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In this tender interview, we follow-up with Dan about his 2-year marriage to Cathy's best friend Emily as she continued her battle with colon cancer and ultimately passed away in September 2023. We discuss approaching hardships with strength, cultivating relationships with loving acceptance, viewing death with an eternal perspective, and living life on your own terms. RELATED PODCAST: LILY Pod Episode 80. Love at Last with Dan & Emily --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy explore how apostasy can result from a shallow understanding of ancient history that we may not understand well in a 21st century context unless we pay the price to discover timeless, eternal truths revealed anciently and consider how they apply to us personally today. #religion #faith #truth loveinlateryears.com Gethsemane - Violin Solo (On YouTube @CathyButlerMusic) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

What does it take to build a beautiful life? It will look different for each unique person and will likely detour from what we originally envisioned. As we open up to unexpected blessings and focus on the power we have to create our lives intentionally, we fulfill the measure of creation to have and hold JOY! The Savior provides the bridge to connect us with our heavenly parents and to love wholeheartedly. #balance #bridges #beautiful #life loveinlateryears.com Gary E. Stevenson - Bridging the Two Great Commandments Love at Last with Dan & Emily --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy dive deep into the intriguing question: Is there really a difference between "relationship people" and others? Explore with us the various perspectives on what drives us towards or away from relationships and dissect the common belief that at our core, everyone needs connection. Stay tuned as we unravel this topic, bringing insights and stories that challenge views on love, commitment, and companionship. #love #relationship #belonging Removing Roadblocks - Webinar REPLAY Matthew Hussey - What People Get Wrong About Self Love LILY Group Coaching - Enroll for Summer Term! (deadline: this weekend, May 3-5) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy discuss the concept that we have power, influence, and agency to be intentional rather than stuck in default with our brain's habits. #model #mind #coaching Join LILY Group Coaching this SUMMER (by April 30th!) and Schedule a FREE Consult for a personalized roadmap to your desired destination. Take our in-depth online course: ⁠Life Design After Divorce⁠ FREE RELATED PODCASTS: 11 Our F-SEEBO Model, 101 Facts vs. Stories, 102 Emotion & Energetic State, 103 Behavior & Outcomes "TRUTH is knowledge of things as they are, were, and are to come; And whatsoever is more or less than this is the spirit of that wicked one who was a liar from the beginning." It is SO important to examine what is growing in our heads. This is ultimately how we discover truth & create JOY! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Welcome to "LILY Lifestyle Tips," where we give you quick and simple hacks for creating a happy life and healthy relationships. #heart #head #shakespeare ⁠loveinlateryears.com FULL EPISODE: #136. Love & Shakespeare --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy share a simple, yet profound 3-step process for deciding whether or not to get divorced. If you find yourself in this situation, we recommend also listening to our more in-depth episode, LILY Pod 35. The Divorce Decision⁠. #decision #divorce ⁠loveinlateryears.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Welcome to "LILY Lifestyle Tips," where we give you quick and simple hacks for creating a happy life and healthy relationships. #dating #dinner #relationship ⁠loveinlateryears.com⁠ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy discuss the Netflix film Queen Bees, a romantic comedy set in a retirement community, which introduces the term "Encore Marriage" and portrays cultivating intentional joy, embracing love, and finding new beginnings at any age. #marriage --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Welcome to "LILY Lifestyle Tips," where we give you quick and simple hacks for creating a happy life and healthy relationships. #strengths #lawofattraction #focus loveinlateryears.com 111.Flips&FlopsinLife&Relationships --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy discuss what most couples fight about (according to research by the Gottmans), and what we can effectively do about it. Listen for ideas you can apply to reduce the frustration and increase the joy in your own relational interactions. #couple #fight #conflict loveinlateryears.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Welcome to "LILY Lifestyle Tips," where we give you quick and simple hacks for creating a happy life and healthy relationships. #strengths #lawofattraction #focus ⁠loveinlateryears.com⁠ ⁠111.Flips&FlopsinLife&Relationships --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy discuss the ONLY 3 options in relationships and why it is important to know what they are ("Love it, Hate it, or Leave it") and what they CANNOT be in order to avoid the pitfalls that keep us stuck and miserable. #relationship #options #wisdom loveinlateryears.com WATCH What is Love Anyway? LISTEN 35.TheDivorceDecision 59.RealLove with Dr.GregBaer 111.Flips&Flops in Life&Relationships --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Welcome to "LILY Lifestyle Tips," where we give you quick and simple hacks for creating a happy life and healthy relationships. #childcare #tribe #support ⁠loveinlateryears.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy interview later married couple Karen & Trace (after both experienced divorce from other people). They proudly proclaim that in the 8 years they've been married and blending their families that they've NEVER had a fight! Learn their secrets to success to build a "fight free" marriage. #marriage #couple #fight #love #relationship loveinlateryears.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Welcome to "LILY Lifestyle Tips," where we give you quick and simple hacks for creating a happy life and healthy relationships. #grocery #budget #hack ⁠loveinlateryears.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy explore what gets in the way and what is required to enjoy the blessing of transparent communication in a connected, committed, whole-hearted relationship. "Dating Naked," episode 106, is the "SINGLES" version of this episode for couples (and for singles who anticipate couple-ship in the future). #couples #communication #connection loveinlateryears.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Welcome to "LILY Lifestyle Tips," where we give you quick and simple hacks for creating a happy life and healthy relationships. #dating #singleparent ⁠loveinlateryears.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy reflect on the past year and share insights for moving into the new year with an inspired focus that will bless you in 2024 and beyond. #newyear #focus #power 51. The Power of One Word (referenced podcast) Strength in Adversity (referenced keynote by Jeff) loveinlateryears.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

