This Is Fine

This is our first time being human and we're just trying our best. I've found that humility is a peaceful avenue pathed with genuine connections and transformations that adds delight to the community. If you would like to help, share the episode with someone you think might like it. Ta-ta, IvorMusic: (massobeats - warmth: • [non copyright mu... )

In this episode Ivor and Mallory candidly discuss friendships as the mechanical sounds of life in the year 2023 add their two cents.Mallory and Ivor get a little more introspective than usual. Here's a quote that struck me.“Don't make friends who are comfortable to be with. Make friends who will force you to lever yourself up.” — Thomas J. WatsonWhat kind of friend will you be? Thanks so much for listeningIvor

Ivor and Mallory take the podcast somewhere a little different and definitely more lighthearted and casually discuss pleasure. We often engage in activities or feelings that give us pleasure yet it's not common to analyse and understand what gives us pleasure. I hope you enjoy the episode!Ivor

Oftentimes, I'm so wrapped up in my own perspective that I can really get lost in my viewpoint. I'm lucky enough to have a creative endevour with a beloved that helps me look at things in a different light. I think this relationship speaks to what many of us cherish; a friend who talks with you and not at you. This week, reach out to a friend and resolve to listen. Deprive yourself of the habit or impulse to react and take a breath to make sure you fully understand. Making someone feel heard is an act of service that could mean the world to them.From, Ivor and Mallory

In Enough...Ivor goes solo for 15 minutes to talk about this idea of "enough'. Enough is such a powerful, elegant, potent and underused word. It's best served when used on yourself.

In Can You Commit?Mallory blends her soft nature with Ivor's hard facts in a discussion about commitment that's as complementary as it is polarizing.

In Cats x Podcast Boundaries...Ivor and Mallory lightheartedly and tangentially discuss...What boundaries areBad BoundariesGood Boundariesall while the cats are in heat

In "Find Comfort in Chaos"Ivor and Mallory explore their own discomforts as they discuss Ivor's opinion that comfort is not conducive to growth. They discuss: Why comfort can hold you back How to embrace chaos 3 ways to disrupt comfort for the purpose of growth Follow Mallory on where she posts everything positive: @https://www.instagram.com/mallorydowd/ (mallorydowd) Interested in an Intuitive Tarot reading? https://www.mallorydowd.com/contact-me (Book one with Mallory!) Note: Social media pending until Ivor has resolved is courage to brave the beast.

In More Said Than Done...Ivor & Mallory submerge themselves into the warm, comforting waters of procrastination and uncover some chilly truths. They discuss: What it means What it looks like How it can affect mental health Some ways you might conquer over it Follow Mallory on where she posts everything positive: @https://www.instagram.com/mallorydowd/ (mallorydowd) send letters to: fineisthis@gmail.com Reach Mallory at: https://www.mallorydowd.com/offerings/

Ivor and Mallory candidly throw around creative energy to explore intention under prompt of the tarot.

Bootycandy is the 3rd play by The Collective, a theatre production company that amplifies the voices and experiences of minorities to help us take a seat at the table. Listen to my conversation with Kim (producer), Ray (Director) and Terris (actor). They represent hard-working people on and off stage, making this a show worth watching. Book tickets at https://www.discoverthecollective.com/ (www.discoverthecollective.com)

I was visited by a memory recently and it compelled me back in front of the microphone. Look at a problem in a different light and you can turn it into a blessing. "When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change" - Max Planck. These words can be transposed to imbue meaning and foster sustainable habits of a peaceful way of life. email: fineisthis@gmail.com twitter: @ivordun

In Coloured Discuss Representation...Ivor and Kim dive into some of the issues of being too much of one thing but at the same time not enough of the other. Kick back and listen to friends getting comfortable, a little heated and very silly. contact: fineisthis@gmail.com

In A Rigorous Two MinutesMost people are faintly aware of their potential. But the business of living life in the trenches beneath the upper class leaves us exhausted at days end wasting our potential. Ivor takes extracts inspiration from Seneca and James Clear to help illuminate the a path to potential. “Hold fast, then, to this sound and wholesome rule of life - that you indulge the body only so far as is needful for good health. The body should be treated more rigorously, that it may not be disobedient to the mind.”― Seneca, https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/93900 (Letters from a Stoic)

