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Fear is our most basic emotion. Simply put, fear is our internal guidance pointing out what might harm us so that we can stay safe. We commonly think of it in terms of fight, flight, or freeze. All three of these responses are designed to shield us from danger. We fight to defend ourselves, we run away (flight) to avoid it, and we freeze so that the threat can't see us. When tapping for fear, we usually use reframes around if something is truly dangerous to try to turn off the fear if there is no actual danger. This is a great start, but deciding whether or not something is really dangerous only scratches the surface. If we stop there with our tapping, we may be missing valuable detail. This week in the podcast, I explore the next level down: magnitude and probability.  By adding these ideas to how we assess our fears we can deepen the healing and transformation available to us through tapping. If you are experiencing fear, anxiety, or resistance to taking action, then you will love this approach. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone |  Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio   

Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio  | YouTube You sat down to tap and nothing changed. If tapping is not working for you right now, I want you to know two things: this is normal, and there is a specific process you can follow to break through. In my 18+ years as an tapping practitioner, I have walked hundreds of clients through exactly this moment, and what I have learned is that getting stuck is not a sign that tapping has failed you. It is information, and that information has a use. Key Takeaways Every round of tapping produces one of three outcomes: you feel better, the intensity increases, or nothing changes. Two of those three are direct signs of progress, and the third gives you useful information about what to do next. When tapping seems to make things worse, it means you are tuning in more accurately to what was already present beneath the surface, not that tapping caused new distress. A six-step process (tap on the frustration, release the all-or-nothing mindset, explore the downside of healing, find the upside of staying stuck, do one minute of wordless tapping, then return to the original issue) reliably breaks through stalled rounds. Hidden "secondary gains" from staying stuck are one of the most common reasons tapping stalls, and most people are completely unaware they exist until they ask the right questions. Even if the original issue does not resolve immediately, working through this process removes the stress and pressure of being stuck, which often creates the clarity needed for a breakthrough. Three Outcomes You Can Get from Any Round of Tapping Every round of EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) produces exactly one of three results, and understanding all three changes how you respond when progress stalls. The first outcome is the one we all hope for: you tap and you feel better. Your distress drops, your body relaxes, and you are moving in the right direction. You can stop there or keep going to deepen the relief. The second outcome is that your distress actually increases. This feels like tapping is making things worse, but it is not. I will explain why in the next section. The third outcome is that nothing changes at all. The number does not move. This is the one that makes people question whether EFT works, whether it works for everyone else but not for them, or whether their particular issue is beyond tapping's reach. But "nothing changed" is not a dead end. It is a signpost, and the six-step process below is how you read it. Why Feeling Worse After Tapping Is Actually a Sign of Progress When intensity rises during a round of tapping, it means you are tuning in more sharply to what was already there, not that tapping created new pain. Think of it this way. You have a knee injury, and you go through your busy day barely noticing it. You get home, sit on the couch, exhale, and suddenly your knee is throbbing. Sitting down did not injure your knee. Resting gave your body the space to send you the pain signal it had been trying to deliver all day. Key insight: "Resting is not putting you in more pain. It is bringing attention to the issue that is already there. The same thing is true emotionally." The same thing happens when you retell a frustrating story to a friend and feel your anger rising with each sentence. Telling the story did not create the anger. It reconnected you with emotion that was already stored in your system. So if you tap and the intensity spikes, that is not pleasant, but it means you are closer to the real issue. And being closer to the real issue means you are closer to relief. If you have ever finished a session and felt unexpectedly sad or emotionally raw, that same principle applies. I explored exactly this in Episode 695: Why Do I Feel Sad After Tapping?, which walks through why post-session emotional shifts are signs of progress rather than problems. What Does It Mean When Tapping Produces No Change at All? When a round of tapping produces zero shift, it means something specific is blocking the path forward, and that block can be identified and addressed. In my experience, the block usually falls into one of two categories. Either a part of you has decided (outside your conscious awareness) that healing is risky and staying stuck is safer, or you have not yet tuned in with enough specificity to reach the real issue. Both of these are solvable. You do not need to know which one is operating before you begin. The six-step process below addresses both. The key reframe here is this: "nothing happened" is not the same as "tapping does not work." It is the same as "I need more information." And that information is available if you ask the right questions. If your sessions have been stalling for a longer stretch, Episode 648: What to Do When Your Tapping Transformation Feels Slow or Stuck goes deeper into diagnosing a tapping plateau when the stall has lasted weeks or months. Step 1: Tap on Your Frustration About Tapping Not Working The first step is to tap on how you feel about the fact that it did not work. This is the step most people skip, and skipping it keeps them stuck. You sat down with hope. You did the thing. It did not deliver. That produces real emotions: frustration, disappointment, embarrassment, maybe even a sense of betrayal if tapping has worked for you before and suddenly stopped. Those feelings are now sitting on top of whatever you originally wanted to address, and they will interfere with every subsequent round until you clear them. So before you go back to the original issue, do one round on the meta-experience. "Right now I feel...." This is not a detour. It is clearing the road. Step 2: Let Go of the All-or-Nothing Healing Mindset The second step is to acknowledge that healing is a process, not a single event, and to tap on the pressure you are putting on yourself to get it all done in one round. Key insight: "Healing is not all or nothing. It is a process, and it is okay that it is a process." When we unconsciously treat healing as a binary (either I am fixed or I have failed), a single round that produces no visible change feels like proof of failure. That framing creates enormous internal pressure. Tapping on "even though I want this to be done right now, and it is not done, and that feels like failure" releases the grip of that