Hide and Seek

Sneaker fetish is back on Hide and Seek. A few years after first joining us, Wayne from SNKRBAR returns to talk about how Melbourne's sneaker fetish scene has grown (including moving couches), what has changed since the early days of SNKRBAR, and why sneakers can carry so much erotic, social and cultural meaning. We unpack sneaker worship, scent, sportswear, lad culture, queer coding, public play, online visibility, consent, hygiene, sneakerhead status, and the difference between loving the shoe, the person wearing it, or the whole scene around it. From TNs and high tops to footy boots, gym shoes and rare collectors' pairs, this episode explores how sneakers can become symbols of desire, masculinity, submission, confidence, nostalgia and community. Whether you're a dedicated sneaker fetishist, sneaker-curious, or just wondering what your shoes might be saying about you, Wayne helps us lace up and step back into the world of SNKRBAR. SNKR Bar on Facebook /snkrbarau SNKR Bar on Instagram @snkrbarau Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ Follow Joenas instagram.com/thisisjoenas/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

What makes a queer male pin-up more than just a sexy photograph? In this episode, Jon and Joenas are joined by photographer and Boots and Suits creator Evan, along with Hide and Seek alum, Tim Little, who recently stepped in front of Evan's camera for a featured spread. Together, they explore the visual language of queer male desire: boots, suits, harnesses, posture, gaze, body language and the coded imagery queer communities have used for generations. The conversation looks at how pin-up photography can communicate fantasy, masculinity, confidence, humour and belonging in ways that a standard fashion shoot or thirst trap may not. Evan shares the origins of Boots and Suits, the influences behind its distinctive Melbourne-made style, and why he chose to create a physical magazine in an increasingly digital world. He reflects on the lasting erotic power of boots, uniforms, tailoring and workwear, and on the importance of queer communities producing and preserving their own images. Tim takes listeners deep into his shoot, from his initial reaction and pre-shoot prep to the moment he began to relax into the experience. He discusses the vulnerability of being photographed, the emotional impact of seeing the finished images, and what it felt like to recognise himself as sexy, powerful and worthy of being looked at. The conversation ultimately asks what it means to be seen rather than merely ogled, how erotic photography can celebrate a person without reducing them, and why it can be so powerful to see ordinary, local queer people presented as desirable. It is a conversation about pin-ups, print, coded desire, body confidence and the queer power of stepping into the frame. Evan was last on Hide and Seek in Episode 207A – I’m Ready for My Close-Up Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ Follow Joenas instagram.com/thisisjoenas/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Leather and rubber might dominate the conversation around fetish clothing, but for some people, nothing compares to the smooth, tight and unmistakable appeal of lycra. In this episode, Craig speaks with Matt and Ross about lycra fetish, what first drew them to the fabric, and when an interest in sportswear became something more personal and erotic. They explore the appeal of lycra's look, feel, fit and symbolism, and unpack why clothing fetishes are often misunderstood or dismissed. The conversation moves into lycra play, collecting, wearing other people's gear, and the overlap between fetish and sports such as cycling and rowing. Matt and Ross discuss whether lycra is primarily a solo experience or something shared with others, and what a typical play session can involve. They also consider lycra's place within broader queer fetish culture. Why is it sometimes treated as less serious than leather or rubber? Where can lycra lovers find community? And how do people navigate consent, visibility and arousal when wearing such form-fitting clothing in public or kink spaces? Finally, Matt and Ross share some of their favourite experiences, how their fetishes have evolved, and what remains on their lycra “fuck it” lists. It's a celebration of stretch, shine, shape and a fabric fetish that deserves far more time in the spotlight. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Leather and kink have always been part of queer culture, but they are often pushed to the edges of mainstream Pride narratives or treated as something queer communities should hide. For this Radiothon episode, Jon, Joenas and Craig are joined by Johnny from Melbourne Leather and Liam Clark, Mr Australian Leather 2025 and the first Melbourne Rubberman, to explore why leather communities need queer media platforms—and why independent queer media needs community support. Johnny takes us inside the work of building leather community locally, from welcoming newcomers and creating events to education, mentoring, fundraising and maintaining safer community norms. The conversation looks beyond the jackets, harnesses and boots to the values of service, respect, care, tradition and chosen family that hold leather communities together. Liam reflects on representing Australia at International Mr Leather, returning to titleholding after his time as Melbourne Rubberman, and what it means to carry a community title as a form of service, visibility and advocacy. He also discusses the personal impact of representing his identities and community on an international stage. Together, the guests challenge “No Kink at Pride” arguments, unpack the difference between thoughtful conversations about public context and attempts to sanitise queer life, and consider what is lost when leather, kink and sexual liberation are edited out of queer history. This episode is also a celebration of what JOY makes possible: nuanced, funny and community-led conversations in which queer people can speak for themselves. This Radiothon, support independent queer media and help keep the full breadth of queer life on air—including the proud, complicated, adult and unapologetically kinky parts. However you get your rocks off—get off with JOY. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

