Women's Grit & Grace ~Embrace Your Power as a Woman in Life & Love

Women's ways of power are unique and not often embraced by women as a form of power. Yet when women embrace their unique forms of power-such as their power of relationship-their impact increases as does their effectiveness for realizing what they seek to make better.  The power of relationship begins with a woman knowing what has value and meaing for her, then partnering with her soul for creating this in her life and world. For example, do you seek more care for the world of nature? Pivoting to sharing such with your soul and spirit will create events in your life for taking action to effectively care more for nature.  This is not a linear intellectual process, but a process of relating to your inner world of values and what has heart for you. And then partnering with your soul and spirit for creating an impact with such in the 5 senses world. Impact that comes through your relating to yourself, your soul, and then your gift of action as a human being. Join me as I share my thoughts and real life experiences of how the power of relationship can empower more of what you seek in your life and your world. I look forward to sharing more about this power you have as a woman and inspiriing a more active relationship with your powers as a woman for your life and our world! To learn more about the work I do with women and their relationships, check out my website.

Life offers women more choices than ever, so why aren't women happier than ever? It's simple-more choices is not the same as knowing YOUR choices which will create the happiness and love you are seeking. It really is simple-altho not always so easy. Simple is knowing what is true for you and living with congruence to this in you choices of actions and even your words. Simple is knowing what makes you happy-and then making those your choices you commit to action. Easy? Not if you are a people pleaser and don't like to make waves. Join JaiKaur as she shares how making your life simple may not be easy but is will make you happier and more likely to have the love you desire more present in your life.  JaiKaur mentors women for embracing their power in life and love. If you would like to learn more about JaiKaur's support for women doing so check out her website or email her.

Power is a concept and energy many women are ambivalent about, feeling both a poverty of it in their life and yet conflicted in claiming more of it. Understandable as for so long, women have been subjucated to forms of power destructive, demeaning, denigrating. The good news is there is a growing awareness of this state of affairs and growing support for going from #metoo to #nomore. Power for women can be embraced as not in conflict or denial of our deepest values and truths as women-that all life is precious and worthy of our support. Yes, this is not the current form of power which is based in control, in might makes right, in power over that less able to defend itself. Embracing our power as women will require we no longer agree to be silent, to always be nice, to not make waves. And to not become a mirror of what we do not like about other forms of power. Join JaiKaur as she offers wisdom on women's ways of power, of the power of compassion, and the power of our dignity, nobility, and divinity as women. CLICK HERE to learn more about JaiKaur and her services for women and relationships. 

Challenge has gotten a bad rap in an age when "easy" is the preferred choice. Easy choices, easy relationships, what is easy (and what one can get away with) seems to have gained favor. Yet not unlike that old-fashioned virtue of courage, challenge calls to you with the promise of granting you not only more experience about yourself and life. When you greet life's challenges as empowering you-not overwhelming you-happiness awaits you. In this podcast, JaiKaur will talk about how challenge is your friend for a life happy and satisfying. And how courage, commitment, character come alongside this choice for enriching your life as well. Join JaiKaur for a show certain to be a bit provocative, but then again, change agents often are! To learn more about JaiKaur and her services for women and men CLICK HERE.  

We know how what we spend our money on creates what we have in life. Do you know the same is true for what you focus your thoughts on? And what you invest your energy in is what you create more of in your life? This is not woo-woo, it is the science that people who are succesful in manifesting a life they love know and practice. In working with women seeking to change their life, we get to a point in their process in which they must choose to embrace their courage and their faith in themselves and their Spirit- or not. The women who are willing to do so realize changes they have been seeking for some time and had failed before now to achieve. I take no credit other than knowing from my own life and the scores of people I have helped over the years, how when you want to realize true change in yourself or life, you need to reach beyond the world of your five senses. Investing in your faith instead of your fear will illuminate how your life has meaning and purpose. As Einstein was credited as saying, you cannot create change from the same place you created what you want to change. We live in times which call upon the power of our spirit and souls to create the changes we seek instead of counting on our five senses intelligence to get us out of the jambs this intelligence created. And women will lead the way for doing so through the grace and grit that is within all women. To learn more about JaiKaur and her work with women Click Here!