NEW on LILY Pod: "LILY Lifestyle Tips," where we give you quick and simple hacks for creating a happy life and healthy relationships. #physical #exercise #motivation ⁠loveinlateryears.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy discuss an endearing term they nick-named themselves while dating and the process of reading the entire New Testament as a family in 2023 as part of the Come Follow Me program for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. #jesus #newtestament #love https://loveinlateryears.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

NEW on LILY Pod: "LILY Lifestyle Tips," where we give you quick and simple hacks for creating a happy life and healthy relationships. #grief #healing #friendship loveinlateryears.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy speak with Grief Recovery Method Specialist, Connie Irick, about what grief actually is, common myths and unhelpful practices dealing with grief, and about the evidence based method she uses to help her clients heal. The personal work required to recover from grief completes relationships that are unresolved, one at a time, with a very specific process that creates a safe space to process everything that is unique to each loss. #loss #grief #recovery Connect with Connie: griefrecoverymethod.com/grms/connie-irick Connect with Jeff & Cathy: loveinlateryears.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

NEW on LILY Pod: "LILY Lifestyle Tips," where we give you quick and simple hacks for creating a happy life and healthy relationships. #spiritual #promptings loveinlateryears.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy discuss their 33+ inspiring guest interviews on LILY Pod over the past 3 years to help listeners know which episodes to focus on to support their own needs and situations in life. #podcast #review #interviews Intimacy: 24, 59, 68, (90), 144 Personal Power: 10, (26-29), 31, 40, 54, 66, 67, 87, (88), 108, 116, 120, 128, 137 Love/Heart: 13, 15, (47), 56, 63, 71, 80, 95, 104, 112, 124, 140 Loss Recovery: (21), 33, 49, 74, 77, 83, 91, (131), 132, 133, 148 Top Ten Episodes: 24, 59, 77, 87, (90), 95, 104, 112, 128, 140 https://loveinlateryears.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy discuss the role and function of our primitive brains and how to create more JOY (the design of our existence). You will learn ways to prioritize being happy, including how to: rebel against your thoughts, take responsibility for your emotional well-being, show up calm to resolve differences, elevate discussion to a higher level of abstraction, create an atmosphere of liberty and flexibility, and participate in meta communication. This episode is great for singles and couples. #joy #brain #priority loveinlateryears.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy discuss the art of thanking God in advance for blessings that are on the way and how that requires and builds our faith, capacity for gratitude, and trust in a loving Heavenly Parent. #faith #prayer #gratitude loveinlateryears.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

