Still Standing with Valerie Silveira

Your perspective shapes everything—your mindset, your resilience, and even the way you navigate life's biggest challenges. In this episode, we dive deep into how shifting your perspective can transform setbacks into stepping stones and struggles into lessons.

Life's storms have a way of shaking our foundations—but they can also rebuild them. In this episode, Sean and I have an open, heartfelt conversation about faith. Sean shares his journey of finding faith again after losing it, while I talk about how my faith has been strengthened through life's toughest battles. Whether you're questioning, searching, or holding onto faith with both hands, this conversation is for you.

What if the strength you're searching for is already within you? What if you are the one meant to rise, lead, and show others the way? In this episode, we're talking about stepping into your strength—not just for yourself, but for those who need to see a warrior in action. The world needs more role models of courage and hope, and that starts with YOU. Join me as we unpack what it means to take down your Beast, reclaim your power, and step into the Warrior Sisterhood. Because if not you, then who? https://valeriesilveira.com

What happens when you're thrown into the toughest game of your life with no playbook? In this episode, I sit down with Rhonda Gartner, a mother who found herself as the “quarterback” of her son's addiction journey—trying to hold everything together while everyone looked to her for answers she didn't have. Rhonda opens up about the denial, the blindsiding reality of addiction, and how she became the middleman in a battle she never signed up for. She shares the weight of navigating her family's expectations, the overwhelming responsibility of trying to “fix” everything, and how she finally found her own path forward. If you've ever felt like the one holding it all together—without a game plan—this conversation will speak to you.

In this powerful episode of Warriors in Hope with Valerie Silveira, Sean and I discuss how courage isn't just reserved for heroes but is crucial for navigating the challenges of everyday life. While we often think of courage in terms of grand, heroic actions, it's the everyday moments that truly require bravery. Join us as we explore how to tap into your inner courage to face the obstacles and uncertainties that come your way and live a life full of strength and resilience. Learn More at www.ValerieSilveira.com

What do you do when you know the inevitable is coming? How do you keep living when your heart is already breaking? In this deeply moving episode, Donna, one of my incredible Warriors, shares her story of standing strong in the face of losing her son. After years of addiction, her son developed a serious heart condition. Given a grim prognosis, he checked himself out of the hospital—and back into drugs. She knows what's coming… but she refuses to stop living. Donna opens up about: ✔️ How she found strength, courage, and purpose despite her heartbreaking reality ✔️ Why hope still matters—even when the outcome seems certain ✔️ The lessons she's learned about grief, healing, and moving forward This is not just an episode about loss. It's about choosing to live even in the hardest moments. If you're a mother facing the pain of a loved one's addiction, this message is for you.

Are you stuck in the cycle of overthinking but never taking action? In this solo episode, Valerie Silveira dives into the crucial balance between thinking and doing—and why action is the key to reclaiming your life. She explores how waiting for change to happen keeps you stuck, why your thoughts alone won't break the cycle, and what you can do today to move forward with courage. If you've been feeling overwhelmed by fear, worry, or uncertainty, this episode will help you break free and take the steps needed to truly live above the collateral damage of addiction.

In this deeply reflective episode, Sean shares how a single, life-altering incident with Jamie during the early days of her addiction forever changed his perception of safety, family, and life itself. This pivotal moment shattered his once-blissful view of the world and caused him to wrestle with emotions that shaped his journey moving forward. We dive into how these moments—though devastating—can offer profound insights and opportunities for growth. Together, we unpack how to find strength in the cracks of a broken foundation and rebuild, not to forget, but to rise above.

In this episode of Warriors in Hope, Valerie Silveira addresses mothers dealing with children in addiction, emphasizing the critical role they play as the emotional heartbeat of their families. She shares her personal journey through the struggles of addiction, the feelings of guilt and helplessness, and the importance of self-care and empowerment. Valerie encourages mothers to reclaim their lives, take action, and find hope amidst the chaos, reminding them that their stories matter and can inspire others. - Moms are the emotional heartbeat of the family. - It's crucial not to let that heartbeat die. - Addiction can affect families in profound ways. - Self-care is essential for mothers in crisis. - You cannot save your child from addiction; they must choose recovery. - Hope exists, even in the darkest times. - Your story can inspire others. - Taking action is vital for personal healing. - Support groups should focus on empowerment, not despair. - Every mother has the power to reclaim her life.