Every day staying silent harvests victims, for when we are silent, silence is not unlike a mortal illness. An illness that claims the dreams, the hopes, the desires of it's victims who have been told to be nice girls. Nice girls don't piss people off, nice girls don't hurt people's feelings, and nice girls for certain don't put themselves first. And being nice can kill you if not your dreams, your joys, your staying true to your life and self. In this show JaiKaur will talk about the price of your silence, a major dynamic in the #metoo movement. Time and time again women recounted how the trauma of their abuse was not only what happened but the cancer of staying silent about it. Women are often put on the defensive when they speak up in matters of violation or abuse and so often stay silent in the belief that no one will believe them or that they will face shaming and abuse as bad as the original incident. Over and over in my work with women we come upon an incident in which a violation or transgression of power occurred and they stayed silent about it, often at the behest of their mother. Years later, the shame and self-condemnation they focus on themselves is like a cancer, invading how they feel and believe about themselves and the world. Their silence grew the original incident into having so much more power and impact in their life than the original incident alone could ever have had. The price of your silence is higher than you know until you uncover it and reclaim your voice. To learn more about JaiKaur and her work with women and couples go to www,jaikaur.com.  

Intimate relationships are held by many Eastern traditions as the highest form of yoga. Intimate relationships will bring the darkness hidden within us all out, for transforming in the light of day. It is the longing within the heart of all true loves, and we are instead taught to engage each other as "commodities on demand". "You are to do/be/not do this if you love me"  or "If you loved me, you'd behave the way I want you to, agree with me", etc. To not much surprise, such relationships hit troubled waters once one person does not agree to this, or goes elsewhere for the connection and support they are seeking. Learn how to engage the true magic of intimate relationship-to be seen and loved just as you are, warts and all. To do so requires you can hold yourself with such love enough to offer it to another. Relationships otherwise will show themselves in time to be either an exchange of commodities or caretaking by one person of the other. Unhappiness and resentment, lying and betrayal the results in time, not the intimate and soul connection desired. To learn more about JaiKaur and her mentoring of women for embracing their power in life and love, check out her website JaiKaur.com.

Women at midlife are called to cross the bridge from living the expectations of others to living what is true for them in their heart and soul. Midlife is a time when marriages are called to heal or die, hormones rage so you tend to your rage, and no longer can your busyness shield your unhappiness. Having spent years fulfilling roles and to-do lists, you may have forgotten to be a woman first and confused your value with making others happy with you. Crossing the bridge of midlife is choosing to reclaim and renew yourself, giving voice to and living what your life and world is longing for. Crossing the bridge of midlife requires you renew your relationship with your spirit and soul for claiming your sovereignty and legacy as a woman. Crossing the bridge of midlife demands you no longer live by the expectations of others and buy into that your needs are selfish. For deep within you, you know the world is as healthy as women are happy and empowered. Join me for exploring being a woman crossing the bridge of midlife, gathering strength and support in community, embracing your grace and grit as a woman. To learn more about JaiKaur and her mentoring of women embracing their power in live and love with grit and grace CLICK HERE

Women know they are powerful, but too often disclaim or don't engage their power, resulting in unhappiness and undesired results. Why? Because the cultural and family messages about powerful women have not been inviting nor flattering to most women. And the results? Well, take a look around you at a world imblanced and unhealthy. In this show, JaiKaur will talk about women loving and embracing their power in their life and love. Women's power is different than how we have both been taught as well as seen it exercised by men. Different does not mean better or worse, and both women and men's ways of power are needed as they compliment each other. (Not so different from how a healthy relationship between a man and a woman requires each person to be centered in who they are). More about JaiKaur and her mentoring of women for embracing their power in life and love can be found at her website. JaiKaur offers a complimentary session for women interested in seeking relief with a challenge in life or love. Simply email JaiKaur to set up your complimentary session.  

We are taught to seek love and happiness from others and are often disappointed in others for how they love us. Yet unless you love yourself, your love for another will be seeking the wrong things from them, creating an unsatisfying relationship or even dooming the relationship. Learning to love yourself is needed for being able to love another as well as to receive love from another. Join me as I talk about how looking for another to validate you, to care for you in ways you do not do so for yourself will only create blaming the other person for the unhappiness within yourself. Self-love is a required choice and practice for being able to truly love another, for as the saying goes, an empty glass pours no water.

Your presence as a woman is a power which you can choose to engage in your life for changing the outcomes of challenges and for realizing your dreams. This is not a power women are taught about as we live in a time when men's ways have had the stage of what we pay attention to and engage. And, the lack of women's ways of power being embraced by the world has impacted both men's and women's lives in ways not for the better. Join me as I share how you can do so as the power of your presence as a women is a power women are often unaware of and not taught how to engage. It is a power which needs asks of you a willingness to engage your heart in service of your deepest values and to honor your power as a woman. No collateral damages, only a willingness to call upon your grace for meeting the grit of life.