all-or-nothing thinking. It gives you permission to be mid-process. This expectation trap is one of the most common things I see derail people's tapping practice. I dedicated a full episode to it in Episode 674: The Myth of the One Big Tapping Breakthrough, which explores why expecting a single dramatic shift often prevents the steady progress that is actually happening. Step 3: Explore the Hidden Downside of Healing The third step is to ask yourself a question that sounds counterintuitive: what goes wrong if I actually heal this? This is one of the most powerful questions in all of EFT, and the answers can be startling. I was working with a client who had chronic physical pain, and we were making zero progress. When I asked her what would go wrong if the pain healed, her answer broke my heart. Key insight: "She said, 'Everybody who is in my life is in my life to take care of me because of my injury. If I heal, I am no longer injured, and they are all going to go away.'" Of course her system was blocking the healing. At an unconscious level, healing meant losing every meaningful relationship in her life. That is not irrational. That is protective. Once we tapped on that specific fear, the original pain began to shift. Your version of this might be less dramatic, but the principle is the same. If any part of you believes that healing carries a cost (lost identity, lost relationships, lost excuses, new responsibilities), that part will pump the brakes. Asking the question out loud brings the hidden cost into the open where you can tap on it directly. The fear that tapping might actually work is more common than people realize. Episode 668: When You're Afraid Tapping Might Work goes into depth on exactly this dynamic and how to address it. Step 4: Find the Hidden Upside of Staying Stuck The fourth step is the mirror image of Step 3: ask yourself what goes right if you do not heal. The downside of healing and the upside of staying stuck sound like the same question, but they surface different answers. The downside of healing focuses on what you lose. The upside of staying stuck focuses on what you get to keep. For example, maybe healing a pattern of procrastination means you would actually have to finish the project, put it into the world, and face potential criticism. The upside of staying stuck is that you never have to risk that exposure. You get to keep your free time, your safety, and your comfortable routine. This is not a moral judgment. These hidden benefits are real and they are human. Tapping on them directly ("even though part of me likes staying stuck because it means I do not have to put myself out there") is what allows the system to release its grip. Episode 664: Does Staying Stuck Keep You Safe? explores this exact territory in depth, including how the nervous system can interpret staying stuck as a form of protection worth defending. Step 5: Do One Minute of Wordless Tapping After completing the first four steps, set a timer for sixty seconds and tap from point to point without saying anything at all. Wordless tapping is a technique where you simply move through the EFT tapping points (top of head, eyebrow, side of eye, under eye, under nose, chin, collarbone, under arm) in sequence without any setup statement or reminder phrase. You have just given voice to a lot of material: frustration, all-or-nothing thinking, hidden costs, hidden benefits. Now you let your system process it without directing the conversation. Think of it as giving your nervous system a minute to sort through everything you just stirred up. In my experience, this brief pause often produces more integration than another verbal round would. If you find that you often struggle to know what words to use during tapping, Episode 672: How to Tap When You Don't Know What to Say covers a range of approaches for tapping without the right words, including why wordless tapping belongs in every tapper's toolkit. Step 6: Return to the Original Issue with Fresh Eyes After completing the first five steps, tune back in to the issue you originally sat down to tap on and notice what has changed. In many cases, the original issue will already feel different. Sometimes the intensity has dropped without you directly tapping on it, because the real block was one of the hidden layers you just addressed. Sometimes the issue now has a sharper, more specific quality, which means you are finally tuned in to the actual target instead of a vague approximation of it. Key insight: "Even if you are not making progress on the original issue, you are eliminating all the stress, all the overwhelm, and all of the pressure about being stuck, which is going to make you feel better. And when you feel better, there is often extra clarity about what is in front of you." Either way, you are in a fundamentally better position to tap effectively than you were before you started this process. Why This Process Works Even When the Original Issue Persists This six-step process works because it addresses the real reason tapping stalls: unrecognized emotional layers sitting between you and the target issue. When you clear the frustration, the perfectionism, and the hidden gains of staying stuck, you remove interference that was quietly blocking every round you attempted. Even in cases where the original issue does not fully resolve in that session, you have made genuine progress. You feel less stressed about being stuck, which is its own meaningful outcome. In over 18 years of working with clients and producing nearly 700 episodes of the Tapping Q&A Podcast, I have seen this pattern repeat hundreds of times. The people who learn to treat a stalled round as information rather than failure are the ones who get the deepest, most lasting results from EFT. Frequently Asked Questions How many rounds of tapping should I do before deciding it is not working? Give any single approach at least two to three focused rounds before concluding it is stalled. A single round may not be enough to fully tune in to the issue, so a lack of immediate change after one round is not yet a sign that tapping is not working for that topic. Can tapping make anxiety or emotional pain worse? Tapping does not create new distress. When intensity rises during a round, it means you are becoming more aware of emotion that was already present but suppressed. This increased awareness is a sign of progress, not harm, and continued tapping typically brings the intensity down. What is wordless tapping and when should I use it? Wordless tapping means moving through the standard tapping without speaking any setup statement or reminder phrase. It is useful as a processing step after several verbal rounds, giving your nervous system time to integrate what you have addressed. What is secondary gain in EFT? Secondary gain refers to the hidden, often unconscious benefits a person receives from remaining in a stuck or symptomatic state. Examples include avoiding new responsibilities, maintaining relationships built around caretaking, or preserving a familiar identity. Addressing secondary gain directly through tapping is often the key to breaking through a plateau. Why does tapping work for other issues but not this one? Different issues carry different layers of emotional complexity and hidden resistance. An issue that will not budge often has a secondary gain or a deeper fear attached to it that has not yet been identified. The six-step process in this article is designed to surface exactly those hidden layers.