In this Halloween special, Jeff & Cathy interview Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about Overcoming the FEAR of Intimacy - which is her specialty as an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology! Learn what intimacy really is and how to know if you fear it. For INDIVIDUALS - she shares her views on sexuality being paired with sin to scare adolescents into waiting until marriage, what our theology really teaches about our bodies, how to be knowable while living the law of chastity, and when in the dating process to talk about sex. FOR COUPLES - she offers suggestions for dealing with fear that can come from former marital problems, how to co-create a new marriage that will stand the test of time, and what you can look forward to if you do the personal required to achieve true intimacy. #intimacy #sexuality #interview #therapist #singles #couples Listen to her other interview with us here on LILY Pod: 24. Wisdom from Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife for Single Adults: spotifyanchor-web.app.link Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife's coaching and teaching focus is on helping individuals and couples achieve greater satisfaction and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships. She has five empowering online courses packed full of tools requisite to create healthier lives and stronger intimate relationships. She offers workshops and retreats where she teaches these life-changing principles in person. She is a frequent guest on LDS-themed podcasts on the subjects of sexuality, relationships, mental health, and faith. She created and hosts "Room for Two," a popular sex and intimacy coaching podcast. Learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife and her work here: finlayson-fife.com Learn more about Love In Later Years (LILY) and the resources Jeff & Cathy Teichert offer here: loveinlateryears.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy discuss dating formulas and how to navigate them with a touch of skepticism while wisely apply the principles behind them to your own unique situations. How long should you wait to start dating after a divorce? For widows, how long should you grieve your loss before getting remarried? How many dates should you got on before a first kiss? What's the best way to avoid an unhealthy rebound relationship? What kind of age difference in couples is acceptable (is it half your age +7 or 10 years)? How long should you date before getting engaged (is 4 seasons and a roundtrip enough or is it even necessary)? The answers to these questions aren't as simple as common "dating formulas" would indicate. Join us as we share our thoughts and feelings about these formulas so you can intentionally make up your own mind. #divorce #death #dating #age #timing #kissing #engagement #marriage #formulas http://www.loveinlateryears.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Can working with your rebel side be an advantage? Jeff & Cathy explore this question and share their thoughts on how to balance natural tendencies (Gretchen Rueben's "4 Tendencies"), human tendencies (we all have light and dark in us), and how to decide who to follow and uphold and who to rebel against in terms of our own intentionally developed moral compass. Enjoy this interesting and fun conversation that will get you thinking about potentially reframing the way you approach your goals and relationships. #human #rebel #joy http://www.loveinlateryears.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy share some of their favorite messages from the most recent General Conference in Fall 2023. Listen to a vulnerable discussion about why "Falling in Love with Conference" is really important, even when life and sorrow sometimes makes it difficult to take full advantage of receiving the messages that are there for us to benefit from. #church #inspiration #counsel loveinlateryears.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Kathryn Reynolds was sustained this past weekend in General Conference as a member of the Young Women General Advisory Council (with President Emily Belle Freeman) for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. She has served in many other church capacities, including Relief Society General Advisory Council (with President Jean Bingham, 2020-22). Kathryn earned an associate degree in health science from BYU–Idaho, a bachelor's degree in family and human development and a master's degree in marriage and family therapy from BYU. She currently works as a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT). When Cathy was a single mom, she met Kathryn in a large Single Adult Ward in Bountiful, Utah (2015). Kathryn is not yet married and is a passionate advocate for single adults in the church. Having served closely with many well known church leaders, she knows first hand they are not out of touch with the trials and disappointments we face. In association with the single adult initiative, we are reaching out for constructive feedback. If you would like to share your thoughts as a single member, email us at ⁠loveinlateryears@gmail.com⁠. We need your voice! Enjoy this illuminating dialogue about faith, confidence, ambiguous loss, trusting heaven, thinking about our various life circumstances in ways that affirm our unique paths, attracting people into our lives who are good for us, and knowing that God cares about our joy and our wants. #single #church #interview loveinlateryears.