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A real girl talking about real sh*t! -From codependency and love addiction, to single parenting and situationships. Join me on my journey of self-development, self-healing, and spirituality discussed on a practical level. Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ashleyrakes/support

Ash Rakes


    • Mar 19, 2025 LATEST EPISODE
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    How ChatGPT Helped Me Realize I was in Another Abusive Relationship

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 19, 2025 33:10


    Hey guys! I just wanted to record an episode as quickly as I could to let you guys know how much ChatGPT helped me with realizing I was unfortunately

    When your codependent partner wants to go back to their abusive spouse

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 1, 2023 41:45


    What do you do when your seemingly perfect partner wants to go back to their abusive ex? How do navigate dating someone going through a separation but not an official divorce? This episode is extra vulnerable and contains talk of things I have never discussed in my life (especially publicly). **Trigger warning- this episode contains talk around abortion** Email me: codependentnshit@gmail.com IG: codependentnsh*t

    Why “Therapy Speak” is Making Us All Insane & Why You Should Give the Nice Girl/Guy a CHANCE

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 7, 2023 31:53


    Hello fam, this episode talks about the toxic side of incessant “therapy speak” on social media (and life in general), and the discomfort that can arise when we meet a healthy/available partner. Also obviously some catch up on my life and personal journey navigating grief, trauma, diagnoses, and a new game changer relationship

    Recovering from Recovery/AA, grief, and another relationship fail

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 25, 2023 33:53


    This episode may ruffle some feathers of individuals in recovery/aa/na but I also don't care and feel it's important for those of us who choose a different route of healing to be able to share. I also talk about the multitude of grief of a passing loved one, AND story time! About why I decided to end a relationship with someone seemingly normal & healthy. Ish.

    Your situationship is LUST, not LOVE babe

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 22, 2023 28:27


    Hey guys! This episode I wanted to just catch you up with where I'm at and talk about the difference between LUST and LOVE. Lust is a lying bitch okay?

    Should You End Your Situationship?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 26, 2022 26:57


    The answer is YES. Just kidding, maybe your situation is different. But if you resonate with anything I say in this episode - IT'S TIME TO GO! Bonus story about my 3 year situationship from hell

    The Stages of Narcissistic Abuse/Do You Make Men or Women your God?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 27, 2022 33:54


    In this episode I go over the all too familiar and specific stages of narcissistic abuse, and also touch on the concept of making men or women our God, a.k.a idolatry. Spoiler alert: it's the fastest way to forever be unhappy and unfulfilled. Love you Contact me directly with success stories, rants, connection, etc. at codependentnshit@gmail.com or on IG @codependentnshit --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ashleyrakes/support

    When You Find out the Narc has New Supply & Accountability for our Roles

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 20, 2022 28:40


    Hi Fam, this episode is about handling and coping with the reality of finding out your narcissist ex has a new supply (of course they do), why we aren't victims & must take radical accountability, and also why I recommend 12 step programs as a means of integrative self-work and therapy. Love you ❤️ Contact me directly with success stories, rants, connection, etc. at codependentnshit@gmail.com or on IG @codependentnshit --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ashleyrakes/support

    Rock Bottom, Recovery, and Escapism

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 28, 2022 25:43


    The only good thing about rock bottom is the only way out is up. Rock bottom might feel like an emotional thing, but sometimes it's your life choices playing out as things you'd NEVER imagine you'd do. When is enough enough? This episode is about my personal experience with hitting rock bottom, and how to navigate it - which can only be done with radical self responsibility. If you need extra support or want to just write in, email me codependentnshit@gmail.com or IG @codependentnshit ❤️ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ashleyrakes/support

    Healing SOBER

    Play Episode Listen Later May 17, 2022 39:08


    I'm back fresh outta rehab and ready to share with you guys about my experience with treatment, and why I believe trying to heal underlying issues like codependency, etc. while still using alcohol & drugs to numb out nearly halted my growth the past 3 years. **Where there is a will, there is a way out*** If you're struggling to get sober and want out, don't be afraid to reach out for help. You can also reach out to me! Add/message me on IG @ash__rakes or email codependentnshit@gmail.com

    “No Matter How Far I run, I Always End up Back Here”

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2022 22:21


    Hello fam, quick episode letting you guys know how/why I'm finally truly surrendering to what is, the reality of my situations, my addictions, my codependency, my grief, and entering rehab. I wanted to record this to let anyone else struggling to know how okay and NECESSARY it is to get help if you've realized for the last time that you can't do it on your own. There is a way out and you don't need to do it alone ❤️. Love you all so much --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ashleyrakes/support

