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Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Divorce has a reputation for bringing out surprising behaviors in otherwise composed, reasonable people. Even the most patient parent might find themselves sending aggressive texts at 2 AM. The kindest spouse might suddenly become fixated on revenge. The most logical professional might make financially devastating decisions based purely on emotion.Why does this happen? In this episode, we explore the psychological underpinnings of why good people often behave badly during divorce. We unpack the popular saying that "criminal courts see bad people on their best day, while divorce courts see good people on their worst day" - a profound truth that helps us understand the perfect storm of emotional, practical, and identity challenges divorce creates.When someone faces the end of their marriage, they're not just untangling a relationship - they're grieving the life they expected to have. This grief, combined with practical pressures like custody arrangements and financial concerns, pushes many into survival mode. And when we're in survival mode, our capacity for rational thinking diminishes dramatically.As divorce coaches, we've developed specific approaches for working with clients caught in reactive emotional states. We share practical techniques for creating judgment-free spaces where clients can explore what's really happening beneath their anger, fear, or revenge fantasies. Through powerful questions that invite self-awareness, we help clients align their behavior with their true values and long-term goals.Whether you're a helping professional working with divorcing clients or someone navigating your own divorce journey, this conversation offers compassionate insights into the emotional complexity of ending a marriage. Remember, reacting emotionally doesn't make someone a bad person - it makes them human. With the right support, these challenging moments can become opportunities for profound growth and self-discovery. Divorce often brings emotional chaos—and as attorneys, mediators, financial advisors, divorce coaches, and dispute resolution professionals, you're tasked with guiding clients through it.Join us for a practical and engaging LinkedIn Learning webinar:“From Chaos to Clarity: Strategies for Work with High Emotional Clients in Divorce" Learn more and RSVP Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Tracy and Debra are taking the week off to enjoy holiday time with family so we're taking this opportunity to share an episode from the back catalog about the importance of working on a divorce exit strategy. Since many people begin thinking about divorce during the holiday season but wait util January to take any action, we thought it might be helpful to review the steps that clients can take in advance to set themselves up for a better divorce process. In this episode we share that most of our clients would say their top priorities are:minimize impact on the childrenfeel confident that the settlement they're agreeing to is fairkeep divorce costs downget through the process without losing their mindsWe hope you were able to spend some time with friends and family over Thanksgiving and we hope you enjoy this episode where we discuss about the 5 ways working on an exit strategy can pave the way for a good divorce if things go well and protect clients in the event that things go poorly. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)At DCA, we share a vision that couples would have the ability to rearrange and restructure their relationships and their families in a way that leads to wholeness and happiness. Divorce is often seen as an end—an ending to a marriage, an ending to a chapter of life. But what if it didn't have to be a painful, adversarial process? What if divorce could be approached with intention, healing, and collaboration, with the goal of not just separating, but rebuilding lives in a healthy, sustainable way?In today's episode, we explore the idea of restorative divorce—an approach that focuses on healing, mutual respect, and long-term well-being for both partners. We'll dive into how this process works, how it differs from adversarial divorce, and why we believe it's a better way forward.We wrestle with the concept that divorce creates a broken home, discuss the recent addition of CAPRD (Child Affected by Parental Relationship Disorder) to the DSM IV, and outline the six elements of a restorative divorce process. As opposed to traditional divorce that focuses on winning, a restorative divorce process is an alternative that can reduce harm, encourage positive outcomes, and support healthier post-divorce relationships for everyone involved. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)We've talked previously about the problem cycle (see episode #69), but recently learned about the 3 poisons in Buddhism and they seem particularly applicable to some of the issues we see in divorce and co-parenting. In his early teachings, the Buddha identified “three poisons” or three negative qualities of the mind that cause most of our problems—and most of the problems in the world. Attachment: we want to attract and hold on to what is good for us (also called greed or lust).Aversion: we want to repel what is bad for us (also called aggression or anger).Ignorance: we are indifferent to what doesn't affect us personally (also called delusion). So in this week's episode, Tracy and Debra are going to see if we can't use some of this ancient wisdom to gain insight into shifting clients out of the problem cycle or suffering, into a mindset more grounded in acceptance and action. Listen in as we discuss how these 3 poisons show up in divorce and ways to apply the antidotes. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Ever wondered how to turn a heated argument into a harmonious dialogue? Or transform workplace tensions into opportunities for growth? Join me as I sit down with the insightful Scott Silk, founder of Olive Branch Solutions, on this episode of Carlsbad: People, Purpose and Impact.Scott takes us on a journey from Louisville, Kentucky, to the sunlit shores of North County, California, sharing how his disillusionment with traditional litigation sparked a passion for mediation. Discover how Scott's unique path—from law school in Denver to founding faculty at Pacific Ridge School—shaped his approach to conflict resolution and communication training.We dive into the heart of Scott's mission: promoting peaceful, nonviolent conflict resolution and equipping people with the skills to manage conflicts constructively. Learn about Olive Branch Solutions' innovative services, from workplace mediation to dialogue facilitation, and how they help organizations prevent conflicts from escalating.Plus, hear about Scott's involvement with Hands of Peace and his commitment to fostering understanding across cultural divides. And, of course, we explore Scott's love for outdoor adventures and his dedication to the vibrant Carlsbad community.Tune in to discover how Scott Silk is making an impact, one conversation at a time! Scott Silk's Bio:Scott Silk is a trainer, educator, facilitator, mediator, and lawyer. He is the principal at Olive Branch Solutions, a training team at NCRC, anassociate for Essential Partners, a dialogue and training organization in Cambridge, MA, and a history and social science teacher at Pacific Ridge School. He is especially proud of his work as a dialogue facilitator and the San Diego founder of Hands of Peace, a youth empowerment organization that builds understanding and supports agents of change in the Palestinian, Israeli, and American communities. He strongly believes that deep listening and inquiry have the power to bridge divides and build community.Contact Information:- Website: olivebranchedashsolutions.com - For new clients, Scott is offering a free 30-minute Conflict Coaching call.- LinkedIn: Scott-silk- Phone: (773)-620-9731 Did this episode have a special impact on you? Share how it impacted youCarlsbad Podcast Social Links:LinkedInInstagramFacebookXYouTubeSponsor: This show is sponsored and produced by DifMix Productions. To learn more about starting your own podcast, visit www.DifMix.com/podcasting
Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)We consistently say that all divorce involves conflict. Even in the most amicable divorce, couples aren't likely to agree on everything. But one area that seems to spur the most conflict is co-parenting. We recently read that 80% of the court's time is taken up by custody matters which tells us that co-parenting and making decisions about children is a hot button topic.So today we're exploring one aspect that contributes heavily to co-parenting conflict and that's when people have difficulty transitioning from stakeholders in each other's lives to business partners. Moving from being a couple to being co-parents is a shift that can take time and requires both parents to focus on what's best for their children instead of what's important to them. We get into common triggers and obstacles, talk a bit about gatekeeping and alienation, and walk you through a real life client scenario.If you're a certified divorce coach and want to learn more about supporting co-parents who are having difficulty, we'll be starting a 6-week co-parenting intensive beginning the week of November 4.Learn more about becoming a DCA® Conflicted Co-Parenting Divorce Coach Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Divorce is hard enough with all the emotional turmoil, big challenges, and important decisions. It's even more difficult when your partner is intentionally working against you. But even more troublesome is when clients are working against themselves, so in this episode we're talking about self-sabotage. We discuss how to recognize it, and more importantly, how to support clients who are engaging in self sabotaging behavior that may be preventing them from reaching their desired goal or outcome.Self-sabotage is a completely normal human behavior and shows up frequently in divorce and co-parenting as a result of fear of the unknown, perfectionism, lack of self belief, resistance to change, or learned behaviors.Overcoming self-sabotage requires a combination of self-awareness, self-compassion, and intentional effort - all things divorce coaches are great at supporting our clients with.Listen in as Tracy and Debra talk through why self-sabotage happens and how you can work with clients in self-destruct mode to get them on a better path. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Good storytelling is a powerful tool for creating connection, building trust, and communicating ideas and concepts. However, when it comes to divorce coaching, storytelling can be a mixed bag. And a common mistake we see coaches make is oversharing about their own personal experiences.In this episode, we discuss when and how it is appropriate to share personal stories with clients. While it's well-intentioned, it's also important to be mindful about when and how we share personal stories with clients.Our words of caution...there are two ways storytelling can muddy the waters when it comes to our coaching relationships. First, sharing too much from our personal lives can take the focus off the client and put the spotlight back on the coach. And second, clients look to us as the expert so those stories might be interpreted as directive or advice giving. Listen in as Tracy and Debra talk about why intention matters when it comes to storytelling in divorce coaching. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Fascinated by conflict and asking questions at a young age, after a few different jobs, Emma found herself right where she wanted to be.. A huge thank you to Emma for her time. Full show notes further down... This is Ep38 of
Thoughts About This Episode? Text Us NowPositivity and possibility are two distinct approaches in personal development, divorce coaching, and conflict resolution, each with its own strengths and weaknesses. While positivity focuses on maintaining a positive outlook and minimizing negative emotions, possibility emphasizes exploring new opportunities and potential for growth. In today's episode, we pull from William Ury's new book "Possible: Surviving (and Thriving) in an Age of Conflict" to talk about why having a possibilist outlook is so important to conflict resolution.Positivity can actually act as a barrier especially for those clients facing challenging conflict situations, anchored in positional thinking, or stuck in the problem cycle. Suppressing or ignoring negative emotions doesn't make them go away - they simply come up at unintended and unexpected times. And that can escalate conflict.Ury's focus on possibility supports clients' ability to envision and achieve positive outcomes by exploring new opportunities and potential pathways for growth. By focusing on what is possible, coaches can help individuals navigate their challenges with resilience, creativity, and confidence.Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com Learn more and join the Case Consultation and Mastermind Group on divorcecoachesacademy.com
In this episode of the Conflict Skills Podcast, your host, Professional Mediator Simon Goode, dives into the intricate world of navigating cultural differences in the workplace. Drawing from his personal experiences working abroad in South Korea, Simon unpacks the challenges and strategies involved in bridging cultural gaps. From differing managerial styles to varying expectations around professional communication, Simon offers practical tools and real-life examples to help you understand and navigate these complex dynamics. Whether you're dealing with differences in leadership approaches or finding common ground in conflict resolution, this episode is packed with insights to enhance your cultural competence and conflict management skills. Tune in for an enlightening discussion that will equip you with the knowledge to handle workplace cultural differences with confidence and empathy. If you find this episode valuable, don't forget to subscribe and leave a positive review.
Couples facing challenges or difficulties in their marriage have traditionally turned to couples counseling or marriage therapy for help. And we often hear from clients who are now deciding whether to stay or go that they found the experience of couples counseling to be quite frustrating with lots of blame and finger pointing and little to no resolution of the issues at hand. But what if married couples had another choice? Enter Marital Mediation. While both couples counseling and marital mediation share the overarching goal of promoting healthier, more harmonious relationships, they differ significantly in their approaches, methodologies, and intended outcomes.Couples counseling focuses on exploring and understanding relational dynamics, emotions, and patterns of interaction. Therapists in couples counseling often adopt a more directive or interventionist stance, offering guidance, feedback, and psycho-education to promote positive change.Marital mediation, by contrast, emphasizes practical problem-solving and negotiation skills. Mediators in marital mediation maintain a neutral stance, refraining from offering advice or solutions. Instead, they facilitate dialogue, negotiation, and problem-solving, empowering couples to generate their own solutions and agreements.As ADR modalities and processes are becoming more commonly used by families in conflict, we are seeing an expansion of the practice of marital mediation or couples mediation. By offering couples a future focused, problem solving approach, we hope to be able to create agreements that allow the couple to navigate conflict and remain in relationship.Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
There's a big difference between being a victim (having been harmed) and adopting a victim mentality. And the difference relates to how an individual responds to adversity. In this episode Tracy and Debra explore the 6 ways a victim mentality can impact how individuals perceive and respond to conflicts. So, why is it so important to address victim mentality when working with clients? Because victim mentality can escalate conflict, can leave individuals feeling powerless and helpless, and can prolong the healing process and hinder emotional well-being. But they also share 9 tips for helping clients break free of this mentality so they can can experience greater emotional resilience, acceptance, and inner peace during and after the divorce process.It's important to recognize that overcoming victim mentality is a journey, not a destination. Even with the best support, It requires a ton of self-reflection, courage, and a willingness for our clients to challenge their own beliefs and perceptions. Yet, by acknowledging their own agency and responsibility for their own thoughts, feelings, and actions, clients can break free from the cycle of victimhood and reclaim their power to shape their divorce, minimize conflict, support productive co-parenting relationships, and see the possibilities for their new future.And don't forget to register for the FREE Save Your Sanity Divorce Summit that kicks off on Monday, April 22. We've gathered more than 25 professional divorce coaches to help you protect your mental health, your bank account or and your future.Sign up now: Save Your Sanity Divorce SummitLearn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Nowhere is planning more important than when we are trying to communicate in the midst of big emotions or conflict. And today, we dig into the idea of using scripts or planning what you want to say and how you want to say it.As ADR specialists, we've seen hundreds of conversations and negotiations go off the rails because one party failed to be intentional about their communication. We both spend quite a bit of time with clients working on their conflict communication skills by identifying goals, developing strategies, and crafting scripts.In today's episode, we review the 4 basic communication styles and introduce a 3-step strategy you can use yourself or with clients to communicate assertively, set boundaries, de-escalate conflict, and protect your peace.Get ready to learn about the life-changing power of:ScriptSpeakStopDoes this 3-step strategy guarantee your client will get the response they are hoping for? No, not at all. But it does mean that they can walk away from the conversation with their self-respect, boundaries, and power intact. And that's everything.Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Are you unintentionally undermining your team's potential? Discover empowering leadership techniques with our guest, Alexandra Ross, the Senior Director of Data Protection Use and Ethics Counsel at Autodesk. Alexandra reveals effective conflict management strategies that foster resilience and empower teams. Tune in to this episode to discover: ✔️ Signs that your leadership style might be more 'helicopter' than empowering and how to shift towards a more effective approach. ✔️ Understanding the spectrum of team conflicts and learning how to navigate from healthy debates to mitigating toxic disagreements. ✔️ Mastering conflict resolution skills: from active listening and staying calm to being persuasive yet not overbearing. ✔️ Equipping your team with conflict resolution tools and teaching them the art of self-management in stressful situations. ✔️ Addressing gender biases in leadership and the importance of direct communication, especially for women in leadership roles. ✅ Request A Customized Workshop For Your Team And Company: http://assertiveway.com/workshops ✅ Follow Ivna Curi on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ivna-curi-mba-67083b2/ ✅ Follow our Guest on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandra-ross-52b541/ ✅ Other Episodes You'll Like 10 Conflict And Confrontation Myths Debunked 6 Conflict Myths: Lies Teachers Like To Tell About Confrontation Conflict with Courage, Curiosity & Compassion: Making a Difference in Your Life (With Dr. Debra Dupree) How To Get The Upper Hand When A Jerk Disparages You Publicly 5 Steps To Respond To Dismissive Comments ✅ Free Resources FREE Training & presentation on How To Be Assertive Without Being Rude, Aggressive, or Offensive: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/assertivenotrude Sign Up for Our Email Newsletter: https://assertiveway.com/newsletter/ From Rambling To Articulate PDF Guide: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/articulate Podcast episode lists by theme: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/speakyourmindunapologeticallytopics Women in Tech Leaders Podcast Interviews: https://assertiveway.com/womenintechpodcastguests/ Podcast Summaries & More Email Newsletter: https://assertiveway.com/newsletter Our Linkedin Blog Articles: https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/6863880009879306240/ TEDx Talk How To Speak Up Safely When It's Psychologically Unsafe: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/safespeak 10 Day free Assertive And Liked Challenge: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/beassertiveandliked Assertiveness free training: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/getahead Other Free resources: https://assertiveway.com/free/ Podcast page: https://assertiveway.com/podcast-speak-your-mind-unapologetically/ ✅ Work With Us Workshops: http://assertiveway.com/workshops Break The Silence: https://assertiveway.com/communicationculturetransformation/ Services: https://assertiveway.com/offerings Contact me: info@assertiveway.com or ivnacuri@assertiveway.com Contact me on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ivna-curi-mba-67083b2 Website: https://assertiveway.com ✅ Support The Podcast Rate the podcast on apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/speak-your-mind-unapologetically-podcast/id1623647915 Ask me your question for the next episode: https://www.speakpipe.com/speakyourmindquestion
Are you certified but feel like you're ready to elevate your practice? This week we have the pleasure of talking with two certified, practicing divorce coaches who recently completed DCA's ELEVATE program to add an ADR divorce coaching certification to their credentials.Heather Cary and Carolyn Jacobs give us the inside scoop on their backgrounds, their initial certification, their decision to pursue additional ADR training, and how the DCA foundations, frameworks and skills have provided just what they needed to take their coaching practice to the next level.ELEVATE is a new option for CDC certified divorce coaches who are looking to add ADR and conflict resolution skills. The ELEVATE program includes every lesson, every module, and every resource that our new divorce coaching students have access to. We believe our ADR approach is so revolutionary that we just couldn't leave anything out. The coaching frameworks and approach to divorce fundamentals look and land differently when viewed and taught through an ADR lens. Listen in as Heather and Carolyn describe how learning to speak ADR language, working with clients to focus on conflict management, and delivering an effective coaching session every time has increased both their impact with clients and their bottom line.Find Heather:Website: www.heathercarycoaching.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/the_mindful_divorceMeetup: www.meetup.com/portland-divorce-supportLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/heather-cary-b1640b104Find Carolyn:Website: www.allyindivorce.comInstagram www.instagram.com/allyindivorceLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/carolyn-jacobsLearn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Welcome back to The Human Side of Business Podcast! In today's episode, we're continuing our exploration into the art of conflict resolution in part two of our engaging conversation with Kimberly Best, a seasoned expert in Family Mediation and the brains behind Best Conflict Solutions, LLC.Kimberly's wealth of experience spans various facets of conflict mediation, including Family, Health, Elder Care, Civil and Business Mediation, along with offering invaluable Conflict Coaching and Consulting services for both personal and organizational challenges.This episode delves deep into the practical "How To" aspects of resolving conflicts and emphasizes the transformative impact of understanding and appreciating others' perspectives. Join us as we unpack the strategies and insights that can truly make a difference in navigating and resolving conflicts in diverse settings.Connect with KimberlyIf you enjoyed today's episode and want to stay updated with our latest content make sure to visit our website: www.intuityperformance.com where you can subscribe to the podcast, or sign up for our newsletter.The Whole Person Leadership Cohort by Intuity Performance: A unique program that offers unparalleled support to managers on every step of their leadership journey. Our program features evidence-based assessments, workbooks, group coaching, and interactive learning experiences to help you level up your leadership skills. Reach out today to apply to one of our upcoming cohorts.Find us on: LinkedIn , Facebook, Instagram to stay tapped into new insights.Until next time, take care, and stay curious.
Greetings Glocal Citizens! This week's episode is like the jetway bridging me between my two locations this week. From my Continental base in Accra, South Sudanese-Ethiopian-American, Nyamal Tutdeal, who is a conflict resolution and healing practitioner, joins us again to talk about, among other things, one of her homelands--Ethiopia, where I found myself (in Addis Ababa) for the weekend. Many may recall meeting Nyamal on the podcast prior to her move to Accra (https://glocalcitizens.fireside.fm/guests/nyamal-tutdeal), and now after a nearly two years, she's an “Accra-an.” With over a decade of work experience under her belt, Nyamal has developed and managed various programmes related togender, peace, security, and antiracist/race relations. She is a staunch advocate for women's empowerment, human rights, refugees, immigrants, displaced communities, and the fight against early child marriage. Nyamal is a Co-Director and Co-Founder of the NyaEden Foundation. She also works as an Adjunct Professor at both Arcadia University and Webster University in Ghana, where she provides academic support and teaches Introduction to Human Rights, Refugee and Migration Movement, Advocacy, NGO and Civil Society at Webster University Ghana campus. Nyamal is also involved in teaching Conflict Transformation, Restorative Justice, Mediation, and Conflict Coaching in the International Peace and Conflict Resolution (IPCR) program at Arcadia University. Prior to her relocation to Ghana, Nyamal served as the Director of Equity and Inclusion for CORA Services. Nyamal has a B.A. in Human Relations and an M.A. in International Peace and Conflict Resolution. Nyamal is now at the head of her own consultancy, The Nyamal Group (https://nyamal.org) which she launched this year. Where to find Nyamal? On LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/nyamal-tutdeal-a76b44b3/) On Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/nyamal_tutdeal/) On X (https://twitter.com/maltutdeal) On Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/mal.tutdeal) Shades of Injera (https://www.instagram.com/shadesofinjera/?hl=en) What's Nyamal reading? Nearly All the Men in Lagos Are Mad (https://a.co/d/cUyiDaP) by Damilare Kuku What's Nyamal watching? About Star Wars (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Star_Wars) and the Ashoka TV Series (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ahsoka_(TV_series)) Other topics of interest? About the Nuer People (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WR5Qr1oRLuw) Demographics in Ethiopia (https://www.cia.gov/the-world-factbook/countries/ethiopia/) Civil Conflict in Ethiopia (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ethiopian_civil_conflict_(2018%E2%80%93present)#:~:text=In%20November%202021%2C%20the%20Somali,in%20Ethiopian%20territory%20to%20date.) On Empire, here are some articles that analyze empire and colonization as major drivers of present-day inequality: "The Empire of Inequality: Introduction" by Himadeep Muppidi - Discusses how colonial empires created enduring global inequality through exploitation, extraction of wealth, and imposition of power structures. "The Long-Run Effects of the Scramble for Africa" by Stelios Michalopoulos and Elias Papaioannou - Economic analysis finding that artificial colonial borders continue to impact economic development and inequality across African nations today. "The Colonial Origins of Comparative Development: An Empirical Investigation" by Daron Acemoglu, Simon Johnson, and James A. Robinson - Research arguing colonialism set up institutions that continue to affect world inequality. "Imperialism and Colonialism" by Battiston et al. - Reviews how empires led to concentration of wealth and power for imperial nations that remains evident in 21st century global inequality. “How Western Colonization Launched Capitalism with Violence and Ruin" by Nicholas De Genova - Discusses direct links between violent colonization, slavery, genocide and the rise of global capitalism and inequality. “The Impact of Colonialism on African Economic Development” by Joshua Settles - Analysis of economic exploitation, extraction of resources, and disruption of existing systems during European colonization of Africa. SAD - Seasonal Effective Disorder (https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/seasonal-affective-disorder#:~:text=SAD%20is%20a%20type%20of,seasonal%20affective%20disorder%20(SAD).) 54th NAACP Image Awards (https://naacp.org/events/54th-naacp-image-awards) Sheryl Lee Ralph's dress (https://wwd.com/pop-culture/celebrity-news/sheryl-lee-ralph-naacp-awards-red-carpet-2023-dress-1235549800/) and designer, Pistis Ghana (https://www.pistisghana.com) South Sudan's Political Structure (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Politics_of_South_Sudan) South Sudan's Vice Presidents (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vice_President_of_South_Sudan#:~:text=The%20vice%20president%20of%20South,2020%20creating%20five%20vice%20presidents.) and Fourth VP, Rebecca Nyandeng De Mabior (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rebecca_Nyandeng_De_Mabior) About Hope Resoration South Sudan (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rebecca_Nyandeng_De_Mabior) About the South Sudanese Civil War (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/South_Sudanese_Civil_War#:~:text=The%20South%20Sudanese%20Civil%20War,attempting%20a%20coup%20d%27%C3%A9tat.) 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This week, we're taking the Stay or Go episode from a couple of week ago to the next step and we're talking about partnering with your client to develop an exit strategy. This means helping them gather the information they need and develop action plans to remove the fear and uncertainty around when and how to divorce. Fear is not only the obstacle that keeps individuals stuck in unhealthy, unhappy marriages unable to make decisions or take action, but it's also the #1 driver of cost and conflict in divorce.Debra shares the results of an informal survey she did that showed that only 20% of respondents believed they had some or significant control over either the cost or the outcome of their divorce. We know clients have much more influence - they just need information and a strategy.Failing to prepare thoughtfully when considering divorce can start things off in a way that quickly snowballs out of control. On the other hand, taking time, being strategic and establishing goals and priorities can pave the way for a good divorce if things go well. And it can protect clients in the event that things go poorly.We'll review the 5 reasons an Exit Strategy (or divorce plan) is so incredibly helpful for clients and talk through some of the important elements of a solid plan. When we help clients identify and address their fears, our clients get a better outcome financially, relationally and emotionally.Learn more about DCA™ or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
In previous episodes, we've covered conflict styles, some magic words to use in mediation and the idea of tiered proposals, but today we're talking about one the most effective negotiation strategies there is - and that's arguing with questions.We've talked before about the ineffectiveness of positional bargaining, but it's often the only way our clients have been taught to negotiate. They make the mistake of starting off negotiations by stating their position and then proceeding to JADE (justify, argue, defend or explain) why their position is valid and their partner should agree to it. JADE-ing continues back and forth and conflict escalates until someone backs down enough to come to a compromise or they walk away and lawyer up.But there's another way...and it's arguing with questions. This is just one reason why divorce coaching can be the key to more successful negotiations. Because we have the chance to work with our clients at the individual level, we can create self-awareness. We have the chance to change those old limiting beliefs about positional bargaining. And we know that when one party shows up differently, the dance doesn't look the same. Listen in as Tracy and Debra walk through these 3 tools you can use to help clients learn to argue with questions.ModelingScripts and Vocabulary LessonsRole PlayTeaching your client to approach conflict with curiosity instead of justification or accusation will serve them well not only in their divorce negotiations, but in all their future relationships.You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:FREE Sept Book Club "Ask for More": Sign Up NowWebsite: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
We've all experienced it. Clients who can't stop talking about their pain, are fixated on wanting to re-litigate past hurts, and who blame their partner for everything that isn't going smoothly in their divorce process or co-parenting relationship. These clients are stuck in the problem cycle. And when they're in the problem cycle, they can only see the problem. They can't focus on solutions, so conflict resolution is nearly impossible.Regardless of why they're stuck in the problem cycle, we see 3 consistent things that prevent our client from getting relief or resolution. Blaming their partner or co-parent for the problem. Focusing on the past and their pain rather than the future and their power. And allowing their negative emotions (blame) and a state of activation (pain) to throw fuel on the fire of an already tense situationIt's our job as ADR specialists to help clients break out of that cycle and become more focused on taking action that can get them closer to their desired outcome. And we use a 3-step process to accomplish this:Identify the problem (recognize conflict)Develop alternative solutions (generate options)Implement and evaluate (reflect and assess)When we're able to successfully help clients move beyond the problem cycle, they can focus on empathetic problem solving and desired outcomes. And that allows them to take control over managing the conflict and take their power back.You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Welcome to another episode of The Human Side of Business Podcast. Today, we're diving deep into conflict resolution with our special guest, Kimberly Best. Kim is a highly accomplished Family Mediator and the owner of Best Conflict Solutions, LLC. With extensive experience in Family Mediation, Health and Elder Care Mediation, Civil and Business Mediation, and personal and organizational Conflict Coaching and Conflict Consulting.Episode 112 will explore the transformative power of reframing conflicts as opportunities. Kimberly emphasizes that conflicts are not about people causing problems but instead, puzzles waiting to be solved. This shift in perspective opens up new paths to harmony, growth, and successful outcomes. Connect with KimberlyIf you enjoyed today's episode and want to stay updated with our latest content make sure to visit our website: www.intuityperformance.com where you can subscribe to the podcast, or sign up for our newsletter.The Whole Person Leadership Cohort by Intuity Performance: A unique program that offers unparalleled support to managers on every step of their leadership journey. Our program features evidence-based assessments, workbooks, group coaching, and interactive learning experiences to help you level up your leadership skills. Reach out today to apply to one of our upcoming cohorts.Find us on: LinkedIn , Facebook, Instagram to stay tapped into new insights.Until next time, take care, and stay curious.
