Podcasts about Secure attachment

Start Healing Core Wounds with Our Reparent Your Inner Child Course, Free with a 7-Day Trial to the Personal Development School https://offer.personaldevelopmentschool.com/reparenting-your-inner-child?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=reparenting-your-inner-child&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-05-20-26&el=podcast Have you ever felt like you're doing everything to heal… reading the books, going to therapy, doing the work and still feel stuck? You're not alone. And more importantly… you're not broken. We're living in one of the most emotionally overwhelming times in history and your Attachment Style may be getting triggered in ways that make healing feel harder than ever. Episode Summary In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down exactly why healing feels harder than ever and how this shows up differently depending on your Attachment Style. You'll learn how the modern world (social media, constant comparison, emotional overwhelm, and disconnection) amplifies your core attachment wounds, whether you're Anxious Avoidant, Dismissive Avoidant, Fearful Avoidant, or Securely Attached. Thais walks through each Attachment Style and explains the specific challenges you may be facing in your healing journey and what you can do to start moving forward in a more grounded, empowered way. Key Takeaways ✔️ You're not failing at healing; you're healing in an overwhelming world. ✔️ Your Attachment Style may be getting triggered daily without you realizing it. ✔️ Anxious Attachment feels amplified by comparison, rejection, and fear of abandonment. ✔️ Avoidant patterns can hide behind independence, numbing, and emotional disconnection. ✔️ Fearful Avoidants may feel constant inner chaos mirrored by the outside world. ✔️ Secure Attachment isn't perfection, it's learning to regulate, reflect, and repair. Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

What if the patterns in your relationships are not just about communication, compatibility, or choosing the wrong person, but subconscious wounds your nervous system learned years ago? In this episode, Dr. Taz sits down with Thais Gibson, PhD, bestselling author, counselor, speaker, attachment theory expert, and founder of The Personal Development School, to explore how attachment styles, childhood conditioning, core wounds, subconscious programming, and nervous system regulation shape the way we love, fight, connect, and pull away.In this episode, Thais explains why the conscious mind often cannot overpower the subconscious mind, and why so many people keep repeating the same relationship patterns even when they know better. She breaks down the four attachment styles: secure, anxious, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant, and explains how each style can show up in adult relationships, dating, marriage, family dynamics, conflict, ghosting, love bombing, emotional shutdown, clinginess, and the painful push-pull cycle.Dr. Taz and Thais discuss why affirmations may not be enough to heal deep core wounds, why the subconscious mind responds more to emotion and imagery than language, and how childhood experiences can become the lens through which we interpret adult relationships. Thais also shares a practical 21-day rewiring exercise using memory, emotion, visualization, and repetition to help shift core wounds like abandonment, betrayal, shame, unworthiness, and fear of being trapped.If you're listening to this and thinking, “I know something is off in my body, but I don't know where to start,” join the Circle here:

Welcome back to Love Fully, a podcast dedicated to helping you deepen emotional connection, strengthen secure bonds, and understand your inner world with tenderness and clarity. In today's episode, we explore coping with disappointment through the lens of Emotionally Focused Therapy and the very real, very human experience of disappointment in relationships.Whether the disappointment comes from a partner, a friend, or family member, this episode unpacks why unmet needs strike so deeply at the heart of our attachment system. We talk honestly about the moments when we've reached vulnerably, communicated clearly, and still felt unseen or unsupported — and what to do next.Challenges We ExploreThe emotional impact of unmet expectationsWhy we minimize our own pain (and how this keeps us stuck)The grief that comes with realizing someone cannot show up for usHow disappointment, when acknowledged, becomes a doorway to deeper self-loveHow repeated unresponsiveness shapes attachment woundsKey Takeaways for HealingHonor your hurt — disappointment is a valid emotional signalLet your pain be witnessed — connection softens emotional weightWatch patterns, not promises — behavior reveals someone's capacityExpand your support system — seek secure, responsive othersRedirect with compassion — for yourself and for those who cannot meet your needsThrough a compassionate, humanistic dialogue, Kim and Kyle invite you to slow down, feel the truth of your experience, and explore how to stay open to love — even when others fall short. This episode is a reminder that healing disappointment isn't about dismissing your needs… it's about honoring the parts of you that long to be held, seen, and supported.Follow Love Fully on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube.Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️Additional Resources for You:Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today!Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

This week we are joined by Trevor Hanson who shares his personal journey from anxious attachment and relationship struggles to becoming a therapist focused on helping others build secure attachment. He emphasizes that real transformation comes through emotional experiences—not just information—and outlines a structured approach to rewiring attachment patterns. Through practical tools like self-validation, inner child work, and community-based healing, he shows how people can create lasting security in relationships more efficiently than traditional methods. Main Talking Points Anxious attachment patterns Emotional experiences heal Four healing pillars Inner child work Self-validation tools Repetition rewires brain Connect with Trevor: Website Instagram Give Me Discounts! ⁠⁠AG1 - ⁠⁠AG1 has become my go to every morning. ⁠⁠Beducate⁠⁠ - Use code relationship69 for 65% off the annual pass. Check out Relationship Academy! ⁠ ⁠Cozy Earth⁠⁠ -  Black Friday has come early! Right now, you can stack my code “IDO” on top of their sitewide sale — giving you up to 40% off in savings. These deals won't last, so start your holiday shopping today! ⁠⁠Simple Practice⁠⁠ - If you're in mental health and not using simple practice then what are you doing??? ⁠⁠Spark My Relationship Course:⁠⁠ Get $100 off our online course. Visit⁠⁠ SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock⁠⁠ for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! ⁠⁠Skylight⁠⁠⁠ - Use code “IDO” for $30 off your 15 inch calendar.  Quince - Get Free Shipping and 365-day Returns using our link!If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a⁠ review in iTunes⁠? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most people assume temptation is about weakness or willpower. But the wilderness story in Matthew 4 reveals something far older — evil moves first against the places where we have not been seen, soothed, safe, and secure.In this conversation, Michael and AJ Denson walk slowly through the baptism and temptation of Jesus, presenting them as a portrait of attachment under siege. They explore how the devil's opening accusation — if you are the Son of God — lands precisely where God's voice had just spoken identity and belonging, why hunger, loneliness, and exposure aren't just physical states but the exact conditions evil exploits, and what it means that after the ordeal, angels came and attended to him — a scene almost never preached, yet the one that puts the bow on the whole story.This is a co-host episode from Michael's ongoing series unpacking Sacred Attachment, chapter by chapter.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

