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How does your parents relationship affect yours? Do we replicate our parents behavior? 

Is the saying "Women are Concerned about a Man's Future and Men are Concerned with a Woman's Past" really true? Olivia and KC talk about expectations in relationships and the differences between men and woman

This week, KC and Olivia talk about if it's right or wrong to track your partner's location via smart phone GPS. Do you track your partner? Comment below! There are a bunch of apps out there that actually allow you to track your partner but to us, that's just bat shit drama. Communication is lubrication, people!!

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Manipulation is a tricky game to play with your partner. KC and Olivia uncover relationship breakdowns that relate to crying and if it's a manipulative technique. If you're looking for more relationship advice, check out our IG @relationshithappenspodcast!

What happens when you just believe that your partner doesn't care about you?  Is it that you boyfriend or girlfriend or partner truly doesn't? or is it just a story concocted by your ego backed up by unsubstantiated lies your mind tells you?

Do you find that you and your partner are getting into the same fights over and over again? Why is that? Check it out here.

In this weeks episode, there is a breakdown which KC and Olivia just can't seem to work through.

Kc and Olivia go camping.  Tune in to see if Olivia was able to survive in the wilderness.

Olivia and KC discuss their plans for the future.

Even though life looks perfect and everyone seems happy on youtube or IG, we're here to prove that just isn't the case! Real couples argue, EVEN in paradise. Check out our breakdown in this episode!

Couples argue. And just because you're in paradise, it doesn't mean everything is perfect! check out Kc's and my trip to puerto rico this past weekend and why even though things looked perfect on IG, we, too, fight!

KC and I discuss where to move and why. Are we manipulating one another? How do we make the right decision? So many relationship issues under one roof! DM us on IG to ask us questions and learn more @relationshithappenspodcast

If KC and I didn’t have the communication tools we have now, THIS is what our fights would look like. When we argue with out boyfriend / girlfriend / partner, we like to get into the details but honestly, the details of a fight aren’t that important! When we argue with our partners, find the root cause and go from there!

KC and Olivia talk about commitments vs attachments and what better way than using Game of Thrones?! The best example of how to be the best partner is by using some key tools/mindset that Marjorie uses in GOT. Check out the clip we include and why it's SO SO key to a happy and fulfilled relationship!!

A gym teacher is flirting with me, the US Senator Ossoff maybe should be my husband instead and I just really don't know who the best boyfriend is - how do I pick?!

In this weeks episode Olivia works through what it's like for her to go to the Gym with KC. She describes what it's like to feel lost, disempowered, and to blame it all on her partner. Olivia uncovers the root of this breakdown... from a past experience with one of her exes. Check out this weeks episode to see how they work through it!

Check us out on IG @relationshithappenspodcastEmail us at relationshithappens@gmail.com with your RelationShit and we'll work it out for you!--Maybe you've thought it, maybe you haven't, but SOMEONE in your relationship has! Can you do better? Is there someone better out there than the boyfriend/girlfriend you currently have? KC and I work through it here. find out how and why!model in thumbnail @christypowers

Olivia and KC become the next biggest influencers in the social media world. Check out what they have to say on their new stardom.

KC talks about why he is ignoring Olivia and the real reason is because he's feeling insecure on something that's going on in his own life. Find out more and check us out on IG @relationshithappenspodcast

in this weeks episode, Olivia and KC discuss one of the things that creates a "fake" relationship, and what they believe an authentic relationship looks like from their personal experience.

Olivia and KC work through this weeks breakdown. What do you do when you don't want to see your partner or boyfriend, or girlfriend? What does it mean that you don't want to hang out with them? Is this going to last? Does it mean your relationships it over? Check out this weeks episode to get our perspective.

Check us out on @relationshithappenspodcast for our vlogs!---KC and I talk about my upset/breakdown and why I got so upset. It was difficult to identify but I realized that it was due to a deeper rooted body insecurity issue!