This week we're going to take a classic children's story and use it as a model for approaching proposal development with your clients. Goldilocks and the Three Bears is such a legendary fairy tale. You could ask just about anyone and you'd get the same general story. The three bears leave their home to go out for a walk. Goldilocks happens by and goes inside to explore the place. She samples the porridge and tries out their chairs and their beds. She assess each and determines that they are too hot, too cold, too big, too small, too hard, too soft, and finally, just right. Breaking and entering aside, we think there's a lot to learn from Goldilocks when it comes to developing proposals in divorce that are just right.So how do we use all these lessons from Goldilocks with clients working on divorce settlement proposals? Well, in order to help get clients prepared to be in that flexible thinking frame of mind, we like to work with them to develop Tiered Proposals. This helps avoid major negotiation mistakes like a my way or the highway approach and it helps them plan for both receiving and making counter proposals. That's what keeps the conversation going and increases the chance that they can reach resolution.This process of working through tiered proposals helps clients eliminate ideas that are too hot, too big or too hard and encourages them to reach beyond ideas that are too cold, too small or too soft. This intentional, strategic process allows them to find the range of solutions that are “just right” for them.Listen in as Tracy and Debra talk through Goldilocks syndrome, the Goldilocks rule, and the Goldilocks principle and how they apply when supporting your clients in developing flexible thinking and a problem solving approach when it comes to crafting tiered proposals.You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Kimberly Best, RN, MA, is a Tennessee Rule 31 Listed Civil Mediator and Tennessee Rule 31 Trained Family Mediator. Kim's practice focuses on Family Mediation, Health, and Elder Care Mediation, Civil and Business Mediation, and Conflict Coaching. She is passionate about helping others resolve conflicts in a productive, non-litigious way using mediation, facilitation, and collaborative problem-solving, in order to find optimal solutions for all parties.Kimberly Best is the author of “How to Live Forever, A Guide to Writing the Final Chapter of Your Life Story.” Learn More at https://www.bestconflictsolutions.com/
Sue Kennedy is a Book Coach and Publisher who helps guide her clients through the seemingly complex process of book writing. She also teaches book writing for HEALING oneself, using her Coaching style that is both Inspirational and Empowering. Tune in, as Sue discusses the “balance” between the process & mechanics of book writing, and the emotional, wounded side of it. She also shares a common discovery people learn about themselves in the book writing and healing. To connect with Sue, and learn more about her great work, visit www.authoracademy.com.au To book a complimentary session, visit suekennedy.as.me/complimentarysessionAn Audio Tag shout-out goes to Kimberly Best! Kim is a Tennessee Rule 31 Listed Civil and Trained Family Mediator. Her practice focuses on Mediations for Family, Health and Elder Care, Civil & Business and Conflict Coaching. She's also a Speaker, Trainer, and Author of “How to Live Forever, A Guide to Writing the Final Chapter of your Life Story”To learn more about Kim's great work, visit www.bestconflictsolutions.com
Kimberly Best, RN, MA, is the author of “How to Live Forever, A Guide to Writing the Final Chapter of Your Life Story.” She is a speaker and trainer on the topics of conflict management, dispute resolution processes, life transitions, and how to make difficult decisions - including end of life issues. Her mediation practice focuses on Family Mediation, Health, and Elder Care Mediation, Civil and Business Mediation, and Conflict Coaching. In addition, she is a facilitator for challenging business and social conversations. Kim is passionate about helping others resolve conflicts in a productive, non-litigious way using mediation, facilitation and collaborative problem solving, in order to find optimal solutions for all parties. She believes that having challenging conversations in a safe, non-blame space can promote better problem solving and increase emotional connection. She is the proud mother of 5 grown children and the grandmother of 4 lively little ones. In this episode we discussed: The power of compassion The importance of living well The stories of people facing death The power of reflection Contact Kimberly Best: https://www.bestconflictsolutions.com/ Thank you for listening! Be sure to follow the show so you don't miss the next episode! You can connect with Dr. Robin on LinkedIn, Facebook or Instagram or contact me via email at: robin@purpose-based.com Go to: https://www.createmasterfulcourses.com to get her free training on "How to Turn Your Book into a MASTERFUL Course" Also, you can learn more about Leadership Purpose and her books at: https://www.robinlowens.com/ Talk to you soon! Episode edited by Podcast Manager - LJS Creative Services https://www.ljscreativeservices.co.nz
Today we're talking conflict styles and how helping a client gain insight into their own as well as their partner's dominant or historical conflict style can be a game changer in divorce.Most couples have repetitive, unhealthy conflict patterns that have been established throughout their marriage. And those dysfunctional patterns don't go away during divorce. As a matter of fact, they may become even more problematic when we add in the stress and fear that people experience during divorce.So how can divorce coaches work with clients to help break those historical patterns and prepare clients for more effective conflict resolution? Well, it begins where all change begins - with awareness.The Thomas-Kilman Model categorizes individuals into 5 styles: Competing, Avoiding, Accommodating, Compromising, and Collaborating. Some styles are passive while some are assertive and some are cooperative while others are considered uncooperative. No one style is better or worse - each has both benefits and costs.By understanding conflict styles, we help clients gain awareness into the dynamics that are causing problems between them and their partner/co-parent and offer choices to strategically use different conflict styles in different circumstances to achieve their goals.Take the Conflict Management Style AssessmentYou can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
How do you handle conflict in order to prevent going to court?Kimberly Best, RN, MA, is a Tennessee Rule 31 Listed Civil Mediator and Tennessee Rule 31 Trained Family Mediator, owner of Best Conflict Solutions, LLC. Her practice focuses on Family Mediation, Health, and Elder Care Mediation, Civil and Business Mediation, and personal and organizational Conflict Coaching and Conflict Consulting. Kimberly is passionate about helping others resolve conflicts in a productive, non-litigious way using mediation, facilitation and collaborative problem solving to find optimal solutions for all parties. She is a speaker and trainer on conflict management, dispute resolution processes, life transitions, and how to make difficult decisions - including end of life issues. She is also a volunteer mediator with the Los Angeles City Attorney's Office, Dispute Resolution Program and Community/Police Unification Program.She is a working member of the Association of Conflict Resolution Elder Mediation Professional Development Group as well as a working member of Mediators Beyond Borders, International, and a member of the American Bar Association Dispute Resolution membership committee. Key Points And Time Stamps:[00:03:29] - how childhood affects how we handle conflict[00:04:51] - family conflict and disagreements during the pandemic[00:05:43] - what exactly boundaries are[00:07:40] - how we feel physically ‘threatened' during a disagreement[00:10:12] - how to communicate different viewpoints without feeling threatened[00:12:37] - how attorney meditators handle conflict during a divorce[00:16:01] - the biology of conflict[)0;18:18] - how mediation prevents potential lawsuits[00:20:19] - mediation work between the LAPD and communities in Los Angeles[00:24:49] - how to get involved in your community and mediate local conflicts[00:26:54] - how storytelling builds bridges and creates understanding[00:29:11] - how to understand and have empathy for those who hurt you[00:31:07] - how to handle workplace conflict[00:33:49] - why ask questions before jumping to conclusionsConnect with Kimberly:Website: https://www.bestconflictsolutions.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberlybestmediator/Additional Resources:"How to Live Forever, A Guide to Writing the Final Chapter of Your Life Story" by Kimberly Best"Police 2 Peace" work by Kimberly BestJoin local organizations "Effective Conflict Resolution Techniques And Strategies" w/ Kristine ScottConnect with me:roberta4sk@gmail.comKindly subscribe to our podcast.Leave a rating and a review for the Podcast:iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mediation-to-prevent-lawsuits-w-kimberly-best/id1614151066?i=1000615151077Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/347DBhfsDxXE9v18O9v0D5YouTube: https://youtu.be/XC3ZSFCufT4
Kimberly Best, RN, MA, is a Tennessee Rule 31 Listed Civil Mediator and Tennessee Rule 31 Trained Family Mediator, FINRA Arbitrator, and owner of Best Conflict Solutions, LLC. Kim's practice focuses on Family Mediation, Health, and Elder Care Mediation, Civil and Business Mediation, and personal and organizational Conflict Coaching and Conflict Consulting. Learn more here: […] The post Ep.78 – Kimberly Best appeared first on Mark Matteson.