Secure Attachment: Why Love Is a Gift, Not a RewardSecure attachment starts with one radical idea — love is not something you earn. John and Echo break down all five attachment styles (anxious, avoidant, anxious-avoidant, disorganized, and secure) and explain why the path to secure attachment means completely rewiring how you think about love, worth, and relationships.They dig into why telling yourself "I deserve love" is actually a trap, how conditional love drives both anxious clinging and avoidant distancing, and why real security comes from treating love like grace — a gift you neither earned nor can lose by messing up. Plus, they get real about a fight they had over a dress that turned out to be about something much deeper: old wounds, trust, and what it actually looks like when a partner handles your emotions right (and wrong).In This EpisodeSecure attachment means understanding love is a gift — not something earned, lost, or deserved based on behaviorBelieving you "deserve" love is a subtle trap that keeps love feeling transactional and conditionalBoth anxious and avoidant styles are rooted in the fear that love can be taken away — secure people don't live in that scarcityThe anxious-avoidant dynamic is especially volatile because each person's behavior triggers the other's deepest fearJudging others harshly is a sign you're judging yourself the same way — grace for others starts with grace for yourselfYou can love someone and still leave — tolerating bad behavior is not proof of loveIn conflict, validating your partner's emotions is not an admission of guilt — it's just the human thing to doYour childhood attachment wounds weren't your fault, and they weren't even really your parents' fault — but healing them is your responsibility nowTimestamps0:00 — Introduction & Episode Preview4:46 — How Attachment Styles Form in Childhood9:56 — Why Attachment Styles Matter in Relationships13:25 — What Secure Attachment Really Means17:40 — Love Is a Gift, Not Something You Earn25:56 — The Grace Concept: Christian Theology Meets Psychology35:36 — The Trap of Thinking You "Deserve" Love43:00 — Why Judging Others Means Judging Yourself51:04 — Real Life Conflict: The Dress Incident59:40 — Responding to Emotions Without Needing to Understand Why1:02:26 — Wrap-Up & Where to Find UsConnect

This episode marks an important evolution.What began as The Roadmap to Secure Love Podcast is now Love Fully—not because secure attachment no longer matters, but because we've seen something deeper emerge in our work with clients, listeners, and ourselves.Secure attachment gives us language and clarity. Loving fully is about living that understanding in real life.In this episode of Love Fully, Kim and Kyle explore what it truly means to love from a grounded, secure place—both with ourselves and with the people we care about most. Through an Emotionally Focused Therapy lens, they unpack why loving fully requires more than insight; it calls for courage, self-honesty, and a willingness to challenge the attachment patterns that once protected us.Many of us grew up without a roadmap for healthy emotional connection. Maybe you learned to stay small to keep the peace, to over-function to earn closeness, or to shut down when vulnerability felt unsafe. These strategies once helped you survive—but they may now limit the kind of love you long for. This episode explores how to gently rewrite those relational “scripts” and build the inner security needed for healthier, more fulfilling bonds.In today's conversation, Kim and Kyle highlight:Balancing closeness and autonomySetting boundaries without losing connectionHonoring your needs without shameLoving someone as they are—not who you hope they'll bePracticing compassion for the younger parts of yourselfWhether you're healing personal wounds, navigating relationship challenges, or seeking deeper emotional clarity, this episode supports your journey toward healthy relationship boundaries and secure connection.Follow Love Fully on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube.Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️Additional Resources for You:Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today!Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

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Have you ever felt like you're both Anxious and Avoidant in relationships? Maybe you obsess when someone pulls away, but when things get too close, you suddenly feel overwhelmed and want distance. If that sounds familiar, you might not be Anxiously Attached — you may actually have a Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style. Fearful Avoidant Attachment can feel confusing because it combines both Anxious and Avoidant patterns. You may deeply crave connection and intimacy, yet feel unsafe or overwhelmed when relationships become emotionally close. Episode Summary In this episode, Thais Gibson walks you through the major signs of Fearful Avoidant Attachment, how it differs from Anxious Attachment, and what it takes to move toward Secure Attachment. How Fearful Avoidant Attachment shows up through core wounds, emotional patterns, unmet needs, boundary struggles, communication habits, and coping mechanisms. You'll learn why Fearful Avoidants often experience intense internal conflict in relationships, why trust and safety are essential for them, and how understanding these deeper patterns can help you begin the process of healing and building secure attachment. Key Takeaways ✔️ You crave deep love — but closeness can suddenly feel overwhelming. ✔️ Fearful Avoidant patterns often come from deep wounds of betrayal, abandonment, and feeling unsafe. ✔️ Your emotions can swing between anxiety, anger, shame, and overwhelm in relationships. ✔️ Boundaries may feel impossible; until everything explodes at once. ✔️ You may give too much, receive too little, and feel emotionally drained. ✔️ Healing is possible when you learn to meet your needs and build real emotional safety. Timestamps 00:00 – Major Signs That You Are a Fearful Avoidant 00:36 – Core Wounds 01:48 – Emotions 02:17 – Needs 03:14 – Boundaries 07:05 – 7-Day Free Trial + Needs Course Promo 07:58 – Coping Mechanisms 08:57 – The Path to Secure Attachment Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Drop us some Fan Mail. Thanks!Could you use a few new strategies to help your child improve misbehavior? Listen to this conversation with Dr. Casey Call, the Associate Director of Education at the Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development at TCU and Associate Professor of Professional Practice in the TCU Department of Psychology. She will help us understand how to maintain connection while correcting challenging behaviors.In this episode, we discuss:Why and how should parents and caregivers work toward secure attachment with kids impacted by trauma? What does it mean when we say we are rewiring the child's brain for connection?What is the purpose of discipline? How can parents and caregivers set a firm foundation of secure attachment if they also need to correct misbehavior or inappropriate behavior?Why do traditional or punishment-based disciplinary approaches not work for children impacted by trauma? Why do kids impacted by trauma tend to respond better (meaning an improvement in behavior) to discipline that guides them to think about their choices and consequences?How can parents and caregivers maintain a safe, loving connection with firmness and kindness while still holding the goal of retraining a behavior?In this process, what does it mean to share our power?What is the “IDEAL” approach?What is a re-do? Why is it so powerful for re-training?What are a few practical ways that parents and caregivers can maintain attachment during these disciplinary or re-teaching processes?What are some of the common behaviors that drive parents crazy? How can parents and caregivers maintain the intensity and pace of disciplining a child who has been impacted by trauma, without burning out?Support the showPlease leave us a rating or review.  This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:Weekly podcastsWeekly articles/blog postsResource pages on all aspects of family building

What if the way you relate to others isn't fixed—but fundamentally changeable? In this episode, we speak with psychiatrist and neuroscientist Amir Levine, who is an Associate Professor of Clinical Psychiatry at Columbia University Medical Center. He's the author of the best-selling book Attached, which examined how people's attachment styles—from secure to anxious to avoidant. In his new book, Secure: The Revolutionary Guide to Creating a Secure Life, Levine argues that attachment styles aren't lifelong labels but actually patterns the brain can relearn. He explores the emerging science of “earned security”—how relationships reshape our neural wiring, why some people feel safe under pressure while others spiral, and what it takes to move from insecurity to stability. Follow Big Brains: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/showcase/big-brains-podcast/ X: https://x.com/BigBrainsUC Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

This is it, y'all, the final episode of our four-part attachment series, and honestly? I saved the best for last. We've walked through anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment together, and now we're doing something that I don't think gets talked about nearly enough: what secure attachment actually looks, feels, and sounds like as a real relationship develops, from those early butterflies all the way into long-term partnership. This isn't a fantasy. This is what's available to you when you've done the work, earned secure attachment, and stopped settling for love that drains you instead of love that adds to your life.Inside the Episode:Secure attachment isn't the absence of conflict - it's the confidence that repair is always possible. What dating, commitment, and long-term love look like when you're securely attached. Earned secure attachment is real, it's documented science, and it is available to you. Ready to stop cycling and start building?If this episode hit home and you're ready to do this work with real support, apply for the Empowered. Secure. Love. Private 1:1 Coaching Intensive. We only have 12 spots total, and they are going fast. This is personalized, one-on-one coaching designed to get you fully supported on your healing journey. Apply here (it takes five minutes, and I personally review every application): www.drmorgancoaching.co/esl-breakthrough

Are you a grandparent raising grandchildren while trying to balance compassion with structure in your home? Do you find yourself reverting to “because I said so” parenting, only to meet resistance, trauma triggers, or confusion from the children in your care? Are you yearning for practical guidance, emotional support, and a framework to help you navigate this unexpectedly challenging season of life?I'm Laura Brazan, and like you, I was thrust overnight into the world of kinship caregiving for my grandchildren, suddenly responsible for guiding young hearts through adversity. In this episode, join me as I welcome Dr. Lindsay Emerson, a leading expert in trauma-informed parenting, to unveil the 5C's Framework—an evidence-based approach blending warmth, boundaries, and repair that works for both traditional and modern families. Together, we dissect how to communicate, remain consistent, offer choices, set consequences, and check in with yourself—all essential skills for “amazing parenting." To find out more about, please Send us Fan MailIf you are raising grandchildren who are neurodivergent—or navigating the complexities of an FASD diagnosis—you know that traditional parenting advice often falls short. You aren't just looking for tips; you're looking for a strategy.That's why I want to invite you to a special, FREE conference designed specifically for families like ours.https://www.grandparents-raising-grandchildren.org/ If you had an extra hour of 'found time' tomorrow morning—time that belonged only to you—what is the one thing you'd do that you haven't done in months?Seriously—hit pause, or wait until you're parked, and email me at laurabrazan@grandparents-raising-grandchildren.org. I'm collecting these stories to make sure this book solves the real-world burnout we're all feeling. In this special pre-roll segment, I'm sharing a moving letter from a member of our community, Laurel. Her story of loss, resilience, and raising her grandson after the unthinkable is a raw reminder that none of us are walking this path alone.We want to hear from you. If Laurel's story resonates with you, or if you have a journey of your own to share, join our private community. Your story might be the exact lifeline someone else needs to hear today. Thank you for tuning into today's episode. It's been a journey of shared stories, insights, and invaluable advice from the heart of a community that knows the beauty and challenges of raising grandchildren. Your presence and engagement mean the world to us and to grandparents everywhere stepping up in ways they never imagined.Remember, you're not alone on this journey. For more resources, support, and stories, visit our website and follow us on our social media channels. If today's episode moved you, consider sharing it with someone who might find comfort and connection in our shared experiences.We look forward to bringing more stories and expert advice your way next week. Until then, take care of yourselves and each other.Want to be a guest on Grandparents Raising Grandchildren: Nurturing Through Adversity? Send Laura Brazan a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/grgLiked this episode? Share it and tag us on Facebook @GrandparentsRaisingGrandchilden Love the show? Leave a review and let us know!CONNECT WITH US: Website | Facebook 

The tiny moments you ignore may hold the key to it all. New research in neuroscience and attachment science reveals that your brain is constantly monitoring your relationships through small, everyday interactions, and the signals it picks up quietly shape everything from your self-esteem to your sense that life has meaning.Most of us pour energy into the big relationship gestures, the long conversations, the grand repairs. But the seemingly insignificant exchanges, a returned text, a warm nod, a moment of simply being seen, may matter far more to your brain and your sense of security than you ever realized.Amir Levine, M.D. is a psychiatrist, neuroscientist, and Associate Professor of Clinical Psychiatry at Columbia University who trained in molecular neuroscience under Nobel Laureate Eric Kandel. He is the coauthor of the international bestseller Attached, which has sold over two million copies in more than 30 languages, and his newest book is Secure, The Revolutionary Guide to Creating a Secure Life.In this episode, you'll discover:The brain science behind why even brief moments of exclusion can erode your self-esteem, sense of control, and feeling that life is meaningfulA 5-part framework (with a memorable acronym) for building the foundation of every secure connection, one you can start practicing todayWhy your attachment style isn't something to "fix," and the hidden superpower built into your specific wiring that you may be overlookingTwo simple rules for navigating conflict that keep even heated moments from damaging the bondAn overlooked relationship practice that works like two-factor authentication for trust and deeper connectionIf you've ever wondered why certain relationships feel effortless while others leave you anxious, guarded, or drained, this conversation will change how you see every interaction in your day. Hit play and discover how small, consistent shifts can help you build the kind of secure, connected life your brain has been searching for.You can find Amir at: Website | Take the Attachment Quiz | Episode TranscriptNext week, be sure to tune in for an episode with me about the 'Unbusy Manifesto' and the six daily practices that will help you reclaim your time and your sanity.Check out our offerings & partners: Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the WheelVisit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Whether you struggle with the fear of abandonment or you tend to shut down when things get close, this conversation is for you.   In this episode, I'm joined by psychotherapist Trevor Hansen to discuss why so many of us get stuck in the attachment style "research phase" and how to actually rewire your brain for secure attachment. We dive deep into the "origin stories" that drive our adult behaviors, the hidden link between anxious and avoidant styles, and a powerful "voice note" tool you can start using today to meet your own unmet needs. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/820

Welcome back to Restoring the Soul with Michael John Cusick. In this episode, Michael John Cusick and AJ Denson continue their exploration of the “four S's” of attachment—seen, soothed, safe, and secure—focusing today on the final S: secure. Together, they dive into the meaning of secure attachment, both psychologically and spiritually, and how it's reflected in our relationships with God and others.Drawing on personal experiences, biblical narratives, and insights from attachment theory, Michael explains how secure attachment is foundational to human flourishing and to our sense of inner peace—even in life's most challenging moments. They discuss the difference between secure and insecure attachment, the impact of technology on connection, and what it means to be loved by God in both our strength and vulnerability.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

Send us Fan MailWhy do some relationships feel safe… while others feel chaotic?In this powerful episode of Joey Pinz Conversations, Joey Pinz sits down with relationship and attachment trauma expert Bev Mitelman to unpack the psychology behind attachment styles, emotional regulation, and the path to inner peace.Bev shares her journey from a chaotic childhood to becoming a certified attachment trauma practitioner, helping people break toxic relationship cycles and rebuild self-worth. Together, they explore anxious vs avoidant behaviors, emotional maturity, nervous system regulation, radical honesty, and whether suffering is optional.This conversation blends science, philosophy, and lived experience — and ends with a profound truth: peace may be the precursor to happiness.If you've ever struggled with communication, people-pleasing, emotional distance, or repeating unhealthy relationship patterns — this episode is for you. 

Are you curious about what a healthy relationship looks like? Do you have an inkling that something in your relationship is off? This episode peels back the curtain to show you what a healthy and secure relationship looks like. I talk about what arguments look and feel like, how it feels to come home to your person, and the deep belief that comes from knowing you're with the right person. Tune in to learn more about what secure attachment looks like.Discover your attachment style to create a healthy relationship where you feel safe and supported. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching, I'd love to help drop the doubt that you're not in the relationship and feel seen and heard by your partner. Get started by booking a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Let's revisit the foundation of raising securely attached kids! I'm bringing back one of my first ever episodes to help parents understand the basics of how a secure attachment bond impacts children's resilience, confidence, and overall well-being.   Tune in to hear:   - What secure attachment is and how it plays a key role in nurturing a child's confidence, curiosity, and ability to handle life's ups and downs.   - The powerful influence of feeling safe and seen on a child's ability to be honest, adaptable, and resilient.   - Practical strategies for fostering secure attachment, no matter the age of your child.   - How attachment affects a child's development into a compassionate, kind individual who can build meaningful relationships throughout their life.   This episode offers science-backed insights and actionable tips and is a must-listen for all parents!     INTERESTED IN LEARNING MORE ABOUT ATTACHMENT SCIENCE? Click HERE to download my free guide, The Four Pillars of Fostering Secure Attachment, helping you parent with a focus on attunement and trust.   LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. SARAH: https://drsarahbren.com/   FOLLOW DR. SARAH ON INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/drsarahbren/     CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:

Welcome to the Restoring the Soul podcast with Michael John Cusick. In today's episode, Michael and A.J. Denson continue their deep dive into the four S's of attachment: Seen, Soothed, Safe, and Secure. Drawing from the work of Dr. Dan Siegel and integrating insights from neuroscience, psychology, and spiritual formation, they explore how our early relationships shape not only our emotional lives but also our connection with God. This conversation unpacks the vital importance of safety in relationships—both physical and emotional—and how boundaries, repair after conflict, and humility all contribute to healing and connection. Whether you're a parent, spouse, or someone seeking deeper intimacy with God, this episode offers practical wisdom and hope for cultivating secure attachments in every area of life.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

I want to hear your thoughts about the show and this episode. Text us here...In this powerful episode of Casa De Confidence, Julie sits down with psychotherapist and somatic practitioner Inga Larson to explore what it really means to grow up as the child of emotionally immature or personality-disordered parents—and how that early experience shapes confidence, belonging, and identity.Inga shares her deeply personal story of navigating childhood anxiety, performative confidence, homelessness in her twenties, and eventually discovering healing through somatic therapy, social work, and parts work.Together, Julie and Inga unpack:What emotionally immature parenting actually looks likeThe difference between performative confidence and embodied self-trustHow trauma gets stored in the bodyWhy many adults feel disconnected from themselvesThe power of somatic healing practicesHow secure attachment transforms relationshipsWhat true belonging really meansHow to stop living in survival modeInga also introduces her Defying Gravity course for adult children of emotionally immature parents and shares simple grounding practices anyone can begin today.If you've ever felt like you were the “parentified child,” the performer, the fixer, or the one who had to hold everything together—this conversation will resonate deeply.

Send us Fan Mail- On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreTools for repairing The Sex Addiction impacted couples relationshipCouples get into a conflict dance of words and emotions, mostly because of their Attachment Fears - fears of being Abandoned. The conflict of words is rarely about the actual subject matter in dispute.  There is an under current of despair. It is rarely about the top left off the tooth paste or leaving the toilet seat up. Have a read of the Book “Hold me Tight” by Dr Sue Johnson.What goes wrong when love goes wrong. The clue is often in the childhood development years. Insecure Attachment is often at the root of the issues. Depleted Core Emotional Needs is a common feature. What are those 'Loves' which go wrong? Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service & Physical Touch.What is 'the childhood Development years: From birth to just after puberty. Templates get set up, which we practice and then take with us into adulthood, to form our pattern of responses; but they may have worked in childhood, in family, up were not exportable into the new couples relationship.What are those Insecure Attachments? Anxious Attachment, Avoidant Attachment & Dismissive/Fearful Attachment. The ideal outcome from childhood Development should have been 'Secure Attachment'.What are those Core Emotional Needs? The top 10 of them are Acceptance, Affection, Appreciation, Approval, Attention, Comfort, Encouragement, Respect, Security & Support.Everyone of these issues have been looked at by me in past episodes. Go search them out.Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Help someone: https://igg.me/at/ThekairosCentreHelp is here for you: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelpGary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.Key words: sex addiction, addicted, partner, porn addiction, recovery, sex drive, therapy, sex therapy, podcast, relationships, relationship counseling, relationship advice, addiction, couples, couples therapy, sex therapy, emdr, love addiction, behavior, psychology, codependency, sex life, neuroscience, sex ed, sober, sobriety, sexual dysfunction, relationship issues, sex coach, sexual, trauma, ptsd, sex science, The sex porn love Addiction Podcast, The Singles Partners Marrieds and Long Time Marrieds Podcast, Gary McFarlane, porn addiction, what neuroscience says, neuroscience, young adults, sex, sex addict, porn, recovery, porn addiction issue, porn addiction in teens, sex addiction in teens, sex hormonesSupport the show

Dr. Jett Stone, clinical psychologist and author of Quiet Your Mind: A Men's Guide, joins me to talk about paternal mental health and the invisible emotional load modern fathers are carrying, many without language, models, or permission to talk about it.   Together we explore:   -Why millennial dads often feel like they're parenting without a blueprint. - How intergenerational patterns and "boyhood rules" shape the way men show up as fathers. - Why so many dads feel like the "secondary parent" and how mothers can invite fathers in without diminishing their own needs or experiencing resentment. - The tension between wanting authority and wanting connection with your child (and how to hold both). - Why secure attachment with dads doesn't have to look exactly like secure attachment with moms. - How doing your own reflective work as a parent can transform the entire family system.   This conversation will help you understand the emotional lives of fathers with more compassion and clarity. Because when dads feel supported, included, and emotionally resourced, the whole family benefits.   Whether you're a parent, a partner, or a therapist working with families, this episode will expand the way you think about modern fatherhood.     LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST:

Move toward a secure attachment style. These sleep affirmations help heal old fears of abandonment, allowing you to build healthier, more stable connections. Unwind now with our positive sleep affirmations podcast. Our soothing affirmations relax the mind and prepare the body for rest. Hit play, and drift into Good Sleep... Listen to more positive sleep affirmations by subscribing to the audio podcast in your favorite podcast app:  Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/good-sleep-positive-affirmations/id1704608129⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/3OuJvYoprqh7nPK44ZsdKE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And start your morning with Optimal Living Daily! Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/optimal-living-daily-mental-health-motivation/id1067688314⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/1hygb4nGhNhlLn4pBnN00j?si=ca60dcfd758b44b4⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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If you are living in a perpetual state of fear and discomfort, it's time to get curious and ask yourself why! Dr. Geoff and Cyd Holsclaw discuss the integral link between faith and attachment, sharing their thoughts about why Christians get spiritually “stuck” and how they can overcome that. Geoff and Cyd are authors and the co-hosts of the Attaching to God podcast. They are also the co-directors of the Center for Embodied Faith, which examines the science of today and how that technical knowledge is backed up by the best source: the Bible. “Science today is just catching up to the wisdom that God has already given us so long ago,” say Geoff and Cyd. TAKEAWAYS The brain and the body reflect the truth found in Scripture A foundation of joyful attachment is found in a healthy relationship between a child and a parent We naturally develop survival strategies as we grow up that adapt to the environment we live in If something feels unsettling to you, ask yourself WHY and bring your fears and anxiety to Jesus daily

I'm recording this episode while I'm in New York, and I had one of those moments where I paused and thought, wow… I'm living the life I once barely believed was possible. I'm in a healthy, loving marriage with a partner who celebrates me and cheers me on, I have incredible friendships, and I'm doing work that truly lights me up. But the truth is, none of this would have been possible without a major identity shift. In this episode, I'm walking you through exactly why your dating patterns don't change until your identity changes and how shifting from an anxiously attached identity to a securely attached identity completely transforms the way you date, choose partners, and experience relationships.Inside the episode, I'm breaking down:Why mindset work alone won't change your dating patternsHow your identity shapes the partners you attract and chooseThe core beliefs behind anxious attachmentWhat securely attached people actually believe about loveIf this episode resonated with you and you know it's time to finally break these patterns, I want to invite you to apply for my Empowered.Secure.Loved. Private 1:1 Coaching Program.This program includes 1:1 coaching support, the ESL framework, and access to Dr. Morgan AI, so you have guidance and support every step of the way.Spots are intentionally limited because this is a high-support program.

Send a textWhat does it actually take to move from insecure to secure attachment? In this episode, I lay out the roadmap. Not the simplified version you often hear online — but the deeper process that rewires how you relate.We look at the three layers that shape how you relate: mindset, emotions, and your nervous system. And why secure attachment isn't something you think your way into — it's something you practice into existence.If you've been following the attachment series, this episode connects the dots and shows you how the transformation actually unfolds. Ready to revolutionize your relationship experience? (FREE) LIVE March 16-22: Join the Relationship Revolution The Embodied Relationship Academy (ERA) - the yearlong mentorship with me into secure relating and leading from love (from €370/month) Last spots for the 2026 power journeys:Spain April 12-18 (women) Let's grow into the relationship you always longed for, starting with falling in love with being YOU.

We dig into strategic dating, secure attachment, and the skills that turn chemistry into commitment. Valerie Greene shares questions, scripts, and a four-part roadmap for inspiring commitment and creating a win-win culture at home.• defining vision, values and relationship culture• writing profiles that show values, not just hobbies• first-date questions that reveal growth and integrity• safe haven and secure base behaviors for security• anxious attachment tools for belief change and self-soothing• meeting avoidants with empathy while keeping standards• the four-part roadmap to inspire commitment• needs vs strategies for true collaboration• assessing partners when calm, not when triggeredIf you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as wellSend a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

In today's episode, I'm diving into something that so many people get wrong in modern dating: confusing intense chemistry with actual compatibility. If you've ever felt swept up in emotional intensity only to realize later that the relationship wasn't healthy or aligned, you are not alone. We're talking about what secure attachment actually looks like while dating, how to stop letting your nervous system lead you into the same patterns, and how to show up as the calm, grounded, securely attached version of yourself who gathers real data about a partner instead of projecting fantasy.Inside this episode:Why modern dating trains us to chase chemistry and intensity and how this keeps insecure attachment patterns aliveThe mindset shift of becoming a “securely attached dating scientist” who gathers real data about compatibilityWhat secure attachment actually feels like in dating: peace, emotional safety, curiosity, and consistencyIf you've been stuck in cycles with avoidant or emotionally unavailable partners… if relationships keep starting fast and burning out… or if you're ready to finally experience a calm, healthy, secure love, this episode will give you a new framework for how to show up differently.Because the truth is: secure love doesn't start with trying harder or going on more dates.It starts with rewiring your identity, healing your nervous system, and learning how to trust yourself again.And when you do that work, you stop chasing relationships that drain you and start attracting the kind of partnership that truly adds to your life.Want support in doing this work at the deepest level?At the beginning of the episode, I mentioned my Empowered.Secure.Loved Private Coaching program, where we help you completely rewire your attachment patterns and step into your securely attached identity so you can attract and maintain the healthy relationship you deserve.You can apply for Private 1:1 Coaching here: https://www.drmorgancoaching.co/esl-breakthrough

Start healing your Attachment Style with personalized courses taught by Thais Gibson. Free for 7 Days [enough time to complete a full course]. Limited-time offer: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-03-02-26el=podcast Are You Becoming More Secure? 5 Pillars to Track Your Progress Have you ever wondered how Securely Attached you're actually showing up in your relationships? Healing your Attachment Style isn't just about “feeling better.” It's about measurable shifts in how you think, react, communicate, and relate to others. Episode Summary In this episode, Thais Gibson walks you through the 5 Major Pillars of Becoming Securely Attached and how to track whether you're truly progressing in your healing journey. If you've been doing the work, this video will help you see exactly where you stand. In this breakdown, you'll learn the five foundational ingredients required to move from insecure to Secure Attachment: ✔️ Rewiring your core wounds ✔️ Understanding your subconscious needs ✔️ Regulating your nervous system ✔️ Setting honest, healthy boundaries ✔️ Communicating clearly and consistently Thais also shares insights from her own journey as a former Fearful Avoidant, explaining how frequency and intensity of triggers begin to diminish and what secure functioning actually feels like in daily life. Secure Attachment isn't perfection. It's regulation, self-awareness, authenticity, and the ability to repair. Key Takeaways • How to tell if your triggers are decreasing in frequency and intensity • Why rewiring core wounds is the foundation of lasting change • The role subconscious needs play in fulfillment and alignment • How nervous system regulation creates emotional stability • Why boundaries increase authenticity and connection • How proper communication empties your “resentment tank” • What Secure Attachment actually looks like in real relationships Timestamps 00:00 – Are You Becoming More Secure? 01:14 – Pillar 1: Rewiring Your Core Wounds 04:04 – Thais' Rewiring Experience 05:28 – Pillar 2: Learning About Your Own Needs 07:55 – Pillar 3: Learning How to Regulate Your Nervous System 08:57 – Pillar 4: Setting Your Honest Boundaries With People 11:02 – 7-Day Trial Promo 11:51 – Pillar 5: Learning to Communicate Properly Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Welcome back to the Restoring the Soul podcast with Michael John Cusick. In this episode, Michael and AJ Denson dive deeper into the transformative concepts from Michael's book, Sacred Attachment: Escaping Spiritual Exhaustion and Trusting Divine Love. Picking up where they left off, the conversation centers on the “Four S's” of attachment—Seen, Soothed, Safe, and Secure—and explores how these elements shape our spiritual and relational lives.Together, they reflect on the nuances of secure and insecure attachment, the power of rupture and repair in relationships, and how even well-intentioned parents and caregivers can struggle to meet these needs. Michael brings personal stories and practical insights, offering hope for healing attachment wounds, whether through new relational patterns or divine love.The episode also tackles the complex reality that attachment styles are not fixed but evolve with our circumstances and emotional states. Through compassionate storytelling and relatable examples, the hosts unravel what it means to be “soothed”—the crucial experience of knowing someone has “got you” in moments of distress, vulnerability, and everyday life.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

Welcome back to another episode of Restoring the Soul with Michael John Cusick. In today's conversation, Michael is joined by AJ Denson as they dive into the foundational building blocks of healthy relationships and spiritual well-being—the "Four S's" of attachment: seen, soothed, safe, and secure.Picking up from their previous conversation on Attachment Neuroscience and the Trinity, Michael unpacks how the story of God is ultimately a story of profound attachment, beginning with the indivisible unity of the Trinity itself. The discussion explores how these four components of attachment shape not only our childhood experiences but also our spiritual lives and adult relationships.Together, they reflect on what it means to be truly seen and delighted in, drawing parallels between the secure love a child needs and the way God knows and loves us deeply. With honest stories, cultural insights, and a grounding in Scripture, this episode offers hope for healing and restoration, even in the places where attachment may have been broken.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

In this episode, Dr. K provides a deep-dive lecture into Attachment Theory, moving beyond individual psychology to explore how our internal "wiring" creates the specific dynamics of our romantic relationships. He breaks down why we are often attracted to the very people who trigger our deepest insecurities and provides a scientific roadmap for healing your attachment style. What to expect in this episode: • The Three Major Styles: A breakdown of why 50% of people are Secure, while the rest fall into Anxious (fear of abandonment) or Avoidant (fear of closeness) patterns rooted in childhood experiences. • The "Match Made in Hell": An analysis of the magnetic attraction between anxious and avoidant individuals, creating a cycle where one person chases while the other retreats. • The Six Types of Love: How ancient Greek concepts like Ludus (game-playing) and Mania (obsessive) perfectly describe the modern behaviors of avoidant and anxious partners. • Protest Behaviors and Mixed Signals: A look at the "chameleon" effect in anxious individuals and the "devaluing" strategies avoidants use to keep people at arm's length. • The Path to Security: Practical tools for moving toward a Secure Attachment, including the development of mentalization (understanding your partner's mind) and inter-subjectivity (blending lives without losing your identity).HG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3SztHG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does it ever feel like you're dating the same person with a different name? If you notice that you're often gravitating toward emotionally unavailable people, this episode is for you.Joining Gretta to discuss attachment is Trevor Hanson, coach and founder of The Art of Healing. Trevor teaches relationship and attachment skills through the Secure Self Club. In this show, Trevor deconstructs common relationship dynamics and shares how to finally break the cycle of insecure attachment. This episode covers:How to move from an insecure attachment style to a more secure one.How anxious patterns can amplify avoidance.Why men who have an anxious attachment style may tend to get ghosted more.Insights on why men may be more prone to avoidant attachment.How porn and other addictions are often attempts to soothe unmet attachment needs.If you're ready to make powerful shifts in your life, this episode is for you. Connect with Trevor: Instagram | Trevor's Website | YouTube | TikTok Connect with Gretta:Free Guide: What to Say To A GhostFree and Private Facebook Support Group |  Instagram | copingwithghosting.comMusic: "Ghosted" by Gustavo ZaiahDisclaimer:  This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. Coping With Ghosting is not providing health care or psychological therapy services and is not diagnosing or treating any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or other registered professionals.Support the showNote to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

Today we're diving into what we're all working toward: secure attachment. What does it actually look like when both partners feel safe, seen, and able to be themselves? We'll explore the markers of secure attachment in marriage, how to recognize it, and most importantly - how to build it even if you didn't start there. Secure attachment isn't about being perfect; it's about repair, trust, and showing up consistently. Whether you're anxiously attached, avoidantly attached, or somewhere in between, this episode will show you the path toward greater security in your relationship. Because earned security is possible - and it changes everything. Watch on YouTube! Happening This Week! Sign up for the FREE EnneaSummit here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tylerzach.com/mh26/enneasummit?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tylerzach.com%2Fa%2F2148228842%2FLS2nNmzL The Enneagram and Marriage Coaching & Certification Masterclass course begins again February 12, use code COACH for discount ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I sit down with Irene Lyon to unpack why so many high performers eventually hit a wall. We break down what nervous system regulation actually means, how early attachment shapes stress resilience, and why optimization alone won't solve burnout. If you've been pushing harder, doing more, and still feeling something isn't right, this conversation will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface. This isn't about working less. It's about working from a regulated system instead of survival.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Why High Performers Burn Out04:15 - What Nervous System Regulation Really Means12:40 - Secure Attachment and Stress Resilience22:30 - Functional Freeze Explained34:10 - When Optimization Backfires46:25 - Suppression, Tension, and Stored Stress58:50 - Biological Impulse and Self-Awareness01:12:30 - Trauma, Completion, and Real Healing01:24:10 - What Real Progress Looks Like***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Welcome to another episode of Restoring the Soul with Michael John Cusick. Today's conversation dives deep into the heart of spiritual growth, as AJ Denson returns to interview Michael about his award-winning book, Sacred Attachment, Escaping Spiritual Exhaustion and Trusting in Divine Love.The episode explores Chapter 3, focusing on attachment theory and its profound connection to both psychology and the divine. Michael lays a foundation by tracing attachment back beyond neuroscience and child development, all the way to the ultimate example: the Trinity. Together, Michael and AJ unpack how the Trinity models perfect attunement and connection, and what this means for our relationship with God, others, and ourselves.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

In episode 160 Cath speaks about how we have to develop our own sense of power and sovereignty as we heal from childhood trauma and how this involves really moving away from external approval. She talks about developing self trust, ceasing to gaslight ourselves and the concept of unconditional love. We have to consciously unhook from societal messages so we can craft the life of our own dreams.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, I chat with Bryan Power about attachment styles and how our greatest failures—in life and relationships—can lead to our greatest successes.In 2024 Bryan Power and his wife went from having a pretty good relationship to experiencing a complete relationship failure—one that culminated with a restraining order that his wife put against him for her emotional safety. During their time apart Bryan and his wife would work on themselves and that work would ultimately allow them to put their relationship back together. Now Bryan shares his story and teaches others how to use the integrated attachment theory program that helped save his marriage and provides the tools necessary to continue having the healthy, happy relationship today.Connect with Bryan:Website - www.myrelationshipfail.comInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/myrelationshipfail/Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@myrelationshipfailLinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/bryanwpower/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/groups/myrelationshipfailWork with me—schedule a free 30-minute breakthrough consultation today. Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for entertainment and informational purposes only and does not substitute individual psychological advice. No AI—all content and episodes created and written by Ashley Melillo. *This is an affiliate link. Purchasing through affiliate links supports The Soul Horizon at no extra cost to you. Thanks for your support!

I wish someone had told me this when I first started dating. I made so many mistakes that landed me in some questionable relationships. The tips I share here has helped me choose a partner I enjoy life with. I'm breaking down the red flags to look out for, the green ones to pay attention to, the pace to move at so you don't end up with someone who blindsides you. This would help if you've been dating someone for a while or if you're now getting into the dating work. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

In this episode of the Observatory Podcast, Scott and LaRae Wright sit down with Stephen Karafiath and Carrie Cox, two friends in a new relationship who are intentionally building love through secure attachment, emotional honesty, and nervous-system awareness.Together, they explore what it means to “wade through the muck” instead of bypassing discomfort — how trauma can be alchemized, how boundaries create safety, and how a shared relational container allows for co-regulation, depth, and intimacy. This conversation touches on vulnerability, conscious partnership, and the courage required to stay present when things get messy — because that's often where transformation lives. Timestamps[00:00:18] Scott and LaRae introduce Stephen Karafiath and Carrie Cox[00:01:03] A new relationship built on depth, presence, and intention[00:02:45] Referencing the Safe to Love podcast conversation[00:03:44] Growth, humility, and learning to soften[00:04:42] Experiencing secure attachment for the first time[00:06:25] Vulnerability, grief, and emotional safety[00:09:22] Metasound, play, and relational witnessing[00:10:31] Water rituals and nature as grounding allies[00:12:46] “Wading through the muck” and where alchemy happens[00:26:02] Alchemizing inherited shame and childhood beliefs[00:26:21] Letting water and nature help hold what can't be fixed[00:32:45] Polyamory as a doorway into deeper relational conversations[00:34:04] Creating a relationship container that doesn't leak energy[00:40:32] Exploring depth together — even where there might be dragons[00:48:17] A shared nervous system and the power of co-regulation[00:49:29] Boundaries, communication, and relational clarity[00:55:46] Relational pillars: emotional, physical, spiritual, sexual[01:10:04] Closing reflections and gratitudeNoteable Quotes “From secure attachment, for what feels like the first time in my life.” – Carrie Cox [04:42]“I love to wade through the muck because I know that's where the alchemy occurs.” – Carrie Cox [12:46]“Setting a container around our relationship that's bigger than both of us, and not leaking any energy outside of it.” – Stephen Karafiath [34:04]“We can go right back down to the depths — you're not afraid to explore coves that might have dragons.” – Stephen Karafiath [40:32]“We've created this shared nervous system, and the benefit is co-regulation.” – Carrie Cox [48:17] Relevant links:Stephen InstagramCarrie's InstagramSubscribe to the podcast: Apple PodcastProduced by NC Productions

What happens when you have been friends for what seems like forever - you lose each other and find each other and in your older years decide to date but then to be blindsided by the avoidants pull away???Sarah shares her journey through friendship to falling in love with her friend and then the heartbreaking pulling away that started a journey into examining her anxious attachment style and healing. This is for you if you've ever been confused about your relationship going great and then suddenly coming to a halt. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

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In this final episode of our Parent Wound & Your Attachment Style series, we're talking about what inner child healing really is and why insight alone isn't enough to create secure attachment. If you've done the self-work, listened to the podcasts, and still feel stuck in the same relationship patterns, this episode will help you understand what's actually missing. True healing happens when we teach the nervous system that it's safe now, and today I'm walking you through how inner child work, mother wounds, father wounds, and secure attachment all connect.Inside the episode:What inner child healing truly involves - nervous system rewiring, emotional regulation, re-parenting yourself, and building earned secure attachmentHow mother wounds and father wounds show up in adulthood, shaping your relationship with emotions, self-worth, feedback, and loveThe three requirements for becoming securely attached, including creating safety in your body, developing self-trust through re-parenting, and choosing emotionally available relationshipsThis episode is about moving out of survival mode and into safety, not just in your thoughts, but in your body. When you heal your inner child at a nervous system level, your patterns begin to change, your standards rise, and secure relationships stop feeling unfamiliar and start feeling natural.Ready for deeper support? Work with Dr. Morgan

Social media will tell you that anxious-avoidant relationships are doomed. That avoidants are narcissists. That anxious people are just codependent. I'm here to tell you that's oversimplified BS that keeps people stuck.In this episode, I'm breaking down the anxious-avoidant dynamic with the nuance it actually deserves. After healing my own anxious attachment and being in a relationship with someone who's fearful-avoidant and has been actively working in therapy for over three years, I've learned that this isn't about finding a villain - it's about two nervous systems trying to feel safe in completely different ways.We're covering:The protest-withdrawal cycle: what it actually looks like and why it happens4 damaging myths social media spreads about this dynamic (and why they're wrong)What secure attachment would actually do in these moments - not as theory, but as a real, usable frameworkHow to hold both empathy AND boundaries at the same timeThe real questions to ask yourself if you're in this cycle right nowWhy "just stop chasing" and "just communicate better" aren't solutions -they're oversimplificationsThis episode doesn't tell you to leave or stay. It gives you the tools to make that decision from a grounded, informed place. Because you deserve relationships that feel secure, and you're capable of creating that - but only if you're willing to do your own work.Whether you're anxious, avoidant, or watching this pattern play out in your relationship, this one's for you.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Ending Codependency Course — Free Forever! Start Creating Relationships That Last. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-codependency-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-codependency-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-01-14-26&el=podcast Have you ever felt deeply turned off, or suddenly rejected, and had no idea why? What repels one attachment style can feel normal or even familiar to another. And many of the biggest turn offs in relationships aren't conscious choices, they're subconscious survival patterns. When those patterns go unhealed, they often create codependent dynamics that quietly sabotage connection.

In today's episode of Let's Get Vulnerable, I'm joined by my dear friend and the internet's favorite sex expert, Dr. Tara, for an honest, empowering, and deeply human conversation about sex, shame, and secure connection. We talk about why so many of us feel disconnected from pleasure, how sexual empowerment is about so much more than sex itself, and why learning to communicate your desires is one of the most powerful things you can do for your relationship and your life. This episode is warm, real, and expansive, and it will invite you to rethink what healthy, securely attached intimacy truly looks like.Inside the Episode:Why sexual empowerment starts with self-knowledge, not performance and how shame around sex gets wired early in our livesHow securely attached sex is built on emotional safety, communication, and feeling worthy of receiving (and why that kind of sex is not boring)Practical ways to start talking about sex with your partner, even if it feels scary, including how curiosity and compassion change everythingIf this conversation resonated with you, I highly recommend Dr. Tara's new book, How Do You Like It? A Guide for Getting What You Want in Bed. It's a foundational, shame-free guide to understanding your sexuality, communicating your needs, and creating deeply connected intimacy.

Which of these five moments challenged you the most this year, and what truth did it force you to finally face about who you really are?In the very last episode of the year, episode #789, Josh Trent reveals the most important lesson he learned from this year's guests.2025 was a year that stretched us, softened us, and asked more of our hearts than any year before. So tune in with us to discover the best of 2025 moments that rewired Josh's reality and helped thousands of our brothers and sisters remember who they are.This episode is the essence of what we lived through this year. Because people are not broken. They're just burdened. And these five teachers helped us all remember the light that never left.Join Josh and others in the Liberated Life Tribe to:Discover lifelong confidence, clarity, and a true sense of purpose with practical tools and a supportive community.Learn to rewrite your reality + master a new “reality game.”Unlock your highest potential in your physical, mental, emotional, spiritual + financial SELF beyond your wildest dreams through accessing the power of surrender to trust life + create new results.Learn how to set yourself free from self-sabotage, limiting beliefs, thoughts, and behaviors, so you will have lifelong confidence and clarity of purpose through a thriving community and practical tools, guiding you to play a new reality game.Click to Join[00:00] Best of 2025: The Five Moments That Rewired My Reality[01:58] Homo Luminous: Dr. Steven Young on Becoming a Light-Based Human[05:41] The Power of Asking What Instead of Why with Shelly Lefkoe[09:47] The Body as the Lens: Jonny Miller on Neural State and Secure Attachment[14:25] Becoming a Bio Photonic Superconductor with Mana Vitality's David[17:59] Only Honorable Men Feel Shame: Alison Armstrong's Relationship Wisdom

Friendship is one of the topics we get asked about most, so we brought back Dr. Marisa Franco, one of the world's leading voices on human connection. We dive straight into the heart of modern friendship and start with something that influences every relationship we have: attachment styles. Marisa explains how these patterns begin in childhood, how they show up differently in adulthood, and why none of us fit neatly into one category. We explore one of the biggest questions we hear from listeners: if you tend to be anxious or avoidant, do you end up attracting friends with the same tendencies? Marisa shares one of her biggest challenges in her research—secure people continue to find each other easily, while those who struggle with connection often repeat the same patterns with similar types of friends.Since many of you are new moms or navigating school-aged seasons, we ask Marisa what to do when a friend needs more from you than you can realistically give. She reminds us that it's okay to say no and that saying no with kindness helps preserve the relationship.Although friendship looks natural from the outside, we share honestly that it hasn't always been effortless for us either. Amy opens up about how isolating early motherhood felt and why making new friends during that time was unexpectedly hard. If you're in a season where friendship feels like it has to fall to the bottom of the list, Marisa offers a powerful reminder of why connection still matters—and what small steps can help bring it back to the forefront.Finally, we talk about the hardest part of friendship: knowing when it's time to end one. Should you let the relationship fade or have a more direct conversation? Marisa shares how to discern which path is right, and she gives guidance on something we rarely talk about—grieving a friendship.LINKS AND RESOURCES:Listen to HERself episode #145 Dr. Marisa Franco on the Importance of Adult Friendship; https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/adultfriendshipRead Dr. Marisa Franco's Book; Platonic: https://amzlink.to/az0lb2DLKWeWk Follow Marisa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco/Dr. Marisa's Website: https://drmarisagfranco.com/HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastLMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELFLet's connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.