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy talk about the importance of Earth's Sunlight (Vitamin D3 for the BODY) and Heaven's Sunlight (Vitamin D for the SPIRIT). To ward off winter depression and receive a whole host of physical and emotional benefits, start taking 5000iu Vitamin daily! To ward off spiritual darkness and receive affirming and strengthening benefits, connect with heaven daily! Together, the body and spirit make up the soul. #vitaminD #body #spirit #soul Using the D Word in Marriage & 35. The Divorce Decision are mentioned in this episode. For those in a dark place who would like a little extra support finding more light in their lives, Schedule a Free Consult (we will provide you with a customized roadmap). loveinlateryears.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy discuss how loss often opens the way to even greater opportunity as we learn how to let go and see the many doors opening because of the one door that closed. As we accept that a door has closed, we are free to embrace compensatory blessings that God wants to bless us with. Related podcast episode 80. "Love at Last with Dan & Emily." #love #loss #lettinggo loveinlateryears.com Let us support you in finding the open doors worth exploring in new relationships with our NEW COURSE: Courting with Confidence --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy speak with newlyweds Nate & Beckie Lambert, successful real estate investors and former single parents. They share their journeys in the singles world after divorce, along with their love story and ultimately how they came together in marriage to blend a family of eight children. This is a high energy couple who were strong on their own and even stronger together. Both of them have found that intentional personal self-care helps them lift and care for those around them. Nate literally runs (on a treadmill) towards his goals (on a vision board) everyday! We encourage our listeners to also run towards their goals and actively create their own opportunities. Movement creates progress! Signup to take our Courting with Confidence 12-Week Course - we will help you run towards your dating & relationship goals this Fall (Sept-Dec)! Also mentioned in the podcast: the Big 5 Personality Test by Jordan Peterson. #divorce #remarriage #blendedfamily #ambition #joy #interview loveinlateryears.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy discuss Shakespeare's interesting views on love and passion and how they apply in our world today. We encourage you to also listen to 80. Love at Last with Dan & Emily and we invite you to register for our FREE Courting with Confidence WEBINAR (this Thursday, September 7th at 6:30pm MT). #love #shakespeare #wisdom loveinlateryears.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy discuss the various aspects of human interaction and how to show up as wise stewards. Who is responsible for hurt feelings? Listen to find out that and more -- including 3 principles that will support our interaction stewardships. We have power, influence, and agency to show up in life the way we want to! Episodes that pair well with this one: 54. Mental Health Stewardship with Ganel-Lyn Condie, 127. The Benefits of Indifference, 134. The Law of Choice --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy explore the ramifications of the universal law of choice (agency) and how we can wisely apply it to all our relationships. To enjoy the gift of REAL love, freely given, without manipulation or coercion - we must honor this law (which takes time and effort to master). Let go of control and take back your own power to choose. Episode 59. "Real Love with Dr. Greg Baer" pairs well with this episode. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Last week Lori talked about how she went about finding stability after the loss of her late husband. In this thought provoking conclusion, she dives into the challenges she has encountered since re-entering the dating world as a widow - particularly in the Latter-day Saint community. We can show up better for our widowed members. Please share this podcast with your widowed friends and listen to understand them better.