What can rope, leather and consensual kink teach us about trust, vulnerability and connection? In this episode, Craig speaks with Brendan Josey, Mr Queensland Leather 2023 and an experienced practitioner, performer and educator within Australia's leather, BDSM and shibari communities. Brendan reflects on his journey into kink, the roles he occupies within a scene, and how his understanding of BDSM has evolved through years of practice and community involvement. The conversation explores shibari as a form of intimacy, artistic expression, performance and embodied communication. Brendan discusses how rope skills are learned, what makes a successful scene, and how riggers and rope partners balance aesthetics, connection and physical safety. Craig and Brendan also unpack the values that underpin ethical BDSM, including negotiation, informed consent, risk awareness, changing boundaries, safewords and aftercare. They consider the responsibilities experienced practitioners have toward newcomers and why emotional safety is just as important as technical skill. Drawing on Brendan's involvement with The Boot Co. Brisbane, Brisbane Leather Week and his representation of Australia at International Mr Leather, the episode also looks at the importance of welcoming communities, ongoing education and creating spaces where people can explore kink without shame. It's an open conversation about rope, leather, personal growth and what consensual kink can reveal about communication, care and the courage to be vulnerable with another person. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Sex work is often reduced to a single stereotype, but the reality is far broader. It can include full-service work, escorting, erotic massage, stripping, professional domination, camming, phone sex, pornography, online content creation and many other forms of sexual or erotic labour. In this episode, Jon speaks with Odus Moore to challenge some of the most persistent myths about sex work and explore what the job actually involves. They discuss the communication, screening, negotiation, marketing, administration, emotional labour, safety planning and business management that often happen before and after any paid booking, performance or session. Odus also reflects on how stigma affects sex workers far beyond personal judgement, shaping experiences of healthcare, housing, banking, policing, relationships, online platforms and community spaces. The conversation examines why sex workers are so often portrayed as either helpless victims or endlessly empowered, why neither stereotype reflects the diversity of workers' lives, and why consent and boundaries remain just as important in sex work as anywhere else. Finally, Jon and Odus consider what genuine support looks like: respecting privacy, rates, time, consent and confidentiality; avoiding invasive questions and assumptions; not outing workers or sharing paid content; and ensuring that healthcare, counselling and community services respond without judgement. For support, advocacy and further information, listeners can connect with SWOP NSW, RhED in Victoria and Scarlet Alliance. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Group masturbation parties have long occupied a discreet but distinctive place in queer sexual culture — from informal jerk-off circles and beats to organised bate clubs, private gatherings and events like Melbourne's Stroke and Sydney's JackALL. Jon and Craig are joined by Marc from Melbourne Wankers and Ben, founder of JackALL, to explore the history, culture and appeal of communal masturbation spaces. They discuss what makes a bate party different from a conventional sex party, the influence of saunas, porn cinemas and earlier queer gathering places, and how HIV, hookup apps and changing community expectations have shaped these events. The conversation also gets practical, looking at consent, etiquette, safety, intoxication, dress, pornography and the clear boundaries that allow attendees to relax. Marc and Ben reflect on why people attend, from erotic curiosity and voyeurism to friendship, intimacy, body confidence and the freedom of a sexual environment without expectations around penetration or performance. Finally, they consider whether events like Stroke could return, how community-led gatherings are evolving, and what someone curious about these spaces should know before attending for the first time. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

The Hide and Seek family is back together for a very busy catch-up. Joenas returns from Thailand with stories from judging Mr Bear International, including national costumes, bear pool parties, bouncing castles and the challenges faced by queer titleholders in countries where LGBTQIA+ people have limited legal protection. Craig takes us behind the scenes of the Australian Leather Competition, reflecting on the contestants, judging process, standout moments and Australian Leather's plans to provide stronger mentoring for non-cis-male competitors. Then the team looks ahead to a packed calendar of bear, leather, pup and fetish events across Australia, including International Mr Leather, Southern Hibernation, Mr Australasia Bear, Sydney's leather titles, Brisbane Leather Week and the Australian Pup and Handler Competition. It's competitions, community, travel, titles and just enough inappropriate commentary to make it a proper Hide and Seek reunion. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