In this heartfelt episode, I'm sharing one of my most powerful messages—a story that resonated with thousands of moms. If you've ever felt stuck in pain and overwhelmed by the challenges of addiction, this episode is for you. Learn how to stand up, reclaim your life, and find the courage to keep going.

Happy New Year! In this special episode, I'm sharing two powerful TV interviews that highlight my journey through unimaginable challenges and the courage it took to keep standing.

The holidays can be a time of mixed emotions—joy, love, togetherness, stress, grief, and longing for what could have been. In this special Christmas episode, I share a heartfelt message to help you find peace amidst the chaos and light in even the darkest moments. Whether facing the holiday with a heavy heart or simply seeking a moment of reflection, this message is for you.

Special dates—birthdays, angel anniversaries, Mother's Day, and even holidays—can bring waves of emotion for those navigating the challenges of addiction, grief, or loss. In this episode, I share actionable tips to help you approach these milestones with strength and intention. Learn how to set boundaries, embrace new traditions, and find peace, no matter the occasion.

Life's challenges can feel overwhelming, but even in the midst of the toughest storms, it's possible to keep moving forward. In this episode, I share 7 practical and powerful ways to stay inspired when life feels heavy. Whether you're facing grief, addiction, or life's unexpected twists, these strategies will help you find the courage to keep going and the hope to thrive.

The holidays can be filled with joy—but also stress, disappointment, and emotional triggers, especially for those navigating the challenges of addiction or grief. In this episode, I share practical tips to help you stay grounded, manage expectations, and even create new traditions that bring peace and purpose to your holiday season. Whether you're facing family dynamics, grief, or simply the chaos of the season, these insights will help you focus on what truly matters and reclaim your joy.

In this episode of Warriors in Hope, I explore two powerful ideas that can transform how we experience life's challenges. First, I'll dive into the common tendency to say that others “made us feel” a certain way—but the truth is, no one has that power over us. We get to decide how we feel and what we think. Then, I'll look at a deeper question: when life hands us major challenges or painful losses, could they be happening for us rather than just to us? As difficult as it may seem, perhaps these experiences are opportunities to find strength, growth, and even purpose. Join me as I share insights on reclaiming our power over emotions and turning life's hardest moments into something meaningful. Learn more at ValerieSilveira.com

Episode Description: In this episode of Warriors in Hope, I reflect on an important realization in my journey—the distinction between being selfless and losing oneself. It's noble to be selfless, but when we lie down in the muck and mire with others, we risk our own well-being. Through my story and insights, I'll explore how to walk the line between compassion and self-destruction, and why the world needs each of us to stay strong . We are proof that resilience is possible, and our strength can be the light that keeps us—and others—moving forward. Join me as I discuss the power of standing tall in the face of hardship, reclaiming your life, and finding the courage to rise above. For more, connect with Valerie: www.ValerieSilveira.com

In a world where strength seems to be fading, we're left wondering: Where have all the warriors gone? In this episode of Warriors in Hope, we'll explore how societal shifts have left us more fearful and less resilient, and why reclaiming courage is more crucial now than ever. While today's world often promotes safety over strength, each of us has an inner warrior ready to stand tall. Together, let's dig deep to uncover the courage we may have lost, reigniting a spirit of resilience that can turn the tide. This is a call to all of us: the world needs warriors, and we each have the strength to answer. Learn more at ValerieSilveira.com

In this enlightening episode of Warriors in Hope with Valerie Silveira, we explore the powerful intersection of faith and action in the journey of supporting a loved one through addiction. While faith can inspire and uplift, it's important to recognize that true change often requires us to get our hands dirty and do the hard work. Join me as we discuss the importance of balancing belief with practical steps to navigate the challenges we face. Through inspiring stories and actionable strategies, we'll uncover how to harness our faith as a driving force while also being proactive in our healing journey. Discover how to cultivate resilience and find strength in both your faith and your actions. Learn more at ValerieSilveira.com.