    How to Break the Trauma Bond(s) to Narcissists FOR GOOD

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 24, 2022 26:42


    WhatIn this bonus episode, I decided to openly share what's truly working for me as I'm in this current process right now. I talk about tangible steps to begin to create an exit plan, and ultimately what needs to be done within us to not just break this trauma bond — but alll of them. Because we all know how easy it is to go find a new one with a new face! Do you like the show? Please leave a review. I love to hear from you guys so if you have feedback, success stories, etc. send them to me!! Codependentnshit@gmail.com Or IG @codependentnshit --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ashleyrakes/support

    How Easily a Narcissist Can Sneak into Your Life Even When You KNOW THE SIGNS

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 19, 2022 38:46


    This episode is full details and warning signs I ignored of my most recent relationship that winded up being with yet another person with highly narcissistic traits. I want you guys to understand that even with years of healing work and self awareness around this stuff, you still can easily fall into these relationships. That's why FOLLOWING YOUR GUT AND RED FLAGS IS SO BEYOND CRUCIAL! It's hard, you may have slip ups like me, but you will find yourself spending less and less time investing in these energy vampires

    Everybody isn't a Narcissist and You're Toxic, too

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 8, 2021 25:11


    This episode is about the seemingly ever growing current societal trend to try and label EVERYONE as a narcissist. Sure, there's definite upsides of gaining awareness on these topics/labels - but are we over-doing it? Is it a new form of self abandonment to always be pointing the finger?

    Letting Go of a Trauma Bond (IT'S HARD)

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 16, 2021 31:47


    In this episode I'm recapping a bit about trauma bonds because well, I think every write in I get is about trauma bonds and let's be real - this entire podcast is based around them

    Getting Back on Track With Your Healing Journey

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 4, 2021 31:54


    Hi fam! A lot of this episode is about my Mom's abrupt recent passing and how I'm coping with that/how I'm getting back on track with healing in the wake of tragedy/grief. Sometimes things happen in life that can throw us off track with focusing on bettering ourselves. I also touch on the Holistic Psychologists new book, and the power of the mind/the placebo effect in regards to healing. Love you guys ❤️ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ashleyrakes/support

    Don’t Mistake Chemistry for Compatibility

    Play Episode Listen Later May 5, 2021 20:12


    Hi guys! I’m alive! Just wanted to catch you up with why I’ve been MIA, and talk about why chemistry alone is NOT the recipe for a healthy dating dynamic. Compatibility is

    Stop Making THEIR Opinions YOUR Truth

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 14, 2021 25:56


    On this episode I’m going into the power of conscious inner dialogue and combatting opposing views/opinions a instead of making them mean so much to us. As individuals with codependent habits, we often will take on other people’s opinions and make it mean SO MUCH more than necessary. Thus creating internal misery, and even holding us back from our dreams and true desires. CUT THAT SH*T OUT! I love you guys ❤️❤️❤️ Do you like the show? Please be sure to leave a review/rating.

    Be a Gray Rock to Your Narcissist This Xmas

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 24, 2020 12:14


    Lololol just a short holiday episode for my peeps that understand the struggle of the holidays with dysfunctional/toxic family. WE

    Your Situationship is Probably a Trauma Bond/Limiting Beliefs/and God

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 16, 2020 13:52


    In this episode I just wanted to catch up with you guys, talk a little more about trauma bonds, situationships, and why I believe relationship with God is integral right now, and in regards to healing “limiting belief bonds”. Do you like the show? Follow me on IG @ashnrowan or codependentnshit Submit your stories, suggestions, etc to codependentnshit@gmail.com. ❤️❤️ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ashleyrakes/support

    Addicted to Relationships/Recognizing an Attraction b/c of Familiar Dynamics

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 8, 2020 21:22


    I’M BACK! ❤️ In this episode I just wanted to recap some stuff going on, talk about the impending apocalypse, etc.

    Why I Don’t Think WAP is Female Sexual Empowerment/Are They Projecting? We are ALL Projecting

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 19, 2020 25:09


    SUP FAM ❤️ This episode is a little off typical topic, but I really wanted to touch on this and my opinion of WAP and why I don’t think it’s doing us any favors for progressing with women sexuality. ALSO - talking PROJECTION. And how altering it can be for our relationships to be conscious of how we ALL DO IT!

    Loneliness in Healing, Codependent Friendships, & How to Point out Wounded Potential Partners

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 12, 2020 38:44


    This week’s episode is about overall healing of codependency, dealing with loneliness when you’re in the in between phases of losing friends, and also how to point out wounded partners BEFORE you get involved.

    Can You Heal While in a Relationship?/Financial Stability does NOT Mean They are a Good Partner!

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 3, 2020 31:48


    Can you heal codependency while in a relationship? My answer is yes. In this episode I explain more about why, and also helpful starting points for you and your partner. ALSO - Are you putting up with fu*k boy/girl behavior just because a person FINANCIALLY has their life together? I’m getting real on this topic and why you need to see the reality of this situation!

