Out of Love

In our first episode, Barrett told the story of him taking a risk and inviting a stranger he met the night before from Panama on vacation to Spain. Today, they're married. Dan and Barrett revisit that initial risk and how Barrett's openness defined their relationship through months without seeing each other, the immigration process, cultural differences, and life and death. And how we should all take more risks.

Poker is a game of risk - it teaches you how to read other people, game theory, and when to take a chance for a big pot. Andrew and Kristy are masters of both poker and love. But when their marriage went through some difficulties, they had to go all in or risk losing everything. 

The New Yorker contributor and @drawingolive Instagrammer Olivia de Recat wanted to know "what makes love work?" So for two years she met, listened, and drew couples all while reflecting on her own experiences. The result is "Drawn Together" a personal meditation on love. Dan and Olivia talk about the process of writing a book (hard!) and what they've learned from others' love stories (lots!) Purchase a copy of Drawn Together here: https://www.oliviaderecat.com/drawn-together

In a post-Super Bowl victory euphoria, Shamus tweeted about jokingly recreating a famous kiss. Unexpectedly, a stranger said she'll do it. In bliss, Shamus meets up to kiss a mysterious stranger during the Super Bowl parade. But what happens after?

We leave so much of our lives in the hands of AI and algorithms but can we trust them to find us love? How do the unseen forces that match us with dates on Tinder, Hinge, and Bumble know who's right for us? Culture reporter Anna Iovine comes by and talks about what dating app algorithms are, who designs them, and how they determine who is a good match.Read more of Anna's work at https://www.annaiovine.com/

As a television producer, Talia found she had a talent for setting people. So much so that she quit her job and turned her skill into a full-time business. Now Three Day Rule has introduced countless people to their soul mates. But how do matchmakers connect those instantiable qualities that make us fall in love? And how can we trust them to find us love?Learn more about working with Three Day Rule here:https://www.threedayrule.com/

In 2019, Greta Hayes took a leap of faith and quit her job to hike the Pacific Crest Trail. The experience was life-changing but when she returned she faced the greatest period of uncertainty in her life. How did Greta rebuild her life after taking a big chance and was it worth it in the end?Listen to Greta's original appearance on Out of Love:https://open.spotify.com/episode/22LMkZ51cWEs6GZwG5Ew15?si=1decfac47bbb4deb

When Becca got into a Uber Pool one night, she couldn't anticipate meeting the love of her life. But how do you make a relationship work when one of you lives in Philadelphia and the other is from Australia? And how does a 19-month absence in seeing each other test your relationship? 

Dan returns to Out of Love to ask "why do we risk our security and safety for love?" In the premiere episode, Dan asks a group of people what's the most they've given up for another person and vice versa. Then, Out of Love regular, Dr. Kareem Johnson returns to talk about the psychology of risk-taking and what influences us to take chances on love.

In our wrap up episode of Per Amore, Jerry answers your questions about growing up and immigrating from Italy. Learn what he misses the most about Italy, why aged wine is useless, and how to buy a house in Bisaccia for one dollar! To walk for The Felix Organization's Walk This Way event or make a donation, visit: https://www.justgiving.com/campaign/walkthiswayforfosterkids

Now that the Casarellas have arrived from Italy to America, how do they adjust? Even though he was finally reunited with his parents, Jerry still had the challenge of repeating the sixth grade, only this time in another language. In the final interview of the series, Jerry talks about learning English, going back to Bisaccia for the first time, and if he's finally found home.

Moving new a new country where you don't know the language is hard. Doing it without your parents? Terrifying. Jerry talks about his last days living in Bisaccia and what it was like to move and take care of his siblings while his parents were already in America. Plus a bonus segment where two Dan Casarellas talk to each other!

Jerry tells stories of growing up in Bisaccia, Italy in the 1960s, nonchalantly talking about the time he got drunk at age eight or was shot at as a child. He describes the whole town being invited to his parent's wedding, babies being born in the house, and an unforgettable trip to Rome. Listen to Palmaria on Spotify and follow on Instagram @palmariaofficial

While post World War II America was a country filled with prosperous opportunity, Italy was not. In the first of this four-part mini-series about immigrating from Italy to America in the 1970s as a tweleve-year-old boy, Jerry Casarella discusses his hometown of Bisaccia, Italy. He talks about the way of life for poor towns, the people of Bisaccia and his parents' experiences living in German-occupied Italy. Listen to Palmaria on Spotify and follow on Instagram @palmariaofficial

Out of Love has all been to help Dan better prepare to officiate his sister's wedding. So how did it go? In our finale, Dan plays the ceremony he officiated, talks to his sister, Sarah, about her wedding, and explains how love and the show "didn't fix" him. Plus Dan calls someone we should have heard from a long time ago!