One of the reasons we resist taking action is that some actions simply can't be taken back. Our subconscious mind keeps us stuck because it's trying to figure out the perfect thing to do, but because the future is unknown, it's impossible to be certain. This leads us from thinking about the best choice, to stalling on making a choice, to things getting worse because we aren't doing anything at all (which is itself a choice). This kind of cycle can happen with any decision, but it's particularly likely when you're facing a choice between two options that both have downsides. When you're in that situation, the resistance is going to be higher because it feels like no matter what you choose, you lose. This week on the podcast, I share a simple tapping process that will help you take action, especially when you're faced with two choices that both feel bad. If you use this approach, not only will you break through resistance, you'll also be much happier with the choices you make. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio  | YouTube

Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone |  Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio  If you have ever finished a round of EFT tapping and felt a wave of sadness wash over you, you are not alone. Feeling sad after tapping is one of the most common experiences people report, and it is also one of the most misunderstood. That sadness is not a sign that tapping failed or that something went wrong. It is actually a signal that genuine healing just took place. Gene Monterastelli, EFT practitioner and educator with over 17 years of experience and host of the Tapping Q&A Podcast (690+ episodes), explains exactly why this happens and what to do about it. Key Takeaways Post-session sadness after EFT tapping is a grief response triggered by the sudden recognition of time and opportunity lost to the issue you just healed. Sadness after tapping does not mean tapping is not working; it means a shift has occurred and your system is processing what could have been different. The most effective response to post-tapping sadness is to acknowledge and witness it with additional tapping rather than trying to push through it or reframe it away. Left unaddressed, this sadness can become a subconscious barrier that prevents you from tapping in the future because your system associates tapping with feeling bad. Understanding the mechanism behind post-session sadness removes its power to interrupt your healing practice and actually deepens your tapping work. Why Sadness After Tapping Catches People Off Guard Most people expect to feel better after tapping, not worse. When you sit down for a round of EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques, a stress-reduction method that combines gentle tapping on acupressure points with focused statements), the reasonable expectation is relief. So when sadness shows up instead, it feels like a contradiction. This expectation gap is what makes post-tapping sadness so disorienting. You did the work. You followed the process. You may have even felt a real shift on the issue you were addressing. And then sadness arrives, seemingly out of nowhere, and the natural conclusion is that something went wrong. "It can feel like tapping's not working because you feel bad afterwards. The reality is that sadness is the sign of healing and transformation." Gene Monterastelli, EFT practitioner and host of the Tapping Q&A Podcast. The confusion deepens because most people categorize sadness as a negative emotion. If healing is supposed to feel good, then feeling sad must mean the healing did not happen. But that logic misses what the sadness is actually pointing to. What Causes Sadness After a Round of EFT Tapping? Post-tapping sadness is a grief response, and it follows a very specific and logical pattern. When you successfully clear a limiting belief, release a stored emotion, or heal something that has been holding you back, a new awareness opens up almost immediately. Your system recognizes that the thing you just transformed could have been transformed sooner. Here is how the sequence works. You tap on an issue. The issue shifts or clears. In that moment of clarity, you can suddenly see all the time, all the opportunities, and all the actions that were lost because you carried that issue for as long as you did. The sadness you feel is grief for that lost time. "What you immediately start to do is you immediately start to grieve all of the time, all of the opportunity, all of the action that was lost because you had been impacted by the thing that you had just tapped on." Gene Monterastelli. This is not a malfunction. It is a completely natural response to a real loss. The moment healing happens, the contrast between "life with this burden" and "life without it" becomes painfully clear. Is Sadness After Tapping a Sign That EFT Is Not Working? No. Sadness after tapping is evidence that something genuinely shifted. If nothing had changed, there would be nothing to grieve. The sadness exists precisely because healing occurred and your system can now see what that burden cost you. Think of it this way: if you had been carrying a heavy backpack for years without realizing it, the moment someone lifts it off your shoulders, you would feel the relief. But you might also feel a pang of frustration or sadness about all the miles you walked while unnecessarily weighed down. That frustration does not mean removing the backpack was a mistake. This distinction matters because misinterpreting post-tapping sadness can create a real obstacle. If you believe tapping made you sad, your subconscious mind files that away. The next time you consider tapping, a quiet resistance shows up: "Last time I tapped, I felt terrible. Why would I do that again?" Over time, this can erode your willingness to tap at all. Understanding the actual cause of the sadness, which is grief over lost time rather than a failure of the technique, breaks that cycle before it starts. How Post-Tapping Sadness Can Become a Barrier to Healing Left unexamined, post-session sadness creates a feedback loop that works against your tapping practice. The pattern looks like this: you tap, you feel sad, you associate tapping with feeling bad, you avoid tapping in the future. This is one of the more subtle ways people stop tapping without ever making a conscious decision to quit. It is not that they decided EFT does not work. It is that their system learned to avoid the discomfort that followed the last session. The avoidance is automatic, not deliberate, which makes it harder to catch. Gene describes this as a subconscious concern that builds quietly. You might not even articulate it as "tapping makes me sad." It might just show up as a vague reluctance, a sense that you do not feel like tapping today, or a pattern of finding reasons to skip sessions. If you have noticed your tapping practice fading without a clear reason, unprocessed sadness from previous sessions may be part of what is happening. How to Tap on Sadness After an EFT Session The most effective approach to post-tapping sadness is to address it directly with more tapping before moving on. Rather than pushing through it, ignoring it, or treating it as a problem, give the sadness its own round. Gene recommends a three-part process for working with this sadness: Acknowledge the emotion. Start tapping on the side of the hand and name what is happening out loud. "After doing that tapping, I feel a lot of sadness." Simple recognition without judgment. Acknowledge why the emotion exists. Connect the sadness to its actual source. "This sadness is here because my system recognizes that I could have healed this sooner. It is pointing to the time and opportunities that were lost." Expand the context without dismissing the feeling. This is not about talking yourself out of sadness. The loss is real. Instead, you are adding information. "Just because healing sooner could have been better, it does not mean healing now is bad. The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is today." If the sadness is still present after one round, simply return to the beginning of the sequence and work through it again. Each pass through tends to soften the intensity. Why You Should Witness Sadness Instead of Reframing It Sadness requires a different approach than many other emotions you might encounter during tapping. With anger, frustration, or fear, reframing and transformation are often appropriate. With sadness, the most powerful thing you can do is simply witness it. "Sadness is something that we don't reframe and transform. Sadness is something that we witness and we acknowledge, which expands the canvas, gives us more context, and helps us to move on." Gene Monterastelli. This distinction is important. Sadness, at its core, is the acknowledgment of something valuable that has been lost. When you try to reframe genuine grief, you are essentially telling yourself that the loss does not matter. But it does matter. The time you spent limited by old beliefs or stuck emotions was real. Honoring that reality is what allows you to move forward. Witnessing sadness means you hold space for it, tap through it, and let it run its course without trying to convince yourself that you should not feel it. The result is not that the sadness disappears instantly. The result is that the sadness no longer has the power to stop your healing process in its tracks. What Post-Tapping Sadness Tells You About Your Healing When you reframe post-tapping sadness as information rather than a problem, something shifts. That sadness is telling you two things: first, that real healing just happened, and second, that a part of you wants more healing and wants it sooner. "Even though it feels like sadness, which can feel bad and heavy and gross, it is a sign that the healing has worked. And it is a sign that there is a part of us that wants more healing and sooner healing." Gene Monterastelli. That is worth sitting with. The very part of you that feels sad is the part that recognizes the value of what just happened and wants to keep going. It is not a saboteur. It is an ally with an uncomfortable delivery method. When you clear the sadness with a round of tapping, two things happen. First, you create space to continue your session and work on what comes next rather than stopping mid-stream. Second, you dissolve the subconscious association between tapping and feeling bad, which protects your long-term willingness to keep tapping. If you want a daily practice that builds this kind of momentum, the 365 Tapping Lessons journal offers a bite-sized structure with a short teaching, one round of tapping, and a reflection question each day, designed to move you from knowing about tapping to actually tapping consistently. Frequently Asked Questions Is it normal to cry after tapping? Yes. Crying after EFT tapping is a common and healthy emotional release. It often signals that stored emotions are surfacing and moving through your system, which is a sign that the tapping is reaching the deeper layers of the issue you are working on. Does feeling worse after tapping mean it is not working? No. Feeling temporarily worse, including experiencing sadness, fatigue, or heightened emotion, often indicates that tapping has activated something significant. The discomfort typically comes from processing a shift, not from the technique failing. If the feeling persists, it usually means there is more to tap on rather than a reason to stop. Why do I feel drained or exhausted after EFT? Emotional processing takes energy. When tapping clears a long-held belief or stored emotion, your system may need time to integrate the change. This is similar to the fatigue you might feel after a deep therapy session or a major emotional conversation. Rest, hydrate, and give yourself time. Should I keep tapping when sadness comes up? Yes. The most effective response is to pause your original topic and do a round of tapping specifically on the sadness itself. Acknowledge it, name its source (grief over lost time), and gently expand the context. Then return to your original issue once the sadness has softened. How long does post-tapping sadness usually last? For most people, one or two targeted rounds of tapping on the sadness itself is enough to move through it. The intensity tends to diminish quickly once you recognize what the sadness is actually about. If it lingers for days, that may indicate a deeper grief that deserves its own focused attention. Can tapping bring up emotions I was not expecting? Absolutely. EFT often surfaces emotions that have been stored beneath the issue you set out to work on. Sadness, anger, fear, and even relief can show up unexpectedly. This is not a sign of a problem. It is your system showing you the next layer that needs attention. What is the difference between sadness from tapping and a healing crisis? Post-tapping sadness is a specific grief response tied to recognizing lost time and opportunity. It is focused, understandable, and resolves relatively quickly with acknowledgment. A healing crisis typically involves a broader intensification of symptoms across multiple areas. If you are unsure, work with a qualified EFT practitioner who can help you navigate what is coming up.

