Podcasts about Secure attachment

Welcome back to another episode of Restoring the Soul with Michael John Cusick. In today's conversation, Michael is joined by AJ Denson as they dive into the foundational building blocks of healthy relationships and spiritual well-being—the "Four S's" of attachment: seen, soothed, safe, and secure.Picking up from their previous conversation on Attachment Neuroscience and the Trinity, Michael unpacks how the story of God is ultimately a story of profound attachment, beginning with the indivisible unity of the Trinity itself. The discussion explores how these four components of attachment shape not only our childhood experiences but also our spiritual lives and adult relationships.Together, they reflect on what it means to be truly seen and delighted in, drawing parallels between the secure love a child needs and the way God knows and loves us deeply. With honest stories, cultural insights, and a grounding in Scripture, this episode offers hope for healing and restoration, even in the places where attachment may have been broken.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

In this episode, Dr. K provides a deep-dive lecture into Attachment Theory, moving beyond individual psychology to explore how our internal "wiring" creates the specific dynamics of our romantic relationships. He breaks down why we are often attracted to the very people who trigger our deepest insecurities and provides a scientific roadmap for healing your attachment style. What to expect in this episode: • The Three Major Styles: A breakdown of why 50% of people are Secure, while the rest fall into Anxious (fear of abandonment) or Avoidant (fear of closeness) patterns rooted in childhood experiences. • The "Match Made in Hell": An analysis of the magnetic attraction between anxious and avoidant individuals, creating a cycle where one person chases while the other retreats. • The Six Types of Love: How ancient Greek concepts like Ludus (game-playing) and Mania (obsessive) perfectly describe the modern behaviors of avoidant and anxious partners. • Protest Behaviors and Mixed Signals: A look at the "chameleon" effect in anxious individuals and the "devaluing" strategies avoidants use to keep people at arm's length. • The Path to Security: Practical tools for moving toward a Secure Attachment, including the development of mentalization (understanding your partner's mind) and inter-subjectivity (blending lives without losing your identity).HG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3SztHG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does it ever feel like you're dating the same person with a different name? If you notice that you're often gravitating toward emotionally unavailable people, this episode is for you.Joining Gretta to discuss attachment is Trevor Hanson, coach and founder of The Art of Healing. Trevor teaches relationship and attachment skills through the Secure Self Club. In this show, Trevor deconstructs common relationship dynamics and shares how to finally break the cycle of insecure attachment. This episode covers:How to move from an insecure attachment style to a more secure one.How anxious patterns can amplify avoidance.Why men who have an anxious attachment style may tend to get ghosted more.Insights on why men may be more prone to avoidant attachment.How porn and other addictions are often attempts to soothe unmet attachment needs.If you're ready to make powerful shifts in your life, this episode is for you. Connect with Trevor: Instagram | Trevor's Website | YouTube | TikTok Connect with Gretta:Free Guide: What to Say To A GhostFree and Private Facebook Support Group |  Instagram | copingwithghosting.comMusic: "Ghosted" by Gustavo ZaiahDisclaimer:  This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. Coping With Ghosting is not providing health care or psychological therapy services and is not diagnosing or treating any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or other registered professionals.Support the showNote to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

Today we're diving into what we're all working toward: secure attachment. What does it actually look like when both partners feel safe, seen, and able to be themselves? We'll explore the markers of secure attachment in marriage, how to recognize it, and most importantly - how to build it even if you didn't start there. Secure attachment isn't about being perfect; it's about repair, trust, and showing up consistently. Whether you're anxiously attached, avoidantly attached, or somewhere in between, this episode will show you the path toward greater security in your relationship. Because earned security is possible - and it changes everything. Watch on YouTube! Happening This Week! Sign up for the FREE EnneaSummit here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tylerzach.com/mh26/enneasummit?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tylerzach.com%2Fa%2F2148228842%2FLS2nNmzL The Enneagram and Marriage Coaching & Certification Masterclass course begins again February 12, use code COACH for discount ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What does a healthy relationship actually feel like? In this guest episode, Myrrhanda Novak shares a grounded, honest reflection on the emotional experience of being in a secure, supportive marriage and why safety, not chaos, is the foundation of real intimacy.This episode covers:Why you do not need to be needed to be lovedThe research behind “turning toward” bids for connectionHow autonomy strengthens commitment rather than threatens itWhat it really means to feel heard in a partnershipEmotional safety and why your nervous system knows the differenceWhy repair and accountability are essential for long-term connectionHow patriarchal narratives can quietly lower women's expectationsHealthy love is not about perfection. It is about two whole adults choosing each other, taking responsibility for themselves, and building an emotional space that feels steady, respectful, and safe. This conversation invites you to reflect on the energy inside your own relationships and what you truly deserve.Patreonhttps://www.patreon.com/womendontdothatInstagram - http://www.instagram.com/womendontdothat/TikTok- http://www.tiktok.com/@womendontdothatBlog- https://www.womendontdothat.com/blogPodcast- https://www.womendontdothat.com/podcastNewsletter- https://www.beaconnorthstrategies.com/contactwww.womendontdothat.comYouTube - http://www.youtube.com/@WOMENdontDOthatHow to find Stephanie Mitton:Twitter/X- https://twitter.com/StephanieMittonLinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephaniemitton/beaconnorthstrategies.comTikTok- https://www.tiktok.com/@stephmittonInstagram- https://www.instagram.com/stephaniemitton/Interested in sponsorship? Contact us at hello@womendontdothat.comProduced by Duke & CastleOur Latest Blog: https://www.womendontdothat.com/post/i-don-t-do-resolutions-i-do-this-perfect-for-busy-women Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

