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You want less anxiety in your relationships and to enjoy sexuality without shame. Marriage and family therapist and intimacy coach Sade Ferrier speaks on themes of dating anxiety, healthy conflict resolution, and post-purity culture sexuality and spirituality. Instagram: @myintimacytherapist Work with me: https://www.myintimacytherapist.com ____________________________________________________________ Music: "Some Thoughts" by Shaolin Dub No derivative, non-commercial license: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc-nd/4.0/

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    #108 – Rebuilding Trust in Sexual Intimacy

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 15, 2024 12:51


    Episode Notes Themes: broken trust, relationship issues, sexual intimacy In this episode, we discuss common themes in broken trust around sexual intimacy in a relationship. Take it a Step Further Work with me by scheduling a consultation at myintimacytherapist.com Share this episode with your spouse or a close friend as a deep-dive conversation-starter!

    #107 – Why Ladies Say "Sorry" During Sex

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 25, 2024 18:07


    Episode Notes Themes: sexual intimacy, communication It is not uncommon for couples to get hot and heavy, and somewhere in the middle of kissing and touching, one spouse says "I'm sorry....", sometimes followed by an explanation of something that has gone wrong. In this episode, we dive into some of the reasons why we feel the need to apologize - and I offer a practical strategy to use instead. Next Steps Share this episode with a friend or with your significant other! Leave a 5-star review in your podcast app if you find this episode helpful Get free resources or schedule a consultation on my website: myintimacytherapist.com

    #106 – Hiatus Recap

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 11, 2024 8:39


    Episode Notes Interested in attending a singles or couples event? View upcoming date nights and workshops here: myintimacytherapist.com/date-nights

    #105 – Understanding Men In Relationships with Dr. Corey Carlisle

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 19, 2024 45:02


    Episode Notes Themes: relationship issues, masculinity, male desire, conflict resolution, spirituality Today, Dr. Corey Carlisle and I discuss the dynamic between men and women in relationships. Are there any good guys left out there? What do you do when your man is not following through or showing up for you? What do women misunderstand about men that actually causes harm in the relationship? Dr. Corey's insight involves spiritual integration and perspective for those whose faith is central to their understanding of relationships. Let's dive in and explore. About Dr. Corey: Dr. Corey Carlisle, the son of a Christian preacher and a social worker, has had a lifelong passion for helping others navigate spiritual, personal, and relational concerns. As a Christian marriage and sex therapist, he has dedicated years to guiding individuals and couples through the ups and downs of their relational and sexual lives. While still committed to his role as a marriage and sex therapist, Dr. Corey also focuses on helping men rediscover their authentic masculinity. His upcoming book, "12 Rules for Kingdom Men: A Code of Conduct for Men of Faith", offers a guide for men seeking to apply kingdom wisdom to their daily lives and relationships. Website: coreycarlisle.org Youtube: @drcoreycarlisle Sexual Styles of Relating Information

    #104 – Intercourse (PIV) Doesn't Have to Be Your Favorite Thing!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2024 22:59


    Episode Notes Themes: sex, intercourse, PIV, low desire So often, women are frustrated because their [male] partners LOVE sexual intercourse...but she can take it or leave it. Let's talk about why PIV doesn't have to be your favorite way of connecting sexually with your man - and what you can enjoy instead! Mentioned in the Podcast Attend a date night: myintimacytherapist.com/date-nights Work with me: calendly.com/sadeferrier

    #103 – How Your Sexual Story Impacts Your Sex Life Today

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2024 25:13


    Episode Notes Themes: sexual intimacy, sexual development, sex therapy If you are in a long-term relationship, you may have stumbled upon a surprising truth: you and your significant other don't know how to talk about sex. You've relied on doing the act in the past, but communicating about it feels challenging. Why? In this episode, we talk about your "sexual story" and practical tools for beginning sexual conversations with your partner. Next Steps Interested in attending a date night? Sign up at myintimacytherapist.com/date-nights Work with me: https://www.calendly.com/sadeferrier

