Tea And Talk: A Self Development Podcast

Hey Sweet Teas, I know I have been gone for a minute. I had this episode uploaded a while ago and then took it down. I am putting it back up as we have decided to move the platforms we use to Youtube primarily with live videos every Tuesday and Thursday on IG and FB. I hope you will forgive me for my absence and follow me on this journey. You will get to see and interact with the woman behind the camera more. I felt this was the next step necessary in this journey. So if you have been looking for me that is where I have been and will continue to be. This is the last episode of this kind. Please click the link below to follow me on my journey. I hope to see you all there!!!Linktr.ee/tafieastokes

Hey Sweet Teas,I'm so excited to announce that effective immediately Tea And Talk is moving to YouTube. Yes it is a major change for sure. There will be no more uploaded episodes on your current streaming platforms and instead we will be moving. I want to thank you all and hope you will join in this new journey. Click the link for the YouTube channel. Hope to see you there.Linktr.ee/tafieastokes

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What does showing up as the main character in your life mean to you? 1. I am in control.2. Being the main character is getting everything you want. 3. You write the plot twist.4. Don't be easily influenced by your surroundings. 5. Set your boundaries and be clear with them.6. Do what you do and love it.7. Be intentional with the decisions you make.8. Show up as 100 percent you each and every time. 9. Walk into spaces and take up space. I would love to hear what things you do to show up as the main character in your life.  Tea And Talk IG: @teaandtalksdTea And Talk Email: Teaandtalksd@gmail.com 

 So I know you are wondering well how do I do the basic prep to be the best wife I can. I have 12 tips (because 13 is unlucky and I didn't want this episode to be hella long lol)  1. Communication styles 2. Love language  3. Keep it in the marriage  4. Stop comparing  5. Construct your perfect marriage 6. Don't lose yourself  7. Prioritize sex  8. Give him space  9. Support his goals  10. Be his best friend 11. Don't criticize  12. Have fun   Tea And Talk IG: @teaandtalksdTea And Talk Email: Teaandtalksd@gmail.com 

12 Things To Do To Prep1. Demolish insecurities  2. Heal  3. Be mindful of those around  4. Be selfless  5. Learn how to say sorry 6. Stop posting  7. Be clear with your expectations8. Establish good habits 9. Set intentions These are some things I find important in prepping for marriage. I'd love to hear what is important to you when you are prepping for marriage.  Tea And Talk IG: @teaandtalksdTea And Talk Email: Teaandtalksd@gmail.com 

Burnout is when your body physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually can no longer adapt. How do you know when you are burnt out?: 1. Emotional numbness2. Detachment  3. Low creativity 4. Loss of purpose 5. You feel you are running no where6. You feel tired and fatigue7. Losing interest in things you love8. Low or no motivation9. Losing track of time 10. Loss of appetite11. Confusion What leads to burnout?: 1. Feeling underappreciated 2. Doing unfilling things 3. Not making time for yourself 4. Slow resultsTips in dealing with burnout: 1. Speak up and ask for help 2. Set boundaries with yourself 3. Self love4. Self careIf you have experienced burnout I'd love to know what tips and tricks you used to help you reset and heal from the burnout and what were the causes of your burnout. Tea And Talk Email:Teaandtalksd@gmail.comTea And Talk IG: @teaandtalksdTea And Talk Youtube: https://youtube.com/channel/UCvuZavE-KDKfP2EsxUILKZgVIDEOS COMING SOON...

Tea And Talk:A Self Development PodcastSexual HealingWhat we were told as young ladies was not our fault. It was not a reflection of us by any means and was most definitely a reflection of the ones who were telling us. "Don't wear that, you look too fast." "We are having company, cover up." "Stop switching and walking like you grown." Like what? This is the start of the sexual trauma that we experienced. It was from the people that thought they were helping but instead creating wounds for us to then deal with in adulthood.  Make sure to join the Tea And Talk email list. http://linktr.ee/tafiea.stokesJoin the Tea Party VIP Group for more Tea And Talk, early access to episodes, merchandise and more. http://linktr.ee/tafieastokesBe sure to leave us a review to help us get noticed even more. Share, comment and like.Find us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tafiea_stokes/

Tea And Talk:A Self Development PodcastBlack SheepThe black sheep is not so bad. What that says about you is that you are unique, you stand out and you don't run with the herd. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Embrace that shit. Do not allow anyone to tell you any different because they fit in. Don't let them shrink who you are, your creativity, your personality and the magnitude of YOU into a box that everyone can fit in. Keep being the black sheep and embrace that part of you.Make sure to join the Tea And Talk email list. http://linktr.ee/tafiea.stokesJoin the Tea Party VIP Group for more Tea And Talk, early access to episodes, merchandise and more. http://linktr.ee/tafieastokesBe sure to leave us a review to help us get noticed even more. Share, comment and like.Find us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tafiea_stokes/