The perfect time to tap is in the moment, when you are overwhelmed with emotions…and it is also the hardest time to remember to tap. That's mainly because remembering to tap in the midst of strong emotions is difficult, but it is not the only reason. The second, powerful reason why you don't tap in the moment has everything to do with how you were taught to tap. When most of us learned to tap, we were told that we "need to be as specific as possible". This is excellent advice, so much so it is now scientifically valid advice . The problem is not the advice, it is how our subconscious hears this advice.  What we say is "be as specific as possible". What our subconscious hears is "tapping only works if I am specific." In the midst of overwhelming emotions it is hard to be specific, so the subconscious resists tapping at all because it doesn't think it will work. Listen to this week's podcast to learn exactly how I overcame this subconscious resistance, which was something I faced too. Implementing this one idea will not only get you to tap more in the moment, it will also super charge any other tapping you do. This concept transformed how I tap AND how I think about tapping. I know you will love it.  Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio  | YouTube

One of the conundrums of tapping is the fact that you tap because you want to feel better, but you aren't as good at tapping when you feel bad because you are in a lower resource state. To put it another way, when you need tapping the most, you are the least effective version of yourself as a tapper. But just because you aren't at the peak of your tapping abilities does not mean you are destined to fail when you sit down to tap. This week in the podcast, I share a simple game plan where I teach you: what you can do ahead of time to tap effectively when you feel bad the first thing you should tap on when you don't feel great the second thing you should tap on right after that how to continue your tapping session to get the most out of it Having a plan for those times when you're not at your best is key for getting help when you most need it. And the best time to learn this is right now! Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support   Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio  | YouTube  

It is all too common for tappers to look back at their path to healing and think, "What on earth was I doing? I know better than that! Why do I keep making bad choices when I know exactly what to do?" This comes up most often in my individual coaching sessions when my clients talk about reaching for distracting behaviors instead of tapping. They know at the moment that the best choice would be to tap, but instead they doomscroll social media, fall down YouTube rabbit holes, reorganize their spice rack (again), or mindlessly eat a bunch of unhealthy crap. Annoyingly, this does make sense, taken from the perspective of trying to keep themselves safe. Actor and writer Tom Lennon described it perfectly in an interview by Kevin Pollak on a book tour. When Kevin asked if he liked to write, Tom said something to the effect of, "You will know I have a writing deadline coming up because my kitchen floor will be so clean you could perform surgery on it." We do not choose distractions because we are weak, or because we believe they are the best choice. We choose them to feel more comfortable at the moment. The problem is that, in hindsight, we only see that we could have made a healthier choice. When I find myself in these moments, I don't tap to stop the unhealthy behavior. I actually do the opposite! I tap to do the unhealthy behavior, but the key distinction is I am choosing to do it consciously. When we move from being unconscious to a conscious awareness of our distracting behaviors, we regain control. And with control we can spend less (or even no) time on distracting behaviors and we don't beat ourselves up. In this week's podcast I am going to show you: How to catch yourself in the moment right before you unconsciously start doing the healthy action How to tap with compassion in the moment, without letting yourself off the hook How to tap so that you constrain (and often eliminate) the unhealthy behavior It is an unusual but incredibly powerful form of tapping. I know you will love it! Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support [player] Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio  | YouTube Watch a video version on YouTube

If you are tapping, it almost always means you are focusing on something negative, like challenging emotions, physical pain, difficult times from your past, or limiting beliefs. This makes a lot of sense because tapping is a powerful tool for bringing about change and transformation. But just because tapping is great at responding to life's difficulties does not mean it's the only way to tap. Tapping for celebration is another great use for tapping that most of us miss. As we celebrate seventeen years of the Tapping Q&A Podcast this week, I share with you why you are missing out if you are not tapping while celebrating. The podcast covers how tapping for celebration: Accelerates your healing Encourages you to tap more Changes the way you feel in the moment beyond just relieving pain or discomfort You may not have experienced this type of tapping before, but after this episode, you will want to use it much more often! Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support [player] Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

When most of us first learned tapping we were taught to be "as specific as possible" when coming up with tapping phrases. This is sound advice, which is backed up by scientific research. But your success with tapping relies on more than just the words you say and what you focus on when you are tapping. How you feel in the moment has just as much impact on your tapping success. And when I say "how you feel" I don't mean the emotions you are feeling in the moment that you are tapping on. Rather, I am referring to every part of your resource state. Your resource state includes whether you are tired or rested, if you are sick, if you are in a quiet place where you can focus, if you are well hydrated, and when you last ate, to name just a few. It is something that most tappers miss and failing to take your resource state into account when you are tapping could be setting you up for disappointment and frustration. This week in the podcast we explore: How to assess your resource before you start to tap How to create realistic expectations for your tapping How to improve your resource state in the moment so you can get more out of your tapping Once you understand how your resource state impacts your tapping, it will be easy for you to transform both your expectations and your resource state. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

One of the most powerful tools in the healing and transformational tool box is having clear goals. This is true in big picture ways, such as what I would like to achieve this year, and small picture ways, such as what I would like to get out of this next round of tapping. I believe in this idea so deeply that in my Tapping Mastery Blueprint I teach the first thing you should do before starting to tap is to ask yourself the question "What is the goal of this round of tapping?" Although goals are powerful, sometimes they can get in the way of your healing and transformation. This happens when your goals are too big for the moment. Too much pressure and expectation can become measuring sticks for failing, killing off your motivation. This week in the podcast I share: How goals and expectations can hinder our progress How to spot when this is happening to you How to tap to release feelings of frustration and failure This is not about radically transforming your tapping goals, but how to recalibrate them in such a way that you tap more and get more out of each round of tapping. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support= Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

One of the concepts I talk about daily with my clients and students is that the goal of tapping is a proportionate well informed emotional response. In most cases this is a process of giving the emotions space to be heard and understood. Once we know where the emotional response is coming from it creates the space for use to heal, transform, and create a proportionate well informed emotional response. One of the reasons why we love tapping is because it is so good at helping us to do exactly that. With that being said, sometimes it is best for us to not feel our emotions. I know that might sound a little bit radical, but whole heartedly believe it. This week in the podcast I explore the times when it is healthy and useful to tap in a way in which we aren't clearing our emotions, but instead we are putting a lid on them (for now). Even if you are skeptical of this idea, I would encourage you to give this tapping a try and then decide if it is a good fit for your healing journey. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