AI porn is no longer a fringe curiosity — it's rapidly becoming one of the most disruptive shifts in how we think about sex, media, and consent. In this episode of Hide and Seek, Jon is joined by queer artist and technologist Leo Herrera to unpack what's really going on beneath the headlines. We start by breaking down what “AI porn” actually means — from fully synthetic erotic content to deepfakes and “nudification” tools — and how these technologies have evolved from earlier forms of porn and online intimacy. As Herrera explains, this isn't just a new format; it's a fundamental shift toward hyper-personalised, frictionless sexual experiences that blur the line between fantasy and reality. From there, we dive into the ethical fault lines. Who owns the data these systems are trained on? Can consent exist in a world where images are scraped, remixed, and regenerated at scale? And what happens when anyone can generate explicit content of anyone else — with or without their knowledge? We also explore the real-world impacts: the rise of non-consensual deepfakes, the disproportionate harm faced by women, queer people and sex workers, and the ways this technology is already reshaping sexual development, relationships, and expectations. But it's not all dystopian. We look at the potential for AI to enable new forms of expression, representation, and even harm reduction — while asking what an “ethical” AI porn ecosystem might realistically look like. This is a conversation about more than porn. It's about power, technology, and the future of human intimacy — and whether we can build the language, norms, and safeguards fast enough to keep up. Listen now and decide for yourself: evolution, or something far more?   Find Leo on substack at https://leoherrera.substack.com/ Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

What happens when porn stops being something you scroll… and becomes something you experience? This week on Hide and Seek, we're joined by CakeMix  https://linkin.bio/cakemix/ — a creator remixing porn into something entirely different: beat-matched, instruction-driven, and designed to guide your arousal in real time. Think less “watching” and more… participating. We unpack what porn remixing actually is, how music, timing and editing can shape desire, and why some people are swapping passive viewing for something closer to a shared ritual. From solo sessions to online jerk-off parties, this is porn as choreography, community, and culture. We also dive into the hard questions: is this art, curation, or something new entirely? What happens when audiences become participants? And where does this all go next — VR, AI, or something even more unexpected? Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Fear isn't something we usually associate with pleasure… so why does it turn some people on? Kitty Katastrophy returns to Hide and Seek to explore one of kink's most misunderstood dynamics: fear play. From knife play to interrogation scenes, we unpack what this kink actually looks like in practice — and why it's far more about trust, imagination, and control than real danger. We explore how fear can heighten sensation, the role of adrenaline and anticipation, and why psychological play can be just as intense as physical kink. Then we get into the fundamentals: negotiation, consent, safewords, and the kind of communication that makes these scenes possible. Plus — we tackle myths, media misconceptions, and what fear play reveals about vulnerability, trust, and human connection, and Craig and Joenas are totally shocked! Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

From porn sets to DJ decks to live stage shows — PJ Knox does it all. This week, PJ joins Hide and Seek to talk about his journey through the adult industry, what's changed in the age of OnlyFans and JustForFans, and how performers are navigating a world where content creation is more personal — and more constant — than ever. We dive into the realities behind the scenes: what makes a great performer, what audiences don't see, and how porn today compares to the industry of even a few years ago. Then we shift gears into live performance — what it's like bringing sexuality onto the stage, and how that experience differs from working on camera. It's a conversation about creativity, career evolution, and finding your lane in an industry that never stops changing. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Impact play might look simple from the outside — but there's a lot more going on beneath the surface. Kitty Katastrophy joins us to break down one of the most common (and misunderstood) forms of kink. From hands to implements, thuddy to stingy, we explore the wide spectrum of sensations that fall under the impact play umbrella. We get into technique, rhythm, and why good impact play is as much about flow and connection as it is about force. Plus: subspace, aftercare, and how people build scenes that are not just physically safe, but emotionally grounded. Whether you're curious, cautious, or already playing — this is a deep dive into the skills, communication, and trust that make impact play work. Kitty was last on Hide and Seek when she won the Australian Handler title in last year’s Breast In Show Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

What does porn look like from behind the camera? This week on Hide and Seek, we're joined by Third Officer, a camera operator working in queer adult content. We step off the screen and onto the set to explore what it really takes to film intimacy — technically, emotionally, and ethically. From building trust with performers to navigating boundaries, power dynamics, and consent, Third Officer shares what audiences rarely see. We also explore the surprising emotional side of the work: how filming sex can shape your understanding of intimacy, connection, and presence. Plus — we unpack myths about porn production, what makes a great scene beyond what's visible, and where queer adult content might be heading next. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