Tea And Talk:A Self Development PodcastOver Ya HeadDo you notice that some people take your past or take what they do for you and then try to hold it over your head? It can be a way for them to brag or a way to manipulate into doing something for them.You have to be careful of who you allow into your life, who you tell your past to and who you allow to do you "favors" because you never know what their motive will be. Make sure to join the Tea And Talk email list. http://linktr.ee/tafiea.stokesJoin the Tea Party VIP Group for more Tea And Talk, early access to episodes, merchandise and more. http://linktr.ee/tafieastokesBe sure to leave us a review to help us get noticed even more. Share, comment and like.Find us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tafiea_stokes/

Reconnecting To Your PartnerJust because you get disconnected from your partner doesn't mean it has to be for an extended period of time. Keep it temporary and as soon as you notice it do whatever it is that you need to do to reconnect. Keep nurturing that relationship so that it continues to bloom and flourish on a daily.Make sure to join the Tea And Talk email list. http://linktr.ee/tafiea.stokesJoin the Tea Party VIP Group for more Tea And Talk, early access to episodes, merchandise and more. http://linktr.ee/tafieastokesBe sure to leave us a review to help us get noticed even more. Share, comment and like.Find us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tafiea_stokes/

Tea And Talk:A Self Development PodcastStop Telling Them Your BusinessHold on sis... You may be excited to tell everyone about your next project, your job promotions, your business venture or whatever but put the brakes on. Sometimes it isn't even worth your energy, time or breath to even speak the words. Some people will be so happy for you and so proud of you while the majority will hate on you, belittle you, make you doubt yourself and laugh at you. Sometimes it is better off that you keep your successes, your goals, your projects to yourself. Let your success be the noise.  Make sure to join the Tea And Talk email list. http://linktr.ee/tafiea.stokesJoin the Tea Party VIP Group for more Tea And Talk, early access to episodes, merchandise and more. http://linktr.ee/tafieastokesBe sure to leave us a review to help us get noticed even more. Share, comment and like.Find us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tafiea_stokes/

Tea And Talk:A Self Development PodcastBad Day...Really?When we wake up and start our days off on a bad note and then speak more negative things into the atmosphere, we are actually turning that bad moment into a bad day. You have to have the mindset and the skills to know how to change the trajectory of your day. You have to know how to get in the driver seat and steer your day in the direction that you want it to go in.  Make sure to join the Starting To Heal Your Emotional Wounds and Trauma Course https://www.teaandtalksd.com/healing-starter-bundle?coupon=COURSESALE99Tea And Talk email list. http://linktr.ee/tafiea.stokesJoin the Tea Party VIP Group for more Tea And Talk, early access to episodes, merchandise and more. http://linktr.ee/tafieastokesBe sure to leave us a review to help us get noticed even more. Share, comment and like.Find us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tafiea_stokes/

Tea And Talk:A Self Development PodcastDeserted Island When people leave your life, yes it can cause you to feel a bit sad or isolated. There is always a silver lining. Maybe those people got removed from your life to make room for people who are actually going to feed your soul and for growth. Maybe those people got removed from your life because they aren't meant to come with you on your glow up.Take is as a blessing in disguise. Everything happens for a reason. The universe doesn't make mistakes.  Make sure to join the Tea And Talk email list. http://linktr.ee/tafiea.stokesJoin the Tea Party VIP Group for more Tea And Talk, early access to episodes, merchandise and more. http://linktr.ee/tafieastokesBe sure to leave us a review to help us get noticed even more. Share, comment and like.Find us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tafiea_stokes/

Why They Don't Support You  Join me as I discuss why those closest to you aren't your fans. Ever wonder why strangers support you more than those that claim they love and support you?  Listen to this latest episode and get my perspective on why.  Click the link linktr.ee/tafieastokes to listen to the latest episode of Tea And Talk: A Self Development Podcast,  and to join the Tea Party VIP Group. The Tea Party is where you get even more Tea And Talk including early episodes, gifts and more. Feel free to email me with any questions, concerns, comments, etc at teaandtalksd@gmail.com. 