**CRITICAL NOTE*** ALL people can have "daddy issues", not just women. It unfairly has become a gendered term when men DO have the same exact issues. ALSO side note, my father is the most amazing human being and FATHER to have walked the face of this earth (I'm biased, I know) so even women with "perfect" fathers can have "daddy issues". You are not broken, you are not unfixable. You are NORMAL and therapy helps :)---Make sure to check us out on IG for daily vlogs @relationshithappenspodcast---Check out this article on Daddy Issues from Healthline.comThe term “daddy issues” gets tossed around a lot, but most of the people doing the tossing are getting it all wrong. It’s become a catchall term to describe almost anything a woman does when it comes to sex and relationships. If she puts out “too soon,” doesn’t want to put out, or is looking for reassurance, she’s got daddy issues. If she prefers older men, likes to get spanked and called a bad girl, or calls her partner “daddy” in bed, must be daddy issues. To set things straight and get you in the know about this almost always misused, misunderstood, and overly gendered concept, we reached out to Amy Rollo, triple licensed psychotherapist and owner of Heights Family Counseling in Houston, Texas.What does it even mean?It’s hard to say, seeing as how “daddy issues” isn’t an official medical term or recognized disorder in the recent edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5). This could explain why many experts have an issue with the term, including Rollo. “For the record, I don’t believe in the term ‘daddy issues,’” Rollo says. “Many see this phrase as a way to minimize females’ attachment needs.” Children need a dependable adult in their lives to form secure attachments, Rollo explains. “If this isn’t formed, many people can form avoidant or anxious attachment styles. If a child doesn’t have a father figure in their life consistently, this could lead to an insecure attachment style later in adulthood.” She adds that, for many people, these attachment styles ultimately present as what some refer to as “daddy issues.” Where did this concept originate? We can’t say for sure, but the consensus seems to be that it dates back to Freud and his father complex. This is a term he coined to describe a person who has unconscious impulses and associations as a result of a poor relationship with their father. From that theory came the Oedipus complex, the theory that children have a subconscious attraction to their opposite sex parent.Oedipus complex refers specifically to boys. Electra complex is used to describe the same theory as applied to girls and their fathers.Are there different kinds?Yep! No two people’s experience with their parents is exactly the same. The attachment patterns formed during childhood can affect your attachment styles in your adult relationships.Attachment styles are categorized as being either secure or insecure, with several subtypes of insecure attachment styles, including:Anxious-preoccupied. People with this attachment type may be anxious, crave closeness, but feel insecure about their partner leaving them.Dismissive-avoidant. People with this type may have trouble trusting others for fear that they’ll be hurt. Secure attachment styles result from having a caregiver who was responsive to your needs and emotionally available.Then there are the insecure attachment styles.She explains that they often appear as:being anxious when you aren’t with your partnerneeding lots of reassurance that the relationship is OKseeing any negativity as a sign that the relationship is doomedIt isn’t just about romantic relationships, either. Your relationship with your caregivers and your attachment style also affect other close relationships, including your friendships.Who’s got ’em?Everyone. Daddy issues aren’t just a female thing.