One of the most frustrating experiences around personal healing and transformation is when we know what we need to do, how to do it, have everything we need to take action (including time and energy), really want to take the action...and then we don't. When this happens, we feel we have failed and let ourselves down, and might even decide we are unworthy of healing and transformation because we have failed and "can't be trusted". There is a simple reason this pattern keeps appearing in your life: Your inner child is running the show. As a child you were not in control of what you did, when you did it, who you did it with, what you wore and ate, when you went to bed, and the list goes on. Today, when you decide you want to do something healthy, your inner child screams "I don't wannaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!" Now that you are an adult, supposedly in control of your actions, your inner child ends up in the driving seat and getting its way. This week in the podcast I will show you how to tap to get your inner child on board so that you can stop being your biggest obstacle to success. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

Seeing others succeed can be a powerful source of inspiration. Once we know something is possible for others, then it also becomes possible for us. Take the sub-four-minute mile for example. At one point, it was thought impossible for a human to run a mile in less than four minutes and that pushing so hard would cause the runner's heart to explode. On May 6th, 1954 Roger Bannister was the first person to run a sub-four-minute mile. Less than six weeks later John Landy not only ran a sub-four-minute mile, he beat Bannister's time. Something went from being impossible, to being done, to having other people doing it. While it can be encouraging to see others enjoy success, sometimes that becomes a tool for us to beat ourselves up emotionally. We see that we are working as hard, if not harder, than others and yet we are not having success. This can lead us to question our effort, our ability, or whether success is even possible for us. Other people's success just highlights our own failure and we feel defeated rather than encouraged. This week in the podcast we tap for those times where we feel we have failed because we aren't having the same success as those we see around us. If you have ever felt like you are working as hard (if not harder) as the people around you and there must be something wrong with you because you are not getting the results you want, then this week's podcast was recorded just for you. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

One of the most common teachings in healing and personal transformation is the value and importance of gratitude. So much so that the idea of establishing a "gratitude practice" for yourself feels commonplace. The power of experiencing thankfulness and gratitude is unquestionably powerful. It can impact the way we feel in the moment and it can transform the way we act. The problem is that most people don't talk about the dark side of practising gratitude. To be clear, I am not saying there is an issue with the feeling of gratitude, but instead that establishing a regular gratitude practice can bring up emotional distress that gets in the way of healing and transformation. This week in the podcast I share the hidden pitfalls of a gratitude practice and how you can move yours from feeling like a chore to something that nurtures your healing and growth. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube  

One of the most common reasons people do not tap more is because they don't know where to start. Feeling uncertain produces a subconscious hesitancy because our subconscious is worried that we will waste time and energy going in the wrong direction. This isn't a conscious thought, but a background resistance that creates two problems. First, we don't tap as often as we would like. Second, we then beat ourselves up for not tapping because there is no clear and obvious reason why we aren't tapping. This week in the podcast I share with you a simple two-step process that will take you less than 45 seconds. Try it out to get more out of each round of tapping and to help you to tap more. The process will: create focus for the round of tapping provide guidance on what to tap on next show you when you are done guide you in planning for future tapping rounds This is a transformative process and I feel confident that once you see its power, you will use it every time you tap in the future. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

The start of a new year feels like the perfect time to reset and refocus. This often takes the form of New Year's resolutions. There is a great power in making a clear statement about what you want and why you want it. The problem is (and I'm sure you have experienced this yourself), simply making a resolution does not guarantee success. That's why the first Friday of January is often referred to as Quitter's Day because it is when most people ditch their resolutions. Making the decision for a fresh start is not the problem. Thinking a resolution is enough is the problem. To achieve positive change in the new year we need a structure that supports our growth and clears any emotional resistance in the way of our goals. This week in the podcast I share a simple process that will shift you from toothless New Year's resolutions into creating meaningful change. Listen to learn how to create a compelling goal that you can buy into emotionally AND a simple process to help you to tap for all the resistance that comes up. Ten minutes of tapping a day will create a whole new world for you. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio  

Join us for the 5 Day Limiting Belief Challenge: http://ClearLimitingBeliefsChallenge.com On January 1st, I went live on YouTube with some tapping to start the new year off on the best foot possible. We tapped for: releasing what no longer serves us being open to grace and opportunity in the new year staying grounded in the moment, without being in a rush opening ourselves up to inspiration and growth in the months ahead and so much more... I hope you enjoy this tapping as you begin 2026. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio Watch The YouTube Version

In what has become a holiday tradition at Tapping Q&A, each year during the holiday season I put together a cozy tapping video. There are no words and you don't need to focus on an issue. Instead, just sit back, watch the roaring fire, and tap along. We did this last year and I was surprised at how well it was received. I knew a few people would like it, but I had no clue how popular it would be. The link to the video is below. Click play and just from tapping point to tapping point at your own pace. It is really that simple. Happy holidays to you and yours. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube  

The "fear of missing out" (FOMO) isn't just some clever internet meme. FOMO is a real issue and it impacts most of us. Because of the internet and social media, we are constantly aware of what is going on everywhere. This creates a number of problems. First, it creates a sense of compare-anoia where we are judging ourselves against everyone else. Then, after we feel bad for not having what others have, we try to fill the gap in our own lives. Unfortunately, time is a zero-sum-game and means that if you are doing one thing, you can't be doing anything else. This leads us to adding so many things to our lives that we are stretched too thin, overwhelmed, and aren't enjoying anything we are doing. This week in the podcast, I share a simple framework to help you to tap for FOMO in a way that makes you feel better in the moment and prevents it from showing up in the future. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube  

Whenever I hear the Andy Williams song "It's the most wonderful time of the year," I am immediately transported to my childhood, driving around town at night in the snow looking at all of the holiday lights. But the reality is, even in the best of times, the holidays can be overly busy and demanding. For many, it is actually a time of stress, overwhelm, and grief. In the last week alone, I tapped with seven different clients around holiday and family holiday issues. This week in the podcast we are doing lots of tapping for holiday stress. We tap for: 1:25 Being too busy and tired to enjoy the holiday 5:20 Grief and sadness that comes with the season 11:00 Stress that comes with spending time with difficult family members 14:55 Slowing down enough to experience blessings and joy This is one you are going to want to bookmark to help you through the coming weeks. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube  

I often joke with my clients and students that a part of all of us would like total, instant and eternal transformation every time we sit down to tap. It is good that we have high standards and want only the best. BUT, as we know, it doesn't always happen that way. A part of us also understands that healing is a process and sometimes it is healthiest and best for us when it unfolds slowly in order to take deep root. When thinking about transformation as a process, we often only consider the speed at which it happens or the number of steps involved. In addition to that, another factor impacts our rate of healing and that is the season that we are in. When I say "season" I don't mean spring or summer AND I don't mean the season of our life, as in being "in the autumn of your life" meaning that you are aging. Instead, we have seasons of growth, of healing, of rest, or of recovery, to name just a few. These seasons influence what type of healing we are able to experience at any given period in our lives. You already have a sense of this in your own life. For example, you wouldn't start a major kitchen remodeling project the week before you take a three-week European vacation. There is a time and a season for transformation. In this week's podcast, we explore what this means, how to determine what season you are in, and how to proceed with your tapping once you have clarity about this. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