Put It In A VisionWhat book have you read that has left a lasting impression on you? The book The Secret by Rhonda Byrnes is a book that totally changed the trajectory of my life. This book has helped me to get the job, salary and home that I wanted. How do you untangle all of the thoughts that are going on in your head? Do you write them down, do you record them? 2 solutions work for me:1. Journal and being very detailed in doing so 2. Create a vision board      a. Get a poster board     b. Get a pair of scissors     c. Get glue and or tape     d. Collect magazines     e. Gather your favorite snacks      f. Get to it     What is it that you want to manifest? What steps do you take to get you closer to the goals that you want to accomplish? Make sure to join the Tea And Talk email list. http://linktr.ee/tafiea.stokesJoin the Tea Party VIP Group for more Tea And Talk, early access to episodes, merchandise and more. http://linktr.ee/tafieastokesBe sure to leave us a review to help us get noticed even more. Share, comment and like.Find us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tafiea_stokes/

Love LanguageIntimacy is one thing but to be able to identify your love language as well as speak your spouse's love language will bring you and your spouse even closer.  The 5 Love Languages:Words of affirmations  Quality time  Acts of service  Gifts  Touch    Click the link linktr.ee/tafieastokes to join the Tea Party VIP Group. The Tea Party is where you get even more Tea And Talk including early episodes, gifts and more. Feel free to email me with any questions, concerns, comments, etc at teaandtalksd@gmail.com.

Intimacy  4 types of intimacy:EmotionalMentalSpiritualPhysical2Click the link linktr.ee/tafieastokes to listen to the latest episode of Tea And Talk: A Self Development Podcast,  and to join the Tea Party VIP Group. The Tea Party is where you get even more Tea And Talk including early episodes, gifts and more. Feel free to email me with any questions, concerns, comments, etc at teaandtalksd@gmail.com

I am a firm believer that if you are seeking love, love is also seeking you. I do not understand it when people say that they are looking for love. What does that even mean, looking? Looking how and looking where?Love is not and should not be a chore instead it is something that will come naturally. 1. Do not evaluate every potential as that person. 2. Understand exactly what is it that you  want.3. Live in the moment and in the present and appreciate it.4. Do not try to force situations. 5. Love and nourish yourself first.6. Exude love as much as possible.7. Date yourself.Are you looking for love or are you waiting for love to find you? I would love to hear from you and your point of view feel free to contact me. Linktr.ee/tafieastokes. Do not forget to join the VIP Tea Party and get even more Tea And Talk. 

Being Selfish Ain't Selfish Caring and loving on yourself is not selfish. Are you putting yourself as a priority? Would you consider yourself selfish? What are some things you are selfish about? You should be selfish about:1. Your time.2. Who has access to you.3. Your self-care.4. Saying no.  Click the link linktr.ee/tafieastokes to listen to the latest episode of Tea And Talk: A Self Development Podcast,  and to join the Tea Party VIP Group. The Tea Party is where you get even more Tea And Talk including early episodes, gifts and more. Feel free to email me with any questions, concerns, comments, etc at teaandtalksd@gmail.com. 

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Protect Your Vibe  So how do you go about protecting your vibe?...Avoid gossip and drama.Avoid anyone or anything that drains your energy.Put yourself before all others.Take time to be alone.Speak love to yourself/positive self-talk.Practice self-love affirmations.Accept what you can not control and trust that the Universe has your back.Avoid the comparison game.Only do things that make you feel good and serve your ultimate purpose.    Click the link linktr.ee/tafieastokes to listen to the latest episode of Tea And Talk: A Self Development Podcast,  and to join the Tea Party VIP Group. The Tea Party is where you get even more Tea And Talk including early episodes, gifts and more. Feel free to email me with any questions, concerns, comments, etc at teaandtalksd@gmail.com. 

 Black women are held to such a standard and this idea that black women have to be strong all the time was created. We should avoid pushing our feelings and emotions down for the sake of fitting into the box of the strong black woman! When we hold on and push things down when we finally due react we become exactly what we fear…angry black women. How to allow yourself to be in your feelings:Be in tune with yourself.Take moments to yourself and for yourself.Meditate to center and ground yourself.   Click the link linktr.ee/tafieastokes to listen to the latest episode of Tea And Talk: A Self Development Podcast,  and to join the Tea Party VIP Group. The Tea Party is where you get even more Tea And Talk including early episodes, gifts and more. Feel free to email me with any questions, concerns, comments, etc at teaandtalksd@gmail.com. 

 How can you tell if you are overwhelmed?:You may have difficulty sleeping either falling asleep, staying asleep or you sleep way to much.You may feel anxious about certain tasks throughout the day.You have a difficult time focusing or concentrating throughout the day.You may begin to feel more emotional.   How to combat the feeling of overwhelm:Develop a regular bedtime routine.Reflect on your daily habits.Self-reflect.Cut down on your daily tasks.Confide in someone you can trust.Implement some self-care techniques.  Click the link linktr.ee/tafieastokes to listen to the latest episode of Tea And Talk: A Self Development Podcast,  and to join the Tea Party VIP Group. The Tea Party is where you get even more Tea And Talk including early episodes, gifts and more. Feel free to email me with any questions, concerns, comments, etc at teaandtalksd@gmail.com. 