    Announcement/Why You Don’t Have to Keep Dating Them Just Because They Don’t Treat You Like Sh*t

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 26, 2020 9:21


    Double episode week! I forgot to tell you guys that tomorrow (August 27th) the STEREO app is launching and I have partnered with them to be a content creator on the app! My first live sessions will be Aug 27th: 2:00 PST, Aug 28th: 2:00PST, Aug 31st: 2:00 PST, SEP 1st 2:00 PST, & Sep 1st 2:00 PST! Come ask me things and hear more stuff like you do on here!

    Why Do We Like Bad Boys/How to Become Emotionally Available

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 24, 2020 25:10


    He has tattoos and takes 2 days to text back...are you in love?! Probably not Sis! In this episode I talk about why we typically are drawn to “bad boy” types, getting real about our attraction to them, and also how to become less emotionally unavailable/love avoidant. Because if you’re attracting emotionally unavailable partners, it’s because you are also emotionally unavailable!

    Are They Really in an Open Relationship? /What is LOVE BOMBING?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 13, 2020 20:03


    HI FAM I’M BACK AND HERE TO STAY

    Bye for Now ❤️ (& the “Twin Flame” Scam)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 27, 2020 19:04


    Hello Fam, for now I am going to be taking a (likely indefinite) break from this show and launching a new Podcast soon. I will keep you updated on the details of that when it occurs. For now I will keep my old episodes up but this may change. Thank you all for the love & support through this chapter of my life. I sincerely hope you find your way and I’m sending you so much love. ❤️ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ashleyrakes/support

    What Not to Do On a Dating App/Are You Overly-attached?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 16, 2020 39:03


    SUP FAM! This episode has some “what not to do” things if you are on a dating app (and actually seeking dating) and also a bit about over-attachment. I go through some sure signs of over attachment/involvement & ways to work through it. ❤️❤️ Do you like the show? Follow me on IG @ashrakes or @codependentnshit or shoot me an email at codependentnshit@gmail.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ashleyrakes/support

    Codependency & Having a Racist Ex Partner/Are You Addicted to Healing?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 9, 2020 30:06


    Have you ever been with someone who did not share the same moral core beliefs as you? Do you feel guilty and ashamed for having done so? Don’t beat yourself up, it’s codependency. Also, are you exhausted with self-healing? Feel like you never heal “enough”? There’s a point where this stuff becomes counter productive. Accepting yourself now is the most profound tool I’ve discovered along the way❤️❤️ Do you like the show? Let’s connect! Follow me on IG @ashnrowan or codependentnshit or shoot me an email at codependentnshit@gmail.com. Good reviews/ratings are always appreciated

    Don’t Stay Silent

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 3, 2020 2:32


    Just dropping this quickly while I have a moment because I do NOT support silence right now. I will be recording a full episode this week. Please stay safe and love one another

    You Are Your Own Guru/Savior & “Why Did They Ghost Me?” Pt.2

    Play Episode Listen Later May 18, 2020 20:19


    This episode I touch on the reality behind seeking others to “heal us”, etc., Why the spiritual healing community is starting to drive me bonkers, and I also do a listener question about being ghosted

    I’m Alive!

    Play Episode Listen Later May 11, 2020 9:59


    Hey guys, I just wanted to record something quick to update as to why I’ve taken a lil break from recording. Quick talk on “2020 expectation hangovers”, body issues, and quarantine realizations, etc.✨ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ashleyrakes/support

    Why Do You Push Away Nice Guys?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2020 7:05


    I’m personally attacking some of you with this one

    Why You Shouldn’t Feel Shame For Taking Care of Your Mental Health

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 16, 2020 30:11


    In this episode I’m talking about why societal stigmas are keeping us in a shame cycle about ourselves and only keeping us down and depressed. Stigmas like mental health, sex, cannabis, etc. are discussed and why being willing to be VULNERABE

    Focusing on What We Can Control & Why You Should LET YOURSELF COPE ❤️

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 8, 2020 23:03


    Hello my loves! In this episode I touch on a few subjects. From self-proclaimed “modern spiritual gurus” insights right now, to this common theme we are seeing in social media that those of us at home should be in “create/expand/productivity mode”. ARE YOU STILL COMFORT EATING? Ok cool, me too. Also, I go through an emotional release technique step by step that I learned in the past to move through anger in a more responsible way. Hope it helps! ❤️✨ Connect with me here: https://linktr.ee/Ashrakes

    Why Did They Ghost Me?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 1, 2020 17:51


    Is it you? Or is it maybe a global pandemic? In this episode I’m talking alll about this topic. Is the person you were talking to being “weird” or “off? Please

    What Do You Do When A “Situationship” Asks if You’re Seeing Other People - And Isolation StruggZ

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 30, 2020 22:23


    Hello my loves, here’s a self-quarantine random episode!

