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HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE! To a great 2022, the best year everrrrrrrrr ✨ As you can tell, we‘re pretty enthusiastic about this new year because the last year was… umm… well many things! From frustrating to challenging to sad to great to once again simply a mess. But hey, here we are, and we‘re ready to start 2022 with new intentions (as we kinda forgot about the ones from last year lol) and new motivation, so let‘s go! Make sure to check out the first episode of the new year in which we reflect on the past year, share how far we‘ve come with our resolutions from 2021 and also tell you what our new resolutions are (pls hold us accountable this year, we need your help!). Sending you much love and energy for the start of this new year

We all know the situation: we feel that something is off. We haven‘t been feeling our best and want to know what's wrong with us. Or maybe we‘re just sitting at the dentist and there‘s a magazine in front of us, practically inviting us to take a test about our mental health. Either way: we take the test. We get our „diagnosis“ - now what? In this week‘s episode we did just that. We took some mentalh health self- tests and share the results with you. Spoiler alert: it's pretty hilarious. More importantly though, we talk about the advantages but also risks of these tests and diagnoses in general, as there are plenty and we all tend to get hung up on labels that supposedly tell us what‘s „wrong“ with us. As always, feel free to share your feedback with us and let us know what you think (and what your experience is with these self-tests!). Hope you enjoy the episode.

This week‘s episode is all about answering your questions! Starting with the topic of emotional dependence and asking ourselves if we can and should actually be emotionally independent from other people? Why is independence in that sense something we are pressured to strive for when, in fact, humans simply need other humans?! Also we talk about how to deal with constant changes in our lives and how you can (and should!) question your family and the roles everyone has within this construct. Hope you enjoy the episode and, as always, let us know if you agree with our points of views.

Hi everyone! This gloomy week we are coming to you completely unaware of the upcoming lockdown but almost having a psychic feeling that impending doom is on its way! (Trust your gut folks)

It‘s Halloween and therefore time to share some truly spooky shit. What are the things you're really scared of? And what were you scared of as a child? There might be a link between now and then as fears are often something we carry with us throughout our lives, even though they may manifest differently at various stages. In this week‘s episode we dive into some deep dark fears of ours and realize once again: we‘re not alone with it.

❗️FINALLY ❗️WE‘RE BACK ❗️ After a couple of months of not posting any new episodes, we're back and we're ready to give you all the glory details of what has happened in that time and what we‘ve been up to. Additional to the usual therapy and dating updates, there are also some pretty big, life-impacting revelations that one of us has had … go listen to the full episode to find out more! Also we discuss the future of the podcast, as there will be a few changes regarding uploading and upcoming topics. It was sooo fun to record again and we really once again wanna say a massive THANK YOU to our listeners and followers who have been so patient with us. We really appreciate it ❤️❤️❤️

Hey hey hey! Another episode has come around and we are just doing a good old catch up! We barely get to just update each other on what's going on anymore because life got so crazy in the last couple months. It really went from zero to one hundred with no warning.

Intimacy vs. Isolation aka the young adulthood stage defined by Erikson. What does intimacy actually mean? Our first association often immediately goes to a strong and close physical relationship, to sex but isn't intimacy so much more? What about intimacy with friends for example, where it's more about learning to have genuine, authentic relationships? As we dove into this week's topic of the podcast, continuing with Erik Erikson's developmental phases, we started to get a bit confused and skeptical of the theory on this stage particularly. Maybe it's also a resistance as we are currently in it lol. As always, it's important to take all these theories with a grain of salt, consider them in the context of time in which they came up and generally not to get too caught up in it. Listen the full episode and see if and how you can apply it to your life, which we also tried to do. Also you will hear us getting more and more confused but stick to the end to hear Lola having an AHA-moment and figuring it all out

When we think psychoanalysis one of the first things that comes to mind is early development and the insane impact it has on our adult lives. Many critics have said that there is too much of a focus on the infant life, and that psychoanalytic psychotherapy is hugely lacking in the here and now, as well as later development (beyond the age of five or six). Boy do we have great news for you!

❗️ NO is a complete sentence ❗️ Saying “no” is one of many expressions of creating personal boundaries that allow you to focus your time doing the things that you want to do, things that make you feel good. We all kinda know that, yet many of us struggle with not only saying no, but setting boundaries in general. Why‘s that? In this week‘s episode we discuss boundaries and everything surrounding them: reflecting on the boundaries we had growing up (or lack thereof), the way we learned to communicate boundaries, our struggles with it and - very important - the topic of boundaries in a therapeutic setting. Let us know how you deal with setting boundaries, if it‘s something that you‘ve learned or if it‘s also something you struggle with (we have the feeling most of us do) - as always, we‘d love to hear your feedback on this topic. Hope you enjoy the episode

Have you ever gone about your day and suddenly had a response to something that was completely out of proportion? Welcome to the club!

So we all know that state of feeling down, sad, empty and what we often call „depressed“. But what is the difference between sadness and depression? Is there one? Quick answer: YES!