Are daddy issues and boyfriend issues related? Sure seems that way. Here KC and I talk about some criticisms I've had against him recently and then how it has related to my recent relationship to my dad. This is part 1. Part 2 is coming next week :)--Here's more info from TalkSpace.com Sure, mommy or daddy issues can absolutely get in the way of having a healthy relationship, but nobody should be ridiculed for something that’s out of their control, since these issues are based off of things that happened during somebody’s childhood.But what are mommy or daddy issues really?The Psychological Explanation of Mommy or Daddy IssuesAs you may know, these issues are a result of the relationships you had with your mother or father when you were growing up, and maybe even how the relationship remains today. So let’s just get this out of the way — Daddy issues are about more than wanting to call someone “daddy” during sex (and spoiler alert, it’s a misconception that the phenomenon is always related to daddy issues).“‘Mommy issues’ is a term originating from the psychoanalytic Oedipal complex, coined by Sigmund Freud. Carl Yung followed up with the Electra complex, modernly spoken of as ‘Daddy Issues,’” explains Talkspace Provider Amy Cirbus Ph.D, LMHC, LPC. “These terms were developed and understood through a psychoanalytic lens, where it was believed that young boys were thought to be in sexual competition with their fathers and young girls to be in competition with their mothers.”However, today, we know it’s about much more than this. Basically, mommy or daddy issues (which, by the way, are terms that are thrown around way too loosely) are the psychological effects lasting into adulthood that are caused by childhood relationships with a mother or father. Some possible causes of mommy or daddy issues in an adult could be:A parent who left the family or was mostly absentA parent who was emotionally or physically abusiveA parent who wasn’t loving or nurturingA parent who is extremely overbearingA parent who treated the other parent badlyHow Mommy Issues or Daddy Issues Usually ManifestWhen we think about mommy and daddy issues, it’s often the case that a man in a heterosexual relationship is experiencing the mommy issues and taking it out on the female partner, or that a woman in a heterosexual relationship is taking the daddy issues out on the male partner. Of course, though, there are always exceptions and obviously situations can play out differently in same-sex relationships.Mommy issuesWhen it comes to mommy issues, Cirbus explains, “Generally, this is a man who seems to be seeking a substitute mom as opposed to an equal partner, or behaving as if in reaction to unresolved issues with his mother, rather than the partner.” This can lead to relationships having an unequal balance of power between a couple — whether the man goes to the extreme of being very controlling or in the other direction and becomes very submissive.Mommy issues can also cause a man to have different expectations of a partner or spouse. If a man’s mother did absolutely everything for him and babied him up until…well…last year, it’s likely that he will expect a female partner to provide the same, waiting on him hand and foot like his mom has done.Daddy issuesDaddy issues can manifest as trust issues or fear of abandonment for some women. “Women who have an absent father, inconsistent presence, or malfunctioning relationship are at risk for seeking to resolve this through an partnership with a man,” says Cirbus. This can cause women to constantly seek validation or approval from men, or seek out people who are emotionally unavailable. They might also have a fear of abandonment if their father left their family when they were young, afraid that a partner will leave in the same way that their dad did.

I'm angry and irritable and I don't know why. Has this ever happened to you? Below is an article from psychology today explaining why but listen to the epi for an audio explanation AND how to get over it!--https://psychcentral.com/blog/angry-all-the-time-for-no-reason-this-might-be-why/By Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.Maybe you feel angry regularly. You’re irritable, short-tempered and grouchy. Maybe you snap (or want to snap) at everyone around you — because your anger feels like a tsunami. It’s bound to crash into something. Yet you don’t know why you feel this way. You have no clue why you’re so on edge.Where does this unexplained anger come from? What does it mean?There may be many different causes. One explanation is that you have weak boundaries. You say yes when you really want to say no. You do things for others that you don’t feel comfortable doing. You’re constantly drained and depleted.But you might not make the connection, said Julie de Azevedo Hanks, Ph.D, LCSW, owner of Wasatch Family Therapy and author of The Assertiveness Guide for Women: How to Communicate Your Needs, Set Healthy Boundaries, and Transform Your Relationships. “[You] may just think that people take advantage of [you] and not realize that [you] have a part in that dynamic.”Or maybe you aren’t getting enough sleep or you’re drowning in to-do lists. Which makes it “more difficult to access [your] emotional coping skills,” Hanks said.Maybe it’s depression. “There seems to be a misunderstanding that depression is crying all of the time and not getting out of bed.” However, increased irritability is a common symptom, Hanks said.Maybe it’s anxiety. “Individuals with high anxiety often feel on the verge of overwhelm because they have to work so hard to manage their own internal emotional state.” So when a challenging situation arises, you might be maxed out, which manifests as anger or a short fuse, she said.Psychotherapist Rebecca Wong, LCSW, sees many individuals and couples who are angry because of relational issues. That is, they’re angry with their spouse, kids, parents, friends or coworkers. For instance, maybe they’re angry because they feel invisible or like they don’t matter, said Wong, founder of connectfulness counseling.Maybe you expected your best friend to support you, but they didn’t. Maybe you expected your spouse to help out more around the house. “That’s where, if those buttons are pushed enough, often enough, you could flip into a state of anger without even knowing why.”Anger also “stems from wanting to control what is outside of us,” said Michelle Farris, LMFT, a psychotherapist in San Jose, Calif., who loves helping people learn how to manage anger and build healthy relationships. Years ago, Farris worked with a young woman who realized that focusing on what others did triggered her frustration.Sometimes, you might not feel angry at all. Rather, your actions might be passive-aggressive, and you might feel resentful. Many of Hanks’s clients who have “anger issues” actually don’t let themselves express their anger.For instance, Hanks worked with Cindy (not her real name), a woman in her 30s who seemed cheerful and positive—and exhausted. Cindy was an excellent caretaker and had great empathy for everyone (but herself). She has two kids with disabilities. Her husband rarely helped. He either disconnected from the kids or exploded at them. Cindy worked very hard to keep everyone happy.(continue reading on the link...)