What actually makes erotic fiction work? Is it the heat, the heart, or the way a story makes you feel seen? This week on Hide and Seek, Jon and Joenas are joined by Melbourne-based queer author Dion Marc for a wide-ranging, funny, and surprisingly thoughtful conversation about writing desire, storytelling, and what happens once your work leaves the page and meets its readers. We talk about how Dion found his way into queer erotica, why he writes unapologetically gay stories, and how personal experience, fantasy, kink, and imagination collide when crafting intimate scenes. From avoiding formulaic sex writing to embracing fantasy elements (yes, including vampires), Dion shares what keeps his work feeling genuine rather than repetitive. The conversation also digs into the afterlife of books — reader reactions, unexpected interpretations, and the emotional impact of feedback, both good and bad. We explore representation in queer fiction, why it matters, and how stories can shape the way readers see themselves, their bodies, and their desires. In the final part of the episode, Dion reflects on growth, staying grounded as an audience grows, and offers advice for queer writers — especially those curious about erotic fiction but unsure where to start. Expect laughs, nerdy tangents, spicy metaphors, and a reminder that sometimes the most powerful stories are the ones written honestly, even when they're horny. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Performance and image enhancing drugs (PIEDs) are everywhere in queer spaces — from gyms and dance floors to dating apps and dressing rooms — but honest, non-judgemental conversations about them? Not so much. In this episode of Hide and Seek, the Sexperts change that. Jon, Craig and Joenas are joined by Henri from @sesh.ed to unpack what PIEDs actually are (and aren't), why they're disproportionately used in rainbow communities, and how harm reduction — not shame — needs to be at the centre of the conversation. From anabolic steroids and testosterone, to GLP-1s like Ozempic, peptides, fat burners and stimulants, this episode widens the lens on what counts as a “performance drug” and why all of them deserve the same safety thinking. Together, the panel explores the pressures driving use: body image, desirability, masculinity, safety, confidence, belonging, gender affirmation, and the relentless visual economy of apps, porn and event marketing. We talk bigorexia, fat-shaming, trans and gender-diverse experiences, and why “just don't do it” has never worked — for anyone. The second half of the episode goes deep on harm reduction. Henri breaks down safer sourcing, blood tests, injecting practices, cycle planning, post-cycle considerations, fertility, mental health impacts, sexual health interactions (including PrEP and HIV meds), and why electrolyte drinks are not optional. There's also practical advice on supporting friends who use PIEDs — without interrogating them, judging them, or turning them into your personal Google. This is a grounded, compassionate, occasionally filthy but always informative episode that treats people like adults making complex choices about their bodies. If PIEDs have ever crossed your radar — or someone you care about is using them — this one's essential listening. If you've been affected by the issues discussed, support is available at joy.org.au/support. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Side B is where the spotlight turns to the Mr VicBears 2026 competition — and the humans brave enough to step into it. In this half of Episode 222, Hide and Seek meets the Class of '26: Teddy, Justin, Ray, Jake and Craig. It's a line-up full of history, heart, camp, nerves, confidence, and wildly different journeys into the bear community. Each competitor shares how they found the bears, what keeps them coming back, and why they've decided to run for the sash. We talk community advocacy, representation, confidence-building, favourite '90s films (yes, Clueless and Serial Mom both feature), and the very real mix of excitement and terror that comes with putting yourself out there. This isn't just about abs, beards, or who owns the most outfits with paw prints. It's about visibility, approachability, and what it means to represent a community built on belonging rather than perfection. From long-time committee members to returning competitors and first-time entrants, the Class of '26 reflects the diversity and generosity of the bear scene itself. Side B is funny, warm, occasionally awkward, and deeply sincere — a reminder that while only one person gets the sash, the real win is showing up, being seen, and strengthening the community along the way. The competitors each highlighted a charity for their runs: Teddy spoke about Switchboard Justin threw behind the Australian Queer Archives Ray highlighted Transgender Victoria Jake talked up QLife and Craig covered Out of the Closet, Out of Options Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