 We must begin to deal with our issues head on instead of pushing them down. When we are on a healing journey, we have to be mindful with how we are with ourselves.Be gentle with yourself.Be kind with yourself.Support yourself.Listen to your body.  Indicators that you need healing:You avoid talking about the situation.You notice you may have feelings surrounding the situation or even just in general.Sometimes you notice you cannot be your true self.You repress feelings and emotions.   Indicators you are healing:Changing your mindset to be able to see the bigger picture.Being more in tune with and aware of our triggers.Not easily triggered.You can remain calm after being triggered.You feel that moving forward is a possibility.  How to begin healing?Write things down such as what happened, how you felt about it, why you think you felt that way.Talk things out with someone outside of your friend or family circle if necessary.   Click the link linktr.ee/tafieastokes to listen to the latest episode of Tea And Talk: A Self Development Podcast. Join the Tea Party VIP Group to get more Tea And Talk! Join me on Instagram @Tea And Talk Podcast.

 As women we are all guilty of carrying so much shame around with us every day. Most of the time the shame that we carry is not even ours to carry. When do we carry shame?When we feel as if we have been victimized.When someone says something wrong.Around stigma and prejudices.When our values and morals don’t mirror those around us.For saying no. Click the link linktr.ee/tafieastokes to listen to the latest episode of Tea And Talk: A Self Development Podcast. Join the Tea Party VIP Group to get more Tea And Talk! Join me on Instagram @Tea And Talk Podcast.

 Decluttering involves everything that doesn't serve you in your life anymore. When your life is cluttered it leaves you open to chaos. What relationships are no longer serving you? What habits do you have that do not serve you and align with who you are becoming? What are your values and morals? Where did those values and morals originate from? Do those values and morals reflect who you are today? Clutter is linked to overall stress, frustration, overwhelm and dissatisfaction. Clutter also impacts your well-being in your physical and mental health.  Declutter with intention and try to pace yourself. It will not happen over night but it is important that you stay consistent. Things that will help you:Purchase a calendar, agenda or plannerSet goals with an intention and a deadline Click the link linktr.ee/tafieastokes to listen to the latest episode of Tea And Talk: A Self Development Podcast. Join the Tea Party VIP Group to get more Tea And Talk! Join me on Instagram @Tea And Talk Podcast.

Happy Spring Sweet Teas! Welcome to Season Two of Tea And Talk: A Self-Development Podcast. I have some great things in store for you this season. I am so glad to be back on and connecting with you all. I hope you enjoyed your holidays and winters and stayed safe and warm throughout while continuing to navigate through this pandemic. In this episode we will discuss intentions. What is an intention? How is an intention different from a goal? So how do you set an intention? Some of the things to think about include:Where are you in your life right now? Are you living your purpose? Are you walking in your truth? What do you stand for? What are your morals and values? Your intention should make you want to jump out of bed with excitement. It should make you feel... How do you set an intention?Frame it in a present and positive tense. Avoid using negative words when setting an intention. Avoid phrases and words such as I should, I want, I need, or I hope.Focus on the things you want instead of focusing on the things that you do not want.Set a time limit on the intention that you are setting.Revisit the intention and check in with yourself.Alter your intentions to reflect where you are on your journey.  How is setting an intention more beneficial than setting a goal? If you aren't aware it is endometriosis awareness month. If you suffer or know someone who does suffer pick up a copy of Grow Through It.We will also be having a Tea Party open to everyone via Zoom for Endometriosis Awareness. If you are interested in a good time, free prizes and giveaways and more Tea And Talk then join us! Click the link linktr.ee/tafieastokes and join me on Instagram @Tea And Talk Podcast.

Day in and day out of life we often forget to take the time to stop and be grateful for what we are, where we are and how we are.2020 has been a year of many trials and tribulations. Now is the perfect time to reflect on the things that you have to be thankful for. The universe needs to know that you are grateful for those things that you have learned, earned and gained before you can then move on in life to learn, earn and gain even more. There is always a silver lining and it is up to you to find it.Gratitude should not be something that you show once in a while but instead should be something that you incorporate into your everyday life. It should be a way of living. It could change your life in ways you would have never even imagined. It is time to fall in love with the life that you already have. At some point in life you dreamed of this exact moment of being where you currently are. What are some ways to show gratitude?:1. Wake up with a grateful heart.2. Show your gratitude throughout the day.Why should you practice a gratitude attitude?:1. Being grateful protects you from a negative attitude.2. Gratitude rewires your brain to increase your happiness.3. Decreases stress levels.4. Decreases depression.5. Boosts self-esteem.6. Helps create momentum.Here is an activity I would like you to do:1. Come up with 3 things you are grateful for.2. Come up with 3 things for each of the things in #1 that you would not be able to do without the answers given in #1.3. Reflect on #1 and #2.4. Use that momentum and go do more that you can be proud of.Thank you all for tuning in for season #1 of Tea And Talk: A Self Development Podcast. I will be taking some time to create even more content for season #2, self reflect and celebrate the holidays. Thank you for rocking it out with me on season #1. Happy Holidays and stay tuned for season #2 after the holidays. Feel free to DM, comment, message me during this hiatus. To all of you thank you, I love you all, love, peace and good vibes. Click the link to join the Tea Party where you can get more Tea and Talk, VIP Facebook group and more! Linktr.ee/tafieastokes