Finding "stability in singleness" after losing her husband to an unexpected tragic death is something Lori Carr knew would be hard AND that it was something she needed to do before looking to replace what she lost in terms of companionship. Over the following year, she did things to intentionally heal from that loss before she started dating. If you can relate to relationship loss and figuring out how to be single again and find stability in your life, you'll love this episode! Are you a LILY Pod lover? Become a supporter! Make a small monthly donation to help sustain future episodes. Every little bit helps! ⁠

Jeff & Cathy share their thoughts about "life design" and the importance of using deliberate design methods to recreate your life after divorce. They briefly share the 6 modules they created to help people recover from divorce and design a life they love. Want more in depth information, tools, strategies, and personalized support? We invite you to take our self-paced COURSE on LifeDesignAfterDivorce (now available on demand) and enroll in one of our coaching groups, which are NOW OPEN (Aug) for Fall Enrollment (Sept-Dec). Space is limited, first come first serve. Join the Knights of the LILY (for men) OR LILY Ladies⁠ (for women). Interested in our next course coming up this fall (Sept-Dec)? Sign up for the FREE WEBINAR on CourtingWithConfidence. Episodes that pair well with this: 24. Wisdom with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife & 59. Real Love with Dr. Greg Baer --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy speak on a topic closely related to their recent keynote address for the "Victory in Christ" Twin Falls Single's Conference. In this episode you will be encouraged to take the leaps of faith necessary to fulfill your divine potential and allow God's favor to enter your life. From divorce recovery to remarriage and everything in-between, we can have Victory in Christ as we take the leaps of faith we feel inspired to take. The Savior's atonement will be there to catch us when we fall and carry us through to our glorious destination. Are you a LILY Pod lover? Become a supporter! Make a small monthly donation to help sustain future episodes. Every little bit helps! ⁠

Jeff & Cathy discuss what they learned from failed marriages and what they are learning now in their 5+ year marriage that feels a lot more successful and solid. We all learn from failures, but we also learn from triumphs. That is what we wish for each of our listeners - a future full of learning from relationship success! Related podcasts: 24. Wisdom from Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife & 59. Real Love with Dr. Greg Baer --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy are joined by special guest Holly Voisin, former mid-single and Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor at Therapy Utah. We discuss the effects of trauma and how to heal it. She is certified in the modalities of EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing), ART (Accelerated Resolution Therapy), and EFT (Emotion Focused Therapy). This interview is packed with helpful insights - take notes! We did. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy discuss common emotions that come as we transition from marriage into a co-parenting relationship with our former spouse. Trying to love or giving into hate can keep things tense and difficult. Letting go and allowing some indifference towards a former spouse has great potential for creating peace and harmony as you move forward with your life. Related podcasts: 69. Radical Acceptance & 45. The Serenity Prayer --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy tackle the sometimes dreaded topic of dating and how to make it fun and enjoyable. The process of getting to know a variety of people in search of your forever companion can offer some of the greatest joys life has to offer. Push past the fear of rejection and seize the opportunity for excitement and profound joy! Related podcasts: 86. The Law of Attraction & 72. Being a Chooser --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/loveinlateryears/support

Jeff & Cathy highlight the importance of fatherhood. One of America's greatest social problems is fatherless homes. In this episode, we discuss how we can all support fathers in staying involved in their children's lives, even after divorce.

Jeff & Cathy talk with Brittney Phillips, stepparent educator at Blending Bravely about remarriage, successfully blending families, adoptive parenting, biological parenting, and step parenting - she has done it all! Now it's her passion to support and cheerlead others who are doing the same. You can find her at https://www.blendingbravely.com/

Jeff & Cathy explore the factors that contribute to healthy remarriage -- including emotional self-regulation, growing in our capacity to be seen and known, and being open to the influence of our spouse in creating a collaborative partnership and intimacy-based marriage.

Jeff & Cathy discuss the vulnerability that can lead many Latter-day Saints to date or develop new relationships before their divorce is final. Explore with us the complications and consequences of dating before a marriage is really over and how to fill the need for companionship in healthier ways. We make an exciting announcement for a new course coming this fall so be listening for that. Gain full access to our "Life Design After Divorce" 12-week course (now available on demand): https://lilywebinars.com/order-page

Jeff & Cathy Teichert discuss the role of faith in co-creating with God more abundance and good options in our lives.