In this reflective episode of Warriors in Hope with Valerie Silveira, we explore the longing for foresight in our lives, especially when navigating the unpredictable journey of addiction and loss. While it's natural to wish we had a crystal ball to glimpse the future, we often find that the unknown protects us from the weight of what's to come. Join me as we discuss the importance of living in the moment and embracing uncertainty. Through heartfelt stories and insightful reflections, we'll uncover how accepting life's unpredictability can lead to growth, resilience, and deeper appreciation for the present. Discover the freedom that comes from letting go of the need to know what lies ahead and instead focusing on the strength we can cultivate in the here and now. Learn more at ValerieSilveira.com.

In this heartfelt episode of Warriors in Hope with Valerie Silveira, we dive into the reality that as parents, we often don the 'Supermom Cape,' believing we can save our children from the grips of addiction. But the truth is, despite our love and determination, we can't control their choices. Join me as I share insights on recognizing when this cape becomes a burden, leading us to self-destruct instead of helping our loved ones. Embrace acceptance while finding the strength to prioritize your own well-being. It's time to let go of the cape and reclaim our lives. Tune in for guidance, hope, and a few laughs along the way! Learn more at ValerieSilveira.com.

In this empowering episode of Warriors in Hope with Valerie Silveira, we confront the heavy burdens of shame and guilt that often accompany the journey of supporting a loved one through addiction. Many of us carry these feelings, believing they are part of our responsibility. Join me as we explore practical strategies to shed these negative emotions and embrace self-compassion. Through real stories and relatable insights, we'll discuss how letting go of shame and guilt can pave the way for healing, resilience, and a renewed sense of hope. Discover how you can reclaim your narrative and step into a brighter future. Learn more at ValerieSilveira.com.

In this insightful episode of Warriors in Hope with Valerie Silveira, we tackle the critical issue of how often we unconsciously place the weight of our happiness on our children struggling with addiction. It's easy to get caught up in the belief that their well-being determines our own. Join me as we explore the importance of detaching our happiness from their choices and learning to find joy within ourselves. We'll discuss how to reclaim our emotional well-being and take responsibility for our own happiness. Discover how freeing ourselves from this burden can lead to healthier relationships and a renewed sense of purpose. Learn more at ValerieSilveira.com.

In this transformative episode of Warriors in Hope with Valerie Silveira, we delve into the vital theme of recognizing our own worth amidst the chaos of addiction and loss. Many of us struggle to give ourselves permission to matter, often feeling overshadowed by the challenges our loved ones face. Join me as we explore the importance of prioritizing our own needs and well-being. Through heartfelt discussions and practical insights, we'll uncover how granting ourselves permission to take up space and seek joy is not only essential for our healing but also sets a powerful example for those around us. Discover how to reclaim your value and embrace a life filled with purpose and strength.

In this poignant episode of Warriors in Hope with Valerie Silveira, we confront the harsh reality of being part of clubs we never chose to join—the club of "mom of an addict" and the club of "mom who has lost a child." These affiliations come with deep pain and heartbreak, yet they also create a unique bond among those who understand our struggles. Join me as we share raw, relatable stories and discuss how to navigate the complexities of these experiences while finding strength in community. We'll explore ways to honor our loved ones and transform our grief into a source of empowerment, showing that while we may not have chosen these clubs, we can still find hope, healing, and connection within them. Learn more at ValerieSilveira.com.

Whether you like it or not, you are at war with your Beast! So, if you are in a battle, why not fight like you are? This message is important and inspiring! Become a Warrior in Hope: www.WarriorsinHope.com

Is it possible to fake it til you make it when addiction is in the family? Will it work to smile on the outside, and eventually, you genuinely smile on the outside? Join Valerie as she shares her experience with this situation. Become a Warrior in Hope: www.WarriorsinHope.com

Valerie shares some incredible insights into her learning experience from a recent major surgery in this episode. Some of the perspectives might surprise you. Enjoy this message of hope! Become a Warrior in Hope: www.WarriorsinHope.com

I know you're scared. We all are. Life can be terrifying at times. But, on the other side of your fear is more courage and strength than you thought possible. Join Valerie and be inspired to choose courage. www.WarriorsinHope.com

In this podcast episode, Leave the Isolating World of Shame, Valerie inspires you to stand on top of your story and choose who you become because of it. Valerie shares her own journey of overcoming shame and offers guidance on breaking free from the isolating effects of shame. She encourages listeners to embrace their stories, recognizing the power and resilience they've developed through difficult experiences. By standing on top of their stories, Valerie shows how individuals can take control of their narratives and consciously shape the people they become. This episode provides a hopeful perspective for those seeking to leave behind the world of shame and step into a more empowered sense of self.

As a family who walked through our loved one's addiction (my daughter, Jamie) and her murder, along with the now eight years and counting process leading up to a trial, we are speaking out about the addiction crisis. Drugs flooding into our country have got to stop, or the death and destruction of our sons and daughters will continue at the alarming rate that it is! Join Valerie and her son, Sean, and husband, Rich, as they encourage you to speak out for your loved ones. Link arms with Valerie at: www.WarriorsinHope.com

As our kids grow older, we have intersecting journeys, but when addiction (or another self-destructive path) enters the equation, we can begin living their lives. We abandon ours in hopes we can save them. It's understandable, but it can be detrimental to their journey. Join Valerie for another candid and robust discussion. www.Warriorsin Hope.com - Join us!

PODCAST ALERT: "The Ripple Effect of Their Addiction" In this episode, Valerie discusses the negative impact of their addiction on moms and other family members, and she emphasizes the ripple effect of the impact. Further, she will inspire you to create an entirely different ripple as you choose to stand up and fight for your recovery from the trauma of your addiction. Join Valerie as a Warrior in Hope! www.WarriorsinHope.com

This week, Valerie has a candid discussion with her son, Sean, and husband, Rich, on the 8th anniversary of her daughter Jamie's murder. It has been a long road and no end in sight with the so-called justice system, but they are still standing! We all go through unexpected twists and turns in our lives, and sometimes, we get smacked over the head by one of life's two-by-fours or experience an ongoing painful journey. Join us for an update on our story and hopefully some inspiration for you. Link arms with Valerie: www.warriorsinhope.com

Feelings can be overwhelming. They come out of nowhere, and many want to stick around permanently. If we allow our feelings to run the show, one feeling after the other will toss us around like a rowboat in the ocean. There is a way to honor and respect feelings but override their tendency to send us into sadness, despair, and depression. Even when the anniversary of Jamie's murder approaches, I use a few techniques to ensure that I don't allow my feelings to dictate my life. Hopefully, a tip or two can help you manage overwhelming feelings. Connect with Valerie at www.WarriorsinHope.com

In this episode, Valerie chats with Warrior Annelle Abernethy about living with grief while embracing life. Annelle describes it as a low hum, a constant presence in life. Whether you have a loved one in addiction or recovery or one who has angel wings, this episode is a source of comfort and support. Remember, you are not alone in your feelings or your journey to freedom. Join us at: www.WarriorsinHope.com

Valerie's emotional journey through her daughter's addiction and tragic death was isolating despite her circle of family and friends. The weight of grief left her feeling lost in a sea of faces, overwhelmed by loneliness and despair. Valerie found solace and purpose through her struggles by channeling her pain into strength and empathy for others facing similar challenges. Opening up about her experiences led to a newfound connection with those who understood her journey. Valerie's story is a powerful reminder of the importance of reaching out and supporting others in times of darkness. By embracing her vulnerability, she transformed her loneliness into resilience and compassion, bridging the gap between isolation and community. Join Valerie at: www.WarriorsinHope.com

In this episode, Valerie and Warrior Annelle Abernethy discuss the impact of hope and crushing disappointment when you have a child in addiction. Annelle shared her moment of truth when she knew she had to let go of her son and rely on her faith. Importantly, Valerie and Annelle talk about reclaiming their lives from the collateral damage of addiction and overwhelming grief. You will be inspired and motivated to reclaim your life, and you might even find a couple of laughs in this inspiring episode of Warriors in Hope with Valerie Silveira.

In this episode of Warriors in Hope, Valerie calls moms impacted by the collateral damage of addiction to courage. She will inspire you to accept what you cannot control and begin your journey to recovery to be a much-needed voice. Subscribe to the Podcast and join Valerie at Warriors in Hope. www.WarriorsinHope.com

Fear is a Beast. It is the #1 culprit that holds us back or keeps us down. Fear steals our joy and crushes our dreams. Fear keeps us stuck in shame and guilt. No matter your circumstances, you don't have to live in paralyzing fear. Listen to Valerie's empowering Podcast episode and join us as a Warrior in Hope. www.Warriorsinhope.com

What if you were sent to Earth on a mission? But along the way, you forgot about it. All hell broke loose; it was the furthest thing from your mind. You struggle to remember something through your painful journey - it's stored in your mind, but you can't seem to retrieve it. There must be another purpose past your pain. Come along with me on this story and get inspired along the way. Link arms with Valerie and other Warrior Sisters at www.WarriorsinHope.com (or download the App).

When a traumatic event, such as addiction in the family, hits, it is natural for us to start thinking of life before and after (or during). It is a life split in two. This discussion will get you thinking about being mindful that not everything before the trauma was good, and not everything after is terrible. Become a Warrior in Hope: www.WarriorsinHope.com

When the game goes into extra innings, fatigue sets in—physically and mentally. When we are playing the more serious game of life, it can wear us down until we want to quit. This episode will motivate you to stay in the game and include some tips to do just that. Link arms with Valerie at: www.WarriorsinHope.com

We all experience things we wish we didn't. We learn about things we could have gone our whole life without knowing. There is so much about my daughter's addiction that I wish I never had to learn. The details of her murder, I would like to have just been a crime drama. There are things about our journey you wish you didn't know. But here we are. What can we do with those "things you never wanted to know?" Let's talk about that in this episode. Link arms with Valerie at www.WarriorsinHope.com

In modern society, there is a growing concern that we may be making our children too comfortable, hindering their ability to develop courage and confidence. Providing them with a safe and secure environment may inadvertently shelter them from challenges that could help them grow and thrive. This idea is echoed in eagles' behavior, who deliberately make their nests uncomfortable as their young ones grow. By layering their nests with sticks, thorns, and other sharp objects, eagles create a sense of discomfort that ultimately motivates their offspring to venture out and learn to fly. If we are past the point of changing this situation, there are still ways we can make a difference.

This insightful episode is a discussion with a Warrior in recovery from addiction. It's also a powerful message to moms (and other family members impacted by addiction). Sandy has done the work to beat the odds and is living a life she never imagined, but what I am most impressed with are the following: - Her "no victim" mentality. - She shows compassion for what family members go through and how they deserve to live their lives. - How she vigorously works on her recovery. As family members, we need to do the same - fight vigorously for our recovery! We have to stop waiting for someone else and get on with the business of living our lives. We have to do the work!! Our process of creating a courageous life filled with peace, purpose, and hope. I am so proud of Sandy for many reasons, but also because she made it out of Jamie's life. Sandy was Jamie's friend in addiction, and now Jamie is her angel in her new life. P.S. Warning - a couple of 4-letter words, but if you have been living with a Beast as a result of addiction in your family, I'm sure it won't be the first time.

Everyone is living with a Beast. Some are twins, and others have MANY siblings. I have discovered that this family is close-knit and has many of the Sam characteristics! They love to get us down on the mat and force us to believe lies about ourselves and others. This fun episode is a bit tongue-in-cheek, but it's also serious. Let's link arms and take on this family of horrid creatures! Connect with me at: www.WarriorsinHope.com

When a loved one falls victim to the Beast that is addiction, its claws dig deep into our own lives, intertwining our struggles. The overwhelming mix of love and fear drives us to fixate on saving them, especially when it is our son or daughter. The sorrow, anguish, and agony that addiction brings to a family are undeniably profound, but they need not define our existence. It is crucial to hit the brakes on the Roller Coaster From Hell, taking the first steps towards reclaiming our own well-being. Even as our thoughts and actions are consumed by our loved one's struggles, we must realize that we can still stand strong and work on our recovery journey. Separating ourselves from their addiction allows us to focus on our healing without abandoning hope for theirs.

When addiction is involved, the dynamics of support and care often shift. Unlike other situations where neighbors and friends may rally around with loving gestures like bringing a casserole to symbolize their support, addiction can elicit feelings of fear, shame, blame, and stigma. The isolating nature of addiction for us moms and other family members can make it challenging for loved ones to know how to help or express their concerns in ways that are meaningful. It is time for us to all come together because addiction is no longer a family problem but a community problem. If you know someone who needs to understand what you are going through, have them listen to this episode. And be courageous enough to help people not on your journey to know how to bring you those metaphorical casseroles! We are all in this thing called life together. If you are a mom or another woman with an addiction in your family, please join us at www.WarriorsinHope.com