew 8:20), unmarried (Matthew 19:12), and a servant (Matthew 20:28). If money, sex, and power are markers of manhood, even in a secondary sense, we must conclude that Jesus failed to be masculine in important ways. Such a conclusion is untenable, obviously. Jesus Christ is the Word made flesh, the Son of God, the Second Adam, the Lord of heaven and earth. If our markers of manhood find Jesus to be less than masculine, then our standard of measurement is wrong, not His.” (George Wood - Journeyonline.org) "Sexual wholeness is the ability to be naked and unashamed before God and others. It is finding deep satisfaction and identity in and with God that empowers us to give ourselves to Him and others so as to experience healthy relational bonding. In the context of marriage, it is the ability to be naked and unashamed before your spouse utilizing the amazing gift of sex to enhance intimacy and love.” “Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, ‘The two will become one flesh.” (I Corinthians 6:16) II. Achieving Sexual wholeness demands relational and emotional maturity building. “Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen.” (Romans 1:24-25) III. Sexual wholeness is achieved when we understand we can live without sex. “…the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.” (I Samuel 18:1) “Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, ‘The two will become one flesh.' But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him. Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.” (I Corinthians 6:16-18) Repent of making life and others about your needs. Repent of replacing intimacy with sex or sexual content, fantasy, etc. Repent of using others to meet your needs. Receive the forgiveness that only Christ Jesus can provide. Fill up on His love that you might give yourself in a healthy way to others. Become the friend you want. Through vulnerability and humility trust God to build deeper relationships with friends and spouse. Refuse to be isolated with your brokenness, instead talk to someone about your brokenness.
Whether your questions are intensely practical or deeply philosophical and theological, this Opening the Mailbox episode has answers for you. On the practical side, be sure to catch our best low-cost tips and tricks for getting your Zoom lighting just right. On the philosophical and theological side, you don't want to miss this helpful explanation of the different roles that coaching, counseling, and therapy play around issues of sexual health, sexual addiction recovery, and more. Interested in digging deeper? Here are some recommended books on Sexual Health for Christians: When Two Become One: Enhancing Sexual Intimacy in Marriage by Christopher & Rachel McCluskey https://www.amazon.com/When-Two-Become-One-Enhancing/dp/0800731158/ A Celebration of Sex: A Guide to Enjoying God's Gift of Sexuality by Douglas Rosenau (includes a chapter by Christopher & Rachel McCluskey on Sex During the Child-Rearing Years) (Doug Rosenau was a co-founder with Chris McCluskey of the Institute for Sexual Wholeness) https://www.amazon.com/Celebration-Sex-Enjoying-Sexual-Intimacy/dp/0785264671/ Secrets of Sex & Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference by Shaunti Feldhahn & Michael Sytsma (Mike Sytsma was a co-founder with Chris McCluskey of the Institute for Sexual Wholeness) https://www.amazon.com/Secrets-Sex-Marriage-Surprises-Difference/dp/0764239554/ Secrets of Eve: Understanding the Mystery of Female Sexuality by Archibald Hart, Catherine Hart Weber & Debra Taylor (Debra Taylor was a co-founder with Chris McCluskey of the Institute for Sexual Wholeness) https://www.amazon.com/Secrets-Eve-Archibald-D-Hart/dp/0849990629/ The Married Guy's Guide to Great Sex by Clifford & Joyce Penner (Cliff & Joyce Penner serve on the teaching faculty at the Institute for Sexual Wholeness) https://www.amazon.com/Married-Guys-Guide-Great-Sex/dp/1589979389/ Enjoy! The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women by Clifford & Joyce Penner (Cliff & Joyce Penner serve on the teaching faculty at the Institute for Sexual Wholeness) https://www.amazon.com/Enjoy-Gift-Sexual-Pleasure-Women/dp/1589978021/ A Celebration of Sex After 50 by Douglas Rosenau and Jim & Carolyn Childerston (Jim Childerston serves on teaching faculty at the Institute for Sexual Wholeness and Doug Rosenau was a co-founder) https://www.amazon.com/Celebration-Sex-After-50/dp/0785260811/ Recommended books on Healing for Sexual Brokenness for Christians (not generally the work of coaches): The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse by Dan Allender https://www.amazon.com/Wounded-Heart-Victims-Childhood-Sexual/dp/1600063071/ Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction by Mark Laaser (Mark served on the teaching faculty at the Institute for Sexual Wholeness until his death 3 years ago) https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Wounds-Sexual-Addiction-Laaser/dp/0310256577/ When Children Come Out: A Guide for Christian Parents by Mark Yarhouse & Olya Zaporoshets (Mark Yarhouse serves on teaching faculty at the Institute for Sexual Wholeness) https://www.amazon.com/When-Children-Come-Out-Christian/dp/1514000083/
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