Power is a subject up and front as women give voice to men abusing their power. Make no mistake, while the means may be sexual, the heart of the matter is power. We live in a male-centric world, meaning, a world created for and by men and their expereinces. And so by default, women's expereince of the world is not unlike being a round peg trying to fit into a square hole-not. And historically women as a result have had to be accomodating to being different than men, although the price of that is no longer what women want to pay. Join me as I talk about women's power and how it is often different from (men's) power as what we've been taught is power. Knowing what is powerful for you is a beginning step to claiming what has power for you and what you in turn can exercise as power. It is different, and, that is true of much of you as a woman in contrast to men and their experiences. Women embracing their power is one of the responses to a world crying out for more heart and soul in the world.

It's a brand new year, inviting renewal in our faith and belief in our ability to create a life we adore. Within you lies a source of unlimited creativity, wisdom, strength which can become buried beneath the bills, the to-do list, the distraction of political dramas. And so we become confused, believing the circumstances outside ourself are what make us happier -or not. This is why new year resolutions so quickly fold, for without tapping into what is infinite and eternal within yourself, your life will be constructed of your reactions of the actions of others. Join me as I talk about how within each and every woman is the GPS of her soul for realizing happiness and success in her life's dreams. Your soul needs to you to call on it and to take action on your own behalf. This is not woo-woo, but the reason the absence of women's power has created a world lacking in soul and heart. If you want the advantage of the power, wisdom, and courage which lies awaiting you to call upon it, learn how to flex the muscles of your soul and watch your life change!  

To be a woman is a gift, a privilege, a blessing....but has not been so much in the times and culture we live in. There is a reckoning a-foot as to the price of women's silence and the collusion which kept women silent and a distortion of men's power in play. Women's wings have been bent by the silencing of her outrage and wisdom, the relegating to the sidelines her values and compassion. This is no longer sustainable as the world created without women's presence and purpose is a world on the brink of self-destruction. Join me as I talk about how becoimng aware of where your wings have been bent and how mending them is the sacred calling to every woman. Your wings do not need to become perfect before you again allow your passions to soar and your purpose to be shared for the benefit of all. Simply be willing to realize and tend to where you have been silenced as a woman, where you have bought into your imperfection as a woman, and choose to mend and soar again.The world needs the fierce compassion of women more than ever, imperfect and in the process of mending the wings of the better nature of ourself as women.

#metoo continues to reveal the misuse and abuse of power by men with women (and visa versa altho' less so). It would seem to be a moment in time for a reckoning, a rebalancing of the norms between women and men and the misuse of power by those dominant (men) upon those not (women). And, history shows us that getting to #nomore will not come about without conscious, on-going efforts on the part of women and men.  Today I want to share how taking stock in your own life of where you stay silent, where you have been on the hurting end of the misuse of power, where you care enough to risk making a different choice. There is not a woman-or man-who is not in some way affected by the imbalance of power between women and men. The opportunity is now to take your personal experience and history as motivation, as inspiration to step into being "the better angel" of yourself and for others.

In some spiritual traditions in the East, women are considered 10x more powerful than men and yet women often shy away from their power in some apsect of their life. They may be powerful in their professional roles, but feel unhappy in their intimate relationship. Or feel confident and effective as a parent and yet feel they have nothing to say in a school forum. Even the word "power" makes most women uncomfortable, perhaps through believing that men's manner of wielding power must be their way. Not. Join me as I talk about how women's forms and manner of power may have overlap with men's but also important distinctions. And how power in one aspect of your life does not always transfer over to other aspects of your life. And how you can remedy this by embracing more of your power-as a woman-and transform beliefs that as a woman you need to model men to have power in your life and in your relationships. 

In the first part of "What the Bible Left Out About Women and Men" I spoke about some of the historical roots of violence against women and the subsequent silencing of women's voices. And how when you grow up as a woman in a culture where the "silence of the mother" is prevelant, it can be difficult to speak up and out for yourself and others. Yet, the world we've created through not challenging "the sins of the father and the silences of the mother" is a world which struggles with rampant violence against women and it's humanity as a world. Join me for Part Two of "What the Bible Left Out About Women and Men" as I share ideas and exercises for discovering where "the silence of the mother" has affected your life as a woman and your relationships with men. And how you can begin to change how your mother's silence impacted you and your own voice as a woman. For what you will see, you can heal. And what you choose to give voice to has the power to change your life and the world.

While men's patterns destructive to women and relationships are often passed on -what the Bible refers to as "the sins of the fathers"- missing is reference to how "the silences of the mothers" contribute as well. No surprise as the Bible-as are most spiritual books and writings of our time-written by men about men's experiences of the spiritual.  In this episode of "Women's Grit & Grace", I will speak about how the silencing of women's voices has led in great part to our imbalanced world and challenged relationships. Both men and women bear responsibility for creating our current conditions of world and relationship. Understanding the history between women and men is an important first step. And while history may be written by the victors, time brings home the true price of any claimed victory over another. Join me for an introduction to how the "silences of her mother" is what every woman must face and make her choice to change. It is time for women to lead in making the changes so necessary to a healthier world and relationships. Beginning with reclaiming the power of her voice, the first step to reclaiming her power and the so-needed leadership of women.