Kimberly Best, RN, MA, is a Tennessee Rule 31 Listed Civil and Trained Family Mediator Kim's practice focuses on Family Mediation, Health, and Elder Care Mediation, Civil and Business Mediation, and Conflict Coaching in Franklin, Tennessee. She is passionate about helping others resolve conflicts in a productive, non-litigious way using mediation, facilitation, and collaborative problem-solving, in order to find optimal solutions for all parties. Kim's unique, diverse experiences and her love of learning to inform her work in conflict management. She is the author of “How to Live Forever, A Guide to Writing the Final Chapter of Your Life Story” and is a speaker and trainer on the topics of conflict management, dispute resolution processes, life transitions, and how to make difficult decisions - including end-of-life issues. Guest Links Website: http://www.bestconflictsolutions.com LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kimberlybestmediator Twitter: @kimberly_a_best Facebook: @bestconflictsolutions Instagram: @kimberly_a_best SJS Website: https://thesuccessjourneyshow.com Facebook: @successjourneyshow Instagram: @successjourneyshow Twitter: @success_show TikTok: @thesuccessjourneyshow
In this latest episode William is joined by Samantha Hardy to discuss the Fundamentals of Conflict Coaching. Samantha is the principal of Conflict Coaching International, and the Director and Lead Trainer for CCI Academy. She is an experienced mediator and conflict coach and the founder of the REAL Conflict Coaching System™. Sam has been accredited as a mediator under the Australian National Mediation Accreditation System and is a Certified Transformative Mediator by the US Institute of Conflict Transformation. She is a Certified Narrative Coach. In 2021 Sam was awarded the Australian Resolution Institute Award for Service to Dispute Resolution for her leadership and innovation in the field. She was also awarded 2022 Conflict Coach of the Year at the Australian Dispute Resolution Awards. Sam holds a PhD in Law and Conflict Resolution, as well as other postgraduate qualifications in adult education. Sam has also published widely in conflict resolution, including her books Dispute Resolution in Australia, Mediation for Lawyers and Conflict Coaching Fundamentals: Working with Conflict Stories. Listeners will gain many valuable insights from this episode as Sam and William explore the topic of Conflict Coaching together and the benefits it can bring to the workplace and the mediation process. Find out more about the work Samantha does here https://www.cciacademy.com/
Are you challenged by conflict? Do you have what it takes to be a successful mediator? If you feel like you are constantly navigating a maze of disagreements, misunderstandings, and hard feelings, know that you are not alone. Conflict is a significant part of human interaction, and it's particularly present in our professional lives. After all, we spend more than a third of our lives in the workplace, a space that brings together different personalities, perspectives, and values. When conflicts arise, as they inevitably do, they can be buried, mishandled or left unresolved, marring our experience and performance.In this episode, we delve into an in-depth exploration of the nature of conflict and its role in both our professional and personal lives. We attempt to unpack the complexities and dimensions of conflict, looking at its root causes, its evolution, and its potential to catalyze change and growth. Rather than viewing conflict as an undesirable aspect of our lives that needs to be eradicated, we aim to understand it as an integral part of human relationships that, when handled properly, can lead to innovation, empathy, and collaboration.With Kimberly's expert guidance, this episode will equip you with a fresh perspective and effective tools to transform how you perceive and handle conflict in your personal and professional life.THE FINER DETAILS OF THIS SHOWWhat is involved in mediation? [06:38]As HR professionals, how do we employ mediation in a balanced way? [15:10]If you've just mediated a conflict for colleagues who see each other daily, how do you ensure that they are applying the lessons learned? [21:35]What role do we have as individuals to learn to work with our own emotional triggers? How do we learn to work with the triggers of others?[27:05]KEEP UP WITH KIMBERLY BESTWebsite: bestconflictsolutions.com Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberlybestmediator/Read her book “How to Live Forever, A Guide to Writing the Final Chapter of Your Life StoryEPISODE RESOURCESVisit the Remarkable Leadership Lessons SiteGot questions? Send them hereInterested in being a guest? Schedule an introduction call!Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Google Podcasts, and leave us a rating or reviewKIMBERLY BEST'S BIOKimberly Best, RN, MA, is a Tennessee Rule 31 Listed Civil Mediator and Tennessee Rule 31 Trained Family Mediator. Kim's practice focuses on Family Mediation, Health, and Elder Care Mediation, Civil and Business Mediation, and Conflict Coaching. She is serving her second term on the board of the Tennessee Association of Professional Mediators. Kim is also a volunteer Senior Mediator with the Los Angeles City...
Have you ever had a client who is timid about going into mediation because they believe their spouse or co-parent will over-power or try to dominate them? Perhaps they don't feel like they have the confidence to advocate for themselves? Today we're talking about the concept of psychological power and that's where we can look to Sasha Fierce for inspiration to help clients prepare to go into that mediation room with confidence.For those of you who may not know who Sasha Fierce is, she is Beyoncé's alter ego. She created Sasha Fierce to help her separate her confident on-stage persona from her more timid at-home personality. And if you've ever seen Beyoncé perform, you may be wondering…timid???? There is nothing timid about her performances; they are bold, sexy, and confident. Well, that's thanks to Sasha Fierce.As divorce coaches, we can help our clients create their own alter ego and embody a temporary sense of power when they are preparing to mediate. Research has shown that being powerful and feeling powerful have essentially the same impact in negotiations. So whether your client channels Oprah, the Dalai Lama, Batman, or their best friend, the point is that they can increase their perceived psychological power.Next time you watch a Beyoncé video, think about that. Is she timid or is she Sasha Fierce?TED Talk on ConfidenceYou can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Clients don't always serve up their fears, goals, biases, needs, expectations, assumptions and thinking problems on a silver platter. Often they're embedded deep inside their stories. One of the most critical skills we develop as coaches is to hear what isn't being said. In today's episode we dive into how excellent coaches train themselves to perform these Jedi mind tricks and how you can use those skills to create awareness and transformation for your client.Why in the world are we calling these Jedi mind tricks? I mean what does Star Wars have to do with divorce coaching? What we're actually talking about is being so connected to your client and what they're saying to you that you're able to use your training , discipline, and intuition to discern which clues, comments, and patterns require further exploration.And we do that by doing 2 things consistently and doing them well - actively listening and remaining fully present. Listen in as we explore specific active listening skills, mindfulness techniques, and client scenarios to support you in perfecting your Jedi mind tricks.You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Kimberly Best, RN, MA, is a Tennessee Rule 31 Listed Civil Mediator and Tennessee Rule 31 Trained Family Mediator, owner of Best Conflict Solutions, LLC. Kim's practice focuses on Family Mediation, Health, and Elder Care Mediation, Civil and Business Mediation, Conflict Skills Training, and Conflict Coaching and Consulting. She is currently serving her second term on the board of the Tennessee Association of Professional Mediators. Kim is also a volunteer mediator with the Los Angeles City Attorney's Office, Dispute Resolution Program and Community/Police Unification Program. In addition, she is a practicing facilitator for challenging business and social conversations. Kim is a working member of the Association of Conflict Resolution Elder Mediation Professional Development Group, The National Association for Community Mediation, The Trust Network, and Mediators Beyond Borders, International, and a member of the American Bar Association Dispute Resolution membership committee. She is passionate about helping others resolve conflicts in a productive, non-litigious way using mediation, facilitation and collaborative problem solving, in order to find optimal solutions for all parties. She is the author of “How to Live Forever, A Guide to Writing the Final Chapter of Your Life Story" and is a speaker and trainer on the topics of conflict management, dispute resolution processes, life transitions, and how to make difficult decisions - including end of life issues. #drdanamzallag, #drdanpodcast, #Happinessjourneywithdrdan, #ddanmotivation, #inspiringinterviews, #drdancbt, #drdantherapy, #drdancoaching, #drdanhappiness, #kimberlybest. #conflictresolutionexpert --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happinessjourney/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/happinessjourney/support
Doing Divorce Different A Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce Differently
Today I am joined by Kim Best, a nurse turned divorce mediator in Tennessee. Kim walks us through how she got into mediation and what opportunities she sees through mediation. She focuses on the opportunity and the positive ways to handle conflict and divorce vs. feeling regret years later. Kim talks with us about how our difficult circumstances impact our legacy and some of the great examples she has gotten to be a part of with mediation. This episode is full of juicy nuggets and great takeaways, so make sure to tune in! In this episode: [3:07] How did Kim get to where she is today? [10:04] What are the benefits of mediation? [13:56] What does Kim see as uses for mediation? [15:52] How do these moments create our legacy? [17:58] Kim gives some examples of good divorces she has witnessed. Key Takeaways: Mediation can be the difference between hope and regret. You can choose to look back and be proud of how you handled the divorce, or you can look back and regret how things happened. Mediation isn't just for divorce. Mediation can be used for family issues, such as for elderly parents or other things going on where you need a mediator in the room. You can't control the outcome of what the other person does, but you can control who you're going to be during the process, and nobody can take that choice away from you. Quotes: “We are all never so narcissistic as when we're in pain. Because when we're in pain, it's all about us, and it's all about protecting us, even when we don't know we need protected. Biologically our brains and bodies don't know the difference between an insult and someone holding a gun to our head; both of those actions feel like life-threatening.” - Kim Best “Good people have terrible moments because we're people. We're more than our worst moment.” - Kim Best Guest Bio: Kimberly Best RN, MA is a TN Rule 31 listed Civil mediator and a TN Rule 31 trained Family Mediator, owner of Best Conflict Solutions (http://www.bestconflictsolutions.com ) focusing on Collaborative Problem Solving in Healthcare, Small Business Mediation and Conflict Management, Organizational Conflict, Elder Mediation, Family and Relationship Mediation, Dialogue Facilitation, and Conflict Coaching. She spent the first season of her career as a Registered Nurse in intensive care, trauma, and emergency medicine, where she cared for people in extreme need and gained valuable experience in the medical system. Kim attended graduate school at the University of North Carolina Charlotte in Clinical/Community Psychology. She obtained a master's degree in Conflict Management from Lipscomb University in Nashville, Tennessee. Kim also trained in Transformative Mediation at Hofstra University, Healthcare Mediation at the University of South Florida, and Restorative Practices at the International Institute of Restorative Practices. She is an active member of Mediators Beyond Borders International and a working member of the ACR Elder Mediation Professional Development Group. She also serves on the board of the Tennessee Association of Professional Mediators. Resources: Best Conflict Solutions Website Lesa Koski Website Lesa's Online Courses The Onward app was made for divorced parents to help track, share and split their children's expenses. Download The Onward App today for iOS or Android!
It's gonna be OK. You're going to get through this just fine. You'll be so glad when it's over. Focus on the good.In today's episode, we unpack why we believe these kinds of statements aren't just ineffective from a coaching standpoint, but can actually harm clients. Toxic positivity is defined as the act of avoiding, suppressing, or rejecting negative emotions or experiences. This is not optimism, this is repression or denial. And when we, as coaches, reject or deny the negative feelings our clients are expressing, we block the ability for them to process the story of their divorce.We can even take it so far as to say it can be a form of gaslighting when we deny a client's feelings. They're telling us something is hurtful or painful, and if we respond with a placating, positive statement like "you'll be fine" or "it's going to be OK", we have essentially gaslit them by denying their feelings.Our job is to validate their feelings. To recognize their negative emotions and help them sort through them so that they can take appropriate action. Our role is to be a coach, not a cheerleader. Listen in for a great analogy from college football and some coaching alternatives to standard toxic positivity responses.You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
In this AlzAuthors Live! Virtual Q&A Dementia with Difficult People (November 8, 2022) you'll meet four of our authors who either cared for a parent who had hurt them in the past, or dealt with siblings who made caregiving difficult, or both. A professional mediator is also on hand to offer advice on how to navigate a dementia journey with a difficult person. Potential discussion topics: Heeding the call to careReckoning with the pastSetting aside differencesProblems/issues encounteredForgivenessBuilding a support network without family Our Panelists Kimberly Best, RN, MA is the author of How to Live Forever, A Guide to Writing the Final Chapter of Your Life Story. She is a speaker and trainer on conflict management, transitions, and difficult decisions, including end of life issues. She is the owner of Best Conflict Solutions, focusing on Conflict Coaching, Civil, Family, Healthcare, and Elder Mediation in Franklin, Tennessee. Read Kim's AlzAuthors post here. Malia Kline is the author of Sisterly Shove, a memoir that tells the story of when she and her sister took on their parents' care despite their personal differences. She is the younger sister in the book. Read Malia's AlzAuthors post here. Susan Landeis is a member of the AlzAuthors management team and Board of Directors. She is the author of In Search of Rainbows: a daughter's story of loss, hope, and redemption where she writes about the gifts she found while caring for her mother with whom she'd had a tumultuous relationship. Read Susan's AlzAuthors post here. Barbara Ella Milton, Jr. PhD, LCSW is the author of Heeding the Caregiver Call: The Story of Barbara Ella Milton, Sr. and Alzheimer's Disease. This tells the tale of her caring for her estranged mother when she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease while she herself endured treatment for bladder cancer. Read Barbara's AlzAuthors post here. Vicki Tapia is a co-founder of AlzAuthors and a member of the management team and Board of Directors. She is the author of Somebody Stole My Iron: A family memoir of dementia, which chronicles her story of caring for both parents with dementia. She and her mother shared a difficult relationship, and Vicki found herself without the assistance of her only brother who chose to deny, rather than participate in, the situation. Read Vicki's AlzAuthors post here. About the Podcast Our podcast brings you insightful, moving interviews with our authors who share their personal dementia journeys. Please subscribe so you don't miss a word. If our authors' stories move you, please leave a review. And don't forget to share our podcast with family and friends in need of knowledge, comfort, and support on their own dementia journeys. AlzAuthors is a 501(c)(3) charitable organization totally reliant on donations to do what we do. Your generosity will help cover our many operating costs, which include website hosting and maintenance fees, service charges to keep things running smoothly, and marketing expenses to promote our authors, expand our content, improve our reach, and more. Our ongoing work supports our mission to lift the silence and stigma of Alzheimer's and other dementias. To sustain our efforts please donate here. We are a WCN Featured Podcast Proud to be on The Health Podcast Network Want to be on the podcast? Here's what you need to know. Thanks for listening. AlzAuthors.com Shop our Store
Kimberly Best, RN, MA, is a Civil and Family Mediator. Her practice focuses on Family Mediation, Health and Elder Care Mediation, Civil and Business Mediation, and Conflict Coaching. She is a working member of the Association of Conflict Resolution Elder Mediation Professional Development Group as well as a working member of Mediators Beyond Borders, International, and a member of the American Bar Association Dispute Resolution development committee. She is passionate about helping others resolve conflicts by using mediation, facilitation and collaborative problem solving to find optimal solutions for all parties. Kim is the author of “How to Live Forever, A Guide to Writing the Final Chapter of Your Life Story."
In this week's episode, Debra is joined by recent DCA™ Divorce Conflict Coaching graduates Dori Braddell and Sue Horwitz to talk about their experience in the training and how they've been able to put their new skills to use.Dori and Sue were gracious enough to take time out of their busy schedules to discuss how they had been struggling with helping clients manage conflict, what prompted them to enroll in the course, and the biggest takeaways they got from the experience.Both are certified divorce coaches who have significant training and experience under their belts, and yet, they were missing the science behind conflict, the specific tools to use with clients, and the confidence to lean in.Listen in as they share what a difference conflict coaching has made in their coaching practice and for their clients. We hope you'll consider adding this speciality training to your 2023 professional development calendar.If you'd like to be the first to know when the next session of DCA™ Divorce Conflict Coaching opens, join the wait list today.Feel free to reach out to Dori or Sue to ask them ALL the questions about their experience in the class. Trust us, they're believers!Get in touch with Dori:Website: www.thedivorcementor.caEmail: dori@thedivorcementor.caInstagram: @divorcementorFacebook: @thedivorcementorLinkedIn: Dori BraddellGet in touch with Sue:Website: www.suehorwitzcoaching.comEmail: sue@suehorwitz.comInstagram: @suehorwitzFacebook: @suehorwitzcoachingLinkedIn: Sue HorwitzYou can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
In this AlzAuthors Live! Virtual Q&A Dementia with Difficult People (November 8, 2022) you'll meet four of our authors who either cared for a parent who had hurt them in the past, or dealt with siblings who made caregiving difficult, or both. A professional mediator is also on hand to offer advice on how to navigate a dementia journey with a difficult person. Potential discussion topics: Heeding the call to careReckoning with the pastSetting aside differencesProblems/issues encounteredForgivenessBuilding a support network without family Our Panelists Kimberly Best, RN, MA is the author of How to Live Forever, A Guide to Writing the Final Chapter of Your Life Story. She is a speaker and trainer on conflict management, transitions, and difficult decisions, including end of life issues. She is the owner of Best Conflict Solutions, focusing on Conflict Coaching, Civil, Family, Healthcare, and Elder Mediation in Franklin, Tennessee. Read Kim's AlzAuthors post here. Malia Kline is the author of Sisterly Shove, a memoir that tells the story of when she and her sister took on their parents' care despite their personal differences. She is the younger sister in the book. Read Malia's AlzAuthors post here. Susan Landeis is a member of the AlzAuthors management team and Board of Directors. She is the author of In Search of Rainbows: a daughter's story of loss, hope, and redemption where she writes about the gifts she found while caring for her mother with whom she'd had a tumultuous relationship. Read Susan's AlzAuthors post here. Barbara Ella Milton, Jr. PhD, LCSW is the author of Heeding the Caregiver Call: The Story of Barbara Ella Milton, Sr. and Alzheimer's Disease. This tells the tale of her caring for her estranged mother when she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease while she herself endured treatment for bladder cancer. Read Barbara's AlzAuthors post here. Vicki Tapia is a co-founder of AlzAuthors and a member of the management team and Board of Directors. She is the author of Somebody Stole My Iron: A family memoir of dementia, which chronicles her story of caring for both parents with dementia. She and her mother shared a difficult relationship, and Vicki found herself without the assistance of her only brother who chose to deny, rather than participate in, the situation. Read Vicki's AlzAuthors post here. About the Podcast Our podcast brings you insightful, moving interviews with our authors who share their personal dementia journeys. Please subscribe so you don't miss a word. If our authors' stories move you, please leave a review. And don't forget to share our podcast with family and friends in need of knowledge, comfort, and support on their own dementia journeys. AlzAuthors is a 501(c)(3) charitable organization totally reliant on donations to do what we do. Your generosity will help cover our many operating costs, which include website hosting and maintenance fees, service charges to keep things running smoothly, and marketing expenses to promote our authors, expand our content, improve our reach, and more. Our ongoing work supports our mission to lift the silence and stigma of Alzheimer's and other dementias. To sustain our efforts please donate here. We are a WCN Featured Podcast Proud to be on The Health Podcast Network Want to be on the podcast? Here's what you need to know. Thanks for listening. AlzAuthors.com Shop our Store
Interpersonal conflict is a part of our everyday lives, but divorce can magnify any conflict that already existed in the marriage. Tracy refers to divorce as a conflict petri dish.In today's episode, we talk about how getting additional training to become a conflict resolution expert can provide your clients with even more tools and skills to manage conflict during divorce and beyond.Families spend an exorbitant amount of money on divorce because the process is unfamiliar (read scary) and they don't have the skills necessary to engage in productive conflict and negotiation. We believe highly skilled divorce coaches can change that.Although most divorce coach training programs introduce the concepts of conflict resolution, our 6-week DCA™ Divorce Conflict Coach training offers the next level of expertise you need to truly help clients make that shift. Debra gives a sneak peek into the upcoming class by sharing some of the goals for working with clients in conflict and a few of the characters you'll meet in class (you'll love Raging Regina, Clueless Carl and the rest of the bunch).The 5 C's of conflict coaching are:- Clarity- Comprehension- Choices- Confidence- Competence The next session begins August 25 and we hope you'll consider adding this specialty to your divorce coaching practice. You'll get some cool letters after your name and your clients will get better outcomes. And those are both good for your business.You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:DCA™ Divorce Conflict Coach Training: https://www.divorcecoachesacademy.com/courses/divorce-conflict-coach-aug-2022Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Putting yourself in the shoes of the person you are in conflict with can provide valuable insights. It's a key feature of the CINERGY conflict coaching model. Cinnie Noble, creator of the model, was my guest on Episode 69, published on April 22, 2020. Listen wherever you get your podcasts or here: https://bit.ly/2xtYMIl. In two recent instances, coaching clients discovered, by putting themselves in the shoes of the other person in the conflict, that the client and the other person faced the same systemic challenge. The other person wasn't at fault at all. Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at jb@dovetailresolutions.com! And you can learn more about me and my work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach at www.dovetailresolutions.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/.Enjoy the show for free on your favorite podcast app or on the podcast website: https://craftingsolutionstoconflict.com/And you can follow us on Twitter @conflictsolving.
Joyce is joined by retired educator Beverly Wilson to discuss what happens in our brains and bodies when we experience conflict. When our values, needs, or identities are threatened, we react biologically and have an opportunity to interrupt the conflict. They discuss values (culturally defined) and needs (universal), the role they play in conflict, and the different ways people respond to a given situation. By engaging our prefrontal cortex, slowing down our thinking, and asking reflective questions we are able to disengage our amygdala. Beverly reminds us that by validating, empathizing, and asking clarifying questions, we can help someone who is starting to become elevated to slow down. Learn more about the OEA Mediation Network and opportunities for Conflict Coaching.
Every divorce has conflict, but not every divorce is high conflict. As divorce coaches, we have the unique opportunity to help our clients become self-aware of their own conflict style, identify any personal behaviors that are contributing to divorce conflict and transition to a more strategic approach.Word on the street is that everyone is divorcing a narcissist, but even in the presence of a full blown personality disorder, we can support clients in differentiating between actions that are protective and those that throw fuel on the fire.Divorce conflict exists on a spectrum from general disagreements and good people behaving badly all the way to false allegations, illegal behavior, and physical violence. One key for coaches is to "know your zone" and not attempt to coach clients that exceed your conflict comfort level. Listen in to today's conversation as Debra and Tracy talk all things high conflict divorce and how professional divorce coaches play such a vital role in helping clients manage that conflict more productively and effectively.You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Cinnie Noble is a pioneer of conflict management coaching. In this episode, Cinnie and our host William Corless discuss the cross over between coaching and mediation. They share their insights and experience, our listeners will discover: Why people elect to choose conflict coaching over mediation The benefits of conflict coaching The framework using the CINERGY model Internal reaction to conflict vs the external reaction Advice for coaches when it comes to venting How to analyse and have a productive coaching session Types of Questions Examples of where conflict coaching has worked A former lawyer with a Masters of Law in Dispute Resolution. Cinnie Noble is a Chartered Mediator and Professional Certified Coach. Cinnie mediates workplace and other interpersonal disputes and also, coaches individual clients worldwide to strengthen their conflict competence and more effectively engage in their interpersonal disputes. She and her international team of trainers conduct workshops for mediators, coaches and others in her unique CINERGY® Model. Cinnie is the author of two coaching books Conflict Mastery: Questions to Guide You and Conflict Management Coaching: The CINERGY™ Model www.cinergycoaching.com To download your Chapter two of her book, use the password : GetFreeChapter
Each and every one of us has dreams, Many of us let our dreams die or think we don't have what it takes to pursue them. Many others think that since they've completed their traditional work roles, whether by their own choice or because of ageist attitudes, that they've somehow lost their value and with them, the possibility of pursuing their dreams. Society contributes to those beliefs as the prevailing point of view is that if one is no longer an active member of the traditional workforce, they have somehow lost their value. Robert Peterson is dedicated, insightful and passionately believes that if you'd lived on this planet for more than fifty years, you have wisdom to share that can not only benefit others, but there are entrepreneurial opportunities for you to share that wisdom. Peterson, a former pastor, encourages people to tap into their expertise, knowledge and passions and helps them develop the confidence and shift their mindset to believe they can make their dreams become reality. In doing so they can live a happier, more fulfilled, and purposeful and society will be enriched by the wisdom they have shared.
Each and every one of us has dreams, Many of us let our dreams die or think we don't have what it takes to pursue them. Many others think that since they've completed their traditional work roles, whether by their own choice or because of ageist attitudes, that they've somehow lost their value and with them, the possibility of pursuing their dreams. Society contributes to those beliefs as the prevailing point of view is that if one is no longer an active member of the traditional workforce, they have somehow lost their value. Robert Peterson is dedicated, insightful and passionately believes that if you'd lived on this planet for more than fifty years, you have wisdom to share that can not only benefit others, but there are entrepreneurial opportunities for you to share that wisdom. Peterson, a former pastor, encourages people to tap into their expertise, knowledge and passions and helps them develop the confidence and shift their mindset to believe they can make their dreams become reality. In doing so they can live a happier, more fulfilled, and purposeful and society will be enriched by the wisdom they have shared.
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