In Your Right Mind with Monique Rhodes

I have been teaching happiness at over seventy universities for fifteen years. And I have watched the wellness industry get almost everything wrong. Not a little wrong. Wrong at the level of the question. In this episode, I'm telling you three things the happiness industry is selling you that are actually making you worse. Not because the people selling them are bad — most mean well. But because the entire premise is built on a misunderstanding about how humans actually work. Happiness isn't a feeling — it's a baseline. Forced positivity isn't wellness — it's shame with a ribbon on it. And the thing being sold as self-care is usually comfort, which is a different thing entirely. If you've been doing all the things and still feel flat and behind — this one's for you. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next…  Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

Most perfectionists have been praised their whole lives for being perfectionists. That's the thing that makes it so hard to see. In this episode, Monique unpacks what perfectionism actually is, underneath the praise: a survival contract your younger self made with the world that said, if I get this right, I will be safe. She tells the story of a woman called Nina — a successful lawyer whose family and team had stopped bringing her their rough drafts because they'd learned she had a very accurate ruler. And the story of a brilliant writer friend with a folder of forty-three finished, unsent pieces on her laptop. This is an episode for the high achievers who have quietly been paying the price of their own perfection for years. Who can't tell the difference between high standards and fear anymore. Who finish things and feel relieved instead of proud. You will leave this episode with one small, specific experiment to try this week. Not a breakthrough. Not a life overhaul. Just eighty per cent, one thing at a time. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next…  Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

If you say sorry when someone bumps into you — this episode is for you.   In this conversation, Monique talks about the slow, quiet erasure of yourself that happens when you've spent years apologising for existing. The waiter, the wrong order, the friend who talks over you, the text that begins "so sorry to bother you." All those tiny moments where you choose someone else's comfort over your own legitimate need. Again. And again. And again.   She names where this comes from — the fawn response, the way some of us learned, very young, that small was safer than seen. And she shares a moment with a friend who apologised for crying at her own father's funeral, an apology so deep it had become a reflex, ready before the grief had even fully landed.   This is not about becoming inconsiderate. It's about the difference between real warmth and compulsive self-erasure. One is a choice. The other is a held breath.   If you've been doing this for so long that you can't tell the two apart anymore — please listen.   Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next…  Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

You are caring for your kids, your parents, your work, and your own grief — and somewhere in that pile, you forgot you were a person too.   This episode is for the women in their forties, fifties, and sixties who are holding more than anyone is acknowledging. The ones who know their mother's medication schedule the way they know their own phone number. The ones who track who needs which form, which appointment, which gentle phone call. The ones who park outside the supermarket for five quiet minutes because they cannot face one more aisle yet.   Monique tells the story of her friend Maeve — fifty-two, two teenagers, a mother with dementia — who phoned her from a carpark after a specialist appointment and realised she couldn't remember the last time anyone had asked her how she was doing. She tells the story of a woman at a workshop who hadn't seen her own GP in three years because it had started to feel selfish.   This is the long, quiet grief of caring for someone you love while they slowly become less of who they were. Of doing something extraordinary in almost complete silence. Of being asked to be infrastructure when you are, in fact, a person.   If you've been holding everything together — please listen. You are not failing. You are doing something almost no one acknowledges. And this episode is one quiet acknowledgment.   Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next…  Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

If Mother's Day was harder than you expected, and now it's Monday and you're not okay — this episode is for you. Not the catastrophic kind of hard. The quieter kind. The kind that happens when your mother is still here, you maybe even saw her or rang her yesterday, and yet you spent the whole day performing a version of your relationship that felt three inches away from the truth. The kind of hard that doesn't fit on a sympathy card. In this episode, Monique talks about what she calls the Mother's Day hangover — the flat, hollow Monday that lands after a day of holding it all together. She shares a story about her friend Tess phoning her in tears the morning after, and a quiet moment in the supermarket card aisle looking for a card that didn't exist. This episode names something most people are carrying alone: that you can grieve a relationship that still exists. You can grieve the mother you needed even while the one you have is still on the end of the phone. And you don't have to have any of it sorted by today. If yesterday was hard, please listen to this. You're not the only one. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next…  Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