Olivia and Kc work through a breakdown when they both wake up on the wrong side of the bed... Just because your day starts off crappy and unhappy, doesn't mean it has to stay that way. Check out this video to see how these two work through their anger and resentment at one another.

Do you hate your ex? And why? Do you want to get over it? KC and I talk about our ex's, our relationship wit them and how to get past that anger and resentment! Below is an article from PsychologyToday for more info!---https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-dance-connection/201403/the-real-reason-you-cant-stop-hating-your-ex---The Real Reason You Can't Stop Hating Your ExHow to get past the anger, even years after a breakup.--When we’re first betrayed by someone we relied on to love and protect us, we may be frightened by our own rage. Years or even decades later, we may be frightened of letting go of that anger. We may resist moving forward because we are not yet ready to detach from our suffering.It’s not that we take some twisted masochistic pleasure in feeling like the “done-in” partner, though we may come to wrap pain and suffering around ourselves like an old, familiar blanket. More important, staying angry and “done in” can be our way of taking revenge—of showing the other person how deeply they have harmed us through their outrageous behavior. Moving forward in our lives may feel akin to forgiving the transgressor, and saying: “Well, I’m doing well now, so I guess your behavior didn’t hurt me that much.”Then there’s the fantasy that if we hang onto our justified rage and suffering long enough, the other person will finally see the light, realize how much they have harmed us, and feel as bad—perhaps even worse!—than they have made us feel. It is a powerful and comforting fantasy. But it is just that—a fantasy. If that person who harmed you hasn’t “gotten it” yet, they never will.Some of us may be afraid to let go of our anger because, in a strange way, it keeps us connected to the person who has hurt us. Anger is a form of intense (albeit negative) attachment, just like love. Both forms of emotional intensity keep us close to the other person, which is why so many couples are legally divorced, but not emotionally divorced. If you can’t talk on the phone or be in the same room with your ex-spouse without feeling your stomach clutch, then you’re still attached.Detaching can provoke great anxiety—and require enormous courage.When we let go of our anger and suffering (which does not necessarily include forgiveness) and begin to allow joy into our lives, an odd thing may happen: We may temporarily experience anxiety and a sense of “homesickness” with every move forward, because with each step taken on our own behalf, we are taking emotional leave from a relationship that was officially terminated long ago.When we leave anger behind, we give up the dream that the person who harmed us will ever feel remorse, see things the way we do, or come back to us on their knees, pleading for another chance.I don’t mean to imply that we hold onto our anger because we consciously want to show the other person how totally they’ve screwed up our lives. Nor are these feelings completely in our control. We don't just decide one day, “Gee, I think this would be a good time to let go of my anger and suffering."As I say in The Dance of Anger, we rely on this emotion to preserve the very dignity and integrity of the self. Anger is not a “bad” or "negative" emotion. It can take great courage to acknowledge and express anger. But it requires just as much courage to free oneself from the corrosive effects of living too long with anger and bitterness—a challenge that may include forgiveness but does not require it.What’s clear is that nothing is served by ruminating about the terrible things your ex did to you, and making yourself miserable in the process, while the person who harmed you may be having a fabulous day at the beach.

Olivia and KC get vulnerable over their most recent breakdown. Olivia is attached to her story "I don't understand you", and KC tries to take the moral highroad. See how Olivia and KC work through their relationshit.

Olivia and KC work through their most recent breakdown. KC makes a comment that he would "be ok as a stay at home dad". Olivia interprets this as KC doesn't have enough ambition. Check out the video to see how the two of them work through this weeks breakdown.

Why don't we have the same sex we used to? Oliva and KC give their insightful response because they know this is an issue many couples have encountered including THEMSELVES past and present. Tune in to see what the experts have to say.

After running this podcast for over 6 months, Olivia and KC decided it was time to put together a formal introduction video outlining who they are, what they do, and most importantly WHY they do it.