In 'Am I The Asshole?'...Ivor & Kim have some lighthearted but aggressively opinionated commentary on some stories from the subreddit AITA. As people our perspectives can get so warped that we need another pair of eyes. Luckily, the internet is full of eyes and ears and Kim and I add our two cents. Enjoy! contact: fineisthis@gmail.com

In Hello Confidence. It's me, Ivor...Ivor revisits his discovery of confidence. Listen to his formula for confidence and perhaps you can apply it to your life where it is needed. Drink your water. Keep your peace of mind. contact: fineisthis@gmail.com

In Toxic Positivity....Ivor is joined by a friend from Tennessee, a woman who exudes excellence in the way she moves through the world. They dive into the relationship between self-care and how the trend of mental health can have connections with toxic positivity. Share your thoughts with us on twitter. Tweet Ms. Gabby at https://twitter.com/gabrielledawn__ (@gabrielledawn__) and tweet Ivor at https://twitter.com/fineisthis (ThisIsFinePodcast)

In Everything is Aiming...By way of a Japanese martial arts philosophy, Ivor finds a new way of reinvigorating commitments, goals, realizations, and the elusive sense of living in the present moment. The best lessons are learned through shared wisdom. If you have a story in which you have overcome a struggle, or tips on how to manage mental health, shoot me an email. I'd love to read it on the show (anonymously of course) to help people going through the same struggles. email: fineisthis@gmail.com Stay safe and stay hydrated. Ivor

The Effort of Motivation...Where does your motivation come from? Is it something you're born with? Is it something you can own? Ivor digs into some James Clear knowledge to unearth a well of motivation. contact me at: fineisthis@gmail.com

In Body Thoughts...Ivor explores the idea of his own wrongness, vanity and hypersensitivity to transmute it all into a healthier outcome. Share your feedback or stories and email me at... fineisthis@gmail.com

In Anxious Testicles...Anxiety colours our lives with either excitement or depersonalization. Ivor's personal experience finally helps him understand how anxiety can be out of your control.

In Wounds and Wisdom...Do you have a purpose? Should you have a purpose? Listen to how a young boy takes a lesson from his struggling mother on kindness and how he transforms the lesson into wisdom. If you have any stories, advice or wisdom to share we'd love to hear it. email: fineisthis@gmail.com Sources: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rKQLBiylsn8 (Stop Chasing Purpose and Focus on Wellness instead.)

In Feeling Success & Feeling Failure...Ivor returns with more insights and lessons after 5 weeks of radio silence to talk more fervently about mindset, mental health and direction. If you would like to contact me to share a story or ask a question email me! email: fineisthis@gmail.com sources: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1sbXE7vdH4c https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FT2Ie2UZQig

In Pocket Gays... Ivor is joined by Alameen and they tangent through changes, gratitude, anxiety and being gay as BIPOC men. We'd like to hear form you! Do you have a question you'd like me to answer on the show or a story you'd like to share that may help someone? Shoot as an email: fineisthis@gmail.com

In Sweaty Self Control...Ivor journey's from the middle of his bedroom floor to the front of the mic and share the realizations along the way.

In Mental Fortitude Ivor explores the mental blocks and habits we all share that contribute to a precarious mental state. Mental Fortitude is something that you build now so that your future self is better equipped to deal with the inevitable trials of life. Got a story, advice or a question you'd like to share on the show? Email me at fineisthis@gmail.com

In Restless Skeptical Doubt...Let's explore the last two hinderances to mastery of self; Restlessness and Skeptical Doubt and wrap up with four tools you can use to increase the odds of you getting up that mountain. It is my sincere wish that what I choose to share helps you in some way. Please share this episode with a friends because it helps me get the message out!

Mastery of self is a tricky thing that requires constant vigilance. I believe that each of us are on a quest, realized or not, to become the best version of ourselves. This is best achieved through mastery of self. Ivor explores the idea of aligning your body and to gain clarity on your journey.

In Self Mastery: Looking at Ill Will and Aversion...Ivor explores how he has encountered Ill Will and Aversion and re-thinks a lesson he thought he'd learnt. Then he gets a little deeper with the I want and the I should story we tell the world.

In Looking at Sensual Desires... Ivor embarks on defining self-mastery through the lens the Shaolin Philosophy and uncovers a hazy cortisone memory.