During Midsumma each year, Victoria doesn't just come out — it comes out hairy. In Side A of Episode 222, we grin and bear it as Hide and Seek dives into BearFest 2026, the week-long celebration of bears, admirers, community, and controlled chaos that takes over Melbourne every summer. Jon, Craig and Joenas are joined by Neil of the VicBears committee to unpack what the bear scene actually is (and isn't), how it grew in Australia, and why it continues to matter far beyond the dance floor. We talk chosen family, intergenerational connection, accessibility, body diversity, and why bear spaces often feel like home for people who never quite fit elsewhere. Then we take a deep, slightly breathless tour through the week itself: BearWatch Beach Day at Williamstown, Midsumma Carnival, the Teddy Bear Banquet, Bearaoke (where dignity goes to die), Underbear nights, pool parties, dance floors, Pride March prep, and everything in between. Sunscreen, hydration, and sensible footwear are strongly encouraged. Along the way, we share stories, laughs, and a few “how did we survive that?” moments — because BearFest isn't just a series of events, it's a social ecosystem powered by volunteers, community care, and an impressive tolerance for late nights. Whether you're a seasoned bear, bear-adjacent, or just wondering why your friends suddenly own harnesses and towels, Side A is your affectionate guide to BearFest — and the people who make it roar. Love a bear comp? Listen to Who Bears Wins and hear Joenas when he first won his title! Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

New year, new holes in your walls — consensually, of course. So let’s get to the hardware store and get some big tools! In this practical, cheeky episode, Hide and Seek, explores DIY sex and kink projects, from plumbed shower douches to slings, A-frames, and at-home gloryholes. Jon and Craig walk through what's genuinely DIY-friendly versus when it's smarter (and safer) to call a tradie. Installing a douche? Probably doable if you can manage a shower head and thread tape. Ceiling eye-bolts? Get professional help. We talk tools, materials, weight ratings, ergonomics, and the very real importance of testing setups before you put a person in them. The episode also digs into safety beyond construction: splinters, chafing, privacy, theft risk, and why comfort matters just as much as creativity. Not every fantasy needs to be built — but if you are building it, do it well. This is a fun, grounded reminder that kink at home can be inventive, accessible, and deeply satisfying — as long as safety, durability, and consent come first. Don’t remember How to Build a Sex Room? Listen to our episode, Dungeons and Daddies! Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Call the handyman! Fisting is one of those practices that carries a lot of myth, bravado, and whispered horror stories — and not nearly enough calm, practical conversation. In this episode of  Hide and Seek, Jon, Craig and Joenas are joined by Nik to demystify fisting, ground it in lived experience, and focus squarely on harm reduction, communication, and care. We start where it matters most: real stories. First fists, first surprises, what people wish they'd known earlier, and the myths that fall apart the moment you talk to people who actually do it well. From there, the conversation turns to training — not as a race or a performance, but as a slow, respectful process that prioritises relaxation, trust, and listening to your body. The episode breaks down positions, lube choices, gloves, nail care, and practical supports without going explicit, while still being genuinely useful. We talk about why “too much lube” is rarely the problem, how different positions affect comfort and control, and when it's time to pause, stop, or seek medical care — no drama, no shame. Finally, we look at fisting in public or party settings, sexual-health considerations (including injury, gloves, and infections), and why aftercare and negotiation matter even more outside the home. The takeaway is simple but important: fisting done well isn't extreme or reckless — it's careful, communicative, deeply intimate, and never rushed. Also? Puppy pads. Explore some of our past episodes on fisting: Episode 6 – A Kiss With A Fist Episode 83 – Fist and Shout Episode 123 – My Left Hand Episode 150 – Fistory Repeating Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