As humans, one of the things we are very good at is naming everything that is wrong with our lives. On one level, this is a useful tool because it allows us to identify what we would like to change. The problem is that just because we know what we don't want, does not give us clarity about what we do want. Or, if we have clarity, it doesn't mean we know how to create it. Whenever we experience a lack of clarity around our goals, or how to achieve them, it creates mass resistance to taking action. This is because our subconscious mind doesn't want to waste time and energy pursuing something that might not work out. This week in the podcast, I share a straightforward but powerful tool that will help you to make progress towards whatever goal you are working on in a gentle and authentic way. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube  

One of the biggest obstacles to tapping is knowing where to start. This is especially true when we know we are feeling something, but we can't quite put our finger on what that is. We might feel heavy or unsettled, or there is just something there at the edge of our consciousness. When this happens it can be hard to tap. We might start tapping and then peter out because it is hard to focus on something vague. This week in the podcast I am sharing a straightforward tool that I use when I am not sure how I am feeling. It takes advantage of the Feelings and Needs Inventory from the Center for Nonviolent Communications. Although this tool is simple, don't underestimate its power. Download the Feelings and Needs Inventory free Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio  

One of the hardest phrases to say outloud is "I love and accept myself". The reason this phrase is so hard to say outloud is because we know ourselves. We know our failings. We know our mistakes. We know where we have fallen short. To say "I love and accept myself" feels like I am also accepting all of those failing and imperfections. Recently I was talking to my friend Brad Yates and we were talking about why self acceptance is so hard. He said something along the lines of "We believe if we just fixed ourselves then we can accept ourselves. It is the other way around, healing begins with self acceptance." Recently I have been trying a new self acceptance tapping practice. It is the single scariest tapping practice I have ever done. The idea came from a podcast interview with the rapper and musician MAVI done by Jesse Thorn on the podcast Bullseye. He talked about a practice had started doing where he was saying nice things about himself while doing something else. This "something else" takes self acceptance to a whole new level. For the last few months I have been doing this practice a few times a week while adding tapping. It is the single scariest tapping practice I have ever done. The first time I tried it I could barely do it for 30 seconds. This week in the podcast I share: What the practice is How it has transformed the way I see myself (in great ways) How you can do something similar without having to go to the extreme that I have Even if you don't try this, you are going to want to listen to this as it will help you to transform your relationship with yourself. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube  

One of the healthiest changes that has happened in the tapping world over the last decade is that we spend less time talking about the one-minute or one-session miracles. This sort of instant transformation does happen and it happens regularly. It just doesn't happen all the time! The reason I am happy that we no longer talk in those terms is because it creates unrealistic expectations for tapping. Assuming that tapping always works quickly means that when it doesn't, we think we are doing something wrong, or tapping doesn't work, or it won't work for our particular issue. Even with a healthy expectation of the speed of healing and transformation, we can still hold unrealistic hopes for a round of tapping or the healing process. This week in the podcast, we look at the rate of healing, how we can measure it to gauge whether we are on the right track and how to avoid creating unrealistic (and harmful) expectations. If you have a regular tapping practice, I highly recommend listening to this episode. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube  

As a tool, tapping is such a powerful way to tune in to our emotions. Feeling, processing, and moving through emotions is a key part of the healing and transformational experience. At the same time, there is a certain capacity to our emotional experience. Feeling deeply is a powerful part of transformation until it becomes too much. I have often heard my clients describing this experience like trying to drink from a fire hose. It is just too much, too fast. It can be scary and disorienting to feel completely overwhelmed in this way. After experiencing your emotions getting the better of you will mean that you learn to be on guard. It is good for us to be wary unless it means we become so cautious that we stop moving forward in our healing journey. This week in the podcast, I share with you what to do when the fear of being too emotional is holding back your healing. Using this process means you can strike a balance between not being overwhelmed and allowing deep and powerful healing to take place. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

You know you'd benefit from some tapping, so you sit down ready to get into it. You want it to work…but as soon as you start, your mind goes blank. You freeze because you can't think of the right words to use. After a few minutes, you give up, thinking you must be doing it wrong. This happens to everyone, even experienced tappers, and I want to reassure you that it does not mean you are bad at tapping. Why Your Mind Goes Blank Several things cause a freeze response. Feeling overwhelmed leads to mental shutdown. Trying to get it "right" creates performance pressure. Fear of going too deep triggers protection mode. Past experiences with scripted tapping have taught you that precision equals success. Your internal voice tells you: "I should know what to say by now. But if I don't have the perfect words, this won't work." This thinking is all wrong. Words Are Not the Magic The tapping itself is the power that creates transformation, not the specific words. Tapping works by calming your nervous system and changing how your body holds stress. Even neutral or vague words will activate the healing process. Your goal is presence, not poetry. What to Do When You Go Blank Listen to this week's podcast to learn the three simple approaches you can use when you sit down to tap and don't know what to say. All three approaches are easy to master and even if you learn just one, it will make a huge difference in the efficacy of your tapping sessions, how long you tap, and how often you tap. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

brutal truth nobody talks about in the self-help world: The healing and transformational work never ends. Every breakthrough just reveals a fresh layer of issues to be worked through. It would be wonderful if one day I was done, but I am open to the fact that it's an ongoing process. For me, the single toughest place in the transformational and healing process is when I feel like I am starting over again. And calling it tough is an understatement. Finding myself back at the beginning is frustrating, disappointing, demoralizing, devastating and, for me, the worst part is the shame I feel. My shame is because it feels like such a personal failing. I know what to do, I know how to do it, I was doing the work, and now that I am back at the beginning, there is only one person to blame: ME! This week in the podcast I am sharing what I've learned after years of experiencing this cycle myself and seeing it in my clients. It will shift your whole perspective, helping you to get your mojo back to do the work and reinforce all the work you have already done, so you don't end up in the same place again. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