In Limiting the Lone Wolf...Ivor jumps down the rabbit hole on a recurring insecurity, recalls a mountainside memory and toys with the concepts of limiting belief and limiting identity.

In Re-think Shitty Karma... Ivor shares a shitty story and how he's starting to see his limiting beliefs.

In Would I Lie to You? Yes."The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.” - Fyodor Dostoevsky. Ivor is joined by the beautiful Jessica Swartz who summarizes herself as Black, No Sugar and No Cream. With that same conviction and all of her black girl magic she drops gems of all sorts; insight, vocals, laughter and noteworthy questions.

In Silly Sadness When you reach the upper reaches of the atmosphere you come undone.

What do you tolerate?

In Stir Your Stagnant Waters...Ivor dives deeper into the connection between consistency, specificity, and courage. If you liked this episode please leave a 5 star review wherever you listen to your podcasts. ________ ► Music Credit: 'Low Frequency Music' Track Name: 'In My Mind' Music By: Low Frequency Music Official "Low Frequency Music" SoundCloud HERE - https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbmh4MXJOSzB5TDJLb0RSc1dnZEtZYlFRWE5sQXxBQ3Jtc0trSE9uTjd4QmRDd0JiQ3VyVndreVVBbTN6M0RqUV9WV3ZZWkV2YmdRa1JDdG8xVjdleGNhWXhYMGhsejl3U1ZaSmNBTXJGM3FpTVd2Y3dpSVVSWmJYQVdCaVRyQkt6VWZmamhSR1FMRTVPOHpZUzJJRQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fsoundcloud.com%2Fuser-551516820 (https://soundcloud.com/user-551516820)​ Official "Low Frequency Music" YouTube Channel HERE - https://www.youtube.com/LowFrequencyMusic (https://www.youtube.com/LowFrequencyM...)​ Official "Low Frequency Music" Spotify HERE - https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbjRVTjVMcUo2N1BFQjlnUnVndzNzMEZlU1AtQXxBQ3Jtc0ttdkZTWHJxay1CbzB3a01wWUV2WndtS2FaWmNRNTFocXp5MkZ1WnpQdWJLUzUwZEtlc0trWHQ2SEJmZzRxQk9pYjlTOEhIVndJZkhXYTJPVldGQnYtbmlkWDJRcFF4UVNiQzBFNFdCOFVSSzlxazUxTQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fopen.spotify.com%2Fartist%2F5BGRZI91L59RXb6VvBB6sU (https://open.spotify.com/artist/5BGRZ...)​ ► DOWNLOAD this track HERE - https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa2wzY0Zuci1iNlNDZ05Ec3lENDM4UHdVQ1Z0QXxBQ3Jtc0treUpLczlyNWtranM3WU00Qm5kejdlUHVHSno5SG81emdYRUpwZnVxdlBRSEVpbkkzd1ZtRV9ObHZLRWtpak1KTG5BcXhiTndONnNFTnUxZXduMWRhbGJRNXZaV0Q3NTVqNkM4TUxXNDZodkdMWlc2OA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.chilloutrecordsmusic.com%2F (https://www.chilloutrecordsmusic.com/)​ License for commercial use: Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 Unported "Share Alike" (CC BY-SA 4.0) License. Full License HERE - https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa0Q4OURNM2t4MldTaUp2aEpYYWVOZUtqOWROd3xBQ3Jtc0traEZJRlJYQmEtMk5YWUE5WnJNRGdqamRRdjE2OXlsaGtnazR3VGpITnZ0MjZqeW5OdjllbFM4RmY4bUJJbnZ6alpHWHlzRWc0c2ZVYzcyXzFtX0FnSlBOTXpVcEVsaVRGcjlLYWR0YkNOanlyVUFabw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fcreativecommons.org%2Flicenses%2Fby-sa%2F4.0%2Flegalcode (https://creativecommons.org/licenses/...)​ Music promoted by NCM https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbC1kSUJ0RjVsVUNpUkRnSno4aUFiZWV6bncxUXxBQ3Jtc0trNFdia1V4eGJWTnF5Wk1XZUdHWkNob0VfMzBpUnBtWUpBakZqSGQ5bU5QX3pVNUVCWXM2aXYzcWszTEpRV0tvc3U2Q2NqdFpiRDhlYlhaRFE2aHpvSkpEUW56Y3gyZkJBMXVkeTNxanlCd2dHS2Z6WQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fgoo.gl%2Ffh3rEJ (https://goo.gl/fh3rEJ)​ @ https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbDJVSFJmTFVEdkY2QzZyOVZyNkl3YnJpbjBud3xBQ3Jtc0trYS0zSzd5dFdyRlFQNDkyX2xUamV6UEdVTjRaQ2Y5WVo3SXM1am1ueXFfV05yZm1RQ252cFBldVQ0WDZCeTRPTXdIS045eGc4SnpzRDdzc0thMVM4N0RFQmNPakprUFAxOThhV1RpUG05SUNLa0Z5QQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.LoFi-HipHop.com (https://www.LoFi-HipHop.com) - Artist Attribution Music By: "KaizanBlu" Track Name: "Remember" • Instagram - https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbWJScmtxckg4bEhpdmtDalJHeTkxd1U3dXBpUXxBQ3Jtc0trLUJKMDBpNExSOU9SNC1HSERRcDlTMDhwcXJpVWdSY2pOVXh3NjJmVVl0THZRMDFIVy0tTUdLQmx0RUs4dDFGbWttaU56V2oySjg4cVZObE1JaE5vdnQ2dHB0ZEREWXlfOEdnRFo0UXlzR083OExQMA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fkaizanblu%2F (https://www.instagram.com/kaizanblu/)​ • SoundCloud - https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbVAzWUdEM0dIXzZLSGJ1VndxclNxQVNpMzRhd3xBQ3Jtc0tuU0RyZkljc2FaU05uUFE3YkotMFd2a0dZUWdsdzNSbUlicmJRSFg4N3laMkw3VVRZaE5vM3M3WDFPRXVnZmFnSW55RUhoUE81QTg0SVF6X2pDSlBJbGhTVm80bkxQTVllOWJGOW56RkplZ3ZpekRPZw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fsoundcloud.com%2Fkaizanblu%2F (https://soundcloud.com/kaizanblu/)​ • Facebook -...