I saw Daddy kissing Santa! Wait — Santa? Yes, Santa. In this festive and surprisingly thoughtful episode, Hide and Seek  unwraps the idea of “Santa fetish” and uses it as a gateway into understanding how kinks form, why some trigger moral panic, and why curiosity beats judgement every time. Jon, Craig and Joenas break down the difference between kink and fetish, explaining why Santa roleplay is usually seasonal, playful, and layered onto existing interests like daddy dynamics, uniforms, ritual, and power — not an exclusive or year-round fixation. We tackle the discomfort head-on: why some cultural symbols feel “off-limits,” and why adult consensual roleplay gets misinterpreted so quickly. From there, the episode dives into the psychology: authority, generosity, surveillance, warmth, transgression, and humour. Santa emerges not as a shock value joke, but as a symbolic container — a way people eroticise comfort, dominance, or reclaim holidays that may carry trauma. The closing message lands gently but firmly: you don't need a label to enjoy playful roleplay, and no one owes an explanation for consensual adult desire. Sometimes kink is serious. Sometimes it's silly. Both can be valid — and fun. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Can we just beat it, but without a problematic popstar? Beats have long been part of queer sexual culture — often misunderstood, rarely discussed openly, and still deeply relevant. In this episode, Hide and Seek takes a practical, non-judgemental look at beat sex: what defines a beat, why people go, and how to navigate them safely. With lived experience front and centre, Melbourne bear personality Rob joins the panel and explores the appeal of beats — anonymity, spontaneity, connection — alongside the real risks, including legal issues, safety concerns, and recent violence linked to app-based targeting. We talk about how beats function socially, how people learn their rhythms, and how to read the difference between a quiet space and one that's “on.” The episode offers grounded advice on cruising etiquette, consent signals, what to avoid, and when to leave. It also covers harm-reduction strategies, reporting options for homophobic behaviour, and how online spaces intersect with physical ones. Rather than romanticising or condemning, this episode treats beats as they are: part of queer history and present-day reality, shaped by law, culture, and community norms. The message is clear — pleasure and safety aren't opposites, and knowledge is a form of protection. Find out more about beats here, with our friends at downandirty Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

What happens when you move from a sexually conservative culture into one of the world's most visible kink scenes — and realise you're suddenly “allowed” to explore? In this deeply thoughtful episode, Hide and Seek welcomes Joenas to talk about kink discovery after migration, with a particular focus on CALD experiences. What is it like to explore, in colour? The conversation traces how shame-based sex education, silence, and religious taboo shape early understanding of sex — and how overwhelming it can feel to arrive in a place where kink is visible, named, and socially organised. We talk about the “kink big bang”: the flood of gear, language, expectations, and assumptions that can make newcomers feel behind, exposed, or pressured to perform. Importantly, the episode challenges stereotypes — from assumptions about submissiveness to fetishisation of cultural background — and offers clear guidance for non-CALD kinksters on how to be respectful allies. Slowing down, asking instead of assuming, and separating curiosity from entitlement are recurring themes. This is also a story of growth: finding safety in gear, learning through observation, revisiting consent, and discovering that uncertainty is allowed. The takeaway is powerful and generous — kink exploration is richer when we make space for cultural difference, patience, and trust. It's not just about what you do with your body, but what you're finally free to feel. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

