Podcasts about love after war

Dr. Mitchell Tepper, author of Regain that Feeling: Secrets to Sexual Self-Discovery, brings a lifetime of first-hand experience with chronic conditions and disability to his work as a Sexuality Researcher, Educator, Counselor, Coach and self-proclaimed Prophet of Pleasure.  He has a PhD in Human Sexuality Education from the University of Pennsylvania and a Master's in Public Health from Yale. Dr. Tepper worked on ground-breaking research on orgasm in women with spinal cord injuries with world-renowned orgasm researchers Drs. Beverly Whipple and Barry Komisaruk. Over the last 15 years, Dr. Tepper has turned his attention to helping wounded veterans and their partners navigate intimate relationships. His new documentary, Love After War: Saving Love, Saving Lives, tells the stories of intimate partners who have won the battle for love. Website: Drmitchelltepper.comDocumentary: http://Loveafterwar.orgNew Day Films: https://www.newday.com/films/love-after-war-saving-love-saving-lives (educational/community licensing) Book: https://www.amazon.com/Regain-That-Feeling-Self-Discovery-Relationships/dp/1505444993/ Social Media:https://www.facebook.com/doctortepperhttps://www.facebook.com/LoveAfterWarhttps://twitter.com/DoctorThttps://www.instagram.com/drmtepper/ Thank for Listening! Follow me on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter @LifePossibleKR. Here is my Linktree! https://linktr.ee/lifepossiblekr If you are enjoying the content or have feedback send me a message. I would love to hear from you! Karen

This episode features Dr. Mitchell Tepper- sexuality researcher, educator, filmmaker, and coach. We talk about his documentary Love After War: Saving Love, Saving Lives, which tells the stories of intimate partners who have won the battle for love. We also cover spinal cord injuries and pleasure as well PTSD, different kinds of disabilities and how they affect sex and relationships.   The Doc: https://www.loveafterwar.org/   Dr. Tepper: https://www.drmitchelltepper.com/   FOLLOW US  Twitter Instagram Facebook Send questions, comments, stories, rants to: SlutsAndScholars@gmail.com Sluts And Scholars is a production of sluts and scholars media.

IN THIS EPISODE we dive in to the deep dark waters of experiencing trauma. We break down the many ways trauma can affect not only our own lives, but the lives of those around us, and our most important relationships. We share methods and resources for working through different kinds of trauma. & We share some modern techniques & treatments, some of which might surprise you. ––––––◊◊◊◊◊–––––– #traumahealing #lovetips #relationhips #couplestherapy #couples Some links & references for ya:  Books (click on the affiliate links below to buy from Amazon and help our channel at no extra cost to you!): The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D. https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748/ref=sr_1_1?crid=259CKICJ3L8J4&keywords=the+body+keeps+the+score&qid=1647293987&s=books&sprefix=body+keeps%252Cstripbooks%252C363&sr=1-1&_encoding=UTF8&tag=howtolovefore-20&linkCode=ur2&linkId=a74405be115787b82e9c7a4cdcf2e633&camp=1789&creative=9325 Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience - Dr. Brené Brown: https://www.amazon.com/Atlas-Heart-Meaningful-Connection-Experience/dp/0399592555/ref=pd_sbs_28/141-3629085-5543902?pd_rd_w=hrLr9&pf_rd_p=dfec2022-428d-4b18-a6d4-8f791333a139&pf_rd_r=AFR3TRBBHDEGHP97ZTWW&pd_rd_r=a89aec35-6cc8-4e4a-ab1c-94922872b219&pd_rd_wg=cNfTD&pd_rd_i=0399592555&psc=1&_encoding=UTF8&tag=howtolovefore-20&linkCode=ur2&linkId=a2a8d31ad0582e5c531baacc099123d7&camp=1789&creative=9325 Healing Secondary Trauma: Proven Strategies for Caregivers and Professionals to Manage Stress, Anxiety, and Compassion Fatigue - Trudy Gilbert-Eliot, PhD:  https://www.amazon.com/dp/1641527560/ref=sspa_dk_detail_2?psc=1&pd_rd_i=1641527560&pd_rd_w=a2JRz&pf_rd_p=0c758152-61cd-452f-97a6-17f070f654b8&pd_rd_wg=rK04Q&pf_rd_r=MMH5MJVGWPFDWVC01B8C&pd_rd_r=a31e2223-d5b7-4356-8a1c-201a35f8349b&s=books&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUEzUFAzRkdWSE05TVk4JmVuY3J5cHRlZElkPUEwMTM5NzQwM081QVA5S0Q5QU9BUSZlbmNyeXB0ZWRBZElkPUEwNDE0NzMyMVA4RldVQjRHTkdWSCZ3aWRnZXROYW1lPXNwX2RldGFpbCZhY3Rpb249Y2xpY2tSZWRpcmVjdCZkb05vdExvZ0NsaWNrPXRydWU=&_encoding=UTF8&tag=howtolovefore-20&linkCode=ur2&linkId=4fbaa8b3612119b268a6535a59d52666&camp=1789&creative=9325 Links "The Love After War" screening at CSU: https://facebook.com/events/s/alvs-presents-love-after-war-s/3258654744357885/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-etY_-8ZIUw https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/when-it-all-falls-apart-traumas-impact-on-intimate-relationships-0211145 https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/coping-secondary-trauma-loved-ones-guide-0605137 https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201908/how-traumas-create-negative-patterns-in-relationships https://www.researchgate.net/publication/233329449_Broken_hearts_and_mending_bodies_The_impact_of_trauma_on_intimacy “I'm just so lucky to walk through this hell with her”. Tommy Vietor https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Glb2LEFHX_A&list=PLOOwEPgFWm_NHcQd9aCi5JXWASHO_n5uR&index=4 https://peaceaftertrauma.com/about-carolyn/ https://www.loveafterwar.org/ References  Center for Substance Abuse Treatment (US). Trauma-Informed Care in Behavioral Health Services. Rockville (MD): Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (US); 2014. (Treatment Improvement Protocol (TIP) Series, No. 57.) Chapter 3, Understanding the Impact of Trauma.  Millán K. “Signs and Symptoms of PTSD”. Black Bear Lodge. Black Bear Rehab. N.d.  Nielsen B. “How Unhealed Trauma Affects Highly Sensitive People”. Highly Sensitive Refuge. 10 February 2020. “Past trauma may haunt your future health”. Harvard Women's Health Watch. Harvard Health Publishing: Harvard Medical School. February 2019.  Yoder C. “Unaddressed trauma & how it impacts us”. Peace After Trauma. 2018. Effective psychotherapy is good for trauma patients, not to fix people, to paraphrase  Dr Van Dr Kolk, but to be able to acknowledge the terrible scary things that happened and to find ways the patient can fix themselves. About Bessel van der Kolk:  Bessel van der Kolk is a psychiatrist noted for his research in the area of post-traumatic stress since the 1970s. His work focuses on the interaction of attachment, neurobiology, and developmental aspects of trauma's effects on people. His major publication, Traumatic Stress: The Effects of Overwhelming Experience on Mind, Body, and Society, talks about how the role of trauma in psychiatric illness has changed over the past 20 years.  Dr. van der Kolk is past President of the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies, Professor of Psychiatry at Boston University Medical School, and Medical Director of the Trauma Center at JRI in Brookline, Massachusetts. He has taught at universities and hospitals across the United States and around the world, including Europe, Africa, Russia, Australia, Israel, and China.  Check out Bessel van der Kolk's latest book, “The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma” at https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Sco... ––––––◊◊◊◊◊–––––– What is trauma? First, comes tragedy, right out of the blue, walloping our hearts, minds & bodies, sending our lives reeling with typically no warning. It could be a terrible car accident, or something that hits us square in the emotions, like being subjected to or even just witnessing cruelties. When we are victims of tragedy, trauma ensues. To be more specific, trauma can be defined as a response that results from exposure to an incident or a series of events that are so emotionally disturbing or perceived to be so life-threatening that it has lasting effects on one's mental, physical, social, emotional, and/or spiritual balance.  In other words, something happens that threatens the very fabric of our lives, and we then get to deal with the very understandable emotional fall-out, potentially for the rest of our lives. We know this is heavy stuff, but considering that over 2/3 of our population has experienced a traumatic event at one point in their lives, and over 8 million people in the US alone suffer from PTSD, we feel the need to talk about it. And not just talk about what it is and how it can affect us, but also to share some techniques and strategies for dealing with trauma that have been scientifically researched and proven to be effective. We have to remind our listeners that we are not therapists, we are not licensed health professionals in any sense. We are just two more people who have survived traumas, had some pretty intense life experiences and are fortunate to be alive and well enough to speak of it.  We speak of it from personal experience not from clinical expertise, and we urge you to not take anything we say in this podcast as legal or medical advice, but rather as personal observations.   Sharing is the first step to healing, but if you or a loved one are suffering the effects of trauma, we strongly encourage you to seek out real qualified help, from a professional who will understand your needs and provide you with the tools & guidance to work on healing all of those unseen wounds.  And if this episode gives you a better idea of what it is you're going through and why, and that there is hope for healing with an array of techniques, then we will consider ourselves fortunate to have been able to help someone.  To that end, we have included a wealth of resources in the notes of this episode; from books and videos to celebrated practitioners, we urge you to check out the links and begin to map your path to healing. Ok, so there are many kinds of trauma that can occur. Ranging from some kind of accident, to natural catastrophes, to being subjected to interpersonal violence. It can be a one-time event (like an accident), a prolonged event (such as war), or a series of events ( like being subjected to long-term abuse).  Trauma that affects a community or a country is called collective trauma, and being close to someone who has been traumatized can cause it's own trauma, called secondary trauma. It's all very real and as you have probably seen in your own lives it can have incredibly long lasting consequences, sometimes generational.  In fact, so much of our human history can be defined as a litany of inherited generational trauma.   However, since there are so very permutations of trauma, and this is a podcast focused primarily on relationship health, we are going to narrow our focus to what happens when traumatic experiences threaten our romantic relationships, and what we can do to strengthen our connections & heal from the pain we've experienced. In relationships, there are two 2 categories of trauma that will most commonly affect us; life trauma and unhealed relationship trauma. Life trauma refers to those out-of-the-blue occurrences, whereas unhealed relationship trauma refers to when we have not yet fully processed and moved on from trauma occurring within a relationship, often a previous one. So what are the ways we can be affected by these different kinds of traumas? (How does it affect us?) * physically drained from constant stress responses     * fight/flight/freeze response is an automatic state now     * toxic relationships are stressful for mind & body alike     * constant stress can cause inflammation, heart attack, chronic pain, arthritis, weakened immune system * dissociation: disconnected from the world or your life     * head-in-the-clouds, non-presence     * feeling your life is a movie you're watching on a screen (simulation)     * disrupted perception memory processing & emotions     * like the traumatic event is still happening. * mental exhaustion at a chemical level     * adrenaline & cortisol are supposed to be short-term     * chemical overload:  can't concentrate, can't remember, can't sort out feelings     * frustration can be a constant * trust problems     * doubting people, even ones you know & love     * walls, non-belief, paranoia, doubting people's motives * risk junkie, taking chances to evade the bad feels     * sensations (rush) you can finally feel     * self-destructive rushed like sex & drug addiction     * any way to clear your mind of the nagging problems you can't address * a constant feeling of shame     * GUILT: feel bad about something you did     * SHAME: feel bad about who or what you are     * much self-blame about things not working out better     * living in regret & “if only” thoughts     * guilt/shame overload can worsen physical/psych effects of trauma * physical reaction to emotional triggers     * trauma “nostalgia”     * some small stimulus bring an outsized reaction     * amygdala produces neurotransmitter Acetylcholine      * shortness breath, sweating, anxiety, sickness when smell, shaking in a topic of conversation, nervous convulsing     * potential for violence * risk overeating, overproduction of adrenaline, anxiety etc can be further risk factors that make matters worse How does it affect those around us? * it can be generational,      * meaning the effects of trauma can be passed on from parents, grandparents, etc, through dysfunctional interactions & training children to view life through a lens that the world around them is not safe and may never be safe. * potential substance abuse & other abuses can cause havoc in family, work, friends * partner can experience secondary trauma     * also known as vicarious trauma      * experience many of the same effects as the person who was injured: fear, exhaustion, helplessness, hopelessness, anger, anxiety, etc. * it can generate its own ptsd * untreated ptsd, the effects get worse over time How can we process & manage it? There are two schools of thought about trauma;   1) it can be cured (removed)  2) it cannot be cured, only treated & the mind/body rewired to circumvent it. The key is to find something that allow the sense of deceptiveness & self-loathing to be controlled * notice the incongruence between the stimulus (situation) & the response (your whack-ass flipout) * Always remember that healing doesn't work in a straight line * be kind to yourself.  healing, self-love, self compassion, patience * try a therapy like EMDR (eye movement desensitization & reprocessing)     * patient recalls traumatic event, therapist makes them follow fingers with eyes     * seems like b.s. but the results speak for themselves     * changes the brain circuitry to interpret your currently reality from different POV     * allows people to let go of long-ago events, no longer in the now * try things like Yoga     * deepen your mind-body connection, raise awareness     * greater relationship with your internal sensory system     * allows us to minimize the focus on our round and round thought process, while feeling more connected to what our bodies are actually feeling. and if our body feels safe in the moment, that can help train our brains to be less “on guard”.     * According to Dr. Bessel van der Kolk it's proven more effective for ptsd than any of the studied drugs (prozac, zoloft, many others) * try things like Theater & Movement     * playing different roles in your body can help your relationship to yourself     * “playback theater” is a movement that uses this premise     * but all theater can be ecstatic and cathartic         * We did the John Gilkey “Idiot Workshop”, where he pushed us to dig deeper for expressions of ourselves we typically aren't comfortable portraying. I had a breakthrough when I burst out that I didn't want to be “cute” any more. After letting that sit with me for a few days & weeks, I realized that I had been filling a de facto “cute” role all my life, largely due to how it helped keep me safe. But now that I'm stronger & more confident, I don't need to keep that as my primary identity. There are so many facets to who I am, and I no longer need to limit myself to what used to keep me safe.     * Aristotle argued that tragedy cleansed the heart through pity and terror, purging us of our petty concerns and worries by making us aware that there can be nobility in suffering. He called this experience 'catharsis'. * try things like Neural Feedback (no really!)      * electrical/photon impulses into the brain can be like a neurochemical hard-reset     * shaping the brain to have a different configuration, open to new input * try things like Psychedelic therapy (guided MDMA sessions for trauma)     * legal grey area     * gaining traction     * gotta be legit, psych-guided, not just trippin' at a friend's house     * (ok maybe there's some benefit to the friend's house trip but come on)     * a meta-view can be achieved, a removal from the traumatic experience     *     * (we have friends)     *  BOTTOM LINE: DIFFERENT PEOPLE REQUIRE DIFFERENT APPROACHES. If you are working through trauma, you may find yourself drawn to one of these methods, or you might benefit from incorporating several of them. And it can change, both as you make progress and also as you move through different phases of your life. the main goal is to recognize what you're struggling with, accept that needing help is nothing to be ashamed of, and start finding ways to heal your wounds. Speaking of healing wounds, we had the pleasure of speaking with Mark Cunningham, a military veteran and therapist based in Fort Collins CO. We will be sharing the full interview with you all later in the season, but we wanted to do a public service announcement in this episode because Mark is helping to promote a documentary called “Love After War”, produced & directed by sexologist Dr. Mitchell Tepper. “Love After War” introduces the viewer to veterans and their partners who have had to fight the battle to save their relationships after suffering catastrophic injuries dealt in combat. It's heart-wrenching, candid, and inspiring, so we hope you get a chance to support the film. Mark is hosting a special screening at Colorado State University on March 29, 2022. If you're listening to the podcast right after it came out, that means you have two weeks to make plans! And if you aren't able to pop over to Fort Collins the day of, you can sign up to get notifications of screenings in your area, or even sign up to host one yourself!  The website is loveafterwar.org, and we'll leave a link directly in the description. So please check it out and support this film any way you can.

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Sex After Spinal Cord Injury On this episode, Mitchell joins us to discuss the impact of a spinal injury on sexual function. Having experienced this type of injury personally, he shares his journey to teaching people about sexual health being one of the first people to have a sexual health domain registered in 1996. The website was intended to help people with disabilities with their sexual health but soon became a central source of sexual health information for all kinds of people. The Importance of Trust Setting myths aside, Mitchell explains that people with disabilities can experience sexual pleasure, erections, etc but some have difficulty expressing themselves. After research into this, he found that people need a partner they can trust to reach the point of sexual pleasure and comfort. A critical part of this is relearning the truth about sex, departing from the limiting physical definition to experiencing trust, safety, and connectedness. Mitchell is a testament to breaking physical boundaries with this combination. He has found that even those with disabilities below their injury region have experienced an orgasm with the proper context and approach. Sexual Self Esteem In other areas of his research, Mitchell tells us about the effect of how much time has passed post-injury and sexual self-esteem on sexual health. His findings also point to people having higher sexual self-esteem if they were born with their disability as opposed to people who acquired their injury. This is based on the latter group constantly comparing their past sexual performance with their current ability. These Ideas Apply to Everyone In his process of helping people, Mitchell explains that he helps his clients understand how their new bodies work, as this is usually overlooked or taken for granted. In addition to this, he encourages people to make use of touch, sound, and sensation to help people reach sexual pleasure. For people that aren't struggling with a disability but want to explore a deeper and meaningful sexual experience, Mitchell advocates sensate focus. He further explains that this builds sexual communication and advocates touching for your own sexual satisfaction, allowing your partner to provide feedback. Mitchell also finds that Tantra a meaningful technique to deeper sexual experiences. The technique has three main factors: Stop, focus, and connect, which he digs deeper into. Achieving Orgasm Mitchell's techniques are beneficial to able-bodied and disabled people, revealing that penetration is not at all the only means to orgasm. With dozens of examples of non-penetrative orgasms amongst his findings, he shares real cases with us that shed light on this experience. Undoing learned habits is just as huge a part of the difficult journey to experiencing sexual liberation. Incorporating play into sex is also a great way to make it less serious. Background Dr. Mitchell Tepper, author of Regain That Feeling: Secrets to Sexual Self-Discovery, brings a lifetime of first-hand experience with chronic conditions and disability to his work as a Sexuality Researcher, AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator and Counselor, Coach, and self-proclaimed Prophet of Pleasure. He has a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality Education from the University of Pennsylvania and a Master's in Public Health from Yale. Dr. Tepper worked on ground-breaking research on orgasm in women with spinal cord injuries with world-renowned orgasm researchers Drs. Beverly Whipple and Barry Komisaruk. Over the last 14 years, Dr. Tepper has turned his attention to helping wounded veterans and their partners navigate intimate relationships. His forthcoming documentary, Love After War, tells the stories of intimate partners who have won the battle for love. Links and Resources Website: http://drmitchelltepper.com Documentary: http://Loveafterwar.org Book: https://www.amazon.com/Regain-That-Feeling-Self-Discovery-Relationships/dp/1505444993/ Social Media: https://www.facebook.com/doctortepper https://www.facebook.com/LoveAfterWar https://twitter.com/DoctorT https://www.instagram.com/drmtepper/ More info: Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/ Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/ Webinar: How to Make Sex Easy Without Making It Feel Like an Obligation – http://intimacywithease.com/training Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/ Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/146-what-we-can-learn-from-people-with-spinal-cord-injury-dr-mitchell-tepperMore info and resources: How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to make sex easy and fun for both of you: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

Sex After Spinal Cord InjuryOn this episode, Mitchell joins us to discuss the impact of a spinal injury on sexual function. Having experienced this type of injury personally, he shares his journey to teaching people about sexual health being one of the first people to have a sexual health domain registered in 1996. The website was intended to help people with disabilities with their sexual health but soon became a central source of sexual health information for all kinds of people. The Importance of Trust Setting myths aside, Mitchell explains that people with disabilities can experience sexual pleasure, erections, etc but some have difficulty expressing themselves. After research into this, he found that people need a partner they can trust to reach the point of sexual pleasure and comfort. A critical part of this is relearning the truth about sex, departing from the limiting physical definition to experiencing trust, safety, and connectedness. Mitchell is a testament to breaking physical boundaries with this combination. He has found that even those with disabilities below their injury region have experienced an orgasm with the proper context and approach. Sexual Self Esteem In other areas of his research, Mitchell tells us about the effect of how much time has passed post-injury and sexual self-esteem on sexual health. His findings also point to people having higher sexual self-esteem if they were born with their disability as opposed to people who acquired their injury. This is based on the latter group constantly comparing their past sexual performance with their current ability. These Ideas Apply to Everyone In his process of helping people, Mitchell explains that he helps his clients understand how their new bodies work, as this is usually overlooked or taken for granted. In addition to this, he encourages people to make use of touch, sound, and sensation to help people reach sexual pleasure. For people that aren’t struggling with a disability but want to explore a deeper and meaningful sexual experience, Mitchell advocates sensate focus. He further explains that this builds sexual communication and advocates touching for your own sexual satisfaction, allowing your partner to provide feedback. Mitchell also finds that Tantra a meaningful technique to deeper sexual experiences. The technique has three main factors: Stop, focus, and connect, which he digs deeper into. Achieving Orgasm Mitchell’s techniques are beneficial to able-bodied and disabled people, revealing that penetration is not at all the only means to orgasm. With dozens of examples of non-penetrative orgasms amongst his findings, he shares real cases with us that shed light on this experience. Undoing learned habits is just as huge a part of the difficult journey to experiencing sexual liberation. Incorporating play into sex is also a great way to make it less serious. Background Dr. Mitchell Tepper, author of Regain That Feeling: Secrets to Sexual Self-Discovery, brings a lifetime of first-hand experience with chronic conditions and disability to his work as a Sexuality Researcher, AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator and Counselor, Coach, and self-proclaimed Prophet of Pleasure. He has a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality Education from the University of Pennsylvania and a Master’s in Public Health from Yale. Dr. Tepper worked on ground-breaking research on orgasm in women with spinal cord injuries with world-renowned orgasm researchers Drs. Beverly Whipple and Barry Komisaruk. Over the last 14 years, Dr. Tepper has turned his attention to helping wounded veterans and their partners navigate intimate relationships. His forthcoming documentary, Love After War, tells the stories of intimate partners who have won the battle for love. Links and Resources Website: http://drmitchelltepper.com Documentary: http://Loveafterwar.org Book: https://www.amazon.com/Regain-That-Feeling-Self-Discovery-Relationships/dp/1505444993/ Social Media: https://www.facebook.com/doctortepper https://www.facebook.com/LoveAfterWar https://twitter.com/DoctorT https://www.instagram.com/drmtepper/More info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/Webinar:How to Make Sex Easy Without Making It Feel Like an Obligation – http://intimacywithease.com/trainingBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/146-what-we-can-learn-from-people-with-spinal-cord-injury-dr-mitchell-tepper

Sex After Spinal Cord InjuryOn this episode, Mitchell joins us to discuss the impact of a spinal injury on sexual function. Having experienced this type of injury personally, he shares his journey to teaching people about sexual health being one of the first people to have a sexual health domain registered in 1996. The website was intended to help people with disabilities with their sexual health but soon became a central source of sexual health information for all kinds of people. The Importance of Trust Setting myths aside, Mitchell explains that people with disabilities can experience sexual pleasure, erections, etc but some have difficulty expressing themselves. After research into this, he found that people need a partner they can trust to reach the point of sexual pleasure and comfort. A critical part of this is relearning the truth about sex, departing from the limiting physical definition to experiencing trust, safety, and connectedness. Mitchell is a testament to breaking physical boundaries with this combination. He has found that even those with disabilities below their injury region have experienced an orgasm with the proper context and approach. Sexual Self Esteem In other areas of his research, Mitchell tells us about the effect of how much time has passed post-injury and sexual self-esteem on sexual health. His findings also point to people having higher sexual self-esteem if they were born with their disability as opposed to people who acquired their injury. This is based on the latter group constantly comparing their past sexual performance with their current ability. These Ideas Apply to Everyone In his process of helping people, Mitchell explains that he helps his clients understand how their new bodies work, as this is usually overlooked or taken for granted. In addition to this, he encourages people to make use of touch, sound, and sensation to help people reach sexual pleasure. For people that aren’t struggling with a disability but want to explore a deeper and meaningful sexual experience, Mitchell advocates sensate focus. He further explains that this builds sexual communication and advocates touching for your own sexual satisfaction, allowing your partner to provide feedback. Mitchell also finds that Tantra a meaningful technique to deeper sexual experiences. The technique has three main factors: Stop, focus, and connect, which he digs deeper into. Achieving Orgasm Mitchell’s techniques are beneficial to able-bodied and disabled people, revealing that penetration is not at all the only means to orgasm. With dozens of examples of non-penetrative orgasms amongst his findings, he shares real cases with us that shed light on this experience. Undoing learned habits is just as huge a part of the difficult journey to experiencing sexual liberation. Incorporating play into sex is also a great way to make it less serious. Background Dr. Mitchell Tepper, author of Regain That Feeling: Secrets to Sexual Self-Discovery, brings a lifetime of first-hand experience with chronic conditions and disability to his work as a Sexuality Researcher, AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator and Counselor, Coach, and self-proclaimed Prophet of Pleasure. He has a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality Education from the University of Pennsylvania and a Master’s in Public Health from Yale. Dr. Tepper worked on ground-breaking research on orgasm in women with spinal cord injuries with world-renowned orgasm researchers Drs. Beverly Whipple and Barry Komisaruk. Over the last 14 years, Dr. Tepper has turned his attention to helping wounded veterans and their partners navigate intimate relationships. His forthcoming documentary, Love After War, tells the stories of intimate partners who have won the battle for love. Links and Resources Website: http://drmitchelltepper.com Documentary: http://Loveafterwar.org Book: https://www.amazon.com/Regain-That-Feeling-Self-Discovery-Relationships/dp/1505444993/ Social Media: https://www.facebook.com/doctortepper https://www.facebook.com/LoveAfterWar https://twitter.com/DoctorT https://www.instagram.com/drmtepper/More info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/Webinar:How to Make Sex Easy Without Making It Feel Like an Obligation – http://intimacywithease.com/trainingBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/146-what-we-can-learn-from-people-with-spinal-cord-injury-dr-mitchell-tepper

Sex After Spinal Cord InjuryOn this episode, Mitchell joins us to discuss the impact of a spinal injury on sexual function. Having experienced this type of injury personally, he shares his journey to teaching people about sexual health being one of the first people to have a sexual health domain registered in 1996. The website was intended to help people with disabilities with their sexual health but soon became a central source of sexual health information for all kinds of people. The Importance of Trust Setting myths aside, Mitchell explains that people with disabilities can experience sexual pleasure, erections, etc but some have difficulty expressing themselves. After research into this, he found that people need a partner they can trust to reach the point of sexual pleasure and comfort. A critical part of this is relearning the truth about sex, departing from the limiting physical definition to experiencing trust, safety, and connectedness. Mitchell is a testament to breaking physical boundaries with this combination. He has found that even those with disabilities below their injury region have experienced an orgasm with the proper context and approach. Sexual Self Esteem In other areas of his research, Mitchell tells us about the effect of how much time has passed post-injury and sexual self-esteem on sexual health. His findings also point to people having higher sexual self-esteem if they were born with their disability as opposed to people who acquired their injury. This is based on the latter group constantly comparing their past sexual performance with their current ability. These Ideas Apply to Everyone In his process of helping people, Mitchell explains that he helps his clients understand how their new bodies work, as this is usually overlooked or taken for granted. In addition to this, he encourages people to make use of touch, sound, and sensation to help people reach sexual pleasure. For people that aren’t struggling with a disability but want to explore a deeper and meaningful sexual experience, Mitchell advocates sensate focus. He further explains that this builds sexual communication and advocates touching for your own sexual satisfaction, allowing your partner to provide feedback. Mitchell also finds that Tantra a meaningful technique to deeper sexual experiences. The technique has three main factors: Stop, focus, and connect, which he digs deeper into. Achieving Orgasm Mitchell’s techniques are beneficial to able-bodied and disabled people, revealing that penetration is not at all the only means to orgasm. With dozens of examples of non-penetrative orgasms amongst his findings, he shares real cases with us that shed light on this experience. Undoing learned habits is just as huge a part of the difficult journey to experiencing sexual liberation. Incorporating play into sex is also a great way to make it less serious. Background Dr. Mitchell Tepper, author of Regain That Feeling: Secrets to Sexual Self-Discovery, brings a lifetime of first-hand experience with chronic conditions and disability to his work as a Sexuality Researcher, AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator and Counselor, Coach, and self-proclaimed Prophet of Pleasure. He has a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality Education from the University of Pennsylvania and a Master’s in Public Health from Yale. Dr. Tepper worked on ground-breaking research on orgasm in women with spinal cord injuries with world-renowned orgasm researchers Drs. Beverly Whipple and Barry Komisaruk. Over the last 14 years, Dr. Tepper has turned his attention to helping wounded veterans and their partners navigate intimate relationships. His forthcoming documentary, Love After War, tells the stories of intimate partners who have won the battle for love. Links and Resources Website: http://drmitchelltepper.com Documentary: http://Loveafterwar.org Book: https://www.amazon.com/Regain-That-Feeling-Self-Discovery-Relationships/dp/1505444993/ Social Media: https://www.facebook.com/doctortepper https://www.facebook.com/LoveAfterWar https://twitter.com/DoctorT https://www.instagram.com/drmtepper/More info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/Webinar:How to Make Sex Easy Without Making It Feel Like an Obligation – http://intimacywithease.com/trainingBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/146-what-we-can-learn-from-people-with-spinal-cord-injury-dr-mitchell-tepper

Sex After Spinal Cord InjuryOn this episode, Mitchell joins us to discuss the impact of a spinal injury on sexual function. Having experienced this type of injury personally, he shares his journey to teaching people about sexual health being one of the first people to have a sexual health domain registered in 1996. The website was intended to help people with disabilities with their sexual health but soon became a central source of sexual health information for all kinds of people. The Importance of Trust Setting myths aside, Mitchell explains that people with disabilities can experience sexual pleasure, erections, etc but some have difficulty expressing themselves. After research into this, he found that people need a partner they can trust to reach the point of sexual pleasure and comfort. A critical part of this is relearning the truth about sex, departing from the limiting physical definition to experiencing trust, safety, and connectedness. Mitchell is a testament to breaking physical boundaries with this combination. He has found that even those with disabilities below their injury region have experienced an orgasm with the proper context and approach. Sexual Self Esteem In other areas of his research, Mitchell tells us about the effect of how much time has passed post-injury and sexual self-esteem on sexual health. His findings also point to people having higher sexual self-esteem if they were born with their disability as opposed to people who acquired their injury. This is based on the latter group constantly comparing their past sexual performance with their current ability. These Ideas Apply to Everyone In his process of helping people, Mitchell explains that he helps his clients understand how their new bodies work, as this is usually overlooked or taken for granted. In addition to this, he encourages people to make use of touch, sound, and sensation to help people reach sexual pleasure. For people that aren’t struggling with a disability but want to explore a deeper and meaningful sexual experience, Mitchell advocates sensate focus. He further explains that this builds sexual communication and advocates touching for your own sexual satisfaction, allowing your partner to provide feedback. Mitchell also finds that Tantra a meaningful technique to deeper sexual experiences. The technique has three main factors: Stop, focus, and connect, which he digs deeper into. Achieving Orgasm Mitchell’s techniques are beneficial to able-bodied and disabled people, revealing that penetration is not at all the only means to orgasm. With dozens of examples of non-penetrative orgasms amongst his findings, he shares real cases with us that shed light on this experience. Undoing learned habits is just as huge a part of the difficult journey to experiencing sexual liberation. Incorporating play into sex is also a great way to make it less serious. Background Dr. Mitchell Tepper, author of Regain That Feeling: Secrets to Sexual Self-Discovery, brings a lifetime of first-hand experience with chronic conditions and disability to his work as a Sexuality Researcher, AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator and Counselor, Coach, and self-proclaimed Prophet of Pleasure. He has a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality Education from the University of Pennsylvania and a Master’s in Public Health from Yale. Dr. Tepper worked on ground-breaking research on orgasm in women with spinal cord injuries with world-renowned orgasm researchers Drs. Beverly Whipple and Barry Komisaruk. Over the last 14 years, Dr. Tepper has turned his attention to helping wounded veterans and their partners navigate intimate relationships. His forthcoming documentary, Love After War, tells the stories of intimate partners who have won the battle for love. Links and Resources Website: http://drmitchelltepper.com Documentary: http://Loveafterwar.org Book: https://www.amazon.com/Regain-That-Feeling-Self-Discovery-Relationships/dp/1505444993/ Social Media: https://www.facebook.com/doctortepper https://www.facebook.com/LoveAfterWar https://twitter.com/DoctorT https://www.instagram.com/drmtepper/More info:Book and New Course – https://sexwithoutstress.comPodcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com/Sex Health Quiz – http://sexhealthquiz.com/Webinar:How to Make Sex Easy Without Making It Feel Like an Obligation – http://intimacywithease.com/trainingBetter Sex with Jessa Zimmermanhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/146-what-we-can-learn-from-people-with-spinal-cord-injury-dr-mitchell-tepper

Dr. Mark Schoen, a filmmaker and sex educator, returned to the program. We continued our conversation about the documentary “Candice” (aka Candida Royalle). Dr. Mark described Sheona McDonald’s documentary as a real tribute to the late Candice, a visionary who made female oriented, accurate, and realistic films – often using real couples. She was a good friend to my guest and me. Like many other sex therapists, I suggested Candice’s films and still do. They can be found onwww.BetterSex.com, distributed by Adam & Eve. Dr. Mark’s website is www.SexSmartFilms.com. Eleven years ago he started with 46 films, and now has 615 films divided into categories such as Education, Research and Therapy. The site is a sex educator’s dream come true! In 2012 Mark made a film called “Trans” about transgendered folks, a film that has saved lives (the suicide rate is about 41% ). “Trans” can be found on Amazon Prime and i-Tunes. A documentary entitled “Love After War” – www.LoveAfterWar.org – is nearly complete. It deals with injured veterans who need help healing their relational/sexual wounds. For many, getting more information on sexual health can make all the difference!

This week we cover a few topics that affect us as we age. We have the great pleasure to have Dr. Mitchell Tepper, a sexologist who focuses on sex and disabilities on our show this week. Mitch discusses his research and an extraordinary documentary he and Dr. Mark Schoen are creating called, “Love After War.” It’s an in-depth look into the lives of active duty service members and veterans who have returned home with physical and/or psychological health challenges that are creating difficulties in their intimate and sexual lives as they age. Here’s a link to the film so you can see the trailer. Another excellent resource on sexuality and health disparities that Mitch discussed is The Morehouse Center for Excellence for Sexual Health. And please write to Mitch if you’re interested in any of the articles he cited. Continuing our exploration into Black History Month, we translate some recent research results about Black women’s sexuality and aging from Dr. Erika Evans-Weaver, whose doctoral research results can be found at the Widener University Wolfgram Memorial Library. Opening music by Kabbalistic Village, closing music is “entropy” by fascinating earthbound objects. All music available through Creative Commons Attribution, Non-Commercial Share Alike 4.0 International. So check out the show. We love our listeners and welcome your feedback.  Please write to us at this address. And thanks for listening!

Love After War: Supporting Disabled Veterans with Dr. Mitchell TepperAired Thursday, 18 August 2016, 4:00 PM ETDr. Martha Tara Lee welcomes Dr. Mitchell Tepper to discuss his new documentary, Making Love after Making War: Supporting Intimate Relationships for Injured Veterans and Their Families. Too many soldiers are returning home with catastrophic physical and mental wounds that leave them feeling unable to have intimate relationships. Many wounded warriors and their families haven’t been told that a healthy, satisfying sex life and even having children are possible for them. LoveAfterWar will show case real life examples of disabled veterans reclaiming healthy, fulfilling relationships despite their injuries and will raise awareness of the intimacy issues that disabled veterans face.About the Guest Dr. Mitchell TepperDr. Mitchell Tepper brings a lifetime of first-hand experience with chronic conditions and disability to his work as a Sexologist. He is AASECT Certified as a Sexuality Educator and Counselor, and is a licensed PAIRS Instructor. In 2006, he joined Former U.S. Surgeon General Dr. David Satcher as a faculty member in the Center of Excellence for Sexual Health at Morehouse School of Medicine and had the honor of working on behalf of injured veterans. He directed the Wounded Troops and Partners: Supporting Intimate Relationship convening in May 2008. He subsequently worked with the VA to help develop their Chaplains Best Practice Award Marriage Enrichment Retreats and held a joint research appointment with the Atlanta VA Medical Center. Dr. Tepper left Morehouse School of Medicine in 2011 to continue his role as an advocate focusing on sexual health, disabilities and chronic conditions. In 2013 Dr. Tepper worked closely with the Sexual Health and Intimacy Work Group at Walter Reed National Military Medical Center on designing and delivering staff training in providing sexual healthcare for wounded warriors. He is currently working on a documentary Making Love After Making War: Supporting Intimate Relationships for Injured Veterans and Their Families.Fundraising page – www. loveafterwar.orgYour website URL – http://drmitchelltepper.comTwitter link – https://twitter.com/DoctorTFacebook page – https://www.facebook.com/doctortepper

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Robin Thicke passed by Sirius Xm The Heat to talk to Mina SayWhat about his album "Love After War," being a dad, his wife Paula Patton and his relationship with Lil Wayne. Check Mina on twitter @MinaSayWhat or on www.MinaSayWhat.com Listen to Mina SayWhat on The Heat siriusxm 47.

Robin Thicke passed by Sirius Xm The Heat to talk to Mina SayWhat about his album "Love After War," being a dad, his wife Paula Patton and his relationship with Lil Wayne. Check Mina on twitter @MinaSayWhat or on www.MinaSayWhat.com Listen to Mina SayWhat on The Heat siriusxm 47.