We live in a time of transition and whether you like it or not, change will make it's way to your life. Learn how being pro-active with change will ease the process and invite you to bring your dreams to how change shows up in your life. For choosing to be an author with change is the blessing of change. Whether you are in a transition of your roles, your biology, or your relationships, change invites you to be pro-active with it's process of evolving your life and the world. Women are familiar with the power and creativity of change, for our body goes through phases and stages we can learn to engage and then allow to change.  Join me as I talk about how to engage whatever transition has made it's way to you and engage it's invitation to enjoin with it for creating more of what you want and letting go of what no longer serves you or your life.

Women today have more choices than ever before and yet women today struggle to realize happiness in their lives and their relationships. What's up? In short, women have forgotten to be a woman first and a woman last, confusing roles and responsibilites for her worth and purpose. Add the cultural messages of how women ought to be-have and you have a recipe for women's feelings of helplessness and hopelessness to make things better in their life or the world.  Join me as I talk about how women's worth is not her roles or responsibilities, although her roles will help her learn as well as live her values and her capacities as a woman. When a woman lives as a woman first and last, she brings her inner wisdom, strength, and firece compassion to all she attends. Be it with her family, in a relationship, doing her work, being a woman first and last means she will not compromise nor silence her voice when attending to her deepest values and commitments. Tune it and learn more about this topic so essential for women and their happiness in life and their relationships.

Women today have more choices than ever before, so why are so many women unhappy and unsatisfied with their life and relationships? Turns out, if you are playing by the rules of being a well-behaved woman, happiness and satisfaction will elude you.  What do I mean by being a well-behaved woman? A woman who makes nice, keeps quiet to keep the peace, doesn't rock the boat, and often feels resentment for doing so. A well-behaved woman often blames men for the state of the world when the truth is women's silence and absence of action contributes more to her unhappiness and discontent. "The sins of the father" combines with "the silence of the mother" to create the world we live in. A world out of balance in it's humanity and a world which is calling to women to no longer be so nice and quiet. Join me as I share how women can leave the comfort of behaving nice and realize happiness and satisfaction in their life and relationships instead.

In every woman's life, there appears a bridge she must cross for realizing more of the happiness and peace she seeks. Yet too often, women instead look for a detour around healing the deep anger they feel at men, current and historical. And without facing their legacy of anger at men-rightly so, the life and relationships we seek as women cannot come into being. Join me as I talk about this bridge calling for women to cross and how crossing this bridge is not giving men's bad behavior towards women a free pass. Nor is it a call to bury the past destructive actions of men against women. Rather, it is to face what is and to choose to lead in moving the story between women and men to a better place. Women's power to heal is vast and requires only the courage to surrender to the grace and power all women contain. Join me as I share with you about this bridge and how the world-and men-await women's choice to cross this bridge. The world is weary of leadership with which life is not honored as sacred and tending to the needs of all a pipe dream. Join me as I invite you to cross your bridge and how you do not-nor can you-need to do so alone.

Claiming an identity as a victim has moved from awareness to a form of identity and relevance for many people. Yes, bad things happen to good people and God-or whatever you call what logic alone cannot explain-does not play by the rules of good and bad behavior being rewarded in kind. So how does one not get stuck in "woe is me" when your need for justice, or recognition of harm done to you, doesn't happen? Choosing to claim-and live-the wisdom within every challenge in your life is not easy nor is it popular. The road less traveled is understanding there is a mystical quality to life as a human being which does not answer to the human desire for logic and control. Quite the contrary; the more invested you are in control, the less you will receive the glories and grace which only allowing the mystery of life will deliver. Join me for this show in which I share however tempting it may be to make your bed with being a victim, it will only bring you further from the joys and wonder your life is meant to deliver to you. Mining the wisdom within what has brought you heartache may be more difficult at first, but the rewards for you are priceless. 

Waking up to realizing you are in a relatinoship with a narcissist can feel overwhelming and confusing. When you realize that winning is more important to the other person than a relationship, what do you do? Healing from a relationship with a narcissist requires outside support and guidance, for what got you entangled with a narcissist will NOT get you untangled.  Join me as I share about women's confusion about the compromising necessary for an intimate relationship vs knowing the signs of someone not availalble for relationship. It can be the perfect storm for women who are givers to be in relationship with men who only know how to take. Waking up to being in a relationship with a narcissist can feel really bad, and, taking the actions required to care for yourself is overwhelming without support and guidance for you to do so.  This is an important topic for the times we live in and the healing we are seeking for creating happier relationships!