We become so comfortable with the things that we do daily because of comfort, ease and routine. Without change from our daily routines we become stagnant in areas of our life. We lack or lose motivation and therefore do not push as hard as we should from where we are to where we want to be,The same thing day in an day is when you begin to go on autopilot and tune out certain pieces of the routine because of familiarity. However, when we tune out pieces of the routine could we also be tuning out pieces of ourselves? We have to begin to embrace the feeling of discomfort and push past our limits to become even stronger and resilient in our lives. Everything worth anything has some degree of difficulty and discomfort. Do not allow comfort kill your creativity. Reasons we become trapped in being comfortable:1. Predictability 2. Convenience3. Ease4. SafeHere are some tips to help you get out of that zone and into your life...Click the link to join the Tea Party where you can get more Tea and Talk, VIP Facebook group and more! Linktr.ee/tafieastokesUntil next season yall... Happy Holidays!!!

African American women struggle to find quality friends and this is coming from experience. In my opinion, I feel that any women put themselves in a box and block themselves out from forming friendships with other women. Is it because we are afraid, feel threatened? Is it because we are in competition?For one woman to be threatened by another says that she may not be comfortable in the skin that she is in. So, she creates and builds a wall which blocks her from forming relationships.Is it some insecurities that hold us back from forming these necessary bonds?We can not continue to allow the wall block us from being our best selves and attracting quality friends. We have to stop allowing the past and our insecurities dictate the future and who we are becoming now... This should be a time when we see other women uniting and bonding instead of blocking, tearing each other down and being in competition with one another...Click the link to join the Tea Party where you can get more Tea and Talk, VIP Facebook group and more! Linktr.ee/tafieastokes

Bitterness that is in relation to the fact that you have not been treated fairly or that others are not doing enough for you. What can cause you to feel resentment:Feeling as if people are not listening to youFeeling taken advantage ofFeeling as if you are putting more into a relationship than the other partyNot being assertive and standing up for yourself How to know you are dealing with resentment:Lingering angerRecurring thoughtsFeeling regretful Long term resentment can become unhealthy and cause the feeling of resentment to then become who you are as a person.Forgive yourself but do not ever forgetShine light on your feelingsAllow yourself to feel the emotionRecognize and be aware of the root of resentmentFind a way to express those emotionsTeach yourself self-calming techniquesForgive the person you resentLeave the past where it belongsAvoid situations that are negative and can potentially lead to resentment down the lineMove forward and upwardClick the link to join the Tea Party where you can get more Tea and Talk, VIP Facebook group and more! Linktr.ee/tafieastokes

We need to revamp the way in which we see conflict. Most view it as bad or negative when indeed it can be good and positive it just depends on how you go about it. Conflict is uncomfortable but everything that is good for you is not always comfortable.Conflict is scaryWhen we avoid conflict we end up dealing with it in our heads internally“Get it off my chest” Reasons we avoid conflictUnaware or unsure of what we needAfraid of rejectionAfraid to hurt feelings When you avoid conflict you show acceptance. How to stare conflict in the eyes:Make sure you hear what is being saidThink of the reasons you may be avoiding the conflictPrepare emotionally and mentallyDetermine your needsAvoid letting time pass from the incident to the confrontationConfront in a non-judgmental, nonargumentative wayGive the other party the opportunity to speak Dealing with conflict will assist you in becoming a better communicatorClick the link to join the Tea Party where you can get more Tea and Talk, VIP Facebook group and more! Linktr.ee/tafieastokes

When someone you love and care for cuts ties and cuts off all communication. Why ghost:Defense mechanismDifficulty understanding their feelingsDifficulty putting their feelings into wordsThey consider it a societal normEmbarrassedScared of criticismMental illness When you are ghosted:Feel taken advantage ofFeel disposableFeel disrespectedFeel rejectedLeaves you confusedMakes you feel as if you need to put up walls and be on the defense Understand when you are ghosted it is not your fault. How to cope with being ghosted:Call them out on their shitLet go of the ghostAvoid all contactTake all of the love and energy and place it back into youForgive themUnderstand the place they had in your life and the role they played (reason, season or lifetime)Learn from itSet boundaries If you are the ghost treat others the way you would want to be treated.Get your shit togetherDon’t be selfishPractice some self-awareness Be the person you want someone else to be for you.Click the link to join the Tea Party where you can get more Tea and Talk, VIP Facebook group and more! Linktr.ee/tafieastokes