I sit down with Irene Lyon to unpack why so many high performers eventually hit a wall. We break down what nervous system regulation actually means, how early attachment shapes stress resilience, and why optimization alone won't solve burnout. If you've been pushing harder, doing more, and still feeling something isn't right, this conversation will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface. This isn't about working less. It's about working from a regulated system instead of survival.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Why High Performers Burn Out04:15 - What Nervous System Regulation Really Means12:40 - Secure Attachment and Stress Resilience22:30 - Functional Freeze Explained34:10 - When Optimization Backfires46:25 - Suppression, Tension, and Stored Stress58:50 - Biological Impulse and Self-Awareness01:12:30 - Trauma, Completion, and Real Healing01:24:10 - What Real Progress Looks Like***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Welcome to another episode of Restoring the Soul with Michael John Cusick. Today's conversation dives deep into the heart of spiritual growth, as AJ Denson returns to interview Michael about his award-winning book, Sacred Attachment, Escaping Spiritual Exhaustion and Trusting in Divine Love.The episode explores Chapter 3, focusing on attachment theory and its profound connection to both psychology and the divine. Michael lays a foundation by tracing attachment back beyond neuroscience and child development, all the way to the ultimate example: the Trinity. Together, Michael and AJ unpack how the Trinity models perfect attunement and connection, and what this means for our relationship with God, others, and ourselves.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

In episode 160 Cath speaks about how we have to develop our own sense of power and sovereignty as we heal from childhood trauma and how this involves really moving away from external approval. She talks about developing self trust, ceasing to gaslight ourselves and the concept of unconditional love. We have to consciously unhook from societal messages so we can craft the life of our own dreams.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Trauma is not what happens to us, but what we hold inside in the absence of an empathetic witness. The salvation, then, is to be found in the body..."What if trauma isn't something to heal or release but something that formed intelligently in response to life?In this episode, I sit down with Will Rezin of Trauma & Somatics for a deep, grounding conversation on trauma, attachment, procrastination, nervous system regulation, and why so many of us never actually feel completion, only “what's next?”This episode isn't about fixing yourself. It's about understanding how you formed and what becomes possible when survival isn't the only goal anymore.

In this episode, I chat with Bryan Power about attachment styles and how our greatest failures—in life and relationships—can lead to our greatest successes.In 2024 Bryan Power and his wife went from having a pretty good relationship to experiencing a complete relationship failure—one that culminated with a restraining order that his wife put against him for her emotional safety. During their time apart Bryan and his wife would work on themselves and that work would ultimately allow them to put their relationship back together. Now Bryan shares his story and teaches others how to use the integrated attachment theory program that helped save his marriage and provides the tools necessary to continue having the healthy, happy relationship today.Connect with Bryan:Website - www.myrelationshipfail.comInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/myrelationshipfail/Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@myrelationshipfailLinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/bryanwpower/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/groups/myrelationshipfailWork with me—schedule a free 30-minute breakthrough consultation today. Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for entertainment and informational purposes only and does not substitute individual psychological advice. No AI—all content and episodes created and written by Ashley Melillo. *This is an affiliate link. Purchasing through affiliate links supports The Soul Horizon at no extra cost to you. Thanks for your support!

Old fave – new intro! Therapists Sarah McConnell and Helene Igwebuike joined us last Jan for a brilliant chat about Attachment Theory. We dive into what it means to feel securely attached and what it's like when you don't. They break down how we form and manage attachments in all kinds of relationships – whether it's with a partner, family, or friends. And how, by understanding our own attachment style, we can improve these connections and make a huge difference to our overall well-being.You can also join Gwen and Kate as they try (with varying degrees of success) to connect with their inner child.Sarah and Helene specialise in Emotionally Focused Therapy. You can find out more about this, as well as find registered therapists, at the British Emotionally Focused Therapy Centre.Find out more about Sarah McConnell and Helene Igwebuike.To journal on the 12 Questions that Gwen asks Kate in the intro, visit Beth Kempton's Substack post.Find out more! For all RUMP info in one place: visit our linkt.ree Get a shout-out:Want a mention on the next RUMPette? Tell us your feedback or what you do to make yourself feel good: rightupmypodcast@gmail.com Support RUMP: If you enjoy the podcast, please subscribe, share with your friends and leave a review. It takes less than 60 seconds and really makes a difference in helping people discover the podcast. Thank you! Join the RUMP Club! Support the team and access exclusive content from as little as £3 p/month at: Right Up My Podcast | Patreon Or, if you'd like to make a one-off donation, you can buy us a virtual coffee from Buy Me a Coffee! Be social with us:Instagram Facebook TikTok Thank you to our team:Music – Andrew GrimesArtwork – Erica Frances GeorgeSocial Media – Kate BallsRUMPette Voiceover – Dave Jones

Hi lovers, it's officially love month, and leading into Valentine's Day, we're revisiting some of the most powerful relationship advice we've heard on the podcast, from 3 of the internet's top couples therapists and relationship experts.Whether you're single or in a long-term relationship, this episode is for you if you're grappling with an anxious or avoidant attachment, fear around intimacy/relationships, or learning how to regulate and rebuild during conflict.Thankfully, I've had the privilege of talking with the best when it comes to navigating love and partnership, which has helped me immeasurably in building the foundation of my own relationship. So today, I'm bringing you a roundup of the top advice from:❤️ Baya Voce, MSW, Relationship Repair Expert (Supervised by Esther Perez): The art of repair, and how to maintain love and connection through conflict. Baya's 4-step relationship repair framework, why curiosity is the antidote to defensiveness, and how to stay regulated during conflict. (Listen to our full episode here.)❤️ Trevor Hanson, Marriage & Family Therapist, Founder of The Art of Healing: Why fear is the #1 killer of relationships and how to communicate through it. Plus, how to navigate common communication “landmines” and how anxious & avoidant partners can build safe emotional intimacy. (Listen to our full episode here.)❤️ Jess Baum, Psychotherapist, Couples Counselor, & Author of Anxiously Attached: How our attachment styles are amplified or healed based on your relationship, breaking our anxious attachment patterns and prioritizing consistent love, recognizing red and green flags in chemistry, and moving from codependency to interdependence. (Listen to our full episode here.)Wherever you are in your relationship journey, know that you are loved!  Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

