Carlie's Couch

In a world that constantly tells us to “sell it,” “post it,” and “turn it into a brand,” it can be hard to just enjoy something for the joy of it. This week, Carlie & Lex talk about the pressure to monetize your skills and passions—and why it's okay to keep some things just for you.Watch this episode on YouTube

Is doing things for the haters or to prove people wrong a bad thing? This week on Carlie's Couch, we explore the concept of letting naysayers fuel our dreams, how not to let our motivations be driven by others, and discuss ways to let go of the need to prove ourselves to others.Watch this episode on YouTube

What is discretion; and why do some people seem to have none? This week on Carlie's Couch, we're exploring the quiet superpower of discretion: knowing what to share, when to share it, and when to keep things to yourself. Whether it's online oversharing, messy group chats, or telling too much too soon, a lack of discretion can cost you peace, privacy, and power. We're unpacking how to practice it, why it matters, and how choosing silence can sometimes be the loudest move you make

Why do certain people get under your skin? This week on Carlie's Couch, we're talking about the idea that what triggers you in others might be reflecting something unresolved in yourself. From jealousy to judgement to comparison and discomfort; we unpack how dislike can be a powerful tool for self discovery. Tune in as we explore how to turn irritation into insight and walk through an exercise to better understand what your reactions are trying to show you about youWatch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/q77UAtJ11Sk

You say you want to be successful, loved, and celebrated, but are you actually allowing yourself to be seen? This week on Carlie's Couch, we're unpacking the fear of being perceived, why so many of us hide our true selves, how it keeps us stuck, and what it looks like to finally stop shrinking. If you've been playing small, this one's for you.

In this episode of Carlie's Couch, we ask a big question: do the choices we make every day—what we eat, who we date, how we work—reflect how much we love ourselves? We talk about how self-love shows up (or doesn't) in every area of life, and how taking stock of our patterns can reveal where we're thriving and where we might want to choose better. Tune in for a thoughtful conversation on aligning your life with deeper self-respect and care.Watch this episode on YouTube

What's the status of your mental health? How do you know when something is off or different with you? May is Mental Health Awareness month. This week on Carlie's Couch, we discuss signs to pay attention to when you're feeling off and our most impactful tools and tips to take care of y-o-u.Watch this episode on Youtube

Kegels aren't enough! Everyone should be paying attention to their pelvic floor. This week we speak with Dr. Josephine Duncan licensed pelvic floor physical therapist and founder of Functionally Flawless Design who merges her clinical expertise with her creative vision to empower others to thrive in both body and space. Follow her on socials, ask questions, and learn more about thriving physically and in your space at ⁨@functionallyflawless⁩ and @functionallyflawlessdesign on IG.Watch and subscribe to our YouTube!

How do you know when you should take a pause? Life can be stressful, let's add to our self-regulation toolkit. This week, Carlie & Lex discuss tips to notice when you're dysregulated, how to build resilience, and breakdown Dr. Dan Siegel's “flipping your lid” model for emotional regulation to help you get back to equilibrium.

This week on Carlie's Couch, we're unpacking the power of exposure, the difference between building courage and overwhelming yourself, and whether action can really quiet anxiety. Tune in for honest stories, surprising insights, and tools for moving from fear to freedom.

We've all been there — expecting more from someone who keeps letting us down. In this episode of Carlie's Couch, we unpack why we keep ordering things that aren't on the menu, what it reveals about our own needs, and how to start managing expectations with more clarity and compassion. Let's talk about choosing peace over disappointment.Watch this episode on Youtube

It's not “if” you're going to fail, but “how” you fail. This week on Carlie's Couch, we explore 5 practical steps to help you reframe your outlook on failure and discuss how we can all fail better.Watch this episode and subscribe on YouTube!