Authenticity is a statement.Authenticity is about character. It is about how you are as a being. It is the characteristics that stand behind what you say and what you believe. Stay true to you despite what other believe.To run towards authenticity we must strip ourselves of everything.Become in tune and aware of yourself.Say what you mean and mean what you say.Avoid hiding who you are to make others feel comfortable.Take tome to reevaluate goals, interests, morals and values.Avoid negative self talk.Stop trying to people please.Take responsibility for your own life.Be accepting of yourself as well others.Be able to express yourself freely and without fear.Love yourself as well as others.Acknowledge when you are wrong or in the wrong about a situation.Focus on being better and not perfect.Be respectful to yourself and others.Never stop learning or growing. Click the link to join the Tea Party where you can get more Tea and Talk, VIP Facebook group and more! Linktr.ee/tafieastokes

Toxic FamilyWhat is the definition of family to you?What does family mean to you?You can not have a healthy relationship with someone who does not want to have a healthy relationship. Behaviors or traits that reveal you were raised in a toxic environmentLow self-worthSocial difficultyYou have a difficult time with failureYou lack self-identityYou are self-criticalYour emotions are put last How you can tell if a family member(s) is toxicYou end up feeling bad about yourself after encounters with certain family membersYou feel controlled such as in your relationships or choicesLack feeling love, compassion or respect in your family relationshipsCertain interactions drain your energyYou can’t truly be yourself Toxic family members:Belittle your choices and decisionsFail to support you in your choicesFail to celebrate your winsHits below the beltThey are enviousThey compare you to other family membersThey act as if they are being victimizedWhatever they say is rightEverything is about them alwaysFocuses on your mistakes but never pays attention to their own How to respond to toxic family members Communicate your feelingsSet boundariesSay no and feel comfortable doing soDetach from certain situationsAvoid oversharingAvoid giving easy accessStop giving drawn out explanationsClick the link to join the Tea Party where you can get more Tea and Talk, VIP Facebook group and more! Linktr.ee/tafieastokes

Stagnation means that you are only half living. You realize you are the SAME person in the SAME space as you were last year.Signs of stagnation:Negative self talk FearLack of consistency Comparing yourselfYour circle Doing the same expecting differentBeing stagnate is a choice. So choose to get out of it or choose to remain where you are!Make sure to click the link to listen to the podcast episode on your favorite platform. http://linktr.ee/tafieastokes

As you begin to live your life you may notice that your wins begin to feel worthless. This should not be the case because your wins show your drive, motivation, ambition and passion.Often times the feeling may come from needing external validation from others, needing their words, claps and encouragement. Early on in life it could have been your drive but now as you are older your drive has changed. Your drive is for you, self-growth, self-love, passion and walking your path. You now are moving forward to begin to build a strong empire and establish a strong foundation. As you start down this journey you should be celebrating every single win!Work on you for you Celebrating you and celebrating your wins is all part of self careCelebrating marks progressCelebrating gives your work meaningListen to the full podcast episode to get the full scoop.http://linktr.ee/tafieastokes

Self love is celebrating your unique essence and loving yourself unapologetically. How is it that we expect to find love without really knowing love and how it feels? How can we show others how we need to be loved when we do not know the answers ourselves? Some of us do not know how to love ourselves because we are depending on others to show us how. We do not even realize that the love we are yearning for is the love for ourselves from ourselves. When we are seeking a relationship we fall in love with that full person, flaws and all but we tend to nit pick when it comes to loving ourselves. We are our worst critics. Why do we do this? Why do we not love ourselves the way we deserve to be loved and the way we love others?The stages you go through when falling in love with someone else include:RomanceAwkwardComfortability StabilityCommitmentTips to help you begin to love yourself:Forgive yourself and let go of the pastAccept yourself as you areClear your mind from the outside noiseMeditateTake time to spend with yourself and reflectGet to know yourself Express yourselfTape positive affirmations around your living space Celebrate your winsAvoid negative self talkBuild your strengths Be lenient on yourself Live a grateful life Make a list of things that you are grateful for Start a gratitude journal Smile and find humor in lifeSet boundaries and stick to them Be true with yourself Surround yourself with goodness Do something small that you love each day ...Listen to the full podcast to get the full scoop Make sure to click the link to listen to the podcast episode on your favorite platform. http://linktr.ee/tafieastokes