If you are the person everyone calls when they're falling apart — who do you call?   This episode is for the strong ones.   You know who you are. You're the eldest daughter, the friend everyone leans on, the person who keeps the family together, the one who organised the funeral. And you've been wearing that role so long you might not even realise it's a costume.   In this conversation, I want to talk about the hidden cost of being the strong one. The way it gets handed to you so early you don't remember putting it on. The slow, quiet loneliness of always being the giver and never quite knowing how to receive. And the strange panic that can rise up when someone genuinely asks how you are — because you've been so fluent in everyone else's pain you've lost the language for your own.   I share a story about my friend who organised her father's funeral and then spent months crying in supermarket car parks. I share my own honest experience of trying to put the costume down. And I offer one small, slightly terrifying invitation: tell one safe person you're not okay. Just one. One crack in the door is enough.   You are allowed to fall apart. You are allowed to need things. You are allowed to be held.   Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next…  Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

If you've been calling yourself lazy lately, this episode is going to gently change something for you. We've been taught to read exhaustion as a character flaw. Can't get off the couch? Lazy. Can't reply to the message? Lazy. Skipping the workout? Lazy. But what most of us call laziness is actually emotional depletion. They are not the same thing, and treating one like the other is making people sicker. In this episode, Monique walks through the difference between lazy ("I don't want to") and depleted ("I literally cannot"), the way emotional debt accumulates without us noticing, and what to do when your body is sending you a signal that your mind keeps trying to override. If you've been waking up tired, snapping at people you love, or staring at a task you "should" be doing and feeling absolutely nothing — this conversation is for you. You're not broken. You're depleted. And those are two very different roads. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next…  Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

If you wake up and immediately start running through a 12-step morning routine — cold plunge, journal, gratitude list, supplements, workout — and somehow still feel anxious before you've even made coffee, this episode is for you. I'm a meditation teacher and I'll tell you something honestly: there are still mornings I wake up anxious before my feet hit the floor. After decades of practice. So if that's you too — if you've worked at a morning routine and you're still waking up tense — please hear that you're not failing. Something else is going on. In this episode, I unpack why so many of us are quietly performing wellness instead of actually feeling well. The 5 AM club. The perfect morning routine. The optimisation stack. None of it is making us calmer. In a lot of cases it's making us more anxious, more self-critical, and more disconnected from what our bodies actually need. I'll share my own honest morning — the dog, the kettle, the small thing I've settled into after years of trying everything. The one question I ask myself before the day starts running me. And what a real, embodied morning practice can look like (it's much smaller than you've been told). If you've been feeling exhausted by your own self-improvement, take this as your permission to do less. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next…  Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

MIT researcher Sherry Turkle found that just placing a silenced phone face down on a table between two people reduces the depth of their conversation and their empathy for each other. In this episode, Monique explores what our phones are actually doing to our happiness baseline, why we reach for them so compulsively, and shares real stories of people who made small changes to their phone habits and saw their relationships and their wellbeing transform. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

"Think positive" is the most common advice in self-help. It's also one of the most damaging. In this episode, Monique breaks down the science of why forcing positivity actually makes things worse, what toxic positivity really does to us, and what to do instead. Drawing on her own journey and decades of happiness research, this is the conversation you wish someone had had with you years ago. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

The Surgeon General declared loneliness a public health epidemic. But the advice we keep hearing — "get out more, join a club, be more social" — isn't working. In this episode, Monique explores the crucial difference between isolation and solitude, why introverts experience loneliness differently, and why you don't need more friends. You need deeper ones. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

I was mid-song, spotlight on me, when Chuck Berry waved me off the stage — and in two seconds flat, my brain went straight to: it's me, I'm not good enough. In this episode, I share what that moment taught me about why we take things personally and why it has absolutely nothing to do with weakness. I walk you through three practical tools to help you stop letting other people's storms become your story. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

I spent years trying to override my emotions — pushing past the anxiety, dismissing the anger, powering through the sadness — until I finally stopped and listened to what they were actually trying to tell me. In this episode, I share that turning point and what I discovered about the real purpose of our emotions. Your anxiety isn't a malfunction, your anger isn't a problem, and your sadness isn't weakness — they're all messengers. And when you learn to listen to them instead of fight them, everything changes. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