In this rearing of WHIP Radio's The Weewo Show from 2015, Dan and the Weewo team talk to Dr. Kareem Johnson about why we lie, how to detect when others are lying, and how to get away with lying.

This holiday season Dan sits down with his parents, Joan and Jerry, about how they've maintained a successful marriage for 35 years, the challenges having children brings, and how marriage has changed generationally. Follow Out of Love on Instagram @OutOfLoveShow

Sex is a huge part of love but don't confuse them for the same thing. Dan talks with Sonya Maya, who creates YouTube and TikTok videos about sex and relationship, about healthy sex habits, the importance of a sex date, and the chemicals released in your brain during sex and their benefits. Follow Out of Love on Instagram @OutOfLoveShow

One of the strongest things a person can do is leave. When Jane Wilson felt she no longer aligned with the Mormon religion she made the difficult decision to get divorced. But this independence didn't come without pain. Dan talks to Jane about her decision, the problems with religion in relationships, and how her journey came together in a stage show. Follow Out of Love on Instagram @OutOfLove.

With quarantine keeping couples at home, how can they spice up date night? Dan and Positive Publicity's Camille Mola unbox a Crated With Love date subscription box together, playing games, learning about each other's awkward years, and seeing if you can really put a date in a box. Dan also talks with Crated with Love founder Tyler Turk about the importance of making time for date night. Want $10 off your own date night box? Use code "OUTOFLOVE" when checking out at https://cratedwithlove.com/

The tables turn, as for the first time our host becomes the subject when psychology professor, Dr. Kareem Johnson interviews Dan Casarella about his views on love and his background. Dan opens up about how he sees himself, why working in late-night television was dissatisfying, and his biggest regret in love. Follow Out of Love on Instagram @OutofLoveShow

Sometimes love is worth the wait. Jochen and Leigh-Ann were friends for eight years across three states before they got together. Hear their story on they met, stayed friends, and how Jochen's openness led him to get out of the friendship bucket and marry Leigh-Ann.

The time has come for Dan to finally sit down and write his sister's wedding ceremony. Too bad he hasn't learned what he's doing yet. Luckily, he talks to Katelyn Stanis of Wedding Words, a professional wedding speech and vow writing service. Katelyn talks about why it's so hard to write a speech, how to pick out what story to tell, and public speaking tips. Plus Dan talks to his friends about wedding speech expectations, preparing a wedding ceremony, and how to engage everyone in the ceremony. Follow Out of Love on Instagram @OutOfLove. Visit Wedding Words at https://www.weddingwords.us/

Our month-long fundraising campaign is over! Dan calls the producer of the Compilation of Love, Ian, to share how much we raised. Thank you to everyone who donated and bought the shirt and album! If you haven't you can still but them at https://www.outofloveshow.com/store

In the final installment of the Compilation of Love artists talking about the love songs they wrote, Dan talks to Anika Pyle and Roger Harvey about finding love in the little things, Jimmy Doyle about the NY Islanders, Liz Parsons of Big Nothing about her dog, and Sean of Steady Hands about his house, wife, and tiki bar. This is the last week to pick up the Compilation of Love and Out of Love shirt for Women Against Abuse. Get them both here: https://www.outofloveshow.com/store

Maxwell Stern, GIllian Krystal, Matt from lowercase roses, & Kaytee from No Thank You talk about the love songs they wrote for the Compilation of Love. They talk about old cars, new hands, pick up trucks, and Vermont. Pick up the Compilation of Love and Out of Love shirt, where all proceeds go to Women Against Abuse. And be sure to pick up No Thank You's newest album, Embroidered Foliage, Friday, November 23rd. https://www.outofloveshow.com/store

Kat Siciliano, Matt from Hurry, Melody from Sweetbreads, and Dustin from Walter Etc talk about the love songs they wrote for the Compilation of Love. Plus we answer, how do wedding bands pick the songs they perform, what's the best shower beer, and who eats at Bubba Gump Shrimp? If you haven't picked up the Compilation of Love click the blink below, all proceeds go to Women Against Abuse: https://www.outofloveshow.com/store