In Angry Virgo Laffy Taffy...A woman whose presence demands attention like all the great virgos who have taken the stage joins Ivor in an episode filled with tangents. Quandra and Ivor chat about their different ways of dealing with anger amidst many funny tangents. Please support my podcast by leaving a 5 star review or sharing this episode with one friend. Take care.

In Trauma in Your Genes... Ivor and cheese burger lover Que Gardere explore Generational Trauma against the backdrop of their intersectional identities. Generational Trauma embeds itself in your gene code. It alters the development of your limbic system, which is the part of the brain that regulates emotions and forms memories. This all happens before you're even born. Perhaps you suffer from trauma that's lurking in your genetic code and being aware of it is a step in your journey to find peace. Finding your peace is a sure way to take charge of your mental health. "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced." (James Baldwin)If you like the episode, show your love with a 5 star review...it helps a lot.

In Accountability & Sex Intermissions...Being accountable for your actions without blame on external factors is a sign that you're on the path to mental fortitude. Listen to DJ's farewell episode as we talk accountability and some other tangents. Do you want to help us out? Don't give us money. Give us a 5 star review on Apple Podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcasts.

In Authentic Tangents...Ivor is joined by his good friend and fellow Lucile Bluthe fan Wynsum Foreman. They discuss the idea of authenticity and ways in which they have battled with internal in-authenticity themselves. If you like the show please rate and review!

When do people show you who they are? Ivor explores some learnt wisdom from Dr. Maya Angelou that he's applied to his life in an effort to more successfully navigate mental health. Track:https://soundcloud.com/user-162006130/sun-dog-w-squeeda?in=user-162006130/sets/polar ( Ambulo - Sun Dog (w/Squeeda))

Ivor and DJ delve into the recent issues faced by Asian poeple right on the back of Meghan Markle's experience of racism and the British media erasing that experience living in a household designed to suppress her identity. Everyday brings with it more news of hate crimes that span across the spectrum of being a human. Those who have the least amount of color to their identity experience the most privilege. Those of us who meet at the intersection of multiple facets to our identity live a more arduous life.

In Trauma Stays...We talk Super Straight, a racist Arkansas elementary school teacher, and a personal story deals with the types of trauma and how it can affect your interpersonal relationships. Because trauma is a sticky thing... They say, "It was a long time ago." In reality, it's still happening.When we listen to someone else's trauma, we might discover we start a process of healing our own. Please subscribe or send this episode along to a friend :) Follow us on the https://www.instagram.com/thisis___fine/ (socials), and have an excellent week!