Leadership is often confused with authority and while there is overlap, there is a distinct difference. Women's leadership is more relationship based and includes the well-being of the people she is leading. Yet many women pull back from the word "leader" thinking they must lead has men have done and this confusion keeps many a woman from feeling effective and happy with both her relationships and her life. Tune in and learn how to embrace the leader you are as a woman and how to relax into being effective in your relationships and your life. No longer buying into the belief of "either-or", women can help bring about a balance of leadership with men's form of leadership. Our times are calling for women to step more into their leadership and the power of their presence in their family and the world. 

"Women carry shame and guilt about how they lack, about a perfection they have not realized. This burden of shame and guilt weighs all women down, the only variable being about what each of us feels shame or "not good enough" about.  Enough I say! In today's show, I talk about how to shine a light where guilt now burdens you and where you shrink yourself in response to feeling you somehow lack. Yes, we are imperfect human beings...just as was intended. Perfection-the devil of lives not lived in joy and peace-is every woman's to no longer aspire to, in trade for living life in joy and peace!

Women's forms of power are different than men's forms of power, although that is not always the case in how women exercise their power at work and at home. And while I am all for having as many skill sets as possible in life, women often use alpha forms of power in their relationships which can leave men feeling unappreciated or women playing a 50's sitcom role. There is a difference in ways men and women can exercise power-do you know your ways of power (not manipulation) as a woman? Join us as I talk about women's power in relationship-which I call "Being Queen"-can change the dynamics from alpha/beta style power to relationship power. Alpha/Beta power is power in which one person is dominant and the other/s subserviant and is old news in healthy relationships. Join me as I share this essential change in relationship dynamics for what creates a healthy and mutually supportive relationship.

It's Valentine's Day next week and the pressure is on! There are those who hate this holiday due to not being in a romantic relationship (or being in an unhappy marriage). Learning to love yourself at least as much as the love you give others is not selfish, but a smart way to care for yourself and those you love. Being in the business of helping people be happy in their life and relationships, I wish I had a nickel for every time a person got mad at someone because they were insisting that person be their only venue of love. Talk about performance pressure! And complicating the matter is how often the designated lover was in the same “waiting for love” game with them as well. Lots of needing love and not much giving love. But here’s the truth-you can’t give what you don’t have and without your loving yourself, you are offering a conditional form of love. But why wait for it from another person who may or may not be able to give you just what you want? Love is not a commodity, it is a mystical marathon and perhaps the hardest choice to honor in a world which mistakes love for a commodity. Join me as I share how love is the most powerful choice you can make, but you will need to love yourself first for receiving what love truly offers.

Conflict is a fact of life and most people avoid conflict like the plague! Yet conflict comes when life knows there is a better solution, although change or letting go of control may be required. Relationships of all kinds-personal, professional, social-require engaging conflict for creating better relationships as well as solutions to problems. Join me as I share some wisdom from my years of negotiating agreements between people who believed there was no way to come to an agreement they would like or want to participate in. And yet, time after time, solutions were reached which made all parties happier and gave their relationship another opportunity to get better. And given the world we live in, becoming more comfortable with conflict-and learning how to engage it successfully-can only benefit your peace of mind and heart.

if you were to look at your life with the eyes of your soul for reclaiming the "mistakes, the wrongs, the different" as footprints of your soul, how would you reclaim the story of your life? One less flawed and perhaps more truly yours? Or perhaps a story of becoming conscious of family patterns you were the chosen one to make conscious and evolve? Truth be told, looking through the eyes of your soul renders many wrongs, differences, failures as the jewels of your life from your soul's perspective. Join me as I share how claiming your life as a holy journey will change much of what you now despair or are discouraged by. And how your challenges are holy catalysts for claiming the awesome powers and resources of your spirit and soul. Interesting times do not come withour the means to navigate and be victorious in them, if you know how to translate the language of your spirit and soul.