Olivia and KC have been quarrelling over differences in political opinions for the past few weeks. During their trip to Vermont this past weekend, the couple had to get off of their SHIT in order to overcome a potential relationship BREAKER. This episode recaps everything Olivia and KC had to see and own-up-to about THEMSELVES in order to get back to a free, fun, and powerful relationship. You don't wanna miss this one!

What is the secret truth behind why some partners end up cheating on their significant other? is it because one partner is just stressed out? They're just not committed to eachother? While a quick google search will provide these results, the answer we have isn't listed anywhere that we could find. So, the truth might not be the answer you are looking for, it probably won't be what you expect, but we promise it will offer you new insights into this behavior. Check out the episode to find out more.Visit us on YouTubeCheck out our InstagramCheck out our website!

Utilizing their personal experience, Olivia and KC break down what being in a weak (powerless) relationship looks like, what a powerful relationship looks like, and they offer a couple pointers on how to create a powerful relationship with your partner and what it looks like.---check us out on IG: @relationshithappenspodcastsign up for couples coaching on our website: www.relationshithappens.com

Olivia's abuelo just passed away and KC is there to comfort her, but what is there to say or do? How do you help your partner when they are grieving? How do you be there for them? Listen to our quick epi on the topic or check us out with a video component on YouTube!

Olivia and KC discuss the strongest tool they use which has solved every single breakdown, problem, or disagreement in their relationship. The key is simple, but it's implementation requires a commitment to the long-term success of the relationship and a lot of humility. No, it's not admitting when you're WRONG! It is far more empowering than that, leaving your relationship with your partner full of freedom, lightness, and fun. Check out this video to see what it is!

KC and I do it and the majority of couples we know ALSO do it. Make sure you catch it before it's too late!---When I was 17yo, I was a thick-thighed, vibrant, loud, Latina-type of girl and always wanted to be wanted by the reserved, cool, white-lacrosse-boy-type because they were never into ME ("and if they were into me, THEN I'd finally be sexy" - my story/internal dialogue) but, they were into no-thigh-touching, blonde haired Kristins (Kristin, if you're reading this, I'm not talking about you, I'm talking about the other Kristins). ---We carry baggage around with us and it can be heavy. Baggage is our past relationships or our past experiences and instead of leaving it in the past, we unknowingly and readily bring it to our present life, in many areas, too! But the most come out with our partners. ---Check out how this episode unfolds and how this "story" and baggage that I've carried around shows up in OUR relationship!

Email us YOUR RelationShit stories at relationshithappens@gmail.com so we can roast bae *ahem* we mean, give advice...you may not like it, but we promise, it'll help. IG: @relationshithappenspodcast--Indian Matchmaking is Netflix's newest hit and KC and Olivia have something to say about Aparna and her relationship (or lack thereof). We're not here to be dicks - we're here to tell it how it is and sometimes, the truth may hurt #lizzo. This isn't exactly a roast, but more of some pro-tips for Aparna, or any other Aparna out there, that if implemented, could really change the gameeee for them!--https://www.oprahmag.com/entertainment/a33370336/where-is-aparna-now-indian-matchmaking/Oprah Mag goes into the deets here: Aparna Shewakramani of Indian Matchmaking Doesn't Want to Change for Love: The Netflix star opens up about the truth behind those memes.Aparna Shewakramani, a 35-year-old lawyer from Houston, is a stand-out cast member of the Netflix show Indian Matchmaking.--She worked with with Sima Taparia, a Mumbai-based matchmaker, to find love. In an interview with OprahMag.com, Aparna opens up about Indian Matchmaking, her ongoing search for love, and her life as a reluctant Netflix star.--It's fair to say that Aparna Shewakramani of Netflix's Indian Matchmaking didn't exactly know what she was getting into when, standing in line to board an airplane, she filled out an application to be on a dating show.--"I saw on Facebook that a friend of a friend had posted the casting. Are you South Asian? Are you looking still for your spouse? And I was like, Well, I am both of those things. I applied in line. Didn't even think about it," Aparna tells OprahMag.com.Two weeks later, a casting agent got in touch with Aparna. And two years later, that show, Indian Matchmaking, landed on Netflix, rendering Aparna a near-instant internet star.Since Indian Matchmaking's release, Aparna and her sound bites—instant memes, every single one—have become a major fixture of coverage. She's blatant about her likes (traveling abroad, not needing to see her future husband all the time) and dislikes (beach vacations, spectator sports, children at weddings). While working with matchmaker Simi Taparia, Aparna is similarly unapologetic about her standards and specific desires—men with senses of humor or podcasts need not apply. And when faced with Sima's ever-present suggestion to compromise, change, or contort entirely to find a husband, Aparna has a ready response: She'd rather not, thank you.Aparna's strong sense of self has garnered her admirers, including fellow Indian Matchmaking cast member Nadia Jagessar, who called her a "boss babe" on Instagram. Similarly, Indian Matchmaking's Ankita Bansal recently expressed a feeling of camaraderie with her co-star. "She reached out to me and was like, 'I loved how you and I are both working toward breaking down a stereotypical South Asian expectation of what women need to sound like in this process,'" Aparna says. But in an unexpected twist—at least for Aparna—it's also rendered her the target of online vitriol and criticism.Essentially, Aparna has become a living litmus test, allowing viewers to evaluate their own beliefs on how a woman should approach the search for a partner. Is she, as Sima implies, a stubborn, picky woman whose high expectations will leave her lonely? Or is she the show's unexpected hero, someone who would rather be true to herself than be instantly likable to suitors? Or, is there some middle ground? The 35-year-old lawyer, who moved to the U.S. from India as a child, tells OprahMag.com that she agreed to Indian Matchmaking for one reason—and it wasn't to be crowned with online notoriety, or to spark debates, or to be an emissary of the arranged marriage process for Netflix viewers.

KC and Olivia talk about sex and men while in a relationship - what's normal? What isn't? We found this article from Psychology Today that may be helpful in addition to our video! https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/bl...1. Sex begins in the body. While women’s desire for sex may be prompted by their mind, memory, or emotional feelings of connection, for men desire is physical. Men have massive amounts of testosterone coursing through their bodies, pushing and driving them toward sexual expression. Erections spring at the slightest provocation in young men. And for an adult man, seeing his wife or partner coming out of the shower naked causes his body to react. It is hard to overestimate the way his body chemistry directs his mind’s psychology toward the sexual.2. For men, sex is a hunger.Yes, he wants to be full. But his craving for sex is like a craving for chocolates: Each sexual episode holds the exquisite possibility of a surprise-filled confection — maybe creamy smooth, or buttery rich, perhaps a little raw and bittersweet, or silky sweet. His mind is captivated by the thought of an opportunity to feel delighted and surprised. A day is hardly complete without dessert. Yet, the context of the relationship — for instance, a fight with his wife — can still spoil his appetite.3. Sex is energy. Sexuality infuses a man’s intimate relationships with potential and excitement. The hormonal energy gives him the drive and aggression to pursue his life’s purpose and work and to pursue his partner. He pushes through daily monotony, tantalized by the fantasy of a sexual reward at the end of a hard day.4. Sex is excitement. It’s life most thrilling adventure. His body is a great pleasure machine that he’d like to enjoy at full throttle. Since orgasm is usually reliable and easy, a variety of sexual acts, positions, and rhythms seem to be a fantastic way to explore and elevate his gratification. Every flirtation, smile, innuendo, shapely figure, or sexual image, whether fantasized or real, is a hit on the male brain. His brainwaves spike with elation just at the hint of something or someone reminding him of sex.5. Sex is the way he gives love. The moment his partner gets turned on is often the moment men describe as most sexually satisfying. It’s baffling to men when they are called selfish because of their preference for sexual connection. In their hearts, there is an expectation of mutual, exquisite bodily pleasure. He often concocts and fantasizes about how to make it better for her, begging for information about her erotic desires, just so he can improve as a lover.6. Sex is love. Sexual release makes men feel like they are finally home. After the world’s hurts and challenges, sex embodies love and care and provides soothing and support. While he may be accused of “only wanting sex,” most men want and feel a much more emotional connection than a simple bodily release. Making love literally creates a deep feeling of attachment to his partner and spurs relational generosity, faith, and optimism. Being desired by his partner can be the single most reassuring part of his relationship.While most women may wish for an emotional connection before having a physical connection, for men sexual connection is often necessary to feel safe enough for emotional vulnerability. Ultimately, male sexual drive in a relationship is a gift — it’s another path toward love.

KC and Olivia are at Trader Joe's and Olivia sees a hot girl, points it out to KC, and then gets upset. Does this sound familiar? Does your boyfriend look at other girls? Do your girlfriend get upset whenever your eye naturally wanders? Why is this? Is it from insecurities? Check out our episode today about why you're not feeling 100%, you'll be taking it out on your partner.

KC and Olivia are judging each other because they are feeling some type of way about their 3 new subscribers (*insert LMAO emoji here*). And now that we're YouTube Famous, we're freaking the fuck out. We're each trying too hard for you (our viewers) and trying to be the coolest we can be but in reality, we're being fake AF. Don't get roped into our bull shit (if you can smell it) but even more importantly, don't get pulled into YOUR own bull shit. Keep it real, keep it authentic. Own up (take responsibility) for your small behavior and how you've been acting and hold yourself to a standard you can be proud of.

Buckle up, this weeks episode is short, but packs a bunch. We talk about a topic which we believe most couples are afraid to tell discuss with their partner... STALKING your ex's social media profiles. There are a couple reasons why you or your partner might be doing this... but maybe it isn't a reason you need to get insecure. Listen in to find out why.*Also on a side note, we took this video from our youtube which has some edits which might not make sense with just Audio, but don't worry it won't take away from the meat of the episode! Please enjoy!

Olivia has beef with Dan Bilzerian, yes, it's true. But only kinda. Dan Bilzerian has 17 girlfriends at all times and all of a sudden, after listening to KC's FAVORITE podcast (besides ours), the Joe Rogan Experience, Olivia became a 'crazy girlfriend'.Do women have to change and soften their emotions to become 'less crazy'? Or is there another solution. Also, why IS Olivia having some wild emotions right now? Is it her hemorrhoids or is she making KC wrong again?Do you get upset if your partner doesn't understand you? What if they don't agree with you on a hot and debatable issue? What do you do? How do you act and feel? And, most importantly, how do you diffuse arguments? How do you diffuse fights? How do you feel better after you and bae have an argument? Find out here at RelationShit Happens!---www.relationshithappens.com where KC and I offer straight-forward, down to earth couples coachinghttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/relationshit-happens/id1505539914https://open.spotify.com/show/1TCAoKuoAdeNSnfHTAqEi9

KC tells Olivia that she's unattractive. What kind of boyfriend is he?? She should probably dump his ass. But...she doesn't. Because there's something to uncover here. AND, this was his internal dialogue, not reality. Do you have mean thoughts about your partner? Ones that if you shared, you'd get your testicles smashed? It's ok, so do we. But this is how we handle it. Are you big enough to try it in your relationship? We were, so we think you are too :)

In this weeks Episode, Olivia and KC run through the 4 biggest challenges they've encountered in their relationship this past year. Using experience, KC and Olivia illustrate the challenges and obstacles they've encountered and offer some insight for potential areas of growth.

In this week episode it is KC and Olivia's 1 year anniversary. They broke down how they knew in the first week that they were the ones for each other and how they continue to create love and freedom. Olivia and KC demonstrate what their communication looks like and the power within it.

In this week episode, Olivia and KC talk about the negative impact expectations can have on relationships and how to work through this as a couple so that both partners can be free and present.

KC and Olivia authentically unpack their fight of the day, sharing why they are fighting and how they are overcoming it. This episode is off the cusp and isn't scripted, having you feel like you're right there with them in their breakdown, and then finally, get to see their breakthrough around the issue! Olivia shares how frustrated she is with how 'slow' the episode is going, and KC offers support by reminding her that it's because their episodes aren't scripted! KC shares how he's distant and irritated with Olivia, but really, that's all coming from a place of inadequacy on his end because he took a 2 hour nap! When you feel discontent with yourself, it often falls upon your partner and they get the brunt of the breakdown.

In this weeks episode, KC and Olivia powerfully work through a common challenge in relationships- Olivia is making KC "wrong" in seemingly everyway possible. Join us to see how we work through this breakdown.