    WTF is Actually Going On? & Hypersexual Females

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 24, 2020 27:00


    Hi Fam! Are you feeling the quarantine blues? Because same. This episode is around feels & triggers with family/anyone/in general in the current times. ALSO - taking a dive into “hyper sexual” females, female sexuality in general, and my personal struggles with my sexuality and healing my shame around it

    Codependency During a Pandemic

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 17, 2020 17:42


    Hi guys! I am going to be recording as many episodes as possible during this time. This episode is about using this time of isolation/overall slow down to realllly go within

    Are You in Fear?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 12, 2020 11:13


    This mini-episode is about FEAR. And how being in fear of the current global circumstances is a choice. Stay conscious and present with yourselves and your own beliefs during these times please ❤️

    Dating While Healing Codependency

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 4, 2020 37:24


    This episode is about beginning to date consciously while in your recovery/inner healing journey✨. Contrary to what some may believe, dating can be a TOOL in our journey - if we use it correctly and consciously. And it can be FUN! What? Dating? Fun?! Holy sh*t!

    Are You Addicted? And Why?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 26, 2020 29:08


    This episode I’m touching a bit on narcissism/the current trend of narcissist label obsession, but mostly ADDICTION. Of all kinds. But major focus on LOVE ADDICTION as this is something I know a lot of you guys struggle with. ❤️ Like the show? Let’s connect! Follow me on IG @ ashnrowan or codependentnshit or shoot me an email at codependentnshit@gmail.com. ✨✨ Has the show impacted you? Submit your self-healing wins to the e-mail listed above to be featured on an episode! ✨✨ Link to the FB group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1338959609620029/?ref=share --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ashleyrakes/support

    EMDR Therapy Thus Far

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 19, 2020 13:33


    This episode is RAW AF AF AF (notice no background music lol) and I recorded it on a whim after my 2nd EMDR session. I felt called to share it with you guys ❤️❤️ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ashleyrakes/support

    Are You Really an “Empath”? Or Are You Just Codependent?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 18, 2020 23:18


    This week I’m discussing the difference between being an “empath” and being codependent. It’s easy for these to get mixed up, and it’s pretty obvious why. However, one is a lot more detrimental than the other!

    How To Feel Great Being SINGLE & Call in What You Really Want ✨❤️

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 11, 2020 32:26


    Single for Valentine’s Day? Now is the PERFECT TIME to dive into celebrating the

    Vanessa Grace - A Codependency Expert

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 4, 2020 39:07


    It’s my FIRST INTERVIEW EVER!

    Why You Shouldn’t Feel Guilty About Your Shitty Ex

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 28, 2020 27:11


    Do you feel guilty about someone you were with in the past? Guilt is HEAVY. I just wanted to open up on this topic, get personal, and discuss why we gotta forgive ourselves

    Treating Codependency & Realizing The Way it Frames Our Perceptions

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 21, 2020 35:11


    So you’ve realized you may be struggling with Codependency...now what? How do you get help? How do you go about treating it? I wanted to do this episode because I get a lot of people reaching out to me who are new to Codependency. It’s a lot to come to terms with! It can feel overwhelming and SUPPORT in all areas you can obtain it will help ❤️. I also wanted to discuss some dynamics with our our perceptions of others, their behavior, etc. in regards to codependency. Do you like the show? Let’s connect! Follow me on IG @ ashnrowan or codependentnshit or shoot me an email at codependentnshit@gmail.com. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ashleyrakes/support

    Why “The Work” Will Improve Your Dating Life

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 14, 2020 27:23


    This episode is about WTF conscious dating and relating is. Once we become self-aware/conscious of our OWN sh*t, we can start attracting and choosing partners from a place of REALNESS! If you keep finding yourself dating the same form of toxic man/woman with a different face, you’re likely dating from a wound/past pain. LETS SHIFT ✨ Also, I point out some red flags in early dating that have become kind of a cultural norm. Do you like the show? Let’s connect! Follow me on IG @ ashnrowan or codependentnshit or shoot me an email at codependentnshit@gmail.com. ❤️ Link to the Rising Woman IG: https://instagram.com/risingwoman?igshid=isswrsrulirl Check out C.C. Valentine’s single “So It Seems” here : https://open.spotify.com/track/04GPPFtmu2gilf52jRlnsP?si=ri_1w3JURs26IvfzZA9hmw --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ashleyrakes/support

    “I Always Blame Myself For Things Not Working Out”

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 7, 2020 20:52


    Does this sound like you? Welcome to the club! This episode is about the cycle of self-worth beliefs that keep us stuck and unhappy repeating the same pains over and over. Hack: there is a lesson in it. Let’s shed light

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