Hypochondriac is one of those words that's so widely used to describe a certain personality or character but how often is it really diagnosed? After our discussions we concluded that the answer is rarely, VERY rarely. Is it going out of trend like hysteria did?

I vividly remember learning about the platypus for at least a week in biology class in High School, yet I have no memory of learning anything about the female orgasm, masturbation or sexual identities. The question is: why? How do we expect young women and men to grow up knowledgable, sexually safe and healthy, if we still don‘t talk openly about these topics and make sex education a priority? Sex and Sexuality are a huge part of our lives and identities, yet often remain a taboo topic, even today. Also, they are enormously important topics in therapy. For some of us, it is easier to talk about sex and sexuality, for some more difficult, just as some people can express their sexuality more freely than others. Whatever the case, know that there is nothing wrong with you and the way you live out your sexuality. Among other things, this realisation has been a huge learning for both of us. Us humans are all wired and brought up very differently, and this part of our lives is no exception. That being said, bringing the topic of sex(uality) into therapy has been really important and beneficial for both of us. In this week‘s episode, we share why, what it changed for us, what we wish we had learned and known way back when, and, of course, some TMI stories

This week we are doing a little check in on our progress and regressions in our own psychoanalytic psychotherapies. Not only are we training to be therapists, but at the same time we're both patients as well!

Groups! We are always part of them, whether we are aware of it or not. When we are with friends, family, at work, but even when we go out on the streets or to do our grocery shopping - groups & crowds are everywhere and they influence our behavior massively

This week we questioned why people modify their bodies today (specifically with tattoos). The trend of getting tattooed has become so widespread, but has the meaning behind it changed?

The term Hysteria comes from the Greek word „Hystera“ which is translated to uterus. This already gives us a literal explanation of how the illness, of which the first records of patients date back to Ancient Egypt in 1900 BC, was understood - namely as abnormalities in the uterus and reproductive organs aka female issues

This week we went all philosophical on you, and discussed two Greek gods: Apollo and Dionysus

You are leaving your house. You close the door behind you. You take two steps. „Wait, did I lock the door?“ . You go back just to check. Again. And again. And one last time just to make sure! -ok seriously, who has not done this at some point in their life?!

Valentine's Day - the most romantic day of the year has finally arrived and boy are we not ready for it. We go through our dating history and reminisce past years with exes, dating in the cities we live in, and what this day even is to us!

„... ok, but isn‘t Freud like suuuuper outdated?“ - if we got a nickle for every time someone asked us that... we‘ll still not be rich but you get the point

We all associate crazy hippies and Rock'n'Roll with LSD and psychedelics in general, but what if we were to tell you that there's WAY more to them than free love? This week we are here to convince you that psychedelic psychotherapy is a scientifically proven EFFECTIVE treatment for mental illness!

What exactly is intuition? We all know that gut feeling, that strong sense of simply knowing something without knowing why or how. While in today's society, we are conditioned to have certain thought patterns, are taught to think logically and rationally and to basically go against our gut feeling, at the end of the day, our intuition is very often right. So is intuition your free will? Or is it also just highly conditioned and learned? And how does it connect to your Id, the unconscious, powerful source guiding our lives? In this weeks episode we discuss all these and more questions and did NOT come to a conclusion at all.

As we are coming to the end of 2020 it‘s time to look back and discuss the challenges, the teachings, the good, bad and ugly of this crazy past year. We are optimistic for 2021 and are ready to leave the year of rejection (yes, that‘s what we called it!) behind us. Are you guys with us?

Have you ever achieved something and had this strange feeling that you didn't deserve it or that you got there by chance or luck? You certainly are not alone, and this crazy phenomenon actually has a name

„Should we... share the potatoes?“

EARTH TO CARLA AND LOLA. Man were we out of it this week! It's crazy how we matched the topic of the day by being completely disconnected and NOT present while we recorded. This week's episode is something a lot of us have been struggling with during the pandemic: disconnection and dissociation! What can we do to fix this?!? We always have to separate the pathological examples of things like dissociation, but on a smaller scale the amount of zoning out and confusion we've been experiencing has been off the charts!!!

„Okay so I haven‘t heard from them in like 18 days but I am sure they‘re just suuuper busy. Right???“ - WRONG. Sorry to break it to you, but you've been ghosted

The elephant in the room had to be addressed: Coronavirus AKA Covid19. This week we explored all of our associations and feelings around the pandemic and both admitted our struggles during this global crisis, as well as our own flaws in the way we handle and talk about the current situation. On one hand these times bind us all together and make our experiences much more collective than they used to be, considering things like nationwide lockdowns, but on the other hand we also feel like we have never been more different than our peers and the people around us, with extremely differing emotions surrounding the topic and different ways of experiencing it!