We all have triggers that may cause us to go back into a place where it may be hard for us to move from because of the things that have happened in our past, and the trauma that we have experienced. The trigger can awaken emotions that we have buried. A trigger is a reminder of past trauma. You can be triggered from a smell, a song, a date, a place or a person. The triggers are not always predictable.Emotional needs can become emotional triggers.Feeling excludedFeeling powerlessFeeling controlledFeeling unheardFeeling judgedFeeling blamedFeeling disrespected Feeling trappedFeeling manipulatedPhysical symptoms of being triggered can include:TremblingPalpitationsHot flashesDizzinessNauseaChest pain SweatingCoping with triggers:Identify your triggers and your reactions to them Identifying your triggers helps build your self awareness Own your triggers and recognize that you are reactingTrack the origin of the triggersDefine the trigger and the situation that surrounded the triggerTake a step awayBe easy on yourself and show compassion toward yourself Mature the triggersDevelop healthy coping skills Take deep breaths Mindfulness meditation Call on your supportsJournal Begin to view the situation differently. Instead of viewing yourself as a victim begin to view yourself as powerful!Make sure to click the link to listen to the podcast episode on your favorite platform. http://linktr.ee/tafieastokes

Self care is not an expense and is an investment in your emotional and mental health as well as it is a necessity. You have to get a clear understanding of what self care means to you. Set intentions and plan on how you want your day to go. Be intentional with your self care goals. Make it a routine and stay consistent. Look at your current routine and determine which activity can be replaced with a self care activity. Track your progress and monitor the shifts that you feel in your energy from investing in yourself. SIGNS YOU NEED MORE SELF CAREDifficulty sleepingSleeping to muchAlways tired no matter how much sleep you getLack of energyFeelings of anxiousnessFeelings of stressLack of appetiteLack of focusLack of motivation Feeling emotional Self care helps to build resilience against daily stressors. It will help you improve the way you react to situations, problem solve and the way in which you view the world. To improve self care you must focus on all aspects (physical, social, mental, spiritual and emotional).PhysicallyPhysically how are you caring for yourself?Are you getting adequate rest?Are you fueling your body with the proper nutrients?Are you keeping your body active?SociallyAre you getting enough time with family and friends?What are you doing to nourish those relationships that are important to you?MentallyMentally you need to stay sharp and participate in things that stimulate your mind.Read a bookWatch a movieComplete a puzzle SpirituallyNurture your spirit EmotionallyWhat are you doing to better yourself and understand your emotionsUnderstand that it is ok to allow yourself to cryIf something feels wrong, don't do it. Do what feels right to your soul. Say what you mean and do not feel guilty about it. Avoid the need to be a people pleaser. Avoid negative self talk and be kind and lenient to yourself. Let go of things that are out of your control. Avoid negativity, bad vibes and drama. Make sure to click the link to listen to the podcast episode on your favorite platform. http://linktr.ee/tafieastokes

It is so easy to get wrapped up in the day to day and the happenings that happened throughout the day. You can not let today's stress get the best of you. We ruminate and do not take the time to clear our heads before we lay our heads down. When we do that we subconsciously are thinking of the day and all the happenings when we are trying to sleep. With that you are dreaming of the day and wake up the next morning dreading getting up because of yesterday's stresses and issues.This is the issue. We need to take the time to clear our heads at night so we are starting off fresh and refreshed each morning. TIPS TO CLEAR YOUR HEADTake a hot shower or an essential oil epsom salt bathPut some relaxing music on and do just that, relaxPerform some self care regimen after the shower or tub (ex. facial)Have a cup of herbal teaLight some candlesDiffuse your oilsWrite down your thoughtsExercise the unhealthy or negative thoughts into healthy onesHang on to all the good moments that you had today and hang on to those for tomorrow you will wake up with a positive mindset. Make sure to click the link to listen to the podcast episode on your favorite platform. http://linktr.ee/tafieastokes

The relationship that you have with yourself is one of the most complicated. There is no way for you to just walk away from yourself or give up on yourself. You must go through the process of being able to love yourself, all of you and be able to forgive yourself for the mistakes that you make. It is so easy for us to blame ourselves. Self blaming is an obstacle to self-improvement. Do not continue to blame yourselves or punish yourself because you disrupt your inner peace as well as stunt your growth. Life is all about empowering yourself and not empowering the past. Be honest with yourself as this will help you be able to better come to terms with it and use it as fuel to help repair and heal. You can not change or alter the past but you can change the narrative for the next chapter. With everything there is a lesson and if you fail to learn the lesson, the same or similar things will replay in your life until the lesson is learned. Show compassion to yourselves and avoid negative self talk. TIPS TO HELP YOU SELF FORGIVEMake a list of everything that you need to and want to forgive yourself forChoose one thing off the list that you want to focus on Identify the negative emotions created from thisIdentify why it happenedIdentify how you think it should have been handled Identify triggers related to that one thingAllow yourself to feel but unpack it from your luggage because it is weighing you down and not leaving room for your happiness and peaceForgive yourself as many times as it takes to feel peace.You are not who you used to be and you are not your mistakes. Live in the presents and leave the past where it belongs. Allow yourself grace and give yourself permission to forgive.Make sure to click the link to listen to the podcast episode on your favorite platform. http://linktr.ee/tafieastokes