In Lube Your Expectations...We talk about dreaded expectations how to circumvent the disappointment that so often accompanies expectations. Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments. - Niel Strauss. Follow us on https://www.instagram.com/thisis___fine/ (Instagram). You might be interested in the Indian Yogi, author and low-key comedian https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ucUJ13IJTpo (Sadghuru's take on expectations.)

In Who Run The World (YOU)...We stumble about time management. Do you spend your time or do you use your time? Time management strategies are plentiful on the internet. Yet, we still find ourselves mismanaging our time. DJ and Ivor explore time management and how it ties into distractions. Either run the day or the day runs you - Jim RohnFollow us on https://www.instagram.com/thisis___fine/ (Instagram) and https://twitter.com/fineisthis (Twitter)! If you related in any way please send an episode to a friend!

In Are you Coping in a Panda Express?...Ivor and DJ unintentionally discover their coping mechanisms. Do you know what your coping mechanisms are? Are you aware of them? Do they actually help you? Did you adjust them amidst the world wide panda express? Coping looks different for everyone because well...psychology. Hopefully we shed some light onto some healthy or detrimental coping habits you may be entangled with. If you liked what we said please subscribe or review or pass an episode along to a friend! Follow us on https://www.instagram.com/thisis___fine/ (Instagram) and https://twitter.com/fineisthis (twitter).

In What's Love Got To Do With Dick...Toxic and healthy relationships exist on a near endless specturm. But there are certain red flags like when he pulls out a ruler to measure you. DJ and Ivor recall some toxic relationships and try to contrast them with the unicorn relationships. If you liked what we said please subscribe and review -- it helps us a lot! We're looking into reading listener letters (anyonymously), so if you have any questions for s, or experiences then please we'd love to hear about it -- fineisthis@gmail.com Follow us on the https://linktr.ee/thisisfine (socials.)

In Disney FOMO....Ivor pops off about problematic representations of people in media. DJ is in the background holding his hoops and waving his weave screaming "Yaaas kween!" and managing to get him to talk about managing FOMO in covid-19. If you liked what we said please let the logarithms know by subscribing and reviewing! We're looking into reading listener letters (anonymously of course), so if you have any questions for us, or experiences with what we discussed then email us at fineisthis@gmail.com Follow us on the https://linktr.ee/thisisfine (socials).

In Goals Gone Wild...Ivor and DJ talk about the experience of setting goals amidst a pandemic and some advice on how you could do better for yourself. It's fine to generate a sense of achievement, what's not fine and what takes a toll on your mental health is setting unrealistic goals. If you liked any of what we said then let the logarithms know by subscribing and reviewing! We're looking into reading listener letters (anonymously of course), so if you have any questions for us, or experiences with what we discussed then email us at fineisthis@gmail.com Follow us on the https://linktr.ee/thisisfine (socials).

In 'Pretty Does Hurt'... DJ and Ivor touch on some of their experiences with Eurocentric / Westernized beauty standards especially how they are shaped by the idolization of whiteness. Beauty standards affect us whether or not we're aware of them. If you liked any of what we said then let the logarithms know by subscribing and reviewing. We're looking into reading listener letters (anonymously of course), so if you have any questions for us, or experiences with what we discussed then email us at fineisthis@gmail.com Follow Us on: https://www.instagram.com/thisis___fine/ (Insta) and https://twitter.com/fineisthis (Twitter) Logo Design Mans insta - https://www.instagram.com/tattooist_one/ (Tattooist_one)

In 'Tidy Space, Tidy Emotions, Tidy Nipples?'...Ivor and DJ semi-erratically explore the connection between a tidy space and tidy emotions. Please don't twist someone's nipples without permission. We're looking into reading listener letters...(anonymously of course) on the show. So if you have any questions, need advice or have some insane stories to share please email us at fineisthis@gmail.com Please rate and review -- it helps us a lot! insta: https://www.instagram.com/thisis___fine/ (@thisis___fine) twitter: https://twitter.com/fineisthis (@fineisthis) Resources:Tim Ferris breaks down his journal practices https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UFdR8w_R1HA&t (here). https://www.instagram.com/tattooist_one/ (Logo Design)