With modern treatment, PrEP, and U=U, it's easy to assume HIV is “sorted.” This episode of Hide and Seek explains why that story is incomplete — and why World AIDS Day still matters in 2025. Jon and Craig step through the history of World AIDS Day, from the height of the epidemic through to today's elimination targets, honouring the activists, clinicians, and communities who transformed HIV from a death sentence into a manageable condition, and the impact of access schemes for U=U and PrEP. Along the way, we unpack why remembrance isn't just symbolic — it actively shapes policy, funding, and care. The discussion tackles ongoing stigma head-on: on dating apps, in clinics, in shared spaces, and in the language people still use (“clean,” “biohazard,” and worse). We explore why stigma remains one of the biggest barriers to testing, disclosure, and wellbeing — even when the science is crystal clear. From there, the episode looks forward: injectable PrEP, long-acting ART, broadly neutralising antibodies, mRNA research, and what a future cure might realistically look like. Crucially, we centre the role of people living with HIV — whose participation and advocacy underpin every prevention breakthrough we now benefit from. This is a grounded, respectful, forward-looking episode that connects HIV to broader questions of justice, equity, and community care — and reminds us that ending HIV isn't just biomedical. It's social. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Bisexual, pansexual, fluid, questioning — or just tired of being told you're “actually gay” or “basically straight”? In this week's Hide and Seek, Jon and Craig are joined by CJ and Little Jase for a big, honest, frequently hilarious conversation about what it really means to live Bi+ in queer, kink, health, and dating spaces. Picking up from Big Bi+ Questions deep dive into Bi+ sexual health, the episode starts with a reality check: Bi+ people consistently have some of the worst sexual-health outcomes, not because of behaviour, but because we're routinely erased from messaging. From “MSM” labels that don't fit, to GPs who don't know what to ask, the panel unpacks how stigma, data gaps, and awkward assumptions shape care — and why regular testing and shame-free conversations still matter. From there, things get messier (in a good way). We talk kink and pansexual spaces as unexpected sites of belonging, where gender matters less than consent, communication, and what you're actually there to do. There are stories of inclusive dance floors, not-quite-inclusive venues, and why “gender-inclusive” doesn't always mean welcoming — especially for women, trans people, and disabled Bi+ folks. The episode also tackles dating apps and the “double life” problem: blank profiles, safety risks, Bi+-phobia from all directions, and the emotional labour of being someone's first safe conversation. Add in Pride, parties, tokenism, chosen family, and the ongoing question of “where do we fit?”, and you've got a full-spectrum look at Bi+ life beyond the stereotypes. Funny, sharp, and deeply human, A Bi and Beyond is a reminder that Bi+ people don't sit in the middle — we exist everywhere. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Play parties can be exhilarating, intimidating, sexy, awkward, joyful — and sometimes all of those at once. In this episode of Hide and Seek, the team break down what play parties rules actually are, why they exist, and how to show up in ways that keep everyone safer, respected, and having a good time. We start with the bigger picture: play parties as cultural spaces — not just places to hook up, but environments built around consent, chosen family, learning, ritual, and queer and kink community. From lounge-room rope nights to commercial dungeons, pup mosh pits to quiet, atmospheric events, we explore the different types of play parties and how expectations shift depending on the space you're in. Then we get into the practical stuff — the universal do's and don'ts. How to ask before touching anything (including gear). How to express interest without being creepy. When watching is okay, when it's not, and why interrupting a scene is a fast track to getting escorted out. There are stories, cautionary tales, and reminders that “no” and “not right now” are complete sentences. The second half of the episode focuses on safety and aftercare — not just physical care, but emotional reality. We talk about drop, nerves, first-time jitters, mess, tears, and why kindness and discretion matter just as much as floggers and tarps. Whether you're new, curious, or a seasoned attendee, this episode is about navigating play spaces with confidence, care, and consent. Because great etiquette isn't complicated — it's asking, listening, and remembering that play parties are about trust, not entitlement. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Sex doesn't end when the harness comes off or the toys go back in the drawer — and in Part B of Before and After, Tim and Jon make the case that aftercare is just as important as prep, whether you're into kink, heavy play, or just enthusiastic fucking. We kick off with the physical stuff: checking your body, knowing what soreness is normal, when bleeding or pain isn't, and why hydration and electrolytes matter (especially if enemas or long sessions were involved). There's practical advice on gentle cleaning, toy and gear hygiene, soothing irritated skin, and recognising when it's time to rest — or see a clinician. From there, we move into the emotional terrain. Endorphin drop, sub/drop, post-sex vulnerability, and that weird flat feeling that can hit hours or days later all get airtime. We talk reassurance, cuddles, grounding, affirmations, and why a simple “you were great” can be powerful medicine. There's also space for debriefing — what worked, what didn't, and how aftercare feeds into better consent next time. The episode explores aftercare across different contexts: kink scenes, casual hookups, long-term partners, solo play, and public or group settings. We touch on trauma-aware and neurodiverse needs, digital aftercare (yes, that follow-up text matters), and how different subcultures frame care and responsibility. The closing message is simple but radical: aftercare isn't optional fluff. It's harm reduction, it's communication, and it's love in action. The sex isn't over until everyone feels okay. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Let's talk about prep — specifically, the kind that's surrounded by whispers, myths, porn pressure, and more than a little anxiety. In Part A of Before and After, Tim and Jon get right up in it (figuratively… mostly) to unpack what douching actually is, when it's useful, and when it's really not. We start by clearing up one of the biggest points of confusion: anal rinsing versus vaginal douching, and why lumping them together causes more harm than good. From there, we dig into the why — comfort, confidence, partner expectations — and gently but firmly dismantle the idea that “everyone does it every time.” Spoiler: bodies aren't porn sets, and they don't need to be. This episode takes a practical, shame-free look at how the body works, how far is far enough (hint: you're not meant to reach the colon), and why over-douching can actually make sex riskier through irritation, micro-tears, and microbiome disruption. We talk timing, frequency, water temperature, equipment choices, and why soap should never be invited to this party. Just as importantly, we look at the psychological side — cleanliness anxiety, internalised shame, and how cultural ideas of “clean sex” got so deeply embedded in queer spaces. Along the way, we cover accessibility, disability considerations, trans and gender-diverse experiences, and how to talk about prep with partners without turning it into pressure. The takeaway? You don't owe anyone “porn-clean.” Comfort, consent, and knowing your own body will always beat unrealistic expectations. Want to see more? Watch Michael and Mr Australasia Bear 2010 talk douching in this video from downandirty! Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