Jake from Slaughter Beach, Dog, Chrissy from Thin Lips, Tanner from Couplet & Seann Cantatore talk to Dan about the love songs they wrote for the Compilation of Love. Haven't picked up our compilation album with all proceeds going to Women Against Abuse? You can get that and our new shirt here: https://www.outofloveshow.com/store

The Out of Love shirt and Compilation of Love are here! Our super soft and stylish shirt and charity compilation album are available now at our store with all proceeds going to Women Against Abuse. To learn more about the important work Women Against Abuse does, Dan sits down with Katie Young-Wildes, their senior communications specialist, and she tells us how the organization has stayed open curing COVID-19 and the importance of donations. Get both the shirt and album here: https://www.outofloveshow.com/store Learn more about Women Against Abuse here: https://www.womenagainstabuse.org/

In our first episode, Dr. Barrett shared his story of meeting Carlos one night during NYC Pride, inviting him to Spain the next day on vacation, and starting a spontaneous, international relationship. Now Barrett returns to catch us up on being a doctor on the front lines of COVID-19, living in Minneapolis during the George Floyd murder, and how his relationship with Carlos had been impacted by quarantine. Plus, we announce our shirt and compilation charity album "Compilation of Love", both being released on Friday, October 2nd. Get them both here: https://www.outofloveshow.com/store

As the air gets colder and the leaves change color, our hearts get lonelier. The start of fall marks the start of cuffing season, when singles try to lock down someone to "cuff" and brave the cold weather with. But with COVID-19 looming, cuffing season is going to look different this year. Dan talks to Chamin Ajjan about what is cuffing season and why we get lonely this time of year, then talks to Alex Zaragoza about how the coronavirus affects cuffing.

The bond between twins is a connection that can not be explained if you weren't born into. Dan tries to understand what that connection between both fraternal and identical twins is like and how it effects their romantic relationships. Dan talks with evolutionary psychologist and author Dr. Nancy Segal about the psychology of being a twin. On an identical twin version of DANswers, we learn if twin's significant others ever get them mixed up and what the worst part of being a twin is. Then Dan has a conversation with his identical and fraternal twin best friends to see how different types of twins are similar.

Last year, the world suddenly lost an incredible spirit in filmmaker Chris Black. Dan lost an inspiration. Winnie lost the love of her life. Dan sits down with his good friend and Chris' girlfriend, Winnie, to talk about how their struggles made them earn their love, Chris's influence on others, and what it's like dealing with the grief of losing a loved one.

When a relationship doesn't work, it's time to end it. Much easier said than done. And even if we know the breakup is for the best, it can linger on weeks, months, or even years. Breakup coach and host of breakup BOOST, Trina Leckie talks with Dan about why breakups take so long to get over, what to do if your ex is close with your family, and why we go back to people we don't deserve. Plus, Dan calls fan favorite Mike to discuss breaking up during Paramore and Business Insider. Visit Trina at https://www.breakupboost.com/

In a bonus episode of "Out of Love", Eric Resnick of ProfileHelper talks about a study he conducted on the type of messages men send on dating apps. Eric and his team created fake female accounts on various dating apps and monitored the messages they received. What they got was shocking, insightful, and sad.

In the trailer for the show we teased that Dan would talk to his high school crush, Grace DiMarco. Now in our summer finale, Dan sits down with Grace to talk about the summer of 2010, how their friendship went from hopeless to crush to intimate support systems, and the struggles of being vulnerable in a relationship. They also talk about their experience as choreographing team and the dynasty of the East Brunswick Recreational Half Day Camp's blue team.

Dating and lifestyle writer Julia Pugachevsky sits down with Dan to talk about her articles in Vice and Cosmo including how to get rid of a crush, emotional boners, "microing", and how a list of grievances saved her relationship.Check out Julia's entire portfolio at: https://juliapugachevsky.com/

Dr. Gary Chapman's five love languages have been an essential tool for helping couples determine how to be open and communicate how they love with one another. Dan talks with Temple University's Dr. Kareem Johnson about what your love language says about you, their validity in the scientific community, and how to use them to open up more honest conversations about your relationships. Plus, are bidets good gifts?