I wish someone had told me this when I first started dating. I made so many mistakes that landed me in some questionable relationships. The tips I share here has helped me choose a partner I enjoy life with. I'm breaking down the red flags to look out for, the green ones to pay attention to, the pace to move at so you don't end up with someone who blindsides you. This would help if you've been dating someone for a while or if you're now getting into the dating work. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

In this episode of the Observatory Podcast, Scott and LaRae Wright sit down with Stephen Karafiath and Carrie Cox, two friends in a new relationship who are intentionally building love through secure attachment, emotional honesty, and nervous-system awareness.Together, they explore what it means to “wade through the muck” instead of bypassing discomfort — how trauma can be alchemized, how boundaries create safety, and how a shared relational container allows for co-regulation, depth, and intimacy. This conversation touches on vulnerability, conscious partnership, and the courage required to stay present when things get messy — because that's often where transformation lives. Timestamps[00:00:18] Scott and LaRae introduce Stephen Karafiath and Carrie Cox[00:01:03] A new relationship built on depth, presence, and intention[00:02:45] Referencing the Safe to Love podcast conversation[00:03:44] Growth, humility, and learning to soften[00:04:42] Experiencing secure attachment for the first time[00:06:25] Vulnerability, grief, and emotional safety[00:09:22] Metasound, play, and relational witnessing[00:10:31] Water rituals and nature as grounding allies[00:12:46] “Wading through the muck” and where alchemy happens[00:26:02] Alchemizing inherited shame and childhood beliefs[00:26:21] Letting water and nature help hold what can't be fixed[00:32:45] Polyamory as a doorway into deeper relational conversations[00:34:04] Creating a relationship container that doesn't leak energy[00:40:32] Exploring depth together — even where there might be dragons[00:48:17] A shared nervous system and the power of co-regulation[00:49:29] Boundaries, communication, and relational clarity[00:55:46] Relational pillars: emotional, physical, spiritual, sexual[01:10:04] Closing reflections and gratitudeNoteable Quotes “From secure attachment, for what feels like the first time in my life.” – Carrie Cox [04:42]“I love to wade through the muck because I know that's where the alchemy occurs.” – Carrie Cox [12:46]“Setting a container around our relationship that's bigger than both of us, and not leaking any energy outside of it.” – Stephen Karafiath [34:04]“We can go right back down to the depths — you're not afraid to explore coves that might have dragons.” – Stephen Karafiath [40:32]“We've created this shared nervous system, and the benefit is co-regulation.” – Carrie Cox [48:17] Relevant links:Stephen InstagramCarrie's InstagramSubscribe to the podcast: Apple PodcastProduced by NC Productions

What happens when you have been friends for what seems like forever - you lose each other and find each other and in your older years decide to date but then to be blindsided by the avoidants pull away???Sarah shares her journey through friendship to falling in love with her friend and then the heartbreaking pulling away that started a journey into examining her anxious attachment style and healing. This is for you if you've ever been confused about your relationship going great and then suddenly coming to a halt. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

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In this final episode of our Parent Wound & Your Attachment Style series, we're talking about what inner child healing really is and why insight alone isn't enough to create secure attachment. If you've done the self-work, listened to the podcasts, and still feel stuck in the same relationship patterns, this episode will help you understand what's actually missing. True healing happens when we teach the nervous system that it's safe now, and today I'm walking you through how inner child work, mother wounds, father wounds, and secure attachment all connect.Inside the episode:What inner child healing truly involves - nervous system rewiring, emotional regulation, re-parenting yourself, and building earned secure attachmentHow mother wounds and father wounds show up in adulthood, shaping your relationship with emotions, self-worth, feedback, and loveThe three requirements for becoming securely attached, including creating safety in your body, developing self-trust through re-parenting, and choosing emotionally available relationshipsThis episode is about moving out of survival mode and into safety, not just in your thoughts, but in your body. When you heal your inner child at a nervous system level, your patterns begin to change, your standards rise, and secure relationships stop feeling unfamiliar and start feeling natural.Ready for deeper support? Work with Dr. Morgan

Social media will tell you that anxious-avoidant relationships are doomed. That avoidants are narcissists. That anxious people are just codependent. I'm here to tell you that's oversimplified BS that keeps people stuck.In this episode, I'm breaking down the anxious-avoidant dynamic with the nuance it actually deserves. After healing my own anxious attachment and being in a relationship with someone who's fearful-avoidant and has been actively working in therapy for over three years, I've learned that this isn't about finding a villain - it's about two nervous systems trying to feel safe in completely different ways.We're covering:The protest-withdrawal cycle: what it actually looks like and why it happens4 damaging myths social media spreads about this dynamic (and why they're wrong)What secure attachment would actually do in these moments - not as theory, but as a real, usable frameworkHow to hold both empathy AND boundaries at the same timeThe real questions to ask yourself if you're in this cycle right nowWhy "just stop chasing" and "just communicate better" aren't solutions -they're oversimplificationsThis episode doesn't tell you to leave or stay. It gives you the tools to make that decision from a grounded, informed place. Because you deserve relationships that feel secure, and you're capable of creating that - but only if you're willing to do your own work.Whether you're anxious, avoidant, or watching this pattern play out in your relationship, this one's for you.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