The Hide & Seek crew head down to Melbourne's fetish community event The Northside Bizarre at The Laird Hotel, capturing all the fun and frivolity with community interviews from groups and punters alike. Tim and Craig talk about the history and importance of Northside Bizarre, before they're joined by Jon to talk about the joy of master baking. Who has the best crumb shot? How did community groups get involved? And who was lucky to get a hidden treasure from the secondhand or the auction? Find out in this podcast! Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Jon and Tim speak with Graham Clark, the author of Coming Out as a Gay Man, Finding Your Tribe as a Leatherman, about his project documenting the coming out stories of leathermen across the globe. In this sextras episode Graham shares his story about his experiences coming out as HIV positive during the AIDS crisis, his first kink experiences and some of the interesting stories leathermen across the globe have shared with him. Graham's project can be found on Kickstarter here   Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

The Australian Pups and Handlers Competition returned to Melbourne last weekend, and two new title holders were crowned! Pup Lycan was chuffed to win the Puppy title, and Kitty Katastrophy became the first cis-femme winner in the contest's history! We hear their speeches, the win, and then Jon caught them the day after to hear what's coming next! Australian Handler 2025 Kitty Katastrophy from VicPAH Australian Puppy 2025  Lycan from Victoria   For more on Pup Play, visit PupPlay.info Follow your PAHs! Australian Pup and Handler Competition is @auspahc and on the web at aphc.net.au QPAH WA-PAH  SA-PAH  Syd-PAH  Vic-PAH  We previously covered APHC in 2022 when it was held in Meanjin/Brisbane, in episodes 105 - Power of Dog and 109 - Shaggy Dog Stories. We also covered the comp in 2023 in Boorloo/Perth, in episode 145 - Up to Scratch and its Sextra Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

The Australian Pups and Handlers Competition returned to Melbourne last weekend, and Jon got along to see the dogs raise the ruff. We heard from the founder, Pup Tycho, and Handler James about how APHC has changed over the years, and the visitors told us what they thought of the different events. We got to know all of the competitors on the night! Stick around to the end to hear the winners being crowned! Handler Competitors Handler Huw from SA-PAH Kitty Katastrophy from VicPAH Pup Competitors Cobalt from VicPAH Lycan from Victoria Blitzie from VicPAH Axel from VicPAH Leo from SydPAH and Q-PAH Chase from SA-PAH For more on Pup Play, visit PupPlay.info Follow your PAHs! Australian Pup and Handler Competition is @auspahc and on the web at aphc.net.au QPAH WA-PAH  SA-PAH  Syd-PAH  Vic-PAH  We previously covered APHC in 2022 when it was held in Meanjin/Brisbane, in episodes 105 - Power of Dog and 109 - Shaggy Dog Stories. We also covered the comp in 2023 in Boorloo/Perth, in episode 145 - Up to Scratch and its Sextra Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Following on from the main episode, Tim and Jon go into planning seductions, and going to sex parties as a couple. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Tim and Jon talk the ins and outs of the dating game, and what to look for in a prospective paramour. Should we be facebook official? How serious or funny should we be on apps? Do we f*ck before we date? Find out here!   Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Jon got deep into the country to take a load... off... at a Tradie themes sex camp. Find out about tradie and hi vis fetish, what it's like at a themed sex camp, and learn a surprising amount about making your own lube! Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Jon and Tim speak with Graham Clark, the author of Coming Out as a Gay Man, Finding Your Tribe as a Leatherman, about his project documenting the coming out stories of leathermen across the globe. Graham's project can be found on Kickstarter here   Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Jon and Tim get to know newly sashed Melbourne Rubber 2025, Kitty Obsidian, and Melbourne Rubber's Michael gives us the lowdown on all things Slick 2025.     Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

During Side B Tim Little chats to Aussie content creator KELLER WOLFE about making porn, the right angles and the importance of good lighting. Follow Keller http://linktr.ee/kellerwolfe Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Tim, Jon and Craig chat with Melbourne queer photographer EVAN FOWLER who gives Hide & Seek listeners some tips on taking the best sexy photos. Follow Evan http://linktr.ee/efpphoto Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Tim Little chats to multiple international leather title holder JACK DUKE about his experience attending Folsom Europe, the sex and the parties. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jack instagram.com/jackduke76/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Tim Little gets up close and personal with multiple international leather title holder JACK DUKE about his leather journey, sex and coming out. Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jack instagram.com/jackduke76/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

This week's two-part episode is on fire....literally! Tim & Craig turn the tables on Jon and interview him about his favourite kink Fire Play! Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/ Follow Jon instagram.com/barbarylion/ Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/ This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded. Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au