Rachel and Will aren't just another couple. They got together in high school, separated during college, and found each other again when at a distance. Through self-reflection and honestly, they grew together, restarting their relationship while Rachel was working in Boston and Spain and Will was living in Philadelphia. Together again, living in Monterey, Dan talks to both Will and Rachel separately to get their sides of their love story. They discuss their crude first impressions, how they came back together, and why you have to constantly work at relationships. Meanwhile, Dan complains to Will about his feet. Follow us on Instagram at @OutOfLoveShow

We talk a lot on this show about romantic love but we can't forget about self-love. We all needlessly struggle with our body image and need to learn to be kinder to all of our different shapes and sizes. Dan talks to his friend Chris about a Facebook body image post he wrote after a triggering student said he was "letting himself go." Then Dan and Liza Galvan of LMGFit talk about her transition from narcotics officer to a personal trainer, how she teachers her clients to love their bodies, and how to stay loyal to the grind during a pandemic.

Online dating and dating apps have changed the culture of dating. So why does it feel like a tired chore with only failed results? Eric Resnick, a professional dating profiler writer, shares his writing process, user's biggest mistakes, and what your pictures say about you. Also on Danswers, Dan asks a panel of people how they use dating apps and what makes them swipe left.Visit ProfileHelper: https://www.profilehelper.com/

If you sleep with someone besides your partner, you've cheated on them. But emotional cheating is harder to define. If it's even real at all. In this episode, Dan explores the subject that's been bothering him for five years: is emotional cheating real? Dan reads his research from 2015 on the subject then sits down with best selling author of "Love in 90s", Dr. Diana Kirschner, to talk about the definition and signs of emotional cheating.Have Dr. Diana Kirschner personally match you with a handpicked coach for a free Breakthrough-to-Love session by phone or Skype at http://lovein90days.com/dating-coach/. Fill out the form and write “Dan sent me”

The Coronavirus pandemic has caused a halt in our lives. So what does that mean for weddings? Will Dan's sister's wedding be canceled, making this whole podcast moot? Dan talks with wedding planner Christina Baruch of Events Made Golden about how couples are changing their wedding during the pandemic what sequel weddings are, and how they're becoming the trend. He also talks with two brides about how they changed their weddings and made the day more special.For more information on Events Made Golden visit: https://www.eventsmadegolden.com/

There's no better way to get to know someone better than over a drink. But when you're on a date you could overthink where to go, what to order, and who should pay. In a new segment, Dan asks a panel of people their advice when drinking on dates. Then, Ian Alexander and Sam Casuga, the Head Bartenders of The Dead Rabbit, sit down to talk about how they invent drinks, their virtual cocktail class, and what you're doing wrong on dates. Plus Dan takes a call to learn wine terminology. Visit Make It a Double's website: https://makeitadoublenyc.com/

When Greta's life in New York was at a standstill she quit her job, ended her relationship, and moved in order to fulfill a life long goal: hiking the Pacific Crest Trail. Greta talks to Dan about trail life, self-discovery, and finding the courage to bet on yourself. Plus Dan talks about why he left New York to move to Los Angeles and his own self-discovery.

Dan talks to three songwriters, Melody from Sweetbreads, Sean from Steady Hands, and Kaytee from No Thank You, about what goes into writing a love song. In addition to learning their songwriting techniques and inspirations, they talk about the romance of proposing at Newark Airport, wearing a fake penis, and analyze Train's "Hey Soul Sister."

Life is weird and uncertain during the coronavirus. Being isolated doesn't diminish our capacity for love, it amplifies it. On this episode, Dan talks to therapist Bianca L. Rodriguez on how to build connections while separated, why taking it slow is good for relationships, and how to get creative for quarantine dating. Then we hear from Chelsey and Erica, two women who both continued to dating while quarantined and Dan calls his friend Mike to test out pandemic pick up lines.

When you've been in relationships your entire adult life, how do you move forward when you're single? This is the question Amanda had to confront at the end of an eight-year relationship and an eleven-year streak of relationships. Amanda talks to Dan about exploring being single for the first time in a decade, how to be enough for yourself, and falling in love with the person she's become.

In these uncertain times, Dan talks to Dr. Kareem Johnson on how quarantine and the coronavirus will affect love and reset our relationships. They also discuss the most ideal qualities in a partner, how dating apps have changed our romantic norms, and how you can tell someone is the one through...scent?

One night Barrett begrudgingly agreed to go out with his friends. The next week he was in Spain with a flame he met that night, starting a Minneapolis-Panama romance. Barrett tells the story of his spontaneous, international love and talks about taking chances on love, how to make the most of every day, and why Live Laugh Love signs are tacky.

Welcome to Out of Love! Each week, host Dan Casarella will interview guests exploring different topics of love. From how to write a love song to what causes attraction to is it possible to love anything as much as Garfield loves lasagna, Dan covers it all. Subscribe now to hear our premiere episode as soon as it's released on May 4th!