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Move toward secure attachment while you sleep. These affirmations help heal old relationship wounds, allowing you to feel safer, more secure, and less anxious in your connections with others. Unwind now with our positive sleep affirmations podcast. Our soothing affirmations relax the mind and prepare the body for rest. Hit play, and drift into Good Sleep... Listen to more positive sleep affirmations by subscribing to the audio podcast in your favorite podcast app:  Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/good-sleep-positive-affirmations/id1704608129⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/3OuJvYoprqh7nPK44ZsdKE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And start your morning with Optimal Living Daily! Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/optimal-living-daily-mental-health-motivation/id1067688314⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/1hygb4nGhNhlLn4pBnN00j?si=ca60dcfd758b44b4⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Move toward secure attachment while you sleep. These affirmations help heal old relationship wounds, allowing you to feel safer, more secure, and less anxious in your connections with others. Unwind now with our positive sleep affirmations podcast. Our soothing affirmations relax the mind and prepare the body for rest. Hit play, and drift into Good Sleep... Listen to more positive sleep affirmations by subscribing to the audio podcast in your favorite podcast app:  Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/good-sleep-positive-affirmations/id1704608129⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/3OuJvYoprqh7nPK44ZsdKE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And start your morning with Optimal Living Daily! Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/optimal-living-daily-mental-health-motivation/id1067688314⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/1hygb4nGhNhlLn4pBnN00j?si=ca60dcfd758b44b4⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when someone who is working on their attachment style meets with an avoidant attached style person who may not be working on their healing - they set boundaries. How does that work out? Listen to this podcast as Sarah explains the hot and too heavy too soon dynamics of her relationship, setting boundaries and what happened next. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Ending Codependency Course — Free Forever! Start Creating Relationships That Last. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-codependency-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-codependency-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-01-14-26&el=podcast Have you ever felt deeply turned off, or suddenly rejected, and had no idea why? What repels one attachment style can feel normal or even familiar to another. And many of the biggest turn offs in relationships aren't conscious choices, they're subconscious survival patterns. When those patterns go unhealed, they often create codependent dynamics that quietly sabotage connection.

In this episode Cath speaks more about earned secure attachment, infant attachment and its relationship to adult attachment and how we can shift our patterns. There is always hope to shift our attachment patterns and internal working models is relating and Cath speaks about therapy and important ideas to keep in mind when hoping to shift to a more secure way of operating.If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today's episode of Let's Get Vulnerable, I'm joined by my dear friend and the internet's favorite sex expert, Dr. Tara, for an honest, empowering, and deeply human conversation about sex, shame, and secure connection. We talk about why so many of us feel disconnected from pleasure, how sexual empowerment is about so much more than sex itself, and why learning to communicate your desires is one of the most powerful things you can do for your relationship and your life. This episode is warm, real, and expansive, and it will invite you to rethink what healthy, securely attached intimacy truly looks like.Inside the Episode:Why sexual empowerment starts with self-knowledge, not performance and how shame around sex gets wired early in our livesHow securely attached sex is built on emotional safety, communication, and feeling worthy of receiving (and why that kind of sex is not boring)Practical ways to start talking about sex with your partner, even if it feels scary, including how curiosity and compassion change everythingIf this conversation resonated with you, I highly recommend Dr. Tara's new book, How Do You Like It? A Guide for Getting What You Want in Bed. It's a foundational, shame-free guide to understanding your sexuality, communicating your needs, and creating deeply connected intimacy.

In this episode Cath starts to speak about some of the key points of attachment theory, why this is important for us as adults and starting to cultivate a sense of being fully self supporting of ourselves. With Reparenting we are working to cultivate a relationship with all our selves and to tend gently to these parts. She uses an example of a boundary from her own life to demonstrate self protection (even if others disagree).If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Send us a textIn this week's episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm exploring attachment from a different angle and sharing how boundaries and recovery can actually create secure attachment, even if you didn't grow up with it.Instead of focusing on attachment labels, we look at how internal safety, self-trust, and boundaries change the way we show up in romantic relationships.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:The difference between anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure attachment and how they often show up in adult relationshipsHow self-abandonment fuels insecure attachment patterns like chasing, distancing, and resentmentWhy boundaries aren't about pushing people away, but about staying connected to yourselfHow boundary work creates internal safety and builds self-trust over timeWhy secure attachment can be developed in adulthood through recovery and consistent boundary practiceSecure attachment isn't something you either got in childhood or missed forever. When you stop abandoning yourself, you stop building abandonment into your relationships. Boundaries help you stay present, grounded, and connected to who you are, so relationships stop feeling like life or death and start feeling safe.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive practical tools for building emotional safety, healthier relationships, and a more whole life.Thank you for listening. If this episode resonated, take a screenshot, share it in your stories, and tag me. And don't forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and share your key takeaways.Learn more about Fragmented to Whole athttps://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained in your relationships? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to see where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it.Start here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session

Send us a textIn this week's episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm exploring attachment from a different angle and sharing how boundaries and recovery can actually create secure attachment, even if you didn't grow up with it.Instead of focusing on attachment labels, we look at how internal safety, self-trust, and boundaries change the way we show up in romantic relationships.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:The difference between anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure attachment and how they often show up in adult relationshipsHow self-abandonment fuels insecure attachment patterns like chasing, distancing, and resentmentWhy boundaries aren't about pushing people away, but about staying connected to yourselfHow boundary work creates internal safety and builds self-trust over timeWhy secure attachment can be developed in adulthood through recovery and consistent boundary practiceSecure attachment isn't something you either got in childhood or missed forever. When you stop abandoning yourself, you stop building abandonment into your relationships. Boundaries help you stay present, grounded, and connected to who you are, so relationships stop feeling like life or death and start feeling safe.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive practical tools for building emotional safety, healthier relationships, and a more whole life.Thank you for listening. If this episode resonated, take a screenshot, share it in your stories, and tag me. And don't forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and share your key takeaways.Learn more about Fragmented to Whole athttps://higherpowercc.com/podcast/Feeling drained in your relationships? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to see where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it.Start here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterLinkedinWork with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session

One of the most sought after answers in our time right now is how to manage a relationship with an Avoidant Attached person and, what is really going on in their minds. This episode helps an Avoidant Attached person understand themselves better, as well as starter healing journey. It also helps those who are interested in understanding and appreciating their avoidant attached friends and partner better.Drop a comment and let me know how this particular episode changed your perspective.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