When was the last time you let yourself enjoy the peace of doing nothing? This week on Carlie's Couch, Carlie & Lex explore the importance of dilly-dallying, the scientific benefits of being present, and ways to be more intentional about rest, mindfulness, and disconnecting.Watch this episode on Youtube

What if you didn't have to be who you think you are right now? In this episode of Carlie's Couch, we explore the Tomorrow Man Theory—the idea that every choice you make today shapes the version of you that wakes up tomorrow. With the Spring Equinox as a fresh start, we're breaking out of fixed identities and stepping into the power of small shifts that create big transformations. Tune in and start showing up for your Tomorrow Man, todayWatch this episode on YouTube

Does being humble mean shrinking yourself? Can you have humility and still be wildly successful? This week on Carlie's Couch, we're unpacking what humility really is (and isn't), how it impacts success, and why true confidence and humility go hand in hand. If you've ever struggled with balancing self-assurance and staying grounded, tune in and learn how humility can help you without downplaying your greatness.

Do you have a strong sense of purpose, or are you still figuring it out? In this episode of Carlie's Couch, we dive into what purpose means, why it's linked to fulfillment and longevity, and whether everyone is meant to have one. We also explore how life experiences, values, and personal strengths shape our purpose—and whether making money from it should be the goal.Watch this episode on Youtube

Fear can either protect you or keep you stuck—but how do you know the difference? This week on Carlie's Couch, we explore how fear shows up in our bodies and minds, the key questions to assess whether it's keeping you safe or just comfortable, and how to push through when it's holding you back. Tune in to learn how to reframe fear, challenge self-doubt, and take small steps toward growth.Watch this episode on YouTube

Are you really in control of your attention, or is it being spent for you? This week on Carlie's Couch, we break down the quote “Where you spend your attention is where you spend your life” and take an honest look at whether our focus aligns with our values. Tune in as we explore the attention economy, how to reclaim your time, and simple ways to be more intentional with your most valuable resource—your focus.Watch this episode on YouTube

Why do we sometimes feel stuck in achieving goals or making manifestations work? Could competing beliefs be the silent culprits? In this episode of Carlie's Couch, we discuss competing beliefs, how they sabotage progress, and practical steps to resolve them.Watch this episode on YouTube

“I know.” Do you, really? Knowing everything, or having a closed mindset, keeps you from growing and learning. This week, Carlie & Lex explore how being a know-it-all and having a fixed mindset is holding us back and discuss actionable ways to open our minds to curiosity and new possibilities.

“Those who don't ask for anything deserve everything,” —a quote highlighting the honor and self-sufficiency of someone, or a quote to keep people from asking for more? This week on Carlie's Couch, we explore the origin and implications of this quote and the deeper importance of learning to ask for what you want and advocate for yourself.Watch this episode on youtube

What's your conflict language? In this episode of Carlie's Couch, we explore the five conflict management styles—competing, avoiding, accommodating, compromising, and collaborating—breaking down when and how each one works best. Tune in to discover which “conflict animal” you relate to and how understanding these styles can improve your relationships.

In this episode of Carlie's Couch, we dive into the topic of body image and explore how to reclaim and improve the way we see ourselves. From embracing self-love to learning to appreciate our bodies at every stage, we discuss practical ways to nurture a healthier relationship with our physical selves.Watch this episode on YouTube

If you want to change the world, start with yourself. Let's start with empathy. This week on Carlie's Couch, we get a better understanding of empathy, its importance, and share actionable ways to strengthen your empathy muscle. If you're looking for resources to help or receive support to LA fire victims, please check out this spreadsheet from Mutual Aid LA Network.

What does it mean to live with romance as a way of life? This week on Carlie's Couch, we explore how infusing care, beauty, and intention into everyday actions can enhance your relationships, uplift your experiences, and make life feel more fulfilling. Tune in as we discuss why romance isn't about money, what holds people back, and how to embrace it in your own unique way.Watch this episode on YouTube

The end of the year is always a great point of reflection and opportunity for growth. This week, Carlie interviews La Niecia' Vicknair, or Coach LaLa V, Owner of Thrive Health Lab and Nike Wellness Trainer, about how to know when it's time to let go in business and relationships, the art of pivoting, and getting in alignment. Watch this episode on YouTube!For additional New Year's manifesting and planning you can check out episodes:276: How to Write Your Life Manifesto224: New Year, New Me?120: Creating Space in Your Life

The holidays are a beautiful and celebratory time of year, but they can also be chaotic, stressful, and heavy. This week, Carlie and Lex explore practices and tips to take care of yourself and protect your peace from exhaustion and burnout, familial stress, grief, loneliness, and overspending.

More love, more life, more birthday blues? Our birthdays are a reminder to celebrate the gift of life we've been given. This week as we celebrate Carlie's birthday on the Couch, Carlie & Lex reflect on the range of emotions, reflections, and even the birthday depression that can set in around our solar rotations. We might even discuss some great ways to celebrate yours! Tune in and celebrate with us.Watch the full episode on YouTube!

An often celebrated and revered personality trait, hyperindependence is actually a trauma response. This week, Carlie and Lex dive into the impact hyperindependence can have on your life and relationships, ways to recognize it in your own life, and steps to help heal through it.Watch the full episode on Youtube!

We all think we are logical and operating from a very informed and intentional place, but all of us are operating under biases that inform our lives, perception, and decision-making. This week, Carlie and Lexi dive into 3 of the most common biases, how to recognize them in your life, and how they might be impacting your life and relationships: confirmation bias, sunk cost fallacy, and the actor-observer bias.Watch this episode on YouTube

We've all heard of and experienced triggers, but what are glimmers? This week, Carlie & Lex explore glimmers—tiny moments of joy and connection that bring calm and positivity to your day. Introduced through Polyvagal Theory, glimmers help regulate your nervous system, cultivate optimism, and build resilience. Tune in as we share how to notice, savor, and create these micro-moments of light in your life!Watch this episode on YouTube

When is what you're working on “good enough” to share? How do you navigate the frustration of your art not living up to your vision? This week on Carlie's Couch, we unpack the gap between talent and taste, exploring why it exists, how to embrace imperfection, and why releasing work into the world—even before it feels perfect—is crucial for growth. Tune in to discover how letting go of perfectionism can fuel progress and creativity.Watch this episode on YouTube

In this week's episode of Carlie's Couch, we break down a simple, actionable 5-step process to help you stop putting things off and start taking action. Tune in to learn why we procrastinate, the impact it has on us, and how these steps can help you feel lighter, more accomplished, and confident in tackling even your toughest tasks.Watch this episode on YouTube

This week on Carlie's Couch, we dive into the powerful and often overlooked practice of truly feeling your emotions instead of overthinking them. If you've ever felt stuck in your head, questioning and analyzing every feeling, this episode offers a fresh, actionable approach. Join us as we break down a 3-step process to help you rewire your emotional habits, let go of the mental spiral, and create more freedom in how you experience life. Whether you're dealing with stress, self-doubt, or just want to understand yourself better, this episode gives you practical tools to start feeling instead of overthinking.Watch this episode on YouTube

In this episode of Carlie's Couch, we explore the subtle ways insecurity shows up in our behaviors, from perfectionism and hypersensitivity to clinging and competition. Carlie and Lex dig explore “sneaky signs” of insecurity along with their personal reflections and tips for recognizing and addressing them. Tune in and get ready to embrace self-awareness, build confidence, and shift toward a growth mindset.Here's the article that sparked this episode: https://www.rd.com/list/signs-youre-actually-insecure/

Our society is focused on doing, achieving, goals, hustle, and making it happen, which can lead to stress, overwhelm, and feeling unfulfilled. We never stop to enjoy the moment and can miss out on ourselves. What if there was a way to achieve more and be intentional and present enough to actually enjoy it? Good news is, there is! This week on Carlie's Couch, we explore the mindsets of being vs doing and how we can practice a better approach of being while doing in our everyday life.Watch us and subscribe on YouTube!

In this episode of Carlie's Couch, we explore the transformative power of vulnerability and how opening up leads to deeper, more fulfilling relationships. Learn practical tips for breaking down emotional barriers, embracing authenticity, and living a life that feels full and genuine. Tune in for personal insights and actionable steps to help you start showing up as your true self.Watch this episode on YouTube

In this episode of Carlie's Couch, we're diving into the beauty of relationships that cross generational lines. From the wisdom gained from older friends to the fresh perspectives offered by younger ones, we'll explore how these unique relationships enrich our lives in unexpected ways. Watch this episode on YouTube

In this episode of Carlie's Couch, we explore how the scarcity mindset affects more than just your bank account. From staying stuck in unfulfilling jobs or relationships to the fear of missing out and holding back from new experiences, scarcity can keep you from living fully. Tune in as we uncover the subtle ways this mindset shows up and how to break free for a more abundant life.

In this episode of Carlie's Couch, we dive into the difference between busyness and productivity, and how constant busyness often leads to stress without real progress. Learn practical tips for shifting from frantic, scattered tasks to intentional, focused work that reduces stress and creates more meaningful results. Tune in for strategies to help you work smarter, not harder.Watch this episode and subscribe on YouTube!

Is taking the path of least resistance the easy way out? Or the best way forward? In this episode of Carlie's Couch, we're exploring the concept of the path of least resistance—what it means, how you can apply it in your life, and the impact it can have on your personal growth and decision-making.Watch and subscribe on YouTube!

Have you ever found yourself feeling nervous that you might have said too much? Vulnerability is the key to connection, but what is the line between truly connecting and oversharing? This week on Carlie's Couch, we explore true connection with others, discuss the differences between vulnerability and trauma dumping, and share how to practice better discernment.Watch this episode on YouTube

Is there an inverse relationship between consumption and creativity? Some suggest that the more we consume, the less we create—or that our creative output suffers in quality. This week on Carlie's Couch, we dive into the link between consumption and creativity and share tips on how to be more mindful and intentional with what we take in.Watch this episode on YouTube

Children naturally live in a state of joy. As we grow older and the world gets more real, it can be a challenge to stay connected to that joy. In this episode of Carlie's Couch, we explore joy as a practice, how to intentionally cultivate it, and the transformative impact of centering joy in your life.Watch this episode on YouTube

In this episode of Carlie's Couch, we explore the fascinating world of gut health and its profound impact on your overall well-being. From understanding the gut-brain connection to decoding terms like leaky gut, we dive into how your gut influences everything from digestion to mental health. Tune in to discover practical tips for maintaining a healthy gut and why it's essential for both your body and mind!Watch this episode on YouTube

In this episode of Carlie's Couch, we explore the impact of likability on personal and professional success. Is being likable the key to getting ahead, and does being right matter if you're not liked? We discuss the balance between likability and competence, the importance of cultivating likability, and how it may reflect inner peace. Tune in for practical tips and insights on navigating the complexities of likability in everyday life.Watch this episode on youtube!

Often we hear “if they wanted to they would,” but would they? Is this a true statement, or does this not allow people space to be human? In this episode of Carlie's Couch, we cover different perspectives on the statement, psychological insights, personal experiences, and practical advice.Watch this episode on YouTube

In this episode of Carlie's Couch, we unpack Mel Robbins' transformative “Let Them” theory and how it can revolutionize your relationships and self-perception. Discover why letting people show you who they really are—and responding accordingly—can lead to deeper connections, enhanced self-awareness, and reduced stress. Tune in for practical tips on implementing this mindset in both personal and professional settings, and learn how to set boundaries and focus on what you can control. This candid conversation promises to bring more peace and empowerment into your life.Watch this episode on YouTube

What do you do when you accomplish what you've been working for and it isn't what you'd thought it would be? This week on Carlie's Couch, we sit down with entrepreneur, non-profit founder, mental health and wellness advocate, and former NFL Super Bowl winner Taurean Nixon about knowing when to pivot, how to find and build yourself, meeting success halfway, and the importance of being respectfully selfish.Show up for yourself this week first, then follow Taurean and his team at Standstill.tea, support his non-profit Respectfully Selfish, and follow his adventures on Instagram.Watch and follow us on YouTube!

Are you using your words to build or destroy? To create a personal heaven or a personal hell? This week on Carlie's Couch, we explore the first of Don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements: Be Impeccable With Your Word and how to apply it realistically in your life.Watch this video on YouTube!

“The degree to which a person can grow is directly proportional to the amount of truth they can accept about themselves without running away.” Fact or cap? This week, Carlie & Lex explore if truth is the key to personal growth and discuss the relationship between truth, self-acceptance, and personal growth.