    #102 – From Relationship Anxiety to Secure Attachment with My Friend Emily

    Play Episode Listen Later May 29, 2024 39:38


    Episode Notes Themes: avoidant attachment, relationship anxiety, single adult This episode is special, because I have invited a dear friend to join me for an open and honest conversation. If you can relate to experiencing relationship anxiety or avoidant attachment while trying to create a secure, loving relationship, this episode is for you! About Emily: "I am a 37 year old Trauma and Emergency Surgery Nurse Practitioner in Salt Lake City, Utah. I'm a recovering personality theory addict, thrifter, pole dancer and amateur bee keeper.  I had my first run-in with relationship anxiety at 14, and I've been on a decade long journey of intentional healing, acceptance and humor." Work with Me Need help navigating dating? Let's work together! Schedule a consultation here: www.calendly.com/sadeferrier The podcast Emily and I mentioned towards the end of the episode: The Anxious Love Coach

    #101 – How to Support Yourself - or a Friend - through a Divorce

    Play Episode Listen Later May 22, 2024 16:38


    Episode Notes Themes: separation, divorce The decision to divorce is extremely difficult and personal. Let's talk about practical ways that you can support yourself - or a friend - through this major life transition. Need Support? Work with me: schedule a consultation call at myintimacytherapist.com

    #100 – Celebrating 100 Episodes of the My Intimacy Therapist Podcast!

    Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2024 25:25


    Episode Notes If you have been along for this journey to 100 episodes, THANK YOU!! And mostly, may this work help you to create a life where you feel fully seen, fully known, and fully loved. Let's keep going!

    #99 – Cater 2 U: Give Your Spouse a Day of Pampering!

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2024 18:43


    Episode Notes Themes: affection, relationships, date ideas, marriage therapy Inspired by the song "Cater 2 U" by Destiny's Child, we talk about the importance of setting time aside to shower your spouse with affection. When was the last time you had a day like this? Next Steps Want to ask a question? Send a voice memo on Instagram @myintimacytherapist Are you subscribed to the podcast yet? If not, click the subscribe button to get updates when each episode airs! Want more ideas for caring for your spouse? Tips and ideas available in the blog on my website, myintimacytherapist.com

    #98 – How Important is it for Your Partner to Feel the Same Way?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2024 10:00


    Episode Notes Themes: conflict resolution, communication issues There are some topics of conflict that feel a bit more heated than others. It's likely that this may be influenced by your perspective on whether or not you need them to agree with you. Let's talk about it. Let's Connect! Website: myintimacytherapist.com Instagram: @myintimacytherapist

    #97 – Need a Break? Thoughts for Immigrant and First Gen Folks

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 10, 2024 17:49


    Episode Notes Themes: immigrants, first-gen, work ethic, rest A special episode for individuals and couples who come from immigrant backgrounds about the special permission that may be needed in order to rest Next Steps Give the podcast a rating in your app! Work with me: myintimacytherapist.com

    #96 – My Spouse Has Changed Dramatically...and I Don't Know What to Do

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 3, 2024 17:56


    Episode Notes Themes: self-development, personal change, relationship issues, separation Some couples experience a very drastic change in the course of their relationship. One partner starts to shift in a way that is...different (or unrecognizable)... from who they were before. This puts a tremendous strain on the relationship and the couple's sense of connectedness and togetherness. They may even wonder... "how do we even continue in this together?" If you can relate, this episode will unpack a crucial conversation that can help you navigate the significant changes happening between you and your significant other. Next Steps Schedule a consultation to work with me: myintimacytherapist.com Share this episode with someone who needs it!