Today's show is a departure from how I usually share, in part inspired by watching today's transfer of power in our nation's Capital. I'm not one to usually watch mainstream news as I find it not journalism as much as corporate positioning and too akin to reality television programming. But history is history and I am grateful I did so. If you know me at all, you know me to be strongly posisitioned on how what happens in life is the call to you and your soul to respond. Never clearer has then been so than the times we live in which call for standing up, showing up, speaking up. And for women's leadership which comes from the essence of who we are as women...the Grace of God. Join me and let's show up

Women are intimately connected with God in ways men are not, such as being able to grow a new human within themself, to turn their blood into milk for a child, and the manner in which our brains are created to be multi-functioned. In Eastern spiritual traditions, women are considered "the grace of God", an acknowledgement of the vast capabilites women have which men do not. And, with these abilities comes responsibilites as well. Join me as I talk about the sacred nature of women and how our vast capabilites also come with a responsibility to lead, to care, to give voice, to serve on behalf of all life. And how doing so does not require feeling burdened by such a responsibility, but rather will create more joy and delight in your life!

It's the beginning of a new year and hopes are high for how to make it different than the disappointments of the year past. Traditional goal-setting only takes into account your mind and emotions, yet leaving what feeds your spirit and soul out of your goal-setting will only doom your goals for your new year. Learn how to bring your spirit and soul into your goals and dreams for the new year and how to care for them for insuring your success this year! We will do a short exercise that you can then continue doing for realizing beter results in your goals for this new year! To learn more about JaiKaur and for many articles on living a life with more joy and on purpose, go to her website.

Much of what you experience in life comes through the filter of beliefs you created from being told what is good and bad by other people. Changing your ideas about what is good and bad frees you to go beyond what keeps you unhappy and needs only your willingness to do so. Well, and perhaps some support and encouragement for doing so as well! Join me and learn how your beliefs are keeping you captive to unhappiness and feeling helpless or hopeless. As the bumper stick on my desk says, "Don't believe everything you think", especially when you have not updated beliefs formed earlier in your life. Learn how updating your beliefs will create more of what you seek in your life and your relationships. To learn more about JaiKaur and sign up for your FREE session visit her website.

In the East, women are known as the grace of God, meaning they are that through which God flows his grace. And, women are also known to have but one weakness, which is their insecurity. Insecurity about how they look, or how they sound, or how they feel, you get the picture. When a woman challenges her insecurity as being true and reminds herself of being God's grace, she cannot be defeated. Join me as I share how to not buy into whatever keeps you feeling insecure about yourself and what makes you happy in your life. Learn how to replace your insecurity with remembering yourself as the Grace of God and how to translate that in practical terms in your everyday life. To learn more about JaiKaur and her support and guidance for contemporary women go to her website.

What's unspoken has so much power and your choice to not speak up costs you more than you think. While you may tell yourself it's not a big deal, or it really won't make any difference, the truth it, you are afraid of what speaking up will cost you. And while that may be so, not speaking usually costs you more in the long run. The world needs women to speak up, to stand up, to show up. Playing small, staying safe offer you promises of safety and acceptance which simply are not true. The cost of betraying yourself by staying silent is a price paid by not only you, but the health of your relationships and those whoh count on your guidance and leadership. Join me as I talk about how to realize more of the power of your being a woman and the person counted on by your relationships and your communities. Learn how what's unspoken keeps you from accepting yourself, others, and has helped to create the world we know is sorely in need of healing. To learn more about JaiKaur and her support and guidance for women, go to her website and take her up on a free introductory session!

Many of the women I work with are tired of being unhappy or of feeling helpless to make their life or relationships better. And while we spend some time on family and their past for setting the stage, my clear directive to them is to take responsibility for their current choices and the power they now have. And yet, this can be challenging, for we live in a culture which often languages and even rewards people who claim they are the victim of others. While I in no way am saying that there are not legit victims in our world, too often I witness smart and saavy women taking comfort in citing their past as to why they are unable to be happy or successful now. And while I understand taking a break from life's challeges, too often it's not a rest stop but a comfort with being a martyr in life or relationship I must help a women no longer claim. Join me this week as I talk about how to realize if and where you are loving being a martyr instead of picking up your courage and making different choices. Learn how while you may receive support and even comfort from being a martyr, life will pass you by as you do so. And regret for a life not lived is a bitter pill to swallow. For more on JaiKaur and her services go to her website "Grace Grit & Gratitude".

It's been an interesting year of becoming aware of how much bad behavior I put up with. And, I'm not alone. Many of the women and couples I work with are working with me as a result of putting up with bad behavior for too long or too much. We've been taught to be afraid of our body's early alert system which simply wants us to pay attention to the elephant stepping on our foot and not call it otherwise! Join me as I share how to dismantle your taught habit of not caring for yourself, not honoring yourself, not respecting yourself and calling it being nice, not being a bitch, or my favorite-not being negative! Learn how caring for yourself will actually lend itself better to being kind, honoring your sensitivity as a woman, and making the world a better-and safer-place to be yourself.