When you have been through something hard, such as grief, trauma, or a season of disconnection in your life, it is easy to forget what wholeness feels like. You lose touch with the part of you that still knows peace, still feels love, and still remembers who you were before the story changed. In this episode, I talk with Sarah Tobin about what it means to remember yourself. Not in a vague or inspirational way, but as an intentional, embodied healing process. Sarah's journey with tapping began after the loss of her daughter. What followed was a deep and personal transformation that led her to write a book designed to help others reconnect with themselves. This is not just about feeling better, it is about living more truthfully. Sarah makes a clear case for tapping as a spiritual tool that is well beyond its use as a tool for emotional regulation. We explore how healing is both an act of self-compassion and a choice to take responsibility for your path forward. Key Takeaways From the Conversation: Tapping helps you come home to yourself Sarah explains how trauma creates layers of belief and protection that separate you from your core. Tapping helps release those layers so you can reconnect with what is already whole inside you. Your stories shape your world You can change them. Most of the beliefs you live by were created early and without your awareness. Sarah shares how to trace these beliefs back to their origin, question them, and choose something different. Ego is not your enemy Instead of fighting resistance, Sarah teaches people to invite the ego into the healing process. Tapping with the ego helps reduce fear and brings internal safety, which makes deeper change easier. Healing is your responsibility, not your fault This part of the conversation speaks directly to anyone who has blamed themselves for their pain. Sarah offers a more honest view. You did not cause your suffering, but your healing is something you have the power to choose. Grief and love can exist together Sarah's story is rooted in personal loss. Her book is more than a tool. It is a lived offering of what happens when you let your pain become a path to deeper connection and purpose. Sarah's clarity and presence offer something rare. If you have ever felt stuck in your healing or unsure how to move forward, this conversation gives you a place to begin. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube Guest: Sarah Tobin *Contact: Book - Tapping Into You: Transform trauma and rediscover your inner power through EFT; web TappingWithSarahTobin.com/ About: Sarah Tobin is an Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Therapist and Trainer, who works with her clients all over the world to help them release birth trauma, ancestral trauma, limiting beliefs and emotional blocks. She hosts corporate workshops teaching EFT as a self-management tool for stress, anxiety and overwhelm. Sarah also runs an online membership and community called 'Tapping into You', which supports over 100 members from Alaska to Florida, UK and Ireland with tapping videos, audio meditations, workshops, courses and more. She also hosts the Tapping into Podcast, which explores spiritual and alternative practices that can change lives. Sarah is passionate about helping her clients to tap into their true selves and find their path of personal growth and transformation. With the use of EFT, she helps people to reduce symptoms of anxiety, PND, depression, PTSD and physical pain. She also works with her clients to increase energy levels and improve sleep through the release of stress. ​Sarah believes in creating lasting change by combining powerful techniques with gentle compassion and unconditional love. Her mission is to empower her clients to become their own healers and create a life they truly love living.a

When you were first taught how to tap, more than likely you were asked to tune in to your issue in some form or fashion. You might have been asked to describe where you feel it in your body, what it reminds you of, or to rate its intensity on a 0–10 scale. These are all great ways for us to focus our attention, which improves the value of each round of tapping. While these ways work well, they all assume that we can identify an issue to tune in to, even if it is something small. But what happens when it feels like there is nothing to grasp? You know there is an issue but when you sit down to tap for it there is nothing to tune in to. There are no memories, no physical sensations, or anything at all. Sometimes we draw a blank, or even just feel numb. When this happens and we have no focus, it is much harder to start tapping. In this week's podcast I share how to start tapping when you are feeling nothing so that you aren't wasting your time or effort. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support [player] Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube  

I know this sounds strange, but you're not afraid tapping won't work. You're actually afraid it might. In this episode, I dig into a truth that has come up repeatedly in my conversations with clients and students. Even when we know how powerful tapping can be, something inside stops us from doing it as often as we could. That something, I've come to realize, is fear of change itself. It's not that we don't want to heal and to experience the change it brings. But even positive change feels uncertain and uncertainty feels unsafe to the subconscious, which is always on alert for what might go wrong. So instead of leaning in, we hesitate. We stay stuck. This week, I share a simple, powerful way to get underneath that resistance. It starts with just one sentence: Even though I know it's not logically true, emotionally it feels unsafe to be successful because... That single prompt can open up space where you feel stuck, even if nothing else has worked before. Not only do I explain how using the phrase is the key to unlocking our resistance to tap, we also do a bunch of tapping so you clear that resistance right now. If you've been meaning to tap more but just haven't been able to start, I hope this episode gives you the nudge and permission to begin again. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube  

One of the most common questions I receive is "Can we use tapping to help the animals we love?" The answer is a resounding YES! But in order for tapping to work well, we first need to know the most useful approach. Tapping for our animals isn't just a matter of looking at our animals and tapping. While that can be useful, there are better ways to get results. This week in the podcast, I am going to share with you the surprising place it's best to start when tapping for the animals in our lives. Then I will reach you with a simple three-step framework that I use every time I am tapping for animals. If you find this approach useful, please join me for a deeper dive into the topic on Sunday, August 3rd at 2 PM Eastern US. Full details and sign up here: http://TappingForPets.com Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

One of my favorite questions when interviewing someone about their tapping journey is, "If you could share one piece of advice with your younger self, what would that advice be?" For some reason I was reflecting on that question recently, not for someone I was interviewing, but for myself. The piece of advice that I would give to Gene-the-beginner-tapper would be to go more slowly. This week in the podcast, I share four different ways that I now move more slowly when I am tapping on my own or with clients. All four of them have transformed the way I tap for the better. Not only do I think these ideas would be useful for the younger version of myself, but I know that they will make your tapping more effective as well! Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support [player] Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube  

Finding a balance between taking responsibility for our lives and taking too much responsibility for what is going on is a tricky matter. Taking too much responsibility may seem like a silly notion, but it can happen in many ways. One of these ways is when we refuse to allow ourselves grace or forgiveness. We recognize that we have made a mistake and then, whether consciously or unconsciously, we decide that we are not allowed to get past it. As part of our penance we beat ourselves up, thinking it will lead to us making better choices in the future. When we think about the context of the mistake we think, "That is just an excuse. I should have done better!" It is possible for us to know that we could have done better AND to recognize the context at the same time. We aren't making an excuse when we do this, but we are giving an explanation. In this week's podcast, I explore the difference between excuses and explanations. Understanding the key difference between the two will help to find a path that includes both taking responsibility and offering ourselves grace. Not understanding the difference will keep us stuck. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support   Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube  

One of the ideas that really makes my clients bristle is the possibility that their self-sabotaging behaviors are guided by their system's well-meaning intention to keep them safe. They question, "How is it possible that my subconscious mind thinks it is trying to keep me safe when all it is doing is making my life harder?" That is a great question because it feels counterintuitive that our desire to be safe is actually holding back our progress. This week in the podcast, we explore why the subconscious mind gets in the way in trying to keep us safe AND the first step to overcoming this common issue. I believe that this is one of the most important concepts in all of tapping and if you aren't doing it, you are slowing your progress and also limiting your tapping results. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support [player] Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube  

For some issues, tracking progress is simple. I can tell if my desk is less cluttered, if I can lift more weight while working out, or if I am making more sales in my business. That is because these examples are measured in hard metrics, or in other words, cold, hard numbers. Changes that are measured in soft metrics are more difficult to track. For example, it is much harder to quantify growth in my self-esteem or confidence. Much of the transformation we are trying to achieve with tapping is measured in soft metrics. Because it is hard to measure, it can escape our notice and therefore is more likely to be missed. And that results in us thinking that change isn't happening at all, because we don't see it. This can undermine our healing and can demotivate us from tapping more. In this week's podcast, we explore three simple ways we can more accurately track soft metrics and recognize our progress. In turn, this leads to more tapping, which (most importantly) results in more healing and transformation. This understanding changed the way I tapped forever because it means I am tapping more, leading to more transformation. I believe these three measures are something every tapper should have in their transformational tool box. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support   Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube  