    #95 – Why the "Dinner & a Movie" Date Night Might Not Help Your Relationship

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2024 17:56


    Episode Notes Themes: date night, relationship issues, long-term relationship The typical advice for a dying relationship tends to be, "go on more dates." Which is true - partially. One-on-one time is integral to nurturing your relationship, but if you are deeply disconnected from each other, dinner and a movie won't do it. Going through the motions of a date night isn't quite hitting the mark. Let's talk about how to think of "date night" a bit differently. Let's Work Together Donate a gift to keep the podcast hosted on the air!: myintimacytherapist.com/podcasts Schedule a consultation to work with me: myintimacytherapist.com

    #94 – Pain-Free Intimacy with Jess Seitz, Occupational Therapist

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 21, 2024 37:36


    Episode Notes Themes: vaginismus, sexual pain, occupational therapy, sex therapy About Our Guest Jess Seitz is an occupational therapist and founder of Pain-Free Intimacy, where she works as a vaginismus recovery coach to help women from around the world break free of the pain and frustration of vaginismus to enjoy intimacy the way it was intended. She has a background in nervous system regulation and chronic pain management and uses this to offer a unique approach to vaginismus recovery. Jess was inspired to help others after having healed from a long journey of vaginismus herself- a journey full of set-backs, poor advice, loneliness, and inconsistent progress. Wanting to help other women see the progress they're desiring, with genuine support and care, she developed a comprehensive vaginismus program that has helped dozens of women turn pain into pleasure. Work with Jess Website: painfreeintimacy.com Instagram: @painfree.intimacy Read the podcast transcript: https://www.myintimacytherapist.com/blog

    #93 – Are You Doing Too Much in Your Relationship?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2024 21:36


    Episode Notes Themes: Type A, overfunctioning, anxious attachment, low desire If you are the type of person who resonates well with being Type A, goal-oriented, focused, a "get it done" type of human...then there is a chance you may be overfunctioning in your relationship with your spouse/significant other. In other words - are you doing sooo much that you aren't giving them a chance to show you that they can handle things, too? Next Steps Add your rating for the podcast - right here in your podcast app! Send your support by contributing a one-time gift here: myintimacytherapist.com/podcasts Work with me here: myintimacytherapist.com

    #92 – Do You Really Have Low Desire?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 5, 2024 17:14


    Episode Notes Themes: low libido, low sex drive It's not quite as simple as "I have a low sex drive." Let's look into an equation that can help you better understand your drive - and how to increase it. Work with Me Visit myintimacytherapist.com to schedule a consultation! To support the podcast, share this episode with a friend or donate a one-time gift to support the platform that hosts the podcast (https://www.myintimacytherapist.com/podcasts)

    #91 – Valentine's Day Episode: Feeling Sexy in Your Body, not Anxious

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 14, 2024 16:48


    Episode Notes Themes: anxiety in intimacy, movement, low desire When thinking of your sexuality, does it feel difficult to access your desire and confidence? If so, I'd recommend movement as a way to get reconnected to your sensual self. Let's talk about it. Next Steps Your rating or review is appreciated! You can do so right there on your chosen podcast app! Work with me: myintimacytherapist.com

    #90 – Why Do Marriages Fail? - Listener Question

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 6, 2024 16:35


    Episode Notes Themes: failed relationships, communication issues, divorce Listener Question!: What is the most common reason for the downfall of relationships/a marriage? Next Steps Share this episode with a friend, or leave a rating/review on your podcast app Work with me: myintimacytherapist.com

    #89 – Everyone Has a Different Sex Life

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 31, 2024 21:20


    Episode Notes Just a quick episode for you if you feel that everyone is having a "better" sex life than you, or that you "should" be having sex a certain way! Next Steps For therapy: myintimacytherapist.com/therapy For date night events: myintimacytherapist.com/date-nights

    #88 – Date Night Events hosted by Sade Jovanne

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 9, 2024 19:21


    Episode Notes Themes: date nights in Atlanta, Georgia Story time! For those of you who are new here, you may not know about the date nights that I host in the Atlanta, GA area, or the story behind how they came to be! Let me fill you in :) Want to Attend? Register for an upcoming date night here: https://www.myintimacytherapist.com/date-nights

    #87 – Celebration Episode: Tracking Your Growth!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 3, 2024 15:39


    Episode Notes Themes: progress, growth, relationship improvement In our journey of growth, it can be easy to forget how far we've come. Let's have a celebration session together! Share the Love! Share with others: leave a rating or review in the Spotify or Apple Podcasts app Share with yourself: attend a date night or schedule a counseling consultation (https://www.calendly.com/sadeferrier)

    #86 – Feeling Sexy in Your Body Outside of the Bedroom

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 12, 2023 29:40


    Episode Notes Themes: body awareness, body image, sex therapy, sexual attraction, mindfulness This podcast episode comes from a listener question: "how do you feel sexy every day?" There are many parts to answering this question, but we will begin with the concept of how your relationship with your body impacts your feeling of sexiness. Action Steps Enjoying the podcast? Send some love by leaving a rating/review on your app AND/OR sending a gift here (https://www.myintimacytherapist.com/podcasts) Need support? Work with me! (https://www.calendly.com/sadeferrier))

    #85 – Going Numb or Blowing Up: Types of Emotional Overwhelm

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 28, 2023 13:20


    Episode Notes Themes: flooding, conflict resolution, communication skills Sometimes you reach a state where you are completely engulfed by emotions. We call this "flooding." What type of flooding do you relate to, and (most importantly), what can you do to help yourself or your partner in this situation? Action Steps Support the podcast: Leave a rating & review in your podcast app OR send a one-time sponsorship gift (myintimacytherapist.com/podcasts) Work together: Schedule a consultation (https://www.calendly.com/sadeferrier)

    #84 – Low Energy, High Irritability: Hibernation Season

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 21, 2023 13:37


    Episode Notes Themes: seasonal affective disorder, seasonal depression, anxiety, holiday grief "Hibernation season," as I affectionately call it, is the time of year where the holidays, time change, and seasonal transition bring a collective wave of...low energy. You may be noticing it already - but what do we do about it? How does it impact your relationship? Let's figure it out together. What Can You Do? Want Support? Consider short-term therapy to get through the holidays. Schedule a consult here: calendly.com/sadeferrier Enjoying the podcast? You can show some love by leaving a rating/review in your podcast app or subscribing to patreon (https://www.patreon.com/sadejovanne) to support the behind-the-scenes of making this podcast possible

    #83 – How to Plan Date Nights That Actually Make a Difference

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2023 19:40


    Episode Notes Themes: date nights, relationship maintenance Here's the thing about date nights: if you just "go through the motions," you might be missing the mark on actually adding to your relationship. In this episode, we chat about ways to be more intentional with the type of date night you go on with your partner. PLUS: if you like the work that I do and are interested in a unique experience, join me for an upcoming date night event! Click below to register (or stay in the loop) Attend a Date Night Visit myintimacytherapist.com/date-night to attend an upcoming event or sign up to receive updates on future events!

    #82 – Repairing Broken Trust in Sexual Intimacy

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 24, 2023 13:53


    Episode Notes Themes: trust, sexual intimacy, infidelity, communication issues, vulnerability When speaking of broken trust, affairs often get the primary focus. However, there are so many other ways that trust can be broken. You may be in a situation where your relationship is overall positive, but then something happens within your sexual relationship that causes broken trust. You may wonder whether or not they were careless in their actions, and have difficulty allowing yourself to be truly vulnerable with them in the bedroom ever again. Listen to this episode for practical tools to begin communicating about broken sexual trust with your significant other Get Tickets for Couples Date Night Want help practicing communication around sexual intimacy? Visit myintimacytherapist.com/date-night to get tickets for my next sensual date night experience, hosted in Atlanta, GA

    #81 – Your Actions in the Relationship May Be Keeping You Stuck

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 17, 2023 10:10


    Episode Notes Themes: avoidant attachment, anxious attachment, dysfunctional cycle, self-fulfilling prophecy, self-sabotage, passive aggressiveness, cognitive distortions Yes, your significant other is doing (or not doing) so much to damage your relationship. BUT, is there any possibility that some of your actions may be feeding the cycle and creating a self-fulfilling prophecy? What would happen if we make sure our lane is completely clear before blaming our partner? Next Steps Are you SUBSCRIBED to the podcast yet?? Make sure to click the button and get notified each week when a new episode is live Work with me: https://www.calendly.com/sadeferrier Browse the website: myintimacytherapist.com

    #80 – How to Say What You Don't Like During Sex

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 10, 2023 14:10


    Episode Notes Themes: communication issues, sex, sexual intimacy, avoidance, anxiety If you feel anxious or avoidant when it comes to communicating about sex, then you likely have a difficult time letting your significant other know when you are displeased by something during sex. This episode is meant as a beginner's guide to breaking past the anxiety and starting to talk about your sex life! Next Steps Get the guided online course (with activities) on communicating about sex: "Intimacy Mindset Makeover" : https://www.myintimacytherapist.com/radiant Work with me (therapy consult): myintimacytherapist.com/therapy Work with me (dating coaching consult): https://www.myintimacytherapist.com/dating-coaching

    #79 – You Want More Attention, but They are Too Busy or Stressed

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2023 21:15


    Episode Notes Themes: conflict resolution, communication issues, affection, anxious attachment, overwhelmed, stress management, avoidant attachment There are seasons of life that simply overwhelm us. It could be that everything is good and positive between you and your significant other, but life's demands (children, work, family drama, etc.) can intrude on your blissful state. What do you do when you miss your person, and would like to call their attention back to you? Next Steps Work with me (therapy for Georgia residents): myintimacytherapist.com Subscribe to the podcast and leave a rating!

    #78 – Our Sex Life is Stuck... Even Though We (Technically) Want to Improve

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 27, 2023 17:07


    Episode Notes Themes: sex therapy, mismatched desire/libido, busyness, relationship sabotage There are a billion reasons that a couple might say their sex life is stuck: busyness and "it doesn't feel organic" are probably top of the list. This episode is meant to change how you think about this state of stuck-ness... and how to move past it. Next Steps Work with me: https://calendly.com/sadeferrier/ Download free resources: myintimacytherapist.com

    #77 – Is it Hard to Find a Sex Therapist?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 29, 2023 12:57


    Episode Notes Themes: counseling, couples therapy, sex therapy, communication issues Is finding a therapist part of the reason why you haven't started therapy yet? If so, I get it! Episode Resources Find a Therapist: Psychologytoday.com Find a Therapist: American Board of Christian Sex Therapists WORK WITH ME: ](https://calendly.com/sadeferrier/)[https://calendly.com/sadeferrier/

    #76 – Mindfulness Meditation: Permission to Desire Sexual Intimacy

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 22, 2023 17:10


    Episode Notes Themes: mindfulness, low desire, low libido, fantasy, sex therapy If you have trouble letting yourself think intimate thoughts or feel arousal, this episode is for you! It is a "light" mindfulness meditation to help you take one small step into the arena. This visualization is not erotic in nature, but rather takes a more open, non-directive approach that invites you to get curious about what type of connection you would want to create if there was no pressure for things to look a certain way. Please note: this episode does not count as (or substitute for) therapeutic treatment. Work with Me Individual or couples therapy: https://www.myintimacytherapist.com/therapy Dating coaching: https://www.myintimacytherapist.com/dating-coaching

    #75 – Do You Have Trouble with Control & Anxiety During Sexual Intimacy?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 15, 2023 15:41


    Episode Notes Themes: sexual intimacy, low desire, low libido, anxiety, control issues, Type A personality If you are used to being the "project manager" of life, then it is highly likely that you have trouble letting go and enjoying intimacy. This episode outlines practical ways that you can release control and anxiety in your intimate life. Work with Me Book a consultation at myintimacytherapist.com If you enjoyed the episode, take 5 seconds to leave a rating or review!

    #74 – Are You Avoiding Sex with your Spouse?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 10, 2023 12:18


    Episode Notes Themes: avoidant attachment, low desire, low sex drive, intimacy issues Be honest: are you avoiding sex with your significant other? There are many reasons that engaging with sexual intimacy can be unappealing in a relationship. This episode explores some of the possible reasons... and how to start addressing the issue. Work with Me Visit myintimacytherapist.com to book a free 15-minute consultation for sex therapy in the state of Georgia

    #73 – Identify What You Like about Sexual Intimacy

    Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2023 8:28


    Episode Notes Themes: sexual intimacy, communication, relationship issues, sex therapy, low desire Your ability to directly communicate what you like about intimacy - both to your significant other and to yourself - is HUGE if you want to get on the same page in your sex life. So challenge yourself: do you know what you like and why? Work with Me Book a consultation at myintimacytherapist.com Follow @myintimacytherapist on Instagram!

    #72 – What is Relationship OCD? with Alex Bishop

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 26, 2023 49:57


    Episode Notes Themes: relationship anxiety, relationship ocd, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, dating anxiety, new relationship, self-sabotage Do you feel constant, intense urges to end your relationship? Or feel your brain being hyper-critical of your partner - even though you feel that they are safe and a good match for you? If so, the term "relationship OCD" or "relationship anxiety" might help shed light on what is going on. Our guest for this episode is Alex Bishop, a registered counselor from Canada: "Hi, I'm Alex! As someone who has struggled relationally with a diverse spectrum of issues from relationship anxiety/ROCD, disorganized attachment, intimacy and commitment issues, and doubt, I get how difficult it can be to be in a relationship and feel settled and secure. I know what it's like to desperately want to be committed and feel open-hearted and at the same time want to run for the hills! With all of the internal disorganization I was experiencing, I knew I needed help and that the only way through my relationship problems was to seek professional help. In my healing through various different modalities from one-to-one therapy, group work, psychedelic medicine, and breath and bodywork I slowly worked towards more security within. I became better able to communicate my thoughts and feelings, I no longer felt a massive desire to run away, my doubt about whether I was with the right person dissolved and I learned that everything I had been experiencing in my intimate relationships had ties to childhood trauma and relational wounding. I learned that it wasn't safe to get close to people and open my heart. My continued healing allows me to open my heart more and more and enjoy a safe, loving relationship. Transcending these difficulties allows me to now guide others into doing the same. As a Registered Counsellor I now help others with a wide range of personal and relational issues work towards a more fulfilling loving relationship with their partner and themselves!" Work with Alex Instagram @forloveweheal Website www.forloveweheal.com

    #71 – Relationship Advice Can Be Harmful Comparison

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 19, 2023 11:50


    Episode Notes Themes: comparison, avoidant attachment, perfectionism, relationship advice, relationship OCD In your most well-meaning attempt to gain guidance and clarity, you ask a close friend - or maybe even Google - about your deepest relationship uncertainties or fears. But sometimes advice-seeking can become a repetitive compulsion to seek reassurance or "normalizing" of your relationship. Let's talk about the potential negatives of asking others for relationship advice. Follow on Socials Instagram: @myintimacytherapist Website: myintimacytherapist.com

    #70 – Anxiety and Control are Blocking Intimacy in Your Relationship

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 5, 2023 17:35


    Episode Notes Themes: fear, anxiety, control, self-sabotage, controlling tendencies, anxious-attachment, disorganized attachment, avoidant attachment, intimacy If you (or someone who knows you) would describe yourself as being a "controlling person" at times, this episode is for you. Obviously, you want to feel good in your relationships. But maybe you're having a hard time noticing how your need for control is sabotaging the relationship you want! Work with Me Book a free consultation at myintimacytherapist.com

    #69 – I'm Having Trouble Adjusting to a New, Securely-Attached Relationship

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 21, 2023 13:28


    Episode Notes Theme: anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, secure attachment, new relationship, dating, self-sabotage in relationships, relationship OCD So, you've been on the dating scene for a hot minute. You have aaalll the horror stories of dating apps, ghostings, toxic relationships, or even some well-meaning situationships. But here you are; you have met a significant other that respects you, values your time, and wants to create a secure relationship with you. So why are you freaking out?! This episode is for you if you are having trouble adjusting to a new relationship with someone that you genuinely want to be with. Let's navigate these beginning waters together! Action Steps Attachment styles book: Attached by Amir Levine Work with me one-on-one: myintimacytherapist.com

    #68 – You Can't Heal a Relationship All On Your Own

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 7, 2023 12:21


    Episode Notes Themes: communication issues, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, self-help, personal growth, relationship issues You are the type of person to see a problem and solve it. You do all the research on your emotions, your relationship, what you should/shouldn't do...and it has been helping! But up to a point. You're hitting a wall because your partner won't do their work. They won't change. OR, you are fine when single - but as soon as you enter a relationship, you feel triggered again. You're back to square one with the anxiety, the protest behaviors, the old patterns. Tune in to the episode to learn more about the meaning of the phrase: "relational wounds are healed relationally"

    #67 – Stop the Self-Fulfilling Prophecy of Negative Thinking

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 22, 2023 10:00


    Episode Notes Themes: criticism, negative self-talk, protest behaviors, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, communication issues, shame, relationship issues, low self-esteem The way that you choose to speak and think can create a personal prison, trapping you in a life that you don't even want. Let's talk about why this is damaging, and how to change it! Work with Me Click "subscribe" to always be updated when a new podcast episode is live! Visit myintimacytherapist.com for blogs, quizzes and activity downloads Schedule a 15-minute consult on my website

    #66 – The Difference Between Anxious Attachment Sex and Intimate Sex

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 15, 2023 19:57


    Episode Notes Themes: anxious attachment, reassurance sex, anxiety, avoidant attachment, intimacy Have you ever used sex as a means to get the emotional closeness that seemed to not exist outside of the bedroom? If you realize that you want emotionally intimate, relational sex but have been caught in a whirlwind of sexual encounters where you feel anxious about your connection with the person - this episode is for you! We talk about the difference between sex fueled by insecure attachment versus sex in the context of a more secure connection. Work with Me Get blogs, quizzes and downloads at myintimacytherapist.com Follow me on Instagram @myintimacytherapist

    #65 – How Fantasy Can Unblock Sexual Shame or Shutdown

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 8, 2023 24:28


    Episode Notes Themes: sexual fantasy, sexual shame, purity culture, low libido, low sex drive, intimacy, relationships If you have trouble thinking about yourself or your partner in a sexual way, it can be hard to integrate intimacy into your relationship. You may feel a "block" or even a complete separation from that part of yourself. This episode speaks to what fantasy is, and how you can use it in a constructive way to connect in complete intimacy with your person. Action Steps Download free intimacy resources and quizzes on my website, myintimacytherapist.com Share this episode with a friend! Give the podcast a rating in your Apple Podcasts or Spotify app

    #64 – My Spouse is Being Fake in Therapy

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 24, 2023 21:34


    Episode Notes Themes: therapy, counseling, change, conflict resolution, communication issues, resentment, relationship issues So, you made it to therapy! You know I'm really excited for you. But there's a common frustration that many clients have when sitting next to their partner in the office: (a) my spouse is being fake in front of the therapist, or (b) why is my spouse changing so quickly when I've been begging them to do the same thing for years? Let's talk about it. Next Steps Relationship and intimacy blogs and downloads are available on my website, myintimacytherapist.com Work with me! Book a free consultation at myintimacytherapist.com

    #63 – I'm Annoyed by My Partner's High Sex Drive

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 18, 2023 23:49


    Episode Notes Themes: sex drive, mismatched libido, high sex drive, low libido, communication, relationship issues So you are annoyed by your partner's high sex drive. Maybe it's the way they initiate, or they way they touch you. Either way, your interest is beyond low - and has even potentially gotten to a place of resenting them for their persistent need for sex. In this episode, we begin by exploring some reasons that the two of you may have gotten to where you are. Then, we move to the "sexual attitudes" under the surface, and how to have honest and new conversations about what you want your sexual intimacy to look like. That way, you can both feel fully seen, fully known, and fully loved. Similar Episodes Ep 16 - "Try This! Intimacy Questions to Ask Your Boo" Ep 17 - "Storytime! Low Desire & Sex Therapy" Ep 31 - "It's Hard to Open Up: How to Manage Shame in Intimacy" Work with Me! Visit myintimacytherapist.com to book a consultation for a therapy session (GA residents) Also visit the website for free blogs, quizzes and downloadable resources

    #62 – How to Be More Open for Sexual Intimacy

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 7, 2022 15:45


    Episode Notes Themes: low sex drive, low desire, libido, communication issues You know that your drive is low - but what do you do about it? This episode is focused on what you can do to understand and address the mental or contextual blocks to your drive. PLEASE NOTE: the medical and physiological aspect of your drive are very important components - though not discussed in this episode - and should be addressed with your physician (i.e. hormonal imbalances, medications, recent procedures, muscle tension, chronic pain, etc.). Next Steps Purchase the Intimacy Mindset Makeover Online Course: https://www.myintimacytherapist.com/radiant Get free downloads or book a consult call: myintimacytherapist.com

    #61 – What to Talk About in a Relationship Check-In

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 1, 2022 10:49


    Episode Notes Being proactive about your relationship is a great way to get ahead of any hairline fractures that could lead to deeper issues if unattended to. I love a good yearly (or quarterly) check-in to see how your relationship is doing! Next Steps Subscribe to the My Intimacy Therapist Podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Book a free therapy consultation at myintimacytherapist.com

    #60 – Is It Hard to Be Thankful For Your Partner?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 22, 2022 10:40


    Episode Notes This is for your wellbeing as well as your significant other's: remember to be grateful. There are two sides to this coin. Sometimes it is difficult to remember expressing our gratitude... but other times, it can be challenging to receive our partner's expression of love and affection. If you struggle with either, this episode is for you! Next Steps Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Share with a friend! Visit myintimacytherapist.com to schedule a consult or download free intimacy goodies!

    #59 – Relationships Built on Love, Not Fear with Simon Nicolaas

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 2, 2022 64:08


    Episode Notes Relationships are hard - and even harder when you are in your 30s and 40s and have a heavy history of baggage, breakups, and unhealthy patterns that you carry with you. I stumbled upon our guest's work while scrolling through TikTok and becoming captivated by his format for illustrating the anxious-avoidant dynamic that we often experience in relationships. They were skits of shorts, giving a glimpse into the dialogue that we think but never say aloud. Simon Nicolaas is a varsity basketball player turned kinesiologist turned relationship coach who was inspired to take on this work from experiencing terrible break ups, followed by working with amazing coaches. Simon currently lives in Bali with his wife, 4 dogs and 5 cats. This episode explores how to consciously choose love over fear in the daily building and maintenance of secure, trusting relationships. Let's get deep! Get Relationship Coaching with Simon Instagram: @simon.nicolaas Tiktok: @love.understood

    #58 – Relationship Exhaustion is a Real Thing

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 26, 2022 15:41


    Episode Notes Sometimes the hum of life becomes monotonous, routine, exhausting. You may be feeling a lack of luster in your relationship, or even fatigued from the everyday efforts of relationship maintenance. This episode contains a bit of validation and a potential action step for you. Next Steps Visit myintimacytherapist.com for free resources or to schedule a therapy consultation Enjoying the podcast! Take 30 seconds to leave a positive rating or review in your podcast app!

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