We live in a time in which it seems as throwing blame and shame-or shade as my children call it-around is the favored way to go through life. If so and so are to blame, or shame on them for doing "x", then I've created the perfect excuse for why I cannot or have not made what I want of my life. And while it may feel good to do so at the time, in those brutally honest hours of early morning, we know we are full of bullsh*t. So if you are tired of using other people for why you are not happy or have the life you desire, listen to today's show for how you can change your habit and become happier. As with any habit, it will take time and consistency to make a different choice your default. And, the results will speak for themselves! Join me and learn how to stop the habit of giving what you desire to others and reclaim how you can create more happiness and satisfction in your life. No matter your circumstances, you have the power and the ability to change "what is so" into what you want and desire for your life and your relationships. It simply means remembering your grace, grit, and gratitude as a woman.

We are taught that if we have it together, life-and people-will go the way we want it to be. Hah! As the expression goes, "if you want to make God laugh, make your plans as if you're in control"! Life is an adventure, life is a journey, and life is not about what we want to control. When life reminds you that you are not in control, don't despair, get curious! I know....easier said than done but the truth is, control is not the purpose of life. Your adventures, your dreams, sharing your presence are the purpose of lifle and to realize these, curiousity if a much better friend to you than is despair at your lack of control over life and people. Join me and learn how to embrace more curiousity about your life and experiences and to let go of feeling you must be in control. Learn about how embracing responsibility is not the same as control and how doing so will make you much more happy than the false belief in control's power will ever make you!  

Life is challenging and life can be overwhelming, so who's got the time or the energy to do or give more? What if I told you that despite what you might believe, life gets better when you choose "being +1". Just what the heck do I mean by that? When you choose to live your life with being +1, you choose to offer yourself as the inspiration, the joy, the smile someone needs that day. Being +1 means committing to a little bit more kindness, a little bit more courtesy, a little bit more compassion you bring through your actions and choices in life each day. Choosing to live as the positive experience that someone you meet, you intereact with, you don't even know may really need that day.  Join me as I share more on how choosing to live as +1 may be the easiest way you have in your power every day to change the world, to bring about the peace we all seek within and around ourselves and our world.

Today's headlines make it pretty clear love is in critically short supply these days, or at the very least, spread too thin. But what would you say if I told you that it's really self-love which is truly lacking? Yes, self-love, for self-love is the foundation of authentic love for another and for the ability to extend love to others. But what exactly is self-love? It's not what you think and why I feel it's important to spend some time talking about it. Self-love is not only loving yourself and caring for yourself. Self love is also the understanding and living of compassion as the most powerful choice one can make. Compassion does not mean letting people treat you badly nor does compassion mean you put up with BS. Self-love is the choice to view and live the knowledge that in the end, love is the only choice which creates healing and making a difference which last. Join me as I share with you how embracing more love for yourself is the most powerful choice you can make for creating more love for our world under seige. And how selfish is exactly what you need to be more of!    

So here's the deal-while marketing and your family may make you feel as though you and your life are flawed, what would happen if you picked up the cards you were dealt and played them? Meaning, instead of apologizing for how sensitive you are or how you don't like certain people, you simply allowed yourself to be as you are and went forth into life as such? Too often we censor and distort ourself in order to fit in, to get the approval of others. Yes, we all need community and we all are diamonds in the rough who benefit from our relationships, but how we do so is critical. Seeking to be as everyone else means you deprive yourself and others of just what you were born to bring to others, to the game we call life. Join me as I share how trying to be different from who you are to be something better, actually keeps you from being just who the world and your community needs. Even spirituality is being marketed in ways which homogenize the most intimate and sovereign of all relationships-the one with your unique soul and lifetime. Learn how playing the cards life has dealt you, that life needs you to play just as you are, is what will bring you more of what you seek. Not so trying to be as others want you to be for all beings are meant to bloom exactly as they are.

We live in a time when information is abundant as to how to be happy. Even the US Declaration of Independence offers "unalienable right" to happiness as guaranteed by it's government. And yet happiness can be elusive, as realized by any measure of today's level of happiness in the human race. So what gives? Happiness lies in being congruent with your soul's purpose and your own sovereignty. Yet we have been taught our soul is for matters not earthly and to fit in with the crowd keeps you safe and normal. And therein lies the rub-claiming your happiness, your right to happiness, will require you get uncomfortable, take risks, and be true to yourself first. Join me as I share wisdom from around the world on happiness and how to realize more of it in your life and in your relationships. Too many women settle for complaining about their unhappiness and blaming others for it as well. Tune in and learn how to avoid the trap I experience far too many women making in choosing their fears as more powerful than the grit and the grace they come endowed with as women.    