I spent years looking completely fine on the outside while my nervous system was quietly running on overdrive. No panic attacks, no avoidance — just an endless to-do list, guilt every time I tried to rest, and a body that had been screaming at me for years. In this episode, I walk you through six specific signs of high-functioning anxiety — including the quiet, invisible ones that are so easy to mistake for ambition, responsibility, or just being a hard worker. If you've ever felt exhausted behind a perfectly composed exterior, this one is for you. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

  If you've ever tried to be present and found your mind halfway across the week fifteen seconds later, this episode is for you. Monique explores the real reason presence is so hard — from the brain's default mode network to the way trauma creates hyper-vigilance that looks like awareness but isn't — and shares three gentle doorways back to the here and now. No forcing, no performing. Just coming home. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

This week on In Your Right Mind, Monique digs into one of the most common sources of unnecessary suffering: worrying about things outside our control. Drawing on her time riding a motorcycle through India, a teaching from the Dalai Lama, and years of working with people on happiness and mental wellbeing, she walks through a practical two-list framework and a three-step process to interrupt the worry cycle — for real. If your mind won't stop running worst-case scenarios, this one's for you.   Libsyn Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

  This week we're talking about something a lot of people feel but very few say out loud — that hollow, empty feeling that shows up even when your life looks completely fine from the outside. Monique walks through the three real reasons inner emptiness appears, including values misalignment and emotional disconnection, and offers three practical ways to start shifting it. If you've ever felt like you're going through the motions without knowing why, this one is for you.     Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

Does your brain constantly play worst-case movies about things that haven't happened? In this week's teaching video, I break down why your mind does this — it's actually a survival mechanism that's badly misfiring — and share the one technique that helps me stop the spiral. If your brain won't quit playing "what if," this one's for you.  Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

Why do we keep comparing ourselves to other people — even when we know it makes us feel terrible? In this episode, I'm getting into the real reason comparison hurts, and it has nothing to do with what the other person has. We talk about the neuroscience of social comparison, what's actually happening when you scroll through someone's Instagram and feel suddenly hollow, and a simple tool called the values audit that can stop comparison in its tracks. If you want to understand what's driving your comparison anxiety and finally get some relief from it, take my free Happiness Quiz at www.iintendtobehappy.com — you might be surprised by what you find. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.  

If you're always tired — even after a full night's sleep — this episode is for you. We're getting into the real reason so many people experience that bone-deep exhaustion that rest just doesn't fix: a nervous system that never got the signal it was safe to stop. I'll also walk you through a simple energy audit you can do today, and tell you about the free Happiness Quiz that can show you exactly where your energy is leaking. This one might change how you see your whole relationship with rest. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

If you've ever snapped at someone over something tiny and then stood there thinking "why did I just do that?" — this episode is for you.   I walk through five signs your nervous system is stuck in overdrive: overreacting to small things, the "wired but tired" paradox, brain fog, unconscious body tension, and the one almost nobody talks about — losing the ability to feel genuinely good.   I share my own experience — how childhood trauma kept my body stuck in survival mode for years, even while I was living in the Himalayas doing daily meditation. My mind had healed, but my body hadn't gotten the memo.   Then I give you three tools: the physiological sigh (the fastest science-backed way to calm your nervous system — 30 seconds, free), a daily practice that physically rewires your brain over time, and a perspective shift that changes everything: you don't need more discipline. You need more safety.   Your nervous system isn't broken. It adapts to protect you. Now it's time to teach it that you're safe. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

There's a number inside you that determines how happy you are — and most people go their entire lives without knowing it exists.   In today's episode, I explain what your happiness baseline is, why it keeps pulling you back to the same level no matter what happens in your life, and why that's actually the best news you've heard in a while.   I walk through the famous 1978 study on lottery winners and accident survivors, the 50/40/10 happiness model, and the four daily practices that research shows genuinely raise your set point over time.   I also share my own story — how I went from a suicide attempt at 19 to spending 13 years traveling the world studying happiness, and what I found that changed everything. Today, my 8-week course The Happiness Baseline has a 100% success rate in raising students' happiness scores. That statistic still moves me every time I say it.   If you've been wondering "why am I not happy?" even though your life looks fine on paper — this episode answers that question. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.  