ANXIETY. Something we all know and we all struggle with (some more, some less). According to psychoanalysis, anxiety is the emotion that is the core of all (!) our mental issues! But why? What exactly is anxiety? And what is its purpose? In this week‘s episode we dive into this big topic, discussing facts, own experiences and differentiations, ranging from social anxiety to phobias, panic attacks and general anxiety. Anxiety is such an uncomfortable feeling that can make us feel isolated and alone with our problems but in reality, it connects us all. So let's talk about it

In the words of our therapist: “ANDDDD OEDIPUS HAS ENTERED THE STAGE”

This week we're telling you that there is a constant battle going on in your mind between stuff that wants to come out and other forces that do their best in keeping that stuff in the dark. Those essential forces are the so called DEFENSE MECHANISMS. The lady who randomly attacks you in the supermarket. That one cousin who you cannot help but despise and don't know why. The need to kick something or someone when you are upset. ALL DEFENSE MECHANISMS. Still not sure what we're talking about? Fair enough. Listen to the episode and find out what it's all about!

What if we told you that there is basically a guide to what kind of people you find yourself in romantic relationships with and why? THERE KIND OF IS! Welcome to attachment styles ladies and gentlemen, one of our favorite subjects to chat about. It's so crazy to think about the dynamics we had with caregivers during infancy being our references of how to pick up an eligible bachelor

WE DID It! We managed to get our very first guest on the podcast! Meet Martin, an amazing hairdresser and techno DJ in Vienna, who openly shares his experiences from his own therapy with us, as well as gives us a male perspective on body image, social media and emotional vulnerability among men. Also, we talk about the many parallels of hairdressers and therapists, which are numerous and were so interesting for us to hear! We really hope you guys enjoy this episode as much as we did talking to Martin, he‘s a blast!

We struggled to talk about addiction this week and got frustrated as we were reminded of what a toll it's taken on our own families. When reflecting on our compulsive behaviors our narcissism was once again revealed and guys, it is striving! Last but not least - was Sigmund Freud a cocaine addict?!

This week‘s topic was an intense one for us since we share some of our very personal experiences with body image issues and disturbed eating behavior/eating disorders. It‘s important to us to share these experiences, since we know we are not alone in this! So tune in if you want to hear some insight on where body and eating issues actually stem from, why we are critical of the term „body positivity“ and what helped us on our personal journeys of recovery.

This week we're taking you on a journey through time starting with Carla's amazing story telling skills as she sets the scene in Ancient Greece and tells us the story of where the word narcissist comes from, ALL the way to Lola's ex (the narcissist) because it's pretty hard to have an episode without mentioning an ex. Thanks for listening and take note of how to spot those darn narcissists - including the narcissists in ourselves!

Kicking off season 2 with a topic that we‘re all familiar with

We have officially made it to the end of season one! YES! To celebrate our tenth episode we decided to record it during a live stream on Instagram and answer some of your juicy questions on the spot. We hope you enjoyed it as much as we did!

Have you ever wondered what it‘s like going to therapy? I mean... what do you actually do there? And why would anyone go? In this week‘s episode we dive into our experience of being in therapy and why we think everyone could benefit from it, even though it doesn‘t necessarily make you a happier person.

What does it mean to know someone? And is there anyone who actually knows you? This is one of the questions we discuss in this week‘s episode, before diving into less philosophical topics such as Lola‘s 3-step-guide to minimal-effort first dates or the fear of dry clay... it's real you guys. And yes, we ramble on about a lot of weird stuff. Hope you enjoy!

After a short break we are back and oh boy, do we have stuff to catch up on! Since having returned from our family vacations let's just say we are far from the Brady bunch... but why is it that our families can push our buttons like no one else? And how do your siblings influence your sex life (cock block much?!). Listen to find out!

Another week, another episode! And what better way to end this week than to listen to some of our favorite stories of really random things that happened to us aka our so called „Party Stories“?! Which one of us got roofied? Almost had a threesome? And screamed YEAH DADDY YEAH DADDY whilst wearing sexy stockings? Guess you gotta listen to find out!

This week we ponder what friendship means and how that's changed for us now that we're all grown up (or at least that's what we like to tell ourselves), our various insecurities, and if we are our parents. Oh, and we almost forgot - daddy issues of course!

In this week‘s episode we discuss the psychoanalytic belief that accidents don‘t really exist and once again it‘s just your unconscious having a blast and acting out. So that kinda means you are totally responsible for your actions and your entire life... DAMMIT!

Third times a charm so we made a third episode! This week we're struggling to come to terms with the fact that we only have a few years left in our apparent prime 20s

This week we‘re getting drunk as we discuss our current sleepless nights, dreams of Exes, Carla's ultimate daddy issue and Lola's hidden talent... Also: we need to find a psychic asap to get a reading because we‘re in taurus season and that apparently means something?! Who knows. Thanks for listenting guys!

I guess you could say we‘re having an online-dating burnout and are in desperate need of some chill time (and also some life coaching). No more swiping and DEFINITELY no more open relationships - what does that even mean? We‘re confused. Send help.