Anger gets a bad rap, especially so for women whose anger may subject them to being called "a bitch, witch, negative"  or worse. By not giving yourself permisssion to feel and consciously engage your anger, you dismiss or suppress an energy critical to your well-being and transforming your life. Anger-as with all forms of energy-has a range from hot to cold, and while hot anger gets most of the press, cold anger is no slouch when it comes to being destructive when not befriended.  Anger is an energy all women will benefit from having a relationship with, for women's history with men has left scars and historical rage, which needs healing for realizing happier relationships with men. Without honoring the anger from our past and transforming it into compassion, peace in our future will not be possible. Join me for an episode certain to be provocative!  Sign up for my enewsletter to read my article on inviting your anger to tea at  www.gracegritandgratitude.com

Women are the leaders the Dalai Lama has said will lead us to a better world. But here's the catch--it won't be through leadership as we know it, nor through power as you've been taught. Women's power is a "both-and" form of power and requires a woman to have an intimacy with her grace grit and graitude as a woman. Tune into this session to learn what you were not taught about exercising your power as a woman and how power is commonly exercised is not a wise choice for women. Learn how power for women is an inside job, one which requires her to be intimate with her soul and spirit as a woman.

Women today are expected to do it all, be it all. And while that may work when you are young or healthy or inspired, what happens when you get overwhelmed, or discouraged, or need some help yourself? Many women simply keep over-riding their own needs to keep up with the tasks of their roles and their jobs, which serves only to deplete their health and their spirit.  If your spirit has gone AWOL, tune into today's show and learn how you can call back your best support for the many roles and responsibilities you have today as a woman. Learn how calling upon your spirit will lessen your feelings of overwhelm and helplessness for meeting the changes and challenges of the roles and responsibilities you have in your life.

Our times are awash in information like never before, yet what do we DO with all this information? Our bodies will have their responses-which we tend to dismiss or medicate-and our mind will be insatiable. Yet, a life well lived is one in which we live OUR life, not the reflections of other's lives.  There is information never before shared but with a privileged few, now yours for the reading. But how do you go from the plethora of information to wise use of the information for your purposes in life? How do you go from "The 10 Steps to Enlightenment" mode of information to using all this information for wise action in your life? In this episode, JaiKaur will share how an intimacy with your self and soul are essential for your happiness and satisfaction. An intimacy in which you learn what to trust within you and then choose to exercise your courage for living what you know to be true for YOU and your one precious life.     

We live in times most interesting, a time when many a truth we were taught is evolving before our eyes. Truths such as what is power, what is family, what has authority are breath-taking in their change. And terrifying can be the change to what we thought was true and secure.  Women have been invited to step forth into more of their power, their impact, and their purpose to be leaders, healers and teachers of the changes we are in the midst of. Yet even planned revolutions bring unplanned course-corrections for staying true and on purpose to the heart of the revolution. Women are being asked to both heal historical rage and wounding while offering forth new forms of power which respect the living and purposes in life. Join me as I share my thoughts of the revoution we have begun, it's traps and it's treasures, and how you can navigate the impacts in your life and relationships. We live in times which can take your breath away and which call upon you to live the grace and grit being born a woman gives you.

Women are gifted with many graces, not the least is the capacity for an intimate relationship with the medicine of their soul. Within your soul are wisdoms and strengths not available through your mind nor through your emotions. Wisdoms and strengths you need for meeting the changes and challenges in your life as a contemporary woman. Life’s changes and challenges are many and meeting them with only your thoughts and emotions will leave you feeling hopeless or helpless about making things better. Learning to respond to life’s changes and challenges with the wisdom and strengths of your soul will grace you with the healing and changes you desire. Your soul medicine as a women is vast and victorious, dependent only upon your commitment to becoming intimate with your soul. When a woman learns how to call upon her soul’s guidance and strength for living her life, her relationships will improve as will her happiness and even her health. Mark your calendar, invite your friends, and learn how engaging your soul medicine as a woman graces you for creating more happiness, ease, and purpose in your life.

Welcome to “Women's Grace Grit & Gratitude: Ancient Wisdom for Contemporary Life”. Each week I share wisdom and inspiration for women to live happier and on purpose. As a women you have all the wisdom and strength you need for meeting the changes and challenges of your life when you call upon the guidance and support of your spirit and soul. When you learn to trust yourself as a woman and make your choices with integrity to your deepest values, more happiness in your life and your relationships will be yours! In this episode, JaiKaur talks about how happiness has many myths, one being how others are to make you happy. This myth is a major factor in the break-up of marriages and in the acceptance by women of a life less than happy. Learn how happiness can be yours when you are willing to be the author of the story of your life and update how to be happy as a women in contemporary times!