Sometimes relationships can be a one way street. You could be the one energizing and feeding that relationship while the other party does nothing to work for it. The other party could be taking and taking and in the process depleting your energy. So you start with your cup full and as time passes it becomes less and less that you have.Do not allow others to take advantage of you and take without giving. It i time for you to turn the lights out on that person (s).Make sure to click the link to listen to the podcast episode on your favorite platform. http://linktr.ee/tafieastokes

The time is here for you to become so comfortable with yourself that no one or nothing can knock you down. That goes to say that it is time for you to build your own pedestal and stop allowing the validation and acceptance from others, be your building blocks. You have to take the time to know yourself. Understand your likes and your dislikes.Indulge in some things that make you feel good in order to build yourself up.If people are throwing stones, use them and begin to build on your strengths, successes, wins and dreams. The goal is for you to become so strong in who you are, so confident and dripping in self love that you do not care of what others, say or think about you. This is the point where you have finally become free!! So stand on that pedestal with your head held high and get it sis!!!Click the link to join The Tea Party and sign up for emails linktr.ee/tafieastokes

Boundaries are about how you are telling others to treat you and how you value yourself. We have to be comfortable in our own skin enough to be comfortable with loving and respecting ourselves even though we may disappoint others. Do not allow yourself to work on the issues of others more so than you work on your own. Do not allow people to continue to hurt you over and over again.TIPS TO SET BOUNDARIESSay no when you are busy and do not feel the need to drop your own prioritiesDo not apologize for your needsLet go of guilt and know that it is ok to do lessProtect your energySet the tone Reduce resentmentsSetting boundaries weeds out the toxic relationships so pay attention to those that respect your boundaries vs those that do not.Make sure to click the link to listen to the podcast episode on your favorite platform. http://linktr.ee/tafieastokes

Everyone thinks that success comes from mainly strategy. Only 20% of success comes from strategy while the other 80% comes from mindset. Starting something is easy but you have to be consistent in your attempts and follow through with your plan. Be so prepared that you have a plan for your plan. You can only be successful if you know where you are going. Focus on your goal Complete the tasks that get you to the goal, focusing on the most important tasks firstRid yourself of the things that distract you Get into a routine and review your routine changing the things that do not serve youSurround yourself with like minded people with similar goalsPut your best foot forward and give it all that you haveWork in silence and let your success be your noise!Remember that success is not measured by finances but by how much of a difference you make in someone's life.Listen to the full episode on your favorite podcast platform. Click the link for more info. http://linktr.ee/tafieastokes

We have to understand that not everyone knows everything about everything right off of the back. No one starts off by being an expert. When you do become more familiar and go from novice to intermediate to expert you also have to understand that you will not be perfect every single time.Consistency is the key because that will help you master the task. Take the time to dedicate an allotted amount of time to learn moreFollow similar profiles and check which hashtags for your niche are usedReach out to those profiles and see if they will help you in your projectWork through and learn on the job. The process of learning never stops. Making mistakes is not the end of the world.Click the link in my bio to listen to the full episode on whichever platform you enjoy. Give me your feedback, share, comment and join The Tea Party!http://linktr.ee/tafieastokes

In today's world it can be so easy to listen to the noise instead of your own voice. It is time that you begin to hush the noise and put your voice at the top.Stop being caught up in the cycle of wanting and yearning for approval from people you would not go to for advice. You are the only one who you should be looking for approval from. Your voice is a superpower, it speaks volumes and has the potential to change the world. It is about time you begin to act like it. Tell your story and say your truth because that story will change the life of someone else who has not gained his or her own voice yet. So speak and even if your voice trembles at first you will learn to get to that point where it doesn't. You need to practice to get there though.Life is to short to have regrets or leave words unsaid so SPEAK UP.Click the link to join The Tea Party and sign up for emails linktr.ee/tafieastokes

Jumping off of the deep end can be scary but you have to take the chance regardless of if you are ready or not. The time you should jump is when you feel scared, This can be a sign from the universe. You do not want to stay in the same place all your life.The only thing that is standing between where you are and where you want to be is jumping. Stop waiting for the perfect time because life will always be complicated and you will never feel 100% ready.If you do not take the jump you will never know if you will sink or swim. Notice when you are trying to jump and you have a hard time because of dead or extra weight. Pay attention to that. This could be holding you back from the perfect landing. Learn from the jump and improve it for the next time. Learn:Which way the wind blowsWhat media wantsHow fast you need to jumpIf you need a running startHow fast you will landIf you will make a splashIt takes practice to perfect but you will never know what needs perfecting if you never take the initial jump.Click the link to join The Tea Party and sign up for email subscriptions linktr.ee/tafieastokes