One of our biggest struggles in creating transformation and change in our lives is those moments where we know WHAT to do, we know HOW to do it, and we know WHY it is valuable to take an action…and yet we just don't. It is obvious what the next step is and for some reason we don't take it. Then, as a bonus, we beat ourselves up for not taking action. So as well as not moving forward, we feel bad for letting ourselves down. This week in the podcast we explore where this resistance comes from, how to overcome it and (just as importantly) we will tap for all the emotions that come up when we let ourselves down. If you are trying to create change in your life, then you must listen to this episode. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

One of Marianne Williamson's most cited quotes starts "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure." It is quoted so often because of how deeply it resonates, speaking directly to the contradiction that is part of our lived human experience. On one hand we want to live an authentic and rich life…on the other hand, our subconscious mind just wants us to be safe. This desire to be safe keeps us small because if we are small, then we aren't seen, and if we aren't seen, then we are safe. This week in the podcast, we explore the three biggest subconscious fears that keep us small and we do lots of tapping to clear those resistances. Description Libsyn & Wordpress Body: Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio  

Letting ourselves down is one of the deepest betrayals that we humans can experience. It feels like such a harsh gut punch when it is something we know we should have been able to do. After we let ourselves down in such a powerful way, our subconscious will do everything in its power, through resistance to take action so as to keep us safe. It reasons that since it was so painful to let ourselves down, the way to avoid that pain in the future is simply not to commit to something better. Intellectually we know this is a bad plan, but the resistance will persist, trying (and often succeeding) to hold us back. This week in the podcast we look at why we created this resistance, how to overcome it in the moment, and how to avoid it in the future. If you are serious about healing and transformation, clearing the resistance to making commitments to yourself is essential. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

The words change and improve are very close in meaning. While both are associated with transformation, they do not mean exactly the same thing. Improvement is about keeping something but doing it in a better way; change is about doing something in a new way. In the transformational arena we long for change, but in doing this we sometimes diminish the value of improvement. This week in the podcast, I explore the difference between these two ideas, when we should seek to improve or to change, and how best to bring these goals to our tapping practice. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube

Not all stress is created equal. There are those hyper stressful times, like driving on icy roads in a snowstorm at rush hour. It is super intense in the moment and then when it ends, it is over! Then there is the low-grade stress of something that is taking a long time and is hanging over your head. The example I think of from my own life is doing my business taxes. I'm not especially good at doing my taxes because I only look at the task once a year; it is also a big deal and if I make a mistake, there can be major consequences. This is a stress that is ever-present and feels oppressive, but is not all-consuming. It also doesn't last forever because at some point my taxes will be filed and I will be able to move on…until the next year! Finally, there is the type of stress that never seems to end. When thinking about this type of stress, I think about a postal worker sorting mail. No matter how hard they work, there will always be more mail coming down the conveyor belt for them to sort. There is the pressure of needing to get their task done quickly, because more mail is coming, AND there is the stress of there being no end in sight. Of the three types of stress listed above, the third is by far the hardest to tap for. This week in the podcast, I share with you how I tap for issues (not just stress) that will always be there. It works for stress, feeling overwhelmed, and persistent physical issues, to name just a few common issues. Because straightforward tapping doesn't work well for this type of stress, we are unlikely to tap for these issues because it feels fruitless. The simple process I share in this week's podcast is one you must know. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube  

One of the most consistent struggles my clients have is coming up with the "right" words. The problem is there is no such thing as the right words when it comes to tapping. Instead there are useful words and unuseful words. I am consistently surprised at some of the types of words that end up being useful. One such type of surprising words is when we are tapping on phrases that we intellectually know not to be true. When I ask my clients to tap on phrases that they know aren't true this is natural resistance. One on level it doesn't feel logical and on another there can be the fear that we are tapping in something bad or untrue. This week in the podcast I explore the power of tapping on phrases that we know intellectually are untrue and how to get the most out of doing exactly that. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

Grief is unlike all other emotions when it comes to tapping. Every other negative emotion is something we can step out of. I can stop feeling angry, frustrated, or overwhelmed. Grief on the other hand is something that we are going to feel forever. Twenty years after a loved one has died we are still going to feel pangs of grief. Instead of leaving grief, we have an evolving relationship to it and how we live with it. Because this is the case it requires a different approach when we are tapping. This week in the podcast I explore the unique nature of grief and how you can use tapping to heal our relationship to it. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio  

We often refer to tapping for stress and feeling overwhelmed as emotional first aid. That is because we are applying a tool for quick relief in the moment in the same way we would use first aid for a physical injury. But there is one key difference between first aid and emotional first aid. When we are physically injured, our first thought is "I need to take care of this right now!" When we need emotional first aid, we are so caught up in our emotions that we don't realize we need to do something about what we are feeling. Listen to this week's podcast to learn how to use tapping as an emotional first aid tool and how to ensure you reach for tapping in the moments you most need it. Because it doesn't do you any good to know how to tap for stress, but don't actually do it! Following these simple steps will ensure you tap more and short circuit stress and overwhelm promptly. Description Libsyn & Wordpress Body: Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support   Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

A number of years ago I was visiting my friend "Mike" and his family. Mike asked his youngest son, who was about five at the time, to tidy his room before dinner. His son replied, in the most overwrought and dramatic voice possible, "But whyyyyyyyyyyyy? I am just going to make it messy again!" I can relate! There are SO MANY tasks on my to-do list that I dislike doing and there are even some that I despise. In this week's podcast, I share some simple ways you can clear your resistance to doing the tasks you despise. I can't promise that tapping will make those tasks enjoyable, but you will get more done and you won't have those dreaded tasks hanging over you any longer. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio  

There is a huge difference between bouncing back from being tired and being exhausted. When we are tired, we simply need to refill our tank. When we are exhausted, we first have to recover from being exhausted before we can even consider refilling our tank. In this week's podcast, I share seven simple ways you can help yourself when you are feeling exhausted or emotionally drained. And the great thing about these seven ideas is that you don't have to do them all in order to bounce back. Instead, you can pick and choose the two or three that work best for you. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio  

One of the hardest parts of being a caring person is witnessing others in pain. When we see someone struggling, it feels natural to want to step in and help. With that being said, there is a fine line between being helpful and taking responsibility for someone else's suffering. This becomes doubly hard where emotional burdens are concerned. While we might be able to assist with practical struggles, we can't pick up someone else's emotional struggle. In this week's podcast I explore: Why we are prone to picking up other people's emotional burdens How to release these burdens without feeling unkind or selfish How to avoid picking up the emotional burdens of others in the future If you care deeply about others but often find yourself overwhelmed by their emotions, this episode is for you. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio