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Judy Bornstein, Boomer, joins me to discuss conflict – whoa! Judy is the Founder of C Suite Resolutions, where she provides mediation, ombuds services, conflict and negotiation coaching, and corporate trainings to organizations and executives. She has worked extensively as a CFO and Chief Compliance Officer, and brings her business experience to her work in addressing conflict. Topics Covered: Conflict definition Disagreement vs conflict Gossip Consequences of pushing down conflict Costs involved in unresolved conflicts How organizations set themselves up to handle conflicts Ombuds (trained independent designated neutral to build trust) Working in conflict and understanding our reactions Mediations Three Episode Takeaways 1. If we only think of conflict as a fight we can lose that it can be a really powerful engine for creativity, change, and self-reflection. 2. Responses to conflict can fall along gender lines. Many women are raised to “be nice” and “be good”, and told “don't make a scene”. Women may be uncomfortable acknowledging a conflict so will be quiet or not address it directly, and there is less latitude for women to express conflict than is often afforded to men 3. Humans are naturally (evolutionarily) wired to not like conflict, so that means our managers, bosses, and leaders probably don't like conflict. As a result conflict may pushed down or silenced, which can lead to unintentional consequences like blaming the people involved rather than learning from the situation. Conflict is an inherent part of growth and innovation in organizations. Great Quotes: Hope is not a strategy. We may have conflict because we are wise enough to see the complexity in our world. If you have conflict in your life it doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. Conflict can be perplexing. Episode Resources: Baruch Bush: https://www.beyondintractability.org/bksum/bush-promise More About Judy: Judy is a doctoral candidate at Penn State University where her research interests center around organizational conflict. She holds a Masters in Dispute Resolution from Pepperdine University's Caruso School of Law, and an MBA from Simmons University in Boston, where she graduated first in her class. Judy is a Mediation trainer and serves on the San Francisco Bar Association Mediation Panel and on the Arbitration Panel for FINRA (the Financial Industry Regulatory Authority). She is a regular mediator for the Congress of Neutrals where she mediates court cases in Contra Costa County, CA. Judy also co-facilitates a Transformative Mediation group inside San Quentin State Prison, where she offers mediation and conflict-resolution training to incarcerated men interested in non-violent conflict resolution. How to reach Judy: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/judybornstein/ Email: jb@csuiteresolutions.com Website: www.csuiteresolutions.com How to reach Yo Canny: Our website: www.girltaketheleadpod.com You can send a message or voicemail there. We'd love to hear from you! email: yo@yocanny.com FB group: Girl, Take the Lead https://www.facebook.com/groups/272025931481748/?ref=share IG: yocanny YouTube LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yocanny/
Doing Divorce Different A Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce Differently
Today I am joined by Kim Best, a nurse turned divorce mediator in Tennessee. Kim walks us through how she got into mediation and what opportunities she sees through mediation. She focuses on the opportunity and the positive ways to handle conflict and divorce vs. feeling regret years later. Kim talks with us about how our difficult circumstances impact our legacy and some of the great examples she has gotten to be a part of with mediation. This episode is full of juicy nuggets and great takeaways, so make sure to tune in! In this episode: [3:07] How did Kim get to where she is today? [10:04] What are the benefits of mediation? [13:56] What does Kim see as uses for mediation? [15:52] How do these moments create our legacy? [17:58] Kim gives some examples of good divorces she has witnessed. Key Takeaways: Mediation can be the difference between hope and regret. You can choose to look back and be proud of how you handled the divorce, or you can look back and regret how things happened. Mediation isn't just for divorce. Mediation can be used for family issues, such as for elderly parents or other things going on where you need a mediator in the room. You can't control the outcome of what the other person does, but you can control who you're going to be during the process, and nobody can take that choice away from you. Quotes: “We are all never so narcissistic as when we're in pain. Because when we're in pain, it's all about us, and it's all about protecting us, even when we don't know we need protected. Biologically our brains and bodies don't know the difference between an insult and someone holding a gun to our head; both of those actions feel like life-threatening.” - Kim Best “Good people have terrible moments because we're people. We're more than our worst moment.” - Kim Best Guest Bio: Kimberly Best RN, MA is a TN Rule 31 listed Civil mediator and a TN Rule 31 trained Family Mediator, owner of Best Conflict Solutions (http://www.bestconflictsolutions.com ) focusing on Collaborative Problem Solving in Healthcare, Small Business Mediation and Conflict Management, Organizational Conflict, Elder Mediation, Family and Relationship Mediation, Dialogue Facilitation, and Conflict Coaching. She spent the first season of her career as a Registered Nurse in intensive care, trauma, and emergency medicine, where she cared for people in extreme need and gained valuable experience in the medical system. Kim attended graduate school at the University of North Carolina Charlotte in Clinical/Community Psychology. She obtained a master's degree in Conflict Management from Lipscomb University in Nashville, Tennessee. Kim also trained in Transformative Mediation at Hofstra University, Healthcare Mediation at the University of South Florida, and Restorative Practices at the International Institute of Restorative Practices. She is an active member of Mediators Beyond Borders International and a working member of the ACR Elder Mediation Professional Development Group. She also serves on the board of the Tennessee Association of Professional Mediators. Resources: Best Conflict Solutions Website Lesa Koski Website Lesa's Online Courses The Onward app was made for divorced parents to help track, share and split their children's expenses. Download The Onward App today for iOS or Android!
Louise Phipps Senft is the founder and CEO of Baltimore Mediation. She is a well-respected attorney and mediator. Louise practices "Transformative Mediation" in a number of complex settings -uniquely in healthcare - where techniques of mindfulness (like presence and non-judgement) are implemented routinely. She is an expert in personality assessment, personal and relational interactions. In addition, Louise is the host of "Blink of an Eye" Podcast (https://blinkofaneyepodcast.com/) which chronicles her families experience with trauma, the medical field, and awakening. I love talking with Louise and I hope you enjoy the conversation.References:https://www.baltimoremediation.com/louise-phipps-senft-bio/https://blinkofaneyepodcast.com/BooksThe Essential Enneagram The Body Knows the Score
RN and author Kimberly Best is the author of “How to Live Forever: A Guide to Writing the Final Chapter of Your Life Story”. Kim talked with us about her career spent in nursing and conflict management, and the value of mediation for end of life decisions. Kim has a master's degree in Conflict Management, and is trained in Transformative Mediation and Healthcare Mediation. Her passion for resolving conflicts without litigation is evident in her work and her wisdom. According to her website BestConflictSolutions.com, Kim's book “provides you with tools that can help you have the difficult conversations regarding legal decisions, health care plans, relationships, and death. Recognizing the finite nature of our days, we can live purposefully, plan ahead for the end of our life story, and die without regret, living fully to the end and finishing well. Connect with Best Conflict Solutions and the mediation services they provide, including elder mediation, family and relationship mediation, conflict coaching, and speaking services. Buy Kim Best's book “How to Live Forever: A Guide to Writing the Final Chapter of your Life Story” here or here. Download the study guide to go with the book by clicking here. Connect with mediation services from Best Conflict Solutions by clicking here. Find more information about hospice philosophy, end of life care, and self care for both personal and professional caregivers here. Send your questions and comments to host@theheartofhospice.com. We'd love to hear from you! Find more podcast episodes from The Heart of Hospice here: https://theheartofhospice.libsyn.com/
The Katallasso Group's Founder, Lisa Welter, and Chief Community Officer & Lawyer, Jen Konieczny, share why transformative mediation and leadership is the most ideal way forward for families, households, and marriages in conflict. This series is crazy practical and intended to make you ponder your own conflict in life! Our Transformative Mediation Services are open for all families June 7th, 2021!
Gut durch die Zeit. Der Podcast rund um Mediation, Konflikt-Coaching und Organisationsberatung.
Christian Hartwig, Mediator und Ausbilder des Bundesverbandes Mediation sowie zertifiziert vom US-amerikanischen Institute for the Study of Conflict Transformation, begründet von R. Bush und J. Folger, erläutert, was Transformative Mediation ausmacht, welche Techniken wichtig sind und ob es Grenzen für diese Vorgehensweise in der Konfliktvermittlung gibt.
Dan Simon joins Not So Kosher for his 2nd hang out with me! This guys got it all, looks, brains and a killer personality-for the best peacemaker in his industry give Dan the Man a call.Minneapolis Office: Simon Mediation 310 4th Ave. S., Ste. 5010 Minneapolis, MN 55415 (612) 824-8988Los Angeles Office: Simon Mediation 11620 Wilshire Blvd., Ste. 900 Los Angeles, CA 90025 (310) 954-5401Simon Mediation provides Transformative Mediation, which supports clients in their own process of gaining the clarity and confidence to pursue what they need, while they increase their capacity to bring a challenging situation to a peaceful conclusion. It’s incredibly efficient because it helps clients focus directly on the heart of their conflict. Clients most often reach solutions that they feel genuinely good about in a matter of hours.“Since 1998, Simon Mediation has provided mediation of all types of disputes. My approach keeps you in control and helps you work through differences smoothly and without lasting resentment. You’ll feel supported and encouraged, and never pushed.”– Dan Simon
Jennifer gives listeners an update on her dog, Enki (and thanks everyone for their messages of support). Angela discusses an article on the challenges of living in a triad relationship for the newswire segment. Today, we are joined by Carey Heartborne who is a private mediator that specializes in Transformative Mediation (and who also happens […]
For more than 30 years, Jackie Simmons of Stress Management Services has worked as a stress management and business consultant. She has had a diverse collection of both corporate and individual clients. Jackie focuses on freeing people from unwanted drama - often relieving chronic, stress-related, conditions and symptoms in the process.Her business clients have higher profits with more peace of mind.Jackie is a Dale Carnegie trained speaker with a background in Transformative Mediation, Human Resources, and the Eastern healing art of Ohashiatsu.Today, Jackie rejoins us to discuss a revolutionary Stress Intervention Technique that instills emotional control and changes lives. A technique training system so revolutionary, private and effective that no one needs to share their story to feel bette
Learn about truancy and how mediation can be a valuable process for students, parents, and schools. You will learn about typical cases referred to our juvenile truancy mediation program and possible outcomes. We will discuss the benefits of truancy mediation as well as take away tips to prevent truancy. Michelle Zaremba is the Director of the Dayton Mediation Center and has worked in the field for 14 years. She holds a BA in Applied Conflict Management and a Master of Public Administration. Michelle is a Certified Transformative Mediator. Trisha Werts is the Mediation Specialist for Juvenile Court Mediation Programs at the Dayton Mediation Center. She has worked in the field for 12 years and is a Certified Transformative Mediator. Trisha specializes in training, mediating, and youth programming For more information: Transformative Mediation and National Association for Community Mediation