When high performance becomes the way you earn love, success eventually feels empty. This faith-rooted episode reveals why your nervous system struggles to feel God's nearness — and how belonging begins not with effort, but with being seen and held by Him.Every high-capacity human reaches a point where success no longer satisfies — not because they've failed, but because they've spent years earning what God always meant to give: belonging.In this sacred Sunday episode, Julie helps you understand why your nervous system struggles to feel safe, soothed, or connected with God — even when your faith is strong — and why this has nothing to do with spiritual weakness. Instead, it reveals the deep identity patterns formed through pressure, performance, and survival.Drawing from Scripture and identity science, Julie explores the four core human needs — to be seen, soothed, safe, and secure — through both attachment theory and biblical story. You'll hear how Hagar, David, Jesus, and Isaiah all encountered God not through religious performance, but through relationship.This episode speaks directly into the emotional exhaustion, role confusion, spiritual fatigue, and identity drift high achievers often carry quietly — naming what has been difficult to articulate:you haven't been resisting God…your body has been relearning what unconditional love feels like.You'll learn:• why success feels empty when belonging comes through performance • how the nervous system confuses spiritual connection with survival patterns • why calm and stillness feel unfamiliar for high performers• the four core needs Scripture affirms: seen, soothed, safe, secure• how identity margin collapses when you receive belonging instead of earning it• why surrender is not collapse — it's coming home• how beloved identity expands capacity without adding pressure• why God never asks you to shrink, dim, or disappear in order to be lovedMicro Recalibration (individual + team) Ask: “Which part of me went quiet to stay loved — and what is it asking for now?”Then notice:• What sensation rises when I acknowledge it?• What does this part need: soothing, truth, rest, or presence?Team Extension:“What would shift if we created environments where belonging is received, not earned?”If this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find their way home.If this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Join the next Friday Recalibration Live experience → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Books to read (Tidy categories on Amazon- I've read/listened to each recommended title.) → One link to all things This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

Do you ever feel like your body is reacting for you—especially in moments of stress or around certain people?In this powerful episode, I sit down with Jessica Bishop, a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Yoga Teacher, to dive into her personal journey of healing anxiety, nervous system regulation, and living with essential tremors. Jess shares her experience of relying on medication for years, and how somatic healing and learning to regulate her nervous system not only transformed her physical symptoms, it changed the way she relates and shows up with others.We explore how Jess's essential tremors, panic attacks, and chronic anxiety once controlled her life—and how somatic practices, emotional regulation, and embodiment  brought real, lasting anxiety relief. She talks about how she reduced her need for medication, left an unhealthy marriage, and learned about secure attachment, leading to a healthier relationship and a deeper sense of emotional safety in her body.This conversation gently unveils how body-based therapy and somatic practices can heal trauma, transform anxiety, and reshape the relationships you attract—starting with the relationship you have with your own body.In this episode, you'll learn:Simple somatic tools for healing anxiety and stressThe power of emotional safety in trauma recoveryHow somatic practices help regulate your nervous system and stress response.What it feels like to experience secure attachment in your bodyHow nervous system regulation can support healthier relationshipsThe difference between intellectual awareness and embodied awareness. Why yoga is often the gateway practice into somatic experiencing. How to tell the difference between a "threat response" and the feeling of "butterflies"If you're on a journey to trust your body again or notice how your relationships impact your nervous system, you're not alone. Your body has wisdom, and as you create more safety, it has the potential to change.Much love,LaurieClick here for a video on how to leave a review to receive a free somatic stabilization/grounding exercise. The podcast graphic is different from the current one. Once you complete it and send me a picture I will send you the video. My email is laurie@laurieejames.comThank you in advance. Click here to learn about my NEW “Nervous System Regulation Starter Kit” Free ResourcesClick here to schedule a FREE inquiry call with me.Click here for my FREE “Beginner's Guide to Somatic Healing”Click here for my FREE Core Values ExerciseClick here to purchase my book: Sandwiched: A Memoir of Holding On and Letting GoWebsiteConnect with Jessica BishopPlease leave me feedback. I cannot respond so if you'd like me to respond, please leave your email***********************DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL, MEDICAL OR PROFESSIONAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT A LICENSED THERAPIST IF YOU ARE EXPERIENCING SUICIDAL THOUGHTS. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT A LICENSED MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL WITH RESPECT TO ANY MEDICAL ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Connection to others is our emotional lifeblood. The quality of our earliest connection determines how safe we feel in our bodies and how safe and secure we feel in the world. Healing emotional baggage is a crucial first step in fostering a secure attachment and achieving relationship healing, but we can not do it alone. It is only in relationship that we can heal relationship trauma. How do we hold compassionate space for people when we are also suffering? To explore how to heal imposed emotional baggage, Harvesting Happiness Podcast Host Lisa Cypers Kamen speaks with therapist and author Jessica Baum, LMHC. Jessica offers a step-by-step scientific approach to healing emotional baggage and describes how we develop adaptive strategies to maintain connection and protectors to guard from what is out of our control. This episode is proudly sponsored by: Aura Frames — Offers the world's smartest digital picture frame. An easy and beautiful solution to instantly frame photos from your smartphone. Visit https://auraframes.com/ and use promo code HHTR at checkout to get $35 off Aura's best-selling Carver Mat frames. Like what you're hearing? WANT MORE SOUND IDEAS FOR DEEPER THINKING? Check out More Mental Fitness by Harvesting Happiness bonus content available exclusively on https://harvestinghappiness.substack.com/ and https://medium.com/@HarvestingHappiness.

Connection to others is our emotional lifeblood. The quality of our earliest connection determines how safe we feel in our bodies and how safe and secure we feel in the world. Healing emotional baggage is a crucial first step in fostering a secure attachment and achieving relationship healing, but we can not do it alone. It is only in relationship that we can heal relationship trauma. How do we hold compassionate space for people when we are also suffering? To explore how to heal imposed emotional baggage, Harvesting Happiness Podcast Host Lisa Cypers Kamen speaks with therapist and author Jessica Baum, LMHC. Jessica offers a step-by-step scientific approach to healing emotional baggage and describes how we develop adaptive strategies to maintain connection and protectors to guard from what is out of our control. This episode is proudly sponsored by: Aura Frames — Offers the world's smartest digital picture frame. An easy and beautiful solution to instantly frame photos from your smartphone. Visit https://auraframes.com/ and use promo code HHTR at checkout to get $35 off Aura's best-selling Carver Mat frames. Like what you're hearing? WANT MORE SOUND IDEAS FOR DEEPER THINKING? Check out More Mental Fitness by Harvesting Happiness bonus content available exclusively on https://harvestinghappiness.substack.com/ and https://medium.com/@HarvestingHappiness.