"I tried to meditate, but I can't do it — my mind won't shut up."   It's the number one thing people say to me. And after twenty years of teaching meditation at more than seventy universities around the world, I can tell you: it's based on a complete misunderstanding of what meditation actually is.   In today's episode, I break down why your busy mind is not a sign of failure — it's the raw material. I share the Harvard research on why our minds wander nearly half the time, what meditation really is (not the Instagram version), and four practical techniques you can start using today: The Puppy Method, Name It to Tame It, The Anchor Shift, and The 10-Minute Agreement.   I also tell the story of how a group of women in India who wouldn't take no for an answer accidentally inspired what became The 10 Minute Mind — my meditation program now used at 70+ universities worldwide.   If you've ever believed you're bad at meditation, this one's for you. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

Perfectionism is the most socially acceptable form of anxiety — and most of us have been wearing it like a badge of honour without realising the cost. In today's episode, I'm breaking down the psychology behind perfectionism, the direct link to anxiety and procrastination that most people miss, and the shift from perfectionism to excellence that actually makes you feel better. If you've ever felt like nothing you do is quite good enough — this one is for you. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.  

It's 11pm, you're exhausted, and your brain is wide awake running through everything. Sound familiar? In today's episode we're diving into brand new science that explains exactly why some brains can't switch off at night — and it's not a willpower problem. I'm sharing what's actually happening neurologically, and three things that are genuinely backed by research to help you finally rest. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.  

If you've ever said yes when you meant no, apologised for things that weren't your fault, or shaped yourself around other people's moods without even realising it — this episode is for you. Today we're talking about people pleasing: what it actually is, where it comes from, and what it's quietly costing you every single day. This one might change the way you see yourself. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.  

Something is missing. You can feel it. You just can't name it. It's not burnout. It's not ingratitude. It's not a productivity problem. It's a meaning problem. And it's affecting more people right now than at any other point in modern history — including the ones who look like they have it all figured out. In this episode, we get into what meaning actually is, why the way most of us are living is quietly blocking us from it, and what to do about it starting today. This one is going to stay with you. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

There is a conversation happening inside your head right now. You didn't start it. You don't control it. And it is making every major decision in your life. Most people spend years chasing better circumstances — better jobs, better relationships, better results — without ever looking at the one thing underneath all of it. The story. The loop that's been running since childhood, quietly telling you who you are, what you deserve, and how much good you're allowed to let in.   In this episode, we pull that story apart. Where it came from, how it gets wired, why your brain fights to keep it even when it's hurting you — and exactly what it takes to replace it with something that actually serves the life you're trying to build. This one will hit differently. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

At 19 years old, I didn't want to be alive anymore. Not because life was impossible — but because I had built an identity out of being broken. And nobody talks about this. We talk about depression. We talk about anxiety. We talk about the circumstances that bring us to our knees. But nobody talks about what happens when your suffering becomes your personality — and how that single thing can silently destroy your shot at genuine happiness. In this episode, I'm sharing the question that cracked everything open for me, the science behind why your brain is keeping you stuck, and the exact shift that took me from rock bottom to building a life rooted in real, unconditional happiness. This one is personal. This one is raw. And I think it might be exactly what you needed to hear today. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://quiz.iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://quiz.iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.  

Most people think their emotions are the problem.   They try to control them, suppress them, or push them away… and wonder why nothing changes.   But what if the real issue isn't your emotions at all — it's the way you've been taught to deal with them?   In this episode, I unpack the emotional education almost nobody received growing up — and the simple framework that completely changes how you understand anger, anxiety, jealousy, and every other feeling you've been trying to fight. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://quiz.iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://quiz.iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

Most people think they need more love in their lives.   But what if the real problem is that you've been abandoning yourself?   In this episode, I unpack the quiet habits that slowly destroy your self-worth — and the simple shifts that help you build a relationship with yourself that no external validation can replace.   If you've ever felt like nothing is quite enough, this conversation might explain why. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://quiz.iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://quiz.iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

You might think your clutter problem is about discipline.   It's not.   In this episode, I explain the surprising neuroscience behind why clutter builds up — and why your nervous system may be the real reason you can't seem to get organized, no matter how hard you try.   Once you understand what's actually happening in your brain, everything about decluttering starts to make sense — and suddenly it becomes possible. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at moniquerhodes.com — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → moniquerhodes.com Let's take this work deeper, together.

Most people won't recognise themselves in 2026.   Not because they changed too much — but because they didn't change at all.   In this episode, I share five tiny self-care micro-habits that quietly rewire your brain, regulate your nervous system, and shift your identity — without overhauling your life.   If you want next year's version of you to feel calmer, clearer, and stronger… this is where it starts. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at moniquerhodes.com — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → moniquerhodes.com Let's take this work deeper, together.

Some years ago, my brain stopped working.   I couldn't focus. I couldn't remember things. I couldn't finish simple tasks. And I thought something was seriously wrong with me.   What I discovered shocked me: chronic stress was physically changing my brain.   In this episode, I break down what stress is actually doing inside your head — and the four science-backed ways you can protect (and rebuild) your brain starting today.   If you've felt foggy, emotional, or not as sharp as you used to be… this is for you.   Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at moniquerhodes.com — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → moniquerhodes.com Let's take this work deeper, together.

I used to think I was healing… but I was actually hiding.   In this episode, I share the moment that changed everything — and the one simple shift that took me from depression and feeling completely stuck to building the life I live today.   If you've been overwhelmed by the size of the mountain in front of you, this conversation will show you why real change never starts with a big leap.   It starts with one step. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at moniquerhodes.com — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → moniquerhodes.com Let's take this work deeper, together.

I rode a motorcycle through the Himalayas — altitude sick, terrified, completely unsure I could do it. And what I learned there changed everything I thought I knew about confidence.   In this episode, I share the truth nobody tells you: confidence doesn't come after success. It comes before it — and most people spend their lives waiting for permission that never arrives.   If you've been waiting to feel "ready"… you need to hear this.   Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at moniquerhodes.com — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → moniquerhodes.com Let's take this work deeper, together.

Most people think they're exhausted because life is hard. I don't believe that's true.   In this episode, I'm sharing the hidden pattern that keeps so many of us trapped in overthinking, emotional fatigue, and a mind that never switches off — even when nothing is actually wrong.   This isn't about fixing yourself. It's about seeing what your mind has been doing all along… and learning a completely different way to relate to it.   If you've been feeling stuck in your head lately, listen to this. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at moniquerhodes.com — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → moniquerhodes.com Let's take this work deeper, together.

What if one of the most powerful tools for brain health, emotional clarity, and long-term longevity has been sitting quietly in your drawer this whole time?   In this episode, I'm sharing something that sounds almost too simple — yet neuroscience is now showing it can literally reshape how your brain processes stress, builds resilience, and protects your future cognitive health.   This isn't about productivity hacks or forcing positivity. It's about understanding how your brain actually works… and using a practice that takes just minutes a day to create real change from the inside out.   If your mind feels crowded, your focus feels scattered, or you've been wondering how to stay mentally sharp as you age — you'll want to listen to this one.   Because the habit most people overlook might be the very thing your future brain is begging you to start today. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at moniquerhodes.com — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → moniquerhodes.com Let's take this work deeper, together.

You don't need more bubble baths. You need emotional mastery, deep peace, and a nervous system that doesn't flinch at chaos.   In Part 3 of this series, I reveal the 3 habits that separate reactive, exhausted lives from calm, grounded ones—especially the one habit that will instantly reduce 90% of your anxiety (and no, it's not what you think). This isn't self-care fluff. This is the foundation of a life you're proud of. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at moniquerhodes.com — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → moniquerhodes.com Let's take this work deeper, together.

Most self-care advice keeps you soft. This habit? It makes you invincible.   In Part Two, I reveal the habit that forces you to stop lying to yourself—and gives you the clarity to become who you're meant to be. Plus: the mindset shift that ends anxiety and perfectionism—for good. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at moniquerhodes.com — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → moniquerhodes.com Let's take this work deeper, together.

Everyone talks about self-care—but almost no one tells you the truth about what actually works.   In this episode, I reveal the first 3 habits that mentally strong, deeply peaceful people practice every day. You've never heard self-care described like this—and once you do, you'll understand why the usual advice keeps failing you. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at moniquerhodes.com — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → moniquerhodes.com Let's take this work deeper, together.

You've been taught to fear stress. That belief might be the very thing keeping you exhausted, anxious, and stuck.   In this episode, I break down what stress actually is, why fighting it makes everything worse, and the simple physiological shift that can calm your body in under a minute. Once you understand this, you'll never think about stress—or your anxiety—the same way again. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next…

You've been managing anxiety all wrong—and it's quietly draining you every day. In this episode, I reveal the simple habit that rewires your nervous system, stops chronic stress in its tracks, and completely changes how you feel by the end of your day. It's not meditation. It's not journaling. It's something far easier—and almost no one is talking about it. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next…

Most people are chasing happiness the wrong way—and it's quietly ruining their peace. In this episode, I reveal the surprising truth about what actually creates lasting happiness (it's not what you think), why "feeling good" isn't the goal, and the one shift that will change how you experience your life forever. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next…

I used to think I'd finally feel happy once I got the job, the body, the relationship. But here's the truth no one tells you: You don't actually want the thing — you want the feeling you think it will give you.   And the wild part? You can feel that way right now.   If you've ever said "I'll be happy when…" — this will stop you in your tracks. Listen now. This changes everything. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next…

What if the reason you're constantly second-guessing yourself isn't because something's wrong with you—but because you were never meant to be liked by everyone in the first place?   In this episode, I reveal the real reason people misunderstand you, judge you, or pull away—and why that's not only normal, but necessary. If you've ever twisted yourself into knots trying to be enough for people who still didn't get you, this one will change everything. There's a surprising kind of freedom on the other side of letting go—and I'm going to show you exactly how to find it. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next…

What if the real antidepressant isn't in your medicine cabinet—but in your shoes? In this episode, we uncover the brain chemistry behind why movement is the most overlooked happiness hack of the 21st century. You'll learn how a simple walk can outmatch hours of doomscrolling, how your workouts might be making you more miserable, and why exercising the "wrong" way teaches your brain to hate it. Plus, the exact timeline for when your brain starts to physically rewire itself for happiness. Once you hear this, you'll never look at exercise—or your mood—the same way again. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next…

You're not stuck because you're lazy or unmotivated. You're stuck because you're carrying things that no longer belong to you. In this episode, I break down the 10 hidden patterns, beliefs, and behaviors you must let go of if you want to finally feel free—and why holding onto them feels safer than changing. If you'd like to go deeper into this work, visit moniquerhodes.com—it's a wonderful place to begin your journey with me.

You've set the goal. Felt the motivation. Promised yourself this time would be different. But somehow… you stopped. Again. What if I told you it's not a discipline problem? Or a motivation problem? Or even a mindset problem? In this episode, I reveal the surprising reason your follow-through keeps stalling—and the one daily shift that quietly rewires it all. If you're tired of starting over, this is the conversation that will finally explain why… and what to do instead. Ready to break the cycle for good?If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next…

Have you ever had a moment where one more thing — just one — felt like it might actually break you?   That moment isn't weakness. It isn't poor coping. And it isn't you "failing at life."   In this episode, I break down what's really happening in your brain when overwhelm hits — why your thinking shuts down, why emotions spike or disappear, and why so many "coping strategies" fail at the exact moment you need them most.   If you've ever wondered why you can be calm one day and completely overwhelmed the next… why advice that should work doesn't… or why stress feels different now than it used to…   This conversation will change how you understand yourself — and what actually helps when everything feels like too much. If you'd like to go deeper into this work, visit moniquerhodes.com—it's a wonderful place to begin your journey with me.

Everyone says "I'll do that later." But people in their 70s are saying something different:   "I wish I'd known what later really felt like."   This episode is built on years of honest conversations with retirees — and what they wish they'd told their 50-year-old selves. If you're approaching or already in retirement and want clarity about what you need most right now, you can take the Retirement Roadmap quiz.   If you have already retired, go here: https://quiz.theretirementroadmapacademy.com/retirement-roadmap-score   If you are preparing for retirement, go here: https://quiz.theretirementroadmapacademy.com/retirement-roadmap-profile