Many anxious and secure attached persons have dated avoidant attached persons who seemed really ready for a long term committed relationships until.... things got heavy. Many were left confused at their behaviours as some avoidant back-peddled, withdrew, seem to gaslight or altogether ghosted. In this episode, one of my guests shares her distress in trying to navigate her relationships as she tries to learn about her ex's behaviours, and her own. Give this a listen if you want to feel seen and validated while gaining some insights into the mind (and actions) of an avoidant attached person. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Secure attachment is a term that gets thrown around, but it's often not clear what it means or why it matters! In fact, it's a decades old psychological concept that points to the protective impact on a child's lifelong wellbeing of having just one caring adult. Therapist and author of Raising Securely Attached Kids, Eli Harwood AKA the Attachment Nerd, joins the podcast to dissect the critical role of secure attachment on people's development and explain ways to achieve it in our families. Show Notes: Raising Securely Attached Kids Watch the full episode on Youtube! Join the LESS AWKWARD MEMBERSHIP HUB Go to Quince.com/AWKWARD for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns.  Download the FREE Playbook for Getting Your Kid to Talk Order our book This Is So Awkward Check out all our speaking and curriculum at www.lessawkward.com and our super comfy products at www.myoomla.com To bring us to your school or community email operations@lessawkward.com To submit listener questions email podcast@lessawkward.com Produced by Peoples Media Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit stayorgo.substack.comEpisode 86: Ohhhh my loves — this one's a biggie.

If you've ever wondered what real secure attachment feels like, not the Instagram version, not the watered-down definition, but the lived, embodied, grounded experience, this episode is for you. In this final installment of the Attachment Style SOS Series, I'm walking you through what secure attachment looks like in your nervous system, your identity, your dating life, and your relationships. My hope is that this episode helps you finally understand what you're building toward and reminds you that becoming secure is your birthright.Inside the episode, we cover:What secure attachment actually feels like in your body — the calm, presence, self-trust, and openness that come from a regulated nervous system.The identity of a secure person — clear boundaries, emotional maturity, interdependence, and the ability to stay anchored in yourself.How secure attachment shows up in dating and relationships — slow-build connection, healthy conflict, choosing availability, and leaving chaos behind.If you've been listening to this series thinking, “This is what I want for myself… but I don't know how to get there,” I want you to know this:➡️ You can become securely attached.➡️ You can rewire your brain.➡️ You can return home to the version of you who trusts, loves, and receives love.And if you're ready for real support…This is the FINAL call to apply to the Empowered.Secure.Loved Program.The program has helped over a thousand people become securely attached and if your heart has been whispering “I'm meant for this,” this is your sign.

Friendship is one of the topics we get asked about most, so we brought back Dr. Marisa Franco, one of the world's leading voices on human connection. We dive straight into the heart of modern friendship and start with something that influences every relationship we have: attachment styles. Marisa explains how these patterns begin in childhood, how they show up differently in adulthood, and why none of us fit neatly into one category. We explore one of the biggest questions we hear from listeners: if you tend to be anxious or avoidant, do you end up attracting friends with the same tendencies? Marisa shares one of her biggest challenges in her research—secure people continue to find each other easily, while those who struggle with connection often repeat the same patterns with similar types of friends.Since many of you are new moms or navigating school-aged seasons, we ask Marisa what to do when a friend needs more from you than you can realistically give. She reminds us that it's okay to say no and that saying no with kindness helps preserve the relationship.Although friendship looks natural from the outside, we share honestly that it hasn't always been effortless for us either. Amy opens up about how isolating early motherhood felt and why making new friends during that time was unexpectedly hard. If you're in a season where friendship feels like it has to fall to the bottom of the list, Marisa offers a powerful reminder of why connection still matters—and what small steps can help bring it back to the forefront.Finally, we talk about the hardest part of friendship: knowing when it's time to end one. Should you let the relationship fade or have a more direct conversation? Marisa shares how to discern which path is right, and she gives guidance on something we rarely talk about—grieving a friendship.LINKS AND RESOURCES:Listen to HERself episode #145 Dr. Marisa Franco on the Importance of Adult Friendship; https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/adultfriendshipRead Dr. Marisa Franco's Book; Platonic: https://amzlink.to/az0lb2DLKWeWk Follow Marisa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco/Dr. Marisa's Website: https://drmarisagfranco.com/HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastLMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELFLet's connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

In this episode, you'll learn five practical steps to develop secure attachment. Discover how to calm triggers, express needs, and choose healthier relationships.►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio ►If you're feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get Sandy's books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C ►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching ►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear ►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ ►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ ► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ ►Get Amazon Music Unlimited FREE for 30 days at https://getamazonmusic.com/lastfirstdate  

Send us a textIn this powerful episode of The Sober Butterfly Podcast, Nadine sits down with Bryan Power to explore how attachment styles, childhood wounds, emotional triggers, and deep inner work can transform relationships from the inside out.Bryan shares his remarkable journey—from a sudden breakup and restraining order to rebuilding a healthier, stronger marriage through self-awareness and integrated attachment theory. Together, they unpack the six pillars of emotional healing inspired by Thais Gibson's work: core wounds, needs, emotions, boundaries, communication, and behaviors.This episode offers actionable tools for anyone navigating relationship challenges, breaking toxic patterns, or healing from trauma. Whether you're partnered, single, or somewhere in between, Bryan's story is a reminder that change is possible—and love can be rebuilt when we learn to understand ourselves.Resources Mentioned:

You may have heard about secure attachment styles, but have you had the opportunity to listen to Clayton Olson speak about your type? He will clarify every question. He masterfully attends to ideas spoken out loud and the nuance suggested in every story. Catch our conversation and follow him on YouTube. @claytonolsoncoachingHe's the best of the best.I also have a few announcements:My new Writer's Membership has an array of support for the beginner and the experienced writer. You can work at your own pace and also take part in the live group coaching. You'll love the platform where the technology is straightforward. I promise

Struggling with relationship anxiety and fear of intimacy or rejection? This episode will guide you through anxious and avoidant attachment patterns, to the core healing that can help us find confidence and security in relationships.I'm joined by Trevor Hanson, a marriage and family therapist who has helped thousands of individuals and couples heal attachment wounds and build secure, connected, confident relationships. His work has been featured by the Gottman Institute, and he's the founder of The Art of Healing, where he teaches frameworks for transforming insecurity into emotional safety.We break down the real reasons we often feel insecure, anxious, avoidant, or fearful in relationships… and how to finally feel secure, grounded, and confident in love. You'll learn the tools, communication shifts, and emotional skills that create safe + connected relationships.In this episode, we cover:How to build real confidence in relationships (and the cost of not working on your confidence)Why insecurity, fear, and jealousy appear — even in good relationshipsPractical tools for anxious attachment self-soothingWhy fear is the #1 killer of relationships and how to move through itHow avoidant partners can build emotional intimacy without feeling overwhelmedFear-based motivation vs love-based motivationHow to navigate communication “landmines'How to support a partner who feels fear or anxiety in the relationshipThe TEMPO framework and how it interrupts anxious spiralsFollow Trevor on InstagramTrevor's website: https://theartofhealingbytrevor.com  Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Dr. Alexandra is in-studio with her husband, Todd, for this special two-part conversation about loving across potentially dealbreaking differences. Inspired by the Netflix show, Nobody Wants This, starring Kristen Bell and Adam Brody, Dr. Alexandra and Todd reflect on navigating a faith difference, with Dr. Alexandra ultimately converting to Judaism in preparation for their marriage. They discuss the larger question: how can a couple go about navigating ANY potentially dealbreaking difference? In this second part of their studio conversation, Dr. Alexandra and Todd talk about scorekeeping, with gender differences, attachment styles and general disposition/worldview in mind, best practices for the “winner” and “loser” in a change/sacrifice scenario, how to approach making sacrifices to stave off resentment…and then the REAL juicy stuff: does Todd hate that Dr. Alexandra is now a Swiftie like him? Plus, hear her hot take on shelving conversations for later.Resources worth mentioning from the episode:Reimagining Love Episode, Nobody Wants This: How to Love Across Potentially Dealbreaking Differences (Part 1) with My Husband, Todd https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/nobody-wants-this-how-to-love-across-potentially-dealbreaking-differences-with-my-husband-todd/Watch our FULL IN-STUDIO CONVERSATION on YouTube:https://youtu.be/4R40kazeU4Q?t=9Reimagining Love Episode, Love Stories: Toddcast https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/love-stories-toddcast/Managing Back to School Stress on MasterClass:  http://masterclass.com/backtoschoolContinue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Cultivate connection by subscribing to Dr. Alexandra's newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Samantha Reed Cleaver is an Attachment Trauma Specialist and host of The Relationship Rehab Podcast on a mission to help people who feel anxious in their relationships heal inner child wounds, trauma, and sabotaging patterns so they can feel calm, confident, and secure in love. Through her own healing journey, she discovered that her anxious attachment style was the biggest block keeping her stuck in toxic dynamics and disconnected from herself.In this conversation, Samantha and Kate discuss why ambitious women often struggle with feeling anxious in relationships and how this trauma leaks into their business and career success.Are you ready to stop losing yourself in relationships? Tune in to learn:

Joining me this week is Dr. Peter Vermeulen, psychologist, author, and founder of Autism in Context. Peter has spent more than 35 years helping families, educators, and clinicians better understand autism and what it truly means to live a happy, meaningful life.   Together we explore:   - Why happiness and well-being deserve as much attention as therapies or interventions for autistic individuals - and what we can learn from autistic people who are thriving. - How reframing "stereotyped interests" as passions and talents can open doors to meaning, confidence, and even careers. - Why predictability is so essential for autistic children's sense of safety and how parents can build that into daily routines and relationships to foster a secure attachment bond. - Just like you feed your child before they get hangry, how parents can "pre-regulate" their child's nervous system throughout the day to prevent overload, meltdowns, and dysregulation. - Why autistic children absolutely do form attachments — and how differences in communication and perception can lead to misunderstandings in connection, not an absence of it. - Practical ways to nurture love and security (Spoiler: things like creating predictable rituals, using concrete symbols, establishing shared routines to strengthen your bond, and more!)   Peter's message is both deeply compassionate and hopeful: autistic individuals are capable of happiness, love, and purpose — and when we meet them with curiosity and respect for how their brains see the world, we can help them build lives filled with meaning and joy.     LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST:

In this insightful episode of The Feminine Frequency, Amy Natalie welcomes licensed mental health counselor and best selling author, Jessica Baum, for a deep conversation on attachment, emotional safety, and the path to relational healing.Together, they explore how childhood experiences and early caregiver relationships shape adult dynamics and attachment styles—and what it takes to move toward secure attachment from within. Jessica shares wisdom from her book SAFE, highlighting the importance of insourcing safety, working with protector parts, and recognizing the difference between familiar relationship patterns and those that are truly healthy.The conversation emphasizes that healing doesn't happen in isolation—it happens in relationship. Amy and Jessica unpack the role of co-regulation, the power of nervous system awareness, and how to cultivate emotional safety both within and beyond romantic partnerships. They also introduce listeners to a powerful new tool: The Wheel of Attachment, which offers a fresh and embodied approach to understanding attachment theory.This episode is an invitation for listeners to explore the inner work that allows for deeper connection, self-trust, and conscious love.Themes: Secure attachment as the foundation for healthy, conscious relationshipsHow childhood wounds influence adult relational dynamicsThe importance of co-regulation and nervous system healingReparenting and building internal safetyUnderstanding and integrating protector partsIdentifying familiar (yet unhealthy) patterns in loveSeeking support outside of romantic partnershipsThe Wheel of Attachment as a transformative self-awareness toolSpecial Offer

Have you ever found yourself thinking, “Wait… is this it? Is secure attachment just… boring?” If you've felt that way at any point on your healing journey, this episode is for you.In today's episode, I'm breaking down why your nervous system might confuse peace with boredom, and how learning to love the calm, steady rhythm of secure attachment is actually one of the most powerful signs of deep healing.Inside the episode:How to know when you've outgrown an old version of yourself (and why it can feel uncomfortable)What it really means when “secure” feels less exciting and how to rewire your nervous system to see stability as sexyThe difference between building relationships on chaos vs. creating them from emotional safety and deep connectionIf this episode spoke to you and you're ready to experience this transformation for yourself, now is the time.✨ Applications for the Empowered.Secure.Loved. Program are officially closing this year. ✨ We may not open again, so if you've been waiting for a sign to apply, this is it.

Do you ever feel like no matter how much you explain yourself, your words just get turned against you? In this episode of Waking Up to Narcissism, Tony Overbay, LMFT, breaks down why explanations don't lead to understanding with a narcissist—or with anyone who is deeply emotionally immature. Instead, they become what Tony calls an “attack surface”: the very fuel that allows the narcissist to twist, criticize, or position themselves as the victim. Through a painfully familiar story of a wife trying to share her day and a husband who withdraws into silence, Tony unpacks: Why silence is a weapon for the narcissist—and why it spikes anxiety for the pathologically kind partner How emotionally immature people thrive on friction and conflict rather than true connection The cycle of narcissistic supply (idealization, devaluation, and discard) and how it shows up in daily interactions The difference between secure attachment and antagonistic attachment Five rules for protecting yourself and reducing “attack surfaces” in conversations If you've ever found yourself over-explaining, apologizing for things that weren't your fault, or walking on eggshells to avoid conflict, this episode will help you recognize the patterns, reclaim your emotional energy, and begin to shift the dynamic. Your kindness is a gift—but when explanations only make things worse, it's time to understand why. 00:00 Introduction and Acknowledgements 00:52 Understanding Substack and Blogging 02:11 Disclaimer and Episode Overview 02:47 Narcissism in Relationships 07:25 The Real-Life Story Begins 11:39 Analyzing the Narcissistic Behavior 19:13 Secure Attachment vs. Narcissistic Attachment 25:58 The Concept of Attack Surface 35:18 The Silent Treatment: A Narcissist's Weapon 35:51 The Parasitic Dynamic in Narcissistic Relationships 39:20 The Narcissistic Supply Cycle 43:51 Codependency and Pathological Kindness 51:41 Strategies for Dealing with Narcissists 56:05 Breaking the Cycle: Reclaiming Your Power 01:01:32 The Importance of Documentation 01:07:57 Key Takeaways and Final Thoughts Contact Tony at contact@tonyoverbay.com to learn more about his Emotional Architects men's group. And visit https://julie-dejesus.com/cruise to learn more about Tony and his friend Julie De Jesus's "I See You Living" cruise, a 5-night Western Caribbean Cruise from January 24-29, 2026 aboard the Royal Caribbean Cruise Line. To learn more about Tony's upcoming re-release of the Magnetic Marriage course, his Pathback Recovery course, and more, sign up for his newsletter through the link at https://linktr.ee/virtualcouch Available NOW: Tony's "Magnetic Marriage Mini-Course" is only $25. https://magneticmarriage.mykajabi.com/magnetic-marriage-mini-course You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com

Attachment Theory Expert Adam Lane Smith joins Gabby Reese to dive deep into Anxious & Avoidant Attachment and the neuroscience of secure relationships. Learn how to heal your nervous system and unlock true monogamy through co-solving life's challenges. Adam Lane Smith reveals the hidden science that governs our bonds, explaining how our nervous systems are "fried" by modern life and how attachment science is the future of human connection. Discover the chemical keys to lasting partnership, including the vital role of vasopressin, the hormone released when couples overcome stress and solve problems as a team.Gabby and Adam discuss: How to understand and shift your personal attachment style (Anxious, Avoidant, Disorganized) to secure. The difference between oxytocin and vasopressin and how to naturally increase your bonding hormones. Gabby's personal story of almost divorcing Laird Hamilton and the pivotal shift that transformed her marriage through honest, brave communication. The biological imperative of a "safe perimeter" and the dynamic of healthy masculinity and femininity. Why the greatest form of resilience for a child is a secure family they can always return to. How relationships can become your "medicine" and your greatest tool for a regulated nervous system and a resilient life. Connect with Adam Lane Smith:https://adamlanesmith.com/https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam For more on Gabby Instagram @GabbyReece: https://www.instagram.com/gabbyreece/ TikTok @GabbyReeceOfficial https://www.tiktok.com/@gabbyreeceofficial The Gabby Reece Show Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@GabbyReece  The Gabby Reece Show podcast is produced by Rainbow Creative (https://www.rainbowcreative.co/)  Thank You to Our Sponsors The Reecet - Join Gabby Reece for a transformative women's retreat designed to simplify and reframe what it means to be healthy. Learn more at https://amphora.la/thereecet Laird Superfood - High-quality ingredients paired with incredible taste. Use the code GABBY20 for 20% off your purchase at http://lairdsuperfood.com CHAPTERS 00:00 Intro: Fried Nervous Systems & Attachment 03:55 The Monogamy Hormone: Vasopressin 07:14 Gabby's Story: Almost Divorcing 14:19 Secure Parenting: Safe Perimeter 19:30 The 4 Layers of Male Safety 30:00 Re-Parenting & Going Secure 36:10 Masculine and Feminine Roles 45:10 Adam Lane Smith's Path 53:20 Effeminate Men vs. Feminine 59:15 The Cost of Non-Commitment 08:45 How to Heal Anxious Men 01:13:50 Conflict Builds Strong Bonds 01:21:10 Anxious Attachment Needs Solving 01:32:00 3 Steps to Secure Attachment Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices